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Maybe a bit too casual?

Buffy: (about Riley's lunch selection) ...a Twinkie! That's his lunch? Oh, he is so gonna be punished.
Willow: (pouting about currently being single) Everyone's getting spanked but me.
Buffy the Vampire Slayer, "The I in Team"
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Sometimes sexualities such as sadomasochism and fetishism come into play simply as a kinky counterpart of Bi the Way: The character just happens to be into BDSM (or similar). That is, any variant of Bondage (as in tying each other up with ropes or handcuffs), Dominance-games, and/or Sado-Masochism (as in Kinky Spanking and such). No big deal is made out of it, at least not by the main characters. This can be a good excuse to play with gender roles and power dynamics, an excuse to get the Heteronormative Crusaders all riled up, or simply a way to put a character in an unexpected situation or let a conversation take an unexpected turn.

While usually about individual characters, this trope can also be a characteristic of a Free-Love Future or similar world. In these cases, the fact that kinky sexuality is so normal that no one thinks twice about it in this world is often used as a way of pointing out how different that world is from our own.

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People playing with this trope do it Safe, Sane, and Consensual, and are likely to have a Safe Word. People who see a little bit of what they are doing, without getting the whole picture, might sometimes make the classic Abuse Mistake.

Also a way to portray (or show interest in) a fetish.

Compare and contrast the tropes where kinkiness is used to indicate that a character is intelligent or a bad person. See also True Love Is a Kink.


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    Advertising 
  • There's an old TV ad in which a couple is looking through a window into their neighbors' impeccably neat and organized living room. The husband remarks that people like that are always too uptight, at which point the neighbors go running through the room in full BDSM gear. The wife then observes, "They don't seem so uptight."
  • This Cup Noodles ad features a man in a gimp suit, who tells his off-screen partner role-playing as his mom that he's "eating [his] veggies", to which she replies "Chew with your mouth closed!". He then zips his mouth zipper.

    Anime & Manga 
  • Pokémon:
    • Trip's Servine apparently doesn't mind Ash's Snivy whipping him until he collapsed. Granted, Servine was under the effects of Attract, but other Pokemon usually snap out of the effects after an attack. It's now a meme to call Trip's Servine a masochist.
    • In the Diamond and Pearl seasons of the same show, Gardenia was strangely fond of taking the brunt of various Grass-type Pokemon's attacks.
  • Cross Marian in a D.Gray-Man anime filler scene makes a comment that he's a tad kinky. When HQ is attacked by Akuma, Klaud tells Cross to do some work. He scoffs at her remark, stating he hates work. Klaud, annoyed, then asks if she's going to have to whip him. In response, Cross states that isn't a bad idea, and that he'd much rather be spending time with a good woman than fighting.
  • Ruby from Rosario + Vampire seems to enjoy being the submissive person between her and Tsukune, the latter of whom doesn't really have an interest. Ruby not only enjoys pain but reminds Tsukune repeatedly that she does in double entendres.
  • Nabari no Ou: Gau's masochistic tendencies are played for laughs in an omake strip, and Raikou is later implied to be a sadist during the Alya Arc.
  • In Popcorn Avatar, the males in the class assume that Kurando and Lisa are into BDSM due to misunderstanding, with Lisa presumed as the "master".
  • Danganronpa 3:
    • Touko Fukawa fantasizes about her crush raping her. This is portrayed comedically, with an art shift towards sparkles and other shojo-esque tropes.
    • Teruteru Hanamura's proclamations of promiscuity and masochism are treated as mere rudeness by his classmates.
  • Muni Nunota of Omujo! Omutsu Joshi is a diaper fetishist and not at all shy about it around Shouta and Morei. Her first encounter with Shouta has her flat out telling him she's a "diaperer", flashing him the proof, and offering to let him touch. In Morei's case, bragging about her exploits with Shouta causes Morei to get competitive. She does all this incorrectly thinking Shouta and Morei are just as into it as she is note .
  • All three female members of the Student Council in Kaguya-sama: Love Is War have established fetishes. Fujiwara likes being forced, Kaguya gets turned on by people who look tired, and Iino has a thing for crew cuts. Kaguya's fetish is even a plot point in one chapter when she finds herself less attracted to Shirogane after he gets a good night's sleep.
  • In The Seven Deadly Sins, Meliodas doesn't mind being tied up so he won't grope Elizabeth in her sleep, comparing it to bondage.
  • Shimoneta: The villainous White Peak has an obsession with womens underwear, especially white panties that have been freshly worn. He's even stiched an entire bodysuit out of them and created Gathered Fabric for the purpose of stealing more white panties to ensure he'll have a constant supply of them.
  • Wandering Son implies that Saori has a thing for crossdressers. It started in fifth grade when she began coercing the closeted trans girl Nitori to dress up. Saori never understood Nitori's dysphoria and, if anything, was transphobic, but she did like cute boys in girl's clothes (which extends to trans boys, as she gushes when she dresses up Takatsuki for a fashion show).

