You Are Better Than You Think You Are
"I just never thought of this as you. None of this is your fault! You didn't build this place! I...I'm sorry, Amethyst. I hope you can forgive me. You're the one good thing that came out of this mess. I always thought you were proud of that."Sometimes a character feels like he is worthless, and does not belong somewhere they value and is fit only to be a villain, no matter how much the idea frightens him. Eventually, their friends or mentors learn what is troubling him and comfort him saying something along the lines of, "Don't be so hard on yourself. You are better than you think you are, and I'm going to prove it." When that challenger proves it with irrefutable evidence, the hero ends up feeling much better with the knowledge that someone he deeply respects believes in him more than he did himself. The Power of Friendship and Power of Trust may come into play. Sometimes, though, you'll need a Magic Feather or maybe a Motivational Lie to pull it off. Similarly, a Naďve Newcomer and Cowardly Lion may have a sager character explain that fear is not proof that they are cowards; only the Fearless Fool really feels no fear. This trope may be used as a form of Interrupted Suicide. For the opposite, see Heel Realization or Then Let Me Be Evil, though these alternatives may be reversed by helping the victim over their guilt to facilitate a Heel-Face Turn. When a character has to be constantly reminded of this, they usually suffer from Heroic Self-Deprecation. Compare You Are Not Alone. If handled well, such a situation can easily become a Crowning Moment Of Heartwarming. See Don't Say Such Stupid Things for a rougher version, and for the inverse, see "The Reason You Suck" Speech.
— Pearl, referencing Amethyst's parasitic birth on Earth, Steven Universe
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- In this Dove ad, a forensic sketch artist for the FBI asks a series of women to describe themselves while he sketches them. Then, with the women never having seen the sketch, they leave and the sketch artist asks another person to describe the same woman. Both sketches are placed side by side and put on display. Cue images of the women looking amazed at how much more attractive the second sketch makes them look. Tagline: "You are more beautiful than you think."
Anime and Manga
- Episode 9 of Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha Striker S, where after various incidents begat by Teana's feelings of inadequacy from being the normal one in the team which drove a fanatical need to prove herself, Nanoha goes to have a talk with Teana, explaining to her that her skills which she felt were mediocre were powerful when used correctly, and that Nanoha did feel that Teana can stand on her own as an enforcer and had already planned to eventually train her in that direction after she had mastered the skills she specialized in and gained enough confidence in them. After this realization, Teana would go on to become one of the most effective members of the team.
- Also, in the last episodes, after Fate nearly suffers a Heroic BSOD at the hands of the Big Bad (who attempts to prove that she is Not So Different from her Evil Matriarch mother), her adoptive kids Erio and Caro explain to her just what exactly makes her awesome, putting her right back into the fight.
- Arguably the entire point of more positive interpretations of Neon Genesis Evangelion.
- Happens over and over in Spiral, where the protagonist has a serious problem with being overshadowed by his older brother.
- Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann
- Simon has zero self-confidence. Kamina supplements Simon's lack of confidence by telling him to "believe in the me who believes in you" over and over through the first third of the series. Later on when Kamina is dying, he tells Simon to "believe in you, who believes in yourself", citing all the great things Simon did.
- Also, in-between those he told him: "Believe in yourself, who believes in me."
- Basically, he's trying to tell Simon that Simon needs to believe that Kamina sees something in him that even Simon doesn't. Going by the flipped versions of the Cave-In story, told first from Simon's POV and then from Kamina's POV, Kamina clearly takes this as fact.
- Shizuo's main character arc throughout Durarara!! (particularly in the Light Novels) is learning that although he may be a very messed-up individual, he isn't quite the inhuman monster he's resigned himself to be. Once that actually gets through his head, Shizuo starts gradually learning how to restrain himself and channel his violent impulses in more heroic (if still destructive) ways.
- One Piece. When Usopp is going through an emotional crisis because he sees himself as the weakest Straw Hat, Sanji, who is known not to hand out compliments to the male crew mates, is quick to point out that everyone has something that only they can do and things they cannot do. When Usopp shoots Spadam, giving Robin a chance to escape, Sanji shouts out, "Look! Our sharpshooter rules!"
- In Dragon Ball, Jackie Chun, having been revealed to be a disguised Master Roshi, gives one of these speeches to Tenshinhan during their fight in the series' second world martial arts tournament. It leads to the latter's Heel-Face Turn.
- Onani Master Kurosawa. Kurosawa attempts to convince Kitahara that she's strong enough to fight through her troubles on the train home from their school trip. He's not exactly correct, but then again, he's not exactly wrong, either. She just needs a little help.
- In Tiger & Bunny, an early episode is about a young NEXT boy who used his powers to go on a rampage, because his classmates bullied him. By the end of the episode, though, Kotetsu is able to convince the boy that his powers are meant to protect people. It ends up working, just as it did on Kotetsu himself when he was around the boy's age, and his childhood hero, Mr. Legend, encouraged him to be a hero.
- When Ichigo and his friends are defeated by Yammy because Ichigo's too afraid of his inner Hollow taking control of him to fight properly, he is inconsolable. Rukia forces him to fight a mook Hollow and lectures him to overcome his fear by getting stronger. When she declares her belief in his ability to become strong enough to protect his friends, and also himself from his inner demons, he regains his resolve. Soon after (partially forced by Rukia), he apologizes to Orihime and vows to get stronger.
- Rukia being able to fix Ichigo's resolve breaks Orihime's confidence. As the person who ended up most badly damaged, she is unable to ease Ichigo's guilt and feels completely useless when Rukia succeeds. Feeling mortified by her own jealousy, especially because she likes Rukia, she finally caves to pressure from Rangiku and confesses how she's feeling. Rangiku resolves the situation by explaining that she's wrong because Ichigo needs both her and Rukia equally, but in different ways.
- In Code Geass, Euphemia for a time feels like she's completely useless in this world. She realizes that she has the power to try making a better world after getting a "you're fabulous" speech from her Psycho Lesbian fangirl.
- Fairy Tail. While waiting for the next day to fight the villains on Galuna Island, Lucy summons the harp Celestial Spirit to pass the time. Said spirit starts singing this trope in musical form, which helps Gray, who was plagued with doubt over the death of his teacher years before.
Lyra: You are stronger than you were yesterday.
- Persona 4: The Animation uses these liberally. Basically any time a hero is facing down his or her shadow (essentially the personification of his/her flaws, as well as the parts about him/herself (s)he does not want to admit to him/herself or show to others), another character gives him/her either one of these or a You Are Not Alone.
- The message behind the lyrics of K-On!'s first ED.
- Kamisama Kiss has Tomoe say this to Nanami when she is trying and failing to perform a holy ceremonial dance after being an all around asshole and a Drill Sergeant Nasty towards her from literally the first minute he met her.
- Naruto told this to Hinata, when she felt bad, about him having to rescue her in the war, despite her vowed to herself that she'd be the one to protect him.
- It doubles as a Meaningful Echo: in the Chunin exams arc, Naruto confessed to Hinata that he wasn't sure he could defeat Neji. Hinata then tells him that he's strong because no matter how many times he falls, he always gets back up.
- At the resolution of A Cruel God Reigns climax [[Deprogram deprogramming]] scene, Ian reaffirms this to Jeremy.
Jeremy: [crying] I smell, don't I? I smell like I'm rotting, right?Ian: Even though he raped you, and you prostituted yourself, you don't smell rotten. What happened to you was an incident. It doesn't change you into something else.
- In Little Busters!, Kyousuke and occasionally other characters often think this towards Riki and Rin, but the thought is rarely vocalised. However, there's a good example at the end of the first season where Kyousuke insists on making Riki captain of their baseball team, and when Riki rejects the title and insists that he'd be happy just following Kyousuke forever, Kyousuke tells him firmly that he knows he can do it and become so much stronger if he tries.
- In A Certain Magical Index, Othinus manages to temporarily defeat Touma by warping reality to create a perfect world where everybody is happy and alive, but nobody remembers him. He falls into despair, because Othinus has made him irrelevant, and reasoning that he's become the villain because only a truly selfish person would want his old life back at the expense of the smiles of everybody in this world, and attempts suicide. The Will of the Sisters Network, who retained her memory of the original world, stops him and says he matters. She also points out that Othinus "cheated": if she hadn't made everybody forget about Touma, they would have rejected the new world and wanted the one with him in it. The Will also says it is okay to be selfish, because he has a life he deserves to be happy in too. This restores his resolve to oppose Othinus and get the world back to normal.
- In Sangatsu no Lion, Rei, near the end of his first year in high school, begins feel as if he's accomplished nothing in the year he's moved out of Kouda's house. Mr. Hayashida quickly counters with exactly why that's not the case, pointing out that Rei's learned to take care of himself, pay his own bills, and other things, achieving a level of independency uncommon among people his age.
- A lot between Noi, Yuuhi, and Sami in The Lucifer and Biscuit Hammer, and even from Hangetsu to Yuuhi. Yuuhi has no confidence in himself whatsoever at the start, but the trust and belief others put in him lets him grow immeasurably. Meanwhile, Yuuhi starts to use it to pay back the others' belief and help them get over their own insecurities.
