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Hammond: But you know, I should really be the one going.
Dr. Sattler: Why?
Hammond: Well, because you're a... and I'm a...
Dr. Sattler: Look, we can discuss sexism in survival situations when I get back.

When a character or the narrative insists that women must be barred from action and stay on the sidelines. Never mind if they might be far more capable than men, they're girls, and that's what counts!

Most straight examples of this trope were made several decades in the past. Nowadays, as a result of Values Dissonance, when this trope is invoked, this character is unlikely to be treated sympathetically for his opinion, if he isn't an outright Politically Incorrect Villain. He may get himself killed when his "protection" does more harm than good, get An Aesop from seeing the girls fight (if it's a one-episode affair), or have the women he's holding back label him as The Load and decide that they should Just Eat Gilligan. Occasionally, the chivalry will be played as sweet and more or less well-intentioned, but still comes off as misguided. Sometimes there will be an unfortunate Broken Aesop wherein our white knight is criticized for suggesting that the women should be protected, only for these particular women to prove that they really did need protecting.


This attitude is prevalent in the real world. The United States military, for example, officially barred women from direct combat until 2013 with The Dulcinea Effect as their reasoning, believing that male troops would be too distracted protecting their female squad members or turn into loose cannon killers if they got hurt, destroying their cohesiveness as a fighting force; they didn't allow women in combat zones at all until the 1990s. Women currently require roughly half of the physical requirements of men, but combat pushes even those men past their ability to contend with. In the Middle East, the male squadmates often must carry the females' packs on long patrols. Current and former female Marines and soldiers seem to approve of the military's consideration of possibly requiring female infantry to pass the male physical requirements.


When it comes to cultural bias, things are less pretty and there is no chivalry involved, especially if this stance comes from male fans judging female characters. Apart from the usual projection of one's own (bad) experience with women, male fans who use this trope contend that a woman just can't be as badass as a man, just can't achieve anything by herself and that women fighting each other looks too titillating and ridiculous to actually be taken seriously. In short, women's only acceptable behavior according to such fans is Extreme Doormat or else their impact on the story will always be negative.

Even with the plethora of anime and manga series with physically strong female leads, this trope is still seen in Japan, as old gender roles still linger. In the West, the prevalence of more conservative, old-fashioned social mores keeps the number of strong females low, although that is changing. The prevalence of the Girl-Show Ghetto also has its influences.

Remember that "Stay In The Kitchen" is a Non-Indicative Name; the trope deals not with demands that women cook, but with incidents where men attempt to belittle women (or, although quite rare, protect them) from danger by insisting that they stay uninvolved or only involve themselves on the periphery (and in doing so, act on the tacit assumption that women cannot protect themselves or fight competently). For the version directed at children or otherwise with the assumption that the person's age or experience rather than their gender makes them unequipped to deal with what the speaker is dealing with, see Most Definitely Not Accompanying Us. Subtrope of Men Act, Women Are.

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  • JoJo's Bizarre Adventure: Battle Tendency: Played Straight, albeit briefly, when Joseph offers to fight Kars in Lisa Lisa's place on the basis that she, despite being a skilled Hamon User and Joseph's teacher, is still a woman. After Lisa Lisa calmly calls him out on it, Joseph backs down and lets the fight continue.note 
    Lisa Lisa: I haven't lived my life so that a teenage brute has to stand up for me.
  • Tsubasa -RESERVoir CHRoNiCLE- by Syaoran of all people. Chunyan is left behind with Sakura, despite both having extremely powerful latent magic in a land where the three heroes have virtually none. Justified as, despite having great magical power, the girls have no idea how to use it: Chunyan's mother died before she finishes her training, and Sakura is kind of out of it as she has only retrieved two feathers at this time. Kurogane puts it best when he says, "You never know when she's rowing the boat or asleep at the oar." The boys, on the other hand, are all veterans in physical combat.
    • In a filler arc, where the group returns to Chunyan's country, an Amazon Brigade has started up.
  • FBI agent Raye Penber chides his fiancee (who used to be an agent as well) for getting too interested in his case in Death Note. She had left her job prior to the series, as the couple had apparently decided she should become a housewife after their marriage... but she was also clearly the better agent of the two and Penber would soon regret not listening to her.
    • To say the least. In a book that detailed a previous case she was involved in, she was so good she impressed L. Which makes her couple chapter appearance all the more annoying.
    • This is thankfully removed in the live-action movie adaptation, where Naomi warns him to be careful and not be reckless, and he merely playfully teases her about sounding hypocritical, as she used to go on dangerous missions with L a lot, but otherwise he doesn't seem to object to her interest in the case. Word of God is that she was Too Cool to Live- that she was "an obstacle that Light couldn't overcome at that time"- and was therefore grief-stricken with absolutely no luck.
  • Mazinger Z:
    • In the original TV series, Kouji Kabuto makes such comments in a semi-regular basis, mostly as (rather bad) jokes. Too bad for him that his girlfriend Sayaka is a hot-tempered Tsundere who won't have any of that, so she usually bitches him out or downright beats the shit out of him. And thankfully, it's taken out of newer continuities. The Irony of it is he is a pretty good cook and he is quite proud of it.
    • Great Mazinger: During Venus A's first battle he got in the way of Action Girl Jun Hono several times. In one of them, he stated, "Girls must not fight". The ironic -and frustrating- part is he intervened right when Jun was gaining the upper hand, and because of him, she was unable to defeat the Warrior Beast.
    • UFO Robo Grendizer: In the Gosaku Ota manga, when Kouji flew to make First Contact with the Vegans, Dr. Umon, Daisuke and Hikaru were watching it through a screen in the Laboratory. When the saucers tried to shoot Kouji down, Daisuke started yelling in pain. Hikaru offered to carry him to a bed, but Dr. Umon screamed: “You stay out of this, woman!”. In his defence, he was –understandably, given the circumstances- nervous and stressed, and he did not want her to discover Daisuke's secret, so maybe he would not say that in normal situations, but still… At least he never said anything like that in the Go Nagai manga and the anime series.
  • Martian Successor Nadesico:
    • The Jovian colonists have an all-male military, and while few of their women are shown it's heavily implied they follow this trope. The reason is that they based their society around Gekiganger 3, an old-school anime where the only major female character was The Chick.
    • In what could be considered a hilarious inversion of this trope, male lead Akito really, really wants to stay in the kitchen himself. And for his love interests to stay out of it.
  • Negima! Magister Negi Magi:
    • Early on Negi Springfield sort of had this attitude toward his students, although it's less sexism and more the fact that he believes it's his fault that they're in dangerous situations to begin with, which makes it his responsibility to protect them.
    • His father Nagi, however, seemingly played this straight. Princess Arika refused, and, he took her refusal on stride... and they both went to annihilate an enemy base.
      Eishun: Is this what you call a night out?!!
  • One of the more off-putting moments in Fist of the North Star comes in a conversation between Rei and his lover Mamiya. Rei orders Mamiya to stay out of battle, as that isn't a woman's purpose. Her response is that she's gone through enough trouble that she isn't a woman anymore. The counterargument from Rei? He shreds her clothes, and when she covers herself in shock, he asks why she's doing that if she isn't a woman. Rei was hardly intending on laying a hand on her and the context of the scene has to do with Mamiya worrying about being useless in a fight, and after this, she becomes genuinely useful in battle itself, rarely needing help except when greatly outnumbered or fighting an opponent who is completely exotic — and this is a woman without Ken or Rei's ridiculous training and martial arts style.
    • Interestingly, this was changed when the scene was adapted for the first Hokuto Musou/Ken's Rage video game, adding a scene where Toki assures Mamiya that Rei wasn't being sexist, but wanted to keep her safe out of love and narration from Rei that confirms this. What makes this notable is the original writer was in charge of what got included in the Pragmatic Adaptation of the story.
  • Berserk: Casca, being a female knight in Medieval European society, occasionally gets this treatment, especially from Adon, the leader of Tudor's Blue Whale Knights. Every time he and Casca fought, he would berate her for being a woman and threaten to have his men have their way with her (if he didn't take her first). Eventually, he gets killed by Casca. Guts also gives a speech to this effect to her once. At the time, she was having her period which got her to faint from exhaustion and got both of them to fall off a cliff as he tried to rescue her. Right after, he berates her by saying that a woman has nothing to do in war since it only took her PMS-ing to become incapacitated and that women's weaker and less enduring body was unsuitable for warfare. Casca being who she is, it doesn't work. Their ensuing Back-to-Back Badasses moment further proves him wrong and gets him to view her as a potential lover. However, among the Band of the Hawk, this trope is nowhere to be seen: Casca is the second-in-command of the entire mercenary group, and the men of the Band have nothing but respect for her both as a fighter and as a leader.
  • Simplar, in the s-CRY-ed manga Akira Mijyou leader of La Résistance gets something the same with her lover Hannish Lightning, despite the fact we have seen her take down dozens of HOLY solders and save the main character. Lightning then gets his ass kicked by a woman and has to be saved by Mijyou.
  • Not a straight example, as it was more "let's all kill Ban!" than "life-threatening fight," but Get Backers still has a funny example:
    Kazuki: Stay out of this, Himiko-san! You are a woman, after all!
    Himiko: What do you mean "after all," you cross-dresser?!
  • Shikamaru Nara of Naruto displays these tendencies at the beginning of the series, only bothering to fight in the final round of the Chuunin exams against Temari because Naruto shoved him into the arena with an encouraging slap to the back, and ends up forfeiting the match because he knows he's going to lose anyway and didn't want to bother with trying anymore. Temari later has to rescue him from yet another girl. He drops the attitude when Shippuden starts and seems to respect women more now. The implication is that he's actually afraid of women because of his parents. Ironically this has led to the fandom belief he will marry a girl like his mother. He ends up with Temari.
  • In the Sailor Moon anime, Jadeite (in the original Japanese version and the 2014 Viz Media English dub) makes a sexist remark directed at Sailors Moon, Mercury, and Mars, that girls are useless and can only run, scream, and cry, triggering their Berserk Button. They make a rather anvilicious speech about showing him what women can do and proceed to run him over with several airplanes that he had originally sent after them. He survives, though afterward Queen Beryl freezes him to death in a crystal for failing yet again to dispatch the trio. The incident is also an act of Bond Villain Stupidity on Beryl's part since he was about to reveal their names, and they could have been attacked while depowered.note 
  • Bleach: Orihime falls into this on occasion. Despite having immense Reality Warper powers, everybody except for Rukia and Chad is convinced that she should stay out of fights because she's not suited for battle. Which is true on one hand as she has a naturally gentle disposition and hates hurting even her enemies, but on the other hand, she's very good at defense when properly motivated (the strength of her powers depend on her willpower and state of mind). However, the one time she decided to interfere a fight and saved Ichigo's life, Ichigo told her "Thank you, but never do this again." but it was to have a 1-on-1 fight with Ulquiorra. Future attempts at taking a level in badass don't really amount to much, as she's immediately sidelined before being able to do anything beyond healing. However, she's taken more steps as being Ichigo's shield from Uryu's arrows and protect him at times, even marching up with him to get to Yhwach. In fact, Ichigo when about to finally fight Yhwach tells Orihime he's counting on her to protect him.
  • In Tegami Bachi: Letter Bee, Lag Seeing is initially unwilling to have Niche as his dingo partner, claiming that it's too dangerous for a girl her age, even if 1) having a dingo is necessary to take the exam and Lag has no alternatives in sight, 2) she fights well against the armor bugs, 3) he's only 12 himself while she is really two hundred years old and only looks like a child because she didn't experience the tremor of emotion that her sister did. He drops the attitude at the end of the arc in which he first expresses it, after recognizing that he couldn't have managed without her help.
  • Ranma ½'s eponymous character has this attitude towards his fiancee Akane, but only towards Akane —he has no problem with more skilled/more powerful Action Girls like Shampoo or Ukyou joining him on dangerous missions or training trips. Whether this is because he feels she would just get in his way (as he claims, vociferously) or because her relatively lower abilities (compared to the rest of the cast) make him sincerely worried about her is up for debate.
    • The manga and, more frequently, the anime, plays down this trope sometimes, leaving Ranma frustrated enough with Akane to try and leave her to her own devices against the current threat until his worry eventually makes him eat his words and come back to save her.
  • Surprisingly, Reborn! (2004)'s portrayal of women is quite often this (especially weird considering that the series' creator is a woman, and its target audience has changed to become women).
    • Kyoko, Haru, and I-Pin are shown to mainly just stay in the kitchen cooking and cleaning and doing the laundry for the men while the men go off to train and fight. And just when they get sick and tired of being lied to, and refuse to stay in the kitchen until the men at least tell them where they are, they get convinced by Bianchi and start feeling guilty that the men are completely incapable of taking care of their own health and food needs, and eventually reach the conclusion that they'll give up and go back to the kitchen (and if it weren't for Tsuna deciding to tell them anyways, they would've just continued on the same way as always).
    • Tsuna's mom who is rarely seen outside of the kitchen. Chrome too doesn't seem to be very strong despite being a guardian...Arguably, since the primary fanbase is women, they all want to see the cute boys act slashy with each other rather than the girls.
  • Gundam:
    • Mobile Suit Gundam Wing has Wufei who, thanks to the combination of a strict, traditional Chinese upbringing and a Freudian Excuse (his wife got killed in battle), is dismissive of female soldiers. This tends to get exaggerated in the fandom, and he does grow out of it relatively early on.
    • Yazan and his comments of not liking to see women on the battlefield for some unknown reason. This gets REALLY exaggerated in EU non-canon non-bandai games like Gundam Musou or SRW. All his in-battle quotes vs female pilots involve referring to them as schoolmarms, nurses, homemakers, or other such female-centric professions. Even against the heavy hitters like Haman, Puru Two, Roux, and Lunamaria, once beaten he derisively dismisses them and will occasionally quote the trope title at them. No Freudian Excuse though, he's just a hilariously over-the-top chauvinistic bully. Ah, if only Yazan could be in the same SRW as Gauron and Gates.
    • In Mobile Suit Gundam AGE, only one Federation pilot was a female, unfortunately, she was also the only female pilot to survive the series.
  • In the Sorcerer Hunters manga, Gateau takes this stance with his younger sister, Eclair, telling her that girls are cuter when they're being protected; this is more than a little jarring, considering that Eclair is (and has always been) the more talented and stronger of the two. On some occasions, she tries to accompany the team on missions, but Gateau refuses to allow it every time, even going as far as slapping her to make his point. Nobody comments on this, even though every woman in the manga is an Action Girl (with the possible exception of Salad). His attitude would be justified by the fact that she was kidnapped by series' main villain when they were younger, but the reason he kidnapped her and left him to die was because she was the stronger sibling and he wanted her to fight for his cause. Which she later did, willingly. On top of that, he had this attitude long before she ever went missing; a flashback shows him bringing her home after she beat the crap out of a guy who called her weak. He tells her she went too far and that if she doesn't act more feminine, no one will want to marry her. When she says it's too much trouble to depend on someone else and that she wants to be strong to protect her loved ones, he laughs at her.
  • Gender flipped in the Yozakura Quartet manga. As Hime and Kyousuke are trying to convince Akina to stay out of the fight, Hime tells Akina to stay in the kitchen, saying cooking and cleaning are more like him.
  • Fumio's boss tells Kenta that he personally thinks mothers should stay at home in the first volume of Karin.
  • Following his Face–Heel Turn and coming out of nowhere in a series with no shortage of prominent and very capable female characters, Justin tells Marie that although they're both Death Scythes hers is only "a woman's power" and therefore weaker. She quickly proves him wrong on that assumption by punching him into the air. Stein reasons that she might need his assistance on the basis that, unlike Marie, Justin became a Death Scythe without a meister but doesn't mention her sex at all.
  • Subverted with Nanami from Katanagatari. Her father refused to teach her Kyotoryuu and decided to make Shichika the next head of the Yasuri clan — not because she was a woman, and not because she was an Ill Girl, but because she was too powerful for him to properly train. Not that it mattered - she mastered Kyotoryuu anyway by simply watching her father train her brother.
  • Brave Series, full stop. While the guys have awesome adventures with their Humongous Mecha (who are also all men), girls are either The Chick or their mother. The only time we had a female Brave was in GaoGaiGar FINAL, which was an OVA for an older crowd.
  • The protagonist of Nagasarete Airantou, Ikuto, ends up cast away on an inescapable paradise island inhabited only by women. He refuses to adapt to circumstance and insists that it's the man's job to protect the women from the island's dangers, despite being significantly outnumbered and less strong, competent, and knowledgeable about the island than anyone else. As a result, he's constantly putting his own life in danger and consequently jeopardizing the colony's long-term survival prospects. Amusingly, he constantly gets the shit beaten out of him for this attitude. He can't seem to get over it, though, despite repeatedly being thrown all the way across the island because he took a blow for a girl.
  • Taken to nightmarish extremes in Shitsurakuen, in which the female students are "owned and protected" by the male students as part of the Exaclan game system as female students were unable to use the gloves required to duel. As a result they have no rights whatsoever and are utterly miserable and downtrodden as a result. Unfortunately it is anything but a Power Fantasy for most male students who duel as it eats away at their moral conscience at this unfair relationship.
  • In One Piece, one Marine officer suggests that Tsuru stay out of the battle with Whitebeard's forces. She indignantly responds that he's in no position to order her around and there's nowhere safe for her to go, and later is shown hanging some of Whitebeard's men out to dry like laundry. Literally. Messing with Tsuru is a mistake. Of course, it should be noted that this trope was probably not the reasoning behind that suggestion; after all, Hina, Tashigi, and a female member of the Giant Squad were all present and active in the battle as well. In Tsuru's case, it was likely more due to her advanced age and the fact that, unlike the cool old guys like Garp or Sengoku, she actually had an appropriately frail-looking appearance.
    • In Zoro's backstory, Kuina, the daughter of the head of the dojo, was vastly superior to Zoro, who was skilled enough to fight adults even back then, and seemed set to inherit the dojo. However, her father wouldn't allow it, saying that women couldn't be as strong as men. Zoro, infuriated by the idea that he'd only surpass Kuina just because she got weaker, made her promise that one of them would become the world's best swordsman. After Kuina died, leaving Zoro to fulfill their promise, Kuina's father regretted his attitude, suggesting in the anime that Kuina might have started to overcome her own limitations.
  • In Hetalia: Axis Powers, Austria makes a brief attempt to forbid Hungary from fighting off the Prussian army. He quickly lets her do what she wants when he sees how disturbingly determined she is to get Prussia's blood. In the anime, the dub of that episode makes a lot of jokes about Maria Theressa being queen and Prussia's belief that "chicks couldn't lead". There's an interesting inversion in a flashback of when Hungary realizes she's a woman. She comes to the conclusion that she should give up fighting and be content as Austria's maid, while Prussia tries to encourage her to stop wearing dresses and go hunting with him.
  • Crops up quite a lot in Princess Knight (which makes sense, as the series was made in The '50s and thus suffers from Values Dissonance). One notable example would be when someone must travel to the realm of Venus to get a potion to bring Sapphire back to life. Sapphires mother instantly volunteers only for Prince Franze to say, not unkindly, that she should stay in the castle and he ought to go because men were more naturally suited for adventuring. There are two inversions. No one seems to mind that lady knight Fiebe is participating in tournaments and fighting the king's soldiers (granted her sole reason for doing this is to get a strong husband to settle down with). Also, throughout the series, all the heroes decry the law stating that women couldn't rule as being misogynistic and outdated. Eventually even the immature Plastic grows a pair and gets the parliament to unanimously agree to abolish that law, before giving Sapphire the crown and telling her she deserves to rule no matter what her gender.
  • A variant is done in Red River (1995), where Ilbani tells Princess Alexandra that, Yuri aside, it wasn't proper for a noblewoman to go into battle. Given that he doesn't seem bothered by Yuri's three maids helping out with the fighting, apparently that philosophy doesn't necessarily extend to non-nobility.
  • In Moribito: Guardian of the Spirit, flashbacks show that Jiguro initially refused to train Balsa in because he thought women didn't have the muscles to fight. However, after he saw her reenact one of his battles for an audience, he changed his mind.
  • Rune Soldier Louie touches upon this twice:
    • This is self-imposed by the female mages of Ophun. When Jeanie and her friends come to Ophun in hopes of finding one to add to their travelling party, Ila and Louie explain that female mages in their town don't have the stomach for adventure and prefer to lock themselves away with their studies. Which is why Ila suggested they take Louie, instead (at 4:58-6:50).
    • Near the end of the 12th episode, Jeanie finally has it out with Louie for thinking he came back for her because she was a woman. Which struck a nerve since it reminded her of the time when her former comrade, Hector, sacrificed himself by staying behind so she wouldn't have to die. However, Farbe sets the record straight by explaining Hector had done it because he's secretly been in love with her. Not because she was a woman; thus, subverting the trope.
  • In the OVA Mega Man: Upon a Star, Roll tries to help but proves incompetent. Mega Man is only able to convince her to stop "helping" when she gets their only time machine destroyed. Interestingly, her gender isn't invoked - it's largely her lack of experience and her non-combat design. In a later episode, though, it is invoked when she tries to use powered armor to help out.
  • In The Seven Deadly Sins, in Jericho's backstory, her brother Gustaf told her to give up on her dreams of becoming a Holy Knight because she was a woman. Determined to prove him wrong, she succeeded in becoming a Holy Knight. Later, it's revealed that Gustaf truly cared about her and only said that because he was worried she would one day be killed.
  • In Street Fighter II: The Manga Politically Incorrect Villain Vega says this nearly word-for-word when fighting Action Girl Chun-Li.
  • Dragon Ball Z: Resurrection ‘F’ has a scene where Krillin tells his wife Android 18 to look after their daughter while he helps battle Freeza's invasion, in spite of the fact that 18 is far stronger (which she explicitly points out). However, this seems to be less about sexism and more Krillin viewing it as Something He's Got to Do Himself, since Freeza killed him on Namek. Later on in Dragon Ball Super he has absolutely no problem with 18 fighting, and the pair even become a Battle Couple during the Tournament of Power.
  • Played a bit in Fullmetal Alchemist when, by the start of the last arc, Edward tells Winry to stay at home and cook a pie for him once he is back. Then again, Winry can't fight like Riza, Olivier, Izumi or Lanfan, meaning that she would only be in danger if she decided to help him like she asked many times. He doesn't act the same way with the other mentioned women, probably because he knows they would completely beat him if he ever tried.
  • In I Married My Best Friend to Shut My Parents Up, the main character, Machi Morimoto, overhears her male boss talking about her with another man. While Machi's boss is impressed with her work, the other man proposes that her work instead be given to a man, since he believes that even if the man isn't as good, he won't end up quitting to get married and have children. Machi isn't all that put out, since she fully admits that she's only working to support herself, but as a result of her "marriage" with Hana, she gradually becomes assertive enough to take on more work.
  • In Sengoku Komachi Kurou Tan, Shizuko faces some early problems as the men in the village she is appointed to lead initially object to the idea of following a girl's orders, but quickly change their tune when her methods bear fruit. Some of Nobunaga's vassals also express their displeasure with her (whether its making use of her ideas or bringing her to the battlefield) until Nobunaga gets angry with them over the matter.
  • The Genius Prince's Guide to Raising a Nation Out of Debt (Hey, How About Treason?): Despite the Earthworld Empire being accepting of all ethnicities, women still face discrimination in politics. This is deconstructed because the emperor didn't name an heir among his incompetent sons or his competent daughter, making the empire's instability worse after his death.

