The homosexual version (and logical conclusion) of I'm a Man; I Can't Help It, All Men Are Perverts, and A Man Is Always Eager. If all men constantly want sex, then men who are attracted to other men obviously must be constantly having sex. After all, there's no women around to say no, so what's stopping them, right?
This stereotype is in fact the reason why gay people are called "gay." The word changed meanings over the years from "bright and showy," to "carefree and full of mirth," to "addicted to pleasures" and eventually to "sexually promiscuous." Sometime in the early 20th century, the word narrowed to specifically refer to homosexual men due to belief in the stereotype.
This trope has some interesting historical basis, in that many gay and lesbian writers post-Stonewall (and a few queer theory writers more recently) advocated emphasizing difference from heterosexual and normative life. This difference included denigrating marriage and monogamy, thus strengthening the link between homosexuality and promiscuity in the eyes of those who viewed all homosexuals as sick sexual deviants.
Lesbians have their own version of this trope; lesbians are stereotyped as women stepping in the roles of men, which includes emulating the male sexual appetite. This is part of the basis behind the Lesbian Vampire trope, who is a woman that preys on other women and "transforms" them into creatures like her.
How this trope is treated in the eye of the writer (or the reader for that matter) will depend on how they view sexuality itself, whether they believe that frequent sex when detached from romantic relationships is a matter of morality, and what they believe normative sexuality should be.
The LGBT news media tend to go to the opposite extreme. A common trope in those media is that gay men are unrealistically picky in their sexual or romantic choices.
- Gilbert in Kaze to Ki no Uta. Although this may be less to do with being gay and more to do with him having some serious unresolved issues.
- Possibly both of the characters from Kuso Miso Technique but certainly Abe, who sits outside the public toilets, asking good-looking men if they "want to do it" and then shows them his penis.
- Prince Charming: Mostly Kagami, but Asahina is tempted to invoke this trope.
- Yandere Kanojo: Shuuei Mori. In his introductory chapter, the first thing he says to every guy he meets is "Hey, wanna go to a hotel later?".
- Murciélago has the protagonist Kuroko whose biggest priority always seems to be getting a pretty lady to sleep with her.
- Deconstructed in Bokura no Hentai. Tamura is the most hormonal of the major characters by far. Tamura lost his virginity in middle school to his abusive, straight crush. Prior to that he had Erotic Dreams where he was a nymphomanic woman and he believe these were visions of a past life, though they're really related to his repressed memories of being molested when he was younger. After breaking ties with his crush, he began hanging around older men in drag and tried to have sex with at least two different characters (and actually does with Marika to an extent). His promiscuous behavior has less to do with him being gay and more to do with his issues over his past abuse.
- Kämpfer: Sakura is a lesbian with a tremendous crush on the main character in his female form. Later, it turns out that she has a Split Personality which gets off on sexually brainwashing women, to the point that she has her own harem of slaves and is shown in bed (implied to be post-coitus) with them multiple times. Notably is that she is the only female character shown to be sexually-active at all, and that the other female leads all prefer Senou in his male form.
- Unfortunately, this trope is played completely straight in Associated Student Bodies, a furry comic about a young lion who discovers his homosexuality while living in a nearly all-gay dorm at college. While the story is presented, and usually marketed, as a more or less "realistic" story about gay issues, pretty much all the gay characters are presented as feverishly sex-obsessed, having polyamorous relationships with each other and just generally banging each other at every conceivable opportunity. The trope reaches its apex in issue 5, where it is revealed that the gays at Daniel's college organize a huge orgy every New Year's Eve at his dorm.
- Chelsea Boys plays it straight with some characters, and averts it with others. The main character's best friend pretty much says that this trope outright, and that the main guy is going against all common gay logic in wanting to be monogamous.
- Subverted in the Furry Comic Circles, unlike the other dozen or so gay furry comics that have devolved into this. Every couple ends up in an exclusive relationship with no cheating. The only characters who were previously promiscuous were Paulie, Arthur, Ken, and John.
- In the Furry Comic Tank Vixens seemingly every girl in the 101st Tank Crushers is sleeping with all the others save Firen and Sonya.
- Slash Fic often features one promiscuous gay, and one who is in the closet, and then proceed to use the "Promiscuous man is changed by his true love for chaste woman" plot, but with two male protagonists.
- Jim Bond (Get it?) in the Glee fanfiction series, Spah Verse.
