"Ah, distinctly I remember it was in the bleak December,AKA The Dead Love Interest—not parent, not sibling, not offspring, love interest. One of The Oldest Ones in the Book, named for the famous deceased in Edgar Allan Poe's "The Raven". In short the three defining criteria are
And each separate dying ember wrought its ghost upon the floor
Eagerly I wished the morrow, vainly I had sought to borrow
From my books surcease of sorrow—sorrow for the lost Lenore
For the rare and radiant maiden whom the angels named Lenore
Nameless here for evermore."
And each separate dying ember wrought its ghost upon the floor
Eagerly I wished the morrow, vainly I had sought to borrow
From my books surcease of sorrow—sorrow for the lost Lenore
For the rare and radiant maiden whom the angels named Lenore
Nameless here for evermore."
- a love interest of a prominent character
- is dead (or occasionally just genuinely believed to be dead) before the story begins or dies relatively early in the story
- their death has significant ongoing impact, consequences and relevance for the remainder of the story
- The Incurable Cough of Death or other related terminal illnesses—see Mary in Silent Hill 2, Jennifer in Love Story, Cathy Earnshaw in Wuthering Heights.
- Death by Childbirth—see Chani in Dune Messiah, Lilias in The Secret Garden.
- Stuffed into the Fridge—see Murron in Braveheart, the dead wife in Memento
- Heroic Sacrifice—Farah in Prince of Persia: The Sands of Time (along one time stream anyway), Marion in the 2006 Robin Hood TV series, Lily Potter in the Harry Potter series.
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- Cyndia/Cecelia from Yu-Gi-Oh! is unusual in that she does Lost Lenore duty not for a hero of the series but for a villain, Pegasus.
- Lilith certainly seems to qualify as Abel's Lost Lenore in Trinity Blood. Her murder changed his character forever and he mourned her alone in a cave for 'centuries' afterwards. While Abel later forms strong bonds with other female characters, no one else compares to his memory of her.
- Kanan from Saiyuki is Hakkai's Lost Lenore and also his Cynicism Catalyst AND I Let Gwen Stacy Die In The Origin Story!
- Eliade in D.Gray-Man.
- Gundam is notorious for this. Many, many stories have this progression: "Gundam Pilot meets Girl, Girl pilots enemy superweapon, Girl dies, Gundam Pilot gets angsty". The Original, Zeta, ZZ, Seed and Destiny all use this plot point. It's easier to name the shows that don't, and only 08th MS Team openly defies it.
- Judge has Atsuya, who dies during a traffic accident in the first chapter, and has a huge impact on his brother Hiro's and his girlfriend Hikari's life. His death, and resulting trial, is the reason why Hiro and Hikari even created the Judge game to gain revenge on the man, judge and jury who were at fault for his death.
- Helena in GUN×SWORD. Her death is the cause for Van's Roaring Rampage of Revenge the series is all about.
- Wakaba in Cross Game. (She dies in the first episode). The rest of the manga is about Kou and the other characters trying to get over her.
- Saya, in the anime of Black Cat, similar to the stuffed in the fridge example. You get tiny snapshots of her battle with Creed, but she is only found dead by Train. Train doesn't really recover till the finale until he has a vision/encounter with an almost identical girl that seems to give him the realization that she wouldn't want him to grieve and obsess like he is currently.
- Yuria in Fist of the North Star. The first major villain holds her captive before she dies, and after about halfway through the series every single new character had something to do with her in his backstory. One guy is her brother, another her half brother, and several others were attempted love interests, including the Big Bad. The last story arc is entirely about her; at the very end this trope is subverted, and she is revealed to be alive.
- Mary Magdalene from Chrono Crusade is The Lost Lenore of not just Chrono (of whom she's also the Gwen Stacy), but also Father Remington. Nearly every twist and turn of this trope is played out in the manga—Chrono meets Rosette and he can't help but be reminded of Mary (and she's hinted to even be a reincarnation of her in the anime), it ends up playing out as a sort of love triangle (in the anime he tells Mary's ghost mournfully that "Rosette's covering your place in my heart"), she's a major driving force behind Chrono's character development, and at one point in the manga Chrono and Remington even end up in a duel where Remington seems to take out his anger over Mary's death on Chrono.