    Comic Books 
  • John Constantine is both kinky and bi in nearly all of his portrayals, whether it's the comics or the show, though the movie was a notable exception. In Hellblazer, he's been portrayed as a rather pushy sub who usually demands it even rougher, and he's into everything from handcuffs to whips to even burn play.
  • In the first album of Lucifer, Casual Kink and Bondage Is Bad are both expressed as attitudes held by characters: Jill held a little speech about how she's not into BDSM herself but doesn't mind it as long as it's consensual - while Elaine write a story within the story where her way of establishing the bad guy as bad is to state that he fantasizes about three creepy things, one of them being tied up women. (The other two are money and selling drugs. It should be noted that since this is in the first issue, Elaine is still an immature 12-years-old inexperienced psychic.)
  • When Deadpool finds his business unexpectedly booming, he hires an assistant to keep his schedule straight. She also helps design several new costumes for him. When she shows the sketches, Deadpool asks why some of the costumes have high heels. She responds "I'm kinky".
    • He ties up and gags Black Widow in one issue. After he takes the gag off, she admits that she kind of enjoyed it.
    • Deadpool himself. Spider-Man finally agrees to hang out with him and get to know him. He tells Deadpool there will be some ground-rules. Deadpool then asks if they can pick their own safe-words, noting that his is "Do it again." He also appears to be the sub in his relationship with Shiklah — at one point we see him wearing a chastity belt, with Shiklah holding the key.
  • Annihilation: Conquest had this exchange between two romantically involved cosmic super women.
    Moondragon: If we survive this, you've earned a spanking.
    Phyla-Vell: Promises, promises...
  • Spider-Man: During their marriage, Peter Parker and M.J. Watson were known on a few occasions to indulge in a little light bondage, using his webbing. The fact that it dissolves in roughly an hour makes it useful for such games.
  • Kick-Ass's superhero obsession is presented as such. Unusually for such a... weird fetish (but in line with the trope), it's shown to be a healthy outlet for his fantasies, since said fantasies involve community activism and an altruistic outlook on life and society.
  • A flashback conversation in Batwoman (Rebirth) between Kate Kane and Safiyah, her lover on the island of Coryana, reveals that the couple is into bondage.
  • Sin City implies this with Gail and Dwight's relationship. Gail is canonically a professional dominatrix and regularly wears a black latex corset in public. But in spite of that, she and Dwight don't seem to have an explicitly Dom-sub relationship, and they generally bicker and banter like any other pair of ex-lovers would. The Big Damn Kiss shows that they get back together at the end of "The Big Fat Kill".
  • It's actually a plot point in issue 2 of Uncanny Avengers that Rogue and Gambit engage in BDSM (she specifically references "kinky bondage drinking games"); her experiences in the bedroom allows Rogue to escape from her bindings and begin fighting her way out of Red Skull's lair after having been captured by him.
  • Black Canary and Green Arrow have implications. In one comic prior to Black Canary permanently dyeing her hair, Green Arrow mentions that she only wears her blonde wig to bed.

    Comic Strips 
  • Dilbert: Dilbert once chatted with a woman calling herself Mistress Cruella. Afterward, he looked quite startled. What she said to him was, of course, left to the reader's imagination.
  • Pondus has a lot of this. Often used as a tool to create awkward situations (Jocke and Camilla walking in on Jocke's mother and stepfather doing a scene), but sometimes just for cuteness (Pondus wife bringing home her nurse uniform from the hospital in return for him taping her favorite Soap Opera).

