She likes sports, beer, cars, swearing, fighting and sex. She is crude, rude, often hygienically challenged and cheerfully ignorant and aggressive. If you are a guy, she'll probably challenge you to a fight or a drinking competition, win both and then take an aggressive lead in anything sexual that happens, before kicking you out the front door the following morning or teasing you mercilessly if she lets you stay some more.
In short, she is a young woman with the personality of a frat boy. She is the Lad-ette.
Despite (or perhaps because of) their masculine personalities, Lad-ettes are generally heavily sexualised and are not likely to let any males in the company forget they are female. They usually disdain the hassle of highly elaborately feminine clothing/hair/makeup, but don't often dress in a truly cross-dressing way. They are also generally attractive; a genuinely ugly Ladette is very unusual. Male characters may well be sexually interested in Ladettes for various reasons, whether it's appreciation of their masculine personality and interests, because they don't disapprove of laddish behaviour, or simply because of theirassumed willingness to engage in casual sex.
Sometimes, this woman's personality is explained by her having grown up with brothers or been raised as a boy.
Also note that The Lad-ette in fiction not uncommonly winds up dropping her lifestyle in favour of something more conventional. It is difficult to tell whether this is Truth in Television or not, given how relatively recent the character type is, but there is probably at least an element of wishful thinking at play.
Compare and contrast with other tropes about women who look/behave in a traditionally "masculine" way: the Tomboy (she might have been one when young); Bifauxnen (where the girl can effectively pass as a male - though ironically while lacking most of the 'masculine' behaviour of the Ladette); Pirate Girl; and her grandmother, who shares her mannerisms and points of view, yet retains the femininistic image: The Flapper. Also compare with the Butch Lesbian, with which this trope may or may not overlap. If that hot girl is acting like a guy because she's not 100% girl, it's a case of Everybody Wants the Hermaphrodite. Sometimes, especially in anime and manga, one of these gets teamed up with a more-refined masculine-acting character.
Also compare with her female drinking mates, the Hard-Drinking Party Girl and the Lady Drunk. And, for the ideologies for and against her, see Girls Need Role Models, Real Women Never Wear Dresses and Vasquez Always Dies. The Squadette may also be a Lad-ette, but it's not a job requirement.
A Gender Bender plot (especially via a "Freaky Friday" Flip) can often result in a girl with a literal masculine personality who acts much like a Lad-ette.
Contrast with Yamato Nadeshiko and Proper Lady; two ideals of feminine beauty (Eastern Asia and Western Europe, respectively.) Also contrast with Iron Lady, a similarly masculine woman with a very different personality.
Due to the "frat boy in a girl's body" nature of this trope, the Lad-ette is the most likely to be a female Gasshole.
PandoraHearts Alice the B-rabbit is not only the most powerful Chain in the Abyss, she also insults everyone she meets, likes to eat meat and fight, can win arm-wrestling matches. Her idea of greeting someone is by "biting" them on the cheek, and she loves to fight. When she was human, she was also this. She liked to wear dark dresses as opposed to her sister, who is lady-like in every way. She also likes to sit down on and beat up her plushies.
Lacie is also this too. She sneaks out of her tower at every opportunity, does whatever the heck she wants, and even runs away to PISS her brother off when he lets her win a match.
CodeGeass Kallen Kozuki is a great example of this. She pilots a Knightmare Frame in the first episode, can hold her own against opponents even when not wearing any clothing, and she even beats up someone while wearing a dress.
ARIA Akira is an interesting case; she definitely used to be this way in her childhood (to the point where Akatsuki briefly suspects she is actually a transvestite), but her public personality could hardly be more feminine. When not taking customers, however, aspects of this shine through. She's tough-as-nails as an instructor, and prone to competitiveness, but ironically she doesn't drink as much as Alicia (in the manga, anyways).The sex part is unconfirmable, though, due to No Hugging, No Kissing.
Black Lagoon Revy has elements of this, minus the sex—at least as far as we know. Eda is an even better example, while not as much as a hardass like Revy, she drinks more then Revy, sleeps around more (as in a little) than Revy, and still kicks copious amounts of ass. Revy's lad-ette nature is quite explicitly due to her, frankly, rather messed up psyche and a reaction to the vicious, soul-crushing life she's led. Eda, however, is just naturally that way.
Detroit Metal City The band's manager is a violent leather-clad, chain-smoking, hard-drinking thug who constantly beats them up and vocally rates all their work by how much it sexually arouses her.
