Uncle Phil: Oh, I don't think so.
Will: Who cares what you think? YOU ARE NOT MY FATHER!
The closing line to any fight or disagreement between a teenager and either his father/mother or (more commonly) his important replacement parental figure (in the right genre, between the hero and his mentor).
This is either a loophole for someone who really is in the wrong and wants a reason to end the argument without defending himself, or a way for a Good-aligned (or standards-bearing) offspring to inform his Evil-aligned father [figure] that he has crossed the line and is no longer worthy of respect, admiration, or obedience. It can also be delivered to deliberately hurt a parental figure who genuinely feels that he is their father in every sense but the biological. In this case, the accusation typically leads to guilt on both sides, and usually a last-minute apology and reconciliation...unless it turns out to be the last time they ever speak.
A stipulation is that the mentor has been more of a parent than the referenced father ever was. Or maybe an older brother with a Promotion to Parent.
Much more rare, but not unheard of, is for someone to say this to their biological parent, oftentimes directly pointing how much better the Parental Substitute was at the job. Calling Parents by Their Name is a common way to express this variant.
A twist that turns up the tension is "You're not his father."
Compare/contrast with I Have No Son. Note that this trope is not generally related to I Am Not Your Father, since it's usually understood by both parties that the person really isn't their father (and that's the point).
- Used by Vivio on her adoptive mother Nanoha after Quattro manipulates her into fighting her adopted mother in Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha Strikers. This happened while Nanoha was being fueled by Mama Bear rage. Ouch. In an unusual variation, Vivio meant this literally. She'd been mind-screwed so thoroughly by Quattro that the poor girl genuinely believed that the person she was facing was someone disguised as her Mama in an attempt to deceive her. Even after she realizes that it's the actual Nanoha, she keeps this view since, as a clone made for the express purpose of moving a giant battleship, she doesn't view herself worthy of having parents.
- One Piece:
- Ace uses this phrase on Garp in a flashback, in response to him opposing his plan to become a pirate. Unlike some who invoke it on a non-biological father figure, he doesn't think much of his biological father.
- In the Dressrosa arc, a minor flashback (a few days ago, rather than the usual year gap) shows a disagreement between sixteen-year old Rebecca and her parental figure, the Living Toy Thunder Soldier. The former wants to participate in a tournament so she could win the Flame-Flame Fruit and kill Doflamingo, the latter heavily protests against it, not wanting the young girl to die. His dissuasion, combined with her frustration following Doflamingo's fake resignation from the Seven Warlords of the Sea, leads to her saying that he's not her father, but just a one-legged toy soldier. Stricken and unwilling to argue any longer, the Soldier prays that she doesn't enter and leaves, as Rebecca, regretting what she did, tries in vain to get him to stay. Fortunately, they reconcile off-screen. It's even more hurtful for the Thunder Soldier because he is Rebecca's father. He is in fact the legendary warrior Kyros who was transformed into a toy. Nobody else, not even Rebecca, remembers him because people who are transformed into toys become unpersoned. Then, at the end of the arc she inverts it, tearfully begging him to stop pretending that he's not her father after he spread a rumor that she's the daughter of some foreign prince to spare her the shame of having a murderer for a father.
- Sanji understandably refuses to acknowledge Judge as his father after meeting him again for the first time in years and repeatedly reaffirms this as the two are fighting. He also denies any relation to the Vinsmoke family as a whole since he makes it clear that Vinsmoke Sanji, the weak little boy they ridiculed, "died at sea" after running away from Germa 13 years earlier.
- In Persona 4: The Animation, after Nanako finally has enough of her father putting his work before her, she subjects him to a tear-filled rant before finishing with this line and sprinting off upstairs. Earlier in the episode, she builds up to this by telling Yu that she doubts her father is actually her father because he seems to care about his work more than her.
- Kyo from Fruits Basket shouted this (in a flashback) about his adoptive father, who became distant after overhearing it. It turns out it was because Kyo (who has self-esteem issues) didn't want people to reflect poorly on his adoptive father by thinking they were related, as he's not worthy of having such a good parent.
- This is put to very emotionally moving use in Princess Tutu, when Rue finally defies the Raven.
- In Axis Powers Hetalia, The American Revolution is pretty much portrayed this way: America tells England, the Parental Substitute mixture of a father and a brother, that "I'm not your little brother anymore" during their final fight.
- Space Pirate Mito is devastated when Aoi ends a fight by shouting "You're not my mom, you're just an alien in a suit that looks like my mom!" because she actually is his mother even if she is an alien in a suit. They reconcile when she tells him the story of how she met his father.
- Bleach: Uryuu is so angry with his father Ryuuken's rejection of the family Quincy lineage that he verbally refuses to call him "Father", using Ryuuken's first name instead. Flashbacks reveal a past argument over it that culminated in Uryuu demanding to know why and being horrified when Ryuuken claims there's no money in the lifestyle. It's implied to be the moment when Uryuu lost all respect for his father, as it seems to be the last time Uryuu ever called him "Father" out loud. Ryuuken was actually lying to hide the truth but Uryuu hasn't yet realised.
- In Fairy Tail, Erza Scarlet finds out her birth mother is a despicable woman who gave birth to her just so she could take over her body and escape her own horribly cursed body, dumped her in a random village when she failed, and is now actively trying to kill her out of spite. Because of this, Erza understandably has no trouble telling her that her guild is her true family. When her mother can't bring herself to kill Erza and takes her own life, however, Erza pays her respects by calling her "Mother" for the first and only time.
- Wrath from the 2003 version of Fullmetal Alchemist was created when Izumi tried to resurrect her stillborn son through alchemy. They met several years afterwards when Izumi and the Elrics discovered him living as a Wild Child on an island. Izumi treated Wrath like a son even before learning of his past and Wrath liked her back, but once Envy got his hands on Wrath he returned his memories and Wrath went off the deep end. He rejected Izumi as his mother due to believing he abandoned her and ultimately began viewing Sloth as his Parental Substitute instead. Wrath didn't begin to acknowledge Izumi as his mom until shortly before her death. In Fullmetal Alchemist: The Conqueror of Shamballa, they end up Together in Death.
