Working with the Ex
Bina: Okay, listen, boys. We're all aware of the awkwardness of the situation here. It would be awkward enough if we just used to squad together, but the fact is that one of you used to be my husband, and the other one my, uh...cousin. Well, shit. Know what I'm saying?An easy way to introduce tension in the day-to-day life of a fictional character is to have them work with someone they were previously in a relationship with. While dealing with an ex-boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse can often be awkward enough as it is, such encounters are normally uncommon and short-lived. When two characters with a romantic history end up working together, however, the tension is magnified by the fact that they have to see each other on a daily basis, with no easy means of escape. If the relationship ended badly, this situation can lead to endless arguments and insults between the co-workers as barely repressed resentment bubbles to the surface. Their constant squabbling can lead onlookers to jokingly question whether or not they're still together, which will elicit horrified denials from the former lovers. When one of the characters reaches their emotional breaking point a "The Reason You Suck" Speech is not uncommon... and both sides have plenty of ammunition to use against the other. Things can be made even worse when one character receives a promotion and becomes the other's boss, putting them in a position where they can torment their Ex with impunity. If instead there are still romantic feelings between the characters, their history can be a prime source of unresolved sexual tension. After all, they did have chemistry at some point in the past, and being forced to work in close proximity together can cause old feelings to be re-ignited... leading to the inevitable question of whether they'll get back together. This situation can be especially troublesome if one or both of the ex-lovers are currently in another relationship. If the current significant other finds out a character is Working with the Ex, jealousy and suspicion are almost certain to follow. In some cases, a character is shown to work alongside their Ex with little or no issues, possibly even using their familiarity to perform better together than they would otherwise. This is often the result of their previous relationship ending with a realization that they were Better as Friends, and a common trait of Amicable Exes. In situations like this, light-hearted teasing about their past from the Ex is to be expected.
Meyer (to Berko): You were the cousin, right?
Meyer (to Berko): You were the cousin, right?
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- This applies to Kaji and Misato in Neon Genesis Evangelion. Misato was none-too-pleased when she found out that Kaji would be staying with Nerv after delivering Asuka and Unit 02, and lashed out at him at nearly every chance she got afterwards. The bickering led Ritsuko to comment that they sounded Like an Old Married Couple.
- In the Ace Attorney manga, Julie Henson is assistant for Sparkle Land's production team, in which her ex-boyfriend Flip Chambers plays Twinklestar. There's some unspoken tension between the two because he left her for another girl, and when he gets killed, she is suspected because it is thought that she hated him and she was the only member of the cast who could use her hands.
- In Macross 7, Max and Millia Jenius are the military and civilian commanders of the Macross 7 Fleet, respectively. Their marriage has crumbled and they have thus separated, but have chosen to not actually go through a divorce to keep the citizens' morale up. Whenever they meet to discuss business, there's always a large amount of tension between them.
- Ant-Man: Hank Pym and The Wasp, to the point where this is almost what the two are most famous for.
- Nightwing: Dick Grayson and either Starfire or Barbara Gordon. And Helena Bertinelli, kind of. Not to mention the other Robin/Batgirl ex-relationship, Tim Drake and Stephanie Brown.
- New Warriors: Justice and Firestar previously had a relationship.
- Runaways : Nico Minoru and Victor Mancha, though it's rarely remarked upon.
- Avengers vs. X-Men: The Scarlet Witch and Vision are going through this. After Wanda got her memories and sanity back and Vision has properly self-repaired, they are both unwilling/unable to reconcile but more often than not have to fight on the same side. The series Issue 0 actually opens with a rather painful rejection scene between the Vision and the Scarlet Witch at the Avenger's mansion. Later the two have to cooperate against the Phoenix Five, during which they trade bitter battle quips. This is shortly followed by a panel showing Wanda yelling in distress when Vision is shot down in battle.
- Evangelion 303: Kaworu and Saburo work together and used to be a couple before the start of the fic. There is still tension between them due to the fact that Kaworu moved on but Saburo did not (even though Saburo was the one broke off their relationship). It does not that the two of them are needed to pilot their war plane -it is a two-seater-, so that they have to sit together during trainings, tests, missions, battles...
- In The Alphabet Killer, when former detective Megan Paige is allowed back into the force on desk duty after receiving treatment for the mental breakdown she had during a Serial Killer investigation years ago, she finds that her ex-boyfriend/ex-partner is now Chief of Police, and thus her boss. This puts him in an extremely awkward position when the killer resurfaces, as no one knew more about the case than Paige did.