- In Loveless, Soubi's mother, also having suffered Death by Origin Story, is Ritsu's Lost Lenore—he insists she was "just a co-worker", but Nagisa doesn't think so, and Nagisa accuses Ritsu of taking Soubi's virginity because Soubi looks just like his mother.
- Masaki Kurosaki, who is the entire reason we have a show. Everyone in her family (her husband, son, and daughters) all loved her, and treated her as "the center of [their] universe". Her death, and Ichigo's powerlessness to stop it, is exactly what prompts him to be the tough-as-nails Badass we come to know him as. Masaki's death also had a profound effect on her husband Isshin, and her daughters Karin and Yuzu. And this is before we learn that she was a pure-blooded Quincy whose death is connected to the death of Kanae Katagiri, another Lost Lenore.
- Hisana Kuchiki, of the Posthumous Character variety. Without her, much of this manga would never have unfolded the way it did as her death is the reason for the Byakuya/Rukia relationship and all the consequences that have come from that. In fact, BOTH of Byakuya's conflicting vows in the Soul Society Arc stem from his marriage to Hisana, because it was his defiance of custom (in marrying her and adopting Rukia) that led to his second vow (to never risk the family honor again) and the start of all his problems.
- Nine years ago, Yhwach conducted a purge of "impure" Quincies that resulted in the Cruel and Unusual Death of Kanae Katagiri, the wife/battle partner of Ryuuken Ishida and mother of his son Uryuu. It is heavily implied that her death (and the desire to protect his only remaining family member who mysteriously survived the fate that befell his mother) is behind Ryuuken's Refusal of the Call and Heroic Neutral alignment...but his refusal to explain this to Uryuu caused a nasty, ongoing rift between father and son that drives many of Uryuu's decisions throughout the series.
- Shito from Zombie Loan's Lenore is his mother who gave birth to him while she was already dead and forced to live with villain Lao Ye. The reason he made the contract with Z-Loan was to give her back her years so she could wake up.
- Tomoe Amamiya and Tiger & Bunny's protagonist Kotetsu were Happily Married with a daughter, Kaede, when she passed away. She suffers Death by Origin Story, being deceased since five years before the events of the series. The promise he made to her is one of the two main reasons (the other being wanting his daughter to think he's 'cool') that Kotetsu doggedly continues with his job as a corporate-sponsored superhero despite having to leave Kaede behind with her grandmother, keep his occupation a secret from her, and endure the manipulations of his money-hungry sponsors.
- Male example with Shun from From the New World, who is this to both the main female and male protagonists of the story. Particularly significant since neither Saki nor Satoru can actually remember him due to having their memories altered, but they still realize there's someone who they lost. He's important enough in the character's lives that when the flashback reel at the end of the series plays, he's the last one.
- Everything Tragic Villain Aki does in Kamisama Dolls is to avenge his dead lover, and her death also weighs heavily on his former friend Kyouhei.
- Yui Ikari from Neon Genesis Evangelion. Everything Gendo Ikari does stems from her. Mainly to get her out of Unit-01.
- Souichiro, Kyoko's late husband, from Maison Ikkoku. She was very much in love with him, and an unwillingness to disrespect his memory is the major roadblock for Kyoko and Godai's relationship.
