When a male and female character spend a lot of time bickering, it is all but inevitable that sooner or later he will interrupt her in mid-rant by suddenly grabbing her and kissing her. (Less frequently, she grabs and kisses him.) The kissed one rarely resists, and usually responds wholeheartedly.
Usually this is triggered by their hostilities reaching a climax that results in an exchange of slaps, followed by a moment where both stare at each other in combined confusion and shock, after which they dive into the kiss.
Either way, the kiss prompts both to realize that they've been in love all this time — the rationale being that they wouldn't argue so much if they didn't give a damn about each other. Normally results in some kind of permanent change in their relationship.
The concept is related to the theory that hate is not necessarily the opposite of love so much as its twisted twin; its opposite would be apathy. Ergo, lots of contained emotion towards a person might be translated into lust given the proper catalyst. Pulled off successfully, it can be... quite satisfying. Otherwise, not so much.
This trope is a major factor in Foe Yay Shipping since such arguments between those characters in the actual shows are often similar to examples of this trope (or even get Why Don't You Marry It? reactions). It should be noted that in Real Life it's not exactly a sign of a healthy relationship, with the exception of a little roleplay between consenting adults.
Compare "Shut Up" Kiss, Love at First Punch, Belligerent Sexual Tension, "Take That!" Kiss, Vitriolic Best Buds, and Destructo-Nookie. Often considered in similar terms to Foe Romance Subtext. Tsunderes are often involved on at least one end.
- Deconstructed in Neon Genesis Evangelion with a scene where Shinji and Asuka kiss which was actually a heartbreakingly epic and twisted failure of communications for both of them contributing to Asuka's mental breakdown and Shinji's Despair Event Horizon. They are attracted to each other but both fear rejection, so Shinji doesn't dare believe it's anything more than just a way to pass the time and Asuka pinches his nose (ostensibly because his breathing is bothering her) to get at least some kind of reaction out of him and to ensure some kind of "plausible deniability" of her own emotions in the face of possible rejection. And rejection is what she reads from his passiveness even if he doesn't mean it as such, because he doesn't understand there to be anything to accept or reject... mostly because her words and actions just then and there give him no reason to actually think so! So after seeing Shinji's reaction (that is, gasping for air, not hugging or comforting her) she ran into the bathroom, making gargling noises as a front. Shinji is left feeling even worse.
- Black Lagoon's seventh episode is a fight between Rock and Revy which cumulates with Rock punching her, Revy shooting him in the face, and the two making of by kissing through their cigarettes.
- In Blue Drop, Hagino and Mari's huge fight at the school's swimming pool results in both of them landing in the water and exchanging a kiss — probably, since that moment is obscured by lots of bubbles.
- Gokinjo Monogatari A kiss directly follows a bitchslap, which the heroine's given her somewhat tactless lover.
- Durarara!!: Celty punches Shinra who knocks her helmet off, and then the two hug.
- In Wild Rose, Kiri is angry about being forced to become a servant and purposefully riles up Mikhail. This very quickly leads to sex.
- Lawrence and Holo from Spice and Wolf in the last episode of season 2. Lawrence shows up to redeem Holo from being collateral from a deal gone bad. Cue strangle attempt, a mean-sounding right hook, and the obligatory Love Confession. A few self-deprecating lines, a kick to the torso, a snappy one-liner, and then the kiss. All to cheesy violin music.
- This applies to almost every interaction between Michel and Bird's Nest in Copernicus Breathing, most notably when Bird's Nest confuses Michel Bohringer with his dead little brother Michel. Again, Incest Subtext. This also happens when Michel finds Bird's Nest's stash of drugs and Bird's Nest attempts to get them back, which ends in some more Incest Subtext as well as some flash backing to BrotherSister Incest.
- A Cruel God Reigns: Happens between Jeremy and Ian when Jeremy is hallucinating that Greg is following him after recounting all the times he was sexually abused to Ian. It winds up with biting, kissing, and Intimate Psychotherapy.
- Sunako Nakahara and Kyouhei Takano from The Wallflower have their first kiss after dissing each other's faults for a good page or so.
- Itazura Na Kiss: Kotoko's First Kiss with Naoki happens after they've just humiliated each other in front of their respective classes and Naoki plants a "Take That!" Kiss.
- In Frank Miller's All-Star Batman & Robin, the Boy Wonder, Wonder Woman is characterized as a man-hating shrew, someone who thinks men do nothing but destroy the planet and even calling some random onlooker in the street a "sperm-bank". She meets up with the rest of the Justice League, including Superman and, after saying that she hates their guts (several times, using the same wording) she suddenly starts making out with Supes. After that, she returns to her ultra-radical feminist self with no explanation given for the two heroes suddenly massaging each others' tonsils.
- Deadpool and Shiklah, big time. This happens 3 times over the course of one volume. In fact, it's a revolving door of this trope, combined with Kiss-Kiss-Slap. Just because their fights end with sex doesn't mean they've made up and resolved their issues. The sex just a temporary truce.
- Shiklah physically attacks Wade for being a bad husband and not doing the monstrous things he used to. He grabs her and says he'll show her something monstrous. They're shown lying in bed, while Shiklah smiles and Wade says that should shut her up a while.
- On Valentine's day, Shiklah is still not happy with him -stabbing him in the neck at one point. He tells her to just take control and do what she wants with him. They're shown in bed together again.
- Finally, they end up going to war with one another and Shiklah marries someone else and attacks Wade when he protests. When we see them again, they're both half-naked after having sex again.
- A frequent move of Catwoman's when she goes up against Batman. The final issue (#82) of one of her series is just one example.
- In Boy Meets Hero by Chayne Avery and Russell Garcia, villain Cold Snap and her protege 'Zack Savage' get a moment like this, hurling insults, complete with "Are you as turned on as I am?" "More!", at which point she jumps on him and they start kissing.
- Scrooge McDuck and Glittering Goldie in the Don Rosa story The Prisoner of White Agony Creek, pictured. Of course, this zig-zags right to Kiss-Kiss-Slap, as she promptly punches him. The action cuts to outside the cabin, where there are sound effects of yelling and crashing — and then, suddenly, silence. Wyatt Earp and Bat Masterson attempt to rush in, shouting, "They killed each other!" but the more Genre Savvy Judge Roy Bean prevents them from ruining the moment.
- It's even more so with Donald Duck's parents in The Invader of Fort Duckburg.
- Must be something in the family, Donald and Daisy also have these scenes fairly regularly.
- Runaways: In the first run's final issue, everyone meets up months after the confrontation with their parents. When Gert sees Chase (who she'd given the Kiss of Life to previously) she slaps him and demands to know why he's been off the radar and never got in touch with any of them. He explains that he was busy looking for Gert's pet dinosaur. "And I found her." Gert grabs him and kisses him.
- A nice variant in ElfQuest. Near the end of the first volume, Leetah and Cutter try one more time to reconcile but fail (narration: "Once more a wall of anger rises between them"). Cutter breaks down and turns away crying, half decided that he needs to go away to escape the heartbreak. Then Leetah simply speaks his soul name, the ultimate expression of intimacy among elves (and definitely the equivalent of a kissnote in this context), and an implied acceptance of him as her "lifemate".
Leetah: Tam...? (embraces him) You are trembling...
- Katie's dynamic with Andrew in Seconds; one minute they are insulting each other's food and the next they are making out in the walk-in.
- In the short-lived Penthouse ComiX line, this happened every time (which was Once an Episode) Captain Adventure and Hericane met; insults, then fighting, usually leveling one or more city blocks in the process, and eventually ending in rather intense and destructive intimacy, often resulting in far more property damage. (Hericane seemed to be turned on by violence, regardless of whether she was on the giving or receiving end.)
- In a Supergirl Annual, the titular heroine punches Brainiac 5 across the room when he's being a bigger jerkass than usual. Five minutes later she kisses him.
- Wonder Woman (1987): Circe and Ares' romance once they're both out of the disguises they'd been in when they first started and meet back up after Ares takes their daughter from the Amazons, has a definite hostile yet attracted to each other element. It's odd since Ares is usually nicer to his romantic interests than he is to most folk, but makes sense for Circe who is trying to reclaim her former status as someone who hates everyone save for her daughter.
- A Crown of Stars: In chapter 50 Asuka and Shinji did the Kouji/Sayaka routine. First they talked. Then they argued. Then they fought physically. Then they kissed. Then they made love.
