A character is very good at his profession, but is completely unable or unwilling to use this ability to help himself or his own family. This is seen most often with therapists.
It may be justified in the case of therapists, because to analyze more effectively, a therapist has to be outside the problem. Think of it like a maze. Is it easier to see the path to the exit in the middle of the maze, or looking down from above? In fact, professional counseling and psychology organizations classify counseling those the therapist has an emotional attachment to as a "dual relationship." They are ethically questionable and always to be avoided in professional work.
The same justification can be used for doctors (their emotional attachment can blind them to what's wrong with themselves or those they love, or make them unable to use a risky treatment), so many hospitals have policies that forbid doctors to practice on family members (the exception is when they're the only specialist available, e.g. a venom specialist whose family member just got bitten by a snake). For lawyers, it's not verboten, as it is a legal option, but custom and best practices advise against both self-representation (as in the expression, "A man who represents himself in court has A Fool for a Client") and representing family (by the same principle), except in emergency situations.note note
If you happen to be wondering why emotional attachment would stop the cobbler repairing his children's shoes, that's not the reason. He's just too busy doing paid work.
- Doctor Bombei, the greatest Choujin physician in the Kinnikuman universe, succumbed to a malignant tumor because he spent so much time watching other Choujins' health he didn't pay attention to his own.
- The history of Mr. Riddles in Zatch Bell!, in the original Japanese, involves him as a surgeon trying to save his grandson, but failing, sending him into a depression that is only lifted once Kido arrives.
- In One Piece Monkey D. Garp is a legendary marine. While there is no doubt he tried to turn his descendants to that path, ultimately his son became a revolutionary and the world's most wanted criminal, and his grandsons became powerful pirates, one a commander for the Whitebeard Pirates and the other a rookie with enormous potential and one of the likely candidates to become the Pirate King. And really, it's his own damn fault: Garp's status as a high-ranking marine made it so that he was rarely home, and when he was he subjected them to Training from Hell to make them strong marines. When they still reaffirmed their dreams to be pirates, he left them with a friend to turn that around. Said friend was a mountain bandit. Only after the death of his adopted grandson does Garp realize his own errors.
- In Death Note, Soichiro Yagami is a good cop and always able to solve his cases without his judgement being impaired. But in the case of Kira, he finds it difficult to remain completely objective, especially since his son is the prime suspect again and again.
- Yu-Gi-Oh! GX; when Napoleon's son Marcel attends Duel Academy, Napoleon purposely isolates himself from his son (even keeping it a secret that Marcel is his son) because showing favoritism towards a student is taboo for a teacher. (And it's the hardest thing he ever had to do, as he admits.)
- Kaoru from I Can't Understand What My Husband Is Saying is a terrible cook despite having been raised by a professional chef.
- Nove from Lyrical Nanoha acts as the coach for Team Nakajima (and later the Nakajima Gym), but she'll never be able to compete in tournaments herself because her cyborg upgrades give her an illegal advantage.
- Josuke of JoJo's Bizarre Adventure: Diamond is Unbreakable can instantly heal any injuries short of death, but cannot use his power on himself.
- Dr. Malcolm Long in Watchmen. Even though he is a psychiatrist, his relationship with his wife is dysfunctional. Overlaps with Critical Psychoanalysis Failure.
- "No Man's Land" kicks off with an 8.3 earthquake that devastates Gotham. Fortunately for Bruce, he had always insisted that all of Wayne Enterprise's buildings needed to be built to withstand 9.0 earthquakes. Unfortunately for Bruce, he forgot about Wayne Manor and the Batcave. (He later admits to himself that he had meant to, but kept worrying that any workers he had hired would discover his identity, and had no personal skills in that area to speak of.)
- Harley Quinn getting a Ph.D in psychology did not help her diagnose her own growing obsessions with The Joker. Though how she got said Ph.D varies from writer to writer. In some versions, she slept with her professor to obtain it.
- DC One Million: Heartiac is a "12th-level compassionate". She defeats bad guys with sheer kindness. She gives lectures on forgiveness. Her species is just as devoted to love as their Coluan ancestors (EG Braniac) were to intellect, and she's a bright star even in that firmament. And she can't tell Superman One Million that she's fallen for him. Or notice that he seems to have more than a colleague's interest in her.
- In Zits, Jeremy Duncan's mother is a child therapist, but much of the strip's humor revolves around her inability to get her teenage son to communicate with her. It's possible her specialty is preadolescent patients, as she tends to come off like a Misplaced Kindergarten Teacher when trying to advise Jeremy.
- Discussed when Peppermint Patty and Marcie debate about how the judges for a skating contest can be qualified if they themselves can't skate.
Marcie: The world is full of unmarried marriage counselors.
- There is also a week of strips of Sally trying to teach Sunday School, and constantly getting interrupted by one boy who thinks The Great Gatsby is in the Bible. When she gets home, Sally learns the boy is the minister's son.
- Discussed when Peppermint Patty and Marcie debate about how the judges for a skating contest can be qualified if they themselves can't skate.
- One Dilbert strip has Dilbert attending an economics class. The professor has already prepared a presentation explaining why he has to dress like a flood victim despite being an expert on money. The cartoonist, Scott Adams, has an economics degree; this may very well be Truth in Television.
- In Foxfire despite being the owner of a tea shop, Pao is pretty bad at actually making tea and is reliant on Mushi and Li to do so. In Pao's defense, he's a much better businessman.
- Mayor Lionheart in Zootopia is very proud of himself for starting his "Mammal Forward" program that helps small prey animals like Judy reach their full potential, but he treats his assistant mayor Bellweather (a small sheep) very poorly and it's implied he only hired her for publicity. (Bellweather herself notes she is a "glorified secretary".)
- Mamá Imelda from Coco would almost certainly boot the face of whoever came up with the name of this trope.
