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"Owlson, help me up onto his casket so I can dance on it!"
Flintheart Glomgold, DuckTales (2017)

A funeral is a service that allows a deceased's family and friends to congregate in one place to celebrate the deceased's life and pay their respects. To do so is considered common courtesy and practice. So what do some people do once the family is assembled?

How about doing the exact opposite of that by behaving in extremely tactless and inappropriate ways that would have the deceased rolling in their coffins if they knew?

Sometimes this disrespect comes in the form of discussions that are brought up around or even at the time the proceedings begin. Perhaps the deceased is an adult involved in one of the ends of an inheritance dispute. Maybe the deceased was survived by an illegitimate child or, even worse, a child that none of the relatives are completely willing to take custody of. In any event, the attendees of the funeral will be all too eager to talk about those matters than to mourn, not realizing that talking about them is putting their selfishness and spite out in the open.


Other times, disrespect or lack of concern toward the matter at hand show in their actions. After all, attending the funeral in improper dress or fooling around with whatever device is in possession instead of paying attention to the pastor or the procession are a few of the best ways to show love and care to the dead.

And that's not touching on those who are much more direct about their scorn toward the deceased. If the deceased was a Jerkass or guilty of other negative qualities in life, then expect people to open up and gossip about their faults or spit on his coffin now that the deceased is no longer around to complain. Sometimes, the deceased's family won't even wait to express their views until the funeral, as they will expose him/her in the obituary as a bad person.

Many times, criminals who are guilty of (especially) the most heinous of acts will have private funerals, if they have one at all; that is, the funeral is open only to those explicitly invited, and often the funeral location will not be announced publicly. Other times, the obituary will run only after the funeral service and burial. This is to keep unwanted intruders from interrupting the service – for instance the embittered victim who was personally (or had a close friend or family member) particularly harmed by said deceased criminal's actions from showing up and — in the process of screaming about how the decedent ruined his/her/others' lives — disrupting the service and disrespecting the religious traditions of a funeral. After all, even the most heinous (now-deceased) criminal still likely has family and/or friends who wish to, in the very least, mourn that person in peace and remember him/her how they wish to. In these cases, usually there will be an usher or a police officer standing by the door of the funeral location to stop anyone who does happen to show up uninvited.


Funeral scenes like these also come up — particularly in fiction — to show how the people the deceased thought they were close to truly care once they are gone. Either they never truly did or they only cared to a shallow degree; or the funeral is a way to release pent-up frustration, hate, contempt and so forth toward the decedent, emotions that were held in for whatever reason while that person was still living. Other times, these scenes show what Jerkasses the family and "friends" can be in general once the deceased is no longer around to remind them when to filter out their open contempt toward the deceased, his family, and/or his life decisions.

In the worse case scenario however, the funeral becomes the site of a bloodbath, where a rival family or embittered enemy comes armed and takes grieving members of their loved ones with them to the afterlife seeing that the death of just one person does not suffice and the rest of them can join them in death. More often then not there is additional bodies to bury in the wake of the massacre.

There are sometimes people who don't even have to misbehave. If you're attending a funeral for a free meal and other things for your own self-interest, then the dead would have every right to be pissed off at you.

The deceased isn't out of danger even after the funeral is over. After that, bitter peers can pay their disrespects by vandalizing, desecrating, or even destroying the grave.

This should not be confused with its Sister Trope, The "Fun" in "Funeral" (though overlap is possible). The latter involves wacky situations in a funeral played for humor that occur out of the characters' control or because of their idiocy, while this trope specifically involves rude, uncaring, spiteful, contemptuous, hateful or simply Jerkass behavior and statements about the deceased and/or his family made during what is supposed to be a solemn event. This can be done for either drama or comedy.

Compare and contrast Cheerful Funeral, where people act in a light-hearted and cheerful manner at a funeral of someone they loved, to celebrate their life and the joy they brought when they were alive.

This may also overlap with And There Was Much Rejoicing, depending on the context. See also Dishonored Dead, where the rites themselves are disrespectful or nonexistent.

Contrast with Never Speak Ill of the Dead. Compare and contrast Bitter Wedding Speech.

As a Death Trope, this trope is Spoilered Rotten by nature, and many examples here will spoil a work unless the funeral is part of someone's backstory. Unmarked spoilers below.