- Essentially every fanfiction written in the verse of BBC's Sherlock set after The Reichenbach Fall. Usually a manifestation of the authors unable to decide whether, upon Sherlock's reveal that he's not actually dead, John Watson will punch him in the face or passionately kiss him. Hooray for compromises?
- In The Vow, Shen and Lianne have their First Kiss only after they end up arguing heatedly about their feelings.
- In Thousand Shinji, Asuka almost gets herself killed when she fights Sandalphon, getting Shinji angry and frightened enough to slap her and yell at her. When she laughs it off, he cries and asks her to kiss him. She obliged him.
- The Miraculous Ladybug fic Something in the Night has the two heroes being reunited seven years after Ladybug failed to show up to a planned meeting in the park, where they would have revealed their identities. Chat Noir is not in the mood to listen to her explanation, though he does allow her to spend the night in his apartment to prevent the police from tracking her down. The tension between them becomes especially heated after she happens to mention living in New York recently, leading to a shouting match as she continues to insist that she didn't stand him up on purpose.
Ladybug: How many times do I have to tell you!? (takes a step closer to him for emphasis) It was an accident! I tried to get to the park, but everything from that day on went wrong.
Chat Noir: Quit yanking me around! I don't know what to believe anymore. I can't do this!
(Ladybug opens her mouth to reply when Chat Noir leans forward and kisses her, leading into a consensual but somewhat aggressive sex scene in the side-story, Burning in the Night.)
- Earth's Alien History:
- Kauri swears revenge on Mala for killing her sister during a Klingon raid on an Amazon colony. However, they keep finding themselves forced to fight together against Collectors and other Reaper agents, and grow a grudging respect for each other as time goes by. By the time of the actual Reaper War, that respect has turned to love.
- Ursa, the Klingon Pathfinder on the Andromeda mission, and Pelessaria, the Klingons' Asari scientific advisor, constantly bicker and get on each other's nerves. And as their plotline goes on, it becomes apparent that they're in love, they just don't realize it yet.
- Fate/Black Dawn: Shirou's relationship with Morgan le Faye starts out this way, with Shirou repeatedly making her angry enough for her to be interested. This culminates when they fight about Mordred, and Morgan flat-out tries to kill him, but he ultimately calms her down by grappling her into an impromptu hug and kissing her neck. After that, they're mostly Sickeningly Sweethearts, but in the sequel, Morgan mentions that he gets a lot more violent when he's jealous, which she enjoys.
- Hiccup and Astrid in How to Train Your Dragon, at the end of the movie.
Astrid: (punches Hiccup) That's for scaring me!
Hiccup: Oh wha- wait, what is it always going to be this way? 'Cause... (Astrid grabs him and kisses him deeply) ...I could get used to it.
- A rather extreme example is used very briefly early in the film Ratatouille. When Remy is running through the walls of an apartment building, we briefly see a woman holding a man at gunpoint as he runs by; a shot goes off, narrowly missing Remy, who goes back to investigate. The two struggle over the gun briefly before they passionately kiss one another. Those French...
- Ginger and Rocky in Chicken Run; Ginger slaps him for having deserted the hens on the farm and not having the guts to confess he couldn't teach them to fly... Then kisses him for coming back after dumping the cruel farmers for good.
- The controversial Batman/Batgirl sex scene in Batman: The Killing Joke happens after a terse argument between the two of them causes Barbara Gordon attack Batman, resulting in a Suggestive Collision.
- Lockout has this between (ex)CIA-Agent Snow and Emilie Warnock at the end of the movie. She arrives, they banter, and then when you think they are going to kiss she punches him in the face. He admits that "for a second there I thought you were going to kiss me" at which point she smiles, turns, and walks away. And he follows...and more banter ensues....sexual banter...
- Father Goose does this. The first time, Leslie Caron slaps Cary Grant, he calmly slaps her back, and she dissolves in tears and runs away. The second time, she slaps him, he slaps her back, she slaps him back ... cut to Trevor Howard, reaction to the news that they want to be married.
- In Brüno, the titular character adapts the alias of "Straight Dave" and becomes an MMA fighter. At one match, his scorned former assistant/ex-boyfriend shows up and proceeds to give him a No-Holds-Barred Beatdown, which soon turns into make-up sex, much to the redneck audience's horror and disgust.
- Taken to a ridiculous extreme by Mr. & Mrs. Smith (2005). The two main characters practically demolish a house with gunfire in an attempt to kill each other. They then proceed to punch, kick and smash objects onto each other, demolishing even more furniture in the process, until they grab their weapons again and get to a Mexican Standoff. Surprising nobody, little time passes before they put down the guns and start kissing and ripping each other's clothes off. They then proceed to demolish even more of the house...
- In Whitecoats, this is done without the will they or won't they, in this case the Slaps were a fistfight where they gave as good as they got, with the rest of the cast trying to pull them apart. It ended when they started making out.
- Iron Man:
- An argument between Tony Stark and Christine Everheart cuts directly to them having sex. However, this is a one-night stand and isn't a set-up for a relationship.
- The more subdued scene later on with Tony and Pepper is more standard but still ends up subverted when it inspires Pepper not to sleep with her boss but to mull over just how screwed-up her relationship with him is. Later played straight when they get together in Iron Man 2.
- Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade has a classic example of this: Indy and Elsa are arguing. Indy goes on about how "Since I met you, I've nearly been incinerated, drowned, shot at, and chopped into fish bait" blah blah, then Elsa pulls Indy into a kiss then, to his confusion, yells at him for it before kissing him again. Considering she's actually The Mole, it seems like she's done her research about the other women he's been in relationships with and thus based her seduction on it.
- The Lone Ranger (2012) with Armie Hammer features a scene where Armie and Ruth Wilson are on a horse, she slaps him and then kisses him.
- Enchanted: Giselle is first turned on by Robert when he makes her feel angry for the first time in her life.
- Played straight in Lethal Weapon 3, where Riggs and Lorna end up kissing after the infamous "my scar is bigger" contest.
- The Singles Ward has another classic example, where Jonathan and Cammie, after having gotten off to a rough start, get into an argument in the kitchen, during a party at his house. They criticize and mock each other, stepping ever closer together, until a friend walks in to find them making out.
- Outlander has a rather non-standard use of this. Kainan knocks Freya unconscious during his attempted escape. The following morning, Freya gives him a good sock upside the head in return. Freya warms up to Kainan after hearing that he killed a bear all by himself. By the end of the film, they're married.
- In Gangs of New York, Jenny and Amderstam insult each other which escalates into a physical fight with slapping, punching, grappling, clawing, and even try to bite, followed up with a kiss".
- The parents in The Ref. Although it's more like get into an argument and then almost kiss.
- In Moonstruck the two leads get into a verbal fight, knock over a table, and then kiss. But hey, they're Italian-Americans, that's normal for them.
- The Great Leslie and Maggie DuBois in The Great Race. He kisses her, she slaps him. When he kisses her again later, in the next scene they're in a car with a "Just Married" sign on it.
- Maverick. Maverick's relationship with Annabell Bransford. They argue and fight throughout the film and end up in bed together near the end.
- The Princess Diaries 2: Nicholas and Mia start arguing near the fountain and begin hitting each other with fans while shouting out "I loathe you!" (in a way that it makes it sound like "I love you!") before Nicholas then violently grabs Mia into a kiss. At first, Mia kisses him back and even pops her foot. However, she breaks the kiss in pure shock and they both fall into the fountain as they continue bickering.
- Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon: Jen and Lo take this Serial Escalation, crossing the desert twice, patching up twice, and beating each other senseless, until...
- In Random Hearts, Harrison Ford and Kristin Scott Thomas have discovered that their spouses were having an affair (they were killed in a plane crash on the way to a romantic rendezvous). He's obsessed with finding out all the details while she just wants to let it go. They're arguing about this and she's slapping and shoving him when he abruptly grabs and kisses her, shocking both of them.
- In Night at the Museum, the second movie Manic Pixie Dream Girl and Genki Girl Amelia Earhart playfully plays on it, slapping repeatedly Larry to get his attention and then planting a passionate kiss on his lips.
- In the Italian Film Il 7 e l'8 (The seven and the eight), near the end, the resident Jerk with a Heart of Gold gets a passionate proposal from the resident Ice Queen. He initially flatly refuses, blaming the girl for her icy demeanour and bad manners, until she slaps him. After that, he suddenly and abruptly kisses her.
