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Sonic: Jet, do you think I've been a dick to everybody?
Jet: [says nothing]
Sonic: I need you to answer me, buddy, please. Please tell me I'm a good person. Please, deep down, just tell me I'm a good person.
—Sonic Riders Real-Time Fandub

Exactly What It Says on the Tin: A character is lecturing another character; then somehow, either by someone else telling them the truth afterwards or the one they're lecturing breaking down or otherwise indicating that they've gone too far, the character realizes that they have been a complete Jerkass.


It may have been a "The Reason You Suck" Speech, but it's gone too far.

One variation is a normally nice character ripping into another character that they don't think is present, not realizing until afterwards that the character they are ripping on was in earshot, and realizing that even if they had a point, they were being a jerk.

Could be considered a minor version of My God, What Have I Done? and Heel Realization. See also Was Too Hard on Him for the non-jerkass version. Compare Oblivious Mockery.



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    Anime & Manga 
  • Karakuri Circus: The manga reveals during the Interrogation arc that Bai Jin realized how selfishly he acted when he told his brother he loved Francine first. This didn't stop him from snapping when he accidentally witnessed her marrying his brother.
  • Negima! Magister Negi Magi: In the first three episodes, Asuna finds herself increasingly frustrated by Negi and eventually vents her frustrations to Professor Takahata, remarking that Child Prodigy or not, Negi's still a ten-year-old boy who should "stay at home with his parents where he belongs." At that point, Takahata informs her that Negi's parents disappeared when he was a baby, and he was raised by his older sister. Reflecting how Negi had crawled into her bed while she asleep and explained to her that he's used to sharing a bed with his sister, Asuna is taken aback.
    Asuna: I guess I shouldn't have been so hard on him. The little brat's been through enough as it is.
  • Naruto:
    • When Kakashi has Sasuke tied to a tree pre-time skip and is talking about how nothing good ever comes of revenge, Sasuke accuses Kakashi of not understanding, and proposes killing everyone Kakashi holds dear, but then Kakashi says all his loved ones are already dead. Sasuke then stops talking long enough for Kakashi to tell him that they have lost much in the past, but gained new comrades, and that he should be using his Chidori to protect those comrades, rather than on his quest for revenge. Admittedly Sasuke's later character outshines this little moment, still was a accidental Jerkass moment.
    • Sasuke finally realizes what a dick he's been and decides to figure out the real reason he fights.
    • Early on, Sakura confides in Sasuke that she believes that Naruto became such an undisciplined prankster because he had no parents to teach him how to behave, at which point Sasuke, who knows from personal experience that not having parents sucks, promptly berates her and tells her that she has no idea what she's talking about, coldly telling her she's annoying and walking away. Having treated Naruto much the same earlier, Sakura is taken aback and resolves to try and treat him better.
    • At first, Neji used to lecture everyone about "destiny" and how they're idiots for thinking that they can change it. Later on, Naruto confronts him (even pointing out that he's being a Hypocrite because he's too trying to escape his own destiny). Afterwards, Neji admits he was wrong, and no longer bashes people. Later on, he also confronts the main branch for being responsible for making him believe this way.
  • School Days: Say what you will about Makoto Ito, but he gets hit with this twice in the anime. Though the second time it happens, he gets hit with a knife in the gut before he can actually make amends.
  • Cardcaptor Sakura: For most of the series, Sakura is firmly convinced that Touya is nothing but a Big Brother Bully and has little more than scorn for him. When she discovers that Touya had known about her magic and the Clow Cards all along and had been watching over her, and had even sacrificed his sixth sense to save Yue's life, she's left in tearful remorse over how badly she misjudged him.
  • Blood+: In the flashbacks in episode 22, Saya gets exasperated with Haji for his refusal to cooperate with her and tells him to go back to where he came from, only to be taken aback when Haji breaks down and informs her that he's not at the Zoo by choice and that Joel and Amshel bought him. It's this realization that marks Saya's change from Spoiled Brat and she takes a level in kindness.
  • In Little Witch Academia: The Enchanted Parade, Lotte starts giving Akko the cold shoulder for accidentally ripping her family's music sheet while trying to use it for their parade without permission. When Sucy suggests that she's been bottling up her feelings due to being pushed around by Akko all the time, Akko remarks why Lotte can't be forward with her feelings instead of acting gloomy and depressing all the time. Unfortunately, Lotte is standing right behind her when she says this, so she bluntly states that she thinks Akko's ideas for the parade will fail and that she wants no part in it, leaving Akko to desperately try to take back her words. When Lotte changes her mind and returns for a Big Damn Heroes moment to deliver a hand-made replica of the hat worn by Shiny Chariot, Akko's inspiration for the parade and becoming a witch in general, Akko gives her a big, tearful hug and apology for being such an insensitive jerk.
  • Pokémon:
    • Ash:
      • In Friends to the End, after losing the Indigo League in an unflattering way, Ash was very upset as he accused Misty of calling him lazy, which was technically true at the time. However, Ash realized that he was acting like a big baby when he sees and listens to how Ritchie dealt with his loses.
      • In Turning Over A New Bayleef, Ash lashed out at his Bayleef to get away and stay from him, after she tried to approach him slowly, as he kept getting tackled by her. However, after a while, Ash realized his Pokémon absence and went looking for her. With the help of his friends, Ash realized that he didn't consider Bayleef feelings and felt bad for yelling at her. Despite his attempts to apologizes to Bayleef, Ash kept getting the silent treatment from her but he earned her forgiveness when she saw his attempts to save her from Team Rocket.
      • In Brave the Wave!, after losing his Gym Battle against Brawly, Ash gets frustrated that he lost to a carefree Gym Leader as he thought he wasn't serious. Also, Ash even snapped at his friends when they tried to help him then he ran off with Pikachu not far behind him. However, while walking with Pikachu, Ash realized that he really lost it towards his friends and was wrong about Brawly as he can be a serious Gym Leader.
    • After evolving, Ash's Charizard becomes openly disrespectful to him, repeatedly refusing to obey him and either sleeping instead of battling or just becoming a raging Berserker. During the Orange Islands arc, this attitude leads to Charizard nearly getting the flame on its tail doused by a Poliwrath's Water Gun, and then nearly killed by an Ice Beam, leading Ash to spend the entire night unfreezing him and nursing him back to health; this causes Charizard to remember everything Ash did for it, beginning when Ash saved its life when its original trainer abused and abandoned it. With that, Charizard realizes how badly it has treated Ash, and by morning, it regains its loyalty and respect for him.
    • In The Path That Leads to Goodbye!, Ash completely overacted on Iris when he attempted to catch a Pokémon but felt bad later and even tried to make amends with her. However, after another argument and Iris left, Ash realized that he made a mistake and went looking for her to make things right with a little help from his friends. Also, in the same episode, Iris overacted on Ash as she accused him of giving her a bad fruit on purpose when he gave one to her as a peace offering. After leaving the boys, Iris thought about her fallout with Ash as she realized that he would never give anyone a bad fruit on purpose but it wasn't enough to go make things right with him. However, after seeing two of his Pokémon in trouble and truly realizing her mistake, Iris help Ash get their friends back then they both apologized for overreacting.
    • In Seeing the Forest for the Trees!, after losing his Gym battle against Wulfric, Ash went to a state of depression for letting fear get the better off him as he went to the Winding Woods alone with his confidences shatter and questioning himself. However, Ash was visited by a very worried Serena as she attempted to cheer him up but didn't truly see as to why he was depressed when she concluded that the loss was the caused. Hearing Serena's conclusion, Ash lost it as he told her that she had no idea what his situation was. However, after a frustrated and heartbroken Serena pointed out that he wasn't himself and wanted the real him back, Ash realized that he really hurt her. Also, in the same episode, Serena felt bad for losing her temper towards Ash as she believed to be responsible for making him leave further into the Winding Woods. After reuniting with one another, Serena attempted to apologizes first for losing it but Ash stopped her from saying anything as he assured her that he was the one who really lost it then apologized and thanked her for helping him get out of his depression.
    • Chloe used to distance herself from Pokémon and treated the family Yamper with coldness because she got jealous of him when she was younger. Although she has come to respect him during the events of Best Friend... Worst Nightmare!, Chloe still distance herself from Yamper and other Pokémon. However, in There's a New Kid in Town!, Chloe realized how badly she treated Yamper, after hearing how jealous she was during her childhood and remembering that he rescued her from a group of Venonat, as she vowed to treat him better and gradually comes to truly care for him. Also, Chloe opened herself back up into befriending and loving Pokémon again.
  • Sword Art Online: Asuna's mother, Kyouko, is initially shown to be a Fantasy-Forbidding Mother and very controlling of her daughter's life. By the latter parts of Volume 7 (Season 2 Episode 23 of the anime), she, using Asuna's "Erika" account, has a heart-to-heart with Asuna within ALO. When Asuna confides to Kyouko that her own parents are proud of her achievements and that Asuna's time in SAO and ALO taught her the value of having people who can appreciate her deeds, Kyouko realizes she has been an ungrateful mother and breaks down in Tears of Remorse.
  • Fruits Basket: At the funeral for Kyoko, Tohru's mother, Kakeru had the gall to tell her to her face, right in the middle of said funeral, that she wasn't the only one who lost a parent in the accident (his girlfriend Komoki's father was the driver who killed Kyoko, and he died in the accident as well) and she was being whiny and disgusting for openly grieving. He is hit by this soon after, especially after Komoki threatens to break up with him in disgust for his actions, and the guilt weights on his mind for years until he and Tohru talk it out.
  • Dragon Ball Z:
    • When Cell kills Future Trunks, Vegeta is hit with this, realizing that Trunks had come to the past to save them, and Vegeta had done nothing but ignore him and treat him like crap. He's so disgusted with himself and furious at Cell for killing Trunks that it sends him off on an ill-fated Roaring Rampage of Revenge.
    • From the same saga, Goku has so much confidence in his son's ability to beat Cell, he actually gives Cell a senzu bean, which restores him to full health after he'd been weakened by his fight with Goku. Goku reasons that Gohan probably naturally wants a fair fight with Cell. He's oblivious to how things are going until Piccolo spells out for him that his son doesn't enjoy combat the way the others do, and is deeply confused and terrified about why his father is openly giving support to the person who's about to try and murder him.
  • Dragon Ball Super: Jiren spends most of his screen-time being a Social Darwinist and Arrogant Kung-Fu Guy, who is not above mocking Toppo or using his fellow Pride Troopers as pawns for the sake of attaining more power. After being defeated by Goku, Frieza, and 17's teamwork, Jiren finally comes to realize what a jerk he's been. After 17 revives the erased universes, Jiren finally opens up to Toppo and admits that he's been bound by his past traumas that he cannot form attachments with anyone. Toppo rebuffs this by telling him that by fighting so hard to save Universe 11, he's formed a bond with his fellow Pride Troopers and now they'll fight as True Companions, a sentiment Jiren happily agrees with.
  • In Bakuman。 After the cancellation of his first serialized manga, Nakai loses the determination he had demonstrated before and Takes A Level In Jerkass , preferring to work as an assistant so he can spend the day trying to flirt with Kato, who is visibly uncomfortable with it, rather than working to get a new series. And when Aoki asks him to work with her on a new project, he tries to blackmail her into going out with him. When he finally realises that he has lost his drive to be a mangaka and how much of a jerk he has been, he decides to quit being a mangaka and go back to his home town.
  • Highschool of the Dead: After Takashi Mercy Kills the zombified Hisashi, Rei is bitter and chews him out over it, remarking that Takashi must have hated him and enjoyed doing it since Hisashi and Rei were dating. When this nearly leads to Takashi willingly going to fight a massive amount of Them, which would undoubtedly lead to him being Devoured by the Horde, Rei immediately backpedals, apologizes, and begs Takashi not to leave her alone.
  • Berserk: Guts has one after Godo chews him out over his attitude, particularly the fact that he chose to go off on a Roaring Rampage of Revenge against Griffith for two years rather than tend to Casca's insanity and help her through her trauma. The realization of just how much he took Casca for granted is enough to bring Guts to his knees.
    Guts: Again!? I had it in my hands...and without thinking, I lost it!? The thing I cherished most...!?
  • Rosario + Vampire: In chapter 7 of the manga, when Kurumu skips out on the Newspaper Club, Moka speculates that Kurumu doesn't actually care about the club or think of her as friends. It reaches a head when Kurumu walks out on them again when their half-finished newspaper draft goes missing; Moka snaps, openly accuses Kurumu of only thinking about herself when everyone else is having a hard time, and orders her to just leave the club and not come back. Shortly after, they discover a blackmail letter and multiple dirty photos addressed to Kurumu in the Newspaper Club's toolbox, and they realize that Kurumu has been acting the way she is because she's being the victim of blackmail and stalking, courtesy of Nagare Kano, and she went to confront him to get the newspaper he stole back. Moka is hit with this, and when they go to help her out, she outright bursts into Tears of Remorse while apologizing:
    Moka: I'm sorry! I didn't know about it and misunderstood your intentions!
  • In Goddess Creation System, Xiaxi ends up suffering a harsh setback because another maid ratted her out on attempting to seduce Mingluan. She realizes that she actually had it coming and that Ting Zhu, the maid, was absolutely not the one at fault. She had consciously snubbed several attempts to get along and shown herself as a complete professional ass-kisser, which made her a threat to Ting Zhu's own chances of getting anywhere. She goes out of her way to get on Ting Zhu's good side and doesn't make the mistake of alienating other servants again, even though she probably still doesn't actually care about them.
  • Food Wars!: Erina Nakiri has a major one when she overhears Soma casually revealing to her father Azami that he's the son of Joichiro Saiba. To contextualize, Joichiro Saiba is the only chef that Erina has always admired and her major inspiration to become one herself. Up until very recently, Erina had been actively antagonizing Soma simply because he came from a diner in a middle-class district and taking every possible chance to try and get him expelled from the school. The shock of learning that she'd been unknowingly insulting her idol's son (and by extension, her idol's culinary style) actually causes her to faint.