- In InuYasha, Kikyou is an unusual and complicated example. She and the title character were in love fifty years prior to the events of the series until Naraku manipulated them into turning on each other and murdered Kikyou, leaving Inuyasha very much affected by her perceived betrayal and her death, and making it possible for the Shikon Jewel to manifest in the present in the possession of Kikyou's reincarnation, Kagome. Matters are then made much more complicated when Kikyou is resurrected and comes back with a bunch of baggage of her own to sort through regarding her death: while she was dead and gone, Inuyasha could make steps in the process of getting over her death and his other past traumas, but once she's back, neither fully dead nor properly alive, he's trapped between his unresolved feelings for her (including his guilt over her death) and his growing feelings for Kagome, and Kagome sadly acknowledges that as much as she loves Inuyasha, she can't compete with Kikyou because Kikyou's death has given her a place in his heart that she can't match, though she later decides that even if that's true and she is jealous of Kikyou, she will stop comparing herself to Kikyou and will love Inuyasha in her own terms. When Kikyou is then Killed Off for Real over the course of the series, Inuyasha is finally able to reach closure regarding their relationship; while he still grieves for her, she doesn't haunt him the way she had up to that point. However, she continues to influence the plot with her final death, both by saving Kohaku's life and by leaving behind some of her purifying power in a shard of the broken Shikon Jewel, making it possible for the Jewel to be purified and defeated.
- Casca from Berserk is this to Guts, and is an interesting zigzagged case throughout. She did not die, but was nonetheless "lost" via a brutal Stuffed into the Fridge ordeal that left her psychologically gone, making her a Lenore AND an Ophelia. Because the story starts In Medias Res, this technically happens before the story begins during a flashback, not to mention that even though Casca is not dead, Casca has been insane for most of the series and her insanity has played a bigger role in the course of the story than when she was sane (much to the chagrin of the fanbase), since a) her insanity caused by Griffith violently raping her in front of Guts drove Guts to revenge the most, b) the loss of love and affection that Casca provided Guts constantly anguishes him, and c) the entire drive of the story as of recently is Guts trying to find a cure for Casca's insanity, thus trying to make her "unlost."
- Kye Wol Hyang from Shin Angyo Onshi, who died before the start of the series, but her death was the main reason Munsu was able to fight the big bad, or had the motivation to endure months and years of travel alone, plotting his revenge against Aji Tae. While he didn't stay chaste after her death (A couple of encounters and just at the beginning of the series), he never took another lover and in the end, he reunited with her in the afterlife.
- In Highlander: The Search for Vengeance the hero Colin spends over 2000 years mourning the death of his first wife. While also seeking of revenge on the man that killed her.
- Rin of Naruto seemed a Disposable Woman in her one flashback appearance. During the Fourth Shinobi War she's upgraded to The Lost Lenore when Obito reveals he followed Madara in order to create a world where Rin was still alive.
- Yuuko Ichihara of ×××HOLiC arguably becomes one for Watanuki when she dies. Whether or not she can actually be considered a love interest for him is up for debate, but there's no denying that her death has a severe impact on his character as he makes a wish to see her again in exchange for being trapped indefinitely at the shop while he waits for her. His personality takes a pretty drastic change into a more serious one and he becomes considerably more knowledgeable and skilled in the area of magic/supernatural as he takes on Yuuko's role. He also makes it a habit of going into moments of melancholy reminiscence for her.
- Nakbin of The Bride of the Water God whose death and anticipated resurrection was the basis of the whole plot. When she died, the water god Habaek started to require sacrifices from the humans hoping that one of them will be her reincarnation in order to reunite and have the curse lifted. However, while being in grief, constant longing and waiting for his lost love, Habaek met and fell in love with Soah. Unfortunately, even though Habaek is already completely in love with his current bride, he still continue to long for Nakbin that when he reunited with her resurrected form, he reaffirmed his desire to be with her even if she was not the person to whom he was connected with the red string. After Nakbin's "second death", Habaek also promised not to love anyone the same way he loved her by telling Soah that his one eye will be used to look only at her, instead of looking at her with both which were used to look only at Nakbin. Though Soah had accepted the fact of being a replacement wife to Habaek, Nakbin's significance which was never denied by the god continue to bring troubles to the couple.
- In X1999, Kotori would be this for Kamui.
