Who offered to do "this or that."
When speaking of "this,"
She meant more than a kiss,
So imagine her meaning of "that!"
This is when sexual intercourse and other sexual activities are referred to by code words. This type of euphemism is usually used by adults, especially when near children or in a work targeting children, though they may also use sexual euphemisms when discussing the topic with a friend or family member. Many of these euphemisms come from common language and, in certain cases, can be totally innocent. As such, this may overlap with Innocent Innuendo if it turns out the "euphemism" was literal.
These euphemisms can be part of a character's humor or their schtick, and depending on the specific euphemism, it could establish their character as a lewd pervert, someone who's comfortable with their sexuality, or someone who has enough wit to talk about these things in polite society.
Some common euphemisms for sex include: one thing, this and that, making love, the nasty, doing the do, getting lucky, getting laid, doing the horizontal tango, dancing, woohooing, making whoopee, and literally hundreds more. Some common euphemisms for other sexual activities include: choking the chicken, crying bald man, beating the meat, strangling the cyclops, menage a moi, and countless others.
This is a supertrope to Get Thee to a Nunnery, which is when the sexual euphemism is no longer understood as such, though it used to be. This may overlap with Intercourse with You, which is a song about sex with or without euphemisms; Getting Crap Past the Radar, when euphemisms are used to include otherwise inappropriate talk; and Double Entendre, when an innocent phrase has a double meaning related to sex. This is a sister trope to Unusual Euphemism, which is when a character makes up a euphemism for sex because they're made uncomfortable by the subject. Contrast Is That What They're Calling It Now? for when something is not intended as a euphemism for sex but a character interprets it as one, which overlaps with this, when a term turns into this.
- Washuu announces to the world at large that Ryoko wants to do "this and that" with Tenchi in Tenchi Muyo!. In another episode, Ayeka worries about Ryoko "doing this and doing that" with Tenchi.
- The student council in Mai-HiME briefly discusses a curfew-breaking female student who may have been doing "this or that" with a boy in one episode; one of the council members is apparently unfamiliar with the usage and takes a while to piece together just what the others are talking about.
- In Mai-Otome, a schoolgirl envisioning the lascivious things an older girl could order a classmate to do squeals about "this or that".
- In Nagasarete Airantou, after months of living with Suzu, Ikuto was finally asked by Yukino's mother if he had done "this and that" with her to which Ikuto responds with a massive Nosebleed and refusal of doing said acts.
- In episode 8 of the new TV version of Ah! My Goddess, Urd (on a videotaped "instruction guide for the lovelorn") promises to explain how to do "this and that" with a girl. In episode 12, Sayoko accuses Mara of doing "this and that" to her on waking up next to her.
- Best Student Council uses a variant, in the Unusual Euphemism paya-paya, which sounds just lascivious enough almost no one actually understands what it means.
- In Nodame Cantabile, Stresemann offers to take the naive titular character to a hotel, where he can show her 'this and that'. When she asks what 'this and that' is, he replies 'Something you probably don't know about yet, Nodame-chan.' Chiaki, still within earshot, gets it and intervenes before Nodame can agree.
- In the Mermaid Melody Pichi Pichi Pitch manga, Lucia is giving one of several love confessions gone wrong, and Kaito jokes about "this and that", causing Lucia to yell at him while he laughs it off. It's a major turning point in the relationship, where Lucia is able to finally blink, look at him and start laughing too, where before she'd continue to take Kaito's perverted jokes personally.
- Elsewhere in the series, it's Covert Pervert Hanon's favourite saying when she wants to tease Lucia about her relationship.
- In FLCL, Naota's father uses Fooly Cooly (the title/Arc Words of the series) as an Unusual Euphemism for an ill-defined perverted sexual activity.
- In InuYasha, when Miroku and Sango go off alone to investigate a mountain, Shippo expresses concerns over "this and that".
- In the manga version of Prétear, Yayoi muses about "doing this and that" after Himeno says that she can't sleep because the Leafe Knights stay in her room at night to guard her. Himeno tells her they don't; what really happens is actually far less romantic...
