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Breakfast Princess: Whatever, freeloader. If you were invited to Princess Day, it must have been a mistake or as a joke. Am I right, girls?
Strudel Princess: Ohh!
Lumpy Space Princess: The joke's on you because I wasn't invited. I'm crashing! And I already ate a bunch of your food! What you gonna do about it, Princess Egg Breath?
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Parties are fun. Whether it's a gathering of friends, a Wild Teen Party thrown by the Big Man on Campus, or a formal dance, people enjoy getting to cut loose and have fun. There's also an aspect of social-status; being invited means you're well-liked enough to be wanted. And if you're not invited, well...

Unfortunately for many characters, they're stuck on the sidelines, uninvited while everyone else gets to enjoy themselves. There are a few reasons why they may be left out, the most common ones being:

  • They're generally considered unpopular, and thus not wanted at a popular person's party. This is most common for school scenarios.
  • Something happened that made them hated by people if they weren't hated already. This means that people they used to be close with now despise them, underscored by them being left out of events they would've gone to before.
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  • They were meant to be invited, but were left out by mistake or neglect. This makes the party's host less of an asshole, but still guilty of forgetting about people, even if those people are their own friends.

Oh, and they're never going to just brush off their lack of an invite due to being uninterested in the party because if they did, there'd be no drama. No, they'll care deeply about this, more so than would often be expected, especially if a so-called "friend" is the host. This is where the real meat of the trope comes in. This character is left feeling hurt or angry by their lack of an invite, and may even try to crash- but crashing often ends in tragedy, as they're often humiliated into leaving. Of course, that's assuming they didn't crash the party to get revenge, in which case it's the other party-goers being made miserable.

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Compare It's a Costume Party, I Swear!, where a character does get invited to a party, but as a way to humiliate them, Party Scheduling Gambit, where someone deliberately schedules another shindig to conflict with a dislike character's party, and Forgotten Birthday, where people don't care about someone's big day. See also Not on the List, where an uninvitation is physically enforced by bouncers.

Supertrope of RevengeSVP, where the uninvited party crashes to cause trouble.


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    Comic Strips 
  • A Running Gag in early Peanuts comics is for one or more characters (usually Violet, Patty, and/or Lucy) to rudely inform Charlie Brown that they're having a party and he isn't invited. On at least one occasion this was subverted by Charlie Brown actually being okay with it, to Violet and Patty's bemusement.

    Fan Works 
  • How the Light Gets In: Narrowly averted. While heading to a BBQ party Team Arrow is having, Laurel admits to Dean that she's fairly certain she wasn't going to be invited, but once she walked in on them talking about the party Felicity felt they had to invite her. She's absolutely correct.
    • Dean reflects that there were several parties, dinners, or gatherings that the team held that she wasn't invited to, simply because the others didn't like her and didn't treat her as a real member of the team. While she's never shown complaining or being resentful over it, it does appear to have affected her psyche and self worth.
  • What Goes Around Comes Around (Miraculous Ladybug) opens with Marinette learning that everyone aside from her and Chloe has been invited to attend a gala in Versailles... which not-so-coincidentally coincides with a party she was throwing for her classmates. This is entirely intentional not just on Lila's part, but on Gabriel Agreste's, as he's learned that she's Ladybug and is plotting to attack her home that evening.

    Films — Animation 
  • In The LEGO Batman Movie, Batman pops in at Superman's place only to discover that Superman is hosting a party for all the superheroes... except Batman wasn't invited.
  • Sleeping Beauty: Maleficent winds up cursing Aurora out of anger over not being invited to the princess's christening.
  • In Wreck-It Ralph, Ralph's journey to become a hero is brought on by the fact that the citizens of Niceland are throwing an anniversary party for their game, which he, despite being one of the game's two major characters, wasn't invited to. He sees the party happening from his home in the dump and goes to confront the Nicelanders. Nice Guy Felix lets him in, but unwillingly, and it ends in disaster as Ralph is humiliated and challenged to go and bring back a medal, after which he'd be treated respectfully by the others.

