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"Girls will be boys, and boys will be girls,
It's a mixed-up, muddled-up, shook-up world"
The Kinks, "Lola"

Basically, a couple consisting of a very feminine-looking/acting boy and a very masculine-looking/acting girl. Often comes from pairing the Action Girl with the Non-Action Guy and with doses of Crossdresser, Bifauxnen, Ambiguous Gender, Attractive Bent-Gender, Unsettling Gender Reveal, Viewer Gender Confusion, Dude Looks Like a Lady, Even the Guys Want Him and Even the Girls Want Her. Common in Gender Bender and "Freaky Friday" Flip series. Occasionally, House Husbands and their wives will fall under this trope.

Compare to Understanding Boyfriend, Pitbull Dates Puppy, and Violently Protective Girlfriend. Sensitive Guy and Manly Man, Tomboy and Girly Girl, and Masculine–Feminine Gay Couple work on a similar principle, but with two characters of the same gender. The Useless Boyfriend trope can be the result of this, but not always. Most likely are Cultural Rebels. Subtrope of Stereotype Flip.


Important Note: While this is usually a straightforward trope, examples can still get subjective in regards to whether or not the woman is masculine enough or if the man is feminine enough. Keep a few points in mind when editing:

  1. Physical fitness and combat abilities relative to each other is irrelevant; what matters here is their comparative enthusiasm for these things.
  2. If the boy is immature, it needs to be in a feminine way, and if the girl is mature, it needs to be in a masculine way.
  3. The girl does not have to be a tomboy, and the boy does not have to be a sensitive guy. A Dark Feminine female and a Noble Male can also invoke this trope.
  4. Being ambiguously gay or ambiguously lesbian is not a requirement for the boy and the girl in question to fit this dynamic.
  5. If the only context is that the boy is a wimp while the girl is action-oriented, it is not enough.
  6. The girl and the boy in question do not have to be in a romantic or sexual relationship. All that is needed for them to qualify is that they know each other to some degree, and have personalities opposite to their respective genders' expectations.


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  • It is quite possible to spot this when the guy has a pink product, while the girl has the same one in blue.

    Anime & Manga 
  • A.I. Love You: Forty can fill both roles. His/her big sisters Saati and Toni (their names mean "Thirty" and "Twenty" respectively since they are computer programs) wanted a younger sibling, but Saati wanted a sweet and feminine sister while Toni wanted a rough punk of a brother. The inevitable disaster gave rise to a Gender Bender who can switch at will between a sweet, gentle-hearted boy and a foul-mouthed punk of a girl.
  • Ai Ore! Love Me!: Akira and Mizuki play around this. Akira is feminine-looking and the "princess" of his all-boys school, while Mizuki is androgynous and the "prince" at her all-girls school. However, personality-wise Akira is quite dominant and masculine and Mizuki isn't really all that boyish — though in the counted times she does show a more assertive side, Akira isn't that displeased either.
  • Appleseed: Deunan and Briareos could possibly count, except that Briareos is a hulking cyborg four times the size of Deunan. But their relationship follows the trope pretty straight.
  • Baccano!:
  • Baka and Test: Summon the Beasts: Identical twins Yuuko (masculine girl) and Hideyoshi (feminine boy) Kinoshita. While Yuuko is typically feminine in traits (such as being good at cooking), her personality fits this trope because of her aggressive, prideful, arrogant, quick-to-anger, and competitive behavior. Hideyoshi, on the other hand, is calm, helpful, and supportive. Ironically, he is also much more popular than Yuuko, much to her dismay, because of his looks.
  • Battle Royale: Although there are signs of it in the book and movie, Sakura Ogawa and Kazuhiko Yamamoto's relationship is shown to be like this in the manga.
  • Berserk, initially played straight with Farnese and Serpico. When she was introduced Farnese was a callous apathetic commander of the Holy Iron Chain Knights with a serious sadomasochist streak, while her step-brother Serpico is polite, sincere and dislikes the sight of blood and is a good cook while Farnese (who was raised in luxury) sucks at "servant's work". Ironically Serpico is actually a capable warrior while Farnese has no combat experience despite being more aggressive than him, later on, Farnese goes on some radical character changes and becomes more feminine.
  • Binbō-gami ga!: Ranmaru and Tsuwabuki aren't a couple (although Ranmaru wishes they were) but their dynamic fits this trope well. Tsawabuki is the dutiful Promoted to Parent big brother to his four younger siblings, he is skilled at domestic chores and is pretty even-tempered. Ranmaru is the ridiculously Hot-Blooded Born in the Wrong Century Heir to the Dojo girl. It's not that Tsuwabuki is not manly but that Ranmaru is significantly MORE manly. Case in point, number of girls in their class in love with Tsuwabuki? Three. With Ranmaru? Pretty much all the rest!
  • Black Lagoon: Revy swears like a sailor, chugs rum, collects guns, and has no problem jumping onto a moving boat and killing every hostile on it, by herself, like an Action Hero. In the first arc, she was about to put Rock in a dress and hairbow because he seemed so feminine in contrast; the sensitive one who wants to talk things out without anyone getting hurt. Revy even tries to protect Rock from seeing tragic events e.g Yukio's suicide knowing how sensitive he is. However, there are times where this dynamic is subverted, such as when Rock stood up to Revy by refusing to apologize and grabbing her gun and when it was inches from blowing his head off, seeing his boldness shocked Revy and she treated him better after that.
  • Bokura no Hentai:
  • Boku to Boku: Yuuki is a tomboyish bifauxnen who saves a cute girl from a pervert, only to learn said girl is a crossdressing boy and later becomes his friend. Later she gains the affection of another crossdressing boy.
  • The Breaker: Ji-Nie as the Fiery Redhead, Hot-Blooded, leather-wearing tomboy bodyguard to the kinder, gentler Shi Woon.
  • Chotto Edo Made: A Bifauxnen swordswoman is paired with a feminine Long-Haired Pretty Boy.
  • Chrono Crusade: Chrono and Rosette. Chrono is implied in both versions to be better with housework (in the manga he's shown in an apron at one point, and in the anime, the Elder says he does the cooking and cleaning for him), and is much more meek and gentle (although has an extreme Berserk Button, often putting him into an Unstoppable Rage), while Rosette is loud, brash, swears constantly and was a Lethal Chef as a child. They both have their moments where they act more stereotypically like their genders (Chrono is very protective of Rosette, and Rosette is very fond of pretty dresses), but they still don't fit neatly into gender roles.
  • Claymore: Played up early on, between Clare and Raki, where Clare is the badass lone wolf from a mercenary organization sent to hunt demons, while Raki was the "damsel in distress" whom she rescued, and who then needed her companionship so traveled with her and made himself useful by cooking for her. This slides off later on as Raki starts learning the ways of combat, though does not disappear entirely.
  • Code Geass: Put Lelouch with a girl. Any girl. Some more specific examples:
    • Lelouch with Kallen and C.C. are non-romantic examples (maybe). Lelouch is badass, but his forte is strategy; Kallen (the Ace Pilot Action Girl) and C.C. (the immortal witch) protect him.
    • A more romantic example is Lelouch's dynamic with Shirley; she's part of the swim club, is more upfront (in the end) in regards to the romantic relationship, and can't cook. Meanwhile, Lelouch, particularly in his civilian identity, is a House Husband in skillset (cooking, cleaning, and sewing are all canonical skills of his) and plays up his more gentle, if snarky, side as "Lelouch Lamperouge".
    • There's also Kaguya, a 14-year-old girl who is the president of half the world and very serious about being the third maiden protecting Lelouch.
  • DARLING in the FRANXX has Ichigo (a socially assertive spitfire) and Goro (her quiet, diplomatic Number Two), who met when she convinced him to fight off the bullies preying on him.note  His character arc is about developing the courage and emotional knowledge to honestly convey his feelings to her; hers is about understanding and accepting what she truly feels.
  • Death Note:
  • Detective Conan:
  • Dragon Ball Z: Teen Gohan and Videl play it very straight, she's a stubborn Tomboy and he's a shy bookworm their high school days consist of Videl pushing Gohan around and chasing his alter ego Great Saiyanman. Of course there's double irony of Videl secretly having a crush on him and fact Gohan is actually thousands of times stronger than her and his reluctance to fight Videl comes from the fear of hurting her.
  • Doctor Slump:
    • Robot Girl Arale is a careless troublemaker who loves monsters, superheroes, playing with poop, and she's completely clueless about romance, while Robot Boy Obotchaman is very polite, sensitive, and romantic. This only applies to their personalities, since they both can fight and have the same Super Strength.
    • Arale's closest friends and classmates were the tall, feisty, tomboyish Akane and the short, wimpy, and insecure Peasuke.
  • Doraemon: There is a gadget called "Boygirl". It is a spray which have ability to make boys girlish and girls boyish.
  • Durarara!!: Celty and Shinra. Celty works a courier, rides a motorcycle, has super strength, and doesn't have a head. Shinra works as a Back-Alley Doctor, is a House Husband when off the job, is a Bishōnen, and barely has the strength to knock Celty's helmet off of her neck.
  • Elfen Lied: Lucy the Axe-Crazy mutant who will single-handedly fight and kill armies in order to protect Kouta the Non-Action Guy. Kouta isn't exactly archetypically girly, but he is much more quiet and less-action geared than Lucy.
  • Ergo Proxy: Re-L Mayer and Vincent Law; Vincent is easily more emotional while Real is usually expressionless, impatient, or angry.
  • Haikara-san ga Tooru: The Lad-ette Benio in two of these. A non-romantic version with her best male friend Ranmaru (a very feminine-looking boy who's a member of a kabuki troupe — who as much is put in the Unlucky Childhood Friend role), and a more romantic one with her arranged boyfriend Shinobu Iijyuin (who, like the below-mentioned André Grandier from The Rose of Versailles, isn't that girly but is still more patient and sensitive than she is.)
  • Hayate the Combat Butler: Hayate Ayasaki is extremely polite, humble, and skilled at domestic tasks. Mirroring him is pink-haired swordswoman Hinagiku Katsura (one of his Love Interests) who is assertive, highly-athletic, and projects an aura of leadership. Simply put, he can make women around him feel their femininity is being challenged and she is cooler than any of the boys at school resulting in most of the guys and girls crushing on her. Each of them is a mix of traits however, and Character Development has resulted in them evening out somewhat. Hinagiku becomes less "tomboy" and more "girly", by showing that she is just as good a cook as master-chef Hayate and adores cute things, as well as focusing on her romantic side. Hayate gets to show off his determination and combat ability in addition to his dedication to duty and fulfilling his promises. Notably, he seems to like her "boyish" traits and Imagine Spots from her show that she kinda likes his "girlish" side as well.
  • Hetalia: Axis Powers:
  • Himegoto - Juukyuusai no Seifuku: Kaito is a Bishōnen Chick Magnet who has a fetish for pretending he's the girl he has a crush on while Yuki (who isn't said woman) is a bifauxnen who wishes she was girlier.
  • Himitsu Kichi: Haruka and Kotake from the one-shot My Own Secret. She's a boyish Bifauxnen who practices judo and he's a feminine guy who likes cooking and sewing.
  • Infinite Stratos: The biggest badass Ace Pilot Chifuyu Orimura living with her little brother and main protagonist Ichika Orimura for the majority of their lives. He is the series House Husband who takes care of all the housework while she earns the money for both of them.
  • Maid-Sama!: A non-romantic example (not counting Aoi's one-sided crush on her) is Misaki and Aoi.
  • Kamichama Karin: Karin the tomboyish Cute Bruiser and Kazune the girly-faced tsundere.
  • Kanojo Ni Naritai?!: Invoked when the (already slightly effeminate) protagonist begins crossdressing to attract the attention of a cool tomboy he has a crush on. He later finds out she actually isn't a lesbian and the one shot ends with implications they will begin dating.
  • Sora and Sebastian from Massugu ni Ikou. Sora is loud, rude, and athletic Dachshund while Sebastian is a polite and dainty Yorkie with a bow on his head. Sora is quite protective of Sebastian. She's also in love with him, but he's Oblivious to Love.
  • Fuuka and Mei from Mei no Naisho
  • Minami-ke: Makoto isn't girly per se, but most of his scenes alongside the tomboy Touma feature him masquerading as a girl. In one episode, he also describes masculine and feminine traits inherited from his mother and father, respectively.
  • Mobile Suit Gundam 0083: Stardust Memory has Mora Bascht and Chuck Keith. Although Chuck isn't all that girly, he's a fairly unassuming guy, and Mora is pretty Amazon (and head and shoulders taller than him), so this vibe is definitely present.
  • Monthly Girls' Nozaki-kun:
    • The Wakamatsu/Seo couple has this dynamic, as Wakamatsu is a sensitive guy who believes in Shoujo Genre manga while Seo is a brash lad-ette.
    • For a platonic example, Kashima and Mikoshiba. Kashima is a Tall, Dark, and Handsome "prince charming" who can easily make girls fall in love with her, while her best friend Mikoshiba is a shy guy who often behaves like a Tsundere. When Mikoshiba tried to ask Kashima to become his pretend girlfriend (which she agreed to), the roles got reversed and Mikoshiba claimed that he felt like he has got a boyfriend instead.
  • Neon Genesis Evangelion likes to analyse gender roles, and as such plays with the trope regarding the couples in the series:
    • Shinji is obviously a House Husband in training, cooking and doing most of the chores around the house he occupies with Asuka and Misato, and has a shy, timid, and kind personality most of the time (unless extensively provoked or completely snaps). By contrast, Asuka is a Fiery Redhead Action Girl who revels in combat and remains the better pilot for most of the series.
    • While Kaji is clearly quite manly, he has some feminine touches to his personality, in that he enjoys gardening, drinks coffee, specializes in espionage, and likes tidying up. This is in contrast to Misato who enjoys cars, drinks beer, specializes in combat, and is very sloppy (as seen that Shinji picks up after her and Asuka.)
  • One Piece: Mostly averted with the Straw Hats even the males with the more feminine attributes are still more masculine than the two females of the crew. Really the two who actually play this straight are Nami and Lovable Coward Usopp, she’s fiery enough that she always takes charge when paired with him and she gets very pissy when Usopp doesn't man-up like when they were fighting Enel together.
    • Plus there's bit of trivia from Oda that no matter who joins, Usopp will always be the weakest crew member which means Nami could kick Usopp's ass anytime she wanted, and did so in Arlong Park (though as a ploy).
  • Ore-sama Teacher: Several pairs, as the female protagonist Mafuyu is a Tomboy/Action Girl. So there is Mafuyu and Hayasaka, Mafuyu and Okegawa, Mafuyu and Ayabe...
  • Otome no Iroha: In the manga, the main siblings' grandmother comes back from the dead and forcibly Gender Bends them because of this. Her feeling was that the odds of a Pink Boy and a Blue Girl successfully marrying, let alone providing great-grandchildren, were so minute she had to take matters into her own hands.
  • Peter Pan no Bouken, the World Masterpiece Theater take on Peter Pan, has the series' versions of Tiger Lily (a mix of Action Girl and tsundere) and John Darling (a Shrinking Violet who doubles as her Dogged Nice Guy) and even dedicates a whole episode to their potential relationship.
  • Pokémon:
    • The Pokémon anime has the aggressive Fiery Redhead Jessie and the Camp Straight James of Team Rocket (though James falls under more the Princely Young Man type). Over the seasons they have more than a few times they were Disguised in Drag as a man and woman respectively.
    • Pokémon Adventures has the Camp Straight coordinator Ruby and the aggressive battle-loving Tomboy Sapphire. Ironically enough, it was implied they had more traditional roles when they were younger. However, both underwent a traumatic incident involving Salamance as young children. Ruby felt ashamed in how his battling frightened Sapphire and developed into someone calmer and more serene while Sapphire was ashamed by her timidity in response and became more fiery.
    • Ash's Unova companions in the anime, Iris and Cilan. Cilan cooks and has a more passive and nurturing role while Iris is more battle-oriented and wild.
  • Puella Magi Madoka Magica: Junko is a corporate ladder climber as well as a Hard-Drinking Party Girl when off-work. Tomohisa is her level-headed and kind House Husband. This is reflected in her style of dialogue, which is more similar to Kyouko's than any of the other female characters (though less vulgar).
  • The calm and serene So Touma and hyperactive tomboy Kana Mizuhara from Q.E.D..
  • Ranma ½:
    • Ukyo Kuonji is a Bifauxnen who manages to attract two different Wholesome Crossdresser suitors. The second of these, Konatsu, is so feminine thanks to years of brutal treatment that s/he can almost be argued as transgender, to the point that his reaction when surprised in a bath is to squeal like a girl and cover his non-existent breasts.
    • Ranma Saotome and Akane Tendo can be seen as a zigzagging example of this. Akane is a notoriously short-tempered and violence-prone tomboy, infamous for her total lack of cooking skill, horrible at anything arts and crafts (such as making cookie shapes, sewing, painting, etc), and poor at housework. Ranma, in contrast, is capable of acting much more feminine, is very good at cooking and sewing, hates mess to the point he once forgot about burglarizing a flat to clean up the mess inside instead, can turn into a girl more or less at will, and, according to one post-series book, has developed a secret enjoyment of crossdressing by the time the series ends, thanks to all the times he dressed up as a girl for whatever Zany Scheme he was pulling. On the other hand, Akane desperately wants to be more feminine and tries her hardest to achieve that, and had both stereotypically "girly" fears (such as loathing ghost stories) and a rather idealized view of femininity (due to her beloved mother's early death and having been raised by her Yamato Nadeshiko older sister Kasumi), while Ranma is a macho jock-type who'll even go around near-naked in female form because he's that masculine.
  • Revolutionary Girl Utena: Juri is The Stoic captain of the fencing club. Miki is a gentle Bishōnen and a skilled pianist.
  • The Rose of Versailles: André Grandier and Oscar François de Jarjayes. Perhaps not a textbook example, since André is not tremendously effeminate. But André is the more sensitive and people-oriented one, while Oscar is very direct and more goal-oriented. Oscar is referred to as the "light", and André as the "shadow".
  • Saiyuki: Genjo Sanzo and his new best friend Sharak Sanzo are two peas in a pod. They're a mirror reflection of each other, except for appearance. Genjo Sanzo is short, was mistaken for a girl a lot as a kid, is teasingly referred to as "princess," has men hitting on him because of his looks, wears a long flowing garment, and is the weakest guy in his party. Sharak has barely noticeable breasts, wears men's monk robes, is very buff, is covered in scars, talks and carries herself in a masculine manner, plus she does not like being thought of or looked at as a woman.
  • Sakura Discord: Mebuki and Oka are revealed to have been very close in the third volume. She's a blunt, sarcastic and uncaring Academic Athlete while he's a nice and soft pretty boy, who met her through his reading hobby. After much drama involving Mebuki's family, they end up together. And they turn out to have a strange and unexpected affinity when it comes to trolling.
  • Sands of Destruction: mild mannered Kyrie and arrogant Morte. Because the two are so different, Kyrie has the power to convince Morte to stop destroying the world.
  • Kazuto "Towa" Sakuma and Miya from Sensual Phrase. Kazuto's a very girly-looking rock musician who dresses as a female even off-stage. Miya is the Bifauxnen beautician who both dates him and created his androgynous looks.
  • Sailor Moon:
  • Special A: Brash, competitive Hikari and thoughtful, cultured Kei. It also inverts typical plot roles: Kei has loved Hikari since forever but is too shy to say it; Hikari is so dense that she doesn't notice.
  • Toradora!: Ryuji and Taiga have aspects of this in personality, but it contrasts with their appearance. Taiga is small ("looks like a doll") but has a brash, loud and angry personality. Ryuji has the Face of a Thug but is generally quiet and enjoys housework (especially cleaning but also cooking).
  • Urusei Yatsura: Ryunosuke was unwillingly raised to be the ultimate manly man by her father, and later discovers she's in an Arranged Marriage with Nagisa, the ghost of a guy raised to be ultra womanly. Though after coming back to life, he turns out to also be insanely strong, despite mostly hiding it behind over the top girly behavior.
  • Shikimori-san is Not Just Cute concerns the relationship between a cute, but popular, naturally athletic, and cool girl and her supportive, unlucky, cute Protectorate boyfriend. In-universe and out, many think they could switch genders and they'd fit in each other's roles perfectly.
  • Usotsuki Lily: Numerous, including the main couple Hinata and En, with boyfriend En being a pretty crossdresser and girlfriend Hinata shown to be a pretty boy when crossdressing and sometimes does not know her own strength.
  • Utopia Of Homosexuality: Jung Suk Ha and Park Bong Bin are respectively a Butch Lesbian and a Camp Gay who eventually end up together. Yes, a very misleading title.
  • Venus to Mamoru!: Ayako's the violent, tsundere Personof Mass Destruction who gives off Huge Schoolgirl vibes in her attempts to act more feminine (not at all helped by the Absurdly Powerful Student Council constantly teasing the two about their relationship), and Mamoru's a cute boy who takes all the craziness around him with a gentle smile.
  • Wandering Son: Downplayed with Maho and Riku. Maho is a loud, aggressive girl while her boyfriend Riku is a softspoken Nice Guy.
  • Woman in the Man: Childhood friends Tsuyomaru and Hazumi, a short story by Masakazu Katsura. Mixed with "Freaky Friday" Flip as they switch bodies.
  • Welcome to Room #305: Yoona and her twin brother Yoon Sung when they were young. Yoona is boisterous, looked androgynous, and would get into fights protecting her short, crybaby brother. As adults, Yoona is still The Lad-ette but Yoon Sung is a Jerkass.
  • W Juliet: Ito and Makoto. So much that it's even implied that they'll get married in drag!
  • Your and My Secret: Soft-spoken boy, Akira Urehara and loud-mouthed girl Nanako Momoi being Body Switched into one another's bodies. Just about everyone notices how much more masculine Akira and how feminine Nanako has become, and approve.
  • Your Lie in April: Tsubaki and Kousei, when they were in elementary. Kousei was a short, sensitive boy who played the piano while Tsubaki was an athletic tomboy.
  • You're My Pet: Sumire and Momo. Sumire is an efficient, successful journalist who watches pro wrestling and Sentai anime in her spare time and is a martial arts master on the side, while Momo is a modern dancer who is fairly emotional and doesn't mind taking on the role of Sumire's pet.

