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alt title(s): Raise Your Own Wife

"You think of that girl as a child, Roger! All your intercourse with her is intercourse between a man and a child! [...] So how can you possibly view your advances to her with anything other than embarrassment and disgust?!''"
-Paul Montague (Cillian Murphy), TV version of The Way We Live Now

A story where a man scores with a woman because the man had a protective role towards the woman when she was a child. She looked up to the man, thought of him as a parent or beloved uncle, a role model, counted on him to be there when she needs him, etc. In the more extreme cases she might have even vowed to marry him when she grew up.

Then, when She Is All Grown Up, the man decides to take advantage of the girl's feelings towards him by using it as the basis for a sexual relationship.

Nothing is ever said about how inappropriate, and even creepy, this is. If the man was a real parent, this would be incest, but of course they're Not Blood Relatives.

Often the story tries to excuse the man's behavior by claiming that he resisted the idea of a relationship but it's the girl who convinced him. This makes it less creepy, in that he didn't plan it in advance, but doesn't make it not creepy.

A source of Values Dissonance in older works, because it used to be common practice for noblemen to marry younger women from friendly families, so this trope would have occurred a lot both in fiction and real life.

Compare Pygmalion Plot, Parental Incest and Incest Is Relative. When successful, usually leads to a May December Romance.

Examples

Trope Namer
  • The trope namer is indirectly the Tale Of Genji (Genji Monogatari) from Japan, where Hikaru Genji raises the 10 year old girl Murasaki to be his wife. This makes the trope Older Than Print.