    Comic Books 
  • Sonic the Hedgehog (Archie Comics): After returning from space, Sonic dates Fiona despite full knowledge of Tails' crush on her, both because he was hurting over his recent breakup with Sally, and because he knew that Fiona had no interest in him and he wanted to stop Tails from being hurt. Instead, it just heavily strains his friendship with Tails, Sonic unaware of just how angry and hurt Tails is over the mess until the tensions explode and lead to a physical fight between the two shortly after the destruction of Knothole. All the while, Sonic is confused and has no clue why Tails has such a beef with him until Tails flat-out screams it at him in a rage and chews him out over dismissing his feelings for Fiona and lack of sensitivity. It's at that moment Sonic realizes just how insensitive and selfish his choosing to date Fiona really was, and leads him to apologize and even offer to let Tails beat him up as payback.
    Sonic: I've been a jerk to you, man. I didn't mean it, but it doesn't change the fact that I was.
  • Marvel Adventures: Fantastic Four: After a Trauma Conga Line of his experiment going wrong and endangering thousands of lives, Professor Ito admits to Reed Richards that the latter is not a Glory Seeker as he had thought, but a true scientist, while he is what people in their profession refer to as a "jerk".
  • The entirety of Superman: Savage Dawn, but especially the events of Action Comics Vol. 2 #50, has the Man of Steel finally stop being the Jerkass loner he'd become since Superman: Truth and realize he'd always had friends looking out for him, especially people like his ex-girlfriend Wonder Woman and Lois Lane, who blew his secret identity to save him. It's driven home when the villain Metallo, who is badly injured protecting Lois, willingly surrenders his Kryptonite heart to empower Superman.
  • Batman/Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles: It's discovered that Splinter and the Turtles are slowly being Brought Down to Normal as a result of their presence in the DC Universe, with them allying with Batman to get back home. During this time, Raphael gets impatient with Batman and gives him a "The Reason You Suck" Speech, outright declaring him to be nothing but "a selfish little rich kid" who beats up bad guys for the fun of it who he refuses to put his faith in. Raph gets hit with this trope when Batman takes him to Crime Alley, where his parents were gunned down in front of him, and explains how that loss motivates him to do what he does.
  • Wonder Woman (1987): When Artemis tells an abuse survivor at a women's shelter that she's a coward for the way she fled her abusive husband to save her kids and that her kids would be better off if she were dead she arrogantly refuses to back down despite reactions and only seems to realize just how awful she's been when the woman ends up shot by her husband which upsets and infuriates her.