Full Metal Panic! Melissa Mao, depicted in the picture at the top of page. She is a Sergeant Major in Mithril, drinks way too much beer, smokes a lot, is a Big Eater, and says very crude, foul language. Her hygiene is also pretty poor, as it's once shown that she left a bunch of cigarettes and at least 20 cans of beer on Tessa's coffee table. She even ran away from an arranged marriage to go join the marines (while still wearing her wedding dress). As for the sex part, she's very open about talking about it (as seen when she ruthlessly teases Sousuke and gets exasperated that he doesn't know what condoms are for). She also apparently likes it a lot, as is revealed when she finally enters into a relationship with Kurz (they engage in sex multiple times a day).
Ghost in the Shell Major Kusanagi fits this trope perfectly when she's not working. She likes beer, drives very aggressively, likes girls, loves to scare the shit out of people, and is well known to the owners of some less reputable bars. Also in the manga, she's living with her boyfriend who's also a cop. At one point Batou even asks her if she'd ever consider switching to a male cybernetic body.
Kiriko from Harlem Beat loves to smoke, gamble, and get drunk.
Neon Genesis Evangelion Misato Katsuragi owns a sports car she's quite fond of, is a Captain in a special military force, enjoys beer enough to have a fridge full, and is indisputably the alpha male - in this case female - of the entire show. She even nails the poor hygiene down, given the state of her apartment when Shinji first arrives. She is also a Cool Big Sis figure for Shinji and Asuka. As with Kitara (see Literature), it's strongly implied that this is just an expression of her inherently messed up psyche, caused by the mental scars she received on the day of Second Impact.
Elvy: You wanna lock on? Dogfight 'til morning, cutey?
One Piece Nami skirts the edge of this trope. She's very feminine in her dress, cute in her mannerisms (when she wants something) and knows how to manipulate men (read: Sanji, not that that takes much) with her looks. On the other hand, she can out drink Zoro, who is a bit of an alcoholic, drops the sweet talk when she isn't trying to scam you out of your money going for insults instead, and shows no fear playing hardball with men much stronger than her (even if she's just doing the negotiations, and intends to step back and let the stronger crew members do the actual beating). Of all the pirates, she probably come the closest to "raping pillaging and stealing." Zoro often comments that Sanji's attentions to her (and Robin, but whatever) are even more pathetic taking into account that Nami is more of a man than the cook himself. Even if she does like to look pretty.
Outlaw Star has Aisha Clan Clan, a hard drinking, hot tempered Ctarl Ctarl cat girl, who's constantly looking for a fight.
At first glance, Panty in Panty & Stocking with Garterbelt appears fairly feminine given her occasional choice of clothing and accessories, but is depicted as a promiscuous and dominating sex partner who at one point set the ambitious goal of having sex with a thousand men before returning to Heaven. Panty is also a pottymouth with a rude demeanor, and is a slob at home, a trait which Stocking points out to contrast her more orderly lifestyle.
Played straight in the anime that is Galaxy Angel with Forte, what with being the obsessed Gun Nut that she is. Subverted with the game from which the anime was adapted (See the Video Games section entry).
Lois Lane from Superman may be the original example in comic books. While she certainly doesn't mind wearing an elegant dress to a formal occasion every now and then, whenever she is seen lounging at home, it's often in tomboy-ish attire or sometimes in Clark Kent's old high school football jersey. And whether she's at home or out in Metropolis, Lois unabashedly loves a good pizza, a good beer, and keeping up with sports scores. Oh, and she knows how to brawl and can fight off most (non-superpowered) attackers, thanks to growing up in a military family.
Depending on the Writer and the era. She was always a bold working woman willing to get into dangerous situations but especially during the Silver Age and a good portion of the Bronze Age, she was much more traditionally feminine than she is now.
Agency X Outlaw.
The Authority's Jenny Sparks: chain-smokes, drinks like a fish, has lots of casual sex, kicks a lot of ass, yells and takes charge a lot.
Grendel: Susan Veraghen is a Samurai Biker Ladette in an age of Samurai Biker Lads.
Secret Six: Scandal, to point where she sleeps in boxers.
She-Hulk, a.k.a. Jennifer Walters, when she's hulked out and less emotionally inhibited.
Red She-Hulk fits this trope even more, making Jen look like a girly girl in comparison.
