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They're in love, can't you tell?

"Sometimes he's rough
He throws me down the stairs, but deep inside he cares"
Mae, "The Stuff", Reefer Madness: The Musical

A common Japanese character type, the Bastard Boyfriend (in Japanese, kichiku, literally "brutal" or "demonic") character is an Always Male Love Interest whose defining trait is that he is cold, cruel, or abusive to his romantic partner, in a manner intended to be kinky and appealing to the audience. Western versions exist, but are comparatively rare due to their implications, except in fanfiction (which lacks the watchful eyes of Moral Guardians).

Bastard Boyfriends can be readily distinguished from being a Jerkass or committing Domestic Abuse because their abuse is eroticized, and their beloved's conflict and unhappiness will be played for titillation. As such, they are all-but-guaranteed to be Mr. Fanservice, usually a Bishōnen, and the consequences of their behavior are almost never handled realistically. The Bastard Boyfriend almost always gets his girl (or guy), even in cases where they don't seem particularly compatible, although a few are doomed to merely be the rival.


This type is common in Yaoi Genre (as a standard Seme type), Shoujo, and, to a lesser extent, Josei romances, but comparatively rare in works aimed at a male audience, where guys like this are more likely to be the Romantic False Lead or just a villain.

Their love interest, which can be either male or female, is usually The Protagonist, although a minority of stories are from the Bastard Boyfriend's point of view. They will probably be presented as a Love Martyr or The Woobie, and is likely to spend quite a bit of the story anguishing over the relationship, possibly while weeping beautifully. This trope has next to no overlap with Belligerent Sexual Tension since Bastard Boyfriends never seem to show an interest in anyone with the backbone to defy them.

Bastard Boyfriends come in two major types:


Unconflicted (standard): Poised, confident, and perfectly happy with his own behavior, either because he doesn't care what the other party thinks of him, genuinely believes that abduction and molestation are viable ways of showing his affection, or just is a plain, sadistic bastard. The Bespectacled Bastard Boyfriend (Kichiku Megane) subtrope is built on this type.

Conflicted (alternate): Troubled, but Cute and his abusiveness is generally driven by jealousy, insecurity, a crushing inability to express his feelings, a Dark and Troubled Past that completely screwed up with his view of the world, or (very rarely) a desire to drive the other person away (possibly out of a belief that they will be happier with someone else). This type may have started as an attempt at a more realistic implementation of the character type.

Both kinds are highly likely to be jealous and possessive. Expect plots to feature a Green-Eyed Epiphany — a character realizing their love only via jealousy.

The Bastard Boyfriend is likely to be redeemed by The Power of Love at the end of the book; alternately, he may eventually be revealed to be nicer underneath. A minority may be revealed to have a Freudian Excuse (such as Abusive Parents or extremely bad former romances). If none of these things happen, his partner may decide that Stalking Is Love and embrace their status as a Love Martyr. Along the way, the Bastard Boyfriend may well be Master of the Mixed Message, if the author needs something to keep his partner strung along.

Mature-rated works that have Kichiku characters are likely to involve psychological abuse, rather rapey behavior, and maybe some BDSM. PG-rated examples tend to be cold, aloof, or sarcastic. In either case, fan reaction tends to be polarized: either they're hot and sexy and their love affair is squeeable, or they're total Jerkasses and the relationship is squicktastic.

Works that contain Stalker with a Crush or Mad Love relationships are likely to attract fan interpretations where the characters are recast along these lines.

Spear Counterpart of Bastard Girlfriend. Usually a type of Romanticized Abuse and subtrope to All Girls Want Bad Boys, with a side order of Evil Is Sexy. If the Kichiku character also has status, power, and hot little glasses, he's a kichiku megane (see Bespectacled Bastard Boyfriend). Contrast the Jerkass varieties of Romantic False Lead and the Disposable Fiancé, who are superficially similar but guaranteed not to get the girl, Domestic Abuse, and Unsexy Sadist, who have the cruelty minus the fetishization.

A Handy Chart to determine if a character is this trope:
Your guy is in love, and he demonstrates his love in an abusive or predatory manner. His love interest:


