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I am aware that the term is anime fanspeak, but a lot of people do not understand what the trope means.

It is supposed to be an abuser who is treated as attractive by the narrative but must people treat it as Domestic Abuser or other bad boyfriend.

Bastard Boyfriend Wick Check lists 40% of examples as Domestic Abuser, 24% as correct, 30% as zero context, and 6% other "bad boyfriends".

Edited by GastonRabbit on May 16th 2022 at 6:42:32 AM

randomtroper89 from The Fire Nation Since: Nov, 2010
#101: Mar 14th 2022 at 3:02:38 PM

[up]yes because it's about the person, not the glasses themselves

GastonRabbit Sounds good on paper (he/him) from Robinson, Illinois, USA (General of TV Troops) Relationship Status: I'm just a poor boy, nobody loves me
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#102: May 13th 2022 at 6:28:08 AM

I previously mentioned planning to make Commonwealth English redirects for the merged trope when I called the name crowner per American and Commonwealth Spellings, but it seems like that slipped through the cracks because drafting the description took a while. That's been fixed; Fetishised Abuser, Romanticised Abuser, and Sexualised Abuser now exist as redirects.

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GastonRabbit MOD Sounds good on paper (he/him) from Robinson, Illinois, USA (General of TV Troops) Relationship Status: I'm just a poor boy, nobody loves me
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#103: May 16th 2022 at 4:42:51 AM

I added a to-do list to the opening post and pinned it. The OP's original contents have been moved to a folder.

Patiently awaiting the release of Paper Luigi and the Marvelous Compass.
Yindee Just stoic wisdom. from New England Since: Jul, 2016
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#104: May 22nd 2022 at 7:45:30 PM

Okay I've got Bastard Girlfriend down to 150. Been finding myself switching the entry to Domestic Abuse a bunch, which is a bit amusing to me in that my reasoning is "merged tropes" while I'm effectively splitting wicks between two tropes. grin

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#105: May 23rd 2022 at 8:11:35 PM

BG has been vanquished; all that's left is the much larger counterpart.

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#106: May 23rd 2022 at 8:30:06 PM

At least it's ~1K, not like 5K.

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#107: May 23rd 2022 at 11:55:25 PM

I'll be sure to get it down to triple digits

Yindee Just stoic wisdom. from New England Since: Jul, 2016
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#108: May 24th 2022 at 9:17:55 AM

Been using a really long work meeting to chug through this. It's at 987 now.

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#109: May 24th 2022 at 9:22:00 AM

Hmm, there may be a case to disambigate between Romanticized Abuser and Domestic Abuse then

Yindee Just stoic wisdom. from New England Since: Jul, 2016
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#110: May 24th 2022 at 10:11:58 AM

The way I see it, a lot of these "boy/girlfriend verbally abuses, manipulates, and/or beats" entries are just straight-up Domestic Abuse. The only ones I've found myself deleting are the rare ones that don't quite seem abusive ("is [only] unfaithful") but aren't romanticized, though I'm probably way too far on the side of not deleting entries.

Edit: Yeah my b, I'm definitely way too often misclassifying instead of deleting. But I think my point stands that Domestic Abuse is sometimes the right trope here (which is mentioned on the Projects page but not on this thread's to-do list).

Edited by Yindee on May 24th 2022 at 1:34:53 PM

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#111: May 24th 2022 at 11:30:05 AM

I question the recent edit on Revolutionary Girl Utena changing the various Bastard Boyfriend wicks to Fetishized Abuser ones, since, while all characters involved get Fanservice scenes, one out of three of the characters mentioned is a fairly clear-cut Domestic Abuser and the other two, while not wholly unsympathetic, most of their actions are not portrayed positively or "sexy" by the narrative.

Akio Ohtori (who is an adult and the chairman of Ohtori Academy while the rest of the major characters are teenage/preteen students there) is explicitly portrayed as a predator in all continuities (with varying degrees of charisma and attractiveness). He commits numerous cases of statutory rape (we see at least three cases on screen, more are implied), manipulates the people around him, and (spoilers for the latter episodes of the series) rapes Anthy, his own sister.

Saionji and Touga (the non-movie continuities anyway) are more complicated, not as bad as Akio, moreso Troubled Abuser territory. Saionji (and Anthy's) introduction scene has him slap her in the face and act Entitled To Have Anthy once Utena defeats him in a duel and "wins" Anthy over from him. Most of Touga's bad behavior is having flings with most of the girls (and in the novel continuity, a boy, but that boy probably didn't consent), though he does play mind games with his younger sister (who adores him) to make her think that he doesn't love her and that they're not actually biologically related. Touga and Saionji have explanations of their behavior of being sexually abused by Akio or his father depending on the continuity and "inferiority complex caused by Touga's success causing him to lash out in unhealthy behavior rooted in toxic masculinity" respectively. At the end of the series the possibility is floated that with Akio losing his power and being broken by Anthy finally standing up to him and leaving the academy forever they'll recover and become better people.

