Mr. Collins: I am not now to learn, that it is usual with young ladies to reject the addresses of the man whom they secretly mean to accept, when he first applies for their favour; and that sometimes the refusal is repeated a second, or even a third time. I am therefore by no means discouraged by what you have just said, and shall hope to lead you to the altar ere long.
This trope happens when a male or female character refuses to take any hints or outright rejections in their pursuit of the object of their affection. The suitors are often very vocal and aggressive in their courtship despite the lack of progress or even outright disgust exhibited by the recipient of their love. As creepy as it sounds, this is often played for comedy or even shown as romantic.
In the world of fiction, unless a character intended as one-time is the suitor and one of the main protagonists is the object of the unwanted affection—after all, no "boy wants girl no matter what" story arc means no story ideas to attract audiences and ratings – this trope often plays out straight, and frequently leads to the target being worn down and giving in. In the real world, ignoring enough "no's" could legally qualify as stalking or harassment (or both), and can lead to criminal charges and/or restraining orders...or, at the very least, a warning from the police to back off.
Mad Love could become the result of this trope, if the admirer's advances are rejected both often and strongly enough; especially if they refuse to take "no" for an answer.
Also related to Abhorrent Admirer for the one being hit on, and Hopeless Suitor for the one doing the hitting. It may become a case of Dogged Nice Guy (or girl), depending on whether the reader/audience is meant to sympathize with them.
- Winner Sinclair from Karin is head over heels in love with Karin in the anime. This wouldn't be a problem, normally.. except that she's already in love with Usui... and also, she's a vampire and he's a vampire hunter. He doesn't know her true identity yet, but despite being rejected over and over again, he continues his advances on her. He could literally have any other girl, they all want him!
- In Ai to Yuuki no Pig Girl Tonde Buurin, Takuma has a crush on Karin and repeatedly tries to win her heart. The fact that Karin is one of the only girls (and maybe even the ONLY girl) who isn't attracted to him doesn't seem to bother him.
- Digimon Adventure 02: Mummymon has this towards Arukenimon. She clearly doesn't like him the same way (she tolerates him whenever he isn't being touchy-feely, but that's it), yet he's so devoted to her he's willing to die trying to avenge her.
- Girls Bravo plays the trope for laughs and fanservice, by having Kosame persistently lust after Kirie no matter how many times she tells Kosame that she isn't interested. So she repeatedly has to fight her off, though Kosame manages to steal Kirie's First Kissnote as a genuine show of affection. It Makes Sense in Context.
- Junjou Romantica has this between Misaki Takahashi and Kyo Ijuuin. While Misaki has told Ijuuin countless times that he does love him, it's the love meant as respect and admiration he has as a dedicated fan of Ijuuin's manga. After Misaki's first "confession" that broke him out of a particularly bad writer's block, Ijuuin ended up falling in Love at First Sight, and continually tries to romance Misaki. It's a problem particularly due to the fact that not only was Ijuuin quite aware that Misaki was dating Akihiko from the get go, even after Misaki made it clear that he didn't love Ijuuin that way, Ijuuin keeps trying to win Misaki over. Once he's warned that if he doesn't stop, Misaki may come to hate him, he does quit. Though Ijuuin makes it quite clear to Akihiko if he ever comes to upset Misaki, he'll be there to steal him away.
- In Runaways, after Nico dumps him for cheating on her, Victor keeps trying to win her back, usually making his overtures at inappropriate moments.
- Liō: The titular character relentlessly pursues Eva Rose, despite the latter's repeatedly reciprocated cruelty and disdain towards him (tho it is quite possible that for her it is a case of Belligerent Sexual Tension, but alas Status Quo Is God so we'll probably never find out...).
- Garfield: Jon fell in love with lots of women over the course of the series, but he pursued the hot veterinarian Liz most often, considering she was the one to whom he had to bring Garfield and/or Odie for checkups. It didn't matter how much or how blatantly she turned him aside, he persisted, and even got to go out with her a lot before they became the Official Couple and the emphasis shifted to Jon being unable to handle actually being in a relationship. Early on in the series, their first date went over quite well, but then Flanderization set in as her Deadpan Snarker tendencies in dealing with him took over.
- In the Ellen DeGeneres film, Mr. Wrong, Martha's Abhorrent Admirer Whitman refuses to accept her outright rejects and continues insisting they are meant to be... until she shoots and apparently kills him.
- The Notebook: Allie only falls in love with Noah after rejecting him repeatedly only for him to persist.
- Downplayed in Back to the Future, but it's there. Marty's rejection of the attentions of his future mother help fuel her attraction.
- In My Man Godfrey, the female lead can't stop hitting on Godfrey while he is constantly rejecting her advances.
