Rabbi Krustofski: Oh, what can I do for you, my young friends?
Bart: We came to talk to you about your son.
Krustofski: I have no son! (slams the door)
Bart: Oh great. We came all this way and it's the wrong guy.
Krustofski: (opens door) I didn't mean that literally! (slams door again)
Sometimes, what parents want for their children differs from what the children want to do, especially if the parent has plans for the child to Follow in My Footsteps. Sometimes the child wants to be himself in a career the parent dislikes. And sometimes, the parent struggles with this, but eventually comes around and supports his child.
And sometimes he doesn't. And if the child (usually a son) doesn't step into line quickly, the offending parent quickly disowns him, disavowing all knowledge that this "son" ever even existed.
Cue the sad violin music — it looks like the kid is going to have to learn to make his own way in this harsh, harsh world all alone.
This doesn't mean that reconciliation is impossible further on down the track. But it usually happens years later, when the kid's a success and often when the parent is on their deathbed, and it's a long, bitter road until that happens.
Rest assured, however, that the chances of this happening are far higher than one might expect. The initial I Have No Son! sequence typically takes place in flashback — we only learn the story because the now successful disowned son is giving us a sob story about how much he wishes his father would approve, or at least acknowledge his existence. If we see the event unfold in real time, then usually it gets wrapped up much sooner.
Bear in mind that the parent doing the disowning might not be entirely a jerk; sometimes, the kid just crosses a line they shouldn't cross (especially if they've grown up wrong or done something that violates their parents' trust) and deserves being kicked out with all ties severed. Again, reconciliation isn't an impossibility, but since this kid's bitter and twisted anyway don't expect it happening any time soon. And rest assured that the parent is going to have to justify their actions to the audience explicitly anyway, since the act of disowning one's own flesh and blood for any reason is well, pretty harsh. A justification commonly seen in a Crime and Punishment Series is when the parents essentially disown the child due to a crippling drug habit that the child has plunged into; this is often accompanied with a justification about how "there's only so long you can watch or enable them to destroy themselves before you have to sever all ties."
This trope has various roots — most obvious is the tendency of many writers to be of Jewish descent. Orthodox communities could be particularly unforgiving when it came to children (particularly males) who decided to try making their own way outside of the Jewish community.
Of course, overuse of this term has caused the words themselves to be considered a Dead Horse Trope, if not the entire plot itself. As a result most modern examples tend to skew toward the side of comedy and frequently involve something absurdly trivial. When the question is not about comedy but the descendant actually is the culprit, this trope can constitute Know When to Fold 'Em.
See also: Changeling Fantasy, Unperson, and Where Did We Go Wrong?. Not to be confused with That Thing Is Not My Child!. Contrast You're Not My Father, which is the opposite and is more often aimed at a Parental Substitute.
- One advert for Oak milk uses this.
Downright Weird Guy: I wish I'd given Oak to my son when he was a child...haha, just kidding, I don't have a son, well technically I do, but he's in real estate.
- Cable once had an evil clone named Stryfe. This evil clone captured Cable's wife Aliya and raped her, leading to her having a son that, while genetically the same as if it had been Cable's, was not his son. Cable had a lot of issues with the boy; it got so bad that Professor X called Cable on it when Cable referred to him as "Aliya's son" at one point.
- In X-Statix:
- Vivisector's father insists that the fact that Myles is his son is "a matter of opinion". Why? Simple - Vivisector is a gay mutant. Joining the X-Force was evidently the last straw, because by becoming a celebrity daddy couldn't pretend he didn't exist anymore.
- Played for Laughs by supporting character Lacuna, who actively tries to get this reaction from her parents after discovering she's a mutant. When they accept her mutation with open arms, she tries to join the X-Force... and they're supportive of that, as well. Finally, she becomes a talk show host, squandering her incredible gift by chatting up celebrities. All she ever wanted was for her parents to be disappointed in her. Because how else do you know you're doing the right thing?
- Venom: Eddie Brock's father Carl blamed him for his beloved wife's death in childbirth. While Eddie did his best to impress his father by becoming a successful journalist, Carl seized upon the Sin Eater incident as an excuse to disown him.
- In Magneto Rex, Quicksilver is captured by a rival faction and Rogue asks Magneto to organize a rescue. Magneto flatly tells her that since Pietro keeps refusing to join him in ruling by his side, he has no son.
- This is a large concern for many young mutants, but a particular standout would be Surge from New X-Men. When her father finds out that she's a mutant, he disowns her, because he "doesn't believe in mutants." When she tries to get back in contact with her family, in particular her little brother, he basically says that she's not his daughter. It should be noted that this is entirely on his part, as her mother is just relieved that she's safe and learning to control her abilities.
- Renee Montoya's parents disowned her when Two-Face outed her as a lesbian and she admitted it to them in the Gotham Central arc "Half A Life." Her father appears in a later arc; from the look on his face when he sees her, he clearly regrets what he did, but by that point Renee is understandably unwilling to have anything to do with him. They're able to make up before he passes away in Convergence: The Question #2
- In the initial "Moon Knight" series, Marc Spector (Moon Knight) has this in his background. It happened after he one-punched his father, which should count as some sort of justification.
- In V for Vendetta, Valerie brings her girlfriend and tells her parents she's a lesbian. The parents were furious and scream at their daughter to leave the house. Then, the mother, in tears, grabs a picture of her daughter when she was young and throws it in the trash.
- Iron Man: Tony Stark's verbally and emotionally abusive father, Howard Stark, is brought back in spirit while Tony is trapped in Mephisto's Realm in the Iron Man: Legacy of Doom run. After cruelly and viciously castigating Tony, Howard sneers, "You're no son of mine."
