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Kirito: Who do you think you are?! You can't take advantage of Asuna like this!
Sugou: Take advantage? Oh, please. If anything, I have a right to her.
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Bob is part of a community, a nationality, a religion, a subculture, or whatever social group. As such Bob feels Alice is obligated to be with him, one way or another. Perhaps, given that they're part of the same social group, she will be a "traitor to their kind" if she does not date or marry within it. Or maybe he just feels that by belonging to the category he "deserves" her more than someone outside it. The former justification often goes hand-in-hand with the latter. If Alice complies, she might even discover that Bob is willing to take his sense of entitlement further still.

There are several basic ways in which Bob can justify his sense of entitlement (all of which can also apply the other way around):

  • Who they are: For example, "She must sleep with me because I'm part of Clan X and a woman of Clan X must always choose X over Y."
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  • What they do: For example, "She must sleep with me because I repair her television and listen to her drama, therefore she must give me something in return, and this can only mean one thing."
  • What they don't do: For example, "She must sleep with me because I wouldn't rape her," or "She must sleep with me because I normally abstain from sleeping around."
  • Extreme circumstances: The world is ending, someone is dying, Only You Can Repopulate My Race, or similar. This part is often the mildest version of the trope since both parties usually have little choice either way, especially in an Adam and Eve Plot.

The who they are type is usually more aggressive, and often the (implicit if not explicit) attitude of The Native Rival to the Mighty Whitey for the hand of The Chief's Daughter and/or Nubile Savage, or any other man prone to accuse people of being a Category Traitor. The mindset can in some cases lead to Honor-Related Abuse, especially when based on race/ethnicity/religion. This is a primary source of much of the unfortunate negative attitudes towards mixed couples, such as black man/white woman and Asian woman/white man pairs (see Where da White Women At? and Mighty Whitey and Mellow Yellow, respectively). It's also the most gender-neutral of all instances since you will also find female characters who do the exact same things with men from their own clan, especially towards women whom they feel are "stealing their man".

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The what they do type is usually more passive-aggressive, and one of the big reasons why being a self-defined "Nice Guy" might mean something entirely different from actually being good or even nice. (See also Nice Guys Finish Last; contrast Dogged Nice Guy and All Girls Want Bad Boys, where the nice guy actually is nice, or at least expected to be seen as such according to the narrative.) However, this behavior is not limited to guys who consider themselves nice. A straight-up Jerkass character might buy a woman a drink... without informing her that he considers her a very cheap hooker whom he has now bought and is entitled to use.

The what they don't do type can easily come across as Insane Troll Logic but is actually quite reasonable from a certain point of view: a guy who believes that regular male sexuality is mostly about Sex Is Evil, and I Am Horny and that women owe him a debt of gratitude for not being a rapist like those other guys. (Of course, he might even be a rapist — making the whole thing even more ironic.) Or, the view of a female who firmly believes and enforces the My Girl Is Not a Slut trope.

Since this trope in general is based on a traditional male gender role, it's mostly male. However, female examples do exist, especially with the who they are type. For example, a White woman might invoke the Asian Hooker Stereotype when a white man dates an Asian woman. The Maligned Mixed Marriage is the primary trope used to display this kind of behavior, from both males and females alike.

See also Sour Prudes and Sex Is Evil, and I Am Horny, as well as Lie Back and Think of England and My Girl Is Not a Slut. Polar opposite of Ethical Slut, where characters of any gender have fun together—and encourage potential partners to want to have sex with them, rather than trying to squeeze favors out of someone who just isn't interested.

Compare Entitled Bastard, It's All About Me, Aren't You Going to Ravish Me? and Prince Charming Wannabe. Contrast Sexual Extortion, where threats/"offers" replace moralizing and guilt-tripping. Compare and contrast Wants a Prize for Basic Decency, where Bob/Alice expects a reward for acting like a decent person. Marital Rape License is when the person feels s/he is entitled to sex with his/her spouse simply because of that person's status as his/her spouse. If the entitlement reaches extremes in that it can cause the person to commit huge mortal sins/atrocities for the sake of that entitled love, see Yandere, Murder the Hypotenuse, and If I Can't Have You…

Don't confuse with the trope Nice Guy, which is a guy who is genuinely nice. There is the slang term "nice guy" (preferably with quotation marks, for Sarcasm Mode) for the kind of person who acts like this, but a true Nice Guy is about as far from this trope as possible. Dogged Nice Guy, however, is closely related to this trope.


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    Comic Books 
  • In Bitchy Butch, Butchy herself is often a (female) example of this trope, ranting about how random women ought to "be loyal to their gender" and have sex with her rather than with the men they are in love with.
  • In City of Dreams, the white prince seems to have more than a little bit of this mindset, but this turns out to be caused by the fact that he actually IS her boyfriend - yep, Christine's sexually repressed Heteronormative Crusader real-life boyfriend is a dreamer too, but as much as he'd like to tell himself he's only there to rescue her, he did in fact end up in Morrigon of his own accord...
  • Yondu pulled an extreme circumstances on Photon, thinking they were the last two of their species, in the 1990s Guardians of the Galaxy. It didn't go well. (Jim Valentino meant to eventually get them together, but it never panned out.)
  • In one strip of Inrutat (by the same guy who makes Pondus), a male dinosaur is pleading extreme circumstances with a female dinosaur, as the Extinction Level Event Comet is blazing down from the sky.
  • In one Mega Python album, the male protagonist demands sex from a random woman, using the argument that she must sleep with him because he's gay. When she disputes that he'd even want to have sex with her if he's gay, he replies that he's considering getting turned straight.
  • In Robin Darla refuses to take no for an answer from Tim, she forces a kiss on him in front of the entire school and his girlfriend after he repeatedly told her he wasn't interested and was already in a relationship. After she comes back from the dead she decides they're dating when she uses her new powers to make sure Tim can't avoid her even though Tim makes it clear he still has absolutely no interest, then after committing homicide in front of him expects him to come live the rest of his life with her because he's such a nice person he "has to" forgive her.
  • Spider-Man:
    • During the late '80s, Jonathan Caesar, a wealthy Stalker with a Crush, kidnapped Mary Jane Watson-Parker and tried to force her to return his affections. When MJ angrily informed Caesar that she was already married, Caesar answered, "Not to me so it doesn't count."
    • Dr. Miles Warren, aka the Jackal, was dealt a severe blow by his beloved wife's death at the claws of his first genetic monstrosity, the Man-Jackel. He became a biology professor at Empire State University, where one of his students was Gwen Stacy, who reminded him so much of his dead wife that an ugly obsession with her was kindled inside him. When Gwen was murdered by the Green Goblin, Miles snapped and became obsessed with resurrecting her via cloning and punishing Spider-Man, who he blamed for her death. Even Spider-Gwen isn't immune to his obsession, with Miles following her to Earth-65 intending to force her to love him — something that even his Earth-65 counterpart was disgusted by.
    • In 2004, Queen, a supervillain who could control anyone with the "insect gene" among her many other powers, felt that she was a true survivor and the Queen of all with the insect gene. After meeting Spider-Man, she quickly became impressed by his strength and determination, and seeing him as the strongest of her "subjects", she declared him as her mate. When Spider-Man refuses her seductions though she angrily knocks him around, declaring that as a member of her hive he will love her whether he wants to or not.
  • Maxima's main personality trait, in regards to Superman. She's a powerful metahuman, he's the most powerful metahuman/alien, so they're meant to be, whether he wants it or not.