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  • March Comes in Like a Lion: Rather than attend his parents and sister's funeral just to mourn for them and comfort him, Rei's aunts and uncles use the occasion to argue over who takes over his grandfather's hospital in his father's place, with one aunt in particular expressing half-hearted sympathy and "promising" Rei that she will send him to a "nice" institution. Meanwhile, the rest of the family is gossiping about them. All this is punctuated when Kouda, a friend of his father's, glances toward his family and implicitly notes how none of them are paying attention and giving real comfort to Rei, before taking the initiative to take Rei in as his ward and student.
  • In Bunny Drop, many of the family members attending Grandpa Souichi's funeral are shocked to learn that he recently had an illegitimate child, Rin, shortly before his death. Her presence at the funeral isn't particularly welcomed and they mostly ignore her. When the time comes for the family to talk about what to do with her, shortly after placing flowers within his coffin, the discussion quickly devolves into an outlet for expressing their anger toward the situation and talking about how odd they find Rin and her dubious origins.
  • During Yusuke's funeral at the start of Yu Yu Hakusho, while Kuwabara goes on a screaming fit about Yusuke dying, his outburst is an act of genuine mourning. In contrast, their school principal calls out some teachers who are at the funeral making snide comments about both Yusuke and Kuwabara's behavior.
  • Fruits Basket:
    • When Katsuya Honda passes away, his relatives' conversations during the funeral ceremony quickly devolve from the circumstances surrounding his death to expressing their disapproval of Kyoko by berating or gossiping about her, saying that Katsuya was better off single. In a separate recollection of the same funeral, Tohru's grandfather brings up how the relatives would say disparaging remarks toward Tohru right in her face, thinking she would not understand.
      • This trope is also averted in a different instance. Several months after Kyoko's death, Tohru and a few of her friends visit her grave, and talk about how Kyoko (positively) influenced their lives. Kyo asks if this is disrespectful, but Uotani- a genuine friend of Kyoko- replies that she wouldn't mind them acting so casually.
    • Kyo's biological father chooses his mother's funeral ceremony to start scene/argument with Kyo, using the latter's inability to approach his mother's grave in front of the family as an excuse.
    • Presumably, the only people that mourned Kyoko's death were Tohru, Uotani, Hanajima, and Tohru's paternal grandfather and going by Tohru's relatives' attitudes during the brief time Tohru came back to live with them, the people that may have come to Kyoko's funeral besides the aforementioned latter three probably didn't have very appropriate words either.
  • In Heat Guy J, Clair attempts to blow up his father's grave with a hand grenade, Laughing Madly about how the man loved fireworks. Giovanni and Mitchal wrestle the grenade from him and Mitchal accidentally blows up someone else's grave. In a later episode he stomps on his father's grave (although it doesn't do much damage, considering that Clair is a skinny young man wearing slippers.)
  • In Haru and Midori, when Midori's old friend Tsugumi dies, those attending Tsugumi's funeral gossip about her, particularly her getting pregnant as a teenager and her husband leaving her.
  • At the beginning of JoJo's Bizarre Adventure: Phantom Blood, 12-year-old Dio Brando spits on his abusive father's grave before he leaves for the Joestars' mansion.

  • Blue Collar Comedy Tour:
    • Bill Engvall and Jeff Foxworthy offer the following "You might be a redneck" jokes:
      Jeff: If you've ever worn a tube top to a funeral home, you might be a— [realizes Bill is cracking up] What, did you see that?
      Bill: No, I got one better. "If you've ever opened a beer during a eulogy, you might be a redneck."
    • And after Bill finished explaining this one (it was his uncle Jack), Larry, Ron, and Jeff improv'ed the following:
      Jeff: Mama looks good, don't she? [mimes drinking]
      Ron: That ain't Mama. [drinks]
      Larry: Naw, that's her, they just shaved her beard off!

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  • In The Stalking Zuko Series, Ozai being crowned Fire Lord during the funeral of Azulon, his father and predecessor (whom he'd manipulated his wife Ursa into killing) is seen as extremely disrespectful and a break from Fire Nation tradition.

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    Films — Live-Action 
  • In all versions of Carrie, the final dream sequence in which Sue visits Carrie's grave has the reveal that someone graffitied the marker with the words "Carrie White burns in Hell!" of course, being a dream sequence, it's left in the air whether or not someone actually did.
  • In the Audrey Hepburn movie Charade, virtually the only people to attend the late Charles Lampert's funeral besides his widow are his three former partners in crime, who are mainly attending to see if he's Faking the Dead (the first tries to startle him by faking a sudden sneezing fit, the second holds a mirror under his nose to see if his breath condenses on it, and the third jabs him with a pin) and are more disgusted than sorry for his death.
  • In Gran Torino, the funeral of Walt Kowalski's wife had some disrespect shown from some attendees.
    • One of the granddaughters was dressed fairly inappropriately and is fiddling around on her cell phone during the service.
    • A grandson mocks the sign of the cross while standing at the casket. Instead of invoking the Holy Trinity, while going through the motions, he repeats the old joke, "Spectacles, testicles, wallet, and watch."
    • Walt's kids start asking Walt if he wants to go to a "nice retirement place" so they could sell the house, and the same disrespectful granddaughter starts asking whether she could have some of the furniture and other items in the couch.
  • In Amazon Women on the Moon, a man's funeral turns into a comedy roast.
  • Film adaptations of A Christmas Carol usually go with And There Was Much Rejoicing, but The Muppet Christmas Carol, while not actually showing the funeral, had three pigs saying they'll only go to Scrooge's "if lunch is provided". That line (or a variation on it) shows up in the original novel.
  • At the beginning of The Verdict, we see that the main character gets most of his cases by trolling strangers' funerals with his business card. He gets away with it once, but the second time, the dead man's son calls him out and has him removed.
  • Tales from the Hood: When the corrupt cops visit their prior victim's grave, they take the opportunity to piss on the tombstone. The dead man rises from the grave to go on a Roaring Rampage of Revenge not long after.
  • Trainwreck has Amy eulogizing her father by reminding people he was an alcoholic, bigoted jerk, before a touching end where she says people still liked him.
  • In Blue Ruin, Dwight learns that Cleland Sr. has killed his father. When he finds Cleland Sr.'s grave behind the house, he goes inside, guzzles glasses of water, and then pisses on the grave stone as a gesture of revenge.
  • In the Mexican film La Ley de Herodes, after the owner of the local brothel refuses to give Mayor Vargas free service as a bribe and hires a thug to beat him up and humiliate him by throwing him in her pigsty, Vargas tricks them into going outside the town and shoots them both. Later, Vargas stays behind after the funeral when everyone else has left to piss on her grave.
  • In Theatre of Blood, Lionheart disrupts the funeral of his first victim Maxwell, by tying the body of his second victim Snipe to a horse and having it gallop into the funeral.
  • King of Thieves: During Lynne's wake, the thoughtless Danny starts doing a handstand to impress a group of young ladies, which Brian finds immensely disrespectful and goes over to sort him out.
  • At Brock's funeral in Cold Pursuit, Ahn's last act before leaving is to spit on his grave.
  • In The Death of Stalin, General Zhukov completes Beria's humiliation, following his Villainous Breakdown and summary execution at the hands of a Kangaroo Court, by soaking his corpse in petrol and setting it alight with a contemptuous Reusable Lighter Toss.
  • The Gentlemen: After first telling him that he is going to piss on his grave, Dry Eye shoots Lord George dead and then pisses on his corpse.
  • In Grim Prairie Tales, Colby finds an old Indian lying on burial platform in the Indian burial, and decides to mock him. Bad move.
  • Mad Max: Fury Road: It takes about three seconds after Immortan Joe is killed for the nearest character to spit on the corpse. Later the body is dismembered by a crowd, though it's not entirely clear if the motivation is simply angry desecration or some form of prize-snatching (and whether the body parts might be desired in celebration of the death or to revere as sacred objects).
  • In The Dry, Grant takes the opportunity to insult Luke's memory at his funeral, and directly to the faces of his grieving parents.