- Peace, deceased member of the Sleuth Brigade from The Voynich Hotel, is this. Aside from having been the glue and diplomat of the group, she was Leader's first love, and consequently Vixen's then rival. Her death is a frequent source of drama between the two.
- Senki Zesshou Symphogear has Amou Kanade, Tsubasa's deceased singing partner. To Tsubasa, Kanade was her everything, and a good deal of season 1 was spent dealing with the grief from this loss. The dealing includes almost-killing Hibiki and attempting a blatantly suicidal Heroic Sacrifice.
- Detective Conan:
- In a case Atsuko Tokumoto is this for Takahashi. He was in love with her when they were in their college's cinema club, but she committed suicide before the story starts. And during a trip to the mountain villa with old friends of Sonoko's sister Ayako, he brutally kills their "friend" Chikako alias the one who caused Atsuko's ruin and death, since she stole a script of hers in the past and destroyed her life in the process.
- In another, Shuichi Akai has Akemi Miyano as this. He met her while working as The Mole in the Black Organization that she and her Teen Genius sister Shiho belonged to, faked feelings for her but ultimately fell in love for real since she was an Anti-Villain... but after lots of messy stuff, she was murdered.
- There is also Jinpei Matsuda, Miwako Sato's First Love who died in an Heroic Sacrifice to thwart the plans of a Mad Bomber. Sato herself is revealed to be deeply, deeply traumatised by his death, to the point of believing herself to be afflicted of a Cartwright Curse when her prospect Second Love Takagi also almost falls victim to similar deals. It's only when the Mad Bomber is properly captured (and Takagi convinces her to not kill him right there) that she can finally move on.
- There are several in Tokyo Ghoul.
- Yoshimura has Ukina, the human woman he loved in his youth.
- Amon's classmate Harima, killed in action prior to the series. His lingering feelings for her cause him to reject the advances of Second Love Akira. He becomes one to Akira at the conclusion of the series, having been declared dead. In the sequel, Akira is shown to have become a less cold and sarcastic person as a result of his influence, but still quietly mourning his loss.
- Kasuka Mado, the deceased wife of Kureo Mado. Her death fuels his hatred of Ghouls and thirst for revenge, and after his death it's shown that he still wears his wedding ring a decade after losing her.
- In the sequel, Tsukiyama has spent nearly two years in an Angst Coma and become an Ill Boy as a result of his grief over Kaneki's apparent death. One of the major plot lines of the sequel has involved his Muggle Best Friend, Chie Hori, attempting to prove to him that Kaneki is still alive. Meanwhile, his Poisonous Servant considers secretly murdering Kaneki to be the best way to help his ailing master.
- Chitose from Hajimari No Niina, main male Atsurou's best friend and crush when in high school. The grief over his death made him develop an eating disorder. However, eventually he moves on thanks to Niina.
- Fairy Tail: Mavis to Zeref. Since both became recipients of Ankhseram's Curse, the only people they could relate to were each other. It was because of this that Zeref believed that he had finally found someone he could care about without killing them. Mavis in turn offered him a chance at Eternal Love and to find a way to break the curse—together. Her kindness and empathy caused Zeref to fall in love with her, and they kissed. However, since the ultimate purpose of the curse is to deny happiness, Zeref's love for her bypassed her curse and killed her, ensuring that they couldn't be together. It was this event that began Zeref's true Start of Darkness.
- Chiaki from Dangan Ronpa 3 became this for Izuru. After her death, he holds onto her hairpin in remembrance, and is motivated enough by a combination of his subconsciously-retained love for her and her dying words to him to start moving against Junko.
- Betty Ross becomes this to her husband Bruce Banner until she's Back from the Dead.
- Shelly in The Crow is pretty much THE iconic comic book example of this trope.
- Goldie in Sin City: The Hard Goodbye.
- Valerie in V for Vendetta.
- Hank Pym of The Avengers—then Ant-Man—first became romantically interested in young Janet Van Dyne (soon to be the Wasp) because she was a dead ringer for his late first wife, Marya Trovaya, who had been murdered by Communists.
