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Resenting their parents is the human way, sir. Black Widow spiders eat their mates after sex, humans blame their parents for all their failings. It's the characteristic that makes you lovably idiotic to all the other species.
Kryten, Red Dwarf: Last Human

Let's face it: No parent is perfect. Even the Good Parents in fiction can still make mistakes, and others make a lot of mistakes. Too many, in fact. Some of them may even be abusive or neglectful, perhaps even unintentionally so. And despite this, their kids still love them, right?

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Sometimes, people just hate their parents. It may or may not be because the parent did anything to wrong them- the kid may simply think they've been wronged, or maybe they've reached such a rebellious stage that it just became "uncool" to love their parents. Maybe their dad went out to "get milk", and never returned, only to show up again expecting praise and affection. Maybe their mother had an affair with the milkman, and her cheating drove the family apart. Maybe they liked their brother more. Maybe the parents were part of a class or group they found to be morally repellant, uncultured, or backward. Or, it could be the kid just finds their parents corny and lame.

Whatever the reason, these parents are loathed. Far from being respected, trusted, or admired, they're seen as the enemy, regardless of whether or not they deserve it. Any attempts by the parent to win their child's love back will take a lot of work and time, especially if the underlying issue was a breach of trust.

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How sympathetic the child and their parent(s) are played can vary, depending on what, if anything, the parent did, how long the child has been holding their grudge for, and whether or not the parent attempted to make any amends. On one extreme, you can have the child rightfully and heroically opposing their Abusive Parent; on the other extreme, you have a "Well Done, Dad!" Guy struggling to please their ungrateful brat, who is often depicted as an Emo Teen with a lot of Wangst, and a lot of Gray-and-Gray Morality in the middle.

If the child isn't just hateful, but actively opposing their parents, see Antagonistic Offspring; for parents who are hated for being evil, see Archnemesis Dad and the Evil Matriarch.

This may lead to Self-Made Orphan, You Are Not My Father, Calling the Old Man Out, or Betrayal by Offspring. When parents hate their children, see I Have No Son!, Maternal Death? Blame the Child!, The Unfavorite, and Resentful Guardian. Contrast Even Bad Men Love Their Mamas and the "Well Done, Son!" Guy; compare I Hate You, Vampire Dad.

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Finally, see also the Dysfunctional Family, which can have this dynamic as part of the dysfunction.