  • A well-known joke has a memorial service for a particularly nasty person, and the vicar/rabbi/imam asking for somebody to share some pleasant memory of the deceased. There is then silence for some time, until a voice is heard saying "He wasn't as bad as his brother was". (This has been told as an anecdote about several real-life people, but is probably apocryphal.)
  • A joke in the military service, a Drill Sergeant Nasty tells a recruit who's being punished with pushups "You'll thank me later, even if you want to piss on my grave when I die". The recruit says that he wouldn't do that telling the Drill Sergeant Nasty "After I get out of the military I never want to stand in line again!"
  • A gravedigger sees a man pissing on a freshly-dug grave, a half-empty bottle of whiskey next to him.
    "Hey! What are you doing!"
    "Fulfilling an oath I made to my brother."
    "What, piss on his grave!?"
    "Oh no. Thirty years ago, when we were both poor and about to leave the country to find our fortune, we pooled our money to buy a bottle of the finest whiskey, and whichever died last would come home, open it and pour half on the other's grave."
    "And why are you pissing on his grave?"
    "Well it's been sitting in a bottle for years, I thought I'd better filter it through my kidneys first!

  • This is Older Than Feudalism. In The Iliad, after killing the Trojan hero Hector, Achilles threads ropes through Hector's heels and drags the corpse behind his chariot, circling the walls of Troy, for twelve days, in vengeance for his lover Patroclus whom Hector killed earlier in the story. Apollo and Aphrodite preserve the body from damage and the other gods finally take pity and order Achilles to accept a ransom to return the remains to the Trojans.
  • In Dragon Bones, the funeral of the protagonist's father is an occasion where almost no one is sad. The widow hums a little tune, not her fault, as she's The Ophelia, and fled to her own little world because her husband abused her. He brought it unto himself, so to speak. The protagonist, Ward, who has taken to Obfuscating Stupidity to protect himself from his abusive father, goes out of his way to act as innapropriately as possible. When his uncle explains to him, after his father has died, what just happened, he thinks for a moment before replying "I get his horse!". No one cries at the funeral, and the only ones present are family.
  • A Charles Exbrayat story has an important member of a French town's funeral attended by all the town's society, along with many lower class people. The two cops on his murder case overhear the conversations, and one quotes a Chinese proverb: "There is nothing lacking from a rich man's funeral, except someone to mourn him".
  • Discworld:
    • In Making Money, Topsy Lavish's funeral is attended by her relatives, a family of rich, selfish, squabbling assholes who do nothing but glare at each other throughout the ceremony, waiting for each other to start something. Nonetheless, Cosmo considered it a "decently dignified occasion" spoiled only by Hubert, Topsy' nephew and only living blood relative, who was the only one actually mourning.
    • In the short story "The Sea and Little Fishes", Granny Weatherwax finds herself worrying that this may be her fate, that people would attend her funeral only to make sure she was dead. Her attempts to be nicer to her neighbors cause them to fear something terrible is going to happen.
  • In the novel Cloture Of Yellow which is part of the Evillious Chronicles by mothy, one of the main characters, Elluka Clockworker, attends the funeral of an "old friend" Leonheart Avadonia, apparently just to call him an idiot, and leaves.
  • The Cat Who Talked to Ghosts frequently refers to the funeral of Efraim Goodwinter, who had a record number of mourners accompanying the funeral procession, but the vast majority are there to celebrate his death, Efraim being one of the most hated men in town after indirectly causing the deaths of 42 miners.
  • In Stephen King's Pet Sematary, rather than quietly grieving, Irwin Goldman uses his grandson Gage's funeral as an excuse to start a fight with his son-in-law.
  • In A Song of Ice and Fire, some of the people attending Tywin Lannister's funeral crack jokes about him dying in a privy. Cersei is understandably angry when she overhears them.
  • In Guardians of the West, first book of the The Malloreon, the funeral of Ran Borune, Emperor of Tolnedra, is primarily attended by the rival families. Since Ran Borune died without a son, all the talk is about who will vie for the throne next. Most of the attendees deliver paper-thin condolences to his daughter Ce'Nedra. The only thing keeping the insults from being overt is the presence of her husband Belgarion, King of Riva and Overlord of the West. Eventually, though, even his patience ran out and he boldly escorts Ce'Nedra out of the temple, but not before delivering an exquisite retort to all present: "The air in here has turned a trifle rancid."
    • In The Seeress of Kell, Urgit, new King of the Murgos, ultimately reveals he heaped the trope on his father, the late Taur Urgas. Urgit slit his throat ear to ear, drove a stake through his heart, buried him by himself seventeen feet deep head-first, and finally drove herds of horses over the burial site to make certain no one except him would ever know where Taur Urgas was buried.note 
  • Nick Velvet: In "The Theft of the Leather Coffin", Nick is attending a viewing, working out how he can steal the eponymous coffin, when the funeral parlour is stormed by armed thugs who steal the coffin at gunpoint.
  • In Xanth, ogres are supposed to be Designated Villains, so things like living in swamps, acting all mean and intimidating are considered desirable behavior. This even goes to their burial rites, where this trope is required to properly bury an ogre. Ogres prefer to be buried someplace nasty like a garbage dump; if something like that isn't handy, you need to curse the burial site you choose. That's how Smash managed to negotiate one of Good Magician Humphrey's obstacles in Ogre, Ogre: he convinced a gate made of ogre's bones to fall apart so he could bury them properly: which he does when he insults the bones after burying them.
  • At the end of the Babylon 5 novel ''Final Reckonings: The Fate of Bester", Garibaldi, whom Bester had mind-controlled into betraying Sheridan years ago, visited Bester's grave after his funeral and hammered a stake into the ground above his coffin.
  • A Christmas Carol: At the start of the Ghost of Christmas Yet to Come sequence, there's a scene where several London businessmen discuss the circumstances of Scrooge's death, including how it's likely no one will even show up to the funeral because he'd alienated everyone he'd ever known in life. One says he'll go... "if lunch is provided!"
  • American Gods opens with the protagonist "Shadow" being released from prison right after finding out that his wife Laura and his best friend Robbie died in a car accident. At the funeral parlour, Robbie's wife Audrey spits in Laura's face, then explains to Shadow that Laura and Robbie had carried on an affair during Shadow's prison sentence — in fact, Laura had been pleasuring Robbie from the passenger seat when they crashed.
  • Amoridere uses this trope, twice:
    • The first one, Resentment and Insanity, has Toki mentioning she was going to dance at Kaeda's funeral. When the time does come, she dances as the proceedings are getting underway and, while the funeral is going on, she laughs (though, in that instance, it's hard to tell if it's genuine laughter).
    • The second one happens in Sardonic Dance, where the subject (wearing more "red than black") attends the funeral (of someone she's not fond of) specifically to dance on the grave of the deceased. Later, after getting a kick out of that, she would go to dance on graves at future funerals of people she's not fond of.