Anime and Manga
  • More directly from City Hunter II episode 39-41, where Umibozu had taught the girl Miki to fight when she was a child, and protected her for a while. When she's grown up she appears, wanting to marry him. Umibozu doesn't, but they end up running a restaurant together; exactly how close they are stays vague. Ryo Saeba refers to this as the Hikaru Genji plan.
  • Also called by that name in Negima where, in a gender inversion, Misa Kakizaki wants to do a "reverse Hikaru Genji plan" by making a good impression on the boy Negi, thus putting herself in a favorable position (er, no pun intended) when he grows up. After all, the age difference is really no more than five years. The reaction of the other girls? "Genius!"
    • Unfortunately, the Standard Creepiness Rule requires that they wait until he's nineteen, rather than the fifteen she suggested.
    • Asuna has a thing for "older" men, especially her foster father, Takahata-sensei, and probably Nagi, Negi's father. This is made much less creepy by the fact that her feelings are not requited.
  • This almost happens in Mai-Otome between Sergei and Nina, adoptive father and daughter in an attempt to undo the Phlebotinum that could destroy the planet, instigated by Nina but he backs down at the last minute. After the series it's left open to interpretation what happens between them after the series and Sergei loses his memories and similarly ambiguous after the follow-up series Zwei.
  • The relationship between Hagu and Shuji in Honey And Clover can be seen as such. Hagu chooses Shuji to the exclusion of one of the younger boys who are in love with her.
  • Reiji from Kodomo No Jikan sees his ward Rin as a replacement of her mother *and* his dead lover, Aki, and is counting down the days until she's of marriageable age. Rin herself is quite aware of this but remains loyal to him regardless, despite Aoki's efforts.
    • Aoki did earn himself a Crowning Moment Of Awesome by calling Reiji out on it. Reiji's defense is that none of his advances so far were illegal — to which Aoki points out that by that logic, it's all right if he does the same. Reiji blanches.
  • A great many Inuyasha fans like to think that this will be the ultimate result of Defrosting Ice King Sesshoumaru's relationship with his Morality Pet Rin, although the series itself gives no indication of it since Rin is still only about nine years old at the finale.
    • In the anime, Kouga does this accidentally. He saves the life of a young wolf-demon girl named Ayame, and in order to keep her spirits up tells her that when she's done training in the mountains he'll "make her his wife". She spends the next span of time (it's not mentioned how long, but it appears to be several years) dreaming about this eventual marriage, even telling him when they meet again that this was the only thing that kept her going all this time. For his part, he doesn't even remember her or the event she describes to him, and he's also moved on to (futilely) pursuing Kagome. Kouga tries to explain that he's "engaged to Kagome" (which Kagome of course denies), and Ayame is... less than pleased (and Kagome isn't either, thinking that Kouga's been messing with this poor girl's head). Eventually, at the end of this little story arc, Kouga finally remembers that the event Ayame described did indeed happen, and the episode ends with something of an Oh Crap moment for Kouga.
  • In Desert Punk, the title character takes on little Kosuna as an apprentice for this very reason.
  • Inverted in Kure-nai: while Shinkurou is very protective of the little girl he's caring for, any romantic affection seems to occur solely on Murasaki's side (notice her Meaningful Name). Then again, considering Murasaki's Big Screwed Up Family, this can be seen as played straight from their part.
  • Amaterasu & Lachesis' relationship in The Five Star Stories is like this, but since they're more or less the only two Physical Gods in their universe it's excusable. Who else are they gonna be with?
  • Gender-swapped in Shakugan No Shana where a female Crimson Lord by the name of Pheles raises a boy named Johan and the two later fall in love after Johan was grown up.
  • Utilized in Count Cain with Oscar (19) and Merryweather (10 or so). Initially, Merry finds him creepy and annoying but she likes him much better after he nearly dies protecting her from a bomb blast, and they're married in the epilouge. Oscar's Freudian Excuse ...sort of: Oscar has a complex about his neglected fiance who died in a carriage accident while tying to attact his attention. He claims that Mary reminds him of her. Known only to Oscar, the audience, and Riff, Cain's Battle Butler is that Cain could be the Half Identical Twin of Oscar's dead fiance.
  • At the end of Kare Kano, Hideaki Asaba takes this to its perverted apex: he decides his true love will be Yukino and Souichiro's daughter... while Yukino is still pregnant with her. As shown in the Distant Finale, it is pretty much set up, although he and Sakura haven't gotten together yet. And IIRC, Asaba did try to sneak out, but Sakura had nothing of it.
  • In the Bastard! manga, Dark Schneider rescues a dark elf girl named Arshes Nei and then pursues a sexual relationship with her once she comes of age. (Of course, Dark Schneider isn't exactly meant to be a paragon of moral behavior...)
  • Everything short of explicitly stated to have been successfully executed by Gauron in Full Metal Panic: The Second Raid with the twins Yu Fang and Yu Lan. The twins are so completely heartbroken by the fact that he's on the verge of death that they willingly undertake a suicide mission at Gauron's behest, rather than outlive him, and Melissa Mao at one point notes that they seem to be devoid of any emotion other than total despair. Being able to see him again is the only thing that brings them a shred of happiness. In fact, their grief over Gauron's impending death is used as a narrative counterpoint and equivalent of Sousuke's sadness at being separated from Kaname (as Mao notices that Sousuke's eyes and expression are exactly the same as Yu Lan's).
    • Apparently, as clarified further in the novels, he tried to execute a Hikaru Genji Plan with the young Sousuke, but failed completely. He pretty much told 12-year-old Sousuke, "Why don't you come to my camp? There's food, ammunition, and AS parts there." (Which sounds suspiciously like a "There's candy over in my van, little boy" scenario.) Knowing Gauron, it's highly doubtful that his plans were anything pure and kindhearted. Of course, Sousuke refuses, and Gauron spends the next five years unable to forget "beautiful" Sousuke.
  • It is mentioned by Ranmaru's parents in TheWallflower anime as a way that Ranmaru can capitalize on his arranged marriage to Tamao...by the end of the episode they have a Hikaru Genji moment...which is quickly ruined. I can't remember if the same is done in the manga.
  • The handler of Naomi Umegae in Zettai Karen Children attempted to raise Naomi (age 16) into his own ideal bride. The training was sufficient that Naomi found it difficult to outright say she hated it, but an encounter with Kaoru awoke her resistance and she began making him pay. She also soon after changed her codename from "Kittycat" to "Wildcat." In what may be a Shout Out to another entry on this page, the manga chapter this took place in was titled "Princess Maker."
    • The director of BABEL wants this to happen with The Children (age 10) and their handler Minamoto (age 20), as it's the best way to make sure they won't become evil. Yes, all three of them. Weirdly enough, Minamoto's mother also wants this as well. This could happen, at least with Kaoru.
  • In the manga Franken Fran, Fran is asked by a patient to impregnate her with the DNA of her dead best friend and love interest after it's revealed her friend sabotaged her marriage because she wanted her for herself. The patient specifically requests that the resulting baby be male, since, as Fran puts it, the patient "finds men easier to love".
  • This might be the central plot in the 2009 anime adaptation of Tales of Genji (see Literature example below), the currently-airing Genji Monogatari Sennenki.
  • In Osamu Tezuka's Phoenix: Life, Aoi falls in love with the girl he adopted when she comes of age, but she only thinks of him as a father. This ultimately leads to his Heroic Sacrifice, as he feels he has nothing left to live for.
  • This is pretty much the relationship between Moeko and Mariya in the shoujo manga series Kindan (by Osakabe Mashin). Not that Mariya even really bothered waiting until Moeko grew up. A lot of people were unnerved by how he raped her when she was really young (around maybe six years old?), and used his status as her guardian to take advantage of her. Yes, it was all played as being romantic. It's especially creepy when it shows how he actually planned to do a Hikaru Genji Plan with her the moment he saw her in the orphanage.
  • Inverted in the manga Until Death Do Us Part, where the heroine who ran up to the protagonist for rescue early on for help later revealed that she's staying with him not only to be rescued, but also because he's her future husband. The two she told this to was shocked on finding out about that and told her not to tell the protagonist about it, though she seems set on making said prediction come true.
  • Arguably used in Appleseed (the manga, at least — the movies are rather vague about the whole affair). Deunan is nine years younger than Briareos. She was eleven when they first met, and flashbacks have her father already aware of Bri's feelings for her when she was only seventeen. Averted slightly in that if either of them is forcing themselves on the other due to a past close relationship, it's Deunan.
  • In the manga Ardashan no Hanayone, the main character, Prince Alexid is forced into a political marriage with the youngest princess of a conqured nation (a nation Alexid was largely in charge of conquering). How young? Ten. To the story's credit, this is treated as pure politics, even as Alexid and Justinia do grow closer to each other, with Alexid taking on a Guardian/Big Brother role towards her. And the story clearly implies that that will mature into something real by the time Justinia comes of age, assuming they survive the political shenanigans around them.
  • Axis Powers Hetalia has the Spain/Romano pairing. Romano used to be under Spain's care as a kid, with Spain doting on him and Romano getting jealous whenever Spain paid more attention to his brother than to him. In modern times, Spain's still very affectionate towards the grown-up Romano, and Romano still has his Tsundere streak. They're not quite an Official Couple, but the subtext is definitely there.
    • The America/England pairing, actually called the "Reverse Hikaru Genji Plan" in Japanese fandom, is a more complicated example: England and America used to be in a happy father-son or big brother-little brother relationship. Then America grew up, decided he didn't want that kind of relationship with England anymore, and broke away from him. It's implied that the two still care about each other after that event, but that the nature of their affections has changed, with England going from Parental Substitute to blushing Tsundere and America from adoring little brother to an equal who enjoys riling England up. Not an Official Couple either, but the subtext is heavy.
  • In the Peacemaker Kurogane manga, this was what the old merchant Yamatoya does with Suzu after Suzu's master was killed and he was left all alone starving in the streets. Although he's old enough to easily be his grandfather, he apparently picked up Suzu entirely for the purpose of raping him and making him his "pet". Suzu wasn't the only one, however — two twin kitty boys were also picked up by him for this purpose. Suzu does end up getting revenge on him, however. To put it in Suzu's words:
    Suzu: Thank you for picking me up from the streets. Unfortunately, your enjoyment is based on another's tears.
  • The Distant Finale of Nadia The Secret Of Blue Water is narrated by Marie (age 4 during the main story) and reveals she grew up to marry and is pregnant by Sanson, one of the members of the series's Heel Face Turned Team Rocket.