- In Korean romantic comedy Marriage Blue, Yi-ra is a wedding planner who organizes romantic, fancy weddings. She is so nervous and jittery about her own rapidly approaching Altar the Speed wedding (she got knocked up) that she breaks up with the baby's father.
- Used in Batman Begins where Detective Flass steals money from a street vendor. The man says he has kids to feed, and Flass merely responds, "What? They don't like falafels?" Flass gets jumped and worked over by Batman five seconds later.
- The premise behind Dan in Real Life. Dan's an advice columnist with a rather difficult home life.
- The mother from Freaky Friday (2003) also is a therapist, but the relation with her daughter isn't the best either. The fun comes when it turns out her daughter is a better therapist when it comes to counseling parents, because of her subjective experience from the other side.
- We are first introduced to hostage negotiator Chris Sabian in The Negotiator as he is failing to persuade his wife to come out of the bedroom in which she has locked herself. Summed up succinctly with this line:
Chris Sabian: You know, I once talked a man out of blowing up the Sears Tower, but I can't talk my wife out of the bedroom or my kid off the phone.
Lisa Sabian: That's because nobody's standing behind you with a big gun!
Chris Sabian: That's debatable.
- Sophia in Shortbus is a sex therapist/couples counselor who's never achieved orgasm and has a marriage riddled with issues.
- In Garden State, Andrew Largeman's therapist is his father. Another doctor lampshades the fact that his father becoming his therapist is a bad idea in general and highly unprofessional of him. This is strongly expressed by the fact that when Largeman was a child, he knocked over his mother in a brief moment of frustration over her depression, resulting in an accident which left her paraplegic, his father jumped to the conclusion that he had anger issues and he prescribed him lithium he didn't really need before eventually sending him to a boarding school.
- Cruel Intentions begins with a psychologist who has written a book on the parenting of teenagers. Her daughter has been easily seduced and posed for nude pictures, which are on the web in a parody of her mother's book cover. When she phones Mom in distress, she is put on hold, and when Mom picks up the phone and finds out what happened, the poor girl gets a very unkind and unhelpful response.
- The Impossible Years is a 1960s play/film about the home life of a college professor and psychologist who writes materials on family relations. Specifically, on how to handle teenagers (authoritatively espousing a lax parenting style). But he has teenage daughters himself. You can see where this is going.... (And what was the word on the other side of that sign?)
- The psychiatrist's family in What About Bob? is highly dysfunctional, thanks to the therapist in question being a domestic tyrant.
- Used for a quick joke in The Country Bears; Tennessee's backstory includes a failed relationship with Trixie. So when the band broke up, he became a marriage counselor.
- The protagonist in Machine Gun Preacher becomes a hero to children in Uganda when he goes there to build orphanages and ends up rescuing children kidnapped by Joseph Kony's forces, but his wife accuses him of being an absentee father to his daughter back home.
- In Thanks For Sharing, Mike is a longterm recovered addict who fully embraces the 12-step philosophy, and acts as a tough but compassionate sponsor/mentor to other recovering addicts. But he's a massive Jerkass to his own recovering-addict son.
- In Rise of the Guardians, the Guardians have the opposite problem. They spend so much time protecting children, they're now too busy to actually spend time with them!
- The Wedding Planner's eponymous character has a lonely and awkward love life. On another level, she's always dreamed of having a quiet, simple wedding; nothing like the elaborate, chaotic galas she supplies for clients. Of course, she knows firsthand how nerve-wracking the latter can be...
- In a meta example, Ben Burtt, the sound engineer for the Star Wars films, has a hard time making himself heard during the "making of" segments and interviews.
- Harry Potter:
- In the series, it is often commented how the Weasley family have old and slightly threadbare clothing, due to them being somewhat poor. It is baffling, given the extent and complexity of the spells seen commonly used in this verse, that "tailoring" isn't simplicity itself. Arthur and Molly in particular are shown to be quite skilled at magic, though there are seven kids' worth of clothes to deal with (albeit two of them grown up and on their own by the beginning of the series). It's also hard to see why they can't magic up a bigger, better house.
- A minor case regarding Hermione. Her parents are Muggle dentists, yet she grew up with buck teeth that were fixed only magically during her fourth year. Her parents can be forgiven for not wanting her to magically do it herself if they did tell her so, but it's a bit baffling why they never bothered to apply their professional skill on her via Muggle means. Justified by the British Teeth trope. Cosmetic dental procedures are not popular in England, due to their perception as a sign of excess; they find perfectly straight, blindingly white teeth rather disturbing to look at. Unless her teeth were sufficiently misaligned to risk damage, her parents may have elected to leave them as is rather than risk replacing one social stigma (large teeth) with another (rich girl teeth).
- Anneof Green Gables:
- Defied in L. M. Montgomery's Anne's House of Dreams: Gilbert, being a doctor, is very solicitous about Anne's health, explicitly wishing to refute the proverb "Cobblers' wives go barefoot and doctors' wives die young."
- Played straight by Rainbow Valley's Reverend Meredith, a Good Shepherd who is too busy ministering to his flock to have the first clue about the needs of his own four children. He's eventually forced to take notice when his daughter Una goes without food to punish herself for some perceived misdeed, and faints in church as a result.
- The Bible:
- The oft-quoted proverb from The Bible makes this trope Older Than Feudalism, possibly even Older Than Dirt since the Bible admits it isn't the first instance of said proverb.
- It's implied that the reasons why so many kings from King David's line were evil is because their God-fearing fathers (whose choice of wife was more often motivated by political expediency or lust than finding a Godly woman) failed to teach them the importance of serving God properly.
- In Charles Dickens's Bleak House, Mrs. Jellyby is heavily involved in charity work for poor children, but neglects her own large family.
