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"I hate you right back you little shit! You and your mom took my life away from me! I just want it back!"
Ollie delivering the film's Wham Line right to his daughter's face, Jersey Girl

Once upon a time, she was a genius with dreams, pursued by everyone, one of the guys, or content in screwing people over.

Then you came into the picture, and she hates you for it.

You might be a decent kid. A prodigy even. But that doesn't matter to the one that raised you. You stripped her of her goals in life. Whether or not that belief they hold has any factual basis doesn't matter, for your caregiver has become the Resentful Guardian. They may feel love and protection towards the child but they will have one eye on the past and what they could have been. They'll make attempts to get some of that old life back and it will end up with some neglect of the child; could lead to a case of I Have No Son! entirely, or worse, Offing the Offspring.

This can often be the basis for an entire film: a person gets lumbered with a child via family death or similar and so they have to go on a personal journey of connecting with the child and learning to give up some of their old life's hopes and dreams to raise them properly. Expect some timetable clash between a job prospect and a play recital or baseball game.

At an extreme end, the resentment may build up to loathsome levels. They may or may not go the full hog into Abusive Parents but it will be obvious to those around them that it will lead to some level of neglect. Here then, the focus is more on the child trying to get some happiness away from their parent. If the child was adopted by the guardian, an Adoption Diss, up to and including saying that adopting them was a mistake, is a common insult for them to subject the child to.

Compare Maternal Death? Blame the Child!, where the guardian (usually a father) resents the child because the mother had died giving birth to said child or for reasons otherwise, or A Mistake Is Born where the parent possibly feels trapped by their "accident". Contrast Hates Their Parent, for when it's the child with the resentful feelings.