    Comic Books 
  • Wonder Woman:
    • John Byrne loves this trope, always matching a super-heroine with a waifish guy who serves her. Even managed to stick this trope in during his run of Wonder Woman (1987).
    • In general Wonder Woman relationships with non-super powered men like Steve Trevor or even Batman screams this trope. Since Diana metaphorically "wears the pants" in each relationship as the best guys like them can do is hold her back and be a cautious moral guide when it comes to mankind due to her being a Proud Warrior Girl. Though this only became apparent in later adaptations as the proud warrior aspect of her character is a relatively new and often controversial addition and she was more of a Girly Bruiser in previous continuities.
    • Most continuities maintain Artimis' masculine woodsy hunter nature and her twin brother Apollo's feminine artsy lover nature from the original mythology while also having them generally appear together.
  • Molecule Man and Volcano in Secret War and other stories.
  • Downplayed but Gambit and Rogue have shades of this, mostly because Gambit is only couple degrees higher than a Badass Normal being a swift thief with kinetic explosion ability while Rogue is an immensely strong Power Parasite Flying Brick whose Story-Breaker Power puts her leagues above him, despite them being depicted as a Battle Couple. Personalty-wise, Gambit is cautious, tactical, and wears pink while Rouge is headstrong, tomboyish, and stubborn. Nationality also gives credence to this trope as from the French-center of New Orleans while Rogue is from Mississippi with her brash southern accent clashing with the Gambit's French tones. Rouge also often reverses the Bridal Carry with Gambit, however this trope is also subverted with Rogue and Gambit as ironically being with him, Rogue actually becomes more feminine and stops being such a Shrinking Violet.
  • Archie Comics:
    • Betty and Archie, from the main Archie Comics series, Depending on the Writer. When Archie's car breaks down, Betty fixes it. And there is even one comic where they try to enter a team surfing competition, but since Archie is too weak to carry Betty, Betty carries Archie.
    • Samantha and Bingo from That Wilkin Boy are Expies of Betty and Archie who fit even better. Samantha is physically very strong, while Bingo is a weak musician. This trope may explain why her father never succeeded in breaking them up or getting her to date a manlier man.
    • The Cabot twins from Josie and the Pussycats: Alexander is a rich fashion plate (or a coward in the Animated Adaptation), while Alexandra is mean and aggressive.
    • This gets played with sometimes with Moose and Midge. While Moose normally exhibits standard jealous male behavior in regards to his girl, it is often suggested that Midge wears the pants in their relationship.
  • In most variations Clark Kent aka Superman is a mild-mannered Momma's Boy from Kansas while Lois Lane is an outgoing, fiery determined city girl. Ironically Clark being more meek made his masculine alter ego Superman more attractive to Lois despite hanging out with Clark every day. They worked it out in the end though.
  • Possibly Redlance and Nightfall from ElfQuest, although the elves don't quite go for the same kind of gender stereotyping that humans do. More to the point, the siblings Suntop and Ember. When trying to get a studio to do an animated version of the comic, Executive Meddling said that you can't have a calm guy and a tomboyish girl, and this is one of the reasons the author quickly abandoned that studio.
  • She-Hulk was paired with Wyatt Wingfoot while John Byrne was writing Fantastic Four. He's a very muscular man, but can only lift a thousandth of what She-Hulk can (and is one head shorter).
  • The New Gods Mister Miracle (escape artist and acrobat from New Genesis) and Big Barda (renegade Apokaliptian gladiator) are in many ways a Happily Married version of this.
  • Robin Series: Tomboyish basketball player Callie Evans, who is shaping up to be quite The Lad-ette as her high school career draws to a close went on multiple dates and was close friends with the much more emotional Non-Action Guy Sebastian Ives.
  • Dale and Andrea from The Walking Dead. Dale's not feminine, but physically he isn't strong. Andrea is the sharpshooter, more energetic and take-charge personality.
  • Yorick and his love interest finally get together near the end of Y: The Last Man. He compares them to the main couple of Moonlighting (a UST-filled detective series starring Bruce Willis and Cybill Sheperd), but takes great care with specifying SHE is the Bruce Willis equivalent.

    Comic Strips 
  • Peanuts: Initially, Patty and Violet's aggressiveness (both when they liked him and when they didn't) was meant as a foil for Charlie Brown's nature as a loser and a doormat. But then Shermy, who was also mean to Charlie Brown, was displaced by Linus and Schroeder, who are largely sensitive and introverted, while the girls' side gained the often ill-tempered and violence-prone Lucy and full-on Tomboy Peppermint Patty. Even Charlie Brown's own little sister Sally turned out to be an outspoken, in-your-face type. Of note is that of the four unrequited crushes in the strip, three are a girl pursuing a boy (with varying degrees of aggressiveness), and the fourth involves a character who's never even seen because frankly, that's the only level below being Charlie Brown.