- Made worse when Tony's inner monologue includes the thought "I'd heard it before." Yes. Even hell couldn't conjure up a father more emotionally cruel than Tony's actual father. And Tony still couldn't bring himself to attack his own father. Until "Howard" tells Tony that he was a disappointment to his mother as well.
- Green Arrow threw out his ward Roy Harper when he discovered Roy was a heroin addict and called him a no-good punk, then later acted proud as if he was responsible for Roy going cold turkey and beating his addiction, when it was really because of Black Canary and Green Lantern. Much later, after Roy's arm was cut off and his daughter was killed, Roy angrily lapsed into being a drug-addicted anti-hero before he was found and knocked out by Dick Grayson. When he awoke, Roy discovered he had been strapped to a bed in St. Virgil's, a center for supervillains with substance abuse problems. Dick had done this with Black Canary's consent, who later flat out said that Roy was beyond help and washed her hands of him.
- After Klara Prast began talking to the plants on her farm (and they started responding), her religious asshole parents not only disowned her, they sold her to an alcoholic creep who took her off to America to be his wife... at 11 years old. All manner of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse ensued. Thankfully, she later befriended the Runaways, who took her off to the future, where her asshole parents and abusive husband were both long dead.
- Princeless: Devin's father went as far as saying that.
- Parodied in The Bojeffries Saga in which Reth Bojeffries was disowned by his entire family after achieving literary fame with a memoir all about how much he hated them. When they're brought together again, they aren't reconciled. Instead his Uncle Festus kicks him to death, with the others' reactions ranging from apathy to And There Was Much Rejoicing.
- In Booster Gold's origin story, his mother disowned him when she realized that he was gambling, much like his father was. In one account, he took up gambling in order to pay for an expensive medical procedure to save his mother's life, which made the disownment much more heartbreaking, with his mother saying she would rather have died than live to see her son take up gambling for any reason.
- In the origin story for Captain Klutz, Captain-to-be Ringo Fonebone's father says this of his useless comic-book obsessed offspring.
- The Spider-Man arc "American Son" ends with Norman Osborn loudly declaring that Harry Osborn was not his son, when Harry sided with Spider-Man against him. Considering that this came directly after Osborn attempted to have Harry killed in an effort to gain public sympathy, Harry didn't object. Recently, before he started working for Peter Parker's new company Parker Industries, Harry legally changed his last name to "Lyman", after his mother's maiden name.
- Three: When Nestos returns home after he's denounced as a 'Trembler' (an outcast of Spartan society who showed cowardice) for failing to kill the Helots who killed his father, his widowed mother declares that her son never returned home and considers the man standing in front of her lower than her racing horses.
- Invoked in Superman story arc New Krypton. When Superman and his aunt Alura are on the brink of fighting, Supergirl tries to calm her mother down... but then Alura threatens to disown her daughter if Kara doesn't stand with her.
- Copperhead: After his selfish actions result in his family being murdered Floyd Sewell is exiled by his mother with this line.
- The Sandman: Orpheus and Morpheus go through a mutual one. Orpheus refuses his father after Eurydice dies and Morpheus tries — in his own way — to encourage him to live on. This wounds Morpheus' pride, so he ends up reciprocating. It takes the two roughly two millennia to so much as talk with each other again, at which point both have matured considerably and are able to reconcile.
- In Nine Months, April's father disowns her after he finds out that she's pregnant.
- "Father": Subverted in this story where someone takes advantage of Asuka in a party and she gets pregnant. Upon hearing this, her father immediately comes over from Germany with intentions of taking her back with him and performing an abortion to restore family honor, entirely without her consent. Her resistance results in the man flipping out and hitting her, causing Shinji (who proposed to her shortly before) to go berserk on his ass and almost kill him. Sohryu disowns Asuka and proceeds to take the family property for himself... only for Gendo to inform him that not only Asuka and Shinji are under NERV jurisdiction and therefore untouchable but she's also the sole inheritor of the entire family fortune, as per her mother's will. By disowning her, Sohryu forfeited his beneficiary rights. Oops! And that's even before Gendo threatens Sohryu that with Asuka and Shinji engaged, he considers her family so Sohryu will better back off or face the consequences.
- Superwomen of Eva 2: Lone Heir of Krypton: During her Mind Rape, Arael sends Asuka an illusion masquerading as Superman -who in this fic is Asuka's sperm donor- which tells her he has no daughter and she is unworthy of being an hero. It breaks her down.
- Endrin practically says he's given up on Trian and Bhelen in Dragon Age The Crownof Thorns, only it's the dwarven noble protagonist that he tells it to, just before the whole kinslaying happens (or does it?) and he sweeps the second son under the rug while passively watching Bhelen get things going his way. It's no wonder the DN takes matters into his own hands and manipulates the entire city-state, including Endrin, Trian, Bhelen, you name it, the way he does.
- Later, it is revealed that Endrin played it straight with Bhelen, although the fact he didn't do it publicly allowed the guy to take control of House Aeducan after the king died.
- An interesting variant of this trope happens in the Reading Rainbowverse when Spitfire disowns Lightning Dust. At first it seems the usual "disappointed mother" route, but then Spitfire is relieved of duty and forced into therapy; she admits she's actually very sure that Lightning Dust hates her and that she deserves a better mother.
- In two Saki 4komas, (here and here) Teru's disowning Saki is parodied, when it's indicated that Teru is denying Saki's existence due to being angry over Saki making fun of her small breasts.
- Empath: The Luckiest Smurf: Papa Smurf in the alternate timeline story where he marries Smurfette, has a child through her, and was run out of the village by his little Smurfs along with his new nuclear family, reacts to the news of Empath and the other Smurfs being trapped in time by calling them his "former little Smurfs", disavowing even his relationship to Empath.
