- An offhand comment Yang makes in Chapter 48 of BlazBlue Alternative: Remnant regarding Pyrrha's true feelings about being put on a pedestal cause Weiss to have a subtle one, realizing that she treated her the exact same way.
- In A Familiar Change of Fate because she summoned the happy-go-lucky and humble Starfire, Louise Franoise realizes she's been treating the nicest person she knew as a pet. It particularly hits home when Starfire is overjoyed by her "luxurious meal" of bread and water.
- Infinity Crisis:
- Different Strokes reveals that Felicity had one of these while she was 'dead' regarding the way she'd treated Oliver over his attitude towards killing, acknowledging that a willingness to kill when necessary doesn't mean Oliver isn't a hero.
- In Taking Flight (and Fights) Johnny Storm has a smaller moment when Peter Parker tells Johnny how Peter only thought about using his powers for personal benefit back when he became Spider-Man until the events that led to the death of his uncle.
- Infinity Train: Blossoming Trail: Professor Cerise, in searching for clues that could help locate his daughter Chloe, learns that she's a Nightmare Fetishist who enjoys writing horror stories. He's greatly disturbed by some of what he reads, wonders why she couldn't be interested in anything more normal. His son Parker angrily responses to this by saying that Chloe isn't insane, a reaction which confuses him until he realizes that Chloe must have been heavily bullied due to her love for the macabre, and was hiding her stories from her parents precisely because she feared they'd also belittle her interests. Which he had just been doing. He resolves to engage with her hobbies more once she eventually returns home.
- In the Kingdom Hearts/RWBY crossover The Light of Remnant, Blake and Ruby end up giving Sora the cold shoulder for over a week, Blake because Sora made an Innocently Insensitive comment about Faunus while asking about them, and Ruby because she was developing feelings for him and didn't know how else to cope. They realize they were jerks to him after Sora goes off with Yang to track down the White Fang without telling them.
- The Many Dates of Danny Fenton: Katie Kaboom has one after Danny yells at her after she accidentally hurt her little brother during one of her rampages.
- When Tony Stark exclaims how great it is that Harry is immortal in Master of Death and What it Means, the others quickly shoot him down. Harry's explanation of what it means to truly be immortal makes Tony realize just how insensitive his remark was.
- There Was Once an Avenger from Krypton: The plot of the story To Rule Alone, to Build Together is kicked off by Chloe Bourgeois having an epiphany after nearly being killed by Stoneheart, realizing that her Alpha Bitch attitude is to blame for the situation, and also that said attitude means almost no one would mourn her if she died. After this, she becomes determined to become a better person, which seems to the catalyst for her receiving the Bee Miraculous.
- Told That Devil to Take You Back:
- When Amelia Pond returns from the dead, Dean is forced to acknowledge that, despite his claims that he killed Amelia because she was a monster who would inevitably kill more people, he only did it because he had lost so much recently and just wanted to be able to kill something.
- Dean experiences a lesser version of this when Bela reveals why she made a deal to kill her parents as a teenager, with Bela quickly assuring him that she forgives his past harsh words.
Aaahh!!! Real Monsters
- In Citizen Krumm, Krumm Takes A Level In Jerkass after being nominated for Academy President, which leads to him insulting both Ickis and Oblina. During his campaign speech, he notices that they've shown up despite being angry with him, and this makes him feel guilty enough to apologize to them.
- In Splinter, when the Angel Investigations team find themselves in an alternate reality, Wesley, Cordelia and Gunn reject Angel because they believe his counterpart in this world has joined Darla, killed Wesley and Buffy, blinded Cordelia, and is attempting a ritual involving brutally removing human livers with his soul intact. However, they later realise that Wesley and Cordelia's fates are due to Vocah's attack, with Buffy's death having nothing more to do with Angel than that he wasn't there, and Angel taking human livers is actually part of another ritual to try and stabilise his collapsing pocket universe. Faced with this evidence that Angel is still trying to save lives, Wes and Gunn acknowledge that Angel only fell so far in this world because he didn't have anyone else, as well as accepting that his decision to fire them was based around a desire to protect them from what he felt he had to do rather than him just being cruel.