- High School DXD:
- Akeno Himejima is repulsed that her biological father, Baraqiel, wasn't able to save Shuri Himejima from being murdered by her own relatives. As such, she refuses to think of him as her father for a while. By Volume 7, however, she reconciles with him thanks to Issei Hyoudou's help to the point that they defeat Loki.
- Vali Lucifer considers Azazel as his true father, as his grandfather Rizevim had Vali's biological father abuse him years before. Even when Vali's biological father died, that's as far as reconciliation goes.
- Spider Jerusalem from Transmetropolitan was once told this by a person he was trying to interview.
- In Cloak & Dagger, when Tandy's stepfather says he wants to see her ballet recital because "isn't that what dads do?", she angrily says that he's her stepfather. She doesn't think much more highly of her biological father (who ran off to India after divorcing her mom), but at that point is stuck convinced that nobody cares about her. Looking back on it, Dagger thinks she was an idiot for blaming her stepfather for something like that and believes that he actually did love her.
Supergirl: No, listen to me. I have to say: I know you love me, and that's why you feel a need to act like my big brother or my dad — But you're neither one! I'm capable of recognizing my own mistakes, Kal! I don't need my nose rubbed in them! Maybe I'm not perfect like you —
- In Supergirl vol. #5 issue #22, Kara thinks her cousin is about to lecture her after her latest mess-up, and she interrupts him to remind him he isn't her father or her brother, she's trying to learn to be better, and she doesn't need his validation (Superman answers that he actually agrees with her).
Superman: Hey, I'm not —
Supergirl: Maybe I need to learn things the hard way. But I am learning! I want to be a family with you and Uncle Jon and Aunt Martha, but I don't need your... validation!
- In Red Daughter of Krypton Kara says this line after her team's leader tells she shouldn't drink booze because she's just a kid.
Supergirl: You're not my parent, Guy Gardner, and from what I understand, you don't even lead this team.
- X23 has this reaction to Old Man Logan, adamantly refusing to accept that he's in any way like the man she knew and came to accept as her father.
- In The Sandman, Orpheus rejects Morpheus after Eurydice's death when Morpheus (in his usual manner) attempts to encourage Orpheus to live on. This ends up wounding Morpheus' pride, and the two remain estranged for about three millennia until the events of Brief Lives.
- Warlord of Mars has Dejah Thoris disowning her believed-to-be-deceased grandfather when he declares his intent to raise an army to conquer their planet and crush all those who oppose him. Its revealed that this is actually a clone created by an entity to take his place, and the real one is truly dead.
- Gendo gets that treatment very often in Neon Genesis Evangelion fics
Toji snorted. "Oh, I doubt your dad did it on-"
- The Child of Love: After the events of the story Shinji calls his father out on everything he did to himself, Asuka and their daughter and tells him as far as he is concerned, he is a stranger. Several years later he still refuses to refer to Gendo as his father.
- Doing It Right This Time: After returning to the past Rei refuses to regard Gendo as father, parental substitute, guardian or whatever.
Rei's coffee cup landed on the table with some force. "The Commander is not my father," she said harshly. "Not genetically or by his actions." She forced her anger back under control. "Forgive me. It is a... sensitive subject."
Takuya Ikari: Shinji... I can understand your anger... but I hope you realize, that if you ever need me, as your Grandfather I will be here for you.
- Neon Genesis Evangelion: Genocide:
- During a talk with Rei, Shinji tells her that he doesn't think of Gendo as his father anymore.
- Rei does a more symbolic version by deciding, for reasons she cannot quite comprehend, to throw Gendo's old glasses in the garbage.
- And finally inverted in the last chapter with Gendo. During his confrontation with Rei, he admits to her that he doesn't believe he is deserving of being considered a father to Shinji with how he been treating him.
- The One I Love Is: When Gendo is trying to force him to fight and kill the last Angel Shinji calls him out on all he has done to Asuka and Rei and screams he would be ashamed of calling himself "Ikari" if it was not his mother's surname.
- The Second Try: Variation. During his confrontation in the second-to-last chapter Shinji says he wishes Gendo was not his father so that he could hate him properly.
- Advice and Trust: Done indirectly by Asuka in chapter 9 when she revised her will and next of kin stuff, and she cut her father and her step-mother out of her will, declaring "Screw my father and that woman, Shinji gets everything". From that point on, she doesn't regard her parents as family.
- Once More with Feeling: Variant. After meeting his grandfather for first time, Shinji tells these words when he finally and intellectually accepts that his so-called blood relatives were never there for him.
Shinji: I may be your Grandson Mister Ikari... but you are not my Grandfather. Goodbye.
- Neon Metathesis Evangelion: After learning about Rei's upbringing, Shinji declares that Gendo is not his father, merely a genetic donor.
- In White Devil of the Moon, Nanoha, in this story the reincarnation of Princess Serenity, was far from impressed in her past self's actions, and blamed Queen Serenity for her lax attention to Serenity, as both a mother and a queen, and declared that her mother was Momoko Takamachi, not Queen Serenity. Later, when Alicia tries to protect Fate from Precia, Precia attacks Alicia for defying her, causing Fate to declare she was no mother of hers and attack with extreme prejudice.
- In Naruto:Asunder, Naruto directs this at both parents when they try (and fail) to explain sealing the Kyuubi in him and wanting to be a family again (unlike in canon, they're still alive). By the end of the story, however, not only did Naruto manage to make up with Minato and Kushina, but he also called them "mom" and "dad" just before the final battle against Madara.
"You BOTH aren't my parents. You don't deserve to be. I made it fine without you all these years and I'll keep making it WITHOUT YOU. Don't bother me ever again."
- Destiny Is A Hazy Thing has Naruto outright disowning his parents and pretty much handing over parenting duties (and himself) to his loving Eldritch Abomination parents (It Makes Sense in Context) who proceed to torment Naruto's parents when he leaves the room.
- Angel Of The Bat: After her religious conversion, Cassandra Cain sternly tells Lady Shiva she has two fathers, but her biological parent David is neither of them.