    Fan Works 
  • In the Pokemon fanfic A Pikachu in Love, Pikachu has several of these in regards to how coldly he's been acting to Ash, but what really hits home is when Misty is carrying him back to the camp site after he had been attacked by the Ursaring, and she starts to talk about how much they all love him and how devastated they'd be if something had happened to them, especially Ash. It's at this point Pikachu realizes just how loved he is, and that Ash would never forget about him or leave him behind.
  • In Aliens of London, when Alice and Gwen have to stop the 456 with the Tenth Doctor’s help, Alice spends some time regarding the Doctor as just another alien playing with humanity, particularly when the Doctor reveals that he created the 456 as weapons for the Time War, until Gwen shows Alice recorded footage of the Doctor’s future death ("The End of Time"), helping Alice accept that the Doctor genuinely does care about the humans caught up in events.
  • In the Angel fanfic Splinter, when the Angel Investigations team find themselves in an alternate reality, Wesley, Cordelia and Gunn reject Angel because they believe his counterpart in this world has joined Darla, killed Wesley and Buffy, blinded Cordelia, and is attempting a ritual involving brutally removing human livers with his soul intact. However, they later realise that Wesley and Cordelia's fates are due to Vocah's attack, with Buffy's death having nothing more to do with Angel than that he wasn't there, and Angel taking human livers is actually part of another ritual to try and stabilise his collapsing pocket universe. Faced with this evidence that Angel is still trying to save lives, Wes and Gunn acknowledge that Angel only fell so far in this world because he didn't have anyone else, as well as accepting that his decision to fire them was based around a desire to protect them from what he felt he had to do rather than him just being cruel.
  • In the X-Men: Evolution fic "Wanda's Life", Jean never starts dating Duncan because Wanda makes Jean realise that she’s been becoming too caught up in being popular to realise what she’s losing.
  • In Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality, Harry hears an I Have This Friend... version of the Snape-Lily-James story by Snape, and draws perfectly reasonable conclusions from what little information he is given... expressing them very bluntly and completely and utterly hurting Snape's feelings. Harry isn't insensitive by all means, but this story taught him he should know exactly what he's talking about before recklessly flapping his mouth.
  • The My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic fic Post Nuptials takes the Jerkass Realization Twilight's friends are implied to have in the season 2 finale for ignoring Twilight's warnings against the evil Cadance (actually an imposter), and brings it Up to Eleven: here they realize that they'd broken Twilight's heart by turning their backs on her, and profusely beat themselves up over how they could have treated her so coldly.
  • In Team 8, Sakura overhears Naruto warning Rock Lee of trying to win her affections because she cares for no one but herself and Sasuke and is not a nice person to begin with. Sakura realizes Naruto is telling the truth and tries to become a better person.
  • In the Ponies of Olympus series, Rainbow Dash has one at the end of Ditzy Don't when, upon calling out Mademoiselle Doo for treating her like a dumb foal just because she's not as good as her, realizes that that's the exact same way she's always treated Ditzy.
  • Jen's friends undergo this in Princess of the Blacks when Jen starts acting more withdrawn than normal. When they insist she not bottle up her problems and share with them, Jen shares some of her Dark and Troubled Past.
    • Tracey, who managed to avoid it the first time, really sticks her foot in it when she makes fun of Jen's boggart: a small crying child. Jen curses her out then reveals that her boggart isn't a random child crying over some minor scrape; it's her shortly after being thrown out on the streets and not long before she was raped.
  • In The End of Ends, after Beast Boy leaves his resignation letter behind, the other Teen Titans regret how they treated him in response to his behavior following being rejected by Terra. Unfortunately, it's too late for them to make amends and things get much worse.
  • When Tony Stark exclaims how great it is that Harry is immortal in Master of Death and What it Means, the others quickly shoot him down. Harry's explanation of what it means to truly be immortal makes Tony realize just how insensitive his remark was.
  • A rare example of the offended not noticing the jerkass moment occurs in The Mouse of Konoha. After Anko remarks that Naruto's ability to juggle is "an interesting trick for a civilian but useless to a shinobi", Naruto explains that he taught himself because none of the other kids would play with him and playing catch by himself got boring after a while. Understandably, Anko feels horrible afterwards.
  • Anko again in NBH when she angrily asks Naruto if he knows what it's like to be hated for something that wasn't his fault. It's only after Yuugao explains things to her that Anko realizes/remembers that Naruto is a jinchuuriki.
  • In Echoes of the Fallen, Buffy gets one after Xander rolls up his sleeve and explains he has his costume's full memories when asked if he had anything leftover from his transformation on Halloween. While Giles and Willow are horrified, Buffy doesn't see what the big deal is about such a small tattoo, until Giles explains that it's an Auschwitz tattoo.
  • Misunderstandings: Sergeant Peppermint York gets one when Peter shows her the scar from his time in a sideshow and later when her subordinate Swift Wind angrily tells her off, saying he has forgiven Peter for accidentally shooting him and asks her "why do you hate him so much?". She realizes she has been targeting an innocent creature for nothing and confesses to her role in the conspiracy against him. She gets an even bigger one when she learns of the sabotage, and how it will not only kill Peter, but it nearly destroyed Canterlot and is willing to drop her anonymity, realizing she supported a group that had no interest in protecting ponies.
  • Rosario Vampire: Brightest Darkness Act III: Due to their belief that Tsukune and his friends are just Attention Whores claiming to fight Fairy Tale for attention, the near-entirety of the Yokai Academy student body goes above and beyond to ostracize and bully them. Come chapters 41-44, the gang proves the rumors true by fighting off Kuyou, and then a Fairy Tale armada, one after another; the students all get hit with this, along with the fact that Tsukune's group is risking their lives to save the school despite how poorly the other students treated them, and thus, the entire student body is galvanized into helping the group fight Fairy Tale off.
  • The Rise of Darth Vulcan:
    • Diamond Tiara's experiences while being held hostage by Vulcan do this to her, forcing her to realize just how terrible she was to everyone... which was Vulcan's whole point.
    • When Vulcan is a prisoner of the Princesses, Luna uses Jack Bauer Interrogation Techniques to get information out of him, believing him to be the black-hearted warlock he presents himself as. When she realizes that he's just an empowered teenager with trust, authority, and anger issues, she's horrified at herself, but it's too late to explain herself to him.
  • Land Before Time Retold: As in the first film, right before the volcano and tar pit fiasco, Cera badmouths Littlefoot's mother, resulting in their big fight and the group splitting up. After Littlefoot and Original Character Aylene save them, Aylene explains to Cera that Littlefoot reacted the way he did because his mother was killed by Sharptooth; Cera is instantly ashamed of herself and apologizes to Littlefoot.
  • Eroninja: While escorting a caravan to Suna, Naruto and Samui run into one of Samui's ex-boyfriends. Given that Samui is using a specialized Henge to appear to have gotten breast reduction surgery, her ex remarks to his friends about how Samui used to have "tits so big, the should have qualified as national treasures." Naruto, who has no idea Samui didn't get surgery, pulls him aside and tells Samui's ex that it's people like him that made such a beautiful woman so insecure she got plastic surgery to change her looks. Samui's ex-boyfriend buys her a drink and sincerely apologizes for his comments.
  • In Hunter, Xander realizes Angel has returned and Buffy isn't telling anyone so he asks Faith to talk to her about it. When Buffy hears this, she interrupts Faith's explanation and quickly tells her what really happened, not Xander's jealousy tainted version. Buffy feels like a terrible friend after Faith tells her that's exactly the same explanation Xander gave.
  • From Kill la Kill AU, we have this with Nui, when she realizes that Satsuki had given her name and felt "gross" because she had treated her so badly prior to finding that out.
  • In A Familiar Change of Fate because she summoned the happy-go-lucky and humble Starfire, Louise Franoise realizes she's been treating the nicest person she knew as a pet. It particularly hits home when Starfire is overjoyed by her "luxurious meal" of bread and water.
  • In the Kingdom Hearts/RWBY crossover The Light of Remnant, Blake and Ruby end up giving Sora the cold shoulder for over a week, Blake because Sora made an Innocently Insensitive comment about Faunus while asking about them, and Ruby because she was developing feelings for him and didn't know how else to cope. They realize they were jerks to him after Sora goes off with Yang to track down the White Fang without telling them.
  • A double example in the Miraculous Ladybug fic We're inevitable takes place several months after Marinette confessed her feelings to Adrien, only to be met with an "I know," and "I'm sorry," expressed with barely concealed irritation. At the start of the story, the two are brought together for the first time in months by Master Fu, learning that they're Ladybug and Chat Noir, and are forced to confront what happened.
    • Marinette starts by saying that she doesn't blame him for his reaction, admitting that the way she'd acted didn't really set her apart from any of his other obsessed fangirls. "I wanted to believe I was different, because my feelings hadn’t stemmed from your looks or your position in life or anything like that. They were feelings that were entirely anchored in the right reasons, so I let myself believe that because I liked you for your kindness and your talents and your selflessness that I wasn’t just putting you on a pedestal of unreachable proportions just like everyone else had. But I was lying to myself. I had put you on a pedestal. I idolised everything that made Adrien Agreste who he was, but felt as though I could never be good enough for you, or even be myself around you, so I got to know you through ways that didn’t involve actually forming a friendship with you, under the illusion that it was okay because I did know you, and we were sort of friends and everything. I found so many reasons to admire you, but without even realising it I used all those reasons to further push you to an unreachable point. It was bad for myself, and it was bad for you. So, I guess what I’m trying to say is, I’m sorry. Not for having the feelings I did, but the fact that I let them stop me from treating you like a normal person."
    • In turn, Adrien tells her that nothing she did justified him being (as he now sees it) a jerk and a hypocrite about it, bringing up his own feelings for Ladybug. "We’re partners and best friends, but the fact that I didn’t know Ladybug’s civilian side and totally idolised her on this unreachable level kind of meant I was no better than everyone who does the same with me, even if I liked her for the right reasons, just like you. When you told me how you felt, I already knew, but to hear it directly from you and to immediately feel kind of annoyed - once again, sorry - well, I looked back on it not much later and realised how hypocritical it was in retrospect. But all the times I wanted to apologise and try and patch things up Alya would pull you away because she was angry on your behalf, and no longer being in the same class meant we didn’t see much of each other anyway. And I never really knew what I’d have said, anyway. 'Hey Marinette, sorry I was a jerk when you said you liked me but the thing is, I have a massive crush on Ladybug who doesn’t like superhero me and doesn’t know civilian me and I put her on a pedestal the same way you did so really I’m in no position to judge you but I’m just sick of people idolising me is that okay?' never really had the best ring to it."
  • Ryuuko in Batteries, while in labor and at the hospital, realized how much she had really hurt Satsuki with her feud.
    • When Iori calls her out for her Slut-Shaming and reminds her of what Satsuki did to get by, Nonon doesn't say anything else.
  • In Chapter 25 of Common Sense, seeing Ash trying to hide his pain over not being able to save Butterfree's mate from Team Rocket, Misty acknowledges that Ash is a good trainer and that she's been hating him for no reason other than her own wounded pride over losing to him.
  • Pokémon Reset Bloodlines has a sidestory centered on Ash's Butterfree. When the group reaches the spot where his species finds mates, he reminisces about his mate (as they had heard the mating Butterfree had been captured by Hunter J). He gets very angry at Ash for dragging him back to his adventure, thinking that he doesn't care, and decides to try and go find his mate by himself. Eventually, he does find her safe and sound, having barely escaped Hunter J, but she's now in a relationship with another Butterfree. Despite being upset, he decides to let her be happy, even if it's not with him. When he returns, the first thing he does is apologize to Ash for the things he said, understanding that Ash never meant to cause him pain and that he still has reasons to move forward.
  • A Tactician's Testimony: In "Blood of Pride," Katri recognizes that her prejudices against Sacaeans were wrong when she sees Marquess Araphen openly badmouthing Lyn for being Sacaean, calling her a "nomadic mongrel." The realization that she used to think the same as such a Jerkass leaves Katri remorseful and feeling sick to her stomach.
  • Like Post Nuptials above, Loved and Lost, an extended retelling of the 2nd season finale of My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic, makes the canon example with Twilight's friends as well as her brother and Celestia more profound, specifically because Prince Jewelius turns them all into pariahs by holding them responsible for the Changeling invasion due to not listening to Twilight's suspicions regarding Queen Chrysalis and neglecting to postpone the wedding and get the unknown threat over Canterlot out of the way first. They become banished along with Cadance and Luna, and after they're reunited, Cadance sadly tells them how she and Shining Armor first became a couple with some secret assistance from Twilight. The revelation of his adoring little sister having helped him get together with the mare of his dreams makes Shining Armor feel even worse than he already did about banning Twilight from his wedding, and Twilight's friends better understand how self-centered they were behaving during the wedding preparations. They then return to Canterlot, determined to set things right.
    Fluttershy: Twilight wanted you two to be together forever!
    Applejack: All this time, we've only been thinkin' about how much the weddin' meant to us and not how much it meant to Twilight.
    Pinkie Pie: Some friends we are.
    • While trying to earn back their lives and make it up to Twilight, the disgraced heroes are also forced to face the fact that they forgot to consider the feelings of Canterlot's citizens who, while expecting for the wedding, also had to be anxious over the threat of unknown attackers who managed to strike despite Celestia and Shining Armor's safety measures, causing civilian casualties (at least one filly's parents became hospitalized in the attack). Before the heroes earn back their prestige and the public's trust, Jewelius angrily declares sympathizing with Twilight and the other heroes to be an act of treason in the 17th chapter. This outburst causes the citizens of Canterlot to realize that the dishonored heroes were all along right about Jewelius being evil and that they had chosen the wrong side. In the epilogue, the heroes apologize for their mistakes before proceeding to the wedding, and the public in turn apologizes to them for blindly believing Jewelius' propaganda about them and spurning them.
    • The three original bridesmaids — whom Chrysalis hypnotized and replaced with Twilight's friends on the excuse of slanderous lies — get to call the disgraced heroes out of not caring about their disappearance. Twilight's friends apologize to them during the epilogue and offer them the bridesmaid positions back, only to be forgiven and allowed to keep the positions.
    • Twilight is manipulated by Jewelius to stop trusting her friends, mentor and brother for their treatment of her, and she acts coldly toward them as they try to tell her how evil Jewelius truly is. After she realizes the truth, she seeks them out to reconcile with them, with everypony owning up to their respective mistakes. It should be noted that prior to Twilight discovering the truth about Jewelius, she admits floating the idea of pardoning her friends, expressing a desire to forgive them for their mistakes and apologize for being too harsh on them. Discovering the truth leads her into blaming herself for it all.
  • Told That Devil to Take You Back:
    • When Amelia Pond returns from the dead, Dean is forced to acknowledge that, despite his claims that he killed Amelia because she was a monster who would inevitably kill more people, he only did it because he had lost so much recently and just wanted to be able to kill something.
    • Dean experiences a lesser version of this when Bela reveals why she made a deal to kill her parents as a teenager, with Bela quickly assuring him that she forgives his past harsh words.
  • In Goldstein, Yehudah has long been annoyed by Terry's many questions about his religion, and instinctively finds Terry's own outspoken Christian beliefs to be threatening. Eventually he hears Terry signing him up for something related to Easter and explodes at him, which puts Terry on the outs with most of their fellow Ravenclaws; however, it turns out that he was only signing Yehudah up to go home during their break, which Yehudah actually wanted. Yehudah eventually writes Rabbi Zeller, asking if he has to apologize for wronging someone who isn't Jewish...and, upon realizing how bad he sounds just asking that, figures the answer out for himself.
  • Infinity Crisis:
    • Different Strokes reveals that Felicity had one of these while she was 'dead' regarding the way she'd treated Oliver over his attitude towards killing, acknowledging that a willingness to kill when necessary doesn't mean Oliver isn't a hero.
    • In Taking Flight (and Fights) Johnny Storm has a smaller moment when Peter Parker tells Johnny how Peter only thought about using his powers for personal benefit back when he became Spider-Man until the events that led to the death of his uncle.
  • In Bound (How to Train Your Dragon), Astrid flat-out tells Stoick that Hiccup feels like a disappointment and that he should take the time to make him feel valued.
  • It happens to Power Girl in A Force of Four after her cousin's death. Upon reflecting she never told him she loved him, she realizes her "I have to be a tough bitch to survive" massive-child-on-her-shoulder attitude did more harm than good and hurt people she loved.
  • The Many Dates of Danny Fenton: Katie Kaboom has one after Danny yells at her after she accidentally hurt her little brother during one of her rampages.
  • Celadon's New Blossom: Erika found it extremely funny to force Ash to dress and act the part of a cute little girl... then she saw Ash was actually distressed by the situation and decide to dial it down.
  • A Rabbit Among Wolves: Jaune's working with the White Fang is mostly out of self-interest at first, with only a cursory care for the plight felt by Faunus. Being nearly raped by an SDC manager changes it somewhat and gives him a deeper understanding of how bad they have it.
  • Down And Out: In Chapter 7, Grace realizes how horrible she's been acting and questions why she's been hurting Simon like this. As a result, Grace relocates Simon to her room and begins trying to rehabilitate him.
  • Infinity Train: Blossoming Trail: Professor Cerise has been lashing out in anger after his daughter's disappearance and upon learning that her interests are just so...different. It's only when Parker states that Chloe's likes do not make her insane that the Professor realizes that he knows so little about her and that both his children are afraid of asking him to be their support.
  • When Sam in KNight Wolf changes the school menu to entirely vegetarian, she realizes she screwed up when Danny calls her out for trying to force her beliefs on others and taking away the option to choose.
  • Stay: Kelly is deeply upset by Marco’s rejection, blaming Star, who she believes is less deserving of his love, even though Marco’s reason was that he feels No Sparks with Kelly. In response, she abandons Marco in his hour of need and leaves him to try to heal from leaving Star, without a friend to lean on. Poor Marco now has to deal with heartbreak over his unrequited love for Star, and the possible end of his close friendship with Kelly. Later on, Janna gives her a scathing speech over Kelly’s “Entitled to Have You” attitude with Marco and her grudge against Star for having his love, and Kelly realizes how much of a bad friend she’s been.

