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And just like that, another relationship goes down the tubes for both of them.

Enrique: If it didn't work with you, it wouldn't work with anyone! I never really knew who I was. You removed all my doubts. I swear, it's not you. I think you're pretty, attractive, sweet; it's me, I promise you, it's me.
Marjane (narrating): Nevertheless, somewhere inside, I was reassured. It was easier to accept that he was gay than that he had preference for Ingrid or he found me ugly.

This girl is responsible for a guy in a Transparent Closet realizing he's gay, and inversely this could be a guy responsible for a closeted woman realizing she's a lesbian. The situation is usually that after their first kiss (or sexual encounter in some cases) he realizes that he doesn't feel the right kind of chemistry with her, and outs himself to her and breaks the relationship. Usually this requires that the ex profusely reassure them that "It's Not You, It's Me" and that they'll eventually find someone who will return their feelings. On the positive side, they may end up on the good end of Just Friends and have a high chance of becoming Amicable Exes.

This can be Played for Laughs or Drama with the girl fretting that she's a terrible romantic prospect, or such a shrew or so bad in bed she literally drove the guy into forsaking his heterosexuality. Can be played for extra laughs/tears by her having several boyfriends do this in a row, and then with Mom calling to ask whether she's "turned another guy gay".

In the least conflictive examples, the guy will realize due to outside events rather than from their (lack of) chemistry. Sometimes it'll happen after they've broken up, which may or may not be a relief to the girl. In comedies, this can be a funny way of Cleaning Up Romantic Loose Ends.

A comedy will usually imply that the straight partner is so bad at sex that their otherwise bisexual partner rules out their gender out of disgust.

Sub-trope to LGBT Awakening. This may be the outcome of a Bisexual Love Triangle. This trope is in a way the Inverse of Closet Key, rather than a lack of reaction from a heterosexual partner, it's a same-sex attraction leading to the epiphany. It's worth noting that some women may become Fag Hags who Settled for Gay because All the Good Men Are Gay.


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    Anime & Manga 
  • Comically invoked in Ayakashi Triangle: Though Suzu was already in love with Matsuri, him being turned female ended up showing she was into girls as well. When Matsuri is split into a boy and girl, Suzu favoring the girl makes boy Matsuri worried she was only ever into girls. (In truth, Suzu's preference was based on their emotional bond, not her sexual orientation.)
  • Strangely played with in Ouran High School Host Club by Ryoji and his wife Kotoko. Ryoji already knew he was bisexual when they hooked up, and it was Kotoko's death that made him swear off interest in women, even if he'll still look at guys.
  • Seraph of the End: Both Guren and Shinya to Mahiru, although the circumstances are vastly different. For Guren, Mahiru is his first and only love, so after she died and turned to a demon, having a vast amount of her humanity wiped off, he never looks for love again whether female or male. For Shinya, she was supposed to be his fiance, but since she loved Guren, he didn't stand a chance. Their relationship became more and more strained until he got totally done with her and completely switched his interest to Guren instead. And in the present, when asked what his preference for the opposite sex is, he simply replies along the lines of: "My fiance was like that, so I got tired..."
  • Wandering Son: Downplayed in that it is only a crush, but Nitori's crush on Takatsuki is this. She is fond of him for being similar to her and helping her with being feminine, and develops a crush on him. It's however unrequited due to Takatsuki not thinking of her like that in spite of him clearly cherishing her as a friend. In the end, she gets over her crush on him and ends up with her girlfriend Anna. It's also worth noting that Takatsuki is the only boy Nitori likes - she's otherwise interested in girls and most other boys bully her.

    Comic Books 
  • In Persepolis, Marjane's boyfriend Enrique outs himself. Previously she had worried that he wasn't interested in her after they slept in the same bed but didn't have sex, and when later she encountered him talking to a prettier girl.
  • In Young Avengers, it's mentioned that Ultimate Nullifier (the character, not the cosmic superweapon) was this for America Chavez. America herself finds the whole thing embarrassing.
  • Scott Pilgrim:
    • At the end of the last volume Scott learns that Steven Stills got a boyfriend. Scott is beside himself about how he feels Stephen's (now ex) girlfriend for the majority of the comic, Julie, turned him gay.
    • Also there's Kim Pines and Knives Chau kissing, tho, because Scott saw it and he freaked out about it to everyone and nobody took him seriously, this maybe have been the Unreliable Narrator which was creeping in at this point. Or you know they were having Sex for Solace. It never gets clarified, and seeing as they're tertiary characters at that point, never needs to.