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    Anime and Manga 
  • Code Geass: Lelouch vi Britannia despises his father, Emperor Charles di Britannia, for not telling him about the death of his mother, Marianne, and for sending him and his sister, Nunnally, away to Japan which was eventually conquered by the Britannian Empire. This is one of his reason in aiding the Japanese rebels against Britannia after he obtains the power of the Geass and dons the mask of Zero. Then, it turns out Charles actually sent him and Nunnally to safety because his brother murdered Marianne who is actually alive due to her Geass. It even gets complicated in that the two are working together to destroy the collective unconscious so they can "make a world without lies". However, Lelouch doesn't appreciate this answer because they started a war that killed millions of people and they left their children to die.
  • In High School D×D, Akeno Himejima despises her father Baraqiel since he was too late to save Shuri from being killed by her own relatives. Fortunately, with Issei Hyoudou's help, she and Baraqiel reconcile at the end of Volume 7.
  • My Hero Academia:
    • Shoto Todoroki holds his father, the Number Two Hero Endeavor, in contempt for fostering an abusive household and possibly killing his oldest brother Toya while trying to turn Shoto into a Tyke-Bomb powerful enough to unseat All Might as the Number One Hero. As a result, he refuses to use the half of his Quirk he inherited from his father in favor of using the ice inherited from his mother to deny Endeavor the satisfaction of being the heir he always wanted. This backfires on Shoto when Izuku notes that said refusal is disrespectful to his peers and himself (not to mention detrimental as Shoto's lack of pushing himself means he is in danger of getting left behind.) However, he does not completely hate his father as he goes through a rollarcoaster of fear and relief when his dad nearly dies against the High End Nomu. His resentment toward his father does soften as he does work with him professionally and the man makes changes in his behavior after All Might retires and he talks to him. However, he does grapple with whether to forgive him. Bakuguo notes that Shoto has no obligation to while Izuku speculates that Shoto does want to forgive his father, but he is not ready to.
    • As for the rest of the Todoroki children, it varies. Natsuo hates Endeavor even more than Shoto does (though like Shoto, still loves him enough to be worried when he's in mortal danger) and won't forgive him. Fuyuki, his and Shoto's older sister and second oldest child, is ready to forgive them and wants them to be a real family. Toya remains a colossal mystery since besides being presumed dead, we know absolutely nothing on his personality or relationship with Endeavor except that he had a stronger version of his father's Quirk and that he was his first choice in being trained.
    • Tomura Shigaraki or rather, Tenko Shimura, is shown to hate his father in flashbacks to his childhood. In fact, his treatment of Shigaraki was so bad that he outright murders his father with gleeful joy when given the opportunity.
  • In Neon Genesis Evangelion, Shinji resents and loathes his father Gendo, due to him being absent, cold, and neglectful for most of Shinji's life. Despite this, he still wants Gendo's approval and it's painfully clear they're cut from the same cloth. And why did Gendo exclude himself from Shinji's life? Because he was afraid of hurting Shinji.
  • Tweeny Witches:
    • Sheila resents her mother for abandoning her to stay with her father in the Warlock Realm. She goes as far as to throw the birthday cake her mother made for her on the floor. They eventually reconcile, however, after which she calls her mother reliable.
    • Lennon believes that his witch mother, Atelia, abandoned both him and his human father, Jidan, so that she could come to power. Her initial disownment of him during their reunion, along with her word that she gave him up to fulfill her duty as a leader, doesn't help matters. After her Zero-Approval Gambit for him, Wil confirms the truth that she was desperately looking for their family, causing him to soften up and decide to stay by her side.

    Comic Books 
  • Wonder Woman: Ares has made multiple attempts on his father Zeus' life, and while they both hate each other Ares is the only one of the two who will happily explain why he loathes dear old dad while Zeus usually tries to act as if he's just disappointed and doing what his position dictates he needs to in reaction to Ares' behavior.

    Fan Works 
My Hero Academia

My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic

  • In The Apprentice, the Student, and the Charlatan, protagonist Nova Shine lives his life trying his damnedest to stay away from his parents at all costs, due to years of being neglected as a child. A major part of the first half of the story is Nova letting go of his hatred for them, forgiving them, and letting them into his life again.
  • In The Flash Sentry Chronicles, Doom Raizer hates his father Grand Hoof, blaming his negligence towards him and the rest of their family as the source of everything that has ever gone wrong in Doom's life. This includes the deaths of Doom's wife and mother, and the status of Doom's own son Lightning Blitz. While Grand acknowledges that he didn't do the best job raising Doom, Doom himself refuses to take responsibility for any of his own actions and just continues to blame everything on his father and anyone who sides with him.

Pokémon

  • Pokémon: Nova and Antica: Ash expresses clear bitterness about his father leaving him and his mother but would rather not go into detail.
  • Pokémon: A Marvelous Journey: Twelve-year-old Caiseal Brownstone has come to utterly despise his biological parents due to years of being neglected and verbally abused because as a fetus he absorbed his twin in utero. His mother, Nollaig, openly favors his younger sister over him, abandoned him in the Ice Path—which, keep in mind, is an icy cave where lots of territorial, dangerous Pokemon live—cursed him out when he returned home, and outright disowned him, whereas his father Fergus doesn't want him around, putting his wife's needs above those of his children. The only person in the family who cares about him is his younger sister Violet, who is fully aware of the mistreatment he endured but doesn't have the power to do anything, what with being only a child. He did get Happily Adopted by another family and does try to maintain contact with Violet as much as humanly possible, but he wants nothing to do with Nollaig and Fergus, to the point where he doesn't refer to them as Mom and Dad but by their first names.