- Dead Air: Radio talk show host Logan Burnhardt works with his ex-wife, who is his producer. Very little romantic tension is shown between the two of them, as their relationship seems to have evolved to Just Friends status.
- In both the Japanese Ringu and US The Ring, Reiko Asakawa/Rachel Keller works with her ex-husband/ex-boyfriend Ryuji Takayama/Noah Clay to solve the mystery of the cursed videotape to save their lives and the life of their son. At the end of the movie Ryuji/Noah is horrifically killed by Stringy-Haired Ghost Girl Sadako Yamamura/Samara Morgan.
- In Runaway Bride, Richard Gere's character (columnist) works for his ex-wife (editor). She has to fire him for not checking facts, and producing a totally overblown, inaccurate column about the titular character.
- In the film Outbreak, the protagonist Colonel Sam Daniels works with his ex-wife Robby in an immunology department. Naturally, they get back together at the end of the movie.
- Kind of the whole point of His Girl Friday. They get back together at the end anyway.
- Changing Lanes: Lawyers Gavin and Michelle are shown to have had a fling in the past, despite the fact that Gavin is married to their senior partner's daughter.
- The Abyss: Dr. Lindsey Brigman visits the Deep Core underwater drilling rig on which Virgil "Bud" Brigman, her ex-husband, is the foreman.
- In Twister, the entire reason Bill comes to Jo's storm team is to get her to sign the divorce papers so he can marry his new fiancee. One tornado-riddled day later, the new fiancee is gone and they're back together again.
- Niobe and Morpheus in The Matrix Reloaded, as they apparently broke up due to Morpheus believing in the Oracle. However, they gradually reconcile over the course of the film, as Morpheus learns that there's more to the Oracle's predictions than he thought, and Niobe starts to believe in Neo.
- In the first Fantastic Four film, Reed runs into his ex-girlfriend Sue when he asks his old friend Victor, who Sue works for and is currently dating, for a favour. This causes some tension and old feelings to resurface and continues to grow when they get their powers. Eventually, Reed and Sue would reconcile and become engaged at the end of the film.
- In The Fly (1986), Veronica has an antagonistic relationship with the editor of the newsmagazine she reports for, motivating her to investigate Seth more personally.
- In Bitten, the first book in Kelley Armstrong's The Otherworld series, when Elena has to work with the werewolf pack she used to be part of, this happens with her and Clay. After a lot of Belligerent Sexual Tension they get back together.
- In MassEffect: Retribution, David Anderson is called upon by Kahlee Sanders to help her against the terrorist cell Cerberus. The two have barely seen or spoken to each other in more than twenty years, although it's obvious that some mutual feelings remain, despite not officially ever becoming a couple. The book ends with them rekindling their old relationship.
- The Yiddish Policemens Union. The Cowboy Cop protagnist's ex-wife is Da Chief! It doesn't help that he's still in love with her.
- The Lincoln Lawyer: The main character has two ex-wives and one of them works as his secretary. It's lampshaded how unusual it is for a man with two ex-wives to be on amicable terms with both of them.
- In the The Other Kind Of Roommate, Terry is both The Mean Brit director of Beth's home base art gallery and her ex from a year ago. They get along well professionally, with plenty of Snark Ball passes between each other and even some Big Brother Instinct, but there are clear reasons for why the two broke up when the topic turns to Beth's new interests.
- Lady Serena Carlow of Bath Tangle doesn't have a job, exactly, but she has to deal with her ex-fiance on business matters when her father's will names him as her guardian.
Live Action TV
- In Smallville, a mild version in which after Chloe and Clark broke up, they still work together fine for the newspaper. Mostly because Chloe is mature about it and Clark...doesn't really understand how deeply she is in love with him.
- The New WKRP in Cincinnati: Morning drive time DJs Burns & Allen are exes who still work together professionally.
- Star Trek: The Next Generation: Will Riker & Deanna Troi are ex-lovers. It takes seven seasons, three and a half movies, and a source of strange radiation that rejuvenates the crew to the point where they behave like teenagers before they get back together, though.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer is not shy about using this trope.
- Angel and Buffy during season 3 of her show, although how 'ex' they were varied from episode to episode. Angel eventually decided to leave town so she could move on (and he could get his own show).
- It definitely showed up more on Angel, with Fred and Gunn in season 4 primarily.
