He's the fuckin' Grand Wizard of the KKK"
It frequently is seen in American Television and Movies... a teenage daughter brings home or is picked up by a date that her father would never, ever approve of. There's various forms:
- He rides a motorcycle, wears leathers and dark sunglasses (even at night), and enters swaggering, chewing something indeterminate, and calls the father "pops." Hilarity Ensues.
- Her date's of a different race, religion, political affiliation, social class, or is the same gender.
- He has some other characteristic that offends Dad's sensibilities: he's too nerdy, too quiet, too loud, a fan of the wrong sports team, has bad table manners or atypical fashion sense.
- He may be a lout with No Social Skills.
The main requirement is that the potential date has some qualities that the father hates in people, and this motivates the daughter to love her date more. Usually a comedy trope, could be a love trope, can lead to a Parental Marriage Veto if the character lasts more than one scene/episode. If the relationship works in the end, it's become Nobody Thinks It Will Work.
If the father is depicted more sympathetically, he may be a Troubled Sympathetic Bigot who ends up having to reconcile his desire to see his daughter happy with his own personal hang-ups about her boyfriend. In other cases, he might see something of how he himself used to be, be it pluckiness or some immature behavior, in the boy and be worried that he will make the same mistakes. That might make the father mellow out if the boyfriend shows some Character Development. Alternately, he may realize that his daughter's boyfriend really is a dangerous scumbag or a mooching bum, and he ends up turning into a Papa Wolf to protect her when her boyfriend puts her in danger or is leading her towards a dead-end, futureless life.
Overlaps a bit with All Girls Want Bad Boys and Maligned Mixed Marriage. Often involves an Overprotective Dad. When the dating is done because that is what daddy hates, it's a Shock Value Relationship. Often, the parents will ask Where Did We Go Wrong? See Like Parent, Like Spouse for the inversion.
- Gender-inverted in Gokusen: Kumiko's yakuza family doesn't have any problem with Shin, who's the son of a police chief, but Shin's dad is more than a little disappointed with his son's taste in women.
- In the anime of Gungrave, Maria dates Brandon, a street thug. Uncle Jester (who acts as Maria's guardian/foster father), knowing Brandon's and his gang's tendency to get into fights with another gang, doesn't like the fact that Maria is in a relationship with Brandon. When Maria walks home with Brandon, Uncle Jester angrily tells Brandon to never see Maria again and says that he (Jester) hates street thugs. He then drags Maria into their house, leaving Brandon behind.
- In Mobile Suit Gundam 00, Louise's mother is against her dating Saji at first simply because he's a commoner while Louise's family is pretty wealthy. Saji wins her over through his cooking skills however (much to Louise's chagrin since she liked that her mother was against it. Though this doesn't break them up).
- A side story in Fairy Tail involved the guild working security at a party where they are on the lookout for a criminal. He eventually arrives and fights for a bit till eventually calling it off and revealing he was there to see the princess of the castle whom both are in love. However her father didn't approve of this and had kicked him out in the past simply because he was a commoner, forcing the man to turn to a life of crime just to see her again.
- The best known case in the Marvel Universe is Bruce Banner / the Incredible Hulk and his long time love interest Betty Ross. Her father, General Thaddeus "Thunderbolt" Ross, didn't approve of the relationship when Banner was just a nebbish scientist. Then the Hulk happened and Ross went General Ripper, determined to either kill the Hulk or use his power for his own benefit. He blames everyone except himself for what this did to his relationship with his daughter.
- Superman has his own General Ripper father-in-law in Sam Lane, whose behaviour has ranged all the way from Jerk with a Heart of Gold to anti-alien zealot. Unlike Ross, however, Lane has no idea Clark and Superman are the same person; to Clark, he mostly fits Obnoxious In-Laws.
- Shock SuspenStories had a one-off strip in which a racist man who loathes Mexicans is horrified to discover his daughter has begun dating a Mexican boy who has recently moved into the local area. At the end of the strip, he gets up a lynch mob to beat the Mexican boy to death, only to find out that they grabbed the wrong person and have killed his daughter - she had secretly married her boyfriend and was waiting for him to come home from work.
- In Y: The Last Man, the actual lesbian Dr. Mann was dumped by her lesbian-until-graduation college girlfriend, who seemed to be under the impression that the only reason a girl would ever want to date another girl is to invoke this trope. She told Mann that now that they were graduating, it was time to grow up and start acting like adults, and if Mann still wants to piss off her dad, she should date a black guy instead, because apparently that's the mature thing to do.
- Gender-inverted with the Batman family. Batman definitely would not approve of Nightwing hooking up with Huntress, and both Nightwing and Huntress know it.
- When Stephanie and Tim start dating in Robin Bruce disapproves as he thinks it encourages her to continue acting as Spoiler, Cluemaster disapproves when he finds out since it means his daughter is dating a hero, and even Tim's bio-dad Jack has something to say about Tim dating a girl who is the daughter of a supervillain and has had a child already while still in high school. Tim and Steph don't care.
- League of Extraordinary Gentlemen: Century offers a platonic example; in the middle of her Roaring Rampage of Revenge against London, men, and the world in general, Janni Nemo encounters Mina Murray, and mentions that her racist, sexist father used to rant constantly about how awful and wicked Mina was... which probably means that Mina's okay.
- In Runaways, one of the things that attracts Gert Yorkes to Chase Stein is the knowledge that her evil elitist parents would almost certainly have hated her hooking up with a Dumb Jock.
- Archie Comics (2015): Veronica fell in love with Archie right away because he enraged her father.
