She had been deeply in love with him, so deeply that she could perhaps have forgiven him for his murdering her brother, and causing the death of her father. For a woman shall follow and obey her husband. But when her husband fell in love with her sister-in-law, her love changed into hatred, the terrible hatred of a woman scorned.
— Judge Dee, The Chinese Bell Murders
Bob is a villain but his wife/girlfriend Alice (it's pretty much Always Female) refuses to believe any accusation of wrongdoing on Bob's part and prefers to believe in a vast conspiracy designed to discredit him, even if she comes across Bob beating a man to death with a shovel. However, if/when Bob cheats on her, flirts with another woman, or possibly even talks to another woman, she instantly becomes his worst enemy, willingly telling the heroes every last crime he (or they) committed and sparing no expense to see him hang. This trope can carry some Unfortunate Implications of gender-based vanity towards females being willing to forgive any slight from their mate as long as it doesn't threaten their status as the prized lover.
See also Arson, Murder, and Jaywalking when the other offenses make the cheating laughable in comparison, Woman Scorned for revenge in general, and All Girls Want Bad Boys when it's women being okay with having evil-doers for mates until they betray them. Subtrope of The Last Straw.
Examples:
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Anime & Manga
- The final arc of Prison School makes its climax this way. Kiyoshi finally manages to confess to Chiyo, but he feels so guilty about his perverted nature that he also confesses all of the raunchy things he'd done over the story. Chiyo, being as sweet as she is and craving his honesty, forgives almost all of it—until Hana reveals that Kiyoshi was wearing her panties and hiding it from her. This was what truly broke her, and made her start hating men just like her big sister Mari.
- The Running Gag of Urusei Yatsura: Ataru Moroboshi is generally kind of a Jerkass, being a poor student, lazy, and gluttonous. None of this bothers his unintended wife, Lum. The fact he brazenly hits on other girls in front of her, to the point of literally refusing to go on dates with her to instead ask out girls who clearly aren't interested in him? That drives her wild with fury, typically leading to her blasting Ataru with lightning, biting him, or both.
Fan Works
- He Can Only Blame Himself
: Marinette doesn't mind the fact that Adrien never says a word or does anything about how his father is exploiting their relationship to pressure her into working overtime. She puts up with this for years... but when she discovers that Adrien has started seeing Lila behind her back? That's the death knell for their relationship.
Films — Live-Action
- Marriage Story: Zig-Zagging Trope. Nicole talks to her divorce lawyer, telling her the story of her marriage and why she wants a divorce now. At the end, she offhandedly mentions a suspected infidelity. To her, this is a footnote, a largely unimportant detail in her reasons for wanting a divorce. However, her lawyer lights up upon hearing that, knowing that this can be used to win the case.
- Mean Girls: Aaron willingly dates Regina, who is spoiled, shallow, selfish, rude, and sometimes downright cruel, even to the people she calls her friends. He doesn't seem to mind any of this, and when asked why he likes her, he defends her by saying "everyone has good and bad in them, she's just more upfront about it than most." But when it turns out she's cheating on him, that apparently is too far, and he immediately breaks up with her.
- Midsommar. Dani and Christian are extremely unhappy together, but Dani patiently puts up with his gaslighting, criticism, and general coldness towards her...until she sees him cheating on her with Maja, in a position the Harga might've put her so she could finally have enough of Christian. Shortly after that, in her new position as the May Queen, Dani decides to have Christian burned alive and sacrificed.
- In This Day, Laura puts up with all of Massimo's shortcomings until she walks in on him having sex with his ex Anna (or so she believes). She promptly leaves without a word, saying she can't look at him the same and that she thinks marrying him was a mistake.
Literature
- One Charles Exbrayat novel features the murderer's wife caring less about the fact that her husband killed three people and more about the fact that he had a mistress.
- Downplayed in Gone Girl. Amy is a sociopath but in her mind, she accepted moving from New York to rural Missouri, Nick losing his job, her parents draining her trust fund, and Nick buying the Bar with her money...until he cheated on her with Andi. That was when she started plotting to frame him for her murder. However, she didn't "forgive" him for the rest so much as put up with it.
- Paul of The Green Mile tells about a female inmate, Beverly McCall, who accepted being beaten by her husband but who, upon learning he cheated on her, took a razor and cut his genitals, leaving him to bleed to death.
- Taken even further in one Hercule Poirot short story: the man is (separately) romancing both a young woman and her aunt. He's trying to get money from the old lady and claiming that to prevent people from looking down on them both, he'll pretend to be in love with her niece. So when the aunt and niece have a fight (neither suspecting the man), the aunt sends Poirot a letter asking him to investigate.