- Buffy ended up working briefly with Riley and his wife in the sixth season in the episode "As You Were".
- Buffy and Xander had this vibe when working with Spike and Anya in Season 7.
- In the short-lived sitcom Ink, Ted Danson played a star newspaper reporter with his real-life wife Mary Steenburgen playing his ex-wife and editor/boss.
- In the first season of Lie to Me, Cal Lightman has to work with his ex-wife on several occasions, and ends up in bed with her a couple of times.
- This is a primary source of drama and romantic tension on Fairly Legal. The main character is a mediator and her ex-husband works for the DA, so naturally they butt heads.
- The short lived Work Com FM was about an NPR station in Washington DC where program director Ted had to work with his ex-wife Lee-Ann when she was hired (not by him) to be a political commentator.
- Happens quite a bit in 24. Tony and Michelle find themselves working together at CTU in the 4th season. Also, David Palmer ends up having to work with Sherry quite a bit, even asking for her help one time.
- Human Target has an episode where Chance had to work with his ex girlfriend.
- Chuck has two examples, both of which serve as Romantic False Leads
- In the second season the eponymous character is forced to work with his ex-girlfriend Jill.
- Sarah has Bryce Larkin in the first and second seasons.
- Richard Castle's second ex-wife is also his publisher and editor.
- Beckett also has an ex-boyfriend in the FBI, and has to work with him on a case.
- In Babylon 5, Sheridan deliberately hires his ex-wife, Elizabeth Lochley, to command the station when he has to resign by reason of becoming a president, choosing her because the side she served on during Earth's then-recent civil war. They didn't work out romantically, but he still trusts her. Of course, this causes some minor drama when he fails to mention this previous relationship to his paranoid chief of intelligence or his current wife.
- It also rounded out Sheridan's "set." Like the Minbari, his three wives were Anna (worker), Elizabeth (warrior) and Delenn (religious).
- Seasons three through five had Director Jenny Shepard and Special Agent Gibbs, who had formerly been lovers.
- McGee and Abby dated briefly, early on; this occasionally still provides tension when one or the other of them gets involved with someone.
- One episode had Gibbs and FBI Agent Fornell having to work together to find the current husband of their mutual ex-wife
- A later had the same ex-wife turned IRS investigator team up with both Gibbs and Fornell to lead an investigation that eventually involved all three agencies.
- One of Michael's ex-girlfriends once showed up on Burn Notice to ask for his help, and ended up working closely with the team throughout the episode.
- Also, Fiona, referred to in the Opening Narration as Michael's "trigger-happy ex-girlfriend".
- In the sixth season, the "ex" part was dropped.
- Also, Fiona, referred to in the Opening Narration as Michael's "trigger-happy ex-girlfriend".
- Happened once on Covert Affairs with Auggie's Russian ex-girlfriend.
- The X-Files: Mulder winds up having to do this at times during season 5 with Diana Fowley. Things really get awkward, though, when Scully has to work with her too.
- On NewsRadio co-anchors Bill McNeal and Catherine Duke have a sometimes tense relationship because of a fling they had in the past. Dave and Lisa also have to continue working together after they break up.
- Used repeatedly in Scrubs between JD and Elliot in the first three seasons, which included them sharing an office too small for separate desks. Dr Cox and Jordan also had this set up for the first two seasons before reuniting.
- In the final seasons of Silk Stalkings, the original cops were replaced by the characters of Tom Ryan and Cassie St. John, who have been through a somewhat angry divorce, but who also (it rapidly becomes very clear) are far from over each other. It's shown over time that Tom would die for Cassie, if necessary, and Cassie is definitely still hung up on him, to the damage of her other relationships.
- It rapidly becomes clear from their comments and other indications that the biggest problem between them was mostly immaturity on both their parts, the only thing standing in their way as a couple was/is the need for them both to grown up a bit.
- Rookie Blue season 2 has Luke cheat on Andy with Jo, his ex who transfers to the 15th Division in the first episode.
- The first season of The West Wing had PR specialist Mandy Hampton, who had apparently had an extremely non-amicable breakup with Josh. Their work relationship was not exactly smooth.
- Also Toby's sporadic interactions with his ex-wife, Congresswoman Andi Wyatt.
- CSI NY did this for a few episodes. Danny and Lindsay got together, then seemed to seperate after the shooting death of a boy Danny was looking after-he ended up having sex with the boy's mom-and there was the 'working with the ex' tension for a few eps. Then the two got back together, and it was all over.