    Films — Animation 
  • A Bug's Life: After Flik reveals he understands how Atta feels when she says the colony is all watching her, waiting for her to screw up, Atta realizes she was just as guilty of treating him that way, apologizes, makes it up to him and is nicer to him from then on.
  • In Cars, Lightning McQueen has his when he learns about Doc Hudson's Dark and Troubled Past where a horrible crash cost him his racing career for good, and he finally discovers what an awful jerk he's been over the course of the movie, making him undergo his Character Development. Doc also has one when he's called out by Sally for phoning the press to where Lightning is so he can get him out of town and send him off to the tiebreaker race.
  • Imelda in Coco is completely unwilling to forgive her husband for 96 years for supposedly walking out on her family to the point that she completely bans any music in her household and erase any presence of him in their household and later upon dying in the afterlife, she rejects any and all attempts at him to apologize and explain and left him behind to rot. But then upon being told the truth that Hector intended to return before being murdered along with the fact that he is on the verge of a Final Death, Imelda gets horrified by what she had done to the point that despite being unable to forgive him right away, she agrees to help him live by retrieving the photo that Ernesto has confiscated.
  • In Eight Crazy Nights, after Whitey tells Elanor about Davey's past when his parents were killed in a car accident one night after he won the basketball tournament, Davey flips out at him and calls him a freak, tells him nobody likes him, and that he will never win the patch of appreciation for his charity. Later, Davey has an epiphany realizing that he's been a dick to everyone because of his bitterness towards his parents' deaths and turning to alcohol as a crutch, and Whitey, who had taken him in after his trailer burned down, really isn't appreciated by the townspeople who take advantage of his kindness. He goes to the town banquet to apologize for his behavior over the years and calls out the townspeople for their treatment of Whitey and that he had probably treated him worst of all, the townspeople regret the way they treated him and help Davey give Whitey a surprise party and give him the appreciation patch he's always wanted.
  • In Inside Out, Joy has one after she and Bing Bong end up in the Memory Dump with Riley's core memories. Joy not only realizes she's caused all sorts of trouble with her attempts to keep Riley happy, but when she finds a memory with a mixture of Sadness and Joy, Joy realizes Sadness does have a purpose and she's been pushing her to the side all these years for no reason. This gives her the resolve to escape the dump and make things right.
  • In Kung Fu Panda, Shifu is angry that Po is chosen to be the Dragon Warrior by apparent accident, so he does his best to give Po severe training to drive him out of the palace. But when Tai Lung escapes from prison and Oogway ascends into the heavens, Po is very frightened and tells off Shifu, also saying that whatever abuse Shifu threw at him, nothing hurt him more than living with his faults and failures and how he wants to learn kung fu to change him into someone better. This makes Shifu realize that he cannot train Po the way he had trained the Furious Five, and he decides to train Po a different way.
  • In The LEGO Batman Movie, it takes getting sent to the Phantom Zone and having Phyllis the guardian point out all the times he's pushed people away to make Batman realize how much damage his lone-wolf vigilante shtick has done to his life.
  • ParaNorman: Implied when Norman lashes out and yells at his friends (out of frustration) to get out when searching for Agatha's records. He rants about how Courtney never listens to him and no one else listens to him, and how everyone thinks he's a freak. While she did leave, after seeing him endanger himself she becomes more kind and supporting to Norman, implying she realizes how much pain he is in when he was a outcast and now she wants to help him.
  • In Rugrats in Paris: Chaz has one after seeing Coco for who she really was, it dawns on him that he got caught up in the romantic atmosphere of Paris, he didn't realize who he was romancing until it was almost too late.
  • The Simpsons Movie: Homer's major character arc in the film is having one these is having one of these, after he finally drives his family away from by selfishly choosing to stay in Alaska let Springfield and all the people in it be destroyed, because of a situation he caused, while throwing the very words he used to convince Marge to stick by him earlier back in her face, and going back to save his family and town.
    • There's also a major subject of him driving away his son Bart, who gradually turns to Ned Flanders as a Parental Substitute. Homer eventually recognizes his failure as a father and they rekindle their relationship, while saving Springfield together in the climax.
  • Shrek:

    Films — Live-Action 
  • 16 Wishes: Abby waited for eight years of her life for her sixteenth birthday as she wanted things her way and made a list. When the day arrives and got sixteen magic candles from a fairy godmother, Abby got everything she wanted at first until she made a wish that everyone would stop treating her like a kid but it instead made her an adult. However, through that wish, Abby realized how bratty and selfish she was too everyone around her, especially her friends and family. After making a wish to redo her sixteenth birthday, Abby starts treating everyone around her better.
  • Mortal Kombat: Raiden is fond of this trope in the first film. A rare humorous Jerkass Realization.
    Raiden: The fate of billions will depend upon you. Heh heh heh heh! ...sorry.
  • A meta-example: Jake LaMotta has said he never truly realized how terribly he treated the people in his life until he saw the events dramatized by Martin Scorsese in Raging Bull (which he worked as a consultant on).
  • In the film version of It, the now-adult members of the Losers Club hold a meeting to talk about old times and discuss their plans for taking down the eponymous creature. One of their number, Stan, is conspicuously absent, which causes the other members of the club to playfully ridicule him and berate him for being late. Soon afterwards, they get a phone call that puts an immediate end to the frivolity—Stan had committed suicide the night before.
  • Home Alone: Kate realizes how unfair and neglectful she was towards Kevin when she finds out that she left him behind while rushing to the plane and spends the rest of the movie doing everything she can to get back to him.
  • Turkey Hollow: After getting kidnapped, Annie thinks about her life and realizes how poorly she treats her parents and her brother. She treats everyone better from that point on.
  • In Dennis the Menace, Mr. Wilson gives Dennis a "The Reason You Suck" Speech when the latter tells him that his house has been robbed, causing him to miss the blooming and death of a rare flower he bred at a garden party he hosted. Dennis runs away as a result, and when Henry and Alice return from their business trips, Mr. Wilson realizes that Dennis running away was his fault and searches everywhere for him. Though he doesn't succeed in finding Dennis, who is instead found by Switchblade Sam, he is very distraught, and relieved when Dennis returns the next morning on his bicycle, carrying a defeated Sam in his wagon.

  • There are many examples in the Harry Potter series.
    • One was when Ron was craning his neck to get a look at the Longbottoms' beds, then he is told of the Longbottoms' condition.
    • When Hermione is lecturing Harry again about his connection to Voldemort and makes the mistake of saying he likes it. Harry's Death Glare pretty much shuts her up and has her bending over backwards to apologize.
    • The Magical Maintenance man the trio forced to leave in Deathly Hallows was there to be with his wife when she had to go up against Umbridge and the Anti-Muggle trial, cue Jerkass Realization.
    • Slughorn is pretty much a vest-wearing walking example of this trope.
    • When Hermione criticizes The Quibbler in front of Luna in a very Jerkass way, then finds out Luna's the daughter of the Quibbler's Editor, though seeing as how Luna had been reading it when Hermione walked in, it was rather rude regardless.
    • In Order of the Phoenix, Dudley has one when he is attacked by the dementor and is shown the sort of person he really is. This causes Dudley to cease bullying Harry (he is never shown to pick on him again after this point in the books) and try to be a better person (leaving tea outside Harry's room, telling Harry he doesn't think he's a waste of space).
    • Harry himself went through this in the fifth book. When his mental connection to Voldemort as well as Umbridge's actions at Hogwarts make him rude and short with Ron and Hermione, he realizes how moody he'd been. He tries to reel himself in, though he keeps being rather touchy throughout the book until Sirius dies. And even after that, he goes off on Dumbledore in his grief over it.
  • The novel How To Rock Braces and Glasses by Meg Haston is basically a book-long one of these for protagonist Kacey Simon. She's the Alpha Bitch of her school, but she genuinely believes that her Brutal Honesty is helpful and beneficial to those she uses it on. After losing her popularity due to the sudden acquisition of braces and glasses, she realizes that her fellow students mostly consider her a colossal Jerkass and sets out to change this fact by being nicer.
  • In the The Railway Series book More About Thomas The Tank Engine, Thomas and Percy got into a bitter quarrel which started with Thomas blaming Percy for intentionally covering him in coal, and in the last book "Drip Tank", Thomas was even more unsympathetic towards Percy, calling him a "drip" during their argument in the sheds. After Percy rescues him from his accident with a punctured water tank, Thomas becomes ashamed of his behavior, and apologizes to him for calling him a "drip" and finally reconciles their friendship. It is from that point on that Thomas becomes more humble and kind throughout the series.
  • In The Dinosaur Lords, Melodía, after acting condescendingly to all of her ladies-in-waiting, realizes that they all have Hidden Depths and are smarter than they look. She concludes gloomily that she's been a self-righteous jerkass and the most shallow girl in her clique.
  • Men at Arms: Angua discovers a notebook in Vimes' desk, filled with women's names and corresponding amounts of money. She voices her outrage that Vimes, a married man, is spending so much money on prostitutes, when Carrot informs her (voice entirely devoid of inflection) that they're the widows and orphans of watchmen who fell in the line of duty.
  • The Witchlands: Merik realizes that for the past few weeks, he's been going full-on I Reject Your Reality and It's All About Me when the only person left willing to put up with his moods leaves him after giving him a brief "The Reason You Suck" Speech.
  • Temeraire: In Black Powder War, the protagonist Captain Laurence realizes that he's been treating Tharkay with undue suspicion and hostility, in part due to his mixed ancestry, and offers both a sincere apology and a declaration of how valuable Tharkay has been on his journey. Tharkay, to his own surprise, accepts and later brings The Cavalry at a crucial juncture.
  • In The Mouse Watch, Bernie Skampersky is a Troubled Sympathetic Bigot mouse who hates and fears rats because one of them killed her brother. When she's accepted into the titular Heroes "R" Us team she's paired up with another rookie, a rat named Jarvis Slinktail. Bernie struggles with her prejudice, alternating between accusing Jarvis of being a traitor and starting to like him in spite of herself, until The Reveal that another character is the actual traitor causes her to realize how wrong she's been. She apologizes to Jarvis at the first opportunity and finally accepts him as a friend.