    Films — Animation 
  • Disney Animated Canon:
  • DreamWorks:
    • In Kung Fu Panda, Tigress is The Stoic, a tough-as-nails Action Girl, the stronger one of the two, has manly traits, lacks Tertiary Sexual Characteristics, and can take a while to warm up to people. Po is an All-Loving Hero, a Supreme Chef, easily emotional, clumsy, and can be one of the most soft-hearted characters in the series.
    • Astrid and Hiccup from How to Train Your Dragon also a great example helped by the fact Astrid is One Head Taller and much more skilled in combat than Hiccup. Personality-wise, Hiccup is more introverted and creative while Astrid is stubborn and proud, so it’s satisfying when the dynamic is shifted and Astrid becomes more compassionate due to Hiccup and his Fluffy Tamer behavior.
      • Unfortunately this trope doesn’t carry into the second movie since Hiccup is more masculine and Astrid is pushed into supportive girlfriend role. However, it is worth noting that the second movie focuses more on Hiccup and his relationship with his long-lost mother, and Astrid is shown to still be tough-as-nails in the tv shows.
    • Gloria and Melman from Madagascar.
    • Roxanne Ritchi and Megamind. Career-oriented, no-nonsense Intrepid Reporter and a Camp Straight alien.
    • The teenage couple who appeared in Monsters vs. Aliens.
  • PJ and Beret Girl in An Extremely Goofy Movie have a lot of things in common, but they also have a few major differences in that Beret Girl is bold, aggressive, and flirtatious, while PJ is a timid, passive Insecure Love Interest. The couple inverts No Guy Wants to Be Chased, as Beret Girl takes the lead at every step in their relationship, and PJ enjoys this, contrast to how Beret Girl was annoyed by Bobby's attempts at flirting moments beforehand. Beret Girl also has a significantly deeper voice than PJ and is not much shorter, as well as going out of her way to protect him early on.
  • Pixar:
    • Ellie and Carl from Up in their younger years.
    • EVE and WALL•E.
    • Colette and Linguini from Ratatouille. Linguini may not be an excessively effeminate guy, but he is very clumsy and soft-hearted in contrast to the irascible and rough Colette.
    • Coco has Imelda and Hector. Imelda is strong-willed and no-nonsense while Hector is more sensitive and artistic.
  • Mermaidia's compassionate Prince Nalu falls for the brash explorer Nori. Their typical roles in the narrative are reversed, too- Nalu is captured by the Big Bad's minions, and Nori must brave the ocean's dangers to save him.
  • Wyldstyle and Emmet from The LEGO Movie. Wyldstyle is a feisty, stern, and no-nonsense Action Girl who actually shows competence in master building, while Emmet is a clumsy, childlike Butt-Monkey who is overlooked by his comrades and is useless for a good chunk of the film. He does take a level in badass near the end, though, when he truly becomes a Master Builder.
  • Rio has the two main macaws, Jewel and Blu, provide an example of this trope, especially during their early interactions. For a vast majority of the film, they are chained together, and whenever Jewel tries to get both of them into a risky situation, Blu keeps chickening out. The trope is downplayed in the second film since Blu has now learned to fly and manned up a bit, and Jewel is a sweet wife who is accepting of his faults.

    Films — Live-Action 
  • In The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert, Tick wears a wedding dress and his wife wears a tuxedo to their wedding.
  • The Chinese movie Boxing Gloves, Rag Dolls.
  • In Fargo Marge Gunderson trails a couple of sociopathic kidnappers in her third trimester. Her melancholy husband keeps house and paints ducks for a hoped-for Post Office commission.
  • In Impromptu, George Sand is, by 19th century standards, a Lad-ette, and she takes the lead in her relationship with Chopin. Frederic Chopin is a frail, sensitive, Bishōnen musician.
  • There was a short film featured on Logo that showed a Gender Flip of a heterosexual wedding. The bride wore a black pantsuit; the groom wore a white tuxedo and veiled top hat and held the bouquet as his mother walked him down the aisle. He was also kind of short. Even among the wedding-goers, all the men wore different suits while the women were dressed more low-key.
  • Peter Quill and Gamora (Guardians of the Galaxy), Scott Lang and Hope Van Dyne (Ant-Man), and Peter Parker and Michelle Jones (Spider-Man: Far From Home) from the Marvel Cinematic Universe all follow this dynamic to some extent. Quill, Scott, and Peter are not afraid to show emotions whereas Gamora, Hope, and Michelle are all more hardened to the point of being The Stoic. In all three pairings, the man is also less aggressive than the woman.
  • Jimmy Stark's parents in Rebel Without a Cause.
  • Some Kind of Wonderful has best friends Keith and Watts, the former a shy and sensitive Starving Artist, the latter a Lad-ette drummer going through a Green-Eyed Epiphany.
  • Tomboyish nanny Chessie and sensitive butler Martin from 1998 version of The Parent Trap.
  • A foster siblings variation with Raven and Charles in X-Men: Apocalypse. Both are mutant activists, but they use different methods when saving the world one mutant life at a time—the sister is more "active" and the brother is more "passive." Mystique is a forthright Action Girl who travels around the globe and regularly employs violence to free mutants who are in physical danger; she tells Caliban that she doesn't care what they do with their newfound liberty. Professor Xavier, on the other hand, is a sweet Non-Action Guy who remains at his home/school and coaches his mutant students on how to master their inherently hazardous abilities so that they're no longer a threat to themselves or to others, while at the same time nurturing them as individuals. In the final scene, Raven assumes a stern, no-nonsense approach when training the X-Men for combat, whereas Charles will continue to educate their minds and provide emotional support.
  • In Marketa Lazarová Alexandra is a wild beauty, who rides horses like a man would and flays animals herself, while her lover Kristian is a Pretty Boy and a Sheltered Aristocrat.
  • In On Moonlight Bay, Marjorie (Doris Day) is a baseball-playing tomboy. Bill is a college-educated intellectual. While Marjorie grows out of dressing like a first baseman, she still retains a lot of the personality (including fixing a car when it breaks down on a date, then driving off without Bill when he tries to claim credit for it).
  • Let It Snow: Angie, who goes by "The Duke", takes on the traditionally masculine role in her friendship with Tobin, who's a somewhat more feminine guy. She's more assertive with a tomboyish look, he's reserved and concerned with his appearance (causing a mishap while shaving his chest).

  • In Phenomena one got the elven twins Alk and Ilke. Alk is gentle, mature, prefers reading compared to adventure, and doesn't really like fighting. Ilke on the other hand loves sparring, lies sometimes, is quick to action, hates admitting it when she's scared, loves adventure, and is all around a bundle of fun. This also makes some conflict between them as Alk fulfills the prophecy because he has to but prefers being with his girlfriend, while Ilke follows her heart and wants to save their people and others who are victims to slavery because she wants to. It's not a gender inverted Women Are Wiser either as Ilke does pick up things they have been taught even though she maybe daydreamed through the lesson.
  • Discworld
  • In the DragonRider series by Cornelia Funk, Lola is a daredevil Action Girl. Twigleg, by contrast, is timid, sensitive, and much more at home with books and computers than with having hair-raising adventures. However, he and Lola often have to work together (as he is the only other person small enough to fit into Lola’s miniature aeroplane). By the second book, A Griffin’s Feather, they have become close friends, and Lola is highly protective of Twigleg.
  • This is a central theme in the Annie M. G. Schmidt story Het Fornuis Moet Weg ("The Stove Has To Go"). It's about a girl who wants to become a carpenter and a boy who wants to become a stay-at-home dad. They argue about it with grownups who are moving an old stove out of the house. Eventually, one of the grownups gets an idea: the stove can be seen as a symbol for the old times when a lack of modern household appliances meant that work around the house took all day and gender roles stayed reinforced. Because of modern luxuries, women now actually have time to study and choose their own careers, so there shouldn't be a need anymore for gender roles to stay as they were. The story is considered a children's classic in The Netherlands.
  • Older Than Steam, even: in 1620 England, in response to a pamphlet entitled Hic Mulier, or The Man-Woman, which discussed the evils of women who dress and act like men, another pamphlet was published, Haec Vir, or The Womanish Man, stating that women would stop acting like men when men stopped acting like women.
  • Katniss Everdeen and Peeta Mellark in The Hunger Games trilogy are often called "The Star-Crossed Lovers from District 12" because of their romance while in the Hunger Games, where only one can survive. Katniss is a determined fighter and an excellent archer. Her strategy is to put on a brave face so as to not appear weak. Peeta is more expressive of his emotions as seen in his tear-stained face, artistic talent, and public confession of love for Katniss.
  • The eponymous Jackie and Craig from the YA Horror franchise of the same name.
  • Mikael Blomkvist and Lisbeth Salander in The Millennium Trilogy.
  • Classic and surprisingly example: Christine and Raoul from The Phantom of the Opera, out of the couple Leroux describes Christine as “the strong one” of the relationship. She just has better fortitude than Raoul, and she might be physically stronger than him given that Christine overpowers Raoul twice in the novel to protect him from Erik, also Raoul is quicker to emotion than her being apt to burst into tears more frequently. Although to be fair Raoul is good with a pistol and actually wounds Erik, but regardless Christine is still the one who saves Raoul from her titular Stalker with a Crush’s wrath. When this trope is subverted and Christine is more typically fearful it’s a sign of how much the fear of Erik has gotten to her. Averted in the stage and movie adaptions where Christine goes through Chickification and Raoul becomes a badass Master Swordsmen.
  • There are elements of this in the relationship between Vin (a blunt Action Girl assassin) and Elend (a thoughtful, bookish nobleman) in Mistborn. It's not completely straight — Vin does have a girly side and Elend will get dangerous if sufficiently motivated — but the trope can definitely be seen here.
  • Pinky and Rex about a boy whose nickname was Pinky (his favorite color was pink) and Rex, a girl who liked dinosaurs and soccer.
  • In the Warhammer 40,000 Ravenor novels, Patience Kys and Carl Thonius are described this way. Hyper intelligent, scholarly dandy Thonius is frequently referred to as a pussy, frequently by Patience herself, a vicious battle telekine. This might be entirely fair, as the novel mentions that anything short of an Astartes in full battle plate is a pussy compared to Patience Kys.
  • A Song of Ice and Fire:
    • Jaime Lannister and Brienne of Tarth, aesthetically at least. Jaime is said to be so handsome it spills over into "pretty" territory (although he's also widely regarded as the greatest living swordsman prior to losing his right hand, at least), while Brienne is known for her unattractiveness and her un-lady-like habits of wearing armor, wielding a sword, and beating the crap out of people who piss her off. They form something of an uneasy Battle Couple in A Storm of Swords. As people have observed, one of the fun things about them as a pairing is that they are very much a "beauty and the beast" couple... but which one is which changes depending on if you're talking about looks or about personality.
    • Jon Snow and Ygritte also seem to share this dynamic, much to Ygritte's amusement.
    • An additional example is a sibling pairing rather than a romantic one—Jojen and Meera Reed. Jojen is a frail, sensitive and psychic boy, and Meera a physically-inclined girl who protects him.
    • Another sibling dynamic, Theon and Asha, also qualify.
    • The Star-Crossed Lovers Lyanna Stark and Rhaegar Targaryen, Jon Snow's possible real parents, also had this dynamic. Lyanna was a vivacious, brave tomboy who loved to ride and was almost certainly the mystery knight known as the Knight of the Laughing Tree at the Tourney at Harrenhal. Rhaegar, a bookish, melancholy Long Haired pretty boy, while a noted swordsman, was a musician first and foremost, who only became a warrior because he believed the prophecy of the Prince Who Was Promised applied to him (and wasn't as good as Robert Baratheon, as was demonstrated fatally at the Battle of the Trident).
  • In a very unusual setup for a Romance Novel, Nora Roberts' Tears Of The Moon has as its romantic leads Shawn, a sensitive songwriter and pub cook, and Brenna, a feisty, tomboyish handywoman.
  • The main couple in Elinor Glyn's Three Weeks have shades of this, at least in terms of gender roles — Paul is boyish but virginal, beautiful and compared to Sleeping Beauty, and the Lady is older, independent, mature, compelling and in charge.
  • Depending on the Writer, Mara Jade and Luke Skywalker. When Timothy Zahn writes them, Luke is the sweeter, gentler one who prefers to avoid violence when possible, is always giving second and third chances, and is very open emotionally. Mara is more hostile to the world, blunt and direct and not about to let herself be jerked around, much more fiercely independent, and untrusting.
  • By our standards, this is the default in the world of A Brother's Price. Men being so rare they are kept protected and secluded, and internalize a set of gender roles that encourage softness, vulnerability, passivity, physical attractiveness, and affinity for the domestic sphere, while women run the world and are just about universally more assertive, daring, and calculating. A little girl in tears over a cut on her knee is even told that big girls don't cry. By his world's standards, Jerin is actually rather feminine, as he works to escape when captured and does know how to ride horses, pick locks, read, and use a gun - although he's quite stricken when he actually fires it.
  • Jeeves and Wooster: Bertie Wooster and some of the women who set their sights on him. Bertie is sweet-tempered, non-combative, and a bit of a dandy. He has an unfortunate tendency to attract women with frighteningly assertive personalities.
  • Yume Gari implies that Tatsumi's dead parents were like this. The Action Mom mother was the active yumegari who drove into people's dreams/subconscious and a Lethal Chef, the father watched over his wife's work as her yumemori and was a Supreme Chef. (And Tatsumi pretty much describes her dad as a male Yamato Nadeshiko.)
  • Avasrala from The Expanse series is a foul-mouthed, no-nonsense, tough alpha politician. Her husband is a gentle, philosophical academic.
  • Mortal Engines: Tom and Hester fit this trope, especially in the first half or so of the first book of the series. Hester hides her emotions, doesn't talk much, is a badass Action Girl, and is used to dealing with the rough world beyond the cities without complaints. Tom, on the other hand, is sensitive, emotional, naive, and is constantly shocked by the rough-and-tumble world around him. As the series goes on Tom becomes tougher, while Hester sometimes shows quite a bit of her emotional side, so this trope isn't always in effect — though there are still parts in the later books where Tom very clearly fills the more traditionally "feminine" role in the story, with Hester acting "masculine." (For example, towards the end of Predator's Gold — for much of the book Tom seems to fit the "masculine" mold more so than Hester, but towards the end, Hester becomes very protective of Tom, keeps him out of harm's way, and plays the macho action-hero while Tom fills a more sensitive and support-oriented role).
  • The two azi (roughly, clone servants) Florian and Catlin in Cyteen. Florian is sensitive, social, and a Friend to All Living Things, while Catlin is cold and militaristic. While they're both bodyguards, Catlin specialises in battle, whereas Florian is better at setting and disarming traps.
  • A non-romantic example in Little Women between Jo and Laurie — she's a no-nonsense, unmannered writer who feels uncomfortable in the presence of females, talks about her gender in a manner incredibly reminiscent of transgender people today, and finds sentimentality utterly repellent. He's an artist and a musician, is stated many times to have an acute sense for the beautiful, is initially (before his best friend stirs up his mischief and college gives him a gutter mind) described as always sweet and gentle, a hopeless romantic to the point of total despair when his heart is broken, and unfailingly sentimental. Just to clarify: Yes, Jo is the girl and Laurie is the boy, and those are both nicknames of their own choosing.
  • In The Moomins, Little My (a tough and plucky tomboy) and Sniff (sensitive, cowardly and delicate) is a non-romantic example.
  • The Protector of the Small series has Kel- a stoic girl dedicated to becoming a knight and fighting injustice- and her friend Neal, a healer-turned-knight who often uses White Magic to help his friends and is constantly lovesick over court women.
  • In the Ahriman Trilogy you have sensitive, brooding Simon with militant bruiser Zoe.
  • A non-romantic example in Hetty Feather by Jacqueline Wilson. Heroine Hetty is tough, feisty, outspoken, opinionated, proactive, and sometimes physically aggressive; while her foster brother Gideon is shy, passive, sensitive, fearful, and cries easily. Lampshaded in one scene where they are told that upon leaving the Foundling Hospital, Hetty will be sent to work as a housemaid and Gideon sent to the Armed Forces. They both agree they would each rather go into the opposite profession.
  • Both boys and both girls in The Mysterious Benedict Society are platonic examples. Sticky is panicky, soft-spoken, and sensitive while Constance is a sassy Bratty Half-Pint. Reynie is a mild-mannered bookworm while Kate is an energetic Action Girl.
  • Wings of Fire pairs forgiving, born-diplomat Clay with Peril, an emotional and easily annoyed soldier.
  • In The Grace of Kings, Gin Mazoti and her friend/lover Luan Zya fit this contrasting pairing. Gin disguised herself as a boy when younger and continues to shave her head and wear masculine dress as an adult. While she is very well-read on military strategy, she's characterized by being a very hands-on military leader with an emphasis on dirty tricks picked up from growing up on the streets. In contrast, Luan Zya was (briefly) disguised as a girl as a boy, and grew up pampered in an aristocratic family. Despite their being stripped of their holdings, Zya maintains the wide-ranging education he received as a boy as well as somewhat affected court manners, and as an adult, is a Non-Action Guy whose military contribution is in the form of gadgetry and war-room strategy.
  • Jesse from Bridge to Terabithia is a quiet boy who spends his time drawing and is in love with his school's art teacher. His best friend Leslie is a boyish-looking Outdoorsy Gal. Jesse is Mistaken for Gay by his parents, due to his interest in art combined with the fact his Only Friend is a girl, while Leslie's tomboyishness makes her ostracized at school. Both elements were changed in the 2007 adaptation due to Society Marches On.
  • Femysade and Aqib in the novella A Taste of Honey. Femysade is taller and stronger than Aqib, has a no-nonsense attitude, and spends her time studying mathematics and physics, while Aqib is — and remains for all his life — a slight, rather weak boy who prefers to avoid conflict and work with animals. Femysade expressly chooses him as her husband because Weakness Turns Her On but later leaves Aqib and their daughter behind to pursue her scientific interests, while Aqib stays behind and takes care of Lucretia. Also, during prayer dances, everyone prefers his performance because it's more feminine — and submissive — than those of more skilled dancers.
  • Animorphs has the very aggressive and assertive Blood Knight Rachel and her Love Interest, the mild-mannered Broken Bird Tobias.
  • Moribito: Balsa is a veteran Action Girl and The Stoic. Her childhood friend, Tanda, is a gentle House Husband who honed his healing skills by patching up her wounds over the course of 20 years.
  • The Lunar Chronicles:
    • Cinder is a jaded Wrench Wench while Kai is a diplomatic and soft-spoken gentleman.
    • Scarlet is a Gunslinger and a Fiery Redhead who was hardened after some Parental Abandonment and was raised on a farm, while Wolf, although an exceptional fighter, is extremely quiet and shy.
  • In Warrior Cats, Ivypool and Fernsong. Ivypool is a she-cat and one of the toughest fighters in the Clan, who survived literal Training from Hell, while Fernsong is a gentler tom. Ivypool wasn't certain about having kits since she didn't want to spend a whole six moons in the nursery, but they decided that once the kits were weaned, Fernsong would move into the nursery to take over their care until they became apprentices. His name is also often considered feminine by fans since both halves of it have been used more often for female characters.
  • Marcus and Caitlys in The Arts of Dark and Light would be a somewhat downplayed example. Caitlys is not exactly unfeminine, but she is a Magic Knight from the elves' secular culture, while Marcus is a kind-hearted and devout scholar type without combat experience (when they first meet). She saves him from villains several times, including once when he tried to Save the Villain and got backstabbed for it (whereas she wanted to just kill the guy all along).
  • This description of a young couple from The Picnic and Suchlike Pandemonium by Gerald Durrell:
    Perry and Marjorie, hand in hand, entered the restaurant. Marjorie was a handsome lady who did look a little like a Gauguin maiden, and Perry was a willowy, delicate, and rather beautiful young man in the Byronic style.