- Jim Moriarty in the Sherlock fanfic Baker School Blitz. Justified by Jim's medically-diagnosed nymphomania.
- Sacha Baron Cohen's character Brüno is pretty much every negative gay stereotype rolled into one person. Cohen apparently considered it homophobic to find this caricature unappealing, even though most real life gay people wouldn't want to be around a guy like Bruno, either.
- Wallace Wells, Scott Pilgrim's cool gay roommate, is characterized with this trope, even going so far as to hang a lampshade it when chastising Scott for infidelity.
Scott: Double standard!Wallace: Hey, I didn't make the gay rules. If you don't like it, take it up with Liberace's ghost!
- Guy Bennett in Another Country has apparently seduced anyone and everyone at that college, and probably their brothers too.
- The men in Stranger by the Lake - but then again, the film *is* set at a crusing ground...
- Averted in the film, The Love of Siam, the two gay characters in the movie never even had sex or had sex with each other.
- Boat Trip is this trope: The Movie.
- Unlike the lustful men and women of The Divine Comedy's Hell, the homosexual in Hell are not grouped in pairs, but travel in large bands. This implies sodomy doesn't have the same intimacy and union of baby-makin' sex (Dante's words).
- David Reuben, the author of Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex but Were Afraid to Ask, sincerely believed that this trope was inviolable law. Along with the perpetuation of the myth that Coca-Cola made an effective spermicide, the preaching of this stereotype was what made the book infamous after its initial popularity died down.
- Inverted in Joe Haldeman's award-winning SF novel The Forever War. As a population-control measure the Earth government in the future encourages homosexuality. When the hero and his girlfriend, a hetero couple, are hospitalized together their gay doctor teases them with this trope. "Still in separate beds?"
- Played with in German novel Gottes Bodenpersonal - Eine Unwahrscheinliche Liebesgeschichte - one of the protagonists is a male hooker with male customers, but it's just a job. What he really wants is a romantic candlelight dinner with a nice, gentlemanly man who opens doors for him. Another protagonist is a Chaste Hero, who never got around to look for a partner, and was only slightly worried by the fact that he never met a nice girl at church. When he falls in love with a man, he is worried about having his heart broken because of this trope. Both of them are shown to become happily monogamous, and even adopt a child together.
- Heralds of Valdemar: Vanyel is practically celibate when he doesn't have a lifebonded partner, but it takes his father most of his life to get over the knee-jerk assumption that being gay means being not only promiscuous but also a pedophile.
- In Francine Rivers' The Mark of the Lion trilogy, this is played straight with every major homosexual character in the series. Justified since most of the heterosexual characters are pretty promiscuous, too. It is Ancient Rome. Averted with Prometheus after his conversion in the last book, mostly because he doesn't want to be gay.
- Deconstructed in Before Night Falls, Reinaldo Arenas' memoir of life as a gay man under Castro's regime. The promiscuity of many of the gay characters is presented as a reaction to the choking repression of their society, as well as a result of pragmatism - when your latest lover may be hauled off to a concentration camp without you ever even finding out, there's not much room for stable monogamy.
- Present and discussed in Less. There are a pretty decent amount of one-night stands, but they are there for a reason. Arthur, the main character, is a single, gay man in his late 40s, and he struggles with his identity because of his lack of a partner, and his residual Survivor's Guilt after the AIDS crisis.
- Dante's Cove is made of this trope. Kevin and Toby are probably the most monogamous in the cast, with only a couple of "slips" from each of them.
- In the Degrassi episode "Moonlight Desires" Marco catches his boyfriend Dylan in bed making out with another guy. Dylan tells Marco that he wants to be free to have an open relationship and see other people as well as Marco. Marco says no so they break up because Dylan would rather have multiple partners than have Marco.
- Game of Thrones:
- Downplayed by Ser Loras Tyrell; he is rather easily seduced by an attractive male prostitute, and exchanges significant glances with the openly bisexual Oberyn Martell not long after his lover Renly Baratheon is killed. He mostly comes across as this in comparison to his literary incarnation, who falls into a deep depression after Renly's death, is apparently celibate, and shows signs of being a Death Seeker.
- Played Straight in "Unbowed, Unbent, Unbroken", when Olenna declares, "Renly Baratheon shagged half the stableboys in the Seven Kingdoms."
- Several variations show in up in Glee:
- First it's Inverted with Kurt, who was the only one of the New Directions boys who as still a virgin until early third season while everyone else was getting around. He lost it to Blaine, making them the last ND boys to lose their virginity until Rory joined.
