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alt title(s): Raise Your Own Wife

"You think of that girl as a child, Roger! All your intercourse with her is intercourse between a man and a child! So how can you possibly view your advances to her with anything other than embarrassment and disgust?!"
Paul Montague, TV version of The Way We Live Now

A story where a man scores with a woman because the man had a protective role towards the woman when she was a child. She looked up to the man, thought of him as a parent or beloved uncle, a role model, counted on him to be there when she needs him, etc. In the more extreme cases she might have even vowed to marry him when she grew up.

Then, when She Is All Grown Up, the girl often decides she is in love with the man, or vice versa.

Nothing is ever said about how inappropriate, and even creepy, this is. If the man was a real parent, this would be incest, but of course they're Not Blood Relatives.

Often the story tries to excuse the man's behavior by claiming that he resisted the idea of a relationship but it's the girl who convinced him. This makes it less creepy, in that he didn't plan it in advance, and it is what she wants as well (though doesn't make it not creepy).

A source of Values Dissonance in older works, because it used to be common practice for noblemen to marry younger women from friendly families, so this trope would have occurred a lot both in fiction and real life.

Compare Pygmalion Plot, Jail Bait Wait, Parental Incest and Incest Is Relative. When successful, usually leads to a May December Romance.

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