"They don't have any food stored for the winter! [sob] AND IT'S ALL MY FAAAULT!"You see characters blaming themselves for major messes fairly often, especially when they're not the only ones who are suffering as a result. It's a universal phrase used in every genre and medium. Frequent replies:
— Luigi, Super Mario World
- "It's not your fault": A stock reply to an apology, and like the main phrase, it's often followed by why. Often implies the main phrase as well. "There's no way you could have foreseen this" is also popular as is "You Did Everything You Could" when the other failed to prevent bad things from happening.
- "I am also to blame"/"We're all to blame": As stated above, when the penitent one is neither completely blameless nor solely to blame.
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- At the very start the story Ichigo's family is attacked by a hollow and they are all badly injured except him, since he was talking to/being restrained by Rukia when the hollow first attacked. He is horrified to see his little sisters bleeding out but is at a loss to understand why the hollow didn't devour their souls, since Rukia told him that this is what hollows do. When she explains that the hollow is here because it is attracted to him and it is ignoring the others' souls in favor of his, Ichigo instantly blames himself for the situation and starts shouting at the hollow to come after him.
- The Everything but the Rain flashback arc reveals that when Masaki made the decision to save Isshin's life, her own life was nearly lost in the process, causing Isshin to have to sacrifice his shinigami powers to save her. The event not only completely ruined Ryuuken Ishida's quincy future but left him feeling like everything that had happened was entirely his fault Although he warned Masaki she was breaking Quincy law, he didn't physically try to stop or her interfere in her fight because her trusted her and her power. He bitterly regretted his decision.
- Str.A.In.: Strategic Armored Infantry, when Lavinia indirectly causes Carrisford's death and the revelation of Sara's identity. Maybe next time she shouldn't grab an episode all to herself.
- Yu-Gi-Oh!: In season 4, Yami Yugi blames himself for using the Seal of Orichalcos trying to defeat Raphael, but ultimately leads to his downfall, making Yugi have the seal take his soul instead of the Pharaoh's. Rebecca and Orichalcos-possessed!Weevil said that it was his fault as well. Arguably, it wasn't all Yami's fault. Raphael provoked him into using the card first after using Yami Yugi's Exchange to deliberately give the Seal of Orichalcos to him in a Batman Gambit to prove that Yami Yugi was evil.
- Yu-Gi-Oh! GX: Judai completely breaks down, mercilessly blaming himself, when Johan gets stranded in the Duel Monsters' world, even though everyone else escapes, since they can't even be sure Johan was still alive.
- And everyone also says it's his fault except Jim and O'Brien. Jerks. Magical orby things only go so far when Sho was able to destroy the one embedded in him without anyone ever realizing it was there.
- Shou didn't destroy his on purpose (you know, since he didn't know it was there). His only faded when he had complete faith in Juudai again, which he only had after Juudai went through hell to prove he wasn't the same as he'd been, wasn't just looking for revenge or caring about himself, that he was doing everything he could to help other people. No one else even had a chance or even knew that their orb was there either.
- There's also the fact it pretty much * was* his fault, by one of his greatest character flaws: being impulsive. And yes, Jim and O'Brien * did* say it was his fault, because he didn't wait for them to come back before going in to fight Brron. Everyone also blamed him because he flat out said he'd sacrifice anyone and anything to get revenge for Johan and for Freed's people, and since he was just charging ahead blindly, they all figured that meant them too.
- The biggest irony? Everything that happened to Yubel was his fault too; she had willing become a demon in order to protect his immortal soul and he rejected her, driving her mad. Eventually, Judai realizes this, and decides to take responsibility for it, bonding his soul to that of Yubel's, accepting her once more.
- And everyone also says it's his fault except Jim and O'Brien. Jerks. Magical orby things only go so far when Sho was able to destroy the one embedded in him without anyone ever realizing it was there.
- In CLANNAD when Nagisa finds out that her parents originally had better careers and stopped pursuing them in order to stay at home with a bakery to care for her sickly character since a nearly-tragic incident. She was not meant to find out the secret as Tomoya and her father even saw it coming that she was going to start blaming herself and Wangst about it.
- In Dragon Ball Z, Gohan blames himself for his father's second death, when he could've just instantly slaughtered Cell and instead decided to torture him, which led to Cell having a Villainous Breakdown and attempt a Taking You with Me, prompting Goku to step up and sacrifice himself for Earth's sake, which didn't work.
- In the Mazinger series it's dangerous being impossibly willful and Too Dumb to Live, as well as not listen to good advice and thinking before acting:
- Mazinger Z: It happened to Yuri -Sayaka's cousin- after she wheeled herself out of Kouji's house in spite of everybody telling her it was dangerous outside due to Mazinger-Z and a Mechanical Beast duking it out. She was kidnapped by several Iron Masks and The Dragon Baron Ashura used her like a hostage. She blamed herself, thinking if she would not have been so stubborn and would have listened to what people told, Kouji would be safe.
- Great Mazinger: Tetsuya Tsurugi blames himself for his and Jun's adoptive father's death. Given that Kenzo pulled a Heroic Sacrifice to save Tetsuya's life, and Tetsuya was in danger because he behaved like an arrogant and jealous idiot, he is right. During a hospital scene, as he was rambling My God, What Have I Done?, his Love Interest Battle Couple and Not Blood Related adoptive sister Jun listened in silence, trying to be supportive, but she was not gainsaying him. That might suggest she did not want grieving him, but she did not disagree.
- UFO Robo Grendizer: Duke blamed himself for having been unable to protect his planet and save his people from the Vegan Alien Invasion, and having run away. Actually the main reason of he wages war against the Vegans despite of he hates fight is he does not want the same thing happened to his homeworld happens to Earth, and he would not bear to run cowardly again. Nevertheless, unlike other instances of this trope he is wrong on blaming himself since he could have not done anything back then (other than dying, that is).
- CB Chara Go Nagai World: Satan blames himself for killing Akira Fudo. Pretty reasonably, since he killed him... again.
- Shin Mazinger Zero: In the first timeline we see, Mazinger-Z has become an Eldritch Abomination. Earth is now a flaming, barren, lifeless rock, and humanity has been wiped out. Kouji blames himself for it, uttering that same exact sentence and stating if he would not Refused The Call and piloted Mazinger-Z, nothing of this would have happened.
- In End of Evangelion, Shinji decides that everything is his fault, and thus that everyone would be better off without him. Unfortunately he doesn't recover from his Heroic B.S.O.D., with disastrous results; namely: his inaction, apathy, and wangst ensure that everything that happens in the movie actually becomes his fault.
- Shikamaru in Naruto says this at the end of a mission that got very nearly two of his friends killed. Neither his boss, his father nor his potential love interest deny that it is, but urge him to instead think of the failure as motivation to do better the next time, rather than run away from responsibility and risk entrusting his friends to someone who might not bring them back alive.
- In the anime Shikamaru repeatedly says this just before Asuma dies, as it flashes back to a strategy meeting held before the battle.
- Averted later on, when Pain attacks Konoha looking for Naruto, he never once blames himself.
- Shippuden filler episode 192 has Hinata saying this after getting kidnapped by two ninjas sent by Orochimaru. Neji reassures her that there is no need to do something like that.
- The same cannot be said for Negi of Mahou Sensei Negima!, who blames himself for the attack on his home village. After all, he was looking for trouble so his father could save him, right? Fortunately, Asuna tells him he's wrong.
- Chrono says this during his Heroic B.S.O.D. in the anime adaption of Chrono Crusade, essentially implying that everything bad that happened in the story so far had been his fault. In the manga itself he never says this, but he does imply several times that he feels responsible for much of what's happened.
- Mobile Suit Gundam 00 features this happening in season two's fifth episode to Saji Crossroad, the unluckiest civilian ever.
- Edward Elric from Fullmetal Alchemist. Seeing as how it was his idea to transmute his and Al's mother in the first place and how he got off easy compared to his brother as a result, you can see where he's coming from. But Al did go along with it.
- If the lyrics to the song Brothers are any indication, Al blames himself even more than Ed does, having said nothing at all to stop the attempt despite his fears of what could (and did) happen.
- Likewise, Lan Fan blames herself when Ling becomes the second Greed.
- All over the place in Princess Tutu (Fakir blaming himself for not protecting Mytho, Rue's breakdown after Mytho's transformation into a crow), but the titular character has the most, which is to be expected when the main character is constantly trying to make everyone around her happy. The first major instance is when she overhears Mytho saying he's terrified of her after she returns his feeling of fear and realizes she might have been hurting him all along, and later on, near the end of the series, she tries to drown herself in the Lake of Despair because she believes her inability to remove the pendant has doomed the town and everyone she loves.
- Miaka from Fushigi Yuugi blames herself for a number of stuff throughout the series: Getting Yui almost raped, having the Seishi have to donate blood to her (from the wrist and the chest, to boot), losing the Universe of the Four Gods scroll, losing the Shinzahou, etc....
- Maiza Avaro in Baccano! begins to regret bringing immortality into the world almost immediately after doing so (a notion which is only cemented by the fact that it sparked a chain of events which led to his brother's murder). He finally learns to move on when his protege Firo winds up immortal and with the Ghost Memories of both Maiza's brother and his killer...and doesn't blame him one bit for it all.
Jacuzzi: ...and yesterday, I ended up killing three people.Isaac and Miria: Killing?!Donny: No! We were the ones that did the killing. Jacuzzi didn't do nothing!Jacuzzi: What's the difference, it happened!