- More obvious when Jo worked with her ex in a couple episodes, though they're at least amicable.
- Leverage: Nate Ford's ex-wife has worked with the team on several occasions.
- Ally McBeal starts a new job in the first episode only to find her college sweetheart Billy is already working there.
- Due to the Love Dodecahedron nature of Los Hombres De Paco, almost all of the cops in the San Antonio Predicate are working with an ex or two. Everyone really gets around.
- In one episode of Kitchen Nightmares, Ramsay helps out a Cuban restaurant whose owners are divorced. The episode seems to be building up them getting back together, but they only just get as far as being friends again.
- Brenda and Chief Pope had a romantic affair before the events in The Closer. It was revealed to everyone in Season Two.
- Sam and Jules in Flashpoint during the time they had broken up in season 2. Eventually, they get back together in season 4.
- ER had a veritable cornucopia of these. Examples include Elizabeth and Peter, Luka and Abby, Luka and Sam, Abby and Carter, Carter and Susan, Doug and Carol, Mark and Chuny...the list goes on.
- In Elementary, at one point, Sherlock Holmes worked with an ex-lover FBI profiler on a case, much to his annoyance.
- Surgical Spirit has Sheila (surgeon) working with Jonathan (anaesthetist) after they break off their engagement. It mostly goes well. Mostly.
- In Helix, Dr. Alan Farragut must work alongside his fellow CDC scientist and ex-wife Dr. Julia "Jules" Walker, during a viral outbreak at a remote arctic research base. In spite of their interpersonal tensions, she has recommended him to head the mission as a personal favor due to the fact his brother Peter is among the infected research scientists.
- An episode of The Outer Limits (1995), "Tribunal", featured the son of a Holocaust concentration camp survivor attempting to bring a suspected camp guard to justice, with his ex-wife offering somewhat reluctant assistance in the matter.
- As of the Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. episode "A Hen In The Wolf House", Lance Hunter and his ex Bobbi Morse are both members of Team Coulson. Lance thinks Bobbi is a "demonic hellbeast", while Bobbi doesn't seem to bear any ill will about their separation (she even vouched for him when Coulson was considering whether to hire him), but doesn't like that Lance is copping an attitude about her joining up.
- In The Affair, Alison and Oscar, the obnoxious owner of the diner where she works, had sex once when they were teenagers, as he is prone to recall.
- In the German police series Tatort the Leipzig team of Hauptkommissare Eva Saalfeld (Simone Thomalla) and Andreas Keppler (Martin Wuttke) used to be married to each other, but got divorced a few years before their first episode.
- In the backstory of SeaquestDSV it's revealed that Katie Hitchcock and Ben Krieg married right out of the Academy, then divorced a year later due to incompatible personalities. They wind up assigned to the same ship, but Katie's now Ben's superior officer. Their relationship is best described as friendly/wary (within the bounds of military protocol), but various episodes have shown that either will go out of their way to help/protect the other.
- In Namco x Capcom, Taizo Hori of Dig Dug fame fights alongside the heroes, and his ex-wife Toby "Kissy" Masuyo (from Baraduke) also joins their ranks. Although they divorced long ago, Toby still holds a grudge against Taizo. Toby also makes a few cameos alongside her ex-hubby and son in the Mr. Driller series, with her personality more or less intact.
- Implied between Jacob and Miranda, two of the squad-members in Mass Effect 2. In Jacob's words, their previous work together "got a little close - then it got real far apart." In spite of this, they seem to still be on good terms.
- Adam Jensen and Megan Reed have dated and broken up by the time Deus Ex: Human Revolution gets rolling (not too long before the game starts, as a matter of fact). However, they certainly don't act like most people expect exes to, especially since they work together quite closely. In fact, most people assume that they're still together unless they look around for clues.
- In Halo 3: ODST, Buck and Dare are a former couple, which leads to tension between them when she takes command of Buck's squad for a secret mission (especially since she broke it off when he proposed, something he still resents her for). By the end of the game, though, it looks like they're getting back together again.
- According to The Cage Family trailer, Johnny Cage and Sonya Blade are divorced, but still work together.
- For a short time in Kevin & Kell, Kevin's first business venture Flea-Bay was owned by his ex-wife Angelique. After Fiona bought her out, she later became a senior executive (and at one point ran) the company Kevin's current wife worked at. And if we're going that route Ralph works for the company his wife's ex owns. And by technicality, through Kell Angelique hired another one of her exes, the one she cheated on Kevin with in fact, Kevin's father.