- Jen Potter/Black in Black Princess Ascendant does this via magical adoption (which replaces a single parent) to Lily. Narcissa and Andromeda explain that while she might prefer to do it to James, that would mean Lily was pregnant by two men at the same time and even magic insists they use something possible. As a result, as far as both magic and the law are concerned, Bellatrix Lestrange raped and obliviated James Potter during the previous war. Given that the Potters never filed any paperwork saying Jen existed, they can't prove otherwise.
- In The Prayer Warriors, Percy Jackson declares that Zeus is not his father (canonically, Poseidon is, but Zeus is in this fic) on two occasions - once when converting to Christianity and joining the Prayer Warriors, and again before killing Zeus, saying that so he can avoid committing the sin of patricide.
- In the Empath: The Luckiest Smurf novel, Empath says this of Papa Smurf when it is revealed that Empath is Papa Smurf's only biological son and that Papa Smurf had abandoned Empath in Psychelia to be raised by the Psyche Master, with Empath accusing Papa Smurf of doing this on purpose for the sake of raising nearly a hundred young Smurfs who are not even his own children that weren't born with telepathic and telekinetic powers.
- In the Street Sharks fanfiction, Blades, this is basically Streex's reaction to Ripster calling him out on being unreliable.
You're not Dad John. You can't keep us all together like he can, and I'm sick of you ordering us around and expecting us to follow like good little soldiers. You don't have a clue what you're doing and don't even try to pretend otherwise. There's only one person who can undo what Paradigm does and he's not here.
- In Old West, Teddy Glossy says this when he first meets his no-good conman father Benjamin Hares, who abandoned his mother before Teddy was born and never showed up afterwards.
Teddy: I want what's good for my momma and me.Benjamin: So do I.Teddy: No. You don't. That's why I'm not your son. Momma always said I was a gift from God. I'm gonna believe that instead.
- Star Wars fanfiction in general portrays Leia with this attitude toward Vader.
- Lyra in the Triptych Continuum legally divorced her Abusive Parents and now considers Bon-Bon to be the only family she has.
- The RWBY Loops has Weiss, after some consideration, decide to exclusively refer to Jacques Schnee by his first name as she feels no familial connection with him. Yang, from the same fic, downplays this trope with Raven—she does not consider her to be her mother but, after the woman starts looping, she's willing to reconnect and call her family.
- In That Red Car, Knock Out retorts that Megatron is not his creator before the tyrant gives him a spanking.
- Damian Wayne in Batman: Bad Blood says it about Dick Grayson and to Alfred Pennyworth.
Alfred: Master Dick was quite explicit. At least 24 hours of observation.Damian: He's not my father! And neither are you.Alfred: And for that, young man, you should be profoundly grateful.
- In Coraline, Coraline says this to the Other Mother when she doesn't let Coraline go back to the real world after her third visit to the Other world. The Other Mother demands she apologize, but Coraline doubles down on her statement, which pisses off the Other Mother.
- The Room.
- The last conversation Peter and his uncle Ben share in the movie:
Uncle Ben: Now I don't mean to lecture you, and I know I'm not your father...
Peter: Then stop pretending to be!
- Echoed in a later line:
Peter: I had a father... his name was Ben Parker.
- The last conversation Peter and his uncle Ben share in the movie:
- The Night of the Hunter: "You ain't my pa."
- Inverted in The Godfather:
Sonny: That's easy for you to say; he's not your father.Tom: I was as much a son to him as you or Mike.
- Embraced in Part II, when Connie tells Mike, "You're not my father!"
- Said by Kristy in the The Baby-Sitters Club movie, when her stepfather berates her for coming home late — from a secret visit with her biological Disappeared Dad, but he didn't know that. Made all the more heart-breaking by the fact that there are several points in the books where Watson plainly calls Kristy his daughter, even giving her an antique family heirloom in the Little Sister Spinoff, and her biological dad stood her up in the end, anyway. A little jarring though; this is never resolved in the movie (with Kristy apologizing to Watson for what she said), outside of her narration explaining to the audience she felt bad.
- A variation occurs in Terminator 2: Judgment Day with John Connor and his foster parents.
Todd: John, do as your mother tells you.John: She's not my mother, Todd.
- In the Austin Powers movies, Dr. Evil's relationship with his son Scott continually degenerated. Scott was resentful of him for being neglectful, initially, and tried to reconcile later. By the end of the third movie, where Dr. Evil makes a HeelĖFace Turn, Scott truly hates his father (along with everyone else he's related to), and has taken over his criminal empire.
- Played in Indiana Jones and the Kingdom of the Crystal Skull as a brief point of contention for Indy and Mutt, as they'd only recently met. Having been raised to believe his father was a British war hero, Mutt doesn't accept the news at first.
- Said by Jerri in the Strangers with Candy movie to Stew the meat-man, who promptly responds, "You're not my daughter!"
- Inverted in Star Trek, where Spock meets future Spock, who says "I'm not our father."
- At the end of Ninja Assassin, Raizo confronts his old mentor Lord Ozunu, who wants Raizo to "beg [his] father for forgiveness". Raizo shoots back "you are not my father", prompting a shadow-blending ass-kicking from Ozunu. For reference, Ozunu had Raizo and dozens of others kidnapped as children and put through Training from Hell to become ninjas. As far as Ozunu was concerned, they were all his children.
- A gag in Mystery Science Theater 3000 The Movie:
Joe: You know what my kids would say...
Tom Servo: "You're not my real father!"
Mike Nelson: "He doesn't even have any kids, poor deluded Joe."
- In the second live-action film of George of the Jungle, Junior says this to Lyle Van De Groot after his mother was hypnotized to thinking he was her husband. Twice. And kicking him in the shins both times. Well, in the second time, Lyle had shin guards, in which Junior then proceeded to stomp on Lyle's foot.
- In Air Bud: Golden Receiver, Josh is concerned that his mother's new fiancé will take the place of his deceased father. Josh runs away from home, and his mother nearly breaks up with her fiancé. Josh's football coach finds him and reassures him that the new beau had no intention nor any power to take his father's place in his heart.
- Superhero Movie parodies the above Spider-Man scene.
Rick Ryker: You're not my father.Uncle Albert: But I love you like your father did. I looked after you like your father did. I even had sex with your mother like your father did!
- Anna uses this on Isabel in Stepmom, and Isabel's response is "THANK GOD FOR THAT!"