Edited by delayedboom on May 24th 2022 at 2:23:39 AM

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Yindee Just stoic wisdom. from New England Since: Jul, 2016
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#112: May 24th 2022 at 11:34:38 AM

Hey ~delayedboom that's on me. Defintely went overboard with reclassifying stuff rather than deleting, so I'm going to go back and fix my mistakes to the best of my ability. Feel free to change to whatever you think is more accurate (just noting the trope merge), and again, apologies!

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#113: May 24th 2022 at 11:37:30 AM

[up] No worries, I'll edit the page in a bit.

edit: done. The character and YMMV subpages have been dewicked as well.

Edited by delayedboom on May 24th 2022 at 11:59:19 AM

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Yindee Just stoic wisdom. from New England Since: Jul, 2016
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#114: May 24th 2022 at 12:55:32 PM

Alright I undid most of my damage I think, though I did some cross-referencing to check if some of my wicks were valid with external evidence backing it up (like if OP were potholing it themselves). Probably best to just let others take the reins with this cleaning project from here on out, though.

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#115: May 24th 2022 at 10:30:38 PM

For DeconstructedCharacterArchetype.Bo Jack Horseman neither example seems to an abuser per se, just a "bad boyfriend".

GastonRabbit Sounds good on paper (he/him) from Robinson, Illinois, USA (General of TV Troops) Relationship Status: I'm just a poor boy, nobody loves me
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#116: Sep 2nd 2022 at 7:18:23 PM

I might work on Bastard Boyfriend sometime soon since I saw that the other two (Bastard Girlfriend and Bespectacled Bastard Boyfriend) have been dewicked already.

But anyway, here are the wick checks for reference's sake (so I can cut the sandboxes to get that out of the way):

Bastard Boyfriend Wick Check

    Domestic Abuser (20-50) 

1. True Blood Vampires

  • Bastard Boyfriend: Both emotionally and physically abusive to Tara, though the physical parts are mostly inadvertent.

2. Assassination Classroom

3. Anime & Manga

4. Super

  • Bastard Boyfriend: To Sarah, who he gets back on drugs. And ultimately gives her up for Mr. Range to rape.

5. Shōjo Demographic

Although series with explicit sexuality are more likely to be Josei (aimed at older women), some Shōjo may have considerable sexual content; a subgenre called Teens Love (by analogy to Boys Love) features erotic romance between heterosexual couples, with much the same narrative conventions (abusive boyfriends and angst; or, alternately, shiny romance, ecstatic lovemaking, and Happily Ever After). This stuff tends to snuggle up as close to the "Restricted" (18+) category as it can, and so isn't often licensed for translation.

6. Fan Works

  • Despite being a wonderful author otherwise, Kana37 over at fanfiction.net tends to make Inuyasha a soulless bastard who will just stand by when Naraku or Kikyo attacks Kagome, especially if it involves protecting Kikyo in some way, shape, or form. This is usually the premise for her Sess/Kag fics.

7. Tokimeki Memorial Girl's Side

  • Why Would Anyone Take Him Back?: Taro's ending has him be forgiven for his treatment to Daisy, and they begin a romantic relationship. Given that he is a narcissistic, self-absorbed, emotionally flip-floppy Bastard Boyfriend who torments her, most fans were rather unhappy about this. Fortunately, Daisy can rejects him.

8. Christopher Pike

  • Jerk Jock
    • Mitch in The Lost Mind. He's Jennifer's Bastard Boyfriend, as well as a chronic gambler who uses Jen to cover his debts with about as much compassion as a rock. When he comes to Jen's house to get the money he needs to pay off a loan shark, his next move is to strip completely naked and sprawl himself out on her bed, thinking some quick sex will help her relax after Crystal's death is made public. Jen is... less than pleased.