- In one story about Sherlock Holmes, he and Watson break into house of blackmailer Milverton, which goes horribly wrong. After that, Holmes comments that for all years where he looked for criminals based on small clues they left, he still didn't manage to cover his own tracks.
- In Carolyn Mackler's The Earth, My Butt, and Other Big Round Things, Virginia's mother is a supposed "expert" on teen psycholoogy. However, she has a tenuous relationship (at best) with her own teenage daughter, treating her like the Butt-Monkey of the family simply because she doesn't share her parents' or her older siblings' interests or goals. She also frequently verbally berates Virginia for her weight, among other things. In a particularly shameful move for a psychologist, both parents try to block Columbia University from prosecuting their son after he date-rapes another student.
- In one of James Herriot's books, he describes how the kid singing their Drill Sergeant's bawdy song loudest and with the most enthusiasm turned out to be the son of an archbishop.
- The Dresden Files' Molly Carpenter is an extremely sexually attractive young woman, with multiple piercings and a certain amount of emotional tumult, such that she spends a good portion of the first few books living away from home. Her dad is a devout Catholic, and Knight of the Cross, and takes orders from the archangel Michael. He is rather worried about the direction Molly is going in. She turns out to be a witch. And a Black Magician. And a murderer...
- Quoted in Stephen King's Hearts in Atlantis by an adult Bobby Garfield. He is a carpenter, yet admits his own roof leaks in a good rain.
- Rachel of Tish Cohen's Inside Out Girl edits a parenting magazine, but when she tries to apply her advice to her own kids, it comes off as cheesy and fake.
- The eponymous character of The Picture of Dorian Gray falls in love with the actress Sybil Vane because of her ability to act out Shakespeare's romances. When Dorian invites Basil and Lord Henry to see her play Juliet her acting is terrible. Her only experience with romance was in the roles she played and they could never compare to actually being in love.
- The Hunger Games: Katniss assumes that Peeta, being a member of the merchant class and the son of a baker, hasn't known hunger the way she and her family has. She's surprised to find out that despite his family baking for a living, they rarely get to eat any of the bread themselves, only the stale loaves they can no longer sell.
- Lampshaded in Orson Scott Card's Lovelock, when scientist Carol Jeanne Cocciolone's marriage to her marriage-counselor husband falls apart due in part to the latter's adultery, mother issues verging on an Oedipus Complex, and latent homosexuality.
Carol Jeanne: Who theraps the therapist?
- You Should Have Known revolves around a therapist writing a book by the same name, in which she upbraids women for not trusting their instincts and allowing their partners to cheat on them. Before the book gets printed, she discovers that her own husband has been keeping a secret from her that forces her to reevaluate her own life.
- The premise of the parody book A Christmas Carol 2: The return of Scrooge had Scrooge's successor to his business, Bob Cratchit, be so generous with his money he's actually driving the company to the ground and making it on the verge of bankruptcy with his generosity. Because of this, the three ghosts of Christmas return to "teach Bob Cratchit the true meaning of money" (in other words, teaching him to avoid this trope).
- In Please Don't Tell My Parents I'm a Supervillain Penny's mother is The Audit, a superhero renowned for her ability to analyze and predict what will happen. She fails entirely to work out the identity of The Inscrutable Machine, a supervillain team of three people her daughter's age that first appeared at the middle school she attends. It consists of a mad scientist called Bad Penny, a girl with the ability to cloud people's minds called E-Claire, and a masked boy in black who doesn't talk called Reviled, and is actually her burgeoning super-scientist daughter, her "super-cute" powered friend Claire, and her friend Ray Viles who wears black and has a very distinctive accent. Her mind appears to rebel against the notion, as she does notice the very obvious similarities, but concludes that it's some sort of copycat/evil clone scenario.
- In Paper Towns, as Psychologists, Q's Parents are pretty good at reading People. Not so much at reading their son though. Q points this out at one point.
- Vivien Lowe, the titular character of The Obituary Writer, is renowned for her obituaries that celebrate the lives of the dead, which is helped by her ability to connect with strangers. But when the deceased is the daughter of her best friend, whom she bonded with and witnessed the birth of, it's decidedly more difficult for her.
- In Jeżycjada by Małgorzata Musierowicz, there is Ewa Jedwabińska, a very, very driven psychologist (currently working at school, which she resents) whose child runs away from home under a series of assumed names. Played for Drama.
- Dustin Tillman in Dan Chaon's Ill Will is a hypnotist and therapist whose patients include people trying to break addictive habits. He misses his son Aaron's descent into heroin addiction.
- Nina Tanleven: Referenced in The Ghost in the Big Brass Bed when Nine's father, who restores old buildings for a living, decides that after years of being too busy, it's time for him to restore their own house, starting by stripping the old (and ugly) wallpaper from their stairwell and replacing it.
- In The Complete Guide To Parenting, George Huntly (Peter Davison) is a professor of child psychology who is absolutely useless at parenting his seven year old son.
- Given that he's a psychiatrist, one would figure that Frasier Crane would be able to deal with his curmudgeonly father and persnickety brother and to find a woman who would make him happy, but noooo...
- Eventually, Frasier actually does seek therapy from his Harvard professor/mentor, after the man demonstrated that Frasier couldn't help himself by having him roleplay calling in to his own show as himself.
- For bonus points, Frasier's brother is also a psychiatrist, who spends the first few seasons trapped in a loveless marriage, while pining for his father's physical therapist.
- An episode of How Clean Is Your House featured a professional cleaner whose own house was the dirtiest Kim and Aggie had ever seen.
- The therapist on the HBO series In Treatment has his share of parental issues, as well as being recently divorced.
- The overarching plot of the short-lived series Miss Match was that a woman who was both a matrimonial attorney and a professional matchmaker couldn't handle her own relationships well.