- It's played with in Grosse Pointe Blank where Martin and Debi are kissing and Debi stops the make-out session and says something is missing, then slaps Martin across the face before going back to kissing and proceeding to have sex
- Dame Vaako and her husband in The Chronicles of Riddick. He slaps her, she tries to attack him, they have sex. Further, a line of dialogue indicates that this is not only "normal" behavior for the both of them, but it's also considered foreplay.
- Return to Me: Grace slaps Bob, then apologizes and kisses him.
- Thor: The Dark World. When Thor makes his first appearance after leaving her two years ago, Jane Foster slaps him then apologizes, explaining she's just checking that he's real given the Reality Is Out to Lunch events she's just witnessed. She then slaps him for not coming back to her, despite turning up in New York. When Thor comes up with a reasonable excuse, they lean in for the inevitable kiss...then Darcy provides a Moment Killer.
- 22 Jump Street: Humorously subverted when Mercedes and Schmidst almost kiss while punching each other, then start arguing about it while making a reference to Mr. & Mrs. Smith (2005). It gets even more awkward for them when they throw themselves on the bed as if they are about to have sex.
- Mystery of the Wax Museum: At the end of Florence's and her editor's bickering, he suddenly proposes her and she accepts.
- An Invoked Trope in The Assignment (1997). A Doppelgänger of Carlos the Jackal is being trained to impersonate the charismatic terrorist, including a former lover instructing him on Carlos' domineering sexual technique.
Carla: Take off your clothes. (looking down) You're smaller than him.
Annibal: (awkward laugh) Really...
Carla: (Armor-Piercing Slap) That's what he would have done if I had said something like that. Without a moment's hesitation. What's wrong with you? No eres ni hombre!
(She goes to slap him again — Annibal hits first knocking Carla across the room.)
Annibal: Look I--I'm sorry, I--
Carla: Shut up! Come to me, come on...kiss where you hit. (Annibal tries to kiss her lips — she turns her face away) Kiss where the blood is. Spread it on my lips so I taste it...
- The Car: Road to Revenge: Rainer and Daria have an emotionally charged conversation about their lost loved ones. At the end of it, Rainer invites Daria to hit him (as a way of testing her combat skills). He catches the punch, and then the two of them kiss and fall into bed. Doubles as Glad-to-Be-Alive Sex, as they have just survived an attack from the homicidal automobile.
- At the end of Prairie Fever, Preston and Abigale are travelling back to Clearwater when Olivia, who they had left in Carson City, catches up with them. Preston and Olivia start their usual argument when Preston suddenly grabs her and kisses her. When he releases her, Olivia slaps him and then grabs him and kisses him. Shipper on Deck Abigale watches all of this with a huge smile on her face.
- This situation very accurately describes the relationship between Aravis and Prince Cor in The Horse and His Boy:
Aravis also had many quarrels (and, I'm afraid, even fights) with Cor, but they always made it up again: so that years later, when they were grown up, they were so used to quarrelling and making it up again that they got married so as to go on doing it more conveniently.
- Alluded to in the prequels to Eddings' The Belgariad. The heirs of Astur and Mimbre were Locked in a Room "to kill each other without disturbing honest people", with the sole purpose of having them accept marriage.
- Pretty much defines the relationship between Garion and Ce'Nedra.
- Elizabeth Bennet and Mr. Darcy in Pride and Prejudice are often cited as this — a scene where the two of them argue about what the other's worst qualities are makes Darcy's Clingy Jealous Girl Caroline Bingley worried enough to try to distract them with the piano... which just leads to more UST. However, the Slap-Slap-Kiss feelings are actually only coming from Darcy. Elizabeth genuinely DID detest him at first and finds it insulting that no one can ever give a girl permission to genuinely dislike a man without masking love.
- Older Than Dirt: The real ur-example is most certainly the Sumerian poem The Courtship of Inanna and Dumuzi, in which the Tsundere goddess Inanna spends most of the story berating the shepherd Dumuzi for not being a farmer until they have a good argument and Inanna becomes smitten. They spend the rest of the story having awesome sex.
- In Xanth, Ogre-style-love is violent to the point of being perceived as rape by virtually all of the other non-Ogre cultures.
- Mort and Ysobel. There's a good two pages dedicated to a conversation in which they insult each other.
- Pratchett sums up their relationship in Soul Music: [Mort and Ysobel] took a strong and immediate dislike to one another and everyone knows there's only one inevitable outcome to that kind of relationship.
- In Pyramids this is mostly the case for Pteppic and Ptracy until it is revealed they're half-siblings.
- This is standard for Trolls in Discworld. Throwing a rock (ideally a pretty rock) at someone's head is the Troll equivalent of blowing them a kiss.
- DS Edgar Wield and Edwin Digweed in Reginald Hill's Dalziel and Pascoe novel Pictures of Perfection, largely because neither of them is Genre Savvy enough to realize that Hill is parodying Pride and Prejudice.
- An entire chapter of The Action Hero's Handbook is dedicated to teaching the reader how to invoke this trope.
- Wowbagger the Infinitely Prolonged and Trillian Astra in And Another Thing..., after a heated argument regarding a) the treatment of Random Dent, and b) whether or not the chosen pastimes of either them is more or less pathetic and laced with schadenfreude than the other's.
- With Amy and Ian in Book 3 of The 39 Clues. (And then, it goes all Kiss-Kiss-Slap because he leaves her for dead, she thinks she's over him as soon as he realized he actually might have liked her, and then there's his psycho mom making him help her try to kill Amy and her brother. Yeah, um, that might cause problems....
- Percy and Annabeth in Percy Jackson and the Olympians. In this case, at Mount St. Helens, Annabeth kisses Percy.
- In The House of Hades this happens between Leo and Calypso. She's fed up with being sent heroes to fall in love with, so she's incredibly acerbic and argumentative with Leo from the moment he lands there. He reacts indignantly but is okay with setting up camp on Ogygia away from her. After a little time, she starts to visit him when she hears him building a way to leave and offers to help. As soon as he noticed how good she looked in working clothes and with dirt and grime on her hands, anyone could tell what would happen. She gives him his FirstKiss before he leaves and he swears on the River Styx to rescue her from Ogygia.
- In The Fountainhead Dominique Francon systematically annoys Howard Roark, who returns the favor, till she hits him across the face with a riding crop. That night, he breaks into her house and rapes her. She instantly falls in love with him.
- How about Lestat and Louis from ''The Vampire Chronicles"? They cannot agree on anything, get in physical fights and insult each other like there is no tomorrow (or at least Lestat does this) but at the end of the day Louis still manages to say "I love you". Lestat is not complaining.
- Underplayed in The Witchlands - Safi's and Merik's first moment of strong attraction comes at the end of an aggressive shouting match, and they end up close enough to one another they almost kiss.
- Smallville: A more violent version in season nine, shown in Escape. Tess and Zod had a passionate kiss after Tess shoots at Zod, who returns a Neck Lift only to be subdued with kryptonite.
- In Season 8 episode "Committed" when Oliver and Tess are fighting with sticks before their date, they wind up kissing each other.
- Desperate Housewives contains the following interaction between Carlos and Gabrielle:
Gabrielle: Why are all rich men jerks?Carlos: Same reason all beautiful women are bitches. (beat) Same time tomorrow?Gabrielle: Sure baby. (they kiss)
- Cheers, practically a Trope Namer, centered around the Will They or Won't They? relationship of Sam and Diane that seemed eternally poised to trigger this trope.
Sam: You are the nuttiest...the stupidest..the PHONIEST FRUITCAKE I ever met!
Diane: And you, Sam Malone—are the most arrogant, self-centered, SON OF—
Sam: SHUT UP! ...Shut your fat mouth!
Diane: Make me.
Sam: Make you...? My God, I'm, I'm gonna, I'M GONNA BOUNCE YOU OFF EVERY WALL IN THIS OFFICE!!
Diane: (smirk) Try it and you'll be walking FUNNY tomorrow. Or should I say funnier!
Sam: You know...you know I always wanted to pop you one. Maybe this is my lucky day, huh?
Diane: (low voice) You disgust me.... I hate you.
Sam: Are you as turned on as I am?
Sam: Bet me.
(they kiss passionately)
- Moonlighting: Dave and Maddie finally resolve years of Belligerent Sexual Tension, when the two swap insults like bitch and bastard, Maddie slaps him hard across the face and tells him to get out. She tries to slap him a third time and he grabs her wrist. Then they kiss and keep going from there.
- Dana and Rich from the 1990s comedy series Step by Step.
Dana: God, why am I wasting my time on you? You're nothing but a drooling, illiterate, imbecile!