9. Persona 5: Joker

10. Runaway

11-12. Halloween (2018)

  • Bastard Boyfriend: For Allyson, as it's later shown he's an awful boyfriend towards her, cheating on her at a school dance and destroying her phone when she refuses to buy into his gas-lighting. Subverted in a beginning of a deleted scene when Cameron does apologizes for trashing her phone and attempts to make up for it by either advising Allyson to put in a bag of rice to repair it or buy her a new one. This subversion continues in the following film, where he's less of a Jerkass, and is brutally murdered trying to save Allyson.
  • Jerk with a Heart of Gold: In a deleted scene, despite appearing to be a Bastard Boyfriend who broke Allyson's cell phone at the dance, he does felt bad for his action after having a Jerkass Realization and tries to apologize to her and even make up for it by offering to buy her another one. Then when he is arrested, it is revealed he is the one who asked his friend Oscar to escort Allyson back home rather than Oscar escorting her at his own accord that the theatrical cut's impression it gave out. Then in Halloween Kills, he assists his father and Allyson in hunting down Michael, revealed to be the one who found and rescued an injured Hawkins and is shown deeply regretting what he did earlier.

13. Salvage the Bones

  • Bastard Boyfriend: Manny, to the extreme. He's emotionally and verbally abusive towards Esch, abandons her after getting her pregnant, and at one point, rapes her.

14. Venom: Let There Be Carnage

Carnage will ditch Shriek towards the end.
Maximum Carnage showed how much of a Bastard Boyfriend Carnage is to Shriek, so unless Adaptational Nice Guy is in order, it's likely that the guy's gonna pull You Have Outlived Your Usefulness for her, especially since she's a relatively minor villain up to here.
  • Yes and no, Carnage wants to ditch Shriek at the end. But Cletus is vehemently against it and fights with his symbiote over him trying to kill her.

16. NTR: Netsuzou Trap

  • Fujiwara has the title "Bastard Boyfriend" for a reason. Once the word got out that he abused Hotaru and even asked Yuma for sex after catching them together the first time in exchange for him not telling Takeda, the fandom wanted nothing more than to see his head on a spike. But once it became apparent that him asking Yuma for sex was a Secret Test of Character and that he was trying to get the girls to confess their wrongdoings to Takeda to spare the guy the pain of a broken heart, the hate eased up, and he became this.
  • Ensemble Dark Horse: Takeda is the most well liked of the main cast on /a/ due to him being the most sympathetic of the four, and was the subject of a lot of pity due to him staying loyal to Yuma while everyone but him is fooling around behind each others' backs. Him punching out Fujiwara when he sent out photos of Yuma and Hotaru having sex certainly helped.

17. Anime & Manga

18-20. Child's Play (2019)

  • Adaptational Jerkass: In the original, Karen is a devoted and struggling single mother who attempted to honestly buy a Good Guy doll from a second-hand merchant who then attempted to rape her. Here, she's somewhat rather neglectful to Andy as she doesn't really care about his opinion of her Bastard Boyfriend. She also essentially blackmails a co-worker to get the Buddi doll. She's also a lot lazier than her 1988 counterpart, both at work and as a mother.
  • Bastard Boyfriend: For Karen.
  • Hate Sink: Is more than just a Bastard Boyfriend who treats his girlfriend's son terribly, he's also cheating on his wife and kids with Karen.

    Attractive Abuser (12-50) 

1. It's Curtains

An in universe example of an abuser meant to be attractive

  • No Accounting for Taste: Natalie offers this explanation when Jezebel is disappointed by a poorly-written romance novel and asks why the protagonist would give a second thought to her Bastard Boyfriend.

2-3. Horimiya

  • Bastard Boyfriend: Invoked. Hori wants Miyamura to rough her up from time-to-time and gets excited when he hits or insults her, though he is generally uncomfortable about it.
  • Beware the Nice Ones: He is the nicest guy in the cast aside from Yanagi, to the extent that changing his speaking habits to be a tad ruder reduces him to tears. When pushed, however, he is capable of attacking other guys in retaliation, as Toru and Sengoku can attest (Toru needled him too much, Sengoku unfairly laid blame on Hori for student council documents that went missing). This gets Played for Laughs when his middle school bullies see him act out Hori's Bastard Boyfriend fantasies in public and they conclude that he is the more dangerous of the pair.