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    Anime & Manga 
  • In Ace Attorney (2016), an anime-exclusive episode in the second season "Hear the Waves of Turnabout" expands on Maya's backstory in a flashback, and confirms her aunt Morgan to be this trope to her. When Maya took Morgan's daughter Pearl to the beach, Morgan berated Maya for what she had done, proceeded to badmouth Mia and Misty for leaving the village, and said Pearl was a better choice for successor to the Master position than Maya, who Morgan says only was chosen by virtue of being Misty's daughter.
  • A one-shot opponent in Angelic Layer was a girl named Maria. Her childhood mostly consisted of having to take care of her sick younger brother, leaving her too busy to go outside and play with the other kids. As a result, her only "friend" was her Angel, Tsubaki. While she did resent this, she still cared about her brother, and a You Are Not Alone speech from Misaki during their match was all she needed to make her into a more cheerful person.
  • Daltanious: Downplayed, but Dr. Earl dislikes Kento's attitude and is frustrated by his refusal to take his duties seriously, instead preferring to play with his fellow Ragtag Bunch of Misfits. Earl loses his temper at him many times, and Kento calls him "Old Man" as a sign of disrespect.
  • In A Devil and Her Love Song, Maria believes her mother hated and committed suicide because of her, due to a childhood memory of her mother yelling that she had no friends because of Maria. It's later revealed that this was not true, as proven when Maria's father recites letters her mother wrote, lovingly detailing Maria's childhood.
  • Elfen Lied has Mayu. Her own mother slaps her in the face when Mayu tells her about her stepfather molesting her. She only sees Mayu as competition.
    • Lucy's caretakers at the orphanage are resentful of the fact that they have to take care of a sick child.
  • Fruits Basket has several examples.
    • Akito's mother only sees her daughter as competition for her husband's affections, to the point where she demands Akito be raised as a boy.
    • Kyo is hated by his father for driving his mother to suicide as a child. It's later implied that it was the father's emotional abuse that actually caused the suicide.
    • When Tohru briefly lives with her paternal aunt, uncle, and cousin, her aunt and uncle reveal they hired a private detective to watch her before she moved in, just because they didn't want any improper behavior she might have engaged in to reflect badly on them (in the process accusing Tohru's beloved mother of being nothing but a criminal, despite spending most of her life as a devoted parent). When they start throwing around suggestive comments about Tohru living with three unmarried men, even Tohru seems ready to lose her temper with them.
    • Kyoko's father resented his daughter for her delinquent lifestyle, which eventually led to him disowning her. He's called out on this by Katsuya, who points out that one shouldn't drop parenthood the moment it becomes inconvenient. Inverted when Kyoko gets pregnant and fears that her child may end up so miserable that it would resent her.
    • Rin's parents start off, despite her curse, seeming to be Good Parents during her childhood. However, when she asks them if they're truly happy, they stop the act and become true Abusive Parents to her, the charade broken.
  • The main characters' aunt from Grave of the Fireflies. Then again, considering the time and setting- Japan at the end of World War II- it's understandable.
  • .hack//SIGN: Morgana ModeGone becomes this for Aura, the gestating AI she was created to nurture and protect while administrating The World. Morgana came to realize that, once Aura awakened and assumed her role as Goddess of the World, Morgana would have no purpose left and her program would end. To that end, she sought to keep Aura locked in stasis. Of course once the anime ends and Aura awakens, Morgana becomes a far mode antagonistic presence in the subsequent game series.
  • Mazinger Z: Dr. Hell's mother hated him and regarded him as a burden and a nuisance, and she made her contempt very clear to everyone, including her son. She constantly complained that she never wanted to be a mother and her life would be happier without him. Her daily abuse was one of the factors that drove Hell crazy.
  • Monster has Con Man Otto Heckel being ordered by Tenma to be with Dieter, much to his dismay.
  • Gendo Ikari from Neon Genesis Evangelion. As far as he sees it, if Shinji had never been born, his wife probably wouldn't have basically committed suicide in order to become a component of a Humongous Mecha so that Shinji could interface with it. It still doesn't justify the utter Hell that he put Shinji and others through, and Gendo himself acknowledges it at the end of his life.
  • One Piece: Nico Robin's aunt, Roji, was not at all pleased about taking in her niece, who was the daughter of her husband's sister Olvia, excluding her from family outings and forcing her to do chores. Robin's uncle seemed to care about her more, but it's unclear how much he tried to offset or prevent his wife's mistreating Robin, if at all.
  • In Paradise Kiss, George's mom Yukino complains that George's birth ended her modeling career.
  • In Pet Shop of Horrors, one chapter ends with Count D having a harassed mother go to the back of his shop for a new pet. Instead she finds a vision of her own mother, who quickly begins beating her and screaming how it was her daughter's fault she could never bring men home, as none of them wanted to raise someone else's child.
    Not one day goes by when I didn't wish I had the abortion! Well, better late than never!
  • Pollyanna: Aunt Polly was distant from Jenny and hated John, but takes in her niece Pollyanna because the girl is an orphan. Their differing attitudes put them at odds, not helped by the fact that any time Polly tries to teach her the ways of the Harrington family, Pollyanna disregards them. S He eventually warms up to her.

    Comic Books 
  • When Batman left the cowl to Azrael, he specifically told him he'd be working alongside and helping Robin (Tim Drake), whom Azrael then tried to kill and kept from accessing any of the equipment in the Batcave because Tim was trying to keep him from turning Batman into a murderer. Then there's Tim's father's bad habit of making comments to this effect which in combination with his neglectful parenting are more convincing than him saying he wants to be a better father and spend more time with Tim (and then cancelling on him).
  • Cinema Purgatorio: In One Hell of a Girl, the nature of the protagonist's relationship with the "Geraldine" she talked about was revealed to be that of a resentful mother and a lonely daughter. As a Struggling Single Mother, she had to choose between going on dates and raising her, and often chose the former every chance she got. She hated that potential lovers are turned off by Geraldine's presence, and the girl was often ignored so she could have time to herself. When Geraldine's pleas became too much for her one night, the protagonist killed her and tried (and failed) to cover it up. The relationship was so bad that, prior to the reveal, the protagonist only ever mentioned Geraldine in the same way one would talk about a selfish love rival who kept getting in the way, and she kept justifying her murder as a normal, righteous reaction.
  • Doom Patrol introduced Beast Boy as turning to the Doom Patrol to try and escape Nicholas Galtry, who became his legal guardian after his parents died and consistently plotted to keep Garfield's inheritance to himself in addition to treating the boy like garbage.
  • Squee's father in Johnny the Homicidal Maniac and Squee. Probably his mom, too, though it's implied her neglectful parenting is more because she's a drunk and a drug addict than anything.
  • In Violine, Marushka was one to Francois. She later does the same to Violine, even though she pretends to be her mother.
  • Rorshach's mother in Watchmen. "I should have had that abortion!"