Rich: Hey, it's better than being a stuck up, man-hitting, know-it-all.
Dana: Oh yeah? Here's an idea: why don't you go down to the railroad tracks and hop a train back to munchkin land?
Rich: Oh yeah well, I got a better idea: why don't I find a tutor who isn't a member of the Lorena Bobbitt fan club?
Dana: Oh yeah, that's pretty good for someone with the IQ of a potato.
Rich: Better than having the sex appeal of a potato.
Dana: Ugh, you make me sick!
Rich: You make me sicker!
Dana: I hate you!
Rich: ... are you as hot as I am?
Dana: Hotter! (passionate kiss ensues)
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer:
They look at each other for another second before grabbing each other and engaging in a mad, passionate kiss. It goes on for several seconds before they suddenly release each other and look at each other in horror.Xander: We so need to get outta here.
- In "Smashed", when Spike discovers that his chip doesn't stop him from hurting Buffy, he starts taunting her that she Came Back Wrong and they get into a violent fight/insult exchange, which ends with Buffy aggressively kissing Spike and having passionate sex as the building collapses around them. Subverted in that, rather than showing their Belligerent Sexual Tension, it actually foreshadows the Interplay of Sex and Violence in the Buffy/Spike 'relationship'.
- Invoked in "Once More, With Feeling":
Spike: First I'll save her, then I'll kill her!
- Also Cordelia and Xander, who at one point gets trapped in a basement.
Cordelia: I can't believe that I'm stuck spending what will probably be my last few moments on Earth here with you!
Xander: I hope these are my last few moments! Three more seconds with you, and I'm gonna... (steps closer)
Cordelia: (steps closer) I'm gonna what? Coward!
Cordelia: I hate you!
Xander: I hate you!
Cordelia: (nods) Mm-hm!
- In "Wild at Heart", fellow werewolves Oz and Veruca meet in their wolf forms and immediately start snarling and fighting. The next day they wake up naked in each others arms.
- A Kiss of the Vampire version happens in "Graduation Day Part 2" when Buffy punches Angel until he vamps out and feeds on her.
- Hawkeye and Margaret's brief liaison under fire in M*A*S*H is a variation on this trope. Even Hot Lips and Frank conveyed this trope note for note years earlier.
- In Picket Fences, Max and Kenny finally end their three season long dance whilst they are, typically, arguing and in the full throes of denial about their feelings for each other. Max has her back to Kenny, ranting about his behaviour whilst he calmly walks up behind her, waits for her to turn around, and then kisses her. Humorously she attempts to continue arguing whilst he's kissing her until she finally gives in and melts into it. Consummation of their relationship then ensues.
- Aeryn and John on Farscape, often complete with literal punches and backhands. They yell at each other, and then they make out... or they make out and then yell at each other.
- Chuck and Blair on Gossip Girl, all the time. Most clearly portrayed when they viciously say how much they hate each other and then have sex on a piano.
- Pretty much the entire plot of every instance of "The Needlers", a recurring sketch on Saturday Night Live.
- Happened in the penultimate episode of Two Guys and a Girl to set Pete and Ashley together.
- Happened completely in the late first season between Marc Antony and Atia of the Julii. Slap. Pause. Slap. Pause. Kiss.
- And in Season 2, Marc Antony gets into an argument with Cleopatra (over Atia, no less). She starts throwing vases at him and they end up having sex against a column.
- The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air: There was a Girl of the Week who was rude to everyone, and Will wasn't getting along with her for that reason. Carlton had better luck, however, and after the "kiss" part of the trope kicked in, he was able to get her to treat people in a civil manner. After discovering that Carlton was able to assert himself, Will tried doing the same thing as Carlton did... however, Will was just as unable as ever to get past the "slap slap" stage of the relationship.
- Drake & Josh: Josh and Mindy share the following heated exchange...
Josh: So today, you were just messing with my head?
Mindy: I think you deserved it after the way you screamed at me.
Josh: I still think that was a really obnoxious thing for you to do!
Mindy: I think you acted way more obnoxious.
Josh: Well, I'm just glad we're broken up!
Mindy: Not as glad as I am!
Josh: Oh, really?!
(they make out)
- Maddie shares one such scene with a one-shot character, Trevor, a "merit scholar", on The Suite Life of Zack and Cody, ending with the most passionate make-out scene ever on children's programming:
Trevor: I don't need a vote from some tree-hugger.
Maddie: If you have it your way, there won't be any trees left to hug.
Trevor: Oh, next you're going to blame the oil companies for global warming.
Maddie: Yeah, 'cause they're to blame!
Trevor: Oh, cry me a river!
Maddie: If I did, you'd just pollute it!
Trevor: You bleeding-heart liberal!
Maddie: You establishment puppet!
Trevor: Do you wanna kiss me as much as I wanna kiss you!?
Maddie: I'm surprised someone as smart as you would have to ask!
London: (to a nearby museum staff) Didn't see that comin'.
(the man nods)
- It doesn't help that Trevor and Maddie are played by the same people who played Troy and Sharpay.
- "I wonder what they'd do if they liked each other?"
- One episode of Frasier subverts it by having Frasier in the slap phase with a coworker, but when (in a Continuity Nod to the Cheers example) he asks if she is as turned on as he is, she just says no and looks disgusted. Since the station manager saw the situation, everyone in the station has to attend a Sensitivity Training.
- Doubly Subverted because eventually Frasier and the coworker do date.
- A straight example of this trope occurred in an earlier episode in a very similar situation, and they actually had sex multiple times (on the air, once) despite claiming that they can't stand each other, but without the Shout-Out to the Cheers line.
- A version of this trope occurred in the episode "Daphne Returns" where Daphne and Niles' first fight leads to them kissing and then having sex for the first time.
- Battlestar Galactica has raised this to the level of an art form; nearly every canonical couple has engaged in it at some point and to some degree, often in the most literal sense (see — unsurprisingly — Lee Adama and Kara Thrace; also Saul and Ellen Tigh). Though Adama and Thrace seem to be more inclined to Punch Punch Kiss/Punch Punch UST than anything else.
- Deserving of special mention are Chief Tyrol and Cally. The first slap was actually Cally Murdering The Hypotenuse by shooting Tyrol's Cylon lover right before his eyes. The slap back came later that season, when she woke Tyrol up from a nightmare. Believing he was still dreaming, he beat her so brutally that it required not only a Discretion Shot but a Content Warning at the beginning of the episode. Two and a half episodes later, they were Happily Married and expecting. Admittedly there was a one-year Time Skip in the meantime, but damn. And this was one of the more stable relationships on the show. At least until the fourth season, but that's another story...
- Burn Notice takes this and runs with it, since one of the "combatants" is a former CIA operative and the other an ex-IRA terrorist. After a short fight with heavy subtext, one finally gets the other in a choke pin... but then they start making out.
- Ellen from Slings & Arrows does this twice within three episodes of each other: the first time with Geoffrey, the second with her brother-in-law Eric.
- Gilmore Girls: The Luke/Lorelai relationship is built on this (although they only get to the 'kiss' part in Season 4). To a lesser degree Jess/Rory. Particuarly amusing as Luke is Jess' uncle and Lorelai Rory's mother; it must run in the family...
- Star Trek: The Original Series. A variation that doesn't involve Belligerent Sexual Tension is in "What Are Little Girls Made Of?" To demonstrate that the gynoid Andrea is Just a Machine, her creator Dr Korby has her kiss— then slap—Captain Kirk to show she's an Emotionless Girl either way. Kirk later kisses Andrea again, blocks her slap then gives her a Big Damn Kiss.
- Star Trek: The Next Generation:
- Worf explains to Wesley that this is how all Klingon courtship works. The woman roars and throws heavy objects, while the man reads love poetry and ducks a lot. Martok and Sirella's relationship (the Klingon equivalent of Benedick and Beatrice) backs this up.
- Captain Picard has one with Captain Phillipa Louvois, who had previously prosecuted Picard with zeal during the court martial following the loss of the USS Stargazer, in "The Measure Of A Man".
Picard It's been ten years, but seeing you again like this makes it seem like fifty. If we weren't around all these people, do you know what I would like to do?
Louvois Bust a chair across my teeth.
Picard After that.
Louvois Oh, ain't love wonderful.
- Picard frequently has this with Vash, too.
- Star Trek: Deep Space Nine:
- In "Let He Who is Without Sin", Worf and Ezri Dax have a heated argument while stranded on a forest planet, intensified by the feelings shared between Worf and Jadzia Dax, Ezri's symbiont predecessor. It eventually degrades into name-calling and fisticuffs, and a passionate kiss with (implied) off-camera relations.
