Chicken Run averts it. Mrs. Tweedy's treatment of her husband, while still comical, is clearly treated as terrible, dismissing and insulting him and literally kicking his butt. Ginger does bitch-slap Rocky for deserting her and the other chickens at the end. Whether or not he deserved it is up to the viewer to decide.
There's a scene in The Rescuers Down Under that has some domestic abuse played for laughs. A very large wife and a very small husband are eating dinner at a restaurant. The engagement ring Bernard was intending to give to Bianca rolls under their table, and Bernard, getting it, brushes up against the wife's leg. Assuming her husband is trying to play footsie (she never sees Bernard), she rather brutally smacks him, whereupon he cringes away from her in fear.
Rio 2 has Jewel more or less emotionally abusing her husband Blu for the entire film, making all of his decisions for him, allowing her stern father to berate him and showing a blatant disregard for his difficulty transitioning to jungle life. But because Blu is supposed to be a sheltered worry-wart, all of his opinions are treated as hilarious inept. If the genders were flipped, there'd be an uproar.
Tangled and Rapunzel's unnecessary, played-for-laughs physical violence against Flynn when they first meet. It's justified that she initially knocks him unconscious (twice), since he is an intruder. But then once he is unconscious, instead of physically restraining him by tying him up, she goes to put his unconscious body in her closet, which takes several attempts during which he endures a lot of physical abuse (all played for laughs). Then she ties him up to a chair (which she could have done to begin with, making the closet scene and abuse unnecessary). She knocks him unconscious for a third time while he is tied down (again unnecessary and he was physically restrained this time). When she accidentally lets the chair he is tied up to fall down so he falls on his face on the floor, she doesn't say "Sorry" but a dismissive "Oops". Later, when Flynn tries to argue with her to abandon their mission, instead of reasoning with him she answers with "I will use this" holding up the pan that she had knocked him unconscious with three times, menacingly to his face (imagine if it was a man that says to a woman "I will knock you out" to make her do his will during a dispute).
Wreck-It Ralph plays with this—Sgt. Calhoun slaps Felix to stop him from freaking out when the two are stuck in NesquikSand, causing the sentient vines of Laffy Taffy to giggle and slowly make their way down towards them. Despite her reluctance to do so, Felix, who can instantly heal himself with his magic hammer, demands Calhoun continue injuring him until the vines are close enough for them to pull themselves out. Out of context, it's easy to imagine a gender-swapped version being rejected en mass, but the context in which all of this happens is so... let's just say "specific" that it'd take a lot of second-thinking to come off as abuse.
The plot of My Super Ex-Girlfriend revolves around a man who's super-powered ex, whom he's dumped for being emotionally unstable, proceeds to make his life a living hell with vicious acts ranging from throwing his car onto the moon, get him fired by using her powers to strip him naked in the office, and throwing a shark at him. What stops it from being DSA:FOM: The Movie is that the guy is still presented as a victim, and the ex does eventually receive backlash from the city she defends when they discover that he isn't a criminal, but just some schmo who broke her heart. She's later Brought Down to Normal in a plot to stop her tirade, eventually going toe-to-to with the guy's (much less unhinged) new girlfriend, who uses her new found powers to beat some sense into the ex when she still won't leave him alone. However, My Super Ex-Boyfriend couldn't possibly work as a comedy, meaning this is still played straight.
Played straight in Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist when the titular characters are arguing and Norah gets so upset that she hits Nick in the throat. The double standard is particularly striking, considering that Michael Cera (Nick) has the build of a twelve year old girl, making Kat Dennings (Nora) looks like an Olympic powerlifter compared to him. There's also the fact that Nick was getting over a break-up with Tris, who emotionally abuses him.
In Kung Fu Hustle, the domineering landlady constantly beats on her lecherous doormat of a husband with comedic, slapstick violence. Along with anyone else who pisses her off. It later turns out that his kung-fu ability is to absorb and redirect force, but nonetheless.
Tokyo Zombie includes a scene in which a meek abused man buries his mother in a giant mountain of trash and corpses at his girlfriend's instance (specifically, when threatened with sex deprivation). Not content with that the girl proceeds to kick her head into orbit while still belittling her boyfriend.