- In the Girls und Panzer fic, Boys und Sensha-do!, found here, it is revealed that Shiho is still planning on disowning Miho, despite her having won against Black Forest because her way is not the traditional Nishizumi way, and she now has boys on her team. Shiho carries out this threat in Chapter 7, while Miho is in the hospital no less, although she later claims that it's to allow Miho to follow her own path, with the support of her friends.
- In Saki After Story, Teru keeps denying that Saki is her sister, even though Sumire knows otherwise. When Saki tries to go over to talk to Teru after defeating her in the final round of the tournament, Teru flies into a rage and beats up Saki with a metal pipe, a box cutter, and a chair (also attacking Nodoka when she tries to help). It takes the rest of Teru's team to restrain her, and Sumire telling Teru that she spoke with her parents and obtained proof that Saki is her sister before Teru realizes what she's done.
- In Ultimate Spider Woman: Change With The Light, Harvey Broxtel's parents call their son a "monster" and declare that he's dead to them. They also show more concern for Spider-Woman than for Harvey, even though she was the one who beat him unconscious. This is because Harvey is a sadistic psychopath with a long history of committing very violent crimes who became the full-blown Pyro Maniac Firebrand after he acquired the ability to generate and control fire. The reason Harvey's parents are thanking Spider-Woman for knocking him out is because he tried to kill them for cutting him out of their will and using their money to compensate all of the people he murdered both before and after he became a supervillain.
- ''Will of Foxfire:'' Itachi finds out that this was done to Naruto by his entire family to the point they pulled a partial Unperson on him by erasing his personal history before shoving him into foster care with fake induction papers at the age of five before threatening to kill him should he tell anyone who his real family is. The reason for this drastic action? Naruto is a werewolf born into a family of Kitsune. To be fair, the reason he was disowned was due to pressure from outside the family; while undoubtedly some of them wanted him gone, there were plenty of them who liked him. Also, the others wanted Naruto killed, it's arguable that the only way to keep him alive was to do what they did.
- In Origin Story, which takes place in the Marvel Universe, Louise Fulford reveals to her girlfriend, Alex Harris, that her parents threw her out of the house and told her not to come back not because she (Louise) was a lesbian, but rather because she was a mutant.
- In The Vow, which is essentially Lord Shen's story narrated more deeply, Lord Goa (Shen's father) says this word to word when he's forced to banish Shen.
Lord Goa: I have no son... No son of mine would disgrace me as you have done.
- In A Spark of Ice and Fire, after Asha Greyjoy chooses to live with and study under Agatha Heterodyne, whom the Iron Islands consider an enemy, her father Balon angrily disowns her. He tells his men that when they inevitably go to war, he doesn't care if Asha gets killed.
- In The Black Emperor, Charles zi Britannia posthumously disowns Clovis after Zero exposes the truth about his actions in Shinjuku.
- A common occurrence in Pokémon Reset Bloodlines. Many parents have disowned their children when they turn out to be bloodliners, though in Belladonna's case, she was thrown out for being a lesbian instead.
- Mr and Mrs Gold: Maurice essentially disowns Belle when he finds out that she married Rumpelstiltskin of her own free will and became a sorceress, denying her even when she offered to help him when he fell ill. In Storybrooke, Moe French did the same thing when she broke it off with her handsome finance Gaspard and cancelled all plans last minute to marry Mr. Gold, who he sees as an Ambiguously Evil landlord and implied criminal. They eventually reconcile after Mr. Gold gives him a "The Reason You Suck" Speech after denying Rose's officer to give one of her kidneys to save him.
- Miraculous: Marinette's baby: Despite the fact that Adrien wants the baby and is fully willing to raise it, Gabriel thoroughly Un-persons his unborn grandson, believing that it would ruin his son's future. It is the part when Gabriel refers to the baby as "it" that really clinches it for Marinette.
- In Karma In Retrograde, Endeavor tells his son Touya this after learning that he (or rather, his future self) is Dabi.
Endeavor: Quit acting like you dont know. You can trick them, but you wont fool me again. I should have known you were rotten to your core.
Touya: Like Father, Like Son, right?
Endeavor: You are not my son.
- In The Book of Life, after Manolo refuses to kill the bull, Carlos disappointingly tells him he is "not a real Sanchez."
- In How to Train Your Dragon, Hiccup is told this by his father Stoick. Fairly predictable though, given Stoick's personality and Hiccup's actions. Unlike many other examples of this trope, Stoick is hurt by his words as badly as Hiccup is—he physically staggers when he leaves the room and realizes what he's said.
- Kung Fu Panda: When Tai Lung, who was all but a son to Master Shifu, confronts Shifu at the temple with "I'm home, Master." With barely restrained grief, Shifu retorts to his "son" with "This is no longer your home. And I am no longer your master."
- Kung Fu Panda 2: Lord Shen was also essentially disowned by his parents when they banished him from his ancestral home. It's rather hard to blame the parents in this case as this was in response to Shen committing genocide. Despite this, it's later revealed that Shen's parents truly did care about him as the pain of having to do this to their son literally killed them.
- In The Sissy Duckling, during an argument Elmer's father tells his mother that he doesn't have a son. He considers Elmer a weakling and a sissy for being so flamboyant.
- Frozen: After finding out what Prince Hans did in Arendelle, the idea that his father, the King of the Southern Isles, disowned him might not be far off, given that he is seen shoveling horse manure in the Southern Isles' royal stables as part of his penalty in Frozen Fever. His father and twelve older brothers frequently saw him as the family's big let-down, and the Frozen Ever After attraction at Epcot (which may or may not count as canon) refers to him as the "disgraced son" of the king.