    Fan Works 
  • All For Luz: As part of his attempt to break Luz, Shigaraki suggests that her mother Camila secretly despises her. As evidence, he harps on how Camila forced her to attend Reality Check Summer Camp, which was intended to crush her Blithe Spirit and force her to conform to what's considered "normal".
  • In Back To Us, Adrien is sent to Milan after his father's death and exposure as the supervillain Hawk Moth, to live with his mother's sister and her family in Milan. While they treated him well, Adrien eventually found out that they didn't care about him and were only afraid that he'd turn out like his father (not understanding how the Miraculous worked).
  • The Bolt Chronicles:
  • Hopeless Devotion: Tsumiki's mother tells her outright that she wishes she'd gotten an abortion.
  • House Divided: Sentinel Prime resents being saddled with the newsparks Jetfire and Jetstorm, and pushes all responsibility for them onto Optimus the moment that becomes an option.
  • Little Uzumaki offers a downplayed, tragic version. Due to a series of unfortunate encounters with Konoha's Fountain of Youth, Sakura has repeatedly been deaged and lost all her memories, forcing her to grow up all over again. Multiple times. As a result, her now elderly parents fear that they'll never get to see her grown up and with kids of her own, and that they might die in poverty due to having to spend all their retirement funds on raising her.
  • Mia Fey: Ace Attorney – The Fool's Turnabout: Sae regards her sister Makoto as nothing more than an unwanted burden she's been saddled with.
  • The New Retcons:
    • Elly Patterson never actually wanted children, but felt pressured into having them by Mandatory Motherhood and her parents wanting grandkids. It doesn't help that she was forced to give up her first child when she had Claire out of wedlock, or that Michael was the result of a failed baby trap.
    • Connie also resents her son Lawrence. When he was born, she attempted to pass him off to relatives like she had with her first kid; however, they refused to take him due to his being biracial. Naturally, she blames him for this.
  • Ryuko in Secret Sunshine is something of an odd case. Her resentment isn't towards her niece, Kiko, but instead her sister Satsuki, since the latter suddenly showed up one day to dump Ryuko with a baby and zero explanation before leaving to continue her own life as normal, only sending the occasional check for child support. While she loves her niece, Ryuko views the entire situation as unfair; not because of her suddenly diminished freedom, but mostly because "Kiko got the shortest end of the stick". This gets further amplified when Satsuki turns up pregnant again a few years later and tries to make Ryuko agree to take custody again.
  • In the Infinity Train fanfic The Sun Will Come Up And The Seasons Will Change, Mary's mother Dana Summers, over years of being hypervigilant and overly controlling in an effort to keep Mary's autism from "ruining her life", has come to greatly dislike her daughter and see her as a nuisance. It got to the point of creating an entire blog to complain about her daughter. Mary has become aware of this, and Dana's treatment of her, along with seeing something on her blog that terrified her click here for spoilers , makes her decide to run away from home in fear, which is how she winds up on the Train.

    Films — Animated 
  • The whole plot of Cinderella is built on this trope. Lady Tremaine and her two biological daughters hate Cinderella because of her kindness and beauty, and following her father's death, they abuse her to no end, treating her as nothing more than a scullery maid. When she finally asks a favor from them (to go to the ball), they just rip her dress up after abusing Exact Words. Kingdom Hearts: Birth by Sleep made them much crueler.
  • The movie Despicable Me plays with this trope. A classic Evil Overlord adopts 3 children as part of one of his schemes to defeat his archnemesis. The conflict between his schemes and raising the children defines the movie.
  • Storks: With her beacon destroyed, the storks were forced to raise Tulip. Hunter makes it clear that he views her as a burden to the company and wants her fired on her 18th birthday because that's the earliest they can legally get away with it.