4-7. Stockholm Syndrome

  • Hetalia: Axis Powers:
    • There are a number of England/Japan fics that are all about pirate!England abducting/kidnapping an unwilling Japan at swordpoint as his "possession" or "treasure", being pretty much a domineering, possessive bastard to Japan's Ukefiied self (as quoted from one such fic: "Listen to me Kiku...you may struggle, you may rebel, you may try and fight back, but know this: I always get what I want in the end. And what I want, is you. I will break you down if I have to, love, so consider yourself warned."), and Japan of course falling in love with him nonetheless. There's even a pretty famous England/Japan MAD titled "Beautiful Dreamer" that's a visual version of this kind of fic, with more than one commenter pointing out its Unfortunate Implications.
    • This is a "foundation" for some Japan/Taiwan, Japan/China, Japan/Hong Kong, China/Taiwan, China/Hong Kong and Japan/Thailand Darker and Edgier fanwork, specially in the times of Imperial Japan or Imperial/Red China. The aggressor/Bastard Boyfriend controls, abuses (in many different ways, but preferably sexual), manipulates, etc. his "captive" of either gender, breaking them mentally and emotionally and making them their love/sex slaves. That is, when the "captive" isn't shown as being head-over-heels in love with the aggressor since the beginning — specially common in Japan/Taiwan works, where she's openly crushing on Imperial Japan, who is portrayed as a Relationship Sue Knight in Shining Armor for her. Japan/Korea works are most likely excepted since Japan is almost always shown as a monster to Korea right from the start, and considering the Japanese occupation from Korea... huh.
    • Also a possible interpretation of anything involving The Ottoman Empire/past!Turkey. Specially in regards to Egypt, young Greece (either as a child or a teenager), teen Romania or teen Hungary.
      • Especially creepy in some Turkey/Greece works where it's clear that Bastard-ized!Turkey's abuse of Greece was a Break the Cutie experience for Greece, leaving him bitter and emotionally damaged... and the authors try to justify Greece continuing to stay with Turkey in spite of this by showing him to be cold or dickish toward everyone else and Turkey being the only one he shows his sweet side to... even though this is the exact opposite of the way Greece behaves in canon, and makes him come across as having been emotionally brainwashed into Taking A Level In Jerkass and believing the person responsible for all his emotional griefs and ruin to be the one he can be the happiest with.
      • Iceland sometimes gets hit with this as well, specially in regards to him and Turkey. While he is younger than the standard nation, this doesn't mean he's a pre-pubescent boy (he's mentioned to look at least 17), and while Turkey is depicted as being quite older than he is, it doesn't necessarily mean Iceland would submit to him completely. (Curiously, even with this factor, Turkey/Iceland ends up one of the few Turkey pairings in which he's not depicted as a Bastard Boyfriend.)

8. Screw the Rules, I'm Beautiful!

Blackmail? It's okay because he's attractive! Threatening violence? It's okay because he's attractive! Just outright abducting her and dragging her down into his dungeon? It's okay because- wait, that really happens in these books?
Terrible Writing Advice, "Alpha Heroes"

9-11. Anime & Manga

  • Hetalia: Axis Powers:
    • England often goes from the snarky, yet also sensitive Tsundere he is in canon, to becoming a weepy, emotionally-needy mess who pines endlessly for [insert: America, France, Canada, etc]. and is more than once the target of [insert: Russia, France]'s violations/torture/etc. so [insert: America, France, Canada, etc]. can literally pull a Big Damn Heroes to save him and let the Hurt/Comfort start. Either that, or America is a Bastard Boyfriend to him and England becomes a weepy Love Martyr, while the artist expects everyone to believe that theirs is as completely healthy and cute relationship. When it comes to sex, England is also often made a virgin and awkward or even oblivious about sex, when in canon he's so much of a pervert that it puts France to shame. Also, some fanartists tend to draw him with extremely feminine hips...
    • As for Japan... let's just say that while he isn't exactly the most assertive or masculine-looking nation-tan in canon, there are several fics that surgically remove any hint of the 'subtle, but definitely present, touch of iron' behind his Japanese Politeness or the fact that he does know how to handle a katana (and successfully fought off the Hetalia Bloodbath 2010 kidnapper, that had been able to overpower Russia and General Winter, with a rolled-up poster) to turn him into a completely helpless Moeblob utterly unable to defend or stand up for himself. More than one of these fics even go so far as to have him be abused by America or claimed/possessed by bastardpirateboyfriend!England and either being a weepy Love Martyr or needing to be rescued by someone else. Mind you, this only happens to Japan about as often as he gets "semeified"/bastardized instead. On the other hand, if China is the seme in their relationship...

      The fact that canon does establish him as sexually inexperienced compared to Greece, who happens to be One Head Taller than him, doesn't help. The better Greece/Japan fanwriters recognize that, sexual disparities aside, the two actually have a pretty equal relationship in canon with Japan actually being technically older than Greece (if you consider that Greece represents only the Hellenic Republic due to his mother literally being Ancient Greece), and that even if Japan's Moe traits tend to be enhanced when he's with Greece, he'd still have a touch of Inscrutable Oriental or at least a 'far more likely to quietly hide his emotions than become a blushy, weepy mess over them' vibe to him; the poorer fanwriters...don't.
    • Lithuania is so often made into Russia's Stockholm Syndrome victim or Poland's weepy Distressed Dude that the phrase "I'm damaged goods, Feliks" (which comes from a very bad Poland/Liet fic where Lithuania was raped by Bastard Boyfriend!Russia and needed Relationship Sue!Poland's Healing Cock) has reached Memetic Mutation in some circles. The panel where he was shown in a maid dress and getting whipped by Russia certainly didn't help matters...