- Odo and Kira in "His Way" — not too heavy on the slapping, but a heated argument in the middle of the frickin' Promenade should count too.
- Chief O'Brien has this almost done to him as well. He's working with a female Cardassian engineer and the two of them won't stop arguing over everything. Soon he learns that she believed that he was flirting with her.
- The way Worf and Jadzia got together in "Looking for Par'mach in All the Wrong Places". Although that was more "Bat'leth Fight, Attempted Strangulation, Destructo-Nookie." This is more of a traditional Klingon romantic interlude - they even have (implied) ritual phrases for initiating a fight that they intend will end in sex.
Bashir: No... No, I don't need that image, either. In fact I'm gonna stop asking that question altogether. People will come in, I will treat them, and that's all.
- Star Trek: Enterprise. In "Precious Cargo", Tucker rescues the princess Kaitaama after she was kidnapped by an alien species for ransom. From the moment they meet Kaitaama and Tucker bicker and argue which continues as they use an escape pod to land on an uninhabited planet. Here, their argument escalates to name-calling and insults culminating in Kaitaama kissing Tucker followed by off-camera relations.
- The Tick (2001) (live-action): Batmanuel and Captain Liberty.
- Who are expies of Die Fleidermaus and American Maid from the animated version.
- Jordan and Dr. Cox. Although it's more of a "Stab Stab Sex" sort of thing. In later seasons, however, it becomes more because of habit and pride than any actual friction. In fact, in season 8, Cox tells Jordan he's fed up with all the snarking and insulting, and deconstructs this trope, as it's become contrived and fake:
Cox: I'm sick of pretending we don't like each other. It is distinctly not fun anymore, and would you like to know why? Because a) we are over 12, and b) we actually do like each other. In fact, brace yourself, we love each other.
- Jordan again, this time with JD. He gets fed up with her behaviour as a patient, tells her so, and she tells him to take his pants off.
- Jordan and Dr. Cox. Although it's more of a "Stab Stab Sex" sort of thing. In later seasons, however, it becomes more because of habit and pride than any actual friction. In fact, in season 8, Cox tells Jordan he's fed up with all the snarking and insulting, and deconstructs this trope, as it's become contrived and fake:
- Gene Hunt to Alex Drake in Episode 1 of Ashes to Ashes (2008) (immediately after grabbing her breast in the supply room):
Gene: Now then, Bollinger Knickers. You going to kiss me or punch me?
- She did not, needless to say, kiss him. Nor has she yet, but let's face it — it's only a matter of time.
- Dick and Mary from 3rd Rock from the Sun have this quite often. Most bizarrely, the first episode has Dick kiss Mary, she slaps him, she kisses him again, then he, confused, slaps her back. Then she slaps him again. Then he slaps her again.
- As he leaves the party where this happens, the hostess kisses him goodbye. He says goodbye then slaps her.
- Receptionist Amanda and Nick Pepper of Ugly Betty revert to this after quite a few scenes of sexual tension, coming to a close when both tag each other out of a game of company paintball — and consequently decide that their catfights actually turn them on.
- Justin and Austin had a mild form of this before their first kiss which included insulting one another, and right before the kiss, them playfully shoving one another.
- Spike and Lynda of Press Gang conducted their kissing-and-slapping exchange while on the set of a Saturday morning children's cartoon show, where Lynda was supposed to be promoting the wholesomeness and public-spiritedness of the Junior Gazette.
- The Vicar of Dibley has something similar to the Frasier subversion but played more seriously: Geraldine, the title character and a liberal female vicar, is always trading insults with the arch-conservative councilman David. At one point in the series, he reveals his love for her, interpreting her snarking as flirting. In actuality, she doesn't really consciously like him much at this point. This declaration starts his character on a more Pet the Dog path and makes her better disposed to him.
- From House, Greg House and Lisa Cuddy: "I try to make you miserable. You deny that it's making you miserable. You try to make me miserable so I'll stop making you miserable." How romantic... And let us not forget the ending of the episode "Joy" in season 5, where they actually do kiss after the slap slap. Season 6 seems to be heading for deconstructing this trope. Apparently, Cuddy doesn't find it at all romantic. Maybe House should read Pride and Prejudice.
- Done in Friends between Ross and Rachel. After their major break up in Season 3, the couple are constantly at each other's throats, insulting and humiliating each other and sabotaging the other's relationships every chance they get, despite still obviously being attracted to each other and sleeping together at least twice. At the end of Season 8, Rachel is very pregnant and overdue for labor, and the doctor has advised several home remedies, including sex, to speed up the process. They try everything else and nothing works, so Rachel insists they have sex. Since she had been very mean to Ross that entire episode, Ross declines. Rachel then starts angrily ranting at him about how this is all his fault and so on, but is interrupted by Ross kissing her. Rachel is surprised and Ross says, "I don't care what it takes, I am getting that baby out of you!" Rachel immediately starts having contractions and Ross says, "I am good!"
- Also done between Rachel and her colleague/love interest Gavin in season 9. Their relationship is initially competitive and Gavin is a jerk to Rachel, but the two kiss at Rachel's birthday party leading to a brief fling between the two.
- Interestingly, this trope is repeatedly, deliberately defied with Ross' and Rachel's Foil Beta Couple Chandler and Monica, for whom fighting is always unquestionably non-sexy. They try taking a romantic weekend trip together in "The One With the Kips," only to end up bickering over petty things; they spend the weekend fighting and not having any sex. "The One With Ross and Monica's Cousin" takes place during a period when they've decided not to have sex before their wedding; when they both can't take it anymore, they decide that if they were to, say, have a big fight and call the wedding off, they could have sex again, but they end up jokingly insulting each other so much that Monica decides "the wedding is back on" — even fake fighting turns them off. Then there's the infamous scene in "The One With Phoebe's Birthday Dinner" where they have a big fight over Chandler smoking again; Monica still wants to have sex like they planned because she's ovulating and they're trying to get pregnant, but Chandler just can't do it when they're fighting like this, so she has to pretend to apologize and make up with him to trick him into sleeping with her. Watching the two opposite approaches to this trope side by side in the same series makes for some fascinating viewing.
- Basically describes the whole relationship between Luke and Reid in As the World Turns. The Slap Slap part of the relationship dies down some after they become an actual couple.
- An episode of Saved by the Bell featured Slater and Jessie arguing as they always do before launching into a kiss.
- The Daily Show:
- Family Matters: In the Season 5 episode "Opposites Attract", Laura is the editor of her school paper and can't stop arguing with a writer for the paper. After several fights, it ends in their making out.
- Lost. Ana Lucia tries to get Sawyer's gun — she asks him for it, tries to steal it, and gets caught. She and Sawyer fight before he pins her down and asks her what she's going to do, and she kisses him, leading to them having sex. She steals the gun after when he's too distracted to think about it.
- Played around with in the season 4 finale of How I Met Your Mother, between Barney and Robin. The two are unable to admit their feelings without provoking the other into an automatic rejection response (as both are relationship averse). Leads to a long, rapid back-and-forth "I love you"/"Let's be friends" style exchange that escalates in aggravation until they become so confused and frustrated they simply kiss. And it's awesome:
Barney: Why are you so afraid of giving this a chance?
Robin: Because I am scared of how much I like you!
Barney: Whoa, this is a bad idea.
Robin: You're right, this is a mistake.
Barney: Yes. No!
Robin: I love you!
Barney: Let's be friends.
Robin: Okay, friends then.
Barney: I love you.
Robin: Let's get married!
Barney: No, you're smothering me!
Robin: Okay, forget it!
Robin: Gaaah! (they kiss)
- In series 1 of Torchwood, Jack and Ianto go from pointing guns at each other's heads in episode 4 to UST in episode 5 and discussing stopwatches in episode 8. (To be fair, it's also been suggested that they were having sex before episode 4, though nothing in canon actually proves it.)
- Notable aversion: the original script called for this between Jack Bauer and Renee Walker in season 7, but the kiss was cut for being "too cliché". She instead breaks down crying in his arms. The actress who plays Renee added that she wasn't quite sure if she wanted a romantic subplot with Jack because that's "usually the kiss of death for a character". I smell Genre Savvy here.
- Played straight in Season 8 including Annie Wersching's prediction...