Loki: And your death came by the son of Odin.
- An indirect version—since only one of the characters is aware of the relation—takes place when Loki shoots Laufey with Gungnir while making it clear who he considers to be his true parent:
- When Thor tries to talk down Loki in the final confrontation and calls him "brother", Loki angrily responds this way.
Loki: I'm not your brother! I never was.
- In Thor: The Dark World, Loki furiously yells a variation of this when he and Frigga discuss Odin. Somewhat justified, as Loki had been disowned and would've been executed if it weren't for his mother's influence.
- The film version of To Sir, with Love has the same exchange as the one listed below in the literature folder.
Student:"I can't do this sum, sir, it's too bleeding hard."Thackeray: Do you use such words when speaking to your father?Student: "You're not my bleeding father."
- Happens in The Wolverine:
Yashida: Mariko. It's me, your grandfather.
Mariko: I buried my grandfather.
- Elaine Isaak's Eunuch's Heir — used by Wolfram, the title character, against his (unbeknownst to him) actual, biological father.
- Both used straight and inverted in Lamb: The Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal. Joshua (Jesus) uses the line straight when arguing with Joseph; then Joseph, at a later point, points out "I'm not your father".
- In Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, Sirius tells Molly that Harry is "not her son." Her response? "He's as good as." Later, he does become her son... in-law. To make this variant more interesting, Harry feels touched by this... but then goes against Mrs. Weasley's wishes anyway.
- In the Maeve Binchy novel Evening Class, a character has just learned that her oldest sister is in fact her mother. Several days later, her "father" (actually grandfather) asks her to run an errand for him. When she refuses, still upset at the revelation and deception, he sternly tells her "no child of mine is going to speak to me like that". She responds by coldly declaring, "I'm NOT a child of yours.", thus revealing that she knows the secret. After a Beat in which this sinks in, he tells her essentially HAS been a father to her these past 16 years and even if not, he's still her grandfather and deserving of respect.
- In Black Legion, Abaddon takes it Up to Eleven by killing the clone of his gene-father while saying with Dissonant Serenity:
I am not your son.
- In the Sweet Valley Saga book The Wakefields Of Sweet Valley, Ted Wakefield gets fed up with his Aunt Sarah's suggestions on what to do with his life (college, etc) and finally snaps at her "You're not my mother!". He later apologizes, seeing as how she HAS been a mother to him all his life, as his parents (her brother and sister-in-law) were killed in a train crash when he was a baby. However, as the reader knows, Sarah IS his mother—the entire story was a fabrication to prevent him or anyone else knowing that he was illegitimate.
- In To Sir, with Love, Braithwaite's students try to annoy him by constantly using obscenities when they speak. After one girl complains, "I can't do this sum, sir, it's too bleeding hard", he angrily asks her if she uses such words when speaking to her father. Her response? "You're not my bleeding father."
- In Amber Brown is On the Move, the title character shouts this after her new stepfather, Max, gets on her case about not packing the stuff in her room for their upcoming move to their new house. She's upset at herself, as she normally likes Max reasonably well, and it causes her to realize that she needs some help from her friends.
- After Bear and Lena elope in the Collegium Chronicles, Bear's father Healer Tyrall tries to kidnap Bear to force an end to the marriage. After he gets arrested for charging up to the Royal Palace (and home of the Healer's Collegium) with armed mercenaries, Bear publicly declares that he is no relation to Healer Tyrall. It's implied that this will have actual legal force.
- In Jane Eyre, after Jane's aunt unfairly punished Jane and locked her in a room that Jane was terrified of, the 10-year-old Jane vowed to never call her "Aunt" again. Since the aunt was Jane's legal guardian, this counts.
- In The Sandman and the War of Dreams, Book 4 of The Guardians of Childhood, Emily Jane shouts this to Typhan when he tells her "Daughter! Stop!" after she starts using her powers for harm. Pitch, the Big Bad of the series, is actually her father, but he's become like a surrogate father to her, so it stings badly.
- A variation occurs in the Septimus Heap series. Jenna tells this to Milo Banda after he makes a disastrous attempt at bonding with her and some of her brothers, and she runs off in a huff. The variation is that Milo Banda is her father... her biological father, but he's not the one who raised her. She's making the point that, while Milo may have brought her into the world, Silas Heap is her real father.
- Ana is The Glimpse after he rescues her from an Asylum.
- Star Wars Legends:
- One of the most severe insults you can throw at a Mandalorian is dar'buur. It translates directly to "no longer a father," but means in effect "unfit parent." Mandos take their family ties very seriously, with parenthood (particularly fatherhood) as a sacred tenet.
- Leia will not acknowledge her connection to Vader any more than she has to, in contrast with her much more forgiving twin, all but saying this trope to Anakin verbatim the one time he appeared to her as a force ghost. As far as she's concerned, biology is unimportant and Bail Organa deserves the honor, not the Sith that forced her to watch while the Empire blew up her adoptive parents with the rest of Alderaan. While she eventually makes peace with the fact that Anakin was not inherently evil, even naming her youngest son after him, she never stops thinking of Bail as her true father.
- After the Continuity Reboot, Star Wars: Bloodline shows that Leia is repulsed that she's the biological daughter of Darth Vader, the man who tortured her and committed countless atrocities, and refuses to think of him as her father in any way. While she does eventually realize that he was not inherently evil, that's as far as reconciliation goes and she still considers Bail Organa her true father.
- Warrior Cats: After learning that Bluestar is their birth mother, Mistyfoot and Stonefur initially act this way. They refuse to acknowledge her as their mother.
"Leave us alone", he growled, "You're no mother to us, whatever you say."
- Said constantly by Arthur to his stepfather, Walter, in The Tick (2016). Walter doesn't seem to mind, as he recognizes that Arthur is still grieving over seeing his birth father be killed in front of him by the Terror.
- The lines are spoken word-for-word on several occasions when Claire Bennett tries to assert her independence from Noah, aka HRG guy. Naturally, her not-dad, despite his communication shortcomings, is usually right.
- It happened in a bigger way with Sylar. Angela went "Sylar, you're my son — oh no sorry false alarm." It was kind of pathetic.