RWBY

  • White Sheep (RWBY): Yang was never sure how to feel about Raven, the mother who abandoned her as a baby, but she didn't feel great about her. Then she actually met her, discovered she was cowardly and self-centered, and decided she wanted nothing to do with her. Then it got worse when Raven tried to kill Yin, Yang's Grimm-parasite of an arm, who Yang considers a son. Yang's boyfriend Jaune does more to keep Raven alive than Yang does.
    Jaune: Cinder, you can't kill Raven.
    Yang: Now Jaune, let's hear her out.

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  • Infinity Train: Blossoming Trail: Chloe hates her father with a passion because he never pays any attention to her problems — like the fact that maybe, just maybe — she doesn't want to have a career in Pokémon and how he focuses more on his research and on his "research fellows" Ash and Goh. She tears into him after she passes her Rage Breaking Point that all he cares about is if she's involved with Pokémon, not her in general.

    Films— Live-Action 
  • In Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back, Luke Skywalker is horrified when he learns that his father Anakin is, in fact, the murderous and ruthless Darth Vader, declaring that it's impossible and burning with enough hatred to overwhelm him in their final duel. However, in the end, he acknowledges the man Vader once was and forgives him. His sister Leia Organa takes a lot longer to come to terms with it.
  • Wolves: Cayden towards Connor, for oh so many reasons.

    Literature 
  • The Beast Player: Yuyan's discussion with Elin about her Ahlyo heritage makes Elin realize how much she's been hurt by her paternal grandfather and Asan's cold reaction to it. She comes to consider her paternal grandfather "no better than trash" for letting Toda attack his young granddaughter.
  • In The Camp Half-Blood Series, numerous demigods side with the Titans to spite their divine parents who refused to acknowledge them and left them alone in a dangerous world filled with monsters trying to eat them around every corner.
  • Marcy Lewis, the protagonist of Paula Danziger's The Cat Ate My Gymsuit, hates her father for reasons that very quickly become evident: he's an emotionally abusive waste of flesh that constantly belittles his entire family. This never changes throughout the story.
  • Harry Potter: Tom Riddle, the boy who would be Voldemort, hated his father for being a Muggle and for abandoning his mother (which he did because she essentially raped him). Tom would then track down and murder his father and his parents.
  • A number of characters in Jacqueline Wilson's novels don't have the best relationship with their parents, as her stories frequently revolve around dysfunctional families and abuse.
    • In Lola Rose, Jayni states that she knew she hated her father after seeing her mother's bruises from him beating her worse than ever. Him verbally abusing her and eventually hitting her across the face when she calls him out doesn't improve her opinion of him; however, she later privately admits to herself that part of her still loves him as well as hating him.
    • Beauty from Cookie becomes increasingly alienated from her father, who is verbally and emotionally abusive to her and her mother. The last straw is when Beauty discovers her father got her pet rabbit killed, at which point she openly states she hates him. After she and her mother leave, she's quite happy to never see her father again.