- Stargate SG-1: Vala and Daniel go through this a few times:
- Vala tried to invoke it with Daniel in the first episode. During a brutal fight, she kisses him as a means to disarm him, but that just leads to more fighting, followed by a stun blast. He did see her naked, but she's rather disappointed that she was unconscious, thus defeating the purpose.
- In "Unending" where a pretty brutal argument (mostly on Daniel's side) turns into smooches.
- Joe and Helen do this on Wings, except that the slaps are done with flour-coated pieces of veal. (Don't ask.)
Joe: One minute we're spanking each other with meat, and the next minute it got weird!
- Delayed version in Dollhouse, where Topher is forced to punch out Bennett when he finds out she is trying to kill Caroline/Echo. Later on, when Bennett is helping Topher put together Caroline's original personality wedge, she forces him to tell her why, and subsequently returns the favor with an even more vicious right hook. A scene later, the two finally give in to their respective crushes and start kissing.
- Happens offscreen in iCarly "iDate a Bad Boy". The audience (and Carly's brother) only get the kissing part, but Carly later explains that it started off with an argument.
- On Glee in the episode "Never Been Kissed", Kurt confronts Dave Karofsky, a recurring bully who has been torturing Kurt for being gay, which leads to Dave passionately kissing Kurt and leaving Kurt visibly traumatized, and understandably considering that it was Kurt's first real kiss.
- In The Brittas Empire, the episode, "Sex, Lies, and Red Tape", Laura gives the bewildered Mr. Brittas a rather solid kiss after yelling about her unrelenting hatred of his idiocy.
- In Roseanne, Nancy and Arnie did this CONSTANTLY when they were married. On one memorable occasion, Roseanne and Dan playfully fight over items to sell in a garage sale (including throwing furniture outside), before pausing to stare at each other, panting, and running to the bedroom.
- In the Leverage episode "The Two Live Crew Job", the fight scene between Eliot and Mikel, his counterpart in the opposing crew, feels like (extremely violent) foreplay even before it hits the kissing stage. Nicely done, and hot enough to definitely qualify as Fanservice.
- Max and Iago from El Cor de la Ciutat were like this during the early stages of their relationship when Max was still conflicted about his feelings for a delinquent:
Max: No, Iago, it isn't fucking funny! You always have to bother everyone, or what? First lying to the whole world, then it turns out that you are a thief, and now disappearing and the whole world is concerned about what happened to poor Iago.
Iago: Are you worrying [about me] too?
Max: Don't say foolish things! I haven't thought about you for even a second, Iago, do you understand? I don't care if they're breaking your legs and locking you up in prison, which is what you deserve!
(they kiss passionately)
- Done with unique minimalism in Seinfeld's "The Puerto-Rican Day" episode. Elaine leads a group of complete strangers underneath the bleachers along 5th Avenue when suddenly they reach a dead-end. The guy following her starts screaming in panic and she slaps him across the face. He pushes her, she pushes him back, and as they grab each other for more serious violence they suddenly pause, look in each others' eyes, and then kiss passionately.
- In the third season finale of Suits, Mike and Rachel are locked in a file room, arguing. Finally, he admits he never went to Harvard, and he's a fraud. She slaps him twice, and when she reels back for a third, he grabs her wrist. She goes to storm off, and he grabs her arm to stop her. Then, they make out and have some very acrobatic sex.
- Matthew and Mary in Downton Abbey. A great deal of the first series revolves around their Belligerent Sexual Tension, though they only get to the "kiss" part in the penultimate hour. Only increases in Series 3 after they get married.
- Chuck: Pretty much anyone Casey gets involved with, particularly Verbanski.
- Done as a Visual Pun in a commercial where a Latina woman walks up to a guy and slaps him for no reason, then starts making out with him.
- The Vampire Diaries: Damon and Elena.
Damon: Listen to us! This is toxic! We are in a toxic relationship, Elena! I just killed your friend and you find someone else to blame!
Elena: You want me to blame you? Easy! Done! You screwed up, Damon. Again!
Damon: Thank you!
Elena: You put me in a position where I have to defend you, again, where I have to bend my morals, again. Where I have to go against every single thing that I believe in, again, because I love you!
Damon: Then stop loving me!
Elena: I can't!
Damon: Well, that's the problem! We don't work!
Elena: I know..
Damon: Then we agree? This has to end.
Elena: It just did. It's over.. We're over.
(They stand next to each other's eyes and for a second they start kissing)
- Jonas: Joe and Stella are prone to this due to their Relationship Revolving Door, but the biggest example was in "Double Date".
Joe: What up?!
Stella: Don't give me all what up all so innocent like you don't know what up!!! I can't believe how somebody can be so irresponsible selfish and just thoughtless!!!!
Joe: Well you are stuck up pretentious and totally gorgeous!!!!
Stella: Gorgeous?! You said I was gorgeous!!!
Joe: I meant adorable!!! You're so adorable you make me sick!!!!
Stella: I'm sorry. If I'm so sickeningly adorable, then why did you come to the restaurant tonight?!
Joe: Why did you go out with Van Dike?!!
Stella: Because he asked me!!!! Isn't that how it works, Joe?! A guy asks out a girl because he likes her!!!
Joe: What about a guy not asking out a girl because he likes her?!!! Have you ever thought of that???!!!!
Joe: I don't want to wreck everything you and I don't have together!!!!
Stella: That makes absolutely no sense!!!!
Joe: Well sometimes things don't make sense!!!!!
Stella: Okay well....(Joe pulls Stella in and they kiss)
- Orange Is the New Black: Alex and Piper spend their time in season 3 saying how much they hate each other, getting physically violent before kissing and having sex.
- Person of Interest. Happens with John Reese and Kara Stanton, who was his Evil Mentor while they were assassins for the CIA. Kara is annoyed because Reese is a reluctant killer, and "to be good at this job, you need to enjoy it." Finally she puts a gun to his head and invites him to leave, saying she needs a killer, "not a boy scout". Reese then grabs Stanton by the throat and slams her up against the wall, saying that he does enjoy his work. Cue passionate kiss.
- A nasty version occurs in Fleming: The Man Who Would Be Bond. Ian Fleming slaps Ann O'Neill after she taunts him about the death of Muriel and gets slapped in return, so he pins her to the floor and beats her with a belt, then tries to rape her only to ejaculate prematurely. Anne is a sadomasochist however, so that's when they start kissing.
- Treadstone has a variation. Petra has her KGB superior shouting right in her face before a full KGB tribunal for letting a Cicada agent escape, then we cut to them in bed together, with him explaining that he had to put on a performance for everyone else. He does explain that if she doesn't fix her latest mistake however, he'll have to punish her for real.
- Played straight when Petra is with CIA agent John Bentley whom she seduced during his brainwashing—one minute they're shouting in each other's faces and Bentley is threatening to shoot himself, next they're tearing off each other's clothing.
- Muse's Knights of Cydonia music video (which is done in the style of a '70s Sci-Fi movie). The love interest slaps the hero in a bar, Smash Cut to the slap shown again, but they're now in a bedroom and wearing fewer clothes. Again, with fewer clothes, but he grabs her arm and they kiss.
- The whole point of the '80s Latin-American pop song "Dame un beso" ("Gimme a Kiss") by Yuri, which plays it up as comedy.
- Florence and The Machine has a song called "Kiss With A Fist" that is basically about this trope.
- The music video for Kelly Clarkson's My Life Would Suck Without You is this trope all the way through, with the "Kiss" part is in the lyrics.
- The Aphex Twin and Chris Cunningham video "Flex" involves a nude man and woman beating each other up before engaging in sex and going out in a flash of light.
- 'The Ballad Of Tom Jones', Space's duet with Cerys Matthews, veers between this and The Masochism Tango. The couple in the song are constantly at each other's throats, to the point where the woman tries to kill the man by driving him off a cliff. The only thing that stops the couple from killing each other is - you've guessed it - the sound of the music of Tom Jones.
- A song called "Not Another Song About Love", where the narrator rants about what hates about the girl Guess what the song turns out to be in the last verse?
- "Shut Up & Kiss Me" by Orianthi
- Here's an example between Eric Bischoff and Stephanie McMahon, then-General-Managers of WWE Raw and Smackdown, respectively. Strangely, it was never mentioned again after this.
- Beth Phoenix's relationship with Santino Marella was pretty much this.
- Maxine's relationship with Derrick Batemen was mostly her slapping him, knowing he'd stick around for the occasional kiss. Kaitlyn got Derrick's friends together and staged an intervention over how unhealthy this relationship was, so Maxine moved on to the more manly Johnny Curtis.