- The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air:
Will: I've been waiting for this for a long time, my whole life, and nobody's gonna stop me now. Come tomorrow, I'm outta here.
- This happens in the landmark episode when Will's loser father shows up and invites his son to take a road trip. Will jumps at the opportunity, despite his uncle's warnings that his father can't be trusted—
Uncle Phil: Oh, I don't think so.
Will: Who cares what you think!? YOU ARE NOT MY FATHER!
Lou: It was great seeing you, Son.Will: Yeah, you too... ...Lou.
- A more subtle version occurs at the end of the episode when his father abandons him again—
- A variant of this appears in Power Rangers Operation Overdrive. When Mack, the red Overdrive Ranger discovers he is in fact an android built by the man he thought to be his father, he starts calling his father Mr. Hartford, instead of the more informal dad, as he did before. After the Grand Finale, the two reconcile, after which Mack starts calling him Dad once more.
- In the first episode of Once Upon a Time, Henry meets his birth mother Emma, who drives him back to Storybrooke where they are confronted by Regina, Henry's "evil" adoptive mother. This ensues:
Regina: Where have you been!? What happened?
Henry: I found my real mom!
- Sister, Sister:
- When Ray tells Tia that her new boyfriend just got out of prison and the bottom line is that she can't go out with him, she responds, "Well, bottom line, you're not my father!"
- Tamera says the reverse near the end of the series when Tia and Tamera meet someone who could very well be their biological father. Tamera gets pissed when he asks them to take a DNA test to confirm that he is their real father:
Tamera: I don't need a DNA test to know who my real father is. He's the man who's been there for me my entire life. And a good part of yours too Tia. His name is Ray Campbell. And as far as I'm concerned, he is all the father I will ever need.
- 7th Heaven, in the episode when Eric is trying to protect Robbie from his recently resurfaced deadbeat father, Ed:
Ed: You're not his father.
Eric: Neither are you.
- Perhaps not quite average for the trope since the boy in question is a baby, not a teenager... But the line came up, unavoidably, in a very tense scene in the Lost episode "Fire & Water". Charlie, insistent on baptizing Claire's baby son regardless of Claire's wishes, runs afoul of Locke:
Charlie: Who the hell are you, John? Aaron's not your responsibility. ...You're not his father. You're not his family.
Locke: Neither are you, Charlie.
- A really bizarre example occurs in the UK science fiction comedy Hyperdrive. Technical Officer Jeffers is reminiscing about being raised by a computer simulation of his father, created when his father knew he was dying. Then, when Jeffers was fifteen, they got into an argument, and Jeffers said "You're not my real dad! You're just a piece of code!" and deleted the program. He tried to restore it the next day, but couldn't.
- The British Soap EastEnders had this sort of conversation, subverted because:
Zoe Slater: You can't tell me what to do, you ain't my mother!
Kat Slater: (Zoe's "sister") Yes I am!
- Six Feet Under - Claire uses this line plenty on older brother Nate.
- In Nip/Tuck, Matt says this to Christian right after the latter bails him out of jail. the twist is that Christian really is Matt's father and had only found this out in the same episode. Unusually for this trope, Matt's pronouncement is actually quite accurate- Christian isn't much of a father figure to him at all.
- A slightly depressing example occurs in the last episode of season one. Sam and Dean have managed to rescue their father and Dean is worrying about having wasted a bullet (it only has a few left and they need all the bullets they can get). Unknown to them, John has been possessed by the Big Bad ever since they found him. But when John comes out and tells Dean how proud of him he is, Dean realizes the truth and says exactly this.
- Played straight in a Season Five episode; a depressed Dean tells this to Bobby, who is trying to keep him from letting Michael take over his body. The same episode had Adam say this about John, who is his birth father, but didn't raise him.
- Season seven has a flashback of Bobby talking on the phone to John, who tells he is not Dean's father after Bobby decides to take him to the park instead of to practice shooting (Dean was just a kid at the time).
- There's an episode of CSI: Miami in which Horatio meets a teenage boy. Horatio keeps calling him 'son', until the boy snaps back at him 'You're Not My Father'... little does he know that Horatio had earlier run a paternity test...
- Angel: Angel's son Connor, raised by Angel's sworn enemy in a hell dimension, gets off at least one of these Eastwood style. He later identifies Angelus as his real father (who he wants to kill).
- On Mystery Science Theater 3000: Pod People, after singing "Clown in the Sky", Joel tells the bots that he loves them. Crow's reply is "You're not my real father!"
- A straighter (or well as straight as Mystery Science Theater 3000 plays anything) example is the Call-Back this gets in the revival. New human host Jonah introduces the bots as "his robot friends". Crow throws "you're not my real father, mister!" at him in response. Whereas Joel built the bots, Jonah is literally not their father.
- In a House episode, the titular character reveals that he figured out that his father (John House) was not really his biological father when he was twelve, and told this to him, causing John to not speak a single word to his son for two months.
- Freddie on iCarly uses this when Lewbert, their building's doorman enters a relationship with Freddie's mother.
- Used in Fringe after Peter finds out that Walter stole him as a child from the alternate universe.
- Delivered in a stunningly awesome way from Clark to Lionel in Smallville, just before the former cuts ties with the latter completely.
- Andrea in The Walking Dead, when arguing with surrogate father figure Dale: "I'm not your little girl, I'm not your wife, and I'm sure as hell not your problem."
- Morgana does this indirectly on Merlin, telling someone that she comes in the name of Gorlois because Gorlois made her who she was, not her real father, Uther.
- On Charmed, Paige delivered this line to her adopted parents during an argument on the day before they died, and spent years feeling guilty about it. In the final season, she turned around and said this to her biological father, saying that he didn't get to come in and act like her dad after leaving her for someone else to raise.
- On Revenge: rebellious teenager Declan to his older brother Jack when Jack is trying to convince Declan he has a duty to attend their father's funeral:
Just because he's dead doesn't make you my father.
- Subverted on Who's the Boss? when Angela and Samantha get into an argument and Angela orders Samantha to go to her room. Samantha immediately shoots back that Angela isn't her mother. Tony intervenes, pointing out that he's her father, and he orders her to listen to Angela.