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Shoujo/Josei examples:
  • Kyo in Black Bird: wants to marry female lead Misao, who he has been in love with since they were children, and licks her erotically when she gets attacked by his fellow demons (which is often). Doesn't seem to care that she's not completely on board with either of these ideas. Then she falls in love with him...but the saddest thing is, he's one of the few reliable allies that she has in the whole Tengu vs. humans deal, so if she did fully spurn him, other Tengus would jump at the chance to kill/rape/eat her. Still sucks to be her. In the end, of course, he is willing to do anything (including killing his own brother) to keep her happy and safe at the expense of his own life, and he does show genuine kindness to children.
  • Director Domoto in Butterflies, Flowers (but only when in dictatorial-boss mode).
  • The male leads created by Mayu Shinjo have different degrees of this. The better-known example is Sakuya Ookochi from Sensual Phrase: this is largely because of an incident where his girlfriend, Aine Yukimura, ended up with a hickey (due to assault from another character); Sakuya, in a fit of jealousy, barged into her class, tore her uniform to reveal the hickey (and her bra strap), then took her home (while class was ongoing) and prepared to rape her. Only when her uniform was almost totally ripped off and the poor girl was weeping hysterically did he stop and realize WTF he was doing. Yeah, he's a Conflicted type with an extremely Dark and Troubled Past (as in, he's a Heroic Bastard Child by Rape, his "father" left him when he learned baby Sakuya wasn't his kid, he was bullied all the time because of his heritage, and his Lady Drunk mom drank herself to death when he was a child) and does get kinda better with time (the "Where Are They Now?" Epilogue shows him as a decent father and husband, if somewhat of a Lovable Sex Maniac when he and Aine are alone), but that's not an excuse.
    • Don't forget Hakuron from Haou Airen. Yeah, he is seriously screwed up after being raised in The Triads and the Tongs, and killed his father among MANY other things, and he does admit to Kurumi that he's fucked up, but that doesn't erase how, the moment he met Kurumi, he tried to keep her from making a noise by threatening to rape her. (And later, well, he does. For three days straight, even.)
    • And then there's both Hanamaki and Gin from Love Celeb, to different degrees. Ironically, Gin's Big Brother Mentor was...Sakuya, another BB.
    • And in Akuma na Eros (Virgin Crisis), the first famous Mayu Shinjo manga, Satan himself becomes one! Oh Miu Sakurai, you lucky little thing, you.
    • Somewhat downplayed in Ayakashi Koi Emaki. Kagura is still a horndog and some of his attitudes can be pretty questionable, especially in regards to erotic dreams but he's nowhere on the league of Sakuya or Hakuron and his girlfriend Miko is more self-aware than Aine or Kurumi.
  • Ryoki in Hot Gimmick is a rare example of the Bespectacled Bastard Boyfriend subtype built off of the Troubled, but Cute model.
  • Several of Shigeta's love interests in Happy Mania.
  • Although not an official couple yet, Seo in Monthly Girls' Nozaki-kun acts like a jerk boyfriend towards Wakamatsu. She harasses him at times, but does care, buys him food, brings him to the cinema, and loves being with him. This inspires Nozaki to create a character who's a Gender Flip of her.
  • Takumi Ichinose from Nana: Abusive, controlling, jealous, neglectful, possessive unfaithful rapist. Regardless Hachi chooses him over Nobu and marries him, though, in a subversion, it's not only about her OMG loving him, but quite more because she's pregnant, he is the father of the child, and she believes that as a popular and rich singer and businessman, he can provide better for both her and the baby and because I Want My Beloved to Be Happy Nobu could be free to pursue his dreams of being a musician which also helps the band Blast succeeding making Nana O. dream come true as well. He's possibly redeemed by The Power of Love as he's afraid that Hachi will one day leave him and admits it to bandmate Ren that if Hachi leaves him, everywhere he goes will be a battlefield and that if he's to go to hell, he'll take everyone else to hell with him as long as Hachi and their children go to heaven. In a flash-forward chapter, he's also seen as a loving father and talking about Hachi to Naomi, how he regrets his actions with Hachi especially during their engagement and marriage & that he hopes that she'll come and live with him after finding Nana O. Takumi exhibits this in several ways and switches between Conflicted and Unconflicted:
    • Once, he came by to see Hachi at her apartment after summer vacation ended despite her breaking up with him, only to discover that she's pregnant and that she had started a relationship with Nobu; he sabotages her happy relationship with Nobu by hijacking her phone, then giving Nobu a confrontational call about Hachi's pregnancy and that he intends to claim the child regardless of who the actual father is. This is all while he locks Hachi out of her room so she couldn't intervene, making it seem that she was still with Takumi during their relationshipnote 
    • Another time, he wanted to have sex with Hachi before he left for work, which she didn't want to do because Nana was in the common area and she didn't want to upset her even further. He raped Hachi anyway, saying that she should be thinking about how he "couldn't stand the thought of another man being inside her" and should focus on making it up to him.
    • Tried isolating her from Nana O. and the Blast members;
    • Cheating on her during their engagement with an actress and later with Reira during their marriage;
    • Being a bastard boyfriend of sorts to Reira as well by stringing her along, keeping her as a mistressnote  and taking full advantage of her old crush on him. He is slightly nicer to her in this circumstance, given that she is an old friend and a key part of his work.
    • Turns out he had a Freudian Excuse from Abusive Parents - his mother was sickly and his father didn't like having a sickly wife so he became an alcoholic - giving Takumi a Darkand Troubled Past.
  • Hijiri from A Portrait Of N And M looks like he's going to be one of these (he intimidates Mitsuru, fondles her hair and tries to blackmail her into dating him), but gets subverted when it is revealed that he is actually deathly afraid of dogs and wants her to protect him from a rambunctious puppy on his route home.
  • Shoei Jinnai of Desire Climax.
  • One of the "Love Egoist" omakes from the Ouran High School Host Club manga involves a Stepford Smiler high school girl learning that the cute, friendly young male teacher who all her classmates admire is secretly as mean and sarcastic as she was on the inside.
  • Deconstructed with Shoutaro "Shou" Fuwa from Skip Beat!. He treats his childhood friend Kyouko Mogami like crap since she lives at his house after she falls victim to Parental Abandonment and is completely devoted to him...but the moment he openly berates and humiliates her is actually the moment she snaps on him, realizes how much of an asshole he is, and openly swears Revenge.
  • The Devil Does Exist has Takeru, who blackmails Kayano into becoming his servant, sabotages her relationship with the guy she likes, and generally emotionally bullies her in the beginning. He seems to think it's only teasing, but considering how shy and emotional Kayano is, it comes off much harsher. Despite the progression in their relationship, he remains cold and distant, which makes her almost perpetually nervous.
  • Q-Ta Minamitani from Honey Hunt is a Manipulative Bastard towards Yura, is possessive of her, and shows little genuine interest in learning what Yura truly wants.
  • We Were There: Yano has a hard time trusting Nanami completely, displaying jealousy and possessiveness, even to the point of physically abusing her.
  • Dawn of the Arcana: Though they're technically married, Caesar starts off as this towards Nakaba, yanking on her braid and forcing kisses on her in the first chapter. Needless to say, once Caesar begins to genuinely fall for Nakaba, he stops doing these childish and insensitive antics for the most part and treats her gently and with respect.
  • Revolutionary Girl Utena: Just about all of the main male cast with the exception of Miki. This is, of course, played for epic Deconstruction, and also in different ways: Saionji commits typical Domestic Abuse and very much the Conflicted Type, Touga is a Manipulative Bastard version and Unconflicted case, Ruka tries to be the Conflicted Type and mix it with Thanatos Gambit, and finally Akio is what happens when a Fallen Hero completely loses it and becomes the Unconflicted type Up to Eleven.
  • Kyota Tsubaki in Kyo Koi O Hajimemasu manipulates girls into falling for him and then dumps them because he can't trust them, humiliates his girlfriend Tsubaki in front of their class, and almost rapes her. He stops doing most of those things after he begins dating Tsubaki and genuinely seems to care for her.
  • Kouta from the one-shot manga Vitamin is like this. He says he loves his girlfriend Sawako and will stick by her, but he forces her into having sex and lies about being with her. Sawako eventually breaks up with him though.
  • Ultimately subverted in Maria Watches Over Us. It looked like Sachiko's arranged fiancè Suguru was heading towards this, but while he tends to be very mean-spirited he nevertheless cares for Sachiko in his own, quiet way, shows gratitude to Yumi for helping his fiancee with her problems, and once even warned Touko of further alienating any prospective friend should she keep up her act pretending to be a jerk. And he's strongly implied to have feelings for someone else... Yumi's brother Yuuki.
  • Kumara-ten from RG Veda is a Conflicted type towards his girlfriend Karara. He was the leader and Sole Survivor of the former beautiful city of Kusumabura; by the time he found and rescued Karara he was so fucked up by his horribly experiences that, despite wanting to rebuild the city so Karara would have a better life, he treated her as few more than a Trophy Wife and Baby Factory. Boy, does he regret it when he loses her...
  • While Prince Kail from Red River (1995) is more of a Crazy Jealous Guy, he can come dangerously close to this when at his worst. There's no doubt that he really loves Yuri but sometimes can be extremely possessive and demanding to the point of once nearly raping her despite her pleas to stop. At least once he has been harshly called out on it.
  • Vampire Knight: Kaname is close to the Conflicted type.
  • The School Days anime is a vicious Deconstruction of this trope and the Harem Genre in general, with the Bastard Boyfriend suffering the sort of realistic consequences of this behavior that most examples gloss over; he drives away most of his friends with his repulsive behavior, accidentally knocks up one of his girlfriends, and pushes both of said girlfriends into mental breakdowns that end with one murdering him in a fit of rage and the other killing her romantic rival in revenge.