    Films — Live-Action 
  • Aaron Loves Angela: In a moment of drunken rage, Aaron's father Ike tells him, "I don't know why I should ruin my own life for someone whose own mama didn't want him... Stop fucking up my life! You know what I could've done without you? How many times I wanted to split? Just get the hell out of here!" After he calms down, he says, "Aaron, I didn't mean what I said. I just have to have someone to hurt sometimes, and you're all I got."
  • The short documentary Autism Every Day, produced by Autism Speaks, has footage of misbehaving autistic children and their parents talking about how terrible their lives are with their autistic children. There is so much said about autistic children making life difficult for the parents that it is hard to come up with a standout quote to put here. One thing especially notable about this piece, though, is the mother who says that she was sitting in a car for 15 minutes and had contemplated driving off a bridge, killing herself and her autistic daughter, but didn't because she had a non-autistic child, and said it with barely any significant emotion. In the clip, you can see her seven-year-old autistic daughter in the background, and if you pay attention you can see that the girl's movements correspond to the mother's words in such a way that you know she understands what's being said (about as well as any seven-year-old would). Even more notable in that apparently nobody called CPS on her, and she left Autism Speaks after this.
  • The Babadook contains shades of this, as Amelia's husband died en route to the hospital, leaving her to raise a troubled young son on her own.
  • In the film adaptation of Beautiful Creatures, when Lena asks her mother if she ever loved her, her mother first says she can't remember, then insists that no mother really ever loves their daughter.
    "It's not easy you know, pushing another female out of your body, a younger, more perfect version of yourself with every option and no mistakes."
  • Ollie from Kevin Smith's Jersey Girl ended up as a single father when his wife died in childbirth, he then lost his job when screwing up at work from the overloaded stress soon after. He then spends seven years working as a manual laborer, living at his dad's place, raising his daughter pretty damn well in fact but then he gets to thinking he wants his old public relations job back. Cue struggle to convince his family, cue arguments with daughter who doesn't want to move, cue page quote (wow!), cue moment where, after meeting with an incidental stranger (who in this case is Will Smith, not played by, is Will Smith) realizes he should run back and attend his daughter's musical performance instead of going to his job interview.
  • Raising Helen is about a woman named Helen who receives guardianship of her recently deceased sister's three kids, but as it turns out she's the one who ends up growing up in the end (hence the inversion in the title). She's got a high-flying job at a modeling agency, a cool pad in Manhattan, and is contractually obliged to party at 3 am in the morning. Next thing we know, she's moved to Queens, is handling school runs, and is sleeping with a Lutheran minister to get them into a good school (note, cause and effect may not be as stated).
  • One of the segments of the horror movie Trick 'r Treat had this as the setup, where a group of parents paid the driver of a bus full of their own mentally disabled children to drive the bus off a cliff and drown them to "free them from their burden."