    Comic Books 
  • Captain America (yes, he of the Politically Correct History) expresses this sentiment in Marvel Adventures: Super Heroes #8 after both him and a female Intrepid Reporter get in each other's way while pursuing a disguised Nazi, telling her that if she really wants to help the war effort, there's plenty of sewing for her to do. The comic ends with An Aesop that all great people are flawed, but the good that they do outshines their imperfections.
  • Preacher:
    • This is one of the main character flaws of Jesse Custer and a large source of friction between him and his capable, gun-toting girlfriend. This started when he saw her get shot in the head. It's portrayed more because he loves her and is afraid of her getting hurt, not because she's a girl. On the other hand, when a horse thief says that where he comes from "whores" know their place and stay out of men's business, Jesse unhesitatingly kicks him in the crotch.
    • Herr Starr subverts in the beginning when he exhorts German Special Forces to always shoot female terrorists first because any woman who gets picked for that kind of work in the sexist, male-dominated world of international terrorism will always be far tougher, stronger and more fanatical than her male counterparts. This attitude was Truth in Television.
  • In the graphic novel Bone, Fone Bone tries to allocate chores as Thorn (the girl) does dishes, Fone Bone chops wood. Because, after all, chopping wood is a "manly" job. Unfortunately, he's not tall enough or heavy enough to even get the axe out of the chopping block, and as he's hanging from it, realizing this. He never pulls this trope again. (However, the only reason he tried this in the first place was so he can impress Thorn.)
    Thorn: What sort of manly activity is that?
    Fone Bone: Chin-ups! Go do th' dishes!
  • ElfQuest:
    • Shortly after the "barbaric" Wolfrider elves settle into the home of the more civilized Sun Folk elves, the two tribes learn of an approaching stampede of dumb but powerful horse-like Zwoots. The Sun Folk plan to hide in the caves until the stampede is over, but the Wolfriders decide to turn the stampede so that it avoids damaging the village. When Leetah spots petite Dewshine heading out to join the other Wolfriders, she objects.
      Leetah: But it is not a maiden's place to—
      Dewshine: What? Why not?
      [Leetah can't come up with a good answer]
      Dewshine: Don't you know your own mind about anything?
    • The Wolfriders themselves had a policy of employing males-only war parties under Bearclaw's leadership, which wasn't sexism in action, but their chieftain's pragmatic realization that his tribe was so diminished, it couldn't afford to lose any more "life-bearers" for fear of extinction.
  • Fantastic Four:
    • Reed Richards was like this with Sue for a while after their son Franklin was born. He would insist that she stay behind on more dangerous missions, on the grounds that she was "the mother of my child". This didn't last long (Sue put her foot down), and it was specific to Sue — he had no problem with the female Crystal or Medusa taking her place on such occasions. His worst moment being his infamous "Wives should be kissed, and not heard" line.
    • "The Micro World of Doctor Doom!" has Doom plot to have lizard people enslave the Fantastic Four. He tells the heroes that the lizard people would force Reed to do research, Johnny to help burn cities, Ben to work in the mines, and Sue to... cook everyone's meals.
  • The Life and Times of Scrooge McDuck:
    • Chapter 5 "The Laird of Castle McDuck:" Scrooge is called home to help his family protect their ancestral castle from their rivals, the Whiskervilles. He arrives just as his Fiery Redhead sister Hortense is singlehandedly sending the would-be intruders running for their lives. Cue his father, with no commentary on the idiocy of this plan, telling his uncle to take the women home for their safety... including Hortense! Most likely a combination of Deliberate Values Dissonance and Rule of Funny.
    • "The Sharpie of Culebra Cut:" President Roosevelt repeatedly attempts this on Scrooge's sisters, and Hortense just as repeatedly disagrees.
  • Asterix:
    • In Asterix and Son, Impedimenta is told to "get back to your pots and pans, woman." She promptly smashes the offending Roman over the head with a pan.
    • This is also a central theme in Asterix and the Secret Weapon when the village calls for a new bard to improve the education of their children. They get Bravura, an independent woman who bucks social norms by wearing breeches as well as taking up a traditionally male career. Needless to say, the male inhabitants of the village are equal parts amused and irritated, especially when Bravura starts to influence their wives into becoming more proactive.
  • Legion of Super-Heroes has a couple of notorious '60s stories in which Brainiac 5 tries to tell Saturn Girl that the mission of the day is "too dangerous for a girl." The first time she goes along with it; the second time she insists on taking her chances along with everybody else, and the subject never comes up again.
  • Ms. Marvel:
    • In her earliest stories, Carol Danvers got this treatment from J. Jonah Jameson, who, as her boss, was something of a strawman misogynist.
    • Carol's father also seemed fond of this trope, telling her that the whole reason he refused to send her to college, sending one of her less academically minded brothers instead, was because as a woman Carol was supposedly too weak and fragile to handle college and a career in the real world and told her the best thing for her to do was just marry some random Nice Guy and let him take care of her. Naturally, Carol rejected this foolishness and joined the military, which ultimately led to her becoming a superhero.
  • Batman:
    • In a comic story from the 1940s, Robin imagines what would happen if Batman were to marry Kathy Kane, the original Batwoman. Robin, insecure about his place with Bruce, imagines Batman believing in this trope to make himself feel better.
    • This was the motivation for the "Dumpster Killer(s)" who Batman dealt with in several issues from the 1980s. They felt that feminism was making women act above their station in life, so they killed and mutilated them to send them a message. Or they were just jerks.
  • A Superman comic called "Mrs. Superman" features Lois Lane going into a coma and dreaming that she is married to Superman. The real Superman, in the hospital room watching her sleep, makes a suggestion that she left her job to marry him and was replaced by Lulu Lyons, whom Clark invented to make her jealous and wake up from the dream.
  • In issue 14 of Pocket God, Ooga suggests the girls should stay put while the boys search the jungle for supplies. Kinsee points out how sexist that is, but Ooga justifies it by arguing that since the since girls lost their Jewel of Life, they can't risk dying or else they'll be dead for good.
  • Supergirl traveled to a misogynist planet, Torma, in "The Heroine Haters" from Adventure Comics #384 (Sept. 1969). On Torma, women were raised to believe that they were inferior to men and fit only to serve them because a misogynist "Visitor" had zapped them with a brainwashing "suppressor beam," and each subsequent generation indoctrinated the girls to be subservient to men, who would never accept a superheroine. Supergirl visits a home where the wife brings a tray of food and the husband tells her "Return to the food preparation center now." She bows meekly and obeys. Supergirl resolves to fight this sexism and show these people what a woman can do, and soon after a Torman superheroine, inspired by her example, rises and carries on fighting misogyny.
  • Played for drama in the Astro City story, "Her Dark Plastic Roots". The robot Beautie discovers that she was invented by a prodigy daughter of a Gadgeteer Genius. However, he denounces Beautie because he thinks engineering and mathematics are not proper fields for girls; this causes the daughter to angrily renounce Beautie, ordering her to go away and "FORGET FOREVER!"
  • This is the attitude of Kang the Conqueror's soldiers from the far-advanced future in Marvel Comics.
    Were twentieth-century men so foolhardy as to allow powerless women to join them in battle? No wonder we now call their century "The Age of Unreason"!
  • Castlevania: The Belmont Legacy subverts this when Christopher tells his wife Illyana to stay behind in their castle, while he and his companions go confront Dracula. However, it has less to do with her being a woman and more with him being worried about her safety, considering one of his companions Pascha is a young woman and very capable of taking care of herself while Illyana herself... Isn't.
  • Wonder Woman:
    • Steve Trevor occasionally spouted this viewpoint in the Golden Age, though conveniently only when it would be best for him and Diana if "Diana Prince" was out of the picture for the moment so Wonder Woman could arrive and help save the day. He never took issue with Wonder Woman, Etta Candy, the Holliday Girls or any other women jumping into a fight so it's unlikely he actually felt this way.
    • Vol 1: When Robert Kanigher took over writing duties following Marston's death Steve started spouting this viewpoint at least three times an issue to and about every and any woman on the planet, including Wonder Woman, as whatever he was headed out to do was suddenly always "no job for a woman". He tended to be outright downgrading and insulting towards "Diana Prince" and Etta Candy despite having worked well with them before and only trying to exclude Diana, who in that identity supposedly had no fighting abilities, when going into a fight.
  • Wonder Girl Vol. 1: This view is espoused by the talk show host ranting about the then-recent events of the universally reviled Amazons Attack!. In their own words "Women should be tending to hearth and home—not invading the capital and slaughtering innocents!"