Tank Girl. She lives in a tank, consumes more alcohol than would be possible in a world that obeyed conventional laws of physics, gleefully kills people on a daily basis, and has a large collection of insanely overpowered weapons.
Red Sonja - everything but the sex. And that's only because having sex will strip her of her divinely-gifted prowess as a swordswoman. note This doesn't count as Virgin Power because she lost her virginity beforehand... by being raped. In fact, she accepted the power, and the resultant vow, to survive being raped and kill her rapists. The very first scene of Gail Simone's run on the book has Sonja being annoyed at being woken up with a severe hangover.
The inappropriately-named Peaceful in Castle Waiting, who even retains some of the personality elements after she becomes a nun. Although the Solicitines' concept of appropriately nun-like behaviour is extremely lax.
Plourr Ilo of the X-Wing Series is chaste but otherwise this to the hilt. She can be soft-spoken, nice, and diplomatic - she just generally doesn't see the need. She also turns out to be a princess, and manages to balance what she was raised to be with what she made herself into pretty well.
Captain Kanril Eleya from Bait and Switch has traits of this. She's a Starfleet captain now, and was a Bajoran Militia sergeant before that. She's a drinker (though not to excess, usually), she swears a lot, she pays attention to pro sports on Bajor, and she wasn't averse to casual sex before she fell in love with Gaarra (they met when she picked him up in a bar) and likes to take the lead.
Aliens Vasquez is a tough and masculine marine. Her character introduction is one of the guys asking if she's ever been mistaken for a man. She icily replies "No, have you?"
Repli-Kate: The titular character is a clone who has been educated by guys into being pretty much the ultimate Ladette.
Sorority Row: Chugs. She's a very heavy drinker (hence the nickname), is sexually very aggressive and seemingly none too obsessed with personal hygiene ("you taste like vomit," as one boy told her after she stuck her tongue down his throat).
Her answering machine also instructs callers to "leave a message after the *BURP*."
Theres Something About Mary The titular Mary has elements of this; she loves "guy" stuff like golf, baseball, and beer while still remaining perfectly feminine.
The Trouble With Angels A 1966 film where Hayley Mills plays a girl named Mary Clancy in a Catholic boarding school who shows traits of this. Since it's a family film in the 1960's it was pretty tame, but the indications were all there. She's a smoker, likes breaking rules for the sake of it, doesn't seem to care about being punished, and the school's Mother Superior describes her as having "a will of iron".
Megan in Bridesmaids - sexually forward, not exactly a dainty eater and she even enthusiastically suggests setting up a female fight club for the bachelorette party.
Melissa McCarthy would then go on to play Shannon Mullins in The Heat, a tough-as-nails female cop who's far more intimidating than her male coworkers and about as un-feminine as you can get, yet she has a very active sex life.
Dizzy Flores from Starship Troopers the toughest female character in the movie, she can beat most men in armed combat and arm wrestling, loves playing rough sports, enjoys drinking with her male friends, and engages in sex with Johnny Rico.
McCoy from Streets of Fire. Her character was originally written as a man, and her lines weren't changed all that much after the gender flip.
Kate, the female blacksmith from A Knight's Tale is a medieval version of this trope. The end of the film has her winning a flatulence contest with the other men.
Magnolia "Dusty" Clydesdale from The Apple Dumpling Gang. Just see what she does to Donovan after discovering he bought the big brass bed in the general store note the two had agreed to a platonic marriage to be an acceptable couple so they could adopt the Bradley children; Dusty mistakenly figured Donovan had bought the bed to "exercise his husbandly prerogatives" and kind of overreacted.
Carmen in The Color of Money is a light version of this. She keeps herself looking nice, but she spends her time hanging around pool halls, smoking and drinking with the guys. She is also a lot more Street Smart than her boyfriend, Vincent.
Yukio demonstrates traits of this in The Wolverine, with her tough-as-nails attitude and apparent lack of organization (notice her car is a complete mess when Wolverine arrives, and she doesn't seem bothered in the least with it).
Agnes Grey: Matilda Murray embodies this trope back in Victorian England, and needless to say this does not go over well at all.
Tales of an Mazing Girl is more of a nerd then a pure Ladeette-but she will still get drunk and fool around-only she does it at Warhammer40k tournment not a bar.
Namely, they started wearing leather or mail skirts with their armor and sometimes wear make-up, or slight heels on their iron-shod, hobnailed boots. Beards, armor, helmets, axes, drinking, singing about gold, etc.—stays the same. That being said, they don't drink beer so much anymore.