Yuuhi: Princess... do you love this world?Sami: ...yeah.Yuuhi: Then the world definitely loves you back. You are not damaged goods.
- In Puella Magi Madoka Magica the Movie: Rebellion, Mami says if she had never met her friend Bebe, she would have given up long ago. Homura, who knows Bebe had not existed until recently and everybody's memories had been tampered with, says Mami is a lot braver and stronger than she thinks.
- In Act 6 of Sailor Moon Crystal, while the rest of the Sailor Guardians are fighting an enemy, Usagi nearly passes out on the street from having her energy drained and is woken up by Tuxedo Mask. She muses about having no real powers like other Guardians despite supposedly being the leader (apparently without realizing that this is a clue to her identity as Sailor Moon), and when Tuxedo Mask tells her to transform, she complains about this again. Tuxedo Mask hugs her and reminds her that she was the one who made the rest of the team realize their purpose as Sailor Guardians, and thus she is the ideal leader.
- Attack on Titan
- Marco says this to Jean, who is feeling guilty about his orders getting people killed during the battle in Trost. Marco tells Jean that his understanding of weakness makes him a good leader, as it helps him to clearly judge a situation. Marco credits Jean with saving his life.
- Marco also defends Jean's leadership skills to Eren at the end of OVA 3.75.
- In Koimonogatari Kaiki is hired by Senjougahara to deceive the recently-made Snake God Nadeko in order to save her and Araragi's lives. When she finds out he's been tricking her and attacks him, he tells her in a rather roundabout way that she's got more to live for than just jealousy of Senjougahara.
- Pictured above: All-Star Superman has Superman express this sentiment to a suicidal teenager.
- In Brightest Day, Dove tells Boston Brand (the now alive Deadman) this after he deflects her questions about his past life with claims that he wasn't anyone special.
- I Kill Giants has the central message that "We're stronger than we think".
- The Transformers IDW comic has the noble Wing from Spotlight: Drift try to teach this to the Decepticon Deadlock. It eventually worked, and Deadlock became Drift.
- A later issue has Optimus himself suffering doubt about whether he deserved the Matrix, due to a particularly nasty "The Reason You Suck" Speech from Megatron. After two issues of agnonising, he talks with Ratchet about this. Ratchet just smiles and says that if Optimus had wanted to know so badly, he could've asked him.
- Teen Titans has Kid Devil, who tried desperately to be a good superhero but always felt like the weakest link of the team because of a string of losses. It came to a head when Clock King kidnapped and brainwashed him into fighting in a teenage superhero bloodsport and almost killing someone. Miss Martian managed to snap him out of it by reminding him of his dream to be a hero and what a sweet, earnest person he truly is.
- Interactions between Nightcrawler and Wolverine in X-Men and Wolverine had this nuance. At one point, Nightcrawler told the manageress of a bar "the only thing that is hard is Logan's skeleton and claws, the rest is an honorable man ..." Logan is there.
- This is what Buzzard tells The Goon in the issue Buzzard first appears
Buzzard: You are better than you think you are.
- Here's an interesting take on it: After Dr. Octopus severely injured the Black Cat, Spider-Man gave the villain the beating of his life. Doc Ock lost his confidence as a result, becoming a cowardly shell of his former self, unable to fight, with a bad case of arachnophobia. Eventually, Octopus tried to kill his foe indirectly, sabotaging a nuclear reactor - which would kill everyone in New York, unfortunately. But after his out-of-control tentacles let him defeat the hero - by accident - Spidey convinced him to shut the reactor down so that there'd be witnesses to know of his "great triumph". And it worked. Ock gained his confidence back, thinking he was letting the hero live with the humiliation by sparing him. (To Spider-Man, pride wasn't an issue when the whole city was at stake.)
- Years later, Doc Ock would do the reverse to Spidey in Superior Spider-Man. Earlier, he had convinced the remains of Peter's "spirit" that he was unsuited to be Spider-Man for endangering a child. Some time later, thanks to the Goblin King, Ock encountered that same child and was ready to abandon her before the spirit came roaring back, forcing Otto to save her, telling him that when there's trouble, you don't plan, you just do the thing you think is right. Otto comes to realize that the real Superior Spider-Man really was Peter Parker because, while Otto was an arrogant man who overcompensated for his failings, Peter was a man who sabotaged himself because he never felt himself worthy of the greatness he could have deserved. He then erases his memories and personality from Peter's mind, giving him control once more and asking him to save the woman he fell in love with.
- This from the Mega Man comics, in a shoutout to The Megas:
Dr. Light: I made you in my image. I built your heart and gave you eyes. I gave you power and a sense of justice beyond any compare... I gave you hands, a child's face... Heh... Robot hair. But this burden, the burning in your heart, I did not put there.
- The Powerpuff Girls #20, "Bow Jest" (DC run) has Blossom's psyche and confidence shattered when she loses her hair bow. Mojo steals it, thinking it posseses some type of power if losing it can turn Blossom into a sobbing mess. Suddenly, Bubbles (of all people) clocks Mojo, slams the bow back on Blossom's head and dresses her down:
Bubbles: It's just a stupid bow! You're still a Powerpuff Girl whether you have it or not!
- A Crown Of Stars: Several characters tell this to Asuka since she thinks she is horrible, worthless and nobody can ever love her.
- In chapter 16 Ching gives this speech to Asuka right before showing her a moon-sized space-ship named after her to prove that she is loved:
“Deep down, the worst part of your heart hates yourself. The loss of your mother hit you when you weren’t even four, and deep inside you concluded that if your mother doesn’t want you, you must be a terrible person not deserving of love. You hate yourself for being unlovable, and you keep everyone away from your heart because you are utterly convinced that if anyone knew the ‘real you’ they’d agree you’re as repulsive as you’re convinced you are and leave you. You hate yourself for betraying yourself by giving up, both for wanting to die with your mother but still living. You hate yourself for failing as a Pilot, letting Shinji and even Ayanami surpass you towards the end of the war. You hate yourself for ever having gone to Winthrop, selling out another piece of your soul to keep on living. You hate yourself so much it made me weep last night, Asuka. Sweet Lord and Lady, I wish you’d let me or someone hug you.”
Asuka gave her only a frigid silence in return. Her glare through the comm window could have melted steel.
“You have to forgive yourself, Asuka. You are not unlovable. You are brilliant, strong, fierce, you fought with your friends against terrible odds to protect your whole world...You’re a hero, Asuka.” Ching said sincerely. She worked at the mecha’s controls for a moment. Asuka maintained her silence. “You’re not unlovable. And I’m going to show you proof.” Ching paused for a second, then highlighted something on the screen. The ship they’d launched from was swelling as they rapidly vectored towards it.
- And in chapter 25 she hears it from Shinji:
"I rejected you. Even at that price. The whole of humanity’s survival wasn’t enough to overcome my pride." Asuka’s voice was as dry as ash. “I’d rather see everyone lost than unbend enough to help even someone as low as you. ...so why are you still here? I’m terrible. I sold myself to Winthrop rather than talk to you. Why... why are you still looking at me? I’ve never given you anything. Your whole life would be better without me. Why do you keep coming back? Why are you still looking at me?” When Shinji raised his head again, it was her this time that couldn’t meet his gaze. He could see her starting to shake. “I’m filthy. I call you stupid and yell at you for trying to protect people. I hurt you without even thinking. Why did you hold me? Why did you call me beautiful? Why did you... kiss me?” Her eyes snapped back to his. “Tell me why,” she said, her voice barely audible.
“You... you're not terrible, Asuka. I called you beautiful because... because you are. I spent I don’t know how long after I woke up just staring at your smile, because it was the most wonderful thing I’ve seen in years. I held you because I felt more... happy, more alive when I did it than any other time in my life. I kissed you because...” He closed his eyes to pen in the tears that threatened to escape. ‘Because I’ve wanted to for years. Because I dream about it all the time. Because a world without you lacks any other meaning for me. Because I think I love you. Say something, Ikari!’ “Because I thought I was dreaming a good dream, and I wanted to make you happy. I know I was awake now...and I would still do it again.”
- In chapter 16 Ching gives this speech to Asuka right before showing her a moon-sized space-ship named after her to prove that she is loved:
- Advice And Trust: Shinji and Asuka both give this to each other often, and both give it to Rei at various points. Shinji, in particular, continually reassures Asuka of this to help assuage her fairly massive insecurity and self-image issues. Comes to a head when Gendo fires both Shinji and Asuka for defying orders in the Bardiel fight, thinking the Dummy Plug system will suffice as a replacement, at which point the effects of Shinji's ongoing use of this trope become apparent to both of them, and Shinji has his biggest challenge in pulling off this trope yet.
- In chapter 7:
Asuka: "'You're just like me', [...] But... not this time. I know you never wanted to be a Pilot, or even heard of it at all before you arrived here... but being a Pilot has been my entire life since I was four years old. What's left of me if you take that away?"