- In the same canon, Jacuzzi Splot. After going on a Roaring Rampage of Revenge on the Russo family, he's cornered and beaten up in an alleyway by three members of that family. The rest of his gang comes to his rescue, and his girlfriend knifes all three guys in the head and then blows up the alleyway; but not only does Jacuzzi blame himself, he describes the incident as though he was the one who murdered the guys.
- Yamaki from Digimon Tamers blames himself for almost everything involving Digimon being in the real world, including the kids biomerging with their Digimon. Using the program that opened a huge portal between the worlds and almost let a whole bunch of Digimon into the world was totally his fault, but little else that he's blamed himself for was.
- Impmon/Beelzemon spends the last half of the third season being eaten alive by guilt for killing Leomon, thus causing Jeri to cross the Despair Event Horizon and get possessed by the D-Reaper.
- Let's not forget Kari's reaction to Myotismon's takeover of the city. she starts sobbing about how it's all her fault, and then tries to pull off a Heroic Sacrifice (of sorts) to get the big bad to stop.
- After Kari gives herself up, Matt blames himself for this because he promised Tai that he would look after her.
- There was also the guilt Tai goes through when remembering the time he took a sick Kari outside to play soccer and she collapsed right in front of him. She was then rushed to the hospital where she was diagnosed with pneumonia and almost died.
- Very common in Monster, to the point of being Tenma's driving force. Never mind that his biggest crime was saving a little boy's life. Granted, said boy grew up to become one of the most evil bastards in any media ever. Though he was evil even before he saved him.
- Suzaku in Code Geass is defined by this trope - it's the major reasons for his death wish. In the latter parts of R2, Lelouch also starts thinking like this.
- In Fruits Basket, Ritsu and his mother fit this trope so well- whenever anything goes wrong, Ritsu starts running around screaming that it's his fault and he's soooooooo sorrrrrrry.
- Tohru also has some elements of this. When Ritsu and Tohru meet, Hilarity Ensues.
- Another example is Hatori blaming himself for putting Kana through so much heartbreak and pain.
- Kaga Ai from Sayonara, Zetsubou-Sensei is a parody of this. She will blame herself for anything, at anytime for absolutely no reason.
- In fact, in the episode where Kaga was introduced, everybody did this.
- In Pokemon Adventure, both Ruby and Sapphire blame themselves for screwing the other over as kids. Sweet little Sapphire blames herself for being too weak when she couldn't do anything when Ruby nearly got killed protecting her, therefore resolving to becoming stronger, while battle-ready Ruby blames himself for being too fierce and thus terrifying Sapphire, therefore resolving to focus on beauty. Both wanted to show their new selves to each other to show how much they changed and that everything would be alright, but the ultimate irony is that when they are finally reunited, they fail to recognize each other, get off on the wrong foot, and berate the other for the attributes they themselves once had.
- In Fairy Tail, during the "Phantom Lord" arc, after the Fairy Tail guildhall is destroyed, Lucy, after being kidnapped, learns that it was all so they could get to her. Initially, she plays the trope straight, but then inverts the trope by saying that she still wants to be a member of Fairy Tail (i.e., instead of "leaving" in order to avoid having anyone else get hurt "because of her").
- Loke had been going through this for three years after accidentally and indirectly causing the death of the cruel Celestial wizard he'd been contracted to. Luckily, Lucy manages to break him out of it and convince the Celestial Spirit King to let him back into the Spirit World.
- Used terrifyingly in Soul Eater with Dr. Stein. After the battle to reclaim the Brew fails because Stein is overtaken by insanity and becomes unable to fight, he says this line to try to comfort Marie. The scary part kicks in when he then repeats it amid peals of mad laughter.
- Angel Beats!: Yuri blames herself for not being able to save her siblings. Needless to say, nobody else does.
- And perhaps to a lesser extent - Hinata for failing a decisive catch.
- Yuri again after accidentally sending Kanade into a coma by dumping 100 aggressively violent copies of herself into her mind.
- Betrayal Knows My Name: Hotsuma blames himself for causing Shuusei's burn scars.
- Princess Resurrection: Reiri tricks Hiro and bites him. Riza chases after Reiri. When Reiri escaped Riza and Hime told her that Hiro could die, she screamed this phrase.
- Amasawa of The Weatherman Is My Lover blames himself for his parents' deaths after they ignored his warnings about the oncoming storm. Every time a storm comes thereafter he is scared to go outside because it feels like the wind is blaming him too.
- In Future GPX Cyber Formula ZERO, Kurumada blames himself for causing Hayato's accident in the English GP, to the point where he briefly retired from his team.
- Vash the Stampede has a habit of thinking like this, pretty independently of whether things are in that instance actually his fault...probably because he has a massive guilt complex about A) continuing to run around even though so much chaos folllows him wherever he goes and B) not having neutralized his Evil Twin yet. Since he is then responsible for all incidental misfortunes and any actions taken by the Big Bad, this trope just kind of happens.
- Rurouni Kenshin tends to this as well, as he is an ultimate The Atoner. Usually only when he's kind of right and the thing is worth angsting over, but the contrast to all the other powerful sword characters is interesting. Except later-stage Aoshi, but he's probably emulating Kenshin.
- Hey, Aoshi bears the distinction of being the only swordsman from Kenshin's 'generation'—already active during the revolution and left at loose ends by it—who's younger than Kenshin himself. Child Prodigies are unfun, especially when placed in positions of tremendous responsibility in their mid teens.
- Enishi agrees that it's all Kenshin's fault. Specifically, the thing that totally wasn't and all the nasty shit Enishi is now pulling on everyone Kenshin knows to punish the Battousai.
- In Tiger & Bunny, Ivan/Origami Cyclone guilts himself for his best friend Edward's imprisonment and disbarment as a hero, because Ivan's reluctance to intervene in a hostage situation led Edward to accidentally kill someone. Thus, when Edward breaks out of jail to get revenge on him, Ivan resigns himself to his death in order to atone. Telling him it wasn't his fault has no effect on him, so Kotetsu tries a different approach.
Ivan: No! He wanted my help back then, but I... If I'd made a move, then he could have actually still become a hero. He would have been a much better one than I am. This is all my fault!Kotetsu: ... That's why you need to stop him.Ivan: Huh?Kotetsu: He committed a crime because of you, right? Are you going to let him commit more?Ivan: But I can't do anything!Kotetsu: So you're going to repeat the same mistake? Remember that you're a hero now.
- In Bakuman。, Miura blames himself for Detective Trap being canceled, out of the belief that he failed to notice Mashiro's declining health. This belief leads him to be driven to getting a series going, unfortunately to the extent that he pressures Mashiro and Takagi into immediately going for a gag manga rather than proceeding more carefully and finding something that would become a hit.
- Girls Saurus: Haruka Nishiharu, who, after spending almost the whole series holding a grunge against Shingo for seemingly rejecting her when she was still a Fat Bitch, has this reaction after learning about his gynophobia and terminal illness and tracing it back to the day she sent him to the hospital. Note that she is one of the few Tsunderes to admit that she was doing harm to her love interest, but it doesn't make it any less heartbreaking: "I'm the cause of all your problems, so it's better if I stay away from you!"
- Leo of Pandora Hearts feels like Elliot's misfortune and death are all his fault.
- Deconstructed in the XXX Holic tie-in novel ANOTHERHOLiC. A customer of the week blames herself for her friend's accidental death (the friend had fallen and hit her head at a train station because she had been running late to a meeting with the customer and was in too much of a hurry to follow safety regulations) and has developed a mantra of "I must be punished," which isn't helped by the daily text messages her friend's vengeful spirit seems to be sending her from beyond the grave. But as Yuuko ultimately points out, the responsibility for the accident falls squarely on the victim's shoulders for choosing to act so carelessly. By constantly blaming herself and by secretly writing the phantom text messages just to give people a reason to keep talking about the accident, the customer turned the tragedy of her friend's death into "a tragic little farce, written by and starring herself."
- Amuro Ray goes through this a number of times in his appearances in Mobile Suit Gundam. He blames himself easily for the deaths of, amongst others, Matilda Ajan, Lalah Sune and, in Mobile Suit Gundam: Char's Counterattack, Kayra Su. Granted, while Matilda's death was unavoidable, Lalah was killed because of his rivalry with Char and Kayra was killed because the Nu Gundam was still sensitive and reacted to his anger.
- She didn't speak it out, but this is how Haruka of Kotoura-san thinks about the events in the latter half of episode 3, when Hiyori sent dojo members/cult thugs to attack Manabe, causing Manabe to be hospitalized and Hiyori having a My God, What Have I Done? moment. This line of thinking, however, came from all the Break the Cutie that came from her telepathic powers, eventually causing her to think she will eventually cause the downfall of anyone she cares about.
- In Blood+ this is Saya's word for word reaction to remembering that it was her who set loose Diva. This is one of the major reasons Saya is the only person allowed to kill Diva, along with the fact she's the only one who has Diva's Kryptonite, and the major motive behind her Death Seeker status.
- Tsubasa Reservoir Chronicle's Fai D. Flourite has it bad. He blames himself for the death of his twin, the annihilation of Valeria's people, the murder of Celes' people and the "death" of Sakura who is like a daughter to him. The poor guy is so messed up that he's waiting for someone or something to end it all but just can't do it himself. Then there is Kurogane who won't let him die.