    Live-Action TV 
  • Several couples in Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. but the most glaring one is Kasius and Sinara - so much various character and the two themselves point it out a few times.
  • When Rosie O'Donnell hosted SNL in 1994 she did a sketch "The Tomboy & the Sissy" with her as the 'tomboy' and David Spade as the 'sissy.' They are high school outcasts who become friends and help the other become more masculine and feminine.
  • Battlestar Galactica: Lee "Apollo" Adama and Kara "Starbuck" Thrace from the rebooted series are an interesting example of how to flip a gender dynamic: it's not so much about the way they look and dress as how they behave with each other. Apollo tends to be the softer, more introspective of the two, while Starbuck is louder, brasher, and more of an alpha than he is. Despite this, no one in-universe sees them as less masculine or less feminine for it.
  • The Big Bang Theory: Penny and Leonard. It's a product of Penny's personality that she doesn't take any crap from people while Leonard will just suffer through humiliation to avoid conflict. In Season 6, Bernadette's father tries to take Howard fishing as a bonding exercise. Howard realizes he had better learn how to fish and asks Raj and Leonard to help him figure out who he can ask to train him in Typical Guy Stuff. One Gilligan Cut later, they are knocking on Penny's door. It's also revealed that she rebuilt an entire tractor engine all by herself at the age of twelve. It's also sometimes played with, as she certainly likes girly things and can be quite emotional at times, leading to this gem when she first tells Leonard that she loves him.
    Leonard: Are we just going to pretend this isn't a big deal?
    Penny: ...That's exactly what we are going to do, because... [tearing up] you're about to make me cry. And we both know if I start crying, you're going to start crying!
    Leonard: [tearing up as well] Yeah, you'd better go.
  • Black Sails: Rackham and Anne Bonny are both pirates. But he prefers to use his mind over his brawn and wears flamboyant clothes that got his historical counterpart his nickname of "Calico" Jack. Anne is sexually aggressive, possessive of him, and does the killing in the relationship.
  • Brooklyn Nine-Nine: Detective Rosa Diaz and Detective Charles Boyle are a platonic example. Rosa is a stoic, tough, and short-tempered Badass Biker Lad-ette who is Hell-Bent for Leather and loves gratuitous violence, while Boyle is a sensitive Extreme Doormat foodie who loves romantic comedies like 27 Dresses and played with dollhouses and read Nancy Drew books growing up.
  • Carrusel: Valeria is louder, more outspoken, and has a stronger personality than her boyfriend David.
  • Castle: We have tough-cops Beckett & Gates (who is even addressed as 'sir.'). Castle, Ryan, and even Esposito have strong metrosexual tendencies (lampshaded in one episode when they were going on about a line of men's grooming products, and Beckett said that it was 'Like Sex and the City with boys.'
  • Chuck: Sarah and Chuck, even more so in the first two seasons before he Took a Level in Badass, but their personalities always fit. Chuck is the one who is in touch with his feelings, wants to talk things out, and can't stand to have fights unresolved. Meanwhile, Sarah is extremely guarded, tries to keep up a stoic front, hesitates to commit, and is always on the traditionally 'male' side of all their relationship-related arguments. Right down to Chuck being the one who wanted a big wedding.
  • Creeped Out: In the episode "Help", protagonist Gabe is shy and gentle and his father is a stay at home parent. All the female characters that appear in the episode are in more conventionally masculine roles: his teacher is an army instructor, his best friend a tough cadet, and the school bully is a girl (it's also mentioned that his mother is in the military.)
  • Doctor Who:
    • In a nutshell, this is the relationship between the Fifth Doctor and Tegan Jovanka.
    • Newly married Amy Pond and Rory Williams seem to have this dynamic, as Amy is an Action Girl, while Rory is a bit of a Non-Action Guy and a nurse (and while male nurses are common these days, it's still a profession that's predominantly female where he comes from).
    • The Doctor lampshades it by referring to them as 'the Ponds' after their marriage, instead of 'the Williamses.' Rory doesn't seem very bothered by it. According to the Doctor, it's just because Amy has an awesome surname, but he still refers to Rory as "Mr. Pond" and "Rory Pond". The series for its part leaves the question of whether Amy actually takes Rory's surname open until "Asylum of the Daleks" when she is shown signing a document as "Amy Williams" and it is later indicated that she uses the name Amelia Williams when she becomes a writer.
    • Although Rory has taken NUMEROUS levels in BadAss to the point of becoming a Memetic version, he still remains by choice utterly under his wife's thumb. Hell, managing to spend two thousand years waiting and not going insane was for her benefit.
    • Not a couple, but Danny Pink and Journey Blue are two soldiers who appear in "Into The Dalek". Mr. Pink (present day, earth) is now a math teacher and is rather sensitive because it's implied he killed at least one civilian and deeply regrets it. Ms. Blue (future, space) is still a soldier and is pretty gung-ho about killing Daleks especially since her brother died moments before she encountered the Doctor. In the end she asks if she can go with the Doctor and Clara. She could... if she hadn't been a soldier.
  • Friends: Chandler wasn't that feminine in early seasons (he and Joey shared the same manly interests) but the show starts making girly jokes about him (wimpy, unathletic, enjoying romantic comedies, etc.) after he's paired with the strong-willed, domineering Monica. In one episode, Monica bought a different set of wedding china than the ones Chandler picked out because, in her words, the ones Chandler picked out were "too feminine."
  • Game of Thrones: Brienne and Renly are specifically the Action Girl and Non-Action Guy pairing. Brienne adores Renly because his sweet and caring nature is so different from the malicious, violent men that she has encountered in her life. Renly is fond of Brienne (to the point where Loras is even a bit jealous of her) because he admires a woman who, despite the numerous obstacles she has faced in her pursuit of a masculine occupation, is able to beat the formidable Knight of Flowers in the melee.
  • The Good Place: Chidi Anagonye is a nerdy, polite, well-mannered, and slightly timid and neurotic intellectual who loves French poetry while Eleanor Shellstrop is a hyper-sexual, alcoholic, foul-mouthed, strong-willed, and uncouth Lad-ette who says "man" a lot. These two care and support each other despite their obvious differences. Funny thing is that when they shared a house together in episode 5, they acted like a typical husband and wife but with reversed genders, Chidi complains that he has to do all the dishes while Eleanor is a slob.
  • Happy Endings: Jane and Brad, not as pronounced as some examples, Jane is fairly feminine, she's just take charge and aggressively helpful (read: controlling), Brad meanwhile is Camp Straight, but is also a classic example of the male breadwinner. Also they both look exactly as masculine and feminine as normal, Brad is usually dressed in a suit and classically handsome, and Jane shows off her legs every chance she gets.
  • How I Met Your Mother: The men are sentimental, mild-mannered, reserved, romantic, blissfully domestic (Marshall) or kid-crazy (Ted), and are often made fun of for stereotypically feminine traits, while the women are tough, uncouth, uncultured, boisterous, insensitive, commitment-phobic (Robin, who was literally raised as her father's son, was allowed to join an all-boys hockey team), or sex-obsessed (Lily), and often engage in hypermasculine actions as comedy. However, Barney takes the aggressively-heterosexual male stereotype and drives it so far over the edge he overshadows everyone else, though he also gets his nails done and obsesses over clothing, making him feminine.
  • It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia: Dennis and Dee Reynolds are a brother-sister example: Dennis is a Camp Straight Non-Action Guy, the more polite and cultured of the two (as far as someone like him could be), and the one more likely to burst into tears (Berserker Tears, but still). Dee is The Lad-ette, more uncouth, uncultured, and overtly aggressive than her brother, not to mention more physically capable than him.
  • Joan of Arcadia: Grace and Luke. She wears a motorcycle jacket and a butch haircut; he is shy and wears his emotions on his sleeve. In one of the last episodes he tries to toughen up, and she pretends to turn into a girly girl, after which they return to normal with great relief.
  • Kamen Rider
    • In Kamen Rider OOO, Shintaro Gotou is shown to be more compassionate and gentle than his female sidekick/assistant Satonaka, who hates sweets, can wield a gun with the best of them, and fights evil only because she is paid to do so.
    • Kamen Rider Wizard has the main character's two sidekicks: tough, gun-wielding policewoman Rinko and compassionate, klutzy, dorky Shunpei.
    • Kamen Rider Gaim initially features tough, assertive Mai who has no problem facing down a gang of bullies or challenging others to Invase battles; and soft-spoken Mitsuzane who dislikes confrontation and wears pink pants with his dance uniform before his Heel–Face Turn.
    • Kamen Rider Drive has an example with the villains Heart and Medic. In keeping with his name, Heart is emotionally expressive and is warm and loving towards his fellow Roidmudes; while Medic, though feminine, is much more ruthless, aggressive, and emotionally detached.
    • Kamen Rider Amazons: The Nozama Corp's "Pest Extermination Team" has no-nonsense Action Girl Takai, and Mamoru, who when not fighting as an Amazon is gentle and cries easily.
  • Liv and Maddie: Athlete Maddie and nerdy Joey are a sister-brother example.
  • Modern Family: Claire plays the part of the masculine girl in two pairings:
    • With her brother Mitchell, she was more into sports while he was more into theatre.
    • With her husband Phil, who while still masculine, has no trouble getting in touch with his feminine side and had a history of more feminine hobbies (i.e. cheerleading)
  • Once Upon a Time in Wonderland: Alice comes across as the very proactive, no-nonsense, sword-swinging Action Girl, whilst Cyrus is a lot more gentle and sweet. The drive of the narrative also revolves around Cyrus being a Distressed Dude and Alice being on a Quest to rescue him. Plus the flashback reveals that she was the one to first make a romantic move on him.
  • Orphan Black: Sarah her brother Felix. One's a Street Smart, leather-clad Action Girl; the other's a supportive, flamboyant Non-Action Guy.
  • The Orville: Downplayed in the case of Ed Mercer and Kelly Grayson. Ed is certainly no stranger to a gunfight or combat, and Kelly can be diplomatic if she has to be, but Ed's primarily a Guile Hero relying on tricks and talking his way out of situations while Kelly's approach is far more direct. It's evident when Darulio shows up and doses them both with a fantastic date rape drug. Ed shows up to the "date" with wine and fresh-baked bread while Kelly's approach is pretty much a beeline to the bed.
  • Pantanal: Juma and Joventino. She was a tough girl, good fighter, and had a rifle (for self-defense, as she lived alone in a land of rude men). He was sensitive and not so good with physical activities. As he was raised in a big city, he was perceived as a "flower" by the rude "peões" (local equivalent of cowboys) from Pantanal (a swampy rural area in Brazilian countryside). Although he Took a Level in Badass along the soap, she remained more badass than him, fighting and killing–without her gun– the man who was hired to kill her husband's father and brothers a few days from giving birth to her daughter.
  • Relic Hunter: Nigel and Sydney were pretty much a straight inversion of classic adventure stereotypes. She was the action star, impulsive, fearless one and he was always in need of being rescued. Sort of uneven in that she also often got to be the smart one and the people person.
  • Roseanne: Darlene and David spend the majority of their relationship with the gender roles flipped. When Darlene gets pregnant Roseanne even comments "I can't think of a better mother..than David."
  • Rupauls Drag Race:
    • In the Season 1's makeover challenge (which became a Once a Season tradition), the contestants had to give glamorous makeovers to a group of female martial artists and boxers. Interestingly, three of the five women were already conventionally pretty, just tomboys to the core. The challenge was just as much about getting them to present feminine grace as it was about the makeup and outfits. The episode spent a great deal of time exploring the dynamic between the women who practice a "manly" sport and the men who dress as women to entertain.
    • Invoked in Season 6's makeover challenge, which featured straight couples getting married. The challenge was to make the men into drag brides, meanwhile the women were whisked away and fitted for tuxedos by a designer specializing in masculine suits for women and transgender men.
  • Schitt's Creek: Best friends and Amicable Exes David Rose and Stevie Budd reverse most gender roles with David being emotional, prissy, pansexual, and concerned with fashion and beauty while tomboy Stevie dresses in jeans, t-shirts, and flannel shirts and avoids expressing or even feeling emotion. In the first season, David asks Stevie's help in removing a bug from his room, leading to her inviting him on a hunting trip so he can prove his masculinity. While Stevie identifies as straight, several jokes have been made about her being mistaken for a lesbian.
  • Scrubs
    • J.D. and Elliot. In a flashforward Imagine Spot, Elliot even does the "bride carries the groom" thing. Elliot seems to have this in most of her relationships. Kelso once commented on her and Keith's relationship:
    Kelso: No, no, continue. You were having an argument, but it was like he's the chick and you're the dude!
    • And before that, she was dating a male nurse named Paul Flowers.
    • A non-romantic example from the same show would be J.D. and Denise ('Jo'), copied nearly word-for-word:
    Denise: It's like you're the chick and I'm the dude.
  • A Square One TV sketch, Battle of the Bulge Caterers, featured the Drill Sergeant, and the mopy Private Matter.
    The Sergeant: Private Matter?
    Private Matter: Turkey and American, Sir.
  • Star Trek: Deep Space Nine gives us Major Kira Nerys and Vedek Bareil Antos, respectively. She's a Fiery Redhead Action Girl who'll beat the crap out of anyone who looks at her the wrong way, while he's a soft-spoken Good Shepherd who never lashes out at anyone. (That one time he punches Sisko doesn't count, as he's Not Himself at the time.)
  • Star Trek: Picard: Sibling Zhat Vash agents Narissa and Narek are the reverse of Men Use Violence, Women Use Communication. Narissa is far more aggressive and bloodthirsty than her baby brother (which is what she calls him, and the use of "baby" indicates that he's not very manly), and she insists that Soji be killed ASAP. Narek, however, states his preference for a more subtle approach, which is his seduction and manipulation of Soji, to carry out their mission. They also have contrasting reactions to facing Elnor — Narissa is eager to fight, whereas Narek immediately surrenders.
    Elnor: Feldor stam torret. (Please, my friend, choose to live.)
    Narek: ("Oh, Crap!" face) I do. I very much choose to live.
  • Two mild examples of this from Stranger Things:
    • Mike and Eleven: he's a sensitive but creative Dungeons and Dragon kid, she's a headstrong Little Miss Badass who can Neck Snap grown men with her mind. True Eleven can be very girly when she's given the opportunity but she's still unarguably tougher than Mike.
    • Jonathan and Nancy: he's a shy photographer who loves music, she's a driven Cool Big Sis whose a crack shot with a revolver. At one point in Season 2, Nancy comforts Jonathan when he is distressed over his Mama Bear mother Joyce violently removing the The Mind Flayer from his younger brother Will.
  • The Suite Life of Zack and Cody: Nerdy Insufferable Genius Cody and Tomboy Country Mouse Bailey. Downplayed because Bailey isn't overly masculine, but due to her upbringing on the farm, she's more physically adept than Cody is, and more fond of physical labor. Bonus points for both of them having Gender Blender Names. This trope is especially exemplified in the episode "Roomies," where Bailey beats Cody in every typically masculine activity, from throwing darts to basketball.
  • That '70s Show: Donna and Eric. She's a tall athletic ladette and he's a sensitive dorky guy. Other characters will some times point out that she's physically stronger than him. And an entire episode is about how she is much better than him at basketball, and how Eric is teased about this by his friends. Donna is told by her mother that she has to start pretending that she is weaker than her man, or she will just end up being a lonely Crazy Cat Lady.
    • The same dynamic usually applies to Fez and whatever girl's he's currently interested in.
  • Warehouse 13: Myka is a no-nonsense Action Girl and Pete, while he's ex-military, is generally more open about his emotions, and has a minor superpower he calls "vibes" which if he were female would look a lot like "feminine intuition".
  • Will & Grace:
    • In one episode, gay Jack and straight boozehound Karen go to a meeting of an organization that promises to "cure" gayness. There they meet a married couple with a stereotypical effeminate man and very masculine woman who praise the organization. After they walk away, tipsy Karen asks "Was that two men or two women?"
    • Will and Grace in general subscribed to this so much that it might honestly be considered a Gender Flip of a traditional sitcom. Grace was a stereotypical sitcom man: a brash, lazy, slovenly, Big Eater who found gay porn to be exciting the same way a lot of men feel about lesbians. Will, who started Straight Gay but Flanderized into Camp Gay, was much more a traditional female sitcom character: much more calm and rational (initially,) who was the more uptight and decorated their entire apartment and did all the cooking and cleaning.
    • Jack and Karen could be Will and Grace Up to Eleven (he was obsessed with fashion and jewelry, she was a violent drunk.)
  • Luján and Marcos, from Rebelde Way, natch. She loves doing crunches and he has trouble speaking up. It's even suggested she likes him because of his soft, demure nature; that's quite a difference from the other boys at the school.
  • Victoria: Even if you disregard that Victoria is the monarch and Albert is the consort (which would have been awkward enough in the 1840s), they will often play with the gender roles of their time period. Victoria is very dedicated to her duties as the monarch, so she will not let anybody doubt her ability to rule the country just because she's a woman. And even though she often wears beautiful gowns and jewelry, she might also wear masculine-looking uniforms while doing something more active outdoors. She found it hard to go through her first pregnancy because it made people expect her to become more passive, that is, more "feminine". And even after her daughter was born, she was more interested in returning to her work, riding horses, and inspecting army troops than in caring for her newborn baby. Not to mention that she's a generally more extroverted person than her husband, which would have been quite funny to their contemporaries... Albert on the flip side might be good at plenty of traditionally masculine activities, like fencing and hunting and horse-riding. But he still is more brooding and introverted and sensitive than what was ideal for a man back then, in a huge contrast to his more macho brother Ernst. And he also was much more excited than his wife about having a baby, and he's more likely than her to bond with their children and play with them.