Yaoi Genre examples:

  • Ryuichi Asami in the Finder Series (along with many other Ayano Yamane semes): starts off with rape and BDSM, then develops a romantic side. And so Takaba falls in love with him.
  • Nakajima in Gakuen Heaven, in the manga volume that follows his route in the Visual Novel (in the first volume that doesn't follow him at all, there's attempted rape, and he is tremendously rude to Keita throughout, though he points out that if the central love interest does nothing, he'll take Keita for himself). In the anime, he's toned down to a Jerkass, and his sexual harassment is elbow-licking.
  • Yonekuni (crocodile-boy) in Love Pistols volumes 1 and 2: hates men. Nasty to Shirou. Screws Shirou (repeatedly over a two year period). Doesn't realize it. Jealousy ensues. Shirou, of course, is desperately in love with him.
    • What's really frustrating about it that Shirou has horribly low self-esteem and doesn't think he deserves Yonekuni. In later volumes, it gets to the point where he actually believes that Yonekuni has graciously accepted his feelings and is simply putting up with his presence.
    • This trope also applies to Seth. You can't really avoid being attributed with this trope when you knocked your lover out, took him to the opposite side of the world into a war zone, shackled him to the bedpost, and then demanded a child from him. The fact that he did it because he loved him and was jealous beyond all reason doesn't change anything. It does, however, explain why it was incredibly stupid and short-sighted of him.
    • From the same series, a Girls Love/Yuri example is in Yonekuni's mother, Makio Madarame (the resident heroic sociopath of this manga). When they first met, she pushed her love interest, Karen, out of a four-story window, and the only reason Karen survived was because of her madararui nature (and she still broke her legs!). Makio did spend the following months taking her everywhere and caring for her (against Karen's wishes), but still...Even after twenty years together, this trope continues to apply to Makio, as she constantly causes Karen no end of misery from everything from cheating on her to trying to derail Yonekuni or Kunimasa's psychological development or running her prostitution outfit within the vicinity of their restaurant. These last two coincided at one point where she tried to pimp Kunimasa off to the highest bidder...and Karen was NOT happy.
    • Yonekuni's brother, Kunimasa Madarame, is really only slightly better than Yonekuni when it comes to his boyfriend, the main character Norio "Norririn" Enya. Mostly because he's the master of mixed messages to the point where he has Norririn running terrified in fear that he's going to either break up with him or propose to him. Considering that Makio is their mother, both Yonekuni and Kunimasa didn't really have a chance when it came to learning by example of how to maintain a functional relationship.
    • Considering that this is Love Pistols, you have quite a few dysfunctional relationships running around, but special mention has to go to Hiromasa and Shima's. Originally, they were sex friends in high school and split up when Hiromasa's family moved him to a different prefecture, and then wound up working in the same hospital in their mid-twenties, eventually re-starting the sexual relationship they had before. Despite how much he tries to distance himself, Shima is in love with Hiromasa but believes that if he tried to get any closer to him, he'd lose interest and leave him. In a moment of weakness, he uses a conception device that the Madarui use for same-gender reproduction (his thinking is along the lines of "at least he'd have something of him" when they eventually broke up). Consequently, he gets pregnant. Now, here's the bit where it gets creepy. It turns out that Hiromasa has actually been in love with Shima for years, and he came back from Kyoto to work in the same hospital as him for the expressed purpose of getting closer to him. Okay, that's fine, right? Well, here's the thing... Hiromasa noticed the fact that Shima seemed to be able to brush their relationship off like it was nothing, and had, for months, without Shima's knowledge, been using a very powerful conception drug on him in order to get him pregnant so he could tie him to him and stop him from leaving him. When Shima finds out that he's pregnant, despite being shocked beyond all belief, he blames himself, and Hiromasa not only lets him think that it's all his fault, but threatens to abort the child if it's not his. After things have calmed down a bit and Shima's sleeping in his arms, he remarks mildly in an internal monologue how nice it was to have miscalculated the extent of Shima's feelings for him and also how nice it was that he wouldn't have to kill anyone for sleeping with or impregnating him. Ladies and gentlemen, your Bastard Boyfriend incarnate.
  • Genma in Ze volumes 3 and 4: possessive, controlling, and completely eaten up with jealousy at the thought that Himi was his father's lover. He wasn't. Relaxes considerably after he finds this out. Himi has been in love with him since childhood and meekly submits to rape and imprisonment.
  • In the manga of Genshiken, Ogiue draws an explicit yaoi doujinshi starring her clubmate/crush Sasahara as a kichiku seme and clubmate Madarame as his quailing uke. In the anime, this gets expanded to an entire sequence: Youtube. Hilarious, since Sasahara is actually a Nice Guy and a little shy.
  • Yuki from Gravitation is a PG Conflicted type example.
  • Iason and Guy from Ai no Kusabi, but Iason defines this by putting Riki through hell for 3 years to break his pride so he may become submissive to Iason.
  • Kanou from Okane ga Nai is surprisingly a Conflicted type.
  • Souma Saiki from Sakura Gari may be among the most complex examples of a Conflicted Type. He begins via taking Masataka under his wing as a butler/boarding student in his Big Fancy House, then puts the moves on him, then rapes him and gets him to pay a certain debt with sex... and then not only he has a massive emotional meltdown as all the crap he had pulled on Masataka sinks in, but then the audience learns about his massive issues and his even worse Dark and Troubled Past.
  • Swordfish from the yaoi manga Under Grand Hotel.
  • Sawatari Atsushi in the yaoi manga Interval. Despite his initial cruel and heartless behavior for seemingly no reason, he's actually the Conflicted type.
  • Naruse Fuuta in the yaoi manga Cute Devil and its sequel is definitely Unconflicted.
  • Averted and possibly parodied in Kizuna, where seme Kei has the Tall, Dark, and Handsome looks and a Yakuza background that would make him the perfect Unconflicted type... yet his uke, Ranmaru, is a violent Tsundere and can have him very whipped.
  • Gender Flipped (as in, Yuri) example: Himemiya Yukio from Gokujou Drops. She is definitely a Conflicted type. She and the main character, Komari, both get better. Why is this example here? Because if all the residents of Haraiso Yakata are male, the story will be pretty much your standard Boys Love plot. (And yes, Loving Force is in full effect.)
  • Sou Mizuhashi from After School Nightmare.
  • Ayace of Corsair, who has no social grace and unusual ideas about what constitutes consent.
  • Klaus von Wolfstadt of Maiden Rose is a Conflicted type variety: very rough when he sexes up his secret boyfriend Taki Reizen, and completely screwed up due to his past and his currently very difficult position in Taki's land.
  • Some suspect Honma of Boku No Sexual Harassment as being this.
  • Gilbert of Kaze to Ki no Uta can be like this to Serge. He's definitely a conflicted version.
  • Morinaga from The Tyrant Falls in Love starts out as a pretty straightforward Dogged Nice Guy with a five-year crush on his homophobic boss, Tatsumi. Then he decides to prove how much he loves Tatsumi by raping him while he was drunk and drugged, then blackmailing him into regular sex even though Tatsumi's made it abundantly clear that he's straight, uninterested and not enjoying himself at all. What makes it worse is that Tatsumi's homophobia was occasioned by a Near-Rape Experience at the hands of a college professor - which Morinaga knows all about because he was the one who stepped in. Bastard boyfriend? Bastard boyfriend.