    Fan Works 
  • In the Twilight fandom, The Dom Edward/Sub Bella style of Fanfics is extremely popular. The extremely popular Erotic Novel series Fifty Shades of Grey started life as a fanfic called ''Master of the Universe'' (Author E.L. James used the penname Snowqueens Icedragon when it was originally published). Even its original form it was very popular, amassing over 56,000 reviews during its original, censored run on Fan Fiction Dot Net alone! Not to be outdone, the Uncensored version posted on twilighted.net, received over 23,000 reviews in its run. Eventually, James replaced all the Twilight Elements out of the fic and packaged it under the Fifty Shades title. There are numerous examples, but Fifty Shades is the most popular.
  • Several Neon Genesis Evangelion fics support the idea that in the (unlikely) event where Asuka and Shinji pair up, they will inevitably involve themselves into BDSM with Asuka as the slave and Shinji as the master. While this seems Out of Character for a person with Asuka's personality, Aggressive Submissive is a thing, and a well-written take on such a scenario would be one that properly fleshes out Asuka's Hidden Depths.
    • Power Plays takes it one step further: Hikari, sweet and innocent Hikari is into BDSM as well, with the same arrangement. Both pairs go at it 24/7 and neither use safe words... And then we haven't even mentioned that Misato practically forced Shinji to be Asuka's master by watching their relationship and every time it looked like things are going steady, Misato dropped a not-so-innocent remark to trick Shinji into thinking Asuka is only playing with him. Her excuse when Asuka ratted her out was that she wanted them to take their relationship seriously, ie. they shouldn't even start it if they're going to break up later (she was speaking from experience but that's still no excuse for forcing two fourteen year-olds into BDSM).
  • In some of iCarly's more lemony fics, Sam and Freddie take their Belligerent Sexual Tension friendship and exaggerate it to having Freddie be a sadomasochist to explain why he's fallen in love with a girl who repeatedly and constantly abuses and degrades him.
  • In Those Who Stand for Nothing Fall for Anything Light claims that his calling himself "God" is just a sex kink and he doesn't really have a God complex.
  • In "Shards To a Whole", an NCIS fanfic, McGee and Abby confess their love for each other after the explosion at NCIS during the Season 9 finale, and start dating again. They enjoy an active and happy sex life, including some mild bondage and cosplay. At one point Tony DiNozzo sees them in action and freaks out.
    McGee: [to Gibbs] Look, if the words 'doing freaky things to Abby' come up, before you kill me, I'd like you to remember, Tony thinks it's freaky, not me or Abby, and it's with Abby not to her.
  • Lyra Heartstrings of My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic is often depicted in fan works as being, erm, interested in humans, yet her often crushingly weird antics are typically only answered with an eye roll or possibly a facepalm from her roommate / Heterosexual Life-Partner / lover Bon Bon.
  • Athena is revealed to be this in Phoenix Wright: The Baby Shower when Franziska finds her bondage equipment and as part of "truth or dare" game orders her to wear all of it. Used as a Chekhov's Gun, as her whip combined with Franziska's own are used to pull up Iris after she falls trom the balcony and is hanging on a griffin statue.
  • In Origin Story, Alex and Louise are more annoyed than embarrassed to be caught wearing fetish gear by Agent Phil Coulson, though given that Louise is a former prostitute, it's hardly surprising. Alex, on the other hand, is simply the type to not be intimidated by anyone or anything.
  • In Le Papillon Rising, Nino asks why Adrien is stalking Marinette with butterflies. His response?
    Adrien: It's a kink of hers.
  • In Two Pink Lines, after Marinette learns Adrien and his father had a fight and says she might have to beat them up until they see reason:
    Adrien: Oh, you know what I feel about spanking, My Lady. But with my father... that would be gross.
  • Cirelle in The Keys Stand Alone: The Soft World embodies this trope. Only Ringo gets to find out exactly what she has to offer, though. (Paul and John can't have sex with normal women any longer, and George won't even tell the others what she wanted him to do.) It's all offscreen.
  • Luna in For Love of Magic to a remarkable extent. None of the others are remotely ashamed of what they get up to, but she's the only one to openly talk about it, even in public.
    • Luna Lovegood, in general, tends to be portrayed as either very casual or very naive when talking about sex.
  • The Power of Seven features a few relatively low-key kinks, ranging from Ginny realising that she likes being watched and watching Harry with other witches to Demelza (after identifying Ginny's own kink) revealing that she has a certain submissive streak that she enjoys exploring with Harry. Hermione and Harry are switches (alternating who controls who in their encounters). Katie is a bit of a domme towards Harry, but in a nurturing way. Aside from talking about the creatures featured in the Quibbler, the closest thing Luna has to a 'kink' so far is a preference for giving Harry blowjobs, and Susan hasn't shown any clear interest in any particular sexual practices to date. Demelza and Fleur also seem to have a pregnancy kink.
  • Mr and Mrs Gold: The Gold’s sex lives seem to have traces of this, with various mentions of bondage and power-play in their sex lives. At one point Rose had to walk around town with a scarf to hide severe bruising. When Regina snitched the scarf away, she was forced to confess the truth lest everyone think she was being abused. Hilariously, Granny was the only one not completely miffed by this.
  • A Monster's Marriage:
    • During a game of Risk, Jaune openly admits he plans and taking out Cinder while she's going after Emerald and Mercury.
      Cinder: My knight, you'd rout me from behind?
      Jaune: Well, it certainly wouldn't be the first time.
    • In the sequel, they're shown engaging in bondage and roleplay, only to be interrupted by their daughter.
  • White Sheep (RWBY):
  • Fallout: Equestria:
    • In a memory orb, Littlepip finds Steelhooves teasing Applejack about how she likes to be tied up with own lasso. Not to mention that the reason it comes up at all is because he's trying to convince her to have sex while he's wearing the memory recorder device (that she considers a step too far).
    • In the present, Velvet Remedy convinces Littlepip's girlfriend that Littlepip is into light bondage. She keeps trying to convince everyone it's not true, but no one believes her.

    Films — Live-Action 
  • L.A. Story.
    Sara McDowel: Listen, if I say that sort of thing again, tie me up and gag me.
    Roland Mackey: [her ex-husband] We tried that once, but you started laughing.
  • Exit to Eden takes place on an island where BDSM and Fetishism is the everyday norm. And it's hardly even a real part of the story, more like an exotic background for an ordinary detective story.
  • In Preaching to the Perverted, the main character is sent by a Heteronormative Crusader to infiltrate a BDSM club. As he gets to know the people there, he finds out that they are just ordinary people with unusual sexuality, not any better or worse than anyone else.
  • While most of Secretary averts this trope quite hard, it does pop up twice. In the middle of the movie, Lee is listening to a tape about coming out as a dominant or submissive, assuring the listener that BDSM is a capacity for a wider range of experience. More importantly, the movie has a happy ending where Lee finally gets rid of her fiancée (whom she never wanted, he was pushed on her and she wasn't assertive enough to say no), come out as a masochist and finally demand a real relationship with Edward. Some people are pissed at her, but her father stands by her side and assert that he's proud of her. And finally, Edward overcome his fear and they live happily ever after.
  • There is a quick instance in the movie Forgetting Sarah Marshall where the main character, in an attempt to forget his ex-girlfriend, starts having sex with lots of different women, one of whom is a fairly quiet girl who wouldn't stop saying "hi" to him. He asks if she could stop because it was getting a bit weird. Without missing a beat, she tells him, "You can gag me." As he's left surprised, she explains that she brought a gag with her and some handcuffs too, then asks, "Do you want to gag me?" He finally replies, "Actually, I kind of want to now."
  • Transporter 3. Valentina forces Frank to take off his clothes by threatening to throw away his car keys, saying it's not just men who like striptease.
    Frank: (removing shirt) You know what I'm going to do to you for making me do this?
    Valentina: Spank me.
    Frank: For starters.
    Valentina: Tie me up?
    Frank: You'd like that, wouldn't you?
    Valentina: I like the rough stuff. (Frank grabs her) Not too rough!
  • Casey from We're the Millers likes to be strangled when she makes out with a guy.
  • In 9 to 5, Judy Bernley's ex-husband Dick catches her in Frank Hart's bedroom while she's holding him hostage for blackmail and assumes that she's into BDSM. Judy uses this belief to her advantage in order to get rid of her ex-husband.
  • The Addams Family:
    • Implied with Morticia and Gomez. When interrogated, Morticia compliments the turncoat lawyer stretching her on the rack with "You've done this before!" later, when Gomez is freeing her:
    Gomez: Leather straps, red hot pokers...
    Morticia: Later, my dearest.