- Famously done in the 1980 version of The Jazz Singer, with that very line delivered by Laurence Olivier in full-on Large Ham mode.
- Slightly more underplayed in the 1927 version, with the Trope Namer title card "My son was to stand at my side and sing tonight - but now I have no son."
- In Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, Wilbur Wonka, Willy's father and a dentist, did not want his son to be a chocolatier, so Willy tells him that he will run away from home. Wilbur angrily responds, "I won't be here when you get back." Taken Up to Eleven when Willy returns to find the entire house missing from the street. However, it turns out that he had saved every newspaper article about his son.
- Die Another Day: Colonel Tan-Sun Moon/Gustav Graves attempts to explain his Evil Plan to his father General Moon, telling how the Kill Sat he obtained could be used to destroy the Korean Demilitarized Zone, allowing renegade North Korean soldiers to invade and occupy South Korea. But his father, who had hopes of having a peaceful reunion of the two Koreas and hoped his son would act as a bridge between North Korea and the West, simply disowns him by telling that his son died the day he plunged into the waterfall, having realized and ashamed the cold-blooded monster his son has now become. This causes Graves/Moon to kill him out of anger, only for 007 to kill him in rage.
- Justified in There Will Be Blood: As it turns out, the father in this case has a very valid reason to make such a claim.
- In The Karate Kid Part II, Chozen refuses to help Daniel rescue the bell ringer girl during a hurricane, and when his uncle Sato helps Daniel instead, Sato declares that he is "dead" to Chozen...thus setting up the final climactic battle between Chozen, Daniel, and uncle issuesnote .
- In Shanghai Knights, Chon Wang's father has disowned him for staying in America and abandoning his family. The ending may or may not be a subversion due to the puzzle box message.
- Happens in any number of Bollywood films. Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham is a good example.
- Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham adds a twist since the disowned son is actually adopted and states that if his father had not specifically said "You're not my son", he may have actually tried to mend bridges sooner.
- The Lord of the Rings- In a marvelously hammy yet tragic scene, Denethor tells this to Faramir.
- Lord of War - An unusual example, in that it happens towards the end and isn't reconciled. The main character's brother is killed after being dragged back into an illicit business for "One last time," and the main character is arrested. He calls his parents from jail to tell them what happened to him and his brother, to which the mother's only response is "Both my sons are dead."
- Derek Zoolander's estranged father feels and acts this way when the remaining family members are in the "Mining Shaft" bar in rural "Mine Country" and a somewhat embarassing advertising spot comes on TV that shows Derek as a Mermaid uttering nonsensical phrases about water and being wet.
Derek's father: You're dead to me, son. You're even more dead to me than your dead mother. I just thank the Lord she didn't live to see her son as a mermaid!
Derek: Merman! Merman!!!
- The Robe: When Marcellus Gallio helps his former slave, Demetrius of Corinth, escape from Caligula, Marcellus' father, Senator Gallio, says this to Marcellus and accuses him of "making himself an enemy of Rome" when doing this for Demetrius.
- Star Trek V: The Final Frontier: Sybok was exiled from Vulcan for his heretical beliefs and lifestyle. He was cut-off from his family officially and so completely that Starfleet had no record of Spock having an older brother until circumstances forced a confrontation between Sybok and the Enterprise. Although Sybok and Spock reconciled, Sybok's outcast status did not.
- The 2012 Hong Kong film Cold War. Deputy Commissioner Lee discovers his own son Constable Joe Lee — a talented police constable — is behind the conspiracy to abduct five Hong Kong police officers (to discredit Lee's rival for promotion, whom his son thinks is a desk man not suited to the job). Joe refuses to believe his father will arrest his only son, only for Lee to draw his pistol on him...then offer it butt first. Joe smirks and takes the pistol, only to be immediately shot by a police sniper. Lee says afterwards that offering Joe the pistol was a test, and that by failing it he is no longer his son.
- To Wong Foo, Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar: It's implied that Vida Boheme got disowned by "her" family, or at least her mother, for becoming a Drag Queen. When she drives by her old home, her mother steps outside, though scowls before walking back. This prompts a minor Heroic BSoD in Vida.
- Played with in X2: X-Men United. When Xavier asks William Stryker how he could think of lobotomizing his son, he replies "my son is dead", but before he orders him to launch his attack against all mutants, he says "Make me proud, son."
- A brotherly version happens in the Walking with Dinosaurs movie, when Scowler callously kicks Patchi out of the herd and leaves him to die. When Juniper tries to get him to help because they're brothers, he coldly tells her "I don't have a brother". But immediately afterwards Gorgon attacks and mauls Scowler to near death, causing Scowler to take back disowning Patchi and warn him to stay away from Gorgon and head to safety.
- American History X: After the Neo-Nazi Derek attacks his own sister during a family dinner and drives his mother's Jewish boyfriend away, she realizes how lost her son is to her and disowns him. When she later visits him in prison she tells Derek that Danny worships him and is starting to follow in his path, but she doesn't want to give up both her sons. After Derek gets out of prison and becomes The Atoner, his relationship with his mother has improved a lot.
- A common trope in Bollywood movies and Baghban is no different. Raj disownes his four sons after the misery they put him and Pooja through. A bit of inverted with Alok. He is not a biological, but the adopted son of Raj and Pooja. However, in the end, Raj sees him as his only son.
- In the American version of The Ring, after Rachel Keller asks former horse breeder Richard Morgan about where his daughter would be, he coldly responds with, "I don't have a daughter." This doesn't stop her or her ex-husband Noah from digging deeper into the family's history.