Comic Books
  • Averted in "That Yellow Bastard" in Sin City; Nancy Callahan develops such feelings towards John Hartigan, but while Hartigan is protective enough of her, his sense of right and wrong will not allow him to take advantage — in his mind, taking advantage would make him no better than Junior, the sick paedophilic bastard he rescued her from eight years ago (not to mention the fact that he had to serve eight years of prison time on false charges of raping her because Junior's father, Senator Roark, wanted to make him pay for trying to bring down his son).
  • One of the outright weirdest examples of this trope happened in — where else? — a Silver Age issue of Superman's Girl Friend Lois Lane. You see, Superman is turned into a baby by some Red Kryptonite, and both Lois and Lana try to get him to promise to marry them once it wears off. Ultimately they both hypnotize him into marrying them. But it works out fine for Superman — though not our universe's Lois or Lana — because this is actually a Superman from an alternate universe where bigamy is legal.
  • According to rabid anti-fans of Magneto , he apparently did this to Rogue in the Age of Apocalypse , as they initially had a surrogate father-daugther relationship when he mentored her after she accidentally permanently absored the powers and part of the psyche of his own secretly long-lost biological daughter Polaris , who was even older than her .
  • What rabid fans of Ao A Sabretooth and Blink wish he had actually done to her in canon ( supposedly , since they're still both currently single though separated , hope springs eternal ) .
  • This troper believes this is the logical conclusion of the series of Little Orphan Annie. Oliver Warbucks adopts Annie. His wife is cruel to her and Annie runs aways . She comes back , and Mrs.Warbucks is gradually written out of the series without any explanation whatsoever. The series eventually transforms into the perpetual abduction and rescue of Annie by Oliver & Co. from yet another set of kidnappers. The pair are excessively close ala Sesshomaru and Rin from Inu-Yasha. This is true even in the various live adaptations(Annie: I don't need sunshine now to turn my skies to blue. I Don't Need Anything But You. I love you, Daddy Warbucks.) The pair even sing I Don't Need Anything But You to each other as a duet. I mean, come on now! He doesn't even bother to do this with Grace!