- Inverted in The Thorn Birds, as Paddy and Frank argue, Paddy tells Frank, "You're no better than the bastard who fathered you!", thus revealing what Frank has always suspected, that Paddy is not his father. Then in the midquel "The Missing Years", Meggie's Jerkass husband Luke returns to take custody of their son Dane. Meggie's mother Fee intervenes when Luke insists that he wants the chance to make up for being an absent and neglectful father, telling him "but you're not his father".
- In Suddenly Susan, the titular character gets "You're not my mother" snapped at her by one of her boyfriend's kids as she tries to bond with them.
- On an episode of Full House, D.J. says this to Joey when he won't let her go to a karate tournament.
- In "Cardassians" on Star Trek: Deep Space Nine, a Cardassian war orphan who was adopted by Bajorans and raised to hate Cardassians says this to his biological Cardassian father when speaking to him for the first time.
- Used as a minor joke in a sketch for The Whitest Kids U' Know, where a man really excited that it is Saturday tells a woman whose car he wants to shoot with a bow that she's not his mother. She responds that she's his wife.
- A variation is used in the first season finale of Haven after it's revealed that Chief Wuornos is not Nathan's biological father.
Audrey: We need to find him, yes, but he is your father.
Nathan: That's debatable.
- In Sleepy Hollow, Jeremy Crane/Henry Parrish/War calls the demon Moloch his real father, angry at his biological parents for their unwilling absence through his life, leaving him Buried Alive by his mother's coven until Moloch freed him.
- Joked with on Friends when Ross and Rachel's breakup has caused Chandler to take up smoking again because it reminds him of when his parents got divorced.
Rachel: Chandler! Are you smoking? What are you doing?Chandler: Hey shut up, you're not my real mom!
- In Family Matters, Carl is hesitant to bless Fletcher's proposal to Estelle, as he's concerned that Fletcher won't care for Estelle the way his father did. Fletcher and Carl talk it over, and it helps Carl feel better to bless Fletcher's proposal to Estelle.
- The Flash (2014): In the second episode of Season 1, Barry and Joe have an argument about Barry's heroics on either continuing or stopping it. Joe arguments that Barry is jumping head first into playing hero risking his life, and Barry counters that the police isn't equipped to fight metahumans, leading to this exchange:
Joe: You think because you can run real fast that you're invincible?! You're not! You're just a kid. My kid.Barry: I'm not your kid, Joe! And you're not my father. My father is sitting in Iron Heights, wrongfully convicted. You were wrong about him. And you're wrong about this. Now, I might not be able to help him, but if I can save someone from a burning building or stop some armed thieves, then I'm gonna do it! And you can't stop me. So don't try.
- At the end of the episode, however, Barry acknowledges that, while Joe might not be his father, he's still a Dad.
- ER. Doug Ross consistently refers to his estranged father (who abandoned him and his mother when he was 12) by his Christian name. The one time he does call him "Dad", it's in a very sarcastic fashion that makes it clear that he's anything but that.
- The Wiz Live! has Dorothy tell Aunt Em, "You're not my mother", before detailing her struggles adjusting to life in a new state after her parents' death.
- Inverted in the "Living Doll" episode of The Twilight Zone.
"I'm not your DADDY!"
- Played for laughs in a one-off joke about stepdads by Seth Meyers on Late Night. "YOU'RE NOT MY DAD, TODD!"
- In The Office (US), Pam—a grown, married mother-to-be—cries "You'll never be my father!" in the course of freaking out over her boss dating her divorced mother. She also displays plenty of the other bad behavior triggered by a Parent with New Paramour.
- Iron Fist (2017): Ward Meachum takes this sort of view of his own father Harold as the show progresses, especially since Harold was resurrected by The Hand. He tries to convince Joy of this, with little success:
Ward Meachum: He isn't our dad, OK? This—this thing crawling around in our dad's skin, he is violent, dangerous. He's killed two men that I know of! I have no doubt that he killed Wilkins! Have you seen Kyle around lately?
- Voyagers!: A third person variation; Billy the Kid mistakes Bogg for being Jeff's father. Jeff, irritated with Bogg at the moment, is quick to correct the misconception.
- The Good Doctor: Shaun says this verbatim to Dr. Glassman during an argument in the Season One winter finale, when he gets fed up with Dr. Glassman making decisions for him.
- In "Lineage" from Star Trek: Voyager, B'Elanna Torres wants to alter the genetic sequences of her and Tom Paris's unborn child in order to remove her Klingon forehead ridges and other Klingon traits, due to having been bullied for her Klingon child as a child and also largely due to her own human father having abandoned her and her mother after being unable to deal with their Klingon nature anymore. Both the Doctor and Paris are against it and, unable to convince them, Torres alters the Doctor's program to make him believe that the changes are actually vital to the child's health. When Paris finds out the truth and puts a stop to things before the procedure can get started, Torres goes ballistic and he says that he never thought she would go this far. He demands that they talk things out and she tells him "Stop telling me what to do. You're not my father." Paris asks just what she's talking about and she admits what's really bothering her - that she feels that she was the one who caused her father to leave. During a disastrous camping trip, she tried to run away after overhearing a conversation in which he talked about not having the constitution to live with a Klingon and now he has to live with two. After getting caught, she told him, "If you can't stand living with us, why don't you just leave?" Twelve days later, he did. Paris realizes that her real worry is that he will someday leave her. He assures her that this will never happen, that he is not her father, and that their daughter will be perfect just the way she is.
- In the Pearl Jam song "Daughter", the aloof speaker tells her mother, "Don't call me daughter." Theories abound.
- In a routine done by Robin Williams, the Biblical Joseph, after hearing Mary is pregnant and he'd be "the stepfather of God's kid," feared he wouldn't be able to discipline Jesus since he'd just scream, "You're not my real dad!"
- Played for Laughs in The Book of Mormon. In his quest to man up, the nerdy Elder Cunningham randomly yells this trope name at (an imagined) Darth Vader as means of asserting his place as the new protagonist. Could be Harsher in Hindsight considering his relationship with his real father.
- In Hamilton, Washington repeatedly calls Hamilton 'son' while admonishing him for the duel with Lee and trying to explain why he's not giving him an independent command. Each time, Hamilton interrupts "I'm not your son" until finally he roars "CALL ME 'SON' ONE MORE TIME—!"
