Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, a famed Swiss psychiatrist, noticed that many of her patients who were terminally ill exhibited as many as five stages of grief. This became well-known in pop culture as the Kübler-Ross model, and it contains the following stages: note
- Denial: This isn't happening; this is nothing. I'll just pretend it isn't there and it'll go away.
- Anger: This isn't right! I DON'T DESERVE THIS!
- Bargaining: God, if you're up there, I promise to do everything I can to make this world better for the rest of my life.
- Depression: (Ultra-depressed crying).
- Acceptance: Well, everybody dies someday. I guess the only way to be able to live while I'm here is to accept it.
Of course, Hollywood being what it is, when it gives this model of grief, all five stages of grief are displayed, always in this order, and if Played for Laughs all within ten seconds of each other. This despite the fact that Kübler-Ross herself admitted that not all patients went through all five stages, and not all of them went through them in that order; she also originally focused strictly on how the terminally ill came to terms with their own impending deaths, which may or may not adhere more closely to the pattern. This raises the question, given by one critic, of how exactly they can be called stages if they're not universal. But that's a discussion for somewhere else. In real life, in the words of Kübler-Ross herself, "our grief is as individual as our lives." Death, of course, is but one trigger.
Also, these stages tend to apply to all grieving characters, although her work, again, was with those actually dying and not, say, the bereaved; later research suggests that the bereaved typically accept the death right away — within seconds of a loved one's passing—and rarely engage in denying the death (if you are not mentally ill in some way, denial is sort of pointless). Of course, in Hollywood, the stages will likely only be applied to those grieving someone else's death. See also Stages of Monster Grief, where formerly human characters adapt to their new condition.
- In episodes 18 and 19 of Code Geass R2, Lelouch was going through this when Nunnally was presumably killed during the FLEIJA explosion.
- Stage 1: his initial reaction to witnessing the event
- Stage 2: his rage and lashing out at C.C. and Rolo at headquarters during his Achilles in His Tent moment
- Stage 3: subverted - Charles and Marianne offering the return of Euphemia as a reason to side with them likely included Nunnally in Lelouch's mind, but he flat out refuses because the cost of that return is one he is unwilling to pay.
- Stage 4: likely during the timeskip
- Stage 5: likely at the tail end of the timeskip when he decides to usurp the Imperial Throne
- One of the many Epileptic Trees about Neon Genesis Evangelion is that the five EVA pilots were each going through/representing a different stage. Basically take the above numbers and apply them to them by "Child", but switch 3 and 4:
Rei: Denial (maybe)
Asuka: Anger (yes)
Shinji: Despair (yes)
Toji: Bargaining (yes)
Kaworu: Acceptance (sort of)
- One Piece: Luffy goes through these (except bargaining) after Ace's death. After waking up from his Angst Coma, he begins a destructive rampage around Amazon Lily, believing the whole ordeal was just a nightmare that he'll snap out of if he keeps hurting himself, despite having serious wounds that could open up and kill him. Once he finally realizes that Ace is dead, he breaks down and nearly considers giving up his journey to become Pirate King. Jimbei helps him get to acceptance by reminding him that he still has his crew.
- Simon from Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann goes through all of these (except bargaining) after Kamina's death.
- In Fullmetal Alchemist, the Elric brothers are shown to have gone through these after their mother's death.
Denial: Implied by how the Elric brothers are convinced their mother will not be dead for long.
Anger: Edward has this reaction at her funeral, but is not angry at his mother- he's angry at his father (who he blames for his mother's death).
Bargaining: The attempt to bring their mother Back from the Dead.
Despair: After their effort fails with horrible results, the Elric brothers become very depressed.
Acceptance: They accept the fact that dead people cannot come back to life, and focus their efforts on restoring their bodies.
- In Jo Jos Bizarre Adventure Vento Aureo Naranchia goes through this after finding out that Abbacchio is killed by the boss of Passione The rest of the team was unable to grief as they had to continue their mission so Naranchia expresses it for them
- Denial: Narancia saying that he will wake up
- Anger: Naranchia threatens to kill who is responsible and lashing out on Mista
- Bargaining: He attempts to get Girono to heal him
- Depression: He falls to the ground and cries
- Acceptance: He realizes that he must continue the mission
- Played for Laughs in K-On!, when Mio goes through these stages as she is forced to play Romeo for the school festival.
- Momo Hinamori from Bleach goes hard through the first stage, Denial, after Aizen stabs her to near death and betrays the Soul Society, which completely shatters the poor girl's view of her whole world.
- In Digimon Tamers, Juri/Jeri Katou goes through this after her digimon partner was impaled and absorbed/eaten in front of her, which in turn released repressed memories of her mother's death which she took a realistic amount of time to go through (a few weeks) especially considering that she was being continuously Mind Raped at the time.
- Much like the Neon Genesis Evangelion example above, it can be said that the three main characters of Berserk all represent some stage of grief and how they deal with it, since they've all been through a ridiculous Trauma Conga Line for us to deduce this:
- Guts is Anger, Denial, and Depression.
- Griffith is Depression and Bargaining.
- Casca is Denial.
- None of them have quite grappled with acceptance yet.
- In Tiger & Bunny, Barnaby goes through stages 2 through 4 all at once at the prospect of Kotetsu's supposed death. The former angrily yells at the latter, saying they weren't the kind of person to give up, crying hysterically and bargaining by claiming Kotetsu can't die yet because they haven't tried Barnaby's fried rice.
- Saber of Fate/stay night experiences four stages due to the collapse of her kingdom. At first she denied the kingdom was lost and fought to restore peace, only to be fatally injured. While dying she fell into depression over her failure and made a bargain with Alaya to become a Counter-Guardian in exchange for changing her decision to become king. Shirou's resolve to accept what he has lost and continue living his life convinces Saber to accept her past and abandon the bargain.
- In Trigun, this is sadly subverted just when you think this trope couldn't get more tragic. Nicholas Wolfwood goes through the stages in a mixed-up order while he is dying. He starts with Acceptance, then panics and goes into Bargaining ("No, I want to stay with them! There's so much I need to do!"), Depression (starts crying as he wonders if everything he did was a mistake), and dies trapped in Anger/Denial ("I did not want to die this way!").
- In CLANNAD, Kotomi coming to terms with her parents' deaths was a rather mixed-up process which took several years: First, when her parents said they had to go on a business trip, she jumped straight into Anger, accusing them as liars for not wanting to come to her birthday party. Then she got a visit by a strange man who hinted that her parents died in a plane crash, leading her into Denial, shooing off the man and coming to believe that he was a "bad person" because he wanted something of her father's. She then went right into Bargaining, begging to God that she'll study hard, be a good girl and try to decipher what her parents were researching if He'll bring back her parents. But when she saw a report about the plane crash on television, she sunk into Depression, which led to her trying to burn the research paper the man was asking about which was really a catalogue for teddy bears and collapsing in tears as the burning paper set fire to the whole room. She eventually grows up having reached some level of Acceptance, making good of her Bargaining by studying diligently in and out of school, trying to "atone" for what she did that day. But she doesn't reach full Acceptance until the day that the strange man finally comes back, carrying her father's long lost briefcase - inside of which is the teddy bear her parents bought for her birthday.
- Tuka Luna Marceau suffers from this in Gate. After a Fire Dragon attacks her village, her father throws her into a well. She ends up being the Sole Survivor to the attack, and continuously asks for extra food and clothing for someone who she's sure will show up. It isn't until Yao Ducy, in an attempt to get the Japanese Self Defense Forces to help kill said dragon attacking her people's lands, forces the truth on her, which she doesn't take too well and continues to deny her father is dead. Itami is then forced to help her overcome this issue, and help Yao defeat the dragon at the same time.
- Chi's Sweet Home: Chi goes through these when Blackie moves away, all in the matter of two manga chapters/anime episodes.
- In Fairy Tail, Gray goes through this in response to Juvia's apparent death by Heroic Suicide and then giving him a blood transfusion with the last of her strength, in Chapter 499, albeit not in order. He goes through Denial when he's shocked at what he just saw, Bargaining when he begs for her to wake up, saying that he will take her feelings more seriously if she does, Anger when he launches into a Roaring Rampage of Revenge against Invel, the one who forced them to fight one another and kill themselves, and Depression when he realizes Juvia's never coming back and stops hitting Invel. Currently, he has yet to reach Acceptance or realize that Juvia is, in fact, still alive.