    Morticia Don't torture yourself, Gomez... that's my job.
    • Referenced more directly in the sequel, Addams Family Values:
      Morticia: So... you still desire me after all these years? The old ball and chain?
      Gomez: Forever
      Morticia: I'll get them.

      Morticia: To pleasure.
      Gomez: To pain.
      Morticia: Tonight.
  • In Captain Kronos-Vampire Hunter, Kronos's new girlfriend Carla asks him why he's so rough in bed (the only thing we see is him kissing her and biting her lip hard enough to draw blood), but with a tone of casual curiosity rather than any unhappiness about it.
  • In Bring Me the Head of the Machine Gun Woman, the Machine Gun Woman has no issues with having sex with Santiago while tied up,after he has captured her and says that he cannot risk untying her.

    Literature 
  • The Slave World novels sometimes casually mention BDSM play done in Britain's timeline. In the Alternate Timeline, where the Roman Empire never really fell and the story takes place in an England that was never an Empire, much of the everyday social life is kinky - not only to many readers but also to visitors from the first timeline.
  • The Dresden Files:
    • Molly Carpenter's kinks come up in conversation. Justified in that Harry prefers not to think about the sex life of a girl he sees as a surrogate daughter but is worldly enough not to get thrown by, say, hearing about the recreational uses of Wartenberg wheels.
    • Vampire/human relationships end up in this trope quite a lot since White Court vampires have to carefully manage physical contact and Red Court ones have to preemptively act against blood frenzy with human partners. One woman protects her White Court boyfriend from the pain her touch causes him by cultivating an interest in up-market bodysuits, to general approval.
    • Harry gets in on the act when an ex-girlfriend returns. Said ex struggling with vampirism when they do have sex she is tied up with magic rope for mutual safety. This doesn't seem to be Harry's normal taste but it definitely doesn't seem to bother him at all.
  • Doctor Who Expanded Universe: Perhaps surprisingly for a guy who started traveling with the Doctor a few years before the Summer of Love, the Eighth Doctor Adventures' Fitz Kreiner doesn't stop at casually coming out to the reader, he also makes what seems like a semi-sincere crack implying this trope:
    ‘Fitz,’ Anji hissed. ‘Are you telling me you really don’t mind trotting around starkers in a collar and lead?’
    He grinned. ‘Are you kidding?’
  • In Iain M. Banks's Against a Dark Background, main character Sharrow visits a monastery to consult with someone there. This monastery has a practice of everyone inside being chained to tracks in the wall, and visitors are no exception. The monk who is supposed to let her in is a He-Man Woman Hater who makes his displeasure at letting a woman in very clear and tries to find the heaviest and most uncomfortable shackle for her chain he can. While roughly fitting it on her, she smiles and mentions that a lot of people pay good money to get treated like that. He is of course disturbed by this and shuts up. Sharrow does not display any interest in this anywhere else, so she was probably just trying to get under his skin. She does knee the guy in the groin on the way out as payback though.
  • Dana Stabenow's series of detective novels about Kate Shugak are completely blatant but completely matter of fact about Kate's extremely aggressive attitude in bed, and love of scratching and biting her lovers.
  • In A Song of Ice and Fire, Asha Greyjoy is shown engaging in some rape roleplay with her lover.
  • In Confessions of Felix Krull Madame Houpflé is into young, preferably teenaged men, and the idea of being humiliated by Felix Krull, a mere domestic worker and thief, turns her on immensely.
  • Yoruka in Undefeated Bahamut Chronicle. When circumstances force her, the other girls and Lux to sleep together, she misinterprets a request from Lux in the middle of the night as him wanting to have sex right next to the other, sleeping girls. When Lux says that he has to punish hernote , Yoruka waits in a dungeon filled with BDSM equipment, naked save for panties, collar, and handcuffs, and asks him to punish her.