    Films — Animated 
  • Beauty and the Beast: The vain and egotistical hunter Gaston is proud of his reputation as the manliest and most popular guy in town. Therefore, he decides that Belle with her reputation as the most beautiful girl in town is the woman who would look the best as his bride, and he goes so far as to get dressed for his wedding and set up the festivities before he proposes to her because he is so overconfident that he can take her saying yes for granted. When she makes it clear that she's really not into him he feels humiliated, and eventually comes up with a villainous plan to force her to marry him because he's a Sore Loser. And when he finds out she's in love with the Beast, his jealousy motivates him to kill him.
    "That makes her the best! And don't I deserve the best!?"
  • The Hunchback of Notre Dame:
    • Since Esmeralda is "a sinner", it's Frollo's job to set her straight by making her "his," and if she refuses him she shall be burned at the stake.
    • Quasimodo, by heroic contrast, is a subversion. While he hopes for a relationship with Esmeralda at first and expresses longing for the kind of love he's seen watching couples from the bell-tower, he never believes he deserves her – quite the opposite – and in the end, he shows no ill feelings toward the relationship between her and Phoebus and is in fact, happy for them.
  • In Ice Age: The Meltdown, Manny comes across this way to Ellie after a That Came Out Wrong moment. He was thinking a bit more along the lines of Adam and Eve Plot.
  • Played for creepiness in Megamind. Megamind motivates Hal Stewart, a Manchild version of Jimmy Olsen who has just gained superpowers, by saying that when a Super Hero saves someone they automatically fall in love with their rescuer. Of course, what Megamind doesn't know is that Hal lusts for Roxanne to stalker levels. When Hal finds out real people don't work that way, he ends up becoming a Psychopathic Manchild and goes on a Super Powered rampage.
  • Strange Magic: While Roland never says it outright, he definitely displays this mentality. He wants the crown and sees Marianne as great eye candy so in his mind, that means he's got to have her, whether he actually loves her or not. His sneering at the Bog King for daring to fall in love with Marianne because he's an ugly goblin only reinforces this.

    Films — Live-Action 
  • A complicated case in 1986’s Castaway (not the Tom Hanks movie), based on the true story of Gerald Kingsland (Oliver Reed), a middle-aged London writer who decides to spend a year on a deserted island in the south Pacific, Robinson Crusoe style, and then write a book about it. He places an ad for a "wife" to accompany him, which is answered by the beautiful young Lucy Irvine (Amanda Donohoe). Lucy wants the job and sleeps with Gerald in London to ensure she gets it and even officially marries him to satisfy immigration requirements. However, once they’re alone on the island, she decides that she doesn’t want to continue the sexual aspect of their relationship. He believes that it was clearly understood by both that part of the reason he wanted her along was for sex and that she "welched" on the deal after getting what she wanted. She, of course, counters that no matter what she can refuse to sleep with him if she chooses. (The fact that she spends much of their time on the island in no more than a bikini bottom, and often less, only increases his frustration.)
  • In the Johnny Depp Dark Shadows movie, Angelique argued that she and Barnabas belonged together because they were both monsters.
  • The "Extreme Circumstances" example comes up in Dogma. Jay assumes through his typical stupidity that Bethany is in love with (or at least wants to have sex with) him after he saved her life from some hellspawn hockey players. Though a lewd pervert, he does drop the subject after she puts her foot down. He gets her to agree to have sex with him if they're in a situation where they only have five minutes left to live ("Like, a bomb or something's gonna go off"). At the start of the climax, when it looks like the heroes have failed to stop the apocalypse, Jay immediately drops his pants, planning to hold her to her promise until she figures out another way to save the day.
  • Debated in Female Perversions, a debate played for horror: A particularly creepy woman is holding a little lecture about how a woman "must" be an empty canvas for men to project their desire on. Her niece's (slightly delayed) response is to start cutting herself - carving the word "love" into her own flesh and explaining that she meant to write "hate". Maybe she didn't know the difference anymore?
  • Japanese film Gate of Hell presents a variant on the what they do type. A samurai is loyal to the emperor during a rebellion. The samurai's lord offers him a reward for loyalty. The samurai asks for the hand of an attractive lady-in-waiting at court. He is informed that she's already married. He doesn't care.
  • In A Heart In Winter, Camille is angered at Stéphane for manipulating her feelings but she's also somehow frustrated that he didn't actually do anything with (physical or otherwise) and her "The Reason You Suck" Speech could be read as frustration that he didn't respond to her advance.
  • The German sniper Zoller in Inglourious Basterds spends most of the movie being nice to Shoshanna and flirting with her, but after being rejected one too many times, he gets angry and violent, frustrated that she has not warmed up to him and shown him the respect he feels entitled to, as a war hero.
  • Just Friends:
  • Dusty is definitely this towards Jamie as she never reciprocated his feelings during High School, he feels it's completely justified to use Jamie for sex now as 'revenge', and even mistakes Chris, who is legitimately attracted to her, for doing the same. He even has the audacity to use the song he 'wrote for her' (in actuality, a song he wrote that he uses on every girl, merely changing the name to complement them) as a way to guilt-trip her into dating him.
  • The case for Chad in Tucker & Dale vs. Evil who believes that he is entitled to Allison because she and him are special and goes crazy when she falls for Dale who he sees as a hillbilly and beneath him.
  • Wolves: Connor wants Angel to be his son's mother, whether she likes it or not, as she's from the "old lines". Once she's had the baby, though, he's happy for her to leave town. That's... better?