  • HoneyWorks:
  • Androgynous, by The Replacements and also covered by Crash Test Dummies, is a rather sweet song about a couple who like to dress as the opposite sex.
  • Molly by Carrie is about a man being feminised by his more assertive partner. One line in particular counts as Getting Crap Past the Radar:
    Passiveness turns her on, when she's strapped on.
  • Dar Williams' "When I Was A Boy" is a heartwarming take on this. The narrator is a woman who, as a child, thought she was a boy because she didn't conform to gender roles. Her parents discouraged her from climbing trees, not wearing a shirt, and going out by herself, constantly telling her that she needed to find a "nice boy." In the final verse, she tells the man she's on a date with that she knows all his tricks and submits to his superiority, only for the man to admit that he was into feminine things as a child and was similarly forced to be more masculine.
  • "Just Give Me a Reason" is a duet between Pink and Nate Ruess of the band fun.
  • Martha's "Sleeping Beauty" is about a brother and sister with this dynamic, who are nonetheless expected to conform to their parents' expectations.
Your football boots,
My football knees,
I hate the shoes they bought for me,
Inside gets boring but when I showed I had an interest in rugby,
They laughed at me.
  • The song "Not An Apology" by Bea Miller is sung from the perspective of a punk girl who forms this trope with her boyfriend. It's quickly shown that they couldn't handle each other's contrasting lifestyles, and so the girl chose to break up with him.
    "You're such a chick, it makes me feel like a dude."

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  • Classical Mythology:
    • The twins Apollo and Artemis might be considered such, but only by modern standards. Apollo is sometimes thought of as a bishounen (as the god of "beardless youth") and He is the god of, among other things, music and art. He also spends a lot of time with the Muses. To classical Greeks, however, he was all man. Artemis, meanwhile, is a wild Action Girl who spends most of her time hunting in the wilderness with her Amazon Brigade.
    • Hercules and Queen Omphale. He was ordered to serve her for a year as punishment for a crime. She ordered him to wear women's clothes and spin cloth while she had fun strutting around in his lionskin and waving his club.

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  • "Exotic" Adrian Street and Miss Linda. Adrian was one of the most successful wrestlers to use the Gorgeous George gimmick, and Linda played a feminine inversion of the gimmick by being tough, aggressive, and dressing in black leather. Successors include Rico Constantino and Miss Jackie, Paradise and CJ Lane
  • IWA Puerto Rico had rivalries where Barbie Boy and Queen Adonis were the feminine men while La Amazona and Juliette The Huntress were the masculine women. Albeit, an even more masculine woman, in Killer Kat, often teamed with Barbie Boy, as did the very feminine(but still violent) La Morena. The World Wrestling League later dusted off the Juliette\Barbie Boy feud when Barbie Boy tried to claim the Diosa's Title belt his old partner La Morena had left vacant before the new champion could be decided in an upcoming match between Santana Garrett and Andrea Mother at Wrestlefest. Juliette, now going by Ivelisse Vélez, took exception to Barbie Boy trying to claim another women's belt after he and Queen Adonis fought over IWA's while most of the women went to WWC, and took him on in the ring. Her victory caused WWL to name her the new champion and task her with defending it against Santana and Andrea when they arrived.
  • Beth Phoenix and Santino Marella. Santino also got a bit of this when he started dating Tamina as well but that didn't really last long.
  • Maxine and Derrick Bateman from NXT Redemption. They had an abusive relationship where Maxine would physically abuse Derrick but then coddle him, until his friends staged an intervention, after which Maxine entered a more healthy relationship with the more manly Johnny Curtis...until Curtis became a flamenco dancer anyway.
  • Ivelisse Velez was the more masculine half of her Lucha Underground Tag Team with XO Lishus. Velez isn't the most masculine woman imaginable, especially not post FCW revival and NXT, where she was basically forced to look more conventionally feminine and retained some of that look even into The Temple, but she still wrestles in basic sports bras, tights or leotards with kick pads. XO Lishus wrestles in more dolled up and in a woman's cheerleading outfit. Where Velez does have a few acrobatic moves, she's mostly grounded, methodical and a fairly vicious striker who favors Choke Holds while Lishus isn't just more of a highflier but dances, twerks and makes prominent use of his ass in his offense. This trope was downplayed, however, when the two became a Power Trio with the more masculine, if sleazy Joey Ryan out of mutual dislike of Jack Evans.