    Live-Action TV 
  • Arrested Development A rare moment when a character actually realizes that they've said something terrible:
    Tobias: [to Michael] ...And second-of-ly, I know you're the big marriage expert — oh, I'm sorry, I forgot, your wife is dead!
    [Michael and Lindsay stare in silence]
    Tobias: I'm sorry, that was one hundred percent inappropriate and I do apologize profusely. I do apologize profusely, I'm — oh...
  • Brooklyn Nine-Nine: In the first episode, Jake constantly mocks and rebels against the new police captain Holt's strict policies and attempts to get him to behave more maturely until he learns that the reason Holt is so fanatic about making his force run as smoothly as possible is that he was constantly denied opportunities to rise up in the police force because of his homosexuality and this is his first real chance to prove his worth as a captain. After hearing all this from Holt, Jake apologizes to him for being an insensitive jerk and makes an effort to behave (somewhat) better in future episodes.
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer:
    • In the season 2 premiere "When She Was Bad", Buffy comes back to Sunnydale having Took a Level in Jerkass as a result of her temporary death at the Master's hands; she is sullen, actively lashes out at people, and flirts with Xander purely to upset Angel (and hurts Xander and Willow as a result). She gets hit with this when her refusal to cooperate with the other Scoobies leads to Giles and Willow being kidnapped and nearly ritually sacrificed.
    • In the season 3 episode "Revelations", Xander, furious that Angel is Back from the Dead and Buffy withheld it from the rest of the Scoobies, gives Faith the bare minimum of details regarding it, knowing she won't hesitate to stake Angel. However, Angel isn't evil anymore and helps in the resulting fight against the treacherous Watcher Gwen Post. While his lie to Buffy in "Becoming, Part 2" was a bit justified, since Angelus was actively trying to bring about an apocalypse, Xander realizes that he crossed a line here, and makes it up to Buffy by helping her save Angel from the First in "Amends."
    • During the season 5 episode "Forever", Willow and Xander run into Spike, who's in the process of trying to deliver a bouquet of flowers to the Summers home. Xander believes he's trying to take advantage of Buffy's mother's death to score points with Buffy, but Spike adamantly insists that he was actually trying to pay his respects to Joyce, as she was the only one of Buffy's "lot" that was ever nice to him. Xander refuses to believe Spike, who eventually gives in, throws the flowers down, and storms off, telling Xander to think whatever he wants. As soon as he's gone, Willow picks up the bouquet and informs Xander that Spike didn't include a card with the flowers, surprising them both with the knowledge that Spike really was trying to pay his respects.
    • In the above episode, Dawn openly accuses Buffy of not caring or even grieving over their mother's death, because she's been running around and treating it like "just another chore." At that, Buffy breaks down and confesses that, far from being emotionless about Joyce's death, Buffy has been bottling up her emotions because it's the only way she can deal with the grief. Dawn's expression as Buffy steadily breaks down into grief-stricken sobbing goes from cold anger to tearful horror as she realizes just how much her older sister is hurting.
  • Doctor Who: In "It Takes You Away", Erik leaves his blind daughter, Hanne, in their remote cottage with a "Scooby-Doo" Hoax recording playing outside to keep her in the house while he hangs out in an alternate universe where there's a version of his dead wife. When he finally comes back, he sees the writing the Doctor left on the wall for Ryan before she went through the portal, telling Ryan to assume Hanne's father is dead and to find someone who can take care of him, where it finally dawns on him what he almost did.
  • Family Matters: In "Words Hurt", the Winslows hire a hypnotherapist to find out why Steve is sleepwalking and attacking Carl at night. It turns out that a few months ago, Steven accidentally wrecked Carl's prized model ship and Carl, after throwing him out of the house, ranted about how he wished that he would just go away and never come back, not knowing that he heard everything. Carl is absolutely mortified when he learns this and his family starts to alienate him for his words.
  • Full House:
    • In "Just Say No Way", Jesse is absolutely furious when he catches D.J. holding a can of beer at a school dance he was performing for, not knowing that she was actually trying to prevent her friend Kevin from drinking it. After Kevin vouches for D.J. (The principal having caught him red-handed), Jesse realizes that he's been throwing the book at his niece for no reason and promptly heads back to the site to apologize.
    • In "The Trouble with Danny", Danny is making the family clean the house for Spring Cleaning Day and they have a private meeting in D.J.'s room to vent their anger at his Neat Freak personality, not knowing that Danny was inside the closet at the time listening onto the whole thing. This prompts him to try to change his image and become a slob, and it's when he tells the others that he's no longer, to quote Joey, "a psycho with a dust mop" do they realize that they've hurt his feelings.
  • ''Galavant: In the third episode of season one, the titular knight Galavant, Princess Isabella, and Galavant's put-upon squire Sidney take a rest at Sydney's hometown. There the former two learn Sydney hasn't been completely honest with his parents and whole town, with them thinking Sydney is the knight and Galavant is his squire. Though unhappy about it, Galavant plays along and later works with the other squires in town, who are treated poorly as well, to set up a party for Sidney's return. The other squires begin a song about how every knight is a "Jackass in a Can."note . While listening to them complain about how they view knights, Galavant finds himself joining in singing the final verse, "[All] That jerkface in a can /There's nothing sadder than / [Galavant] Some over muscled, chauvinistic / Self indulgent, egotistic / Stingy, prissy, narcississy / [All] Jackass in a can!." Upon finishing the song, Galavant realizes that he is much like the men these squires mock. Later at a party takes Sydney aside and apologises for his behavior and honestly thanks him for his hard work as well as saying his parents should be told the truth and they will still love and respect their son.
  • In Episode 2x04 of Glee, Rachel Berry has a self-inflicted one of these when she finally realizes that her determination to win at everything and hog all the spotlight, all the time, has made her into a genuinely loathsome individual. She then spends the rest of the episode trying to lose at something so she can consider herself a good person again. Shame it doesn't last - by Episode 2x09 she's walking into class with her mouth taped up in protest over someone else being featured at Sectionals, and when her eternal rival Quinn Fabray hands her an immensely satisfying talking-to about the selfish 'schoolgirl bubble' in which she lives her life in 2x15, all it inspires is a dreary self-justificatory whine set to music - but it was nice while it did...
  • In the third Horatio Hornblower telefilm, Midshipman Hunter hates Horatio's penchant for prudence and "cheating" tactics, believing himself to be braver and more dutiful. When they're captured, Hunter disobeys orders by forming his own escape plan, which ends in total disaster. Horatio immediately claims that the whole thing was his idea, knowing that he'll be shoved in the Punishment Box that broke another shipmate, and refuses all persuasion to tell the truth. Hunter realizes his error, becoming quite subdued and anxious about how Horatio is suffering in his stead.
  • NCIS Tony does this when talking about Gibbs often, he mentions things like his divorce rate, or something about bourbon, cue the scene of Gibbs standing behind him, or walking in from nowhere.
  • Scrubs: Quite a fan of these moments as well.
    • After JD's father passes away, JD gets mad at Cox, Cox narrowly averts this trope by getting mad at JD but immediately feeling like a Jerkass, as he knows JD's father has died. Then Ted joins in the taunting of JD, Ted asks why are they clapping and Dr. Cox says, "His dad died..." Ted then immediately stops clapping. "Damnit..."
    • Also is Season 8 when Elliot is shown how depressed Keith is over her treatment of him.
    • A rather odd one in where JD has just revealed to the entire waiting room that he received a DUI last night. Cue flashback to a few minutes ago with Nurse Roberts saying that a girl involved in an drunk driving accident had made it, but her mother had died. However, the jerkassery lies in the way that he brought it up so flippantly, not in the DUI itself since, as we see earlier in the episode, he actually got it for walking (not driving) his moped home while drunk, with the moped on only to play the radio, making it seem like he was about to get on while intoxicated.
    • Dr. Cox spends most of an episode doing community service, and is being driven up the wall by Denise Lemmon, an annoyingly optimistic paramedic, who simply will not shut up about her son, her son's favorite baseball card, or how he'll always be ten years old to her. Eventually, after Denise crashes the ambulance, Cox loses it and goes off on a rant towards her. Minutes later another paramedic hands Cox the baseball card, that was recovered from the ambulance, and Cox finally puts the pieces together, realizing that Denise's son had been killed in an accident.
    • In another episode, Dr. Cox, a Hollywood Atheist, becomes determined to convince Nurse Roberts, a devout Christian, that everything is a coincidence. When he inevitably pushes things way too far, Nurse Roberts gives him an epic Shut Up, Hannibal!, telling him that she needs there to be a God and a bigger reason behind the things that happen to patients because it helps her cope with the horrors of watching people die around the hospital every day. Cox softly offers an apology and stops pushing the issue.
  • In Sherlock, the eponymous hero never holds back from telling the truth as he sees it, generally not caring (or even realizing) if he offends or upsets people in the process. But every now and then he has a moment of clarity where he belatedly realizes just how insensitive he’s being.
    • One notable example is when he draws attention to one of Molly’s hand-wrapped Christmas presents, stating that she’s obviously arranged it specifically for someone she has romantic feelings for, and spends a good few minutes rather brutally lampooning her for it, before picking up the parcel and realizing that it’s his name written on the card (by which time Molly is close to tears and everyone else in the room is massively uncomfortable). For once, he not only realizes what a jerk he has been, he actually apologizes, to the shock of everyone watching.
    • Another example takes place when Mycroft visits the flat and at one point ends up very rudely telling Mrs. Hudson to stay out of the conversation, leading Sherlock to bring him to heel. When Sherlock has to tell you to stop acting like a jerk, you know you've screwed up royally. Mycroft immediately apologizes. Though Sherlock also immediately tells Mrs. Hudson to butt out of things, thus puncturing the moment a bit, he is at very least slightly more polite about it.
    • In the first episode, upon being told that the "Rachel" message the victim carved on the floor is the name of her miscarried daughter, Sherlock launches into a rant about how this makes no sense because she shouldn't still care about something that happened so long ago. The look of sheer dismay on John's face at this blatant lack of compassion stops him cold, and after a moment he hesitantly admits that what he said was "not good".
  • Stargate SG-1: In "Lifeboat", Daniel Jackson becomes the host for about a dozen different consciousnesses, and the team goes back to the planet where it happened, they find the person responsible, then Sam and Teal'c pretty much order him to remove the said consciousnesses from Jackson's mind, thus killing them, theorizing that they are already dead. Then they find out they've just asked the man to kill his 10-year old son. Yep, Sam and Teal'c are Jerkassess.
    • Though Teal'c justifiably points out that Daniel wasn't given the chance to volunteer to keep said child alive.
  • The Suite Life on Deck: After the season 2 final and during most of the third season, Cody has been a jerk to Bailey as he blames her for their breakup. Despite his attempts to be friends with Bailey, Cody could't let go of his anger and hurt as this led him to write a play about their breakup. However, after the play and a talk with Zack, Cody not only realized how bad of a jerk he was too Bailey but also that he made a mistake of breaking up with her.

    Video Games 
  • Eternal Radiance:
    • Ruby drives Valana out of the party when she suspects the latter is a Shadowborn, due to her becoming paranoid after being betrayed by Yvonne. When she receives a letter from Yvonne stating that Valana was attacked by the Shadowborn, Ruby regrets letting her paranoia drive a wedge between herself and Valana.
    • Valana refuses to talk about her motives even after joining the party, which makes it hard for others to trust her. After the above example with Ruby, Valana realizes that it's unfair to ask the other party members to trust her without trusting them in return.
    • Quinn spends much of the game on bad terms with Celeste because she disobeyed orders, to the point where he refuses to hold a conversation with her. When he learns that she fought Eldareth, the powerful leader of the Shadowborn, he realizes that she could have died and that his last words to her would have been ones of hostility. He then spends the rest of the game mending his relationship with Celeste.
  • At one point in Persona 3, Junpei suddenly comes to the conclusion that he had been a jerkass to the protagonist; apologizes, and is more pleasant afterwords. What makes this so surprising is that despite the franchise, this did not require a Battle in the Center of the Mind or a revelation gained from battling one's dark reflection.
  • Persona 5: At one point, Makoto Niijima has a discussion with her elder sister Sae about the morality of the Phantom Thieves of Hearts, during which Makoto innocently comments that she believes their late father would have supported them. Sae has a rather low opinion of their father's ideals, especially since said ideals led to him being killed in action, and hearing Makoto say that causes Sae to lose her temper and verbally attack her younger sister, going so far as to flat-out tell Makoto to her face that she's useless and does nothing but eat away at her life. Makoto is visibly distraught, and Sae immediately regrets it and apologizes, but it's too late to take it back.
    • Sae gets hit by this again during the interrogation after Makoto gets implicated as one of the Phantom Thieves. The protagonist will pick up on this, and can opt to twist the knife a little further.
      Joker: You never noticed?
  • Quite a dark example with Say'ri in Fire Emblem Awakening. Because her brother Yen'fay betrayed their country to join Walhart The Conqueror, Say'ri openly declares she has no brother and vows to kill him personally when they meet on the battlefield. After she does so, Excellus, the Smug Snake tactician of Walhart's forces, pops in at that very moment and reveals to Say'ri that the only reason Yen'fay even joined Walhart in the first place was to protect her, and that if it wasn't for him, Walhart's forces would have already killed Say'ri herself. Say'ri is left absolutely horrified at the fact that she hated and killed a brother who still loved her.
  • God of War (PS4): In Alfheim, Atreus accuses Kratos of not actually caring that his mother is dead, and suffers one of this when Kratos makes it clear he does care and is mourning for Faye in his own way.
    Atreus: I'm sorry. I didn't realize...
    Kratos: No. Why would you? You do not know my ways.
  • The Legend of Zelda:
    • The Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess: Early on in the game, when Ilia discovers a wound on Epona's leg, she furiously chews Link out, believing that he had been pushing Epona too hard and had injured her jumping over fences. She gets hit with this when Colin explains to her that the reason Epona had been injured is because Link had taken her into the forest to save Talo from monsters; though Ilia did know of that, she didn't know the full story.
    Ilia: I had no idea... I hadn't heard the details about Talo's capture...
    • The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild: Zelda started off rather abrupt with Link when the latter was able to wield the Master Sword while she was unable to unlock her Royalty Super Power, making him a living reminder of her own failure to fulfill her destiny. At one point, when she is unable to open one of the Sheikah Shrines (with it and the other ancient Sheikah technology being things she is very interested in studying) and realizes it is intended to only open for the Sword's wielder, she angrily tells him to get lost despite him being ordered by the King to guard her. Her diary entry right after this says that he was visibly confused by this outburst, which made her feel bad afterward. Then, when Zelda is attacked by Yiga Clan assassins, Link selflessly fights them off in her defense, which finally makes her realize how pointlessly mean she had been to him. She soon apologizes and starts opening up to him, whereupon she finds out he has similar insecurities to hers.
  • Gemma in Ninja Pizza Girl apparently thought that joining the rest of the school in mocking "Wobbly Wanda" for her crippling fear of heights was just a bit of fun, and she seems oblivious to the connection between that and Wanda since having dropped out of school. After receiving a snide put-down from Alpha Bitch Chloe about herself having No Sense of Direction, she realises that she's been a jerk and goes out of her way to be nice to Wanda, eventually succeeding in restoring some of the poor girl's confidence.
  • The World Is Your Weapon: In the third ending, Valiant Hero Schivardi becomes jealous when Weaco defeats the Demon Lord before he can. He snaps and threatens to kill Ponmi if Weaco doesn't give him all the credit for it, but Weaco calls him out on letting his status as hero go to his head and offers him redemption. He then realizes how unheroic he's being and cries Tears of Remorse.