- Similar to Simon, Naruto goes through the stages (with the exception of Bargaining) upon hearing Jiraiya's death at the hands of Pain.
- Comical Psychosomatic Medicine lists only four stages in episode 14: denial, anger, giving up and acceptance (yes, those are combined into one stage), and hope. Never mind they're explaining this to Oda Nobunaga in Asuna's dream sequence.
- This happens to many poker players after a bad beat, and often in the quite fast version, despite being Serious Business:
- NOOOOOOOOOOOO! He beat my pocket aces with pocket kings? (Or pocket queens, or pocket deuces, or even seven-two off...)
- You goddamn donk! I'll kill you, and everyone who looks like you!
- I will complain to the poker room. This game was rigged, there's no way this was legit!
- Nah, they'll never believe me. There's nothing I can do. I'm such a loser.
- Oh well, that's poker.
- Some can get stuck in either the anger or bargaining phase for a few hands and make bad decisions. This is commonly known as being "on tilt".
- Fallen Son, a 5-issue limited series, dealt with The Death of Captain America by going through each of the five stages with a different Marvel character. Wolverine experiences denial; the Avengers go through anger; Hawkeye attempts to bargain Cap back; Spider-Man falls into despair, and Iron Man leads all of the Marvel superheroes in accepting that he's really dead.
- Issues 2-6 of the Knights of the Old Republic comics go through the stages in order.
- The Joker also goes through the stages in a matter of seconds in the miniseries The Last Laugh, after he becomes convinced he has a fatal tumor. However, this is a subversion, as someone almost immediately points out that no one really goes through the stages that fast, and therefore, the Joker must have been acting. In reality, he is all but accepting of his perceived fate.
- A side-story in Spider-Man (Brand New Day era) dealt with Flash Thompson coping with the loss of his legs. When he becomes depressed, he goes through the stages in the opposite of the conventional order. He eventually arrives at what Peter terms "stage 0: grace".
- In a Donald Duck-story where Scrooge loses all his money in a tornado, he starts going through this, with Huey, Dewey and Louie lamp-shading along: "Now he's going through the five stages of loss". Scrooge goes through denial, ("no, the money can't be gone!") anger, (cursing the tornado) bargaining, ("please, please give me my money back!") despair (crying), but just as the nephews says that the final stage is acceptance, Scrooge goes straight back to denial, stating that the money is not lost forever, and that he will find them again.
- In All Fall Down, it's the central theme of the book.
- Played with by Lex Luthor in DC's The Black Ring. When confronting Death after a particularly messy plane incident, Luthor starts to quickly cycle through the stages. He gets as far as "bargaining" until Death points out what he's doing. He then tries to act depressed to play on Death's sympathies. Her response basically amounts to "Nice try, honey, but I wasn't born yesterday." In the end, Luthor lets her know he's not accepting a damned thing, and he will "find a way to beat this."
- Batman still hasn't reached the "Acceptance" stage, even decades after his parents' deaths. It's likely he never will.
- This fic, Five Stages, shows Old Snake reacting to his aging.
- A chapter of Xanatos does this with Sayu, who goes through at least four of the five as she's being kidnapped
- An odd variation is introduced in Calvin and Hobbes: The Series:
"Calvin has three steps of response when he hears that a camping trip is coming. Step one: three minute long screams. Step two: denial. Step three: Doing everything in his physical power to prevent himself from going."
Hobbes: We're in mid-step two, right?
- Also referenced in-story
- The stages are discussed in the Back to the Future fic ''4am, This Letter," while Marty spends his first night in Doc Browns house in 1955 and thinks about seeing Doc getting killed in 1985. Marty cannot remember the correct order of the stages, but he vows he will not let himself go through all five of them.
- Yayoi talks about this in SplitxEnd, one of the stories for Horseshoes and Hand Grenades in regards to JK. He's split between depression for "that incident" presumably about his little sister's death, and denial around Gentaro's death.
- Fai, Sakura, Kurogane and Syaoran embodies various aspects of the stages of grief in Shatterheart:
- Fai and Sakura represent Denial as they refuse to acknowledge Syaoran because doing so forces them to realize the clone's betrayal and the loss of their friend.
- Kurogane represents Anger as he refuses to let himself to feel any sort of sadness and deals with it by getting angry.
- Syaoran represents Depression as he mostly wallows in guilt and despair.
- All of them eventually turn to Acceptance when they realize there's nothing they can change and trying would be too high of a cost.
- In Travels of the Trifecta, Paul goes through the Five Stages after finding out that he's terminally ill, with the Anger and Barganing stages directly mentioned at the end of Chapter 13.
- Done in an interesting way for Laurel when she learns she has terminal cancer in To Heal A Hero. Diggle comments that while she has accepted that she's going to die, she's in denial that she's sick and will soon be too sick to be the Black Canary. Oliver (surprise surprise) briefly manages to push her into anger, she finally breaks down in grief when she's told she only has 4 months left, and spends the rest of the story fluctuating between hoping the team finds a cure (bargaining) and, as noted above, accepting she's dying but being in denial over how sick she is.
- Her teammates and family also go through this, spending most of their time on grief and bargaining as they desperately look for anything to save her. None of them ever make it to acceptance.
- Universe Falls: After Lapis fuses with Jasper and traps Malachite at the bottom of Lake Gravity Falls at the end of arc 4, Dipper (who had grown close to the Gem) goes through the stages of grief during the first few chapters of arc 5:
- In "Full Disclosure" he's in Denial, waiting in vain at the shore of the lake for Lapis to return.
- In "Joy Ride" Dipper is in the Anger stage, lashing out at his friends, wanting to track down Peridot so he can get even, and generally being even more grumpy and sarcastic than normal.
- In "Sock Opera, Part 1" Dipper slips into Bargaining, first by desperately trying to crack the password to the laptop in the hopes that it has more information on Gem fusion he can use to free Lapis from Malachite, then by making a desperate deal with Bill Cipher. At the end of "Sock Opera, Part 2", after his harrowing experience having his body stolen and abused by Bill, Dipper is overwhelmed by despair and falls into Depression, and the next chapter opens with Dipper tormented by guilt-ridden nightmares.
- Dipper slips back into Bargaining in "Do It For Them", refusing to be healed by Steven and throwing himself into his sword-training despite still recovering from the gruesome injuries Bill inflicted on his body. After Dipper breaks down again and confesses how guilty he feels for everything that happened and how he never wants to feel so weak and powerless as he did, he finally moves on to Acceptance.
- Diana in chapter 12 of League of Legends fanfic Daughters of the Sun and Moon goes through this after finding out, that Leona had read her love letter addressed to her.
- Finding Nemo: As it is wonderfully explained in the video by Super Carlin Brothers, Marlin goes through the five stages of grief when coming to terms with the death of most of his family and the abduction of his surviving son Nemo. First he acts as though he is fine and since he still has Nemo and that they are happy when in reality he is sheltering Nemo too much (denial), then he gets angry at Nemo for disobeying him and putting him in a situation where a worst case scenario could happen (anger). After Nemo is captured by the diver, Marlin tells himself that he will find Nemo and goes out to find him, allowing himself to put up with Dory and the dangerous situations they get into together. When Marlin and Dory get stuck inside the mouth of a whale, Marlin gives up hope and sinks to the bottom, defeated (depression). When the whale is about to blow, Marlin doesnt want to let go of the tastebud that hes holding onto because he believes that the whale will eat him and Dory, but she convinces him to let go and that just because something bad could happen doesnt mean it will, and Marlin lets go, symbolizing him finally letting go of his grief (acceptance). This stage is later shown again twice; when Marlin accepts that Nemo is (presumably) dead, and when Marlin lets Nemo save Dory and the other fish, once again accepting that he cannot continue to hold onto his grief and live in fear over losing Nemo.
- Cars: Lightning McQueen's Character Development from selfish and arrogant to kind and outgoing is shown by him going though the five stages throughout the movie. When he gets lost in Radiator Springs, he immediately wanted to leave (denial), though he is sentenced to fix the road after causing damage the night before, which he completely resents and shows disdain for the residents at first (anger). He decides to face Doc Hudson, the town's judge, in a race at Willy's Butte to see if he can leave only to crash and lose (bargaining). He eventually learns of Doc's Dark and Troubled Past where he lost his career for good, and realizes what he's acting like after Doc gives him an Armor-Piercing Question about caring about someone or something other than himself. When he is found by the press, he breaks down for the first time and is reluctant to leave the townsfolk (depression). During the race, when Chick Hicks forcefully makes The King crash on the last lap, he willingly gives up the Piston Cup and helps him cross the line, and turns down the Dinoco sponsorship, finally realizing what's more important in life and how good it is to have friends that can help him (acceptance).