Shinji: "You're still the stunningly beautiful girl I'm in love with, the brilliant genius who finished a college degree before she was 14, and the fearless warrior who defeated alien monsters out of nightmare time after time, [...] My father, [...] Can't take any of that away from you. There's a lot more to you than just being a Pilot, Asuka. Even without that, you're still the most vibrant, alive, wonderful person I know. And we've still got each other. 'Together, forever and always,' I promised you. Nothing says we have to be Eva Pilots for that."
- In chapter 7:
- Evangelion 303: In chapter 12, after Shinji stopped her suicide attempt, Asuka reveals that she had spent five hours trying to find a way to do it, but she had been unable to go through with it. Then she grumbles that she is not only a failure but also a weakling because she was too weak to pull the trigger and spare herself and everyone else of more pain. Shinji angrily replied that is not weakness, and she was the only person that he has ever known who had the courage to NOT kill herself after going through what she had been through.
- In Kyon Big Damn Hero, Haruhi learns about her powers, meaning she also learns that the world is in constant threat of destruction because of closed spaces and how hard times Kyon has lived because of her. All of this makes her worry if she's forcing Kyon against her will if not outright breaking him. Kyon counters by mentioning her own growth and whatever trouble she's causing, it isn't intentional on her part.
- Last Child of Krypton: Shinji gives the speech twice:
- To Ritsuko in chapter 8 of the rewrite:
Ritsuko:"If you knew the things I mean… I'm a horrible, horrible person."
Shinji:"You may have done something wrong, but you're still a human being, and there is good in you. I can see it, even if you can't."
Ritsuko:"Bullshit, [...] Get out, I don't want to hear this. I told you, if you knew half of what I've done, you'd want to kill me yourself."
Shinji:"That's not true."
Ritsuko:"I'm scum. I deserve everything Gendo does to me and more."
Shinji:"You're better than you think you are."
- And to Asuka in chapter 9:
Asuka:"D-don't, [...] D-d-don't you like me?"
Shinji:"I do, [...] You're the bravest person I know. You're smart and talented and kinder than you think you are."
- To Ritsuko in chapter 8 of the rewrite:
- Thousand Shinji: In a chapter Asuka is feeling morose and sullen and says to Shinji that he is stronger than her. Shinji disagrees and replies that he broke after his mother died and his father abandoned him, whereas her reaction was the opposite one: "You were the kid, the one in a million, who chose to become strong instead of break in response to such monumental adversity".
- In Dragon Age The Crown Of Thorns, Frandlin Ivo gets one from the dwarven noble protagonist and does a Heel-Face Turn that ultimately enables the latter to successfully pull off his Zero-Approval Gambit. The ironic part is that the DN somehow manages to maximize the effect by giving the speech just after a Hannibal Lecture.
- Invoked in With Strings Attached. Earlier on the quest for the third piece of the Vasyn, Ringo had been down on himself because he was a physical wreck after a few days of hard travel and little sleep, while the others were all fine. Though they try to convince him he's not useless, he doesn't really believe them. However, when the formerly hostile Hunter says that Ringo's mindsight is the single most valuable ability among the four, Ringo is a lot more convinced. Later, after the battle on the Plains of Death, where Ringo more than proves his worth, the Hunter claps him on the shoulder and says “Never disparage yourself again.”
- In Reconciliation, Hanako learns that Hisao and Lilly had found and kept around the chess set Hisao gave her, even though she parted ways with them for eight years after her bad ending. Hanako suggests that they did it as a reminder of how awful she was, but Lilly then forcefully tells Hanako that she is not an awful person and they kept it because they missed her.
- One of Shepard's favorite social attacks in Glorious Shotgun Princess, where thanks to becoming a Solar Exalted, the already-charismatic hero can convert opponents to her side with a single phrase. Most often "You can be better."
- Earth and Sky: When Pipsqueak slips into a Heroic BSOD over his self-perceived cowardice during the fight with the LaFish brothers, compounded by having previously failed at all his other goals in life, Soarin' is able to pull him out of it by giving him a speech along the lines of this trope.
- The Pony POV Series has this happen in the Dark World to help Twilight and Applejack complete their Heel Face Turns, Twilight from Cadence's spirit and Applejack from her little sister and the pony equivalent of God (well, one of them anyway). Later on the two of them and their group do the same for Rainbow Dash, telling her they made the same mistakes she did, forgive her, and tell her they know she can make up for what she's done.
- In Address Unknown, Derpy gets one from Twilight after breaking down in the library over her latest screwup (actually Twilight's fault) with the mail. "Derpy. You are not a failure or a featherbrain. I can tell deep down that you are a very kind and intelligent pony. Trust me, Derpy. Most ponies out there don’t look at you for who you are. They see what they feel like seeing and then go on with the rest of their lives, oblivious to what hurt they may be causing. You need to look past that, because the ponies who don’t take the time to care, don’t deserve the satisfaction of making your life miserable."
- Later, Twilight invokes In Another Mare's Shoes by taking a potion designed to temporarily mimic Derpy's eye problems. "For a pony with normal sight to suddenly see like you do, it's entirely debilitating. I could barely stand, let alone walk; I knocked over everything in my path, and I nearly gagged from the intense vertigo it caused. But you... You may be slightly clumsy, and not fly entirely straight, but you've adapted to it enough to function as well as anypony else. Right now, I can truthfully grasp how amazing you really are. Not only have you adjusted to your condition, you've come close to nullifying its effects while enduring agonizing emotions all the while."
- Derpy also gets this from her boss at the Ponyville Post Office, after she tries to preemptively apologise for the screwups she's likely to cause sooner or later. “Mistakes happen. They can be small; they can be large. They can be ignored, or they can be overreacted to. It is bound to happen now and again, and things have a tendency to work out when they do. And when they don’t work out right, I personally make sure to take care of our staff if the need arises. If and when you make mistakes, we’ll make sure that everything works out right. Until then, I ask that you not doubt yourself. You are a wonderful mailpony regardless of what anypony says, and I will do anything I can to help you when problems arise."
- The BlazBlue/Persona fanfic Shadows Of The Azure has the purpose of doing this to the BlazBlue characters, who were mirred with tons of issues with no one to care for those issues, by getting them to a Midnight Channel-esque place called 'Shadow Labyrinth', face their Shadows, and the Persona characters, with some other BlazBlue characters, came in and remind them that they're better than what they think about their flaws.
- In the story 100% Move= 50% Fire within the Triptych Continuum, Twilight tearfully admits her fear of screwing up and ruining her friendships permanently. The other five assure her that even though she'll screw up sometimes and they'll screw up sometimes, it won't matter because their friendship is stronger than that and that they'll love her anyway, no matter what.
- A New Chance Series: In the second story of the series The Pokemon poacher Rico successfully steals Weezing, Meowth, and Arbok from Jessie and James. After Ash saves Team Rocket's Pokemon from Rico, Brock, after laying into them about how their criminal career has been nothing but a failure tells them they are perfectly capable of being decent people, but only if they give up working for Team Rocket. By chapter 13, they've tossed their uniforms aside, and have gone straight
- Facing The Future Series: When Tucker was concerned about the Scarab Scepter of King Duulaman possessing him again, Danny and Sam gave him a Rousing Speech that he wasn't the same person he was when he first had it.
- Never Had A Friend Like Me: Norm gives a speech like this to his master Amanda. Amanda learned about Norm's past from Timmy, who told her that Norm was using her. Amanda, who lacks self-esteem, is distraught, and decides to use her second wish to set Norm free. Norm tells her that she is the best human he has ever known, and even if he was free, there was nothing to prevent him from spending time with her.
- Headmaster Kirigiri tells Naegi this while explaining why he was put through the D-course simulation, insisting that he proved himself a capable leader. Naegi can't bring himself to believe this, feeling like he let too many of his friends die.
- In A Taste of the Good Life, Ebby almost falls Off The Wagon at her daughter's birthday party, after accidentally tasting some of Applejack's hard cider. Main Course manages to persuade her that she's strong enough not to let one accidental mouthful push her over the edge.
- Multiple characters tell Cassandra Cain this over the course of Angel of the Bat when they learn part of the reason she wants to become religious is to feel like she can forgive herself for evils she committed years before, under the influence of her father. But it reaches its extreme when, after falling asleep in a Catholic adoration, Cassandra dreams of meeting Jesus and he personally tells her (well, sort of, he "doesn't use words" as Tim puts it) that she doesn't need to ask for forgiveness anymore, and that he loves her no matter what.
- In With This Ring the Renegade is feeling down about how he's never acted like a stereotypical hero and he doesn't fit in with the rest. He's being tempted into joining The Light, when M'Gann talks him down.
Renegade: I don't know, M'gann. Sometimes I feel like a supervillain who accidentally walked into the wrong lobby… And only stayed because the restaurant was better than the one the Legion of Doom had. When the four of us confronted Ocean Master I didn't hesitate to kill him. You did, Kon did, even Kaldur did and he had far better cause than I. I'm ruthless and hard in ways you're just not. The League... just doesn't do stuff that I think... we need to. And if the Light do…M'Gann: I don't care what you say, you're not like a dictator who mind controlled an eight year old boy and threatened him to make me obey her. You're not. Now open a boom tube back to Earth so we can sort this mess out.Renegade: ... Well. ...That's me told.