- Sometimes this trope comes up in Harry Potter fanfiction using the characters introduced in the epilogue. It's probably one of the reasons the pairing of Scorpius Malfoy with Rose Weasley is so popular, as Ron tells Rose she shouldn't "get too close" to Scorpius and that her grandfather would "never forgive her if she married a pureblood" in the epilogue itself. Some writers like the idea of the pairing because of the way Ron and Draco would be so upset about it.
- A rare Gender Flip occurs in Ultimate Spider-Woman: Change With The Light when Ben Reilly's Overprotective Dad loathes Mary Jane Watson and bluntly threatens her unless she stays away from his son. Ben himself isn't amused when he finds out.
- In Luminosity one of the native american werewolves imprints on a blonde girl whose dad is a racist.
- In A Brief History of Equestria, it's shown that Private Pansy (revealed to actually be Commander Hurricane's daughter) eventually fell in love with an Earth pony. Hurricane's overreaction to this ended up being a contributing factor in starting the war that would eventually summon the Windigoes.
- In That Epic Plan Chief Yagami is understandably not happy when his son begins dating Beyond, a known Serial Killer.
- A platonic example in Second Bloom as Sasuke makes friends outside the Uchiha clan, especially Naruto and Sakura. At first it was accidental, but when Fugaku tries to force Sasuke to end his relationships, Sasuke puts his foot and now does it intentionally.
- The Glee fanfic Guess Who's Coming to Dinner (the title of course a Shout-Out to the film mentioned below) is an interesting example because it's about a triad, not a couple. Kurt and Blaine have been together since high school, and have more recently gotten together with Sebastian. Kurt's father Burt approves of Blaine but not Sebastian, because he remembers those few months in high school when Sebastian tormented Kurt and tried to steal Blaine from him, and he's convinced that their current arrangement only exists because Sebastian and Blaine want to sleep with each other and Kurt is too nice to say no. Kurt has to desperately try to get his father to understand that Sebastian has changed drastically since high school and is now a good person and that they're together because they all love each other. It doesn't go all that well.
- In Heir the Weasley family are NOT happy when they learn that Ron's accepted a formal courtship with an anonymous party in Slytherin House. From the hints his suitor has dropped and the gifts he's received Ron guesses that his suitor is an older male pureblood of higher status.
- In AU versions of Star Wars that are even slightly comedic, Anakin will more often than not be less-than-pleased with Leia's choice of beau, Han Solo, either because he's still a mercenary smuggler, or the fact that Leia is 19 and Han is ten years older.
- In Kyon: Big Damn Hero this happens in the backstory of Kyon's parents. It was successful to the point of becoming a Happily Married couple by the time the events of the fic happen.
- Kunoichis Like Us: Several people believe that this is the only reason that Nanako bothered with Alex, as her father was a strict traditionalist Japanese man, whereas Alex is an ethnic French-American born in Japan.
- In Glitter Reunion, Rio and Jerrica are nervous about their daughter Zoie dating Riot and Rapture's son Raoul. Riot is Jerrica's exe and she's had bad experiences with both of Raoul's parents. As it turns out, Raoul doesn't take after his parent's troublemaking personalities.
- To say Poseidon in Son of the Western Sea isnt happy when he finds out his beloved mortal son is in a relationship with Amaterasu is an understatement. Not only is she a foreign goddess, she is the leader of a foreign pantheon who despises the Olympians and has a husband with a Hair-Trigger Temper who has killed gods for lesser transgressions. Poseidon isnt much happier when he learns Percy is in a relationship with Tsukuyomi (the aforementioned husband) as well.
- Bequeathed from Pale Estates:
- Ned Stark is absolutely furious when he learns that the Martell his oldest daughter Lyarra (a gender-flipped Jon Snow) will be marrying is Oberyn. Unfortunately, since it was willed by the gods, he doesn't have much of a say in the matter.
- Clearly not wishing for a repeat and having some actual agency in the situation, his goal is to subvert this with his middle daughter Sansa, who was almost betrothed to Joffrey, by making a coordinated effort with Lyarra to turn her attentions to Domeric Bolton (someone he does approve of). It works.
- Halfway through RWBY: Scars, Weiss begins dating a female Faunus who also happens to be a former terrorist who killed several of her father's peers and family. Not even Weiss' sister is fond of her girlfriend because she worries her love is a ruse to get Weiss' guard down and kill her. This trope goes both ways as Blake's parents dislike Weiss' parents for their infamous Fantastic Racism towards Faunus.
- In SilfofinaDragon's Sengoku Basara fanfic The adventures of Mori Motonari and Yuki and onwards, Date Masamune and Sanada Yukimura's daughter Yuki has a relationship with Ishida Mitsunari, though Dad Masamune is very disapproving of this until later on.
- In Hellsister Trilogy, Supergirl dates Dev-Em, a reformed delinquent/bully who is still kind of an obnoxious, smug jerkass. Kara's birth parents don't like Dev, Kara's adoptive parents are wary of him and Kara's cousin/erstwhile surrogate father would love pummelling Dev one mile into the ground.
- In The Lion King II: Simba's Pride, Simba disapproves of his daughter's relationship with Kovu - even banishing him from the pridelands after a misunderstanding causing Kiara to run away, the two reconcile at the end of film however and he allows Kovu to be with Kiara and become his eventual successor as king.
- In Shrek 2, Shrek's initial meeting of Fiona's parents goes exactly as he expects - they are the king and queen of "Far Far Away," and while the mother is fairly reasonable, King Harold can barely contain his rage that his daughter is married to an ogre, and not prince charming like she is suppose to, he gets better by the end though and by the next film * Shrek the Third he's proud to have Shrek as a son-in-law.