12. Boyfriend To Death

And they aren't the only ones to be happy about the news, as the notice about Erma's newborn baby also reached the local Home Guard, when Tasak Felna, Erma's younger brother, received the news via another EDF member, congratulating the new "uncle" for the baby of his famous sister, while also asking when he will join the EDF, something that replies with a no. After that, Tasak is cursing his luck, as he's still living under the shadow of his famous older sister, a Living Legend on the EDF. While walking furiously, he catchs the attention of a very ambitious EDF commander and that commander throws a giant speech about how Tasak's talent is wasted thanks to the EDF bureaucracy and he should work for him, so Tasak could reach a better position within the EDF. The name of that commander is Tavas Ikalik.

    Zero Context (15-50) 

1. Distaff Counterpart

2. Satellite Love Interest

  • Exploited: Charlie abuses Bob, knowing he will never object to his behavior.

3. Anime & Manga

4. Albedo Erma Felna EDF Volume Two Number Three

And they aren't the only ones to be happy about the news, as the notice about Erma's newborn baby also reached the local Home Guard, when Tasak Felna, Erma's younger brother, received the news via another EDF member, congratulating the new "uncle" for the baby of his famous sister, while also asking when he will join the EDF, something that replies with a no. After that, Tasak is cursing his luck, as he's still living under the shadow of his famous older sister, a Living Legend on the EDF. While walking furiously, he catchs the attention of a very ambitious EDF commander and that commander throws a giant speech about how Tasak's talent is wasted thanks to the EDF bureaucracy and he should work for him, so Tasak could reach a better position within the EDF. The name of that commander is Tavas Ikalik.

5. Finder Series

6. Jamaica Inn

  • Bastard Boyfriend: Jem is considered this by many readers, but considering that this novel was written in the twenties and set over a hundred years before this, that he, Francis and Joss accept Mary's defiance of gender roles is quite remarkable.

7-8. Geek Charming

9-10. For His Own Sake

  • Bastard Boyfriend: Naru often refers to Keitaro as such. The latter doesn't live up to her word however and instead...
  • Bespectacled Bastard Boyfriend: Indirectly discussed when Ritsuko was making a comment about Keitaro being a better man than the guy she fell for (Gendo Ikari).

11. Kitsune No Ken Fist Of The Fox Konoha Town Other Residents

12-13. Eurythmics

  • Bastard Boyfriend: In the video for "Would I Lie To You."
    • The scooter-riding Jerkass. He gets his in the end...
    • The stage-crasher who gets a Soft Glass KO from one of the backup singers.

14. Love Letter Lunacy

15. Literature

While Christian Gray is a textbook example of this trope, especially in the West, nothing on the entry makes that clear.

  • Fifty Shades of Grey: Ana and Kate are just supposed to be good friends, with Kate saying she loves her like a sister, but a lot of their interactions can come off as Les Yay, especially from Ana's end considering how often she points out Kate's physical attractiveness with similar terms she uses for Christian. It doesn't help that Kate cares a lot more about Ana's happiness and well-being than Christian seems to.

    Others (4-50) 

1. Crows

  • Bastard Boyfriend: Despite the events of the first film, Genji acts all standoffish and even cold towards Ruka in the sequel, ignoring her approaches and even telling her to shut up codly.

2. Pathfinder Rise Of The Runelords

3. For Better or for Worse

  • Elizabeth's dumping of her Bastard Boyfriend Eric deserves mention: For months, Eric had been cheating on Elizabeth with a woman named Tina who goes to their school and then emotionally manipulating her into feeling guilty for being at all suspicious. He then leaves for Hockey Practice, sans skates so Elizabeth runs them to him... and finds out he's not there and he's been bringing Tina to practice. She goes to Tina's apartment to confront them.. and it turns out Tina had no idea they were in a relationship, causing both to blow up at him:
    Eric: Tina, Elizabeth just calm down OK? You're accusing me of stuff and I need to get my head around it.
    Elizabeth: (while holding up an angry fist) Get your head around this!
    Tina: Elizabeth called one night looking for you... and you told me to say you weren't home! You had some stupid reason and like an idiot I believed you! You were cheating on her!
    Eric: What is this? Am I on trial here? Don't I get to say anything?
    Both Girls: Yes!! Plead Guilty!