    Comic Strips 
  • One of the reasons Anthony's marriage to Therese in For Better or for Worse failed is that he somehow expected her to do this trope and give up her highly successful career in finance after the birth of their daughter...and is completely shocked that she went back to her career. This being For Better or For Worse, though, we're supposed to see Therese as the bad guy. (What makes it worse is that Anthony promised to be the House Husband when he convinced Therese to get pregnant, and more or less went back on his word after her birth to chase after Liz.)
    • Liz had a more traditionally female career of teaching, and her sister-in-law Deanna gave up her career as a pharmacist to — get this — run a sewing school.
    • This is Played for Laughs in an earlier storyline, where the family visits relatives on a farm. The relatives' neighbor is a farmer with rather old-fashioned values, and at one point the aunt tells Elly that he doesn't think women are intelligent enough for good conversation and that their place is in the kitchen. The last panel shows the farmer dully commenting to John and the uncle on how it looks like rain. Another comic has Elly drive a tractor out to the fields. She reflects how easy, carefree, and fun the job is. The last panel has the farmer interrupting her, telling her "You get on home now, little lady. This here is men's work."
  • In Blondie, Dagwood at first objected furiously to Blondie starting her own catering business, as he was opposed to her working; he changed his mind quickly once she told him her predicted profit margin and realized he could help inspect what she made for her inventory.
  • A Biggles comic book set in modern times had the all-British hero declaring there's a place for skirts. In the end, he recants this sexist statement as his female sidekick has proved her pushing a single button. Admittedly it was the Big Red Button to activate the Self-Destruct Mechanism of the Supervillain Lair, but still...

    Fan Works 
  • Avatar: The Abridged Series:
    • Said almost word for word by Master Pakku to Katara (in a hilarious Scottish accent) "Now either learn to heal or get in the kitchen and MAKE SOME BABIES!"
    • Later, as she obviously wants to be involved in the fighting, he explains that in RPG conventions, girls are always healers, so he tells her to "Get in the back row and cast some bloody cure spells!" She doesn't take that kindly.
  • An accusation leveled at Undocumented Features is that, regardless of their status in their canon series, women are almost always pushed into secondary roles while the men do all the fighting. "Justice and Mercy", in particular, is notorious for opening with Kei and Eiko being practically '50s sitcom wives.
  • A Crown of Stars: In chapter 74 Shinji tries to convince Asuka into stay behind as he fights because he is frightened of her dying. Consider that Asuka has been training for longer, she is their Transforming Mecha main pilot and -both know- she is a better pilot and soldier than him and you will fully get how dumb that was. Of course, Asuka takes it as good and readily as you would expect, and both sortie.
  • Elisif the Dragon-Queen:
    • Following the Battle of Whiterun, Jarl Balgruuf expresses disapproval towards Elisif upon learning that she actually took part in the battle herself, telling her that she was supposed to just give a Rousing Speech and then retreat to safety. Though this has less to do with Elisif being a woman and more to do with the fact that she is Skyrim's acting High Queen, and without an heir, her death would throw Skyrim into a Succession Crisis.
    • Deconstructed. It's later revealed that Torygg deliberately kept his wife Elisif out of political matters because he wanted to "protect" her and didn't feel that she needed to do any work of her own as his queen. When Elisif is forced to become High Queen after Torygg is killed by Ulfric, she is completely unprepared for running a kingdom because she never learned how.
  • Fallout: Equestria: Stable 24 did this, presumably as part of a traditional bizarre social experiment. It starts with Littlepip being surprised that there's an Overstallion instead of an Overmare, and Calamity being insulted that she doesn't think stallions should be allowed to be in charge. It quickly becomes apparent that this is the least of the Stable's problems; every position of any real power is explicitly filled by stallions, the few positions that mares are allowed to hold (such as teacher) require them to get help from stallions for basically anything, and the entire Stable is filled with propaganda posters of powerful stallions protecting cowering mares from anything and everything, culminating in a leaky faucet.
  • Frigid Wings and Burning Hearts: Chapter 3 has Big Macintosh tell Twilight Sparkle (who knows magic and is considerably better-educated than he is) to go help Apple Bloom with the cooking while he patches up Luna's wounds. Later, when the Royal Guard attack, he tells her to run for the Element of Harmony upstairs while he holds them off... even though she can teleport, meaning there shouldn't have to be any fighting at all. This is just the beginning of a very unpleasant trend.
  • As an old-fashioned world, the magicals of Harry Potter can be given this view, at least the purebloods and other jerks. While pureblood females are generally accepting of this policy in fanon, many a Ron have found out telling Hermione this is a good way to get hurt.
    • The Last War takes it into the realms of unintentional parody by not only having Hermione spend the entire first chapter navel-gazing about the No Woman's Land that LoPEF's version of the wizarding world apparently is, but this happening (for lack of a better term) in her actual kitchen.
    • A common complaint about Dumbledore's Army and the Year of Darkness is that Ginny, who was heavily implied to be the leader of the DA when Harry was absent in canon, spends the majority of the story in the background, following Neville's orders. The other two "spotlight" DA women, Hannah and Susan, are entirely defined by their roles as love interests. That's still better than what happens to Lavender, whose only purpose in the plot is being raped.
  • Memoirs of a Master has a moment when Shifu's dear female friend, Song, insists on accompanying their friend, Zigsa, in getting villagers to safety rather joining the upcoming battle. Shifu confesses in his memoirs that he was secretly glad she did that because the thought of Song being captured and carried off by a Mongol in the battle was too horrifying to contemplate. However, he does know how insulted Song would take that notion.
  • In Xenophilia, two instances of the gender-flipped version crop out. One is demonstrated when the human Lero mentions offhandedly that he had a mare ask him why he wasn't following this trope and Rainbow Dash (who he had just started dated), Twilight Sparkle and Applejack are completely livid. Later it's shown that this attitude can be manipulated when a stallion named Chuck Wagon deliberately picks a fight with Lero by insulting Twilight and Dash, planning on sitting back and letting one of his mares fight with Dash and Twilight. Needless to say, this isn't well-received by Lero, who proceeds to prove that he can take care of himself without hurting anyone by Neck Lift-ing Chuck Wagon's unicorn wife before she can cast a spell and scaring the stallion shitless in the process.
  • The Prayer Warriors makes it clear on many occasions that a woman's place is in the kitchen or in other feminine duties, rather than on the front lines of battle. Interestingly enough, this also ends up being a Broken Aesop, as the women are actually fairly capable when they're allowed to fight (In Battle With the Witches, Ebony gets three out of four of the keys- killing Harry Potter and Ron Weasley, and converting Hermione- while by contrast, Michael gets his off Ebony's corpse after she's killed by Hogwarts, thwarting his attempt use her to get close to Dumbledore).
  • In Mega Man Reawakened, Roll encounters this at first due to the others thinking it's too dangerous for her, but Robert allows her to go fight.
  • In Mega Man Recut, this is much more pronounced than in the Mega Man cartoon, where it only happened in the earliest episodes. Here, it's ongoing as far in as Cold Steel, and feeds Roll's insecurities and wanting to prove herself no matter what.
  • This is seen in early episodes of Mega Man: Defender of the Human Race, but it faded when Roll confronted her family about it.
  • In Eroninja, some of the kunoichi bitterly reflect that the reserve forces are jokingly called the "United Mom Alliance" because when a kunoichi gets pregnant (especially with a shinobi), she's expected to retire so her child doesn't lose both parents to missions gone bad. Though at least some try to justify this that one parent should retire, and the mother is going to be out of action for months anyway so it's more logical for her to retire than the father.
  • Vegeta maintains this attitude around Android 18 during their fight in Dragon Ball Z Abridged. By the time it gets to him calling her a "smug cunt", he's practically asking for 18 to apply her boot to his arm and break it. So she does.
  • In Sword Art Online Abridged, Grimlock states that Griselda not adhering to this trope is a valid reason for killing her that any man would agree with. Long story short, even Kirito was disgusted.
  • Bel is quite disgruntled by Terasu Sawada learning to fight in Death's Gambit, as he was raised with the patriarchal ideology that a man is the protector of his family, and if the women were forced to fight it meant the first line of defense had failed. To his credit, he doesn't forbid Terasu to train her fighting abilities, he just thinks she shouldn't have to fight and so decides to help Tsuna to improve his own fighting abilities.
  • Girls at the Assassins' Guild School in the Discworld still get this attitude from male peers who are either slow to catch up, or else from countries with more socially conservative values. Miriam bint-Alhazred makes a point of confounding the expectations of her Klatchian male peers - and on her return home to Klatch, learns to exploit the chauvanism of her male peers to her advantage. Male students from Rimwards Howondaland also tend to have an expectation of women - that they are expected to confine themselves to the kitchen, child-rearing, and Church attendance. For most of them, this attitude tends not to survive the first encounter with women of the Smith-Rhodes family. The tales of A.A. Pessimal expand on this idea.
  • Somos Familia: When Hector returns to his family, the soon-to-be-retired shoemaker who's teaching them his trade expects him to relegate Imelda to housewife duties. Hector instead gives the shoemaker a "The Reason You Suck" Speech.
  • The Jorgenson clan is adamant to have Astrid marry Snotlout in Lost Boy as a means to take away her status as a shieldmaiden. They do this because they know that she could easily beat Snotlout as her generation's best fighter, hoping to use their political standing to essentially allow Snotlout to cheat his way to the top.
  • A Prize for Three Empires: Carol Danvers' father Joe didn't take well when his daughter declared she was going to join the Air Force instead of becoming a housewife. He protested, but Carol didn't budge an inch and was backed by her mother, so he was left with no other choice but to accept it.
    And not even Carol, his favorite, could convince him to spend the money on a college education. Her grades were good enough. Her test scores were high enough to have some schools sending her brochures asking them to consider spending four years worth of time and tuition money with them, and even offering some incentives in the way of scholarships.
    Joe wouldn't have it. Sure, he'd taught Carol to fight. He'd taught all his kids to fight. That didn't mean she wasn't supposed to be a lady, and a lady's place was in the home, not acting like some harlot on a movie screen or in Vogue or being some spinster career girl. She was going to get married, and that was that. No sense in spending tuition money when she could have her pick of men right there in Boston. But, he said, she could go to secretarial school, or learn to be a nurse. Those were useful things.
    So she went and joined the Air Force.
  • In X-Men 1970, Scott believes he can get his wife stay in home while he takes cares of an emergency, but Jean disabuses him from that notion very, very quickly (and loudly).
    She began to get out of bed on the other side. "I'm coming with you, Scott."
    "No, you're not," he said, heading for the closet.
    A second later, he found himself lifted off the floor and propelled backward. "Don't you ever tell me 'No, you're not!' about something like this, Scott Summers. I mean it!"
    "Jeannie, this could be dangerous!"
    "And Magneto wasn't? Or Sauron, or Quasimodo, or the Brotherhood of Evil Mutants, or any of those others?" She walked over to face him, still holding him six inches off the ground. "Well?"
    "Damnation," he said. "All right. But..."
    "But what?"
    "Where do you have our uniforms?"
    "I'll go get them," she smiled, and lowered him to the ground as she went to the dresser.
  • Son of the Sannin It's mentioned during Asuma and Kurenai's wedding reception that this was a common attitude during the Warring State Period, as women were often barred from participating in battle so they could produce and raise the children due to the high mortality rate. This mostly died down with the founding of the Village System since the lower death toll meant that constantly replacing dead troops didn't become as high a priority.
  • Rocketship Voyager is Star Trek: Voyager written In the Style of... a 1950's sci-fi pulp. Captain Janeway is proud of coming from a long tradition of female space explorers, as the first astronauts were women due to weight restrictions, and even after more powerful atomic rockets were invented married couples were preferred for emotional stability on space voyages that could last years. However social mores are changing as Humanity moves from exploration to colonization requiring women to return to being childbearers, and a UN committee has recommended that only men be accepted to command rank due to their "natural authority".
    'Natural authority! That's what happens when men are raised in community crèches by robots, instead of at home by their mothers,' Janeway thought bitterly.
  • It happens in Shazam' story Here There Be Monsters when Ibis visits Jim and Susan Barr -formerly known as Bulletman and Bulletgirl- to talk them into rejoining the Squadron of Justice for one mission. Jim makes clear he does not want to perform heroics again, let alone allow his wife to risk her life. Very angrily'', Susan reminds him it is not his decision. Jim tries to talk her out of it again, but he wisely ends up relenting.
    Bulletman: "In case you've forgotten, Susan, you're a wife and mother now. My wife, Jimmy's mother. We stopped wearing the helmets and costumes six years ago. I won't have you gallivanting around—"
    Bulletgirl: "You won't? Mr. Jim Barr, in case you've forgotten, I agreed to be your wife, not your bondservant. I'm also not employed full-time. If I want to put on the suit again, I'll damned well do it. If the guys we used to fight before are loose again, I think we have a responsibility to put them back."
  • Deborah's father in Junior Officers. His wife had to stop working after she married him, and he forced his daughter to quit her part-time job so she would be home to make dinner (that, and because her boss was a tiger).