- This is pretty much Jessicka Havok's relationship with Tag Team partner Sami Callihan, only Havok tends to do a lot worse than slap him when they have an argument since they are about the same size. Still, she usually ends up tenderly comforting him after knocking Callihan on his ass, and Callihan will fight back on the rare occasion they are actually booked in a match against one another.
- Red and Gobo of Fraggle Rock — in the rare moments when they're not fighting/competing to see who can be more stubborn, they're hugging. Or Red is desperately trying to get his attention. And yet for all their complaints and squabbles about leadership, they keep coming back...
- Benedick and Beatrice in Much Ado About Nothing.
- Played straight in Thoroughly Modern Millie where Millie and Jimmy throw insults at each other like "Skirt-chaser", "Gold-digger", "Womanizer", "Jezebel", and "Casanova". At which point he grabs her, snogs the hell out of her, and dashes off... whereupon she bursts into song.
- Jimmy and Helena in Look Back in Anger.
- In Wicked at first Glinda and Elphaba, more apparent in the musical where they have a song that revolves around Foe Romance Subtext and lust related lyrics.
- Fiyero and Elphaba. The first time they meet he nearly runs her over and she shouts at him but by the second scene together they start off shouting a lot and then suddenly nearly kiss. Their relationship is full of this during Act I.
- The writer of Crazy For You loves this trope: a little bit Irene and Bobby (though this might be more of a mild Yandere), Irene and Lank, Polly and Bobby - of course, theirs is more of a Kiss Slap Slap Mistaken Identity / Fake King Kiss Kiss Slap Slap Slap Kiss.
- The Taming of the Shrew.
- Hotspur and Lady Percy in some productions of Henry IV, Part 1, particularly the 2012 BBC version.
- In the Screen-to-Stage Adaptation Anastasia, Dmitry tries to argue with Anya why he can't be her "prince." She contradicts him, then seizes his suitcase and steps up onto it to kiss him. Their whole relationship up to this point has been Belligerent Sexual Tension, making this trope a natural endpoint.
- In Avenue Q, this trope is explained lovingly in Christmas Eve's song, "The More You Ruv Someone (The More You Want To Kill Them)."
- In the TV Zapping intro of the first Command & Conquer game, the third sequence (on channel 319) is a perfect example of this. Joe Kucan, who directed all of the live-action scenes in Command & Conquer (and plays the iconic villain Kane), has named it as his favorite scene in the whole series. See it here.
"At least your mother tipped well!"
- Fire Emblem seems to be quite fond of this trope when it comes to romance. In the seventh installment, we have Genki Girl Rich Bitch Serra and Badass Bookworm Erk, Tsundere Farina and the Boisterous Bruiser Dart the Pirate, Genius Bruiser Hector and Action Girl Lyn, Hector and Farina, and to some extent Wil and Rebecca (she kicks him in the gut and yells at him quite a bit shortly before rushing into his arms). Sword of Seals has Well, Excuse Me, Princess! Clarine and Fragile Speedster Rutger, while The Sacred Stones has the other Well, Excuse Me, Princess! L'Arachel behave this way towards her two pairing options (Innes Archer and The Wise Prince of sorts Ephraim) and popular fanon option Rennac.
- Indiana Jones and the Fate of Atlantis shows that Indy loves this trope. After freeing Sophia Hapsgood from her prison they get into an argument, she hits him, he hits back, she goes to hit him again but Indy yanks her into a deep kiss.
- Buck and Dare do this near the end of Halo 3: ODST.
- Renegade Shepard and Miranda's kiss in Mass Effect 2.
- In Mass Effect 3, the first time you meet Jack, she punches you. But if you'd romanced her in the previous game, she promptly kisses you on the mouth, much to the delight of her students, who are watching.
- Also Wrex and "Eve", who are as much Sickeningly Sweethearts as two Krogan chieftains can get.
- Jade Empire has the player's introduction to Silk Fox.
- In Knights of the Old Republic II: The Sith Lords, several scenes where a male Exile gains Influence with the Handmaiden are immediately preceded by a fistfight with her. Unfortunately, it never gets to the point where a fistfight seamlessly turns into a makeout session.
- Dragon Age:
- In Dragon Age: Origins, Oghren and his old flame Felsi's reunion is this, with the two tossing insults at each other before Felsi asks him to stay a bit longer so that they could continue the namecalling. By Awakening, they're married and have a kid together though still not quite peaceful due to Oghren's inherent Blood Knight nature.
- Dragon Age II, any romance with a rival.
- Discussed in Dragon Age: Inquisition, where Dorian asks Varric if he has this relationship with Cassandra. Varric fiercely denies this.
Just because two people dislike each other doesn't mean they're about to kiss, Sparkler.
- Saints Row's Kinzie is a shut-in ex-FI computer analyst who was framed for stealing secrets and moonlighting as a dominatrix (the latter is pretty accurate). She becomes a romance option and reacts to Boss asking if she wanna fuck with a punch to the jaw, then pouncing them.
The Boss: Hey, Kinzie, wanna fuck?
Kinzie: Let's go. (punches the Boss and jumps into his/her arms sending them toppling over.)
- In Mortal Kombat, Johnny Cage and Sonya Blade's relationship is always portrayed this way in both the video games and the movie, with Sonya being disgusted by Johnny's attempts to flirt with her, leading to them constantly bickering, before slowly gaining mutual respect and eventually falling in love. While they're never shown explicitly as a couple, Mortal Kombat X takes place over a period of 25 years following the previous game and features their daughter Cassie Cage.
- Completely possible in 'The Sims 4'', thanks to the separation of the romance and friendship relationship bars. See this thread.
- Same with the Romantic Garden Stuff Pack, which features the Whispering Wishing Well, which, depending on its mood, can give you different results for various wishes. So if you wish for romance when he's in a really bad mood, he could be giving you a relationship with a random Sim who has a full Romance bar with your Sim, but also a completely red Friendship bar, resulting in the status mentioned above.
- Red vs. Blue. Tex and Church sometimes play this in reverse:
Chruch: Alright, O'Malley, this is it. From now on if any one makes my girlfriend crazy and psychotic... it's gonna be me.
Tex: Aw, that's sweet.
Church: Shut up, bitch.
- Parodied in this Starslip Crisis strip.
- T-Rex of Dinosaur Comics wishes this were more common. See?
- Done with Star Trek references in this Punch an Pie: strip.
- And again when discussing a job offer.
- MegaTokyo's Beta Couple: Largo/Erika. She has broken his arm on two separate occasions. Not that he didn't supply enough reasons for this.
- Faye and Sven of Questionable Content in this strip.
- Hot Goblin Girl Nitrine and her archfoe Halfling Sorceress Morgana satisfy our Les Yay and Foe Yay expectations in this episode of Flaky Pastry.
- This is the entire basis for the rather strange shipping of Pella X Richard among the Looking for Group fandom.
- In Juathuur, Emojueel evokes this rope talking about Thomil and Sojueilo. "Fists of love!"
- Ménage à 3:
- Yuki pulls one on Gary. Considering her earlier treatment of men she's upset with, that was actually restrained.
- Sonya does this to Gary too.
- Sonya and Yuki got to do this with each other. (NSFW) The shocked look on Zii's face shows just how unexpected this was.
- This is more or less the extent of Tracy and Jim's relationship. They go from arguing to having make-up sex (sometimes while arguing) quite often.
- Two of the trolls (Aradia and Equius) have one of these: slap slap kiss.
- Happens to another couple (Vriska and Tavros) in a more sadistic fashion. Boy, troll romance sure is weird!
- This one backfires rather severely. The boy can't understand why the girl randomly switches between romancing him and abusing him, and he just ends up afraid of her. His confusion and fear just enrages her into abusing him further, while she falls into depression wondering why he doesn't love her like she thinks he should. The result is a psychological train wreck.
- Can also be seen between Spades Slick and Snowman, although this one isn't so much this trope as stab dismember viciously gnaw each others' lips off.
- Some of this comes about because of the troll concept of "kismesissitude", symbolized by a spade. Despite being entirely based on the two parties hating each other, it's considered as valid and important a form of romance as matespritship, their closest analogue to normal human romance. The second example above is ambiguously an example of kismesissitude, while the kiss between Spades Slick and Snowman definitely is.
- Karkat and Terezi tend to swing between fighting and genuinely caring about each other. It's all a part of their Ship Tease.