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  • Deconstructed in The Sopranos episode "Proshai Livuashka". Upon Livia's death, Janice decides to throw a wake for her despite her own expressed wish not to have one. After much phoney expressions of sympathy and mourning from all attendees, it finally takes Carmella to speak up that she was a horribly dysfunctional and manipulative woman who spread misery to everyone who spent time with her, and didn't want a funeral because she thought no-one would miss her. No-one argues with this assessment, least of all Tony (she even gets a hear hear).
  • Shortly after his inauguration as POTUS, Frank Underwood in House of Cards (US) visits his father's grave in Gaffney, ostensibly to pay his respects. When he is granted some "privacy" by the Secret Service and the media, he urinates on the headstone. They didn't get along.
  • All My Children: After Michael Cambias rapes Bianca and is subsequently found dead, literally everyone in Pine Valley showed up at his funeral just to give eulogies on how much they hate him for what he did to Bianca, with Bianca's then-lover Lena going so far as to spit on his grave. On another note, his coffin was actually empty; before the funeral, Tad Martin, Aidan Devane, and Boyd Larraby broke into the funeral home and stole Michael's body just so they could bury it in the garbage dump.
  • The Everybody Loves Raymond episode "I Wish I Were Gus" is built around several facets of this. First, Ray is given the duty of having to write a eulogy for a family member he rarely (if ever) spent any time with, and one that led an uneventful life as well, to which he decides to spend his time discussing the problems he's dealing with that day. Then, Marie and her sister renew decades-long disdain towards one another and make comments during the funeral. Also, Robert ends up making strange noises throughout, and eventually leaves.
  • Two and a Half Men:
    • Charlie has a dream in which he attends his own funeral (as a ghost). At the funeral, women spit on his coffin, the eulogy is filled with derogatory jokes, and Alan ends the service by inviting the congregation back to his beach house for a wake/luau.
    • Charlie's actual funeral in the first episode of season 9 ends up being similar. Alan's eulogy was interrupted by Charlie's ex-girlfriends insulting the deceased, (they wanted to spit on him too, but his remains were not "spittable") and Evelyn used the occasion to remind everyone that Charlie's house is up for sale.
  • In The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, when Phillip Banks' political opponent dies, everyone save for Will attends his funeral primarily to check if he's really dead. When Will proclaims that he was the one that killed him (albeit through telling him to drop dead) as he attempts to call them out on it, the attendees give him a standing ovation. Phillip did have a complimentary eulogy prepared, but his wife Vivian accidentally on-purpose lost it.
  • One episode of Nash Bridges has recurring character Tony B fake his death. Most of the attendees at his funeral use the opportunity to insult him... even Nash.
    Nash: From what I hear, making love to Tony B was like opening a bottle of champagne. (simulates popping the cork off a bottle of champagne) Pop! It's over.
  • In an episode of Cheers, when an old teammate dies, Coach is asked to give a eulogy; but when Coach finds out that the old friend had made a pass at his wife, he's mortified, and at first, intends to invoke this trope to tell him off. However, it is Subverted because he can't bring himself to do it, and delivers a touching eulogy. However, this leads to one of the guests saying he's almost ready to forgive the man, indicating that the deceased made a pass at his wife, and it is soon revealed that this is true for all the men attending. A double subversion is risked when they want to hang him in effigy, but Diane, ever the peacemaker, starts singing Amazing Grace, and the subversion stands.
  • The Community episode "Advanced Gay" sees the death of Pierce's father. At the funeral, Pierce delivers a scathing eulogy. Arguably well deserved given his treatment of his son.
    "...Well, I'm not scared of you anymore, because you're dead and I'm not. So, I win. You can suck it."
  • On As the World Turns, the funeral of an Asshole Victim character was attended only by the five women he had terrorized throughout his time on the show. And it was clear that they wouldn't have come had his lawyer not sent invitations specifically requesting their presence. One woman went so far as to take a letter opener and stab his corpse through the heart to ensure that he would not be coming back from the dead—he had done so several times before—to harass them again. At this, one of other women snarked, "Well, if he wasn't dead before, he sure as hell is now."