    Fan Works 
  • In the Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha StrikerS fanfic Training Wheels, Yuuno vents to Hayate about having had this happen to him. At least three times.
    Yuuno: I'm a lesbian's training wheels. All the girls I go out with eventually break up with me and then promptly go date other girls!
  • In the Naruto Tsunade/Shizune oneshot, floating to the surface, at age 19 Shizune tried dating a man for a bit just to see what it was like. It didn't work out, in part because Tsunade and Shizune move around a lot but mostly because Shizune isn't interested in men.
  • In the My Hero Academia fanfic The Gear Maketh the Hero, Izuku and Itsuka date for a time before Itsuka realizes she's a lesbian and breaks up with him. Izuku later mocks Itsuka's poor luck with the ladies by referencing this incident, saying he's had more success with lesbians than she has.
  • Guys Being Dudes: While the gender of Spark's ex is never specified, apparently after their relationship, they realized they didn't like men and proceeded to leave him for Blanche.
  • call it what you want: Not that there was much of a romance, but Jin Zixuan and Jiang Yanli are mutually this for each other.

    Films — Live-Action 
  • In The Birdcage, the last heterosexual relationship Armand was in involved a woman named Katherine, which resulted in their son Val. However, Katherine didn't want the trouble of raising Val, so Val has been raised by Armand and his lover Albert. Everybody seems to be okay with Val being raised by two dads, until Katherine finds out Val's getting married, and she wants to meet the parents of Val's fiancee. That would be one thing, but considering the whole movie is a "Fawlty Towers" Plot, it's one more thing that Armand and Val have to work around before their lie about being a conservative family in a bad situation comes crashing down on their heads.
  • Zach in Shelter (2007) had a longer on-off relationship with Tori before realizing he was gay. Tori, by the way, knew it earlier than he did. While their relationship got more and more problematic over time, Zach truly cared about Tori and is sad to have hurt her. They manage to become good friends eventually.
    Zach: You're the only reason I wish I wasn't, you know? None of that other shit matters. The only thing that really sucks is that I always wanted to be everything to you. I dreamed of providing you with anything you wanted and needed.
  • Invoked by the protagonist in What Women Want, to spare the feelings of a girl he's slept with and moved on from. He tells her he's gay so that she won't think she's a big loser who can't hold on to a man.
  • Discussed in Victor/Victoria when Toddy is trying to convince Victoria that, yes, she can convincingly pretend to be a man:
    Victoria: Men have Adam's apples.
    Toddy: So do some women.
    Victoria: Name one.
    Toddy: Nana Lanu.
    Victoria: Nana Lanu? Who's she?
    Toddy: The last woman I slept with.
    Victoria: When was that?
    Toddy: The night before the morning I decided to become a homosexual.
  • Megan's relationship with Jared in But I'm a Cheerleader was part of her realization that she was indeed a lesbian. Played for Laughs when the two are shown awkwardly making out in his car after a long slow-motion POV scene of Eating the Eye Candy during cheer practice.
  • Peavy from The Rocketeer had an inversion.
    Cliff: Come on, Peavy! You haven't been on a date since 1927!
    Peavy: Flora Maxwell... no point in dating anyone else after that...
  • In Mario (2018), Mario tells Leon that he dated a girl he wasn't attracted to for two months when he was sixteen. She was his last relationship before he met Leon.
  • In Austin Powers: The Spy who Shagged Me, in the present, Frau Farbissina is is in a relationship with another woman. When Dr. Evil goes back in time to a point in the 1960s and steals Austin Powers' mojo, he seduces Frau while under its influence before returning to the present, leading to this dialogue:
    Frau Farbissina: I will never love another man.
    Dr. Evil: Yes, that's true.
  • A New York Christmas Wedding: Gabby in the new timeline tells Jenni that after having sex with Vinni she realized she's a lesbian. There's no sign she ever dated men again, instead dating Jenni.
  • Blue Jean: Jean was formerly married to a man a few years ago before divorcing him. She's a lesbian, dating a woman when the story begins, so it's indicated this was her last straight relationship.