- One of the main points of conflict in Harry Potter and the Cursed Child. Albus Potter comes to resent Harry over the course of his first years at Hogwarts and eventually comes to think Harry wishes he wasn't born. Harry struggles to disprove this because of the drastic differences between the two, and the rest of the plot ensues.
- In Super Paper Mario, when Luvbi finds out that she's really one of the Pure Hearts, she argues with Grambi. At one point, she says: "Wait... Why do I explain myself to thee?! Thou art not my real father!"
- In The House of the Dead III, after defeating the Final Boss, Dr. Curien as the Wheel of Fate, Curien's son Daniel rejects him as his father before Daniel and Lisa kill him with one final blast.
- Late in Disgaea: Hour of Darkness, Jennifer chews out her foster father General Carter, who only adopted her to use her for his plans. In the anime, she actually says "you're no father to me!"
- In Dragon Age II, most of the resentment Carver feels towards their elder sibling is because they were left as sole breadwinner and head of the household after their father's death, three years prior to the game. The Legacy DLC implies Carver found it extra hard to deal with, due to Hawke greatly taking after their father in personality.
- In Professor Layton And The Azran Legacy this is said more gently by Layton himself, after learning that Bronev, the Big Bad is his father. Layton considers the parents who raised him, but mentions being open to connecting with Bronev as colleagues, and possibly friends.
- In Jade Empire there's the possibility of this happening in two ways, depending on the character's Karma Meter. If you uncover the secret of Dawn Star being Master Li's daughter and have her with you for the final confrontation, she tries to appeal to him (either out of hope or to distraught him), only for him to be indifferent about their connection. She disowns him this way if she remains as an Open Palm character:
"I'm not sure what I expected my father to be, but I remember a time when I hoped he was someone like you. Not any more."
"I always thought I had been abandoned. It was not until just now that I knew for certain. If I am dead to you, then you are dead to me."
- If she's been turned into a Closed Fist character, she uses this version:
- In Axel's ending of Twisted Metal II, he confronts his father, who cruelly attached him to his vehicle. After failing to reconcile, Axel just tears himself out, and fiercely delivers this line;
"I...am a free man. And you are no longer my father.
- Jacob Taylor's loyalty mission in Mass Effect 2 is to rescue his father, who went missing ten years ago. It turns out that his ship crashed on an unknown planet. However, after they find out that Ronald Taylor forced his crew to eat the local food (which causes brain damage) while keeping the good food from the ship for himself long after they repaired the beacon that justified withholding it in the first place, killed the other officers, exiled the male crew, and turned the females into his personal harem, Jacob disowns his father.
- And by "disown", what is meant is that one outcome, if the player chooses the right conversation options for Shepard, is that, when the camp is under attack by the surviving male crewmembers (who went feral), Jacob hands his father a pistol - with one round. Guess what he's expected to do with it. Then Shepard and the team leave, evacuating the female survivors.
- Even in the Paragon ending, Jacob denies that Ronald is his father any more, and the only thing preventing him from gunning him down right at that moment is that he doesn't believe Ronald is worth the effort of pulling the trigger.
- Played very tragically in Umineko: When They Cry, where Ange's refusal to consider Eva as a mother, added to the latter's sadness and lingering hatred towards Ange's parents, made their relationship go to hell during the 12 years after the Rokkenjima incident. It doesn't help that Eva refused to tell the truth and was widely considered the culprit by gossips and tabloids.
- Gunnerkrigg Court. Renard tries to lecture Annie about stealing homework answers from her friend Kat. Annie tries to brush Renard off by pointing out that he's not her father. Renard replies that he would have been a better father than her real dad was, and things just go downhill from there.
- In No Rest for the Wicked, November says this to the witch — who is seriously delusionally and believes her to be Gretel.
- Said by Jeshua in Shortpacked!, to Galasso, the nutjob who brought him back to life to be an attention grabbing gimick for his toystore. Given who the real dad is, its significantly more of a threat than usual.
- In Homestuck, trolls don't have parents, since they're formed from an "incestuous slurry", and raised by a guardian animal called a Lusus. However, the Sufferer of the Post-Scratch troll ancestors was raised by a female troll called the Dolorosa. During a conversation between their Pre-Scratch counterparts, Kankri and Porrim, Kankri, who knows about both his other self and Earth reproduction, snaps "You are not my 'human mother'", much to Porrim's confusion.
- Rosa from L's Empire says this to Mr L when he scolds her on her manners. Since she's his Kid from the Future, she ends the sentence with "... yet."
- In Skin Horse, Virginia Lee asks the adorable kid cobras how old they are, and is told the eldest of them, Alphie, is thirteen. He turns out to be an Emo Teen wearing a black tube sock, who tells Dr Lee "You're not even my mom."
- In CinemaSins videos, whenever someone says this trope word for word, the narrator counts the cliche as a sin.
Jeremy Scott: "You're not my father" cliche. (ding)
- In the Overly Sarcastic Productions summary of Paradise Lost, we see a hand-drawn frame of Satan storming away from God, yelling that he's not his real dad.
God: LUCIFER GET BACK HERE AND CLEAN THAT UPSatan: You're not my real dad!God: I'M EVERYONE'S REAL DAD
- Ben 10: Ben tells Grandpa Max, "You're not my dad!" when Grandpa scolds him for using the Omnitrix to sneak somewhere and play a video game.
- While Calling the Old Man Out, Zuko of Avatar: The Last Airbender tells Firelord Ozai this.
Zuko: After I leave here today, Iím going to free Uncle Iroh from his prison and Iím going to beg for his forgiveness. He is the one who has been a real father to me.
Ozai: Thatís just beautiful. Maybe he can pass down to you the ways of tea and failure.
- Similarly in The Legend of Korra, Asami finally recognizes that the father she knew and loved is now gone, as he drew a line in the sand.
- Batman declares this once in the animated series. Being Batman (and, y'know, knowing that both of his parents died years ago), he's right. The hallucination of his father that was haunting him when Scarecrow gassed him once disappears and doesn't return again.
- Teen Titans:
Slade: I may even become like a father to you.