  • Accel World: Part of main character Haruyuki Arita's emotional trauma is the fact that neither of his parents seemed particularly interested in having him in the first place. During their divorce, he accidentally eavesdropped on them arguing about custody, with each trying to force the other to take him. His mother (who does have custody) rarely interacts with him beyond the bare minimum of transferring him money, often leaving him alone for weeks at a time while she travels to China on her nursing career.
  • In Animorphs, Tobias's guardians are an aunt and uncle who he gets passed back and forth between, and neither of whom particularly care about him. In one book Tobias remembers his aunt yelling about how she never wanted him and lambasting her sister - Tobias's mother, who had suffered a horrible accident that left her both blind and amnesiac - for "dumping" him with her.
  • In the first book of The Bartimaeus Trilogy, Dr. Underwood resents having to put up with an apprentice, although apparently every magician is expected to do the same to ensure the production of new competent magicians. His instruction technique mostly consisted of shoving him in a room with a lot of books and telling him to get on with it. His apprentice Nathaniel resents him in turn for being a failure as a teacher, magician, and parental substitute, and considers private study more useful than his infrequent and glacial-paced lessons.
  • Dolphin Island: Johnny's parents died in an air crash when he was four, leaving him to be raised by his aunt Martha and uncle James. James wasn't bad, but Martha was only interested in her own family and resented having to raise her sister's son. Now that James is dead, Johnny's relatives have made it more and more clear that he isn't wanted. After he impulsively stows away on a hovership and ends up thousands of miles away on Dolphin Island, he's afraid he'll be sent back, but Martha is happy to send over his belongings and wash her hands of him.
  • In For Love of Evil, Parry (who later becomes Satan) is adopted as a baby by a sorcerer who had it forced on him by the Church and lord of the manor. At first, he is this trope (because the sorcerer wanted to sacrifice Parry in a spell), but that changes significantly as Parry grows older.
  • Before the start of Galaxy of Fear, Hoole took in two orphans from Alderaan, Tash and Zak, out of a feeling of obligation - he's technically their uncle, since his brother and their aunt were married - and to assuage feelings of guilt for a world he helped destroy. Since he's very aloof and uncommunicative early in the series he leaves most interaction with them to his research assistant DV-9, who was built for far more complicated and intellectual tasks than babysitting and giving lessons to twelve-and-thirteen-year-olds, and lets them know this regularly. All the same, both do care for their charges and come to lose their resentment over time.
    "Zoology lessons. I have the brain capacity of a supercomputer and I'm giving zoology lessons."
  • Setharis is this to Maia in The Goblin Emperor; after a falling out with the Emperor Varenechibal, he was forced to become Maia's guardian, essentially being banished to a distant marshland estate and cutting him off from the imperial court and his beloved wife. Setharis took his anger at all of this out on Maia, mentally and physically abusing him and controlling his life for years. It comes back to bite him when Maia becomes emperor and made a point of pushing Setharis as far away from him as possible.
  • The Dursleys of Harry Potter are like this to their nephew Harry acting with nothing but fear that revelation of what he is could ruin their quiet little Middle England life.
    • For Mrs. Dursley, this resentment is based partly on the fact that her sister was a witch and got to go to Hogwarts and she didn't, which she attempts to mask and compensate for through excessive middle-class snobbery. Again, no excuse for keeping an innocent child in a cupboard for a good part of his early life.
    • Albus Dumbledore is in a different way an example, according to backstory in the final book. The youngest Dumbledore child, Ariana, was left permanently traumatized after being assaulted by three Muggle children who saw her perform magic at a very young age, and had to be looked after, first by her mother Kendra (her father Percival was put in Azkaban for attacking the Muggles with magic), and later by Albus younger brother Aberforth after Kendra was killed by an accidental burst of magic by Ariana. Then, Gellert Grindelwald came into the picture... Ariana was killed in the crossfire of a duel between Albus, Aberforth, and Grindewald, and up until his death, it is the single greatest regret in Albus life, to the point that it affects both what he sees in the Mirror Of Erised and what the appearance of a Boggart takes.
      • This is an interesting example of this guardianship being self-inflicted. Aberforth volunteered to look after Ariana but Albus insisted he take over the job of caring for the girl so Aberforth could finish his study at Hogwarts. Albus was more angry about feeling his potential being squandered, but he also cared for his younger siblings and thus wanted Aberforth to finish Hogwarts.
  • James' aunts from James and the Giant Peach. After his parents were killed in a rhino attack, the poor boy is forced to live with hateful, abusive aunts, who constantly beat him, make him do all the chores, and threaten to kill him. The film version makes them worse in that, once finally called out in public, they try to axe him in front of New York City.
  • Lost Voices: After Luce's parents died, she was left with her alcoholic uncle Peter, who greatly resents having to live with her, even though he makes no effort to parent her and mostly leaves her to her own devices when he's not hitting or insulting her. He complains, "Leave it to Andrew to keep causing problems even after he's dead."
  • Percy Jackson and the Olympians: In The Titan's Curse, some dialog from Nico's big sister Bianca implies that this, or at least a Downplayed form, is why she joined the hunters—she wanted to know what it was like to not always be looking out for Nico.
  • Rubbernecker: Sarah Fort dislikes her adult son Patrick, who has Asperger's, and has told him multiple times that she wishes she'd never had him. When Patrick gets so caught up investigating that he forgets to call her, she's relieved. Sarah eventually confesses that when Patrick was eight, she tried to kill him by running him over with her car, but she hit his father instead.
  • Coira's nurse and caretaker in White as Snow hates and resents her charge. Ignoring the fact that if Coira did not exist, the nurse would not have a cushy, relatively easy job, but a very labour intensive one in the kitchens or scullery.
  • Ingrid of White Oleander is brutally frank with her daughter Astrid about feeling this in their final confrontation. "...clinging to me like a spider..." is a quote that references toddler Astrid, and sums up the overall feel of the rant.

