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"Forgot about the past? Don't be stupid! You don't know how much Basara still suffers and keeps having nightmares, so don't spout such nonsense… There's no way he could forget what you guys can't! Or are you thinking you guys are the only ones suffering!?"

Alice is an all around nice girl: she's quiet and maybe a bit of a pushover, but every so often she hints at having some deep Hidden Depths. She's sure to do whatever Bob asks her, not just because of her loyalty but because she "doesn't seem to mind". She may even have a crush on Bob, who seldom notices, dates everyone else but her, and asks her for dating advice. Over the course of the story Bob will go on adventures and drag Alice along with him, putting her through progressively more embarrassing, painful, and emotionally hurtful situations while ignoring her feelings. She won't complain, and will likely offer advice and help however she can.


Until she says "No". Bob will be blown away and fail to understand why: "How can you be so selfish? I've always treated you right!"

At this point Alice lets loose a simple yet powerful question: "Did you think I can't feel?"

Turns out that Alice may be Stoic or even an Extreme Doormat, and that she'll tolerate heaps of emotional torture just to be next to Bob even if she can't date him... but he's finally crossed the line, not because of his schemes, but for both failing to consider she has feelings and that he was badly hurting them. Alice will then painfully lay out just what it is he's put her through and leave. If Alice is especially nice, you can expect at least some violence to follow. If Alice is very shy she may run away instead, leaving it up to another character to enlighten Bob on his carelessness.


Knocked out of his egocentric worldview, Bob now has to find a way to patch up their friendship or pursue a romance. In a kid's show, this is usually accompanied with An Aesop about considering other people's feelings.

Alice can be of any gender, but as a character there are a lot of types that fit: The Nice Guy, The Stoic, Extreme Doormat, The Cutie, Cloud Cuckoo Lander (though they may be Bob if they are very inconsiderate). Bob may be Hot-Blooded, Horrible Judge of Character, or Oblivious to Love. One common variant is for Alice to be an outsider other kids pick on, dehumanizing her until she snaps with the above.

Alice may be motivated by I Just Want My Beloved to Be Happy and realize she's not at all happy, grow angry that All Love Is Unrequited, or that Bob never notices (or sends mixed signals) to her advances. A spin on the trope is possible involving Alice and Bob being Twice Shy, so Bob could then snap about something along the lines of "I didn't think I could make you feel".


If this happens in the beginning of the story, this may lead to Madden Into Misanthropy as Alice changes her character radically. Compare Not So Stoic, where a Stoic is pushed past their limits. Also compare Stoic Woobie.

Contrast Drama Queen. Compare Offending the Fool for the intelligence/sanity based version of this trope.

Not to be confused with "Don't Think, Feel."


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    Anime & Manga 
  • Oresuki: Joro, immediately after being accused of being an awful manipulator by Himawari and Cosmos, angrily points out that they were only using him to get closer to Sun-chan without any consideration about how he felt.
  • Naruto features a powerful scene during the first arc after the Time Skip. His old friend Gaara was captured by the terrorist group Akatsuki, because he (like Naruto) is one of the 9 jinchuuriki (human sacrifice), people who have one of the 9 monstrous Tailed Beasts sealed inside of them for huge amounts of power to serve as secret weapons) Considering that both he and Gaara endured horrible childhoods due to prejudice against people like them, and the people who captured Gaara specifically targeted him because of the demon inside of him, Naruto still puts up with everything throughout the entire series without lashing out at anyone. He's always nice and energetic, and extremely forgiving, despite the abuse he's endured. But when Chiyo tells him to calm down after Gaara is killed because his Tailed Beast was removed, he snaps, unleashing a Big "SHUT UP!" and tells her off for disregarding his feelings as well the overall lack of humanity he and Gaara were treated with. If it weren't for the fact that Chiyo sacrifices her life to bring him back to life, his very true rant would have really brought the point home.
  • In Yu-Gi-Oh!, Joey punched Tristan in the Duelist Kingdom arc for his constant teasing (mocked in Yu-Gi-Oh! The Abridged Series). In Japanese, Hiroto (Tristan) was mostly prodding Jonouchi (Joey) not to gamble away his star chips on a hopeless duel — the punch was more provoked by Hiroto not minding his own business. In the dub, it was more a matter of mounting annoyance over the insults (the dub also turned the punch into a shove)
  • In the later Haruhi Suzumiya novels, Kyon realizes on his own that he's been taking advantage of Yuki's tendency to do whatever he asks of her (what brings it to his attention is some extremely subtle hints of anger from her). He apologizes and decides to make an effort not to rely on her so much.
  • A pivotal moment in Gakuen Alice comes when Mikan realizes that she cannot insist that the girl of her dreams stay with her forever.
  • Gunslinger Girl: When the emotional controls on one unit fails, the entire batch becomes suspect.
  • Heaven's Lost Property : Played for comedy with Oregano: a basic medical robot/angeloid without feelings is aggressive and takes revenge towards Nymph for forcing her to listen to her terrible singing . Played straight with Ikaros when Tomoki breaks her imprinting and gives her freedom, only to make her burst into tears at the idea of them being separated:
    Please...don't throw me away...
  • Averted in Mysterious Girlfriend X, as any reflexive move by the usually stoic Urabe is taken as a sign of rage by Tsubaki.
  • In Space Battleship Yamato (Star Blazers), when Analyzer and Yuki are prisoners, Yuki makes a hurtful remark to the effect that Analyzer has nothing to worry about, that he can't be killed because he isn't alive. Analyzer then proceeds to make a very touching little speech about how much he does feel, and Yuki is ashamed of what she said to him.
  • Haruka Kotoura from Kotoura-san never says this, but it is clear that the other students are taking advantage of her Extreme Doormat tendencies just because they can and often can get away with it. Yoshihisa quickly realizes this and often gives her "a certain look" whenever she denies this, but he would never hesitate to speak in her defense.
  • In When Supernatural Battles Became Commonplace, after politely taking Andou's "You wouldn't understand" remarks for a long time, Hatoko finally tears into him for refusing to (or being unable to) actually explain anything in a manner that she can understand.
  • The Testament of Sister New Devil: Basara doesn't show much reaction when his former comrades mock and insult him for taking sides with the demon lord's daughter and make no attempt to hide their animosity towards him for causing the death of many of their other friends. Takashi in particular comes to the conclusion that Basara even forgot what happened and is the most hostile towards him for that reason. Mio is fully aware that all the insults thrown at him does in fact hurt Basara, and makes sure that the heroes know it.
    • Some time afterwards, Basara comes to his own realization of a blank spot in his empathic understanding, although not from the usual kind of provocation for this trope. Despite all the distracting elements of Maria's personality, he depends on her at least as much as any other member of his circle of family and friends, and she shows all the marks they do of having overcome pain and adversity... but it's never occurred to him to ask the apparently cheerful girl what exactly she's been through - or worse, still is going through. His apology for overlooking her feelings is still timely enough to help.
  • Happens in the "Dream" arc of Sailor Moon, when Rei, Ami and Makoto repeatedly mention that the example set by the Outer Senshi helped them to overcome the seal on their powers in front of Minako, their leader, who suddenly snaps and demands to know why should she lead them if she was so bad and run. To make it worse, it's implied they had no idea Minako was feeling that bad: they were convinced she had easily overcome the seal while they weren't looking because they admire her just that much (possibly part of why it was the Outers to inspire them, as they weren't as awesome) and had no idea they were hitting her already low self-esteem due to her extreme talent at hiding her sadness, deep PTSD and other troubles to spare their feelings.
  • Sousuke winds up getting one of these from the his own mecha, of all things, halfway through Full Metal Panic! when, once again expressing his frustration over the Lambda driver's finickiness, the Arbalest's operating AI replies, "Affirmative. And you are part of the reason for that." As it turns out, the Arbalest has started developing sentience from regularly reading Sousuke's mental state and, just as Sousuke has started entertaining the idea that Living is More Than Surviving, the Arbalest is no longer satisfied with being treated as a weapon (much less a "defective" one) and demands a more equal partnership. Unnerved, Sousuke immediately attempts to turn the machine off, only to discover that he no longer can.