- What Tomorrow Brings:
- Cassie explains to the others that her experience with compromise in Washington has left her more willing to accept the need for it during an active war, assuring the others that she will accept the need for more brutal actions now that might end the war earlier.
- Ax in particular has one for himself and the rest of the team, feeling more willing to acknowledge that the other Animorphs occasionally hurt him by insisting that he act more human without truly trying to explain things to him but that he didn't make it easier to bond with humans by isolating himself in his scoop.
Buffy the Vampire Slayer
- In Echoes of the Fallen, Buffy gets one after Xander rolls up his sleeve and explains he has his costume's full memories when asked if he had anything leftover from his transformation on Halloween. While Giles and Willow are horrified, Buffy doesn't see what the big deal is about such a small tattoo, until Giles explains that it's an Auschwitz tattoo.
- In Hunter, Xander realizes Angel has returned and Buffy isn't telling anyone so he asks Faith to talk to her about it. When Buffy hears this, she interrupts Faith's explanation and quickly tells her what really happened, not Xander's jealousy tainted version. Buffy feels like a terrible friend after Faith tells her that's exactly the same explanation Xander gave.
- In "Tempus Fugit", when circumstances lead to Paige from the end of Season Eight travelling back to the end of Season Three to save Prues life, once her future memories have straightened out she apologises to Cole for the way she treated him in her time, now able to recognise the difference between him and the Source and regretting how she acted as though he was equally culpable of the Sources crimes.
- When Sam in KNight Wolf changes the school menu to entirely vegetarian, she realizes she screwed up when Danny calls her out for trying to force her beliefs on others and taking away the option to choose.
- In Aliens of London, when Alice and Gwen have to stop the 456 with the Tenth Doctors help, Alice spends some time regarding the Doctor as just another alien playing with humanity, particularly when the Doctor reveals that he created the 456 as weapons for the Time War, until Gwen shows Alice recorded footage of the Doctors future death ("The End of Time"), helping Alice accept that the Doctor genuinely does care about the humans caught up in events.
- A Tactician's Testimony: In "Blood of Pride," Katri recognizes that her prejudices against Sacaeans were wrong when she sees Marquess Araphen openly badmouthing Lyn for being Sacaean, calling her a "nomadic mongrel." The realization that she used to think the same as such a Jerkass leaves Katri remorseful and feeling sick to her stomach.
- In Goldstein, Yehudah has long been annoyed by Terry's many questions about his religion, and instinctively finds Terry's own outspoken Christian beliefs to be threatening. Eventually he hears Terry signing him up for something related to Easter and explodes at him, which puts Terry on the outs with most of their fellow Ravenclaws; however, it turns out that he was only signing Yehudah up to go home during their break, which Yehudah actually wanted. Yehudah eventually writes Rabbi Zeller, asking if he has to apologize for wronging someone who isn't Jewish...and, upon realizing how bad he sounds just asking that, figures the answer out for himself.
- In Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality, Harry hears an I Have This Friend version of the Snape-Lily-James story by Snape, and draws perfectly reasonable conclusions from what little information he is given... expressing them very bluntly and completely and utterly hurting Snape's feelings. Harry isn't insensitive by all means, but this story taught him he should know exactly what he's talking about before recklessly flapping his mouth.
- Jen's friends undergo this in Princess of the Blacks when Jen starts acting more withdrawn than normal. When they insist she not bottle up her problems and share with them, Jen shares some of her Dark and Troubled Past.
- Tracey, who managed to avoid it the first time, really sticks her foot in it when she makes fun of Jen's boggart: a small crying child. Jen curses her out then reveals that her boggart isn't a random child crying over some minor scrape; it's her shortly after being thrown out on the streets and not long before she was raped.
How to Train Your Dragon
- In Bound, Astrid flat-out tells Stoick that Hiccup feels like a disappointment and that he should take the time to make him feel valued.