4. Chad Vader

Not a lot of context, but clearly meant to be an antagonist

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    Domestic Abuser (33-50) 

1. Big Brother 13

  • Bastard Girlfriend: Downplayed. Rachel loves Brendon very much but there's no doubt that she sometimes treats him very unfairly or poorly. Many fans have complained that the relationship between Brendon and Rachel is extremely toxic. Brendon comes off as an Extreme Doormat for Rachel. He's willing to do anything and everything that she wants even if he doesn't agree with it. Some people have said that they which Brendon would grow a spine or backbone and stop letting Rachel walk all over him continuously. There are some fans who argue that Rachel does in fact emotionally and mentally abuse Brendon through her dominance and her overly emotional behavior and outbursts.

2. The Nostalgia Critic: Tamara's Characters

  • Bastard Girlfriend: Her psychoticness and Critic realizing that views always go up when he's in pain is what makes him request her to come work for his team.

3. Samus Is a Girl

  • "Damn, I Wish I Was Your Lover" By Sophia B. Hawkins. The song is about a friend who is stuck in an abusive relationship, and how she both has feelings for them and wishes she could help them, making it seem like it's about a guy with a Bastard Girlfriend.. until near the end where she mentions she had a dream about them where she "Sat on a mountainside with peace of mind, And I lay by the ocean making love to her with visions clear". Apparently the song is based on real events as well, as Sophia is bisexual and had a female friend this was happening to. Whether they ever got together is unknown.

4-5. Hatchetfield Other Residents

  • Extreme Doormat: Linda is an obvious Gold Digger who spends his money and treats him like hired help, and he does nothing but patiently put up with it even though you'd think as the wealthy doctor financing her lifestyle he'd have more say in the relationship. It turns out to be foreshadowing — Linda's alluring Bastard Girlfriend traits end up getting a whole cult full of (mostly) men to slave for her and (literally) kiss her feet in the same way.
  • Bastard Girlfriend: This doesn't happen in TGWDLM —she's shown being protective of Alice and Alice got herself killed by staying in Hatchetfield for an extra day without telling her dad— but in Watcher World, Bill's judgement of her as a suitable paramour for his daughter amounts to this. He says that she's a bad influence on Alice and doesn't treat her well, for someone meant to be a significant other, and they don't seem to have a future in mind. Case in point: Bill schedules a trip weeks in advance because he wants to bond with his daughter before she goes to college, and Deb spontaneously hosts a Wild Teen Party, hinting to Alice that if she doesn't come, Zigs may be more interesting. This sends Alice into a panicked frenzy; to add insult to injury, Deb posts pictures on her Instagram of hooking up with Zigs, all the while knowing why Alice couldn't make it. For this reason, once she and Bill snap out of Blinky's brainwashing, Alice doesn't admit that Bill was right, but checks Instagram once to follow him and then tosses her phone into the backseat, showing that she's letting go of Deb's power over her.

6. Roseanne & The Conners

  • Bastard Girlfriend: During the early stages of her and David's romantic relationship, Darlene could be emotionally controlling and even downright cruel to him. After they break-up, she eventually realizes how much of a jerk she was and that she wants to be with him.

7. 3rd Rock from the Sun

  • Bastard Girlfriend: She's rather possessive and demanding of Tommy when she's not mocking him.

8. Teen Idol

  • Deconstruction: Jen thinks that her talent is to keep the peace, as the Neutral Good. It doesn't matter that Kurt is a Jerk Jock, Cara is the Butt-Monkey, and Trina is a Bastard Girlfriend to Scott; she has to be the "mayonnaise" of the group and not make waves. Luke points out this is really stupid for a lot of reasons: when Jen is trying to please everyone, she ignores real problems and injustices going on at the school that she can fix, and she admits that it's exhausting living her life of trying to mediate between the different cliques and outsiders. He says that with her influence, she can actually make the school better, by rescuing Betty Ann the doll from Kurt, helping out Cara with her bullying, and refusing to tolerate her best friend's ways. Even though Jen thinks that taking Luke's advice makes her life worse — Trina refuses to speak to her and sabotages her during choir rehearsal for the crime of going to the Spring Fling with Luke — she comes to admit that she's tired of trying to please everyone and it's nice to put a smile on Mrs. Mulvaney's face when she sees Betty Ann back in her rightful spot. What's more, Jen has to admit that she ought to have helped out Cara sooner rather than let the poor girl suffer for years on end.

9. Sinister Tango Music

10. Good Luck Girl!

  • Bastard Girlfriend: Invoked. The extreme masochist Momo'o finds her hot because her punches and kicks cause him so much pain. Although Ranmaru isn't into Momo's S&M fetish, she abuses him to bring out his Canis Major form in battle.