In Thud!, the girls of the City Watch elect to go out on the town with Nobby's inexplicably-hot new girlfriend Tawneee. The rather conservative Sergeant Colon describes the ladette behaviour of the policewomen with the very apt pun minge-drinking.
Dragonlance has Kitiara Uth Matar, the love interest of Tanis Half-Elven and the Blue Dragonlord. Kit is has been shown to drink with her (mostly male) soldiers, happily engage in random battle and has no qualms about using her sexuality to further her goals or just to satisfy her boredom.
Her showing these traits and her lack of inhibitions are what attracted Tanis (and indeed several other major players in the Dragonlance universe) in the first place.
This may be deconstructed in that it's implied such actions have to do with her author-stated Evil alignment and below-average Wisdom; they're symptoms of her inherently self-destructive lifestyle which leads to her getting killed.
Interestingly enough, Eva does enjoy some aspects of femininity - the book mentions that she even wears lipstick and beads to go fishing - but her fondness for beer, sex, and ungenteel company is pretty Ladette-ish for the 1930s South.
The Kinsey Millhone series. The titular character, although she softens a bit in the later books.
The Temeraire series. Captain Jane Roland might be an example of a Manette - which is to say, she has traits of The Lad-ette, but rather than acting like a stereotypical young man acts like an adult man, showing an easy emotional maturity most Ladettes don't. She smokes, drinks hard liquor, plays cards, speaks plainly, wears pants, sleeps with men she likes, and oh yeah, is in command of one of the deadliest dragons in the British Aerial Corps. All this in the early 19th century. She usually has or rather had, before being named a Peer and Admiral of the Air to fake ladylike appearance and dress outside of the coverts where the Aerial Corps spend most of their time, it is just that a certain breed of dragon will only accept female captains and so leeway must be granted resulting in a unique subculture.
Her daughter Emily is showing every sign taking after her, to no-one's surprise.
The In Death series has Eve, who can't understand the appeal of anything feminine or frilly. In fact, she was down right panicked the time she had to host a bridal shower.
Anita Blake, and how. Particularly pronounced as the series went on and all women except the titular character became characterized as weak, jealous, or otherwise not in contention for Anita's enormous reverse harem. Anita Blake is the distaff version of a male fantasy - where the titular character raises the dead, works for the police but also plays vigilante, and let's not forget the harem. Thirty or so men, with at least six regulars, and at least one new flavour per book. She's the biggest swinging dick in the series, and she makes sure you know it.
In Överenskommelser by Simona Ahrnstedt, Beatrice Löwenström is pretty much a 19th century version of this trope. She's a tomboyish (but also bookish) proto-feminist, who competes with men in ice-skating and horse-riding. But despite that, and even though she's described as not that good-looking, she can also attract men if she wants to. And even though she never has casual sex, she has an affair with Seth before getting married to him, and that's enough for her own uncle to call her a slut.
Magdalena Swärd in "De skandalösa" isn't as tomboyish as Beatrice, but still, she has a feisty proto-feminist attitude (and she's happy to not have to wear a corset during a costume party), that could make her qualify as a 17th century version of this trope. And just like with Beatrice, she never is promiscuous. But still, she's not a virgin until her wedding night.
21st-century Battlestar Galactica has Kara "Starbuck" Thrace, who can drink a Cylon under the table, and gets into brawls on a fairly regular basis. As Katee Sackhoff said of Kara, "She's a girl who drinks most of her calories."
The coed but macho military means that a number of other female characters have some elements of this, especially Kat.
Buffy the Vampire Slayer: Faith, the sexual and violent slayer. She loves a good meal of burgers and fries, and can chug beer like a champion.
Burn Notice Fiona Glenanne, guns and explosives loving ex-terrorist
One episode of Cold Case focused on a extreme version of one of these. This being 1963, and a crime procedural, it ended in tragedy.
Degrassi offers a few examples, the first being Jane who needs coaching on how to be a friend, as most of her social circle is hanging out with the guys (and being really good at football). Bianca's profile suggests she'll be right at home with this trope too.
Dexter: Deb. At one point, wearing a dress to her brother's wedding, she remarks that she feels like a transvestite.
Although not before Season 2.
Farscape: Chiana, and how. Aeryn has a few of the characteristics, but is too essentially stoical and gloomy to count.