- In Captain Tsubasa, Stefan Levin feels this way about his beloved girlfriend Karen's death — she was hit by a truck (and it happened when she was on her way to his final soccer match in Sweden) which led to his mind and soul being completely corrupted. And he channels this through his signature "Levin Shot" as a way to injure his rivals, which includes Wakabayashi, Müller and Akai.
- Subaru blames herself on multiple occassions during the manga's run. Particularly blames herself for not seeing Kazuma or Isuzu before they die due to being "busy with ballet".
- In Slam Dunk after Shohoku loses to Kainan, Sakuragi and Rukawa have a fistfight over whose fault it was (that's right, each blaming himself instead of the other).
- In Yu-Gi-Oh!: Capsule Monsters, Yami Yugi blames himself for the group's entering the game, and thus tries to take on La Jinn alone.
- In Seraph of the End Mikeala blames himself for the death of his "family" as it was his naive plan that ended up getting them all killed. Alternatively Yuu also blames himself for the same incident, though not to as much extent.
- Happens to Doctor Spectrum in the Squadron Supreme limited series after he accidentally kills deranged teammate Nuke.
- A teenage boy felt The Death of Superman was his fault, because he inadvertently distracted Supes with his cries for help in a stage where Supes could have possibly finished Doomsday off.
- Reed Richards tends to blame himself for a lot of things that happen to the Fantastic Four. Part of it is semi-justified, because the accident that gave them their powers and effectively ruined their quiet, ordinary lives really was his fault. However, he also believes that because he is so incredibly intelligent, any misfortune that they can't avoid is automatically his fault for not pulling a brilliant solution out of his ass. Naturally, his Arch-Enemy, Doctor Doom, is not only one of the most rabid adherents of this trope's diametric opposite, he also further aggravates Reed's issues by narrowing his Never My Fault down to Always Reed Richards' Fault.
- Spider-Man blames himself for just about everything that goes wrong to anybody in his life. So much so that it's become something of a joke for the fandom.
- He even lampshades this several times in New Avengers, as in the first arc he says that the rest of the team can blame the prison break at the Raft on him if they want, seeing as the press are going to.
- When J Jonah Jameson's wife Marla took a fatal blow for him, Jonah refused to blame Spider-Man (significant given that Jameson is usually the first to blame Spidey for anything and everything) and even came right out and said that it was his fault.
- At the climax of Siege, Loki actually accepts responsibility for the consequences of his actions namely, the near-destruction of Asgard at the hands of the Sentry/Void, and provides aid to the heroes in an attempt to mitigate the damage and is slain by the Sentry in the process. This absolutely couldn't be a trick or anything... wait a minute.
- Klara Prast of the Runaways blames herself for the death of Old Lace, who took the brunt of an explosion in which they'd both been caught. Unlike most examples of this trope, she was actually encouraged to think this way by teammates Chase and Victor for petty reasons (Chase was understandably upset about the loss of his pet dinosaur, while Victor didn't want anyone to realize that he was responsible for the accident that led to the explosion.)
- In Society of Super-Heroes: Conquerors of the Counter-World #1, the Mighty Atom believes he was responsible for the arrival of the Earth-40 villains, citing that their invasion had begun not long after he looked into the cursed comic book Doc Fate warned him not to read.
- A Crown Of Stars: When he is not blaming people like his father, Winthrop or Jinnai, Shinji blames himself for the state of the post-apocalyptic world -since he chose ending it- and for all what happened to Asuka and how messed up she was because he was not there to help her, support her and protect her.
- The Child of Love: In the epilogue that happens several years after the end of the story, Asuka blames herself forher daughter Teri having Psychic Powers, even though Teri has powers because Gendo altered her DNA. It is true Ritsuko prescribed her pills to nullify Gendo's modifications and Asuka blames herself because she stopped taking them, but the doctor never warmed her about the consequences.
- Doing It Right This Time: As Asuka notes, Shinji blames himself for all what happened in the original timeline, including messes were not his doing or he had no control about.
Asuka: Yes, I remember everything. So do Rei and Shinji, who's probably hiding because he blames himself for what happened to you; in fact, come to think of it he blames himself for pretty much all of it.
- Last Child of Krypton:
He pulled her into the arch of one of the low buildings that ringed the outskirts of the city, not far from the school, and cursed himself. This was his fault, it was all his fault.
- In chapter 1 Touji blames himself because his little sister had the suicidal impulse to see a giant robot closely and he was unable to catch her in time and get her back into the shelter before the battle.
- Later Kaji blamed Shinji for the failure to take over NERV and Maya missing a limb. Despite of it being due to Gendo’s actions Shinji blamed himself.
- In the MLP:FiM fan-made song called Lullaby for a Princess, Celestia blames no-one other than herself for her little sister's Face–Heel Turn and subsequent misdeeds.
- The One I Love Is: When Shinji found out that his friend Touji had become a pilot because NERV promised to take care of his sister (who had been accidentally hurt during Shinji's first battle), he blamed himself for his wounds, despite of Rei trying to convince him that he was not responsible:
"It's my fault... I failed to take control of the EVA... Father... my hands... he used me to harm Touji. And now... you say he piloted because of his sister? It's... it's all my fault! If I hadn't hurt his sister in the first place, none of this would have happened! Touji wouldn't have piloted! IT'S ALL MY FAULT!"
- In the opening chapter of The Legend of Zelda: Twisted Fates, Link is captured by the Ghost Ship and presumed dead; Tetra, having pushed him into boarding the ship instead of her, blames herself and spends the next five years mourning his loss.
- Thousand Shinji: Rei blamed herself for all what happened after chapter 13 Shinji and Asuka falling into the Sea of Dirac, Asuka getting forced to kill Hikari, Unit 01 absorbing Shinji... It was not a misplaced feeling, since she was so jealous of Asuka and angry at Shinji that she was downright useless in battle, and due to her attachment to the Commander, Shinji and Asuka could not act against Gendo after Hikari's death, forcing Shinji to leave for a while and showed up too late to fight Zeruel.
- Pichi from A Pikachu in Love feels this way when her playful antics cause her and Pikachu to crash into an Ursarings den, and nearly gets Pikachu killed trying to protect them both.
Pichi began to softly cry, and she moved close to Pikachu and hugged him. She rested her little head upon him, listening to his weak heartbeat and she prayed for him to be all right. She could never forgive herself if he were to die. If not for her fooling around then they would not have been in danger at all. Pikachu could have died because of it.
- Used A LOT in Maliver fan fics, where something bad
normallyalways happens (Alliance finds them, she gets raped, she has traumatic flashbacks, all of the above, and more), Mal always blames himself.
- Luso had a period of this in The Tainted Grimoire due to being comepletely helpless and only being able to watch Sir Loin burn to death, despite being the one to defeat Vaticus Finch. Thankfully, Judgemaster Cid was able to talk him out of it by going over how flawed that line of thinking is.
- This is almost a stock phrase of Rainbow Dash shortly before and during her Heroic B.S.O.D. in Ace Combat The Equestrian War.
- In Oyuban Naruto (after joining the Yakuza) feels like this about his short stint as the leader of a gang in The Land Of the Waves who all got killed by him (inadvertently) starting a gang war. The senior members of the Yakuza (who know about it) agree with him but encourage him to learn from it.
- Spitfire from the Reading Rainbowverse apparently blames her father's death on herself. Whether this is accurate or not isn't entirely clear, but it has ruined her relationship with her daughter.
- In Horseshoes and Hand Grenades, the Kamen Rider Club put the blame on themselves for not saving Gentaro from Ryusei's Deal with the Devil and becoming the Serpent-bearer to Ophiuchus with each of them giving specific reasons as to why they weren't helpful. This ranges from Shun not taking a step forward in the Power Dizer, JK not getting intel on Ryusei sooner, Yuki only screaming "Stop!" but otherwise not rushing toward her friend's side, etc.
- In ''SplitxEnd, Yayoi blames herself for not saving Haruto from a sword that killed him and then being forced to be resurrected as a Creepy Doll by Damballa.
- Celestia towards the end of The God Empress of Ponykind blames herself for Luna's fall and the Horus Heresy, saying that if she had stopped for a moment and just talked with Luna and Horus there might have been a different outcome. Horus forgives her, and says he also deserves some of the blame because he willingly chose to rebel instead of seeking a better alternative.
- In the Saki doujin, Tennmimuhou, Koromo blames herself for taking Kana to exactly 0 points rather than putting her below it, resulting in the game continuing and her team being defeated. Thankfully, her teammates don't mind.
- In the Gensokyo 20XX series tie in, the Gensokyo Diaries, in Sanae's second diary entry, she think she's misbehaved, ergo, for said misbehavior, she deserves to be slapped, the implications of which surrounding may be that she hasn't done anything. Actually, she seems to think she has done something that would warrant any sort of punishment when it is likely she didn't.
- Land Before Time Retold: Aylene blames herself for the death of Littlefoot's mother, remembering that she had a bow and arrows and could have shot Sharptooth or done something before he killed her.
- Spider-Man, from I'm a Marvel... and I'm a DC. From this episode:
Batman: Don't you know, Spider-Man blames himself for Marvel losing the Transformers?
Hulk: But why?
Batman: I don't know, he blames himself for everything!
- Dark Oak from Sonic X: Dark Chaos holds himself responsible for the destruction of his race at the hands of Tsali... which led to him starting a brutal galactic war so he could take revenge on his wayward creation and find a way to rebuild his race no matter the cost.
- In The Saga Of Avatar Korra, Asami Sato says this during Chapter Fourteen after the Red Lotus kidnap Korra and Asami realizes that Korra is the Avatar. She realizes that if she told other people she saw Korra use two elements at once when they were children, she could have helped save Korra from her fate years ago.