- After Janet's death, Hank spent hours at a time listening to her dying scream and grieving in his laboratory, and occasionally trying to pretend that his Robot Girlfriend Jocasta was Janet (he had uploaded Janet's memories into Jocasta's hard drive). The Replacement Goldfish is strong with this one.
- Mockingbird was also one for Hawkeye after her apparent death in West Coast Avengers 100 (it was actually a Skrull and she came back at the end of Secret Invasion). Her death led to him leaving the Avengers, spiralling into a deep depression and living in the middle of nowhere, hunting animals to eat. He eventually returned to civilisation after an old mentor helped him to realise that Bobbi wouldn't have wanted him to live that way. Her death still lingered with him, though, and his ideal life in House of M involved being in a relationship with her.
- Some writers like to use Gwen Stacy this way for Spider-Man, even though he actually got over her death fairly soon in the 1970s.
- Jeph Loeb's Spider-Man: Blue is perhaps the most blatant example.
- Inverted in Spider-Gwen where it's Peter Parker who becomes Gwen's Lost Lenore.
- In Spider-Man: Reign, Spidey is obsessed with the memory of his dead wife Mary Jane. Here the way his perception of her changes over the course of the story ( in the final issue she becomes a source of strength for him, encouraging him to carry on his work, putting off their reunion in the hereafter) is a not unimportant subplot.
- X-Men villain Magneto was shown to obsess about his dead wife Magda quite a bit in a number of stories. When he became ruler of Genosha, he named the main square of the capital after her.
- Captain Atom had his wife Angela, who died of cancer during the eighteen year interval that Cap missed when he was catapulted into the future. To make matters worse, Cap was declared dead in that interval, and she remarried...to Wade Eiling, of all people.
- X-Men: Phoenix was an example of this for her husband, Cyclops—especially in timelines where she stays dead, but the fans don't like to talk about those chapters because the character Took a Level in Jerkass. Ironically, the one time he didn't think of her as this, their outrage was even louder.
- Lori in The Walking Dead.
- The slow loss of his beloved Nora drove Dr. Victor Fries to become the obsessed, callous Mister Freeze. Bonus points for "Nora" and "Lenore" being related derivations of "Eleanor."
- In Runaways, Chase never truly got over Gert's death, and even once attempted to make a deal with the Gibborim to try and get her back.
- In Circles, after Paulie's death, Douglas took it really rough and Paulie's significance is still huge within the story.
- Rare Male Example in White Sand with Gevaldin, Khriss' fiance whose death prompted her to leave the Dynasty and travel to the Dayside in search of the mysterious "Sand Mages".
- Martel to Envy in the Fullmetal Alchemist fanfiction The Seven Names of Envy Angevin. The story is still ongoing, but it's been hinted that there's even more to her death than we (or Envy) know.
- On the note of Fullmetal Alchemist fanfiction, this is an extremely common theme of Roy/Hughes Slash Fic. If it's not about them experimenting as teens in the academy, it's probably this.
- Hungary is revealed to be this to Austria in the 1983: Doomsday Stories AU for Axis Powers Hetalia. Not only is it revealed later that the reverse is also true for Hungary but it's also subverted in that she eventually becomes his and her children's Guardian Angel.
- Many Mass Effect's fanfics have Shepard's death becomes Garrus's main reason to go to Omega and becomes Archangel. In some fics, it's simply because he want to honor her name; in some others, it's because he is a Death Seeker who is too obsessed with her to the point he can't function normally in C-sec or military. Sometimes both reasons are used. To name a few fics: Violence, Voyeurism and Vigilantes, Where Angels Fear To Tread, and Weightless.
- Invader Zim fanfiction often posit that Professor Membrane's extreme workaholism and Hands-Off Parenting stems from the death of Dib and Gaz's never-seen mother.
- Beth Lestrade in the first finale of Children of Time, dying at the end of one episode and then, naturally, being dead at the start of the next. Her Heroic Suicide and the guilt it induces enables Sherlock Holmes's Love Epiphany and Heel Realization, which eventually allows her to come Back from the Dead.