    Live-Action TV 
  • One Life to Live Promiscuous troublemaker Marty Saybrooke is revealed to have been raised by her Aunt Kiki (her father's sister) after her parents were killed in a sailing accident. Given Aunt Kiki's The Ghost status, it soon becomes apparent that Marty was pretty much left to raise herself and that the only reason her aunt even took on the job is that being named as Marty's guardian gave her access to her trust fund.
  • All over in Once Upon a Time:
    • Regina wanted a child. Wanted one badly enough that, in a season 2 flashback, she killed one man and tried to take his kid. The kid narrowly escaped. Then she gets Henry, but Wanting Is Better Than Having, and when children grow up, they aren't so helpless and dependent. She chronically neglected him, used Gaslighting to try and get him to ignore the town's weirdness, dragged him to a shrink to try and keep him in line, and resented him for growing up.
      • The inconsistencies about Regina's resentment could be a case of Characterization Marches On: the first season portrays Regina as both manipulative and a Resentful Guardian, but she's seen mainly from the point of view of her son's bio mom. The second season denies her resentment/neglect and uses the aforementioned flashbacks to her murder and kidnapping attempt to illustrate her desperate and insane desire for a child, casting her instead as Love Hungry. It helps that Regina's neglect was always relatively easy to Hand Wave: she knows where Henry is at all times (that's a plot point as early as episode 1x02), pushes him hard to succeed, her first impulse after a nightmare in 1x20 is to go check on him and in the pilot, she can successfully pass for a loving if outwardly cold mother in the eyes of a trained investigator.
    • Rumpelstiltskin's dad? Habitual drunk, thief, and gambler who dropped him off with the local seamstresses while he stole enough to get drunk and only picked up his kid when he had to. He described having a child to being saddled with a parasite that devoured his hopes and dreams. So, the first opportunity he got when he arrived in Neverland? Try to kill off his kid and accept the island's gift of returning him to boyhood as Peter Pan.
    • Emma was raised by Department of Child Disservices, shuffled from one of these to the next, foster "parents" who were only out for a paycheck and hated the part about having to take care of a kid to get the paycheck.
  • Supernanny: In "The Daniels Family", of her six children, it's evident that Lisa despises her oldest daughter Halley, overloading her with chores while letting the behavior of the younger siblings go scott-free. The worst part? Halley can't even remember the last time her mother ever hugged her. The deleted family page on the Supernanny wiki claims that once Halley turned 18 years old, she moved out and became permanently estranged from her mother.
  • Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt: When Kimmy finally confronts her mother, Lori-Ann, about her childhood, once of her accusations is "you never wanted me". Lori-Ann almost casually responds "of course I never wanted you, but I kept you, didn't I?" She argues that she'd accidentally gotten pregnant at 17, had no idea how to raise a daughter, but did the best she could.

  • Miss Hannigan (Miss Asthma in the original comic) in musical Annie is not fond of her young charges, which is summed up in the Little Girls number and, in any of the scenes she's with them, she's putting them down and verbally abusing them (if not threatening them). She's especially not fond of Annie. One would have to wonder why and how she became an orphanage matron to start with.
  • In Jasper in Deadland, Jasper's mother decides after 17 years that she's had enough of being his mother, and leaves him to pursue a more luxurious life.