  • 1632: Harry Lefferts insists he should be this for Sherry, as, since he is a typical redneck, he will make her lose faith in men and realize her "true" sexuality. How much is Harry being in stereotypical redneck emotional denial about having genuine feelings for Sherry, how much is Harry being a dick to a woman in her late twenties with no romantic history to speak of, and how much is friendly banter between Spec Ops operators who have been righting wrongs and blowing stuff up all over Europe for three years, is up for debate.
  • The Accursed Kings: Used as a vicious parting shot from Marguerite de Bourgogne to Isabelle de France:
    You must be no good in bed if you drove your husband to seek out boys.
For context, Isabelle is married to the homosexual Edward II of England, and having discovered her sister-in-laws were having affairs, denounced them to her father Philip IV of France, who had them thrown in prison. Marguerite throws in a not-entirely untrue You're Just Jealous at the end.
  • Prior to the book, Annie from Annie on My Mind realized she was lesbian. She tried dating a boy a year prior but it didn't work out. Annie herself is the Closet Key to the protagonist.
  • Kara in Hometown was already well aware that she liked girls, but she tried heterosexual sex with her friend Jason to determine if she might not be bisexual. She was not.
  • In Loveless, Georgia, who's questioning if she's aromantic/asexual, spends some time dating Jason to make sure she is straight.
  • In Middlesex, Julie Kikuchi (a possible relationship for the narrator) explains that she has been the last heterosexual partner for at least one man who later came out as gay. She theorizes that Asian women may be seen as having more boyish features.
  • Princesses of the Pizza Parlor: When Uncle and Max hook up, they both ask about what happened to the partners they had when they knew each other last, and the male half relates how he was Janet's last boyfriend before she realized her feelings for Amanda:
    "[Janet developed a bad habit of getting drunk and falling into another girl's pants]. Well, only the one girl, but repeatedly. She and Amanda finally got their act together, moved back east, and started a family. I should bring a photo of my goddaughter sometime. Cute as a button."
  • In You Know Me Well, Katie claims that dating Quinn in third grade was this for both of them.