- In Mega Man: Defender of the Human Race, Mr. Black's wife, Tonya Coupe-Barton, is this for him. She was killed in Dr. Wily's very first attack, and he built a shrine to her in memoriam—and vowed revenge on Wily.
- Hivefled: Icatus Gritch and Shuran Harkol both mysteriously lost quadrant-mates early in their lives. Said quadrant-mates are both now among Gamzee's Spirit Advisor followers, having been murdered by the Grand Highblood.
- In Death Note II The Hidden Note, Near's wife, Rebecca Stoodley River, gets killed by multiple bullets in the back and bleeding to death. In front of her daughter.
- In Despair's Last Resort, Chiyo Ueda reveals that a friend from her childhood who she was in love with died from a terminal illness. It continues to affect her.
- Shizuka becomes this for Kazumi after her execution in Chapter 3. She's torn up by it throughout Chapter 4, but she tries to hide it. Starting in Chapter 5, she wears Shizuka's scarf to respect her memory.
- Why Am I Crying: Crystal Eyes, Filthy Rich's wife and Diamond Tiara's mother, who died in a train accident along with her unborn foal. This drove Filthy Rich to become an alcoholic basket case and, while he got over that, try to avoid seeing his daughter because she looked so much like her.
- Redemption (KHR): Kyoko's death destroys whatever is left of Tsuna's innocence and what finally makes him accept his fate as Vongola Decimo.
Film - Animated
- Finding Nemo: Marlin's losing Coral, and all but one of their unborn children, at the start of the movie causes him to become overprotective to his one remaining child, and this drives the plot.
- Martha in Hotel Transylvania.
- Ellie in UP who was never able to have children, and Carl's refusal to leave his house is partially because it's the only way he can keep Ellie's spirit alive.
- Aerith in Final Fantasy VII: Advent Children, as well as Zack, for Cloud. Despite the world being saved, he's still haunted by their deaths. It's unknown if the visions he has of Aerith are actually her or just his imagination.
- The Queen in Epic
Film - Live Action
- The central plot point of The Mothman Prophecies.
- Marni in Repo! The Genetic Opera.
- Christopher Nolan frequently invokes this trope.
- The dead wife in Memento.
- Mal in Inception who ended up killing herself and framing Cobb for her murder. An apparition of her frequently appears in his dreams.
- Rachel Dawes in The Dark Knight and The Dark Knight Rises. In the former, her death causes Harvey Dent to make a Face–Heel Turn to become Harvey Two-Face. In the latter, she's this for Bruce Wayne himself.
- Julia in The Prestige, to the extent that she, or rather Angier's grief for her, causes the whole plot of the movie.
- Elisabeta in Coppola's Bram Stoker's Dracula kills herself upon hearing false news that Dracula has died. His reaction is to renounce God and become a vampire. The plot is also driven by him coming face to face with her reincarnation in Mina Murray.
- Shelly in both the comic and movie adaptation of The Crow.
- Murron in Braveheart.
- Satine in the framing narrative of Moulin Rouge!
- A very literal example in Taken 3— Bryan's ex-wife and perpetual love interest is abruptly killed off at the beginning of the movie, leaving him with the driving mission of clearing his name and finding her killer. Guessing her name shouldn't be too difficult.
- Hari in Solaris is a particularly interesting case: the prime mover of the story is Kris' guilt over her death, and her doppelganger's reaction to the knowledge of it.
- Rheya in the 2002 remake.
- A rare male example is Kate's dead husband in A Knight's Tale. This serves as a Shown Their Work moment, as Kate is allowed to work as a blacksmith because her late husband taught her the trade and left no sons. There were cases of this in Real Life history.
- Another male example: Surprise! Malcolm in The Sixth Sense is his wife's Lost Lenore.
- The appearance of Dr. Harvey's wife in Casper looks like this, when she says she's not a ghost because she accomplished what she needed to in this life; she Ascended to a Higher Plane of Existence.