  • Babylon 5: When Morden asks Vir what he wants, Vir has an answer along the lines of this trope:
    "I'd like to live just long enough to be there when they cut off your head and stick it on a pike as a warning to the next ten generations that some favors come with too high a price. I would look up at your lifeless eyes and wave... like this."
    <waggles fingers, smiling>
    "Can you and your associates arrange that for me, Mr. Morden?"
    • Later, Morden is killed and put on display in exactly the same manner as Vir described. Vir then proceeds to do the mocking wave he'd promised to do before.
  • Mad Men makes a point of showing how an ad executive's memorial service is populated mainly by his clients, who are now up for grabs, and people from rival agencies who are there to size them up. Another time, at Roger's mother's funeral, Don shows up drunk, disrupts proceedings by throwing up, and has to leave, and Bob Benson (a new guy not important enough to be invited) later gets reprimanded by Ken for sending food in an inappropriate attempt to ingratiate himself.
  • The Golden Girls had an episode in which Rose finally tells off a very mean and bitter old woman to death. Eventually, while Rose organized a funeral out of guilt and to pay respects, nobody but an old woman shows up to pay her last respects. At first, the audience was treated to a beautiful eulogy, which was then subverted when the old woman realized that it was for the wrong woman. Once the speech giver was told who the funeral was for, she promptly turns around and kicks the coffin!
  • In the House, M.D. episode "Birthmarks", Dr. House is forcibly dragged to his estranged, abusive father's funeral and made to give the eulogy. He takes the opportunity to gather tissue for a long-awaited Daddy DNA Test.
  • How I Met Your Mother: Marshall visits the grave of his recently deceased father to have a private moment with him, but he's repeatedly interrupted by tagalongs and the event soon becomes a tailgate barbecue. Marshall is deeply offended when one of the partygoers uses Marshall's father's grave to pop the cap off a beer bottle.
  • Chanel #2's funeral in Scream Queens. Chanel arranges her frenemy's funeral and even grants her last wishes (sending her ashes into space), but her eulogy is about how Chanel #2 was a backstabber, tried to put the moves on her boyfriend, and when Chanel wanted to walk around campus in a diamond formation, Chanel #2 would refuse to walk behind her, so they had to walk in a triangle formation. She ends her eulogy by saying that Chanel got what was coming to her. The other Chanels also give their last respects, but they amount to saying that they're going to take her clothes, or that they didn't know what ethnicity she was.
  • Friends of all shows references a real life example of this trope in one episode where Chandler goes to Joey's parents' house. Joey mentions his grandmother is there, and that she was one of the first few people to spit on Mussolini's dead body.
  • In the Mystery Science Theater 3000 episode featuring Samson vs. the Vampire Women, Mike had the bots write letters to TV's Frank, who moved on to Second Banana Heaven. However, Servo and Crow don't take theirs seriously one bit, which Mike scolds them over as Frank treated them nicely.
  • MacGyver (1985): In "D.O.A: MacGyver", MacGyver discovers a bomb planted at a funeral, only to lose the memory after a head injury.
  • The Umbrella Academy (2019): The Hargreeves children try to scatter their abusive, estranged adoptive father's ashes in the rain. Instead, the ashes plop onto the ground in a heap (much reduced, since Klaus already spilled the urn and left a cigarette butt inside); Diego delivers a scathing "good riddance", then gets into a fight with Luther.
  • In the first episode of Sense8, Wolfgang's uncle suggests he go and visit his late father's grave while they're attending his grandfather's funeral. Since Wolfgang's father was an abusive drunk, who Wolfgang actually killed when he was 10, he has no love for the man and decides to urinate on the grave.
  • After Fran's accidental death in Mama's Family, Thelma tries to give her a perfect funeral. However, it's ruined by such things as the coffin falling out the back of the hearse on the highway, Aunt Effie demanding the opal earrings Fran was buried in, and Thelma's grandson showing up at the house after his release from reform school, eating all the food, and then going on an emotional rant when he finds out he's been abandoned by his parents.
    Thelma: Well, Frannie, I tried, but your perfect day's gone to hell in a handbasket. I sure hope you haven't done the same. Amen.

