Alice is in love with Bob. Bob goes and does something crazy heroic, risking himself. Once the crisis is over, Alice rips into Bob with utmost anger. Eventually, she comes out and admits she was worried about him. This frequently occur in the context of the After Action Patchup.
Of course, this trope can apply to either gender on both the giving and receiving end; it's the caring that brings it about that makes the trope. It is also particularly common for parents to show this trope when their children return from whatever world saving adventure they've been on.
Related to How Dare You Die on Me!, except it's milder, as in, "how dare you put yourself in so much danger." May also involve a Slap-Slap-Kiss. Contrast Tearful Smile, which occurs when Alice is still distraught even when she's happy. Good odds for a Punchy Love-type to be this if he/she is far enough on the "punchy" side.
This is what happens in the end of Full Metal Panic!: The Second Raid, although Tsundere Kaname Chidori was afraid not only for Sousuke (who disappeared without a word in the middle of the series) but also for herself (since villains are constantly after her and Sousuke was supposed to protect her). The progression of fear to relief to anger causes her to deliver an epicGet a Hold of Yourself, Man! beatdown to Sousuke - himself in the throes of a massive Heroic BSOD - when they're finally reunited.
Neon Genesis Evangelion played with this one in the Sea of Dirac arc. Asuka is clearly aiming for the trope, but she keeps having to take a number as first Misato and then Rei "butt in", after Shinji reappears. She's left at a low simmer, but Shinji sees her the second time and seems to understand.
In Ouran High School Host Club, Tamaki yells at Haruhi for trying to take on a group of bullies by herself and nearly getting killed in the process. The rest of the episode has Haruhi and Tamaki giving each other the silent treatment until they make up near the end.
Also in Ouran, the Creepy Twins Hikaru and Kaoru pull this off in the vacation episode to score Moe points through twincest subtext. Whether it was intentional or not is up to debate.
Naruto goes to town with this. With only a few exceptions, Sakura always worries about Naruto's safety in a combat situation. This persists despite him proving his skills over and over, and her claims that she doesn't feel "that" way about him.
Possibly the best example is from Chapter 450 when Naruto returns after defeating Pain, Sakura punches him for being so reckless, then embraces him, thanking him.
In Princess Tutu, Fakir constantly treats Mytho harshly and orders him around. When Mytho begins to finally grow a backbone and stand up for himself, Fakir starts getting so distressed that his harsh demeanor escalates until he finally snaps and slaps Mytho. At first it's played to show him as a control freak, but it's soon revealed that he's really a Jerk with a Heart of Gold and he's terrified of Mytho getting hurt because of past experiences. (He just has a very, very poor way of expressing himself when he's upset.)
In one chapter of the Inuyasha manga, Kagome breaks down into tears when she thinks Inuyasha's dead, calling him "Idiot!" When Inuyasha shows up alive and well, she yells at him, causing him to think that she's mad at him at first before she says that she's just so relieved that he's alive.
In the anime, a similar scene has Kagome yelling some more at him because she's embarrassed at having broken down in tears.
Kagome: I'm not crying because I'm sad! I'M CRYING BECAUSE I FEEL HUMILIATED!
And another after the defeat of the Thunder Brothers. When Inuyasha sees Shippo and Kagome surrounded in foxfire, and thinks they're ghosts.
Akane is wracked with worry over Ranma going to fight their first bonafide lethal opponent, who had locked him as a woman permanently. When he finally comes back, manhood restored (well, unlocked, anyway) he sneaks into the bathroom before greeting her. When she sees him, she's very obviously relieved to the point of tears, even as she's angry at him that he didn't go see her first.
Shortly afterwards, Akane is the one who faces a legendary eight-headed dragon to repay a life debt, without asking for Ranma's help. After she's nearly killed, and Ranma rescues her, he berates her (albeit gently) for making him worry.
After Shampoo and Akane have their first physical fight in the series, Ranma finds Akane unconscious on the grass. Thinking she might be dead, he urges her to wake up. When she does, he looks relieved, right before he promptly calls her an idiot and reprimands her for fighting Shampoo.
Miaka goes through a mild version of this in Fushigi Yuugi the first time Tamahome really risks his life saving her. When the tables are turned and she ends up risking her own life for her Seishi, Tamahome gives a Meaningful Echo.