  • In A Prairie Home Companion: Lake Wobegon, where "all the women are strong, all the men are good-looking, and all the children are above average."

  • In Dawn of a New Age: Oldport Blues, this is the dynamic that Zia has with two of her male friends, Ivan and Ciro. Zia is athletic, cheerfully crass, and isn't afraid to throw down either physically or verbally. By contrast, Ivan is quiet, thoughtful, and physically unfit, whilst Ciro is kind-hearted, reluctant to fight, and has various feminine hobbies like cooking and cleaning.

  • William Shakespeare:
    • Romeo and Juliet by their time's standards. Romeo is the one with emotional reactions for better or worse, whereas Juliet is more practical and stages their doomed escape. In fact, Romeo's Hot-Blooded nature puts both of them into HUGE trouble when he kills her cousin, Tybalt, to avenge the death of Mercutio, and Juliet is the one who, with the help of a local priest, tries to brew a plan to get both of them out of it. Romeo kills himself with poison, which is considered a feminine way to commit suicide, whereas Juliet uses Romeo's dagger, which was a weapon used typically by men.
    • This applies to some degree to many of the lead couples in Shakespeare's comedies; the woman is typically wittier and more practical, and the guy is emotional in different ways (Hot-Blooded, brooding, etc.)
    • Played with in Macbeth, with Lady Macbeth being the more aggressive and ambitious of the two. In fact, as soon as she finds out about the witches' prophecy she immediately begins formulating how to kill Duncan. While Macbeth is torn with internal guilt about his feelings, she's the one that goads him into doing it by questioning his manhood and saying he has no courage. Of course, after the murder, they "switch back" with Macbeth turning into a kill-crazy tyrant and Lady Macbeth so wracked with guilt that she goes insane.
  • Commander Up and Lieutenant Taz in Team Starkid's musical Starship.
  • A case can be made for Elphaba and Fiyero in the stage version of Wicked. He's a Fun Personified, foppish slacker who previously existed primarily to be Glinda's arm candy, and she's a practicing witch, rebel, and active civil rights activist.
  • Franz Klinemann and Regina Koontz from Rock of Ages (only in the original musical; both characters are cut from the film)

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  • Childhood Friends Sarna and Loka play this straight in Chronus Arc as, when visiting the forest they would play at as kids, she talks about how he would always cry easily as a kid while he talks about what a tomboy she was (and still is) while denying that he cries easily.
  • Butch bouncer Yuiran and sensitive brother Yuiren from Daraku Tenshi: The Fallen Angels.
  • Dragon Age:
    • Dragon Age: Origins: While not a couple, Morrigan and Alistair (the first two full-time companions the Warden recruits) have this dynamic. While class-wise she is a squishy mage while he is a stone wall warrior, Alistair is much more sensitive and emotional while Morrigan comes off as much more cool, aloof, and even aggressive. Morrigan also frequently mocks Alistair for letting his emotions dictate his actions over logic and reason, while Alistair frequently snipes at Morrigan for being so callous and unfeeling.
      • A Grey Warden who romances either Morrigan or Alistair could easily have this dynamic in their relationship as well.
    • Dragon Age II: Certain conditions of an Old Save Bonus can lead to this being true offscreen for Alistair and the female Warden. Specifically, a Human Noble warden who made Alistair King of Ferelden and married him.
  • Final Fantasy XIII devotes a chunk of the story to the pairing of Claire "Lightning" Farron, a no-nonsense soldier with a short fuse and a chip on her shoulder, and Hope Estheim, a sensitive teenaged boy mourning the recent death of his mother. This pairing is not romantic, however, but more of an older sibling/younger sibling or Parental Substitute dynamic.
  • Fire Emblem:
    • Seisen no Keifu has Brigid, an assertive sniper raised by pirates and sensitive, submissive horseback archer Midayle as a predestined pair; to a smaller degree she has these dynamics with her other predestined lover, the archer Jamke, who is similar to Midayle but more reserved. Another one would be Tiltyu, the Tsundere Black Magician Girl, and her shy childhood friend and local Badass Adorable Azel.
    • In Rekka no Ken, we have Lad-ette Vaida and gentle, honorable Heath. Kent and Farina are a borderline case; Kent isn't exactly feminine but he's somewhat shy and very reserved compared to the outgoing, tomboyish Farina. (Who says he, personality-wise, reminds her... of her older sister Fiora.)
    • The kind and gentle Monk Artur and the Sugar and Ice Black Magician Girl Lute in Fire Emblem: The Sacred Stones. Their ending says that Artur managed the household while Lute was the main breadwinner.
    • Radiant Dawn includes Rafiel, prince of the heron laguz, a race too emotionally and physically fragile to attack enemies. The woman who saved his life, to whom he is now wholly devoted? Nailah, the wolf Laguz Royal (read: absurdly badass Crutch Character). One of them wears an elaborate robe, sings like an angel, and has ankle-length golden tresses. Guess which?
    • Of the many possible pairings in Fire Emblem Awakening, there's Sully/Libra (foul-mouthed Lad-ette and feminine War Monk) from the first generation and Kjelle/Brady (strength-obsessed female knight and a priest who's very in touch with his feminine side) from the second. Hilariously, Kjelle is Sully's daughter and Libra can be a potential father for Brady as well... Like mother like daughter, huh?
    • Fire Emblem Fates includes Forrest, a kind-hearted Wholesome Crossdresser who is also an Action Fashionista and a mounted White Mage. His pool of potential girlfriends include very straightforward girls like Soleil, a plucky Cute Bruiser with No Sense of Personal Space, and Ophelia, a very loud and theatrical Magical Girl Warrior.
      • Hana is a Tomboy with a Girly Streak with an aggressive and straightforward personality and no brain-to-mouth filter, while her partner Subaki is a playful and girlish-looking dandy who always tries to be in control of himself. Naturally, they can fall in love.
    • In Fire Emblem Echoes: Shadows of Valentia, Celica and her older brother Conrad were like this as children. She was a plucky and straightforward little girl while he was shy and a bit cowardly, so she'd often comfort and protect him if he messed up. The siblings were tragically separated after the massacre of the Zofian Royal Family: years later, a much stronger and more mature Conrad returned to Celica's life, determined to return the favor.
    • Fire Emblem: Three Houses has Leonie and Ignatz. While Ignatz isn't exactly girly, he's also sensitive and interested in art, while Leonie is a brash, no-nonsense tomboy. The two also have a paired ending where they end up Walking the Earth.
    • Three Houses also has Edelgard and Dimitri. Edelgard is stoic, uses a traditionally masculine weapon (axes), is driven mostly by logic, has a masculine title (Emperor) in the English version, and is a member of a traditionally-male archetype. Dimitri, while not conventionally girly, is sensitive and empathetic, more emotionally-driven, has an interest in sewing, and views his Super Strength as more of an annoyance than a blessing as it keeps interfering with delicate work.
  • Guilty Gear has Baiken, the Fiery Redhead Action Girl who revels in combat, and Anji Mito, the fan-wielding Dance Battler who has a Bodyguard Crush on her.
  • From The Idolmaster, we have the Wholesome Crossdresser Ryou Akizuki of Dearly Stars teamed up with Bifauxnen Makoto Kikuchi.
  • Lost Odyssey. Possibly Seth and the husband who encouraged her to settle down and have a child. Whether or not he was an 'Action Guy' himself, we don't find out.
  • Mass Effect:
    • A Female Shepard and either Thane or Kaidan can come across like this, especially if Shepard is a hardass renegade. Shepard has to be the strongest human in existence, can drink anyone under the table, headbutts krogan like it's nothing, and generally is a stoic character. Thane and Kaidan meanwhile are sensitive and fairly soft-spoken, very moral, and the former waxes philosophical every so often. As a bonus, at the beginning of Mass Effect 2, Shepard will be clad in black N7 armor, whilst Kaidan is in the pink and white Phoenix armor.
    • Paragon!Shepard and Jack tend to look like this; while Shepard may be no slouch in the badass department, he's still a calm, polite, and rule-abiding guy stacked up against the general insanity that is Jack.
    • Kaidan and Ashley have something of this dynamic as well. The best illustration comes from the Citadel DLC, even though only one of them is alive at that point. Regardless of gender or romance, Ashley and Shepard have a drinking contest that turns into a bar fight while Kaidan and Shepard have a quiet evening in while Kaidan cooks, though they also drink heavily.
  • Meryl and Johnny in Metal Gear Solid 4. When he proposed to her, she declines. Because she wanted to do that and proposes to him half a minute later.
    • Meryl and her partner Dave in Policenauts also qualify.
  • Lucas and Kumatora in Mother 3. They're not exactly a couple, but they are in the same party for half the game. Lucas has been described many times as a crybaby, and even when he seems to man up a bit later on, he still comes across as sensitive (especially with Love being his favorite thing). Kumatora is the tomboy of the group, and even has Boyish Short Hair and hates wearing dresses. And then there's her tough attitude and willingness to fight.
  • Omori has Aubrey, a tomboyish Alpha Bitch who has (fairly justified) anger issues and pummels her foes with a nailed bat, and Sunny, a shy, withdrawn NEET who dabbles in reading, poetry and playing the violin.
  • Persona 4 has Kanji Tatsumi (master tailor) and Naoto Shirogane (Bokukko and Sweet Polly Oliver) The fact that the former has a crush on the latter both before and after the reveal makes his Ambiguously Gay nature much worse, or better, or whatever.
    • Also played straight with the protagonist Yu and Chie. In the game and anime Yu is generally a polite quiet dude who hides his inner fears, while Chie's a brash Tomboy whose loud and quick to aggression.
  • Pillars of Eternity:
    • Calisca and Heodan, the two very first companions the Watcher encounters, have this dynamic. Calisca is a very stoic, gruff, coarse, aloof, hard-boiled, outdoorsy loner type who often scouts on her own, sleeps on the cold hard ground with neither a sleeping bag nor pillow, and is a Stone Wall warrior. Heodan, by contrast, is a very gentle, quiet, polite, soft-spoken merchant from a fairly well-off family who hasn't gotten used to the hardships on the road, asks to rest when injured instead of powering through it like Calisca, and is a Glass Cannon rogue. Not that it matters, as they both die by the end of the prologue anyway.
    • Aloth and his Literal Split Personality Iselmyr, full-stop. The former is an Elfeminate Squishy Wizard who is frequently mocked by other companions for being so frilly, delicate, easily injured, and for "wearing a skirt" (actually wizard robe). Meanwhile, Iselmyr is Hot-Blooded, foul-mouthed, easily provoked, and loves drinking and brawling in rough-and-tumble taverns.
  • In Pokémon, the catlike Pokemon Meowstic has a different appearance and moveset depending on if it's male or female. The male has big, sparkly blue eyes and is mostly support-oriented in its moveset. The female, on the other hand, has more angular amber eyes and learns more attack-based moves.
  • Shining Resonance inverts the Lady and Knight dynamic by having its lead female character, Sonia, as the bold and courageous knight. Whereas Yuma is them meek effeminate one, in constant need of protection from the Lombardian Empire, as well as constant reassurance that he's stronger than he gives himself credit for.
  • In Spyro: Year of the Dragon there is a level that is a reference to Tomb Raider. There is a mouse named Gus and his girlfriend Tara. Tara boldly goes and raids the tomb, while Gus stays outside because of all the "scorpions and stuff".
  • Star Wars: The Old Republic: This comes up in a few romances. To whit:
    Fem!Hunter: (abruptly) Torian! You're my arm candy.
    Torian: [Greatly Approves] Ma'am.
    • The Female Sith Warrior and Malavi Quinn, full stop. As the class title suggests, the Sith Warrior emphasizes the combat side of being Sith, with most quests involving the SW wreaking carnage everywhere she goes; frequently being mocked by less-than-friendly NPC's as a "savage," "brute," and "beast" even if female. While a Military Brat himself, Quinn is a very polite, soft-spoken, impeccably dressed Combat Medic who delegates more than he typically fights, and is In Love with Your Carnage. The female Warrior also flirts very aggressively with Quinn, with Quinn taking on a more passive and receptive role to said flirting.
    • A male Imperial Agent with Kaliyo Jannis, as she's very much a Blood Knight to the Agent's (typically) more restrained covert ops approach.
    • On the Republic side, The Female Smuggler and Corso Riggs. The Smuggler is none too ladylike, with a love of drinking, gambling, brawling, and (potentially) one-night stands. Corso is a Dogged Nice Guy farmboy with old-fashioned values, an excitable and sweet nature and really can't hold his liquor.
  • String Tyrant: The main character's two companions fit this trope. Jessie is a brash athletic tomboy, Lauren is a nervous little kid.
  • Tales of Xillia. Jude is the Feminine Boy to Leia's Masculine Girl. They're a mild example of the trope, but the game brings it up once when Jude comments on Leia's untidy handwriting. She retorts by insulting his neat handwriting, likening it to that of a little girl. A flustered Jude then defends himself ("There's nothing wrong with a guy having neat handwriting!") and accuses Leia of being sexist.
  • This happens in Time and Eternity for the tomboy side of the Tomboy and Girly Girl split personality of the heroine and the hero. It's most evident in said tomboy side's normal ending when it re-enacts the page image.
  • Toby Fox:
    • In Undertale, Undyne is Captain of the Royal Guard and is the second (if you're on the Genocide Route) toughest boss you fight in the game. She's a Hot-Blooded Blood Knight who loves fighting so much that when on a Pacifist Run, you cannot spare her, no matter how long the fight goes, and the only way to win against her is by running away. Papyrus, on the other hand, is a sweet and cheerful, if very arrogant, monster who is relentlessly optimistic and sees the good in everyone. He makes sure not to kill you, even if you're doing a Genocide Run, and have murdered literally everyone else before coming to him because he sincerely believes you can be a better person. Undyne even comments that she's reluctant to let him join the Royal Guard, even though he is actually super tough, because, since he's so innocent and nice, he would "get ripped into little smiling shreds." Regardless of their differences, they're very close friends.
    • In Deltarune Susie is a punch-first think-later, voracious tank. Ralsei is a pacifistic healer who also specializes in singing and baking cakes.
  • Battle for Azeroth - the 7th expansion of World of Warcraft - gives us Sal Atwater, a svelte, kindly man who nurtures those around him, and his wife, Dorian Atwater, a burly, irritable boatswain who only comes out of retirement at the behest of her husband, who urges her to "go on an adventure" while he takes care of the house while she's gone.
  • Homer and Edy from Valkyria Chronicles qualify, with the former being a meek, pretty little masochist and the latter a Hot-Blooded Idiot Hero who can't sing. Likewise Karl and Lynn. Although they have similar temperaments, Karl is an engineer supporting the troops while Lynn is in the front lines as a shock trooper.
  • The Alliance Alive has this as a theme: the female protagonists are adventurous and forthright, the male protagonists are staid and observant. It's especially pronounced with Azura, who persuades the more cautious Galil to help her break into the Museum so she can fulfill her shonen-esque dream of seeing the world.
  • The BlazBlue series have Luna, a bratty girl who is ready to throw punches at the slightest provocation, and Sena, a polite boy who usually tries to be civil and calm Luna down. They are an unusual example as they are two of the three souls that share the same body as Platinum the Trinity.
  • In Dragon Quest IV, Princess Alevna is a tomboyish, impetuous martial artist, and her bodyguard Kiryl is a quiet, passive, physically fragile healer.