    Video Games 
  • In Final Fantasy XIII, Lightning starts off as this towards Hope Estheim, but she eventually evolves into an effective Parental Substitute. Odin really helps this along.
    (Hope trips along a bridge after a long hike)
    Lightning: This isn't working. I mean, you're a liability. You'll only slow me down.
    Hope: What?
    Lightning: I'm sorry, but I can't protect you when- (grunts, collapses to knees, l'Cie brand glows through uniform)
    Hope: You can't just leave me here! You gotta take me with you!
    Lightning: ENOUGH! The whole world is against us. I can barely keep myself alive; let alone some helpless kid! (another grunt) I don't have time to baby you. You want to get tough? Do it on your own! (grunts one last time before rolling out of circle as Odin emerges)
    (Hope is laying back on his rear and hands, visibly frightened of Odin)
    Lightning: This cannot be happening. (Hope cowers as Odin prepares to cut him down) Look out! (parries Odin, prepares for battle as Hope rises to a stand)
    • Even before that, Light's relationship with her younger sister after a Promotion to Parent for Serah seems to be a mix of a sisterly version of smothering parent, Cool Big Sis, and this trope, at least earlier in the story.
  • Persona 5:
    • Makoto Niijima's older sister Sae had a Promotion to Parent after their widowed father's death. While Sae does love Makoto, she also views her as a burden and tells her as such in a fit of anger, something she immediately regrets.
    • Futaba Sakura's uncle always felt like the The Unfavorite compared to her more intelligent mother, which does not go well when Wakaba dies and he gets custody. He resorts to abusing Futaba to try and get back at his deceased sister. Even after Sojiro takes Futaba in and things get better for her, her uncle makes a habit of pestering Sojiro for money and trying to blackmail him when he says no.
    • A new target in the third semester of Royal is Nao Minamoto, a young man who had to drop out of school to care for his younger sister, physically lashed out at her in an argument, and feels so guilty over it that he's become suicidal. After you defeat his Shadow in Mementos, he admits that while he resents having to look after his sister, he also sincerely loves her. Makoto realizes that he reminds her of Sae in some ways.
  • Silent Hill: Downpour has a sidequest where you follow the route taken by an autistic eight-year-old girl to go home from school, following different-colored ribbons left by her mother. They end at a pier where the girl drowned. A confession note states that the girl's mother deliberately led her daughter to her death, getting rid of her so as to be able to live her own life.

    Visual Novels 
  • Ace Attorney:
    • In Justice For All, Mia implies that her aunt Morgan was unhappy about raising Mia's sister Maya, after Mia and Maya's mother Misty disappeared after the fallout over the DL-6 incident. It turns out that Morgan loathes Misty and her daughters, and wants her own daughter Pearl to become the next Master of Kurain.
    • In Trials and Tribulations, Dahlia Hawthorne suggests this was the case with her father, saying that it was easy to convince him to get rid of one of his two daughters because fewer children meant more money. Given her character, it's unclear how accurate this is.
  • Lady Carmosa in Cinders acts like this to her stepdaughter to a greater or lesser extent, depending on the choices of the player.
  • Higurashi: When They Cry has many examples, mostly pertaining to Satoko When her parents die, she's forced into her aunt and uncle's household, which causes them both to resent her and abuse her. The aunt loves to whip her and call her names while the uncle forces her to be his slave and go out and buy alcohol for his buddies.
    • Whenever Shion is asked by her love interest to take care of Satoko, she does not do so because she hates her for taking up all of his time and interests. She later brutally murders her by stabbing her to death on a cross and then later regrets it.
  • Umineko: When They Cry has three such examples, since the story is heavy on Parents as People.
    • Rosa Ushiromiya is sometimes this, but she has Mama Bear moments and Last Stands. It says a lot about her relationship with Maria that it flip flops so often.
    • Natsuhi Ushiromiya certainly felt this way about the adopted child she had been given from her father-in-law-Kinzo's orphanage, since she felt that being given the child due to being unable to have her own was an insult to her womanhood. As a result, she had the child and the servant carrying it pushed off a cliff, which directly led to the creation of the story's Big Bad.
    • Eva ends up becoming this to her niece Ange after Eva is the Sole Survivor of the Rokkenjima massacre and takes up custody of Ange, who wasn't on the island at the time the killings took place and made no secret of the fact that she wished Ange was her own son George, who had been killed. Later played with when it turns out Eva was protecting Ange from the Awful Truth of Rokkenjima, which was that Ange's mother and father were the true culprits behind it. After giving up on having a healthy relationship with Ange, Eva decided to save her from hating her own parents... by directing all of Ange's hate on herself.