- Dr. Charles Kroger is great as a psychiatrist, but he's at a loss when it comes to being a father to his own son Troy. In the episode "Mr. Monk Gets a New Shrink", it's revealed that Charles has taken three paternity tests at the "request" of his son. Troy also calls his parents by their first names, and it turns out that Lieutenant Disher has arrested Troy once before (Troy responds "no" when Randy asks him if he's stayed out of trouble).
- Similarly, Monk often does not understand things on going around him (like what a tie on a doorknob means, much to Natalie's amusement), but when it comes to The Summation, he's an expert.
- Closer to the gist of the trope, Monk is capable of solving some of the toughest homicide cases, but is frustrated that he couldn't figure out who killed his wife. The finale revealed that Monk was unable to solve the murder due to a lack of evidence. And once he did solve the murder and get all the dangling threads of his life cleaned up, his OCD became less excruciating to bear.
- Emerson Cod, from Pushing Daisies is a very competent Private Investigator, even when he doesn't have a certain pie maker helping him. He still isn't able to find his missing daughter, though. In the series finale, the Narrator reveals that Cod's daughter comes to him, and it is suggested that she found him after reading his pop-up book, "Lil' Gumshoe", which he wrote for that specific reason.
- Tony Soprano's therapist on The Sopranos is divorced and goes to therapy with her ex-husband and college age son. (This actually makes a lot of sense; dealing with other people's problems constantly must make you want to unburden yourself as well. Apparently, a lot of therapists do this.)
- Brenda's mother and father in Six Feet Under, a psychologist and psychiatrist respectively; arguably half the family's problems are caused by the fact that they are constantly psychoanalyzing each other. (They're also never shown to be particularly competent therapists, albeit quite financially successful.)
- The team in Criminal Minds are brilliant criminal profilers, but have massively messed-up personal lives. In fact, the two members of the team who are probably the least messed up? They're the two who aren't actually profilers. The team do have a tendency to profile each other, but while they're great at deconstructing other people's behavior, they miss the emotional signs of those around them. Hotch was unaware of his wife's growing displeasure with his absence from her and their son's life, though it was quite obvious.
- Ben in My Family has a recurring problem with treating his own family, as seen in this conversation with his assistant:
Brigitte: I think it's a disgrace you can't make any time for your children. It's like the story of the cobbler's children who had no food.
Ben: No, it's the story of the cobbler's children who had no shoes.
Brigitte: That makes no sense, their dad was a cobbler.
Ben: Let me tell you the story of a dental assistant who had no job.
- Lost subverts this in a very odd way. Jack, a spinal surgeon, needs his appendix removed... on a desert island... with the bare minimum of equipment (they have chloroform and ether on hand for anesthesia, and they use sewing thread for stitches). He has a dentist and an OB/GYN to help him who could do the surgery for him, but he fervently believes that he should be awake and do it himself. He ends up in so much pain that they knock him out and do it for him.
- When the medical officer on the spaceship Pegasus in Space Odyssey Voyage To The Planets develops cancer, he refuses to undergo chemotherapy because he doesn't want the toxic byproducts excreted in his urine to contaminate the ship's water supply. See the show's article for problems with this premise.
- Similar to the above, in the Poorly Disguised Pilot Virtuality, the ship's medical officer discovers he's in the early stages of Parkinson's disease.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer: Willow's mom cites many statistics and social movements related to young people, but seems unable to view her own daughter as an individual unique from anyone else. From the Buffy wiki, Sheila Rosenberg "had also been involved in co-authoring material regarding problematic adolescent behavior."
- The Middleman: Similar to Willow's mom is Lacey's mom, Doctor Barbara Thornfeld, MD, PhD, a globe-hopping humanitarian who hobnobs with politicans and statesmen while trying to solve the world's problems. Consequently she's simply unable to time with her daughter, and according to Lacey, only calls once a year "to rationalize forgetting about my birthday."
- On Firefly, Inara is a "Companion" who has no problem sleeping with her clients, or with firmly refusing Mal's advances. But as soon as Mal gives up on her and spends a night with another prostitute insteadnote , Inara finds a quiet dark corner so she can break down in tears.
- Emma from Glee is the extremely OCD high school guidance counselor... who can't come to terms with her own mental disorder.
- There was an episode of What I Like About You in which Val was trying to get a client for her PR firm, a woman who had written a parenting book. Inevitably, when Holly meets the woman's own teenage daughter, she has just bought a box of home pregnancy tests.
- On ER the treatment of Mark's father causes a temporary rift between himself and Elizabeth. Elizabeth does not think Mark should be treating his own father and Mark wants his father to live at home rather than go into a hospice. Mark's father doesn't want to stay either but has mixed feelings about palliative care anyway. In the end, Mark prevails and his father dies at home.
- Leonard's mother on The Big Bang Theory is a brilliant and world-renowned psychologist and parenting expert who treats her family very, very badly. He confesses to Penny in one episode that he built a hugging machine when he was a child just so he could feel like somebody loved him. Her other children also suffered from the lack of affection/birthday celebrations/Christmas celebrations, etc. and whenever one of their accomplishments, personal or professional, is brought up, she doesn't express any pride or joy because they aren't her accomplishments. Then there is her husband, who borrowed the aforementioned hugging machine. She mentioned that the only times in the marriage that they had sex was to consummate it and for reproduction. His having an affair would indicate that this arrangement was largely her choice, and then the likely lack of affection that plagued the rest of the family. It is all played for laughs, but all evidence indicates that she was/is EXTREMELY emotionally abusive and/or neglectful to her entire family despite being a world-renowned psychologist and parenting expert. As far as the latter, her parenting philosophy seems to revolve around justifying neglecting one's children, which likely makes her books popular among parents who are feeling overwhelmed.
