A promise is a promise. (And an agreement is an agreement, and a contract is a contract.) It will bind for whatever term it stated or until whatever condition was required is fulfilled — forever if neither was — or leave a character The Oath-Breaker forever.
Unless you're let off.
Normally, only the person you made it to can do it, though sometimes the person on whose behalf it was made can — if Alice promised Bob to protect Charlie, either Bob or Charlie might be able to let her off, provided she accepts it. Oaths made to a god — or sometimes just on the god's name — can be absolved by a religious authority, sometimes. A Magically-Binding Contract can mean that only the attempt can be made, though it still indicates Character Development.
Usually this is a way to indicate development, and a shift from an almost contractual (if not actually contractual) relationship to an open-ended one powered by love, friendship, or trust. There is always drama inherent, particularly if it started out as a Leonine Contract or a Rash Promise, in that this will demonstrate whether those things really have that power at this point. Or not.
Delicacy may be required to prevent hurt feelings, and if it's lacking, the promise-maker may feel insulted and even rejected. A powerful More Hero than Thou argument often ensues if the promise-receiver is trying to break the association for the other character's good. Honor may insist that he can not be freed even by the promise-receiver. And insult may be taken in some cultures, where being released from the oath carries the implication that the promise-maker was so flawed that the promise-receiver doesn't want to keep him on. (The Dirty Coward may show his true character by his cheerful indifference to the disgrace of receiving this; he may even ask for it, which all but amounts to being The Oath-Breaker.)
On the other hand, if the promise-maker lacks scruples, or if it was a Leonine Contract, he may be pretty earnest in efforts to convince the other to give up the promise. Exact Words may be used toward this end as well as evading the spirit of the oath.
Also, Exact Words may be wittingly used by both characters to allow the technical fulfillment of the vow that neither one wants. The noble who swore that Princess Alice will enter the chapel where she is to be crowned only over his body may lie down on the steps and direct her to step over him.
If the character received things in return for the promise, things can get interesting. If the thing is no longer possible or applicable, it may merely be a gracious acknowledgement of the fact. However, if the character gets to keep the things anyway, he will often feel guilty. If he doesn't get to keep it, his reaction may vary from fury in high drama, or despair, to a Hilarity Ensues attempt to weasel the promise-receiver out of freeing him.
An exchange of vows often requires mutual agreement, and is very ticklish to bring up. Betrothals are a special case; depending on the culture, it may be only by mutual agreement, only by some flaw, or only by the woman.
- Subverted in Naruto: Sakura, out of guilt and shame of having hurt Naruto's feelings in the past and fearing that he will die, makes a painfully fake love confession to him in a desperate attempt to release him of his "Promise of a Lifetime" to her: bringing back the guy she loves, Sasuke, to her. Naruto easily sees right through her fake confession, calls her out for lying, rejects her outright by telling her that he hates people who lie to themselves, and tells her that that promise is no longer the reason why he wants Sasuke back; he has his own reasons for doing so now.
- In the end of Avatar: The Last Airbender - The Promise, Zuko releases Aang from the eponymous promise to kill him if he fails to be a benevolent Fire Lord, realizing he was essentially asking Aang to be an escape from The Chains of Commanding.
- The Mighty Thor: Skurge the Executioner banishes Jane Foster to another dimension and tells Thor he'll only release her if he surrenders his hammer and promises to never try to take it back. Thor surrenders the hammer and Skurge keeps his word and releases Jane. A few moments later, Amora the Enchantress, who was angry because she wanted Jane to be trapped forever, starts turning Skurge into a tree. Skurge begs Thor to save him and releases him from his promise so that he can pick the hammer up and stop Amora.
- Phoebe and Her Unicorn opens with the unicorn Marigold granting one wish to Phoebe for freeing her. Phoebe wishes for Marigold to be her friend. Months later, Christmas approaches, and Phoebe stresses over what present to get for Marigold. In the process, she realizes that obligation isn't a good foundation for true friendship—so for her Christmas present, she frees Marigold from the terms of the wish. Marigold replies that she still wants to be Phoebe's friend.