  • In Drowtales, Syphile hates that she was saddled with the infant Ariel in order to "prove herself" after earning the ire of her adopted mother Quain'tana for getting tainted. Syphile wasn't up to the task and did the bare minimum to raise Ariel when not being outright abusive to her, to the point that when then-10-years-old Ariel was asked what she wanted most in the world, she unsurprisingly answered: "kill Syphile."
  • In Homestuck, Rose and her mother hold up a passive-aggressive one-upmanship contest with each other. Rose sees her mother as being resentful in nature, and her somewhat quirky personality as hateful. May or may not be a huge misunderstanding on her part.
  • Lifelong sexual hedonist Charisma of Penny and Aggie had Marshall unexpectedly as a teenager. Although she sees more than adequately to his material and educational needs, even paying for private school, she views him as an obstacle "put on this earth to slow me down." Sometime after Nick, the first man she truly loves, overhears this outburst, he asks her to look him in the eye and assure him she didn't really mean that. She can't.
  • Non-parental example: In Stand Still, Stay Silent Sigrun is not happy at all when she finds out that the civilian who hid in one of the expedition's food supply crates is going to have to stay with her crew until the end of their mission. When her employer suggests finding a way to make him useful, her first thought is "Troll decoy". She gets better about it within two days, as when a troll actually attacks the non-immune civilian, she shields him with her arm. Being The Immune makes the bite much less of a life risk for Sigrun, but the resulting wound is still quite nasty. Also, as she is getting the wound treated, she notices that the whole thing being such a close call has caused the Terrified of Germs civilian to think he may have been infected anyway and makes sure to have The Medic reassure him on the subject.

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  • Both The Nostalgia Critic and Ask That Guy with the Glasses got resentment from their parents, with the former being yelled at to shut up when he was crying as a baby, and the latter getting threatened with "going back in the dumpster where [they] found [him]".

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  • Bojack Horseman's parents hold this view of their son - his father was the victim of a Shotgun Wedding, while his mother hates Bojack for saddling her with his father. However, after reading Bojack's tell-all biography, his mother eventually calls him up to apologize for her treatment of him as well as the fact that he basically inherited his parents' natural affinity for misery. Furthermore, we find out Beatrice's and Butterscotch's Freudian Excuses in Season 4.
    Young BoJack: Are you punishing me for smoking or for stealing?
    Beatrice: I'm punishing you for being alive.
    • It was so bad that, during her funeral in "Free Churro", BoJack had to explain that he recieved more compassion from a random lady giving him a free churro because he told her he needed to go to a funeral, than from his own mother, during his entire life.
  • It's implied of Mr. Turner in the The Fairly OddParents! episode "Future Lost":
    Timmy's Dad: Don't worry about it, Timmy. My dreams were shattered years ago.
    Timmy: How many years ago?
    Timmy's Dad: How old are you?
  • Family Guy: Lois Griffin has been shown to have feelings of contempt towards her oldest daughter Meg for being unable to have an abortion. Instead, she is now stuck raising her.
    • Lois has actually made it clear in several episodes that she never wanted any of her children, even claiming that she attempted to miscarry Chris before she chickened out halfway. (And yet the moment a Straw Feminist mocks her three kids... cue the catfight.)
    • Peter himself once confessed he didn't like any of his children.
  • Moral Orel: Clay Puppington AND his father. The former actively sees family as a curse and the latter never even wanted children to begin with and was forever embittered towards Clay after he caused his mother to die of a heart attack.
  • Beth from Rick and Morty almost ended up having an abortion when she was pregnant with Summer. Even years later both Jerry and Beth openly wondered about what might have been otherwise if they had instead taken a chance at their dreams, leaving poor Summer with an existential crisis. Thankfully, her little brother Morty, who has by now seen his share of messed up stuff, including replacing his now deceased alternate dimensional counterpart in the present universe, is there to comfort her.
  • The Simpsons:
    • Homer slips in and out of this. While he can be openly contemptuous of Bart (from strangling him to calling him a mistake to his face), his treatment of his daughters is much better, though he wasn't looking forward to Maggie since it cost him his dream job (he got better when he first laid eyes on Maggie). That said, he once drunkenly complained about his family on a television show reminiscent of HBO's Taxi Cab Confessions.
    • Abe Simpson, Homer's father, also can swing in and out of it as well.
      Abe: If I hadn't taken that stupid tonic 38 years ago, you'd have never been born and I'd have been happy! You were an accident!
      Homer: (gasps, then stops the car) Get out.


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