Keiko Yukimura and Yusuke Urameshi in that Yusuke is definitely a Jerk with a Heart of Gold while Keiko is working to keep him on the straight and narrow. They obviously love each other (and everyone knows it) but Yusuke's jerkitude tends to keep them apart until the end. It's downplayed in that Yusuke realizes early on that he loves Keiko, and there's never really any silliness with love rivals and what not.
Hiei and Mukuro may also fit this trope, with The Masochism Tango that doesn't seem to dampen Hiei's interest (even Kurama notes it). Not quite the same since she's only introduced in the last arc, and their hinted attraction is too early to be a Will They or Won't They?. Hiei and Mukuro are pretty much canon. They respect each other, like each other, and he brings her her evil and abusive father trapped in a healing plant that Kurama specially got for such a purpose to torture for eternity as a present. Practically romantic for Hiei — or, for that matter, for Mukuro.
Aoba and Kō in Cross Game. Aoba spends the whole series fighting with him in an attempt to show everyone that she hates him as much as she says she does. No one seems to buy it though. In the end, she tells him that she's always hated him when, in reality, it sounds more like an "I love you".
Fullmetal Alchemist has Edward as the Jerk with a Heart of Gold and Winry as his Tsundere. There's tons of Unresolved Sexual Tension moments between them — Edward subtly thinking Winry looks cute, Winry noticing that his shoulders look broader, Edward having to recite the periodic table after remembering the conversation between him and Hawkeye (where Riza suggested he loves Miss Rockbell), Winry wondering why she fell in love with "such a weirdo", and their reunion before the Promised Day, resulting in a flustered Ed and almost-topless Winry. Those are all no doubt proof of this trope. All thanks to puberty, folks!
Detective Conan (more specifically Magic Kaito, set in the same universe with overlapping characters) has Kaito as the Jerk with a Heart of Gold and Aoko as the Tsundere — to the point where fanart of Kaito drawn as Ranma and Aoko drawn as Akane has become fairly popular. In the series proper, Heiji and Kazuha also fit the mould.
Mazinkaiser tones it down: Sayaka is tsuntsun for everyone but Kouji and deredere for him, and Kouji's asshattery is reduced to abusing Boss and making snarky comments every now and then.
Great Mazinger: And then you have their successors, Tetsuya / Jun. They were somewhat more mature than Kouji and Sayaka, but Tetsuya was still arrogant and loudmouthed, and Jun had little patience for stupidity.
Elfman and Evergreen. They clearly have a thing for each other, but spend too much time arguing to even admit it.
Sousuke Sagara and Kaname Chidori from Full Metal Panic!. Although Sousuke isn't really a jerk (quite the contrary, he's usually polite and respectful), he's so incredibly oblivious to and insensitive of Kaname's feelings that the end result is much the same, particularly as it's normally compounded by his lack of civilian social skills and the Fish out of Water tendencies which lead him to try to solve most problems with firearms and explosives.
Surprisingly, Laura Haruna's veryHappily Married parents from Hamtaro started their relationship this way, with the dad as a snippy Jerk with a Heart of Gold and the mom as a textbook Tsundere. They got over themselves by the time they got married and Laura was born, though.
Lovely Complex has Atsushi Otani and Risa Koizumi starting out very much like this, although it's somewhat unusual in that it's entirely viewed from the Tsundere's perspective. Also, their feelings for each other develop at a more or less realistic pace.
Yuuji Kagura and Kazuki Arisaka in Tona Gura. While Yuuji will take his beatdown when he has it coming (and he often does, even past animanga standards), he will be vociferous in telling off Kazuki when she has it wrong (and she often does). Both can be jerks, and both can be tsunderes, though it more or less settles traditionally based on gender.
Kamille Bidan and Fa Yuiri from Zeta Gundam. To the point that the Argama's crew calls their constant bickering their "hobby". They also lampshade it when Kamille kisses Fa after a rather tiring battle and tells her that they should reconsider their mutual interaction since he's getting tired of the fighting.
Yu-Gi-Oh!: Joey and Mai alternate between positions. Mai begins as arrogant and condescending towards Joey, but her mind begins to change after he beats her in a duel. However, being tsundere, she never admits to having any feelings for him. Joey himself often tries to pick fights with her, but will fight tooth-and-nail to save her.
Dancougar: Sara is a Tsundere who's stuck in Tsun mode because her ex-boyfriend Shapiro pulled a Face-Heel Turn; and Shinobu acts like a macho jerk to try and get her attention. These issues begin to resolve once Shapiro dies at the end of the TV series, and in the sequel OAV they finally start to move toward Official Couple status.
Usagi, the bubbly and easily-angered heroine of Sailor Moon loves Mamoru, the cool and snarky hero. In a twist, they're reincarnated, destined lovers and the tension between them dies almost completely after the first season's reveal.
Kei and Hayato from Project ARMS. Possibly best summed up when the group is crawling through a tunnel. Hayato coments on the lovely view (of Kei's rear) and Kei gives him a good kick in the face.
Ayuzawa Misaki and Usui Takumi in Maid-Sama! are a much milder example than most of the others listed, having progressed to being very nearly a confirmed couple in no more than about forty manga chapters, but they still deserve a mention for continuing to follow the general pattern. Even after kissing several times and going on a couple of actual dates, Misaki is still very Tsundere where Usui is concerned, and Usui still claims that he doesn't date because it's too much trouble.
Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann: Describes well Kamina and Yoko's relation. The bickering, the insults, the beating, the denial, the accidental perversion that leads to a beating; its all there. They're also a rare example of this trope being Played for Drama and as much tragedy as it possibly can during the culmination where Kamina dies shortly after their first kiss.
The step-sibling pair of Minami and Otome in Cherry Juice often switch between flirtatious and belligerent moments, the latter at times involving Otome walking in on Minami while she's in a compromising position, and getting a Megaton Punch for his efforts.
Knuckles the Echidna (Jerk with a Heart of Gold) and Rouge the Bat (Tsundere) (a case of Interspecies Romance) from Sonic X. Just watch almost any episode where they're in the same place and you'll know what I mean. Episodes 12, 13, 39, 52, and 54 are good examples of this (episode 52 being the best example).
Takano and Ritsu from Sekai-ichi Hatsukoi with a mix of Slap-Slap-Kiss. Episode starts, they're fighting at work, later on in the episode, they're still fighting after work and then at the end, they slowly try to understand each other near the end of the episode. Rinse and repeat at the very end when Takano blows his chance every time Ritsu is close to admitting that he likes Takano.
Tomoe and Nanami from Kamisama Kiss. Tomoe is a definite Jerk with a Heart of Gold while Nanami is very deredere. It is obvious to several other characters in the series that they like each other and Nanami doesn't bother to hide the fact she has feelings for Tomoe, but Tomoe has some real problems admitting his feelings about Nanami.
In Gintama, whenever Kagura and Sougo cross paths, they will immediately be at each other's throats, which is quite uncharacteristic from a laid-back Deadpan Snarker like Sougo. However, it's hinted many times that, in reality, Sougo has a soft spot for Kagura because she's the only person who can actually challenge him and he does like competing with her. Kagura, for her part, is less enthusiastic about this situation but since Sougo knows just all too well how to press her buttons, she usually responds right back at his provocations.
Between the New 52 versions of Superboy and Rose Wilson The fight between Superboy and Wonder Girl in Teen Titans is even more blatant. All the two talk about is how cute they find each other while trying to smear their faces into the sidewalk.
Asa and Yoko in Futari Wa Pretty Cure Blue Moon fit this, although they're both tsundere — they only tsun around each other. Even in the beginning of the series, when Asa is scared stiff of "Ice Queen Nakayama", they start bickering practically Once per Episode. Late in the series, though, they argue less and start to get along more.
In A Different Lesson, Tai Lung and Tigress take this trope and run with it for more than half the fic, which is, incidentally, one hell of a Doorstopper.
Peggy Sue Fanfic The Second Try actually averts (?) the trope. Living on their own had helped Shinji and Asuka grow past this point, but when they return to the past, they try enacting this trope to avoid arousing suspicion. The key word there is Try.
Ichigo: "So quick to deny and you reacted so well in unison. It's like you're in tune with each other. Is anyone else here seeing what I am?"
Lisa: (giggles) "Hey Shinji. You wanna borrow my manga? Might give you some ideas."
Shinji: "No! I'm not into little whiny brats like her!"
Hiyori: "Says the man who makes faces when he knows he's lost a verbal war!"
Ichigo: "Definitely an old married couple. They know each other way too well, push each other's buttons too easily. If they really hated each other, one of them would have killed the other by now. It's been over a hundred years of living together, for crying out loud. Betcha anything they don't act like that with other people normally."
Rose: "He's got a point."
Love: "What? You only get that pissed off at Shinji, and we all know Shinji does those antics just to get a rise out of you."
This is basically the default setting of Kyoko/Sayaka - two massive Tsunderes battling head-to-head for dominance. In particular, A Happy Dream, probably the most popular story to focus on the pairing, loves this trope.
Anya and Dimitri in Anastasia. Lampshaded by Vlad who calls it an unspoken attraction.
Tiana and Naveen from The Princess and the Frog, although the sexual tension really surfaces when the belligerence starts to die down.
Blu and Jewel from Rio. Though Blu is definitely not a jerk, Jewel's initial judging of his inability to fly and him being a pet does tend to rub him the wrong way. They actually do end up together at the end, though, even having chicks as well.
Doctor Doppler and Captain Amelia of Treasure Planet. In the beginning, they fight like cats and dogs, but by the end of the movie, they've developed a fondness for each other and bicker Like an Old Married Couple. Heck, they even have four kids together!
Luke himself has this with Mara Jade after their first meeting, though the belligerence was largely on her end and Luke just sorta rolled with it. After They Do, Mara's snarking becomes something of a private joke between them.
Lo and Jen from Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, especially in the desert scenes. This trope has been translated for your convenience into martial arts action!
Doug Dorsey and Kate Moseley from The Cutting Edge.
Jake: Honestly, I'm tryin' to be a gentleman about this. Now just, get down on your knees, stick your ass up in the air, and don't move 'til I tell ya.
Alfred Kralic and Clara Novak in The Shop Around the Corner. To make matters worse, each has got a wonderful pen pal with whom they're falling passionately in love...
Tori and Junior in Roll Bounce, from the second they meet. They have The Big Damn Kiss right after X and Naomi do to the surprise of only Tori's mother. For that matter, given the argument they have on first meeting, Vivian and Curtis certainly seem on track for a relationship by movie's end.
Upstream Color has a very unusual example. Jeff and Kris have both unknowingly come under the influence of a parasite that causes their minds to be linked with others. They're subconsciously drawn to each other due to the lingering effects of the parasite, but their first few scenes together are awkward, tense and irritable. They have no reason to be with each other except for reasons that are beyond their understanding.