- Down And Out: In Chapter 7, Grace realizes how horrible she's been acting and questions why she's been hurting Simon like this. As a result, Grace relocates Simon to her room and begins trying to rehabilitate him.
Kill la Kill
- From Kill la Kill AU, we have this with Nui, when she realizes that Satsuki had given her name and felt "gross" because she had treated her so badly prior to finding that out.
- Ryuuko in Batteries, while in labor and at the hospital, realized how much she had really hurt Satsuki with her feud.
- When Iori calls her out for her Slut-Shaming and reminds her of what Satsuki did to get by, Nonon doesn't say anything else.
The Land Before Time
- Land Before Time Retold: As in the first film, right before the volcano and tar pit fiasco, Cera badmouths Littlefoot's mother, resulting in their big fight and the group splitting up. After Littlefoot and Original Character Aylene save them, Aylene explains to Cera that Littlefoot reacted the way he did because his mother was killed by Sharptooth; Cera is instantly ashamed of herself and apologizes to Littlefoot.
The Loud House
- Thicker Than Blood: While everyone is dealing with the emotional fallout of Lincoln finding out he's adopted, Lori takes a long look at her relationship with her siblings and realizes she hasn't been the Cool Big Sis she would like to think of herself as and swears to make an effort to be a better influence in their lives.
- Feralnette AU (Big Fat Break):
- While confronting Marinette alongside Felix over her self-destructive tendencies — specifically, how she keeps going after akuma to distract them — Adrien abruptly realizes that he's been subjecting Ladybug to the same Anger Born of Worry with his own reckless behavior as Chat Noir. This causes him to go into a Heroic BSoD as he realizes he needs to apologize to his partner ASAP.
- Alya and Nino have a shared one during the Lady Clarity incident, thanks to Lila's akuma-induced phantom voice gleefully bragging about helping 'Hawkie', forcing them both to realize that they turned on Marinette and effectively abandoned her on the word of a Manipulative Bitch.
- Recommencer: During the battle with Repeater, Chat Noir proves to be The Load, whining about Ladybug getting help from a Badass Bystander before proving that she needs reliable people to work with by refusing to follow her plan, trying to Blackmail her into 'admitting how much [she] loves [him]'. This forces another student to step in and do the job instead, and he's called out afterwards, Shamed by a Mob into fleeing the scene. Adrien then reflects upon his behavior as Chat Noir and realizes just how skewed his priorities were, right before Master Fu takes away the Black Cat Ring.
- A double example in We're inevitable takes place several months after Marinette confessed her feelings to Adrien, only to be met with an "I know," and "I'm sorry," expressed with barely concealed irritation. At the start of the story, the two are brought together for the first time in months by Master Fu, learning that they're Ladybug and Chat Noir, and are forced to confront what happened.
- Marinette starts by saying that she doesn't blame him for his reaction, admitting that the way she'd acted didn't really set her apart from any of his other obsessed fangirls.
'''Marinette: "I wanted to believe I was different, because my feelings hadn't stemmed from your looks or your position in life or anything like that. They were feelings that were entirely anchored in the right reasons, so I let myself believe that because I liked you for your kindness and your talents and your selflessness that I wasn't just putting you on a pedestal of unreachable proportions just like everyone else had. But I was lying to myself. I had put you on a pedestal. I idolized everything that made Adrien Agreste who he was, but felt as though I could never be good enough for you, or even be myself around you, so I got to know you through ways that didnt involve actually forming a friendship with you, under the illusion that it was okay because I did know you, and we were sort of friends and everything. I found so many reasons to admire you, but without even realizing it I used all those reasons to further push you to an unreachable point. It was bad for myself, and it was bad for you. So, I guess what Im trying to say is, I'm sorry. Not for having the feelings I did, but the fact that I let them stop me from treating you like a normal person."
- In turn, Adrien tells her that nothing she did justified him being (as he now sees it) a jerk and a hypocrite about it, bringing up his own feelings for Ladybug.