- In Fallout: Equestria: Snowfall, Sleet Gray gets this a lot due to her bitterness and lack of self-confidence. Sadly, she doesn't seem to be getting any better.
Film - Animated
- In The Lion King, Simba is reminded by the ghost of his late father that "you are more than what you have become."
- Kung Fu Panda, when Shifu realizes the way to train Po, he all but says "You have had the potential all along and you will become better than you think you are."
- Pooh's Grand Adventure: The Search for Christopher Robin: "Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think."
- In How to Train Your Dragon Astrid says this in a roundabout way to Hiccup when she explains why she asked her Armor-Piercing Question, "Because I want to remember what you say, RIGHT NOW." Translated: "Because you are a powerful Viking warrior of legend in your own way, and what you say now is likely going to be the stuff of a great saga."
Hiccup: 300 years and I'm the first Viking who wouldn't kill a dragon!
Astrid: ...First to RIDE one, though.
- The main theme and message in Puss in Boots involving the three central characters.
- In Monsters University, Mike realizes that he cannot overcome his shortcomings, that is, his lack of natural Scarer talent, despite his lifelong love and desire for Scaring. Sulley, has this to say.
Sulley: Mike, you're not scary, not even a little bit, but you are fearless.
- An example in Frozen. When Elsa is about to kill one of the soldiers (who just tried to kill her), Prince Hans uses this to call her out and stop her from stepping over the Moral Event Horizon.
Prince Hans: Don't be the monster they fear you are.
- Also her sister Anna tries to convince her that she actually can control her powers and end the winter. At the end of the film, this happens to be true and Anna says "I knew you could do it."
- "Frozen Heart" at the beginning of the film says as much as well: "This icy force both foul and fair / Has a frozen heart worth mining."
Film - Live Action
- It's a Wonderful Life had this as its central premise, to the point that the plot is often referenced by other works in its entirety.
- The Muppet Movie: Kermit attempts to convince this of Doc Hopper. It fails.
- The 2004 Hellboy movie had an exchange between the newcomer to the team, John Myers, and The Empath Abe Sapien:
Professor Trevor "Broom" Bruttenholm: In medieval stories, there is often a young knight who is inexperienced, but pure of heart.John Myers: Oh, come on. I am not pure of heart.Abe Sapien (helpfully): Yes, you are.
- There's a lovely moment in My Big Fat Greek Wedding, just after her fiance's embarrassing baptism, where the main character worries that "Any second now, he's gonna say, 'Yeah, you're so not worth this,'" Only for her brother to pipe in, "Yeah you are."
- After Kirk Lazarus had a breakdown in Tropic Thunder, new actor, Kevin Sandusky managed to boost his self esteem.
Kevin: You are Kirk Lazarus. You are the whole reason I went into acting in the first place. I memorized every monologue that you had ever been in while I was in theater school.Kirk: Really?
- X-Men: First Class has a repeated line where Charles urges Erik to "be the better man" and work for more than just revenge. Erik interprets this somewhat differently than Charles intended.
Charles: There’s so much more to you than you know, not just pain and anger. There’s good in you too, and you can harness all that. You have a power that no one can match, not even me.
- In The Smurfs, Papa Smurf delivers this type of speech to Brainy Smurf to help convince him that he's up to the task of deciphering the spell that can get the Smurfs back home.
- In Raising Arizona, Nathan Arizona gives a speech of this kind to Ed and Hi when they declare that they're planning to split up because they're immature and unrealistic people who are bad for each other.
- In Star Trek: Nemesis, Picard attempts to use speeches of this message to persuade Shinzon.
- In The Avengers, Tony Stark tells Bruce Banner that he is not a monster, he can control the Hulk better than he thinks, the Hulk is not necessarily a curse, but a gift as well, and that Bruce can use him for good. He turns out to be right, as the Hulk not only follows Captain America's orders and provides crucial manpower in the final battle, but remembers Tony and consciously saves his life during the climax.
- The effects are subverted in Dinner for Schmucks. When Tim finally explains to Barry that the dinner's trophy is actually to be awarded to the most pathetic person there, Barry mistakes his You Are Better Than You Think You Are speech as telling him he's failed at being the biggest loser and thus winning the contest.
- In The Amazing Spider-Man 2, when Spider-Man rescues bullied geek Max Dillon at the beginning, Max is amazed and asks why the hero would bother saving a nobody like him. Spider-Man replies that he's not a nobody, he's a somebody. Unfortunately, Max is a stalker, and this furthers his obsession with Spider-Man, having deluded himself into thinking he's Spider-Man's best friend.
- In The Two Towers, the "Samwise the Brave" scene includes Frodo reassuring Sam that he is an important part of the story.
Sam: I wonder if anyone will ever say, "Let's hear about Frodo and the Ring!" "Yes, that's one of my favorite stories. Frodo was really courageous, wasn't he, Dad?" "Yes, m'boy, the most famousest of hobbits, and that's saying a lot."Frodo (laughs): Why, you've left out one of the chief character — Samwise the Brave. I want to hear more about Sam. Frodo wouldn't have gotten far without Sam.Sam: Now, Mr. Frodo. You shouldn't make fun. I was being serious.Frodo: So was I.
- In Pixels, Violet tells Sam that with his brain, he shouldn't be installing hardware - he should be making it.
- Harry Potter:
- The character arc of Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets. At the end, Dumbledore learns that Harry felt unworthy of the House of Gryffindor, in part because of his ability to communicate with snakes and because he asked to be placed there, rather than letting himself be chosen. Dumbledore tells Harry that character is shown through one's choices and asks him to examine the sword he used to slay the Basilisk. When he sees it is Godric Gryffindor's sword, Harry has all the proof he needs that he truly belongs in that house.
- Near the end of the series in Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Harry returns the favor when he meets Dumbledore again in a place between life and death. When Dumbledore bitterly states that his search for the Deathly Hallows in his bid to become a Master of Death meant that he was ultimately Not So Different from Voldemort, Harry quickly refutes the claim. He mentions that at least Dumbledore didn't consider using Horcruxes. Dumbledore is able to draw a small measure of comfort from that.
- Harry constantly tells Ron this, due to Ron's massive inferiority complexes about his Quiddich skills, his perceived status as the family's Unfavorite, his concerns that Hermione loves Harry more than him, and that he will always live in the shadow of his far cooler best friend. This really comes out in Deathly Hallows, when Ron destroys a horcrux, as it tries to make him believe all of the aforementioned things.
Harry: You've sort of made up for it tonight. Getting the sword. Finishing off the Horcux. Saving my life.
Ron: That makes me sound a lot cooler than I was.
Harry: Stuff like that always sounds cooler than it really was. I've been trying to tell you that for years.
- Also happens throughout the series with Neville. When Dumbledore called him brave for standing up to his friends at the end of Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone and in books five and seven, Neville begins to really come into his own as a wizard and realise that, despite the troubles he has doing magic, he's not a bad wizard or a coward at all.
- Often said by Michael and the other Knights of the Cross to The Dresden Files lead Harry Dresden. Dresden thinks of himself as more of an antihero, but his friends all know that he is a good man. Actually, Dresden is a bit of an Anti-Hero— when it really comes down to it he can be fairly extreme if someone important to him is at stake. (This is evidenced in Changes, where Dresden was more than willing to use the Darkhallow or become one of the Denarians if Mab hadn't been willing to help him save his daughter. Although picking her was morally grey at best, it was still the option with the most acceptable outcome, and he did go through with killing Susan.) However, Harry is still a better man than he thinks, and he isn't about to turn into a mustache twirling villain any second.
- Invoked in Terry Pratchett's Snuff. Vimes is constantly watching himself, because he thinks that if he loses control of the darkness inside him, he will become as bad as the villains he chases. His butler Willikins tells the latest villain that Vimes is, in fact, "a choirboy" - unfortunately for the villain, Willikins is not.
- In Lois McMaster Bujold's The Sharing Knife, Fawn's family, which has consistently undervalued her, asks Dag "But why ever would you want to marry Fawn in the first place?" Dag's answer, which sums up what we've come to know about the character through the story thus far, is also a Crowning Moment of Awesome:
For the courage of her heart, which I saw face down the greatest horrors I know without breaking. For the high and hungry intelligence of her mind, which never stops asking questions, nor thinking about the answers. For the spark of her spirit, which could teach bonfires how to burn. That's three. Enough for going on with.
- The mantra of Dr. Spock's Baby and Child Care, the iconic reference book for mothers afraid of accidentally killing their infants, is "You know more than you think you do."
- In the Dale Brown book A Time for Patriots, Ken Phoenix is told that he should stop beating himself up over the violence and deaths caused by Right Wing Militia Fanatics.
- In the Henry James novel The Portrait Of A Lady Ralph tries to convince Isabelle of this.