    Films — Animation 
  • Portrayed semi-sympathetically while being deconstructed in The Incredibles, just before the final battle with the Omnidroid. Mr. Incredible's reason isn't that he thinks his wife can't fight, but that he isn't strong enough... to lose her or the kids again (as he thought they'd been killed earlier in the film). Violet and Helen still fight anyway.
  • In Disney's Beauty and the Beast, Gaston makes it quite clear that his dream marriage with Belle includes her having "six or seven" sons with him, massaging his feet, and no reading. This is taken one step further in his song in the musical ("Me"), in which he sings that women "occasionally" serve a purpose in marriage, specifically "extending the family tree". He's clearly portrayed as a villain because of this.
  • This is the entire driving force behind Mulan. First, Mulan is considered a complete screw-up because she fails at her session with the matchmaker and thus seems unlikely to be married. Then she is nearly killed for disguising herself as a boy and fighting in the army. She wins the respect of everyone by the film's end (though her female relatives still believe in this trope and care less about the fact that she saved the country than the fact that she incidentally caught the eye of a suitor more to her liking than any of the local boys while doing so) and the sequel has her serving as a warrior for the Emperor again, this time openly as a woman. This is encapsulated in the song "Honor to Us All", which lays out what that period thought the proper jobs for women should be, mainly getting a good marriage and being "calm, obedient, and work fast-paced". One part of the song also has how men should serve the Emperor by fighting, while women should do their duty by giving birth to sons.
  • In The Book of Life, Maria sarcastically brings this idea up when discussing a hypothetical marriage to Joaquin with him. He's too preoccupied with her looks to notice her disdain for what she's saying and unknowingly agrees with her, which briefly drives her off.

    Films — Live-Action 
  • Near the end of Demolition Man, John Spartan is so determined on going to confront Simon Phoenix alone that he actually knocks out Huxley out with a stun-stick in order to prevent her from following him. Nevermind the fact that she has proven her value to him many times over, including in a fight just a few minutes earlier where she beat up mooks with her martial arts skills and saved Spartan's life by shooting one who was about to kill him. This was later ridiculed by The Nostalgia Critic in his review of the film, going as far as to put together a compilation of all the things Huxley could have done to help Spartan in the final battle when he's getting pummeled. To Spartan's credit, being wrongly incarcerated over the death of a hostage can make it quite personal and several scènes have developed the animosity between him and Phoenix.
  • This happens in '70s martial arts/blaxploitation flick Black Belt Jones when the title character is called for help during a dinner date and love interest Sydney asks to go with him. He refuses, suggesting that she should stay and "do the dishes" instead. Sydney responds by picking up a revolver, and "doing the dishes" with hot lead, convincing Jones to let her help.
  • Played straight in Plan 9 from Outer Space. A woman alien berates us Earthlings for our evil and is pushed aside by her husband, who tells her that there are roles for women and roles for men.
  • Turns up in Jurassic Park when John Hammond tries to argue that he should go on a dangerous mission to turn the power back on instead of Dr. Ellie Sattler. Especially ridiculous as Hammond is an 80-year-old fragile old man, while Dr. Sattler is a young, fit woman who lives in the Montana badlands digging up dinosaur bones with Dr. Grant. This is also more a case of Hammond having a bit of Values Dissonance than him being an asshole, at least in the movie (the greedy, amoral Hammond of the book wouldn't even make the offer). The Nostalgia Critic review had Doug Walker point out how it's funny that Hammond is confusing strength with gender when most of the creatures on the island trying to kill him have a vagina (since the park bred the dinosaurs as female to avoid breeding).
  • Subverted with Mina Harker from The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen. Even while everyone on the team knew that she is an immortal vampire, she is not allowed to hunt Mr. Hyde because Allan Quartermain tells her that she is a woman (or the film-makers wanted to show how badass Sean Connery was). Fortunately, everyone forgets this trope from Venice and on. Well, everyone except for Tom Sawyer, but he is overconfident in himself. Mina is also clearly disgusted at being left behind during the fight with Mr. Hyde, mockingly repeating Quatermain's words "It's far too dangerous for a woman, even one such as yourself!" Justified, given that Venice was the point in the film when everyone realized that they all had to pitch in if they wanted to survive.
  • Inverted in the classic 1954 monster movie Them! The military gasses the nest of giant killer ants; the next stage is for someone to go down into the nest and confirm they're all dead. This is universally recognized as a very bad idea, yet Hot Scientist Dr. Pat Medford argues firmly and convincingly that she has to go down into the nest because the only other expert they have (her father) is physically incapable of doing so and she can't give the two male leads "a crash course in entomology".
  • Clash of the Titans: Perseus has decided to travel to the Stygian Witches to obtain information so he can save Princess Andromeda.
    Andromeda: We will ride with you as far as their shrine. It is a long and perilous journey.
    Perseus: Too perilous for a princess.
    Andromeda: You are not my lord and husband. Not yet. In the absence of the queen, it is I who command. Herald?
    Herald: Your Highness.
    Andromeda: Return to the city. Inform the queen we are riding as escort to Prince Perseus.
  • In Robot Monster, Ro-Man wants to see the daughter of the family to negotiate. She's actually tied up to prevent her from leaving.
  • In Airplane II: The Sequel, Elaine's fiance is adamant that Elaine is going to give up her stewardess career after their wedding and start making babies instead, despite her own wishes. This is the first hint that we're not supposed to like him.
  • Pan Am offers passenger service to low Earth orbit and the Moon in 2001: A Space Odyssey, but the flight crews are all men and the flight attendants are all women (which was the case in the commercial airline industry in 1968, when the movie was made.)
  • Discussed in Advantageous:
    Gwen: Am I too old, to be of use?
    David: What are you talking about Gwen?
    Gwen: So many women are out of work. Some are in real trouble.
    David: ...To be frank, there is talk among recruiters about letting women stay unemployed and well, return to the home. The perception is it's safer than putting millions of desperate men on the street.
  • The Shirley Temple film Susannah of the Mounties provides a weird example. The only adult female character, played by Margaret Lockwood, is repeatedly told that it's too dangerous for a woman on this frontier outpost and she should go back home to Toronto. Meanwhile, Shirley Temple's character is a child in addition to being female, but everyone is totally fine with her being there.
  • In the 1923 silent Western The Covered Wagon, it's actually our hero, Will, who tells Molly that she can't ride his horse because "he's not safe for a woman." Meanwhile, it's the bad guy, Sam, who encourages her to "show him you can ride any horse." Naturally, this doesn't work out for her, and Will has to ride to her rescue.
  • Near the climax of The Matrix, when Neo sets out to rescue Morpheus, Trinity insists on going with him, only for him to refuse. She tells him in no uncertain terms that Morpheus is important to her, that he needs her help and that with Morpheus gone, she outranks Neo, so her insistence on coming along is an order. Neo promptly shuts up and lets her come with him.
  • Similarly, near the climax of The Matrix Reloaded, Neo asks Trinity to stay behind, having seen a premonition of her death. Trinity ends up having to go in after one of the teams failed to carry out their mission, since their failure would have resulted in Morpheus, Neo and the Keymaker's deaths if she hadn't done anything. Trinity gets fatally shot by an Agent, as Neo predicted, but Neo saves her.
  • Somewhat downplayed, but present in Captain Marvel. No one in the present day doubts Vers's skill, with those trying to keep her down doing so because they fear her power, not because of her gender, but any of her flashbacks not focused on plot-information instead focus on sexism she faced from her childhood up to serving in the Air Force.
  • Wonder Woman: At the military summit, Diana is continuously treated as if she were a child interrupting adult business, with the generals alternating between offense and amusement at a woman being present.
  • The Secrets: Ultra-Orthodox men don't believe women have any role outside the home, which the women who have aspirations of being rabbis are fighting against.

  • The Dar Williams song, "The Babysitter's Here", is about a young girl and her hippie babysitter, who has a boyfriend named Tom with this attitude. The girl asks Tom if they'll get married and he replies, "Not if she's going to college, we won't." Later in the song, the teary-eyed babysitter asks the girl to never date a guy who would make her choose, revealing that she broke up with Tom and is going away to college.
  • Ray Charles' "I Got a Woman" includes the line "She knows a woman's place is right there now in her home!"
  • No Doubt's "Just a Girl" uses dripping sarcasm regarding women being patronized as weak and worthless ("'Cause I'm just a girl, little ol' me / Well don't let me out of your sight / Oh, I'm just a girl, all pretty and petite / So don't let me have any rights").

    Pro Wrestling 
  • Tammy Lynn Sytch had not been shy about her belief that women shouldn't be wrestlers, despite having participated in several matches during her brief stay in SMW and proving she even had the potential to be decent in her few WCW matches. In 2007, she had a change of heart and began training more seriously in order to prevent Alicia and Becky Bayless from making a mockery of WSU during it's transition to being an all-women company and began using her Ring of Honor appearances to promote Daizee Haze, Sara Del Rey and The Lovely Lacey, who she deemed worthy representatives of the sport (which really irked Lacey).
  • Several female wrestlers throughout the history of the WWE, such as Chyna or Beth Phoenix, have attempted to fight this attitude, which is pervasive in both the company and the fanbase. Chyna had a lot of success with this, winning several matches against male competitors and even having a run with the Intercontinental Championship, as well as defeating Jeff Jarrett, who at the time was playing up a sexist gimmick, in a match that ended up actually being Jarrett's swansong with the WWF. Beth was less successful at breaching the gender barrier, but she did have a couple of memorable runs in the company's annual Royal Rumble match.
  • Because of this mentality, the WWE rules from the Brand Extension onwards indicate that any male wrestler who even attempts to attack a female wrestler during a fight is disqualified. Naturally, no such rule exists in reverse, nor does this prevent women and men from being in an altercation where the man isn't allowed to fight back, or he's an asshole.
    • This gets even more creepy in the video games, the later versions of which have gone to extreme lengths to enforce this. The prime example? Not only is the instant-DQ rule in Mixed Tag matches strictly enforced, but they are the only type of match in the game that cannot be set as no-disqualifications. Additionally, certain Create A Storyline scenes are gender-restricted, including any scene that shows violence between a male and a female.
    • The game series is strange in itself because, while barring hitting a female wrestler has always been present, only the most recent three games or so (starting in 2010) have enforced the above instant DQ rule. In the older games, male and female wrestlers could actually fight normally, one-on-one, no restrictions. Yes, you could actually have Kelly Kelly fight The Undertaker in the 2005 game, but for the second decade of the 2000s, you can't.
  • Little Jeanne regretfully felt she had to fight Ashley America in Valkyrie Women's Wrestling over their difference in opinion, having worked her whole career to create more opportunities for women just to see Ashley come behind her and use those opportunities to try and undo Jeanne's work.