Adrien: "We're partners and best friends, but the fact that I didn't know Ladybug's civilian side and totally idolized her on this unreachable level kind of meant I was no better than everyone who does the same with me, even if I liked her for the right reasons, just like you. When you told me how you felt, I already knew, but to hear it directly from you and to immediately feel kind of annoyed - once again, sorry - well, I looked back on it not much later and realized how hypocritical it was in retrospect. But all the times I wanted to apologize and try and patch things up Alya would pull you away because she was angry on your behalf, and no longer being in the same class meant we didn't see much of each other anyway. And I never really knew what I'd have said, anyway. 'Hey Marinette, sorry I was a jerk when you said you liked me but the thing is, I have a massive crush on Ladybug who doesn't like superhero me and doesn't know civilian me and I put her on a pedestal the same way you did so really I'm in no position to judge you but I'm just sick of people idolizing me is that okay?' never really had the best ring to it."
My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic
- Loved and Lost, an extended retelling of the 2nd season finale, makes the canon example with Twilight's friends as well as her brother and Celestia more profound, specifically because Prince Jewelius turns them all into pariahs by holding them responsible for the Changeling invasion due to not listening to Twilight's suspicions regarding Queen Chrysalis and neglecting to postpone the wedding and get the unknown threat over Canterlot out of the way first. They become banished along with Cadance and Luna, and after they're reunited, Cadance sadly tells them how she and Shining Armor first became a couple with some secret assistance from Twilight. The revelation of his adoring little sister having helped him get together with the mare of his dreams makes Shining Armor feel even worse than he already did about banning Twilight from his wedding, and Twilight's friends better understand how self-centered they were behaving during the wedding preparations. They then return to Canterlot, determined to set things right.
: Twilight wanted you two to be together forever
: All this time, we've only been thinkin' about how much the weddin' meant to us and not how much it meant to Twilight. Pinkie Pie
: Some friends we are.
- While trying to earn back their lives and make it up to Twilight, the disgraced heroes are also forced to face the fact that they forgot to consider the feelings of Canterlot's citizens who, while expecting for the wedding, also had to be anxious over the threat of unknown attackers who managed to strike despite Celestia and Shining Armor's safety measures, causing civilian casualties (at least one filly's parents became hospitalized in the attack). Before the heroes earn back their prestige and the public's trust, Jewelius angrily declares sympathizing with Twilight and the other heroes to be an act of treason in the 17th chapter. This outburst causes the citizens of Canterlot to realize that the dishonored heroes were all along right about Jewelius being evil and that they had chosen the wrong side. In the epilogue, the heroes apologize for their mistakes before proceeding to the wedding, and the public in turn apologizes to them for blindly believing Jewelius' propaganda about them and spurning them.
- The three original bridesmaids — whom Chrysalis hypnotized and replaced with Twilight's friends on the excuse of slanderous lies — get to call the disgraced heroes out of not caring about their disappearance. Twilight's friends apologize to them during the epilogue and offer them the bridesmaid positions back, only to be forgiven and allowed to keep the positions.
- Twilight is manipulated by Jewelius to stop trusting her friends, mentor and brother for their treatment of her, and she acts coldly toward them as they try to tell her how evil Jewelius truly is. After she realizes the truth, she seeks them out to reconcile with them, with everypony owning up to their respective mistakes. It should be noted that prior to Twilight discovering the truth about Jewelius, she admits floating the idea of pardoning her friends, expressing a desire to forgive them for their mistakes and apologize for being too harsh on them. Discovering the truth leads her into blaming herself for it all.
- Misunderstandings: Sergeant Peppermint York gets one when Peter shows her the scar from his time in a sideshow and later when her subordinate Swift Wind angrily tells her off, saying he has forgiven Peter for accidentally shooting him and asks her "Why do you hate him so much?". She realizes she has been targeting an innocent creature for nothing and confesses to her role in the conspiracy against him. She gets an even bigger one when she learns of the sabotage, and how it will not only kill Peter, but it nearly destroyed Canterlot and is willing to drop her anonymity, realizing she supported a group that had no interest in protecting ponies.