Happens in one episode of G Gundam involving Rain and Domon.
Anemone from Eureka Seven, who has only just realized she is in love with Dominic when he leaves around the same time, goes to save him when she accidentally attacks him with her mech while he's falling from the sky, clinging to a ref board to try and save her. She admonishes him for doing something so reckless, even though they're both in a freefall at this point. Now she's normally been pretty harsh on poor Dominic until now, but fortunately for him, she lets it slide. Cue Big Damn Kiss.
In the Mai Hime side novel "Natsuki no Prelude," after Natsuki returns to school after her first battle with an Orphan, covered in wounds, Shizuru is quite shocked to see her hurt, and (not being a Hime at the time) tells her that if falling off her motorcycle caused it, she will keep her away from it even if she has to hit her. Natsuki insists that she's all right, but is touched that Shizuru cares about her.
This is a possible explanation for Maka's reaction in the Soul Eater manga when her partner, Soul, is possessed by the Black Blood and starts attacking her and their teammates. She was clearly worried about him, but when he snaps out of it her response is to hit him on the head and then start kicking him. When asked, she claims it's payback for pulling her pigtails.
In Code Geass, Shirley, who has a crush on Lelouch, gets frustrated over his delinquent tendencies, and worries that he doesn't apply himself.
Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann: Kamina and Yoko had a moment like this in episode seven, after facing particularly overwhelming odds in a fight and almost being killed in the process. A sad/bittersweet scene in hindsight as Yoko's worst fears come true one episode later when Kamina dies in battle, mere hours after they had kissed for the first time and revealed their feelings for each other.
Yoko: There's always been a method to your madness. I could always just tell myself, "if anybody can pull something off, Kamina can." But this afternoon was different. That wasn't reckless or even crazy; that was plain stupid! You rushed in there without thinking it through, and if Simon hadn't been there, you might very well have been killed!... I guess... that frightened me...
In Black Lagoon, at the end of the "Goat, Jihad and Rock and Roll" arc, Revy, having managed to rescue Rock from kidnappers with a mixture of her characteristic ultraviolence and uncharacteristic guile, rips strips off him for being dumb enough to be kidnapped: "This isn't some feel-good movie! The cost of this is coming out of your paycheck! The next time this happens, the only help you'll get is from the Almighty!" And then they go off together.
Later, in the Japan arc, after Balalaika comes very close to killing Rock, forcing Revy into a face-off with Balalaika and Boris, Revy punches Rock a good one for being so foolhardy: "Over here, I'm your gun! I could keep you alive through Tarawa or the Alamo! But I can't protect someone who's that anxious to die! ...If you weren't you, I'd have shot you myself for being so stupid!"
Ian from A Cruel God Reigns has several instances of this after bringing Jeremy back to England to help Jeremy get his life back together. They usually occur after Jeremy has done drugs or prostituted himself, although sometimes they are in reaction to Jeremy's flippant behavior toward both and his original problems.
Ian: "You were beat until you passed out! Don't act as if it happened to someone else!"
In Archie's Sonic The Hedgehog this was Princess Sally's reason for dumping Sonic. He had just returned from a lengthy absence during which he had been presumed dead, and yet he now continued risking his life at the drop of a hat. The fear of potentially having to mourn him a second time was more than she could stand.
In White Devil Of The Moon, after Nanoha, who has recently been injured, collapses from using Divine Buster against Jadeite, Fate yells at her for using high-level magic despite her being warned about the strain on her Linker Core, before breaking down crying and telling her how worried she is about her.
In Christian Humber Reloaded, Season-Bringer punches Blade for making him think that he'd died in the explosion that destroyed Chaos near the end of Part 2.
In Monsters, Inc., when Sulley and Mike find Boo after she ran away in the office building and they presumed she got killed in a garbage masher, Sulley reveals his parental instinct toward her by sternly saying "Don't you EVER run away from me again!" Then he hugs her and adds "But I was so worried...!"
In Thor, Odin gets furious at Thor when he foolishly goes to Jotunheim to pick a fight with the Frost Giants which nearly gets him, his brother, and his friends killed. This leads to Thor getting stripped of his powers and banished from Asgard to teach him some humility and wisdom on Midgard.