    • Martine from The Diamond Girls resents her mother Sue, feeling that she always puts her siblings before her, never confides in her and disliking the fact that Sue is making her move away from her boyfriend (whom Sue disapproves of) into a rundown house. During an argument, Martine even states to Sue's face that she thinks she's a slag note  due to all her children being fathered by different men and moves out. However, Martine is actually quite horrified at herself for saying this and in the end she comes back and reconciles with her mother, with both of them admitting they made mistakes.
  • In Magnus Chase and the Gods of Asgard, Magnus's father, Frey, fully expects this when he finally meets his son face-to-face. He's completely taken aback when Magnus instead rushes to Glomp him, subverting this trope.
  • A Song of Ice and Fire: Tyrion Lannister resents his father, Tywin, for the mistreatment that he received because of his dwarfism and that his birth killed his mother, Joanna. It eventually evolved into pure hatred after his brother, Jaime, told him that Tywin tricked him into thinking that his first wife, Tysha, is a whore leading her to be gang-raped by the guards. Eventually, Tyrion murders his father for this unforgivable act and flees to Essos.
  • Okonkwo of Things Fall Apart despises his father Unoka, who spent more time singing than tending his fields and fighting for his clan, resulting in him growing poor. After he died, he refuses to sacrifice a goat to him, saying he didn't even have a goat when alive.
  • Warrior Cats:
    • As a result of Crowfeather treating Breezepelt more like a Trophy Child than an actual son, all the while showing actual fatherly love to his ThunderClan children Lionblaze, Hollyleaf, and Jayfeather, Breezepelt despised him. His constant Parental Neglect led him to join the Dark Forest and attempt to murder his half-siblings multiple times.
    • After the reveal that Leafpool and Crowfeather were the parents of the protagonists, rather than Squirrelflight and Brambleclaw, Hollyleaf grew to hate her biological mother for keeping the secret and being "selfish". She hated her so much, in fact, that after murdering Ashfur, she started to go crazy, and tried to make Leafpool eat Deathberries.
  • All four girls in The Wildflowers hate their parents and for good reason.
    • Misty's parents use her as a pawn in their bitter divorce, her father is emotionally neglectful and her mother is arguably emotionally abusive and manipulative. She even states she hates them more than Charles Allen, her callous boyfriend who manipulated her into sleeping with him; the other girls correctly guess it's because she thinks it wouldn't have happened if her parents hadn't left her in such an emotionally vulnerable state.
    • Star's father abandoned her and her brother with their neglectful, alcoholic mother, who then abandoned them to run off with her boyfriend.
    • Jade's parents act like she doesn't exist except when they're forcing her to testify during their grueling divorce trial; they didn’t even notice she'd been missing for nearly two days. She ends up telling the judge she doesn't care which parent gets custody of her because she hates them both equally which actually serves as a wake-up call for them and they start trying to improve their relationship with her.
    • Cat's mother is a controlling religious fundamentalist, while her father is a Bitch in Sheep's Clothing who took advantage of her naivety and longing for affection to sexually abuse her. However, Cat actually ends up forgiving her mother after finding out about her own Dark and Troubled Past and expresses a wish for them to both heal together.