- Judge Dee: Started a massive chain of crime in The Chinese Bell Murders: The ruthless businessman Lin Fan had murdered his business rivals, who happened to be his wife's brother and father, but she did nothing against him. But when Lin Fan raped his sister-in-law, his wife went into full Woman Scorned mode (especially tragic as she finally got pregnant, and she had been a calming influence on him, and the judge believes Lin Fan's actions were just a passing whim rather than actual attraction), culminating in arranging for Lin Fan to murder her son (the son he didn't know about with her).
- In The Lady, or the Tiger?, the princess who holds her lover's life in her hands agonizes over whether to save him — because it will mean handing him over to a woman who may or may not have her eyes on him (and he might even return her interest).
- An interesting variation in the novel Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier. The female lead spends the first half of the book moping because she thinks her husband is still in love with his (dead) first wife instead of her. Cue wangst. But then it's revealed that he hated his first wife, and he actually murdered her. Murder? No problem! He doesn't love that minx; he loves me! (To be fair, it's presented like his first wife was The Vamp with absolutely no moral code and masterfully provoked him to do it... but still.)
- Sherlock Holmes:
- In The Adventure of the Illustrious Client, Holmes must find a way to prevent a marriage with a rich young woman and a depraved baron, who has already convinced her that a man of his quality has many enemies, who are happy to spread rumors about his philandering and having killed his first wife. When one of his victims fails to convince her, Holmes looks for a diary in which he counts his conquests (his "lust-diary", as Holmes calls it). Once Holmes delivers it to her (and the baron is disfigured by said former mistress), the marriage is called off.
- In "The Problem of Thor Bridge", Gibson's Costa Rican wife is fanatically in love with him, even though he's long ceased to love her. Then when she finds out he's making advances on the governess, and even though the governess refused him, the governess has more influence over the husband than the wife does, so the wife comes up with a plan to kill herself and frame the governess for it. It almost works, and Holmes hopes Gibson will be less of a Corrupt Corporate Executive afterwards.
- In The Hound of the Baskervilles, Stapleton's wife, who he passes for his sister, was his reluctant partner in crime until she discovered he was making advances towards another woman (whether or not he actually intended to propose is not known), which finally caused her to snap, forcing him to tie her up before she can warn the heroes. Too bad for him she'd already gone out to remove the pegs that marked a safe route through the moor. Stapleton himself nearly screws up his own plans when he finds himself unable to not act like a Crazy Jealous Guy one seeing her being wooed by Sir Charles (despite her not looking happy about it).
- "The Musgrave Ritual": Holmes figures out that the butler had an accomplice (who left him to die in an underground vault), most likely the servant he'd been in a long relationship with but had just dumped for someone else.
This girl had been devoted to him. A man always finds it hard to realize that he may have finally lost a woman’s love, however badly he may have treated her.
- In The Adventure of the Illustrious Client
Live-Action Television
- Beverly Hills, 90210: Donna stayed with Ray after he hit her, but dumped him when she found out he cheated on her.
- In Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Jake is chasing after a mobster who escaped a sting operation he masterminded, who he states is worse than any of the people they did catch. They interview his mistress to see if she knows where he is and she protects her violent criminal boyfriend up until Jake reveals that he has another mistress: her sister.
- Cheers: Norm applies this philosophy to himself.
Norm: I don't know my wife's favorite color, I don't know when her birthday is, I don't know when our anniversary is. We never spend any time together. But I don't cheat on her. That may not sound like much to you, but to me, it's the difference between being a bad husband and being a bad person.
- Dexter: One short-lived villain, Nikki, had no problem robbing and murdering tourists with her boyfriend Johnny until she found out he was cheating on her.
- Midsomer Murders: One episode ends with The Reveal that an abuse victim being sheltered by another woman had been faking her injuries (and was in cahoots with her husband all along), but the woman hiding her didn't testify against her out of love, leading to jail time for her and the couple fleeing the country scot-free. Until Barnaby sends her a photo of the couple clearly enjoying life with a new mutual girlfriend and later gets a call implied to be the woman spilling the beans.
- That '70s Show has an example in which the love is non-romantic. Red dotes on Laurie despite the fact that she's an ungrateful mooch. It seems that nothing she does can get her father to be upset with her. Until she moves in with her boyfriend.
Video Games
- Mass Effect: Kaidan Alenko can have his entire moral compass changed with just a persuasion check by a renegade female Shepard who is romancing him. All it takes is one conversation to convince him that instead of aliens being jerks and saints like the rest of humanity, they're instead "damn aliens who like to get technical". He'll advocate for leaving thousands to die because they're aliens, but heaven forbid Shepard move on in Mass Effect 2. He'll repeatedly say she cheated on him in Mass Effect 3 even though he had admitted in an email to her that he had been dating a doctor before then.
Western Animation
- Family Guy: Peter develops amnesia in one episode and doesn't remember his family, including his wife Lois. She's understanding about it until he brings his new girlfriend home.