    Literature 
  • In A Brother's Price, Kij Porter feels entitled to a second dance (and more flirting) with Jerin because she's a noble. When Jerin's sister Corelle comes to fetch him, stating that other women want to dance with him, too, Kij asks her: "Do you know who I am?", and Corelle, in a bored tone, recounts everything worth knowing about the Porter family, as Kij's sister already told her all of it one moment ago. This doesn't deter Kij from making a marriage offer for Jerin after the ball - after all, she's a noble, and the Whistlers are commoners, and they can't do any better than marrying their brother to a noblewoman. Or so she thinks - in the end, Jerin marries the princesses. Politics, however, also plays a massive part in the reason why the Porters were so insistent on pursuing Jerin—with Jerin and his sisters being the grandchildren of the lost prince Alannon, they have a considerable amount of status and novelty-value in high society, despite being commoners. Furthermore, the Porters are seeking to murder the current ruling line and manipulate high society so they end up as queens. Marrying Alannon's grandson to give their children a vague claim to the throne, despite men not being allowed to rule and not normally having a claim to anything, would give them an extra edge when attempting to seize the throne.
  • In Frank M Robinson's The Dark Beyond the Stars, the characters are on a generation ship which has a rule by which any person may ask that any other person have sex with them ONCE... and the person being asked must comply. After that, however, there is an absolute right of refusal. Any subsequent coercion does count as rape, of which a very dim view is taken.
  • In Frankenstein, the wretch has this assumption when he asks Victor to create a female wretch for him.
    "But one as deformed and horrible as myself would not deny herself to me."
  • The third book in Scott Lynch's Gentleman Bastard series at one point puts the reader into the head of an asshole nobleman while he's attempting to rape a poor woman simply because she's there and he's frustrated that his attempts to seduce a "noble" girl (one of the con artist main characters) are going nowhere, and after all poor people are there to serve the noble's needs. The poor woman kills him in self-defense, which starts a plotline about the main characters having to hide his corpse because the traditional feudalist society they live in (and even some of the older male "good" characters) agrees that she should just have endured it. This whole incident is used by the author to get across the message to the presumably largely young and male audience that power inequality and the attitude reflected in this trope (and general sociopathy) is the reason for rape, not anything the woman did or anything inherent in the male gender or impaired judgement due to intoxication.
  • Harry Potter:
    • Snape seems to have had at least a degree of this in regards to Lily Evans. They were childhood friends who bonded over being magical kids in a world of muggles, and Snape loved her since the beginning. She ended her friendship (and any potential romance) in their fifth year when he became more and more invested in the dark arts and publicly called her a slur, but he never stopped loving her. A good portion of his bullying of Harry was due to him being Lily's son by a man he hated.
    • Merope in Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince was an unhappy woman who was abused by her father and brother. In her unhappiness, Merope projected her dreams of happiness onto the wealthy and handsome young noble, Tom Riddle, Sr., who already had a girlfriend. Using either the Imperius Curse or a Love Potion to force Tom to abandon his parents and girlfriend to run off with her, Merope had a child with him. After enough time had passed, Merope simply expected Tom to love her and thus ended the spell. Unsurprisingly, Tom ran off in terror rather than return the affection of the witch who had enslaved him.
  • Gale Hawthorne shows tendencies of this in The Hunger Games. He assumes Katniss will reciprocate his feelings because he is her best friend and while she's technically known Peeta longer they were only acquaintances while Gale and Katniss had a real friendship. In the end, though, he doesn't seem to have any hard feelings about her loving Peeta.
  • In Jane Austen's Mansfield Park, Henry Crawford has his admiral uncle promote Fanny's brother from midshipman to lieutenant in the Navy and then makes a big deal about how he did it for her so that she'll feel grateful and obligated to accept his proposal. (Contrast with Mr. Darcy from her last book, who makes a genuine sacrifice for his beloved and goes out of his way to hush it up so she won't feel like this.)
  • Nighttime Is My Time has an especially nasty case of this with the Owl's feelings towards Jean. He had a big crush on her because unlike the other girls she hung out with, she was never cruel to him and even showed him kindness on a few occasions. Because Jean also had a crappy homelife and never quite fitted in at Stonecroft Academy, the Owl saw her as a kindred spirit and believed they belonged together. He then discovered Jean was secretly dating a young cadet, Reed Thornton, which he saw as a 'betrayal'. Twenty years on, the Owl is still bitter that Jean chose another man, which factors into his decision to kill her; he even convinces himself that Jean was just as horrible as the other girls behind his back (which is untrue). It's revealed that the Owl went so far as to kill Reed to make Jean suffer and he also plans to kill the daughter Jean conceived with Reed, purely to spite her.
  • Summer feels this way about Venn in Obsidian Mirror. She was a Romantic Runner-Up the first time around when Venn married Leah.
  • Mike "Ghost" Harmon in the Paladin of Shadows series is openly and blatantly a what they don't do type. This is a major contributing factor to the meme Oh, John Ringo, No!
  • By the fifth book of A Song of Ice and Fire, practically none of the men looking to marry Daenerys to make their lives and respective likelihoods of becoming king better think even for a second that she might say no. Aegon Targaryen VI has to be flat out told by Tyrion, "She has her own claim to the Iron Throne, her own kingdom and, oh yeah, the only dragons in the world and you think she's going to give that up for you and your fuck-all?" for him to change his mind from "Of course she'll marry me, I'm me!"
  • Jonathan got a bit like this towards Alanna in the Song of the Lioness quartet, believing that she was sure to marry him because he was royalty. Alanna doesn't take it well.
  • In the Star Trek novel The Vulcan Academy Murders, Sendet, a narrow-minded Vulcan, feels that he is the proper mate of T'Mir, despite the fact that neither she nor her family has given him any encouragement. When he finds out that not only has she bonded to someone else, but she has chosen a human, Sendet is so outraged that he attacks the man and attempts to telepathically destroy their bond. His attempt fails, and he is exiled.
  • The Stormlight Archive: The people of the Purelake demonstrate a very calm and friendly version of this trope (just like everything else the Purelakers do). Purelaker courtship involves doing favors for someone until they are so far in your debt they have no choice but to marry you to make up for it. If they don't want to marry you, they need to do favors in return to keep the scales balanced.
  • The Tough Guide to Fantasyland's deconstruction of Rescue Sex has shades of this, saying that because the hero nobly refuses to sleep with the slave girl when her wicked master offers her to him ("what they don't do") and helps her escape ("what they do") he then gets to have sex with her.
  • The Turner Diaries argues that women should not sleep with those of another race, claiming that those who do so "defile their race". The male white nazi "heroes" even murder a lot of white women, hanging signs saying "I defiled my race" on their corpses. (And no, calling the protagonists "nazi" is not Godwin's Law - the book is written by a neo-Nazi for neo-Nazis.)
  • In Twilight, Jacob starts to develop this view towards Bella. He argues that he was there for her when Edward was not, and thus she should dump Edward and switch to him. This leads to him forcibly kissing her twice to show her what she's missing, a tactic that works on her. This trope also is implied to be how imprinting operates. When a werewolf imprints on a girl, everyone - from the werewolf himself to the rest of his pack to everyone who knows about imprinting - expects the girl to come to terms with what's going on and hook up with the werewolf. Jacob even says that while the girl technically has a choice in the matter, he doesn't see why she would choose to turn down the werewolf, because he would make himself into whatever she needs.
  • In When A Man's A Man, by Harold Wright, the character Phil expresses this opinion. Because the book was written in 1916, his doing so is considered heroic.
    He rose to his feet abruptly. "All right," he said, almost roughly. "I'll go now. But don't make any mistake, Kitty. You're mine, girl, mine, by laws that are higher than the things they taught you at school. And you are going to find it out. I am going to win you—just as the wild things out there win their mates. You are going to come to me, girl, because you are mine—because you are my mate."''
  • Wuthering Heights: "You loved me – then what right had you to leave me?" Heathcliff rages at Catherine Earnshaw in their last meeting before she dies. This is a nuanced variation on the trope, though, because Heathcliff's feelings of entitlement stem not from any merits he sees in himself, or even from his own love for Cathy, but only from the fact that he knows Cathy loves him. When he believed she genuinely preferred her husband Edgar Linton, his only goal in coming back to Wuthering Heights was to see her one last time, have revenge on his former oppressor Hindley, and then commit suicide. Only when her warm welcome makes him realize she still loves him and always has does his goal change to a Roaring Rampage of Revenge on all the Earnshaws and Lintons.