The War of the Roses is built around playing an Escalating War of domestic abuse for dark comedy. The wife is always played as far more brutal and vicious than the husband in an apparent effort to keep the two even.
In the original The Parent Trap, in a fit of anger at one point Maggie socks her ex-husband Mitch in the eye. His dialogue seems to imply she'd done stuff like that back when they were married: "Why do you have to get so physical? Can't even talk to you about anything, you're always trying to belt me with something." The movie tries to make the whole situation seem cutesy by the awkward and girly way in which she throws the punch, but for the modern viewer it casts an ominous tone over their eventual reconciliation.note The remake acknowledges this in a conversation between Nick and Elizabeth, talking about one of their fights. Elizabeth asks "did I hurt you when I threw that...what was it?" and Nick coldly says "it was a hair dryer" which prompts a very guilty look from Elizabeth. Later on Meredith has thrown a ring at him and he says to Elizabeth in the same tone "at least it's smaller than a hair dryer".
Played straight in Birthday Girl. Sophia participates in the beating, robbery, torture, and kidnapping of her husband John. She gets angry at her co-conspirators later and decides to free John, but never so much as apologizes for her actions - and the fool nonetheless sticks with her and they live (happily?) ever after together. There are even disturbing intimations that John deserves to be victimized because he is a fan of bondage porn, although he never even hints at acting out his fantasies on Sophia, and he is mortally embarrassed when he realizes that she knows about his tastes, even though she implies that she regards them as harmless.
Played straight in Troll 2: Holly and Elliot's relationship would probably have been handled differently if the roles had been reversed.
More or less played straight in Baby Boy. Yvette (Taraji Henson's character), in a fit of rage, starts swinging her hands toward her boyfriend Jody (Tyrese's character). While one could certainly understand why Yvette's upset, what with Jody's constant cheating and lying, that does not excuse her violently whaling at him to the point of punching him in the eye really hard. So when Jody fought back after failing to restrain Yvette, he smacks her in self-defense, which anyone has the right to do. The movie unfairly paints Jody's actions as a Kick the Dog/Moral Event Horizon moment.
In Chicago, try telling me that audiences would find the song "Cell Block Tango" nearly as hysterical if it featured a bunch of male inmates describing how they'd killed their wives and girlfriends.
Mary Poppins: In the Supercalifragilisticexpalidocious sequence, one large cartoon woman in plays a percussion instrument by slamming it on her diminutive husband's head.
Husband: For example... Mary Poppins: Yes? Husband: Once I said it to me girl, and now me girl's me wife. Wife slams instrument on Husband's head. Husband: And a lovely thing she is, too.
Played straight to the point of being disturbing in the romantic comedy Serious Moonlight where Meg Ryan's character knocks her cheating husband unconscious by a potted plant at his head twice and tapes him to a chair until he loves her again. Switch the genders and it becomes a lot less funny.
A scene in Skip Woods's debut film, Thursday involves the main protagonist being tied to a chair by a woman working for the film's antagonist; the woman then proceeds to rape and taunt him by saying she won't kill him until he achieves an orgasm, which he tries desperately hard to avoid, and adds that she hopes he'll get her pregnant. While the character finds the situation revolting, the scene is played for titulation.
In Think Like a Man, it's repeatedly implied that Cedric's wife is physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive to him—there are references to him having a black eye that he tries to play off as a sports injury—and that the very reason he's leaving her is because he's fed up with it. But the entire scenario is played for laughs throughout the film, with his friends constantly teasing him about it, and at the end, he goes back to her.
The 2014 comedy The Other Woman features three women tormenting a cheating man (psychologically and physically). Like many other comedies of this ilk, audiences are expected to root for the female characters despite their near-sociopathic behavior. However, it's not likely that audiences would accept a film where three men get revenge on a cheating woman by ganging up on her...even if her relationship crimes were just as heinous.
The Gamers: Natural One: Two masked men grab Ryan in an alley, throw a hood over his head, toss him into the trunk of their car, and drive off with him. He is later seen tied up at a gaming table because, as it turns out, this is all part of a trial to see if he can game, and thereby prove himself worthy to marry Monica. Ryan angrily calls Monica out for what she did, and she apologizes. When Ryan says he will expect "reparations" from her, Monica meekly agrees - and she smiles when he specifies that the reparations will be of a "kinky" nature. Although the film does not attempt to justify Monica's actions, the fact remains that a man who participated in his girlfriend's kidnapping would never have gotten off so lightly. More than likely, the audience would expect her to dump him immediately, or have serious trust issues with him. At the very least, it would take a lot more than an apology and some make-up sex to get him off the hook.