Asami: "I never wanted to be right. If I was right, then I never told anyone, and then... all this would be my fault. So, I guess it really is my fault in the end. I could have stopped it years ago."
- Grigori in Three Fillies And A Griffon blames himself for the death of his daughter Isabelle, due to the Griffon Curse that causes all griffon children whose names don't start with G to die on their first birthday, and the fact that he deliberately gave her a name not starting with G to break tradition and show that no such curse exists.
- Neon Genesis Evangelion Genocide: Shinji blames himself for Asuka's breakdown:
This was his fault: he should have helped her when the Fifteenth Angel broke into her mind; should have done something other than sit in his Eva, hearing her scream as her psyche was torn to pieces. And afterwards, he should have been there to comfort her, to let her know that she was not useless and need not be alone.
Because, despite everything, they had shared a close bond through their Evas. He was supposed to understand her just as he had here come hoping she would do the same for him.
This was his fault ... because he had done nothing.
Film - Animation
- From Beauty and the Beast, Belle says this after she's comforting the dying Beast.
- In Brave, finally admitting their own role in everything that went wrong is an essential bit of Character Development for both Merida and her mother.
- This is essentially the plot point of Finding Nemo.
- This is most of the plot of Disney's The Lion King.
- Aladdin does this on occasion, in both the series and films. In the first film, Jasmine says "It's all my fault" after Aladdin is taken captive. It's actually Jafar's fault, since he'd have needed Aladdin and had the guards capture him whether Jasmine got involved or not. Then Aladdin says it after Jafar steals the lamp and takes over Agrabah, which partly IS Aladdin's fault for not setting Genie free.
Aladdin: I'm gonna lose her, Genie, and it's all my fault!
- This instance from "The Spice is Right" is probably the best example:
Genie: You're right, kid. All your fault.
Genie: You know, the situation: Mingle with zombies, pay the price. You have every right to feel like a creep... creep!
Aladdin: Now, wait a minute here! How was I supposed to know giving Jasmine a gift was going to unleash that guy?!
- In Murderess, the protagonist Lu seems to think little of herself and blame herself thoroughly even when killing in self-defence.
- Angry declaration: Quasimodo, upon seeing Esmeralda being put on a stake in Disney's The Hunchback of Notre Dame.
- In Snoopy, Come Home, Charlie Brown, Linus, Lucy and Peppermint Patty all blamed themselves for Snoopy's leaving.
- Implied in Batman Beyond: Return of the Joker. Bruce Wayne (the original Batman) felt guilty for causing Tim Drake (Robin at the time) to suffer Mind Rape at the hands of the Joker. After the incident, in which the Joker is presumably killed, Tim went through a year in rehabilitation and was ordered to turn over his Robin suit, only because Bruce didn't want Tim or any other accomplice to ever suffer again. This is also the reason Bruce refuses to let Terry (the current Batman at the time) find the Joker, as he didn't want Terry to suffer Tim's fate and lace him with even more guilt.
Film - Live Action
- The Blind Side: Michael feels this way after he is involved in a car accident which injures SJ. It was partially his fault for not paying enough attention while driving, but on the other hand, Michael also saves SJ from suffering more serious injuries or being killed during the accident.
- The Josie and the Pussycats Live-Action Adaptation.
- The first U.S. Godzilla movie.
- Parodied in Scary Movie 4.
Cindy: I blame myself.
Tom: As well you should.
- Subverted in The Movie of The Magic Roundabout, where Dougal doesn't take responsibility for releasing Zeebad, until near the end:
Florence: Don't blame yourself, Dougal.
Ermintrude: Let us do that for you.
and shortly afterwards:
Brian: Now, Dougal, you mustn't feel guilty, just because it's all your fault.
- Used in Monsters Unleashed where the Velma, Daphne, and Fred find increasingly ridiculous reasons to blame themselves for something that was clearly Shaggy and Scooby's fault.
- In Spider-Man 2, Peter Parker breaks down and confesses the indirect role he played in Uncle Ben's death to Aunt May. May is initially unable to deal with it and walks off, leaving Peter alone, but she later tells him: "You made a brave move in telling me the truth, and I'm proud of you, and I thank you, and I love you, Peter, so very, very much." Later on in the film, J. Jonah Jameson repeats this phrase word for word, believing that the slander he put into his newspapers was what made Spider-Man quit.
- Nathan in Repo! The Genetic Opera has this a lot, helped along by guilt trips from the Genterns and Marni's ghost.
- In Gettysburg, there is a scene where Lee removes his hat as he looks out upon the survivors of Pickett's Charge, and he actually says this. The men of course try to convince him it wasn't, and some even urge another attempt. This is historically true but apparently Pickett himself disagreed and thought it was mostly or completely Lee's fault that his division was obliterated. Both he and Lee were right.
- Back to the Future Part II: Marty, after realizing he was responsible for Biff changing history.
Doc: It's all in the past...
Marty: You mean the future!
- The TV movie Rent-a-Kid (used to be on Disney or ABC Family sometimes) had a rather creepy dream sequence where a young orphan saw her whole family chanting, "It's all your fault... it's all your fault" at her, until she eventually joined in with "It's all my fault."
- In Star Trek, Spock Prime blames himself for being too late to save Romulus, leading to Nero's actions during the film.
"All of this, Jim, because of me. Because I failed."
- In the novelisation, we find that the approaching disaster he was trying to prevent unexpectedly accelerated, thus making the fact of his failure not his entire responsibility (except in Nero's eyes).
- The "it's not your fault" variation was used in an emotionally climactic scene of Good Will Hunting when Robin Williams' character is finally able to crack through Will's last emotional wall and get him to confront his feelings about the abuse he suffered as a kid by just repeating the phrase over and over with a sincere and forgiving tone. Will recognizes what he's doing right away, but eventually breaks down and admits that he HAS been blaming himself.
- Practically each member of The Brady Bunch goes through this in A Very Brady Sequel: After a smuggler kidnaps Carol and ties the children and Alice to the staircase, Bobby, Cindy, Cindy's doll, Peter, Greg, Alice, and Jan each consider something they could have done to foil his scheme, then think "This is all my fault." Marcia actually averted this, and instead thought, "This is all Jan's fault."
- Chris in Mrs. Doubtfire blames himself after his parents decide to split up following the secret birthday party his father Daniel threw for him which lead to Miranda saying she had had enough and wanted a divorce. Daniel of course reassures that Chris did nothing wrong and this was probably going to happen sooner or later.
- Four Weddings and a Funeral: The protagonist's brother David (who is deaf) interrupts Charles' wedding because he knows the groom loves someone else. Afterwards:
David: [signing] I blame myself.
Rest of the cast: No, no, it wasn't your fault, you did nothing wrong, etc.
Charles: [signing] They all blame you too.
- Subverted in Star Wars Episode IV: A New Hope. C-3PO thinks he's responsible for Luke and the others dying in the Death Star's trash compactor.
C-3PO: Listen to them! They're dying, R2! Curse my metal body! I wasn't fast enough! It's all my fault! My poor master!Luke: 3PO, we're all right! We're all right!
- Parodied in Ghostbusters (1984), during their first call:
Ray: You know, it just occurred to me that we really haven't had a successful test of this equipment.
Egon: I blame myself.
Peter: So do I.
- In Dawn of the Planet of the Apes, Bright Eyes tells his father Caesar (through sign language) that it the current situation was his fault because he helped assist Koba take the human city, but Caesar (through speech) tells him that it was his fault for trusting Koba in the first place and concludes that humans and apes are Not So Different.
- At the end of A Face in the Crowd, Marcia breaks down and says to Mel, "It was my fault—if I'd only left him in that jail in Pickett."
- After the Nürburgring accident in Rush, James Hunt blames himself because he convinced the other drivers to go on with the race when Niki tried to get them to cancel due to the dangerous track conditions. Niki agrees with this assessment, but he also says that James was equally responsible for his recovery (because he hated seeing him win the intervening races on the hospital TV).
- In Independence Day, President Whitmore blames himself for not preparing for the possibility that the aliens were hostile, leaving millions of people in Los Angeles, New York, and Washington as they were incinerated.
"We could have evacuated the cities hours ago. That's the advantage of being a fighter pilot. In the Gulf War, we knew what we had to do. It's just...not simple anymore. A lot of people died today. How many didn't have to?"
- In A Brother's Price, Ren has such a moment when Jerin is kidnapped, not long after he sent her a message asking her to come and talk to him. She blames herself for not doing as he asked immediately, but manages to decipher a message Jerin left on the door, which conveys the information he had for her.
- In K.A. Applegate's Animorphs, Jake feels this about every single thing that goes wrong.
- In many of the works by Jim Butcher, this is demonstrated. In Codex Alera, Tavi wishes that he could have saved his dead troops when he becomes Captain by necessity. Max assures him he could have done nothing, and is an excellent captain.
- In the Katherine Paterson novel Bridge to Terabithia, Jesse is invited by his music teacher to the museum. She invites him to bring his friend Leslie as well, but, wanting to spend more time with his teacher, he doesn't tell Leslie. Later, Leslie is found dead after the rope swing they used to get to their favorite play spot snaps and she drowns in the river. Knowing this all happened because of his adolescent feelings for his teacher hits Jesse very hard.