- In The Croods Eep and Guy begin a relationship. Much to Grug's dismay. Grug makes a HeelFace Turn after Guy explains to Grug what his family told him.
- Disney's Pocahontas sees John Smith behind her authoritative father's back. We are never shown his exact reaction to her kissing a white man, but judging from his reaction to her sneaking off to see one in the first place, it wouldn't have been pretty. He accepts his daughter's love for John Smith after she performs a Rousing Speech saying the path of love should always be chosen over the path of hatred, and allows John Smith to be a member of his tribe after Smith almost dies in a Heroic Sacrifice for him.
- In Strange Magic The King actually faints when he sees his daughter Dawn kiss Sunny because he's an elf . He also tries covering his eyes when he sees his other daughter Marianne with the Bog King .
- In El Cid Count Gormaz disapproves his daughter Jimena being in love with Rodrigo, mainly because he wants her to marry Ordonez. His loathing for Rodrigo leads to Gormaz trying to kill him and ending up getting killed himself.
- Sausage Party: When Sammy and Lavash return to their aisles, they are scolded by Gefilte Fish and Baba Ghanoush respectively for traveling back together.
- The Breakfast Club implies this will happen post-movie between Bender and Claire:
Bender: Remember how you said your parents use you to get back at each other?Claire nodsBender: Wouldn't I be outstanding in that capacity?
- In Bachelor Party, Tom Hanks' character is this, a working class Catholic school bus driver marrying into a snobby and disapproving rich WASP family.
- Guess Who's Coming to Dinner was the racial version of this. This example is especially interesting because the parents are in fact liberals who consider themselves tolerant people.
- In The Hangover Part II, Stu marries a Thai girl whose father is a very stereotypical strict Asian parent. He emasculates Stu, compares him to tasteless rice porridge, and is all too ready to call off the wedding when the Wolfpack is running late. After Stu stands up for himself at the end, he grows to accept him.
- A gender-flipped version occurs in Drag Me to Hell, in which the protagonist, Christine, is dating Clay, who is from a wealthier family than she is. Clay's mother makes it very clear than she doesn't think Christine is good enough for her son.
- A Very Harold & Kumar 3D Christmas has Harold (a Korean-American)'s overbearing father-in-law arrive to spend Christmas with Harold and Maria. Apparently, for the father-in-law, Christmas trees are Serious Business, as his mother was killed by Korean gangsters on Christmas Eve. It doesn't help that the father-in-law is played by Danny Trejo in his typical "tough angry Latino" role. When Harold finally stands up to him at the end, the father-in-law reveals that this is what he wanted all along, a son-in-law who is strong enough for his daughter and that he always saw Harold as a good man.
- The Amazing Spider-Man has Gwen Stacy, daughter of firmly Law & Order Captain Stacy dating the outlaw vigilante Spider-Man. He doesn't know she's dating Spidey, only Peter Parker, but when mortally wounded supports Peter's crime-fighting... as long as he stops dating Gwen. Captain Stacy doesn't want her to be put in danger.
- Subverted in Spider-Man: Homecoming: Adrian Toomes turns out the be the father of Peter's crush, Liz Allan, but because Peter saved her life, Toomes allows him to go the homecoming dance with her, on the condition that he doesn't interfere with his plans.
- The entire plot of The Shrimp On The Barbie. A wealthy young Australian heiress has a history of dating men that her parents hate. After they forbid her marrying her latest boyfriend, Bruce, they make a bet. If her next boyfriend is even more reprehensible to them than Bruce was she will be allowed to marry Bruce. Enter Cheech Marin acting as a sterotypical crude, offensive Mexican gangbanger.
- Just like in the comics, The Incredible Hulk has Betty Ross still in love with Bruce Banner (a scientist), much to her father's consternation. It's incredibly ironic in this case, seeing as in the Marvel Cinematic Universe, Betty herself is a scientist.
- An inverted trope in the film Why Be Good? since Winthrop Peabody Jr is going out with Pert Kelly, a girl with a dubious reputation. However, its his father that disapproves of her. Peabody Sr goes through great lengths to make sure his son is safe from such a girl who might not be marriage material.
- La Bamba. Donna's father wasn't exactly thrilled she was dating a rock-and-roll singer of Mexican-American heritage.
- Goosebumps had Hannah being forbidden from dating Zach by her father, R.L. Stine.
- In the Disgaea novels Captain Gordon, Defender of Earth! and Jennifer have a daughter named Jane, who eventually falls for Laharl. Its not that Captain Gordon, Defender of Earth! hates Laharl (they had been allies in Disgaea: Hour of Darkness), but he is a hero and Laharl is a demon Overlord, Captain Gordon, Defender of Earth! is also a Overprotective Dad. Jane is a rebellious teen, so there are hints that she does it partly to piss Captain Gordon, Defender of Earth! off. Not that he has any reason to concerned, because Laharl is not interested, not that it stops Jane from pursuing him.
- In The Mark of the Lion trilogy, Julia Valerians older brother strongly objects to her second marriage to a man who is known to be a rake and deeply in debt, and whom he suspects (rightly) to be violent and abusive. Her third marriage, which is more cohabitation for convenience than anything, appalls her whole family, since the man is known to be a boor and keeps on a catamite. Does ''not' lead into Parental Marriage Veto because she coaxes her father into agreeing to the first one despite her brothers doubts, and in the second she simply moves in with him without notice, making it very similar to this trope.
- Marty Pants: Mr. and Mrs. Pants don't approve of Erica dating Salvadore, referring to him as "That hoodlum". She later breaks up with him when he starts to bully Marty in front of her.