Film
  • Happens in the French movie Le Bossu (a.k.a. On Guard), with the girl having fallen in love with her guardian and him initially resisting. It still fails not to seem creepy, mostly because he became her unofficial adoptive father sometime when she was one year old, and she went with unnerving speed from regarding him as "Papa" to thinking of him as "husband on the hoof" once she learned he wasn't any blood relation.
    • In the latest adaptation, Lagardère (2003), he marries her widowed mother instead.
  • There are overtones of this in the 1989 Canadian film Cold Comfort (not to be confused with the better-known Cold Comfort Farm). Floyd, who lives in a remote rural cabin, tries to set up travelling salesman Stephen with his innocent-but-willing eighteen-year-old daughter Dolores. Complicating this situation is that Floyd is a mood-swinging psychotic who himself has lustful feelings for Dolores. He has her do a strip-tease for Stephen, then nearly kills him for looking at her topless, then calmly praises her "perfect" breasts. It all goes downhill from there.
  • This is basically the exact romantic subplot of Memoirs of a Geisha, wherein Sayuri falls for The Chairman, who buys her shaved ice when she is a little girl and he is in his forties. They wind up together in the end, and this is made to seem right and happy. The aforesaid old guy may be portrayed by Ken Watanabe, but still...
  • The Professional/Leon almost goes down this road with Matilda trying to force his hand, but is subverted by the ending. Byyy... oh you know.
  • Inverted in Merlins Shop Of Mystical Wonders, when a man accidentally turns himself into a baby, and his wife is left to raise him.
  • The movie/play Gigi is about an adolescent girl raised to be a wealthy man's ideal mistress (not wife, just mistress), but he ends up falling in love with her and marrying her.