- In Dan Abnett's Gaunt's Ghosts novel Straight Silver, Raglon tells Gaunt that the loss of half his troopers (on his first mission as a sergeant) was his fault. Gaunt tries to reassurance, recounting how his first mission had had seventy percent casualties, deduces that Raglon is hiding something, and warns him that his own problem will be if he omitted anything or lied. Raglon still tries to put him off — "I was in command, sir" — before admitting that Costin had caused the problem, being drunk.
- The characters in Charles Dickens' Little Dorrit insist that either they aren't to blame or that nobody is to blame. (The novel was initially titled Nobody's Fault.) It's a great moral breakthrough when Arthur Clennam and Mr. Pancks both accept their sole culpability after things go haywire.
- Happens rather a lot to the Wraiths. Over the three books, Kell, Face, Donos, Tyria, and Wedge (at least) get told that, in fact, is isn't their fault, or that there were extenuating circumstances. Probably the most notable is Phanan's last message for Face, in which he posthumously tells Face it's all his (that is, Phanan's) fault, though he knows Face'll blame himself.
Phanan: There are exactly two people to blame for my death. One's me, for not being quite the superior flyer I needed to be. Some unnamed Zsinj pilot is the other, and you killed him. Which I also appreciate, in case I don't tell you. There's no room for a third party to blame, so butt out.
- And indeed, by the time Face leads a mission without Wedge being there, and manages to get out with everyone burned but alive and carrying a captured scientist despite the whole thing being a trap, he doesn't beat himself up.
- In Graham McNeill's Warhammer 40,000 Horus Heresy novel False Gods, Horus blames himself for Temda's fall, having left him behind despite his pleas.
- (Book Of a thousand Days) Lady Saren has one of these moments after asking Dashti to kill her.
" All those bodies...because of me! because i wouldn't marry Lord Khasar."
- Harry Potter tends to blame himself whenever someone he likes gets hurt or killed, causing him to say I Work Alone many times. Ron and Hermione often struggle to convince him that he needs their help.
- Honor Harrington's Heroic BSODs tend to take this form.
- Foxleap does this in Warrior Cats: Sign Of The Moon when his plan to save the rogue cats gets a Tribe cat killed.
- Mousefur also goes through this when Longtail dies in Fading Echoes. She believes that if she hadn't stopped to complain about her missing meal, Longtail would not have run off and went to fetch it. This sends her into depression.
- Firestar also blames himself for making Squirrelpaw run away in Midnight because of an omen.
- In The Savannah Reid Mysteries, Tammy blames herself when her abusive ex-boyfriend shoots Savannah.
- Legacy of the Dragokin: Lydia blames herself for her mother's death and the trauma this causes her allows Abyss leverage to break her psychologically.
- In The Mortal Instruments, Isabelle believes Max's death to be her fault, as she was in charge of him at the time.
- In Jeramey Kraatz's The Cloak Society,
- In Villains Rising, Alex blames himself for what happened to the Rangers. Amp takes the time to confide that it was something Amp did that probably triggered the attack.
- In Fall of Heroes, Alex's attack accidentally killed Phantom. Lone Star tells him that if it's anyone's fault, it's his because it was his plan that put Alex there. Later, at the end of the novel, when Lone Star puts Shade in the Gloom, he immediately tell Alex that he's not to blame, because Lone Star did it.
- In Midnight's Children, Saleem believes that the events of his life are metaphorically linked to the nation of India. As he lives during a tumultuous time in the nation's history, he blames himself for just about everything.
- The Dresden Files
- Harry Dresden, the hero, has this in spades. In several instances, he will assume full blame for the choices of others, even through less than logical reasoning, such as failing to inform his girlfriend fully led to her breaking into a vampire party uninvited, becoming a half-vampire, and her eventual death, or failing his friend Michael because he couldn't save Michael from becoming crippled, or some person he didn't know but failed to save from an undeserved death. Michael outright calls him on this level of pride in his belief in his own high standards and failing to meet them.
- This is, in fact, exploited by one of the Fallen Angels (probably Lasciel) to drive him to suicide, as shown in Ghost Story.
- In Cold Days Queen Mab takes the full blame for failing to stop, and if need be, kill her insane daughter Maeve, and the crimes Maeve committed, such as the the murder of the Summer Lady.
- Gale Hawthorne from The Hunger Games. He helped create the bombs that killed Prim, which leads him and Katniss to feel guilty about it. This is likely the biggest cause of the shattering of he and Katniss' already fractured relationship as neither feels they could face each other with what happen to Prim.
- Clay from Wings of Fire: The Dragnoet Prophecy decides to set up a smoke signal in order to get back to the mountain he escaped from to save his friends. Instead, Dune (one of their guardians) gets killed, and Clay and his friends are captured. All this time as it happens, Clay blames himself for setting up the smoke signal in the first place.
- In the Novelization of Revenge of the Sith, Yoda sees the destruction of the Jedi as his fault, as they stagnated under his watch and became easy pickings for the Sith.
Live Action TV
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer: Andrew takes the fact that Simone turned evil while he was her Watcher very hard, and is determined to find and stop her.
- Buffy felt this way after she had sex with Angel and he lost his soul, becoming his sadistically evil alter ego. Though as Giles is quick to point out, they didn't do anything wrong, and they had no way of knowing what would happen.
- In an episode of What I Like About You, it's used as a followup/admission by a character who has previously denied responsibility.
- Brilliantly parodied in the Swedish comedy series Varan TV. While hunting a man wearing a deer cap, one of the hunters accidentally shoots a REAL deer (no, seriously!) who of course dies. While he is overcome with guilt, his buddies tries to cheer him up, which leads to the following dialogue:
"You can't blame yourself for this, it's not your fault.""It's all my fault! I shot him!" (being un-sarcastic and fully serious)"Well... Yeah, you're right! It is actually all your fault!"
- Invoked rather cruelly, and quite often, for Dean Winchester in Supernatural:
- In the episode "Faith," Dean gets electrocuted and is about to die from heart damage. He seems to be accepting it but Sam takes him to a faith healer and Dean makes a full recovery. But then they find out that it's a life for a life and he feels guilty (and almost suicidal) for the entire episode.
- While Dean lays in a coma during "In My Time Of Dying," his father makes a deal with the Yellow Eyed Demon to save Dean's life. Over the course of the season, he is slowly broken down because of this, until Sam dies and he makes a deal of his own, still thinking that he should have stayed dead and if he does this then at least something good will come out of his life.
- In the fourth season episode "On the Head of a Pin", Dean is told he is completely to blame for the upcoming apocalypse, because he was driven to torture souls in Hell. His father was meant to be the first seal but he never broke, proving that John Winchester has the unique talent of making Dean feel worthless long after he's dead. Of course, as it turns out Sam is also to blame, because, while Dean broke the first seal by drawing blood in Hell, Sam broke the last when he killed Lilith.
- In Teen Wolf, there's a very good reason Derek Hale is the way he is.
- Inverted and subverted in a fifth season episode of Angel. In exchange for being given legal knowledge, Gunn allows an item to pass through customs, which eventually leads to the death of Fred. Naturally he feels guilty about it, and is even stabbed by Wesley after he finds out. Later, Angel visits him in his hospital bed and tells him:
Angel: Listen, Gunn. I know you feel bad about your part what happened to Fred. And you should. For the rest of your life, it should wake you up in the middle of the night. And it will. Because you're a good man. You signed a piece of paper. That's all.
- In Star Trek: Voyager, Chakotay started blaming himself after he learned that his former lover Seska had betrayed the titular ship to an enemy species; she turned out to be a Cardassian spy dolled up to be a Bajoran to infiltrate the Maquis, and Chakotay felt responsible for not catching on to her as the leader of the cell she infiltrated, especially after he learned later that he had missed several other spies among his ranks (including science officer Tuvok). It was only when Tuvok admitted that Seska had deceived him while they were in the cell, as well, that Chakotay got over it.
- Averted in Stargate SG-1. Daniel's grandfather tries to comfort him over the loss of his parents years ago, telling him it wasn't his fault. Daniel's reply? "Of course it wasn't my fault!"
- In Dead Set, when Angel is bit by a zombie, the character who is responsible says "it's all my fault."
- Clark Kent in Smallville is like this almost to a neurotic degree, to the point that it has been Lampshaded by Chloe in Season 8. Witness the misery (a compilation of the times Clark implies, says or worries about this in dream sequences): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6z8EPJyb1U
- Chloe does this a lot too in later seasons.
- Murdock blames himself when Face is shot in The A-Team episode "Without Reservations."
"He's getting weaker. I can't believe I'm responsible for all of this."
- In the Mystery Science Theater 3000 episode Red Zone Cuba, Frank finds himself owing a large amount of money to the mob, then he tricks the mob enforcer into thinking that Dr Forrester is him. As Forrester is getting beaten senseless, Frank says to Mike and the bots, "You know, I can't help but feel somewhat responsible."
- In Doctor Who, the Ninth Doctor hardly gets through an episode without blaming himself and/or apologising to someone for getting them killed, failing to save somebody else, or just snapping at someone he likes. And since he expects the same kind of owning up to mistakes from his Companions and will give them the Death Glare until they do...
- The Doctor blames himself in many of his incarnations due to all the crap that tends to happen around him, the Sadistic Choices he's forced to make, the fact that everyone who meets him feels compelled to perform a Heroic Sacrifice... he blames himself for all of it. The Tenth Doctor is particularly prone to this, but the Twelfth Doctor takes it to tragic levels in the final episodes of Series 9, when his guilt, anguish, and rage over the death of his beloved companion Clara, compounded by torture that's resulted in him being Driven to Madness, turn him into The Unfettered, an Anti-Villain risking the safety of the entire universe on a Tragic Dream to bring her back from the dead, even as he's assured that he was not truly responsible for what happened — rather that it was Clara, for making foolish-if-noble choices in trying to be like him.