- The Nuptialverse: Post Nuptials takes the Jerkass Realization Twilight's friends are implied to have in the season 2 finale for ignoring Twilight's warnings against the evil Cadance (actually an imposter), and brings it Up to Eleven: here they realize that they'd broken Twilight's heart by turning their backs on her, and profusely beat themselves up over how they could have treated her so coldly.
- In the Ponies of Olympus series, Rainbow Dash has one at the end of Ditzy Don't when, upon calling out Mademoiselle Doo for treating her like a dumb foal just because she's not as good as her, realizes that that's the exact same way she's always treated Ditzy.
- The Rise of Darth Vulcan:
- Diamond Tiara's experiences while being held hostage by Vulcan do this to her, forcing her to realize just how terrible she was to everyone... which was Vulcan's whole point.
- When Vulcan is a prisoner of the Princesses, Luna uses Jack Bauer Interrogation Techniques to get information out of him, believing him to be the black-hearted warlock he presents himself as. When she realizes that he's just an empowered teenager with trust, authority, and anger issues, she's horrified at herself, but it's too late to explain herself to him.
- Eroninja: While escorting a caravan to Suna, Naruto and Samui run into one of Samui's ex-boyfriends. Given that Samui is using a specialized Henge to appear to have gotten breast reduction surgery, her ex remarks to his friends about how Samui used to have "tits so big, the should have qualified as national treasures." Naruto, who has no idea Samui didn't get surgery, pulls him aside and tells Samui's ex that it's people like him that made such a beautiful woman so insecure she got plastic surgery to change her looks. Samui's ex-boyfriend buys her a drink and sincerely apologizes for his comments.
- The Mouse of Konoha. After Anko remarks that Naruto's ability to juggle is "an interesting trick for a civilian but useless to a shinobi", Naruto explains that he taught himself because none of the other kids would play with him and playing catch by himself got boring after a while. Understandably, Anko feels horrible afterwards.
- Anko again in NBH when she angrily asks Naruto if he knows what it's like to be hated for something that wasn't his fault. It's only after Yuugao explains things to her that Anko realizes/remembers that Naruto is a jinchuuriki.
- In Team 8, Sakura overhears Naruto warning Rock Lee of trying to win her affections because she cares for no one but herself and Sasuke and is not a nice person to begin with. Sakura realizes Naruto is telling the truth and tries to become a better person.
- Celadon's New Blossom: Erika found it extremely funny to force Ash to dress and act the part of a cute little girl... then she saw Ash was actually distressed by the situation and decide to dial it down.
- In Chapter 25 of Common Sense, seeing Ash trying to hide his pain over not being able to save Butterfree's mate from Team Rocket, Misty acknowledges that Ash is a good trainer and that she's been hating him for no reason other than her own wounded pride over losing to him.
- In the Pokemon fanfic A Pikachu in Love, Pikachu has several of these in regards to how coldly he's been acting to Ash, but what really hits home is when Misty is carrying him back to the camp site after he had been attacked by the Ursaring, and she starts to talk about how much they all love him and how devastated they'd be if something had happened to them, especially Ash. It's at this point Pikachu realizes just how loved he is, and that Ash would never forget about him or leave him behind.
- Pokémon Reset Bloodlines has a sidestory centered on Ash's Butterfree. When the group reaches the spot where his species finds mates, he reminisces about his mate (as they had heard the mating Butterfree had been captured by Hunter J). He gets very angry at Ash for dragging him back to his adventure, thinking that he doesn't care, and decides to try and go find his mate by himself. Eventually, he does find her safe and sound, having barely escaped Hunter J, but she's now in a relationship with another Butterfree. Despite being upset, he decides to let her be happy, even if it's not with him. When he returns, the first thing he does is apologize to Ash for the things he said, understanding that Ash never meant to cause him pain and that he still has reasons to move forward.
- It happens to Power Girl in A Force of Four after her cousin's death. Upon reflecting she never told him she loved him, she realizes her "I have to be a tough bitch to survive" massive-child-on-her-shoulder attitude did more harm than good and hurt people she loved.