- The Emoji Movie: Gene's mission to become normal is expressed through each of the five stages. First, he is upset over the fact he's a malfunction after destroying the text center (denial). He tells his parents he'll be normal and sets out to do so (anger), enlisting the help of Jailbreak to escort him to the Cloud where she can reprogram his code so he's a permanent Meh (bargaining). Eventually, she resists, telling Gene she likes him as he really is, causing him to undergo a Heroic BSoD and feel nothing but just "meh" without any reprogramming (depression). Finally, he regains his confidence and embraces his malfunction skills to help Alex text Addie his feelings, restoring Textopolis and being accepted by the emojis (acceptance).
- Inside Out is a study of the stages by way of Anthropomorphic Personification. After 11-year-old Riley leaves all her friends and familiar surroundings and moves across the country, her Joy attempts to keep her cheerful, preventing her Sadness from dwelling on the old memories and tainting them (denial). In the process, the memories are rendered inaccessible, the parts of Riley's personality they power become nonfunctional, and Joy and Sadness become lost in Riley's mind. Without Sadness to provide appropriate responses to her new surroundings, Riley's Anger takes over. He plants the idea to run away to Minnesota, where she was happy (bargaining), and depression sets in and prevents the emotions from changing her course — except for Sadness, whose return reminds Riley that abandoning her family would make her feel worse. Viewing her previously Joyful memories through a Sad lens allows Riley to Accept her new circumstances.
- In Flatland: The Film, A. Sphere's computerized chariot goes berserk when he's killed, and name-drops the five stages before ending with "NO ACCEPTANCE, REVENGE!"
- The Little Mermaid: King Triton goes through this when it comes to Ariel leaving home and living her own life. He doesn't want Ariel going to the surface because of his prejudice towards humans, and he appoints Sebastian to be her guardian expecting that to be the end of it (denial). When he finds out that Ariel has fallen in love with a human, he becomes absolutely livid (anger) and tries to discourage her by destroying her secret grotto full of surface-world objects (bargaining). This makes Ariel lose whatever respect she has for him and run away, leaving Triton utterly remorseful of his behavior, to the point where he agrees to take her place as Ursula's prisoner (depression). Finally, once Prince Eric saves them both, he decides that Ariel deserves him and turns her into a human permanently so they can be together, restoring his daughter's faith in him (acceptance).
- In Blade Runner, Roy Batty goes through them all:
- Denial: Escaping in the hopes of getting more life.
- Anger: "Fiery the angels fell; deep thunder rolled around their shores; burning with the fires of Orc!"
- Bargaining: His attempt to extract a longer life span from his own creator.
- Depression: When he realises it's already too late for his comrades and howls with grief over Priss' body
- Acceptance: His famous dying speech expresses only regret that the things he knows will become lost forever.
- Lampshaded in the movie All That Jazz. As Roy Scheider's character experiences the stages while recovering from a heart attack, he points out that it sounds like the name of a Jewish law firm: "Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Despair and Acceptance, how can I direct your call?"
- In The Rundown, Beck (The Rock) mentions something similar to the five stages.
Beck: You're just like every other jackass that I've taken down. First they try to run, then they try to fight, then they try to negotiate. And when that doesn't work, you're gonna do what all the others do when they realize it's over.
Travis: Oh, yeah? What's that?
Beck: You're gonna get down on your hands and knees and you're gonna beg me for a break.
- Going blind, Shinnojo in Love and Honor goes through Denial, then Anger and Despair at once and then manages Acceptance. He leaves out Bargaining though, perhaps it's below a Samurai to chaffer.
- Groundhog Day has the main character going through precisely these stages as he learns how to deal with the eponymous day. First he can't believe it (denial), then he does all sorts of anti-social things like over-eating, robbing the armored car, sleeping with all of the attractive women in town, etc (anger), then he tries to figure out what he can do (bargaining), then he just gives up and falls back into bed and/or tries to kill himself (despair), until finally he accepts the situation and becomes a better person.
- Referenced (as "seven stages of grief") in Look Both Ways by Meryl, who asks Nick, "What's the point in knowing where you're up to if you've still got to go through it anyway?"
- Applies to Jeff's character development in Hard Candy:
- Denial: After he's drugged and tied in the chair, most of what he says is pure denial. He makes excuses and comes up with reasons for his behavior, all lies, like why he didn't talk to the women in the chat room as soon as he found out they were older than Hayley. He says, "I'm a decent guy, ask anyone." Can't get much more textbook than that when it comes to denial.
- Anger: We see flashes of this throughout, but very soon after the line quoted above, Hayley starts really tearing into him and his anger rises to the surface. Cut to scene in bedroom, and we see, while he is still trying to convince her that she's wrong, his anger is barely contained now, his denials are not calm and reasonable any longer, but screamed at her. From that point on, anger tinges everything. Hayley even mocks him, saying, "A little angry, are we?"
- Bargaining: This one should be obvious. He's tied to a table. She tells him she's going to castrate him. He begs. He pleads. He promises he'll turn himself in, he'll do anything she wants. Actually, even before he knows what she's planning, he tells her to call the cops, he'll go to jail.
- Depression: This is a tough one, because it's hard to keep the action moving, but while Hayley is "castrating" Jeff, he lies there, dormant, silent. The fight has gone out of him. When she asks him if he wants some souvenirs, holding his "testicles" in front of him, he doesn't respond. He cries. But, life goes on and he's not down for the count. Denial and anger return, especially anger.
- Acceptance: "You're right. You're right, Hayley. Thank you. Thank you. This is me. This is who I am. Thank you. Thank you for helping me see it."
- After Loki in the Marvel Cinematic Universe learns about his true origin, he cycles through the stages:
- Thor: He starts with Denial, clinging to the hope that he is not different, just cursed. When Odin confirms his worst fear, he reacts with Anger, shouting at his adoptive father in the vault. He then tries to Bargain, believing that if he'll be a "good Asgardian" (by wiping out their enemies, that is, his own race), he can be recognized as such. When Thor uncovers his scheme, he resorts to Anger again during their fight. Finally, when Odin disapproves of his actions, he literally plummets into Depression by diving into a wormhole.
- The Avengers: During an argument with Thor on the mountain ledge, he recalls his past with Anger.
- Thor: The Dark World: He is back at Denial when he brings up his "birthright" during his trail, of which he has none, and in a deleted scene when he fantasizes about being crowned king of Asgard while locked in the dungeons. Reminded of grim reality, he undeservedly takes his Anger out on Frigga.
- Thor: Ragnarok: After four years of peace and quiet, he has nearly reached Acceptance. He rationalizes his backstory by writing a play and shares it with all of Asgard, jokes about being adopted and steps back as soon as Thor shows up without further claims to the throne.
- Avengers: Infinity War: He has fully Accepted who he is:
Loki: I, Loki, Prince of Asgard, Odinson, the rightful King of Jotunheim, God of Mischief, do hereby pledge to you my undying fidelity.
- Avengers: Endgame: After Thanos erases half the population of the universe and the Infinity Stones, each member of the original Avengers sans Steve Rogers is going through one of the stages:
- Denial: Natasha Romanov still believes she can go back to her former role of saviour of the world and still hopes for a way to undo Thanos' Snap.
- Anger: Clint Barton is going on a murder spree across the world to rid it from the people he thinks should have died in Thanos' Snap instead of his family and admittedly has lost all hope.
- Bargaining: Bruce Banner is trying his best to find other ways to stay happy, like mastering his Hulk form or gaining a large fanbase for his heroic deeds. Like pretty much every other former Avengers, he still jumps at the opportunity to undo Thanos' Snap.
- Depression: Thor has stopped being a hero and spends his days drinking beers, playing video games and eating way too much. As a result, he is very out of shape and emotionally vulnerable, as seen when he reunites with his mother and starts crying like a little boy
- Acceptance: Tony Stark has moved on from the Avengers after Thanos' Snap, and now has a daughter and lives happily with her and his wife. He is the only member of the team who (at first) refuses to take part in the plan of going back in time to take the Stones and undo Thanos' Snap.