- When Slade manages to blackmail Robin into being Slade's apprentice, and he dares to suggest an (obviously insincere) paternal relationship:
- At the end of Samurai Jack, Ashi openly rejects her biological father, Aku, because he's pure evil incarnate and was using her like a tool.
- Dragon Booster: Said by Artha Penn to Mortis in "The Return of Drakkus", part 1. The kicker is that Mortis really is his father, Conner Penn.
- In the first episode of Young Justice, when Speedy realises he and the other sidekicks aren't being made full members of the Justice League and aren't getting access to the Watchtower, he angrily storms out. Aquaman tries to reason with him and calls him "son", Speedy snaps "I'm not your son", then glares at Green Arrow and says "I'm not even his".
- Sari pulled this on her father in Transformers Animated after finding out that she was actually a robot, despite the combined efforts of Sumdac and the Autobots to reconcile them. Of course, it turns out he actually is her father, with the other "parent" being the Allspark. However, she really accepts him as her father when he stands up to the Headmaster to protect her.
- Played for laughs during the first season finale of Transformers Prime. After one of the kid sidekicks is badly injured, Jack's mother decides none of them belong with the Autobots.
Miko: You're not my mother.
Bulkhead: Miko -
Miko: Neither are you!
- Presley says this to Ja'Kal in the Father's Day Special of Mummies Alive! when he offers to take the boy fishing in place of his real dad (who was in Memphis at the time.)
- The end of the X-Men: TAS episode, 'Beauty and the Beast involving Graydon Creed, is a rare example of an adult invoking this. Wolverine attempts to break up the anti-mutant grassroots terrorist group "The Friends of Humanity" by broadcasting a hologrammatic profile of the infamous mutant terrorist Sabertooth, which informs the thugs that the mutant's real name is "Graydon Creed Senior". Horrified to learn they've been following the son of a mutant, they promptly abandon him whilst Graydon has a Villainous Breakdown, grabbing a nearby pistol and firing repeatedly at the Sabertooth hologram whilst screaming that Sabertooth isn't his father.
- In Drawn Together, Clara invokes this in an argument with her stepmother. Her stepmother then reminds her that her mother's dead, and after realizing that she went too far in bringing this up, the two reconcile and Clara's stepmother gives her advice on how to break her Octopussoir curse.
- Robot Chicken:
- The skit "Jedi Master George W./Jedi In Chief" more or less parodies this trope during a parody of the I Am Your Father scene in Star Wars, with George Bush as Vader and his daugther Jenna replacing Luke:
Bush: Jenna, get over here right now! I am your father!
Jenna: That's not true! That's impossible! My real father would let me go clubbing as late as I want! (flips off Bush)
- Another skit involved an aging Stretch Armstrong no longer able to stretch. He has surgery to restore his stretchiness, but is told to wait until his stitches heal. He doesn't listen, and he dies. His wife remarries Plastic Man, prompting her son to exclaim that he's not his real dad.
- The skit "Jedi Master George W./Jedi In Chief" more or less parodies this trope during a parody of the I Am Your Father scene in Star Wars, with George Bush as Vader and his daugther Jenna replacing Luke:
- Occasionally comes to a head in TaleSpin with the character Kit, a 12-year-old prodigy orphan the main character took under his wing after he'd been formerly apprenticed to one of the series' main villains. The laid-back Baloo and his somewhat professional-yet-motherly boss Rebecca often act as surrogate parents to Kit, who alternates between a child's need for adult guidance and his own fiercely independent streak, which usually works quite well unless Kit feels he is being disregarded because of his age. In the episode "Stormy Weather," the villain of the week quite ably leverages this insecurity against Baloo and Rebecca's protectiveness of Kit in order to convince the child the adults are "holding him back" from his true potential, leading Kit to eventually break things off with them on the grounds that "you can't tell me what to do! You're not my dad!"
- The Season One closeout for Scooby-Doo! Mystery Incorporated had Fred learn that the man he'd called father for years was actually some guy who stole him from his real parents as leverage against them; he was not ecstatic. It gets worse when he finds out his real father is no better, leading to Fred also disowning him too and choosing to forgive his kidnapper.
- In Star Wars: Clone Wars, while arguing with Obi-Wan, Anakin snaps at him that "You're no Qui-Gon Jinn!", referring to both Obi-Wan trying to live up to his late master's legacy as well as Qui-Gon being the closest thing Anakin had to a father. Anakin immediately apologizes and Obi-Wan forgives him.
- In Sym-Bionic Titan, Lance says this line to the King of Galaluna, who isn't a Parental Substitute, but was a friend of Lance's father. Immediately after saying that, Lance accepted that his father's dead, after the whole episode with optimism that he might still be alive since there was no body.
- After defeating him, Elyon says a variation of this to her evil older brother Phobos in W.I.T.C.H., having learned that he was planning to drain her of her powers all along.
Elyon: Goodbye, Phobos. You were never my brother.
- In Family Guy, Jesus says this to Joseph during a fight, and tries to move in with his real father, God.
- In Super Best Friends Forever, Supergirl tells Superman this when the latter goes to enforce the former's grounding. Superman's response? "No, but I'm Superman and you'll do as I say!"
- In the pilot episode of Tom Goes to the Mayor, we see a brief snippet of one of Tom's home movies, where Tom's stepsons are throwing things at him while chanting "You're not our dad! You're not our dad!" It's Played for Laughs, or at least attempted anyway.
- In The Venture Bros., Hank says to Sgt. Hatred, "You're not my real bodyguard!" It drives home the fourth season's Parent with New Paramour theme resulting from Hatred replacing former bodyguard and Parental Substitute Brock.
- Heavily implied in Voltron: Legendary Defender, where Lotor would only refer to Haggar (eventually revealed to be Lotor's Altean mother, Honevra) as "Witch." Made explicit in Season 6, when Lotor tells Haggar that he considers Honevra dead and she was an abomination taking her place.
- A serial killer was apparently able to kill about six women operating by this trope. Said women were drug addicts, prostitutes, women that their families just didn't care about anymore.
- Also invoked less seriously (or at least, seriously for a moment, then forgotten about) by much younger children when they're angry with their parents.