- Babylon 5: G'kar has an appropriate quote re: Ivanova:
"It is as though her heart has been pierced, and her spirit has poured out through the wound. She blames herself. It is foolish. It is destructive. ...It is human."
- In season 3 of Veronica Mars, Dick, of all people, falls into this trope while dealing with his brother killing a dozen people, then committing suicide. When his father shows up, Dick has something of a breakdown and admits he thinks it's their fault.
- Criminal Minds
Rossi: So you think this is your fault?
- In "Ominvore", Hotch believes it's all his fault for one of his actions. What does Rossi do? Offers his gun.
Hotch: (voice tight) It is.
Rossi: Well, here, use mine. (offers Hotch his gun) No, really, you've convinced me. You hung up on him, practically killed them yourself. Go on, get it over with. Don't worry about us, we'll get this guy without you.
Hotch: Dave, I had ten years to do something about this!
Rossi: Shaughnessy made the deal. The killing stopped, he closed the case and sent the BAU away. For ten years you worked on other cases, active cases-
Hotch: But I kept coming back to this profile.
Rossi: Hey, I was retired! Should I blame myself for every victim that got killed when I was on my book tour? Look, if you wanna end up like Shaughnessy, like Gideon, blaming yourself for everything, you go ahead. But that voice in your head? It's not your conscience, it's your ego. This isn't about us, Aaron, it's about the bad guys. That's why we profile them, it's their fault. We're just guys doing a job, and when we stop doing it, someone else will. Trust me, I know.
Hotch: (gesturing to the gun) You can put that away now.
Rossi: You sure?
Hotch: Yeah, it was a little dramatic, don't you think?
Rossi: My wife always said I had a flair for the dramatic.
Hotch: Which one?
Rossi: All of 'em.
- This is the cause of some unsubs' actions, the most obvious example being "Hanley Waters", in which a woman goes on a killing spree exactly one year after her son's death in a car accident because she cannot bear anymore the sense of guilt caused by constantly blaming herself along with her ex-husband.
- Battlestar Galactica (2003): Gaius Baltar gets a taste of this after realizing it was his lover Caprica-Six who frakked up the colonies' defense systems through his gullibility and — let's face it — horniness. He deals with it by blaming the rest of the universe, and ultimately God.
- Dexter has killed dozens of people and felt no remorse, but when he finds his wife, Rita, dead, his shocked response as police arrive is to blurt out "It was me."
- From Power Rangers RPM: It is revealed that the Rangers' mentor figure, Dr. K, was actually behind the creation and (accidental) release of the Venjix computer virus which has devastated the entire world. The bad guys have placed that same virus inside of Dillon, the Half-Human Hybrid of the team, and is taking over his body. Before he falls fully under Venjix's control, Dr. K is forced to upload the base code for the virus to slow its growth. What she says next shocks her team:
- Dr. K: [Flatly] What just happened was that I entered the base code for the Venjix virus. I know it because I wrote it. I'm the one who released it. Everything that's happened, everything you've all been through—it's all my fault.
- A blunt statement of the "command responsibility" version from the Star Trek: The Original Series episode "Metamorphosis":
McCoy: It isn't your fault.
Kirk: I'm in command, Bones. That makes it my fault.
- The Mentalist has Jane blaming himself for the deaths of his wife and daughter. He doesn't get much pity though considering, well... it is his fault.
- Lisbon and the team do have some sympathy for him, however. After all, he didn't kill them, just got overconfident and pissed off the wrong person.
- House's reponse to this? Yes it is. And now you won't do it again.
- In Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries, Phryne Fisher blames herself for the disappearance and possible (later confirmed) death of her younger sister, because they were alone together at the time and she was distracted. At the end of season 1, she gets her answers and revenge on the killer.
- In Cactus Flower, Julian reacts this way when he finds out that Toni really did try to kill herself over him and the letter she sent wasn't just a ploy:
Julian: I'm a bastard. The biggest bastard in the whole world.
Toni: Julian, please, you're starting to make it sound like bragging. (She rises and stands directly behind him) It wasn't really your fault. I knew what I was getting into. You've always told me the truth.
Julian: I should have kept my mouth shut.
- Seere says this often in Drakengard. He and the Big Bad are twins, and the main reason the Big Bad is crazy is because their mother doted on him and ignored her completely. He keeps the party from killing the Big Bad and then tries to reason with her. Needless to say, this fails. Leonard from the same game probably qualifies as well since he blames himself for the death of his family, and this is the only possible reason he agreed to a pact with that damn fairy.
- This is practically the Catch Phrase of post-Important Haircut Luke in Tales of the Abyss, to which the most common reply is a Don't Say Such Stupid Things variant from Tear.
- In Kingdom Hearts II, Hercules declares this because he failed to defeat the Hydra and falls into a depression that lasts until you defeat Hades late in the game. Even though it wasn't really his fault.
- In the same game, after Axel kidnaps Kairi, Sora starts to cry inside the Gummi Ship as his friends try to cheer him up. When Goofy tells him that "he's the key that connects everything", Sora mutter "So it's all my fault". Goofy takes back his words in shock, not wanting Sora to enter another Heroic B.S.O.D..
- Fail a mission in Katamari Damacy? Don't worry, it is not your fault. It is our fault for believing in you.
- Like THAT'S going to make us feel any better.
- Oichi in Sengoku Basara. It's practically the only thing she ever says.
- In Persona 4, Teddie blames himself so hard for Nanako's death that he nearly Heroic BSODed himself out of existence.
- Final Fantasy IX has Princess Garnet / Dagger give herself a good chiding after a particularly long stretch of terrible events. From finding out that she was adopted, to watching her adopted mother slowly slip into insanity only to snap out of it just as she dies, becoming queen of Alexandria, then watching her entire capital city get blown to bits by Garland. After all that, not only does Dagger blame herself for the things that have happened, she temporarily goes mute in grief. Dagger does snap out of it, but only after an Important Haircut and every other hero reassuring Dagger that she couldn't possibly be blamed for all the tragedy.
- Final Fantasy XIII practically makes a theme of this. The only playable character who doesn't blame him/herself over something that's not his/her fault is Hope; Hope, rather, blames Snow for something that wasn't his fault. The things being blamed include Serrah and Dajh becoming l'Cie, Serrah being taken captive and turned to crystal, and Hope's mother volunteering to join Snow's defensive force and getting herself killed.
- Depending on dialogue, Hawke in Dragon Age II will beat him/herself up after his/her mother's murder saying that s/he wasn't fast enough and didn't watch over his/her mother closely enough.
- In Dragon Age: Origins, Oghren himself will make this statement if he's brought to the Gauntlet, stating that he believes that if he had been a better husband, Branka might not have dragged their clan to their deaths in her mad search for the Anvil.
- Also in Origins; near the end of the Ashes of Andraste quest, one of the "tests of faith" involves reflecting on the origin of the Player Character. The PC can answer that they feel guilt for not being fast enough, strong enough, smart, enough, or whatever to make a difference. While it's a rather heartwrenching part of the game, it's especially poingant in the Human Noble and City Elf origins.
- Varric of all people seems to take this attitude in Dragon Age: Inquisition, though not without reason. Along with him and his brother being the ones who led the expedition down to the Ancient Dwarven Thaig, discovering the Red Lyrium Idol and more or less kicking off the events that led to Meredits going crazy and sparking the Mage Rebellion, he also was the one who was involved in leading Hawke to the Warden Fortress where Corypheus was held, which resulted in the party accidentally unleashing him upon Thedas and causing the events of Inquisition. And then in the same game he gets Hawke involved again and if you don't play your cards right, Hawke can end up being trapped in the Fade, possibly for eternity. What's worse is that for the most part, all these events start with Varric just trying to help.
- In the Sly Cooper series, Murray blames himself for Bentley being permanently crippled at the end of the second game, saying he "just wasn't strong enough" to save him. Bentley repeatedly makes it clear that he doesn't blame Murray in the slightest, but still takes a lot of Walking the Earth before Murray stops blaming himself.
- Bain in PAYDAY: The Heist will usually blame himself or says how he underestimated the cops whenever you fail a heist. He apologizes and even starts working on bailing you out of jail. While the player characters have no reaction to this (being in jail obviously), it makes many players see Bain as quite a nice guy despite the fact that he's the mastermind behind all the heists.
- In Final Fantasy: The 4 Heroes of Light, Jusqua blames himself when Aire is cursed to be a cat right after he ditches her for being insufferably selfish. He probably couldn't have done anything to stop her from opening the "treasure" that did it, but he spends the next portion of the game trying to find a cure for her. Except the cat he brings with him is actually just a stray... Aire finds a cure through other means.
- In Dead Rising 3, Annie/Katey Greene blames herself for her father, Chuck, becoming a crime lord due to the fact that she has to take Zombrex for every 24 hours, so she went off on her own.
- In Mass Effect 3, Shepard takes this attitude after the Fall of Thessia. Shepard states that as the commanding officer, it was his/her responsibility to find every variable and know how to overcome each of them, which s/he failed to do. This sends him/her into a brief, but noticable, Heroic B.S.O.D. and very nearly over the Despair Event Horizon.