     Comic Books 
  • Watchmen; Ozymandias talks about how easy it was to push Dr. Manhattan over the edge:
    "Most humans wouldn't be able to tell, but from where I sit he might as well have been weeping."
    • Also, the bit between Dan and Rorschach. Dan finally snaps from all the bullshit, and Rorschach actually seems to feel bad.
  • Scott Pilgrim in the last book has Scott reunite with his ex-girlfriend Envy Adams. During their brief reunion, she herself brings about how the breakup wasn't entirely her fault and how she felt (how honest she is being here is hard to tell. While Scott may be a bit of an Unreliable Narrator, Wallace certainly is not and his vitriolic reaction toward Envy for what she did to Scott along with everyone else's thoughts heavily imply from an objective standpoint, it is Envy's fault.) It's revealed that the breakup happened as a result of a big fight Scott and Envy had at a New Years' party. Scott doesn't remember he got into a fight. However, Stephen Stills does mention Scott drank. Scott denies this, given he does not drink, (though it could've been alcoholic punch and thus, he unknowingly got drunk). While Scott did instigate the fight, alot of prior events beforehand showed Envy's growing Jerkass behaviors, such as usurping control of their band along with potentially cheating on Scott (and her general disinterest in their relationship) was the reasons the fight ever came about in the first place. Despite how Scott did suffer much more from the pain of the relationship, Envy did also feel hurt from the end.
  • X-23: When Laura rejects Julian's confession of love, he lashes out verbally, accusing her of being the emotionless robot that everyone says she is. In response, Laura reminds him that he is not entitled to her affection because she is a person capable of making her own choices.
    Laura: No, Julian. I feel...I want. I just do not want you.