- In the Apocalypse film series movie Tribulation, Tom Canboro's brother Calvin disavows any knowledge of their sister Eileen, and has his family pictures photoshopped to remove any evidence of her, at the time of the Tribulation when Eileen was Caught Up in the Rapture and Calvin had taken the Mark of the Beast.
- In The Stoning of Soraya M., right before throwing his stone at Soraya, the father proclaims that he doesn't have a daughter anymore.
- After Dr. Lanyon hears that his daughter Sara has been once again seen together with Dr. Jekyll in Jekyll & Hyde (1990) tv-movie, he disowns her and has her thrown out of his house, because he believes that she is cheating her husband with Dr. Jekyll, bringing shame to her family.
- Exaggerated and definitely not played for laughs in When Darkness Falls, after Nina is honor-killed by her family and her non-participant sister Leyla asks her father where her sister's body is.:
Leyla: Where is Nina?Father: You've never had a sister who is called "Nina".
- In Peach Blossom Weeps Tears of Blood, Mrs. King refuses to let her son Teh-en marry peasant girl Lim. But after Teh-en receives word that Lim is dying, he rejects his mother, saying "Consider that you have never had me as your son."
- In the Ally Sheedy comedy Maid To Order, she plays the daughter of a wealthy philanthropist (played by Tom Skerritt) who has been magically unpersoned from her father's life when her carefree hard-partying lifestyle wears thin on his patience with her, and thus she has to seek employment as a maid in order to regain any respect.
- While the exact words are not used in Boone: The Bounty Hunter, Cole abandons Ryan as dead weight at the end of the film.
- The Incredible Hulk: After Banner is captured in New York, Betty Ross deploys this on her father, the general who's been hounding him for the entire movie.
Betty: Don't ever speak to me as your daughter again.
- In A Study in Terror, the Duke of Shires disowned his eldest son Michael for daring to study medicine against his wishes. As he puts it, no Osborne should ever sink so low as to pursue 'a trade'.
- The Genesis song "No Son of Mine".
- Also, band member Mike Rutherford's solo hit "The Living Years".
- Victor Lundberg's Vietnam-era spoken-word hit "Open Letter to My Teenage Son" ends with the narrator-father telling his kid, "If you decide to burn your draft card, then burn your birth certificate at the same time; from that moment on, I have no son!"
- In W.A.S.P.'s 1992 concept album The Crimson Idol, the protagonist Jonathan calls his estranged parents one last time after realizing how unfulfilling his life as a rock star is. The conversation ends with "we have no son." Jonathan then kills himself on stage during the concert later that night.
- The Courtyard Hounds' song "Ain't No Son," which deals with a father disowning his son, directly references this trope.
He said "You ain't no son to meYou ain't no son to meEight pound baby boy I bounced on my kneeNo, you ain't no son of mine"
- The lines of George Michael's "Praying For Time" implies this on a cosmic scale with God:
And you cling to the things they sold you.Did you cover your eyes when they told youThat He can't come back'cause He has no children to come back for?
- "Jesse Younger" by country musician Kris Kristofferson deals with a man named Jessie Younger who is in all but name disowned by his parents after he starts refusing to live his life the way they want him too and insists on speaking his own mind. As a result his younger brother is treated by his parents as if he is their only son.
- In The Bible, according to some students of it, Cain's murder of his brother Abel caused him to be disowned by his parents, as they started over with their third son Seth and numerous other sons and daughters.
- In The Four Gospels, Jesus treats His mother Mary and His half-brothers as if they weren't biologically related to each other, with Jesus Himself saying, "Whoever does the will of My Father in heaven, the same is My brother, My sister, and My mother," emphasizing the spiritual birth of becoming believers over the natural birth of fleshly beings. Not that Jesus treats His biological relatives with any ill-will, as on the cross before His death He does give His mother's care over to His disciple John, "the disciple that He loved".
- Doonesbury did a series of strips where Mark Slackmeyer's father used this phrase when he came to the conclusion that what he really had was, "...a parasitic offspring who year after year just barely manages to pass his classes in time for me to shell out another four thousand bucks".
- This is played with quite often in the WWE dynamic between The Undertaker, Kane and Paul Bearer. As it turned out, Paul Bearer was Kane's biological father, but at various times, he favored either one. At WrestleMania XX, he told Kane before introducing an again-reanimated Undertaker, "You're no son of mine!"
- Saraya Knight infamously did this to her daughter, Britani Knight, after the latter lost a match, and then slapped her. Britani snapped and attacked Saraya, and in the middle of the fight, invoked the trope right back at her by declaring that 'If you want to beat up a daughter, then you are no mother of mine either!'
- Space 1889 In the adventure Mission to Shaptash in Challenge 76 a wealthy American has the player characters inform his son that unless he stops fighting the British as a privateer he will be disowned and disinherited.
- Hilariously parodied in 3rd Rock from the Sun in the episode "World's Greatest Dick" when Dick screamed this about Tommy for flubbing a quiz question. Tommy is not, in fact, Dick's son, but the Earthlings don't know that.
- The early 20th-century musical The Jazz Singer, (probably better known today as being the first talkie) featured this as the central plot: Jakie Rabinowitz wants to sing jazz in blackface and his rabbi father disapproves. No, not for the same reasons we would disapprove of this action today. Actually somewhat Based on a True Story, making this one Truth in Television.
- At the end of The Lion in Winter, a despondent Henry II makes this remark about all of his sons' collective betrayal. Well, in the next line, he acknowledges that he had offspring; what he seems to be saying is "My children aren't real men" rather than "I have no children".