    Web Animation 
  • Camp Camp:
    • Max has one in "Nikki's Last Day on Earth", after repeatedly brushing off Nikki's belief that it was her Last Day to Live and deriding the other campers for going out of their way to give her nice final day on Earth based on very flimsy evidence that she's dying, he eventually drives her to break down crying... followed by her snapping at him and telling him off for being selfish, before calming down, leaving Max unnerved. Immediately afterwards, they watch a play put on by Preston and their fellow campers in honor of Nikki's apparent approaching death, where Max is portrayed as a completely apathetic asshole, who couldn't care that one of his best friends is dying, while he slumps in his seat, for the first time being fully confronted with just how much of an aloof Jerkass other people see him as. Soon afterwards, he confides with Nikki that while he still doesn't believe she's dying and the whole last day on Earth things is dumb, it was wrong of him to just completely disregard her feelings.
      • Afterwards, he sparks a minor example with the rest of the campers, after pointing out that they've all gone out of their way to give Nikki the last day on Earth they would want and not asking her if their was anything she specifically wanted to do for her last day on Earth.
    • Max is on the receiving end of another one in the season three finale, "Camp Corp", where when it seems like their time at Camp Campbell is over for good, when the camp shuts down, Max tries to brush off his best friend's, Neil and Nikki's, feelings about being separated, to spare himself the pain of admitting his own feelings on the matters, by telling them that being separated after camp ended was enabatable and they were always "temporary friends" at best. Unsurprisingly breaking their hearts and leading to them parting with him on bad terms. After an attempt to save the camp and realizing that he's becoming like Cameron Campbell leads to him realizing how much he does car about the two, and he gives them a surprisingly heartfelt apology:
    Max: I'm...I'm sorry. I didn't go through all of this trouble for Camp Campbell. I did it...For you guys. Cause you're my friends, and I just didn't wanna admit it, cause once the time finally came for us to say goodbye, I'd have something to lose. But you know, going through life all on your own seems pretty fucking stupid now.
  • RWBY: Throughout most of Volume 4, Blake repeatedly lashes out at Sun, who's trying to help her and bring her out of her shell. She slaps him repeatedly and tells him point-blank she doesn't want his help in "A Much Needed Talk". An episode later, Sun is badly injured in a fight with Ilia, and she breaks, reinforcing her belief that it's her fault her friends are being injured because of her connection to Adam. When Sun comes around from the injury, he calls her out on her attitude, telling her that, contrary to what she thinks, constantly running out on her friends and pushing them away is not selfless; it just causes them pain. After that, she's much more accepting of Sun's presence in her life.

  • Parodied in Ansem Retort.
    Axel: We've faced worse than this. Remember when Disneyworld was destroyed?
    Marluxia: Larxene did that.
    Axel: Well, what about that plane that got hijacked?
    Marluxia: You hijacked that plane.
    Axel: Okay, but there was that corrupt government.
    Marluxia: That was, and still is Zexion.
    Axel: Wow, we're assholes.
  • Sam & Fuzzy has an example with Lance, who gets stuck with Fuzzy as a partner after Fuzzy and Sam have a massive falling out. After spending less than a day with Fuzzy, Lance quickly realizes why Sam is always such a neurotic wreck, since he has to deal with Fuzzy's idiotic schemes all the time. When he spells this out for Fuzzy, pointing out that Fuzzy is neither talented nor a great businessman, just a jerk who wants to play at being a big shot, and only cares about how others makes him feel about himself, Lance realizes that he had just repeated the same speech his last ex had given him when she threw him out, almost verbatim. Unfortunately, it's too late to apologize, though the Character Development sticks.
    Lance: Wait, why does that sound familiar? [cue flashback] ARGH, how could I have been so STUPID!
    Fuzzy: I know, Lance, but it's not too late to make amends with me!
    Lance: GO DIE IN A DITCH, BEAR!!
    Fuzzy: Or not.
  • Ask White Pearl and Steven (almost!) anything: After Pearl's self-defense lessons go completely Off the Rails, Rose steps in, clearly anticipating that she'll have to protect Pearl from his Tranquil Fury and admonishing him not to blame her. To her surprise, Steven blames himself instead, breaking down over his inability to keep his promise to protect Earl. Rose then recalls a time where she was in a position similar to his... and that much like Blue Diamond, she isn't showing much in the way of sympathy. This spurs her to try treating him the way she wishes she would have been treated back then.

    Web Original 
  • During the Midnight Screenings for The Zookeeper, Jerrid blasts Jake for not showing up, thus forcing Jerrid to watch the movie. In the recent Harry Potter movie, Jake says the reason he didn't show up was because he had a huge family emergency. The audience also probably thought Jake was dipping out so it gets the audience with a Jerkass Realization, along with Jerrid's.
  • The Cry of Mann: After discovering that Jouglat is dead, Jack temporarily snaps out of his "Jack Prime" state and admits that he should've been nicer to his brother while he were back from the warr, rather than his stubborn insistence on being angry and caring only about his art show.