- Scott from Love Before Breakfast won't stop following Kay and declaring his love for her even when she constantly puts him in his place for his annoying behaviour. She eventually falls in love with him. The 1930s for you.
- Indecent Proposal: Billionaire John Gage continually pursues Diana Murphy even though she spends a good portion of the film rebuffing his advances — from the moment he approaches her in the boutique, offering to buy an expensive dress for her—"The dress is for sale. I'm not", to the infamous titular proposal, to his showing up at her job uninvited, to the point where she even explicitly tells him, "I hate you", which he dismisses with an offhand, "You wish you hated me" and tries to kiss her even as she's pulling away from him.
- Mansfield Park: When Fanny Price refuses Henry Crawford's marriage proposal, he and her uncle both assume her rejection is not serious and just a sign of her female modesty. He continues pursuing her against her wishes, but with the full support of her family.
- Pride and Prejudice: Averted. While Mr. Collins initially takes Elizabeth's first rejection as encouragement to continue courting her (see article quote), he soon finds out that she is serious. But his initial interpretation of her rejection as a positive step in their relationship reflects on his views of women in their culture.
- Referred to in Gone with the Wind, when Scarlett notes that the war is making young women accept proposals and get married at a shockingly fast rate, rather than rejecting a beau at least two times, as a proper lady should. She herself does this to Rhett, who pursues her despite the numerous times she essentially tells him to kiss off, and Ashley does this to her—even him marrying another woman can't seem to get it through to her that he doesn't love her, and she views them having a child as a betrayal of her.
- Downton Abbey: Edith pursues her neighbor Sir Anthony Strallan aggressively even though her parents AND Strallannote are against the match. She finally gets the hint when he leaves her at the altar.
- Family Matters: Steve Urkel spends the entire run of this sitcom aggressively trying to win Laura's affections even though she is repulsed by him. His perseverance pays off in the end.
- Saved by the Bell: Even though Lisa is extremely vocal in her lack of interest in Screech, he obliviously insists they are meant to be.
- Step by Step: Dana is the continuous subject of the unwanted attentions of her stepfather's nephew Cody, at least in the early seasons. This is downplayed later on, as he simply becomes irritating but does not pursue her romantically.
- The Vampire Diaries:
- Katherine is deeply in love with Stefan who makes it clear he wants nothing to do with her. That doesn't stop Katherine from insisting she will have him again.
- Klaus is also undeterred by Caroline's abhorrence for him.
- Wizards of Waverly Place: Harper isn't at all put off by Justin's disinterest.
- Friends: A distilled version in one episode: An entire sub-plot revolves around Chandler getting his best friend Monica to acknowledge he's 'boyfriend material'. He doesn't succeed but they get together a season later, making it ambiguous whether his joking persistence was serious or not.
- Seinfeld: George goes from merely wanting to get along with Jerry's girlfriend (he seems genuinely upset that she dislikes him, especially as he's neither said nor done anything to warrant this), to being downright obsessed with making her like him, to actually being attracted to her because she can't stand him, outright telling Jerry, "This woman dislikes me so much... I'm starting to like her."
- In Homestuck, Roxy persistently hits on Dirk despite knowing that he's gay. She later expresses regret over her behavior and acknowledges that it was annoying and inappropriate.
- Magick Chicks: Initially played straight between Faith and Tiffany, who was resistant to Faith's advances because she was straight. But the writers eventually changed their minds about Tiff's sexuality, by making it so she has a one-off attraction to Faith. Since then, they've segued from UST, to full-blown will they or won't they?
- Sandra on the Rocks: Christophe keeps asking Marie for dates, despite always being rejected (because she's naturally suspicious of his record as The Casanova, and anyway she's more interested in Alex). Fortunately, it's all quite amicable on both sides.
- Sticky Dilly Buns: After having slept with Jerzy once in the past, Angel pursues him very persistently, despite repeated (but perhaps insufficiently forceful) rejections, until Jerzy succumbs after a few too many drinks.
- Hey Arnold!: While Helga is busy being a Stalker with a Crush to Arnold, Brainy is doing the same to Helga, but a lot more openly. No matter how many times she hits him, he persists.
- Pepe Le Pew is practically the poster child for this. No matter how many times Penelope flees from him, or even attacks him, he always thinks she's just playing hard to get.
- Muppet Babies: Gonzo continually woos Piggy, despite her greeting his advances with contempt and karate chops. This is borrowed from The Muppet Show, where it occurred less frequently.
- Code Lyoko: While it initially seemed William had his chances with Yumi, he ends up becoming this. By season 3, she is completely fed up with him and brutally tells him what she thinks. He still keeps flirting with her after that.