- In Disgaea Dimension 2, upon hearing that Sicily was born in Celestia as a Demon Angel because of their mother's sacrifice and that her status made her an outcast, Laharl recognized that it was his fault for everything Sicily went through and even tells Sicily that she should be angry at him. He does this to also deflect any resentment Sicily might have against their mother for her sacrifice. Luckily, Sicily doesn't resent her mother at all and is happy that her brother lives.
- Hometown Story:
- There is a shared one between Carl and his old friend the village sentient scarecrow. While they were engaged, Carl's wife Aisha went on a walk when Carl took his time to show up for a date and got injured. Since then, Carl has become a Creature of Habit. The scarecrow blames himself because the couple's meeting spot was his location, but his conversation was not interesting enough to keep Aisha entertained.
- Anna gets a period of this after her younger brother Harvey's death, due to having encouraged him take care of things himself and rely on others as little as possible.
- Ace Attorney:
- In Phoenix Wright: Ace Attorney: Justice For All, Regina Berry says this when she realizes she was responsible for the accident that sent Bat into a coma, and thus partly responsible for Acro killing Regina's father in an attempt to get revenge on her.
- Quercus Alba from Ace Attorney Investigations: Miles Edgeworth does this a lot. It's to prop up his facade of being a frail old man, when in reality he's the Big Bad.
- Miles Edgeworth falls into this for about half a case during the finale of the first game (not counting the Bonus Case), until Phoenix manages to snap him out of it. With Evidence.
- Little Busters!: Said word for word by Kyousuke early on in Refrain in reference to the way Rin's social anxiety had hit critical levels to the point where she can't function normally in society anymore. Though in this case, it's mixed with I Did What I Had to Do, and while the consequences are certainly regrettable the reason behind the actions in the first place are more real now than ever.
- In Magical Diary, during Damien's path, the player character blames herself for the injuries Damien caused her. Virginia is quick to dismiss this, but it doesn't comfort the PC much.
Virginia: Don't say that! It is not your fault, it's his! No one saw this coming! He's dated lots of girls and broken all their hearts, you're not the first!
Mary Sue: No, I'm just the only one stupid enough to agree to give him my soul.
- Theresia: Dear Emile gives us two doctors, Maylee and an unnamed man, the protagonist of Dear Martel. He blames himself for creating Epicari. Maylee comments that she has no intention of blaming him, and would rather create a solution. By the end of the game, it's revealed Maylee actually did blame herself.
- In Motherly Scootaloo, this is one of Scootaloo's main flaws, blaming herself for things that couldn't possibly be her fault.
- Vaarsuvius from The Order of the Stick blames him/herself for not having enough magical power to change the outcome of the Azure City battle and, since then, for failing to locate a missing friend who got separated during the battle. V's self-blame is anything but objective, since his/her friend is blocked from scrying by an abjuration that can only be broken with Epic-level magic, and V's contributions during the battle far outweighed his eventual limitations, but intellectually acknowledging this does little to stop the anguish.
Right-Eye: It's all about whose fault it is... If I kill Xykon now, then it was all a waste. You ordered goblins to their deaths believing in the Plan- so if we abandon it now, then you were wrong. You let them die for nothing. You're willing to throw good lives after bad so that you don't have to admit that we were wrong to work with Xykon in the first place, much less help him cheat death.
- And poor V plays this even straighter — and with more cause — upon realizing that it was V's own spell that wiped out the Draketooth family and every other bloodline they'd ever reproduced with.
Vaarsuvius: My fault.
Vaarsuvius: I am the cause. It sprang from my brow.
- Trying to avert this trope is partially Redcloak's motivation for his deeds, as expanded on in Start Of Darkness. While he has other reasons, another part is avoiding the guilt he feels for every goblin that died under his command. As his brother Right-Eye put it best...
- And poor V plays this even straighter — and with more cause — upon realizing that it was V's own spell that wiped out the Draketooth family and every other bloodline they'd ever reproduced with.
- The "it's not your fault" variation is darkly twisted near the end of the webcomic It's Walky!, when the Head Alien uses it to make Sal feel helpless.
- This strip of Loserz. "I should just live in a box from now on, and stay out of everybody's lives!"
- Probably owing to her (almost) complete self-reliance through most of her childhood, Antimony from Gunnerkrigg Court blames herself for her father's disappearance and for failing to help the Ghost with the Sword (even though their meeting lasted less than a minute, most of which the Ghost spent trying to cut Annie's face off). Both times, Kat tells Annie she's being ridiculous.
- Another example is Diego, who was in love with Jeanne (The Ghost with the Sword mentioned above) while she was alive. Any of the court robots (the originals were built by Diego) will respond to "Jeanne" with "She died and we did nothing." It is recently revealed that Diego set Jeanne up to her fate because she didn't love him back, it really is his fault.
- Averted. Even on his deathbed he pins all of the blame on the other members of the Court involved in Jeanne's death.
- Another example is Diego, who was in love with Jeanne (The Ghost with the Sword mentioned above) while she was alive. Any of the court robots (the originals were built by Diego) will respond to "Jeanne" with "She died and we did nothing." It is recently revealed that Diego set Jeanne up to her fate because she didn't love him back, it really is his fault.
- Karl of Emergency Exit say this when he finds out sbout Eddie and Jason's plan to fix his face by trading an artifact, despite the fact he was unaware of the plan while it was in progress.
- In Sluggy Freelance Torg blames himself for failing to save Alt-Zoe. In fact, he blames himself more than he blames the guy who actually killed her.
- Riff blames himself for Zoe getting horribly burned, mistakenly believing it was one of his malfunctioning inventions that started the fire.
- In Homestuck, when a deceased doomed alternate timeline version of Dave finds out that his Bro died, his first question is "what did i do wrong". At the time the event occured, Dave was psychically unconscious on a different planet, and could not have possibly done a thing to help (of course, he is a time traveller who revisited that point of the timeline several times, so he could theoretically have gone to help, but another alternate version of him was already helping and he still failed).
- Also, WV. When he led the black and white pawns to battle, Jack Noir went and killed every single one of them. He blames himself for all of their deaths, and leads to a "Funny Aneurysm" Moment during [S] WV: Lead your men to victory! He's commanding a chess army.
- And Karkat. While he may try to push the blame on his past selves for little things, like trolling Jade for most of her life, he always blames himself when things get really serious. Like failing to get Sollux into the Medium in time, not preventing Eridan from killing Kanaya and Feferi, not keeping an eye on Gamzee to prevent him from going Ax-Crazy, accidentally giving the kids' universe cancer... He's complex enough that this isn't exactly his defining trait, but it's damn close.
- In Oglaf the ghostly Lizard of Guilt pesters Ivan into lashing out and yelling insults... in the middle of his trial for treason against the Mistress. In the last panel, the guards are posting a new "Apprentice Wanted" sign, and the Lizard of Guilt has a screaming guilt trip.
- In El Goonish Shive, this is the last thing that goes through Grace's mind before she goes berserk and attacks Damien.
- Ultra-Man blames himself for the death of his grandson, who was killed at the hands of his Arch-Enemy, Baron Maltus, and he thinks his daughter blames him for it as well. (He's wrong about that last part.)
- In the web-novel , this appears in one of the story's more poignant scenes. Severin apologizes to Page for going insane because of how it hurts him (Page, that is, not Severin). An emotional episode ensues, in which Page assures Severin that not only is it not his fault, there wasn't anything he could do at all to prevent it.
- In the Whateley Universe, Phase blames herself for what has happened to her own body. Word of God says that isn't true.
- It took a long time for Tennyo to get over her guilt about the Star Stalker's actions before it merged with her, despite the fact that most of it took place before the Earth even existed. In some ways, she never has fully come to grips with it, in fact.
- In one of the Muppet Viral Videos, two pumpkins unwittingly goad the Swedish Chef into using a bazooka on them.
Pumpkin 1: Sorry 'bout that.
Pumpkin 2: Neh, I blame myself.
- The Nostalgia Critic tortures himself over Ma-Ti's death in Suburban Knights, realizing that even though he proved his friendship in the end, it was still partly his treatment of Ma-Ti that drove him to Heroic Suicide in the first place. He spends a year getting sadder and more obsessed with responsibility, and then in To Boldly Flee - to put it in simple terms - atones, apologizes and makes his own Heroic Suicide too.
- In Entry #66 of Marble Hornets, Tim admits to Jay that he feels everything that happened to the cast of Marble Hornets is his fault because his exposure to the Operator as a child may have been what lured it to them in the first place.
- A running gag in Season 11 of Red vs. Blue: various members of the Blood Gulch Crew, when confronted with certain questions or statements about their crashed ship, blame themselves for the ship's crashing. Comes with its own twist, as rather than saying aloud that it's their fault, each person has a flashback to something they did on the ship that appears to be the cause of flashing red warning lights, then cut back to the present where they either go Suspiciously Specific Denial or just dodge the topic.
- EXO Next Door: D.O. blames himself for only talking about himself and not realizing anything was wrong when Suho calls him after running away after leaving the hospital.
- Chanyeol blames himself for Suho getting hurt in the first place, but as he was the one who knocked over the water bottle Suho tripped on, he's not entirely blameless.
- The Angry Video Game Nerd says this when he reviews a bunch of games based on himself, and realizes that many of these games deliberately include bad/frustrating game elements that he commonly complains about in his videos, such as arcing projectiles that almost always harmlessly fly over the enemies' heads like the rock from Friday the 13th on NES.
- Blinky Bill in third season. Basil says his brother Cyril is all your fault
- Helga Pataki says it twice in the same scene of Hey Arnold!, "Phoebe Breaks A Leg".