- In Fiddler on the Roof, Tevye agonizes over his first two daughters willfully opposing tradition and marrying men they choose rather than ones chosen for them by the matchmaker. The first begged for permission to marry her childhood friend, which Tevye granted; the second married an itinerant tutor who had been teaching her, and they made clear that they would be marrying, permission or not, but would be grateful for his blessing. Tevye eventually came around on that one, too... but when his third daughter marries outside the faith, Tevye can't take it: "if I bend that far, I'll break!" Though it breaks his heart, he disowns her.
- In the original stories by Sholem Aleichem, Tevye can't ever bring himself to forgive her; in the musical, just at the end, Tevye bends just enough to at least acknowledge her, and her husband, when the husband makes a valid point:
Fyedke: Some are driven out by edicts. Others... by silence.
- Actually, the Chava of the original stories delivers a twist on the trope by being the one to fold, leaving her husband and reconciling with the family before emigrating with them to America.
- In the original stories by Sholem Aleichem, Tevye can't ever bring himself to forgive her; in the musical, just at the end, Tevye bends just enough to at least acknowledge her, and her husband, when the husband makes a valid point:
- Subverted in The Music Man when Harold Hill suggests that the Mayor order a fluglehorn on the grounds that his son would be a virtuoso. The Mayor almost falls for it before realizing (loudly) that he doesn't have a son.
- In Spring's Awakening by Frank Wedekind, after Moritz flunks out of school and commits suicide his father says at Moritz's funeral that Moritz was "no son of mine."
- Damn that is cold..
- No literal disowning, but in La Traviata Germont utters a phrase like this after Alfredo insults Violetta by throwing money at her. Alfredo immediately repents, and the two are later shown as reconciled.
- Played with in The Importance of Being Earnest: Cecily tells Jack his brother Ernest is in the dining room, and he replies "I haven't got a brother". Cecily thinks he's disowning his brother, and the other characters on stage think Ernest has just died, but Jack actually means it literally; he lied about having a brother, and the man in the dining room is his friend Algernon pretending to be Ernest who is later revealed to actually be his brother.
- Because they abandoned him in favour of seeking power over Thebes and only sought him out once he was useful to them, Oedipus curses his sons to kill each other in Oedipus at Colonus shortly before he dies.
- Oddly enough, averted in The Merchant of Venice: despite Shylock's anger at his daughter's marriage and conversion to Christianity, he never actually disowns her. Later in the play, he mentions her, saying "I have a daughter..." The Al Pacino film version changed the line to say "I had a daughter", turning the film into a straight example. As a matter of fact, it's Jessica who disowns Shylock: "I have a father, you, a daughter lost."
- In The Gentleman Ranker, Lieutenant Graylen was cashiered from the army after forging his father's signature on a bank draft. He rejoined as Private Smith, and ended up under his father's command. When they recognized each other, Colonel Graylen said that his son was dead.
- In Beyond the Horizon, James says "You're no son o' mine" after Andrew rejects him and the farm, electing to go off to sea.
- In Abraham's Bosom: Abe proclaims this after Douglass drops out of school and turns to a life of drinking and dissolution. ("He ain't no longer mine, and that's the end of it.")
- Played for laughs in Ruddigore, when the protagonist is afflicted with an ancient curse that obliges him to commit a serious crime every day. He tries to satisfy the letter of the curse without doing anything genuinely terrible, so one of his "crimes" is to disinherit his only son. There's just one small problem:
Roderic: But you haven't got a son.Robin: No—not yet. I disinherited him in advance, to save time. You see—by this arrangement—he'll be born ready disinherited.Roderic: I see. But I don't think you can do that.Robin: My good sir, if I can't disinherit my own unborn son, whose unborn son can I disinherit?
- Tatsuzou Sudou from Persona 2: Eternal Punishment went to a LOT of effort to get his son, Tatsuya Sudou, sent to a sanitarium so he could be rid of him and he also worked very hard to eliminate any connection said son had to him. Justified, as he's a politician and his son became a crazy arsonist, and that would not have been good for his political career, among other things.
- A scene like this kicks off the plot of Metal Max Returns. A more moderate version also kicks off Metal Saga.
- In Riven: The Sequel to Myst, if you fail to imprison Gehn before opening the Star Fissure, Atrus will show up only to be surrounded by Gehn and his goon. Atrus will react to his unexpected appearance (you were supposed to have imprisoned him before signaling Atrus, after all) with "Father..." only for Gehn to shout "[Y]ou are no longer my son!" before having his henchman shoot him.
- When Jessica of Dragon Quest VIII stubbornly declares her intent to find her brother's murderer and bring him to justice - at the urging of her brother's ghost, no less - her mother (who wants her to stay at home and "mourn like a proper lady") equally-stubbornly declares that she has no longer has a daughter.
- But going back to Jessica's mother later in the game will cause them to reconcile, but Jessica admitting that she must stop the one who killed her brother.
- In Guild Wars, Adelbern does this in spirit, if not using the exact words, after the Nolani Academy mission. He wants to continue to defend his kingdom from invasion, while his son wants to evacuate to one across the mountains.
- Happens in the climax of Pokémon Black and White, when Ghetsis storms in and disowns N for allowing the player to defeat him, spoiling Ghetsis's plans to conquer Unova. Rather than saying, "I have no child", the line is "you are unworthy of the name Harmonia", but the effect is the same.
- And from Pokémon Sun and Moon, we have Lusamine, the president of the Aether Foundation, disowning her children (Lillie and Gladion) when it's revealed that she's the main antagonist of the story. It's implied she was Brainwashed and Crazy as she later seems to take it back after being defeated.