- All over the place in The Mortal Instruments. Isabelle dates anybody but other Shadowhunters, intentionally bringing home boys she knows her parents would disapprove of. Jace says it's to get attention, it works - in the wrong way. Alec winds up in a gay relationship with a warlock. Jocelyn isn't wild about her daughter dating the boy that Valentine raised. Jocelyn and Luke's relationship has caused them no end of grief over the years. Valentine forced Stephan Herondale to divorce Amatis simply because she was Luke's sister. Aline and Helen's lesbian relationship is controversial for Shadowhunters. Somewhat invoked and somewhat subverted when Maia and Simon date: A werewolf and a vampire dating is controversial but their mutual surrogate father figure, Luke, doesn't care and thinks highly of both of them. Worth noting that while these relationships are all said to be taboo, actual opposition or fallout is very low-key if it's seen at all.
- It was the driving force in the plot of Erich Segal's Love Story. Because wealthy lawyer and Harvard legacy Oliver Barrett III believed his son must be rebelling against him by wanting to marry a working-class Italian-American who went to Radcliffe on a scholarship, this exchange happened:
Oliver IV: What offends you most, Father? That she's Catholic, or that she's poor?Oliver III: What attracts you most?
- In The Half Life Trilogy, Annalise's attraction to the black witch Nathan is definitely looked down on by her white witch family. She's told not to even speak to him, but they end up in a relationship.
- Harry Potter:
- Andromeda Black's blood purist family disowned her and burned her name off the family tree after she married the Muggle-born wizard Ted Tonks.
- Likewise, Marvolo Gaunt, a pure-blood supremacy believer himself, considers his daughter Merope marrying a Muggle man an act of treason and, according to Dumbledore, refused to either mention her name or acknowledge her existence for the rest of his life.
- The Dresden Files: Molly Carpenter is the daughter of a virtuous, conservative Catholic household. Her holding a torch for brooding bad boy wizard Harry Dresden is sure to upset her father right? Harry is much older than her, dresses in a leather duster and has always had a contentious relationship with the forces of law and order. The subversion is that her father, Michael, is one of Harry's best friends and ally in the fight against evil. Her mother HATES Harry's guts and until she warmed up to him later in the story would never approve of Molly dating someone like Harry let alone the man himself.
- In fact her crush is closer to Like Parent, Like Spouse given that once you look below the surface Harry and Michael have a lot in common since they are both brave warriors who are willing to risk their lives to protect others and stand up for what they think is right. Plus Michael rescued Charity from a dragon and Harry rescued Molly from Arctis Tor
- In Our Miss Brooks, Mr. Conklin loathes his daughter's boyfriend, Walter Denton. It isn't uncommon for him to kick Walter down his porch steps. Why? Walter is something of a nuisance to Mr. Conklin, as the episodes "Cure that Habit", "Wild Goose", "Cafeteria Boycott" and "Space, Who Needs It?" attest. However, there are other reasons as well. In "Spare That Rod!", Mr. Conklin complained that the worst thing about Walter was his squeaky voice.
Miss Brooks: I expect it's his age. His voice is probably changing.
Mr. Conklin: Well, I wish it would hurry up. He sounds like a canary with a mouthful of rancid birdseed.
- Archie Bunker and his son-in-law Mike ("Meathead") Stivic in All in the Family, with Bunker being the archetypal working-class WASP conservative bigot, and Mike being an ethnically Polish intellectual and socially-active liberal. They naturally argue all the time.
- Arrested Development: Michael almost doesn't ask out Sally Sitwell because he thinks his father wants him to date her. Then he finds out that his father knew he would act that way and pretended he wanted Michael to date Sally so Michael wouldn't. So Michael asks Sally on a date... and she turns him down because she'd rather date someone her father doesn't like.
- The Big Bang Theory:
- Howard meets Bernadette and they start dating. He remarked with some pleasure that he knew dating a Catholic would kill his mother, and she similarly takes the opportunity to offend her parents by dating someone Jewish. Ultimately both sides of the family end up happy with the couple because of how good they were together.
- Penny's father actually likes Leonard but Penny has a long history of using this trope. When he realizes that they have broken up, he "gives him a head start" getting her back by shouting at him very audibly for a minute or two.
- Pryia dates Leonard in the fourth season despite her parents disapproval because Leonard isn't Indian. It doesn't work out for reasons other than that, mostly trying a Long-Distance Relationship that falls apart after a few months.
- In an episode of Boston Public, Meredith Peters (aka The Hook Lady)'s son begins dating Steven Harper'snote daughter, who is black, merely to anger his mother. She is also angered when she catches her son having sex with another man.
- Downton Abbey:
- While Robert Crawley doesn't initially hate Branson, the Irish radical chauffeur, it gets pretty ugly when he finds out about Branson's feelings for his little girl Sybil. Lord's daughter with a servant, that was rich back then. He comes round (mostly) in the end.
- Cousin Rose (of Scottish aristocracy) engages in a Shock Value Relationship with African American Jazz singer Jack Ross. While she does have some feelings for him, her main motivation is to "see Mummy's face crumple" when she finds out. Jack, who has a more realistic idea of the racism they'd be facing, calls off the engagement.
- Lady Rose does get to see Mummy's face crumple in Season 5 when she genuinely falls in love with the Jewish Atticus Aldridge. Her father, in the process of divorcing his horror of a socially-acceptable wife, is happy to see her Marry for Love. His father, on the other hand, takes exception to both the divorce and the fact that his grandchildren won't be Jewish by birth, but comes around when Rose saves him from an even worse scandal.