- In The Bridge, Destroyah swore to serve as Xenilla's weapon because he previously saved her life. Later, when she expresses how she's finally happy by living as a pony in Equestria, he says she is no longer his nor anybody else's weapon.
- Dual Destinies: Akane eventually accepts that neither Ranma Red or Ranma Blue will marry her, and officially renounces their engagement. Later on, Soun follows suit, realizing that his family matters more to him than his promise to Genma.
- Entering The Love Hina World: After Anthony accidentally reveals that Naru is the 'Promise Girl' that Keitaro has been looking for, Naru immediately declares said promise to be null and void. She takes considerable pleasure in doing so, talking down to him in an extremely callous and condescending fashion that leaves everybody appalled... save for the cheerfully oblivious Su.
- A Leaf of the Tree: Hanzo the Salamander desires a rematch against the legendary Sannin. However, after a well-fought match with Takeo, he decides that he honored that desire rather than the Sannin, releasing them from the promise.
- In Mutant Storm, it is revealed that wizards are forbidden to use magic in Gringotts under an old treaty, but Harry faces no charge after he violates that rule because he only did it to save Griphook from a Death Eater attack.
- In the alternate ending to Pride Comes Before The Fall, Cologne realizes she was about to condemn an innocent Ranma, much to her horror. She then cancels his engagement to Shampoo as part of her penance.
- Sakura releases Syaoran from his promise to take care of her, stating that she just wants him to be free and happy with his life.
- After coming to believe that Kurogane only agreed to be Friends with Benefits out of some sense of personal obligation, Syaoran tries to release him from their arrangement.
- Fai hits the pair with an ultimatum, pressuring them to reveal their relationship to Sakura, but recants after seeing how much pressure this was putting upon Syaoran.
- There's an old Sonic the Hedgehog fanfic series by Robert Brown and Francis Tolbert (found here) which has an OC called Dorian Lexford. Snively (one of the villains of the story) saves Dorian's life. Being extremely honourable, Dorian chooses to serve Snively until his debt is repaid. Snively eventually chooses to release Dorian from his debt so that Dorian can be with the woman he loves.
- Batman: Mask of the Phantasm. Bruce Wayne has just started his vigilante crusade, but finds his anger diminished now that he's falling in love with Andrea Beaumont. During a thunderstorm he visits his parent's graves and begs to be released from his Roaring Rampage of Revenge.
Bruce: I know I made a promise, but I didn't see this coming! I didn't count on being happy! Please, tell me it's OK!
Andrea: (Walk-In Chime-In) Maybe they already have. Maybe they sent me.
- In Beauty and the Beast, Beast lets Belle go of her Take Me Instead promise when they find out her father could die if he doesn't get help.
- In Corpse Bride, at the end, Emily frees Victor from his Accidental Marriage to her, realizing that not only he does like Victoria... but that, if he keeps the promise, Emily will take Victoria's happiness away just like it happened to her.
- In An Extremely Goofy Movie Max makes a bet with Bradley Uppercrust that the loser of the X-games becomes the winner's towel-boy. Max wins, and Bradley acknowledges their bet as he goes to shake hands with him. Max is nice enough to call it off... though that might be because Brad's got other problems.
- The Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh has a final scene where Tigger, who was stuck in a tree, made a desperate bargain for help that he would never bounce again if he could get down safely. The Narrator manages to help Tigger do so, but finds himself trapped by his promise to never bounce again, especially by Rabbit who revels in finally getting that annoyance out of his hair. However, Tigger proves to be such a profoundly mournful figure trudging away that the gang immediately decide to release him from his promise and pressure Rabbit to go along with that.
- Oliver & Company: Fagin decides to extort money from what he believes to be a rich man in order to pay off a relentless loan-shark named Sykes. He does so by kidnapping! ...the rich man's cat. It turns out that the cat belongs to a little girl named Jenny Foxworth. She arrives and overcome with guilt, he returns the kitten to her just as Sykes arrives (having been informed of the plan by Fagin). He kidnaps Jenny and tells Fagin to consider his debt paid in full.