Non-Shoujo or Yaoi Genre Examples:

  • Parodied in Majin Tantei Nougami Neuro, where Neuro is constantly cruel to Yako for no good reason, and this is supposed to hint towards romantic relations between the two characters, as well as being played for laughs.
  • Light Yagami from Death Note definitely qualifies; the only reason he enters any sort of relationship with Misa is that she has her own Death Note and is wildly, cultishly in love with him. He really doesn't seem to give a crap about her other than that, and, in fact, is as willing to cruelly use her as a pawn as he is any stranger on the street. The only time he (pretends to) show any affection for her is when she's angry at him, or he wants her to do something. If Misa hadn't started with the infatuation, there's no way he would have treated her as anything more than a good lieutenant.
    • His treatment of his other girlfriend/lieutenant, Kiyomi Takada. It's more or less canon that they have had sex at least once, he manipulates her almost as much as he uses Misa as well, and unlike in Misa's case, he callously disposes of her by using a piece of the Death Note to force Takada to burn herself to death as a part of his plan. Right after the girl had not only killed Mello for him but was naked and frightened and trapped inside a truck, actually begging him to help her since she genuinely believes in him. It doesn't matter if you liked her or not, that was a horrifyingly cruel move from Light.
  • Izaya from Durarara!! is an interesting take on the concept: he's not anyone's Bastard Boyfriend — he's everyone's bastard boyfriend. Specifically, he insists that he's madly in love with humanity despite (nay, because of) all of its flaws, and demonstrates this "love" by trolling, manipulating, and generally dicking around with just about every person he meets to get the reactions from humanity he loves so much. He even gets possessive and jealous when he encounters something that might upset the balance of this relationship (like, say, a Yandere sword that also insists she's in love with all of humanity).
  • Played with in The Familiar of Zero. Louise's original fiancé Jean-Jacques seems to be a decent guy, and only shows his bad sides after Louise dumps him. He turns out to be a spy for an evil country. He kills Prince Wales and boasts his ambition to Take Over the World.
  • Depraved Bisexual Head from Star Driver is basically a Bastard Boyfriend to everyone he's ever involved with, including (but probably not limited to) Sakana-chan, Shingo, Sora (who he ends up impregnating and fathering Takuto with) and even a bunch of characters he isn't romantically involved with (although in some cases, it's debatable). Of course, being the Manipulative Bastard he is, most of his relationships were just part of his plans. It doesn't help that pretty much everyone mentioned above becomes a Love Martyr for him sooner or later.
  • Deconstructed twice in Bokura no Hentai. Both are of the Bespectacled Bastard Boyfriend variety as well:
    • The first is Tamura's lover, a senpai that he fell for in middle school. Due to Incompatible Orientation, they aren't a couple, but they do have a sexual relationship. In contrast to other Otokonoko Genre love interests, he does not believe If It's You, It's Okay— He's aloof and abusive towards Tamura, only uses him for sex as long as he crossdresses, says homophobic things about him and shows disgust at what puberty has done to him. By high school, he is a scraggly-looking hikikomori but still has the same Jerkass personality. Eventually Tamura becomes fed up with him, calls him out, and leaves him for good.
    • Tamura himself plays this to Marika (who is a trans girl). Though not her boyfriend, Tamura plays the role; he's portrayed as an overly hormonal boy who tries to coerce her into sex, plays with her emotions, and manipulates her. Pretty much all of his problems go back to sexual abuse he received as a child, which explains why he's so overly sexual and troubled. In the end, Marika is implied to end up with the much nicer Satoshi, while Tamura doesn't end up with anyone. As an adult he's shown to have a lot of one-night stands and generally seems as miserable as ever.
  • Invoked in Horimiya. Hori is something of an Aggressive Submissive, so she actively encourages Miyamura to act this way (much to his confusion).
  • Parodied in The Testament of Sister New Devil. Early into the Master-Servant pact between Basara and Mio, Maria attempts to give Basara advice on how to make himself more likeable to Mio, which boils down to "belittle her and make her unsure of herself so you can control her," which Maria swears she will like. Her proof: an H-Game. Despite the obvious idiocy, Basara plays it as a nice guy only to get a bad ending, then has a much better time picking the Bastard Boyfriend responses. He still doesn't take Maria's advice, regardless.

    Audio Play 
  • The Rejet CD series DEAR VOCALIST features Veronica frontman and lead singer Momochi, who is this trope behind the public eye. Even on a good day, his best behavior towards his girlfriend is berating her and being possessive. Case in point; his RIOT drama features him breaking his girlfriend's smartphone when he thinks she's cheating on him, and burning her with a cigarette and telling her to leave when she tries to defend his bandmates from being called "third rate" behind him...then continues to be mad at her when he can't focus in her absence, giving her a new smartphone on the condition that she never call anyone else but him. There's a lot of Psychological Projection on his part because he's way more unstable and poorer in performance when she isn't there for him, yet he tries to make her think she's the same way.

    Comic Books 
  • Green Arrow: As much as he cares about Black Canary, his actions from his philandering with other women despite how much it hurts her even when they're not a couple or just plain being a brazen fool prone to making terrible choices wreaks havoc on their chance for a happy life. This culminates in Dinah leaving him for good in the aftermath of Cry For Justice.
  • Paperinik New Adventures: Two pop out in PK2.
    • One is Tyrrel Duckard, a droid from the XXIII century who was in a relationship with Lyla. When he reappears, he's gone crazy because the microcontration stopped time travel and trapped him in a jail where he had infiltrated on a mission. So he escapes and tries to force Lyla to go back to the future using a device that would have erased the whole continuity, and savagely attacks her when she refuses.
      • Tyrrel is this even in the Pikappa reboot, despite the completely different origins. Like Lyla, he was built by a genius in the XIX Century but he went insane and set their mansion on fire, leaving even Lyla (who was trying to save their creator) behind. When he finds her more than a century later, she has lost her memories and he transmits her some fake ones; when she recovers her true memories, she is enraged.
    • The second is Lucas, the former boyfriend of Stella Nice. He forces her to hide him in her house while his gang is fighting a war with another gang to gain control of the streets of Duckburg.
  • Sandman Mystery Theatre: Ray Kessler is the boyfriend of Dian's cousin, and a despicable human being who neglects her, mistreats her in bed, cheats on her, and finally rapes her when she stands up to him.
  • Scott Pilgrim:
    • Gideon. And Todd.
    • Scott may have been more of this than he previously thought, due to Gideon tampering with his memories. Especially in the case of Kim, when he beat up her current meek Asian boyfriend in order to go out with her back in high school. Scott is also like this toward Knives, with him dating her for very shallow reasons, then becoming emotionally unavailable for her the moment Ramona skates into his life, and then finally cheating on her and dumping her in a pretty dickish way.
  • Superman: Secret Origin: Subverted, because John Corben wants to think he's Lois's boyfriend, instead coming across as a Stalker with a Crush. He keeps sending her flowers which she immediately throws out, doesn't understand why she does after re-explaining they only went out once, is contemptuous of her career, and thinks he knows what's best for her, and grabs her when starts ignoring him. Thankfully, Lois (and Clark) refuse to accept any of his behavior.
  • Zodiac Starforce: Savi's boyfriend Darren is a total prick who openly fawns over other women while she's right there. She finally breaks up with him in the second issue and starts dating Lily in the fourth, while Darren settles for Alice Waters.