    Live Action TV 
  • In Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.'s first two seasons, this was Grant Ward's view of Skye in a nutshell, while deconstructing the Troubled, but Cute and Love Redeems trope. Ward infiltrated the team for HYDRA, where he would meet and become attached to Skye. Because he swore he'd never hurt her, he felt that meant that she should, in turn, forgive him for his dark side and love him (especially as, being an Inhuman, Skye was a 'monster' like Ward). She, however, reacted exactly how someone realistically would to finding out their love interest was a sociopathic Neo-Nazi Manipulative Bastard who had been lying to them all for months, had personally killed a large number of innocent people, and had kidnapped her, and makes it clear she hates him and will never forgive him. He tries to nurture a relationship with her later during interrogation sessions after they've arrested him, under the belief that he can 'redeem' himself and in-turn win her love, but this just further disgusts her as she realises its just another manipulation, and he only learns after she shoots him (after he'd kidnapped her again) and he finds a new woman to obsess over.
    • In an equally twisted example, Aida chooses to love Fitz, but he doesn't reciprocate. As she puts it, "I chose you, now you choose me".
  • In Babylon 5 "Acts of Sacrifice" Commander Ivanova is tasked with getting the Lumati, a new race they have encountered, to sign a treaty with Earth. After a misunderstanding results in their representative being impressed by Earth's culture, he agrees to sign the treaty. The catch is, as tradition is very important to his people, they must sign the accord as is customary with his people: they will have sex. Ivanova, guessing the person is as ignorant of Earth culture as she was of his, tricks him into agreeing to have sex "human style" and does a fun dance around him saying some pick-up lines and screaming a fake orgasm and gets him to leave. It is noted by the series creator had her commanding officer been the one meeting this representative, he too would have been expected by the Lumati to put out.
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer:
    • Spike falls in love with Buffy because he believes the feeling is mutual and she showed attraction to him first. He then says he will kill Drusilla for her, and is maddened when this doesn't force her to even pretend to love him. He also pushes in a Dogged Nice Guy way when he was human with Cecily,.
    • The entirely of the season four episode "Doomed" is basically Riley telling Buffy over and over that they'd work amazingly together because they both hunt demons as if this is a great relationship starting point, and mostly ignores her reasonable arguments against the idea. By the end of the episode, she gives in and dates him, but since they're not very compatible outside of their jobs, it's really not a surprise when their relationship blows up in their faces a year later.
  • Cagney & Lacey episode "Rules of the Game" introduces a high-flying Detective Captain who decides that he's entitled to have Chris after she engages in some (very) mild flirting. He threatens her career and even her job itself if she turns him down. He thinks that mild-flirting means that Christine doesn't have the right to turn him down.
  • Cheers: While normally Sam operates with some standards, on occasion his attempts to get with Rebecca dip into a version of this (Entitled to Be Had by You?), where he's baffled by the idea Rebecca doesn't want to have sex with him, after his many skeevy and boneheaded attempts to seduce her, outright demanding to know why she doesn't want to.
  • In an episode of Coach, Luther moves into a retirement community and suddenly every available widow is cooking for him. Christine thinks Luther should stop accepting this treatment because the women may expect a relationship from him. Hayden points out that if a man prepared dinner for a woman she would be free to accept it and the man would have no right to expect anything in return. Rather than acknowledge that she was wrong, Christine invoked another Double Standard and let Hayden know they wouldn't be having sex that night.
  • Becomes the plot point in an episode of Law & Order: SVU. A girl gets pregnant by a known bad boy type. She later appears to hang herself after getting harassed by a grown woman on the internet, pretending to be the bad boy who dumped her. Instead, she was murdered by her long time boyfriend who felt entitled to have her, because they both made a promise to not have sex until marriage, and only with each other.
    • The eponymous character in "Holden's Manifesto" doesn't direct this at any particular individual, but he feels entitled to have a girlfriend in general and comes to resent women as a category for denying him what he feels is rightfully his, and attacks women for rejecting him years earlier.
    • A few other episodes of the series also had rapists claim they were justified because they were in some way entitled to have sex with the victim. Marriage is a common basis for this argument.
    • In a non-romantic example, one episode features a man suing for custody of the child of a woman he knocked up in college. At this point, the child is 12 years old, has been adopted by a loving family, and does not want to change households. The biological father insists on pursuing custody despite multiple experts saying that it is not in the boy's best interests and would traumatize him.
  • Peter Campbell in Mad Men does the what they do type with a German au pair that his neighbours hired. He goes through some trouble to fix a dress with red wine or some such spilled on it, but it's only after he returns it that she tells him she already has a boyfriend. Her reactions indicate that it was naivete about his intentions rather than an attempt to use him, but he still forces himself on her a bit later. This comes back to bite him when the neighbour finds out.
  • There is a very subtle case of this in Merlin between Arthur and Guinevere. After he impulsively kisses her at her house, he tells her that there's no chance for them to ever have a relationship. Later, when she's kidnapped by a local warlord and held for ransom, Arthur defies his father and rushes out to rescue her, telling Merlin all the way there that he and Gwen can't ever be a couple and it's useless to dwell on what can never be. Thing is, he's completely unaware that Lancelot is currently staging his own rescue attempt, and when it becomes obvious that Gwen rather fancies his competition, he immediately gets huffy and tries to save face by saying that he only turned up because Morgana begged him to. So despite what he told Gwen, he actually did expect her to return his feelings and gets sulky when she takes his words to heart and searches for love elsewhere.
  • Power Rangers Wild Force: Viktor Adler felt that he was the one who truly deserved the affection of his colleague Elizabeth; her marriage to their other colleague Richard Evans instead pushed him over the edge, so when he found the seeds that had been the remains of Master Org, Adler swallowed them and then used his new powers to murder the couple, subsequently trying to kill their infant son Cole as well.
  • In Star Trek: Enterprise, T'Pol—like most Vulcans—has had her marriage arranged since childhood to someone named Koss. She is uninterested in marriage and wishes to break off the betrothal in favor of remaining in Starfleet, while he emphatically does not. But when the High Command retaliates against Starfleet by forcing her mother's retirement, Koss twists T'Pol's arm by saying he can get her mother's job back (and her mother, who thinks her daughter is Going Native, agrees). T'Pol is forced to marry him, though she manages to negotiate remaining in Starfleet for a year. He breaks the marriage after T'Pol's mother dies, however, since he is well aware that was the only reason she agreed to it and it would be illogical not to.