- In Tangled, Flynn presents his efforts to persuade Rapunzel to release him as a generous offer to release her — she's feeling guilty about abandoning her mother, so he will bring her back without showing her what he promised, and she will give him back what he stole. When that doesn't work, he brings her to the Snuggly Duckling in an attempt to show her the thugs she fears and persuade her thus.
- Later, Rapunzel does rescind it, giving him it back before he has completed his promised portion. Gothel intervenes to make her think that he abandoned her immediately.
- Conan the Destroyer. After Conan frees her from slavers, Zula asks to ride with him and serve him. At the end of the movie Princess Jehnna asks Zula to be the captain of her guard. Conan releases her from her oath to him (and grants her permission to take the post) with a nod.
- In The Return of the King, Aragorn calls upon the cursed dead men of Dunharrow to serve him as Cavalry of the Dead to rescue Minas Tirith from Sauron's attack. After the Battle of the Pelennor Fields, he declares their debt paid and their spirits are laid to rest, despite Gimli wanting to keep them around as a useful invulnerable force.
- In Wild Strawberries, Isak has leant his son Evald a significant sum of money, which he insists that he pay back (even though Isak does not need the money, Evald cannot really afford to pay him back and Evald's wife has attempted to dissuade Isak from asking for the money back), which Evald agrees to do. At the end of the film, after Isak's spiritual journey, he attempts to tell Evald to forget about the loan, only for Evald to cut him off and insist that he'll pay him back.
- Youth (2017): After Shuwen helps Liu Feng out of a jam by paying for his impounded truck, he writes her an IOU. She promptly tears it up.
- A Christmas Carol: Belle releases Ebenezer from his promise to marry her.
- In The Dinosaur Lords, when Jaume draws the metaphorical Line in the Sand, he tells his men that if any choose to leave, they're forgiven and absolved of their oaths of loyalty.
- In L. M. Montgomery's Emily Climbs, Emily goes to college after promising not to write any fiction when she is there. After two years, a rich relative took up paying the tuition, and the aunt she promised tells Emily that since it was in return for the tuition, she must release Emily from her promise.
- In Girls Kingdom, Minako fully intended to keep her sponsorship with the sports shop in her hometown even after she went pro, but when the owners learn that Kagura wants to sponsor her to promote her new line of sporting goods, they immediately tell her to take that sponsorship instead, promise or no promise. To make sure she goes for it, they even threaten to drop their sponsorship regardless of whether she takes Kagura's.
- Gotrek & Felix: It's a sign of how bad the situation is for Gotrek to formally release Felix from his oath of staying with Gotrek until Gotrek dies in battle (something that both have been adventuring for decades to happen)so that Felix can take Snorri to safety.
- The Han Solo Trilogy has a young Han Solo attempt this with an annoying Wookie who won't leave him alone ever since he saved his life. When he attempts to absolve his new companion of any obligation to return the favor, the Wookie, by the name of Chewbacca, informs him that he does not have the right to release the Wookie from his life debt. He decides to keep Chewbacca as a traveling companion after Chewie saves him from being shot to death in a bar.
- In Julie Kagawa's The Iron Queen, Puck explains to Meghan that offering to release Ash from a vow is like tearing his heart out: it means that she doesn't trust him and never wants to see him again. Even though he knows her actual motive-to protect him from a situation of grave danger to him.
- I've Been Killing Slimes for 300 Years and Maxed Out My Level: Played with when Azusa is coerced into unknowingly making the blue dragon Flatorte her slave. She immediately tries to set Flatorte free, unfortunately, Flatorte's pride as a dragon means she insists on adhering to the terms of her servitude and refusing, going so far as to threaten to kill herself should Azusa do it anyway. This is even though this situation was against Flatorte's will as well. The two compromise by having Azusa's one standing order to Flatorte be that she is to do as she pleases, allowing Flatorte her freedom while still keeping her bound to Azusa.