- An episode of Frasier had Frasier's street-performer cousin Nikos marrying Mary-Ann, a woman from a rich family, whose parents hated him. When Nikos leaves her for a street performer he loved more, Mary-Ann yells "I will never forgive you for this! See how happy you've made my parents?"
- Friends: At first, Monica's parents despised Chandler since he had been wrongfully blamed for a pot-smoking incident Ross committed years ago. Once they find out the truth, they immediately warm up to him. Also, Rachel's father and Ross had a strong mutual dislike for each other.
- In The George Lopez Show Carmen starts dating the factory owner's rebellious son without George's knowledge. In fact, he prank calls the place and George remarks "I wonder what poor skank would get with him".
- A The Kids in the Hall sketch has a college-student (Dave Foley in drag) bring home Scott Thompson (in blackface) to meet her parents. In an absolute subversion, her parents are fine with the whole thing, but she continually acts as though they're being offensive. The implication is that she's chasing black men intentionally to piss off her parents - and it's not working.
- Last Man Standing: Zigzagged. Mike actually likes Kyle and introduced him to Kristin, considering him a good kid and with a surrogate parent/son relationship between them that keeps Kyle around even after he and Kristin broke up. Mike does think Kyle has some way to go before becoming a husband or father, which is what annoyed him when Kyle and Mandy started dating. Played straight with Ryan in multiple ways, the core of it that Ryan ran out on Kristin for several years and exacerbated by Ryan being every negative liberal stereotype you can imagine.
- Malcolm in the Middle:
- Francis's marriage stayed strong in the rough parts because both of them knew Lois hated Piama.
- It seems to be genetic, since we see that Hal's family utterly loathe Lois.
- In My Wife and Kids, Claire specifically stops dating someone because her father loves him. The person in question is a strict Christian who believes in waiting until marriage for sex. Even though she likes him, she wants to irritate her father, so she starts dating a rough gang banger.
- Double Subverted in Porridge, career criminal Fletcher strongly disapproves of his daughter Ingrid dating and becoming engaged to his cellmate Godber. However, Fletch doesn't hate Godber, he actually likes him a lot, but he's also painfully aware that he was a poor husband and father due to being in and out of prison his whole life, and fears the same thing happening again.
- This was woven all the way through Roseanne:
- On at least one occasion, it was mentioned that Roseanne started dating Dan because he was the type of boy that her parents wouldn't like (Roseanne and her sister Jackie, to be perfectly blunt, hate their parents.)
- Daughter Becky truly seemed to love the leather-clad biker Mark, but Roseanne firmly believed for the longest time that she was only dating him to torture her.
- Lastly, they actually used their hatred of the potential boyfriend as a benchmark to gauge how long the relationship will last. When Becky dates a perfectly nice football player who Dan instantly takes a liking to, Roseanne and Jackie inform him that he's the rebound, will be gone by the end of the month, and the next guy that Dan absolutely despises will be the "keeper."
- They're not dating (yet), but in The Sarah Jane Adventures, one of Rani's best friends is the class clown Clyde, who immediately got off to a bad start with her Stern Headmaster father, and their relationship remains antagonistic (which isn't helped by Clyde deliberately winding up Haresh Chandra).
- In Shadowhunters, Izzy's relationship with the seelie Meliorn is heavily frowned upon and is given as a reason for her being unsuitable for the arranged marriage plans. In general, Shadowhunters dating Downworlders is not well regarded.
- In The Sopranos Tony gets very angry when his daughter dates a boy who is half African American and half Jewish.
- On Star Trek: Deep Space Nine, Dukat strongly disapproves of his daughter Ziyal's interest in Garak. In this case, it's not that Garak is different, but that he's too much like Dukat himself. The fact that Garak literally tortured Dukat's father to death might have also been a factor
- Played with in the backstory of Supernatural: Mary's dad HATED John Winchester, because he was too much of a skinny, white-bread pansy to be good enough for his daughter. Ironically, Samuel would have also hated the Badass Hunter John ends up becoming because he also absolutely opposed the idea of his daughter getting involved with a Hunter.
- In Switched at Birth Melody is congenitally deaf as is her son Emmett. She strongly disapproves of hearing/deaf relationships for reasons slowly being explained. So of course Emmett falls in love with a hearing girl.
- On Veronica Mars, part of the backstory is a gender flipped version. Duncan Kane's mother hates Veronica. Lilly states that Celeste would hate anyone that Duncan might love more than her. Lilly also warns that Celeste would do anything to break up Duncan and Veronica. Celeste tells Duncan that Veronica might be his 1/2 sister. He breaks up with her without telling her why. Veronica finds out on her own. Two DNA tests later (she throws one out without looking because Keith is her real Dad. Before opening the 2nd one she signs away her rights to the Kane fortune because Keith is her real Dad) it turns out they aren't 1/2 siblings and get back together for a while. It is unclear if Celeste really believes Veronica could be her husband's daughter or she just used it to break them up because she is obsessed with her son. In flashbacks Veronica's Mom and Duncan's Dad don't seem to have any concerns about the two dating. Jake's concern with Duncan and Veronica dating in "present" time seems to be more about knowing Keith doesn't believe that Lilly's murder has been solved, and Jake believing that Duncan accidentally killed his sister during a seizure.
- On The West Wing, President Bartlet has a brief monologue noting his exasperation at his youngest daughter leaving his aide Charlie for a French Jerk, his oldest daughter marrying a total twit, and his middle daughter dating a stoner. His Servile Snarker secretary chimes in that she's heard girls look for their fathers in the men they date. Regarding the French Jerk, Bartlet tells a member of Zoe's protection detail, "Before I forget: if something comes up, and you're faced with the choice of killing the boyfriend or not killing the boyfriend... kill the boyfriend."