Literature
  • Robert Heinlein did this a lot:
    • Played disturbingly straight in Time Enough For Love. Lazarus Long ends up not only marrying his adopted daughter Dora, whom he raised from a very young age, but naming his spaceship's ridiculously human AI after her, and giving it a young child's personality. Then again, the second part of that may be read as him missing her, and keeping the ship at a young age so it WOULDN'T grow up and fall in love with him.
    • Dan in The Door Into Summer marries Ricky, who said she wanted to marry him ever since she was ten years old. She becomes aged to maturity while Dan's in Cold Sleep.
    • Lazarus Long has sex with his Opposite Sex Clones, also in Time Enough For Love. Uses the version where the girls initiate it. This one really is incest, by many definitions, and it's not the most incestuous thing he does in the story, either.
    • The romance is in the future (it is a kid's book), but Have Space Suit Will Travel sets up a similar situation with 18-year old Clifford "Kip" Russell and 12-year-old genius Patricia Wynant "Peewee" Reisfeld.
  • In the novel (and anime, and films) Daddy Long Legs, the main character Judy ends up marrying her patron. At least in the novel, Judy's interaction with the titular Daddy-Long-Legs ( aka the eccentric millionaire Jervis Pendelton, her roommate Julia's uncle) is limited to the letters she send to him, so they don't really have an actual relationship until she meets him in person (not realizing he's her patron) and they begin a romance. On the other hand, he does occasionally abuse his authority as her patron to interfere with her relationships with other young men, particularly her best friend Sallie's older brother, Jimmy McBride.
  • Subverted in Charles Dickens' Bleak House; while really grateful to him, the heroine essentially tells her guardian that she loves him as a daughter and not as a wife.
  • Happens via time travel in The Time Travelers Wife in a Stable Time Loop: When the Time Traveler Henry meets Clare for the first time, she immediately starts a relationship with him. Only after this does he begin to time travel to various points in Clare's childhood. Henry doesn't really have much choice in the matter, though...
  • In David Eddings's Elenium, the queen Ehlana browbeats her protector, Sparhawk, who practically raised her, into marrying her in the third book. Sparhawk seems to realize the inappropriateness of it, as he tries to back out of it several times and feels guilty about it when she's kidnapped in the Tamuli to get at him, but she outranks him, and overrules his objections.
    • There's actually a line of dialogue about how she's carrying a Prince Consort coronet for him "around with her like a coil of fishing line."
    • Their daughter, age 6, tells her father who she's going to marry; as she's the incarnation of a god, if the prospective husband disagrees, he better have started running right then.
  • In the alternate history novel Fortune's Stroke by Eric Flint and David Drake, Rome's spymaster has to bully an Indian Empress into marrying the great warrior assassin who raised her and trained her, even though they both want it.
  • Occurs in Emma and, arguably, in Sense And Sensibility by Jane Austen. The inherent creepiness in the premise of the former was a point of contention in this editor's English class.
  • Semi-averted and semi-played straight in the Drizzt Do'Urden novels. He doesn't raise her, but Drizzt Do'Urden clearly thinks of the human girl Catti-brie, whom he met when she was about ten, as something like a little sister. However, as she grows up, she seems to have fallen for him, and he doesn't even notice until she's already involved with someone else...at which point, with some more overt hinting from her, he finds himself very attracted to her. Some years later, they finally connect.
    • Even more Squicky than a normal Hikaru Genji Plan, on the other hand, is Drizzt's relationship with his sister (though they are actual siblings). She seemed taken with him from the time he was an infant, and did most of the work in raising him. At his graduation from the warriors' academy, he is repulsed by the drug-fueled demon orgy and leaves. His sister follows him, and tries to seduce him. He is about as repulsed as ever, thankfully... kee-rist, drow are messed up.
      • Being raised in a culture where your goddess is the ultimate Demonic Spider, you're encouraged to get ahead by murdering people, and your general life is a heady cocktail of fear, arrogance, and raw animal cunning, this is hardly surprising.
  • Happens in Dumas' The Count Of Monte Cristo between the titular character and his young charge, Haydée. He even has the line, I paraphrase: "Youth is the flower and love is its fruit... happy is the gardener who has seen it grow ripe before picking it." There's also a scene where he worries that in ten years' time he'll be an old man and Haydée will still be young, to which she answers (paraphrased again): "My father was sixty years old but I thought he was more beautiful than any young man I have ever seen." And this is supposed to be romantic and not creepy. Adaptations have steered clear of this subplot, usually either marrying Haydée off to someone else or just writing her out of the story, and the Count is usually paired off with Mercedes Interestingly, the anime adaptation Gankutsuou (in space!) presents a familial love between the two, without romantic overtones.
  • In the Twilight series, male werewolves sometimes "imprint" (a sort of one-way soulmate-recognition thing) on girls while the girls are still toddlers or even infants (as Jacob does on Bella's baby daughter Nessie). In such cases, the male werewolf becomes a sort of uncle/older brother figure, or even a father figure, to the child, and it's assumed that of course she'll want to marry him once she's of age. To quote the series, "why would she say no?"
    • And to quote the series again, describing how sad it is that the relevant werewolf is going to have to wait fourteen years to have sex with his adopted daughter.
      "You never saw a real parent so jazzed to play whatever stupid kiddie sport their rugrat could think up. I'd seen Quil play peekaboo for an hour straight without getting bored. [...] Though I did think it sucked that he had a good fourteen years of monk-i-tude ahead of him until Claire was his age."
    • Just to increase the creepiness factor, Jacob had previously been in a semi-relationship with Bella. That not enough? Edward implicitly asks Jacob to have sex with Bella so he can impregnate her with a baby less likely to cause damage than Nessie.
      • It's implied in the series that Jacob imprinted on an egg in Bella, which is why he was attracted to her at all. Hikaru Genji, indeed!
  • The legendary King Cophetua had no interest in women until he fell in love with a beggar child and decided to raise her to be his queen. This story is best known through Lord Tennyson's poem The Beggar Maid.
  • This was Humbert Humbert's motivation for marrying Charlotte in Lolita. Of course, he wasn't really planning to wait that long... And didn't have to, thanks to Charlotte's fortuitously timed death.
  • Anthony Trollope's The Way We Live Now plays this realistically and tragically: Roger's love for Hetta (who has the added bonus of being his cousin) is portrayed as more pitiable than creepy. She isn't into it, though.
  • Shows up repeatedly in One Hundred Years Of Solitude. The major case is the future Colonel Aureliano Buendía, who falls for Remedios, the major's youngest daughter — who was around 10 years old, while he was in his early 20's. She was wise beyond her years, yeah, but even then...