- Steve, however, acts as the grief counselor, trying to help the group get out of their funk, sending Natasha to Clint and so on. Nothing for nothing, the first thing we see him do post-time skip is him leading a litteral Group Therapy Session.
- In the Star Trek Expanded Universe novel I, Q, the entire universe goes through these stages just prior to the supposed "Big Crunch". Subverted in that Q's unwillingness to accept the end of the universe convinces its creator to keep it going.
- Also subverted because None of it really happened; the realms representing each stage that the main characters pass through were set up by the Continuum to keep Q occupied, so he wouldn't try to stop it.
- Protagonist Charlie Asher in the novel A Dirty Job reads about the Kübler-Ross model and comments that he has gone through all the stages in the wake of his wife's death - and the revelation that he is Death.
- Harry Potter goes through the Five Stages of Grief after Sirius dies at the end of Book Five. Later on, when Dumbledore is killed in Book Six, he goes through Denial and Anger for much of Book Seven, Bargaining when he seeks to destroy all remaining Horcruxes (made more evident when he asks the spirit of the daughter of Rowena Ravenclaw for information about one of them), and Depression alongside Acceptance when he discovers that he has to temporarily die as well to get rid of the Horcrux that is inside his body. Harry becomes a fully realized character by the time he and Voldemort settle their definitive battle.
- MARZENA Transhuman Ambrosia gives us the Five Stages of Grief according to Lövheim's Cube (+1): 1. Fear (Pure Dopamine), 2. Rage (Dopamine + Noradrenaline), 3. Shame (Nothing), 4. Angst (Pure Noradrenaline), 5. Contempt (Pure Serotonin), 6. Secret Bonus Backdoor Joy (Dopamine + Serotonin)
- Sesame Street: What Big Bird goes through in the groundbreaking "Goodbye, Mr. Hooper" segment. First there's innocent denial, thinking Mr. Hooper will be back later; then bargaining, as he asks who will do all the things Mr. Hooper used to do for him; then depression ("It makes me sad"); then anger ("Why does it have to be this way?! Give me one good reason!"); then finally wistful acceptance. In a matter of minutes, Big Bird's emotions run the gamut and it's so well done.
- Growing Pains: Carol goes through this in two episodes after her boyfriend, Sandy, dies from injuries in a drunk driving accident. Both are at the denial-anger stage:
- "Second Chance," when Mike informs her that Sandy had died. Carol thinks this is a cruel, sick joke (as Mike had made some very cruel jokes about Sandy previously), but as Mike presses on, it is clear that what she said wasn't happening just did. She even cries out about Sandy appearing to be fine and that he would recover.
- "Teach Me," where Carol is set up on a date (by her grandparents) ... only for her to behave in a way that makes it clear that she is still deeply grieving Sandy. Jason and Maggie even remark that they thought Carol had gotten past the first stages but it was clear to them they were wrong.
- In Smallville, after Reckoning when Jonathan dies. Clark seems to skip the Denial (since his death has been Foreshadowed quite a bit), taking out his Anger on superpowered criminals, "Bargains" with Jor-El in a deleted scene, sees his father's spirit due to Depression, and finally Accepting it and moving on.
- The sixth-season premiere of Frasier sees him going through the stages after being fired from his famed radio job, each one indicated by the show's signature title cards. The episode ends with Niles saying he thinks his divorce is going to go smoothly, followed by the title card Denial.
- The 5th-season Scrubs episode "My Five Stages" has J.D. and Dr. Cox going through the stages over the death of Mrs. Wilk.
- Summer in The O.C. at the beginning of the fourth season.
- In a Monk episode, Monk rapidly goes through the stages of grief when his psychiatrist retires. And thanks to his OCD, he goes through them over and over again throughout the episode.
- In Dead Like Me, George narrates as she goes through the stages after her own death.
- In an episode of Popular, April Tuna is presumed dead after a car accident. That episode is broken into segments each named after the five stages. However, in the end of "Denial" April shows up at her own memorial service very much alive. Turns out her car was stolen by a junkie who proceeded to crash it. The "Acceptance" segment ends up being the traditional happy ending.
- In one episode House, being the Jerkass that he is, criticises and all but mocks Cameron for becoming overly emotionally invested in a terminally ill patient, writing the five stages on his whiteboard and crossing them off one by one as she goes through them.
House: Remarkable. You just made a near-seamless transition from Anger to Bargaining.
- Stephen Colbert pulled out a Kübler-Ross pamphlet while trying to cope with the end of the 2008 Democratic primary season. "Stage one, Denial, I've never had that... Stage two, Anger, THERE you go!", screwed up the pamphlet and threw it away. "I am BACK!"
- Parodied in an episode of Wings. When Lowell refuses to believe that his friend Weeb is dead, Brian notes that he's in denial and lists the rest of the stages he'll go through. Lowell then comes back into the room and expresses each stage one after another, in order, in the space of a few seconds.
Lowell: I'M ANGRY AS HELL AT WEEB FOR DYING! But I'd trade anything to get him back. [crying] Oh, what's the use! It's hopeless! He's gone! [recovering] But what are you gonna do? Life goes on.
- Star Trek: Voyager ("Imperfection"). Seven of Nine goes through the stages when she realises a Borg implant in her head is fatally malfunctioning and can't be replaced.
Icheb: Why is she angry at me?
EMH: She's not angry at you. She's just... angry.
- Dropped at the end of the second part of the Grey's Anatomy sixth season premiere, ostensibly for coming to terms with George's death, but the stages are read off as Chief Webber addresses the staff that Seattle Grace would be merging with rival hospital Mercy West.
- In the Doctor Who story The End of Time, when Wilf knocks four times to be released from the radiation chamber, the Doctor, realizing that he would have to absorb the radiation to free Wilf, goes through the Five Stages within twenty seconds, before making his Heroic Sacrifice to save Wilf.
- He also seems to have gone through all of the stages at least once over the course of the specials since his death was prophesied in "Planet of the Dead".
- In "The Family of Blood", John Smith learns that his life is a lie and must give up everything to become the Doctor again. Also a Tear Jerker.
- In "Face the Raven" the Doctor and Clara rapidly go through all five stages together when Clara learns she only has a few minutes to live:
- Denial: The Doctor even says "This isn't happening. It's not happening."
- Anger: The Doctor enters into a terrifying Freak Out! against the woman he holds responsible for this, threatening to "rain hell" upon her for the rest of time. And he even barks at Clara.
- Bargaining: Clara comes close to pleading to the Doctor, "We can fix this. We always fix it" and the aforementioned freak out against Mayor Me by the Doctor also includes this.
- Depression: The Doctor enters into Heroic BSoD mode, at one point asking what the point is of being a Doctor if he can't cure Clara.
- Acceptance: Clara reaches this point. The Doctor doesn't, and since he's promptly sent off to a lonely torture chamber where he has no one to help him through his loss, he ultimately spends the next 4.5 billion years cycling through Anger, Denial, Depression and ultimately a very dangerous form of Bargaining in the two episodes that follow, "Heaven Sent" and "Hell Bent". He becomes willing to risk the safety of the entire universe over the chance to bring her back from the dead. He finally has a Heel Realization and reaches the stage of Acceptance; tragically, because he is so psychologically damaged, being able to function as a hero again requires him to not only lose his beloved Clara, but also memories of the things that made him love her in the first place.
- On Law & Order, after Mike Logan's partner is murdered, his grief counsellor Olivet tells him that he's going through the stages.
- 30 Rock:
- Tracy claims to be going through the stages of grief when he's convinced he's about to be murdered, but he has a rather... unique take on what they actually are.
Tracy: I'm just going through the classic stages of grief. Fear, denial, horniness, wisdom, sleepiness... and now, depression.
Kenneth: What about anger?
Tracy: No, I don't want to do anger! You can't make me!
- A Flashback sequence shows how Jack went through the five stages in couple seconds after he learned of the death of his mentor Don Geiss, except "Acceptance" was replaced with "Shoving Down Emotions and Proceeding as if Everything's Fine."
- Tracy claims to be going through the stages of grief when he's convinced he's about to be murdered, but he has a rather... unique take on what they actually are.
- The two-hour (or two-part, depending) 6th season premiere of Buffy the Vampire Slayer is named after stage 3, a direct reference to dealing with Buffy's death in the previous season finale. Specifically, the gang offering the gods a dangerous, painful, Black Magic sacrifice in exchange for Buffy's life.