    Music 
  • Cher Lloyd's "Want U Back" is about a girl who expects her ex to obediently leave his new girlfriend and fall back under her thumb, even though she's the one who dumped him in the first place, for no other reason than "I had you first."
  • Taylor Swift: "You Belong With Me" is about a girl who believes she deserves the boy better than his actual girlfriend does because she's the only one who "understands" him.
  • **NSYNC: "Girlfriend" is about a boy who is trying to convince a girl that her current boyfriend doesn't care about her and that she should hook up with him instead.
  • Avril Lavigne: The infamous "Girlfriend" song is about a Jerkass "punk girl" who hounds a boy who's already taken, insists that his much more homely girlfriend is "like whatever" and tells him that she's a better lay so he should date her instead (while said girlfriend is constantly punished for being upset due to that). Lavigne says that she intended to either poke fun or call out girls who do such shit, but the video to the song plays this trope infamously straight.
  • Shawn Mendes' "Treat You Better" is about a guy trying to convince a girl to leave her current boyfriend for him because apparently he'll "Treat her better" and he's a "Gentleman".
  • Similarly, country group Old Dominion's "Break Up With Him" is about a guy trying to convince a girl to leave her current boyfriend for him, with such lines as:
    I know you say you're taken, but I say girl you're taking too long to tell him that it's over
    (...)
    C'mon you can't deny that you and I kinda fit like a glove
    (...)
    You would've hung up by now if you weren't thinking it too
  • Drake's Marvin's Room. While it sets precedence to his sophomore studio album Take Care, Drake in this song uses being drunk and famous as an excuse to lash out at his ex-girlfriend to come back to him.
    Chorus: Fuck that nigga that you love so bad. I know you still think about the times we had...
  • Implied in Kanye West's "Stronger":
    I don't know if you got a man or not,
    If you made plans or not
    (...)
    But I know that God put you in front of me
    So how the hell could you front on me?
  • In the modern folk song "The Willow Maid", a young man falls in love with a beautiful forest maiden, but she refuses him. After multiple failed attempts to win her heart, he chops down her willow tree so she'll be forced to leave her forest and marry him, but since her life is magically bound to the tree, she dies and transforms into a flower.
  • The singer of The Black Keys' "Lonely Boy" keeps giving backhanded compliments to the girl he's singing to (the first lines are "Well, I'm so above you and it's plain to see / But I came to love you anyway"), yet still bemoans the fact that she won't love him because he pays attention to her. One gets a pretty good idea of why he's a lonely boy.
  • Culture Beat's "Mr. Vain" is about a man who wants a girl for his own selfish desires, claiming that he deserves her because he's the epitome of a man. The chorus sums this up nicely:
    He'd say: I know what I want
    And I want it now
    I want you cause I'm Mr. Vain