- In E.D.E.N. Southworth's Ishmael Herman Brudenell told his secret wife, Nora, and her sister that whenever it was better to let the marriage be known, they could tell it. Nevertheless, Nora kept her tongue when his mother confronted her and pled the promise. Her sister berated her for it.
- In The Last Knight, Sir Michael releases Fisk from his obligation to stay with Michael only to have Fisk stay anyway to keep his employer-turned-friend out of trouble.
- In The Lord of the Rings, Pippin swears to serve Denethor "until my lord release me, or death take me, or the world end." When Denethor enters his madness, Pippin's attempts to talk him down irritate him and result in him taking back Pippin's oath — which means Pippin is free to go and get Gandalf to stop whatever madness Denethor is up to, while everyone else who knows what Denethor is planning remains bound by their oaths to obey Denethor's order to not interfere.
- In the Back Story of Dorothy L. Sayers' Lord Peter Wimsey stories, Lord Peter had been engaged before World War I; he had wanted to have a Wartime Wedding but was persuaded out of it on the grounds that he might end up crippled, which would be unfair to her. He released her from the engagement, just in case, and found that meant she was quickly snatched up by an unscrupulous wooer.
- In a P. G. Wodehouse Mr. Mulliner story, after discussion on escaping engagements, Mr. Mulliner recounts how Mulliners, being honorable, insist that only the woman can break it off, and recounts a story about a nephew trying to persuade his beloved to do so after he discovers what he thinks is evidence of insanity in his family.
- In Seanan McGuire's October Daye novels
- Rosemary and Rue: Toby thinks how Sylvester would do this if she asked. So she never will, given changelings reputations as The Oathbreaker.
- One Salt Sea: Toby tells Sylvester he's her liege, and he reminds her that she could have this for the asking, because she's a countess.
- In Pact, Undead Child Evan Matthieu is bound to Diabolist Blake Thorburn by Blake's sworn oath to fight monsters like the one that left Evan a bodiless ghost running eternally through the forest, but he releases Blake from the oath after Blake is mauled by a Riddling Sphinx and nearly killed, deciding that it's better to worry about more immediate concerns. Of course, Blake, being afflicted with Chronic Hero Syndrome, still goes after the monsters, and is made into an Unperson by a demon for his troubles.
- In L. Jagi Lamplighter's Prospero's Daughter trilogy, a Magically-Binding Contract holds the winds obedient to Miranda's flute for a millennium. Mab is always after her to break it and free them. Halfway through the trilogy, Miranda realizes that this sort of slavery may be keeping her from becoming a Sibyl and tells the major winds that if they can figure out a way to keep all the winds from wrecking havoc without it, she will free them from it. At the end, she breaks it to free her brother. Astreus gets the winds to behave despite it.
- When Ferdinand appears, he offers Miranda a marriage in name only, so as to technically fulfill her promise to marry him or die a maid, and actually be released.
- In L. M. Montgomery's Rainbow Valley, Rosemary and Ellen had promised to stay single together. Rosemary fell in love, and Ellen refused to free her. Later, Ellen fell in love; while she didn't even ask, she told her lover, who asked, and Rosemary nobly agreed to free her and declared she would not tell her love that she was free. Ellen, of course, could not accept her freedom under those conditions. (Fortunately the youngest daughter of Rosemary's love intervened.)
- Discussed and averted in The Silmarillion:
Maglor: If Manwë and Varda themselves deny the fulfilment of an oath to which we named them in witness, is it not made void?
Maedhros: But how shall our voices reach to Ilúvatar beyond the Circles of the World? And by Ilúvatar we swore in our madness, and called the Everlasting Darkness upon us, if we kept not our word. Who shall release us?
- In Caroline Stevermer and Patricia C. Wrede's Sorcery and Cecelia, the Marquis begs Kate to release him from the engagement. Aware of the enchantment, she refuses. She is very annoyed when she realizes he did it to convince that the enchantment was working on him.