- Played for Laughs in "Intervention" when the Scoobies believe Buffy is dealing with her grief over her mother's death by boinking evil vampire Spike; actually he was screwing a Sex Bot that Spike has had built to resemble Buffy.
Anya: We're kind of thrown by the you having sex with Spike.
Buffy: The ... who whating how with huh?
Anya: Okay, that's denial. That usually comes before anger.
Buffy: I am not having sex with Spike!
- Then there is Willow at the end of season six, swapping the list somewhat through the last Three episodes:
- Denial: Willow desperately pleading to Tara to Wake up, moaning "no, no" all the time.
- Anger: Willow shifts to Red Eyes, Take Warning, before summoning Osiris.
- Bargaining: With Osiris himself. After that, she reverts to anger for the rest of the season, but that could easily be fueled by
- Depression, because even Giles and the coven in England notes the sudden fury born of her sorrow - she reacts by turning stone cold. Depression (or rather despair, which also chimes in on Willow´s reaction here), is actually sided with wrath/anger in one of the upper circles of Hell inn The Divine Comedy.
- Acceptance: When she finally breaks down in Xander`s arms.
- There's a fan theory that the overall arc of Buffy's characterisation through the whole series is based on the Kubler-Ross stages:
- Season One: Denial
- Season Two: Anger
- Seasons Three and Four: Bargaining
- Seasons Five, Six, and Seven: Depression
- The final episode: Acceptance
- Played for Laughs in "Intervention" when the Scoobies believe Buffy is dealing with her grief over her mother's death by boinking evil vampire Spike; actually he was screwing a Sex Bot that Spike has had built to resemble Buffy.
- The Tenacious D series parodies this in the episode "Death Of A Dream." The five stages of losing a rock star dream: Anger, Denial, Door-To-Door Rocking, Temp Job, Acceptance.
- In Ned's Declassified School Survival Guide, Moze (whose backpack - with her diary inside - went missing) goes through these very quickly, with 'anger' coming up. A lot. And in this case, it's just four stages (he skips the bargaining part).
- An interesting twist in Blackadder, in which a season 3 episode features suicide pills, which stages are depression, loss of temper, forgetfulness and happiness, in that order. Oh, and before you die you jump in a corner.
- In the That '70s Show episode "Grandma's Dead", when Red's mother dies, Kitty tells him about the five stages. Red says that he's got two stages: anger and drinking.
- An episode of Community goes through all five stages as the group realizes that they failed biology, even though a recurring character died at the same time. Anger occurs during the man's funeral. Also in that episode, Psych major Britta mentioned denial as the first stage of grief. She's called out on it and, sure enough, that's the only stage she knows.
- In the "In My Time Of Dying" episode of Supernatural these are played with which is even lampshaded by the reaper, who says "Stage three: Bargaining."
- Agron can be seen doing this, though in a different order, in Spartacus: Blood and Sand and its sequels. After his brother is killed, he jumps to Anger by going on a Roaring Rampage of Revenge, and stays that way for most of the series. Towards the end of the show he is crucified, and then enters Denial over the state of his injuries. He falls into Depression when he realizes he can't fight, and then does Bargaining when he finds a way to fight anyway. And then after they lose the war, and Spartacus dies, he reaches acceptance, when he leaves behind his weapons and leads the survivors to safety and freedom.
- Being a show about a support group for people who have experienced loss, Go On has a lot of this. Ryan seems stuck in Stage One, but often goes through the other stages to further the episode's Aesop, and some members of the group represent different stages (e.g. Anne represents anger, Danny represents denial, etc.)
- A rare case of it happening without attention being drawn to it happened in the Star Trek: The Next Generation episode "The Loss." Troi loses her ability to sense emotions and shortly goes through every stage, only skipping over bargaining. She at first shrugs it off and says the ability will simply come back (denial), then begins to lash out at Dr. Crusher for not finding a cure (anger), breaks down crying in her quarters (depression), then after some words from Riker and Guinan, returns to her work and helps save the day (acceptance). The portrayal is more subtle in that she doesn't suddenly snap from one stage to the other and can be seen sliding between them (while still in denial, she snaps at Riker for being sympathetic before exploding at Beverly; while still angry over the situation, she begins cutting off ties with her friends because she's becoming too depressed to keep going).
- On the New Girl episode "Goldmine", Schmidt goes through the five stages after learning that Cece is thinking of having breast reduction surgery.
- In The Nanny episode "Ode to Barbara Joan", Fran was explaining how kids deal with disappointment, with C.C. experiencing each stage outside in the garden:
Fran: They're not going to tell their father when they're dying inside. They give off signals. They act morose.
Sometimes they even have fits of anger.
(She smashes a pot)
And, finally, if they're despondent enough, they might even be driven to acts of violence.
(She stomps on Niles' foot, which had been causing him agony from corns)
And that concludes today's audio/visual demonstration.
- Leslie Knope on Parks and Recreation went through her own version of the five stages of grief after getting kicked off her city council position.
Leslie: I've gone through the five stages of grief: Denial, anger, internet commenting, cat adoption, african dance, cat-returning-to-the-adoption-place, watching all the episodes of Murphy Brown, and not giving a flying fart. How many stages is that? I don't know. The point is, I'm fine now.
- People of Earth:
- Played for laughs in Episode 3, when Don learns of Kurt's death, as he goes through the whole process in about 30 seconds. And judging by Jeff's reaction, this is pretty regular coming from him.
- After Ozzie's death in the middle of Season 2, Gina spends most of the next episode in denial, before, as seems to be typical for her, erupting into a rage of combined anger, bargaining, and depression when Ozzie's fish Abraham, which she's been carrying around with her the whole time, dies in her arms (Well, in his bowl, which is in her arms at the time). By the end of the episode, she's moved on enough that she's planning to go back to being a professional therapist.
- The Librarians 2014: In "And The Eternal Question", Cassandra goes through this as she deals with her brain tumor hitting the terminal stages.
- Quentin in Arrow episode "Canary Cry", following Laurel's murder, he is initially in denial when he tries to insists she isn't really dead, jumps to bargaining when he talks to Nyssa about finding a way to bring her back to life, and reaches grief when he finally breaks down. Whether or not he ever makes it to acceptance is debatable.
- Diggle by contrast spends most of the episode firmly locked in anger.
- One of the later episodes of Eureka has Fargo take an experimental drug in order to get through the five stages of grief his girlfriend Holly's death at an accelerated rate in order to move on. The drug, however, not only accelerates the process but exaggerates each stage to a ridiculous degree, so much so that he's taken off of the treatment to processes his emotions normally.
- On NCIS: Los Angeles, Sam Hanna's car Charlene is stolen. Callen keeps track of the five stages as they come.
- In Kamen Rider Gaim, Micchy goes through this over the course of the series:
- Denial: He learns the truth about what's happening, particularly Yuya's fate and Yggdrasil's plans, and tries to hide it from everyone else, believing that everyone will be happier if they don't know the truth.
- Anger: Once Kouta starts derailing his plans, he starts to blame him for everyone's unhappiness (despite being responsible for it himself) and starts plotting to kill him.
- Bargaining: Once his plans start falling apart even more, he starts bargaining with villains such as Redyue and Ryoma, who really shouldn't be trusted, culminating in leaving Mai in Ryoma's care, and using the deadly Yomotsuheguri Lockseed against Kouta.
- Depression: After Kouta sacrifices himself to save him from the Yomotsuheguri, and Ryoma predictably backstabs Micchy and kills Mai's physical body for the Forbidden Fruit, he realizes that all his attempts to keep what he had were for naught and enters a depressive breakdown for the rest of the series.
- Acceptance: During epilogue episode, he finally snaps out of his depressive funk in order to fight against a lingering threat, making peace with Kouta and resolving to properly atone for his actions.
- Dexter: In the episode "Hello, Bandit" after Rita's death:
- Dexter: It's said there are seven stages of grief. I suppose killing someone with my bare hands in a men's room was my way of working through the anger stage. Whatever the other six stages are... I don't have time for them.
- Queen's "Bohemian Rhapsody". The intro starts off "Is this the real life? Is this just fantasy?"; the narrator is going through Denial. The part where the narrator talks about "Any way the wind blows, doesn't really matter" is the narrator going through Despair. The opera part, especially the "Will you let me go?", is the narrator Bargaining. The hard rock section is, of course, Anger. In the final, gentle-sounding stage, the narrator shifts back into Despair before finally settling on Acceptance.