How I Met Your Mother Robin. Her dad having actually raised her as his son. Her full legal name is Robin Charles Scherbatsky Junior. Her being Canadian often comes up in relation to this, usually for laughs.
Lily also has some elements of The Ladette, participating in farting contests and speed-eating hot dogs, but is generally more girly than Robin. She also has a very strong sex drive that isn't just used to sexualize her — it's part of her personality and the source of several gender-flipped versions of jokes invoking the All Men Are Perverts trope.
This is also in part justified because her mom was a hardcore feminist who didn't want Lily to conform to any traditional feminist roles, but she is still at heart a girly girl.
Kamen Rider Agito's Sumiko Ozawa is exceedingly blunt, making it a point to slag off anyone she has a problem with to their face. She's also a heavy drinker; in one episode, she had no less than seven pints of beer in one sitting, and she didn't come off as even slightly drunk afterwards. Then you add the fact that she's got some aspects of Wrench Wench, with her being the creator of the G3 System and all.
Ladette To Lady, a Reality Show. As the name suggests the contestants are, of course, this. They have been sent to a Finishing School to make them more "ladylike." (Though in one case there was a contestant who was actually more of a kind hearted Tomboy than a Ladette).
My Boys: PJ fits many of these traits. She's a sportwriter, can drink many of her male friends under the table, and usually associates more with men than other women.
Helped by the fact she's from a parallel dimension where male and female roles are basically swapped around. In short, women act like men and men act like women — men are even the ones who fall pregnant. Doing things like belching Yankee Doodle Dandy is still gross and slobbish, but it just makes Deb Lister a disgusting woman, in her world, the way doing things like that makes Dave Lister a disgusting man in his — it's lowbrow and crude, but quite acceptable amongst the equally lowbrow and crude.
Saving Grace has Grace Hanadarko. Pretty much exemplifies this trope and then some.
On Scrubs, Denise Mahony, aka Joe, an intern introduced in season 8. (Also, Dr. Cox loves this kind of woman).
One Imagine Spot gag featured JD rooming with a combined Elliot and Turk who was this (normal Elliot also has shades of this. She has brothers and it's implied that her father wanted another son, although she is rather girly).
Elliturk:*While playing a Video Game with JD* Let me kill you and you can fondle my boobs.
Sharon Osbourne's Charm School. Similarly to the Ladette to Lady example above, the contestants on the show.
Square One TV: one of the actresses, Cynthia Darlow, displayed a good PBS Kids version of a Ladette.
Star Trek: Deep Space Nine: Jadzia Dax belongs to the Trill species who can fuse with an intelligent worm-like symbiont. The symbiont is very long-lived and when the humanoid body dies it is implanted into a new body, carrying all the memories and identities of all previous hosts. This creates a new individual who has lived as both men and women several times over. Jadzia (The name of the Trill, Dax is the symbiont) is usually a disciplined, intelligent, and very-well mannered officer, but off-duty can get a little bit wild — sometimes meeting up with her old Klingon friends for a night of starting drunken bar fights. Sisko also calls her "Old Man," having been friends with Dax's previous host.
Deep Space Nine also has an interesting subversion in that the host after Jadzia, Ezri, is NOT a Ladette, suggesting that this was part of Jadzia's personality from the start.
That '70s Show has Donna Pinciotti. Eric first fell for her after she punched him in the gut.
Smallville: Lois Lane is a tough fighter and a heavy drinker. (The latter being the reason she was expelled from Metropolis University). After meeting her Clark describes her as talkative and rude. She describes herself as independent and self-sufficient.
In the British SeriesWish Me Luck, British Agent Mattie Firman is, unusually for the time, a forthright, athletic woman who doesn't mince words, swears a lot—her Catch Phrase is "oh, SOD!"—is always willing to have a drink at the pub with the male cadets (and whup their asses in combat practice), and has one night stands, none of which are behaviors people approved of in women at the time. Even her Love Interest Colin/Cyrano is a bit thrown when, after theysleep together, she says matter of factly "We don't have to make anything of it" and mentions picking up a guy at the movies for a fling the day before she shipped out.
Foul-mouthed, untidy, promiscuous Dana Klein from the Israeli series Prisoners Of War.
Carla from Cheers is abrasive and crass, likes watching sports games and playing poker with the guys, loves to listen in on tales of the guys' sex lives, and Really Gets Around. On multiple occasions, male characters imply or outright say that Carla "doesn't count" as a woman.