- When the party inadvertently breaks into the Wyndian royal castle in Breath of Fire II, the king and queen completely ignore Nina's presence as they have the group ejected, even silencing their other daughter when she attempts to identify her older sister. They know perfectly well who she is, and actually do this out of kindness. Nina was born with black wings - and any child with black wings is supposed to be put to death, since they're prophesied to bring tragedy to Wyndia. The royal family covered up the truth and disowned her so at least she'd have a chance to live. Nina understandably has a complex about this, but doesn't blame her parents for it.
- Wild child Gau in Final Fantasy VI was abandoned at birth by his father because the mother died during childbirth and he went mad from it. This leads to Gau being raised by monsters and while Gau isn't fully capable of meshing with society, he considers the main characters his friends and he helps them out to save the world. A year later after the world is ruined, the party finds Gau's father and they go to great lengths to dress up Gau and teach him how to speak properly so that the reunion would be a happy one. However, the man is still insane and claims that he has no son, but briefly mentions that he once had a nightmare of the birth of a "demon child" that he abandoned. He actually believes that it was only a dream and that he really never had a son, but he compliments Gau on being a fine young man. Gau chooses not to tell him the truth, but is happy that he was able to see him again.
- In Injustice: Gods Among Us, we find out that the Nightwing in the Regime universe is actually Damian Wayne and that, prior to the story, he killed Dick Grayson. When Insurgency!Batman and Regime!Nightwing fight and Batman wins, he tells Damian "You're dead to me." ... Except the tie-in prequel comic revealed that Damian killed Dick by accident and was devastated at what he did, but Batman still ignored his pleas and takes away Dick's body, leaving Superman to take Damian in.
- In Baldur's Gate II, Anomen's father threatens him with this. If Anomen refuses to take revenge on the merchant believed to have murdered his sister, his father will reject him. And if he does take revenge, and the PC is romancing him, his father will reject him anyway.
- In Final Fantasy XIV, the Level 50-60 Dark Knight missions deal with this: the Player Character aids a Dark Knight named Sidurgu protect a young girl named Rielle, who is being hunted by Ishgard's Temple Knights. As you take down the knights and protect the girl, you're ultimately confronted by Ystride, who is revealed to be the girl's mother, who keeps referring to Rielle as an "it" and refuses to do anything with her. As Sidurgu reveals to you in the start of the Level 58 mission after piecing together all the clues, Rielle was the daughter of Ystride and a man later revealed to be a Heretic spy who had apparently drank dragon's blood for decades. Ystride, a fervent religious woman snapped at the revelation and locked away her daughter, declaring her a monster and attempts to murder her.
- In World of Warcraft, one world quest in Stormheim, "Rise of Skovald," has you re-enact God-King Skovald murdering his mother, after killing his father and brothers in order to seize power. Queen Bretta gives Skovald a "The Reason You Suck" Speech, saying his "fel tricks" will not save him from her wrath. As she dies, she says this trope.
Queen Bretta yells: You... are no longer... my son...
Jarl Skovald yells: No, mother. I am your KING!
- In God of War: Ascension, Orkos is the son of Ares, the God of War, and Alecto, the Queen of the Furies. Ares thought such a union would produce an "ultimate warrior", but while Orkos has some powers, he is relatively weak and not warrior material. Ares angrily disowned him and left him to be raised by the Furies.
- asdfmovie: "Now son, don't touch that cactus..." *touches cactus* "YOU'RE DEAD TO ME."
- Walking In The Dark: There is a heartstring-yanking one of these moments between Ben and his dad, just before a newly-turned Ben kills him.
- Michael Alan Avariss of Gene Catlow is this way about his son, Steven over his associations with anthropomorphic animals, or, as Michael puts it, "beasts".
- Parodied in Sluggy Freelance in the Oceans Unmoving storyline. Calix sends one of The Greys, aliens with a slim to nil understanding of human social behavior, to talk to his father being held captive in the hold. Unfortunately, Calix's father blames his son for their capture, which he views as a deliberate act of betrayal (which is not the case), and has disowned him. Hilarity Ensues as the Grey is clearly incapable of understanding that the proclamations of I Have No Son! are strictly for dramatic effect. He ends up reporting ("logically" enough) that he didn't find Calix's father, since obviously that guy no longer was.
- Riff ends up being disowned after using a mechanical replica of himself (piloted by Bun-Bun and Kiki) as a stand-in at one of his mother's parties, resulting in his doppelganger behaving disgracefully, such as punching out one of the guests while trying to shake his hand. Considering that Riff can't stand his mother, he's actually somewhat glad, but finds the circumstances to be quite humiliating.
- A sibling variant in El Goonish Shive. While clarifying the relationship between Tedd and Nanase (their mothers are sisters) for the Fourth-Wall Mail Slot, Amanda phones Nanase's mother to ask why Tedd's mom never gets mentioned. When she gets the reply "I have no sister!", she wonders if her initial explanation was wrong.
- Considering her doting over Tedd, she must feel that Noriko's abandonment was something no mother should ever have done.
- Subverted in this Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal. The guy's actually shouting "I have no son" to his daughter, so it doesn't seem to mean anything in particular.
- Used in DMFA as part of Pyroduck's backstory: "he [Pyroduck's father] considers me one of the five [of his children] that were 'destroyed' by the cubi" (shown here).
- Dork Tower: Said word for word by the owner of the Friendly Local Gaming Store when he learns his son isn't all that interested in gaming.
- In Impure Blood, Caspian's father threatens it: If you ever show your face in Turien again, you are not my son.
- In the Order of the Stick prequel Start of Darkness, Right-Eye and Redcloak always called each other "Brother" rather than going along with Xykon's renaming of them based on visual traits. When Redcloak kills Right-Eye to protect Xykon (since Xykon is needed to continue the Plan that Redcloak has devoted his entire life to fulfilling) , Redcloak says "Goodbye, Brother." Right-Eye says "Goodbye, Redcloak". With his dying breath, Right-Eye disowned Redcloak as his brother and denounced him as Xykon's lackey.