11. Please Kill Me if It Satisfies You

12. The Big Bang Theory S 3 E 12 The Psychic Vortex

13. Oh Shit, There's Fanfiction of Us!?

  • Bastard Girlfriend: Raven. She's cheated on Leon with multiple people, and is implied to coerce him into sex.

14. Demon Candy: Parallel

  • Too Kinky to Torture: Caley, being a fallen angel, has trouble differentiating between pleasure and pain, leading to this trope.
    • This was actually shown to be extremely dangerous for her, since she wouldn't know when enough is enough and that Lillith isn't quite as caring as Victoria, so inverted trope.

15. Dude, Where's My Car?

  • Bastard Girlfriend: Christie Boner has shades of this with Tommy. First it's implied she cheated on him the night before the film's events. Then, when Tommy gets swallowed alive by the Alien Giantess she seems almost glad about it. Then when he manages to survive the living hell that must have been that woman's stomach, she doesn't even give him a hand up, and breaks up with him on the spot.

16. The Universal Genre Savvy Guide

  • If I'm stuck in a situation in which all of my love interests are sadistic arseholes, I will speak my mind when they get out of control instead of keeping my mouth shut, and find some way to escape my situation even if it kills me. Besides, they don't seem to care about me, so it would just make sense to take a "burden" off of their shoulders.
    • Above all else, do not fall in love with them. I'll be more likely to justify and excuse their less savory actions towards me if I do. I'll try to keep as many loving influences around me as possible too, in order to remind myself what kind of relationships I should actually potentially want.

17. Living Doll Collector

18. The Big Bang Theory S 3 E 12 The Psychic Vortex

  • Bastard Girlfriend: While Leonard says (but not actually thinking so) that he may have been out-of-line when dismissing psychics, Penny refuses to admit that she disrespects Leonard's beliefs as well.

19. High School D×D

  • It's not usually noticeable since she usually wears her hair in a ponytail, but when Akeno appeared for her date with Issei, her hair is down. Aside from bangs and hair color, she looks a bit like Raynare. Also has a bit of Fridge Horror due to her fear of revealing herself as a Fallen Angel to Issei and him hating her for being one.

20. Video Games

  • Even the Grand Theft Auto series is prone to this every once in a while.
    • Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas: Surprisingly enough, Catalina of all characters has even gotten this by the fans of the game who actually like her. They often ignore the fact that she's a psychopathic murderer who only likes to kill and rob because it amuses her by pointing out how lovely they think she looks, and when they do acknowledge it, they try to pass it off as her having a bad childhood. Sure her mentioning a stepdaughter being poorly fed by her stepfather while her stepbrother is giving a much healthier feast might give away a hint, but it doesn't prove that this has actually happened to Catalina herself, since her childhood is never explained in either of her appearances, and it still doesn't excuse her treatment of CJ throughout her missions in the storyline.

21-22. My Little Pony Friendship Is Magic Episodes

  • "The Break-Up Breakdown"
    • Someone who eagerly snaps at his partner over something they overheard the partner saying whilst eavesdropping and then won't even let the partner say what they had to say isn't an emotionally manipulative asshole spouse: they only got japed by a silly misunderstanding! Keep this in mind the next time you're getting snapped at for no reason by the doofus you met only a few months ago.
  • Dragon Dropped:
    • You're in the wrong if you decide to stop associating with the manipulative succubus who feeds into the feelings she knows you have for her to entice you into doing her job for her, all the while treating you like an indentured servant at best and completely disregarding said feelings.

23. Common Colors

24. Voices

  • Not very fond of Raynare, given that Claude had a nasty and abusive relationship with his last girlfriend, Catalina. However, while he didn't say this himself, it is implied that Claude finds the fallen angel a joke compared to what Catalina is capable of.

25. Hatchetfield Main Residents

  • Bastard Girlfriend: The "Abusively Sexy Lady" variant. Was this to Gerald (and is now his Bastard Wife), and apparently continued to be this to at least two other men, and is now this for a whole (mostly male) Apocalypse Cult of fanatical worshipers who literally kiss her feet. Lauren Lopez pulls it off really well. (Note that her "harem" of male cultists makes her cult a mortal Gender Flip of Uncle Wiley and his bevy of female Sniggles in the Black and White.)

26. Afro Samurai

27. No Guy Wants an Amazon

28. Dark Places

29. Anime & Manga

30. Nightelf 37

31. Parody Product Placement

  • The most notable case of Continuity Nod about the above is Muñeca System, an inflated sex doll that can do a lot of things apart of being just a sex doll which Infomercial became El Bananero's first success. Well, with the time, Muñeca System became his girlfriend (a Yandere one, by the way) and appeared in a lot of videos and even has a dedicated Halloween Episode as the Bastard Girlfriend.