    Live-Action TV 
  • In the Masters of Horror episode "Homecoming", the phone rings while the main characters are having a BDSM session. He answers the phone, but she keeps whipping him a bit just to embarrass him in front of the important political figure he's talking with. Who in turn knows exactly who he's with and what she's doing, and seems completely unsurprised.
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer has several mentions of casual interest in spanking and some dialogue by Anya that strongly implied that she and Xander were practising (mild) BDSM. Nobody ever seemed to mind the idea itself, just the fact that she was talking about her sex life with other people at all was treated as awkward. But on the other hand, the Riley/Faith sex scene in "Who Are You?", and the dialogue around it, strongly implies that BDSM, or any sexual role play, is a way for emotional cripples to evade true intimacy. Joyce and Giles played with handcuffs in "Band Candy" (far Too Much Information for Buffy). Willow mentioned wanting to be spanked on "The I In Team", and Anya in the same episode saying, "Yes, we've enjoyed spanking." Buffy mentioned "a favor" with outfits to Riley in "Family", and Faith said that safe words were for wusses on "Consequences" (technically the last one is not conventional modern BDSM, since it's not safe, sane or consensual, although it could fit under the newer Risk Aware Consensual Kink umbrella).
  • Blair and Chuck's relationship on Gossip Girl involved handcuffs, frequent references to punishment, roleplaying, and the other uses bidding paddles can be put to.
  • Friends:
    • Chandler once dates Rachel's boss, who leaves him handcuffed to a chair because she has to go to a meeting, with hilarity ensuing.
    • In one episode, when Monica gives Chandler a crash course on how to please a woman (before they end up together,) she maps out several erogenous zones and tells him to mix them up and "always keep them on their toes," to which Rachel enthusiastically exclaims, "Ooh, toes!"
    • "The One Where Nobody Proposes" has a joke implying Monica and Chandler have talked about her topping him properly, and "The One With Rachel's Phone Number" has them both into her slapping him.
    • Phoebe and Mike in are hinted to be into bondage and dominance-play; for example, Phoebe insist they take a table tennis bat with them to their hotel room. Or at one point, Chandler finds a pair of fluffy handcuffs and when he asks Phoebe, she complains "these would never be able to cuff a man to a water pipe - they're much too flimsy." When those handcuffs were found, Chandler believed they belonged to all three of the female Friends at different points, until they found pictures of them in use. By Monica's grandmother. To quote Monica, "Nana liked it rough!"
  • In Desperate Housewives, where Rex was the only really sympathetic character in the whole show (which is probably why they killed him off), and his conservative wife's reaction to his kink was portrayed as her willing to go along with it because she loved him, but when she thought he'd bragged she reacted negatively.
  • In an early (pre-Flanderization) episode of Married... with Children, Steve and Marcie tried this, dressing up as a sailor and a prostitute. (Fortunately for them, Al and Peg reluctantly vouched for them when a cop picked them up.)
  • Doctor Who:
    • Implied in a Getting Crap Past the Radar kind of way with Brigadier Bambera and Sir Ancelyn in "Battlefield". Unless you think there's some other interpretation to be put on him asking if she's single the day after their first meeting involved her beating him up and manacling him.
    • In the episode "Forest of the Dead", The Doctor asks what River Song (his future wife, who's living their relationship backwards via Timey-Wimey Ball) is doing with a pair of handcuffs. She grins at him in a very meaningful way and says only, "Spoilers."
    • The handcuffs thing comes up again in "The Eleventh Hour" with Amy Pond, and is not elaborated beyond the implication that she moonlights as a Kissogram (like a Stripogram but with clothes and physical contact) and one of her outfits is a police officer.
    • In "A Christmas Carol", Amy and Rory were in the honeymoon suite of a spaceliner when the ship threatened to crash into a planet. They were dressed as Police-Girl Kissogram and Roman Centurion respectively at the time. While growing up they were also Playing Doctor a lot (interesting given Amy's infatuation with the Doctor; she used to have Rory dress up like him).
    • In a pretty astonishing example of Getting Crap Past the Radar, in the Hartnell story "The Chase", Ian (who has been shown to love dressing up in fancy historical costumes in various stories) asks for Barbara to give him her cardigan as part of a plan, to which she says, "Again?" Ian protests that it's not for him this time. The Expanded Universe picks this up and run with it - the most extreme is probably a scene in Campaign in which Barbara admits in her diary to fantasising about him 'in a rubber dress and stilletos'.
    • When the First Doctor threatens to give Bill 'a jolly good smacked bottom' in "Twice Upon A Time", she thinks this trope is what he meant. It's not, sadly.
  • The Charmed:
    • The episode "The Wendigo" reveals that Phoebe just happens to have a pair of handcuffs lying around... and refuses to admit where she got them.
    • Paige also does this while arming Phoebe for battle in "The Day that Magic Died"
      Paige: Steel-toed boots from my mosh pit days. Chainmail top from my club days. And handcuffs (far-off smile) from last Friday.
  • Mendol Ikemen has an inordinate amount of it, since the manager is not really a lesbian, as well as a whip fetishist, and she and her lover together do some really weird things like licking each other.
  • NCIS:
    • Perky Goth Abby makes frequent casual references to handcuffs, straitjackets, sleeping in coffins, etc, even when talking to apparently straight-laced nerd McGee, making you wonder about just how kinky their relationship got. Her metal "necklace" is also an Eternity Collar. At least once, when she leaves early, she tells them to call if they need her, and if so, to ignore any screaming they hear.
    • Ziva frequently implies she's interested in bondage, but this may just be to tease Tony.
  • House:
    • In "Love Hurts", Dr. Chase is revealed to be into bondage and to be acquainted with a dominatrix, and while he's occasionally ribbed about it, no one thinks he's a weirdo for it. The patient of the week that keeps sneaking his dominatrix lover in to choke him, which turns out to be part of the problem. She isn't being excessive, but his condition makes him more fragile than should be expected. House goes to forbid them from doing it again and they seem to be ready to fight him, thinking he'd be a Moral Guardian, but his reaction is basically "Eh, just buy a cage. That should be fine". However, the patient's parents won't speak to him because they believe he humiliated them as everybody they know knows about his 'perversion' (in his father's words).