- Towards the end of Galaxy of Fear, Zak Arranda has been feeling more and more overshadowed by his studious, Force-Sensitive sister Tash, feeling like he's The Load these days. On Dagobah, Yoda gives him a meat flower and has him solve something himself to help teach him that he isn't.
- Subtle example in the Myth Adventures books. Skeeve takes a D-Hopper to escape to another dimension from Klah, asking for the setting for Klah and Deva. He says that he's running, and Masha responds: "You asked for both settings. You only need one to run."
- Croak: Lex comes to the town of Croak after a two-year run of absolutely no one treating her with respect. Her uncle suggesting to her that she's not as bad as people think nearly brings her to tears, because she'd been doubting that.
- The Wheel of Time:
- In Why We Took The Car, Maik breaks down and tells Tschick just how boring he actually is and how he sees himself. Tschick responds by telling Maik how much of a great person he is, and that the week they spent together was the best of his life, which was something Maik probably really needed to hear.
- In Jeramey Kraatz's The Cloak Society, Kirbie urges this on Alex, to get him to leave Cloak.
- In Words of Radiance (second book of The Stormlight Archive), when two bands of deserters are bearing down on her caravan, Shallan Davar—a shipwrecked minor noble girl dressed in rags—rides up to one of the bands and convinces them to defend them instead of rob them, despite having absolutely nothing to offer but her word.
Shallan: What would you do, Vathah, to erase the past? Would you protect instead of kill, if you had the choice? Would you rescue instead of rob if you could do it over again? Good people are dying as we speak here. You can stop it.
Vathah: We can't change the past.
Shallan: I can change your future.
Vathah: We are wanted men.
Shallan: Yes, I came here wanting men. Hoping to find men. You are offered the chance to be soldiers again. Come with me. I will see to it you have new lives. Those lives start by saving instead of killing.
Live Action TV
- An ascended Daniel tells this to an imprisoned Jack in the Stargate SG-1 episode "Abyss" after Jack outright admits to him that deep down he thinks he's just not worthy of ascension.
"You earned it."
- Just as Jonas is about to leave the SGC for home, Jack tells him this in no uncertain terms.
- Sherlock: Despite those bloody-awful social skills Sherlock had to tell John twice that he was awesome, and it took a freaking speech for John to realize just how awesome he was.
- In Smallville, other than the page quote, in Fracture, Clark tells Alexander/Lex's good side that he is stronger than he thinks.
- Parodied and subverted in the first episode of Community, where Amoral Attorney Jeff Winger uses a speech like this to manipulate his fellow students in the study group.
- In a Gilligan's Island episode, Gilligan sees his likeness on a native totem pole and comes to believe that he is descended from headhunters and is doomed to become a headhunter himself. The Professor convinces him otherwise by offering up his own head as Gilligan's first prize; when Gilligan cannot bring himself to do the deed, he realizes he doesn't have the headhunting instinct after all and returns to normal.
- In the classic James Newcomer Star Trek: The Next Generation episode, "The Measure of a Man," Riker is forced to argue that Data should be considered Starfleet's property, lest the judge rule summarily against the android. Riker gives an excellent argument for his side. Despite losing the case, Riker feels like a traitor for arguing against his friend. However, in the series' great Crowning Moment of Heartwarming, Data explains that he is deeply grateful to him for agreeing to prosecute, since if he had not, Data would have had no chance of victory.
Data: That action injured you and saved me. I will not forget it.
- Picard gives a speech like this to Wesley at the end of "Coming of Age" after Wesley fails his Starfleet Entrance exam, going so far as to confide in Wesley that even he didn't pass the first time. More than likely, this conversation went a long way towards convincing him to reapply.
- In Doctor Who Donna Noble has always had a bit of low self-esteem. She had a perfectly normal life as a temp in Chiswick until the whole teleported to the TARDIS to fight the Racnoss on her wedding day thing. Later, after she joins the Doctor, she still believes herself to be normal but gets cocky. However she is still unwilling to accept that she is the most important person ever. Rose Tyler crosses dimensions to tell her this and yet she continues to deny it. After she is reborn as The Doctor-Donna she gets a new level of confidence. Sadly, after Donna saves all reality... not an exaggeration... she can not recall her time with the Doctor or she will die.
- Even the Doctor gets one of these. After having destroyed his entire species to save the universe, seen countless friends and family die, and come to the conclusion that the universe is better off without him, he tries to distance himself from everyone. River Song tells him that he's being stupid, and there are literally billions of people throughout time and space who think the universe is better because of him.
- The audio drama "The Chimes at Midnight" rests its climax on one of these. The villain of the piece is a sentient time loop generated from the suicide of Edith Thompson, a scullery maid who served the Doctor's companion, Charley. Edith had a very poor life of being told she was "nothing and no one" by her employers and considered Charley her only friend, so when Charley died in an airship crash, Edith killed herself - only the Doctor saved Charley from said crash, creating the paradox. Charley manages to vanquish the villain by convincing the time-locked Edith that she is important and will be remembered, preventing the suicide from ever happening.
- The episode "Listen", where the Doctor gives a quietly rousing speech to a scared little boy about how fear makes you stronger than you could imagine. We find out at the end of the episode that Clara gave him that speech when he was a little boy who didn't have the grades to become a Time Lord, inspiring him to become the universe's greatest hero.
- Friends: In Season 5 Chandler tries to apologize to Monica after a fight but almost gives up admitting how bad he is with relationships. She kisses him, quotes the trope word for word and their fight is forgotten.
- Angel gets several of these from Buffy, Wesley and others across the course of his run on Buffy the Vampire Slayer and his own show. A notable one comes in "Somnambulist", when Cordelia convinces him he's better than Angelus or Penn, while cheerfully agreeing to "kill [him] dead" if he ever does become Angelus again.
- A rather dark version comes from Wesley when he assures Angel that he's a man with a demon inside him, not the other way around, and can come back from the transformation he'll need to make to win the fight Wesley is sending him into (due to the dimension they're in he becomes the demon itself instead of just getting a Game Face). Once Angel is gone Gunn asks him if he's really sure about that, and Wesley replies that he "needs him to think it." It's true though.
- In season five of Dexter, Deborah cries and claims that Dexter has always been the strong one of the family. Her coworker protests, telling her he thinks it's the opposite.
- Deb also tries to assure Dexter that he's a good person despite his protests to the contrary. Of course, she doesn't know the real reason he is saying this...
- Though it's never explicit, this trope's subtext is definitely present in Merlin where it's hinted that Arthur, despite his arrogance, suffers from low self-esteem thanks to the high expectations of his father. It's usually Merlin and Guinevere who provide the moral support needed for him to really embrace his role as a leader and future king.
- In episode 3 of The Glee Project, Cameron tells Alex he's proud of him.
- Buffy tells Spike this in the Buffy the Vampire Slayer episode "Never Leave Me":
You faced the monster inside of you and you fought back. You risked everything to be a better man. And you can be. You are. You may not see it, but I do. I do. I believe in you, Spike.
When I say, 'I love you', it's not because I want you or because I can't have you. It has nothing to do with me. I love what you are, what you do, how you try. I've seen your kindness and your strength. I've seen the best and the worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you are. You're a hell of a woman.I don't exactly have the reputation of being a thinker. I follow my blood, which doesn't exactly rush in the direction of my head. So I've made a lot of mistakes. A lot of wrong bloody calls. A hundred-plus years, only one thing I've ever been sure of. You.
- Later on, towards the series finale, Spike returns the speech, comforting a very demotivated Buffy:
- Farscape episode 1 has John telling Aeryn that she can be more than just a mindless soldier
- In the second part of the second season finale of Supernatural, Bobby says this the Dean after he revealed that he made a Deal with the Devil in order to bring Sam back to life that would drag him to hell in a year's time saying that he believed that his life actually had a meaning at that point since his dad John had made the same deal to save his life earlier in the season. Bobby's response to Dean was how he could possibly have such a low opinion of himself.
- A literal version in The Walking Dead; Carol comes to thank Darryl for his efforts to find Sophia.
Carol: You're every bit as good as them. Every bit.
- Rachel tells Quinn this in Glee, most notably during prom.
- Quinn also tells Rachel this in original song, implying that they may not hate each other quite as much as they make out to. (Cough les yay cough cough)
- On Once Upon a Time, Emma eventually comes to realize her role in breaking the Dark Curse was all according to Rumplestiltskin's plan. When she talks to Rumplestiltskin about that, he denies credit for what she's done, saying he simply knew what she would be able to do and planned accordingly. And her recent victory over Cora was all her doing.
- Jennifer Morrison was on the other end of such exchanges when she played Cameron on House. As part of House's conscience, she did her best to keep him from pulling crazy stunts, but she also tried to lift him up when he ran himself down unnecessarily. To take one memorable example: halfway through season three, Eve, a rape victim, comes into the clinic and insists that House be her physician. Discussing the matter with his team, House avers that he's "useless at this sort of thing." Without missing a beat, Cameron responds "No, you're not." And while House looks confused, and even a bit scared, to hear that, he looks more than a little angry when Chase disagrees. Incidentally, Cameron's right: the episode ends with Eve opening up to House about the rape, which she had earlier refused to talk about even to a trained psychiatrist.