- In Midori Days, Midori dreams about being Seiji's wife and ends it with "Then we'd do this and that"...
- FAKE has Dee imagining what he and Ryo could do together on Christmas eve. "We could have done this... and this... and maybe some of that..."
- Tsuyuri from Doujin Work suggests that Najimi and Houshi might have done "this and that... and this ... and maybe that" in a love hotel, only to watch Justice squirm in despair.
- A lot of "this" and a lot of "that" are exactly what Aizen Teppa from Grenadier tries to get. He's apparently quite successful too (Episodes 11 and 12 show that he's quite popular among the ladies of the town)...except when it comes to his good friend, Rushuna.
- Mutsumi asks if Naru and Keitaro are going to do "This and That" during Volume 10 of the Love Hina manga.
- In the Descendants of Darkness manga, Watari convinces Tsuzuki to try one of his prototype gender-changing potions by telling him that if he were female, he could do this and that and it'd all be okay.
- Gintama has ninja Ayame Sarutobi (Sa-chan) frequently referring to "this-and-that" in her deluded fantasies over her 'relationship' with Gintoki, and the term's also used by several other characters.
- Junjou Romantica has Usagi-san saying "this and that" when talking about what he and Misaki get up to when they're together.
- Used in the second One Piece movie, where the mooks that are about to kidnap Nami so the Big Bad can forcibly marry her say out loud that they hope they'll be able to watch their boss do "this" and "that" to her. The horrified looks on the crew's faces when they hear them are priceless.
- Later, Sanji hoped to have this with Nami, on a consensual basis of course, after he would have rescued her.
- When Sato of Welcome to the N.H.K. finds a hentai doujinshi in a shop, Yamazaki cheers "What do you think? Isn't it great seeing your favorite girls doing this and that?"
- Steel Angel Kurumi has the perverted general, who asks confidentially if Saki can be ordered to do 'this and that'.
- During their first training in the Shuuren no Mon, Dorothy realizes that Ginta and Snow are paired together and could be doing 'This and that'. She later gets extremely angry when she finds out that their meeting was a kiss. It doesn't help viewers when the next image (after Dorothy gets angry at the pairings) is of Snow being embarrassed and Ginta asking her to show him again. He's fascinated by her summoning of Yuki-chan, her snowman guardian).
- In Fruits Basket, Kyo is engaged in a martial arts battle with his cousin Hatsuharu's violent Split Personality, "Black Haru", who threatens to do "some of this, and some of that" to Tohru if Kyo loses. This succeeds in making Kyo angry enough to have more of an incentive to fight back, though whether Black Haru actually meant what he said is debatable.
- Played with/subverted in Fairy Tail. During the Lullaby Arc Lucy is told by Erza to go find Natsu and Gray. She gets lost and frustrated, and decides to stop looking... then Happy looks shocked and says that she must be brave, to defy Erza. He then wonders what will happen when Erza does "this and that" to Lucy, and Lucy freaks out, saying "What is she going to do to me!!??" It's implied, however, that the threat was not sexual in nature, and was more of a 'she'll beat you up, horribly' deal. It never is revealed what Erza really would have done, though...
- In Azumanga Daioh, Nyamo, of all people, gets blitzed and gives a lecture on "this and that" to the girls, with reactions ranging from horrified to amazed to downright intrigued. And, the morning after, when Chiyo innocently comes to ask her about the things she didn't understand about said lecture... Let's just say it's priceless. And the fact that the speech is muted while relaxing music plays in the background when they talk about these things only makes it funnier.
- In The Pet Girl of Sakurasou, Sorata assumes Jin and Misaki must be doing this when he, Mashiro, and Nanami arrive back at Sakura Hall at the end of episode 14. Turns out they aren't, and a distraught Misaki greets them by the front door, wearing only a towel.
- Towards the end of Zetsuen no Tempest, Yoshino off-handedly mentions he did this and that with Aika, which prompts Mahiro to demand an explanation. However we never really find out if Yoshino actually did make love to Aika, or if he was just saying that to get a rise out of Mahiro.