     Fan Works 
  • A Crown of Stars: Winthrop and later Jinnai used Asuka as their plaything for years. They did never think their toy could resent or hate having to choose between getting virtually raped and getting shot. When she helped to overthrow Winthrop he was shocked and incredulous because he could not believe she was turning on him and his first thought was she had found a warmer bed. Later Jinnai did not hesitate on informing Shinji and Asuka that they would be useless and replaceable to him very soon, never thinking they might turn on him. And when he heard she was bedding Shinji he was actually affronted and offended because he could not believe she would rather be sleeping with another person.
  • Advice and Trust: After Shinji and Asuka talked Rei into ditching her emotion-numbing medication, she often wonders angrily why the Commander did this to her. When he is lecturing her after the battle against Bardiel, reminding her that she must obey any and all his orders and only his orders to the letter or there will be "consequences" she keeps a cool mask as she resents each word he spouts, thinking she had always been loyal and he had used her like a puppet, and saying herself she will not allow him to hurt her friends.
  • The Child of Love: Gendo never, ever, thought Rei might rebel against him, believing she was under his full control. However Rei had developed feelings towards Shinji, and due to those feelings she was becoming very protective of his family. Hence, her stepping aside would simply not happen. He should have foreseen it but he was genuinely shocked when she struck him.
  • Her Inner Demons: The Shadowbolts ask Sci-Twilight why she, of all people, transformed into a demon, despite not being evil. She points out she was indeed thinking very angry and vindictive thoughts about them due to their bullying, to their shock and regret.
  • HERZ: Gendo ordered Rei taking him to Lilith to start off the Third Impact, expecting she behave like his obedient, well-indoctrinated puppet. However Rei had fallen in for Shinji, and as Gendo talked, she could feel Shinji’s angst and despair at being unable to save Asuka. So that she rejected Gendo –to his astonishment- and flew to help Shinji to defeat the enemy and protect Asuka.
  • Light to L in Those Who Stand for Nothing Fall for Anything. L is utterly flabbergasted when Light ignores his advances and suggests that L should just go home to his other boyfriend. It is well-deserved; Light confronts L with this after L manipulated, abused, and raped him.
    L: Whuuu... What's wrong with you? Light? Light, stop it.
    Light: I've been thinking. I realised that you've treated me like I was less than dirt, and that I was letting you.
  • In Where The Eyes Of The Old Gods Can't Hope To Find Us Lauren does this twice. The first is internally after Dyson makes a comment about a place where he had previously had sex with Bo (and where Bo and Lauren just almost had sex). Tamsin also notices, and is indignant on behalf as well.
    ...but too often Lauren has her nose rubbed in these pesky little passive-aggressive jabs. The quips and jokes that everyone seems to think escape her are just plain cruel at times.
    • She does it verbally later, when she finally gets sick of Kenzi's shit:
      Lauren: "Don't go shy on me now Kenzi. I have an entire arsenal of quips and comments and passive-aggressive slants hurled at me at one time or another. Maybe the lot of you felt these slights went over my head; I may be a nerd to all of you but I'm not deaf and I'm certainly not stupid."
  • In Pony POV Series, Havoc has a few moments as this. Being the Anthropomorphic Personification of Fear, and one of the four strongest beings in all creation, few ever give how he feels thought other than not wanting to tick him off. Despite this a few times it's made very clear that despite not showing it, he's heartbroken at the loss of two of his sons, and the few ponies who have actually given him condolences genuinely touched him.
  • Thousand Shinji: SEELE treated the pilots (Shinji, Asuka, Rei, Hikari and Touji) like mere tools with no emotions or feelings. They didn't even bother to hide evidence of their actions. When Shinji found out about them, he decided to show SEELE he definitely had emotions. Berserker wrath being one of them.
    Malicious aforethought would have been preferable, but this monstrosity was so much worse. It treated them all as things, simple tools without thoughts or emotions. Did they think we would not care for the cruel indignities placed upon us, even the secret, bitterly ironic ones?
  • Leave for Mendeleiev: When they notice that Chloe has cornered Marinette, Adrien attempts to prevent Aurore from intervening, claiming that Marinette is strong enough to withstand the abuse, whereas Chloe is so used to getting her way that she won't be able to handle being told no and will attract an akuma. After Aurore and Amber intervene anyway, Adrien attempts to blame her for the resulting akuma, only for Marinette to respond that if they hadn't acted, she would have been akumatized instead. As contrary to his assumption, Chloe's Breaking Speech was hurting her, badly. Just as Chloe had been hurting her for years before she got transferred out of her class.

    Film – Animation 
  • In Kung Fu Panda 2, Tigress reveals that part of her kung fu training involved punching ironwood trees, so now she "feels nothing." Po is awed and calls this "hardcore." He immediately assumes that she can't feel emotional pain either, which shocks her, but she's interrupted before she can correct him. Later in the movie, when Po persists in trying to confront Lord Shen despite his freezing up when facing him, Tigress angrily tells him to stay behind. Po finally caves in and explains why he wants to go: he remembers that Lord Shen was there when Po's birth parents died, and Po wants answers about what happened that day since he was a baby at the time.
    Po: I have to do this. The Hardcore can't understand.
    [Cue Tigress lunging... with a Cooldown Hug, to the rest of the Furious Five's shock]
    Tigress: The Hardcore do understand... but I can't watch my friend be killed.