    Films — Live-Action 
  • In Batman Returns, The Penguin crashes the Max-squerade Ball late in the film in spectacular fashion, not having been invited due to being exposed for the villain that he was. He proceeds to try to take Chip Shreck, Max Shreck's son, only for Max to volunteer in Chip's place.
  • In Bridesmaids, when Lillian announces that Helen will be the maid of honor, Annie, the movie's Loser Protagonist, throws a tantrum in the middle of the rehearsal dinner because Lilian chose the newcomer of their groups of friends instead of her despite being friends for years. Having had enough of Annie's recent clingy-ness, and the damage she caused during her tantrum, Lilian says she's forbidden from attending the wedding, and Annie storms out of the house.
  • The Cat in the Hat: Halfway through a chase scene in the film, Control Freak Sally and her brother Conrad, with the titular Cat, passes through a classmate's house where a birthday party is being held. Sally briefly looks into the living room and is surprised to see that her whole class is invited... except her.
  • Fred The Movie: Fred spends half the movie on a quest to find Judy's new house, thinking she's either miserable or in danger. By the time he gets there, he finds her having a party he wasn't invited to, meaning he accidentally crashes. After being humiliated by his bully Kevin at said party with the footage posted online to boot, Fred seeks revenge by throwing his own party and making it clear to everyone that they are not invited to his party. However, when it comes to his friend Bertha, he decided to invite her as she was the only person who didn't think the video was funny, and the two of them throw such a great fake party that it makes the rest of the school feel jealous and desperate to get back on Fred's good side.
  • Mean Girls: This was what ended Regina and Janis's friendship in the backstory. Regina was hosting a pool party, and because there were rumors Janis was a lesbian, Regina didn't feel she could invite her since there were going to be girls in bathing suits and she didn't want the other guests to be uncomfortable. Janis took the snub personally and swore vengeance against Regina. At least, that's the story Regina tells Cady.
  • Minutemen: As a result of rebuilding his friendship with Derek and Stephanie, Virgil ends up back in the popular crowd and a party is thrown at his house. He neglects to invite his best friend Charlie, who unfortunately lives next door. Charlie spent the whole night listening to the party in anger and calls Virgil out on this the next morning.
  • In Sky High (2005), after Will becomes popular in the Hero Course and starts to abandon his friends from Hero Support, he throws a party at his house and forgets to invite his friends- specifically, his Childhood Friend and next-door neighbor Layla. Layla sees the party going on next door and walks inside to try and find Will, but gets told by the Alpha Bitch that Will doesn't want her there. Humiliated and heartbroken, Layla goes home. This is the incident that starts to snap Will out of his Acquired Situational Narcissism.

    Literature 
  • Carpe Jugulum: Granny Weatherwax isn't invited to the christening of Verence and Magrat's daughter, which hurts her far more than she cares to let on. In fact, she had been invited, but the gold-framed invitation was stolen by a magpie belonging to a vampire. The fact that the baby is named after her helps soften the blow once things are settled and the vampires banished.
  • In The Dr. Seuss book Hooper Humperdink? Not Him!, a boy invites heaps of people to his party except for Hooper Humperdink, except later he changes his mind and invites Hooper anyway.
  • In the opening pages of My Best Friend's Exorcism, Margaret does a particularly extreme example when she invites everyone except Abby to a party she's having the same day as Abby's birthday...so that Abby will not only be left out of Margaret's party (it's implied) but also so that Abby will be left out of her own birthday celebration. (However, Gretchen still shows up on the grounds that Abby invited her first, which results in them being Fire-Forged Friends and Platonic Life-Partners from that moment on.)
  • In The Player of Games, the main character, tries to describe The Culture's definition of justice to an alien. He explains that a murderer is given a slap drone that follows them around to make sure they don't kill anybody else. When the alien doesn't think this is much of a punishment, he explains it's social death and you won't be invited to many parties. (Sure you could gatecrash but nobody would talk to you).
  • This is what kicks off the plot in Sleeping Beauty. One of the fairies did not get the invite to the titular character's party, much to her ire. She tries to get that character killed with a cursed spinning wheel.
  • In The Sneetches and Other Stories, the star-bellied Sneetches are prejudiced against the plain-bellied ones, so they never invite them to their parties.