- In Yamada-kun and the Seven Witches, talking about sex is alright (in moderate doses, of course - it is a shonen series), but saying the word itself is for some reason no-go, so the characters always talk about "this and that" or "that stuff". The only exception is when Takuma gives Yamada and Shiraishi the very direct order "have sex" for comic surprise effect.
- In the first episode of Massugu ni Ikou, Mametarou thinks his owner and her boyfriend are going to do "this and that". He freaks out and decides he needs to protect Iku. It turns out they're just going on a first date.
- Shimoneta is all about this. In a boring world where the concept of dirty jokes doesn't exist, this trope applies to this dystopic version of Japan when people has to talk about sex but they can't, first because most of society has been controlled by the govenment so if they say censored words or actions is equal to going to jail, as well teenagers and young people are ignorant of sexual education, so everyone talks about sex in euphemisms.
- The Testament of Sister New Devil: One of the major plot points of the series is that of the Master-Servant Pact, a magical contract between two (or more) people that makes one bound to obey and serve the other. Violating the pact, or even thinking about violating it, causes the spell to activate and punish the servant. The nature of the punishment can vary, but almost all versions shown in this series cause the servant to go into overpowering sexual desire. Thus, the protagonists always use the term "relief" to mean sexual contact (though not specifically intercourse).
- In Next Men, the superhumans are also secluded from society when the story starts. They were taught the word for sex was "dancing" — and that it was a very intimate thing between loved ones only — so it causes them some culture shock when people casually make dates to go out dancing.
- In The Prayer Warriors, the villains in "Battle With the Witches" seemingly refer to sex as "satanic rituals." The heroes have terms of their own, as seen in this description of Draco and Ebony having sex.
Narration: Draco and Ebony removed skin from an onion. After that, they put Draco`s noodles into Ebony`s bowl, and Draco then planted some seeds into Ebony`s pot, and then they laid on their bed for the rest the night. They were very tired from all that hard work.
- Fever Dreams: when Light tells L "I like it when you investigate me."
- From Legally Damned: "They hopped onto the squishy bed as Ryuk unscrewed the lightbulb."
- From the Crack Fic The Black Bunny:
George: Draco, I wanna release my basilisk into your chamber of secrets.
- From The Dark Lord's Protector:
While Bella was the most affected, the brothers always to advantage and made lingering touches, and innuendoes such, "my meatballs are bigger then this and tastier" courtesy of Rabastan and "My breadstick is longer and thicker" courtesy of Rodolphus.
What sent Bella over this time was when her lovers dipped both of their breadsticks in her pasta, saying "We wanted to taste your sauce."
- From Harry Potter and the Something Something:
Snape: Not too long after we graduated from Hogwarts, I realized what a fool I'd been in letting Lily leave me on such horrible terms. I managed to seek her out before she and James went into hiding, and I convinced her to forgive me.
Snape: Then she forgave me again the next morning.
- In A Necessary Gift Sirius comments that he hopes to get lucky at a Beltane ceremony. Remus objects to this remark because a ten-year-old alternate-universe Harry (who's pretending to be Sirius' nonexistent son Orion) is standing right there.
Sirius: Orion's old enough to know about the quills and the inkpots, Remus.
- In Dearest Hermione Sirius tries to give Harry The Talk, due to his doubts that the Dursleys would ever have discussed "the flowers and the fairies."
- In The Greengrass Contract Angelina Johnson offers to teach Harry about "kissing and some other stuff."
Harry: It's okay, Angelina - I know all about parking the hot rod in the garage.
- In Breakfast Harry's son Jamie insists on dressing up as a cereal box for Halloween, with Ginny as a bottle of milk and Harry as the bowl and spoon.
Ginny: You know, if we tire him out with trick-or-treating, he'll go to bed sooner. We could always leave that bowl of candy on the front porch and you could dip your spoon into my milk after we put him to bed.