  • In one song by Erste Allgemeine Verunsicherung. The undead narrator's relatives "have a calculator instead of a bible in their hand, to divide up the inheritance", but he gets the last laugh: He wasted his fortune before he died, and just left them his cognac, which they'll need.
  • The music video for Rammstein's song "Haifisch" is set at singer Till Lindemann's funeral. The rest of the band discuss in front of his coffin who to replace him with. And while it's not clear what killed him until the end, where it's revealed he faked his death, the others clearly had fantasized about killing him.

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  • Persona 3: during Shinjiro's service, you overhear two upperclassmen complaining about how they don't want to waste time sitting through it, and that he was probably 'just some punk'. One then asks your hero if he happened to know the guy, then dismisses the possibility, as you're just a junior.
  • In Persona 4, Mr. Morooka openly badmouths Saki after her death, suggesting that she was promiscuous. Not because she was, but because Morooka believes that all students, male or female, are.
  • In Persona 5, midway through the game, the principal of Shujin Academy suffers a mental shutdown, is hit by a truck and killed. Since most of the school hates him for keeping Kamoshida around and covering for his crimes, a lot of students badmouth him at the school assembly in which his death is announced.
  • PlanetSide Guild HMX-1 held a funeral for one of their own, Raider05, who had passed away due to a heart attack. HMX-1 Set the funeral up in an area where enemy players were banned from entering, however, another guild the Enclave, ostensibly members of the same faction (The Terran Republic) and therefore allowed into the zone, proceeded to carpet bomb the funeral. As no one in the funeral was armed, except 7 snipers (for the 21 gun salute), the Enclave managed to kill everyone.
  • At the end of Broforce, your character pays his last respects to Satan himself... by pissing on his grave.
  • Enzo's first act in Bayonetta is pissing on someone's tombstone, and taunting Bayonetta about how no angels are going to be coming for "Eggman the Destroyer", culminating in him throwing his spent stogie onto the coffin. When the angels do arrive to Enzo's shock and disbelief, Bayonetta proceeds to kick their asses all over the place.
  • In Saints Row 2, Shogo interrupts Aisha's funeral in an attempt to challenge Johnny Gat and The Boss to a fight. Johnny offers him one chance to walk away, which he mocks. The Boss and Johnny kill his henchmen, then chase him down once he runs, at which point Johnny delivers a No-Holds-Barred Beatdown before he's Buried Alive.
  • Similar to the above, in Saints Row: The Third, Killbane attacks the Saints at Johnny's funeral. Unlike the above, he isn't killed, though it does drive Shaundi berserk.
  • Funeral attacks are done to both sides in Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas, after the Ballas attempt to assassinate key Grove Street members Sweet and Carl, they in turn return the favor. In Grand Theft Auto IV, the funeral procession of the McReary family gets shot up by Albanian gangsters after the McRearys ruined their relationship with the Ancelotti family.
  • Yakuza:
    • In Yakuza, Chairman Sera's funeral turns into a brawl when Kiryu (an expelled, dishonored Clan member) is discovered to have crashed the wake.
    • In Yakuza 2, Chairman Terada's funeral is first crashed by Ryuji Goda, who mocks everyone present, and then further ruined by Shindo making a play for the Chairmanship.
  • Aunt Sarah's funeral in The Darkness 2 gets interrupted by cultists. Just adding insult is that a stray blast hits the coffin and the corpse comes spilling out.

    Web Animation 
  • Red vs. Blue has three "funeral" scenes (the deceased in question were still living), and all are about people being completely disrespectful at funerals, sometimes for their own agendas, sometimes just because they're jerks.
    • In Episode 51, Church (the "dead" guy) is the one who wants a funeral; Tucker calls it lame and wanders off.
    • In Episode 83, Griff turns Sarge's funeral into a comedy roast of Sarge, and Simmons uses the opportunity to campaign for Sarge's job.
    • In the Season 9 Episode 14, it turns out no one remembers anything about Simmons except he liked gum and talked a lot.

    Web Comics 
  • Ugly Hill had two of these.
    • Eli and Hastings' grandfather, who had been a racist, mean old bastard, but whom Hastings had begun to bond with shortly before his death. At the funeral, it turned out that he had a massive falling out with his children, which was the reason for why Eli and Hastings' mother (who was otherwise just as racist and nasty as her father) nearly disowned Hastings for visiting him. At the funeral itself, their uncle showed up and told them he'd been working on a loogie the whole way there just so he could spit epically on his father's corpse. The feeling was mutual, as the will revealed that the old man only let his house and 500.000 in credit card bills to his children.
    • When Eli and Hastings mother herself dies near the end of the strips run, there's a lot of mixed feelings. Hastings was always close to her and is devastated, while Eli hated her due to her racism, manipulative behavior and selfishness. When left alone in the funeral parlor, he prepares to beat up her corpse with a mallet.
  • Xinchub's funeral in Schlock Mercenary. Tagon issues party hats and noisemakers.