    • It pops up in other books by Gabriel García Marquez. One case was in Chronicle of a Foretold Death, where the narrator affirms that during a wedding party he proposed marriage to a girl who was still in Elementary school; he did not raise her, but they eventually married. By the way, the girl has the same name than García Márquez's wife...
  • Played somewhat worryingly straight in Mercedes Lackey's and James Mallory's Obsidian Trilogy. The human Wild Mage Idalia and the elven warrior/Dragon Mage Jermayan are in love. Elves, however, marry for life, and only once, and like most elves, Jermayan's people can live for much longer than the healthiest human. After they reconcile themselves to this, Idalia dies as part of a price for a powerful spell she cast. Then the queen of the elves has a child...and the child has most of Idalia's features; apparently reincarnation is something elves believe in. He notes that now they're both elves, "eighteen years is not so long to wait".
  • One of the creepier subplots in Pearl S. Buck's The Good Earth involves the male protagonist's relationship with Pear Blossom, a girl he allowed into his household as a servant. When they consummate a relationship, she's still jailbait by modern standards and he's at least old enough to be her grandfather. I'm not sure if this counts because the man didn't directly raise the girl as a daughter but took her in as a servant out of pity.
  • How has Thornbirds not yet been mentioned? It's the sole plot of the book. Especially awkward since the man in question is a catholic priest.
  • In the first book in A Series of Unfortunate Events, Count Olaf tries to marry his young ward Violet. He didn't use a "position of trust", though — he tried to force her so he can inherit her and her siblings' money.
  • The novel Fire and Hemlock has a variation: while Tom is not involved in raising Polly per se, he is her moral support when her parents aren't there for her. She befriends his at age eleven or so and when they discuss what she should call him, she suggests "Uncle Tom". It also stresses the angle that she is the insistent partner, writing what amounts to a self-insert romance novel about them as a tween, while he tries to distance himself by dating a woman his age.
  • An odd version occurs in Kushiel's Dart: Anafiel Delaunay adopts two children and believes that both will eventually come to see him as a father/mentor figure. Both of them, however, fall in love with him, and one of them eventually find the courage to make his move.
  • In Tamora Pierce's Immortals Quartet, Numair is Daine's teacher and while not exactly a father figure, certainly a much older man who is in a position of power over Daine. It's made pretty clear that he fancies her in Emperor Mage and in Realms of the Gods, they kiss. Numair then tries to explain all the reasons why they shouldn't be together but Daine isn't worried by any of them and they (eventually) get married.
  • In Anne McCaffrey's "Damia", the titular character falls in love with Afra, her mother's best friend and advisor, who is thirty years older than she is and literally helped raise her from the day she was born. McCaffrey's a good enough writer that, at first, you think it's really sweet... and then, if you're like me, about a week after you've read the book, you think about it, and the eeeeeeeeewwwwww hits ya right in the face.
    • Twice in the same series: In the prequel Pegasus books, Tirla marries Sascha (thirty-something) on her sixteenth birthday, or pretty much the instant she was legally allowed to. Although he hadn't raised her since birth, he had taken on a protective, father-figure role in her life since she was about age twelve.
  • The plan of the Duke in James Thurber's The 13 Clocks, having kidnapped the Princess Saralinda as child and raised her. He's under a curse, but on her birthday, he will be able to force her to marry him.
  • The story "The Education of Betty" from L.M. Montgomery's Further Chronicles of Avonlea. Best friends fight over girl. The one who marries her quickly dies, so the other becomes a sort of unofficial godfather to his best friend's daughter. He falls in love with her, but knows how inappropriate it is, so he tries fixing her up with his nephew. She'll have nothing of it, and marries him anyway.
  • In P.C. Hodgell's Chronicles Of The Kencyrath, villain Gerridon takes in the abandoned Jame at age seven with the express plan of bringing her up to be his replacement bride and replacement sorceress. Unfortunately for him, his retainers subvert his brainwashing intentions ... Made somwhat more squicky by the fact that Jame's mother is Gerridon's sister, Jamethiel and that Gerridon sent her there explicitly to ensure the birth of his future bride. Of course, Jamethiel is also Gerridon's wife... the Kencyrath have no problems with incest. In fact, due to their magically robust genes, incest is a good way to create more powerful children.
  • In one of the later Oz stories by Mr. Baum, a bit of backstory (about the enslavement of the Winged Monkeys) mentions this trope. In the past, the Witch of the North couldn't find a suitable husband, so she picked an attractive little boy and had him raised to be her ideal husband.
  • Robin McKinley has so many May December Romances that it was inevitable that a few would fit this category. Notably Aerin/Tor, and Rosie/Narl from Spindle's End, but the most straightforward example of this trope is in Touk's House, a modification of the Rapunzel story. After a woodcutter steals herbs from a witch's garden, the witch Maugie requests a baby girl in exchange. But in this case, it's so she can raise a wife for her half-troll son. (Who is, yes, around, older, and helping to raise the child.) Needless to say, Erana's not too happy when she grows up and figures it out. But it works anyway.
  • In The Last Of The Mohicans, Nathaniel tries this with Alice Munro, a girl he essentially raised, but it backfires.
  • The villain in Sandra Brown's novel Fat Tuesday. And after his bride figured out just how crooked he was, he threatened to replace her with her little sister.
  • In S.L. Viehl's StarDoc series, this turns out to be exactly why Grey Veil created Cherijo in the first place.
  • The second book in the Chronicles Of Thomas Covenant nearly goes there- Covenant's daughter (from his rape of Lena in the first book), Elena, repeatedly makes advances at him; he refuses, because... well... squick.
  • In Junichiro Tanizaki's Naomi, Joji tries this with the fifteen-year-old of the title, rationalizing that it gives him time to scope out his potential bride.
  • In A Song Of Ice And Fire, Littlefinger's feelings towards Sansa seem to be like this (he was in love with her mother, they're pretending she's his daughter, and he's been blatantly flirting with her in the fourth book), but she's Squicked by it.
  • Something akin to this happens in Sundays at Tiffany's by James Patterson. The main character, Jane, had an imaginary friend named Michael when she was eight. He was much older than her, and it's established that he doesn't know how he came to exist, just that he takes care of children by being their imaginary friend and has been doing this for quite some time now. As the story progresses, they eventually meet again when Jane grows up and fall in love. Toward the end Michael gives up his immortality to be with Jane. A bit disturbing, considering Michael is, in all probability, extremely old.
  • In PG Wodehouse's Jeeves And Wooster novels, Roderick Spode and Madeline Basset come close to this sort of relationship, although Spode was merely a friend of her family's, and not her actual guardian.
  • When Sarek appears on Star Trek The Next Generation, Picard mentions in passing that he had attended "your son's wedding" some two decades earlier. So...whom did Spock marry? The EU novels come to the rescue: Spock married Saavik, to whom he had been a surrogate parent.