    Tabletop Games 
  • Traveller:
    • In the Sword Worlds most woman do this except for the more eccentric ones. The Sword Worlds are a blatantly patriarchal society though not as extreme as some in this regard. Swordworlders almost worship homes and consider hearthfires sacred symbols. The housewife is considered the family priestess among them. They are also expected to be informal diplomats and find face-savers for times when Honor conflicts too much with Reason.
    • Among Aslan is a possible inversion. The women ideally do every job except those which have to do with war, politics, and tending a ranch. This is because Aslan believes that A Real Man Is a Killer.
    • K'kree are both more simplistic in their philosophy of the proper treatment of woman and more extreme than either Sword Worlders or Aslan. The only purpose of females among them is simply to adore the males.
    • Baseline Imperial Culture from which most PCs will come is theoretically indifferent to gender roles both legally and socially. However non-starfaring Imperial citizens from self-governing planets (usually NPCs) will naturally be more inclined to their world's culture then the generic interstellar one and local culture can vary. If appropriate this discrepancy can be demonstrated in the Gurps version by giving a PC "Intolerance (uppity women)" as a disadvantage.
  • Exalted averts this trope. Generally speaking, men and women are equal - if anything, the most powerful people tend to be female; Queen Merela, Brigid, Salina, Lillith, Raksi, the Scarlet Empress, Mnemon, Tepet Ejava... Three of the four most prominent Solars in the first age were women who literally shaped history; the fourth is a man most known for using mind magic to abuse his - physically far more dangerous - wife.
  • Averted (sort of) in Warhammer 40,000. In lore, pretty much none of the significant factions have any compulsions against sending women off to fight alongside the men — the setting is enough of a Crapsack Galaxy that everyone needs all the help they can get and anyone capable of firing a weapon — including children, in the Imperium's case, and the dead if you have a crystal/robot for them to inhabit — are fair game for military service. However, in actual gameplay, very few of the armies have actual female models (even ones like the Imperial Guard or Eldar which, canonically, rely on females as much as males) and the one all-female army — the Sisters of Battle — are the game's most poorly-supported and lowest-selling army. Games Workshop has stated that the reason for this is because female models don't sell well, although their critics suggest it's because the model lines are not supported well by the company (the aforementioned Sisters being the best example of that).
  • In Warhammer most human nations are like this, though there is some leaway (particularly in specialist areas like magic) and (like the medieval/early renaissance Europe they they tend to resemble) social class counts more for than gender and noblewomen can be quite powerful. The elven cultures and vampires are fairly equalitarian (as with 40k above this is not really reflected in the models for the elves, though female vampire models are far more common) and the dwarves go in for an "equal but different" approach, with dwarven women very rarely leaving their holds but being very powerful within them. With most of the other factions the question doesn't arise; orcs, goblins and ogres don't seem to have women (their reproduction processes are unclear), skaven females are non-sapient and lizardmen are poorly named as they are in fact genderless life forms created from magical spawning pools.
  • Part of what makes the Theocracy of Jarzon in Blue Rose one of the jerkier factions is that it follows a religion with seriously misogynistic traits. Indeed, there's so much emphasis on keeping women barefoot and pregnant, and legally barring them from most of the high-status roles (including all roles in the priesthood save the Hospitalers, who are still expected to obey their male superiors without questions), that it borders on No Woman's Land. Jarzon escapes being an obviously evil faction because care is taken to point out that they still do a lot of good in the world, or at least have the potential to do good, and there are reasons why it's such a hotbed of bigotry.
  • Averted in BattleTech as the gender barrier is almost non-existent, anyone can be a soldier, commander, or ruler in the Inner Sphere. It's even averted in Clans, as the only rule they have is you have to be a badass, with many females filling roles of warriors and even Khans. Also, even implying this trope in the Magistracy of Canopus is a good way to get shot.
    • Played somewhat straight but deconstructed in the Draconis Combine. Sexism is very prevalent in the Combine, as its the only Inner Sphere state with Agnatic (no women can inherit) succession laws. In addition, the 'ideal' woman is portrayed as being meek and dutiful, and even when they join the Combine military they don't tend to get good positions. However, this is portrayed as being a mistake: two of the best rulers in the Combine's history were women, and Theodore Kurita encourages the creations of new regiments that don't follow the hidebound traditionalism of the traditional Combine military, including treating women as equals. These regiments are the best in the Combine military and part of the reason it survives the Federated Commonwealth's onslaught during the War of 39.

  • In one of the few examples where the trope is actually An Aesop, Shakespeare's The Taming of the Shrew involves a man verbally abusing his rebellious wife to the point that she becomes docile and obedient. Then there's the end when she pleads with women in the audience to follow her example and act like reverent homemakers. An otherwise good play, the ending really hasn't aged well, and in many modern adaptations gets removed entirely, and there's an oft-cut prologue which sets up the rest of the play as the dream of a man married to a shrew, so it might count as a 'fantasy of a henpecked husband'.
    • Thanks to the lack of stage directions, the play is left open to a good bit of alternate interpretations. Many productions try to soften the blow by having Kate deliver the final speech in a sarcastic way, indicating that it's not to be taken seriously. The Elizabeth Taylor/Richard Burton film has Kate give the speech seriously... but then has her sneak out of the party while Petruchio is taking his bows, humiliating him exactly how he humiliated her at their wedding.
    • It's also worth noting that in the Elizabeth Taylor/Richard Burton film, there's a scene (not included in the original play) where Kate is lying awake after Petruchio's first abusive tirade, initially looking fearful...until a look of recognition comes into her eyes, and she laughs to herself. This implies that she knows what Petruchio is up to, and is simply playing along until she can have some revenge of her own.
  • Trifles, a play set in 19th/early 20th century, has a narrative/symbolic example, as the men go to investigate the barn and the bedroom, where men would traditionally have more dominance, while the women (Martha and Mrs. Peters) are left to search the kitchen, a place where women would hold more authority, where they find a key piece of evidence, Minnie's dead canary. Adding to this, Mr. Hale directly invokes this trope with the title drop, "Well, women are used to worrying over trifles."