- A non-parental example in Scrubs, when Dr. Cox starts flirting with a new surgical intern. Turk (her boss) gets fed up and outright tells her that she's not allowed to see Cox. When Cox threatens to destroy him, Turk asks Cox if the latter understands women at all. Cue the intern coming to Cox's apartment, invoking this trope.
- Moesha's thuggish on-and-off boyfriend Quentin was the bane of her father's existence.
- Once Upon a Time: Belle's father acts this way about her relationship with Rumplestiltskin. In fairness, it's Rumplestiltskin. Though kidnapping her and trying to force her over the Storybrooke line to erase her memories is kind of an excessive way to deal with the problem.
- Deliberately invoked in an episode of Prank Patrol where the prank involved setting up a father to think his daughter was dating a tattooed punk rocker with a mohawk who drove a panel van.
- Married... with Children: Kelly Bundy's taste in men tends towards various sleazy hoods, bikers and ex-cons. No wonder her father Al beats up her boyfriends on a regular basis.
- Quentin Lance really doesn't like Oliver or Tommy dating his daughter, Laurel. His dislike isn't necessarily unfounded either.
- Played with regarding his younger daughter Sara's relationship with Nyssa al Ghul. While he didn't care that Nyssa was a woman, glad that Sara had some form of happiness during those five years in hell, he was still apprehensive of her. Hard to blame him, considering that Nyssa poisoned Laurel and kidnapped his ex-wife Dinah to try and force Sara back into the League of Assassins.
- Subverted when Thea starts dating Roy Harper whom she met when he stole her purse. One would presume that this would be met with strong disapproval from her mother and her very protective brother but they actually see Roy as a calming influence on Thea who has previously acted too much like Spoiled Brat.
- The Flash (2014)
- Joe West forbid his daughter Iris West from becoming a cop like him; she later started dating a cop, Detective Eddie Thawne, who also happened to be his partner. That being said, it's been implied that Joe has been like that with all of Iris' boyfriends. The only love interest he ever approved of was her best friend Barry Allen (who, according a certain future article, will be her future husband), and that's because he raised Barry, so the man was basically his son already anyway.
- In one episode of Cheers, Sam began dating the daughter of John Allen Hill, his Sitcom Arch-Nemesis from the restaurant above the bar. When Hill eventually gave his blessing to the relationship, Valerie said "Now I'm just dating a greasy bartender" and dumped him.
- Degrassi: Manny tries to upset her father by pretending to date Jay. It backfires because even though Jay was a Bad Boy/delinquent in high school and didn't graduate, by that time, he had a job and career plans he was serious about and Manny's father respected that. Manny and Jay eventually fall in love and get engaged.
- On Shameless (US) Lip's college girlfriend specifically dates him because it drives her stuck-up parents nuts. Lip does not mind because she buys him stuff and they have a lot of sex. She even coaches Lip on what to say to her father so the father will offer Lip money to stop dating her. She is then upset because Lip took less money than her previous boyfriend.
- Much of the drama of the first two seasons of Teen Wolf was centered around the relationship between the hero Scott McCall and Allison Argent. Scott is a werewolf. Allison's family are werewolf hunters. You can see the problem.
- Subverted in Good Luck Charlie: Teddy tries to hide her relationship with her new Romantic False Lead biker boyfriend as she's sure her father, Bob, won't approve. It turns out that Bob is something of a biker-wannabe and in fact they get along well... until Bob crashes the boyfriend's bike into a tree, that is.
- On Gilmore Girls, Lane tends to fall for boys that her mother would disapprove of (because they're white and generally slackers). At one point she meets a guy at a party and panics when she realizes that he's exactly the kind of Korean future-doctor her mother would want her to date — and she also really likes him.
- Invoked in the series finale of Parks and Recreation, where Leslie sees her daughter and Ann's son sitting together and concludes excitedly that they're going to fall in love, and Ann cautions her that if it's ever going to work they have to pretend to disapprove. Leslie naturally fails this immediately by giving two thumbs up the moment her daughter glances in her direction.
- Taken to extremes in Fargo, where Simone Gerhardt sleeps with Mike Milligan, a low-level enforcer for her family's hated rivals in the Kansas City Mafia, in the hopes that she can get Mike to kill her abusive, bigoted father. That the very act of sleeping with a black man would probably piss off her daddy probably adds to the appeal of this plan. This ends up backfiring terribly when her uncle Bear finds out; as much as he hates Dodd, Bear can't abide betrayal of the family, and thus he kills Simone.
- Amusingly in the first season of Empire, all three of Lucious' sons have love interests that he disapproves of. Andre is married to a white woman, Jamal is gay, and Hakeem is with a woman at least twice his age.
- Everwood: Amy Abbott starts dating Tommy who is a junkie. Her father is usually ok with her dating, for example he had no problems with Colin, but he forbids her this relationship. She insists she will help him stop but she starts using drugs herself. (They break up before it gets bad.)
- Afroman plays with this idea in Colt 45 when discussing his fling with a white girl;
I let her ride in my CaddyBecause I didn't know her daddy was the leader of the Ku Klux Klan
- Invoked by Body Count in the song "KKK Bitch" from Body Count, where Ice-T tells the story of his falling in love with a girl whose father is a white supremacist.
- Britney Spears' "Criminal".
He is a devil with a tainted heart, and even I know this ain't smart, but Momma I'm in love with a criminal...
- Part of the reason Cher is amenable to Meat Loaf's pick-up line in "Dead Ringer For Love":
Ever since I can remember I've been hanging round this joint,My daddy never noticed, now he'll finally get the point.