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    Theater 
  • The princes of Morocco and Aragon both feel this way about Portia in The Merchant of Venice, and, when they each have to choose a casket to win her hand in the Engagement Challenge, they both contemplate choosing the silver casket, labeled "Who chooseth me shall get as much as he deserves." Morocco sums their logic up nicely:
    "As much as he deserves"; why, that's the lady,
    I do in birth deserve her, and in fortunes,
    In graces and in qualities of breeding,
    But more than these, in love I do deserve.
    What if I strayed no further, but chose here?
    • He doesn't end up choosing that casket, but Arragon does. They both get sent home, and Portia ends up marrying a poor gentleman below her station.
  • In The Taming of the Shrew, Gremio believes he's entitled to Bianca because a) he's her father's neighbor, b) he was suitor first, and c) he's rich. Of course, we're not meant to like him, and she ends up with Lucentio, a much more palatable, lucky-to-have-you suitor.
  • Despite his massive Draco in Leather Pants fandom and those who genuinely sympathize with his admittedly hard lot in life, The Phantom of the Opera owns this trope in his relationship with Christine. Much like the "Not-Really-Nice-Nice Guy" mentioned below, The Phantom misrepresents his intentions when he begins to mentor Christine disguised as the ghostly "Angel of Music" her late father sent to her, using this as an opportunity to stalk her and lure her towards loving him in return for the help he's given her with her theater career. When Christine refuses, frightened a little by the Phantom's deformity and a lot by his real personality, The Phantom... reacts poorly.
  • Female example; Glinda in Wicked believes that she and Fiyero are "perfect together" and "deserve each other", and cannot understand why he falls in love with Elphaba.
  • Thuy in Miss Saigon towards Kim, partly because of who they are (Kim is in love with Chris, a white American soldier), and also because Kim was betrothed to him when she was 13.

    Video Games 
  • A possible and popular interpretation of Braid's main character's behaviour, the ending level all but stating that his advances towards the princess aren't exactly invited.
  • The King of Fighters: Both fans and haters of Sie Kensou say that he thinks Athena Asamiya owes him sex since he's had a massive crush on her from early times in the franchise. The haters insist that he's an entitled bastard who wants pity sex and would rape Athena if he could, the fans reply that he does deserve Athena's affections better for supporting her and call her an Ungrateful Bitch. In reality, Kensou very rarely falls into this: he's shown as being comically jealous when it seems Athena may not like him — but in the counted times when she does need help, he helps her out WITHOUT any second intentions.
  • In Life Is Strange: Before the Storm, Elliot comes off as a Dogged Nice Guy at first, but when he follows Chloe to Rachel's house and refuses to let her leave until she returns his feelings for her, he crosses the line into this.
  • Lollipop Chainsaw: Swan is revealed to be this in the climax. He fell in love with Juliet because she treated him nicely one time, which caused him to obsess over her... while doing absolutely nothing to let her know about this. When he saw Juliet dating Nick, he proceeded to throw what was essentially one big supernatural temper tantrum, because how dare his crush fall in love with someone else, least of all someone who resembled the jocks who bullied him.
  • Mass Effect: Turian General Septimus Oraka, who falls hard for the Consort Shaira (a High-Class Call Girl with a heart of gold "servicing" the elites who live on the Citadel Presidium). She sees him as just another high-ranking official who requires her services. He feels otherwise. When she outright rejects him, he can be found in a strip joint, drinking his sorrows away.
  • My Child Lebensborn: Some of the journal entries hint this as probably the less official reason for the massive Slut-Shaming towards Norwegian women who were in relationships with German soldiers during World War II:
    • One entry mentions that such relationships weren't illegal, yet they were seen as treason on the part of the women. The sentiment persists to the game's present day, which is a good six years after the end of the war.
    • Another entry about the punishments points out that women who had been in those relationships were punished more harshly than people who had formally worked with Nazi Germany or profited from its presence. One of the possible reasons offered by the entry for the harsher punishment is people considering the women as "belonging" to Norwegians and feeling betrayed because they chose the German soldiers over the local men.
  • The protagonist of the game Next Station: "Mary should love me, I loved her so much and I was so nice to her!"
  • Persona 4: Adachi feels entitled to have both Mayumi Yamano and Saki Konishi (who is a high school student) simply because he was interested in them, saying he saw them first. When he doesn't get what he wants, because Mayumi was having an affair and because he thought Saki was flirting with someone, he kills them both. The former was an accident, though the lead-up had some pretty heavy Attempted Rape undertones to it, while the latter was intentional.
  • Shining Resonance: Joachim treats Marion as his puppet and his meat shield. But his obsession with her also has stalker-ish undertones, particularly when Yuma and the others finally rescue her. His rant makes him sound more like a crazy ex-boyfriend, rather than a scientist:
    Joachim: (angrily, at Yuma) "Now you listen to me: That is MY research and MY test subject! And I WILL get them BACK!!"
    Joachim: (at Marion) "YOU HEAR ME?! You belong to ME, Ette! I have EARNED YOUR SCREAMS!! And I'll tear them FROM YOUR THROAT!!"