    Fan Works 
Some fans love to turn Canon Characters into this trope, notably:
  • Batman: The Joker plays around with this trope in canon and fanworks towards Harley. Most notably the canon Mind Game Ship he directs towards Batman is fuel enough for some fans who take it further in fanfic for horror and titillation.
  • Naruto:
    • Sasuke Uchiha, whether it's Yaoi or Hetero. Can't be too hard to find.
    • Neji Hyuga, especially when paired with Hinata. This trope gets downplayed when paired with Tenten.
    • Madara Uchiha
  • William Dunbar from Code Lyoko—while not abusive in the show per se—is often written as abusive to Yumi or Ulrich.
  • Seto Kaiba from Yu-Gi-Oh!: example.
    • Also, try and find a Yami Bakura/Ryo Bakura fanfic that doesn't have Yami Bakura mentally or even physically abuse his poor suffering host (and giving him his own body just to make the latter possible). Go on. We'll wait.
  • Yami Bakura, another Yu-Gi-Oh! character, in a good half of his romance fics. Example: Tainted Soul
  • Harry Potter:
    • Draco Malfoy in Harry Potter fanfic.
    • Tom Riddle/Voldemort can be made into this for Harry in some Slash Fic.
    • Sirius Black seems to get this interpretation as well in some fics.
  • Edmund Pevensie, from The Chronicles of Narnia, is portrayed as this in some fics, especially the Edmund/Lucy ones. Well, it's not that hard to see him that way since he practically torments and mocks the poor girl for pretty much the entire first book. So it's almost canon...without the romance part, of course.
    • Although the second book prominently shows that he learned from his mistakes and is Lucy's strongest supporter when she keeps talking about seeing Aslan, the movie version still likes to portray him as dark to an extent, due to his snarkiness and witty character. They even switched his and Caspian's lines from the book, because, while Caspian was supposed to be tempted by evil in the third movie, they gave this role to Edmund and made him look like a jerk again when he fell into temptation for the second time, even though it was for a short period of time. That's why many fans still see him as the bad one. And the bastard boyfriend title is easily used when it comes to Edmund Pevensie.
    • It's somewhat canonical too, because, when Edmund fell into temptation for the second time, he actually tried to convince Lucy to join him when he wanted to obtain power.
  • South Park:
    • Craig Tucker is portrayed as this in most fics, particularly the Craig/Tweek ones since he is...let's say, not quite a pleasant character. In most stories, he either acts like a jerkass towards everyone, a bully, a sociopath or he just does anything to obtain what he wants, using methods like rape or molestation. Amusingly enough, he completely averts the trope in canon after actually getting into an Official Couple with Tweek, instead proving to be supportive, surprisingly gentle, and only having Tweek's best interests at heart.
    • Eric Cartman. Almost half of Kyman (Cartman/Kyle) fics portray Cartman as a possessive, obsessed sociopath (not that he's not like that in the real show, too) who wants to rape Kyle and torture him in all possible ways. Most of them are M rated, too.
    • Kenny McCormick also gets this portrayal in 90% of the fics that involve him, due to his infamous status of being addicted to sex and drugs in the show. In most stories, he's an obsessed pervert who molests almost everyone around him or the object of his desires.
  • Flippy from Happy Tree Friends, and, good lord, to such an extent that almost the entire fandom sees him not only as an insane serial killer...but also as a serial rapist, due to the thousands of anime-styled drawings in which he either molests or rapes Flaky or any other character. His rape involves sharp tools and blood, as well.
  • Derek Venturi from Life with Derek. Yes, that Life With Derek. The character is the primary bastard of the show, but some stories exaggerate his negative traits to the point where he becomes an abusive sociopath who enjoys his step-sister/love-interest's suffering. Not that it's that much of a difference from the canon.
  • Nine times out of ten, the villainous half of a Foe Yay ship becomes this trope. Sephiroth is one of the more popular examples, especially in doujinshi, and, oddly enough, is portrayed as either type depending on the fangirl.
  • Hetalia: Axis Powers has LOTS of fanon examples:
    • Russia, the resident Psychopathic Manchild and Yandere, is usually portrayed as this in fanworks that pair him up with someone, especially if it's with Lithuania or America (and admittedly, it's not easy to portray him as a decent boyfriend without running into the other extreme). As it stands, when Russia is paired with China, it can lead to either this or Happily Married.
    • England can become this when fans take his "tsun" side too far or become too enamored with the idea of him as a cocky, swashbuckling pirate claiming his love interest as his "possession" (with his favorite "love victims" being the wimpified Japan or America). And let's not get started on the Opium War and his fanon treatment of China and Hong Kong, which, more than once, has HK as actually England and China's Child by Rape (either via Mr. Seahorse or China having been a Sweet Polly Oliver all along)...
      • This is also a disturbingly common Alternative Character Interpretation that follows the "What if England remained an Empire?" scenario. Apparently, the only way a Still-Imperial!England can be portrayed as is...a violent and abusive bastard who still dresses like a pirate shoots and beats up whoever dares raise their voice, and sexily abuses a Forever-Colony!America reduced to a whiny, wimpified Love Martyr mess.
    • Turkey is typically portrayed as this in Turkey/Greece and Turkey/Egypt fanworks (although it's much less common for the latter). While some Turkey/Greece works veer into Belligerent Sexual Tension instead by making Greece into a defiant Tsundere on equal fighting ground with Turkey, many more Turkey/Greece works make it clear that as hard as Greece tries to fight back, Turkey thoroughly dominates him and is free to abuse and even rape him because he either wants to put Greece in his place or just can't control himself around Greece, leaving Greece a broken and embittered man who nonetheless can't help but keep coming back to Turkey. Some fics have him go as far as raping Greece as a teen or a child, brainwashing Greece into being his slave, or even raping Greece explicitly because he'd rather have Greece hate him than be indifferent towards him.
    • Poor Japan. Not only is he turned into a Bastard Boyfriend in numerous Japan/[insert any other Asian nation here] fanworks (which includes many Japan/China fanworks, pretty much all Japan/either Korea, Hong Kong, and/or Thailand fanworks, and even the few Japan/Taiwan fanworks that don't go the Lady and Knight or Happily Married routes) thanks to his Lawful Evil imperial history, but he himself becomes the weepy, "lucky lover" of a Bastard Boyfriend in numerous America/Japan and England/Japan fanworks. The only pairing exceptions (so far) are Greece/Japan (whose reputation as the "peaceful, content, cat-loving pairing you steer clear of if you love angst" is too strong) and minor pairings like Turkey/Japan and Netherlands/Japan (who don't get that many fanworks in the first place, at least in the English-speaking fandom).
    • China (as either the Chinese Empire or Mao's China) sometimes goes from the Love Martyr victim to the Bastard Boyfriend Yandere in China/Taiwan or China/Hong Kong fanworks, flanderising the country's "interest" into having them back (HK), or portraying the reason why they left him (Taiwan) as him stalking, abusing, raping, or even forcibly getting them hooked onto opium. Thankfully, it's not exactly common.
      • He's not even safe in China/England fanwork. There's a Pixiv fanartist who has this as a kink, making Imperial China a Bastard Boyfriend who forces a wimpified England to dress up in imperial lady robes and go through footbinding. Even if the art style itself is not bad...