- Played with in Santana's case who slept her way through the entire football-team before coming to terms with the fact that she is gay, got a girlfriend, went monogamous and stayed that way.
- Brittany's situation is similar to Santana's. While she has almost certainly slept with nearly every boy in the school and more than a few girls, she is fully comfortable with her bisexuality and could date a girl just as easily as a guy.
- Played straight (ahem) with Sebastian.
- 13 on House: almost immediately after she was revealed to be bisexual, she started picking up one-night stands, and eventually became involved with Foreman. This behavior stemmed from the knowledge that she was slowly dying, and eventually accepts her shortened lifespan. She is later shown settling down with another woman by the time she leaves the show for good.
- Inverted with Barney and his gay brother on How I Met Your Mother — at first it appears that his brother is as much of a hedonistic swinger as he is, but then Barney finds out that he's settled down and engaged to be married. Naturally, Barney is horrified that his brother has gone monogamous. It's probably no coincidence that Neil Patrick Harris, who plays Barney, is gay and in a committed relationship in real life. In fact, the episode aired around the time he came out of the closet. But then played straight in a later episode that revealed that they're separating, because Barney's brother had been cheating at least twice a day for some time, despite being married and having children.
- The L Word gets accused of fostering this image despite having a few committed couples considering how much bed-hopping goes on, with Shane having the most. As a result there's a fair number of real life lesbians who despise the show for it, among other reasons, and it doesn't help that by the end of the show nearly every relationship was ended.
- On My Name Is Earl, Kenny becomes this after his Coming-Out Story in the Pilot, especially after some Flanderization. Though he does get into a couple of monogamous relationships during the series.
- Never Wipe Tears Without Gloves shines a light on this. In the eighties this trope was generally believed to be true of gay men which in combination with the rapid spread of AIDS was used against them. The characters in the series land on both sides of the prejudice. Paul Really Gets Around and as much as Rasmus loves Benjamin he wants an open relationship. Benjamin, on the other hand, only sleeps with Rasmus and Seppo and Lars-Åke are in a monogamous relationship. The book series gives a lot more depth to the trope. For the majority of the promiscuous characters the desire to sleep around is rooted in the knowledge that they're not accepted outside of their own community. Casual sex with other men becomes a way to express their sexuality after so many years of hiding it.
- Noah's Arc: Played straight with Ricky, though some Character Development over time helps to give him a bit more depth.
- Stuart on the original UK version of Queer as Folk even told Vince he wasn't really gay, but "a straight guy who has sex with men", because he preferred monogamy to sleeping around. It's even worse in the American version (pictured above), where there are two monogamous couples, and the rest seem to wake up in a new bed every day, and in one of these couples the term "monogamous" has rather wide definitions. Any gay couple who chooses to settle down is accused of conforming to heterosexual norms or turning into "lesbians" by Brian. Only Brian really disbelieves in monogamy, but Justin tries to change him.
- Nicky and Big Boo in Orange Is the New Black both seem to have very high sex drives and though they both were monogamous at some points (Nicky with the 'prison gay' Morello, and Boo with a series of 'Mrs. Boos'), they start sleep around a lot after that, often causing 'cliterference' between them, which resulted in staging a fucking contest. That said, there are also plenty of lesbian characters in the series, who aren't promiscuous at all.
- Oz: Defied in Richie Hanlon's case, though some of the other inmates do treat him like he's one.
Hanlon: I only suck the cocks I wanna suck.
- Political Animals: T.J. uses a Grindr-like smartphone app to hookup with a guy in the first episode and has several other one-night stands, plus a longer-term affair with a married senator. However, the lesbian Supreme Court Justice is extremely committed to her ailing partner.
- Brian Kinney on Queer As Folk US is built of this trope. All of the other gay lead characters are promiscuous to varying degrees, with Michael and ben being the most monogamously inclined. The sole lesbian couple are monogamous although Lindsey does wind up having an affair...with a man.
- Inverted by The Real World's Hawaii season. Justin was openly gay and the only roommate who wasn't a drunken hedonist. He actually left the show because he was sick of their crap.
- In The Savage Eye, the homophobic Mick 'The Bull' Daly claims that all 'quaaares' will try to trick you into 'riding' them.
- In one episode of Sex and the City, an Australian gay guy explains that he's in an open relationship with his partner, the rules for pickups being "no last names, blow-jobs only" on the basis that it's "unrealistic" to expect monogamy from a gay guy.