- The relationship between Domenico and Zoé in Sandra on the Rocks takes this to a comedy extreme, with lashings of Belligerent Sexual Tension and some Slap-Slap-Kiss; in fact, they occasionally have sex — to settle arguments.
- In the webcomic Wayward Sons the captain's ex-wife is also the head medical officer.
- Occasionally on Time Squad, other Time Squad units join in to help the trio. One of these squads consists of Buck Tuddrussel's more accomplished ex-wife Sheila Sternwell. The two are on good terms, though Buck's ego takes a hit when she comes in to save his butt and his unit's mission.
- By Justice League Unlimited, Green Lantern and Hawkgirl.
- In Batman Beyond, Bruce Wayne and Barbara Gordon had a romantic history, and now she leads the GPD.
- On Gargoyles, Macbeth's two mooks Banquo and Fleance are said to be exes by Greg Weisman.
- After the Time Skip in Young Justice, Miss Martian and Lagoon Boy are now dating but Conner decided to stay on the same team as M'Gann even though they had the option of joining the Justice League, but he is visibly uncomfortable with their relationship.
- The tie-in comic contrasts this with a scene of Nightwing's Amicable Exes, Zatanna and Rocket, stopping by to give him birthday kisses on their way to a League briefing. As soon as they leave, Nightwing turns to a stiff-postured Conner and M'gann, asking if they're still okay working together. They claim professionalism.
- A hefty portion of the issues between Lana and Archer stem from the fact that they used to date. There's a lot of antagonism between them.
- In The Legend of Korra, it's pretty much the entirety of Tenzin's relationship with Lin Beifong. Especially in "And the Winner Is..."
- This was the situation between Asami and Mako after their breakup at the end of Book 1. By Book 3, Mako is working with two ex-girlfriends on the same team after his breakup with Korra at the end of Book 2. Korra and Asami handle it pretty well; Mako...not so much, at least at first.
- Justin Timberlake and Cameron Diaz in Bad Teacher. The two had previously dated for several years. There is even a fake sex scene between the two.
- Alternative Rock duo The White Stripes consist of Jack and Meg White, who divorced shortly after hitting it big, but remained together musically. The divorce was actually for image reasons, and they have pretended to be siblings, so this is a slightly skewed example.
- Fleetwood Mac, around the time of the Rumours album, consisted of two broken relationships and a drummer (who had a fling with the singer).
- ABBA consisted of two men and two women, who became two married couples. Both couples divorced and they continued to make music for a while, but ultimately broke up in 1983.
- Sonny and Cher during the 2nd version of their Variety Show.
- George Hamilton and his ex-wife Alana had a daytime Talk Show in The '90s.
- Michael C. Hall and Jennifer Carpenter, who play brother and sister on the TV series Dexter, met on set and got married very quickly, only to get divorced after a while. They both continued portraying their characters.
- John Cleese and Connie Booth created Fawlty Towers and they wrote every episode together. They were married when the first series was made, but divorced before the second one started.
- George and Robin Lakoff (divorced) both work as linguistics professors at the University of California, Berkeley, and get along well as professionals.
- Simone Simons was Mark Jansen's girlfriend when she joined Epica and remains in the band despite the two of them breaking up not long afterwards.
- Joyce Nettles, first casting director for Midsomer Murders is star John Nettles's ex.
- Linkara and Iron Liz of Atop the Fourth Wall were dating when Liz made her debut on the show; while her character disappeared around the time they broke up, she has since appeared in Vlogs and Behind The Scenes roles on crossovers with Linkara and they have planned to re-introduce Iron Liz.
- This is what broke up the Cocteau Twins, as vocalist Liz Fraser and guitarist Robin Guthrie had a messy breakup and Fraser didn't want to continue the band.
- Country Music singer Lee Ann Womack divorced singer Jason Sellers before both began their solo careers in 1997, although Womack was the only one of the two to have hits. She recorded songs written by him on her first three albums, and had him sing backing vocals on several of her albums (most humorously on the cheating song "I May Hate Myself in the Morning").
- Merle Haggard continued to tour with his ex-wife Bonnie Owens after the two divorced.
- Lost with Juliet, who is shown working for her ex-husband in flashbacks.
- In the flash-sideways universe, she works with Jack and was previously married to him.