    • In "Clueless" where the husband has an attack while going into rough stuff with his wife, others wonder about their dark rape-fantasy role-plays but they're eventually okay with that even impressed that they're both into threesome. Even Dr. Cameron, usually a wide-eyed idealist, thinks it's an interesting way to show trust in their relationship. However, it turns out his wife has been poisoning him with a gold-based compound.
  • In CSI with the character of Lady Heather, a highly intelligent, articulate, and urbane dominatrix who was briefly one of Grissom's love interests. For the most part, she was portrayed as a generally good, decent person.
  • Female protagonist Beckett in Castle is shown to be interested in BDSM, immediately identifying a specially-made pair of handcuffs and the shop which it probably came from. Castle's safe word is "apples", while Lanie has mentioned at one crime scene that she likes whipped cream, but won't do caramel.
  • In Sugar Rush, the main character tried spanking, which was portrayed as normal, though the person who suggested it turned out to be unfaithful.
  • Gordon and Sheila, two happily married Middle Englanders played by Rob Brydon and Julia Davis in “Human Remains” run a very traditional B&B…with a swingers’ dungeon in the attic. They move forward their planned remodel of their playspace when the local DIY shop has an unexpected wallpaper sale.
  • In Coupling Jeff and his girl-friend are shown to engage in bondage in one episode where it is played for Hilarity Ensues rather than for moral disapproval.
  • Star Trek: Deep Space Nine:
    • Quark is discussing Klingons and says, "Spare me from beings who think pain is pleasure. [beat] In small doses, perhaps..." Despite ostensibly believing in traditional Ferengi values, it's hinted that Quark does get off on aggressive alien females. When a leather-clad Ezri Dax from the Mirror Universe walks into his quarters and puts a knife to his throat, Quark thinks it's kinky roleplay and is quite eager to play along.
    • "Looking for par'Mach in All the Wrong Places": Worf and Jadzia and Quark and Grilka (a Klingon woman he is in a relationship with) come into the infirmary with some pretty substantial injuries. Poor Dr. Bashir decides that he is going to stop asking how his patients managed to injure themselves because he really doesn't need those images in his head.
    • In the episode "Let He who is without Sin...", in which it's casually dropped that Worf's and Jadzia's happy, consensual sexplay has been known to lead to broken ribs. Some way past Safe, Sane, and Consensual if you're human, although knowing Klingon customs, it's likely normal as Klingons see a broken collarbone on their wedding night as a blessing on the union. Broken ribs can be repaired very easily in the series.
  • Jade from Victorious just happens to enjoy pain and likes seeing her boyfriend getting smacked around by Cat, and isn't afraid to offhandedly mention that.
  • Fiona on Burn Notice has been known to invoke this, mainly to mess with Michael's head. In one instance, she picked up a pair of handcuffs (intended for use in one of Michael's plans) and asked him, "Where have you been keeping these?" Poor Mike nearly lost his grip on his power drill. No, his actual power drill.
  • Crops up from time to time in How I Met Your Mother. Lily happily admits to enjoying spanking, and in one episode she and Robin walk in on Barney, who is having trouble getting loose after having been tied to the bed by his one-night stand. We also know what Barney and Robin's safe word is, implying they're into some kinkier stuff. One episode has Robin
  • Stella: Paula and Dai Kosh have had a very Casual Kinky sex life since 1989.
  • Played with (nonsensically) in Joking Apart, where the main character finds handcuffs at his girlfriend's house, tries them on as a joke, and then realises he can't get out of them. He awkwardly attempts to hide this while his girlfriend explains that an ex-boyfriend of hers, who she describes as being a disgusting pervert, bought her a pair of handcuffs once expecting her to be into it. When she discovers that the main character is handcuffed, however, she immediately changes her mind and mounts him for a kiss. Probably Author Appeal, since the writer was Steven Moffat.
  • On Broad City, when Abbi finally hooks up with her neighbor Jeremy and asks to change positions (meaning her on top), he pulls out a strap-on for her to use. She freaks out and calls Ilana, who tells her to go for it. Their relationship ends when she accidentally ruins the strap-on by putting it in the dishwasher and buys another one that he isn't pleased with.
  • Cesare's first appearance in season two of Borgia is tied to a chair.
  • New Girl:
    • Schmidt has mentioned his interest in breathplay, signed a sex contract with his amateur-dominatrix boss, and was seen hogtied on the kitchen counter by Jessica's sister, Abby.
    • When Jessica got nervous about having sex with a new person for the first time in seven years, she throws herself into some ill-advised lingerie, role-playing, and breathplay, which ended up scaring Paul away for the night, although he was willing to try again for her.
    • Because Schmidt blamed Jessica and Nick for the end of his relationships with Cece and Elizabeth, he tried to ruin theirs by convincing Jess to perform a purposely vague, but apparently frightening sex act, called "The Captain," with Nick.
  • Person of Interest. Done as part of the ongoing Homoerotic Subtext between two female Token Evil Teammates Root and Shaw, who for various plot-related reasons would get stunned with tasers or zip-tied and hooded by the other.
  • On Young & Hungry, Sofia begins dating her upstairs neighbor who is in a rock band. She ends up with temporary deafness and accidentally agrees to do...something. When she tries to indirectly ask him what it is, she assumes that it's some sort of freaky sex act (never outright said, but heavily implied to involve the use of a strap-on). Turns out that he's not into that...he only wants her to pour hot wax on his nipples.
  • The Musketeers has a kinky sex scene between Athos and Sylvie that involves her disarming him at gunpoint and tying him up before having sex with him. The sole reason for this is to create a Pseudo Crisis by making the audience briefly think that he's seriously in danger until it's revealed who the other person is.
  • Several characters on Leverage are implied to be kinky:
    • In "The Mile High Job," Nate and Sophie (who are posing as a married couple) steal another passenger's luggage as their own to board a plane. The TSA officer finds handcuffs and a whip in the carry-on: Sophie says the whip is for her and the handcuffs are for Nate.
    • In "The Cross My Heart Job," Eliot sarcastically asks if Sophie has handcuffs in her purse to restrain a Mook: Sophie replies, "Not on this trip."
    • In "The Two Live Crew Job," Eliot tricks his hitter counterpart, Mikel, into getting close enough to him that he can handcuff her to him. Later she holds up the handcuffs shyly while sitting with him at a bar, the implication being that she wants to use them.