- Arnold also says this after he somehow caused Helga to go blind, which turns out not to be the case, but he doesn't know that. Matters are not made better by Grandpa, who keeps prattling on how Helga will somehow get by, somehow, even after what Arnold did to her. Of course Helga plays this up enormously, as it keeps Arnold completely at her back and call.
- The Simpsons, Bart, on his dog running away, says this phrase, following it with "I called him a dumb dog". The rest of the family blame themselves as well.
- Also, Marge says that Homer getting thrown into a U.K. jail is "partially my fault" in the episode "The Regina Monologues".
- This was also done in an earlier episode ("Bart the Lover"), where Bart said "I can't help but feel partly responsible." when he was entirely responsible for Mrs Krabapple's hurt feelings.
- Another one: When Maude Flanders gets Killed Off for Real after being hit by cannon-launched T-shirts while getting hot dogs, Ned worries it's all his fault, for not getting them himself.
Homer: Don't blame yourself, Ned. After all, it was me who insisted we go to the game. It was me who provoked the lethal barrage of T-shirts. It was me who parked in the ambulance zone, negating any possibility of resuscitation... But let's not play the blame game!
- Furthermore, when Homer drove Ned into moving away, he lamented "It's all somebody's fault!"
- Yet another example; after Homer refuses to pull over and let Grandpa go to the bathroom, Grandpa's kidneys burst. Homer's response? "I blame myself!" Marge's response? "We all blame you."
- In "Bart vs. Thanksgiving", Bart hears Lisa blaming herself for Bart running away on Thanksgiving. Homer and Marge also feel bad for being too harsh on Bart during dinner.
Marge: Homer, this is a terrible thing that's happened, but we can't blame ourselves.Homer: We can, and we will!
- Another Marge example come from "Lemon of Troy", when she finds out that that her lesson to Bart on pride for his town worked too well and turned him into an outright xenophobe.
- Skipper in The Penguins of Madagascar does this twice in a matter of about 12 episodes. The first time he poked a hole in Julien's bouncy house causing him to lose his crown and that was his fault in fairness, but the second, when one of the chimps causes him and the penguins to spin out and loss a race to the lemurs and by default their car also he accepts full responsibility despite the fact he did nothing that caused it. He even said they would have resignation in the morning because of his shame and guilt.
- Played with in Avatar: The Last Airbender when Katara's theft of a Water Bending scroll has gotten them all captured by pirates and Zuko:
Katara: Aang, this is all my fault.Aang: No, Katara, it isn't.Iroh: Yeah, it kind of is...
- A more serious example is Sokka's attitude in the first half of "The Boiling Rock".
- Inverted in the episode "The Desert" when Sandbenders steal Appa. Aang blames Toph for saving him, Katara and Sokka instead of Appa.
- Zuko feels this way about being banished, that he did something dishonorable by speaking out against the senseless sacrifice of novice troops and subsequently displaying filial piety in the Agni Kai arena. This is pretty common for child abuse survivors in real life.
- He finally realized he wasn't to blame, just that his father is "a monster, and the worst father in the history of fathers".
- Variation in Danny Phantom, after Valerie's been hurt during Pariah Dark's invasion:
Tucker: You can't blame yourself for this. It's not your fault.Danny: Maybe not. But it is my responsibility.
- Used in Ben 10 when Ben thinks that Gwen has died.
- Parodied after Stan's parents split up on South Park:
Stan: Oh no! This is all my fault, isn't it?Sharon: ...yeah, kinda.Stan: Dude, you're not supposed to say that!
Philip: Terrance, I-Terrance: No. No, Phillip, don't say it. I'm an asshole, and this is mostly my fault.Philip: That's what I was gonna say: You're an asshole, and this is mostly your fault.
- Also when Terrance and Philip reconcile:
- In Chip 'n Dale Rescue Rangers episode "Oneupsman Chip", Chip's joke on Dale backfires when it leads the latter out of safety and right into the hands of archenemy Fat Cat's men. A dejected Chip says "This is all my fault", and the other Rangers console him... until Gadget blurts out that "although basically, you did trick him into going there." Great consolation, Gadget. Chip bonks himself on the head and resolves to rescue his friend.
- In Garfield and Friends episode 16, "Scrambled Eggs", a turtle mama mistakes Sheldon for her baby, and the turtle baby (who, indeed, is still mostly inside his shell, except for his legs) is led back to the barn by Booker, because they both have vision problems, apparently. Roy, too, is afflicted, as he tries out his sneezing powder on "Sheldon", and hides. It's effective mainly because it wouldn't be funny if it just bounced off. The turtle sneezes, breaking him out. He leaves before Roy looks around the corner. When the dust clears... all that's left is a shell! Roy walks around dejected for a while, thinking he's sneezed himself into nothingness, until a couple of seconds after he realizes he's just said hello to him.
- The Brain, of Pinky and the Brain, after he accidentally pushes Pinky off the countertop they are standing on: "It's all my fault! This obsession with taking over the world is causing me to hurt the ones I... tolerate."
- In the Super Mario World cartoon, Luigi blames himself for the cave people's crops being stolen. (This scene has, needless to say, been memetically mutated in YouTube Poop and nicknamed "Emo Luigi".)
Mario: Now wait, Luigi! The cave people can go back to picking berries.
Luigi: Aw, no they can't! Oh Mario, I was so sure that we'd have a great crop, that I told the cave people they didn't have to save berries anymore, and they didn't. They don't have any food stored for the winter. *sob* AND IT'S ALL MY FAAAULT!
- In the Hercules episode "Hercules and the Big Lie", this is played straight when the title character realizes that said lie caused Icarus to put himself on danger. Subverted a minute later when he adds that it's also partly Cassandra's fault for urging him to do it.
- King of the Hill: Peggy blames herself for the problems of Hank's co-workernote , uttering the "It's all my fault." Hank tries and fails to re-assure her. "No it's not...OK, it is."
- This happens to Robin in the Teen Titans episode "X". After the Red-X costume and equipment is stolen, he blames himself for creating the thing in the first place. (And no-one really argues with him about it, especially when he tells them that he used xenothium to power the suit, an unstable element that is so dangerous, even superheroes aren't legally allowed to buy it.)
- In the Family Guy episode Mother Tucker, Peter says this before running up the stairs sobbing when his mother leaves Tom Tucker and needs to be consoled.
- Subverted in another episode after Peter ran over Brian with his car (it was entirely Peter's fault): "I can't help but think this is somehow Meg's fault."
- In the Disney war short "The Old Army Game", Sergeant Pete yells this when he thinks Donald got cut in half after he threw him (in a box) onto some razor wire.
- In the Recess episode 'The Lost Leader' TJ blames himself when Gus gets injured during a Zany Scheme...because TJ forgot a teacher had fishstick stuck in their teeth. (Complicated plan.) Plus it was mostly Gus's fault for panicking. But TJ goes into Heroic B.S.O.D. for the rest of the episode and even resigns as leader until the other five pull him out of it.
- In the Futurama episode "The Sting", Leela blames herself for Fry's death by space bee sting. The professor tries to comfort her by telling her it isn't her fault - then ruins it by (loudly) telling Bender, "I'm lying to make her feel better!"
- Subverted in the first film. Bender believes he's killed Fry, and Amy tries to tell him not to blame himself. Bender says that he in fact blames all of them for what he did. He sees his ability to do so as proof of how great he is.
- Dastardly and Muttley in Their Flying Machines: In "Have Plane, Will Travel," Dastardly feels the pangs of guilt when he thinks Klunk has flipped his lid in trying to use clouds as a means of chasing Yankee Doodle Pigeon.
Dastardly: It's all my fault. I've been too hard on the poor nincompoop.
- In the DuckTales episode "Hero for Hire", Scrooge believes that his firing Launchpad drove him to becoming a bank robber, and he doesn't lighten up after the pilot seemingly crashes fatally.
- In the Batman Beyond episode "Curse of the Kobra" after Zander kidnaps Max.
Terry: I never should've introduced him to Max.Bruce: Don't blame yourself.Terry: Why not? It's my fault.Bruce: I know, but blamings not productive.
- Quoted on multiple occasions in later episodes of Thomas the Tank Engine when an engine causes some dilemma or can't complete a task.
- Said word for word by Eddy in Ed, Edd n Eddy's Big Picture Show after a particularly cruel quicksand prank pulled by him and Ed on Double-D enrages the latter to the point of preferring to be beaten within an inch of his life by the Cul-de-sac kids than hang around with Ed and Eddy any longer.
Eddy: FINE! GO HOME! I don't blame ya!! Because everything WAS my fault! (beat, then cue sobbing) Yeah, you heard me! A foul-up wannabe loser! (breaks down even more)
- By giving and insisting on a crazy order, vice Admiral Tryon caused the Victoria-Camperdown collision in 1893 and ultimately the loss of more than 300 lives. He chose to stay on the sinking ship Victoria. His last recorded words were exactly this: "It was all my fault".
- As the troops were planning to disembark for the Normandy landings in World War II, General Eisenhower wrote two letters, the first one commending the troops for their efforts in securing the beaches and the liberation of France. He also wrote a second one in case the beach landings failed (which was a real possibility due to the bad weather, massively complex scheme, and stout German defenses), in which he diverted blame upon himself and not the troops ("It is mine alone"). When the invasion proved successful, Eisenhower was going to toss the second letter away, but a junior officer read it and insisted it be preserved for historical value.