On Saturday Night LiveWill Ferrell's portrayal of former Attorney General Janet Reno is hyper aggressive and masculine but still with a bit of a sensitive side. Just the casting of a man as big as Ferrell to play this role makes it this trope.
The Donnas's music is full of partying, drinking, drug use, sex, and tough girl attitude For example, "Take it Off" is about the singer getting drunk and aggressively demanding sex. Other songs include; "40 Boys in 40 Nights", "It's on the Rocks" "Smoke You Out", and "Take Me to the Backseat"
Ke$ha. Or at least the character she plays in her songs.
Interestingly enough, Lady Gaga. During her concerts, she's loud, and crass, swearing and grinding on her dancers, and generally pissing off the Moral Guardians with her decidely unlady-like behavior all while having a blast. Has also stated she would carry around a razor in her mouth when she was growing up in New York.
Snow tha Product. Most of her lyrics wouldn't be out of place coming from a dude, nor are they out of place when she says them. It helps that, unlike certain other female rappers, she doesn't force her voice to sound squeakier or higher.
Nemi showed the signs for a long time, but really qualified when she admitted that she learned her boyfriend's name after they had sex for the first time.
Though TNA loudly flaunts that the TNA Knockouts (read: women wrestlers) are not the typical "divas," they went ahead and gave us the exact opposite of a diva anyway, in the form of "ODB," who fit this trope like a glove. Built like a brick shithouse, given to smoking, drinking, and violence, and unlikely to win a beauty contest, her name stands for "One Dirty Bitch".
TNA had another, less extreme, example in "The Hardcore Knockout" Roxxi. She's not constantly getting liquored up and cracking dirty jokes like ODB, but her punk look and Garbage Wrestler style definitely set her apart from the more feminine members of the roster.
Chrono Trigger Ayla is very much like this. Lucca is too, but only when she's drunk (and she denies having acted so when she's sober).
Donkey Kong 64 has Tiny Kong, who's rather eager to kick reptile butt.
In Fable II, Hammer is one large, hard drinking, loud, violent dude of a woman.
Fallout 3: Sydney is a merc who modifies her own guns, and, at the end of the day, uses the money she's made to get stinking drunk. The game is full of these, actually, such as Riley and Brick of Riley's Rangers, Sarah Lyons, and female Raiders and Slavers. About the only conventionally feminine women in the game are Vault-dwellers, scientists, the women of Andale, and one crazy woman in Arefu who thinks it's pre-war time and you're there to deliver her catalogues.
In a setting where the water is literally un-drinkable and you have to enter VATS and fire twelve mini-nukes to flush a toilet, it's not so much that the characters violate standards of feminine behavior as that violence and drug abuse aren't valid distinguishing characteristics at all. Most developed female characters are still quite distinctly femme, they just also need their twelve bazookas and SAW if they want to put the toilet seat down and their collection of exploding ninja stars to avoid dropping stitches in their crochet.
In Fallout: New Vegas, Rose of Sharon Cassidy, a.k.a. Cass, is a fairly pure embodiment of this trope: a hard-drinking, dick-joke cracking, unabashedly sexual woman.
The Fatal Fury and The King of Fighters series. The pirate and treasure hunter Bonne Jenet. Interestingly, she's a complete Ladette personality-wise (one of her intros in Fatal Fury has her gulping down a pint of beer along with her all-male crew), but looks-wise she's very Stripperiffic (low-cut dresses, heels, sex appeal, etc.).
Final Fantasy V: Pirate captain Faris to the point of initially being mistaken for a man. Even after her gender is revealed Bartz and Galuf have a hard time thinking of her as female.
Final Fantasy XIII has Fang, she is one of the, if not the most manliest person in any Final Fantasy game.
The female Commander Shepard can definitely fall here. She has a rough contralto voice, doesn't wear makeup for the most part (granted, not much point when you spend more time blasting things than dating), is just as much of a badass as her male counterpart, and can definitely hold her liquor (especially after dying and being rebuilt in Mass Effect 2). Helped by the fact that the motion capture for both male and female Shepards is largely the same, leading to a few humorous moments where if in a dress Shepard sits in a very unladylike manner.
This comes up in Citadel, the final DLC for Mass Effect 3, where she meets up with Miranda Lawson. After talking about how abnormal their lives are, they try to act more "normal" by attempting to converse about more feminine things. They can't even make a full sentence about any subject.