Harry: I'm kind of hungry. I think I'd want two bowls of cereal tonight.
Ginny: I think I have enough milk for three bowls at least.
- One of the villains in The Private Diary of Elizabeth Quatermain speaks of his upcoming marriage as being the means to an end, saying that "I just have to take the blush off your English rose" in order to achieve it. As he's talking to the man who is genuinely in love with the bride, this is quite possibly the worst pressing of a Berserk Button in the entire series.
- Advice and Trust: A bunch of them:
- Asuka tells Shinji that he is not getting an "Israfel Special" with Rei and her (meaning a threesome). Quickly the "Israfel Special" expression becomes a Running Gag.
- Later in chapter 5 Shinji considers that he and Asuka are pretty vocal when "entangling their AT-Fields".
- During that scene, Asuka tells him "Now get your 'Positron Rifle' into 'firing position', quickly." as an euphemism for sex.
- Pokémon Reset Bloodlines and its Expanded Universe has people reference one night stands that lead to pregnancy as having 'daycared'.
- In Osomatsu-san fanfic, Some fans like to have Jyuushimatsu use "Seicross" as a euphemism for sex thanks to his introduction in episode 1.
- One piece of Resident Evil 4 fanart has Ashley propositioning Leon using phrases like "I want you to plant every seed in your apple bag into my fertile valley" and "be my Major General Robert Ross, and burn my White House down".
- In the RWBY fic Pyrrha(c) victory, Yang jokes that Pyrrha and Jaune's combat training sessions are really sexual euphemisms.
- Nora ran betting rings in RWBY: Reckoning based on when Darrel and Yang would progress through a relationship, with the last one being when the two would "boop".
- Empath: The Luckiest Smurf has "getting under one's hat" as a Smurf euphemism for sex.
- A Very Titans Christmas uses the expression "The deed of a thousand euphemisms".
- In The Rival Prefects Trilogy, after Myrtle sees Thomas naked, she says he has a much bigger smile than the other prefects. Malcolm also brings up the size of Thomas' ego.
- Part of a Running Gag in Idiocracy is that Joe never catches on to Rita's euphemism.
- Demolition Man. While talking with Officer Huxley about sex, John Spartan calls it "boning", the "wild mambo" and the "hunka chunka".
- The Mask. When the Mask meets Tina Carlyle in the park, he tries to seduce her by saying (in an outrageous French accent) "I will spread your pate" and "I will dip my ladle in your vichyssoise".
- In Captain America: The First Avenger, Cap misinterprets Howard Stark's question to Peggy Carter for late-night fondue as one of these. Howard clarifies later:
Howard: Agent Carter, if we're not in too much of a hurry I thought we could stop off in Lucerne for a late night fondue.
- Howard: It's just cheese and bread, my friend.
- A slightly different example were Jerry and Elaine talk about their relationship, making references to "this," with a forward-and-backward hand motion, implying a conversational, friendly relationship, and "that," with a hand motion towards Jerry's bedroom, implying a sexual relationship. Elaine decides at the end that she wants, "this," "that," and "the other" (love).
- Then there's "yada yada yada," which George's girlfriend uses to cover up all manner of things when telling stories, which it turns out includes sex.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer
Willow: What does it mean when a girl wants to... You know.
- In a bid to make up with Oz, Willow has him over to watch videos. He finds her in the darkened lounge wearing a slinky red dress, Barry White playing in the background and a bottle of lemonade in an ice bucket, which she'd set up in preparation of wanting to "do that thing." The whole setup shows Willow isn't quite as mature as she's trying to be, so Oz turns down the offer until Willow is truly ready.
- Averted in a later episode which takes place after Willow has lost her virginity.
Xander: If you're doin' it, I think you should be able to say it.
Willow: Make love.
- In Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., Agent Ward confesses to Agent Coulson that he 'did that' with Agent May. Coulson, who knew this already, states matter-of-factly, that she preferred to simply call it sex.