In How to Train Your Dragon, after Hiccup recovers from the final battle with the Green Death, Astrid punches him, saying, "That's for scaring me!" She then kisses him, clearly grateful that he was alive and well.
Now And Then: Chrissy when Roberta had thought it would be a good prank to pretend she'd been killed jumping into a river. Touching as Chrissy only gets the punch in because she's bending over Roberta as the only one of the three girls who was prepared to give rescue breaths.
In The Hobbit, Thorin furiously yells at Bilbo after the latter had put himself in danger to protect Thorin from Azog and his mooks. After listing all his potential failings and reasons why Bilbo doesn't belong with the company, Thorin then pulls Bilbo into a hug and declares "I've never been so wrong in all my life."
After Aragorn was believed to be dead in Lord of the Rings and made it safely to Helms Deep, Gimli pushed past the crowd of Rohan people, all the while furiously exclaiming that he was going to kill Aragorn. But the second he saw Aragorn, his anger simply melts into relief and he happily proclaims he's glad to see that Aragorn was all right before grabbing him in a Man Hug.
C. S. Lewis's Voyage of the Dawn Treader - Reepicheep goes overboard, and the first mate burst into exclamations that he's more trouble than the rest of the crew and ought to be thrown into irons.
Belgariad - Polgara and Durnik, after the fight with the mud creatures.
In the third Kate Daniels book by Ilona Andrews, we get this exchange.
Kate: "What the fuck is wrong with you? He was silver! I had it under control. What was going through your head? Here's a toxic silver golem; I think I'll jump on his back! That's a damn good idea!"
Curran: "Were you worried about me?"
Kate: "No, I'm ranting for fun, because I'm a disagreeable bitch!"
Twisted inside-out and upside-down by Darken Rahl in Wizard's First Rule. While brainwashing a young child whom he intends to sacrifice, he asks about the boy's dog. The boy tells him that his dog once ran away, but was greeted lovingly when he was found. But one time the boy ran off without telling anyone and was punished with a belt when he returned. Darken Rahl asks him if his parents really love him, if they're willing to beat him and Pet the Dog for the same offense. While the boy's parents undoubtedly abided by this trope, Rahl managed to convince him that it was inverted just for him, causing the boy's love for them to be shaken.
In Patricia A. McKillip's The Book of Atrix Wolfe, when Tanis was unhorsed and injured, and then had to kill a boar, his brother descends on him dragging him away and pounded him — only when Tanis recovers from his shock does he realize he's saying that he thought Tanis had been killed.
In The Battle Of The Labyrinth, the fourth book of Percy Jackson and the Olympians, Annabeth has this reaction when Percy returns from Calypso's island, having been thought dead after an explosion in Hephaestus's workshop.
In John Connolly's Charlie Parker series, side characters Angel and Louis are lovers, gay, comic relief, snarky, kind of sort of insane, and just happen to be incrediblyBad Ass. Near the end of their own book where they act as main characters rather than supporting cast, there is a moment where Louis pretends to be dead to fake out the antagonist. Angel, wounded, weaponless, is pretty convinced Louis is dead, too, and has to fight to put aside emotion and focus. When it's revealed, then, that Louis was a big fat lying liar who was barely wounded, rather than being pleased, Angel kicks him, repeatedly, and without being gentle about it. It's made rather obvious this reaction is born of fear and adrenaline, and Louis takes it all in semi-amused stride.
Louis: I got shot!
Angel: Not shot enough!
In Harry Potter And The Chamberof Secrets, Mrs. Weasley's reaction to her children and Harry arriving at the Burrow - "Beds empty! No note! Car gone - could have crashed - out of my mind with worry - did you care?"
In Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Ron finds Harry and Hermione in the woods after leaving them several weeks prior. He saves Harry's life and destroys a horcrux before actually returning to the camp. Hermione greets him with nearly hysterical anger.
Katniss throws an angry fit at Peeta in The Hunger Games after she heard the cannon and thought he had been killed.
Partially because he wasn't returning the mockingjay signal, which is what happened with Rue right before she was killed. This was also one of the first times that shows that she's really starting to care about him, and not just playing it up for the cameras.