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  • Lezhin's Korean BL webtoon Blood Bank's Humpty Dumpty is an androgynous slender boy with soft features. His grandmother Ghost has a masculine face & huge muscles.
  • High Class Homos: Prince August is soft-spoken and shy, while princess Sapphia is rebellious, outgoing, and isn’t averse to conflict at all.
  • The Joy (Badass Normal Action Girl) and The Sorrow (sensitive spirit medium) in The Cobra Days are a mild version of this, although Sorrow became a bit manlier in later strips.
  • In Digger, due to the matriarchal nature of hyenas, gender roles are reversed and this arrangement is the norm rather than the exception. One character, a scrawny skin painter, has to compete with every other male in the tribe for the affection of their strongest warrior. This is based on real life, where hyenas are basically matriarchal and males tend to be pretty battered.
  • Zombie children Bridget (Cute Bruiser) and Alphonse (master of Cower Power) from Far Out There are a non-romantic example.
  • In Gunnerkrigg Court, Parley is a loud, roughhousing Magic Knight who's One Head Taller than her Non-Action Guy boyfriend Smith. For bonus points, she starts as a Loving Bully towards him before she works herself up to confessing her feelings for him.
  • Last Res0rt toys with this when it comes to Jigsaw and Slick — Jigsaw's a bit of a tomboy (her main team color is light blue), while Slick's not above dressing in harem wear (and his team's main color is purple). Of course, they're not quite an Official Couple.
  • Ménage à 3 has a non-romantic example in Zii and Gary in early issues. (Things get more complicated later on.) Zii is a promiscuous punk rocker with very masculine traits, while Gary is an awkwardly dorky virgin who has serious problems with being assertive.
  • Borderline example in The Order of the Stick. While Haley is not overly masculine, she is much more direct and goal-oriented than the ditzy and sensitive Elan. Even after Elan Took a Level in Badass, she's still a better fighter.
    Haley: I really don't like where this is heading.
    Elan: Don't worry. You'll keep me safe.
  • In Two Guys and Guy, Guy and Wayne are this, evidently.
  • Homestuck:
    • Tavros and Vriska. Tavros is a sweet, shy, kind boy with low self-esteem and a great love of animals and fairies. Vriska is an aggressive, dominating Munchkin and a Jerk with a Heart of Gold with emphasis on the 'jerk'.
    • Karkat and Terezi fit this as well. Karkat's interests are heavily wrapped up in romance and feelings; he loves romance stories, is always eager to help others with relationship issues, and is somewhat passive and manipulative when it comes to getting things done. Terezi's interests fall more on mystery-solving and law enforcement, which is noted to be something of a violent pursuit in Troll society (given that the Trolls are an extremely violent race by nature, this is saying something), and is the more action-oriented and aggressive of the two.
  • In Girls with Slingshots, Zach is jokingly called the "girl" of his relationship with Hazel, because he's more sedate, mature, and wants to settle down and start a family, while Hazel is a rowdy, irresponsible boozehound. Their differences ultimately prove irreconcilable.
  • Siblings Cucumber and Almond of Cucumber Quest: He's a sensitive mage and very much does not want to be a hero while she's an aggressive swords-woman who Jumped at the Call.
  • Peanut and Grape Jelly Sandwich of Housepets! have this sort of dynamic. Peanut is a soft-hearted and sweet comic book nerd whereas Grape is a tough and sarcastic tomboy.
  • In Sticky Dilly Buns, Ruby and Andy grow into something like this pattern. Andy may be a well-muscled professional lifeguard, but people respond more to his looks than his personality in a way that would look classically sexist if he was a girl, and turns out to be borderline asexual, while Ruby, despite being something of an introvert, is more proactive (eventually being the one to initiate a sexual relationship), can look aggressive because of her insecurities and touchiness, and usually dresses in a relatively plain but smart style. In the end, although they have genuine mutual affection, she's using him for stress relief while he just wants her to be happy.

    Web Original 
  • In the original fiction[1] version of Keit-Ai, Tomoyuki the "Cherry Boy" is an asthmatic and oftentimes bullied effeminate boy whose earliest childhood memory was him crossdressing. Meanwhile, (either version of) the super-athletic "Amazon Queen" Seiko is the captain of her sports club (in Tomoyuki's universe, it's the Karate Club and in AU Seiko's universe, it's the Judo Club).

    Web Videos 
  • The Nostalgia Critic:
  • Rebecca Stoné and Tacoma Narrows in Demo Reel, as she's a Lady Drunk berserker who'll genuinely try to kill you if you hurt anyone she cares about, while he's the Only Sane Man who likes the fact that he looks good in a dress and finds it better to talk things over. She and Donnie also fit the dynamic.
  • Parodied in this (NSFW) YouTube video, where the girl dresses up increasingly like a guy.
  • Mystery Skulls' animated music video for their single Ghost features Lewis, a pink ghost who makes decisions based on his emotions, and Vivi, a blue girl with strong arms (she can carry a man and a dog with no sweat) and a strong appetite.
  • Played in a very literal and disturbing way in Punishing Psychiatry - when the protagonist looks at her parents, the mother becomes a phallic figure, while the father warps into a mound of tits with a crotch-like mouth. Yeah, it's that kind of video.