- Stardust: Victoria promises to marry Tristran before he goes off on his quest, not expecting him to succeed or even be gone very long. When he comes back triumphant a year and a day later, she's fallen in love with someone else but is willing to meet her obligation anyway. However, the exact wording of the promise was that she'd give him his heart's desire, and he also loves someone else, so he tells her his heart's desire is for her to marry the other man and be very happy.
- In Connie Willis's To Say Nothing of the Dog, much of Verity and Ned's angling is to get Tossie to do this to Terence-this being Victorian times, Terence can't break off himself.
- In Lois McMaster Bujold's Vorkosigan Saga, Miles explains to Elena and her husband that he can't technically free them from their oaths to him, but they can agree to mutually head off on their merry ways.
- The Folk of the Air:
- Jude manages to secure her safety and position in the new fairy king's court by binding him to a year and a day of service. In the second book, he manages to convince her to release him from the promise by marrying her; that way she can still to all the day to day governance that he hates, and she won't have to worry about him killing her because she will be equal in power to him. (Obviously it doesn't quite go to plan.)
- Earlier, the king freed General Madoc from his promise of fealty to the king. It was done through trickery on Madoc's part, and comes back to bite Cardan in the ass later.
- Tales From Verania: The climax of the first book is that Sam is in love with Ryan, but Ryan has already promised to marry Prince Justin. Multiple characters intercede on Ryan's behalf to ask Justin to release him from his promise, to no avail. It's only when Ryan asks that Justin finally agrees.
- In 30 Rock, Tracy releases the suddenly very successful Kenneth from his promise to always be there for Tracy. Tracy reveals that when he got big everyone wanted something from him, and he doesn't want to be that person to Kenneth.
- In Babylon 5, when Londo rather abruptly tells Morden and his associates that he wishes to end their (implied contractual) relationship, Morden rather calmly accepts this, and does some final "settling up with him", demarcating areas of the galaxy where the Centauri were and were not allowed to conquer. Later he seeks and finds a way to reel Londo back in, however.
- Doctor Who: In "The Pilot", Bill's crush Heather promises not to leave without her again. While Bill is circling around to rejoin her, Heather is forcibly absorbed by a mysterious puddle of sentient alien fluid and becomes the titular entity, who starts stalking Bill because of this promise. Bill has to do this trope to get Pilot!Heather to stop following her.
- In MythQuest, a mysterious knight challenges the court of Camelot to a test of their honor. If he lets one of them cut off his head, will they let him do the same? Caradoc accepts, and when Alex, who has taken his place in the story, willingly sets his head upon the bench, the knight is impressed at his courage and honor and releases him. This is based on an old Arthurian story-Sir Gawain and the Green Knight.
- Star Trek: Enterprise: T'Pol has an Arranged Marriage waiting for her back on Vulcan, as per Vulcan custom. However, Trip convinces her not to go through with it. Later, when the Enterprise goes to Vulcan to cure T'Pol's mind-meld-induced illness, her mother expects her to settle down with Koss, her husband-to-be. T'Pol is reluctant. However, when Koss promises to use his social standing to save her mother's career in return for T'Pol's hand in marriage, T'Pol agrees. Then her mother dies, and Koss, seeing that T'Pol doesn't want to be married to him and the original condition no longer applies, releases her from her obligation.
- Star Trek: Picard: Subverted in the episode "The Impossible Box"; Picard wants Elnor to accompany him and escape the Artifact by stepping through the Sikarian spatial projector, so the former releases the latter from his qalankhkai pledge to protect Picard with his life. However, Elnor declines to be released and resolves to stay behind so that the Romulans cannot trace where Picard and Soji have gone.
- Star Trek: Deep Space Nine has an interesting take on this with the Trill. Despite the Trill symbionts being long-lived and passing between multiple hosts, each host/symbiont pair is legally and culturally considered a distinct person with no responsibility for the obligations of the previous pairings, be it marriage, debts, crimes, blood oaths to a pack of Klingons... But of course it's not that easy when each host has all the memories of their predecessors. This comes up in a few episodes, usually with Jadzia having to face consequences of Curzon's rather colorful lifestyle.