- Played with in Six Feet Under. David and Keith were not above giving their plumber a blow job just because, and the local gay men's choir is used basically as a sex club. Further, when Keith has a security job that takes him out of town, they mutually agree that each may have unlimited one night stands as long they don't sleep with the same guy more than once. They eventually change their minds by the end of the series after deciding that the lack of monogamy was doing more harm than good to their relationship and become completely monogamous.
- Stargate Universe:
- Inverted. The straight characters have a fair amount of relationship drama, and the sole gay couple (Wray and Sharon) have the most stable relationship on the show.
- In the Alternate Universe episode "Epilogue", where the crew were stranded on a planet, eliminating any chance that they might ever be reunited with their loved ones, Wray mentions that that while she had gone on a couple dates with another woman since being stranded, her love for Sharon was getting in the way, providing a rare case of a homosexual character choosing to remain celibate despite having the option for a relationship.
- In the Supernatural episode "LARP And The Real Girl", Charlie Bradbury says she became queen of Moondoor for the girls. She makes eyes at quite a few maidens and an actual fairy.
- An old MTV late night series called Undressed had one gay character (who seemed to be trying to "convert" his roommate) explain this as something of a perk for being gay. His logic was while women are conditioned from a young age not to put out, guys are conditioned/encouraged to be more promiscuous and thus have less reluctance to sex in general, ergo it's easier to have sex if you're a gay man than a straight man because the target is more willing.
- Jack on Will & Grace (Arguably every character on that show. Even the straight ones.)
"Me and the guys were wondering... being gay and all, since there's no women around to say no... you must be just doing it all the time, right?""Oh, nah. I'm sure I don't do it any more often than you do, probably.
- Lampshaded in this exchange from an episode where Will's in a small town, looking to buy a home:
- Lampshaded and played with by Shane in Faking It who tell Amy who's confused about her gender preference that while gay men are sexually agressive and only looking to hook up most lesbians want to bond and nest build. Averted with another gay character who wants a monogamous relationship with Shane.
- Played with on Schitt's Creek with David and Patrick. Pansexual David often references the numerous partners from his past and he shows no shame about this. His straight sister also talks about her multiple past partners with pride and no shame at all. However, it also heavily implied that David's promiscuity was in part due to his getting used and dumped all the time. Patrick, however, has only ever been with David and the handful of girls from his past. David worries about this and even suggests Patrick see other people so that down the line he won't feel like he missed out. When Patrick agrees to a date with a younger, handsome man, David begins to rethink his offer but it turns out that Patrick can't go through with it because he's in love with David.
- Subverted on The Other Two:
- Carey stops his Friends with Benefits relationship with his roommate because he feels exploited.
- Carey presumes the Instagays are promiscuous and fooling around with one another, when they are religious virgins and one of them is straight. They just like hanging out in speedos taking pictures of each other's bodies.
- Completely torn apart in "Spring Break Anthem" by The Lonely Island. It's a song praising all kind of "cool", immature, and irresponsible behaviors of questionable morality like binge drinking, sex with lots of women, taking drugs, vandalism, being all out disrespectful to women, and gay marriage. Which is portrayed as the total opposite.
Trashing hotel rooms, clogging up toilets,Beer goggles, if she's a hag.Planning the menu, picking out flowers,Nailing sluts, and writing our vows!'
- Always Plenty of Light at the Starlight All Night Diner Sam has a lot of one-night-stands despite being in love with Jessa.
- Angels in America has Armored Closet Gay Roy Cohn, whose many sexual encounters with men are the reason he's dying of AIDS. It also contains an aversion, in that we are never told much about Prior's sexual history despite him being who has AIDS but is implied to have been faithful to Louis (except for the one time that was supposedly when he got infected), but Louis is said to have played around in the past. It's later implied Prior has been letting Louis screw around ever since he got AIDS, which is made all the more heartbreaking when Louis leaves him.
- This trope is a focal point in The Normal Heart. Many of the gays refuse to give up sex even though it may be the way the then unknown AIDS is transmitted.
- While not involving sex specifically, Oshare Bones is rather flirtatious despite claiming to be waiting for a reunion with his long-lost lover. One of his victory quotes against Ocean Prince in Puyo Puyo! 15th Anniversary asks for the prince to "invite a lot of nice gentlemen" to the ball he would be hosting; in the same game, Oshare also expresses interest in Lemres, Satan, and Zoh-Daimaoh, even suggesting that he and Zoh go out on a date sometime.