    Live-Action TV 
  • Justified on Bones.
    • Booth’s father was a drunk, abusive jerk who Booth says probably would have killed him if not for his grandfather intervening. He does see in a letter his father wrote that he regretted his actions, but only softens slightly.
    • Intern Finn Abernathy had a similar issue with his stepfather. He actually threatened to kill him when he beat Finn’s mom. Only his fear of Booth and Brennan hunting him down stopped him.
    • Brennan resents Max early on for leaving her and her brother as teens, though she forgives him later and is saddened by his Heroic Sacrifice in season 11.
  • The Dark Crystal: Age of Resistance: Seladon resents her mother, Maudra Maylin, for saddling her with a lot of royal duties and ignoring her in comparison to her sisters. This eventually culminates in her usurping the throne by selling her out as a traitor to the Skeksis and burning her corpse out of spite.
  • House of Anubis:
    • Downplayed with Jerome and John Clarke. Jerome initially hated his father for all of the mistakes he'd made, which had eventually landed him in prison and forced him to abandon Jerome and his daughter, Poppy. Even when they reunited, Jerome was almost too angry to actually speak with him, even comparing him negatively to Darth Vader. However, when they actually began to talk, and when it was clear that John wanted to be a good parent, Jerome cooled down, and their relationship grew strong.
    • Eddie resented Mr. Sweet for abandoning him as a child, revealing that after years of longing for him, he eventually grew bitter. Because of this, he intentionally stirs up trouble in school, and tries to goad his father into punishing him- only for Mr. Sweet to intentionally not punish him, making him even more resentful. Eventually, though, Eddie began to forgive him and their relationship improved, though it's still distant and awkward.
  • Malcolm in the Middle: To say that Francis hates Lois would be a vast understatement. Any comment that's even remotely kind to her will get you chewed out, and he'll often bend logic to "prove" that she's responsible for anything and everything wrong in his life.
  • In Roseanne, while Roseanne and Jackie have each expressed their hatred for their mother, Jackie is the most venomous of the two since Bev always complains about how Jackie lives her life. On the other side, Roseanne actually hates her father more because he used to beat them when they were kids.
  • Runaways (2017): While some members of the titular team continue to try and make excuses for their parents, for certain, Alex and Nico definitely hate their parents after finding out who they really are, with Alex's season 2 arc ultimately culminating in him having them arrested.
  • Scream: Piper and Kieran both hated their respective parents, with Piper blaming Maggie for the death of her father, Brandon James, and Kieran suffering from his dad's Parental Abandonment. The two of them bonded over their issues... and used them as motivation to murder people as Ghost Face.
  • This is pretty common in Shameless (US).
    • It's practically a rite of passage for Gallagher kids to start Calling Parents by Their Name as a mark of showing they have no trust or respect for said parent. Patriarch Frank definitely deserves it, seeing how he's an utterly useless Junkie Parent who's never worked an honest day in his life.
    • In the episode "Requiem for a Slut", Fiona spitefully declares that she's happy that her mother Monica is dead, as she no longer has to deal with the woman who abandoned her and the rest of the family only to waltz back in expecting hugs and forgiveness, all the while forcing Fiona to be Promoted to Parent and put her own life on hold to take care of her siblings.
    • Mickey and Mandy are at their happiest when their abusive father Terry is in prison, as the man is a viciously homophobic Heteronormative Crusader who went as far as to force Mickey to have sex with a prostitute to "fuck the queer out of him" and has molested Mandy more than once.
  • Tiberius in Spartacus: Blood and Sand is a zig-zagged example. He is desperate to earn the approval of his father, Crassus, but it doesn't always work, for which Tiberius resents him. After an attempt to capture Spartacus goes horribly wrong, Crassus punishes Tiberius and his troops by forcing them to take part in decimation during which Tiberius is forced to kill his best friend, Sabinus. Tiberius hates his father for this, but doesn't take it out on him directly. Instead, he wages a campaign of terror behind the scenes on those closest to Crassus, starting with raping Kore, his father's mistress, when she attempts to reconcile him to Crassus. In a twisted way, Tiberius enjoys both gaining his father's respect publicly and privately tormenting others he cares about for revenge.
  • Victorious: Jade has problems with her father, describing him as cold and judgmental. This animosity stems from him not approving of her pursuing a career in the creative arts. In addition, it is implied her childhood was less than ideal. For instance, the only time her Dad cooked breakfast for her, she spent the rest of the day throwing up. That being said, she does try to prove herself to him, even inviting him to one of her plays.