    Film – Live Action 
  • In Gosford Park, Commander Meredith was eating jam preserves and sulking when Dorothy, a maid, walks in on him, he starts saying that his life sucks when she jumps in with a heart wrenching speech about how loving, even if it's unrequited, makes life worthwhile and worth living. It helps to mention that Dorothy was in love with the butler Jennings, and though she often hinted to him she was interested, he was always too afraid to start anything. Not expecting anywhere near that emotional wisdom, he goes back upstairs and passionately kisses his loving wife.
  • A variation; in Carrie, it's Miss Collins who does this for the title character after the shower prank, giving a "The Reason You Suck" Speech to her gym class.
    Miss Collins: Did any of you ever stop to think that Carrie White has feelings? Do any of you ever stop to think? No, I guess you're too busy thinking about your dates, and the prom.
    "Doesn't anybody ever get it right?! Doesn't anybody think that I hear?!"
  • This kicks off the plot of Scooby-Doo—Fred, who in this interpretation is a self-centered jerk, yet again takes the credit for Mystery Incorporated's latest success. Velma, who has been actually solving the mysteries the group faces for years without any recognition, finally breaks and snaps that she's sick of being ignored. Daphne joins in, only she's fed up with being considered The Ditz who doesn't contribute to the team. The resulting fight breaks the group apart and influences a good deal of their interactions when they're called to Spooky Island to investigate strange happenings—they're so busy in-fighting that they fail to work as a group, which makes them vulnerable. Notably, at the end of the movie, Fred tells reporters that Velma deserves the glory for this particular case, and she positively glows as she finally gets her chance to be the face of the team.
  • Sense and Sensibility paraphrases Elinor's speech (since some events were changed in adaptation) when Marianne is angry at her for being so resigned to Edward's marrying Lucy Steele. Elinor finally snaps and says that if Marianne wasn't so bound up in her own self-indulgent heartbreak, she might have noticed. (And then she has to comfort Marianne again when the latter breaks down in Tears of Remorse.)
    "Had I not been bound to silence, I could have produced proof enough of a broken heart, even for you."
  • Used as a Call-Back in Forrest Gump. When Jenny asks him why he dragged her out of the strip club, he answers because he did it because he loves her, to which she responds that he doesn't know what love is. Years later, after she grows tired of her hard partying lifestyle he happily welcomes her to stay in his house:
    Forrest: ...But you won't marry me.
    Jenny:: You don't wanna marry me.
    Forrest: Why don't you love me, Jenny? I'm not a smart man... but I know what love is.
  • Played with in Star Trek (2009). Kirk knows that Spock is in intense pain after the destruction of Vulcan and the death of his mother, having heard as much from Spock Prime, and manages to break through Spock's stoic facade by accusing him of feeling nothing at all. After beating the crap out of Kirk, Spock realises he is emotionally compromised and relinquishes his status as captain (which was Kirk's plan).
  • Rizzo's There Are Worse Things I Could Do song in Grease explains, "I can feel and I can cry. A fact I'll bet you never knew. But to cry in front of you. That's the worst thing I could do".
  • In Bowling for Columbine, Marilyn Manson states that this is what he believes is the reason the Columbine massacre happened. He believes that the killers behind the tragedy did what they did because the felt marginalized and no one would listen. The same also holds for his case whether he knows it or not, since Moral Guardians saw him as an angry and hateful man who promoted violence. He proved to be anything but.
  • The most iconic scene in The Elephant Man is combines this trope with Shaming the Mob.
    I am not an elephant! I am not an animal! I am a human being! I am... a man.
  • In The Odd Way Home, James Richards says of Duncan, who is autistic, "He doesn't feel! He doesn't know any better! Quit fooling yourself!" Maya snarls, "You have no idea what you're talking about."