    Music 
  • "Even If the End Is Near" by Evan Greer, a bittersweet song about love in a time of climate change and ecological collapse, contains this verse, out of the blue:
    Sometimes the sunsets somewhat terrify me
    They're beautiful and colorful, but not the way they used to be
    When the scariest statistics are racing through my head
    At least I know when I get home you'll tie me to the bed
  • The Jethro Tull song "Hunting Girl" is all over this. It was even inspired when then-basest John Glascock was going through his luggage and the other band members noticed he travels with a riding crop.
    Boot leather flashing and spur necks the size of my thumb
    This high-born hunter had tastes as strange as they come
    Come
  • Parodied in "Weird Al" Yankovic's "Such A Groovy Guy":
    Oh and then I might decide to tie you up with dental floss
    I'll make you wear a harness and I'll show you who's the boss

    Podcasts 
  • Wooden Overcoats: It doesn't come up much, but Georgie has a bit of a masochistic streak. When she meets the sexy Russian ringmaster at the circus, she's very excited by the fact that she carries a whip and keeps all her subordinates under her thumb. Antigone has to exasperatedly remind her that they're there on business.
    Antigone: [to the ringmaster] Have a discount, or a free gift! Take something — anything!
    Georgie: Take me.

    Video Games 
  • In World of Warcraft, your goblin female character sometimes say: "I'm a free spirit. I don't like to be tied down. Wait, you meant literally? Oh, I'm totally into that!". Characters of certain other race-gender combos also say things that can be interpreted in a similar direction, but they are less obvious about it.
    • The male goblin even references the female goblin tendency for this:
    "Yeah, so she told me to tie her up and do whatever I wanted to her. So I took her stereo."
    • It seems VERY obvious that the Pandaren have a fat fetish. Flirts and jokes from BOTH genders mention things about someone needing to gain weight, or they themselves need to gain weight. Even the females!
    • Ever wonder why Draenei females have so few unique voice lines? It's because several of them leaned too hard into this trope and got removed! A full list here (Potentially NSFW text).
  • In Star Wars: The Old Republic if the Sith Warrior marries Vette she'll later mention very suggestively that she's kept her old shock collar before the scene fades to black.
  • Implied in the relationship between romanced Garrus and female Shepard in the Citadel DLC of Mass Effect 3, in which they roleplay a first date and swap some suggestive dialogue before partaking in a Mating Dance. This scene sent many shippers squeeing.
    • Speculated by Jack, in her usual way, if Garrus and Shepard are together and, together, liberate Grissom Academy. It should be noted that Shepard cannot protest the following assessment:
    Garrus: "As charming as ever..."
    Jack: "Bite me, Garrus. Better yet, bite her - probably how she likes it."
  • The Mark of the Assassin DLC for Dragon Age II has dialogue revealing potential Love Interest Anders (if you romanced him and brought him along) to have a kinky bondage/role-playing fantasy involving himself chained up. He points out that you are currently in a prison which has chains in it...
    • There is also Isabela, who when told by Anders that she is right about something tries to deflect it humorously by replying: "Chains? Whipped Cream? Always be on top?". Whether this is just for humour is not revealed, but then again this is Isabela we are talking about.
    • There's also a conversation between the two early in the game where they realize they'd met before at an orgy, and she recognizes him as being the guy who did "that thing with the electricity."
    • Dragon Age: Inquisition plays this far straighter if the Inquisitor enters a relationship with Iron Bull. He gives the Inquisitor a Safe Word and explains he will never do anything the Inquisitor doesn't want. For his/her part, the Inquisitor certainly seems to like it when Bull spanks him/her before initiating a kiss. If neither he or Dorian are romanced they'll hook up and both adopt a habit of casually mentioning their relationship being of a similar nature.
  • There's a lot of this going around in the Saints Row series, but Kinzie of Saints Row: The Third and Saints Row IV takes the cake. Her tastes are apparently a little too much even for the Boss, who can proposition Asha with the line, "I'm looking for rough sex and Kinzie scares the crap out of me." (When Kinzie herself is propositioned, she socks the Boss in the jaw before leaping enthusiastically into his/her arms.)
    • Not that Kinzie doesn't have her limits — when propositioned to be a prostitute, her response is to flatly state her safeword.
  • Zig-zagged in Senran Kagura. Ryobi is a psychotic sadist, and Ryona is out-of-her-gourd masochistic. The two often indulge each other with sexual overtones, despite being fraternal twin sisters. On one hand, this freaks a lot of people out; on the other, Hebijo's questionable recruitment practices mean Ax-Crazy students almost have an advantage in climbing the ranks, and in their story mode it's shown their squadmates just see it as something they have to put up with.
  • One of the many conversations featured in Coffee Talk involves a rather frank discussion of kink. Hyde (a vampire) tells Gala (a werewolf) how he's heard that some werewolves use BDSM as a means of calming themselves during their monthly transformations, to which Gala matter-of-factly replies that's only something that ever happens in porn, though vanilla sex as a calming method is actually fairly common. Gala lightly ribs Hyde about the fairly obvious implication that he was watching werewolf porn, telling him it's okay if he's into "that sort of thing." Hyde quickly claims that he just heard about it from a friend... Hyde and Gala's true ending, which involves Hyde presenting a flustered Gala with a fuzzy pair of handcuffs, implies otherwise.

    Web Animation 
  • Salad Fingers is big on this - the main character himself is a rust fetishist, looking for rusty spoons to caress. As surreal as these stories are, his fetishism serves to make him seem less alien and inhuman.