    Western Animation 
  • The Amazing World of Gumball has Nicole and Richard Watterson. Nicole is a strong, protective mother with a VERY short temper while Richard tends to be far more sensitive and optimistic.
    • Carrie and Darwin. Carrie is a punk rock chick, a hardcore horror movie fan, with a fondness for gross smells and food eating sprees, and has a strong tendency to be a Deadpan Snarker. Meanwhile, Darwin is cheerful, similarly optimistic, and sensitive just like his adoptive father, and less edgy in personality. In "The Drama" Carrie is shown to like cool, heavy music that literally melts people's faces off, while Darwin likes softer music, like a band called "The Lollipuppies".
  • Animaniacs: There was a subtle example in an episode. Charlton Woodchuck's parents meet traditional gender stereotypes at first. His father appears to be a farmer, and his mother is crying because her son is leaving home. However, when Charlton returns home his parents are sat in rocking chairs by a fireside, and, in a reversal of traditional gender stereotypes, his mother is reading the evening paper and his father is knitting using a pink ball of wool.
  • Archer has Lana and Cyril. Lana is a powerful secret agent who is a crack shot with all manners of guns and rifles and has a hot temper to match while Cyril is a meek introverted accountant who loves to cook.
  • Avatar: The Last Airbender: Aang is an easygoing, energetic, and non-confrontational Martial Pacifist. Toph is a bullheaded and casually violent brawler and former Professional Earthbender who is about his (physical) age. Lampshaded in "The Ember Island Players", where they watch a Show Within a Show that has Aang portrayed by a Genki Girl and Toph by a huge Boisterous Bruiser bodybuilder man, and she actually liked the idea.
  • The Legend of Korra:
    • Korra is a muscular and boisterous girl whose first impulse to a fight is to bust heads until she's the only one standing and responds to a guy she's eating out with belching by starting and winning a Burping Contest. Mako is a Pretty Boy and much more thoughtful, controlled, and level-headed.
    • Korra and Bolin. Korra is the far cruder and aggressive of the two.
    • Eska is a domineering, fearless, take-charge girl. Her twin brother, Desna, is an Agent Peacock and a skilled tailor. Her boyfriend, Bolin, is emotional, sensitive, and kind of wimpy boy.
  • Baby Looney Tunes: Of the friendship variety, Lola and Sylvester are portrayed as this in the episode "Tea and Basketball" which is about these two disliking things usually associated with their gender. Sylvester prefers tea parties like the girls (except Lola), while Lola wants to play basketball with the boys.
  • The Crumpets: This is a common trait with the show's romantic pairings, as most female main characters are often portrayed as being more proactive or menacing than their male partners. This is spearheaded by the Crumpets' parents Ma, an inventor with a hot temper, and Pa, a gentle gardener.
    • In one episode, Pa's brother Uncle Hurry whimpers after his wife Aunt Harried had kicked him out their mansion. Harried destroys some of their property with weapons and later pilots a tank to the Crumpets' house.
    • The strongest character in the main cast, Triceps, is female and loves sports, and she holds her excitable boyfriend Larry during their relationship in another episode.
  • Dan Vs.: Elise, the Action Girl, and Chris, the Extreme Doormat (though more toward Dan than her).
  • Ed, Edd n Eddy:
    • Sarah is aggressive, strong, and violent, Jimmy is a wimpy delicate crybaby and the weakest character on the show. They are still inseparable best friends.
    • Marie Kanker is an intimidating tomboyish bad girl with a punk look. She is in love with Edd, a shy nerdy Nice Guy. However, this is not consensual and all their interactions are based on Double Standard: Rape, Female on Male.
  • In the Esme & Roy episode, "Two Can Play That Game", the two title characters are tasked with watching twins named Frank and Franny and taking turns playing games each one likes. It is revealed in that episode that Frank, the boy, loves ballet, and Franny, the girl, loves to play pirates.
  • Ever After High: The insecure geek Dexter is entranced by Raven- a powerful, gothic-themed (R)ebel whose charisma encourages him to break away from his family's stifling expectations. He initially feels ashamed about not being a 'real man' like his jock older brother, but eventually realizes note  that his tolerance and emotional support are also virtues.
  • An episode of The Fairly OddParents played with this by showing that Trixie is a Girly Girl with a Tomboy Streak, while Timmy is In Touch with His Feminine Side. The two have a temporary Gender-Bender Friendship.
  • Gravity Falls:
    • A non-romantic example. Despite her love of sweaters, glitter, and unicorns, Mabel Pines is adventurous and aggressive (her gift of choice from Grunkle Stan is a grappling hook) while her twin brother Dipper is so nerdy and intellectual that it takes the help of mythical creatures to help him become manly (and Dipper ultimately decides he wants nothing to do with the Manotaurs and their ideas of masculinity).
    • Robbie Valentino is a sensitive, grumpy Emo Teen and musician while Wendy Corduroy is a hatchet-wielding Lad-ette from a family of lumberjacks (whose father is literally named "Manly Dan").
    • Wendy is likewise the Masculine Girl to Dipper's Feminine Boy; she's more boisterous, athletic, and reckless than the generally reserved, nerdy, and cautious Dipper (though he does become more outgoing as the series goes on and has displayed athletic feats more than once). All things considered however, Dipper is a Guile Hero who tends to use violence as a last resort whereas Wendy is an Action Girl who likes to fight.
    • Marius von Fundshauser is a multi-millionaire pretty boy from Austria, while Grenda is incredibly strong with a voice so low, gravelly, and loud that it could activate druid rituals that nobody could perform for thousands of years. Marius even notes that Grenda's aggressive flirting style is what drew him to her in the first place.
  • Grojband: Carrie Beff and Larry Nepp of Grojband's rival band, The Newmans. Carries shares her the confident and daring personality of her Grojband counterpart Corey while Larry is a very timid and softspoken boy. Larry also has this dynamic with his Grojband counterpart Laney, who is a fearless and snarky tomboy.
  • Harvey Beaks: Harvey is a docile, polite Neat Freak while his friend Fee is the messy, loud sister of a pair of Wild Children.
  • Wonder Woman and Batman from Justice League Unlimited: he’s a cautious vigilante, she’s a headstrong warrior princess... they’re perfect for each other. The Stoic act simply fails for Batman when he’s paired with a woman who can smash a mountain with her bare hands, and Diana can immediately see it when Bruce lets it slip how much he he cares anytime she’s in danger. Also, the falling into the hero's arms trope is reversed with Batman and Wonder Women during the "Kid Stuff" episode.
    • Black Canary and Green Arrow are an interesting example. Canary may look feminine but she behaves more like The Lad-ette, being an adrenaline junkie and a Blood Knight. At first glance, Green Arrow seems manly enough, being a fairly tough, muscular, and outspoken guy, but their relationship dynamic reeks of this trope, as both of them constantly subvert expected gender roles in many situations. One example being when Canary rides her motorcycle rather recklessly and Arrow (sitting on the back) is the one to complain and get scared. Then there's the time when Mandagora taunted the two in "Double Date" and Arrow manages to hold himself back, but Canary ends up being the one to aggressively assault him when defending her boyfriend's honour. Then there's the fact that she's by far the tougher fighter and everyone seems to view him as the weak one out of the two, to the point that Wildcat feels more dishonoured and emasculated fighting him than her in "The Cat and The Canary".
  • KaBlam!: June and Henry are a Platonic Life-Partners example.
  • Kim Possible: Kim and her sidekick Ron. She's a relentless overachiever who knows "sixteen forms of kung fu," set herself up as an international Teen Superspy, and kicks supervillain butt. He rarely fails to back her up and has his badass moments but is an easygoing type and is much better in the kitchen than on the battlefield. We see their old Halloween costumes - Kim as a cowboy, Ron as a ballerina. Nuff said.
  • The Land Before Time: Littlefoot is soft-spoken and polite. Cera is snarky and brash.
  • The Loud House: The platonic (with hints of romantic) relationship between Lincoln and Ronnie Anne is this, with Ronnie as the rough and aggressive tomboy compared to Lincoln's series of feminine qualities.
    • Lincoln also shares this dynamic with some of his siblings (particularly his tomboy ones). Lynn, Lana, and arguably Luna are also more masculine than he is.
    • A downplayed example, but Luan and Benny could be seen as this, specifically in regard to their alter egos as portrayed by their respective puppets. Luan has Mr Coconuts, a masculine puppet with a rough and blunt speech pattern which she uses when communicating through him. Benny has a feminine puppet named Mrs Apple Blossom and speaks with a refined and fancy, girly voice when using her. Extensively, Luan is a boisterous girl who enjoys playing (sometimes destructive) pranks while Benny is In Touch with His Feminine Side who enjoys drama and theatre.
  • Mighty Magiswords: While both Warrior siblings are good fighters, Prohyas tends to be more In Touch with His Feminine Side and has often been described as "motherly", particularly towards sentient Magiswords. On the other hand, his sister, Vambre, tends to be much more of a Blood Knight, often finding thrill in trying to solve things in the most violent way possible.
  • In the Muppet Babies (2018) episode, "A Tale of Two Twins", the boys invite Scooter to join them in a tricycle race, while the girls invite Skeeter to join them for a relaxing day at the spa. Scooter is an expert at mechanical engineering but doesn't really want to race since he's too scared to jump over a mud puddle, let alone a canyon. Skeeter, on the other hand, is an athletic tomboy who prefers the thrill of racing to relaxing. Since the twins don't want to tell their friends how they really feel, they decide to pretend to be each other.
  • Phineas and Ferb: This trope fits Candace and Jeremy. Candace is aggressive, confrontational, and is obsessed with busting her brothers whilst Jeremy is a calm Pretty Boy.
  • Recess: TJ is characterized by loyalty and caring while Spinelli is violent and aggressive. The most obvious example is during 'The Experiment' when they both say goodbye to their childhood: TJ gives his old cuddly toy a hug while Spinelli uses hers to trash the room.
    • Similarly, among the named faculty, Miss Finster is more eager to take action against "hooliganism", while Principal Prickly is usually more subtle, only taking action as an absolute last resort. One example is in the episode "Jinxed," when Miss Finster sends Gus to the principal's office, not knowing he's been jinxed by the Ashleys. She wants to give him detention "till he's seventeen," but Prickly tries to be gentler with Gus by giving him some candy and trying to ask him questions.
  • Rugrats:
    • Betty and Howard DeVille, Phil and Lil's parents. To elaborate, Betty's loud and boisterous (generally friendly though unless you mess with her kids), likes pro wrestling, is implied to exercise often, and even at one point runs a 10K marathon. She's good at things like car repair, construction/home improvement, and plumbing, and she's strong enough to lift Phil and Lil each with one hand, by their shirts, at the same time (she may be the only adult in the show's entire run to do so). Howard, on the other hand, is quiet and meek and has been seen more than once (or implied to be) participating in a "feminine" activity/chore. In "The Unfair Pair," Phil and Lil walk into the kitchen as Howard is baking cookies; in "Moving Away," Betty contemplates going to Stu's housewarming party by saying to herself "Well, Howard has a lot of laundry to do..."; in "The Stork," he's knitting and keeping to himself as Didi and Betty become immersed in watching a pro football game. Betty clearly wears the pants in their relationship, but they do love each other as each is quick to defend the other, such as in "Family Feud".
    • In the episode, "Opposites Attract", Tommy and Chuckie go their separate ways after an argument and respectively befriend a girl named Samantha and a boy named Freddie, who share their respective personalities. However, while Sam is just as brave as Tommy, she doesn't look before she leaps and doesn't really care if she gets hurt doing something dangerous, while Freddie has a vivid imagination which makes him believe in crazy things that scare Chuckie, like oatmeal trying to eat you and sand lizards living in sandboxes. Sam and Freddie meet each other when Freddie gets his foot caught in a rope ladder and Sam tries to pull him out by his hair, resulting in Tommy and Chuckie reconciling to save Freddie and tell Sam that she's only making him more frightened.
    • In "Big Brother Chuckie", Kimi is very adventurous and will often wander into strange territory to retrieve her missing thing, making her a Distaff Counterpart to Tommy. Chuckie, on the other hand, is very cowardly and if he loses something, he prefers to leave it where it is. Nonetheless, when Kimi wanders into strange territory, he will go in with her to make sure she's safe.
  • South Park: Wendy Testaburger (Outspoken, strong-willed, and passionate) and Stan Marsh (Sensitive and compassionate animal lover).
  • SpongeBob SquarePants: The titular character is feminine, flamboyant, eccentric, friendly, warm, and cries very easily. His friend, Sandy Cheeks, is a masculine boxer with a tough-as-nails, actiony personality. She's friendly, yes, but her buttons tend to be pushed a lot more than the title character.
  • Steven Universe:
    • Even more the traditionally feminine Gems like Pearl are aggressive fighters. Steven's greatest weapon is definitely The Power of Friendship, though another reason could be Steven did not grow up in war or warlike culture like the Gems did.
    • Zigzagged with Connie and Steven. Connie and Steven do present some type of femininity and masculinity, respectively. However, Connie prefers to fight with a sword and likes action/adventure. Steven prefers using his shield, has a liking towards romances, is very emotional and openly loving, loves cute and huggable things, and his compassion is seen as his greatest strength. Basically, Connie may not be that masculine, but Steven is very In Touch with His Feminine Side.
    • Downplayed with Rose Quartz and Greg Universe. Rose Quartz had special powers linked to growth, protection, and healing (Steven inherited the shield from her as well as healing, though spit instead of tears), but she was a Lady of War and she doesn't respond to threats to the people she cares about. Greg Universe was a Long-Haired Pretty Boy in his youth, is a chill and laid-back man who is a good father to their son, and when Rose was alive, he would let her carry him in her arms, lift him and twirl him when they danced, and toss him up and down for fun.
    • When the Watermelon Stevens are going off to fight Malachite, there is a husband wearing a blue tie who makes sure to hug his pink flower-wearing wife before she leaves him to take care of their child.
  • Super Noobs: This show exaggerates the trope on the feminine boy side as it gives us one masculine girl and two feminine boys to balance out a male-heavy main cast. Jennifer Shope is a 12 year Tomboy middle school student who is also a superhero who loves science, football, and video games while her platonic friend, Tyler Bowman is a more sensitive guy who tries to be a leader but also likes stuffed animals and plays a cooking simulation video game. Their alien combat tutor, Memnock is a Camp Straight alien warrior who has a similar personality to Tyler's but also likes cooking, baking, slightly likes fashion, and made some funny tiara jokes towards Shope and her friends but Memnock also likes many of the same things Shope and Tyler like doing.
  • Tiny Toon Adventures:
    • Sweetie Bird and Furrball the Cat, respectively. The two alternate between being homeless creatures and the unfortunate pets of Elmyra Duff, but Furrball's too timid and meek to stand up for himself against bigger animals, while Sweetie is tougher and more aggressive, even going as far to intimidate Furrball, who's bigger than her.
    • Fran and Edward, the two respective network executives who appear in the episodes, "Thirteensomething" and "It's a Wonderful Tiny Toons Christmas Special". Edward is regularly impressed with little things Fran disagrees on, with Fran regularly telling him, "You are so lost.", and the few times he isn't impressed, his opinion is pushed aside by Fran's. That being said, he isn't afraid to stand up to Fran when she disagrees with his opinion of the plot twist Buster adds to Thirteensomething by posing as Cleveland, Alabaster's twin brother.
  • Total Drama: The fourth season gives out a boy and a girl who are on the same team, the Mutant Maggots but have several odd interests and personalities and their names are Jo and Brick. Jo is a girl who speaks in a heavy masculine voice, acts like a drill sergeant, and dresses like a man, which causes another contestant, Lightning to mistake Jo for a boy and when she replies to Lightning that she never kissed a guy, she gets Mistaken for Gay by him. Her teammate, Brick is a military cadet who sometimes acts like a soldier and would not leave anyone behind but sometimes acts and Screams Like a Little Girl, is skilled in making the bed and writing letters to his mother, has a nightlight cause he is afraid of the dark, wets his pants often, and loves fashion so much that he plans to go to fashion school.
  • Wander over Yonder: Wander and Sylvia. She's an Action Girl who unlike Wander, dislikes cutesy or lovey-dovey stuff and has had to rescue him on several occasions. Wander is a bit more of a Love Freak and has cross-dressed on a few occasions.
  • The Weekenders: Lor and Tino are a platonic example.
  • Wonder Pets!: Hug-loving and soft-spoken Tuck the turtle compared to his teammates, especially Ming-Ming the duckling who is hammy and tries to solve problems solo.

    Real Life 
  • Bill and Hillary Clinton. Bill feels your pain; Hillary votes to attack Iraq and is asked to join the watch party when the US takes out Osama bin Laden.
  • Frederic Chopin is a Polish pianist, composer, and Ill Boy. He was paired up with George Sand (the nom de plume of Amantine Dupin), a Tomboy writer overlapped with The Lad-ette.
  • There are several animals that exist where the females are dominant over the males, such as hyenas and spiders.
    • Mosquitoes are an interesting case. Both genders eat nectar and fruit juices but the females are the only ones who feed on blood.
    • Another interesting case is the Phalarope. The females are brightly colored and go courting, while the males are dull-colored and brood the eggs.
    • Also the case with emus, in which females are the aggressive and territorial ones, while the males are the ones left with the responsibility of raising and protecting the chicks.
    • Many birds have the burden of parenthood placed primarily on the shoulders of the male. It turns out that this may be an evolutionary trait, as maniraptoran dinosaurs display this behavior as well (the fossils of brooding raptors lack a specific bone that is only found in nursing females, leading to the conclusion that all these brooding raptor specimens were male).
    • The aforementioned spotted hyenas are an extreme example, as females not only are larger and more aggressive than males, but even their genitalia look very penis-like. This "pseudopenis" even can get erect, but males can penetrate it only when it's flaccid. Since it gets erect when males act too aggressive with females, males need to remain docile or otherwise are unable to mate.
    • Seahorses are the Trope Namer for Mr. Seahorse for a good reason. Males have a special pouch in which they carry the fertilized eggs in which the embryos develop. In some species, the females even have an ovipositor, basically a somewhat penis-like tube they can use to insert eggs in the male's pouch.
  • Philippe d'Orleans was a feared tactician (to the point that his own brother removed him from office in fear he would overthrow him) and a master of the courts. But he was also known for his effeminacy and for wearing female attires at balls and parties, while his wife, Elizabeth Charlotte de Baviere, loved hunting, could walk faster than most men at the court, and refused to wear a mask outdoors like the other ladies did to avoid a "weather-beaten" complexion.
  • Japan now calls this the "Herbivore Man, Carnivorous Woman" phenomenon. In short, more men are identifying themselves as meek, passive, and indifferent to the opposite sex, while women are becoming more assertive, aggressive, and eager to date. Thus, it's not uncommon for women to walk up to the man they're interested in and ask for his phone number, a date, or even sex. Whether this is a good or bad thing depends on whom you ask.
  • Jimmy Reed was a sensitive and often vulnerable blues artist, and he often leaned on his wife, Mary Lee, for guidance and moral support. Mary Lee had a tough persona and did not take shit from people.
  • King Gustaf V of Sweden was seen as shy and feeble and took up broidery as a hobby. His queen, Victoria of Baden, ruled the Swedish court with an iron fist, was a brilliant horse-rider, liked to wear military uniforms, and was even made an honorary colonel of the German Empire.

Alternative Title(s): Pink Boy Blue Girl, Tomboy And Sensitive Man, Tomboy And Girly Man


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