It's hinted that Rachel and Marco's playful rivalry in the early Animorphs books might be this, particularly on Marco's part. It begins to take on much darker and nastier undertones as the war wears on.
Jane Eyre is very subtle, but it's definitely present, especially in the tight, intelligent discussions between Jane and Mr. Rochester. Because it was the 1800s and written by a woman, odds are good that really obvious sexual tension would've been ever more frowned upon than the book having a female author in the first place. This example is more evident in the movie, especially the 2011 one.
Pretty much any Mills & Boone romance novel will feature a "feisty female" lead, while the leading male is always a Jerk with a Heart of Gold.
The Lensman universe has Kim Kinnison, Lensman, and Clarissa MacDougall, Prime Base Hospital nurse. They annoy the hell out of each other as patient and caregiver, but in fact their psychological makeup has been carefully crafted to produce a good match - eventually. His rants in hospital (he wants rich food, but is still recovering from major surgery for multiple penetrating bullet wounds) later become a plot point when he has to surreptitiously let Clarissa know that she and the other captured Patrol nurses are in safe hands and shouldn't commit suicide to avoid sexual enslavement.
Zohra and Khardan in Rose of the Prophet. They have a forced marriage early in the first book. The bride is tied up and gagged to wed the falling-down-drunk groom, and the wedding night notably involves the bride stabbing her would-be husband. Will They or Won't They? is still a big plot point (they may be married, but consummation is not forthcoming), and basically will decide if their people survive or die.
In the Night World series, Ash and Mary-Lynette are like this in the majority of Daughters of Darkness. He's a self-admitted jerk who toys with hearts, she's deredere but kicks him in the shins. A lot.
Supposedly Howl and Sophie from the novel (but not the film) Howl's Moving Castle and its sequels. Howl and Sophie consistently and constantly have verbal sniping matches throughout the entire book, and that doesn't exactly change — though it's affectionate after their marriage. They even take the time to do so while rushing using life-endangering magic to the climax of the battle. And during their confessions of love.
In the sequel, Castle in the Air, Abdullah asks Sophie to tell him about Howl, and the response Sophie gives him prompts him to say, "Strange that you should speak so proudly such a list of vices, most loving of ladies." Sophie's retort: "What do you mean, vices? I'm just describing Howl." The belligerence is just how they roll.
Brienne and Jaime from A Song of Ice and Fire might count, though their relationship is mostly platonic with only a little sexual tension.
Pride and Prejudice actually contains considerably less of this trope between Elizabeth Bennet and Mr. Darcy than some of its adaptations and fandom would have you believe; Lizzie genuinely hates Darcy at the beginning, and by the time they get together they aren't bickering anymore. While there isn't much on her side, Darcy develops his attraction to her pretty early on and continues to fight with Elizabeth even as he struggles against his admiration of her. If you want a Jane Austen couple who really display this trope, check out Mr. Knightley and Emma.
In On the Edge, Rose and Declan bicker constantly, mainly because Declan insists on Rose marrying him and she is determined to maintain her independence. Despite herself, Rose finds herself wondering what such a marriage would be like...
Annice and Pjerin in Tanya Huff's Sing the Four Quarters.
Nathaniel and Kitty are this on the occasions when they meet going through The Bartimaeus Trilogy. They even fit the "jerk with a heart of gold" and "sweet but easily angered female" stereotypes. Well, then again maybe "sweet" isn't really the word for the girl, but the rest is true. Also helped along by the fact that they are on opposing sides of a political war.
C. S. Lewis's The Chronicles of Narnia: In The Horse and His Boy, Aravis and Cor spend most of the book vehemently disagreeing and voicing their annoyance with each other; eventually, though, they quarrel and make up so often that they get married "so as to go on doing it more conveniently."
In The Guardians, Irena and Alejandro argue with each other constantly. It's lampshaded by the other characters.
Alejandro: "We're just friends."
Jake: "If you say so."
Percy Jackson and the Olympians has the titular character and Annabeth, who bicker as much as they show affection for each other. It gets worse when Luke gives up his body to Kronos in the fourth book. Percy is convinced that Luke cannot be redeemed, but Annabeth, who shares a long history with Luke, believes there's still hope. This disagreement causes a huge amount of bad feeling between them. It all works out in the end, though.
Miss Alexia Tarrabotti and Lord Conall Maccon in Soulless.
The Spy Five, a short series of virtually unknown books available through Scholastic's book fair order forms, gives us Usula and Julian. They run in the same circles as Ron and Hermione. She's bossy and intelligent, while he's "cool" and loves sports. Both have a Hair-Trigger Temper, triggered by the other.
Mort and Ysabell. Largely because Ysabell knows she's supposed to marry Mort and resents this, and Mort is perennially clueless. As the book that introduces their daughter puts it "Between Mort and Ysabell there was an instant dislike, and everyone knows what that means in the long term".
Lords and Ladies implies that Archchancellor Ridcully and Granny Weatherwax had this sort of relationship when they were younger. When they meet again decades later, it immediately starts up again. Ridcully regrets that nothing ever actually happened between them, while Granny takes a more pragmatic "it was for the best" approach (although it's revealed that she kept the love letters he sent all these years).
Subverted in Midnight Robber by Nalo Hopkinson. Tan Tan's parents had a love that people described as "so sweet it's hot", but eventually turned into pure discord without the sweet. Tan Tan's father killed her mother's lover in a duel and fled with his daughter, and then things got worse...