    Web Original 
  • On Being the Elite this happens twice during Joey Ryan's funeral:
    • First, Scorpio Sky of SCU begins their speech saying that "this is the worst funeral I have ever been in!".
    • Then, Arthur starts dissing Ryan himself in front of the entirety of The Elite sans "Hangman" Adam Page, who wasn't there, who were grieving Ryan.
  • Invoked by Puck Daddy, which as the NHL playoffs roll along invites bloggers to write "Eulogies" for the recently eliminated teams. And while at times the fanbase indulges on Self-Deprecation and buries their own, "Eulogy" in this case means "roasting fueled by Fandom Rivalry" (or "avenging that recent victory over my team").
  • In Rainbow Dash Presents Bittersweet, at Pinkie's funeral, Rarity is too busy gloating that she called it that Pinkie would kill herself, Twilight expresses disbelief that Pinkie would die by diabetic ketoacidosis ('what is this, the dark ages, we have medicine!'), Applejack tries to be respectful but ends up concluding Pinkie died to spite everyone, and Rainbow Dash makes her eulogy all about her feelings of guilt about Pinkie's death. Fluttershy might have been the only respectful person at the funeral, but since she was drowned out by dubstep per Pinkie's last will and testament, we'll never know. What's more, when her spirit comes back to give the rest of the Mane Six closure, Dash is just confused while the others complain about it.
  • In Farce of the Three Kingdoms, Zhuge Liang shows up at the funeral of Zhou Yu (whose death he indirectly caused) in order to give a sarcastic and insulting eulogy.

    Western Animation 
  • The Simpsons:
    • When Mr. Burns is thought to be dead, various dignitaries come to his funeral just to spit in his grave. So many in fact, that the grave has to be drained afterwards.
    • On "Bart The General", Bart imagines what his funeral after being killed by Nelson would be like. Nelson takes a cupcake placed for Bart in the casket, then gives the body a few more punches "for the road". To a lesser extent, there's also Milhouse, who thanks Bart for dying since this means he didn't have to go to school for the day. Homer initially behaves the same ("yeah, and I got the day off from work!") but quickly switches to mournful via a nudge from Marge.
    • In "The Wizard of Evergreen Terrace", Homer has an Imagine Spot of his funeral. In it, the few attendees decide to skip the eulogy and just toss Homer in the grave off a dump truck while Heckle and Jeckle call him "a real sack of crap".
    • In "Mother Simpson", after Homer fakes his death to get off working as a garbage collector, Marge is visited by Patty and Selma, who quite gleefully try to gift Marge what they have been saving for ever since she married: a graveyard spot for Homer with accompanying tombstone that reads "Homer Simpson: we are richer for having lost him".
  • The Boondocks:
    • In "Wingmen", Robert Freeman's longtime "friend" Moe passes away, and he is then asked to read a pre-written eulogy. At first, everyone at the funeral acts as if Moe is the best at everything. He is being given credit for things Robert did in World War II, all the women swoon for him, etc. Robert finally breaks all the lies by announcing how much of a jerk Moe really was. Everyone else then starts agreeing and pointing out how he owed many of them money and other negative aspects about him.
    • In "The Color Ruckus", Uncle Ruckus' father Mister Ruckus attends the funeral of his own mother Nelly Ruckus, not out of grief, but out of celebration (Nelly, Mister, and Uncle all hated each other).
  • Daria gives us an example in the episode "Murder, She Snored". Although the funeral occurs in Daria's dream, nobody really has anything nice to say. Ms. Barch uses it as an excuse for another feminist rant, Mack's eulogy basically insults Kevin, and to top it off, Daria and Jane wear Hawaiian shirts for the occasion note . The 3 J's even mimic the tests done by the men in Charade (see Film above) to make sure that Kevin is dead.
  • In an episode of Pepper Ann, P.A. is asked to give the eulogy at the funeral of a cranky neighbor no one liked. She's having a difficult time finding anything nice to say about her, but also realizes she can't just lie about her.
  • DuckTales (2017): At Scrooge's funeral in "The 87-Cent Solution!", Flintheart Glomgold shows up in a white sequined suit and starts dancing to DJ Khaled's "All I Do is Win" and making it rain dollar bills while everyone else stares in disgust. He would have danced on the casket too, but an embarrassed Zan Owlson stops him. Scrooge is, in fact, just fine, but the disrespect on Glomgold's part was absolutely real.
  • An Imagine Spot on Family Guy has Meg imagining what her funeral would be like. Turns out Peter would just crash someone else's funeral and stuff Meg's body in their plot under the casket.
    Peter: Thanks, didn't want to pay for the hole.