    Western Animation 
  • In the Adventure Time episode "The Cooler", Flame Princess finds out that Princess Bubblegum has been spying on people with hidden cameras and gives her a "Reason You Suck" Speech. This appears to sink in, as PB takes down her surveillance system. But then in "Graybles 1000+" it's revealed she was just replacing that surveillance system with a new slightly less invasive one that tracks chips implanted in her citizens' teeth, though she can only monitor their movement and can't actually see what they're doing.
  • In The Adventures of Jimmy Neutron: Boy Genius episode "Hall Monster", Jimmy was assigned to be the new hall monitor, after the old hall monitor moved away. While being hall monitor, Jimmy lets his status go to his big head as he busts every student for even most ridiculous things (ex. Carl having too many llama stickers on his lunchbox). However, Jimmy was unintentionally shown footage from Goddard that showed him how overboard he went as hall monitor. Seeing the footage, Jimmy realized how badly he got carried away and purposely broke the rules to get fired from being hall monitor.
  • A lot of episodes of Adventures of the Gummi Bears start with Gruffi been mean to the other characters due to one of their perceived flaws like; be too young and irresponsible, be too old and unwieldy with magic, be too childish, having love for an activity that he considers useless like art or sailing, etc., just for that character to do something incredibly heroic at the end of the episode proving him wrong. When this action often seems to be a Heroic Sacrifice he shows deep remorse for the dead of his friend and regrets all his harsh words promising not to do it again if the characters were alive. Of course, the character is never dead and he never keeps his promise as he’s mean again in the next episode.
  • Arthur:
    • In the episode "So Funny, I Forgot to Laugh", Arthur starts to make fun of Sue Ellen due to her wearing a wooly sweater to school. He constantly makes a bunch of jokes about how Sue Ellen looks like a sheepdog and even draws a picture of Sue Ellen with a sheepdog's body and sticks it to her locker. Arthur finally goes too far when he photoshops a sheepdog's head over a photo of Sue Ellen and emails it to her, and when Sue Ellen sees it, she is reduced to tears. It isn't until Arthur hears that Sue Ellen is thinking about switching classes that he realizes that he was being a bully to her and he finally apologizes.
    • There is also the episode "Draw" where Fern gets mad at Francine for calling her a "mouse" and she decides to get back at her by creating a bunch of mean drawings about her and gets all the others to join in. They soon find out that they went too far after they hear Francine telling Mrs. Macgrady about the whole thing and she's done talking, she starts to cry.
  • Ben 10: Alien Force: Throughout the episode "In Charm's Way," Kevin acts like a complete dick to Gwen, openly accusing her of not even trying to find a way to fix his mutation after their ill-fated attempt to hack the Omnitrix, which makes him a prime target for Charmcaster's manipulations. At the end of the episode, he gets hit with a big-time helping of this trope when Ben gets fed up with his attitude and tells him that Gwen has in fact been spending all of her spare time since the accident trying to find a cure for him:
    Kevin: She... she never told me.
    Ben: Should she have had to?
  • This happens in the animated Peanuts special, Charlie Brown's All Stars. Charlie Brown ends up turning down a sponsor deal that would have allowed his baseball team to become apart of the little league, complete with uniforms. When the team finds this out (on top of Charlie Brown causing them to lose yet another game), they berate him to no end. As they walk away, they continue to complain about how stupid he was to turn down the deal, until Linus had enough and informed them he only turned it down because he would've been forced to kick the girls and Snoopy off the team. As if they didn't feel bad enough, Linus and Schroeder then decide to give everyone "The Reason You Suck" Speech. It's probably one of the few times the characters felt genuine remorse for their treatment of Charlie Brown.
  • Danny Phantom: In the episode "Reality Trip," Freakshow's machinations result in Danny's Secret Identity being outed to the world. Jack and Maddie are confused as to why he hid it from them, and when Jazz points out that it's because of their very anti-ghost attitude, all they can do is look down in shame.
    Jazz: Hmm, let me guess. [mimicking Jack] "Hey, Maddie, let's destroy the ghost!" [mimicking Maddie] "No, Jack, let's dissect the ghost." [mimicking Jack again] "I know, let's catch the ghost and rip it apart molecule by molecule!" [normal voice] You guys are so understanding.
  • Quite a few Donald Duck shorts involves the titular character going overboard in punishing his nephews for an imagined slight, only to realize that they've been trying to do something nice for him the entire time. One such cartoon has his guilt causing him to shrink so small that he escapes meekly through a knothole.
  • At the end of Ed, Edd n Eddy's Big Picture Show, Eddy breaks down and realizes that his horrible behavior he had over the course of the series, which he learned from his brother, only caused him and his two friends pain and trouble and that he made up all the stories about his brother just so people would like him. It's with that and the heartless beating his brother gave him that the kids realize two things: the reason for Eddy's behavior and that they are becoming just as bad as Eddy's Brother. Sarah, in particular, is implied to be most affected by this as she abuses her brother constantly and takes joy in it, just like Eddy's Brother. After realizing what Eddy had went through all this time, the kids forgive the Eds for all the scams and trouble they caused, apologize for the ruthless torment they gave the Eds, and finally accept the Eds as their friends. Except for Jonny, who was Late to the Realization and ends up beating up the Eds like the other kids planned to do at the start, only for the kids to retaliate and beat him up in turn, cementing the fact that Jonny took the Eds' place as the social outcast from now on.
  • Family Guy:
    • Played for laughs in the episode, "One If by Clam, Two If by Sea". An inmate at a jail who was about to stab Joe, who along with Peter, Quagmire, and Cleveland was in prison for arson stabs himself with the knife to know what his victims felt. Then he says "Is that what I've been doing to people?! ...I belong here."
    • In the episode "Brothers and Sisters," Lois plays Relationship Sabotage between her sister Carol and Mayor West, firmly believing that the relationship will end badly like Carol's previous marriages. When West finally gives up and plans to leave Quahog, Peter calls her out on her bitchiness, pointing out that no one else believed their own relationship would work. Lois retorts that Carol supported them, and she never would have had the confidence to marry Peter if it weren't for that... and now that Carol needs her support, Lois is turning her back on her. Cue realization.
    Lois: Oh, my God! Peter, I've made a terrible mistake!
  • Franklin: In "Franklin's Favorite Card", Franklin and Bear have a disagreement about whether Bear lost Franklin's Carl Cougar card or not and decide to not be best friends anymore. On his way home, Snail asks Franklin if the card was really more important than being friends with Bear, causing Franklin to remember how good friends he and Bear were.
    Franklin: I think I've made a big mistake, Snail. Bear is my best friend.
  • Futurama: In "The Late Phillip J. Fry", Fry misses a date with Leela on her birthday due to a mishap with the Professor's new time machine (which can only move forward) which strands him in the distant future, and the video birthday card he was recording for her falls out just after the time machine launches. Leela thinks he ditched her for a party that was being held the same night (and during which an accident killed almost everyone) and spends decades being angry at him... at which point the video card flies out of the time machine, hits Leela in the head, and after viewing it Leela realizes she spent her entire life being mad at Fry for something that wasn't his fault.
  • Parodied and subverted in the Goof Troop episode "Axed by Addition." When PJ plays (extremely) sick, Pete starts to realize that he's been a jerk to him, for some reasons that make sense and others that are very mundane. He sobs confessions to everyone he sees, which creeps most of them out, and then chases PJ all across the city, and eventually catches up to him, holds him, and apologizes... then immediately drops him when the phone rings and starts being a jerk to him again as soon as he finds out PJ wasn't really sick.
  • Gravity Falls:
    • In "The Sock Opera", Eldritch Abomination Bill Cipher gives a "Reason You Suck" Speech to Mabel, who's staging a puppet show to attract the boy she has a crush on. Bill points out that Mabel is so obsessed with her project that she's broken her promise to help her twin brother Dipper, who has sacrificed a lot for her. This backfires big time; Mabel immediately realizes how selfish she's been and goes to save Dipper, abandoning her show (and defeating Bill) in the process.
      Bill: I mean, who would sacrifice everything they've worked for just for their dumb sibling?
      Mabel: ...Dipper would!
    • Similarly, in the episode "Dungeons, Dungeons, and More Dungeons", Mabel worries that Dipper is spending an inordinate amount of time with Grunkle Ford instead of her and Stan. Dipper points out that this is because Ford doesn't tease him like they do. Mabel cracks "Give him time!" and laughs for a second... then immediately and visibly regrets it.
    • One for Dipper in "Little Dipper" — he spends the whole episode obsessing over Mabel finally growing taller than him. When he finally asks why she calls him short so much, she points out that he normally beats her at everything and has no problem rubbing it in her face. Being taller than him was the first time she'd beaten him at something.
      Dipper: Oh man... now I feel like a big jerk.
      Mabel: Don't you mean... a little jerk?
      Dipper: [laughing weakly] Yeah, alright, I walked into that one.
    • In the Grand Finale, Stan and Ford, who have held a grudge against each other for past events, get this when their bickering not only ruins their chance to destroy Bill Cipher, but also endangers Dipper and Mabel. When they see how well the younger twins work together to fight Bill, they realize what petty jerks they've been.
      Stan: How did things get so messed up between us?
      Ford: We used to be like Dipper and Mabel. The world's about to end and they still work together. How do they do it?
  • Justice League: In the Episode "Clash," Superman gets hit with this when he realizes that he's been treating the newest member of the team, Captain Marvel, incredibly unfairly and uncharitably. Unfortunately this realization comes too little, too late, and Captain Marvel quits the team after delivering a brutal verbal takedown of Superman and the League.
  • In The Loud House it's happened several times to Lincoln, after he realises that whatever Zany Scheme he concocted came at the expense of his sisters, and will ether find a way to make it up to them or will accept whatever they do to him to get even.
    • In "Driving Miss Hazzy", tired of having to do menial chores in exchange for Lori to drive them somewhere, the other Loud siblings try to teach Leni to drive. After realising what they are trying to do, Lori sabotages Leni's driver's test by giving her incorrect information. When Lincoln tells her that what she did may result in Leni getting into an accident, Lori rushes to the DMV, worried about her sister.
    • In "Net Gains", Lynn Jr. is forced to join the worst team in the local basketball league, and tells the other girls to just pass her the ball when they get a chance. After Lynn Jr. wins the game, the other girls lament that they barely got a chance to play, to which she responds "a win's a win, no matter who plays." When their next game ends in defeat, she brings in some older girls to help her out. When the older girls win the game, Lynn Jr. calls them out for hogging the ball, to which one girl replies, "a win's a win, no matter who plays." At the championship game, Lynn Jr. is more supportive of her teamamtes, and though they don't win, she's happy that they all got to play and have fun.
  • Miraculous Ladybug: In Season 3, Marinette doesn't see Kagami as a person instead of a rival to be undermined (Animaestro and Backwarder come to mind), until in "Ikari Gozen", she learns by chance that Kagami doesn't have any friends. Then she apologizes and - since Kagami is a forgiving sort of person - they become friends for real.
  • My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic has quite a number of instances:
    • In "Suited for Success", Rarity's friends criticize the dresses she makes for them for the Grand Galloping Gala (free of charge and out of kindness, mind you), and bombard her with suggestions to make the dresses look exactly the way they want them to. Unfortunately for Rarity, her friends' tacky fashion sense nearly destroys her career when she displays the new dresses at a fashion show attended by an understandably offended critic. The guilt-ridden five make it up to her by completing her own unfinished dress with her designs and throwing another fashion show with the original dresses that blows the critic away.
    • Fluttershy has one in the episode "Putting Your Hoof Down". In the episode she takes assertiveness lessons in order to quit being a pushover, but takes them too far and becomes a jerk. She comes to her realization after brutally tearing into Rarity and Pinkie Pie for their love of fashion and parties, respectively, driving them off in tears.
      Fluttershy: I'm the monster...
    • Rarity in "Sisterhooves Social". After blowing off her little sister Sweetie Belle as an inconvenience following one too many blunders — shrinking her favorite wool sweater in the wash; using up her spare gemstones to decorate a drawing; and tidying a design room that's supposed to be messy — Rarity begins to soften when she finds innovative ways to incorporate those blunders into her work. She remains peeved about the gems, though, until she finds them forming a heart shape around Sweetie Belle's drawing of the two sisters. Rarity cries "My God, What Have I Done?" and spends the rest of the episode trying to win her sister back.
    • Rainbow Dash learns it very fast in "Hurricane Fluttershy", realizing that her brusque manner of coaching and motivating the other pegasi is only terrifying her friend early in the episode, and makes an effort to be much calmer and praises her when she really improves, despite the improved level still being a bit low. Played both ways, since Fluttershy first agrees to training out of guilt when a dejected Rainbow Dash submits to her refusal to take part. To a lesser degree, when RD's forcing a visibly sick Thunderlane to participate in training results in him getting several other ponies sick and unable to attend the main task.
    • Rainbow Dash, being the Jerk with a Heart of Gold that she is, gets this a lot. In "May the Best Pet Win" she realizes at the end, when Tank saves her, that she was choosing a pet based on athletic ability and not what really makes a good pet. She ultimately decides to adopt Tank as her new pet, despite him being the total opposite of what she had in mind.
    • "The Mysterious Mare-Do-Well" works toward this on more than one level. On one hand, Rainbow Dash is letting her fame and respect get to her head, and the whole MMDW gambit is intended to make her see how a true hero should act. On the other hand, several viewers thought RD's best friends were going simply too far in trying to teach her a lesson, to the point where it was degrading Dash and near enough humiliating her. At least one Fix Fic has them realize their jerkass behavior when RD earnestly thanks them for their brutal wakeup-call.
    • Happens two ways in the two-part episode "A Canterlot Wedding". In the first episode, Twilight accuses Princess Cadance of being "evil" (admittedly with little to no actual evidence to back her up), to which her accusations were easily dispelled by her brother, Shining Armor. The result leaves her alienated from her brother, friends and mentor, and she tearfully apologizes to Cadance for her accusations. Then it turns out Cadance really is evil, albeit an evil imposter named Queen Chrysalis, who is exposed to the rest of the cast by the real Cadance in the second part. As she prepares to take over Canterlot, she smugly tells off the ponies for ignoring Twilight and letting her plan go through, leading a solemn Applejack to apologize to Twilight on everyone's behalf.