Rosario + Vampire
- Rosario Vampire: Brightest Darkness Act III: Due to their belief that Tsukune and his friends are just Attention Whores claiming to fight Fairy Tale for attention, the near-entirety of the Yokai Academy student body goes above and beyond to ostracize and bully them. Come chapters 41-44, the gang proves the rumors true by fighting off Kuyou, and then a Fairy Tale armada, one after another; the students all get hit with this, along with the fact that Tsukune's group is risking their lives to save the school despite how poorly the other students treated them, and thus, the entire student body is galvanized into helping the group fight Fairy Tale off.
- A Rabbit Among Wolves: Jaune's working with the White Fang is mostly out of self-interest at first, with only a cursory care for the plight felt by Faunus. Being nearly raped by an SDC manager changes it somewhat and gives him a deeper understanding of how bad they have it.
- En Tempus Veritas;
- Fears of losing Lois and their unborn son lead Clark to the realisation that if he had ever truly loved Lana everything would have been easier, but in the end, he was never able to truly trust Lana to know what she wanted or trust his own judgement of her.
- Just after the birth of Clark and Lois's son Jonathan, General Lane admits to Lois that he should have realised after her mother's death that he couldn't continue living life the way he had before, as his wife was the one better equipped to keep the family together and her death meant that there was nobody to make him realise what he was doing to his daughters.
- When Chloe explicitly tells Clark that she loves him, Clark acknowledges that he may have subconsciously used that knowledge to keep Chloe loyal to him even if he knew he would never feel the same way.
Star vs. the Forces of Evil
- Stay: Kelly is deeply upset by Marcos rejection, blaming Star, who she believes is less deserving of his love, even though Marcos reason was that he feels No Sparks with Kelly. In response, she abandons Marco in his hour of need and leaves him to try to heal from leaving Star, without a friend to lean on. Poor Marco now has to deal with heartbreak over his unrequited love for Star, and the possible end of his close friendship with Kelly. Later on, Janna gives her a scathing speech over Kellys Entitled to Have You attitude with Marco and her grudge against Star for having his love, and Kelly realizes how much of a bad friend shes been.
- In The End of Ends, after Beast Boy leaves his resignation letter behind, the other Teen Titans regret how they treated him in response to his behavior following being rejected by Terra. Unfortunately, it's too late for them to make amends and things get much worse.
Thomas & Friends
- In The Brother's Grimm, the Grumpy Passenger is outright hostile to Emily and her brother Bernard, even hitting them with a cane. After being made homeless and penniless, he realizes just how awful he is and vows to become a better person.
- In A Cracked Ruby, Emily laughs at Molly for pulling empty trucks, then laughs at her again after Thomas's trick to make everyone think Molly is pulling a special delivery fails. When Molly leaves in embarrassment, an angry Thomas gives the assembled engines a savage What the Hell, Hero? speech, which causes Emily to realize just how cruel she was and seek out Molly to apologize to her.
- Molly herself has one when Emily reveals the bullying she'd suffered for years and how it contributed to her horrible attitude, and breaks down crying while apologizing for telling Emily that she hated her.
- In Goodbye to Yesterday, Gordon overhears Thomas mention jumping Vicarstown Bridge to bring Gordon his safety valve, only to be thanked with ignorance and impatience, and realizes just how mean he's been in the past.
- In the Transformers: Generation 1 fanfic The Young and the Gullible, Starscream, thinking that Thrust is trying to pull a prank on him when the Conehead tries to court him, lies about Thrust raping him, which gets the other mech thrown in the brig. Later, when Starscream confronts Thrust over the "prank", Thrust reaches his Rage Breaking Point and gives Starscream a savage "The Reason You Suck" Speech, cumulating in calling the other Seeker a bitch. Starscream is initially driven to tears, then anger, but he quickly realizes just how horrible he really is, and tries to put things right.
- In Wanda's Life, Jean never starts dating Duncan because Wanda makes Jean realize that shes been becoming too caught up in being popular to realize what shes losing.