      • Even worse are the China/Japan fanworks that make Imperial China a pedophiliac Yandere who physically, sexually, and psychologically abuses a completely wimpified Japan ever since he "discovered" him. (Or the fact that you can swap China and Japan's name in that sentence and replace "pedophiliac" with "sociopathic" and "discovered" with "conquered" [never mind that Japan never actually conquered China in real life, not even during WWII, and that China is actually the stronger nation nowadays] for a summary of at least 60% of Japan/China fanworks.)
    • America gets this rep in more than one America/England and/or America/Japan badfic, with either England or Japan becoming the Love Martyr to America's Jerkass or Yandere via Wimpification. Double points if it's a USA/Japan fic set in the American occupation times where America either punishes Japan for his role in World War II by raping him or becomes a dangerous Yandere who threatens to bomb him again. Triple points if it's a "USUK" fic where the real reason for The American Revolution is either England's reaction to teenager!America overpowering and raping him, or America setting a spiteful plan in which he wants his "freedom" as a direct way to hurt and hate England (and often backed up by a France shown as a slutty, selfish Evil Mentor who leads America on *purely* to spit on "poor" UK - way to flanderize the French role in the Revolution).
    • While nowhere as common as Pirate!England, the renditions of Conquistador!Spain also tend to have more than one whiff of this trope. Fortunately, this happens more often than not in regards to the England/Spain or France/Spain pairings, which has a less chance of Wimpification than, i.e., Spain/kid-or-teen!Romano, Spain/soon-to-be-Empire!Netherlands, or Spain/teen-and-still-Imperial!Belgium.
    • Two or three fans give this treatment to Prussia, too. This happens in some Prussia/Hungary (with a badly chickified Hungary, one may add), Prussia/Austria and/or Germancest fics, but it's usually a rare sight.
    • When the Foe Yay between Denmark and Sweden goes too far, the fanworks featuring this couple will make Denmark one of these. It's also a relatively common sight in Denmark/Norway fics: one of them had Denmark so deathly jealous of Norway's closeness to Iceland, that he has sex with Norway in front of Iceland to "teach" Iceland that Norway is his boyfriend.
    • If we go to pure Original Character Realm, OC!Scotland is often portrayed by Japanese fans as a highly violent Evil Redhead who cruelly rapes and abuses a wimpified England.
  • There are some fanfics out there that portray either Hibari or Mukuro from Reborn! (2004) as a Bastard Boyfriend to Tsuna.
  • Yu Kanda from D.Gray-Man sometimes tends to be made into a Bastard Boyfriend for Allen. And let's not even talk about Tyki Mikk...
  • Either Roy Mustang or Envy in Fullmetal Alchemist. With the latter, it's so common it's almost Fanon at this point, especially if they're basing the fic on the 2003 anime (where he's significantly more powerful, and his MO is basically For the Evulz).
  • Kaede Rukawa from Slam Dunk is frequently portrayed as this in fanwork to a wimpified Sakuragi. Yes, that Hanamichi Sakuragi is made into Rukawa's whiny and weepy uke.
  • Parodied in Gantz Abridged. Kurono wants to be the Bastard Boyfriend of Kishimoto, but he has, as he puts it, landed in the one anime where being an asshole doesn't get you the girl. She instead has a thing for the Dogged Nice Guy.
  • Kingdom Hearts fics pairing Ventus with Vanitas usually turn the latter into this.
  • Heero Yuy, back when Mobile Suit Gundam Wing was the yaoi fandom out there, was the poster boy for this trope. Fics where he sexily abused Duo, raped him and claimed to love him, killed or humiliated Relena for daring to crush on him (which, of course, was okay, because she totally was a pink-dressed, girly, Yandere whore) and commited other squicktastic deeds "because he loooooooved Duo so much" (like considering to keep Duo in a cage for his own sake) were pretty much the hottest thing in those years, and fangirls loved such stuff.
  • Ulquiorra Cifer in Bleach is transformed into this in fanon, particularly in some Ulquiorra/Orihime fics. This is usually featured along with Die for Our Ship, most likely towards Orihime for not expressing romantic feelings towards him in canon. And let's just leave it at that. It's also a popular interpretation of either Nnoitra or Aizen in any shippy stuff involving them, really not helped by both being infamous Memetic Molesters.
    • Aizen, Grimmjow, Dark Ichigo, and Ulquiorra can become this towards Ichigo in fanfic sometimes.
  • Hannibal can be made into this for Will Graham. Not that it doesn't show up in the tv series too with all the manipulative twisted Ho Yay Hannibal directs toward Will.
  • Ferid of Seraph of the End gets great enjoyment out of screwing with people's emotions and lives in canon and enjoys biting ones he finds attractive (which gives both the biter and the one being bitten immoral pleasure) which he does to both girls and boys. This carries over to fanfiction with Ferid's actions being written to include rape into the mix, particularly towards Mika, Yuu, and Krul whom he already demonstrates a particular interest in for their looks and dicking around with their emotions for kicks. In canon, if he was actually in a relationship with anyone he would definitely be a Unconflicted Bastard Boyfriend.
  • Hans/Elsa Frozen (2013) fanworks do this often whenever they're not sympathizing with Hans' character. It's a huge Fan-Preferred Couple, up there with Anna/Elsa and Jack/Elsa. In contrast, Hans/Anna is rather uncommon and Hans is usually unsympathetically an abusive jerk in Hanna fanworks (they're usually about if Hans did succeed and have him showing his true colors after he marries Anna). Fans like the Foe Yay Shipping potential between Hans and Elsa so their relationship is often written as turbulent. This Fan Vid, Hans & Elsa - Hospital (AU:Broken Relationship), for example, has Hans constantly beating his wife out of jealousy, raping her, and flirting with other women. Despite this Elsa still loves him, we're supposed to feel bad when Hans dies, and the video isn't anti-Helsa.
  • In A.A. Pessimal's Discworld fic Why and were, new Assassin graduate Ruth N'Kweze falls for a Bastard Boyfriend who is also a wereleopard. By the end of the story she is very briefly married to him. The "very briefly" part is explained by her becoming a widow, having remembered she is first and foremost an Assassin. They don't call it "Black Widow House" for nothing.
  • At least half of all A Song of Ice and Fire and Game of Thrones fanfics that pair anyone with resident Psychopathic Manchild Ramsay Snow portray him in this light. Doubles as a literal Bastard Boyfriend. Part of this is due to Adaptational Attractiveness, as he's described as ugly in the books, but in the series played by the drop-dead gorgeous Iwan Rheon. The most common victim is his canonical prisoner, torture & Stockholm Syndrome victim, and No Yay partner Theon Greyjoy. Other common victims include his wife in the books Jeyne Poole, his wife in the show Sansa Stark, and his Good Counterpart Jon Snow.
    • For those who prefer their sadists more aged and refined, Ramsay's father, Roose Bolton, occasionally gets portrayed the same way. He's most frequently paired with his wife Walda Frey, or with the king he's second-in-command to (who he later murders) Robb Stark. And of course, that's not mentioning the fics where Roose is a Bastard Boyfriend to Ramsay...
  • Total Drama:
    • A TDA Love Triangle with Betty, Cody, and Gwenny: Geoff becomes a total Jerkass who mistreats and insults Bridgette on a regular basis. Even worse, despite breaking up, they're forced by contract to still be presented as a couple in the Aftermath episodes so Bridgette is stuck with him until the show's end.
    • Total Drama Domination
      • Sky's ex Keith, who is one of the interns, is this to both her and especially Dave.
      • Devin. After Carrie breaks up with him, he tries to stay nice to her, but after being snubbed by her, he drops the nice guy and becomes one of the biggest jerks on the show. He eventually stops.
    • Unbreakable Red Silken Thread: Duncan, who is abusive, controlling, manipulative, and demanding, with just enough intelligence, guile, and charm to pull it off for years. Though its unclear if he was always as bad as he is in the present, a flashback scene early on between Duncan and Gwen shortly after the end of World Tour shows at least the potential for such a mentality.