- Darius from Extracurricular Activities hooks up with different guys every week and doesn't even remember most of their names.
- Zig-zagged in Yearning: A Gay Story. On one hand, Dan and his roommate Nate have sex with any and all willing males and want to remain non-exclusive even after they genuinely fall in love with other men. On the other hand, all the other dateable guys in the game completely avert this trope with Jake, Carlos, James, and Adam preferring to develop an emotional connection before getting to the sex and having had very few or zero past hook-ups with other men because of relationship and/or sexuality hangups.
- This is a big part of Blur the Lines. Though the main characters Rick and Drew are partners, they frequently seek out sex with other men. They are also both OK with the other's promiscuity, leading to a My Girl Is a Slut scenario.
- Subverted, though, when Rick refuses to feel up a man because he thinks the man's bitter ex-boyfriend may be watching them.
- In Fans!, Meighan's skirt-chasing is her biggest weakness (and was, for some time, her only real personality trait). Ally even depended on this as part of her plan to Break Rikk's Heart To Save Him — in fact, it was the only part of the plan that worked. note
- A great running gag of this trope is Batuo, the main gay Asian in Tales of a Gay Asian, though he tends to like big fat meaty...white guys.
- A minor example from Questionable Content - one character lives in a girl's liberal arts college dorm with high concentration of lesbians, who exist in a state of constantly shifting Love Dodecahedron. She is also part of it, but later on expresses reservations about being in that situation, eventually hooking up in a monogamous relationship with a girl outside the college. Later on, Marten's gay father is introduced and actually proposes to his long term boyfriend, so it seems that not all (or even most) gays are promiscuous in the QC verse.
- Complicated in the Whateley Universe. Poe Cottage, which is the LGBT dorm at Superhero School Whateley Academy, does have some gays who are taking advantage of this. But they're teenagers who have only just been allowed to express themselves, and they have a like-minded roommate. On the other hand, other gay kids are refraining from sex completely, or staying in monogamous relationships. Saladin, the only gay boy who has a point of view storyline, is strictly monogamous and seldom even sees his boyfriend.
- Averted and played straight (ahem) in Where the Bears Are. Nelson and Todd are strictly with each other, but most of the other main characters are not in exclusive relationships, even the married ones..
- In Trapped In The Birdcage if you are an attractive male, Saturn will hit on you.
- One episode of Drawn Together had Xandir go on and on about having had a LOT of gay sex in his life, even though he had only been out of the closet for a season and was not shown to have had many partners. Less egregious than other examples since Drawn Together has next to no continuity anyway and everyone is a massive pervert except (sometimes) Clara, so it has less to do with his sexuality and more the everyone is a sex fiend.
- As mentioned elsewhere on this wiki, Family Guy used to terrible effect in an episode where Peter is given an injection that makes him gay. The supposedly pro-gay rights episode presents the injection as making him hyper promiscuous and being even less interested in supporting his children than usual, which is saying something. One of the gags in the episode is predicated on the idea that every gay man will have sex with strangers in public unless given very specific instructions not to. It also implies that any gay guy would be totally willing to have an 11-way with strangers. It would've been better if it were only Peter like this, because it would make sense for straight Peter to want an 11-way with 10 ladies, but it's still pretty bad.
- The Nutshack takes this to its logical extreme and depicts every homosexual male character as a creepy rapist.
- The Simpsons:
- Parodied when Homer, as a love counselor, advises the men who want to break up with their dance partner in a gay club to simply turn to their right.
- Also, in another episode, Moe turns his bar into a gay-friendly bar and pretends to be gay himself so that the gay community accepts and respects him. Waylon Smithers, knowing the truth, asks Moe if he finds him attractive, to which he responds: "Oh, yeah, yeah. Like all gays, I'm attracted to all men.". Parodied afterwards when Comic Book Gay calls this "the most insidious stereotype ever", but then when another gay from the crowd calls him cute and asks him out, responds: "Whoever said that, yes".
- South Park:
Chef: Children, there's a big difference between gay people and Mr. Garrison.
- In the episode "D-Yikes!" Mrs. Garrison thinks this is true of lesbians and tries to hit on one who's clearly spoken for. When the town was hit by the metrosexual trend, the then-male Mr. Garrison was eager to spend some quality time with one of any number of men he mistook for gay. Then again, this is Mr. Garrison we're talking about here.
- Played straight with Mr. Slave, who managed to out-whore Paris Hilton.