  • Elinor Dashwood of Sense and Sensibility, the first of Jane Austen's Emotionless Girl brand of heroines, who all have this problem, although without getting such an awesome speech to summarize it; since their society doesn't typically care about women's emotions anyway, everyone is perfectly content to assume that not showing happiness, grief, or anger means you must not have any. Naturally, it's those who keep their emotions hidden who feel more strongly than anyone:
    Marianne: If the loss of what is most valued is so easily to be made up by something else, your resolution, your self-command, are, perhaps, a little less to be wondered at. — They are brought more within my comprehension.
    Elinor: I understand you. — You do not suppose that I have ever felt much. — For four months, Marianne, I have had all this hanging on my mind, without being at liberty to speak of it to a single creature; knowing that it would make you and my mother most unhappy whenever it were explained to you, yet unable to prepare you for it in the least. — It was told me, — it was in a manner forced on me by the very person herself, whose prior engagement ruined all my prospects; and told me, as I thought, with triumph. — This person's suspicions, therefore, I have had to oppose, by endeavouring to appear indifferent where I have been most deeply interested; — and it has not been only once; — I have had her hopes and exultation to listen to again and again. — I have known myself to be divided from Edward for ever, without hearing one circumstance that could make me less desire the connection. — Nothing has proved him unworthy; nor has anything declared him indifferent to me. — I have had to contend against the unkindness of his sister, and the insolence of his mother; and have suffered the punishment of an attachment, without enjoying its advantages. — And all this has been going on at a time, when, as you know too well, it has not been my only unhappiness. — If you can think me capable of ever feeling — surely you may suppose that I have suffered NOW. The composure of mind with which I have brought myself at present to consider the matter, the consolation that I have been willing to admit, have been the effect of constant and painful exertion; — they did not spring up of themselves; — they did not occur to relieve my spirits at first. — No, Marianne. — THEN, if I had not been bound to silence, perhaps nothing could have kept me entirely — not even what I owed to my dearest friends — from openly shewing that I was VERY unhappy.
  • Jonas from Decomposing Angel is not a sociopath, like everybody he works with. He is quite angry and hateful, and expresses his frustrations though action, which nobody notices because they are highly active villainous sociopaths. The entire story is this.
  • In Jane Eyre, Rochester deliberately provokes Jane into this: constantly gushing about his upcoming marriage to this woman who is not suited to him, and he knows it and Jane knows it, but Jane has no power to speak up because she's a governess, and in no way equal to Rochester's apparent intended. Jane takes this to awesome levels.
    “I tell you I must go!” I retorted, roused to something like passion. “Do you think I can stay to become nothing to you? Do you think I am an automaton?—a machine without feelings? and can bear to have my morsel of bread snatched from my lips, and my drop of living water dashed from my cup? Do you think, because I am poor, obscure, plain, and little, I am soulless and heartless? You think wrong!—I have as much soul as you,—and full as much heart! And if God had gifted me with some beauty and much wealth, I should have made it as hard for you to leave me, as it is now for me to leave you. I am not talking to you now through the medium of custom, conventionalities, nor even of mortal flesh;—it is my spirit that addresses your spirit; just as if both had passed through the grave, and we stood at God’s feet, equal,—as we are!”
  • In Where Angels Fear to Tread by E.M. Forster, Lilia says this nearly word for word after her ex-brother-in-law, when trying to convince her to call off her marriage to her much-younger Italian fiance (who she's already married anyway), insinuates that her fiance is bullying her into staying. (Unfortunately for Lilia, they're right to try and stop her marriage, but she doesn't know this yet.)
    Lilia: For once in my life I'll thank you to leave me alone. I'll thank your mother too. For twelve years you've trained me and tortured me, and I'll stand it no more. Do you think I'm a fool? Do you think I never felt? Ah! When I came to your house a poor young bride, you all looked me other - never a kind word - and discussed me, and thought I might just do; and your mother corrected me, and your sister snubbed me, and you said funny things about me to show how clever you were! And when Charles died I was still to run in strings for the honour of your beastly family, and I was to be cooped up at Sawston and learn to keep house, and all my chances spoilet of marry again. No, thank you! No, thank you! "Bully"? "Insolent boy"? Who is that, pray, but you? But, thank goodness, I can stand up to the world now, for I've found Gino, and this time I marry for love!
  • There's a form of this in Yoda: Dark Rendezvous. After the Padawans Master Yoda is traveling with lose their masters, he comforts them, and one gets angry at his advice, claiming that he wouldn't understand grief. Of course, he would, and he reminds them of this. In nine hundred years there have been many friends and students lost, and grief like they can't imagine.
    "Teach me about pain, think you can?" Yoda said softly. "Think the old Master cannot care, mmm? Forgotten who I am, have you? Old, I am, yes. Mm. Loved more than you, have I, Padawan. Lost more. Hated more. Killed more." The green eyes narrowed to gleaming slits under heavy lids. Dragon eyes, old and terrible. "Think wisdom comes at no cost? The dark side, yes—it is easier for them. The pain grows too great, and they eat the darkness to flee from it. Not Yoda. Yoda loves and suffers for it, loves and suffers."
  • I Am Not a Serial Killer: John is normally a Deadpan Snarker whose emotional responses are fairly subdued, what with him being a sociopath and everything. However, when his mother pushes him a bit too far, he finally snaps, and almost crosses the Moral Event Horizon.
    John: How'd you like to live with a Mom who thinks you're a robot? Or a gargoyle? You think you can just say anything you want and it will bounce right off? John's a psycho! Stab him in the face—he can't feel anything! You think I can't feel? I feel everything, Mom, every stab, every shout, every whisper behind my back, and I am ready to stab you all right back, if that's what it takes to get through to you!
  • Opal of The Ultra Violets is frequently bossed around by her friends, and keeps to herself. She eventually has a Rage Breaking Point and defects to the dark side when she sees Cheri kissing her crush, Albert Feinstein.