    Music 
  • Mentioned and Played for Laughs in Bowling for Soup's "I'm Gay":
    Well, we've all heard about how the guys in the band
    Weren't the popular kids in school
    And you hate your parents 'cuz the way it turned out
    But in the end, the blame's on you

    Religion 
  • The Bible condemns this trope, for one of the 10 Commandments insists that one must "honor thy father and mother". In the Old Testament days, dishonoring one's parents is punishable by death.

    Video Games 
  • While "hate" might be pushing it, Ashley of Another Code spends much of the sequel filled with animosity towards her father both for the initial abandonment of a decade and the fact that it nearly happened again when he got a new job to get his life back in order. It takes near the end of the game before they're on better terms with each other.
  • Devil May Cry: Played with. While Nero may not have forgiven and is infuriated by his father, Vergil, for ripping off his Devil Bringer arm among his many crimes, and during their fight in the last mission of 5, Nero gives an atomic middle finger to the guy for insulting his existence, one would be hard pressed to argue he'd still try as hard as he did to prevent his duel to the death and protest his departure to Hell if he truly hated him in the end.
    • It's implied in Devil May Cry 3 that Dante dislikes his father Sparda, whose enemies killed his mother and ended up driving him and Vergil apart. Dante being frequently compared to him both negatively and positively doesn't help either. However, this only really applies in 3. In other games, Dante is either respectful of his father or is apathetic to his name being mentioned.
  • In Façade, both Trip and Grace resent their parents, which is just one part of their many, many issues. Trip resents that his parents are poor and uneducated, which resulted in him growing up in poverty and constantly feeling he was never good enough. Grace resents her parents for being image-obsessed snobs who spoiled her, thus leading her to avoid responsibility for her actions and let others make decisions for her. Ironically, they both like each other's parents; Trip likes that Grace's parents are sophisticated and successful, while Grace likes Trip's parents for being 'real' and not caring only about wealth.
  • Tidus from Final Fantasy X loathes his father Jecht, who he remembers being a drunken, verbally abusive father during his childhood. Throughout the game, Tidus' feelings gradually become more complex, as while Jecht certainly wasn't a good father Tidus learns to accept that Jecht was a complicated figure who changed after arriving in Spira and did care about Tidus even if he didn't express it well.
  • God of War (PS4): During the second visit to Helheim, Kratos and Atreus discover that Freya is Baldur's mother and that she was responsible for the invincibility spell that cost him the ability to feel any pain or pleasure of any sort. Since he has suffered this Fate Worse than Death for over 100 years, he is completely psychotic and depressed and wishes nothing more than to have violent revenge on her like Kratos had on Zeus in the Greek Pantheon. Kratos also qualifies in God of War 2 and 3 against daddy Zeus.
  • In Psychonauts, Raz hates his father for hating psychics and trying to dissuade him from becoming one. As a result, Raz runs away from the circus in hopes of becoming a Psychonaut like the ones he's always admired. In truth, Raz's father doesn't hate psychics and is, in fact, one himself. His attempts to dissuade Raz were born from a desire to protect him, as their family had been cursed by another group of psychics to always drown in any remotely deep body of water.
  • In Fire Emblem: Three Houses, Ferdinand von Aegir has a rather low opinion on his father, although it has nothing to do with how Ferdinand was treated, and rather how he treats everybody else and embodies the worst traits of a noble. If his Goddess Tower scene is obtained, Ferdinand hints that he's willing to commit Patricide. It's more complicated than it seems, however, as while Ferdinand will readily admit his father was greedy and arrogant, he's also conflicted after his father is deposed and imprisoned after Edelgard ascends the throne. If his paralogue is cleared, while Ferdinand does admit his father did deserve to die, he also mourns.
  • In Hades, Zagreus' relationship with his father Hades takes on this tone. Hades is an Abusive Parent who continually puts down Zagreus' attempts to be helpful (dipping into I Have No Son! territory at worst), and Zagreus hates Hades' guts as a result. The tipping point comes when Zagreus learns Nyx, who he actually respects, isn't his birth mother, and Hades forbids him from trying to find out more about his parentage.

    Visual Novel 
  • Fate/stay night: Illyasviel "Illya" Einzbern once resented her father, Kiritsugu Emiya, because he seemingly abandoned her and took it out on Shirou Emiya. Once she learns the truth, that being Kiritsugu didn't know she was alive and that her caretakers kept him from seeing her, Illya softens up and becomes more amicable.

    Web Animation 
  • Mercury Black of RWBY despised his father, Marcus, and has made it clear the hatred was mutual. Mercury was raised by Marcus to be an assassin, and was often brutalized by him. Eventually, Mercury killed Marcus, for what reason is unknown, but he makes it no secret that he loathed his father.
    Mercury: He never went easy on me! Every day of training was a beating. And when I unlocked my Semblance, he stole it with his! "This is a crutch!" "This makes you weak!" He told me I could have it back when I was strong. So I got strong, but I never got it back!

    Webcomics 
  • In The Order of the Stick:
    • Roy has no love lost with his father, Eugene. Eugene never respected Roy due to his dream of becoming a Fighter (Eugene was a proud wizard who looked down on non-magic users), and Roy resented his father for being a neglectful parent whose over-focus on work led to the accidental death of Roy's younger brother. A good deal of Roy's character arc is driven by his desire to one-up his father and the mutual dislike between the two.
    • Even though they're both Evil, Nale can't stand his father, who he considers overly controlling. He spends his whole life trying to get out from under his wing and establish himself as a villain in his own right, doing things his own way. This leads to his demise, as he rejects his father's protection at a moment when his life depended on it.
  • True Villains: Bayn is a comically serious Evil Sorcerer whose father is a quirky, whimsical gadfly of vastly greater power. Bayn loathes him for his attitude, the harmless-yet-annoying Curses he stuck on Bayn for fun, and some implicit serious Dysfunctional Family drama, but they reconcile after Bayn's Darkest Hour.
    Dove: I am going to murder your entire family.
    Bayn: Please do.

    Western Animation 

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