    Live-Action TV 
  • How I Met Your Mother:
    • Robin lost her virginity to a gay guy, only not really because he'd barely gotten in before he stopped and announced, "Yeah, I'm gay." Considering that the guy was as camp as you could be without starring in The Birdcage, and his room looked like Liberace's sewing room, she should really have seen it coming.
    • Ted was also this for the mother's roommate Cindy.
    • At his gay brother's wedding, Barney picks up his new brother-in-law's ex-girlfriend, exploiting her deep insecurity at being the last woman he was with before coming out.
      Tom liked my breasts in ninth grade. Why doesn't he like them now!?
  • On The IT Crowd, Jen plays this to a man whose sexuality is a mystery through most of the episode. At the end, he breaks down and cries that he only went out with her because she looks a bit like a man.
  • Seinfeld: The show plays with the trope.
    • After George sees his ex-girlfriend Susan with another woman, and confirming that she started dating women right after they broke up, he starts worrying that being with him was such an awful experience that it put her off men entirely. When he confronts Susan about it, she dismisses the idea as totally ridiculous. However, George's fear is all but confirmed at the end of the episode when the two of them run into another one of George's exes, who starts flirting with Susan almost immediately. Susan would later go back to men and actually get engaged to George. Apparently her lesbianism "didn't take".
    • The same episode also humorously inverts the trope. Susan's girlfriend, who has never been with a man in her life, is turned straight after a night with Kramer.
      George: Amazing. I drive 'em to lesbianism. He brings 'em back!
  • This is the college backstory of Will & Grace, as revealed in a flashback episode.
    Will: But... Don't you see what a compliment that is? I mean, I mean, I love you, so if I can't make it work with you, then it'll never work with any woman, because you're perfect for me.
    Grace: That is not a compliment. A compliment is, "You're sexy; you turn me on," not, "One look at you proves I'm a queer."
    • Later on Grace is proud that she helped Will come to terms, only to find out that she wasn't this for him because he slept with one last woman just to be sure. To make things even more awkward, that woman turns out to be the ex-girlfriend of Grace's husband Leo.
    • It becomes a Running Gag that many of Grace's ex-boyfriends turned out to be gay.
  • Happily Divorced averts this trope. In the case of that show, the husband has always been gay, but he doesn't reveal it to his wife until they've been married for a long time and he wants a divorce so he can live a gay life. Bonus points for being based on star Fran Drescher's real life.
  • On Cheers, Rebecca's boyfriend from high school (played by Harvey Fierstein) pays a visit and she finds out she was this to him.
  • Friends: Ross' first wife turns out to be a lesbian, while pregnant with his child.
  • On Roseanne, Arnie was obviously bummed when his ex-wife Nancy came out of the closet. His friends tried to jokingly reassure him that he was just so virile that Nancy knew no other man could compete.
  • In Hollyoaks, John-Paul's failed romance with Hannah leads him to realize that he is actually gay and in love with his friend Craig. This was also used to kick off Hannah's controversial eating disorder storyline as she refused to accept his sexuality and believed it to be a nice way of telling her she was ugly.
  • On The George Lopez Show George learns that a man Benny may have slept with while drunk could be his biological father. He has only been with men since their night together, however, and Benny refuses to believe that someone she slept with could turn out to be gay. It turns out she's right—they never had sex, Benny just passed out drunk.
  • Absolutely Fabulous: Edina, Edina, Edina. First husband? Identified as homosexual and left her. Second husband? Became The Alcoholic, and left her... to realize that he may be bi (if not just deeply closeted gay) afterwards. Guy she banged really loudly so she can get him, his wife, and their baby out of her house? Came out as gay several seasons later. Really, you could make a case that she's a walking Brown Note to heterosexuality itself and that intercourse with her leaves straight sex ruined.
  • Happy Endings: Penny was this for Max. They're Platonic Life-Partners now. One episode of the gang on an unaired season of The Real World had Max having a lot of Have I Mentioned I Am Heterosexual Today? moments.
  • High Fidelity: Rob is the last woman Simon ever dated, as he realized that he's gay when they were together.
  • Modern Men: Doug sleeps with a woman who realizes immediately afterward that she's gay.