- Oliver, her father, and finally Laurel try to convince Sara on Arrow that she's not a bad person, but she refuses to believe them until she overhears a cop referring to her as a hero for going into a burning building to rescue a child.
Felicity: Malcolm Merlyn, the Count, the Clock King, the triad, everyone who has tried to hurt this city, you stopped them! And you will stop Slade.
- When Oliver is skirting the Despair Event Horizon in "Streets of Fire," the penultimate episode of season two, Felicity snaps him out of it with a combination of You Are Not Alone and this trope:
- In one story in Norse Mythology, Thor along with Loki and Thor's servant Pjálfi are challenged to several contests by the giant lord Utgard-Loki. Pjálfi competes against one of Utgard-Loki's men in a footrace, but only makes it halfway before his opponent finishes. Loki competes in an eating contest where he and his opponent have to start at opposing ends of a long troth full of meat and eat their way to the center, but while Loki reaches the center at the same time as his opponent, his opponent eats the bones and troth as well, so Loki loses. Thor himself has to drain a drinking mug, lift a cat, and wrestle an old woman, but he is only able to slightly lower the capacity of the cup, only manages to lift the cats paw, and cannot defeat the old woman. Having been humbled, Thor and his companions are treated as honored guests, but the next morning, before they leave, Utgard-Loki tells Thor that while he had wanted to utterly humiliate him, he had actually done much better than he had thought. (The giant lord had used illusions in each contest to fool them; Pjálfi had been racing against the personification of Thought, and Loki had been competing against Fire; the cup that Thor tried to drink from was actually the sea, the cat was actually the Midgard Serpent, and the old woman was Old Age personified. Utgard-Loki admits that the fact that Thor and his companions did as well as they did scared the hell out of him and his court.)
- David Bowie's "Rock and Roll Suicide":
Oh, no, love, you're not alone!
You're watching yourself, but you're too unfair!
You've got your head all tangled up, but if I could only make you care!
Oh, no, love, you're not alone!
No matter what or who you've been,
No matter when or where you've failed...
- Invisible by Disciple.
You wish you were someone else
Every night you fall to pieces
Knowing you can't save yourself
I can see you, I can hear you
There's a place where the broken go
There's a room full of second chances
You're not stranded on your own
You're not invisible
- "Firework" by Katy Perry
- "Beautiful" by Christina Aguilera
- Another "Beautiful", by Eminem
And to the rest of the world:
God gave you shoes to fit you, so put 'em on and wear 'em
Be yourself, man
Be proud of who you are
Even if it sounds corny
Don't ever let anyone tell you you ain't beautiful
- Eminem to Dr. Dre in "I Need A Doctor" by the latter
Can't make a decision, you keep questionin' yourself
Second-guessin' and it's almost like you're beggin' for my help
Like I'm your leader, you're supposed to fuckin' be my mentor
I can endure no more, I demand you remember who you are!!
- "Who Says" by Selena Gomez
- "F**kin' Perfect" by P!nk
Pretty, pretty please
Don't you ever, ever feel
Like you're less than fuckin' perfect
Pretty, pretty please
If you ever, ever feel
Like you're nothing
You are perfect, to me
- "I'll Be Your Mirror" by The Velvet Underground.
I find it hard to believe you don't know
The beauty that you are
But if you don't, let me be your eyes
A hand in your darkness so you won't be afraid
When you think the night has seen your mind
That inside you're twisted and unkind
Let me stand to show that you are blind
Please put down your hands, 'cause I see you
I'll be your mirror
- "Low Self-Opinion" by Henry Rollins:
If you could see the you that I see
When I see you seeing me
You'd see yourself so differently
- "Kill Your Heroes" by AWOLNATION
Well, I met an old man dying on a train
No more destination, no more pain
Well, he said one thing, before I graduate
Never let your fear decide your fate.
- "You're Worth More Than Gold" by Brit Nicole.
- "Carry You" by VNV Nation
Truth defined by your adversities will defend you,As your powers and all your energies conspire to carry you.
- "Beautiful Freak" by Eels, in which somebody is comforted for being not like the others, yet that makes him/her great.
Some people think you have a problemBut that problem lies only with themJust 'cause you are not like the othersAnd that is why I love you, beautiful freak
- "Every Little Thing She Does" by The Beatles, from Beatles For Sale.
- "Jojo", a moving tribute by Jacques Brel about his best friend Jojo who died of cancer. He tells him what a great friend he was and adds the iconic message:
Six feet below the ground, Jojo, you are not deadsix feet below the ground: I adore you still.
- Brel would die of the same illness only one year later.
- "Simply The Best" by Tina Turner about a partner she considers superlative to all the others.
- This is the essential crux of the "Starlight Sequence" song in the musical Starlight Express, where the Starlight Express, a godlike entity worshipped by the anthropomorphic representations of the trains in a child's train set, shows up to tell the main character that he can win the race that all the trains are competing in if he just believes in himself.
- William Finn's song "You're Even Better Than You Think You Are" from Make Me A Song, is an autobiographical story about people saying this to him when he was first starting out writing bad musicals, so he persevered into writing good musicals.
- In the final stretch of Charlie and the Chocolate Factory (the 2013 stage musical), Charlie worries that he can't take over the titular factory from Willy Wonka because he has no experience in being a chocolatier. Wonka explains in the song "A Little Me" that Charlie may be inexperienced in that now, but that means he's capable of learning and becoming a unique talent in the process; moreover, he's "not just any careless child", but a bright, imaginative, kind, unspoiled, and disciplined one, "So aren't you glad upon review/That Charlie Bucket I chose you!"
- In the fourth case of Ace Attorney Investigations 2, Edgeworth does this to an amnesiac Kay who thinks she killed someone and just doesn't remember.
- Turning Aribeth back from the dark side in Neverwinter Nights revolves around this trope.
- There even is a fan-made expansion giving some closure to Aribeth's story in which the first chapter consists almost entirely of this trope.
- The Jedi Exile can say this to Visas in Knights of the Old Republic II. And near the end, after being told by the Jedi Council that they're actually a living "Force wound" leeching power off of their friends who are only there because of the Exile's unusual ability to Force-bond, either Visas or the Disciple (depending on the Exile's gender) will tell them that the Council is full of it and their friends there because they believe in the Exile.
- In Escape Velocity: Nova, the entire Mu'hari caste among the Polaris are this. They train for decades to gain aptitude in all forms of combat, commerce, sciences, engineering, diplomacy, espionage and more; their chief jobs (beside all-round assistants) are as elite covert operatives and judges. However, they are culturally conditioned to feel great shame about their failure to specialize (with the Mu'hari acting as a sort of "caste-less" caste). This may be an intentional way to prevent them from rising above their peers.
- Pokémon Black and White : After N has his Heel Realization, he takes it pretty badly. However, he is soon reminded that Reshiram/Zekrom still recognized him as a hero by allowing itself to be caught by him.
- Even better since Ghetsis's plan was banking on the first realization to break his spirit completely.
- In Tokimeki Memorial 2, this is, in essence, the line that definitely snaps Kaori Yae out of her Heroic BSOD, in her mandatory event:
Kaori: That's why... That's why, I'm like this cherry tree. Unable to bloom... Just a bothersome being...
Protagonist: That's not true ! After all, that tree is blooming. It's just blooming a little later than the others.
Kaori: But... Even if it's blooming...
Protagonist: It's fine if it's blooming late. Even if it were to hurry and bloom, if it doesn't produce a nice color and smell, it would mean nothing.
Protagonist: Yae-san, it's fine if you bloom at your pace.
- In Blaze Union, Garlot is often given this kind of encouragement by Siskier and Nessiah. As he's an abused kid with low self-confidence, he needs it desperately.
- A fair bit of the Paragon choices in Mass Effect revolve around this concept:
Shepard: How did we get here? The geth are better than this.Legion: No. Based on empirical evidence, they are not.Shepard: *Sighs* Yeah.
- Jack in the second game, to whom Shepard repeatedly tries to convince there is more than just anger and violence.
- Wrex is the best example: in the first game some of the conversations, and a critical decision on Virmire, revolve around his despair about the future of his people and attempting rekindle his (once held) belief their society could be reborn through the krogan's own efforts. Assuming he lives at Virmire, you meet him again in the second game and discover that your efforts succeeded; he's become the most powerful leader on the planet and will drag his people out of the darkness kicking and screaming.
- Garrus is another example. When he lets his quest for revenge begin to get in the way of his morals, Shepard continuously tries to pull him back, even standing in between Garrus' sniper scope and his target, essentially implying that he'll have to shoot him/her in order to get his revenge.
- In the third game, Paragon Shepard invokes this about the geth's decision to ally with the Reapers and go to war with the Quarians.
Shepard: There's only so much death and destruction you can take before...Garrus: Before your friend picks you up, dusts you off, and reminds you that you're the best damn soldier he's ever served with.
- Again in the third game, many of Shepard's conversations with EDI revolve around supporting her goal to find her own version of humanity by convincing her she's more than just circuits and software.