    Live Action TV 
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer:
    • Xander is also on the receiving end of this when, having failed to successfully ask Buffy to a high school dance, he tactlessly asks Willow (who has been crushing on him all season) to go with him as his backup.
    • In "Forever," Dawn openly accuses Buffy of not even caring that their mother is dead, since Buffy hasn't even cried and has been running around treating the whole thing like "just another chore." Buffy breaks down at that, revealing to Dawn that until this point, she's been bottling up her emotions because it's the only way she can deal with the grief.
  • Game of Thrones: Shae gets really pissed when, after all they have been through, Tyrion assumes she's still only with him for the money.
    Tyrion: I'm a monster, as well as a dwarf! You should charge me double.
    Shae: You think I'm here for money?
    Tyrion: That was the arrangement we made. I pay you and you lie to me.
    Shae: Oh, I'm a poor little rich man and nobody loves me, so I make jokes all the time and pay them to laugh. Fuck your money.
  • In Torchwood, Ianto's job description is general dogsbody: he does everything nobody else wants to do, from feeding weevils to ordering pizza, and tends to blend into the scenery unless someone (usually Jack) wants something. They're so dismissive of him and his feelings that they don't even notice that he's hiding a half converted Cyberwoman in the basement which is pretty damned oblivious. When this is finally discovered, Jack blows a fuse and starts violently question him on it, Ianto bites back: "when was the last time any of you asked me anything about my life?" It's possible that realising how dismissive they've been of him is part of the reason as to why he wasn't fired from Torchwood (at least), after this incident in the first place.
  • Steve Urkel of Family Matters finally stood up to Laura after she refused to show any consideration for Steve giving her a ride to an out-of-town function, caused his car to break down by putting it into high gear and insisting she take the bed alone while Steve sleeps in the bathtub in their motel, culminating in the line "I'm a person, I have feelings and I demand to be treated with respect and dignity."All while wearing a Laura's spare nightshirt. Woah Mama!
    • When he does reach that part about "I'm a human being! I have feelings too!", you can barely make out what he says after that because of the audience applauding and cheering so hard!
  • In Coupling, Jane gives a speech to Steve about this.
  • A variation in How I Met Your Mother occurs when Barney finally realises how much his behaviour post-breakup is hurting Robin, although its more a "Do you think she can't feel" as its the rest of the gang who eventually break it to him (after each realising themselves how much they weren't helping the situation).
  • In Doctor Who, companion Martha spent an entire season pining after the Doctor- probably due to the fact that on top of being good looking and intelligent, he kissed her the first time they met. (To save the Earth, but still). He spent most of the time dismissing her, and constantly comparing her to his last companion and love interest Rose. Eventually she took a level in badass and left the TARDIS, telling him up straight that she wasn't going to stick around feeling second best.
    • In Classic Who, Zoe Heriot looked noticeably sad when, during her introductory story "The Wheel in Space", she was twice accused of being "All brain and no heart."
    • In the episode "Thin Ice," new companion Bill is at first furious when a child dies and the Doctor doesn't seem to be upset after his initial reaction. He tells her that it's not that he doesn't care—he cares a lot, and shows himself to be a Friend to All Children throughout the rest of the episode (the audience already knows this). However, he's got a mystery to solve and a killer to stop, and isn't going to sit around stamping his feet, because he "has never had the luxury of outrage."
  • In Robin Hood after Guy of Gisborne discovers that Marian is in fact the Night Watchman (a vigilante who steals for the poor) he manages to bring the entire situation back to his unrequited feelings for her. Marian? She's more concerned about not getting hanged for treason.
  • Throughout Sherlock, Molly Hooper has always had a very obvious crush on Sherlock, and always takes his abuse/taunts. In 'A Scandal of Belgravia,' Sherlock goes too far during Christmas at 221B, deducing that the reason she's dressed up is to try and seduce a man, and that she's obviously bought a present for 'someone special.' When he realizes that the man in question is him, he's stunned into silence and shame at his own cruelty. And finally, Molly calls him out on his behaviour.
    (tearfully) You always say such horrible things....
    • And Sherlock apologizes (something he has NEVER done to anyone, at least in-show), gently kisses Molly's cheek and says "Merry Christmas, Molly Hooper."
  • Once Upon a Time: The closed-off Emma eventually opens up to Graham. Also, at one point in the Enchanted Forest, Rumplestiltskin was talking to Charming about the power of True Love and Charming dismissively asked what he could possibly know about True Love. Rumplestiltskin irritably replies, "Not so much as you, perhaps, but not so little as you might think." (Referring to his role as the Beast in Belle's story.)
  • Grey's Anatomy: Izzy gives one to Alex after he keeps taking out his recent heartbreak and frustrations on her, including stealing one of Izzy's patients:
    Izzy:Using me as a doormat is one thing. Screwing with my career is another! I have been wiping your snot and covering your ass for weeks now. And all you've done is abuse me. And for a little while you get to do that because you're heartbroken and pathetic, and I'm a good friend. But it ends now. Get your own surgery and wipe your own snot.
  • Emily Thorne has one on Revenge where she goes off on Aiden for mentioning her lack of empathy.
    Aiden: I'm sorry if I'm not as cold and calculated as you. I can't just turn my feelings on and off like the flick of a switch.
    Emily: Is that what you think? That I don't feel? That I don't miss my father every single day? That I don't mourn the life that I could've had? But that's why people like you and me fight. Because it gives us something to live for when everything else has been taken away. I thought you understood that. I thought we shared that.
  • Arrow: A surprising one to Laurel from Oliver (who can be a bit of a stoic jerkass himself). He's tired of taking the blame for everything bad that has ever happened to the Lance family.
    Oliver: I have stood by you through everything. The DUI, losing your job. Laurel, I was concerned about your well-being when you were trying to get my mother the death penalty.
    Laurel: (sarcastically) Yeah, and you've been a real stand up kind of guy.
    Oliver: Laurel, do you think you're the only one who is having a hard time? Do you think you're the only one with family issues? You have no idea... NO IDEA... what is going on with my family right now. But I am still standing here. And you are still blaming everyone but yourself.
    Laurel: Are you done?
    Oliver: (visibly shocked) Yeah... Yeah, I'm done. I'm done taking the blame and I'm done caring. So go have a drink. Get wasted. Go to Verdant. I'll pay for it. I have loved you for half of my life. But I am done running after you.
  • An episode of M*A*S*H sees Margaret clashing with her nursing staff for not including her in their social activities, not even to invite her for "a lousy cup of coffee". They tell her they didn't think she would accept, to which she bitterly retorts "Well, you were wrong."
  • Has occurred numerous times in Star Trek. Vulcan philosophy is the Control of Emotion, not the lack of emotion. Most notably in the book Spock's World, where this is said almost word for word by Sarek to his wife.
  • Anne Lister, the heroine of Gentleman Jack, is normally unflappable and impossibly confident, but when her lover Ann Walker ends their relationship and claims it's sinful and wrong, she's on the edge of tears if she asks if Miss Walker ever considered that she might have feelings, too.

  • Older Than Steam: William Shakespeare brings us The Merchant of Venice and Shylock's "Hath not a Jew eyes?" speech to the court. While Shylock isn't a nice guy, the thrust of the speech is still the same: "I've got feelings, too." Made even more poignant because he has earlier talked about how he has been mistreated and mocked by many simply for being a Jew despite being one of the city's richest men.
    Shylock: He hath disgraced me, and hindered me half a million; laughed at my losses, mocked at my gains, scorned my nation, thwarted my bargains, cooled my friends, heated mine enemies; and what’s his reason? I am a Jew.
    Hath not a Jew eyes? hath not a Jew hands, organs, dimensions, senses, affections, passions? fed with the same food, hurt with the same weapons, subject to the same diseases, healed by the same means, warmed and cooled by the same winter and summer, as a Christian is?
    If you prick us, do we not bleed? if you tickle us, do we not laugh? if you poison us, do we not die? and if you wrong us, shall we not revenge? If we are like you in the rest, we will resemble you in that.
  • In the musical adaptation of Carrie, the titular character wails "Doesn't anybody think that I hear?!" at the end of her Villain Song, "The Destruction".