    • "One Bad Apple". Turns out that Babs Seed, Applebloom's visiting cousin, was bullied back home for not having a cutiemark, and only took up bullying the CMC to avoid getting bullied again. The CMC only finds out this after they've set in motion an elaborate and potentially dangerous scheme to get revenge. Also, when they show Babs around at the start, they insensitively remark on her blank-flank several times, and she's visibly uncomfortable.
    • In "Spike at Your Service", Twilight Sparkle's attention deficit leads her to ignore Spike as he leaves her service due to a life debt with Applejack. The latter explains this to her later on, with the expected results. When she asks if she was listening to Spike's conversation, Twilight can only stammer a meek and ashamed "No".
    • Discord might be on the side of good now, but he still has some difficulty understanding friendship and differentiating right from wrong. Most episodes that feature him have him lose his temper, whip up some serious trouble with his limitless power, realize he's being an asshole, and giving a meek but genuine apology:
      Discord: Er, Tree Hugger, I'm sorry that you got caught in the middle of my... er, you know... wrath.
    • In "Honest Apple", after Applejack drives off all the contestants for a fashion show with her Brutal Honesty, Rarity teaches her a lesson by having Applejack talk with Strawberry Sunrise, a pony who doesn't like apples and proceeds to flippantly bad-mouth them.
      Applejack: Well, that's fine if she doesn't like 'em! But if she knew how hard we worked to make our apples perfect, maybe she wouldn't be so mean about— Ohhhhhh... oh boy.
  • OK K.O.! Let's Be Heroes: In "Radical Rescue", Rad starts to realize that he's a bad influence on K.O., just like Bell Beefer and Mega Football Baby were a bad influence on him, and he needs to stop worrying about people thinking he's "lame".
  • Throughout most of Over the Garden Wall, Wirt is quick to blame his younger brother Gregory for the trouble they get into, even when the problems are caused by Wirt's wishy-washiness and refusal to take responsibility. In fact, a flashback in the penultimate episode reveals Wirt's inaction nearly got him and his brother killed, and led to them getting stranded in the Unknown in the first place, and it's at this point Wirt realizes how much he is to blame for their predicament.
    Beatrice's Mother: You'll be no good to your brother dead!
    Wirt: I was never any good to him when I was alive...
  • In the Christmas Episode of Pinky and the Brain, throughout their scheme to infiltrate Santa's toys with brainwashing dolls, Pinky constantly bugs Brain over his "very important" Christmas letter. When he later realizes he forgot to send it and breaks down in tears, Brain finally snaps and snatches away his "stupid letter", ordering him to see to his device. Just seconds from his plan succeeding, Brain reads the letter out of curiosity, discovering it is actually a heartwrenching speech from Pinky about his "best friend in the whole world, the Brain" and how he never gets the respect he deserves, pleading for Santa to give every present intended for Pinky to him (and the world should he have it in that big old bag of his). The letter (and the sight of a heartbroken Pinky still loyally tending to his work) leaves Brain a teary eyed wreck, only able to muster out a Merry Christmas through his control booth before smashing it to pieces.
  • The Powerpuff Girls (2016):
    • Buttercup spends the first few minutes of "Painbow" disrupting the class by making jokes at Ms. Keane's expense. Later on in the episode she realizes she's been a jerk when seeing her sisters brainwashed by Allegro and acting the same way she did.
    • Bubbles has one in "Strong Armed". After she threw a fit that caused Packrat to fall into toxic waste and becomes a monster, this is what gets Bubbles to find out that being so overly-dependent on her robotic cast is what caused this problem.
    • Bubbles has another one in "Little Octi Lost" during Buttercup's Disney Death. Having refused to forgive Buttercup for losing Octi up to this point, she comes to the realization that if she had just pardoned her that none of this would have ever happened.
    • Bubbles suffers one again in "Horn Sweet Horn" due to her impulsiveness costing her her friendship with Donny after he's turned into a beast from the transmogrifier.
    • Blossom in "Presidential Punchout" upon hearing Matt Manser's speech on how he'll make the school better, which causes her to realize that she was no better than Princess due to doing what Princess had done to sabotage her.
    • Blossom again in "Puffdora's Box" when she gets the message that her bossiness does not always help and that she should do other people's way of things sometimes.
    • Buttercup and Blossom in "The Stayover" after they find out that their sugar-induced antics had caused problems for the orphanage.
    • Buttercup and Blossom again in "Tiara Trouble" after all their pressure on Bubbles causes the latter to crack under the pressure.
    • Buttercup in "Man Up 2", when her looking for a bottle cap rather than helping her sisters caused them to get captured by Man-Boy.
  • The original The Powerpuff Girls show had its moments too.
    • In "Twisted Sister", all three girls have this when Bunny dies after saving them from a mob of escaped prisoners, especially because the last thing they said to her was "Bunny do bad!" for letting them out in the first place.
      Bubbles: She was good all along. We were the ones who were bad.
    • And again in "Equal Fights", when they realize that Femme Fatale had tricked them into becoming raging misandrists like her so they wouldn't stop her from committing crimes.
  • The Raccoons: In "Moving In!", Lisa grows depressed over leaving her old life behind and moving to the Evergreen Forest. Tired of keeping her emotions bottled up any longer, she lashes out at her family at the dinner table, selfishly claiming that no one cares about how she feels and blaming her father for losing his old job which led to the move. Bert tries to cheer her up with a friendly game of basketball, but when he reminds her that a family requires cooperation like basketball, she feels guilty for being so rude.
  • The Ren & Stimpy Show, "Stimpy's Fan Club": Ren becomes jealous of Stimpy getting all the fan mail, so when he finally gets one, he reads it to Stimpy to rub it in his face (even literally rubbing the letter in his face), all the while adding comments on how Stimpy is finished and how he is now the most loved. Then he gets to the end and realizes the letter is from Stimpy himself. And to drive the point home, he briefly turns into a person's ass.
  • In the Christmas episode of Rocko's Modern Life, Rocko decides to throw a Christmas party with his new elf neighbors. Mr. Bighead however feels left out when he doesn't get an invitation, and starts a rumor about the elves that blows out of proportion, resulting in no one showing up. Mr. Bighead later finds out that Rocko had in fact invited him, but his invitation got lost in the mail and he's left feeling incredibly guilty. Why Rocko didn't just hand him the invitation directly since he lives right next door though is anybody's guess.
  • Sagwa, the Chinese Siamese Cat
    • In the episode "Not So Purrfect Paitent", Dongwa takes advantage of Sagwa by forcing her to clean the clubhouse by himself, but is soon caught faking being still hurt, so Dongwa had to do the chores by himself.
    • In the episode "Precious Gift", the Alley Cats tricked Sheegwa to giving them Tai-Tai's necklace. But when the necklace broke to pieces, they see this and realizes they went too far.
      Wing-Wing: Tough break.
  • The Simpsons:
    • Nelson points at his reflection and delivers his trademark laugh. He then remarks, "Hey, that hurts. No wonder no one came to my birthday party."
    • Grandpa Simpson also realizes his jerkiness after he tells Homer that his birth was an accident.
    • During "The Boys of Bummer," the entire town of Springfield harasses Bart endlessly simply because he accidentally cost them the Little League championship, eventually causing him to suffer Sanity Slippage and attempt suicide only to end up in a coma. When they all gather outside his hospital room purely to chant about how much Bart sucks, Marge finally puts her foot down and chews out the entire town for their actions, pointing out the billboard that labels Springfield the "Meanest City in America" and how their treatment of Bart proves it right. At that, the entire town gets the message and make up for their jerkassery by restaging the game so Bart can win.
    • In "Lisa's Pony", Homer breaks down upon realizing what crappy father he's been towards Lisa and in a desperate attempt to win her back over to his side, buys her a pony that he has to work himself to near death at a second job to afford. She choose to let it go for his sake.
  • South Park: In "Splatty Tomato" Heidi Turner realizes how horrible she has become because of Cartman's influence.
  • SpongeBob SquarePants:
    • In the April Fools Day episode, SpongeBob keeps pulling silly and (to Squidward) annoying pranks on everyone (such as one of which only putting one ice cube in a drink where the patron asked for a couple of them). Eventually, Squidward gets so fed up that he decides to get revenge on SpongeBob by showing him what a "real" prank is. He then sets up an elaborate, physically painful, and rather cruel prank on SpongeBob that causes the latter to leave the Krusty Krab in tears. After all the customers call Squidward out on this and storm out in disgust, Squidward looks around and sees the damage his "harmless" prank did to the Krusty Krab and SpongeBob and realizes he went too far.
      Squidward: [sighs] Why is it whenever I'm having fun, it's wrong?
    • In the Christmas special, Squidward cruelly mocks Spongebob after Santa fails to come like Spongebob thought he would. Not long afterwards, he realizes how much of an asshole he was, complete with a Visual Gag of a photo of a donkey (To show how he was being a jackass). He spends the rest of the episode trying to make it up to him by acting as Santa.
    • In the episode "What Ever Happened to SpongeBob?", all of SpongeBob's friends get exasperated with SpongeBob's clumsy behavior, call him "idiot boy," and bluntly tell him to get lost. They're left in tearful remorse when they discover that SpongeBob has run away as a result and do everything they can to find him and bring him home... except for Squidward, who's ecstatic that SpongeBob is gone.
  • Steven Universe:
    • In "On The Run", Amethyst takes Steven to the Prime Kindergarten, the place where Amethyst was born. When Pearl finds out, she's furious that Amethyst told Steven about the Kindergartens, because as it turns out, the Kindergartens were part of a resource extraction project that, had it continued, would've destroyed Earth and killed all life on it; an Awful Truth that the Crystal Gems didn't want Steven to know about. The resulting argument results in Amethyst lashing out violently and attacking Pearl. The fight gets interrupted and Amethyst runs off, and Pearl is surprised and confused that criticizing the aforementioned project upset Amethyst so badly. It turns out Amethyst hates herself for having been created by such a horrible and evil project, and Pearl's condemnations of the Kindergartens felt like a condemnation of Amethyst herself. Pearl tries to explain that she wasn't saying that Amethyst's birth wasn't a bad thing just because the Kindergartens were bad, but when she puts her explanation into words Pearl realizes that that was exactly what she was saying. This realization prompts Pearl to give a heartfelt apology and ask for Amethyst's forgiveness.
      Pearl: No, no, Amethyst you're not the mistake, you're just the byproduct of a ...big mistake.
    • In "Keystone Motel", Garnet ends up accompanying Steven and Greg to they nearby state of Keystone on an errand as an excuse to leave the house after her huge fight with Pearl in the prior episode. However, not long before they arrive at the motel, she ends up splitting into Ruby and Sapphire, who are arguing over whether or not they should forgive Pearl. Throughout the trip, the two's arguing and hostility stresses Steven more and more until they descend into shouting in the diner the next day, causing Steven to crack and leave the restaurant after dropping his plate. Ruby and Sapphire immediately stop fighting and follow him outside, where Steve just vents out how horrible everything has been because of all the tension before even musing if it's his own fault. The two are immediately stricken with remorse and the shock is enough to force them to talk things through and confess their own feelings on the matter before fusing. It hits Sapphire especially hard because her future vision lets her know their feud will eventually end, and thus she thinks she's being the bigger Gem by accepting this outcome while Ruby continues to throw a tantrum. She's driven to tears when she realizes how insensitive she's being to Ruby because of this. Similarly, the shock is enough to get Ruby that in her frustrations, she's been making the problem worse and hurting everyone else, while also forgetting that while Sapphire may be acting calm about the thing, she's also upset about what Pearl did.
      Sapphire: I keep looking into the future, when all of this has already been solved... As if it doesn't matter how you feel in the present... [starts to cry] No wonder you think I don't care!
      Ruby: Sapphire... Nonononono, this is all my fault! I didn't want to look for a solution, I just wanted to be mad — you're right, you're always right, I was being stupid!
      Sapphire: I don't think you're stupid!
    • In "Dewey Wins", Steven, having unexpectedly returned from Homeworld after previously giving himself up to save Connie, Onion, Jamie, Lars, and Sadie from being taken to a People Zoo, doesn't understand why Connie is unhappy with him for doing so. While he had a good reason (Mainly the fact that one of the Gems who came for them could stop Alexandrite), she feels that he forgot about their training together for these kind of situations. The following day, he tries to help Mayor Dewey keep his position as Mayor when Nanefua decided she would like to be elected. After she brings up better points than his own, he resigns, and Steven catches himself responding in a similar way to Connie, now realizing how he made her feel.
    • In "The New Lars", when Steven spends the whole day in his body. Lars was depressed and shocked to find out what Steven and everybody (including his own parents) liked the "new" him and didn't noticed or missed him at all. That when he decided to still act like himself but more nicer and open about his feelings.
  • Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles (2012):
    • In "New Girl in Town," Raph repeatedly criticizes Leo's leadership skills and methods, eventually leading to an exasperated Leo giving him the leader position to see if he can do it any better. It doesn't take long for Raph to crack under the pressure, leading to Mikey getting injured by Snakeweed; when they get back to the lair, Raph gets hit with this, acknowledging that he's not fit to be the leader and now realizes how tough Leo has it.
    • In the season two premiere, April's father accidentally got mutated into a mutant bat. When she learns the turtle were responsible for the accident, April loses it and declares that she doesn't want to see them again. Several episodes later, April was approached by Donnie (who feels horrible about the whole thing) as he tried to apologize to her for what happened to her father, but her blind anger leads her to not listen to him, although she took a moment to listen to his advice about some things can't be controlled. After Casey tells her how he accidentally destroyed a friendship and saying the same thing Donnie said about how everything can't be controlled, April realizes how wrong she was to be so hard on him and the rest of the Turtles. Also, while being attacked by Karai and seeing it getting out of hand, April not only realized that she can't control everything but also that Donnie and Casey were right about it as it convinced her to call the Turtles for help. After being saved, April forgives the Turtles and in return apologizes to them for how she treated them.
    • In "A Foot Too Big," Donnie finds himself the recipient of Bigfoot's unwanted advances, and complains about how she keeps bugging him and following him everywhere, to which Raph remarks that that's exactly what Donnie himself does to April. Donnie gets hit with this, and by the end of the episode vows to dial it back.
    • In "The Croaking", after scolding Mikey for a mess he made and sees that he ran away, the boys complain about cleaning up after him but April told them about how completely inconsiderate they were too him. Also, April tells the boys that they don't truly appreciate Mikey for who he is or what he does for them, especially Raph. Realizing that April was right, the boys felt remorses as they tried to be more respectful towards Mikey.


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Jimmy realizes through Goddard's videos he's been abusing his power as hall monitor.

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