People would have erupted if sexes had been switched during the reunion scene between Thor and Jane Foster in Thor: The Dark World. Despite the first Thor film establishing her team's knowledge that the Bifröst Bridge had been destroyed at the end of his battle with Loki, then The Avengers having the heroes' battle with the Chitauri made public news (to which she would've had to realize that someone had sent him there with full focus on stopping the threat), her first reaction to seeing Thor again was to slap him twice demanding to know where he was because his absence was hard on her.
Near the beginning of Intermission, Sam leaves his wife Noeleen for a younger woman. Near the end of the film, she confronts him outside the bank where he works and violently assaults him. In The Stinger, they're back together, and she openly assaults him in order to keep him in line. All of this is Played for Laughs.
In Hot Tub Time Machine, Jenny stabbing Adam in the eye for breaking up with her is treated fairly trivially. Despite knowing what she did Adam and his friends still think he shouldn't have broken up with her and when Adam does get angry at her its for her hypocrisy for getting mad at him when she was going to break up with him anyway not for being violent in the first place. Not once does anyone comment that stabbing someone in the eye is a despicable, abusive act.
In The Man from U.N.C.L.E. (2015), Gaby slaps Illya twice after convincing him to dance with her and then escalates the situation by tackling him to the ground when he protests. There is no reason or justification for her behavior whatsoever, and the scene is Played for Laughs.
Inverted in Suffragette, violence against women is considered perfectly acceptable by the police who beats the protagonist up for participating in a peaceful demonstration, and the husbands of the suffragists, who likewise see nothing wrong in beating their wives. Other men treat this as a laughing matter. When the protagonist finally strikes back against her abusive boss, this is treated as a very serious thing by the police, and she only gets out of a prison sentence because they want to use her as spy inside the suffrage movement.
Good lord. The Melissa McCarthy comedy The Boss not only devotes an entire scene to McCarthy's character beating the hell out of a man (complete with a shot to crotch, of course) but it uses this "hilarious" scene to sell the movie in all the advertisements.
Black-comedy film Rough Night revolves around a bachelorette party accidentally killing their male stripper. The trailer then shows said stripper's corpse being treated in an undignified manner, all the while in his underwear with novelty glasses on. All of these moments are intended to be seen as hilarious. There's even a scene where a man shrugs it off as just "an accident". The fact that the trailer was released on International Women's Day was also viewed with criticism.
In Girls Trip, Dina gives Stewart an Armor-Piercing Slap because Stewart cheated on his wife, Ryan. While it's Played for Laughs due to how sleazy Stewart is and to sympathize with Ryan, nobody will laugh at a man for attacking a woman just because the woman cheated on her husband.
Blockers almost averts this, with a scene where Hunter confesses that, while he had cheated on his ex-wife, it was after she had cheated on him and beat him up in a restaurant. It was clearly humiliating for him, but then it's revealed the other characters in the scene weren't really paying attention and Hunter has to say Not Listening to Me, Are You?.
In Phantom Thread, make no mistake, Reynolds Woodcock is an asshole with seriousControl Freak issues. This does not make it right when Alma deliberately feeds him poison mushrooms so he will be too weak to keep her from doing things as she wants.The film ends with her deliberately poisoning him again, and him allowing this to happen, playing it as a form of sadomasochistic romance. Not one critic has ever complained about this; in fact, many feminists have denounced the film as "supporting toxic masculinity", or as glorifying male-on-female abusive relationships, because Alma never leaves Reynolds, completely ignoring the poisoning thing. Try and imagine what the reception would be to a film where a man poisoning a woman to keep her weak, vulnerable and forced to accede to his desires is treated as romantic.
Overboard provides a meta example: The original 1987 film features a man abducting an amnesiac Rich Bitch who owes him money and tricks her into becoming his wife, causing her to eventually fall in love with him. You'd expect that a premise like this would never fly in 2018, but the film was actually remade, only with the genders flipped to make the protagonist's actions more forgivable.