Aveline from Dragon Age II can hold her own in a fight rather better than most, is stubborn to a fault, and is rather masculine in temperament; she's rather more mature and less comfortable with courtship than most examples of this trope but she certainly behaves a lot more like a male character in a fantasy game than a female one. She's also described, despite being rather calm and reserved, as being so physically strong she's terrifying. Isabela is a much better example: she enjoys her fights, drinks, gambling, big boats and casual sex encounters, and she's not rude but loves to tease people with innuendo.
A Female Hawke with the sarcastic personality definitely falls into this category, being a witty, irreverent Fight Magnet. At the end of the day she'd much prefer to head down to Lowtown and have a few drinks at The Hanged Man, instead of attending formal balls and banquets with the nobility. Likewise, their mother is exasperated that her hopes of finding a "proper" husband are scuppered because her chosen romantic partners are either an ex-Warden Apostate, a Dalish Blood-Mage, a Pirate or an Elven ex-slave.
Subverted in the case of Forte in Galaxy Angel if you pursue her route, where while she does like guns and shooting, she is firmly into dancing and is very much refined and cultured. Firmly established since the first game, where Tact, the main character, remarks on the supposed oddness of her using perfume. In his words:
Tact: "I thought you'd say something like 'The scent of gunpowder is my cologne!' or something."
Deconstructed with Chie from Persona 4. She's a Tomboy who loves sports, beef and fighting, and easily gets along with the guys, but secretly harbors a deep resentment towards her best friend Yukiko, who's both more feminine and more popular with the boys than she is. Her social link focuses on Reconstructing the trope and in the epilogue of The Golden, Chie sports a more feminine look, without compromising her Tomboyish character.
Ashe, the girl player character of Mega Man ZX Advent has some rather crude language and a habit of going skydiving without a parachute while carrying a customized Buster Gun which has more powerful shots than normal. She was raised by mercenaries and has a desire to make a name for herself, which explains her personality.
Iysayana from Byteria Saga, an elf who is culturally human, is a cross between this, a Hard-Drinking Party Girl and the village bicycle. She cares about her feminine appearance, but behaves like a stereotypical guy otherwise.
In Drowtales, Kiel exhibits many of the characteristics of this trope, but at 24 years old, she's still a minor for her long-lived race. Even more so after a 15 year timeskip.
An adult example is Sil'lice's daughter Kadara (the one with blue facial tattoos) whose foul mouth and butch appearance caused quite a bit of Viewer Gender Confusion until Sil'lice called her "daughter" and settled the question.
Haley from The Order of the Stick is a wildly unrepentant thief, capable of murdering her way through a house filled with her former allies, and makes no bones about the fact that one of the primary appeals of her boyfriend is what he's got "under the hood". If she's actually acting girlish in a way more involved than showing cleavage, it's probably because she's trying to con you or flirting with you.
Frigg of Guilded Age. Swears, drinks, loves fighting, and is a messy eater.
Ophelia: What is it about Éowyn, anyway? I would have thought guys would rather go for Arwen. Mercutio: Arwen's cute and all, but she'd only be into elfy things, like gardening and embroidery. Whereas Éowyn is equally hot, but would also knock back a beer and play Quake Deathmatch with you.
From Unsounded there's Knock-Me-Down Frummagem. At first it was hinted at, but it was confirmed when the comic's creator described Knock’s ideal date:
Ashley: Enormous meal, lots of booze, hit up the playhouse, or a wrestlin' tourney, or an execution, get the blood pumpin', have some laughs, then messy sex somewhere filthy. She gets to be on top.
Billy is every inch the Lad-ette in Niels, though she's an unusual bisexual-leaning-towards-lesbian example. She drinks, swears, rides a motorcycle and expresses affection for her best friend Duncan by kicking his ass in fights.
The Nostalgia Chick. When she's not reviewing, she'll be dressed in messy clothes with her hair down and no make-up on. In the beginning of Kickassia, she spends most of her time drinking beer and disinterestedly going along with the crowd—and it's quite clear, once the Critic becomes N Bison, that her submissive little conservative woman persona is, aside from a dig at Sarah Palin, an act to get herself more power.
She was also known by the username "The Dudette" when she joined That Guy With The Glasses.
The Ballinger girls. Rachel has an athletic body, enjoys working out, and has a more 'masculine' fashion sense, while Colleen, seemingly the more feminine of the two, is a Gasshole with a crude sense of humour.