- Ironically, in the third game conversations with others, especially near the endgame, are people trying to help Shepard believe that s/he deserves the faith being placed in him/her to keep him/her from going completely past the Despair Event Horizon. Liara and Garrus in particular really try to keep Shepard's spirits up.
- The player characters in Dragon Age also get moments like these with their party members, especially in Dragon Age II. They also have different ways to do it, depending on Hawke's dominant personality and whether you're a Friend or a Rival.
Leliana: "What we're doing... what we've done— hunted men down, killed them— part of me loves it. It invigorates me and this scares me. I... I feel myself slipping."The Warden: "Evil doesn't worry about not being good."
- From Origins, we have this gem, should you choose not to Harden Leliana:
- Most of what the Agents do in Elite Beat Agents involves helping people with self-confidence issues... Through the power of dance.
- In one random dialogue, Lyndon the Scoundrel from Diablo III questions whether killing the Lords of Hell would be enough to make him a good person. The hero of the game says no. He already is.
- Lyndon: If I keep killing demons, I might actually become a good person, right?PC: I don't think so.Lyndon: Seriously?PC: You already are a good person.
- In Portal 2, Aperture Science CEO Cave Johnson spends several scenes telling his secretary, Caroline, that she shouldn't be so modest, and means it when he says that, without Caroline, Aperture would have sunk long ago. This later becomes tragic as, when it becomes clear to Cave that his illness is going to kill him before the completion of the GLADOS project, which would allow him to store his body in a computer and continue to run Aperture after his death. Believing Caroline to be the only other person who could run the company, he orders the scientists to put her in the GLADOS mainframe instead, after his death. Cave, unfortunately, had lived with Caroline's modesty for so long that he believed that anything Caroline may have said about not wanting to be sealed inside a computer forever was just more modesty.
- In Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha As Portable, Arf suggests that Fate might have turned out like her Evil Counterpart, the Ax-Crazy Material-L, if Nanoha and the others had not been there for her. Nanoha disagrees, saying that because Fate has Arf, she is not alone, and she is a stronger person than Material-L. Arf and Fate are touched by hearing that.
- Batman, of all people, gives one to Victor Fries/Dr. Freeze in Batman: Arkham City. It's made all the more surprising/touching by the fact that Batman has otherwise taken a level in jerkass since the last game.
- Everybody does this for Luke in Tales of the Abyss, mostly because after finding out he's Asch's clone, he spends the rest of the game with a massive inferiority complex. Some instances are absolutely heartwarming, including when Jade admits he's learned a lot about humanity by watching Luke grow, or any of the dozens of time Guy declares his Undying Loyalty to Luke, damn the fact that Luke's a replica. And some examples are more heartbreaking, including when Asch, of all people, yells at him for putting himself down all the time.
- Ryan gives a memorable version of this lecture to Princess Carranya, who feels oppressed by her responsibilities as royalty, in Act II of Love And War, ending with:
Ryan: "And for what it's worth, I think you make a great Princess. I'd be proud to be your subject when you become Queen."
- "Devils never cry." A recurring phrase in the games, given to emphasize a character's humanity despite their demonic heritage or creation, and puncutating Trish's Heel-Face Turn in the first game and Lucia's Tomato in the Mirror moment from the second. Even Dante gets a slight variant in the third game, when Vergil is trapped in the demon world.
Dante: "Devils never cry."Lady: "I see. Maybe somewhere out there even a devil may cry when he loses a loved one. Don't you think?"
- Hatoful Boyfriend: After Yuuya makes several self- deriding comments about himself (if you choose to meet with him at the Shrine in Holiday Star), Hiyoko more or less says this to him word for word.
"I think you're a better person than you think you are, Yuuya! Sakuya and the doctor are always chewing you out, but you shouldn't let that get you down. Just do your thing and be yourself."
- In Tales of the Questor, Quentyn shamefully flees the successful conclusion of his first case thinking that he blundered through it and succeeded only through dumb luck. However, just before he takes off, the local sheriff asks what he is doing and the young Racoonan confesses. At that, the Sheriff firmly tells Quentyn that he is not stupid nor a failure, but a hero who showed admirable guile, skill and courage to save the day. As Quentyn's mood lifts, the Sheriff gives him his hat noting wryly that the young Questor's career has had an excellent start. Repeated after a heroic charge and in this case the one doing the reassuring is an angel or close to it.
- Shortpacked!: Amber thinks she's useless, 'til Robin and Ethan both play a role in turning her around.
- Black thinks of himself as weak and not able to help other people, White who admires Blacks emotional strength disagrees and says something to this effect
- El Goonish Shive:
- Grace is a genius, but when things go wrong, she always blames herself, and she thinks she's stupid. She also moped about "whether she deserves this power" and refused to shapeshift after the fight. Until one of her siblings told her in no uncertain terms both to grow back a fluffy tail and where to stick such concerns.
- A very young alternate universe Tedd felt that he was "no good," and not just at kickball. When Ellen woke up from dreaming about that universe, almost the first thing she did was ring the doorbell, hug this universe's Tedd and tell him he's "plenty good," and abruptly leaving without any explanation.
- Shadow Girls: Becka has to be told this after hesitating to Save the Villain. Which, given that said villain tried to have her raped as a prank roughly a week before (maybe) trying to unmake the universe, says quite a bit.
- In these two consecutive Megatokyo strips, Piro finally gets some sense talked into him.
- In Freefall, because Florence is a carnivore, and Sam is a scavenger, Florence thinks that the captain sneaking to steal her food is low-ranking, and she needs to apply this trope.
- Florence has been trying to help the robots of planet Jean achieve independence and avoid being mass-mindwiped by a brutal safeguard program. She begins to have second thoughts upon meeting Dr. Bowman, who created the robots' neural architecture, and learning that he is a high-functioning sociopath with impulse control problems (by virtue of being an uplifted chimpanzee). She knows, of course, that Bowman also created her neural architecture, and he points out that if HER first thought was for the safety of humans, the robots would probably react similarly to the idea that their safeguards can be broken.
- Homestuck: Dave is on the receiving end of this after he finds his Bro's corpse, concluding that he's done nothing heroic and that his closest friend is better than he is, while Terezi tries to convince him that he is actually a heroic badass and not just an alligator swindler. Of course, the trial for characters of the Knight class - like Dave - usually involves self-esteem in some way. Terezi, despite being a Seer instead of a Knight, gets a turn in the trope crosshairs when she's having a self-esteem crisis about her alternate universe counterpart being so popular and radical, and Karkat of all people tells her that she doesn't need to put on a ridiculously over-the-top act to be likeable and that when she withdraws she's just hiding someone who's already beautiful.
- When Dirk is feeling down on himself after finding out what an asshole his alternate universe counterpart was, Dave tells him that he doesn't seem like a bad person and that he shouldn't beat himself up over the things his other self did.
- In the season 7 episode of Arby 'n' the Chief entitled "Greenlit", there's this exchange between Master Chief and a Hallucination of Cortana.
CHIEF: u has 2 b a ghosts / u cant b a figment newton of my imaginations / look — as much as i hated 2 admit it — ur sort of smarter than i am / k? / so how can u knew shit that i doesnt, and thot about stuff on ur own, and get all pissy @ me if ur in my brains? / i doesnt get it / u could only knew whatever things i knew or sumthing, rite?CORTANA: Maybe, somewhere deep within your mind, you're a lot smarter and have a much clearer understanding of right from wrong than you think.
- Foamy, the normally Jerkass squirrel in Neurotically Yours, gives Germaine a second chance at life with a reset button, basically telling her that he thinks she can do a lot better than how she is right now and can change her life.
- Done in a subtle way in Kickassia when Ma-Ti is trying to get The Nostalgia Critic to stop being a douchebag. He tells him that he's strong and loyal, but Critic's still on his "a president has no friends" kick.
- In Worm, Tattletale and Skitter try to convince Panacea of this, unsuccessfully.
- In episode 44 of WelcomeToNightVale, Dana, or her double, talks about meeting their future self, and expresses disappointment at having to wait until they get older before becoming important. Cecil's responce?
"You have always been important. You have always been something. Age just reveals the facts that always were. Experience uncovers the you that always was."
- In the Justice League episode, "In Blackest Night," Green Lantern John Stewart is convinced that he inadvertently destroyed an inhabited world and submits to a trial and execution. However, his fellow Leaguers don't buy it and conduct their own investigation and eventually prove to John and his judges that he was framed.
- Two different cases in He-Man and the Masters of the Universe (2002):
- After Mekanek saves the day by helping defeat Count Marzo after feeling a lack of self-worth over his rather lame powers in one episode, He-Man tells him he's "kind of special", and it helps Mek get his confidence back.
- In another episode, after Orko causes a rather big accident at the palace, he goes to Castle Greyskull to beg the Sorceress to send him back to his home dimension, where he never made mistakes and was respected. The Sorceress agrees to do so, but while Orko is waiting in the library, he's approached by a mysterious "visitor" (actually the Sorceress in disguise) who shows him several occasions where he's made a difference on this world, including a Shout-Out to his origin in the original series. Later, Orko is able to help defend the Castle when Skeletor uses the Ram-Stone to break in, the pep-talk having worked.