- Keep in mind, there are enough hints to suggest that Leonard is actually the subject of a long-running experiment, detailing the psychological impact of depriving a child of any and all maternal affection. She mentions having written several books on their relationship already, such as Needy Baby, Greedy Baby. Mind you, this would be extremely unethical behavior for a scientist. Either way is appalling in its own right.
- At one point, she tries diagnosing Leonard, but wildly misses the mark, thinking he has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which he super doesn't. When she comes out with this, Sheldon, who displays every single sign in the DSM-5. Leonard's mother herself displays some symptoms, most obviously lack of empathy.
- Detective Kate Beckett in Castle is a brilliant and successful homicide detective who is, at the beginning of the series, nevertheless completely unable to make any headway in investigating her own mother's murder and locating the persons responsible, and it's been in large part due to the help she's received from Richard Castle in investigating it over the series that she's made any headway thus far. Justified both in that Beckett tends to suffer from tunnel vision and emotional compromise whenever her mother's case comes up, and it eventually comes to light that her mother's death was part of a larger conspiracy with a US senator at the top.
- Ellie Brass, the estranged daughter of CSI: Crime Scene Investigation Police Captain Jim Brass, is a petty conwoman, a drug addict, a drug mule and, in later seasons, a lowlife prostitute. This culminated when she faked her own kidnapping, nearly killed CSI Brody who was serving as bait for the kidnapper (who Ellie killed), and finally killed her own mother/Brass' ex-wife — not that she wanted to, but because she would have recognized the kidnapper as Ellie's boyfriend. Not helping Brass' case is the fact that when the kidnapper made him choose between Ellie and Brody, he chose Brody. Ellie is, amazingly, not dead despite Brass being the one to confront her after she shot her mother; he is currently trying amend his past by reaching out to a young prostitute who reunited with her father who unfortunately was the victim of the week.
- On Common Law, the main characters have to see a new couple's therapist but are not thrilled to discover that the guy is in the middle of an extremely nasty divorce. When they initially overhear him on the phone with his wife, they assume that he is one of the patients.
- Turk suffers from several unusual symptoms for a while, but doesn't take it seriously until Molly Clock asks him how he would diagnose someone else with the exact same symptoms. Turk replies that it sounds a lot like the patient has developed diabetes. He goes to be examined and does have it.
- Also occurs with Dr. Cox and his daughter infant Jennifer, who is born with a serious medical condition that required prenatal surgery. When she requires a shot, Dr. Cox doesn't want to be the one to give it to her because he doesn't want her to associate him with pain, and instead walks around for hours trying to find someone he trusts to do it.
- One episode has a pediatrician mention that parents of sick children have it worse if they're doctors, as the parent will always want to try to diagnose the child and will worry a lot more because they've "seen too much".
- They also have this with Ben, Cox's best friend/brother-in-law, who is diagnosed with Leukemia, but continues Walking the Earth for two years instead of seeing a doctor. It's because of this that he dies, when he returns in season 3.
- In the pilot episode of Clarissa Explains It All, Clarissa mentions that her father is an architect who designs oddly shaped (albeit creative) buildings. She then noted how lucky her family was to not be able to afford to live in any of the buildings he creates.
- Midsomer Murders: one episode had a psychologist who was completely unaware her three teenage children were sociopathic murderers who'd started by making their father's death look like an accident.
- Michael Westen from Burn Notice regularly insinuates himself into the life of the villain of the week, be it a crime boss, drug dealer, Government agent, contract killer or anything else, and draws them into an elaborate web of deception. However, even the most benign attempt to fool his mother always falls flat.
- There was a contestant on The Chase who had apparently wrote a book about how to win game shows. He lost at the personal chase and didn't even manage to get more than a few questions right in the cash builder. Best not to think about what must have happened to the sales of said book afterwards.
- Grey's Anatomy:
- Alex's younger brother requires surgery. He's unable to do anything and begs Bailey to perform a pro bono surgery, which she agrees to.
- Meredith and Lexie's father is an alcoholic who ruined his liver because of it. The problem was too bad to fix, so he needed a liver transplant. Because of his alcoholism, he wasn't allowed on the transplant list, so Lexie begged Meredith to donate part of hers. Meredith's stepmother dies from a disease that Meredith incorrectly diagnosed.
- Arizona chastises a friend for not going to see her when he first found out he had cancer. Like the Scrubs example above, the guy gets treated too late and dies.
- Meredith's mother died as a result of Alzheimer's Dementia (early onset, which she got before Meredith became a doctor). Derek, a neurosurgeon, doesn't want the same thing to happen to Meredith so he arranges a clinical trial to research the disease, which has Dr. Webber's wife as a participant. Unfortunately, Meredith invalidates the trial by messing with the data, while Adele Webber gets progressively worse and eventually dies.
- The New Adventures of Old Christine: Matthew becomes a therapist during the show, but their family is extremely dysfunctional. He and his sister Christine are a bit too close, she is very self-centered, and they both have a screwed up relationship with their mother, among many other things. He lampshades this,note saying that the amount of crazy in that house was too much for him to fix.
- Dr Dibbs from Doc Martin is stunningly incompetent in treating herself, on a massive amount of self-prescribed medication and having missed an almost fatal diagnosis. She's barely any better with her patients. Given that she spent over 20 years working as a nurse without any problem, it's heavily implied the only reason Dr Dibbs is such a nervous wreck is because her husband pushed her to become a Doctor and she cracked under the pressure.
- Skins: Leon Levan is a life coach and motivational speaker. One of his sons has been thrown out of the house and now lives the life of an aimless drifter, and the other one feels as though he is imperfect, the inferior son and finally ends up destroying their kitchen.
- Canada's Worst Driver: Some of the candidates' relatives have professions pertaining to traffic and some have trouble Driving Stick despite owning or having driven manual-transmission cars.