L. M. Montgomery's Anne of Green Gables gives us Anne and Gilbert, though the belligerence is much more on Anne's part than Gilbert's. It started with Gilbert making an ill-timed comment about her red hair, and getting his slate smashed over the top of his head. From there it spawned a legendary academic rivalry and Avonlea's most infamous love affair.
In Rilla of Ingleside Jerry Meredith and Nan Blythe's relationship is said to be worked out mainly through their own form of sweethearting, which involves a lot of arguing.
Sisterhood Series by Fern Michaels: Maggie Spritzer and Ted Robinson have this going on between them for a long time. They eventually got engaged to be married. However, Deja Vu has Maggie calling it off, because she ends up realizing that she's been unfair to both Ted and Abner Tookus.
Mercy Thompson and Adam Hauptman don't stop even after they get married. Mercy states that she actually enjoys fighting with Adam.
In P. G. Wodehouse's Jill the Reckless, Jill remembers how Wally Mason would put a worm down her back or bound out from behind a tree. Adult, he confesses to a mad love for her.
Demetrus and Andra in The Day of Reckoning argue loudly about his lack of ethics and her hypocrisy, but they stick together despite dangerous situations. A visiting Jedi, listening to them, concludes that they genuinely care for each other. Later it turns out that they get married.
Those same Jedi, in The Shattered Peace, witness two people from rival worlds meeting for the first time, bickering fiercely, making up and working well together, and then parting acrimoniously. When one finds that he's inadvertently endangered the other he immediately tries to help her. In this case Obi-Wan was oblivious to this trope in action, but Qui-Gon saw it.
"Words do not always echo feelings. You saw two enemies. I saw two young beings fighting an attraction they knew was inappropriate."
Sasha and Daichi in Greek Ninja. They hate each other's guts, yet Eleonora points out that they are a match made in heaven. So she's onto them...
Benny and Jason in the Doctor Who New Adventures novel Death and Diplomacy. Eventually Jason's Non-Human Sidekick gives them an infuriated psych evaluation on the grounds that "If I hear one more sexually-charged and mutually misunderstood argument I'm going to shoot the pair of you!"
The Kingdom and the Crown during the second book has the main character Simeon develop this with the main antagonists' daughter, Miriam. They resolve it by the end and get married in the third book.
Between Rowena and Jaxon in Summers at Castle Auburn. They clearly have very complicated feelings for each other, and they express it in veiled threats where he says he'll capture her and sell her into slavery and she says she'll enchant him and take him to Alora, the fairy realm.
"Note how the female through the feigned antagonism encourages the male in his attempt to mate."
A subplot of one Star Trek: Deep Space Nine episode involves Chief O'Brien being forced to work with a female Cardassian engineer. The two spend the entire episode bickering and sniping at each other. He interprets her apparent hostility as typical Cardassian disdain for humans. She interprets his apparent hostility as O'Brien coming onto her, since apparently BST forms the basis of Cardassian courtship. (The Garak/Bashir slashers proceeded to have a lot of fun with the implications of Garak arguing with Bashir over literature for three years.)
Daniel Jackson and Vala Mal Doran of Stargate SG-1. With Vala the Jerk with a Heart of Gold able to annoy Daniel (in a way no one else quite could) into losing his cool. Also none of the other cast really expect them to get together, but Mitchell did sometimes tease Daniel about it. They actually took the Belligerent part of this trope quite literally in Vala's first episode with a spectacular fight sequence unlike anything ever seen in the show. Lampshaded right off the bat by Vala with; "You know, we could just have sex instead."
Helen Magnus and Nikola Tesla of Sanctuary. Sure, they have different opinions about bringing vampires back. And yes they did have a few arguments about this (Nikola once said "Magnus has shot me more times than I can count"). But still, he is the only one who gets on her nerves that much and gets away with it. Not to mention that lately she seems to realize that she cares about him. And that grabbing his arms and pulling him closer to her during a little quarrel they had is completely acceptable... Taken to another level and possibly made canon with their Now or Never Kiss in the season 4 finale
Downton Abbey has Matthew and Mary. So, so much, particularly in Series 1.
Mary: I've been studying the story of Andromeda; do you know it?
Matthew: (suspiciously) Why?
Mary: Her father was King Cepheus, whose country was being ravaged by storms. And, in the end, he decided the only way to appease the gods was to sacrifice his eldest daughter to a hideous sea monster. So they chained her, naked, to a rock—
Violet: (nervously laughs) Really! Mary! We'll all need our smelling salts in a minute!
Matthew: But the sea monster didn't get her, did he?
Mary: No. Just when it seemed he was the only solution to her father's problems, she was rescued.
Matthew: By Perseus.
Mary: That's right. Perseus. Son of a god. Rather more fitting, wouldn't you say?
Matthew: That depends. I'd have to know more about the princess and the sea monster in question.
Kyle and Max in Living Single. At times, they took turns as to who was the Jerk and who was the Tsundere in various episodes.
Tenkaichi and Fujii (said right from the start to be his possible love interest) have this in The Conditions of Great Detectives mostly because each of them hate how the other solves crimes - throughout Tenkaichi refers to Fujii as an amateur who doesn't understand how crime solving works, who is also completely unfeminine, and she believes he's an idiot because he does extremely counter-intuitive things but always gets it right. Fujii only accepts that she has feelings for Tenkaichi at the very end when she learns she won't see him again after the end of the show.
On Northern Exposure, Dr. Joel Fleischmann and Maggie O'Connell's long-simmering UST was severely impeded by a) his tendency to deal with his severe Fish out of Water status with fits of jerk behavior, and b) her severe resistance to relationships after the deaths of several previous boyfriends (which she believed to be her curse).