- Slightly averted in Doonesbury when B.D. lost his leg in Iraq and his doctor was explaining the five steps to his wife.
Doctor: There are generally five stages. The first is denial...
B.D.: Son of a Bitch!
Doctor: Some skip straight to anger...
- Played with in the strip "The Seven Stages of a Performance Review".
- In another strip, Dogbert is shown responding to Dilbert's death, going through denial, then anger, and finally thrift: "No coffin, just wrap the corpse in newspaper. He would have wanted it that way."
- In the Opus strip seen here, the five stages are applied not to tragedy, but to having to "go green" and use a hybrid car; Steve makes it to "Acceptance", but shifts back to "Anger" quickly. However, in the next week's strip, Steve manages to achieve the "rare sixth and final stage", "Smug Satisfaction".
- The final episode of The Now Show LIVE! Olympics Special showed the five stages of grief as they applied to the end of the Olympics. Denial was claiming they'd started before the opening ceremony, so they'd keep going after the closing ceremony, right? Bargaining was trying to convince yourself other sporting events were just as interesting. Depression was turning on the regular news.
- Changeling: The Lost: The four Seasonal Courts of Changelings — people who were captured and Metamorphosed by The Fair Folk — have philosophies that map to these. The Spring Court try to drown out their memories with hedonism; the Summer Court are militaristic and literally fueled by rage; the Autumn Court obsess over gaining power through magic and Fae bargains; and the Winter Court spread grief and sorrow in the world. Notably absent is "Acceptance", unless one counts the threat of losing one's soul and transforming into a new True Fae.
- Gluck's opera Orfeo ed Euridice is essentially a study of the five stages of grief composed centuries before Kübler-Ross. At the beginning, Orpheus is in denial, continuously calling for the dead Eurydice and begging her to come back to him. Then he switches to anger at the gods, resolving to defy them by journeying to the underworld and bringing Eurydice back. His whole journey through the underworld embodies bargaining, as he literally bargains with the gods, furies and spirits, and as he struggles to keep his end of the bargain by not looking back at Eurydice. When he does look back and loses her again, he succumbs to depression. He never quite reaches acceptance, because the opera changes the ending of the myth and has the gods restore Eurydice to him anyway... though some creative modern productions have had her stay dead and turned the "happy" ending into a symbol of acceptance, with Orpheus realizing his wife will always live on in his memory.
- In the final scene of West Side Story, Maria goes through all five stages very quickly. As Tony lies dying in her arms, she tries to assure him that everything will be alright and sings a reprise of "Somewhere" (denial). After he dies, she turns in rage on the two gangs (anger) and threatens to kill them all and then herself, as if their deaths would compensate for Tony's and resolve the tragedy of their hate (bargaining). But she can't bring herself to do it and collapses in tears (depression). But in the end, as the gangs make their peace and join together to carry Tony's body in a procession, she follows them in bittersweet pride and triumph that she created this glimmer of hope (acceptance).
- Quite an easy example to miss, but in the Alpha Protocol mission where you assault Konstantin Brayko, he'll go through the five stages of grief depending on when/if you choose to execute him in the conversation. Shoot him straight away and he'll barely have time to utter a "no..!", whereas if you execute him right at the very end he'll go out with a joke.
- In Baldur's Gate II: Shadows of Amn, Jaheira goes through a mini-version in the scene where she finds out that her husband has been killed. First she's in denial and insists it's an illusion; then she's angry at everyone who tries to comfort her; and then she trails off in sadness.
- BlazBlue: Even as a doctor, Litchi Faye-Ling goes through all five phases throughout the whole series as a result of losing her boyfriend Lotte Carmine who now becomes the Blob Monster Arakune, an effect of There Are No Therapists in that world.
- Denial: Beginning in BlazBlue: Calamity Trigger, Litchi was at first introduced as already settling in Orient Town as a local doctor, beloved by all and thought that if she just kills Arakune, everything will be over. In the last minute, she realized that this isn't the way and she has to commit on rescuing him.
- Bargaining: In the middle to the end of BlazBlue: Continuum Shift, Litchi found out that she contracted a similar corruption like Arakune and her time draws near that she would succumb to the same corruption. However, an unsavory chance was presented to her by someone she's very suspicious at: Hazama of NOL. If she joins his division in NOL, she can get more information to save Arakune and herself. Even if she didn't like it in general, rather than burdening her other friends with her grief, she decided to take the chance and go rogue, joining the obvious bad guys.
- Anger: Hazama proves to be really nasty and Litchi's time to work in NOL was not enjoyable, but she still bore through them all throughout BlazBlue: Chrono Phantasma. However, when the good guys turn out to be largely unsympathetic at her, calling her stupid or even warranting arrest on her, Litchi at times tends to snap at her former friends. But she continued on the side of evil, which pits her against the other friends that didn't blame her, from her tone, she looks like she's angry at herself...
- Depression: In BlazBlue: Central Fiction, though time tends to get reset, making Litchi go back to square one, she tends to carry her old memories, but she was confronted with Awful Truth from one to one, starting with how she was not an Entitled and even if she won through the battles, her wish to save Arakune would never be granted into meeting a lucid Lotte and getting told off that he actually never wanted to be saved, she was just wasting her time. At this point, with nothing else that she had, only the last request of Lotte to kill the body of Arakune, Litchi attempts to slay her target while tears constantly ran through her face, knowing that she will carry the burden of killing a loved one, but she no longer cared.
- Acceptance: Thankfully, Bang knocked her out and realizing her love to Lotte, he decided to take her place in delivering the killing blow to Arakune so she wouldn't be burdened with the grief. With that, in the epilogue, Litchi managed to accept that she has tried everything to her power to save Arakune, and that's all that matters. She then managed to make amends with the Sector Seven and then returned to her clinic permanently, also adopting Platinum the Trinity.
- Alexius in Dragon Age: Inquisition is stuck in the "Bargaining" and "Denial" stages concerning his son Felix being doomed to die after he contracted the Darkspawn Taint. The dying person by contrast is in "Acceptance" and is trying to help Alexius reach it as well.
- The five stages theme is used extensively in the freeware Adventure Game Eternally Us. Every scene in the game is based on one of the stages.
- Final Fantasy XIII plays this out with Lightning, Snow, Sazh, Hope and Vanille wrestling with individual stages as Serah is turned to crystal and they're branded l'Cie to destroy Cocoon.
- Lightning is Anger, deciding if it's her fate to destroy Cocoon, then fine, that's exactly what she'll do and woe to anyone who tries to stop her. Hope also gets Anger, directed at Snow, who he blames for his mother's death and resolves to kill in revenge.
- Snow is Bargaining, believing that as long as he tries hard enough, there must be a way to set everything right. There's a dash of Denial as well, as if there isn't a way, he's got a lot of guilt to own up to and he knows it.
- Sazh is Acceptance, deciding to turn himself in and be executed because he's tired of running and just wants to see his son again before he dies.
- Vanille is Denial, saying outright she acts happy, cheerful and excited to cover up her deep guilt over inadvertently being the cause of a lot of the story's conflicts.
- King Graham in King's Quest (2015) goes through this throughout the game's installments. Denying there's anything wrong, being angry at his own bedridden state, desperately begging his Magic Mirror to show him another adventure, sadness at realizing his adventuring days (and life) are coming to a close... it's only during the final episode,after one last ill-fated attempt to go out adventuring fails miserably, that he comes to accept his end.
- As pointed out by the guys from Game Theory, each realm of The Legend of Zelda: Majora's Mask represents one of the stages, and you visit them in order:
- Clock Town represents Denial. The moon is about to fall and kill everyone, but the citizens couldn't care less. The head carpenter in particular laughs at the idea of the moon actually falling, and tells the mayor that the carnival should go on as planned.
- Woodfall has Anger. The Deku princess has disappeared, and her father finds a scapegoat he can kill to calm his frustration.
- Snowhead has Bargaining. Darmani, the leader of the Goron, has died, and his people are going to die as well if the eternal winter doesn't end. He asks Link to prolong his life a little bit more with his magic, just enough to allow him to save his tribe.
- Great Bay represents Depression. Lulu's children have been stolen by pirates, and all she does to deal with it is stand by the sea in silence.
- Acceptance is found in Ikana. Link climbs towards the sky through the Stone Tower and reaches enlightenment, represented by the Light Arrows.