    Web Comics 
  • El Goonish Shive never really goes into adult territory, but it has a ton of this. Multiple characters express interest in shrinking (particularly through a magical soda), Tedd has a furry fetish, Susan gets aroused when her lesbian friend kisses a guy she has a crush on, and Ashley "likes" transformation stuff.
  • Collar 6 is set in an Alternate History where BDSM became commonplace and it's perfectly acceptable, for example, to walk in a public park in latex with your collared personal slave on a leash.
  • In Fans!, Rikk, Aly, and Rumy have been seen engaging in some light bondage on occasion, with Aly as the dominatrix.
  • Ménage à 3: It's at least hinted on occasion that several of the characters regard a little light BDSM as a perfectly normal part of enjoyable sex. This is certainly true of Yuki, who positively enjoys being tied up at least once (strip #212, October 14, 2009), and talks about candles in a way that worries Gary (strip #645, September 13, 2012) — and Zii doesn't seem to have been unhappy with that side of their past relationship. A more complicated instance appears when Yuki ties DiDi up and spanks her, for (supposedly) non-sexual reasons; to judge by her facial expressions and subsequent reactions, DiDi may come very close to discovering a submissive side there. (See strips 613 & 614, June 14 & 16, 2012)
  • In Scandinavia and the World, Finland is the submissive to Sister Sweden's Dominatrix. Denmark tries to get the same "attention" in one strip, but fails.
  • The wife in this (NSFW) Perry Bible Fellowship comic is startled, but recovers heartwarmingly quickly.
  • From Housepets! Squeak is a mouse who likes being stepped on by cats. In one comic this saves her life when a cat trying to catch and eat her is grossed out by her reaction and lets her go. Her boyfriend Joey is a dog who likes to wear a catsuit, which is treated similarly to both cross-dressing and fursuiting. Their relationship is also weird due to the huge size difference between them.
  • Girl Genius:
    • This is hinted at but not explicitly stated - Gil has a book entitled In the Seraglio of the Iron Sheik, a seraglio being a harem, which his friend and manservant refers to as "a favourite" - implying that Gil's favourite porn is a harem and by extension a slave-girl fantasy.
    • Referenced again by Violetta after Agatha's locket is removed yet again, allowing her evil and world-conquering mother to take over her body and try and kill everyone.
      Agatha: Maybe I'd better just weld it onto an iron ring?
      Violetta: Don't be ridiculous. A good solid lock will do fine. Sheesh. Whose adolescent slave-girl fantasies are we indulging here, anyway?
    • It's been heavily suggested that Tarvek's fantasies about Agatha (and possibly also Gil's) actually involve Agatha being the more dominant one in the relationship.
      Agatha: [to a minion] Tremble and obey!
      Tarvek: [flirting] Ooh, ooh, say it to me!
      Agatha: No. You wouldn't do it anyway.
      Tarvek: I might...
    • It's very clear that Theo going into The Madness Place - a highly charismatic, extremely unpredictable mental state that sometimes leads to the people around the Mad Scientist being turned into beetles - is a major turn-on for Sleipnir.
      Sleipnir: Oooh! Now that's the brilliantly sparky beast I ran off with!
      Theo: Care to assist me?
      Sleipnir: Rwowr!
  • In Questionable Content, growing up as the son of a famous dominatrix and fetish model leaves Marten with absolutely no hang-ups about kinks, although he limits himself to no-nonsense technical advice rather than participating personally.
  • In Belzebubs, Sløth and Lucyfer's sex life is still very much active, their foreplay involving dirty talk (usually involves threats of disembowlment) and roleplaying (Sløth dressing up as a priest and trying to exorcize a demon from his wife).

    Web Original 
  • The Nostalgia Critic:
    • The Critic has no problem admitting he'd be happy for the Chicago women to kill him, as long as they were playing "The Cellblock Tango".
    • Devil Boner and Hyper are as happily kinky as they can be, tying up Critic for kinks and giggles, her kissing his penis gun, and references to puppy play.
  • One of the healers in Guts and Sass: An Anti-Epic, Litin, is an empowered, self-confident masochist. He likes to get beat up, in and out of sex, and no one makes a big deal about it.
  • One of the few things Spoony likes about Final Fantasy VIII is Quistis, who he finds attractive. When Squall seems to ignore her, Spoony exclaims "She's 18 years old and whips people! I have to go to Tijuana and pay for women like that to pay attention to me!"
  • In Death Note: The Abridged Series (kpts4tv) Light apparently fantasizes about getting kidnapped by a hot guy in leather. You can blame Raye Penber for the stalking fantasy and Ryuk for the leather fetish.

    Western Animation 
  • Family GuyPeter might not be very "good" or "heroic" most of the time, but the sex he has with Lois is almost always presented as a mutually loving and kinky relationship; they're even seen discussing their day-to-day lives moments before they suit up and Lois cheerfully informs Peter that "the Safe Word is banana".
    Peter: I love you.
    [Lois zips his mask and knocks him to the bed]
  • Callie of Ugly Americans...but what did you expect from the literal spawn of Satan?
  • The eponymous character of Dan Vs. hints rather un-subtly in one episode that he'd like his friend Chris to eat off of him. This is passed off as nothing and dropped for the remainder of the episode.
    Dan: Ahh, so clean you could eat off me. [meaningful look]
    Chris: I'm not going to do that.
    Dan: I'm just saying you could..!
    Chris: Well, I'm not going to.
    Dan: FINE! [slams fist and pouts]
  • The Simpsons has some of this from time to time. (Marge was once turned on by Homer's "Mr. Plow" jacket.)
  • Bob's Burgers sees Bob and Linda engage in this from time to time, or at least try to, from simple things like "love dice" to light roleplay or wearing odd accessories to bed like Bob's "Spi-Ceps". The episode "It Snakes A Village" is entirely about Linda's parents Al and Gloria moving into a retirement community full of elderly, kink-friendly swingers.

Alternative Title(s): Heroic BDSM

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