Chad and Sonny on Sonny With A Chance. Sonny is definitely, with her tsuntsun side only triggered by Chad and occasionally Tawny. Come to think of it... As Chad was only introduced in the 2nd episode, Sonny and Tawni actually came first for this. As of the end of Season 1, it looks like some movement in the Chad/Sonny relationship is happening, a remarkably quick Relationship Upgrade for this type of couple (assuming they don't muck around for another season or 2 denying their obvious feelings for each other).
Emerson and Simone from Pushing Daisies might qualify. You can almost picture that woman holding a tight leash around Emerson's neck.
Nathan and Kelly in Misfits are many fans' apparent One True Pairing. What with him being a snarky and immature Jerkass Woobie and she an aggressive, telepathic Tsundere chav, the ensuing clash of issues and attitude problems is an unexpected joy to behold.
Buffy and Angel started that way, too, though they got over it right quick. Xander and Cordelia stayed that way even when they were dating.
Lee Adama and Kara Thrace of Battlestar Galactica could easily blow the ship to pieces with the force of their BST (which remains belligerent even after they've had sex, and he deals with her sudden marriage to someone else).
Rick Castle and Kate Beckett from Castle scream this trope at the top of their lungs every episode. It progressed from secondary cast members noticing it, to suspects and witnesses who had never seen them before making comments, to eventually the two of them finally acknowledging the attraction, first to themselves and finally to each other. Amusingly, even with the Relationship Upgrade their dynamic hasn't changed one bit. They constantly snark at, belittle, and annoy each other... and then tumble into bed.
Temp worker Misawa Katsuko and vice-president Igarashi Akeo from Haken No Oscar fit this trope perfectly.
The Mentalist: Lisbon has yelled at Jane more times than there are episodes. Jane does some sort of Bunny-Ears Lawyer trick that is likely to get both of their asses fired about as often. Doesn't mean they wouldn't kill and die for each other.
Community: Britta says "Jeff and I don't have sexual tension. We just argue all the time."... And then they hook up.
In the jiang hu TV series Chinese Paladin III, both leads are tsunderes. It's particularly bad for the hero, since at the beginning the heroine knows more kung fu than him...
Rory and Jess from Gilmore Girls started out as a mild form of this trope. They bickered over music, books and television before admitting that they really liked each other. And to a lesser extent, this was also how Rory and Logan initially got to know each other. Paris and Doyle's relationship is a more straightforward example.
Another Steven Moffat example: River Song and the Doctor from Doctor Who, who clearly care for each other very deeply but also spend a considerable amount of time snarking at and bickering with each other Like an Old Married Couple, which they may very well be (it's hinted at in a few episodes). Interestingly, the male half of the couple in question appears to be the Tsundere in the relationship.
Also, the Doctor and Amy a fair bit, despite the fact that she's been either engaged or married most of the time he's known her, and a child most of the time she's known him. And he's 900-something and a Time Lord, though (both?) of those problems also apply to River Song.
It gets better. River Song has Time Lord DNA, and is Amy and Rory's daughter. She's kidnapped as a newborn baby in Season Six, and raised as a Laser Guided Tyke Bomb aimed at the Doctor. Whom she kills, and then sacrifices all her remaining regenerations to save.
Played with on iCarly with the Sam and Freddie relationship. They do nothing but bicker, whilst Sam routinely abuses him, punches him, bullies him and does things like hit him with tennis racquets and throw him out of tree houses. They share their First Kiss in season two but it's not a result of Slap-Slap-Kiss. In season 4 Sam suddenly kisses him in the middle of a speech he was giving about how she needs to put her feelings out there. Because he thought she liked another guy.
The trope itself is unintentionally deconstructed during the 4 part story arc when they enter in a full-blown Masochism Tango. The arc shows what happens when Sam and Freddie, two people who continually bicker, fight, argue and often act in ways that show they legitimately hate each other start dating. They fight, bicker, argue, piss each other off constantly, drag each other down into fighting harder than they did before due to spending more time with each other. They need Carly to fix their fights even more than usual, to the point Carly snaps and tells them they shouldn't be dating at all. It doesn't get better. The last episode shows them being unable to share an interest of the other without ruining it for the person whose interest it is. They have no shared interests outside of filming the webshow and their relationship fades away because they have no reason to see each other for anything but making out. They also realise their personalities are too different to work in a relationship for more than a few weeks. As Sam and Freddie are a pretty standard Belligerent Sexual Tension ship, the arc serves as a deconstruction of the trope as a whole.
Niles tries to instigate this intentionally after he and Daphne have an argument that leaves him trembling with arousal. Daphne, being Oblivious to Love as usual, doesn't get it and winds up acting even more sweet and polite than usual, thinking that Niles keeps insulting her because he's depressed. Fail.
The show also did a Deconstructive Parody of the Cheers example above when Frasier, arguing with a coworker, suddenly says, "Are you as turned on as I am?", which is met with a horrified "NO!"
Dr. Cox and Jordan of Scrubs. They were married and got divorced, but kept up this trope even after their relationship officially ended. They also kept sleeping together, had two kids, move back in together, and basically stayed married in every sense but the technical(though one episode has them find out that they were still married due to an error made by Ted, though they quickly divorced, but stayed together). And they love this trope so much that when Jordan insists they stop fighting for their son's benefit, the other characters treat it as if they have stopped having sex. Fighting is sex to these two.