  • Invoked and inverted on Penn & Teller: Bullshit!. During one episode, they interview a man who claims to be able to "turn gay guys straight":
    Penn: Which is funny, because I don't think he's that unattractive.
  • On Party of Five, Sarah turns out to be this for Elliot. They stay friends and check out guys together.
  • On 8 Simple Rules, Rory goes to great lengths to make his date fall for him. Even she thinks it should have worked, but it didn't, so she comes to the conclusion that she must be gay, and asks him where his sister Kerry is.
  • In Girls, Hannah finds out she was this to her college boyfriend. She doesn't take it very well.
  • Glee had a fair share of hetero relationships involving gay characters, but unsurprisingly tends to avert the trope. Most of the gay characters shown in some sort of hetero relationship (Kurt, Santana, Blaine, Karofsky, ect.) are aware of their gayness while being in said relationship. Those relationships are often one-sided or mutual bearding, mostly as a part of an Armoured Closet Gay act, or maybe a sexual experiment. Seeing how Glee doesn't really believe in bisexuality, and in spite having a Cast Full of Gay has only one bisexual character (Brittany) and a whole lot of biphobic gays, the writers seem to be more fond of the gay Closet Key trope is their engine of choice in their numerous coming out stories.
  • In The War at Home, while Kenny was living with the Golds, his date Dylan stops by, which leads to hilarity, as Hillary discovers that it's her ex-boyfriend.
    Hillary: Wait wait wait, you mean my Dylan, is now your Dylan?
    David: Who knew Hillary? You're the Gaymaker. The last stop on the train to Gay-ville. Sprinkle on a little Hillary, and (waves hand)HELLO!
    • Bonus points, in that Hillary once dated Kenny, but Kenny was utterly repulsed by kissing her.
  • This is played with when Victor spends the majority of season one dating Mia in Love, Victor. While he still feels a growing attraction to Benji, he loves being around Mia and wonders if he may be bisexual. What finally helps him realize that he’s gay is that while Mia is an ideal girlfriend, he still doesn’t feel the same attraction that he feels for boys.
  • Josh is Elena's first and last het romance on One Day at a Time (2017). She realizes that he's exactly who she'd date if she liked boys, but she just doesn't.
  • Schitt's Creek:
    • Patrick dated his high school girlfriend Rachel on and off for years until breaking off their engagement. When he meets David, he finally understands why their relationship never felt right.
    • Pansexual David enjoys sex with both genders and has even done so at the same time, but his last het relationship was with his Best Friend Stevie. When he falls in love for the first time, it is with Patrick and they embark on a committed relationship.
  • Star Trek: Voyager: If Star Trek: Picard is any indicator, Seven of Nine's romance with Chakotay was this.
  • Dates: On her date with Kate, Erica talks about a trip to Tuscany where she split with her last boyfriend. After that, she then goes on a date with Callum, but comes out to him and properly stands up to her family regarding both being lesbian and still dating men.
  • Black Books: In the third episode, "Grapes of Wrath", Fran doesn't take long to work out that the guy she's on a date with is gay and not consciously aware of it, so she wastes no time in helping him to come out.
    Fran: Ben, I've got something to tell you, and it might come as a bit of a shock, but you are... mhm, question. What do the following people have in common: Elton John, Ian McKellen, Jean-Paul Gautier?
    Ben: Well, they're all fabulous.
  • Inverted on an episode of Spin City where Carter's ex Spence visits to tell him that he's engaged to a woman. Carter gets a complex about turning Spence straight.
  • First Kill: Juliette and Ben were childhood best friends since they were toddlers, and when they were 12 they started dating (thinking the love they felt towards each other was a Childhood Friend Romance). This lasted for one whole month until they both realised that they were gay and they then effortlessly turned into each others Platonic Life-Partners, Best Friend and Romantic Wing Man.
  • In the opening episode of Please Like Me, Josh’s girlfriend Claire breaks up with him because she believes he’s gay. This leads Josh to realize Claire’s right and sets off the events of the series.
  • In the first season of The Wire, Detective Kima Greggs, a fairly Butch Lesbian, meets up with an ex-boyfriend that she's still friendly with and the two joke with each other for a bit. At one point she teases him that he shouldn't be so proud about being one of (or maybe the) last guy she was with, joking that "You're the one who turned me the other way!"