    Live-Action TV 
  • Subverted in A.N.T. Farm. Lexi spends an entire episode trying to find out why she wasn't invited to a fellow cheerleader's birthday party, but never confronts her since she doesn't want to sound desperate. In the end, it's revealed that she actually was invited but her stupid friend Paisely was in charge of the invitations and read hers upside down, thinking it's for a robot called "IX37".
  • There's a Castle where Alexis has to deal with an ex-friend who invites their whole class to her birthday party except for Alexis, including Alexis' boyfriend. The girl plans to break up Alexis and her boyfriend by kissing him at the party and putting the photos up on social media, but fortunately, Alexis doesn't fall for it. Unfortunately, Castle escalates the situation by getting Ryan to take the photos down, resulting in a Bathroom Brawl. Turns out the girl felt abandoned by Alexis and chose the stupidest way of dealing with it possible.
    Castle: Did you at least kick her ass?
    Alexis: Kinda.
    Castle: That's my girl.
  • In the "Eye of the Tiger" episode of Degrassi: The Next Generation after Spinner's role in Jimmy's shooting is revealed, he ends up hated by the students and univited to an intimate homecoming party that the latter was throwing. Upon getting together with Jay (whose fault it was that Jimmy ended up getting shot in the first place as they bullied Rick, then blamed Jimmy for the prank they did of having paint and feather dumped on him, leading to his shooting), he crashes the party at Jimmy's drunk and begging for forgiveness. He refuses and after eventually admitting to the principal his and Jay's role in the shooting, she expels them both.
  • Drake & Josh:
    • In one episode, their friend Thorton is having a massive birthday party, complete with gift bags that have cellphones in them, and Drake and Josh are invited...until Thorton catches Drake making out with his girlfriend unknowingly. Drake and Josh are officially uninvited, and in desperation, they give him Drake's autographed Abbey Road record as a present...and he still doesn't let them into the party. So they pull off an elaborate scheme to crash it...just to get the record back and ditch.
    • One episode sees Josh becoming a teacher for Megan's 5th-grade class. He's so tough on the kids that they all turn on Megan as a result. She attempts to go to a friend's birthday party at The Premier but is rudely told she's no longer invited, and uses this as her motivation to sabotage Josh's class the next day.
  • Friends:
    • Monica learns she wasn't invited to a cousin's wedding when Ross asks if she wants to carpool to the reception. She forces Ross to ditch his date and bring her instead. When she confronts the bride at the reception she discovers she wasn't invited because the groom is one of her ex-boyfriends.
    • Monica is on the other side of this when she throws a baby shower for Rachel but forgets to invite Rachel's mother. She tries to claim the party was a last minute idea but Mrs. Green had already heard about it from Rachel's sisters (who aren't going). Despite Monica's repeated attempts to apologize Mrs. Green remains cold towards her throughout the party.
  • In the Gilmore Girls episode "Forgiveness and Stuff", Emily uninvites Lorelai from the Gilmores' Christmas party over, among other things, what happened with Rory and Dean in "Rory's Dance".
  • Inverted in Kaamelott, where Merlin is repeatedly invited to druidic conclaves but doesn't want to go for multiple reasons: there's no booze, he can't turn into an animal like most other druids, and most important of all he Cannot Tell a Joke to save his life. Arthur tries to coach him through telling a joke but in the end, agrees Merlin shouldn't go.
  • In one episode of Lizzie McGuire, Miranda is throwing a party at her house and wants it to be perfect. This means she invites everyone...except for the geeky Larry, who she fears will ruin her party. Larry is heartbroken to not get an invite while everyone else is excitedly preparing for the party, and Lizzie decides to sneak him inside. He's disguised as a cool and mysterious student named "Lawrence", who Miranda starts flirting with, claiming she'd have invited him if she saw him at school. Hurt, Larry breaks the disguise, and Miranda feels guilty enough to let him stay at the party.
  • Veronica Mars:
    • In the backstory, Veronica crashing a party she wasn't invited to ends in tragedy. She was uninvited in the first place because her popularity spiraled downward due to the circumstances surrounding the Lilly Kane murder investigation. Everyone hated her so much that, when she crashed the party to try and make a point, she ended up being drugged and raped, traumatizing her for the rest of the series and emphasizing just how unpopular she is, as well as how much she wants to have her normal life back.
    • In Season 2, in a parallel to Veronica's own situation pre-series, Jackie Cooke is unofficially "uninvited" to the winter carnival by Alpha Bitch Madison Sinclair, over the mistaken belief that Jackie's father, Terence, had something to do with the school bus crash. Jackie shows up anyway, which results in her being so hated and reviled by the rest of the school that she's forced to sit in the dump tank and being forced into freezing water, while wearing a bikini, in the middle of December.