"Don't you ever - ever - frighten me that way again!" He shook her for punctuation, then wrapped his arms around her so tightly that she thought she might just pop. "Ever," he added, and kissed her thoroughly before releasing her.
"I don't know," she said impishly, smiling up at him. "I like this particular kind of tantrum."
Live Action TV
Inara does this to Mal in Firefly. She even gave his unconscious but alive body a kiss, however it was also played with when her relief turns to anger when she realizes that the knockout agent Saffron used was on his lips, and she passes out moments later while halfway through insulting Mal's parentage.
At the end of the episode, just as she is about to admit that she kissed him, Mal assumes she instead kissed Saffron. Inara doesn't deny this, because she would rather not face the consequences of kissing Mal.
On White Collar, this is Peter's reaction every time Neal does something heedless. So every episode.
Ziva and Tony on NCIS have a tendency to yell at each other and get really annoyed when they were worried about the other person. They'll both deny it's worry, though.
Brennan on Bones punches Booth when it turns out he wasn't really dead. She claimed it was because he didn't tell her. According to him, he requested that she be told, but his superiors decided not to. The audience can probably figure out why.
In Kamen Rider Den-O, the events of the first movie has three out of four of Ryotaro's partner Imagin disappear from the timeline. When they reappeared just fine later the fourth Imagin, Momotaros (a possible male Tsundere), shows us how much he missed them.
In the Doctor Who episode "The Impossible Astronaut", River Song greets the Doctor with a slap after she's just seen his future self die.
Sarah Jane Smith had a lot of this when she traveled with the Fourth Doctor. A classic example is "Pyramids of Mars"—she thinks he's dead, and starts weeping over him, only to be flustered when he says, "You're soaking my shirt."
The Eleventh Doctor is rather prone to this — he can be quite harsh with Amy and Rory when he's exceptionally frightened for their safety.
In Misfits, once the team has learned that Nathan is still alive and actually immortal after getting impaled on a fence post and being buried in the local cemetary for the past few weeks, Kelly immediately flies into a rage and starts hitting him.
Dean Winchester of Supernatural is the poster boy for this trope. His brother, his father figure, his best friend—if they put themselves in danger, they can expect to get snarled and yelled at.
Jules in Flashpoint gave Team Dad Parker a What the Hell, Hero? after he had put himself in danger to protect a girl from one of his previous cases and almost died because of it. Half of the lecture was about Parker placing himself in that situation without calling for backup. The other half was causing the team to go frantic with worry.
Nina gets like this a lot during House of Anubis in season 2. She had a tendency to get mad at her friends for trying to help save her life, because it was putting themselves in danger, too.
Cue to a slap and more chewing from Seolla. But shortly after she expresses that she is thankful for the cover.
In the end to Star Ocean: The Last Hope, the party is forced to leave Edge behind in the collapsing dungeon because he was slowed down trying to help Faize. When Edge walks back into the ship after escaping by other means, Reimi immediately slaps him (again), then falls into his arms crying in relief.
In Mega Man Zero 3, Ciel pulls something similar. After Zero leaps onto a launching missile in an attempt to stop it from destroying innocent lives (he fails to stop the missile, though), she tells him to promise that he'll never do anything like that again. His response? "I'll think about it." Considering what happens to him in the next game, he never learns. Also consider that, technically, Ciel is Zero's superior, and that both times he's acted against her orders...
In Baldur's Gate 2, one event that shows up if you try to romance Jaheira is for the party to be ambushed by bandits who take her hostage to rob you. If the protagonist tries to exchange himself with her as a hostage, you'll get arrowed for half your current hit points, Jaheira fights free, and this trope will get evoked once the bandits are dead.
In Grandia, Justin must go through one of two magical portals. The right one will let him put an end to the deadly, acidic rain that's harming the locals, while the wrong one will kill him outright. When he doesn't immediately come back out, Feena (who chose the portal) begins to panic. He only shows up again as they're leaving the collapsing dungeon, and Feena responds as expected.