The Hardy Boys Nancy Drew Mysteries: Frank Hardy & Nancy Drew. Dear GODS, Frank & Nancy. The first time the Hardys & Nancy Drew met, Nancy throws Frank to the floor. All episodes featuring the trio inevitably have Nancy & Frank getting seriously on each others' nerves — until they finally share a kiss at the end of "Mystery of the Hollywood Phantom".
Nancy: ARGH!!! Frank Hardy is the most exasperating...annoying...frustrating...
Jon and Ygritte in Game of Thrones. Aside from the fact that he's on the Night's Watch and sworn to defend the rest of Westeros from Wildlings like her, he's also sworn a vow of celibacy - something she doesn't hesitate to needle him on constantly. They're also both fully aware of Jon's unspoken attraction to her, and Ygritte keeps baiting him endlessly.
Patricia and Eddie in Season 2 are the most famous example, as their feelings are obvious to everyone despite their bantering. Eddie eventually heard her tell Joy that she did like him, but she denied it. Their BST even continued after their kiss. It is eventually lampshadeed.
Joy and Jerome had some of this as well, though it started as actual hatred. She actually tried and failed to invoke this, when she was pretending to have feelings for him, giving us this little gem when she tries to discuss the trope with him.
Joy: —Like we are just pretending, and using hate to cover up our real feelings for each other?
Jerome: ...no, I think it's just cause we don't like each other.
Lampshaded in Dollhouse in a twisted scene where Dr Saunders, having discovered she's just another personality programmed by Topher, tries to seduce him despite her loathing for the man. (To Topher's credit, he rejects her advances.)
Saunders: But this is the end game. You designed someone to hate you so you could convince them to love you.
Topher: I could whip up a love slave, any day I wanted!
Saunders: But that wouldn't be a challenge, would it? (pushes him onto the bed) Slaves are just slaves. But winning over your enemy, the one person guaranteed to reject everything you are? That's real love.
The Newsroom: Will and Mac. They spend two full seasons bickering back and forth, with Will repeatedly punishing herfor cheating on him back when they were together before the series. The attraction is still there for both of them, but they're both wounded and can't come to terms with it until Will finally realizes that he's still in love with her, and he fumbles around a marriage proposal. She accepts.
Calvin and Susie in Calvin and Hobbes, to an extent. With Susie being more stable, Calvin plays much of the role of the avoidant—attracted Tsundere as well as all of the Jerk with a Heart of Gold one, leaving her mostly to react just as any reasonable person would. In one early comic, Calvin makes a hate valentine and dumpster dives for some dead flowers. Susie reacts as can be expected by pelting him with a snowball. As she's walking away and he's recovering, their thought bubbles reveal:
Peter invoked this trope in an early FoxTrot comic strip, where he tells Paige that he thinks her friend Linda Downer likes him because of the way she talks to him.
Paige: She called you a festering snot-ball!
Peter: But it was the WAY she said it.
The patriotic head of the Tau Fire Caste Commander Shadowsun (hence the Fan Nickname Shadowtsundere) and the dashing renegade and resident Char Clone Commander Farsight of Warhammer 40,000 are sometimes depicted as a particularly violent version of this. Amusingly, as of 6th Edition they actually complement each other extremely well on the tabletop. Inquisitor Adrastia and Kap'n Bluddflagg from Dawn of War II: Retribution also have hints of this, which is particularly impressive in light of the fact that one is a xenophobic religious fanatic trained from birth to hate and kill aliens and the other is an asexual alien fungus that reproduces from spores. They fight demons.
Some productions of Henry IV Part 1 play Hotspur and his wife this way. The arguing is all there, and it's up to the actors involved to sexy it up. The 2012 BBC production has the two of them very hands-on.
Amanda and Elyot in Private Lives absolutely exemplify it. They were married, but fight both physically and verbally to the point of having divorced, but as they find when they actually meet again after remarrying different people, they are perfect for each other.
Amalia and Georg in She Loves Me — at least in person.
In the musical Louisiana Purchase, Jim and Marina have a duet listing everything they hate about each other, titled "Outside Of That I Love You."
Sherry and Jake in Resident Evil 6. Sherry is a sweet girl generally, but occasionally she throws a sarcastic remark back at Jake, who is arguably the snarkiest character in the series. They also had their fair share of short-lived moments, and risked their lives to save each other countless times.
Baird: "I suppose you want me to say I always loved you. But I don't! I really, really don't!"
At the end, it's implied they end up together.
Croix and Prier of La Pucelle Tactics spend the last half of the game this way, with most of the rest of the party seeing it, and them denying it. They finally admit their feelings to each other at the climax of the game, and then promptly go back to denying it again in public.
To an extent, Hector and Lyn from the same game, as well as Dart and Farina. Also Lex and Ayra from the first half of the fourth game and Phee and Arthur from the second half, and Innes and L'Arachel from the eighth one... And doubly so with Ephraim and L'Arachel.
Given the nature of the games in question, all of those are optional pairings. If the player prefers, they can be paired with other people, or even no one at all.
The fifth game, however, did not have the option to pair units off as you will, and so as long as certain units survived, their endings would imply that they got together. Tanya and Othin appear to fit this trope quite nicely. The sixth game also doesn't have paired endings for anyone other than the main character despite the decidedly romantic nature of some of the A-level support conversations, and it, too, has a couple of pairings that bring this to mind (Clarine/Rutger and to a lesser extent Klein/Tate).