    Video Games 
  • Face from Battle Fantasia has this attitude toward Princess Olivia. Even though she's actually quite capable of taking care of herself, he insists that women should stay as far away from fighting as possible.
  • Possible unintentional use in Dead or Alive 4. In his pre-fight cinematic, Ryu Hyabusa finds Kasumi about to face her evil clone Alpha 152. He does a "Stand back, I'll handle this!" and moves forward to protect her. Made unintentionally hilarious by how difficult the boss is. Presumably, Kasumi is just offscreen facepalming. Depending on the character you're playing. As Ryu, he says it's because it's his duty. As Kasumi, she has to do it, as it's her clone.
  • Shows up in various places during Dragon Age, though rarely focused on.
    • Sten from Dragon Age: Origins has a very comprehensive list of the professions of women (priests, shopkeepers, farmers, administrators), as the qunari believe these are the jobs meant for them — choice has no factor in it. This also applies to men (laborers, soldiers, officers), hinting that the Qunari believe men to be stronger but less intelligent or charismatic. If you're using a female Player Character, he says that either she isn't a woman or isn't a warrior. The former seems more likely to him.
      Sten: I don't understand. You look like a woman.
    • In Dragon Age: Origins – Awakening you encounter a male Qunari named Armas who has rejected the Qun by choosing to make his living as a merchant. He outright calls the Qun a lie if you ask him about his unorthodox career choice.
    • In Dragon Age II we learn that female Qunari can serve in combat roles, with the major distinction apparently being that while they can have jobs involving fighting, they are not soldiers or warriors; the Ben-Hassrath, an organization in the Qunari priest caste, are similar to the Templars, though rather than direct might they seem to prefer highly directed force, non-violent or otherwise. This ranges from assassination of or spying on a political enemy, to kidnapping and re-educating important figures or vashoth; those who have left the Qun. Qunari society is divided into three castes. The Antaam handles military and labor, and are always male. The matriarchy handles administration and infrastructure, and are always female. The priests are responsible for education and enforcing the qun, and can be either sex because the wisdom of the Qun speaks to everyone. Tallis is a prime example. She is a female elf sold into slavery and then taken by the Qunari, who converted and trained her as an agent of the Ben-Hassrath. Her role, as reflected in her name/rank ("tallis" means "to solve" in Qunari) is to hunt down escaped Saarebas (Qunari mages, literally "dangerous thing"). Female priests may or may not have roles that require them to fight, but they are not soldiers or warriors.
    • Arl Howe's rant towards a human noble Grey Warden late in the game is extra-dismissive if said heavily armed warrior or rogue who slaughtered her way through his guards is a woman, laughing at her acting like a man. Outside of the Qunari, female soldiers are extremely common, so this is just more of him being a jerk than an accepted attitude, or possibly just trying to piss her off given his many female guards and soldiers.
    • After Morrigan lists the skills she can (reluctantly) provide to the party in battle, Alistair immediately asks her if she can cook. Her irritable response makes it clear that she interpreted the question as this trope, but he quickly assures her that he only asked because his cooking will kill them, and given the assumption that a Warden of either can't cook either, it's a fair concern.
    • In Dragon Age: Inquisition, Cassandra can question Iron Bull on the Qunari's stance of women fighters in party banter. He explains that a Qunari who desires a role normally associated with the opposite sex, such as a woman who wants to fight, and displays a level of proficiency for that role that is normally expected of the opposite sex, is functionally treated as transgender and become a member of the desired role (note that his own second in command is a female to male transgender warrior). Such people are known as Aqun-Athok. After all, your role in society is more important to the Qun than your gender. He's also implied to be doing some mental gymnastics to justify the female warriors on the team; when they're armed and armored, they're male, when they're not they're female. Cassandra, in particular, is bewildered by this attitude. This also sheds light on Sten's claim that a female warden is not female. All three player characters, if female, display a proficiency for fighting that would have them declared Aqun-Athok. He does make it clear he's oversimplifying to translate a complicated concept that falls outside his field of expertise; the only time he actually uses the term is when he's explaining that trans men like his second who live as men all the time are considered men.
  • Dragon Quest:
    • Dragon Quest IV: Alena's dad seems to have this attitude at the start of her chapter. Of course, Alena's the strongest physical fighter in the game, so...
    • Justified in Dragon Quest V, your wife forces herself on your travel while she's carrying your unborn babies up until you reach the castle of Gotha, where she ends up collapsing and has to stay there. Unfortunately, you won't get her to fight with you again anytime soon. Then again, you can invoke it by putting her in the castle along with Madchan for the rest of the time she rejoins.
  • Intended to be averted in Dwarf Fortress, female dwarves are equally good at fighting. Unfortunately, they're also very fecund, and their Dwarven Baby Shields don't last long in combat — when Mama Bear goes mad with grief, quality steel weaponry and high combat skills make her killing spree all the messier.
  • In Fable III, several of the gnome insults towards a female Hero are along these lines. It's a joy to shoot them after that. In a more literal example, if you marry your childhood friend/lover of either gender, they can always be found in your home's kitchen.
  • Fallout: New Vegas: Caesar's Legion is notorious for many atrocities like slavery and crucifixions, but they are also noted as being raging misogynists. Many within the Legion consider the role of women to be limited to bearing sons to add to the Legion's army, willing or otherwise.
  • Final Fantasy:
    • In Final Fantasy IV, Cecil insists that Rosa and Rydia stay behind while he and the others board the Lunar Whale to face the Big Bad on the moon. The two girls protest and then decide to sneak aboard anyway. Cecil's reasoning? He didn't want to put Rosa and Rydia in danger, which sort of goes against the fact that A) the girls have proven many times that they are more than capable of looking out for themselves, B) Cecil's group would be dead without their dedicated healer and spellcaster, and C) Cecil didn't seem to have a problem with either of them tagging along for most of the game, including their last trip to the moon.
    • Final Fantasy VII:
      • Cloud spends most of Disc 1 falling into these speeches, though Aerith unfailingly objects. If Aerith hadn't gone with Cloud, she couldn't have saved the World at the very end of the game, and then everybody would have died.
        Cloud: You gotta be kidding. Why do you want to put yourself in danger again?
        Aerith: I'm used to it.
        Cloud: Used to it!? ...Well, don't know... getting help from a girl...
        Aerith: A girl!! What do you mean by that!? You expect me to just sit by and listen, after hearing you say something like that!? [to Elmyra] Mom! I'm taking Cloud to Sector 7. I'll be back in a while.
      • Strangely, he never talks to Tifa like this. Although it could have something to do with the fact that Tifa has a black belt in martial arts, is a licensed outdoor survival guide, AND a key member of a high-profile eco-terrorist group, whereas Aerith sold flowers and didn't seem to have any real fighting experience. Also, Tifa punches tanks with her fist. And at one point while he's lecturing Aerith, she even calls him out about his double-standard between her and Tifa — "So it's alright for Tifa to be in danger?", to which he weakly responds, "No, I don't want Tifa in...". Tifa, who made Cloud promise to protect her if she was ever in trouble and has fixated upon this idea, seems to want to be protected more than Aerith, who makes Cloud her bodyguard but otherwise acts autonomously (at one point even telling Cloud "Don't tell me to go home.")
      • In Final Fantasy VII Remake, however, there is at least one scene in which Cloud talks to Tifa this way, although it's presumably less about Tifa's own safety and more about Cloud needing someone to look after Aerith for her safety, since she has less proper battle experience than either Cloud or Tifa.
        [after more monsters pop up out of the sewers]
        Tifa: Looks like they're hungry for more.
        Aerith: We're not delicious! Not even a little bit!
        Cloud: [to Aerith] Get going!
        Tifa: [to Aerith] Now!
        Aerith: Okay. [runs away]
        [after Cloud and Tifa defeat a few of the monsters]
        Cloud: [to Tifa] You too!
        Tifa: But there's too many of them!
        Cloud: Not for me.
        Tifa: Hurry! [runs away to look after Aerith]
    • In Final Fantasy XII it is revealed that the Viera invert this trope. According to the lore, male Viera are few in number, thus they are not allowed to fight or pretty much do anything and are nothing more than breeders. A similar case happens with the Male Mithra in Final Fantasy XI. Final Fantasy XIV also followed the same trend with the Miqo'te, another cat race, until there was demand from fans to include playable male versions.
  • Fire Emblem:
    • Fire Emblem: The Sacred Stones:
      • Around Chapter 10 (Eirika's path), if you rescue Innes the Archer with his Pegasus Knight sister Tana, Innes almost immediately tells her to "stop playing soldier and go home". This is explained later in their supports as being a part of Innes' Big Brother Instinct: he thinks Tana is too innocent and inexperienced (and she has just finished her Peg Knight training), therefore he wants to spare her from the horrors of war but handles it so bad that Tana resents him. Innes' attitude is similar with Lady of War Eirika, and slightly towards White Mage L'Arachel, especially in their support conversations — he refuses to let a woman guard him even when injured or exhausted. Nobody reacts well to this attitude — Innes is often portrayed as overly arrogant or narrow-minded.
      • This doesn't come up as much in his supports with the Pegasus Knight Vanessa, whom he often praises for her skill and her maturity. As much, Innes says that she was Just a Kid when they met, but she's grown up into a great knight and suggests that they are unstoppable as a team. This might have something to do with Vanessa's lifelong status as a Pegasus Knight in his charge - Pegasus Knights are always female (because Pegasi don't trust men enough to fly on them) and are expected to guard his entire family.
    • In Fire Emblem: Path of Radiance, the Mia/Largo supports involve Large Ham Largo mentioning this to Genki Girl Mia, Hilarity Ensues. This trope is apparently why Mia is so obsessed with her swordplay.
    • And in Fire Emblem: Genealogy of the Holy War, Beowolf has a conversation with Raquesis where he fakes this attitude toward her before offering to help her train. Later, Seliph tried to dissuade his cleric friend Lana (or Mana) to stay in Tilnanogue while and he and his merry friend (which includes Larcei (or Radney), an Action Girl) go on the battlefield, because "Nuns and warfare DO NOT MIX". He's quickly talked out of it, and he apologizes. Amusingly, this sort of shows up in his later conversation with his lover. In most cases, he admits that he's afraid of losing her, which is why he wants her to stay back. Larcei (or Radney) is once again the sole exception, with Seliph only asking if something's bothering her.
    • In Fire Emblem: Three Houses, Felix tells his Childhood Friend Ingrid to give up on being a knight and find a husband. This seems to be motivated in part by a desire to not see Ingrid get hurt and a disdain for the idea of chivalry inspired by the death of Felix's older brother Glenn (Ingrid's fiancé, whom she still admires).
  • The female Gender Role Doll advertised in Grand Theft Auto IV: The Lost and Damned enforces this among other gender-specific tropes.
  • Guild Wars 2:
    • In the previous game Charr appeared to be a One-Gender Race. The sequel explains that the theocratic Flame Legion which ruled them during that time believed female Charr were suitable only for domestic purposes. When the other Legions rebelled against the Flame, females were quick to seize the opportunity to fight.
    • The Sons of Svanir ban all females from joining their cult and many imply it is because they are too weak. The actual reason is that Svanir, their spiritual ancestor, was killed by the Norn woman Jora which they view as a disgrace.
  • Halo:
    • Averted in the UNSC, where females can serve as Marines and Spartans alike. The series takes place in the 26th century, and societal views have clearly changed a great deal from today. Plus the whole business with the species-threatening war against technologically-superior genocidal aliens strong enough to physically rip a man apart, necessitating every able body available to buy time and stem the tide of invasion.
    • Played straight with the Elites and Brutes; the women of both species do not serve in the military. That said, Elite females are trained to fight, as they're expected to be able to defend their homes from invading armies, and media like Halo 5: Guardians have shown that more progressive Elite factions like the Swords of Sanghelios are starting to allow women to serve in the military.
  • Jak X: Combat Racing has Samos telling his daughter Keira that "a woman's place is in the garage fixing cars!" This is in response to her wanting to get out into the Vehicular Combat action and is partially justified as he doesn't want to lose his little girl. Regardless, he's lucky he didn't say that while Ashelin was within earshot.
  • Kingdom Hearts: Sora does this with Kairi, claiming that coming with him to the final world was "too dangerous" and that she "would kinda be in his way".
    • Thankfully in Kingdom Hearts II Kairi gets to participate in the final world and fight the Heartless with a keyblade given to her by Riku. Justified in the first game in that Kairi was unarmed, had no combat experience, and no way of defending herself. At worst, the scene was misplaced, as it would have fit better in regards to going to End of the World than Hollow Bastion (where all the other unarmed, lacking in combat experience Princesses of Heart are just fine hanging out at). By the second game, Kairi has a year to become more athletic... plus access to a weapon of her own. Sora also regularly tells armed men to leave the battlefield, a notable (and particularly funny) example being Shang in Land of Dragons.
    • This does get awkward in the Port Royal stage. Though Sora does tell Will to leave early on, it's rather strange that he would tell Elizabeth to do the same later in the stage when she actually played an active role in combat in the portion of the movie the game is covering. He also doesn't brush off Will.
    • Despite the ending of the last numbered title, in the secret ending for Kingdom Hearts: Birth by Sleep, Kairi has to stay behind while Sora and Riku leave again for the Mark of Mastery exam, which seems fine until you remember that in the main story, the similarly novice Keyblade wielder Ventus was able to attend his friends' exam as a spectator, so it's bizarre that Kairi can't do the same for her's. At least there's still the justification that someone has to stay behind and keep the island safe.
  • The whole point of Lost in Blue. Upon meeting the female lead, the male lead steps on her glasses, thus confining her to a cave and making her responsible for cooking, cleaning, and handicrafts. She also can't do anything outside the cave by herself and is likely to starve to death no matter how much food and water you leave for her.
  • In Lufia II: Rise of the Sinistrals, Maxim pulls this several times on Tia and Selan. The first few times, the girls tell him where to shove it. The results are different — Selan never needs help, being a mighty general and extremely talented. Tia, however, needs a fair amount of rescuing, but the plot makes sure to note that this is because she's a shopkeeper with no real desire to fight except to keep close to Maxim. When Maxim marries at the end of the first act of the game, Tia returns to her shop as she has no more reason to fight. In the run-up to what everyone believes will be the Final Battle, Maxim actually tells the girls why he wants them out of the fight: they're the only ones who can coordinate an urgent evacuation effort. It works. Then, after Maxim and Selan marry and have a child, it's time to fight again. Maxim tries this, but Selan won't have it.
  • Angelic Buster gets a watered down one in MapleStory. While she does lesser missions Kaiser essentially tells her this when he is going to do a dangerous task.
  • Mass Effect:
    • A somewhat darker variant in Mass Effect 2, where a batarian hiring mercenaries tells female Shepard to go to the stripper quarters. This is one of the rare times the main character's gender is mentioned in the plot (aside from the romance arcs), as the rest of the time, the experience of being a female soldier is never discussed despite female soldiers in the real world still being a minority.
    • The krogan segregate their females and leave them to child-raising, though this is actually a result of their severe population loss requiring them to keep women and children protected to ensure survival of the species. It's suggested in the past that krogan females were not originally restricted in this way (references are repeatedly made to the female warlord Shiagur, a powerful krogan matriarch whose death caused her male followers to go on a Roaring Rampage of Revenge) until after the deployment of the genophage made females capable of viable pregnancies such a rarity. Wrex mentions a strategy at one point which involves using sterile females as disposable decoys in battle to prevent the fertile ones from being found. When the other characters object to this, Wrex hastily adds that it was the females who came up with the plan. The Krogan clan in the fourth game that has largely overcome the genophage averts this trope.
    • The series presents a unique version of this with the salarians. As they are amphibious haplo-diploid egg layers, females are created by fertilizing eggs. Social customs restrict only a fraction of these to be fertilized, creating a race that is roughly 90% male. Females thus hold all political power and rarely leave their homeworld, while males fill all other positions of power in salarian society (such as military and academics). A case where women are relegated to a single role...but that role is the one that determines how everything works. The games also mention that women of the race are highly respected.
  • In the Mega Man (Classic) series, Rock's female counterpart Roll is occasionally depicted this way - but not in the games themselves. In the original game series, she was built as a household robot and unlike Rock, never upgraded into a combat robot. In other alternate universes of the game series, she often plays a supportive role in combat, as Mega Man is usually better equipped for most combat scenarios he encounters, but she does tend to accompany him in some way and is never rebuffed for it.
  • Mount & Blade:
    • Matheld, a female character, makes it clear that if she is treated like some sort of housewife on the battlefield, she will break the character's neck. She gets along well with the team's warrior poet though. Being a former Viking helps too.
    • King Harlaus denied Lady Isolla's claim to the throne of Swadia entirely because she was a woman. It's unknown how much of this comes down to Harlaus being a selfish, sexist asshole and how much comes down to Deliberate Values Dissonance.
  • In Naruto Shippuden: Ultimate Ninja Storm 2, Rock Lee expresses the viewpoint that women should be protected from battle. Late into the game, Naruto starts getting letters from Lee, and you decide what sort of response for Naruto to send back. This becomes problematic, as one of the letters has Lee ask Naruto what he thinks of women on the battlefield and the possible responses are that female fighters can hold their own or that women should leave the fighting to men. If you choose the former, Lee will get angry at Naruto and end their correspondence, temporarily locking the player out of the ability to recruit him. There were no in-game hints to Lee's stance prior to that letter, and the game had displayed plenty of capable females on the front lines by that point.
  • In One Piece: Unlimited Adventure, shortly before the final battle, Sanji tells Nami and Robin to stay back. Nami, however, insists that she and Robin are strong, too, and Robin notes that "it would be impossible to travel with such super-human people otherwise."
  • Ward in The Orion Conspiracy is explicitly stated to be sexist, so he would obviously feel this way toward women.
  • Junpei in Persona 3 Portable's female path is offended and irritated that in a group of three girlsnote  he's not the one in charge, though Mitsuru shuts him down hard before he can keep complaining about it. When he snaps at the female protagonist after the Lovers battle, Yukari asks him if he's still bitter about having a girl in charge of the group. His attitude is mostly a product of Junpei being a particularly immature teenage boy who has self-image problems and desperately wants to be special; he grows out of it over the course of his Social Link and has matured noticeably by the end of the game.
  • Quest for Glory: Elsa von Spielburg receives this treatment a lot. When she manages to learn sword fighting by watching the castle guard training, the swordsmaster refuses to formally train her because she is a girl. When the hero finally reaches her, she (now the Brigand Leader thanks to being Brainwashed and Crazy) is so skilled she can kill him in one blow... and right after being rescued, her asshole of a brother tries to keep her from being a warrior. By the time QFG5 begins, she has already proven herself a hero in her own right and spends most of the game in second or first place in the Rites of Rulership. And yet, everyone still thinks she's incapable of fighting (despite being the best fighter in the series), is incapable of ruling a kingdom (despite running a massively successful bandit gang), and should just leave the contest to the men (despite two dying very quickly, one being a Frankenstein's Monster, and the last in it for other reasons).
  • Red Dead series:
  • In Romancing SaGa, Lord Rupolph of Isthmus Keep has two children: Diana and Albert. Diana is repeatedly stated to be the better fighter, consistently besting her little brother in training and serving as a soldier, yet her father treats her strength as lamentable and begs her to act more ladylike. Despite his misgivings, however, it's implied that Prince Neidhart chose her as his bride because she's capable of taking care of herself. She also manages to survive the inevitable fall of the keep, unlike her parents.
  • In Star Ocean: The Last Hope, Edge does this to Reimi and Lymle when they land on 50's Earth, telling them to stay on the ship while the men go explore. The ship gets raided, Reimi is kidnapped (Lymle escapes), and thus follows a rescue quest to get her back. What did he learn from this? To keep her with him so it's easier to protect her, naturally.
  • Valkyria Chronicles pulls a Rule-Abiding Rebel version of this trope. Alicia gives up her Action Girl schtick by way of marriage and motherhood; she does get to run a bakery like she always wanted, but despite being so sweet it might shut down your pancreas the impact that has on the ending is purely cosmetic, since it still has Welkin coming home from work to find his wife cooking and looking after their little girl. Gallia in general zig-zags on this; while it appears women can't join the enlisted services, the country practices universal conscription and sure enough about half of any given militia squad is female.
  • Valkyria Chronicles 4:
    • A subversion: Riley thinks that Claude is pulling this when he orders her not to fight in one level, but he turns out to have a perfectly sensible reason: Their transport was crippled, and in addition to being a grenadier she was also a skilled mechanic, so the best way she could help the unit at that time was to help fix the engines so they could escape rather that fighting. She concedes the point, sits out that level, but returns to the list of playable characters in the following level when that justification no longer applies.
    • A Hot Springs Episode reveals that this is general attitude of the Empire.
    • Averted by the Federation, which simply puts its male and female cadets through exactly the same training. If you pass, you can serve, and Gender Is No Object. The same even applies for specialization such as Ranger squads.
  • In Wolfenstein: The New Order due to the Nazi policy of "Kinder, Küche, Kirche" ( "Children, Kitchen, and Church") women are expected to stay home and bear the next generation of Nazis. However Frau Engel, one of the main villains, somehow went from being the head of the League of German Girls to become a high ranking officer in the German Army.
    • One of the letters B.J. can collect is a personal ad written by a Space Marine. The ad says that any woman interested in abandoning her career goals and willing to have up to twelve children should contact him.
  • Ostentatiously averted in Xenoblade Chronicles 1. When Sharla joins the party, Reyn tells her to stay back from battle. Sharla assumes he's taking this attitude and informs him she has field experience as a medic, which make Reyn more than happy to have her, since monsters beat up on him so much. It's actually an Establishing Character Moment for Reyn, clarifying that his Dumb Muscle tendencies only extend to being Book Dumb and he's perfectly nice despite that.
  • Xenogears plays this trope straight on numerous occasions.
    • Right at the start of the game, Alice is getting married because the women of her village are expected to. Then she dies and the point becomes moot.
    • More notably, Fei is constantly demanding that Elly, a trained military officer, quit the military and not fight because it's unbecoming of women. Most notably, after he tries to force her to stay behind with such forceful language that she runs off crying, they make love and she's okay with it. She even gives a speech on why this is laudable and necessary behavior when another woman objects to being treated like this:
      Elly: Men like someone to watch the home when they are fighting. They can't fight if they don't have the peace of mind that they will have somewhere to return to.