In the True Ending for BlazBlue: Calamity Trigger, Noel Vermillion manages to save Ragna the Bloodedge from a long fall into the Cauldron and a horrible fate as the Black Beast. As soon as she manages to haul him out of the Cauldron, she begins screaming at Ragna about how scared she was that he was going to die, repeatedly calling him stupid and punching his chest. It actually manages to get through the stoic attitude he tries to wear fairly quickly.
Noel does it again in the True Ending of Continuum Shift after Ragna frees her from Terumi's brainwashing and loses his arm in the process.
Yang's ending in Street Fighter III Third Strike has his childhood friend Shaomei mentioning the trope to him when him and Yun come back home and her older sister Houmei gets pissed at them.
Shaomei: My sister can be so clumsy... She has been worried. She just has a hard time showing her relief. You know, she didn't eat a thing while you were gone.
In the Mass Effect 3 DLC "Leviathan", if you brought Shepard's love interest along as a squadmate to 2181 Desponia, they will chide Shepard with this after he/she surfaces after meeting the titular Leviathan and is barely conscious.
Similarly, soldiers equipped with medpacks in XCOM: Enemy Unknown will angrily scoff at lower-ranked teammates while restoring their health.
Saber from Fate/stay night has this reaction whenever Shirou puts himself in danger. Makes a lot of sense, since she is essentially his bodyguard and he's less than cooperative with her efforts to protect him.
El Goonish Shive. The first panel of this strip, in which Mr. Verres expresses his feelings after the kids get back from defeating Damien.
Drew: [angrily] Do you have any idea how DANGEROUS that was?!
Zak: [a little bewildered] Mom...you taught me that move!
Drew: [calming to look sheepish] I know... I'm... just so proud you nailed it.
The Spectacular Spider-Man: Peter has to sneak off to fight the Sinister Six as Spider-Man, and Gwen thinks he has been crushed by the giant tree in Times Square. When he shows himself again, complete with lame excuse, she throws her arms around him and exclaims "PETE!" Then she starts with the "Where have you been, I thought you were dead!"
Then there's Sally Avril, who despite strongly disliking Peter is genuinely horrified when she thinks he's been killed in the episode "Probable Cause". She does hug him when he reappears and then demands, "Wait! How come you're still alive?!", and then punches him, saying "Do you know what you put me through?". Peter, taken aback, says that he didn't know she cared. Sally said that she didn't, but she didn't want him blown to bits either, she's not a monster. Then she tells him that if he told anyone that she'd hugged him, he'd wish that he'd died.
In the SWAT Kats episode "Mutation City", when it's revealed T-Bone can't swim (and the city happens to be flooded), Razor has to rescue him from the rising water-levels. His reaction;
Spongebob Squarepants: Mr. Krabs does this during the episode "Hooky", when he believes Patrick and Spongebob were caught on hooks and fished.
Mr. Krabs: Oh, if I could just hold 'em in me arms one last time... (Spongebob and Patrick float safely back down) I'D THROTTLE 'EM!
In the Courage the Cowardly Dog episode "The Lady in the Puddle", after Courage saves Eustace from being seduced and eaten by the eponymous Lady, Muriel goes from distraught to relieved, then to clocking Eustace with a rolling pin and angrily asking "Where have you been?!"
An example of this occurred with a British teenager travelling in Australia. He went out for a trek alone without a mobile phone or supplies and got lost. He survived two weeks in the wild. His dad, on hearing the news, said he felt partly, "Yay! My son is alive and well!" and partly, "OMG! What a fucking idiot! I am going to kick his arse!".
In fact, a common reaction by parents whose children have done something silly like wandering off in a shop or park and getting lost is — upon retrieving the child — to tear them off a strip about it. The same can be said of parents that punish their kids for being out past curfew, especially if the children never called to say they'd run late.
In a more serious version, is why relationships between "normal healthy" people and those who are disadvantaged/disabled in some way (from a physical illness to a mental illness to an addiction or whatever, or who simply are on the extreme other side of the class divide etcetera) and relationships that are between the disadvantaged/disabled but where one partner is more capable of functioning/appearing normal take a lot more effort to maintain than relationships between people who are roughly at the same point. For example, a normal healthy person may feel this way over his/her depressed partner's suicidal feelings - and make them worse accidentally by the depressed partner taking the anger as being personal hatred toward them and/or another reason why they're better off dead.