Bunny has some shades of this and is a more downplayed example. It is mentioned on her profile that she enjoys beer and guns and the first story she appears in has her swearing, generally being unladylike, mostly justified in that she is in her twenties. She phases out of it later on, though, but she still likes beer and guns.
Adventure Time: Marceline is portrayed this way, in a PG-setting mostly due to her willingness to fight everyone and everything, as well as the sheer joy she experiences from doing so. Not to mention fitting the hygiene part too, as displayed in episodes (most notably in "Marceline's Closet") where she is seen not washing her hands after using the bathroom, and remarking that her armpits stink.
Exo Squad: Sgt. Rita Torres, the resident tough girl of Able Squad. Given that Exosquad is military based series, a lot of the girls may occasionally classify, but Torres surpasses all of them. When off-duty, she passes the time kicking her team's asses and occasionally playing the Mama Bear with a troop of boy-scout in Power Armor.
Iron Man: Armored Adventures has Pepper Potts, who loves guns, explosions, and dreams of being a police officer or secret agent when she grows up. She's also always seen wearing things like neckties and cuts her hair short.
On her first date with Happy she proved to be a Big Eater as well, and admitted that she can recite the alphabet and the 50 states all in one burp.
In Jackie Chan Adventures, Jade is a good example of a young ladette. Heck, her future self grew up to be the leader of a top-secret organization!
KaBlam! has June, as close as a 10-year-old girl can get.
My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic has Rainbow Dash and Applejack, both of whom are G-rated versions of this trope. Of the mane six characters, these two are the most athletic, are always ready to get dirty, and almost always prefer direct action over introspection during times of crisis. Rainbow Dash loudly boasts of her athletic feats and is prone to being socially insensitive, while Applejack tends to get down and dirty more. Also, both of them tend to cringe at anything feminine and cute, with Applejack even eating the cucumbers on her mud-mask, (probably) a particularly unfeminine thing to do. That said, Applejack doesn't fit the role as well as Rainbow Dash in that she's actually quite mature and sensible overall.
[From the "Finding a Pet" song in May The Best Pet Win!] Fluttershy: How about a bunny? They're cutesy and wutesy and quick as can be. Rainbow Dash: Cutesy-wutesy? Have you even met me?
Applejack's little sister, Applebloom, shows signs of this, particularly with her disgusting table manners in Sisterhooves Social that culminates in a burp gross enough that Applejack herself thinks is a perfect example of "uncouth" behaviour, though she doesn't seem to mind Applebloom doing it.
Applejack: Rarity thinks everything's uncouth. Apple Bloom: *finishes eating an apple with a mighty slurp, wipes her mouth with one hoof* What's 'uncouth'? Applejack: It means uncivilized. You know, bad-mannered. Apple Bloom: BEEEEELLCH! Applejack: Ex-actly!
Scootaloo tries to evoke this, since she idolizes and tries to emulate Rainbow Dash, but is actually a subversion: Her focus episodes show she is actually quite self-conscious and vulnerable.
The accepted fanon personality of DJ Pon-3/Vinyl Scratch is the more adult version of this.
From All Grown Up! Lil tries to act like a girly-girl to fit in with everyone else but a few episodes show she's a Ladette at heart. Her friend from the soccer team Wally is one as well.
The Simpsons: Although Marge is not an an example, Homer once described being married to her as "Like having a best friend, and he lets me feel his boobs," summarizing this trope to a T.
Her friend Ruth Powers would fit this more minus the frequent sex, she smokes, drinks, curses, fights with men, and likes guns. Also, when she comes back from prison in one episode, Ruth has become a bodybuilder.
Mindy Simmons. She has Homer's personality in the body of an attractive woman. And she rides a motorcycle to work.
Fin from Stoked. She doesn't do 'girly'. In "Heartbreak Hotel", she easily out-machoes all of the guys during their 'Manly Dude' weekend, to the point that the guys are not so much emasculated as they are terrified for their lives. Hilariously, to make her go away, they give her a taste of her own medicine. They know they can't be manlier than she is, but they can be girlier, so they start drinking tea, knitting, and gossiping. Given that she wanted to come on the Manly Dude Weekend specifically to get away from the girls and such behaviour, she gets fed up with them pretty quickly.
Billie Holiday was known for often being even more fond of drinking, brawling, gambling, and sex than the bands she toured with; in fact, she won so much money in dice rolls when touring with Dizzy Gillespie's band that she actually had to buy Christmas gifts for the families of the losers.