- It's not physically violent, but Sollux and Feferi had a very bipolar relationship in which Feferi went from snapping at Sollux for being cranky to giggling at how adorable Sollux was while cranky within seconds.
- Spacetrawler has Pierrot and Emily. Emily is constantly getting on Pierrot's nerves, and Pierrot reacts appropriately, to the extent that Captain Nogg thinks they hate each other. There's no shortage of subtext that they like each other—and as of this "Shut Up" Kiss, there's text-text as well.
- Lucy of Bittersweet Candy Bowl is most violent with the guys she likes at all, David notwithstanding. Species differences among other things.
- This strip from Bomango.
Andy: Sorry, you just don't seem like the type someone could ask about... you know... love, and stuff.
Gogo: I has been in hate with many people. I has much perspective.
Andy: Maybe, but that isn't love.
Gogo: Do not be so silly, Boo-Bear. Often, difference between love and hate is like difference between red and orange.
- This has turned out to be the central theme of Penny and Aggie.
- xkcd has a high-tech version.
- Black-Hat Guy and Dark-Haired Girl develop from a backfired attempt at emotional abuse for the lulz to hat theft, to hat recovery through superior firepower, to a crush, and finally to a mutual relationship that may or may not involve high explosives and sabotage. It's basically this combined with Unholy Matrimony, as they express their love by cruelly trolling everyone, each other included. Somehow it manages to be much less dysfunctional than it sounds and occasionally even weirdly adorable.
- Kade and Layla in Eerie Cuties.
- Bobwhite: Cleo and Tony. "If a male and female character are fighting there is a 99% chance they are going to kiss right after."
- Not Invented Here: Fang/Umesh. Though the comic skips right past the kiss and straight to their shocked expressions post-coitus.
- Happens in this strip from MercWorks. Though it is missing a 'Slap'.
- Happens at times between Matt and Kayleigh in Dork Tower.
Matt: You think my friends are annoying!
Kayleigh: You think my friends are pretentious!
Matt: You hate my hobbies!
Kayleigh: You think I'm a snob!
Matt: You ARE a snob!
Kayleigh: It's better than being a loser dweeb with no initiative, no fashion sense, no job, no prospects and a 'Buffy'-hater to boot!
Matt: THAT was a LOW blow! (beat) I love 'Buffy'.
- Happens in The Non-Adventures of Wonderella. Rita and her Evil Counterpart from a Mirror Universe go from yelling threats at each other to making out in two panels.
- A slap-slap-slap-kiss-slap in the Archipelago sidecomic here.
- Limyaael's Fantasy Rants: Limyaael hates this trope and wrote a Rant specifically about ways to avert this kind of romance.
- This video at Cracked.com features a debate on why Batman is actually horrible for Gotham, which turns into a shouting match...and then a makeout session.
- Dragon Ball Z Abridged goes into greater detail on how Bulma and Vegeta got together in Episode 34. At the end of the episode, the incident where Bulma phones into the gravity room where Vegeta is training devolves into Volleying Insults until Bulma invites him into her bedroom. It's then implied that the resulting sexual encounter led to Trunks' conception.
- This gif◊ summarizes the trope perfectly.
- Angel's Friends: Raf and Sulfus in episode 26 when they both hit each other and then make up with a kiss. But unfortunately, they unwittingly seal the Big Bad Reina from her prison in Limbo, thanks to the sacrilege they committed. They also broke off the scales of VETO, much to the disdain of their superiors.
- Bob's Burgers features a literal example in "Boyz 4 Now", when Louise becomes infatuated with the eponymous boy band's youngest member, Boo Boo... and is overcome with a desire to slap him in the face.
- In Daria: After the title character gets into an argument with Jane's beau on whether or not they actually have anything going on on the side, the two come to a mutual agreement that Tom breaking up with Jane is inevitable — and that, furthermore, it has nothing to do with Daria, and neither would choose to get involved in the first place... That is, until Tom kisses her. Twice.
- Beast Machines: Rattrap and Botanica.
Botanica: Although our task does not appear glamorous or exciting, these trees carry our best hope for the future!
Rattrap: Oh, I'm sorry. I was only thinking about myself instead of all the HOMELESS TERMITES!
Botanica: And what would you rather be doing?! Sticking your tail in a computer socket?!
Rattrap: Heh, beats the heck out of plowing your little field of dreams!
Botanica: I think it's high time you dialled back on the attitude!
Rattrap: Oooo-hoo, well, how about I make like a tree and leaf!
Botanica: That would be just fine by me, you impudent little—
Rattrap: Your bark as bad as my bite?!
- Courtney and Duncan on Total Drama.
(after watching Owen and Gwen walking over logs while being attacked by eagles, Courtney kisses Duncan)
Courtney: (after breaking the kiss) You're still not my type.
Duncan: You make me sick.
(they kiss again)
On the bus
- They do it again in the Total Drama Action Celebrity Manhunt Reunion Special.
Duncan: YOU'RE INSANE YOU KNOW THAT?
Courtney: AND YOU ARE A MONSTER.
(Their eyes grow wide)
They start making out
Bridgette: That's ridiculous!Geoff: YOU'RE ridiculous.Bridgette: I can't believe I blew a million bucks for you!Geoff: WE'RE THROUGH!Bridgette: -gasp-The two turn away, only to look at each other and start making out again.
- Geoff and Bridgette also do this in their elimination clip.
- Scrooge McDuck and Glittering Goldie on DuckTales (1987). Their idea of romance is taking turns tricking each other out of a fortune... and making out afterwards. Not as violent as the above-mentioned comic but still interesting.
- DuckTales (2017): It didn't actually happen, but Louie is Genre Savvy enough to ask if it would after he sees Donald and Beakley fighting.
Louie: Wait, are they gonna kiss?
Huey, Dewey, and Webby: Ewwww!
Donald and Beakley: OUTSIDE!
- Jimmy Neutron and Cindy Vortex own this trope.
- Brock Sampson and Molotov Cocktease from The Venture Bros. are more of the "Stab Stab Kiss" variety, but they always fight and have a hot makeout session afterwards. Too bad they can only get to second base, though...
Brock: I THOUGHT THE COLD WAR WAS OVER!
Molotov: It's always cold in Siberia.
- Stōked: Fin and Reef (of course the almost kiss).
- Their relationship doesn't get expanded much as the movie goes on, but Centipede and Ms Spider in James and the Giant Peach definitely have this moment:
Ms Spider: Centipede, I do not know whether to kill you or... kiss you.
- He looks rather satisfied by it as well.
- Musa and Riven in Winx Club.
- Helga and Arnold from Hey Arnold!. Especially in the latter episodes like "Girl Trouble", "Egg Story", "Summer Love", "Married" and "April Fool's Day".
- Perils of Love a small French short that is the essence of this trope.
- Selwyn and Tallulah, the bickering sorcerer couple in The Smurfs, who fight with each other as much as they love each other. Zap-Zap-Kiss, anyone?
- Kevin Spencer: Kevin's parents are insanely violent and rude to anyone they come across. But they love tormenting each other (especially Percy.) It occasionally ends up with hate-sex.
- Kevin and Shawna are occasionally this, most likely attributed to Shawna's slowly growing insanity.
- Teen Titans: When Starfire comes to earth, she bashes Robin in the face, then she kisses him on the lips (so she could learn the language due to the Tamaranean ability to absorb languages through physical contact).
- Chelsea and Sumo on Clarence. In a scene near the end of "Too Gross For Comfort", they dramatically argue with each other over who can tell the grossest story. When they run out of stories to tell, they growl at each other and... suddenly start making out. This in turn grosses everyone out and makes everyone scatter, because every kid knows that Girls Have Cooties.
- The Simpsons: In "Lisa's Wedding", Lisa and her college rival Hugh go from mad at each other to passionately making out when Lisa defines "stochastic" without having to look it up in the dictionary.
- Caleb and Cornelia have this dynamic in W.I.T.C.H., with Hay Lin lampshading it at one point by telling Cornelia, "You and Caleb can't go 10 minutes without fighting." They are clearly devoted to each other, though, and miserable during their brief break-up. The fights are less and less frequent by the end of the series.
- Kent Nelson, the previous bearer of the Helmet of Fate in Young Justice, had this kind of relationship with his dearly departed wife, and that was the way he liked it. Before he passed, he left Kid Flash with one final word of wisdom with relation to the latter's somewhat antagonistic relationship with his teammate Artemis:
Nelson: Find your own little spitfire; one who won't let you get away with nothin'!
... You're expecting a kiss here, aren't you?