    Visual Novels 
  • Double Homework:
    • Dennis seems to have this attitude toward sex with women and girls. Every single one.
    • Tamara has this attitude toward the protagonist for much of the story. She thinks that she’s entitled to him because the two of them share a secret to what really happened on Barbarossa.
  • Fate/stay night:
    • Gilgamesh decides that Saber is destined to be his wife simply on the basis that he's so awesome that he deserves to have whatever he wants. Nobody else quite agrees with him on this, especially not Saber.
    • Shinji Matou believes that Rin Tohsaka should be honored to be his girlfriend, and is disgusted and outraged when she chooses Shirou Emiya in the Unlimited Blade Works route; to the point of trying to rape her.
  • In Umineko: When They Cry, George confesses that he used to be this sort of guy, assuming he should be more popular with women because he "treated them well" and that he wasn't because they have bad taste in men and prefer jerks. He hit a turning point when he realized that Battler was getting more attention from Shannon and other girls not because he was a rude punk, but rather because he was an outgoing and genuine guy who didn't put up a "Nice Guy" front simply to win over girls. George admits in hindsight that his past behavior was pretty douchey and entitled, and he'd rather forget he was ever like that.

     Web Animation 

    Webcomics 
  • Girl Genius
    • Martellus von Blitzengaard. At first it's because he comes waltzing in to 'save' Agatha from an army - which she was actually handling perfectly well herself - but then it takes an even darker turn when he kidnaps her, calling it a 'rescue', and then apparently expects her to be grateful because he didn't make her into his adoring "mindless slave" when he had the chance. And then he starts helping her defeat their mutual enemies and apparently thinks that this will make her think kindly of him. Big surprise - it doesn't. It's made very clear that Martellus is in the wrong in every possible way here - in a comic full of Grey-and-Gray Morality, he's one of the few antagonists who is considered utterly reprehensible - and Agatha gets several satisfying panels of beating him up every so often.
    • Gil, one of Agatha's primary love interests, gets a much less dramatic one early on, when he proposes to her out of nowhere and expects her to immediately accept. Although it's shown that this was a very bad idea on Gil's part, he does have some justification - Agatha's just been revealed to be an extremely powerful Spark, and Sparks with no family connections end up being exploited or killed, often burned as witches in rural areas, and female Sparks have been mysteriously disappearing for years. It's still not treated very sympathetically (at that moment, the two are on Castle Wulfenbach, one of the safest places in the country, including for Sparks).
  • Jim from Girls with Slingshots is supposed to be the Dogged Nice Guy version. However, the readers don't see as much of this as the author intended, so all we see is Jim trying to buy Jamie a million flowers and getting rejected hard, then periodically turning up to lament his loneliness while others ignore or mock him for it, leaving Jim wondering: if all these guys who are jerks to him get girls, why doesn't he?
  • In Here There Be Monsters Roy is infuriated when Ella turns him down since he figured she's a party girl and should be easy.
  • Homestuck:
    • This is a common fandom interpretation of Eridan, albeit in a more mild form: he was Feferi's moirail for a long time and then was quite displeased when she not only wasn't interested in a romantic relationship but wanted to break up their moirallegiance as well. However, while he did later kill her, there were extenuating circumstances, so it's a bit ambiguous.
    • Cronus, on the other hand, is a Nice Guy (tm) all the way down. He insists that he's a sensitive soul and only wants to be there for everyone and gets very pissed off when they don't want to be around him...but makes it very clear that the only reason he hangs around anyone is that he thinks that means he deserves to sleep with them and doesn't give the slightest shit about their feelings. All of this combined with his refusal to take no for an answer unless there's seriously no other choice makes for a very creepy character.
  • Shishi from The Law of Purple feels this way about Blue because she comes from an extremely misandristic culture (women have mind-control powers whereas men do not, and so the latter are treated as glorified sex toys and objects) and has "dibs" on him.
  • Perfect Marriage Revenge: After one blind date with the Tall, Dark, and Handsome Doguk, Yura is determined to make him her husband, despite that he dumps her right after said date and tells her flat out he has no intention of marrying her. Things get worse when he gets engaged to her stepsister, Iju. Somehow, she thinks if she can get them to break up, she'll be his next choice for marriage.
  • Becca in Peter Is the Wolf is this, bordering on Yandere, for Peter. The only thing holding her back is that wolf!Sarah is nearly twice her height and can fling Becca out of the way... or possibly worse. However, her history of being regularly raped by her father gives her a Freudian Excuse regarding her possessiveness.
  • Makoto of Red String does this when he is initially introduced as the antagonist. Unfortunately for the readers, the author later fell in love with the character and agreed with him...thus taking this to the logical conclusion of everyone in the comic feeling Makoto "deserved" Miharu. Including people who had every reason to hate the guy. The only one to ever call Makoto out on his sense of entitlement is Kazuo, but unfortunately the scene was intended not to highlight a serious character flaw, but the author trying to make the reader feel sorry for poor Makoto instead. Not shockingly, the narrative awards him Miharu's hand in marriage and thus 100% backs this trope.
  • Something*Positive sums up the "Nice Guy" variety. Oddly enough, a later storyline features a flashback to Davan in high school, where he has the same basic attitude about a girl he tutored. In this case, it was his sister Dahlia who made him realize how his perspective was messed up.