- The "Dirty Hungarian Phrasebook" sketch from Monty Python's Flying Circus has this gem:
"Do you want to come back to my place, bouncy-bouncy?"
- The Dating Game popularized "making whoopee".
- Yes, Minister: In "Party Games", Hacker hears about a sexual scandal involving one of his cabinet colleagues, and remarks "To look at him, you wouldn't think he had the time for all this..." before trying to find a suitable euphemism. Sir Humphrey suggests "horizontal jogging".
- This and That by Michael Penn
- "Ball of Kirriemuir" uses this a couple times while otherwise using extremely graphic language.
The village idiot he was there,
Up to this and that,
Amusing himself by abusing himself,
And catching it in his hat.
- Maid RPG always refers to sex as variations on terms of vagueness throughout the rulebooks. For example, from a replay:
GM: Ahhh. I see how it is. That's pretty handy. "Doing That Thing"! Heheheh. Vampires do vampiric activities, humans do [censored] activities. OK! OK!
- The musical A Chorus Line features a song titled "Dance: Ten, Looks: Three" but more commonly known as "Tits and Ass". Frequently, high school performing-arts programs decide they want to perform this musical, and are forced to change the lyrics to placate the parents' groups. What do they usually change the lyrics to, so as to best match the rhythm and sound of the original words? "This and That." (Which, considering what that's taken to mean, implies that the Bowdlerized lyrics got even racier.)
- Othello: Iago tells Brabantio, Senator of Venice, that "your daughter (Desdemona) and the Moor (Othello) are now making the beast with two backs."
- In Pibgorn, Pibgorn is explaining to a fellow fairy that she is friends with a succubus. When asked what a succubus does, she replies "Oh, this and that, this and that."
- In RPG/sim hybrid Azure Dreams (PSX version), after teenage-hero Koh finally gets a Relationship Upgrade by turning Girl Next Door, Bokkuko Tsundere Nico, into a Victorious Childhood Friend as part of his personal harem, she will fondly reminisce to him how very touchy-feely he already was with her even when they were still young children (I remember that even when you were a little kid, you would get me and we would do this and do that). Koh shamelessly agrees with a straight face (Yes, I did this and that).
- CLANNAD: Kyou is talking to Tomoya about giving a love letter from the soccer captain to Ryou: "If she becomes his girlfriend and since you're a guy, you wouldn't be able to do this and that to her."
- The H-Game of Da Capo has summaries of the individual scenes in the game. For the H scenes, the summary is sometimes pretty straightforward — "We had sex" — but other times it's rather more coy, "We did this and that".
- Used in Grandia to Get Crap Past The Radar. For example, when a woman, whose sister has been kidnapped by pirates, worries that they might be "making her do this and that".
- Little Busters!, when Riki and Kurugaya are sneaking into the school at night to spend time together, Kurugaya sighs at him for not thinking about how they'd get in without setting off the alarms:
Kurugaya: If you want to take a girl into the school late at night and do this and that with her, you should work out your plans better.Riki: Well, I wasn't really going to do this and that with you, but I'll be careful...
- Fallout 3:
- The game has no issues with saying "Fuck", but there's a character in Megaton who's job is to "comfort" her customers." She doesn't call herself a hooker, callgirl, or any other term.. She doesn't say that her job is having sex with the bar's customers, but that's exactly what she does.
- In Rivet City, if the player tells Father Clifford that Diego and Angela had sex, Angela says:
Someone told Father Clifford that Diego and I were...you know.
- The Sims: Sex is referred to only as "Woo Hoo!"
- In the 1970s in the UK, a female journalist who had been in a bedroom with a former Ugandan cabinet minister during a dinner party claimed they had been "discussing Uganda". The satirical magazine Private Eye used "discussing Uganda" or "Ugandan relations" as this for years afterwards.
- South Carolina governor Mark Sanford's initial explanation for his disappearance (to visit his mistress in Argentina) was that he had been "hiking the Appalachian Trail", and some commentators explicitly referenced the "discussing Uganda" incident as a comparison, as an inadvertent example of this trope.