  • In Dawn of a New Age: Oldport Blues, it was Nadine's diminishing interest in her relationship with Hyeon- who was otherwise a good match for her- that helped her realise that she didn't like guys in general.

  • In A Chorus Line, Gregory Gardener realizes he's gay when making out with a girl.
  • In Mamma Mia!, it is revealed late in the story that Donna was this for Harry Bright, one of Sophie's potential fathers. It is part of the reason why he is happy to even have "a third" of Sophie note , since he never thought he could have kids of his own (this was written in the late 1990s, when gay adoption was still illegal in Harry's home county, the United Kingdom). In the stage version he reveals he is in a committed gay relationship, while in the film version, he is seen flirting with one of the male wedding guests.
    Harry: Donna, you were the first girl I ever loved. And actually, you were the last girl I ever loved.

  • Pictured above is the end of one of Li Yun's past relationships with a nameless extra in Bailin and Li Yun. It's only one example of them ending unceremoniously, which left him with a fear of going into any further relationships.
  • In Blip, K was Bang's last girlfriend before he realized he was gay. They remain close friends afterwards.
  • Happened (only twice!) to Davan in Something*Positive, though it's not explained why the girl switched teams.
    • Inverted with Vanessa (who oddly enough marries Davan): she tells the story of her first het romance when she began to realize that she was bisexual instead of gay. Awkwardly, the guy in question would later become her stepbrother.
    • PeeJee's ex-almost-fiancée turned gay some time after they broke up. However, they broke up because he was cheating on her with another woman, so she might not have been the last romance.
  • Robin is this for Ethan in Shortpacked!. She already suspects that he's gay, but is pursuing him anyway. He's not interested. She gets pissed off when he bangs a chick, and when he asks why she shouts he's supposed to be gay. Confronted with this, something goes click in his mind, and he embraces the gayness.
  • In Dumbing of Age, it's Amber who's this for Ethan. Ethan realises he's gay when they try to have sex on their prom night.
  • Melissa and Justin in El Goonish Shive. They were childhood friends, but when they were old enough to finally date, Justin realized he felt no physical attraction to her. Melissa is also inadvertently responsible for outing him in the more traditional sense since afterwards she was devastated by his realization and needed someone to talk to about it and settled for her sister, the town's biggest gossip.
    • Nanase also has this with Elliot. Unlike Justin, Nanase dated a bunch of guys looking for the right one, but Elliot was the closest she came to an ideal boyfriend and she still wasn't feeling it. She did not, however, immediately come out as gay after breaking up with him. That took a Closet Key in the form of Ellen, Elliot's Opposite-Sex Clone. It is that kind of comic.
    • More recently, after Elliot and Sarah break up while remaining Just Friends in very good terms, people assumed that this trope was the only way that'd happen, and started the rumor that he was gay. Nothing could be further from the truth, though: actually both of them wanted to break up, but for different reasons, namely Sarah was disappointed at the lack of physical intimacy and his inability to take the initiative, whereas Elliot eventually realized he saw Sarah more like a sister due to the Westermarck effect.
  • Played for laughs - in a slightly cruel way - in Girls with Slingshots. Jamie has a period where she starts questioning her sexuality. Thea, Hazel's lesbian boss, suggests they sleep together to find out. They do and Jamie decides she isn't a lesbian after all. After she leaves, Thea is shown adding about the fiftieth line to a 'number of girls turned straight' chart with a sigh.
  • In Sticky Dilly Buns, Jerzy describes himself as having passed through a bisexual phase before concluding that he was gay. It's not clear who his last het romance was with, but it may have been Angel, or possibly even Zii.
  • In Questionable Content Marten's parents Veronica and Henry ended up getting divorced when he was a kid after his father realized he was gay. Despite being an unsuccessful couple they're excellent parents to Marten and Veronica ends up giving a speech at his wedding talking about this and wishing him the best in his new marriage.
  • The Class Menagerie had Mikey being pursued by the flirtatious Lisa for most of the series run, only to reveal near the end that he's been a closeted gay man this whole time, and he's been in denial, hoping that having Lisa's interest would "spark" something for him. She's the first person he's ever told about it, having been deep in the closet since high school.

    Western Animation 
  • Invoked in American Dad!. After Jeff is abducted by aliens, Snot finally manages to score a date with a despondent Haley. Afterwards he realizes that he's not really into it, being more into the chase than the catch. Because of Haley's depression (and because she has a history of going ballistic whenever she gets dumped), Steve begs him to break up with her in a way that won't set her off. Snot decides to tell Haley that he's gay, and she helped him realize that. If he can't make it work with a woman as perfect as her, then that proves beyond any doubt that he's gay. Haley accepts it with no hard feelings.
  • According to Clerks: The Animated Series, this is a regular occurrence for Randall. This is even more prevalent than in the movies, to the point that one girl turns lesbian after interacting with him for a few minutes. To his ex-girlfriends he epitomizes the worthlessness of dating men, while he misses the point and assumes that he is simply such an awesome man that they give up on ever finding his equal again.
    Randall: So you're saying, after me, no other man would do?
    Ex: That's one way of looking at it.
  • It's not entirely clear what Ivy's orientation is on Harley Quinn (2019) - she seems to have had past feelings for Catwoman as well as her ongoing relationship with Harley - but she gives het romance a solid try with her engagement to Kiteman, including planning her bachelorette party as well as holding the ceremony, and is shown to have real affection for him at various points. When it doesn't work out, she and Harley are promoted to Official Couple in the immediate aftermath.
  • On King of the Hill, Peggy—who told Hank that she was a virgin when they married—eventually admits that she had previously had sex with a friend who thought that he might be gay.
    Luanne: Did you fix him?
    Peggy: Oh, no, Luanne, he was not broken. Just gay. Very, very gay.
  • Condie Ling from Rick & Steve: The Happiest Gay Couple in All the World turned Rick gay in college (in his own words). She's since become a Fag Hag (with suicidal tendencies played for laughs) since it is inferred that he wasn't the only person to whom it happened.

  • Word of Gay on Velma and Marcie's relationship in Scooby-Doo! Mystery Incorporated is that Velma's failed relationship with Shaggy was her figuring out that this wasn't right for her.

Alternative Title(s): Last Het Partner