    Visual Novels 
  • In an odd sort of deconstruction (starting with the fact that they're both male), Leo from Echo takes on this attitude toward his (ex-)boyfriend Chase. Though Chase is just as capable as anyone else, Leo is overprotective and infantilizes him to the point that he thinks Chase is incapable of helping a drowning friend... despite the fact that Chase is an otter. Many exchanges on Leo's route involve the wolf attempting to coax Chase into dropping out of college, giving up all of his career goals, and moving in with him so that he can clean and cook meals while Leo serves as the breadwinner who cares for his "sensitive" boyfriend. All of this is painted as the reason for which their relationship just can't work out.
  • Shirou of Fate/stay night during the Fate route repeatedly tells Saber (and only Saber) that girls shouldn't be fighting and that she should leave it to him. This is actually a shallow excuse cooked up because of a combination of Shirou's martyr complex and Saber being near-fatally injured protecting him from Berserker. When his love interest is an Action Girl who doesn't spend half the story on life support he proves much more egalitarian, and even with Saber he stops around the time it becomes apparent they're gonna be fighting together regardless of her condition.
  • In Umineko: When They Cry, the Ushiromiya family operates with very strict gender roles, and as a result, there are characters who suffer because of it. Eva, Kinzo's second child, was repeatedly told by her father and older brother while growing up that she could never be the head of the family because she was a woman. In EP3, she solves the epitaph, giving her the right to become the next head, but it also gives rise to the cruel, sadistic witch EVA-Beatrice, Eva's Literal Split Personality who was born from her resentment of how she was denied the headship in the first place just because of her gender. Natsuhi also gets this treatment from her husband Krauss, which is shown to really not be helping his case since she has much more common sense than he has.
  • In Pillars of Eternity has the Brotherhood of the Five Suns, a paladin order serving the ducal congress of the Vailian Republics, which — implied to be somewhat archaic for the setting — true to its name prohibits women from joining. Despite this, the only member shown is a woman, Pallegina, but this is because in addition to being archaic about letting women serve they are also archaic about the definition of a woman: the Brotherhood's definition requires being able to conceive children, so female godlike like Pallegina are not, from their perspective, women, all godlike being sterile.

  • Mocked in this VG Cats strip; in a reference to Cooking Mama, Mama offers alternatives to this attitude. Shigeru Miyamoto responds poorly.
  • Angel from Domain Tnemrot doesn't see as much action as Dae in the arena, but is shown to be a much more capable fighter than him. The main reason she doesn't fight in Tnemrot is that she's recovering from abuse and still has some suicidal tendencies.
  • Played with in MegaTokyo with Erika, who is often offended by Largo and Junpei's attempts to "protect" her against her will—she is, after all, able to casually snap the arms of people who deserve it. She does, however, actually need their help; not because she's a woman, but because hundreds of rabid fanboys are vying for her attention and personally inflicting violence upon them wouldn't be a good solution. Largo convinces Junpei to let her deal with the fanboys herself, but he intimidates them into not showing up in large groups.
  • In Ronin Galaxy Taylor actually opts to stay in the kitchen after being offered a job by Cecil. He still ends up insulting her, though.
  • Averted in Dominic Deegan with Luna and Stunt.
  • Comes up twice in El Goonish Shive.
    • First, Straight Gay Justin is told to stay behind while the girls do the rescuing. He asks "Is it because I'm gay?" but everyone else just rolls their eyes. He quickly realizes that this is because the ones going are Nanase (homosexual) Ellen (bisexual) and Grace (Teddsexual).
    • Second, Sarah and Susan are discussing the implications of a Zelda-expy's Damsel in Distress tendencies in relation to her possible Gender Bender. Susan thinks the idea that a princess has to turn into a boy to be useful is insulting.
      Susan: Maybe you just can't imagine a girl being stronger than a boy.
      Sarah: Nanase, Ellen, Grace, and my boyfriend literally turns into a girl to get stronger.
      Susan: Yes, yes, I realized it was stupid as soon as I said it.
    • At one point, Tedd mentions being better at cooking as a female. Upon realizing that it sounds like this trope, he quickly elaborates that it isn't that he thinks women are inherently better at cooking, it's just the he's had more experience cooking on his own while female than he has as a malenote .
  • Subverted in Gunnerkrigg Court. Eglamore is reluctant to have a sparring match with Jones:
    Eglamore: Ah come on. That wouldn't be fair.
    Antimony: Because she is a woman?
    Eglamore: Haha! No, because indoors, and at close range, Jones would flatten me.
    [Jones proceeds to flatten him]
  • Torg in Sluggy Freelance was determined to keep Zoe in the dark and out of the way to protect her from Oasis. After she'd been in equal danger a dozen times for related and unrelated reasons, she pointed out how stupid that sounds.
  • Subverted in Scurry: Master Orim keeps his daughter, Pict, out of a long scouting/scavenging mission. She thinks it's because he's being overprotective. He tells her that he needs someone he trusts to stay behind, as he suspects Resher is up to something. He's right.

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    Web Videos 
  • Mans1ay3r's Gamer Poop series has a few jokes about this, most notably the sketch from Oblivion with a scam artist.
    Woman: Women... girls... back to our kitchens! [women leave]
    Guard: Well, you got all of them back to cooking and cleaning!
  • In this Hardly Working sketch from CollegeHumor, Sarah comes up with the idea of doing a '60s Theme Day. Unfortunately for her, her idea of the theme was more geared towards the late 1960s and the Summer of Love, while the men take cues from the early '60s and make remarks about Sarah that wouldn't be out of place at Sterling Cooper Draper Pryce.
  • Early Installment Weirdness in The Nostalgia Critic, as a 2008 list that included Cinderella had him mention that "making a woman do chores isn't that bad". Later on, he was all about that amazon chasing.