Elika and the Prince in Prince of Persia (2008) will spend more time snarking at each other than actually completing their quest, if the player lets them.
The Prince and Farah also have this in the Sands of Time trilogy.
Devil May Cry 3 introduced a Lady as a possible love interest for Dante. They didn't become an Official Couple, but that's how it's been in the first three games in the series. Each one introduced a possible love interest for the protagonist, yet no Official Couple was ever stated, and each fan has a different favourite.
It's pertinent to note that almost every fanfiction that has Dante and Lady as a couple has the later acting as a full-on Tsundere. Complete with her shooting Dante in the head whenever he angers her as a Running Gag.
Luke and Tear only have this relationship for the first 1/3 of the game where Luke is a naive spoiled brat and Tear is a no nonsense soldier. After the Wham Episode, their relationship becomes much less belligerent as Luke begins to mature (after an overlarge heaping of Break the Haughty) and Tear starts showing her more gentle and caring side.
Another example can be found in Chester and Arche in Tales of Phantasia. And it's taken to insane levels in the sequel, Narikiri Dungeon (specifically, the PSP remake).
Shepard can also joke that Joker has this sort of relationship with EDI. And in Mass Effect 3, this plays out.
Shepard's interactions with Liara during Lair of the Shadow Broker, if the two were involved in the first game. This is mostly due to Liara's new Darker and Edgier attitude, which eventually cracks and is revealed to have been an act to help her cope with the murky business of being an information broker on Illium. Afterwards, their interaction veers into Like an Old Married Couple territory.
Shepard's relationship with Ashley in the second and third game, if she was romanced in the first.
To a lesser extent, Shepard's relationship with Kaidan in the second and third, even if he was not romanced in the first.
Garrus and Tali in the third game have shades of this as well. They didn't get along well at all in the first game, and in the second, one of them threatened the other with a shotgun in order to shut them up. Third time around, they patch up their differences, and if neither of them are occupied with Shepard, they hook up.
Take Back Omega has a lot between Aria and Nyreen, left over from when they were an item. Aria and Renegade!Shepard likewise have this relationship, leading to Aria planting a "Shut Up" Kiss on them at the end. Aria's relationship with Paragon!Shepard is similar, though less belligerent and more annoyance at their "boy/girlscout" ways.
Fem!Shep and James Vega can have this if you have the Citadel DLC (which adds in other romances such as Samara). One of the first conversations they have is during a sparring match. Their very first conversation on the ship is them butting heads over abandoning Earth to build a coalition.
Dragon Age II features a companion system based on Friendship/Rivalry rather than Like/Dislike; you can have both genuinely romantic and Slap-Slap-Kiss relationships with your party members. They carry on the theme from the main rivalry with the character; e.g. getting Merrill to stand up for herself.
On in-universe example, Ellis is Smitten with Zoey the moment he lays eyes on her. When he gets a chance to see her again, she may be rather belligerent and insult him. This does nothing to tarnish her "Angel" image in Ellis's eyes.
The less popular Nick and Rochelle pairing is basically this, with a very distinct Han Solo/Princess Leia banter to it.
The Nameless One and Annah in Planescape: Torment,. The intensity of it is left to how Jerkish the player wishes to be, which in turn determines how provoked Annah will be to hold up her Tsundere end.
Fear Effect. Hana and Glas have something like this. They have a habit of pointing guns at each other and giving tough talk to each other. Glas is the one who gives her a hand and helps her up in various situations. Hana did give Glas a hand and help him up in the first game. Also, the one female of the Eight Immortals says to Glas about Hana being his friend, which he tries so very hard to deny. A Fear Effect Inferno trailer shows Glas putting a hand over Hana's hand. He awkwardly tells her that "I just want to say...be careful, you know?" A few seconds later, she smiles and puts her head against his back, surprising him. She responds "We've all got to be careful." Considering what happens later...well, see the Love Triangle entry.
Lily and Taiga have this sort of relationship in Duel Savior Destiny, though it doesn't seem as though Taiga realizes he's attracted to her at all. Mia, the clingy little sister, is actually rather genre savvy about this and tries to get them to stop fighting so Lily treats him like a normal squad member rather than switch from tsun over to dere.
Klavier Gavin seems to be coming on to Ema Skye in Ace Attorney: Apollo Justice during the very few times they actually talk to each other - though it mostly annoys her. She constantly - and not always behind his back - calls him a "Glimmerous Fop".
The "Unlimited Blade Works" route of Fate/stay night includes a refreshingly mild example of this. Shirou is socially awkward and something of a Deadpan Snarker and Rin is a grade-A tsundere. It never degrades into actual violence, and very rarely more than grousing (this applies to both individuals for differing reasons, and both resort to grousing more to hide their embarrassment than anything). Also refreshing is that this does not define their relationship; it only tends to occur when either party gets flustered due to praise, teasing or (in Rin's case) having the subject of their feelings brought up. Outside of these events, they're able to maintain an effective partnership that is more affected by the difference in their methods and worldview than their attraction.
Any given Voltage IncRomance Game is all but guaranteed to have at least one route based heavily in this kind of relationship dynamic, if not more than one. By far most cases are thanks to the guy in question being an arrogant alpha male who either has difficulty expressing affection or just plain enjoys picking on the protagonist to get a rise out of her. Or both.
In Arthur, King of Time and Space, which ports the Arthurian legends to various genres, this is usually how Guinevere and Lancelot start out. In the genre where they're based on McCoy and Spock, they form a belligerent nascent threesome with Arthur/Kirk.