- The four stages of rampancy in the Marathon series (Melancholia, Anger, Jealousy, Metastability) bear a strong resemblance to this. Marathon: RED's three chapters are titled "Resistance", "Desperation", and "Acceptance".
- Metal Gear Solid 3: Snake Eater: Before Naked Snake confronts The Boss, he faces the Cobra Unit. Each member of the unit "carries an emotion into battle", which each somewhat align with a stage of grief. Notable in that the last one he faces is The Fury, foreshadowing his Start of Darkness.
- Yukari Takeba in Persona 3: The Answer surprisingly follows through these stages, which explains her more aggressive attitude throughout the game:
- Denial: Ever since the death of the main character, Yukari left the dorm alone and attended cram school in order to forget that the main character died. However, it fails to do anything to her as she's eventually called back to deal with the Abyss of Time. And then...
- Anger: Finding out that Aigis inherited the Wild Card, not her, infuriated Yukari further that she started acting hostile and cold towards Aigis.
- Bargaining: Later, Yukari found out that there was a way to reunite with the main character by using the key to go back in time before fighting Nyx and fight it out again. Driven by her love and grief, Yukari decided to take the chance, against everyone else's suggestion (Excepting Mitsuru), and wanted to use the key to go back in time. This causes a friction in the SEES and they end up 'fighting to the death'.
- Depression: Yukari lost, but was restored by Aigis. Still in frustration, Yukari wrestled the key from Aigis... and failed again. In anguish, Yukari finally revealed that she's still unable to get over the death of the main character and has lost hope, only driven with the prospect of reuniting with him again. It was at this point that Mitsuru comforted her and promised that she'll stay with her through hard and good times, enabling Yukari to cry out all her griefs.
- Acceptance: After fighting Erebus and realizing the importance of the main character's death and sacrifice, Yukari finally accepted that she has to move on and do her part in making humans happy for his sake. She's no longer hostile to Aigis and resumes being the good ol' Yukari Takeba. And by the time of Persona 4: Arena, Yukari has even become the actress of the Neo Featherman's Pink Argus, making children who watch her happy.
- In Randal's Monday, Sally starts to go through them as Matt dies over and over again in a "Groundhog Day" Loop, each day in a different way. On the first day, Sally can't accept the fact that Matt is dead. On the second day, she gets mad at Randal because she thinks he's responsible for Matt's suicide. On the third day, Sally ponders ways in which she could bring Matt back to life. Unusually for this trope, however, this trend stops suddenly and no more stages are shown in play for the rest of the game.
- Rime: The entire game is built upon this concept, as the game areas are explicitly named after the five stages and thematically linked to them. This makes perfect sense, as the ending shows that the story is a tale the father spins in his head as a way of coping with his son's death.
- Solace is a short freeware Shoot 'em Up with five stages. Each stage corresponds to a stage of grief and attempts to reflect that stage in the gameplay.
- We see these stages in the climax of Spec Ops: The Line, when Captain Walker is confronted by Colonel Konrad (or more specifically, hallucinates a conversation with Konrad after discovering that the Colonel has been Dead All Along). After delivering some Awful Truths amid a brutal "The Reason You Suck" Speech, Konrad aims a gun at Walker and prepares to shoot.
Konrad: I'm going to count to five, then I'm pulling the trigger.
Walker: (fearful) You're not real. This is all in my head.
Konrad: Are you sure? Maybe it's in mine! One.
Walker: (angry) No. Everything, all this, it was your fault!
Konrad: If that's what you believe then shoot me! Two.
Walker: (tearfully) I-I didn't mean to hurt anybody...
Konrad: No-one ever does, Walker. Three...
- Depending on the player's choices, Walker can resign himself to Konrad's judgment and die, or shoot first, surviving the ordeal as an utterly broken man. Which ending is "Depression" and which is "Acceptance" is probably open to argument. Or you can have Walker wipe out the friendly soldiers sent to extract him, adding a "Kill Everything" option to the Stages of Grief.
- At one point in the first episode of You Don't Know Jack 2011, Cookie Masterson asked this question: "Suppose that I Can't Believe It's Not Butter had a line of products based on the Five Stages of Grief. After I Can't Believe It's Not Butter (Denial), which would come next in the line?" The possible answers were:
- I'm Very Angry That It's Not Butter (Anger)
- I've Lost All Hope, Because It's Not Butter (Depression)
- I've Come To Terms With It Not Being Butter (Acceptance)
- I'll Do Anything To Turn It Into Butter (Bargaining)
- Neglected Mario Characters did this during the Super Smash Stadium crossover as Fred coped with his (mistaken) belief that he ate his best friend, Bill, with Donez rattling off the stages. He threw in "Flatulence" as stage four just to mess with Fred.
- Parodied in this Terror Island strip: "The stages of grief don't work when you're trying to rush them." While in Bob the Angry Flower his doctor advises him◊, "Well, if I were you, I'd skip directly to the 'acceptance' stage."
- Sluggy Freelance
- Parodied in "Sluggy of the Living Freelance", with Torg going through similar phases during a zombie attack and as a result behaving wholly inappropriately for the circumstances. Also, it turns out he's actually grieving over beer running out, not the zombies as such.
- Also parodied in "The Circle" when Sylvia realises the last remaining other vampire of her circle, whom she's gone through great trouble to resurrect, is not Queen Lysinda but the infuriating idiot Sam. Every stage before Acceptance, including sub-stages not mentioned on this page, consists of going "NOOOOOOO".
- Attempted by Sam in Freefall but gets stuck on a repeating loop of anger and denial.
- Referenced, if somewhat indirectly, by Kevyn Anderson, in Schlock Mercenary, when talking with Captain Tagon's father after the son was killed.
- Parodied in one page of Zebra Girl. The comic then went and expanded on each stage after jumping the shark. One thing is certain though. The acceptance stage wasn't pretty to say the least.
- Buttersafe shows us that the five stages can apply to anything.
- Inverted in the Bug Martini strip "The Five Stages of Joy".
- Flintlocke's Guide to Azeroth presents: The Five Stages of Warcraft.
- In Sinfest, Slick goes through four stages of damnation. He skips depression. Or perhaps it was subsumed under acceptance, given that it's damnation.
- Critical Miss gives us the five stages of grief as they relate to Mass Effect 3's original ending.
- Recursively parodied in Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal, here.
Denial: What? No, Nobody would seriously propose that grief comes in distinct stages.
Anger: It's just something they made up, and they even say in the original book that it's arbitrary and incomplete!
Bargaining: Okay, but if we say it's literature, and not science, then it's an interesting perspective.
Depression: People are treating this model like it's a biological fact...
Acceptance: Ech, it's not even in the top 100 worst psych theories of the sixties.
- Blip has the stages of grief for a computer virus infection.
- In The Order of the Stick, Roy experiences something like this when Belkar tells him Durkon has been killed and raised as a vampire. He assumes Belkar's making it up as a twisted joke, threatens to outright kill him, then tries to find logical holes in his story, then seriously considers abandoning their mission altogether due to the setback. After getting to "see" Durkon again in an illusion of his ideal happy ending, he sort-of arrives at acceptance. Then "Durkon" joins the team, shifting him back into the denial stage as he ignores Belkar's warnings that this is NOT the same guy.
- Ozy and Millie
- During the Let's Play of Sonic the Hedgehog (2006), pokecapn and company can be heard going through all five stages, in order, over the two hours it took them to struggle through the game's worst level, End Of The World. This wasn't lost on pokecapn, who divided the entire ordeal into five videos and subtitled each with one of the five stages.
- One Little Miss Gamer video demonstrated these (in puppet form) when discovering that your favorite Xbox Live game has been canceled. The fifth stage turns out to be "Obsession Brain Melt Gurrrrrr".
- The Five stage of Grief to anyone who can fight according to Killlyou: Punch it, kick it, stab it, shoot it, and kill it, preferably painfully.
- In the first commodoreHUSTLE episode, "Laundry," James goes through the 5 stages of grief in about 5 seconds on-screen time after washing his iPhone accidentally. Though worth noting is that he doesn't do anything for "bargaining" onscreen besides staring at his phone and breathing heavily.
- This LoadingReadyRun skit, where, after learning some unfortunate news from his doctor, one of the cast goes through the five stages, interspersed with random other stages such as "Angry Denial" and "Kumquat Love".