- One Oglaf story tells the story of Kronar, Son of Man — whose bloodline has been free of women for a hundred generations. When his child is born a daughter, he orders her hair decorated with the Bow of Shame and herself thrown in the wolf pit. When she kills all the wolves barehanded, he declares her his son.
- Cyanide & Happiness explores the phrase's use as a pick up line.
- In Dubious Company, when Elly returns home only his sister is happy. His parents are displeased and won't welcome him back until he fixes "his personal problem". Sound familiar? They are actually upset that he is unable to control his "pet" raccoon.
- Can't See Can't Hear But Love: Yun-Jeong's mother forced her into ballet. When she quits to pursue her dream of being a manhwa artist, her mother disowns her.
- Hero Oh Hero: In Justopea it's not uncommon to disown children if they manifest magic abilities, because of fear and hatred of magic. Noah's mother does this, when his abilities are recognized. Presence of any legal guardian seems to severely limit what Justopean government people are allowed to do to magical children. Thus Noah's estranged father shows up to help him.
- In The Gamer's Alliance, Sumrah, Belial's older son, begins to rebel against his father's methods and refuses to follow the path he has set him on. Their arguments escalate over the years until both become so frustrated with one another that Sumrah leaves his home and enlists in the Maar Sulais military and Belial disowns him.
- Common in the Whateley Universe, where mutants are often disowned by their family. Of the main cast, Ayla gets this most literally, to the point that his mother actually refuses to believe that 'that thing' used to be Trevor.
- The College Humour video "Sexually Confused Ninja" invokes this trope when a swordsman named White Falcon is impaled by his rival, the Black Eagle. Falcon implores his son Lee to avenge him, at which point Lee starts pulling off his father's pants, believing "avenge" to be a verb for sucking his father's dick.
White Falcon: So from the clues and context, you deduced and readily embraced the notion that to avenge means to suck your own father, you idiot?!Lee: Yes.White Falcon: I have no son.Lee: Father!White Falcon: I have no smart son.Lee: OK.
- Tsar Alexander of Malê Rising invoked this after his daughter, Anastasia, announced she will marry Prince Tewodros of the Ethiopian Empire. Of course, her finding out of what her father did during the Great War also influenced the falling-out.
- In AsteroidQuest, The Don Father Zozu chews out his treacherous biological son Maklata after the latter orchestrates a bank job against his brother and tries to have everyone involved (most of which are "family members") killed in the ensuing coverup attempt. Zozu then proceeds to disown Maklata and has him executed.
Father Zozu: Now.... as I have said, I do not kill my sons. But in light of your recent actions, you are no longer any son of mine.
- Played for Laughs in a certain edit for a promo image of the Hentai Oide yo! Mizuryuu Kei Land:
Child: [arrived at Bimbo Land with his mother] I can't come in the theme park, mommy?
Woman: No, sweetie. This theme park is just for mommies and daddies. It's okay, I'll be back in a little while.
Child: O-okay mommy...
[after spending the day at Bimbo Land]
Woman: [clearly about to get it on with some blonde hunk] Son!? I don't have a son! Stuff like that is just soooo dumb! All I care about now is cock! ❤
- William Penn, founder of Pennsylvania, was disowned by his father when his father learned that he was sympathizing with the despised Quaker sect. Indeed, the name "Pennsylvania" is actually a Take That! at the younger Penn; he wanted to call the colony "Sylvania", but Charles II insisted that it be called "Pennsylvania"... after his father. Through the efforts of his mother, however, William was eventually admitted back into the fold.
- The mother of author/musician/songwriter James McBride was disowned by her Orthodox Jewish family after marrying a black man, even changing her name from Rachel Shilsky to Ruth McBride.
- Osama bin Laden was disowned by his family (the very wealthy Saudi owners of the world's largest construction firm) for his extremist attitudes. And given what he's done, can anybody really blame them?
- There are plenty of parents out there who disown their children (read: kick them out of house and home) for being gay, bisexual or transgender. This happens with such frequency that LGBT teenagers account for approximately forty percent of America's under-eighteen homeless population.
- Prominent banker Amos Kling and newspaper publisher Warren Harding were enemies for several years. To Florence Kling, daughter of the banker, this made Harding irresistible. She pursued him until Warren agreed to marry her in 1891. Amos' reaction fits the trope: he disowned his daughter, and refused to speak to either her or his hated son-in-law for the next eight years.
- German actress Sibel Kekilli was disowned by her Turkish Muslim parents after they found she had been a porn star.
- The father of Yūsuke Katayama has gone on record as threatening to disown him if it turns out he was the one who had infected and remote-controlled several computers, which, among other things, infamously resulted in the false arrest of a Gundam assistant director and three others and embarrassed the Japanese government in the process.
- Benjamin Franklin cut off communication with his son William after William supported the British in the American Revolution.
- British Politician Leo Amery disowned his adult son John Amery, because the latter was a Nazi Sympathizer during World War II.
- Irving Berlin's second wife, Ellin Mackay, was the daughter of Clarence Mackay, an extremely wealthy man (he was the head of a major telegraph company) and one of society's elite. Clarence made his disapproval of Irving and Ellin's courtship clear, a fact picked up by countless papers. When Ellin eloped with Irving, reporters asked Clarence how he felt about his daughter marrying a poor Jewish immigrant; he coldly responded "I don't have a daughter."
- Armie Hammer has stated that he was disowned in all but name for several years after dropping out of high school to pursue acting.