Most America/England fanworks accurately portray the pairing as this. It helps that both characters have Jerk with a Heart of GoldandTsundere qualities. This was even lampshaded in the dub with France's remark, "When you two are done releasing sexual tensions, we have a meeting to finish."
France/England fanworks are often portrayed as this as well, due to their tendency of taking potshots at each other. This is lampshaded in the dub of Hetalia: Paint It White when an alien machine is describing Britain
Narrator:... France is a long time acquaintance he's often found bickering with for bickering's sake. However, in their heart of hearts they love each other (Beat) Sexually.
And Turkey/Greece, too. As a contrast to Greece/Japan, it has Turkey as a grumpy Boisterous Bruiser and Greece as a violent mix of both Tsundere types (he's usually technically a Tsundere who's pleasant to everyone except Turkey, but often comes across as instead due to him being with Turkey almost all the time).
Ash and Rumisiel seem to be dating despite her constant annoyance at him, but it's a fake relationship and she's really just angry at him for other reasons.
The relationship between Ash and Emily. It's been established many times that they have feelings for each other, and Emily has struggled with the idea of being in a lesbian relationship with a former guy, they have yet to make a real statement on the nature of their relationship after over 1700 comic strips.
Nasty variation occurs in Narbonic, where Helen is unable to admit her feelings for Dave because she values him too much as a test subject, and Dave is too shy and insecure.
In Sluggy Freelance, Riff and Gwynn dating was a bit like this, she being very Tsundere and he an insensitive jerk towards women he dates. It didn't last, though. The relationship wasn't focused on, and while it went on, it didn't seem to have any redeeming features, but afterwards it was shown clearly enough that there had been some actual positive emotions involved.
Tarvek and his cousin Violetta in Girl Genius. When she's first introduced, Violetta's rage at and contempt for Tarvek makes Moloch von Zinzer ask it they're married. Violetta makes a sick face ("Ewwww . . . ") but many in the fandom have already shipped the two. They deserve each other.
Black Mage and White Mage in 8-Bit Theater would have this. Only BM lacks the heart of gold. Probably a heart at all. Oh and White Mage finds him completely and utterly repulsive in every single way possible. And some that aren't.
Zexion and Namine spend much of Ansem Retort alternating between baiting and belittling each other in an unending battle of wits, and helping each other coordinate and execute incredibly unlikely plots. They claim to hate each other, but spend all their time around each other anyway. Namine was impressed when Zexion sold territory to Mexico for a sexy Spanish name, Zexion knew immediately who had swapped his cyanide pills with Mentos, he detoured from his booty call with Belle to brag to Namine, and Namine developed a psychic "Zexion-sense" alerting her that he was in trouble... not that she cared enough to do anything about it, mind you. It ultimately is resolved when Zexion announces that he will have sex with everything Namine loves, and Namine immediately replies that she loves herself, daring him to go through with it. He does.
Legion Of Extraordinary Dancers delivers a fun example, as always. In this case, the two characters (Ninjato and Katana express this through DANCE. However, Ninjato is captured and held at an enemy headquarter, and made to dance (it's more tasteful than it sounds—they used to be close friends, and Ninjato likes to dance). Katana sneaks in mid dance and they subsequently convey the epitome of this through dance. The bad guys are so in awe of their performance that they don't even get up out of their seats until Katana spirits away Ninjato.
Simon and Jeremy from Shadow Of The Templar. They have sex often, but are extremely poor at admitting how important the other is to him, with Simon vigorously denying that Jeremy could even be his friend. Jeremy's love of treating Simon like an amusing playmate and infuriating him with his cool and unruffled demeanor doesn't help, though he does seem to be more conscious about his own feelings and makes the occasional barb about Simon's capacity for denial.
Lizzie and Darcy, naturally, in the The Lizzie Bennet Diaries. Especially after Darcy declared his love for her and she is absolutely flabbergasted.
Ultra Fast Pony: According to Spike and the Gala song choir, Twilight and Princess Celestia both have crushes on each other. Yet Twilight seems to resent Celestia, and Celestia hides her romantic gestures behind acts of petty antagonism. For example, when Twilight shows up late to the Grand Galloping Gala, Celestia declares that Twi must spend the whole night at her side, as "punishment".
Arnold and Helga. Although Arnold is definitely not a jerk, Helga's constant bullying has made him hostile towards her (or at least as much as he can be) and Helga is one of the greatest Tsunderes you will ever see.
Grandpa Phil admitted to having a similar experience with a girl in his youth. The girl is Arnold's grandmother.
Gargoyles: According to Greg Weisman himself, Brooklyn and his mate Katana's relationship — at least early on — was described as a gargoyle version of Much Ado About Nothing's Beatrice and Benedick. He first described it as being like Sam and Diane's relationship. No one got it. So then he compared to Beatrice and Benedick, which everyone got. That should tell you something about the show's fans.
Matt and Inez from Cyberchase and very likely deliberately invoked by the creators...
Mako and Korra from The Legend of Korra, especially in the first half of Book One, and particularly emphasized in The Spirit of Competition. Word of Bryke even calls out this trope during commentary for the episode:
Mike: The earlier episodes had set up that Korra and Mako were kinda at each other's throats but they also kinda have a little attraction to each other.
Star Wars: The Clone Wars provides Obi-Wan Kenobi with a "past" in the form of Duchess Satine. They play it out pretty much like Benedick and BeatriceIn SPACE. Then there's the byplay between Kenobi and Asajj Ventress. One wonders what the two will do when trapped in an escape pod together.