- Scion of Worm is in mourning for Eden for most of the story, spending much of it in Denial as he believes all is not lost. After discovering her corpse he descends into full-blown Anger only for his enemies to use her memory to drive him into Depression and kill him before he can learn to cope with the loss.
- RWBY Recaps presents (spoiler warning) the Five Stages of Grief in relation to RWBY Season 3, Chapter 10:
Stage One: Denial (haha, she'll be fiiiiiinnnneeeee)
Stage Two: Further Denial (hahahaha they'll be fiiiiiiiinnnnneeee)
Stage Three: It's Getting Ridiculous Now (hahahahaha he'll be fiiiiiiiiiinnnnnnneeeee)
Stage Four: Drowning In That River In Egypt (hahahahahaha they'll alllllllllllllllllll be fine)
Stage Five: Acceptance (hahahahahaha she is fuuuuuuuuuuuuucked)
- Tess Masazza goes through a variation of this trope in an episode of the Italian Web Series Insopportabilmente donna when she spends Valentine's Day alone as a single woman. Emphasis is placed on anger. A lot of anger!
- The Emperor's New School had Kronk go through this as he came to terms with being left in the wild for a project. However, since it's a two-shorts show, he only goes through three stages (denial, depression and acceptance) and Malina identifies them after he goes through them.
- Parodied in a Robot Chicken sketch: A giraffe is stuck in a quicksand pit and experiences the stages in order. When he finally gets to acceptance, he hits bottom...with his head and neck still above ground.
- The Simpsons: In "One Fish, Two Fish, Blowfish, Blue Fish", Homer eats bad fugu fish and is told he will likely die; he's told of the model by Dr. Hibbert and goes through all five stages in about 10 seconds.
Hibbert: You can expect to go through five stages. The first is denial.
Homer: No way, because I'm not dying!
Hibbert: Second is anger...
Homer: Why you little... Da-! Guuuuuh! Yaaaaah!
Hibbert: After that, comes fear...
Homer: (paranoid) What's after fear? What's after fear?!
Homer: Doc, you've got to get me out of this. I'll make it worth your while.
Hibbert: And finally, acceptance.
Homer: Well, we've all got to go sometime.
Hibbert: Mr. Simpson, your progress astounds me!
- The High Fructose Adventures of Annoying Orange: In the My Name Is Earl parody "My Name is Orange", Orange gets mold and has 24 hours to live, in which Dr. Banana states he will go through the five stages of grief, providing a very illustrative montage to the audience.
- In The Grim Adventures of Billy & Mandy TV movie Billy & Mandy's Big Boogey Adventure, Mandy claims there are seven stages of grief: shock, denial, bargaining, fear, anger, despair, and presumably acceptance. Grim goes through the stages in about 10 seconds...except he gets stuck on anger and never moves on to despair.
- Parodied on The Ren & Stimpy Show. In the episode "Terminal Stimpy", Stimpy goes through the five stages after realizing he's on the last of his nine lives... except in "Bargaining", he literally bargains with Ren over antique furniture.
- One episode of Recess, where Vince realizes his older brother Chad is a Geek, has one reference to this, right after Vince is told of the fact, by Gretchen stating "Stage one: denial." But the other stages can be seen as well: where Vince runs from the kitchen table after listening to Chad speak geek, where Vince confronts Chad and tries to reason why he can't be a geek, where Vince despairs over whether he will become a geek like Chad, and where Vince realizes that Chad has his badass moments too.
- The Penguins of Madagascar parodies this in "Miss Understanding", with Skipper (who had been found to be female after taking a DNA testnote ) quickly going through all five stages as Kowalski lists them off.
- In an episode of Rugrats, Chuckie's pet bug Melville dies. Chuckie exhibits denial, anger, and depression before whisking over to acceptance so fast it causes Mood Whiplash.
- Discussed in the unproduced final episode of The Angry Beavers, in which Daggett struggles to accept Norbert's assertion that the show was being cancelled.
- In Teen Titans Go!, Cyborg and Beast Boy go through this after Robin gets rid of their couch in "Lazy Sunday".
- My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic:
- Rainbow Dash goes through the five stages in the episode "Tanks for the Memories" when she learns of her pet tortoise Tank's impending hibernation for the upcoming winter. Amusingly, her version of the "bargaining" stage involves trying to stop Tank from hibernating by stopping winter itself. As for depression, Fluttershy provokes her into crying when it's clear she's not going to do it on her own.
- Starlight Glimmer hits all five stages in "The Cutie Remark Part 2" when Twilight shows her that her attempts to change the past by stopping the first Sonic Rainboom will cause Equestria to be destroyed - she refuses to believe the Mane Six's friendship is that important, bitterly compares their friendship to her failed friendship which sent her on the path she was on, attempted to destroy the time travel spell that started this mess to prove Twilight wrong, despairingly admits her fear of making friends before ultimately resigning herself to whatever her fate is.
- Devin from Total Drama Presents: The Ridonculous Race undergoes this after his girlfriend, Shelly, broke up with him for her tennis instructor.
- The classic National Film Board of Canada animated film Why Me is a serio-comic depiction of a man going through the five stages when he's told he only has a few minutes to live.
- The infamous Tearjerker episode "Cookie Chomper III" from Alvin and the Chipmunks has all three chipmunks going through various stages after their newly adopted kitten is killed by a car. Theodore goes through denial, actively searching for their kitten and thinking that a different one was killed. Alvin goes through anger, putting all the houseplants outside because they'll eventually die too. Simon goes through depression, just sad over the kitten's death.
- Adventure Time: The five stages of grief are the secret hidden connection between the five short stories in "Another Five Short Graybles", though the order goes Acceptance (Finn mimics accepting a package from Jake), Denial (Princess Bubblegum denies Cinnamon Bun the use of his night-light), Bargaining (Ice King bargains with his penguins to get his pick on movie night), Anger (the Lemongrabs fight over a doll and get angry with each other), and Depression (Mr. Fox returns home after a long trip, and sees a vision from his subconscious in a depression in the mattress of his old bed).
- Steven Universe is actually a more realistic version of this: different characters seem to be stuck in different stages rather than going through a perfect order. Concerning Steven's Missing Mom, Rose, we have Greg mostly settled into Acceptance, with the Crystal Gems, being immortal, stuck between depression (mostly Pearl), Denial and Acceptance. A flashback episode shows them in the Denial/Bargaining phase, though, each believing that somehow Steven can be used to bring her back. (He's kind of her Reincarnation. It's complicated.)
- The villains are actually going through this too, for Pink Diamond. Blue Diamond seems to be stuck in Depression for thousands of years (though she may have been in Anger back during "The Answer"); Yellow Diamond, however, is trapped between Denial and Anger, wanting to destroy everything associated with the deceased in order to forget her. Ironically enough, Pink Diamond is Rose Quartz, meaning she isn't as dead as Blue and Yellow think.
- The Amazing World of Gumball did this with Richard's issues concerning his deadbeat biological father Frankie's abandonment.
- He spent 42/33 years in denial about it as revealed in "The Man". In the same episode, his mother, Granny Jojo, is revealed to be dating again, prompting him to take most of his anger out on her new spouse, Louie.
- Despite accepting Louie as a surrogate father, he refuses to let him marry his mother, setting up the bargaining stage in "The Signature", where Frankie returns to settle the issue but ends up stealing his son's home. After having a Heel Realization over leaving his precious child, he changes his mind and gives back the house. In return, Richard welcomes him back into his life, still in the bargaining stage, but ends up unintentionally making their rekindled relationship worse throughout "The Outside".
- Finally, in "The Father", Frankie has an attack of guilt from The Vermin Man ceremony and excludes himself from the Wattersons out of remorse, causing Richard to go into depression from losing his father again. His kids try to cheer him up by having him and Frankie bond to make up for lost time, which only makes Richard lose his patience with his father's old habits and give up on him.
- However, Frankie makes it clear that he still loves his son no matter what and didn't want him to make the same mistakes he did, prompting Richard to finally accept that Frankie's abandonment made him a better parent and truly reconciles with him.
- In the pilot episode to Ruby Gloom, Frank and Len believe that Ruby is dying and each time they talk to her, they think that she is going through these stages.
- In Trolls: The Beat Goes On!, Branch "kills" Sky Toronto's tie, Sky Jr., making him too depressed to run his factory. After Branch tries and fails to run it himself, he finds a bearded Sky who goes through all five stages in under 15 seconds.