- In Princess: The Hopeful, the Charm "Forced Vows Are No Vows" gives a Princess the authority to renegotiate or release someone from a Magically-Binding Contract. As the name implies, it's designed for dealing with a Leonine Contract and other situations where a contract holder is unjustly abusing their power.
- Final Fantasy XIV: Flame General Raubahn Aldynn pledged his sword to Ul'dah's sultana, Nanamo ul Namo, and intends to keep to that oath, even as part of him would, come Stormblood, prefer to remain in the newly liberated Ala Mhigo. Nanamo, fully aware of this, essentially fires Raubahn to free him from his vow so that he may focus on Ala Mhigo, elevating Raubahn's son, Pipin, to his former position.
- Horizon Zero Dawn has a non-villainous example. Atral used to tell his lover that their lives were locked together, and he carried a literal lock around to remind himself of this. When he dies, he gives the lock to her, because he wants her to go on living and not get bogged down in mourning him. She feels less optimistic.
- In Neverwinter Nights 2 expansion pack Mask of the Betrayer, two siblings offer to fight alongside you if you can find their older sister Kaelyn. When you bring Kaelyn to them, she asks you to release them from the promise as she doesn't want them being in unnecessary danger.
- Defied in Planescape: Torment: Dak'kon took on a life debt that he since came to regret, but he refuses to be let out of it even if the person to whom he made the vow sincerely offers to release him unconditionally. That person is the main character, and the life debt is a lifetime of service requested without mentioning the main character's immortality. Eventually the player can get Dak'kon out of it, but only by convincing him that the debt was never valid in the first place.
- Hatoful Boyfriend: Years before the game, a dying scientist asked Shuu to help out the scientist's son, Ryouta, in some way. Shuu decided to grant him a wish - the wish was for a world in which humans and birds did not fight, which Shuu decided to fulfill by eliminating the human race, starting with Ryouta's best friend, using Ryouta himself as a Bird of Mass Destruction. Near the end a half-broken Ryouta tells him:
"Doctor... my wish ends today. Father is no longer in this world... there is no reason for you to chase after his final will any more."
- Girl Genius:
- Tarvek released Violetta from her obligations to him, his family, and the order so that he could send her into Lady Heterodyne's service.
- Later on, Tarvek releases Otilia/Von Pinn from her responsibility to watch over Agatha so she can guard Gil instead. Technically he doesn't have the authority to do this yet, but she really wants to accept, so she decides he's close enough.
- An odd double example with The Boys, three of the Heterodynes' Jagermonsters. When the last of the Heterodynes vanished, the remaining Jagers were compelled to join up with Baron Wulfenbach for wages and protection. However, they felt an obligation to serve the Heterodynes and search for a successor. As a compromise, Maxim, Oggie, and Dino were "detached" from the Jagers, releasing them from their oath to Wulfenbach and leaving them free to hunt the lost Heterodynes. In turn, this meant the other Jagers were free of their commitment to the Heterodynes and could serve the Baron.
- In The Order of the Stick, the team's contracts with Roy specifically stated that it lasted until Xykon was defeated, and when they believed they had done so, Haley brought this up, though they stuck together anyway. When Roy learns Xykon is still alive, he carefully points this out before shredding the contracts in front of the team and saying he doesn't want to coerce them. They stick together still, having formed a team.
- The Dragon Prince: Rayla swore to kill Ezran to avenge the Dragon Prince, and bound a ribbon around her arm that symbolized the oath and would destroy her hand if she didn't complete it. She couldn't cut the ribbon with a Sun-Fire blade, but when Zym hatches, he easily bites it off and freed Rayla's hand. After all, he was the Dragon Prince she was sworn to avenge, and not only was there nothing to avenge, he absolutely didn't want Ezran hurt.
- In an episode of The Real Ghostbusters, Egon's uncle visits the team and wants to take Egon with him, reminding Egon that he promised to help him with his own research, and he doesn't believe in ghosts. At the end of the episode they prove the existence of ghosts to him, and he directly tells Egon that he releases him from his promise.