    Video Games 
  • Fire Emblem Awakening: During their A Support, Tiki approaches Say'ri and urges her to express some emotion over Yen'fay's demise rather than insist that "what's done is done," asking if their bond was so feeble that just a few weeks would be enough for her to just erase him from her heart. Say'ri snaps and corrects Tiki very quickly.
    Say'ri: Enough! What could you possibly ken of the bond I shared with him?! Forget? Erase him from my heart?! 'Twould be easier to erase the heart entire! He was my brother. My only flesh and blood.
  • God of War (PS4): Kratos may be quiet and doing his best not to talk about her much, but when Atreus accuses him of not actually caring about his mom dying, he corrects him very quickly.
    Kratos: Mind your tongue, boy! Until our journey is over, one of us must remain focused. Do not mistake my silence for lack of grief. Mourn how you wish, leave me to my own.
  • Sly Cooper: Thieves in Time: Bentley spends most of the game worried about his girlfriend Penelope when she suddenly vanishes without a trace. Eventually, he finds her in early 14th century Englandspecifically , working for the Big Bad because she thinks Bentley is wasting his skills on his best friends when he could use them to "change the world". When he finally confronts her, Bentley tells Penelope that she never considered his feelings even once; Sly and Murray are the only family he ever had after his mother died, and he would never think of betraying them, especially for money. Penelope's only response is to attack him, showing that she's nothing but a sociopathic Gold Digger who never loved or cared about Bentley.

    Web Comics 
  • This crops up a few times in Homestuck:
    • Jane gives a rage-filled "The Reason You Suck" Speech to Jake after Jake calls her up on her birthday (which he forgot and makes lame excuses for) to ramble one-sidedly about how the boy he hooked up with instead of her is self-absorbed and kind of smothers him without letting him ever get in a word edgewise. Which is exactly what Jake does to Jane in between neglecting her for weeks on end when they're two of the last four humans alive. And then he misinterprets her frustrated almost confession of having had feelings for him as feelings for Dirk.
    • Happens with Dirk as well. "You act like I don't have feelings, like I'm some kind of robot. Well you're wrong, I do."
    • Dirk's Auto-Responder, an AI based on a scan of his brain, gets tired of Jake treating him like he's just a computer program and bluntly tells him "I do have feelings. And you're shitting on them. It sucks." Later, when Dirk almost destroys him in a moment of displaced self-loathing, he drops the emotionless AI facade he had adopted to admit that he's scared of dying.
  • Archipelago's Raven implies this in a much more literal sensenote  after a sobbing Credenza remarks that "you can't understand what that feels like" due to him not being human.
  • In El Goonish Shive, despite her normally stoic demeanour, Charlotte reacts to Diane's outburst, "Have you ever even been on a date?" with a genuinely hurt look and retreats into silence, testily rebuffing Diane's attempt to apologize.