- Animal Planet Heroes: More often than not, the investigators wind up having to deal with people whose professions directly involves animals. The best example would be the farrier who neglected his horses' hooves to dangerous levels, despite it being his job to take care of equine feet.
- On Battlestar Galactica (2003) Doc Cottle is in charge of sickbay on the ship and the is the physician Adama recommends to Laura Roslin for her cancer treatment. He is rarely seen wihout a cigarette in his hand.
- Orange Is the New Black : During Flaca's A Day in the Limelight backstory, we see that her mother took up sewing. She began dealing (fake) drugs to try and escape that life...only to end up doing the same thing in prison.
- Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt has Kimmy's therapist Andrea. Andrea is a very capable counselor, but she's also a drunken wreck whose completely unable to deal with her own issues in a healthy way (if anything, her psychological training only makes her more able to rationalize her bad behavior).
- Law & Order: Criminal Intent:
- In one episode, the killer turns out to be the daughter of a psychologist and a psychiatrist. Both are extremely narcissistic (to the point where they once abandoned the girl in a restaurant on her birthday) and borderline psychotic in the masochistic games they play with each other. She is driven to kill simply to attract their attention.
- When Goren's mentor, a skilled if bizarre criminal profiler, comes to town to catch a killer he's been stalking for years. Turns out the murderer isn't the one he was looking for after all—it was his own daughter, warped into copying a serial killer after realizing they were the only people who her father cares about (specifically, she does it because he believes there are no true female serial killers). In a much later episode, he kills nearly everyone Goren cares about (including himself) so that Goren can keep his mind on the job. Truly a paragon of sanity.
- Fuller House: DJ's assistant can't afford DJ's prices, so she has to go to another vet...and won't go to a "discount vet," when DJ offers her the employee discount.
- The Murder, She Wrote episode "One Good Bid Deserves a Murder" features a Hollywood psychiatrist with a full-blown persecution complex, who is convinced that Jessica is one of "them".
- Ezri is introduced on Star Trek: Deep Space Nine as an assistant therapist; however, in the wake of being joined with the Dax symbiont (which she never prepared for), she's the one who needs counseling.
- In The John Larroquette Show, John gets a physical that reveals high cholesterol, but his doctor brushes it off as unimportant, insisting that "the whole cholesterol scare is a bunch of bull". This comforts John, until the next day when the doctor dies of a massive heart attack.
- In Westworld, Theresa asks Lee how he can be in charge of writing dialogue for the hosts when he's so shit at small talk.
- One of the contestants on a season of The Biggest Loser was a nutritionist.
- In season 6 of Veep, Amy is both fiancée and campaign manager to Buddy Calhoun, who is running for Governor of Nebraska. Buddy is put off by Amy's foul language and graphic sexual imagery in the workplace where he deems it inappropriate, but is disappointed that she's unable to conjure the same kind of language when he asks her to talk dirty during sex.
- Jake Peralta in Brooklyn Nine-Nine is a brilliant detective but he tends to miss key facts about his coworkers. For example, he completely failed to realize that Holt was gay, even though it was public knowledge and Holt even had a framed newspaper article about it hanging in his office.
- The Creedence Clearwater Revival song "Wrote a Song For Everyone" has its Title Drop in the chorus followed up with "when I couldn't even talk to you."
- The trope is used as a metaphor in Harry Nilsson's "Mr. Tinker". Mr. Tinker is a tailor who is unable to "fix" his life.
- The Barenaked Ladies song "Running Out of Ink" is sung from the viewpoint of a songwriter specializing in love songs...whose relationship with his significant other goes south. The songwriter eventually realizes he didn't actually know a thing about real love at all:
Could song be an alibi
A lyric replacement for falling in love
But now that the well is dry
I can't understand what I've been singing of
Do you know what it is to love
- In Classical Mythology, Hera was the goddess of marriage, but she couldn't stop her husband Zeus from having numerous affairs.
- In WWE, Isaac Yankem, D.D.S. was Jerry Lawler's personal Depraved Dentist; however, he didn't take very good care of his own teeth.
- In Zone of the Enders: Dolores, i, James runs into the author of the fatherhood book that's helped him get back together with his estranged children (more or less), just in time to see him have a panic attack as his own son busts out of jail looking for him.
- Common problem in MMO games, the healer gets so focused on keeping the other characters alive that they forget their own health.
- Even more common in MMOs where the healers and buffers don't even have the ability to heal and buff themselves.
- It also happens in RPGs where you can tell a healer to automatically heal other characters. As a result the AI focuses on the others first and neglects their own health.
- In Fire Emblem, healers (clerics, monk, sages, druids, bishops, etc.) couldn't use their staves to heal themselves. This was altered only in Radiant Dawn, where units equipped with a healing Staff automatically recovers hitpoints each turn.
- In Persona 4, Sayoko Uehara develops past her "party nurse" side after a former patient of hers dies. Unfortunately, she develops into a Workaholic instead, and doesn't manage to find a proper balance until after she's collapsed from overwork.
- In addition, the one case Detective Ryotaro Dojima is unable to solve is the identity of his wife's killer. He feels wracked about it as the incident broke his daughter.
- Hugh Darrow from Deus Ex: Human Revolution, the man known as the "The Father of Tomorrow", inventor of modern human augmentation, author of countless books about transhumanism and one of the most powerful, influential and beloved people in the world... has to walk with crutches, as he of all people suffers of an extremely rare genetic condition that causes his body to violently reject augmentations. There is just something so tragic about seeing an old man forced to watch all of his dreams of a better humanity coming true and knowing that he would be the only one not to enjoy the paradise he has created.
- If team shrink Kelly Chambers survives the events of Mass Effect 2, she shows the most trauma of the NPC crew. In the third game, there's still too much emotional trauma to consider returning to the Normandy. A therapist with crippling Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. And if you botch your interactions with the character badly enough, they will be Driven to Suicide.