Live Action TV
  • Doctor Who, episode "The Girl in the Fireplace". The Doctor saves Madame de Pompadour when she's a child, and meets her when she's all grown up via time travel. She's been expecting him all her life, and they "dance", which has been used as a euphemism for sex in the series.
  • A gender inversion occurred on Angel, between Conner and Cordelia; later lampshaded in the comics with Conner's line about "My first time was with a woman who changed my diapers?!" (Though she didn't actually raise him.)
    • Also lampshaded in the series:
    "Angelus: She's practically your mother. There should be a play."
  • If you think about it, eventually inverted on Farscape: In the time-travel episode "Kansas", 16-year-old John Crichton loses his virginity to Chiana, and gets his memory of the event muddled. Years later, he meets her for, from her point of view, the first time and rather quickly takes her as a little sister or occasionally even daughter figure, which works really well to her benefit, considering he has little reason to trust her at their first meeting otherwise. Yeah.
  • One sided version: In the Murder She Wrote episode A Murderous Muse, the manager Byron has been pressuring his student Leslie to marry him, the twist is that she isn't quite 18 yet and Byron has raised her like a father since she was 8 years old.
  • In an episode of Friends, Monica dated an avuncular (read: like an uncle) former neighbor.

Theater
  • Judge Turpin tries to pull this with his ward Johanna Barker in Sweeney Todd: The Demon Barber of Fleet Street. It doesn't work because Johanna hates him and seeks to elope with Anthony the sailor. When Turpin finds this out, he is furious enough to have Johanna thrown into a madhouse, where she is eventually rescued by Anthony. And her real father, the title character, eventually catches up to Judge Turpin and takes very bloody revenge upon him.
  • In Gilbert And Sullivan's The Mikado Ko-Ko attempts to marry his ward, Yum-Yum, though by the end he's paired off with Katisha, a woman closer to his age.
    • They do it again in Iolanthe, where the Lord Chancellor eventually convinces himself that he can marry his ward Phyllis. He doesn't get to, though.
      • The weird version, deliberately contrasting with the authors' other "straight" examples. The Chancellor is portrayed as a sympathetic rather than manipulative figure, didn't exactly raise Phyllis (being the legal guardian for orphans in the region is part of his government position), isn't specifically interested in her, and has to be convinced by the indifferent Phyllis and the rest of the House of Peers to marry her to prevent violence. Even his self-stated "susceptibility" to teenage girls ends up oddly justified... he's unwittingly been married all this time to an immortal who's physically a teenager and whom he's reunited with at the close. (And becomes Phyllis's father-in-law, incidentally.)
    • And in The Pirates of Penzance (notice a trend here?), Frederic's onetime nursemaid Ruth, who is the only woman he has seen in 13 years, convinces him that she is a beautiful woman, and that he should marry her. This plan falls apart the second he sees a group of girls his own age.
    • In HMS Pinafore, little Buttercup, the captain's nursemaid, ends up marrying him.
    • In The Sorcerer, the middle-aged vicar Dr Daly considers himself too old to interest the 18-year-old Constance — though her mother doesn't think so, and Constance secretly loves him. In the next act Constance is enchanted to fall in love with a very old man, which is again presented as unsuitable. In the end, however, she marries Daly.
  • Used in Moliere's comedies School for Wives and School for Husbands, where in both cases a male character has a female ward they plan to marry — this doesn't end up working in either case, as the girls confront their patrons and earn their freedoms. By the way, in School for Wives, the man's definition of "perfect" is "as idiot as possible".
    • And, while the husbands are the butt of the comedy in both plays, Molière did end up marrying a girl who had been a young member of his theatre company, and was rumoured to be the daughter of his long-term mistress (scholars now think she was probably her niece).
  • This plot is lampshaded and averted in Oscar Wilde's The Importance of Being Earnest, as while Jack/Earnest has his pretty ward Cecily being raised in the countyside like male characters in similar comedies, he is not interested in a romantic relationship with her. His best friend, however, is.
  • In Beaumarchais' play The Barber of Seville (and the operas based on it, of which Rossini's is the most famous), Doctor Bartholo plots to marry his ward Rosine (Bartolo and Rosina in Rossini). Count Almaviva and Figaro foil the plot.
  • The plot to Arthur Miller's A View From the Bridge. However, Eddie Carbone cannot admit to himself or anyone else that he has romantic feelings towards Catherine, his wife's sister's daughter. Every time someone hints he might have "too much love" for Catherine, he says he isn't that kind of person. Tragedy results.
  • Done in Sondheim's A Little Night Music, but partially averted. One of my favorite lines {paraphrased}: "Just imagine, a few years ago, you were Uncle Frederick. And now, you're Darling Frederick." *Giggle* *Cue squirming and uncomfortable audience.* The girl discovered that it was just a crush and Frederic discovered his true love in a former mistress. His 18-year-old ex-wife ran off with his son, who was the same age.)