- Dinosaur Jr.'s video for "Watch The Corners".
- The Trace Adkins song "Ladies Love Country Boys" is about a girl introducing her redneck boyfriend to her straight-laced suburbanite parents.
- In Toby Keith's song "God Love Her," a preacher's daughter falls in love (and eventually runs away) with a motorcycle punk, to the dismay of both of her parents. Seems she hasn't deviated too far from her roots though; she helps the motorcycle punk find God and get on the right path.
- Colors Are All the Same is this about a Longhorn (University of Texas) and an Aggie (Texas A&M) falling in love.
- Trisha Yearwood's "She's in Love with the Boy":
Her daddy says he ain't worth a lick
When it comes to brains, he got the short end of the stick
But Katie's young and man, she just don't care
She'd follow Tommy anywhere
She's in love with the boy
She's in love with the boy
She's in love with the boy
And even if they have to run away
She's gonna marry that boy someday
- Katie's mom comes to the couple's defense by pointing out to Katie's dad that the two of them were no different from Katie and Tommy back when they were teenagers. In fact, Katie's maternal grandfather apparently had the same opinion of Katie's dad as Katie's dad himself has of Tommy—but Katie's parents got married anyway and Katie's mom points out that Katie will likely do the same with Tommy.
- The Music Video for Fall Out Boy's Sugar We're Going Down has a girl falling in love with a boy with antlers, whom her dad, a hunter, hates so much, he tries to kill him. This has absolutely no relation to the actual lyrics of the song..
- The protagonist of "Crashed The Wedding" by Busted says his girlfriends father hates him because he's jobless.
- Present in Schweigt stille, plaudert nicht in a variation. The plot centers on Dad's disapproval for his daughter's love for coffee, so in this case, it would probably be more accurate to say "Drinking What Daddy Hates".
- Chris Rock brings this up in one of his specials, saying that being prejudiced will only cause you to suffer Laser-Guided Karma and have whatever you hate end up in your family just to mess with you. If you hate gays, your son will turn out to be gay. If you hate Latinos, your daughter will come home one day and introduce you to her new Latin Lover.
- Lisa Lampanelli at the Comedy Central Roast of Flavor Flav:
I haven't heard the N-word so many times since I told my father I was dating a black man!
- Phil Jupitus has a diversion in his arachnophobia routine where he mentions that he doesn't get on with his father in law. He considered it was because of a complex class issue, but when he told a friend this, they replied "Yeah, or it could be that you're shagging his daughter."
- In Fiddler on the Roof this happens three times—and they all get married to a man who challenges their father's faith. He can accept the older two's marriages quickly but the third one—who marries a Gentile (a non-Jew)—he disowns and doesn't speak to her until the end of the show.
- Perhaps the most famous example occurs in Romeo and Juliet, as the families of the two eponymous characters are sworn enemies.
- The quest in The Elder Scrolls III: Morrowind "A Cure for Vampirism" features something like this. The Daedric prince Molag Bal is displeased that his daughter Molag Grunda is in a relationship with a lowly Frost Atronach, so he orders the player to kill them both. (Being immortal Daedra, they won't really die. Their souls will merely be sent back to Oblivion for Bal's punishment.)
- Implied in Mass Effect 3, where Tali muses while drunk about how much her father would have hated Male!Shepard if the two are in a relationship.
- Amnesia: Memories and Later show that the heroine's father is very much against the idea of her dating a playboy like Ikki. He believes that Ikki isn't serious about his daughter, unable to financially support himself and her for any potential future together, and is convinced that Ikki will grow tired of her soon enough and start cheating on her or breaking up with her for another woman because he used to be that type of playboy in his youth himself and that's why he knows how things will end. But Later has him come around and choose to support the relationship.
- There was an arc in Better Days where Sheila visits her parents while her father is in hospital and discovers her sister has a Hyena boyfriend (this world's version of a black person). Sheila calls her sister out on bringing the guy, who seems decent enough from what we see, simply to upset their parents and her mother even makes a comment out loud about her having a 'nigger boyfriend' to Sheila's horror.
- There's an earlier (though milder) example, when Fisk dated Elizabeth briefly. Elizabeth's mother was bothered that her daughter wasn't dating a nice, Jewish boy. The only reason she goes along with it is that she thinks it would just be an innocent, youthful relationship.
- As with the Fisk/Elizabeth example above there was a gender inverted version concerning Tommy and Lucy, Tommy's mother makes it very clear that she doesn't like her son dating a non-catholic woman.
- Continued in the sequel series Original Life. Miko's mother is the stereotypical Education Mama who hates her daughter's boyfriend Thomas who is a chronic academic underachiever. At the end of the arc Miko tells Thomas that the exact reason she likes him so much is her mother hates him.
- In The Dreamer, Beatrice Whaley, the daughter of a wealthy Boston merchant in the 18th century, falls in love with an apple farmer from Roxbury.
- Yep, an El Goonish Shive entry, although at least a Dream Sequence. Elliot ends up dreaming his Opposite-Sex Clone (which his parents and his clone tease about calling as his daughter) brings home a sleazeball. Then he talks to his "wife", Tedd. That's when he becomes lucid, and alters the dream by setting her up on a date with someone he approves.
- Hilariously, when Elliot is confused as to why his "daughter" is dating a biker, she shouts "MOM! DADDY'S DISAPPROVING OF MY BOYFRIENDS AGAIN!", which suggests that this isn't the only time in the dream world that this had happened.
- In The Order of the Stick, Ian Starshine is quite upset to learn that his daughter Haley is romantically involved with Elan, the son of his enemy General Tarquin. Even though he can tell the difference between Elan and Nale, he refuses to see Elan as anything but Tarquin's mole.