  • A Woman's Face: The 1941 version, that is. Conrad Veidt's Torsten Barring is a suave and charming bastard and a wannabe murderer, but he's also so hypnotic and attractive Joan Crawford's embittered heroine actually considers murdering a child for him. When she tries to refuse, he lures her in with erotic gestures dripping with sexual sadism. She quivers in a mixture of arousal and revulsion.
  • Asher in Geek Charming.
  • General Koskov is this to Kara Milovy in James Bond film The Living Daylights. Despite all of his gifts to her, he won't hesitate to use her as a sniper bait and engineer her death.
  • Chasing Amy: Holden eventually becomes this through his relationship with Alyssa due to his insecurities over her promiscuous past. He starts slut-shaming Alyssa for not telling him about her past and making everything all about him regarding this.

  • See The Complete Writer's Guide to Heroes & Heroines for sort-of Western equivalents, under The Bastard and The Sadist, although those are usually played as villains.
  • The sheik from The Sheik: causing an entire generation of girls to swoon at the thought of being kidnapped and raped by a hot Arabian prince. That Fetish Fuel was the intention is made transparent by the book's final pages, in which, in a fit of conscience, he decides to send her away so he won't hurt her anymore, and the heroine threatens to kill herself. The fact that The Film of the Book starred Rudolph Valentino helped.
  • The Wicked Lovely series has Irial, who is incredibly emotionally abusive to Leslie but is still hot. One reviewer describes their connection as 'Destructive yet seductive'.
    • Don't forget his relationship with Niall in the past, after the whole ultimatum.
    • Part of the dark court's whole nature is based around darkness, seduction, lust, torture, and beautiful destruction. The only important members of the DC who don't fit this trope to an extent are Bananach, who is more a Lady of War - her in-universe nickname is Lady War, after all - Ani, who is a Plucky Girl with dreams of chaos that her court disallows, and Niall, who fights every day to resist the darker side of his nature, although the injustices of the past and Keenan's apparent betrayal in Ink Exchange mean that, by Fragile Eternity, when he rules over these creatures, he is rather more inclined to give in to it.
    • Irial is something of a subversion; he realizes that Leslie is better off without him, and he has spent centuries trying to make it up to Niall.
  • Patch from Hush, Hush emotionally manipulated and sexually harassed Nora. It was later revealed that he was trying to kill her so he could get his wings back. Nora was understandably creeped out but fell for him anyway.
  • Chamberlain Yanagisawa of the Sano Ichiro series is an Unconflicted type after his rise to power, taking out all of the humiliation he suffered to gain said power in the first place on his lovers. This trait is lessened throughout the series as he quickly realizes after his love affair with Hoshina collapses that others are using him to gain power themselves.
  • Nagasawa to Hatsumi in Norwegian Wood. She puts up with him throughout most of the book despite his casual cheating and bad treatment of her.
  • The knight Erlend exhibits this behavior to the teenage girl Kristin in the trilogy Kristin Lavransdatter, set in the Middle Ages. Played straight in the first book, where Kristin falls in love with Erlend, breaks her engagement with her Nice Guy fiance, and defies the will of her father to be with him, all despite his shady past and his none-too-kind treatment of her. Deconstructed in the two later books, set after Erlend and Kristin's marriage, where she has to live with the painful consequences of her decision, all in a highly patriarchal world that offers little support for women.
  • The Phantom of the Opera: Subverted. In the original book by Gaston Leroux, Erik (the titular phantom) would be a deconstruction, if not an Unbuilt Trope IF it was a relationship: Erik is The Grotesque Psychopathic Manchild who terrorizes Christine into marrying him. In the book, the author wants you to think Erik's an admittedly tragic Jerkass and Christine is a saint for feeling compassion along with revulsion and fear for Raoul's fate, BUT the Misaimed Fandom (and many adaptations) want you to think Erik's totally hot and the relationship is deliciously kinky.
  • Although it is somewhat cleaned up in the movie, the woman in The Sheltering Sky was repeatedly raped by two of her Arab captors. Her subsequent behavior was more like shell shock than the movies kind of "once you go whatever ..."
  • Gor. A Gorean master will be one of these toward any slavegirl he cares for. If he isn't one of these at the start, (or falls into the conflicted version of this trope) it will be a subplot that he becomes an example of the unconflicted version at the end, either in general or toward a particular woman whom he'll end up enslaving.
  • In Vampire Academy, Christian seems like he will be this, but he softens. He at first taunts Lissa about her troubles, criticizes Lissa for her treatment of Mia Rinaldi, reveals the secret bastard side of her beloved brother Andre, and accuses her of enslaving the people she compels. He does not mean to harm her however.
  • Christian Grey from Fifty Shades of Grey may as well be the poster boy of this trope. He frequently comes off as condescending, domineering, predatory, or an outright Jerkass towards Ana. He stalks her (both of them actually use the word "stalking" to describe his behavior), emotionally manipulates her, and is controlling of her to the point where he buys the company where she works after he sees her boss has the hots for her. He gets insanely jealous of any man who pays attention to her. On multiple occasions, he threatens to beat her, gag her, tie her up or all three if she does something he doesn't like and she admits to feeling intimidated by him. Many readers have pointed out that Christian's behavior can come across as textbook emotional/verbal abuse, and there are at least a few instances where Ana's consent to BDSM practices is debatable. This is generally presented as being incredibly erotic and part of Christian's Sex God Dom persona, or is explained as a being a product of his Dark and Troubled Past which Ana believes she can fix by unconditionally loving him.

    Live-Action TV 
  • On 'Allo 'Allo!, Private Helga Geerhart is seen standing in a corner like a small child receiving a "time out." Quoth her fiancé Herr Flick:
    "Let this be a lesson to you. That is the last time you burn my toast!"
  • As much as it was shown to be an abusive relationship, Buffy the Vampire Slayer's relationship with Spike had definite elements of this. Spike's frequent semi-nude scenes certainly weren't there to cause disgust in the audience.
    • In "Never Leave Me", Spike suggests that Buffy deliberately seeks out such men. "We both know it's not love. You like men who hurt you. You need the pain we cause you. You need the hate. You need it to do your job, to be the Slayer."
  • Parodied in Saturday Night Live in one of the "Gap Girls" sketches. Everyone is asking David Spade's character if she's still dating "That A-Hole Paul." Among Paul's list of crimes includes the fact that he owes her $6000, and when she reminded him he punched her in the neck. Four days later, Spade's character mentions breaking up with him after finding out he was seeing another girl.
  • In the Black Mirror episode "USS Callister", Robert Daly's character "Captain Daly", as scripted by Robert Daly himself, engages in abusive behavior that only adds to his great charisma and gives this wholesome captain a much-needed bad-boy streak (the rest of the staff tends to see the Captain Daly character in the quite opposite light).
  • The Vampire Diaries: While Damon often has consensual sex, he's also shown mind-whammying girls (especially Caroline) into it, drinking their blood, and then making them forget it. Including a group of college girls, in a scene meant to highlight his own angst. In the second season, he starts "dating" Andie, heavily and repeatedly compelling her and feeding on her. One time she goes off-script when he's in a bad mood he attacks and threatens her, so even if you ignore all the supernatural aspects, he commits Domestic Abuse. No one appears to care about all this in the slightest. And when she dies, the show has the audacity to play it as a source of angst for him, despite her obviously being every bit as much his own victim as Stefan's. This guy is one-third of the show's main love triangle.