Video Games
  • Bakumatsu Renka Karyuu Kenshi Den. Heroine Shizuki Rin is adopted by male lead Iori, who was in love with Rin's mother.
  • The Princess Maker series of video games have this trope as a possible ending if you develop a close enough relationship with the girl you raise from age 10 on, sometimes if she also has a low moral score. (To be fair, it's quite frowned upon in the game itself, and only allowed by the Gods because other than that, the girl has been raised quite well.)
  • In Soul Nomad And The World Eaters, Hawthorne is revealed to be a serial perpetrator of raising, sexually abusing and 'disposing of' female children, his daughter Tricia being the latest victim. Although he is killed before this happens in the normal storyline, in the Demon Path, he succeeds and breaks her utterly. The Nereids' plan for Penn is similar to this since due to their status as a One Gender Race they need a male from another race in order to breed.
  • It's quite possible in The Sims 2. Basically, it involves taking a child-Sim away from its parents, and sending it to live in the same house as an adult Sim, who from then on takes care of it and acts as a surrogate parent. When the child grows to be an adult, the relationship score should be high enough for them to fall in love and marry.

Webcomics
  • The Dr. Steve/Oasis relationship from Sluggy Freelance has a few overtones of this. After raising Oasis to adulthood and taking control of her brain, Steve's plans include having her give him first hand accounts of a lesbian date and wearing skimpy clothes while she serves him food.

Fan Fic
  • Apparently there is a camp of fanfiction writers for Fate Stay Night that use this angle on Archer and Rin.

Real Life
  • Woody Allen and Soon-Yi, the adopted daughter of his girlfriend.
    • Incidentally, Frank Sinatra was said girlfriend's friendly ex-husband and offered to have a few associates... talk to Woody. When said girlfriend was asked about the rumor on a talk show, she smiled and said, "Frank is so sweet."
  • U.S. President Grover Cleveland took a major role in raising his goddaughter Frances after her father died. During his administration, rumors abounded that the bachelor president was going to marry Frances' mother. Those rumors turned out to be a generation off.
  • Adolf Hitler's relation to Geli Raubel, which led to a massive underground conspiracy theory over her demise, as she had slowly become less enamoured with him due to his interest in politics superceding time spent with her.
  • The notorious Chinese pirate Ching Shih took over the pirating business after her husband died, and then married her adopted son Cheung Po Tsai. Supposedly, Cheung Po Tsai was also the lover of both Ching Shih and her husband after they adopted him at the age of 15.
    • Note: Mistress Ching of the Brethren Court in Pirates Of The Caribbean is based on Ching Shih. However, it isn't clear if she did the same thing as her real life counterpart.
  • Due to the infamous one-child policy, there are now people who do this so their sons can have wives. It's pervasive enough that there are now detectives whose entire careers are dedicated to finding people's daughters and bringing them back... just as there are people who make livings kidnapping and selling girls for wives.
  • Charlie Chaplin often "mentored" very young actresses and later began relationships with them. He met Lita Grey when he was 26 and she was 13, and impregnated and married her when she was 16.
  • Many prophets in the Abrahamic faiths did some variant of this; when it wasn't plain old paedophilia, but due to Values Dissonance, they get away with it and no one nowadays likes to stress it too much. Muhammad, for instance, married his best friend Abu Bakr's daughter, Aïcha, after his first wife, Khadija, died. Aïcha was six years old at the time, and the marriage was consummated two years later. Khadija herself was a reverse Hikaru Genji: she took Muhammad as a subordinate in her trade business (caravans, shipping, import-export), developed a deep and trusting relationship with the 20 year old man and ended up marriying him. The fact that he was orphaned at an early age makes it even more likely that she was something of a mother figure to him. This is incontrovertible, historical, documented fact, not flame fuel.
    • Interesting fact: recently, in Morocco, an Islamic scholar stirred up a spiky debate when he used the aforementioned precedent to justify the marriage of a child (I don't quite remember if it was a marriage between teenagers or one between an adult and a child). This raised quite the scandal, since, after a century-long exposition to Western values, most Moroccans found the idea absolutely repulsive. The most entertaining part is how difficult it was for His Majesty's appointed official state Islamic counsel to counter that declaration: the precedent was so incontrovertibly clear they had to use every rhetorical trick in their repertoire to justify the negation, in a fashion even the Hassidim would be proud of! This is a snarky comment on recent political and religious events, and [[troll flames are WELCOME!! HAHA!!!]] COME ON! WHO'S FIRST?! AHAHAHAHAHA!!!!