- In Trauma Center it is repeatedly quoted that "doctors cannot operate themselves".
- However, in Trauma Team, Gabriel Cunningham has to examine his own son, Joshua Cunningham.
- Athena Cykes in Phoenix Wright: Ace Attorney Dual Destinies is an expert in analytic psychology, but she's severely hampered by her own emotional trauma.
- Downplayed in Team Fortress 2, where The Medic cannot use his Medigun on himself, but has Gradual Regeneration to compensate. Averted by the Ubercharges, which do give the Medic the same effect as it gives the patient (although for the Kritzkrieg this is useless because it boosts attack power while the medigun is out and the medigun doesn't do damage; to compensate, the Kritzkrieg has an alternate use where the Medic can take a big huff from it in order to gain health).
- In Fallout 4's prologue, the Vault-Tec Rep is rejected from Vault 111.
- Dishonored 2 reveals that the guy who makes the safes you find throughout the series is totally inept at securing his own property; he keeps forgetting the three digit codes to his safe and when you break into his house, you'll find that the current combination is 123. And he has an extremely obvious painting giving away the code in the same room.
- Dr. Gardevoir of Level 30 Psychiatry can't figure out how to cure her own split personae.
- In Something*Positive, Jason's father is another psychologist who can't relate to his own family. Or in this case, he apparently tried to relate to them by using his knowledge to manipulate them into acting the way he wanted, if Jason is to be believed.
- In Homestuck, Rose is constantly trying to psychoanalyze her friends and their family issues, yet dismisses her own mother's sincere-if-overblown gestures of affection and attempts to connect to her as spiteful and passive-aggressive.
- There are dozens of articles online titled things like "Reasons to Date a(n) X," with different occupations. One such, entitled "20 Reasons to Date a Writer," annoyed an actual writer so much she actually took to her blog to shred the whole idea, citing this as a reason, namely if a writer is getting paid to write, he or she's not going to waste good material on you for free. Similar articles exist citing such things as a chef not wanting to cook when they get off work and the like.
- This "how to succeed at Kickstarter/crowdfunding" book. As per added hilarity, it failed miserably at reaching its funding goal and hence likely won't be made. Would have thought a Kickstarter "expert" would have better luck at using the site!
- The Simpsons:
- In "Bart's Girlfriend", Reverend Lovejoy's daughter Jessica is a bratty, manipulative hellion who steals from the church collection plate. Near the end of the episode, Jessica keeps mentioning things she did ("Remember the glee club brawl?!") in a baldly obvious attempt to win her father's attention, as he tries to ignore her by covering his ears and singing "Bringing In the Sheaves" loudly. Mrs. Lovejoy is characterized throughout the series as an excessive busybody and Moral Guardian who frequently justifies her pushiness and interfering in the affairs of others by protesting "Won't someone please Think of the Children!?"; while she seems excessively concerned with how other people are raising their children, she's apparently not that good at raising her own...
- In "Children of a Lesser Clod," Homer becomes a Friend to All Children after he spends a night watching over Flanders' kids and sets up his own daycare center as a result. He then proceeds to neglect his own kids, forces them out of their bedrooms, and makes them work long hours for the benefit of both him and his daycare. Bart and Lisa eventually retaliate by showing all the parents of Springfield just how unreliable and abusive he can really be.
- In As Told by Ginger, both of Macie's parents are therapists so naturally she has to make appointments to see them, they forget her birthday and don't even know how old she is. Though a subversion happens when the parents realize how neglectful they are and attempt to make it up to her. They're only in one episode, so we don't know how well that worked out.
- In the Batman Beyond episode "Payback," the high school counselor has little time for his own son, resulting in the son becoming the titular villain and targeting the stress causers of his father's clients.
- Braceface had an episode where Sharon wanted to get a tattoo and her mother, a family councellor, wouldn't let her. While her mother is running a seminar on trust between parents and children and how to use that bond to protect your kids from making bad decisions, she uses 'convincing' Sharon not to get a tattoo as an example. An assistant then comes in and informs her that her daughter was sent to the hospital after passing out in a seedy tattoo parlour.
- In Danny Phantom, the titular character's parents are ghost hunters who spend the whole series not being able to figure out that their own son is half-ghost, up to including failing to notice that Danny's ghost self has the same freakin' first name as their son. Lampshaded in "The Ultimate Enemy" by Danny's evil future self when he taunts them for this.
- Historical example: Jean-Jacques Rousseau (1712-1778) wrote a lot of material on innovative ways of child-rearing and education, mostly centered around the concept of the child as an unspoiled creation of nature who should not be tainted by science and reason and civilized normsnote , but allowed to develop naturally. Also, he had five children (with a woman he did not marry), all of whom were immediately after birth placed in an orphanage and never heard from again... which somewhat puts his knowledge on child-rearing into doubt, or most likely he saw himself as a bad father and poor civilizing influence on the kids, which he more or less admits in his Confessions.
- Charles Schulz, who went on to create Peanuts, was said to have very bad haircuts as a kid, in spite of the fact that his father was a barber. The reason for this is said to be that he could only get a cut when the barbershop was empty, and when a customer came in he had to get out of the chair and wait before his dad could finish working on him.
- The wife of 2010 FIFA World Cup Final referee (and police officer by profession) Howard Webb has said (albeit light-heartedly) that in the family home, he's useless at upholding discipline: "He can't take charge of his own children. I don't know how he manages it on a football pitch."
- In the Australian code of ethics, mental health professionals are obliged to seek treatment for any psychological issues they have themselves, whether the issue be an actual disorder, a drug addiction, or just a very high stress level. In the healthcare profession as a whole, self-diagnosis is considered bad form (because it's all but impossible to be completely objective about one's own body). There's also the popular perception that dealing with crazy people and their problems on a regular basis can drive someone nuts themselves.