    Real Life 
  • The Jolley Gang was a group of unpleasant funeral-crashers, who blagged their way into funerals on the pretext that they knew the deceased, so as to get at the free food/booze. Victoria Coren wrote a couple of scathing articles about them after they targeted her father's funeral.
  • Fred Phelps Sr. was an American pastor infamous for his homophobic slogans and beliefs. One of the activities his Westboro Baptist Church congregation is well known for is going around the funerals of war veterans and picketing them, claiming that God condemned them to die because the nation tolerates "fags." As one can well imagine, this didn't do a lot to earn them points with the rest of the community, particularly due to changing attitudes toward homosexuality. Some of the most vocally offended — both gay-rights activists and those whose military sons and daughters' funerals were picketed — talked of similarly paying their "respects" at Phelps' funeral upon his death, but per the Christian Science Monitor, no one ever got the chance – there was no funeral (and presumably, his family mourned in private). In addition, his body was cremated shortly after his death, with his ashes' whereabouts being unknown, likely to further prevent this trope.
  • It is not unheard of for gang members of rival factions to show up at a rival gang member's funeral and begin trouble, particularly if: 1. The gang member's death was both brutal and at the hands of the other gang; and 2. There were especially tense emotions between the two gangs. Often, police presence will discourage any funeral violence, but it hasn't always stopped the unwanted from happening.
  • Some people are so disliked — in particular, by their own families — that there isn't even a funeral. In at least two cases, obituaries cursing the just-deceased person were actually published. In each of the obituaries, the mothers (both were women) were described by their children as hateful and emotionally, sexually and physically abusive, and that they would be remembered that way as they now try to find closure and move on with their lives.
  • Played for Laughs at the funeral of Graham Chapman, at his request. The other Pythons noted that, with all the shocking and vulgar things they'd done for the sake of comedy over the years, it would've been unforgivable to pass up the opportunity. Chapman's family had a serious, separate funeral for themselves and the Pythons put on their own so they wouldn't wreck that one. From John Cleese's eulogy:
    Cleese: I guess that we’re all thinking how sad it is that a man of such talent, such capability and kindness, of such intelligence should now be so suddenly spirited away at the age of only forty-eight, before he’d achieved many of the things of which he was capable, and before he’d had enough fun. Well, I feel that I should say, "Nonsense. Good riddance to him, the freeloading bastard! I hope he fries."
  • Cartoonist Al Capp had a bitter feud with Ham Fisher, whom he used to assist before starting Li'l Abner. After Fisher committed suicide, Al Capp remarked that it was the most honorable thing he's ever done.
  • Paul Tibbets, who commanded the flight that dropped the first atom bomb, requested to have his ashes spread in the ocean and no grave or memorial stand in his name. His stated reason is that his grave would serve less as a place for his family to remember him and more as a site for anti nuclear protestors to deface.
  • Fred West committed suicide whilst on remand alongside his wife Rosemary for a string of brutal sexually-motivated torture-murders of young women and girls, including some of their own children. None of his family, from whom he was already estranged before his horrific deeds came to light, turned up at the funeral. The minister didn't offer a proper eulogy either, instead simply reading from the 23rd psalm and stating that West's life should serve as a cautionary tale.
  • An obituary that invoked Speak Ill of the Dead to this level went viral in June 2018, detailing how the deceased had abandoned her children to her parents after getting pregnant by her brother-in-law and moving to California with him. The sites that initially hosted the obit removed it a day later.
    She passed away on May 31, 2018, in Springfield and will now face judgement. She will not be missed by Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her.
  • In 2014 a Cleveland Browns fan posted a video of himself using a catheter device to discreetly urinate on Art Modell's grave, in some delayed vengeance for Modell famously moving the team to Baltimore in 1996.
  • Sometimes the death of a company rather than a person can result in this, such as the Tasmanian Greens cheering the demise of the Gunns timber company. Other examples where some have celebrated a work or project failing.
  • Jim Cornette has stated multiple times that one of his goals is to piss on the grave of his nemesis Vince Russo (who is still alive as of this writing). He really hates the guy that much.
  • So many people expressed a wish to do this over Margaret Thatcher's grave that it is apparently under constant guard in a secure and private location. When her death was announced there were literal parties and a push to get "Ding Dong, The Witch Is Dead" on the music charts (it made number 2).
  • As teenagers, sisters Sylvia and Jenny Likens were horrifically abused and tortured by Gertrude Banizewski, her own children, and even the neighborhood children while living in her house, with Sylvia eventually dying there. Many years later, as an adult, Jenny saw Banizewski's obituary in the paper five years after the latter's release from prison, and wrote to her own mother, "Some good news. Damn old Gertrude died. Ha ha ha! I am glad for that."
  • One Dear Prudence letter (the second one in the link), published in 2014, had a letter-writer complaining that her mother had become "unhinged" ever since the death of her mother-in-law (the writer's grandmother). By the writer's own admission, the grandmother had been horribly abusive to the mom for decades, but had been a loving grandma to the writer herself; hence, the writer was taken aback when her mother wore red to the funeral, refused to stand in line to receive condolences (while saying she wouldn't have been able to do so with a straight face), and more recently was humming "Ding Dong, The Witch is Dead" while doing spring-cleaning. In her response, Prudence quipped that the writer should have been grateful her mother didn't bring a boombox to blare Pharrell Williams' "Happy" while dancing on the grave, especially because (per the writer's acknowledgement) nobody in the family ever stood up for her when the grandma had been vicious to her for so long.


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Glomgold's disrespectfull dance

Of course Glomgold would arrive at Scrooge's funeral to disrespect him one last time

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