- In Avatar: The Last Airbender, Iroh tries to tell Zuko this, though he's too busy wallowing in his "Well Done, Son!" Guy syndrome to notice.
Aang (holding some fire): But what if I can't control it?
- Until his Heel Realization, that is.
- Also from Avatar, we have two examples from "The Firebending Masters," known by some as one of the series' Crowning Episodes of Heartwarming.
Zuko: You can do it. I know you can. You're a talented kid.
Aang: You know, Zuko, I don't care what everyone else says. You're pretty smart!
- In "Sozin's Comet: The Old Masters", when Zuko hesitates to enter his Uncle Iroh's tent because he doesn't think he'll be able to forgive him after his betrayal and what he put him through, Katara confidently assures him that Iroh will forgive him because he's sorry for everything he did. She is more confident in his redemption than he is his own, because she knows his remorse is genuine, especially considering that only two episodes ago was "The Southern Raiders", when Zuko selflessly aided Katara in tracking down her mother's killer.
- In Sequel Series The Legend of Korra, Korra is suffering questioning the necessity of the Avatar and Asami reminds her of all of the important things she did to save the world. When she still has problems, Korra confronts Zaheer, who praises her for her strength and says that Korra has more power than she could possibly imagine, the only stumbling block is her own doubt. This is what finally gets Korra to reach her full spiritual potential and overcome her PTSD.
- In Gargoyles, as the Magus dies, Goliath thanks him. The Magus can't believe that, since he was the one who cursed the clan in the first place, but Goliath insists that saving the clan's children more than makes up for it.
- The ThunderCats (2011) episode "Omens Part One" has a nice little moment between Lion-O and Jaga.
Lion-O: It's official, they think I'm a failure. And they always will unless I can prove I'm not chasing a childish dream... But how can I do that when even Grune said there wasn't tech out there?!
Jaga: Don't let what Grune failed to see stand in the way of what you believe.
- Comes back in the season finale after Mumm-Ra gets the Tech stone and his Love Interest Pumyra is revealed to be little more than his puppet Lion-O is reduced to a huddled wreck utterly convinced of his own failure until Kit reminds him that his actions saved countless lives and united the various races of Third Earth for perhaps the first time in history.
- While not outright stated, the sense of this trope is there in Tangled, when Flynn Rider tells Rapunzel why he changed his name from Eugene Fitzherbert: He was a lonely kid in an orphanage, and wanted to be a cool Loveable Rogue thief, like his favorite character. Rapunzel tells him she likes his real name better, and she is implied to be the first person who liked him for himself.
- He repays her by cutting her hair, ruining its rejuvenating magic and freeing her of it.
- In the Young Justice episode "Satisfaction", Ollie is crushed with guilt after a harrowing Rage Against the Mentor tirade from the original Roy Harper. He thinks that he utterly failed at being a mentor for all three of his sidekicks: original Roy who was kidnapped, cloned, maimed, and kept on ice for years, clone Roy who fell into depression over Cloning Blues, and Artemis who was "killed". Red Arrow reassures Ollie that he wasn't a terrible mentor. Especially poignant since Red Arrow spent most of the series resenting Ollie for one reason or another.
- In Batman Beyond: Return of the Joker, Bruce Wayne says this to Terry McGinnis at the end.
"Terry, I've been thinking about something you once told me, and you were wrong. It's not Batman that makes you worthwhile, it's the other way around. Never tell yourself anything different."
- The South Park parody of Great Expectations involved Pip invoking this trope on his love interest. She snaps dozens of adorable little rabbits' necks before she gets bored of it, which he convinces her is proof enough that she's not the evil monster she considers herself. She was willing to try killing another one, but he insists his point is proven anyways.
- In Superman: The Animated Series, "Superman's Pal", Clark Kent does this to Jimmy Olsen while the latter is suffering from an inferiority complex. At the end of the episode he does it again as Superman.
Clark: You're selling yourself short.
- Octus gives this to Kimmy in Sym-Bionic Titan after she has tried the entire time to seduce him to get him to do her work for her. She eventually breaks down and claims that since she is a cheerleader and popular she cannot be "smart". Octus flat out tells her that if she put the same kind of energy in her studies that she does in her cheer-leading she can do anything. With that she finally gets the confidences and passes it on her own skills. And because of this Kimmy starts to date Octus.
- In the My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic episode "Flight to The Finish", has Scootaloo, a young pegasus who can't fly (a situation that, in fanon, is considered equivalent to a kid being handicapped), getting mocked and bullied for this, and ends locking herself in her room, extremely depressed. Her surrogate Cool Big Sister, Rainbow Dash, gives her a speech after she loses all faith in herself, getting her out of her Heroic BSOD.
Rainbow Dash: Listen, Scootaloo. Maybe you'll fly someday, or maybe you won't. You're all kinds of awesome anyway. Who's the toughest little pony in town?
Cadence: You stand here for a reason,
- "Equestria Games"'s aesop, and Spike's character arc for the episode, revolve around him learning this.
- The basic idea behind the Princesses song to Twilight in "Twilight's Kingdom - Part 1".
You are gifted and you are strong,
That crown is upon your head because you belong!
- Princess Luna needed one as well in "Do Princesses Dream Of Magic Sheep?" - it turns out the nightmare-inducing Tantabus was created by Luna to punish herself every night for what she did as Nightmare Moon, not believing that she deserved forgiveness; that the Tantabus escaped and started giving the Mane Six then all of Ponyville nightmares and threatened to escape into the waking world just made her guilt worse and in turn made the Tantabus even stronger. Twilight points out that all the effort and work Luna's done to try to stop shows that Luna is not the pony Nightmare Moon was, since Nightmare Moon would have gleefully let the Tantabus wreak havoc.
- Steven Universe:
- In "On the Run", it comes to light that Amethyst views herself as a mistake and a parasite, due to where and why she was created. After a Verbal Backspace or two, Pearl is eventually able to get through to her (which provides the page quote).
- In "Sworn to the Sword", Connie begins to display the view that as an ordinary human, she's nothing compared to Steven's legacy and power (a byproduct of learning from Pearl, who unwittingly projects her own self-esteem issues onto Connie). Steven shuts that down right away, reminding her how they work best as a team, and how much he admires her.
- In "Friend Ship", Pearl breaks down and admits to Garnet that she depends on her for strength and that, being "just a pearl", she feels useless without someone else telling her what do. Garnet responds with this:
Garnet: It's not easy being in control. I have weaknesses too. But I choose not to let them consume me. I struggle to stay strong because I know the impact I have on everyone. Please understand, Pearl. You have an impact too. There are times when I look up to you for strength. You are your own gem. You control your destiny. Not me, not Rose, not Steven. But you must choose to be strong, so we can move forward.
- You. Oh sure, you faced all of yesterday just to get to today, and tomorrow probably won't be any better. And all you have to do is browse TV Tropes at 3AM. But you're here because you want to know, and learn, and share. And aren't those things worthwhile too?
- As noted in the laconic version of this trope, the statement "you are better than you think you are" is backed up with an explanation or motivation why the person making this speech believes this (something which isn't reflected in the Superman picture atop this page and some entries). To borrow the example with the disabled person, this motivation would come in pointing out that while he or she might never walk again (in case of wheelchair bound people), they have gotten amazing victories in chess, are very talented in singing, drawing, writing inspirational speeches, or what-have-you. They can't walk, but they're not worthless. Without this sort of motivation, "yes you can" or "you are better than you think you are" falls flat and can come over insulting or condecending. Or give the impulse to look at the first entry of this page's Real Life examples and ask "why?".
- But it's also important to remember, as some forget, that a person with a disability is (generally) capable of things that people don't realize they're capable of - that sometimes the person themselves doesn't realize they could do. There are countless examples of people with disabilities breaking through barriers, starting with the Special Olympics and including a Down's Syndrome woman graduating from college, an Autistic teenager writing a book about her experiences, and a kid born without arms growing up to become a motivational speaker. Having a disability usually doesn't mean you can't leave a mark on the world and definitely doesn't mean you're worthless.
- People often start physical training and the like vastly underestimating their own abilities, especially if their lifestyle doesn't really involve strenuous work. A part of the trainer's job isn't just building them up physically, but showing their client just how strong they are when they're pushed.
- In a more tragic, Tear Jerker real life example of this, Justin Carmical made a speech along these lines during a livestream, telling everyone watching that they are not stupid, no matter what they think or what people tell them. It gained a great deal of publicity, however, as it came out right before he killed himself.
- Herb Brooks's speech to his US hockey team right before the famed "Miracle on Ice" game, when the amateur squad beat the four-time defending champs from the USSR in the 1980 Olympic semifinals, arguably the greatest sports upset ever:
One game; if we played them ten times, they might win nine. But not this game, not tonight. Tonight, we skate with them. Tonight we stay with them, and we shut them down because we can. Tonight, we are the greatest hockey team in the world.