- Psychologists themselves. There is subversion (and justifications) of sort in the Indonesian which says, "There are two reasons someone become psychologist. People who have compassion to treat the madmen, and people who are madmen and want to be treated." So, basically people who have psychological issues can become psychologists in the hope of be analyzed and treated. The success, or not, is dependent on each individual.
- If you live with a handyman of any sort, you know to expect anything that's not working right to stay that way for a long time. The main reason being that they are often busy fixing things for other people that pay them for their services and the house projects keep getting pushed farther back on their "to do" list.
- If you fix computers for a living, this article explains why it's actually often best not to draw attention to that fact around your friends and family. For those too lazy to click a link, it's because you'll be treated the same as you are at work (i.e. horribly) but you won't get paid for it.
- There are idioms and sayings about this phenomenon in many languages. In Spanish-speaking countries, that would be "En Casa de Herrero, Cuchillo de Palo" (In the blacksmith's house, there are wooden knives), and the Portuguese version "Em casa de ferreiro, espeto é de pau" (Means the same thing). Another would be "Farol de la calle, oscuridad en la casa". (Streetlight outside, darkness inside)
- There is a logic puzzle that depends on this: in a town with two barbers, half the townsfolk (including one of the barbers) have impeccable hairstyles, the other half (including the other barber) look like their hair was the lovechild of Chewbacca and Medusa. In some versions (which generally don't mention the haircuts of the general populace), the barber with the good hairstyle keeps a clean shop, while the scruffy barber's shop is very messy. The barber who gives good haircuts is the unkempt one. Since he can't cut his own hair, obviously he went to his colleague for a haircut, and vice-versa. In versions where the shops differ in cleanliness, it's because the unkempt barber, being better and more popular, doesn't have time to clean up between appointments, while the other barber is less popular and has plenty of time to clean up between haircuts.
- Statistically, doctors are more likely to drink habitually, be depressed and suicidal than the general populace. All of these eventually lead to medical intervention of one stripe or another (unless the suicidal succeed). And, of course, to become doctors they need to get through medical school and residency, which typically entail chronic sleep deprivation, intermittent hasty meals, and high-stress overwork for years on end. It's a wonder that most doctors don't end up being total assholes.
- One of North Carolina's claims to fame is that the state has produced more notable basketball players than almost any other part of the United States, to the point that basketball is considered the state's unofficial pastime. Michael Jordan (raised in Wilmington, originally played for UNC Chapel Hill) is the most famous example, while Stephen Curry (raised in Charlotte, originally played for Davidson College) has come into prominence more recently. Despite that, North Carolina's only major NBA team, the Charlotte Hornets note , currently holds the record for the worst losing record in the history of the NBA. In a double twist of cruel irony, the team is owned by the aforementioned Michael Jordan himself—who is almost universally considered the greatest basketball player of all time.
- Canadian = Hockey Fan is a trope for a reason. However, as of this writing, no Canadian team has won the Stanley Cup since the 1992-93 season when the Montréal Canadiens won. That hasn't stopped Canada from dominating in Olympic ice hockey, however; the Canadian National Men's Hockey Team held the record for gold medals for over 50 years before being dethroned by the Soviet Union, and they still regularly make the top three at the Winter Olympics.
- Woodrow Wilson's political career is a famous example. As President of the United States, Wilson was almost singlehandedly responsible for the founding of the League of Nations—an international peacekeeping alliance of unprecedented scope and ambition, which rewrote the rules of international diplomacy forever and paved the way for the eventual creation of the United Nations. As a political scientist (the first to lead a Great Power), he had formulated the whole theory of liberal internationalism undergirding the League, and as a Determinator of a diplomat, he banged heads together until his vision was realized. At the time, the creation of the League of Nations was one of the greatest feats of diplomacy in human history, and it required convincing more than 50 different countries to trust each other enough to sit at the negotiating table together after World War I had split the world in two.
The one country that Wilson couldn't convince to join the League? His own. Isolationist sentiment in the United States was far-reaching after World War I, and many influential lawmakers in the country were cagey enough about foreign entanglements to stop the United States from becoming a member nation. If there ever was a chance for the United States to join the League, Wilson unintentionally threw it away by not bringing any major players from the Republican Party to the Peace Conference. In particular, Henry Cabot Lodge, the Senate Majority Leader, had expected a seat on the delegation and had few policy quarrels with the Versailles settlement; his disputes with Wilson were largely personal. (Given Wilson's holier-than-thou attitude, his failure to bring Lodge is entirely characteristic of him). Thus, Wilson never got to join the organization that he helped build.
- One political cartoon is of Wilson himself dragging a small boy in a sailor suit to a fancy gala and scolding him on his poor behavior while the boy tries his damnedest to refuse to comment on America's stance on the League of Nations.
- One of the reasons for the Dissolution of the Soviet Union was that Moscow invested heavily in its military and its subsidies to Warsaw Pact nations, but this meant that they did not invest nearly enough in internal development in the comparative time frame. As noted by Noam Chomsky: "The Soviet dominion was in fact that unique historical perversity, an empire in which the center bled itself for the sake of its colonies, or rather, for the sake of tranquility in those colonies. Muscovites always lived poorer lives than Varsovians...Throughout the region, journalists and others report, shops are better stocked than in the Soviet Union and material conditions are often better. It is widely agreed that 'Eastern Europe has a higher standard of living than the USSR'."
- A lot of Silicon Valley residents including tech giants like Bill Gates and Steve Jobs enrolling their children into Waldorf Schools, despite a main feature being that they're relatively low tech and encourage families to limit their technology use in the home as little as possible. With Jobs being quoted saying that his children haven't used the iPad because of this.