    Web Original 
  • Heartlessbitches.com shows how this trope can apply to self-proclaimed, vocal "nice guys". Basically, these are the people who think that being friends with a woman, and listening to her talk about stuff/accompanying her on shopping entitles them to be her romantic interest. There is also the double standard that these sorts tend to want attractive women, but dislike women who date attractive men.
    • Are you fed up with your Male friends who are looking to date a woman with the appearance of a supermodel, and yet they continually whine about how "women don't like nice guys - they only want good-looking assholes"?
  • This piece also analyzes the what they do and what they don't do Nice Guys.
  • Played for Laughs when The Nostalgia Chick once had a long rant about what an asshole Todd in the Shadows was because he didn't "want her love and affection". Made all the funnier because Lindsay and Todd were dating in real life at the time, and apparently are still good friends even after breaking up.
  • Hyper Fangirl to The Nostalgia Critic. Even before she kidnapped him, forcing him to love her at gunpoint and preferring him that way, she wangsted for a good few weeks after he told her straight up he wouldn't sleep with her.
  • In Jacksfilms' "Dubstep Solves Everything 3" music video, Jack and Mike fight over who gets "the girl on the bench", ignoring her opinion in the matter. Upon winning the dubstep battle, Jack says, "To the victor go the spoils," then drags her off by the hair despite her loud protests. In this case, the (parodied) message is that "because I won a battle over her, she must date me."
  • The Cracked article 5 Ways Modern Men Are Trained to Hate Women postulates that part of this mentality sprouts from how pop culture, more often than not, has the guy "get the girl" as a reward for his efforts.
    • Enforcing this is the Internet subculture known as "Incels". A portmanteau of "Involuntarily Celibate", their belief system can basically be summed up as they deserve love and sex but women are too superficial to give them a chance and will only sleep with hunky "Chads". This radicalization has reached the point to where mass shootings and assaults (such as the 2014 Isla Vista killings and the 2018 Toronto van attack) have occurred and the FBI has classified Incels as a terrorist group. Ironically enough, the community was originally started by a bisexual woman under the name "Alana's Involuntary Celibacy Project" (and needless to say, she deeply regrets what she'd set into motion).
  • This article from The Onion offers a rare Perspective Flip on the matter, not defending the "nice guy" MO but raising the question of whether a girl who knowingly manipulates him is really any better.
  • We Hunted the Mammoth dredges these up a lot, and site runner David Futrelle loathes this attitude. Many of his subjects get this way over women who are overweight or have piercings and tattoos, with at least one anti-feminist outright stating that women only have "stewardship" over their own bodies, as opposed to having ownership.
  • "Madame Macabre" made a video about having to deal with this trope in high school. A guy she called "Gary" told Madame's friends that she had "cruelly friend-zoned" him in order to guilt her into dating him. Even though, in reality, she didn't date him because he constantly texted her about wanting to hang out despite her refusals, acted creepily around her when she caved in and hung out with him (including making a "joke" about how hot her breasts looked), breaking up with his more-loving girlfriend, and Madame's friend, Julie, because he thought Madame was hotter and telling Julie to not talk to Madame anymore because he said it would damage his nonexistent relationship with her.
  • Dragon Ball Z Abridged: Cell's attitude towards the Androids is a non-romantic version of this; he basically thinks he's entitled to absorb them. Though some innocent bystanders overhear him yelling at Android 18 and mistake them for lovers, and Hilarity Ensues.
  • Noboyuki Sugou from Sword Art Online Abridged serves a double-dealing of this trope in his intro episode by stating that, as he convinced Shouzou Yuuki to buy the Sword Art Online servers from its developers in Argus before they went under, he is entitled to both have Asuna as his wife and to push around Kirito as he wishes, up to and including having him back off of Asuna.
  • This story from Not Always Romantic features an example of the "I want sex with you, therefore you are required to say yes" version of this trope. When the Happily Married (and not interested in cheating on her husband) poster turns him down, he goes online to complain about being friend-zoned and calls her a stupid slut for refusing to provide sex. He doesn't take it well when she brings up that that's a Non Sequitur.
  • This popular Tumblr post explores the nice guy's "friend zone" from the girl's perspective

    Western Animation 
  • Danny Phantom: Vlad Masters attitude towards Maddie. He believes having her as his wife is his right and resents Jack for stealing her from him. Of course, it's also made clear that he's more in love with the idea of being with Maddie than Maddie herself.
  • In Superman: The Animated Series, the Kryptonian criminal Mala is freed from The Phantom Zone by Superman because he believes that she had been Just Following Orders from her superior Jax-Ur and that her sentence had long been served. He teaches her to use her powers under a yellow sun like he has, and she naturally assumes that since they are the last two Kryptonians, she and Superman are mates. When she discovers that Superman is not interested in her and, instead, wants Lois Lane (a squishy human), she is disgusted and enraged and releases Jax-Ur... who turns out to also be her lover.
    Mala: You actually care for that... twig?
    Superman: I care for everybody. Although you're pushing it right now.
  • In the Wander over Yonder episode "The Hero" Brad Starlight thinks he's entitled to Demurra because she's a princess, he's a hero (or at least that's how he sees himself) and he takes fairy tale tropes way too seriously.
  • In Jem, the Stingers' lead singer Riot frequently insists that he is entitled to be with Jem and rationalizes that he'd treat her better than Rio. Riot's claims don't hold much water because while Rio tends to be hot-headed, Riot is an unapologetic Manipulative Bastard who will play anyone like a fiddle to get what he wants.
  • Miraculous Ladybug: All girls who have a crush on Adrien tends to have this attitude. Marinette often stalks Adrien and deliberately sabotages any girl who so much as looks at him. Chloé often refers to Adrien as her "boyfriend" despite Adrien clearly saying he thinks of her as a friend, often invades his personal space despite his obvious discomfort, and threatens any would-be romantic interests to stay away from him, this would gradually phase out starting in Season 2 and by Season 4 she would end her friendship with him altogether. Lila firmly believes that Adrien is rightfully hers and will fight anyone else for him. And Kagami, in season 3, affirms that Adrien is the only one "worthy of her", notably because she thinks they're similar. That's why she tried to slice Lila in two after being akumatized because of her jealousy of the latter. In season 4, Kagami will finally give up on this mindset and believe Marinette is a better match for Adrien.
    • Chat Noir just cannot take no for an answer when Ladybug says she's in love with someone else.
    • Nathaniel was this to Marinette, believing that she was leading him on when she stalled him to keep Chloé safe from harm.
  • Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles (2012): Shredder's mentality toward Tang Shen in a nutshell. His entire beef with Splinter is because he's pissed that Splinter took Shen away from him, despite the fact that, as Splinter points out, Shen was never his in the first place.
  • Catra in She-Ra and the Princesses of Power has this kind of attitude towards Adora. Chronologically, the warning signs started when she was a kid and scratched Adora's face because Adora dared to try and befriend someone other than Catra. It eventually escalates to the point of Catra attempting to control Adora's mind and make her murder her friends. She eventually grows out of this following Character Development and a Heel–Face Turn that begins with a Heroic Sacrifice to save Adora and one of her friends, helping stop Horde Prime and ultimately getting a Relationship Upgrade with Adora by the end of the series.

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