    Theatre 
  • In 13, Evan wants to make his Bar Mitzvah the best party ever, and in the process, wants to invite the kids who will help him be popular. This means inviting everyone but the unpopular Patrice, who happened to be the only person who tried to befriend him in the first place. To add insult to injury, he outright pretends Patrice isn't standing next to him and destroys her invitation to make a good impression for the popular kids. Then, when he does end up inviting her to a movie party, he still ends up ignoring her and she leaves without being noticed.
  • In Twisted, Maleficent "only wished to feel included" by being invited to the party, among other Disney villains shown to be Not Evil, Just Misunderstood.

    Video Games 
  • Yume Nikki: The Toriningen Party. One easily-overlooked path through the wilderness leads to a spot where your Player Character can observe three Toriningen. Elsewhere in the Dream Land these strange beaked figures will aggressively chase you, but here they are just having fun. They have a picnic, a stereo, and are dancing to perky music. And because your path is blocked, there is no way to join them.

    Visual Novels 
  • In Melody, if Amy finds out exactly how Arnold didn't adequately care for the title character while she was sick, she will disinvite him from her birthday dinner.

    Web Original 
  • Used in the SuperMarioLogan episode "Bowser Junior's House Party". Roy hosts a party at his house while his parents are out of town. Cody and Jeffy where invited to the party, but Roy does not invite Bowser Junior and Joseph because they are lame. After their failed attempt by disguising themselves as wealthy people from England in order to get Roy to invite them, they decided to throw their own party.

    Web Video 
  • On 7-Second Riddles, two Alpha Bitchs don't get invited to a girl's party while everyone else does, so they decide to swipe invitations and crash it in the chances of ruining it.