- In Sluggy Freelance Leono relies on this trope to convince women to bear his alien offspring.
- In Sandra and Woo The genders were inverted with Landon Hill and Larisa Korolev. The mother doesn't approve of Landon's girlfriend due to her promiscuous nature. At least until one of their classmates places a call telling her everyone thought her son was gay until he started dating Larissa (and warns her he just might turn out that way if the mother forces the relationship to end).
- Slice of Life parodies this concept with Diamond Tiara and Snails. Diamond Tiara acts like this is the case and even declares to her father that there is nothing he can do to keep them apart, even though he's happy they're together because he believes Snails is a fine and upstanding young pony.
- In the Futurama episode, "Where the Buggalo Roam," when Kif expresses sadness that Amy's parents don't like him, Amy assures him that she loves him no matter, and even admits that part of the reason she's attracted to Kif is actually because her parents don't like him.
- Later on though, I Want Grandkids trumps any issues they have with Kif.
- In the pilot episode of the animated series Ugly Americans, the succubus character is immensely turned on by her father disapproving of her dating a human instead of a demon.
- In "So You Want to Be A Vampire?", Francis, the head of a immigration force who is extremely bias against cryptids, finds out his daughter is dating a vampire and against the two of them getting married, owning to his own failed marriage where his ex-wife left him for a vampire. He ultimately relents when her boyfriend saves him from a virus that turns him into Larry King (it's an odd show).
- The Simpsons:
- In a flashback episode, we see that Marge's family have never liked Homer even when they were teenagers. May not count since Marge never dated Homer to get back at her family—also, it's mostly just Marge's sisters, Patty and Selma (especially Patty), who don't like Homer (and the feeling is mutual). Marge's parents, Clancy (her dad) and Jackie (her mom), do actually seem to like Homer (or are at least more willing to put up with him that Patty and Selma are).
- In an episode where an older Lisa goes to college, Bart is dating college girls who want to piss off/extort their parents. He even invokes it.
- Family Guy
- Lois Griffin's dating her eventual husband Peter is due at least in part to this trope. It may be that she's trying to get back at her father for being an incredible Jerkass, ranging from his refusing to let her become a model to his abandoning her to her fate when she was kidnapped for ransom. It is also stated in the early episode "Peter, Peter, Caviar Eater" that Lois was tired of her wealthy family's posh lifestyle and her snobbish suitors and decided to rebel by dating nice, humble, hard-working Peter, the antithesis of her family's snobbery.
- A rare example of a Gender Flip occurs when it's shown that Peter's devoutly Catholic father hates the Protestant Lois, so it cuts both ways.
- The Legend of Korra:
- While he hides it for a while, Hiroshi Sato hates Mako (and all other benders) who is dating his daughter, Asami. Mako was especially abhorrent to Sato, seeing as he was a penniless firebender. The first part is hypocrisy, since Sato himself started out penniless and even told Mako not to be ashamed of his poverty. The last part is because his wife was murdered by a firebender. The finale takes it to a whole new level when Asami gets together with Korra, though by that point Hiroshi was reformed, redeemed, and ever so slightly dead.
- Gender inverted in season 4 with Suyin and her eldest son's fiancee Kuvira. She would have been thrilled with the arrangement if it had been before the Time Skip (she had been Kuvira's Parental Substitute and viewed her as a second daughter), but Kuvira had kind of turned evil in the interim.
- In Archer, Mallory Archer respects Lana as much as she does anyone (i.e. barely), but still doesn't want her son Sterling to get back together with her because she's ''a black'' (pause for drink) ''-ops field agent''. Mallory was one herself and always put her job first, and has just barely enough self awareness to realize that she was a pretty awful mother as a result.
- In The Goode Family, Bliss invokes this by dating a boorish creep to scare her parents into letting her date a boy she's actually interested in. Her parents are so preoccupied with the main plotline, that they don't notice, and Bliss winds up stuck him although he eventually gets bored with her and breaks it off.
- In American Dad! Haley dates a Mexican boy just to tick off Stan, but Stan later hires him and a bunch of other Mexicans to make teddy bears for him, in revenge Haley rats him to the police because they were illegals.
- A platonic version happens in Jem. Kimber becomes best friends with Stormer, who is the sweetest Misfit by far but can still play the rebellious 'bad girl'. Kimber's sister Jerrica (who goes by "Jem" when singing) is completely against their... friendship, and Stormer's friends hate her hanging around a softy like Kimber. There's even a Hologram-Misfits duet song called "Bad Influence" about it.
Jem: She's too much of a rebel
Pizzazz: She'll break your heart in two
Together: She's a bad influence— a bad influence on you
- Though not exactly an example, this trope is referenced in the penultimate episode of Samurai Jack, after it's revealed that Aku is the biological father of Jack's "lady friend," Ashi, whom Aku is using to fight Jack.
Aku: I mean, you try and raise them right, but then they run off with your mortal enemy. What's a dad to do?
- Post-marriage example with Rick and Morty where Rick hates son-in-law Jerry Smith for getting Rick's daughter Beth pregnant when they were teenagers and being weak-willed, cowardly, and covertly using other people's pity.
- Bao: Or rather, Dating What Mommy Hates. When the little Chinese dumpling grows up, he falls in love with a human girl, who his mother disapproves of. When he tries to leave in his girlfriend's car, his mother eats him.
- Rocko's Modern Life: Filburt the turtle dates and later marries Dr. Paula Hutchison, who is a cat whose mother doesn't want her with someone from another species. We later learn that Dr. Hutchison's father is actually a turtle.