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    Western Animation 
  • My Little Pony 'n Friends: Wind Whistler is extremely logical and clinical in her thought and behavior. However, she does have the same feelings as anyone else and doesn't like being thought of as a machine just because she doesn't wear them on her sleeve (and finds that the Fridge Logic kills the romance of a Romance Novel that had the others captivated, which is what started the debate that time). She says something along the lines of the trope name in "Crunch the Rockdog", only she's muttering it to herself when she's out of earshot of the other Ponies who insulted her. Megan is shown scolding the insulting Ponies, telling them that they just proved that Wind Whistler has feelings, by hurting them.
  • The general message is used in the beginning of the episode "Ren Seeks Help" of Ren and Stimpy: Adult Party Cartoon. Apparently, Ren had said something so insulting, it broke down even Stimpy, who was always immune to nearly all of his offensive behaviour. Stimpy shouts at Ren for being horrible and disrespectful towards him.
  • Jessie gives Nitz one of these in the finale of Undergrads
  • In Ed, Edd n Eddy, Edd and Eddy both get one of these in the same scene towards one another in The Movie. Edd spends the entire course of the show suffering the torturous alienation that comes with Eddy's friendship, but when Ed and Eddy fake their deaths for a cheap laugh at Edd, Edd blows up at them for being oblivious to his feelings and leaves for the first time in the entire series... prompting Eddy to blow up and unearth his own Hidden Depths right back.
  • Mai from Avatar: The Last Airbender. For most of the series, she appears as a cold, sarcastic girl that happens to be childhood friends with Zuko and Azula. She gets much more character development in the third season, especially in "The Beach". Later that season, she even gets an even more awesome line showcasing how she can feel:
    You miscalculated. I love Zuko more than I fear you.
  • Zhu Li from The Legend of Korra is the devoted assistant of Varrick and will do pretty much whatever he asks her to do, from cleaning up the messes that are the inevitable results of his experiments to cleaning his feet... at least until she finally snaps, tells off Varrick for mistreating her and being a total idiot half the time, and joins Kuvira... or at least, this is what Zhu Li wants Kuvira to think. She did in fact feel this way as to how Varrick treated her, but she just needed an excuse to make her defection look convincing.
  • In the Adventure Time episode "Burning Low," Finn gives this to Princess Bubblegum; he had long had a Precocious Crush on her, only to have her now seem to reciprocate when he's instead interested in Flame Princess. Subverted because in this case, Finn doesn't understand what PB is really trying to tell him.
  • In the Goof Troop episode "O, R-V, I N-V U," Max, who is working on an RV project with Pete, doesn't realize that PJ feels inferior and lonely as a result of Pete favoring Max over him and Max ignoring him (the audience does because it's PJ's point of view), and expects him to run errands and do favors for them. About two thirds through the episode, Max asks PJ to take his picture, PJ snaps at him and explains exactly why he's upset with him. However, instead of picking up on PJ's feelings, Max asks, "Hey, can I help it if your dad thinks I'm bright?"
  • Recess: School's Out: Principal Prickley, after enduring an entire series worth of scorn and mockery from T.J and his friends, finally stands up and tells him point blank that, as distant and abstract as it may seem to him, Prickley and every other adult "villain" TJ has ever tormented were kids at one point, and knows exactly what it feels like to be one. Prickley may seem like an uncaring, spiteful old man to him, but the principal was once a kid too, who lived for summer vacation, so never tell him that he doesn't care about it.
  • She-Ra and the Princesses of Power: In "Launch", Season 5, Entrapta gives a very humble one to Mermista, Perfuma and Frosta after they call her out for having built machines for the Horde and accuse her of not caring about anything but techs. (Interestingly enough, the only reason they tolerate Entrapta is BECAUSE of her knowledge in techs, and it never occurred to any of them that it was their condescendent treatment that caused her to switch sides.)
Entrapta: I'm not good with people. But I'm good with tech. I thought, maybe, if I could use tech to help, you'd like me. But I messed that, too.
  • Subverted in Be My Valentine, Charlie Brown. Charlie Brown is desperate to get a Valentine, since he never has before, but when the cards are handed out at school absolutely nobody gets him one. The next day, some of the girls come by and Violet offers him one that somebody else gave her. In a way it's even more depressing that Schroeder has to be offended on Charlie Brown's behalf.
    Schroeder: You and your friends are the most thoughtless bunch I've ever known. You don't care anything about Charlie Brown! You just hate to feel guilty! And now you have the nerve to come around one day later and offer him a used Valentine just to ease your conscience! Well let me tell you something: Charlie Brown doesn't need your—
    Charlie Brown: Don't listen to him! I'll take it!
  • In My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic, the rest of the Mane Six are put off by Pinkie Pie's expectation that they'll become good friends with her older sister Maud, being thrown off by her being The Stoic on the level of Mr. Spock in addition to having odd rock-related interests. By the end of the episode, the group are perfectly polite and friendly to Maud, all parties accepting that they at least share a love of Pinkie as a bonding factor, though they are taken aback when Pinkie reveals that Maud has been uncharacteristically excited through the whole episode.
    Maud: (stoically, as Pinkie Pie does cartwheels in the background) I don't know if you noticed, but I don't show my enthusiasm in quite the same way that my sister does.
  • Happens in Steven Universe when Garnet splits into Ruby and Sapphire after arguing over how to deal with their anger at Pearl, with Sapphire opting to keep her cool (literally) and be rational about it, which Ruby misinterprets as her not caring at all. She eventually admonishes Ruby for thinking she doesn't feel upset, but unlike most examples, Sapphire realizes her own stoicism is partially to blame for Ruby's inconsiderate behavior—since Sapphire can see the future when the two have already made up and therefore views reconciliation as inevitable, she fails to consider how Ruby is feeling in the present and thus dismisses her valid emotions.
    • Steven later uses this against Blue Diamond in the "Change Your Mind" arc when he takes her to task for the countless times she threw Pink Diamond into solitary confinement. He asks a single question—"How many times did you make her cry?"—which forces Blue to realize that she and her sister Yellow (along with Evil Matriarch White) never bothered to listen to how Pink was feeling, which in turn led to her assuming the guise of Rose Quartz and rebelling against the Diamond Authority.
  • In the Star vs. the Forces of Evil episode "Jannanigans", when the other characters are convinced that Janna is refusing to take a universe-threatening problem seriously, they all start yelling at her to divulge the information they've been asking for. She angrily tells them once again that she hasn't been lying about her lack of memory about what occurred that day, before admitting that the memory gap absolutely terrifies her and that the random tasks they've been doing really are her trying to recall this information. The others apologize, with her usual prank target Marco jokingly adding on that he wasn't aware she could feel human emotions.
  • One episode of Pound Puppies (2010), "Lucky the Dunce," centers on this trope. The big, friendly Niblet, who is clearly The Ditz of the pound, inadvertently messes up the group's latest plan to get a group of puppies adopted, which results in Lucky being hit with an intelligence-reducing ray that makes him just as simple-minded and happy-go-lucky as Niblet himself. The other dogs panic and try to restore Lucky to normal, remarking that there's already one dunce too many—Niblet—on the team. Niblet overhears this and decides to run away with Lucky so they can be friends forever; when the others track them down, Niblet snaps that he actually does have feelings and was deeply hurt by their cruel words. The group apologizes and promises to treat Niblet better, and he reluctantly leads Lucky back to be restored to normal.


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Alternative Title(s): Even The Stoic Has Feelings, Do You Think I Cant Feel


Mariner Has Feelings

Mariner finally admits to Boimler that she's still mad at him for abandoning her for the Titan.

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