    Western Animation 
  • Adventure Time:
    • "Princess Day" has the titular event being celebrated at the Breakfast Kingdom with Lumpy Space Princess interrupting saying she is bored from the whole thing. Breakfast Princess tells her to be quiet and asks why she was even invited, only for LSP to reply that she actually wasn't and ate a ton of the food being served. LSP then later teams up with Marceline to prank BP out of revenge for being humiliated by her.
    • "Princess Potluck" has the Ice King trying (poorly) to sabotage the titular event because he wasn't invited. Then it turns out he was invited, he just didn't get the invitation, so he happily joins the festivities.
  • In the American Dad! episode "Bar Mitzvah Hustle", Snot's cousin, Etan, gives the whole school a classy invite to his Bar Mitzvah, except Steve, primarily because he wants to hit on his girlfriend, Debbie. A vengeful Steve enters the party as a "plus one" anyway, and gaslights Etan into thinking he'll crash it, throwing a paranoid tantrum in front of everyone.
  • In the Arthur episode "D.W.'s Very Bad Mood", the reason behind D.W.'s bad mood is that she wasn't invited to a classmate's party while her friend Emily was. When D.W. is forced to admit that she's not really friends with the girl who threw the party, this leads to the lesson that you can't expect to be invited to every event.
  • Codename: Kids Next Door: The Toiletnator is so disliked by his villainous peers that he is given fake invites to their gatherings that send him to places like Antarctica. Somehow, he always manages to figure out the real location but never the fact that the villains don't want him around.
  • DuckTales (2017): Penumbra decides to finally give "Earth fun" a try when she learns that she was the only Moonlander not invited to Pallas's party. She wasn't supposed to know the party had happened at all.
  • Several episodes of Ed, Edd n Eddy involve the title characters not being invited to a party the other kids are having, largely because their antics keep ruining them.
  • El Tigre: The Adventures of Manny Rivera: The plot of "Enter the Cuervo" is kicked off by Frida inviting everyone in school except Zoe Aves to her birthday party. Zoe wouldn't have gone if she was invited, but since she wasn't, she decides to crash the party as Black Cuervo.
  • The Fairly OddParents: Trixie deliberately passes out birthday-party tickets to her entire class... except Timmy, Chester, and AJ. She actually had three tickets reserved for them, solely for her bodyguard to dramatically tear up.
  • In the Family Guy episode "Stew-Roids", Connie became Chris' girlfriend and made him popular. They even plan a house party at the Griffin residence for all popular students, and Meg was rudely informed that she wasn't invited. Meg was upset that Chris had uninvited her to the party at their own house.
  • Fillmore!: Ingrid doesn't get invited to a popular girl's party on the grounds of being "too new." Ingrid probably wouldn't have minded so much if the girl didn't make such a big deal of inviting the entire rest of the class, with the previous new student practically thanking god that he was finally able to go.
  • An episode of Hercules: The Animated Series had Hades invite the Gods to an pool party in the underworld in hopes of using his "Pool of Forgetfulness" to make the Gods have amnesia so he can rule Olympus. However, the one God he does not invite is Trivia, God of Where Three Roads Meet, due to seeing him as harmless on account of being a bore. Too bad Trivia, with the help of Hercules, manages to stop his plan.
  • Hey Arnold!: Rhonda holds a party for all the cool kids including her best friend, Nadine, and Arnold. She didn't invite her classmates particularly Gerald due to a grudge she had against him. Later on, Arnold dislikes how Rhonda labels Gerald and their friends as "geeks" which causes him to leave her party and hold his own party with the "geeks" on the roof of his boarding house.
  • In It's the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown, Charlie Brown is invited to Violet's annual Halloween party, much to his surprise. Lucy promptly tells him that there were two lists for the party - one of the people to invite, and one of the people not to invite and that he must have been put on the wrong list.
  • League of Super Evil: The episode "Party Pooper" has all the members of L. O. S. E. being invited to their neighbor's birthday party except Voltar, whose attempts to get in fail each time. He then decides to ruin the party instead, only for all his plans to make the party even more fun for all the guests.
  • The Loud House episode "The Waiting Game" focuses on Lincoln and Clyde being uninvited to their classmate Chandler's birthday party and trying to butter him up so he'll invite them.
  • In an episode of My Friends Tigger & Pooh, Tigger is in a funk because he wasn't invited to a birthday party, but then it turns out that his friends just forgot to invite him.
  • My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic: Subverted in one episode. Discord is less offended that Celestia didn't invite him to the Grand Galloping Gala in the first place than he is that Fluttershy didn't ask him to be her plus one (she assumed he had his own invitation). Then it turns out that he was invited, but because his home is in a dimension of pure chaos, the mailpony couldn't find it. He does wind up receiving the invitation in plenty of time to get to the party, but he already feels snubbed and decides to pull a platonic Operation: Jealousy to get back at Fluttershy.
  • Noddy's Toyland Adventures: One episode of Make Way for Noddy has Noddy throwing a party for all of his friends. Until then, Martha Monkey was angry at Noddy that she didn't received an invitation from him. Noddy then realizes that he forgot to invite her. As a result, Martha then vows to never forgive him.
  • In one episode of OK K.O.! Let's Be Heroes, Lord Boxman crashes a yacht party held by a bunch of his fellow supervillains, most of whom consider him an obnoxious idiot. He doesn't go because he actually wants to; he hates his fellow villains as much as they hate him, and he goes purely to ruin their fun by making an ass of himself.
  • The Powerpuff Girls (2016): Princess Morbucks throws a party for her sixth birthday and everyone in Townsville is invited... everyone except Blossom.
  • South Park:
    • "Casa Bonita" revolves around Kyle having his birthday at the titular restaurant and refuses to invite Cartman. Cartman then tries to become nicer so Kyle will invite him, and when that fails he manipulates Butters into going missing so he can take his place.
    • "Stupid Spoiled Whore Video Playset" has the girls invite several boys over for a party. Wendy isn't invited on grounds of not being slutty enough. Cartman, who also wasn't invited, later tries to get in only to be turned away each time.
    • In "Damien", both Pip and Damien are rudely refused invitations for Cartman's party. Realising The Chain of Harm, Damien bullies Pip in front of the boys, impressing Cartman enough to get an invite. Granted, Cartman only invited every other kid on the grounds they buy him the exact birthday present he asked for. When Kyle buys him a cheap board game instead, Cartman throws an epic tantrum and kicks everyone out.
  • Strawberry Shortcake subverts this in the 2003 series.
    • Ginger Snap tries to fake this condition just to get out of a camping trip in "Ginger Snap's No-light Night of Fright" due to her nyctophobia.
    • "Sleeping Beauty" has a moment where the Brambleberry Fairynote  crashes a party due to her lack of an invite... except she committed two errors: firstly, those brambleberry bushes not just defend the house from robbers, but also end up being an effective "No solicitors" sign, and she Failed a Spot Check and lied to herself about not getting one at all. Prince Huckleberry mentions those points in his lecture to her near the end.
  • Played for Laughs in an episode of T.U.F.F. Puppy where the villain, the Caped Cod, plans to ruin an aristocrat's wedding due to not being invited as he went to middle school with said aristocrat. During his plan, he looks through his mail and sees that he did get invited and out of mortification, considers halting his plan before changing his mind when he sees that fish will be served at the wedding.

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