    Western Animation 
  • Adventure Time: Marceline's ex-boyfriend (who stole her memory of her breaking up with him so he could keep her as his girlfriend) tells her she needs to get back in the kitchen and make him dinner. She responds by kicking him right between the legs. This is followed by Finn jumping on him and a super-sized Jake crushing him beneath his foot.
  • Duke Igthorn says this almost verbatim in the Adventures of the Gummi Bears episode "You Snooze, You Lose" while attacking Castle Dunwyn:
    Calla: Your ogres won't get in here without a smarter general!
    Igthorn: Why don't you run off to the kitchen, little girl, and make me some tea? I'll be joining you in just a moment!
    Calla: What's that supposed to mean?!
    [one minute later, Calla's catapulted him into the woods]
  • One Aladdin: The Series episode has the Sultan tell Jasmine it is too dangerous and she should stay behind. Never mind that she'd already taken a level in badass between the movie and the series and that there is a semi-phenomenal, nearly cosmic genie around. She responds to this by disguising herself as one of the guards and saving Aladdin. A later episode had Sultan upset because Aladdin was telling him to stay behind from rescuing Jasmine because he was too old.
  • Played for one-off jokes in The Amazing Chan and the Chan Clan. Anne the tomboy has to put up with "just a girl" comments from her brothers now and then, but it's clear they're just busting her chops and at the end of the day think of her as their equal.
  • American Dad!: "Stan of Arabia: Part 1" has Stan sing a musical number about how he wants Francine to adhere more to this trope.
    Stan: I want to be greeted with a massage and a martini, the way Master was by his Jeannie!
  • Avatar: The Last Airbender:
    • Women in the Northern Water Tribe are expected to use their waterbending for healing purposes only, and leave the combat to men. In fact, a big plot point in the Northern Tribe episodes is to have Katara making them realize that this attitude is harmful — especially in regards to Master Pakku, possibly the most powerful Waterbender alive at the time, who gets some karmic retribution, as he realizes that his chauvinism cost him the love of his life: Kanna, Katara and Sokka's grandmother and his Runaway Bride, who fled to the Southern Water Tribe (the opposite pole of the world) to escape the strict gender rules. Since Pakku did genuinely love Kanna, and one of the reasons he was so bitter against women was her rejection of him, this counts doubly and is vital to his Character Development and acceptance of Katara. And by the Grand Finale, Pakku gets Kanna's forgiveness and they tie the knot.
    • The Southern Water Tribe is more progressive in its attitudes towards women since female waterbenders are seen fighting in flashbacks, but Sokka plays it straight at first, then gets character development after meeting Suki. The next time he meets her, he now has an overly protective attitude, since his last girlfriend turned into the moon. As it turns out, the only reason she came along in the first place was that she had the same attitude towards him.
    • The Fire Nation averts this, since women are at every level of authority — you see female Yu Yan Archers, female guards, and no-one is gonna tell Princess Azula, Ty Lee, or Mai to stay behind unless they want to be chi-blocked into paralysis, skewered, or roasted. The only exception was in the finale when Azula was told to stay home by her father, but that was more due to her father seeing both of his children as rather disposable and not her gender. She didn't take it well. Come the time of the Sequel Series, The Legend of Korra, Zuko's daughter Izumi is the Firelord and one of two female heads of state in the show, the other being the Earth Queen who gets assassinated.
  • Touched in the Batman: The Animated Series episode "Harley and Ivy", where Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy team up, and grumble about the lack of respect they get from males. At one point they briefly get the upper hand on Batman and ask him if he is bothered by being beaten by "mere girls".
    Batman: Man or woman, a sick mind is capable of anything.
    Poison Ivy: A very enlightened statement, Batman. We'll carve it on your headstone.
  • Batman Beyond: One episode uses this by having a man tell his wife to "Get back in the kitchen!" to show off how horrible a father he is, which is why his son tries to escape his life (it's a Drug Aesop episode). It has since gone under Memetic Mutation.
  • Ben 10:
    • A variation of this occurs in Ben 10: Ultimate Alien after Kevin's Heel–Face Turn. After Kevin suffers With Great Power Comes Great Insanity, Ben insists that he's too far gone and it's time to Shoot the Dog. Gwen continues to argue they should find another way with Ben, and later Max, both state that she should just stay out of the way. More because Gwen is Kevin's girlfriend than anything else, she would try and stop them.
    • There's also an example of this in the original Ben 10 series. When Ben, Gwen, and Max arrive at a Navajo festival they're attacked by an alien that is first believed to be a Yenaldooshi. When Wes, an old friend of Max's, prepares to go out and track it down, he refuses to allow his granddaughter to join them and says "only Braves (men) are allowed to track." This also extends to Gwen, who obviously objects and has been helping since the beginning, but Max simply replies "Their land, their rules."
  • The Biker Mice from Mars occasionally treat Charlene like this—even though she's not burdened with an ego as massive as they are.
  • One Care Bears episode depicts Braveheart as the captain of a ship who believes that boys can handle fights better than girls. During an attack on their ship by pirates, Braveheart puts the Duchess he was transporting in the captain's quarters for safety. Unfortunately, he did this right when the Duchess was overpowering the leader of the pirates.
  • Used against Chowder by Gorgonzola in a baseball-like game. And he really would prefer to go back.
  • Numbuh 19th Century from Codename: Kids Next Door believes that girls are inferior to boys, as he holds antiquated views from his original time period, the early 1800s. When he is thawed out after having been frozen in time, he is appalled to see that there are female KND operatives in the present day. Numbuh 86 arrives with the intent of decommissioning him (as he is technically "like, forty-eight kamillion years old!"), and the very first thing he does is to tell her to make herself useful by cooking and doing his laundry. He is subsequently clobbered by her.
  • In Daria, combining this trope with Obnoxious In-Laws: after Jake's heart attack, the family is visited by his mother, Ruth, whose more traditional views on homemaking clash with her Workaholic daughter-in-law, Helen. Later, Daria hears her and Jake talking about their bad memories of Jake's father, and Ruth admits that she'd do a lot of things differently if she had the chance. The next time Daria hears her berating Helen she brings this up, and Ruth seems to realize that her attitude isn't really helping things.
  • Inverted in Ed, Edd n Eddy: the Kanker Sisters view the Eds (and men in general) as weak and more fit for housework. It's implied that this view comes from their mother, who is implied to have several bad romances.
  • In The Flintstones, Fred often made comments like this towards his wife Wilma, but this was more of the Innocent Bigotry variety.
  • Futurama:
    • Master Fnog in "Raging Bender" refused to send Leela, his best student, to the Junior Karate Championships, instead sending the two students she defeated in the qualifiers, because he claimed she did not have the Will of the Warrior - which according to him, only men can possess. Later, Leela encounters him during Bender's final bout in the Ultimate Robot Fighting League as the trainer of a new star, Destructor. She eventually uncovers Fnog was cheating and though he still taunts her for being a woman, she gets to beat him.
    • Also shows up in "A Bicyclops Built for Two", where Leela meets a surviving man of her species, who seems nice at first but acts increasingly sexist towards her. It turns out he wants women to stay at home because if they wandered too far from their mansions, they might discover the other mansions containing the other women he's seduced.
    • In "Insane in the Mainframe", Fry thinks he's a robot and Leela tries to get him to snap out of it.
      Leela: I'm going to remind Fry of his humanity the way only a woman can.
      Professor Farnsworth: You're going to do his laundry? [slap]
    • "Roswell that Ends Well" has the cast sent back to Rosewell, New Mexico in the year 1947. As part of the preparations to get back to their own time, Leela and the Professor have to buy a new microwave. Because this is before microwaves were invented, the appliance store salesman they speak to tries to convince Leela to buy a state-of-the-art oven, pointing out one of the features being a basin to soak her feet. "After all, you're going to be standing in front of it all day!" After Leela "accidentally" hits him with the oven door and coolly repeats her request for a microwave, the salesman decides she's hysterical and only interacts with the Professor.
      Salesman: This baby can cook a roast in five hours.
      Professor Farnsworth: Ohh, that's good news! You know, you really don't cook enough roasts, Leela.
      [Leela sets his tie on fire with a burner]
  • Hudson in Gargoyles tried to pull this. Once. Doesn't work well.
  • Inverted in the Hercules: The Animated Series episode "Hercules and the Girdle of Hippolyte". Herc and resident Amazon classmate Tempest get into an argument during a Home Economics class. Taking Phil's lead, Hercules insists that Tempest do all the work, on the grounds that she's a girl, so of course she has to do the housework. Tempest, being an Amazon, was raised to believe that men are the ones who should do all the housework. Later Herc actually meets Tempest's parents. When her father intervenes in her mother's overly militaristic handling of Tempest's mistakes her mother actually tells him to "Get back in the kitchen." He refuses and then delivers the episode's aesop.
  • In the Canadian short Hot Stuff, when the caveman's husband tries to advise him not to listen to the gods (again) when they offer to give him warmth, he tells her to stay out of it, with his snake adding "Go back to your apple turnovers!".
  • Parodied in a Justice League episode in which the team ended up stuck in a reality based on a comic book from the fifties. It, therefore, wasn't considered at all awkward for the only female member of the '50s-esque team to suggest to Hawkgirl that they go get cookies while the "men" talked out the whole dangerous supervillain issue. The Flash is amused. Hawkgirl... isn't.
    Hawkgirl: One word and you'll be the Fastest Man Alive with a limp.
  • Kaeloo: In Episode 130, Mr. Cat says that he believes that girls and women should cook and do housework. He puts a bow and an apron on Kaeloo, makes her stand in the kitchen and asks her to cook something while he sits on the couch and watches sports on TV. Kaeloo doesn't take this very well - she winds up Hulking Out and then chasing him around with the frying pan.
  • This is Cotton Hill's from King of the Hill general attitude toward women, he gets called out on it several times especially from Peggy, especially during the episode where Bobby started imitating him. In the episode "Goodbye Normal Jeans", Peggy inverts this trope by telling Bobby to "get out of her kitchen".
  • In the Mega Man cartoon made by Ruby-Spears, in the first episode Roll is explicitly told to stay home because Mega Man doesn't need a "girl robot" getting in his way. However, this only happens in early episodes, and she still goes out to fight in spite of it. By the fourth episode, it's never brought up again.
  • Self-inflicted variation in The Penguins of Madagascar: a faulty DNA test convinces Skipper he's actually female, and so he intentionally starts acting in a way he considers feminine, e.g. by wearing a pink bow, refusing to get into "dangerous" situations, and (horror of horrors) asking for directions.
  • The Powerpuff Girls had exactly 2 episodes in its entire six-season run about sexism. One was a Take That! at Straw Feminism, but the other involved the girls meeting this trope when they tried to join a Justice League expy.
  • In the Rugrats episode, "Aunt Miriam", the title character makes it clear to Didi that she thinks Didi should be a "full-time mother" rather than continue to teach.
  • Subverted in Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. Donner tells his wife to stay in the cave ("No. This is man's work.") simply because he feels responsible for Rudolph having run away and believes that he should be the one to look for him; the whole gender roles thing was merely a convenient excuse.
  • The Simpsons:
    • Played with in the episode "She Used to Be My Girl". At a conference for women, Homer tells Marge to stay there while he goes to rescue Lisa, whereupon he's booed by the women. He then says that he'll stay there, and Marge can go and rescue Lisa, to which he's booed at again. Homer then asks the women what they want (and they both end up going).
    • In the King Kong (1933) parody segment in "Treehouse of Horror III", Smithers avers that "women and seamen don't mix" while the crew is sailing to Ape Island with Marge in tow. Given what we now know about Smithers, this could be interpreted another way.
      Mr. Burns: We all know what you think.
  • SpacePOP has a particularly forced example with Captain Hansome, whose first few missions have him asking the girls to spy on things and report back, which they disobey and end up destroying Geela's weapons. He also attempts to break in and rescue them during another mission, only for them to rescue him and demand he treats them with respect from then on. Despite this, he still does it on occasion, and it's made worse by Luna's crush on him, ignoring how he treats her and her friends.
  • In Super 4, this is Pirate Girl Ruby the Red's Berserk Button. Tell her that she should stay in the kitchen, that girls are too fragile to fight, that she should switch her cutlass for a rolling pin, or any variation thereof, and you're certain to have a swordfight on your arms. Then again, she used to be a tavern wench in a pirate town, and she heard this during her whole childhood from the macho pirates, so it's understandable that she'd be sick of it.
  • Lampshaded by Donatello in an episode of the first series of Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles: "No, April. It's too dangerous. You wouldn't last 5 minutes in a ninja pizza parlor!" [turns towards Fourth Wall] "I love saying lines like that!"

    Real Life 
  • Nazi Germany was well known for this. The famous German phrase "Kinder, Küche, Kirche" (translated as "children, kitchen, church") is nowadays often attributed to the Nazi Party, but it had actually been in use since the 1890s. The Nazis still saw motherhood as the most important duty for women, and actively discriminated against women who worked outside the home. Mostly they hung on to this attitude even when it had clearly become a bad idea (e.g. they didn't replace enlisted factory workers with women to anywhere near the degree that the Allied countries did, which impacted industry output quite a bit). On the other hand, they did allow women to join the military, in non-combat roles. This caused quite a shock when Germany first fought the Soviet Union, which had women serving in combat roles in every branch of the military. The fact that the Soviets had women driving tanks, women flying combat patrols in fighter planes, and women lugging rifles in the infantry was cited as proof of communist and Slavic degeneracy by the Nazis.
  • After WWII, US women were BOMBARDED with propaganda telling them it was now their "patriotic duty" to stop working in factories and return to the kitchen since the men were coming home. Never mind the fact that women proved not only capable of the job, but that they sometimes did it even better than the men via more attention to detail, causing one foreman to quip, "Nothing gets by them unless it's right." This helped start a second wave of feminists in America who focused on ending gender discrimination, pushing for more economic opportunities for women and more sexual freedom.
  • Even though they both graduated at the top of their law school classes from prestigious schools, the first two women Supreme Court justices Sandra Day O’Connor and Ruth Bader Ginsburg had trouble finding jobs post-graduation because they were both married. O’Connor took a job at a district attorney’s office and then later worked for the Army when her husband was drafted. She took a few years off while her kids were young before finding her way into various offices in Republican politics in the state of Arizona and then to the Supreme Court in 1981. Ginsburg ended up in academia where in her first job she was told she was being paid less because her husband had a good paying job. In the 1970s, she ran the ACLU's women’s rights project while teaching full time. She was appointed to the federal bench in 1980 and then to the Supreme Court in 1993.
  • This is still largely practiced in sports — men and women's sports are segregated by sex, with the men's team considered the "real" sport. This can be seen in the case of Mina Johnson, a student of Southampton Academy that is also a JV starting defensive tackle. While the school had no problems letting her play, she chose to sit out a game against a rival academy that threatened to forfeit if they had to play against her. To further extend this trope, the treatment of Johnson led to her team wearing pink socks and armbands as a show of unity for her and trouncing the opposing team 60-0.
  • The majority of detractors of the WNBA are either talking about sleeping with them, insulting their gender (and race) outright, or quoting this trope.
  • In Brazil, the most common phrase for this attitude is "Go back to the washboard!" (even though with the advent of washing machines, hardly anyone does manual laundry). "Go back to piloting stoves!" is also popular, especially when driving since the stereotype that "All women Drive Like Crazy" is still strong there.
  • In Greece conscription is mandatory. For men. Women who want a career in the Army can join a military school (and not waste about a year of their life). This is also the case in Cyprus (which is not part of Greece) and in Russia.
  • Mandatory conscription was the case in Colombia but the rules changed so women can join the Army without a problem, but they're usually out of the battlefield. Some have relatively high ranks.
  • Dutch politician Pim Fortuyn famously told a female colleague: "Woman, go cook". It wasn't meant as a friendly joke.
  • American feminist groups in The '70s would hand out "barefoot and pregnant" awards to politicians who referenced this trope.
  • Curiously, where actual cooking is involved, only domestic cooking is considered feminine. In professional cooking, women are still expected to stay in the kitchen —or rather, stay in the other kitchen. This kitchen is a man's world, since allegedly "Only a man can be a chef. A cooking woman is merely a cook." (Julia Child blew this aphorism to hell). On Iron Chef America, only two of the ten chefs thus far were women (Cat Cora and Alex Guarnaschelli) and none in the original series. However, there were multiple female challengers in both shows.
  • The Chinese character 安 (also used in Japanese) for "safe and secure" represents a woman inside a house. Similarly, the Korean word for one's (own) wife is still anae (the one inside) or jibsaram (house person). Very similar to the aforementioned Korean term is the British colloquialism "Her Indoors" used for describing one's wife, though it's becoming somewhat antiquated.
  • Many of the conservative sects of mainstream religions still advocate this. In some cases, this is due to their belief that family is always more important than a career or money.
  • The conservatives in Saudi Arabia believe females should never be allowed outside without being covered from head to toe. Even when they're trying to get out of a building on fire. In 2002, fifteen girls died because the religious police locked them inside their burning schoolhouse and barred rescue workers from doing their jobs as they weren't covered. This, by the way, is against the Holy Quran. There's a little something called the Law of Necessity (Quran 2:173) which provides for life-or-death situations, for example, you may eat pork if the other choice is starving to death; by Allah's command, those girls should have been rescued even if they were naked in the shower.
  • East Germany was a thoroughly repressive, Orwellian police state run by Communist overlords. Yet it also had ample opportunities for career-minded women and a robust platform of social services to help them, utterly trouncing the conservative West Germany of the 1950s. It's almost like the Communists were deliberately trying to spite the former, ultraconservative regime. Post-unification, many people pointed out the new, "liberal" attitudes were a step backwards for the east, particularly obvious when the pre-war 'Kinder, Kirche, Küche' slogan reappeared to discourage women from continuing to work.
  • In life-threatening survival situations (such as fights between colonists and Native Americans), some men have been reported as maintaining this trope, even when outnumbered and with the woman being a good shot.
  • In Afghanistan, there is a delightful proverb which says that "a woman's place is either in her husband's house or in her grave." Conservative Afghan mullahs are known for inaccurately appropriating this phrase to The Qur'an. Of course, things were especially bad for women under the Taliban. One of the few good things about the pro-Soviet government of the 1980s was that it was pretty good with women's rights, although the Mujahideen viewed that as just another reason to hate it. When the Taliban took over Afghanistan in 1994, women were forced out of their professions and confined to their homes. They were made to wear shoes that kept their footsteps silent, and windows were required to be painted black so that no one could look inside and see them. They were not allowed outside without a male chaperone and were forced to depend on husbands and male relatives for survival (those that had no such things were forced to beg or prostitute themselves in order to survive). Those men could also have them harmed or killed for even the tiniest infractions. This No Woman's Land situation especially impacted healthcare: female doctors and nurses were forced out, many relief workers had fled the country, and male doctors either could not or would not treat female patients. So many women were left to suffer and die of treatable (even curable) diseases, and to die in childbirth (many women were also suffering from mental problems, such as depression and anxiety, related to their being forced out of professions and public life).
  • During The Vietnam War, male nurses in the U.S. Armed Forces were allowed to carry guns for self-protection, but female nurses were not. In theory, this was because women were not supposed to serve in combat. However, since there were practically no front lines in Vietnam and female nurses were exposed to the same dangers as everyone else in-country, they were exposed to the same danger as men without the same right to protect themselves.
  • Helen Louise "Nellie" Herron was repeatedly told by her mother that if she got a career it would ruin her chances of marriage, and even after she began a successful job as a teacher, Mrs. Herron kept trying to get her to quit. Against her mother's predictions, Nellie went on to marry a successful lawyer by the name of William Howard Taft.
  • This trope is also a common belief among Right-wing Militias in the US, such as the "Proud Boys." This is particularly ironic, given said movement splintered, giving birth to an all-female "Proud Girls" group as well.


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