  • The lyrics of the song "El duelo" by Chilean group La Ley seems to be written from the POV of a Bastard Boyfriend.
  • "Under My Thumb" by The Rolling Stones comes off as a celebration of this, highlighted in its use in Scott Pilgrim vs. The World.
  • "Bad Enough For You" by All Time Low fits this stereotype (on the surface at least) so exactly that it could be used as the title trope. However, it's also an inversion as the narrator states that he'd rather be a nice guy and treat his love interest well but knows the only way she'll fall for him is if he is bad enough for her.
  • Judas by Lady Gaga could be interpreted as this and coming from the love interest's POV.
  • Romantic Cheapskate V2.0 by MC Frontalot is about a guy who delights in stringing a girl along with a minimal amount of commitment on his part. This character is particularly proud of the fact he has never spent any money on his girlfriend, instead resorting to petty theft for gifts, or sticking his girlfriend with the bill.
  • "The One I Love" by R.E.M. displays shades of this, referring to the one the singer loves as merely being a "prop to occupy [his] time" and the implication by the slight variation of lyrics in the last verse being that he moves from girl to girl easily and with little care for how he treats each one.
  • This Yandere Simulator animatic/music video, set to the Kikuo Vocaloid song "You're a Useless Child", portrays Nemesis-kun as an abusive boyfriend to Ayano/Yandere-chan who constantly tells her that she's worthless, stupid and that no one will ever care about her except him, but he'll love and protect her forever.

    Video Games 
  • Eldoth to Skie in Baldur's Gate. He's a blatantly sleazy, chauvinistic Jerkass who embodies the selfish nature of his Neutral Evil alignment. The only reason he elopes with Skie is so that he can blackmail her father by claiming he kidnapped her. He is only able to get away with this because Skie is just that naive and foolish and thinks he is romantic.
  • Peter, a minor character in Resident Evil 6 that's only with you for a short part of a level, shows himself to be this. He seems to be a bit of a sociopath, and breaks the number one rule of surviving in a zombie apocalypse: stay together. He runs out into the street (away from the gun store that he and the other survivors (including Leon and Helena) had found shelter in) after stealing his girlfriend's gun and unsurprisingly gets killed by a zombie. Helena at least calls him out on repeatedly insisting the group abandon his girlfriend, though she's still upset when he dies.
  • In Yandere Simulator, it's implied that Osana Najimi just ended a relationship with one of these. He's angry about it, as he threatens to hurt Senpai (possibly also her) if she won't come back to him.

    Visual Novels 
  • The love/hate routes of the otome game Under the Moon plays off this trope. The love interests begin the game on the fence about how to treat the heroine. The player's choices push them in one of two directions: towards "pure love" routes or "love/hate" routes. "Pure love" is Exactly What It Says on the Tin. In "love/hate", on the other hand, the guys give in to "romantic" abuse inclinations that generally include rape.
  • Nakajima in Gakuen Heaven, in his route.
  • Out of Aoba's love interests in DRAMAtical Murder, Mink fits in perfectly. His introduction features him kidnapping the protagonist Aoba to be gang-raped in front of him (something that's just barely averted by Aoba's Superpowered Evil Side showing up) and his actual route involves him treating a wimpified Aoba like dirt and coercing him into doing various things he doesn't want to do including, yes, rape. It turns out he's a Conflicted Type with a MASSIVE Freudian Excuse, and in the sequel Re:Connect he shows remorse for having treated Aoba the way he did.
  • Naked Butler takes this trope Up to Eleven. In a nutshell, the game revels in this trope so much that it goes so far as to invert Video Game Cruelty Punishment by punishing the player with a Bad End if they have Tomoaki act too nice to his love interests. Yes, in order to get the "Good/True Ends" in this game, you have to have Tomoaki act like a complete asshole and inflict truly horrible abuse on his preferred butler until said butler essentially becomes a Stockholm Syndrome-induced Love Martyr to him. Oh, and it's implied that the bastard has a Split Personality.
  • Nameless has Lance begin to show some shades of this, if his route is pursued. He begins to tease Eri in a way that is different from Yuri's and flat out insults her, though it's presented as part of his Defrosting Ice Prince routine.
  • Majima Tarou, a bonus character for Tokimeki Memorial Girl's Side. Basically everything he does involves being a narcissistic, self-absorbed, emotionally flip-floppy Jerkass who torments the protagonist, demands that she do ridiculous things for her, yells at her when he does, and all-around acts abusive to the poor Love Martyr protag who spends a lot of the time in tears.
  • Shiki from Togainu no Chi is the Unconflicted type.
  • Damien has at least significant shades of the conflicted version in Magical Diary, considering that he jerks you around for most of the year, culminating in breaking your heart and trying to kill you by way of stealing your soul. The only way to get any of his endings - not even just the good one - is to tell him that you love him no matter what and then forgive him for what he did when he shows up again. Your roomies, however, will call you out on being a Love Martyr if they find out that you've taken him back, though. And by using Spirit Echoes and Empathy, you can find out that he has genuinely fallen in love with you and really does want to reform. But if you haven't been working on White magic, you might be left wondering how long it will be before he turns on you again.
    • It's not quite that simple - you can get his endings even if you play yourself as conflicted rather than all-forgiving. It's just the "I hate you forever" options you can't pick. And even with the white magic, it's questionable how much he's really changed. He doesn't want to kill you anymore, but he still enjoys messing with your head...

  • Although the story's only two chapters in, and there seems to be more to be revealed where he's concerned, Cain of the Starfighter webcomic plays this one straight from the get-go. His idea of an icebreaker with his new navigator/roomie Abel is to bite Abel's lip so hard that he leaves a permanent scar, announce that Abel is now his bitch, and alternately threaten and sexually harass him (sometimes both at once). Give Abel his due, though, despite his occasional emotional moments, he's a lot more assertive about not taking Cain's shit than most of the Love Martyrs listed here.
    • "The one with the scar... Don't look at him, don't touch him... And don't fucking talk to him!" Self Explanatory.
  • The Night Belongs To Us: It's implied that Mick is abusive to Sienna, at least when he's drunk. Then again, unlike the typical Bastard Boyfriend, he doesn't really revel in bastard behavior, and Sienna can be just as much of a jerk.

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    Western Animation 
  • Chozen is this to his boy-toy Hunter. Hunter wants an actual relationship, but Chozen is only in it for the sex. Hunter eventually wises up and ditches him.

Alternative Title(s): Kichiku, Sexy Sadist, Abusively Sexy Bastard, Abusively Sexy Man


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