32. Sinister Tango Music

33. Kuttsukiboshi

  • Bastard Girlfriend: Very much so in the first half of the second OVA, what with her forcing herself on Kiiko and then not telling her why she did what she did with her brother.

    Attractive Abuser (11-50) 

1. Wedding Crashers

  • Bastard Girlfriend: Gloria has the perfect way of getting her man: first scare the shit out of him by acting crazy, then tie him up against his will and rape him. Of course he eventually learns to like it, and their relationship seamlessly develops into normal roleplaying.

2. Ben-To

  • Bastard Girlfriend:
    • In-Universe, one of Satou's classmates thinks she's this... as long as Satou's the one getting abused.
    • Despite it not being true, at the end of the episode, Satou ruminates "There really... might be some appeal to this.".

3. Armor Piercing Slap

4. Anime & Manga

14. Senran Kagura: Nintendo 3DS

5. The Jerk Index

6. This Index Is a Bitch

7. Doctor Who – Villains

  • Bastard Girlfriend: Downplayed, but her relationship with The Doctor is more or less like this, in contrast to Rose's own relationship that is less direct and based on trust, Cassandra is much more straightforward and aggressive, telling The Doctor what to do. Cassandra herself more or less describes her new self as this. Weak and vulgar, but attractive and well endowed. Strangely, The Doctor himself doesn't seems to mind the change of personality that much and Cassandra herself can't help kissing him when she gets the chance after being dumped into a teenage body full of hormones, despite the fact that she is planning to kill him later on. You could see it as what remains of Rose's persona being love-struck with The Doctor while Cassandra herself being more interested in killing him violently.
  • Villain No Longer Idle: She was suspicious about the cat-nuns but couldn't do anything about it because of her condition. Once she snatches the body of Rose, this plays in full effect. The results vary: she manages to steal Rose's body, significantly extending her lifespan, and manages to capture The Doctor as well, having a good plan to blackmail the cat-nuns into giving her a fortune too. However, the cat-nuns aren't intimidated that easily and her plot fails. She may have succeeded if she had the manpower she had back in The End Of The World, but since she is now a young and vulgar chav, well...

8. Women Are Delicate

  • Bastard Girlfriend: The female in the relationship is the abuser, and thus, not at all delicate. Even something passive-aggressive is still hurtful.

9. Draco in Leather Pants

10. Romance Novel Tropes

  • Romanticized Abuse: Definitely not universal (although it's a common misconception about the genre); however, there are some works where the hero (or more rarely the heroine) will treat their love interest rather poorly, yet their behavior is portrayed as romantic or glossed over. In some older works, it can be partly a result of Values Dissonance.

11. Webcomics

     Zero Context (5-50) 
1-2. Supermarioglitchy4's Super Mario 64 Bloopers - Other Characters

The only female Toad and Toad's love interest in "Retarded64: The Toad, the Fat and the Ugly". Unfortunately for Toad, she's very, very, VERY high-maintenance.

3. Light Feminine and Dark Feminine

4. The Nostalgia Chick 2009 Episodes

  • As well as being creepy (and really quite hot), the Critic's "I am the master and you are the subordinate." Mostly because you know that's total bullshit.

5. Futurama

Other Characters Click to Expand 

6. Beware The Nice Ones Video Games

Patiently awaiting the release of Paper Luigi and the Marvelous Compass.
Yindee Just stoic wisdom. from New England Since: Jul, 2016
kundoo from the land of Mordor where the shadows lie Since: Sep, 2010 Relationship Status: What is this thing you call love?
#118: Sep 5th 2022 at 10:44:23 PM

Less then 100 wicks left.

You didn't see anything.
MatthewLMayfield What, me worry? from wherever he damn well pleases (Experienced, Not Yet Jaded)
What, me worry?
#119: Sep 5th 2022 at 11:10:41 PM

Wicks are cleared now, it looks like

GastonRabbit Sounds good on paper (he/him) from Robinson, Illinois, USA (General of TV Troops) Relationship Status: I'm just a poor boy, nobody loves me
Sounds good on paper (he/him)
#120: Sep 5th 2022 at 11:18:51 PM

All right, locking up.

Patiently awaiting the release of Paper Luigi and the Marvelous Compass.
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Trope Repair Shop: Bastard merge name
16th Feb '22 2:38:23 AM

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Consensus was to merge Bastard Boyfriend, Bastard Girlfriend, and Bespectacled Bastard Boyfriend into one trope and give the new trope a new name. What should the new name be?

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