- Characters in at least two Leonardo DiCaprio movies, Inception and Shutter Island
- Parodied in Erik the Viking. The eponymous character connects briefly with a village maiden and saves her from a Fate Worse Than Death by accidentally subjecting her to the latter. He remains haunted by her memory but when he reunites with her in Valhalla she is less than thrilled to see him.
- Victoria from The Abominable Dr. Phibes and Dr. Phibes Rises Again.
- Miranda in Picnic at Hanging Rock, so exquisitely beautiful and poignant that Michael fell in love with her at a glance before she vanished forever up that damn rock.
- Unforgiven—Clint Eastwood remained so devoted to his dead wife that he graciously turned down a freebie from the Hooker with a Heart of Gold he was helping even though she was played by Anna Levine.
- Dan in Real Life does this rather generically, albeit effectively.
- Hel, Freder's late mother, for Rotwang in the uncut version of Metropolis. Possibly inspired the Repo! example.
- Helen Kimble in The Fugitive
- Subverted in Vertigo in an increasingly disturbing manner.
- Adrian had become this as of Rocky Balboa. Instead of a quick throwaway line about how she had passed on to explain her absence in the final chapter, Rocky is shown to still be devastated and utterly heartbroken years after losing her to "the female cancer."
- Laura in the 1940s film of the same name.
- Vesper Lynd in Quantum of Solace.
- Miao Miao has Bei and Chen Fei, in a heartbreaking male/male example.
- Sophie in The Illusionist.
- This is given as the protagonist's primary motivation for time travel in The Time Machine (2002).
- Sara, The Huntsman's dead wife in Snow White and the Huntsman.
- Male example: Jodie Foster's murdered fiance in The Brave One.
- Jessie's death in Mad Max causes Max's Despair Event Horizon and his Roaring Rampage of Revenge. As a result, in the second film he's a lot colder, only warming to the refinery denizens after his Cool Car is destroyed.
- Victoria Riggs to Martin Riggs in Lethal Weapon. Her death is the reason Riggs is a Death Seeker in the first film. It's only his unlikely friendship with Murtagh that later helps him get over it, though when The Dragon in the second film tells him that he killed her, Riggs goes on a Roaring Rampage of Revenge.
- Margot to Alexandre in Tell No One, although it's later subverted when it turns out she's been Faking the Dead.
- In Godzilla (2014), Joe Brody dedicates nearly all of his attention to uncovering why his wife, Sandra died.
- Kayla Silverfox in X-Men Origins: Wolverine. She inspires Logan to gain his Adamantium bonding.
- Janet van Dyne in Ant-Man. Her situation is left ambiguous, but she shrinks into the Microverse, a dimension from which there is no escape. As a result, Hank Pym becomes a hermit and forbids their daughter from using the technology that made them into super heroes. Though the fact that Scott escapes the Microverse in the movie's climax gives Hank hope that she might be Not Quite Dead.
- In The Last Witch Hunter, Kaulder has Helen, his Black Death-taken wife, as well as his daughter, Elizabeth, dead to the same disease. They're both very prominently featured in Lotus-Eater Machine he's trapped in at one point.
- In 45 Years, Geoff and Kate are approaching their 45th anniversary. Kate knows that shortly before they met, Geoff's girlfriend had died on a hiking holiday and they Never Found the Body, but as far as she knows it wasn't a serious relationship. When the girlfriend's body is discovered in a melting glacier, Geoff's obviously emotional reaction inspires Kate to delve deeper into the facts; she discovers that they had pretended to be married on the trip, and a slide collection hidden in the attic hints that she may have been pregnant with his child. Meanwhile, Geoff conceals his desire to go to Switzerland to identify the body, which he idealistically imagines to be a perfect, youthful Human Popsicle, and seemingly loses interest in making anniversary preparations with his wife.
- Allie's mother is this for her father Neal in Remember Me. Murdered in the subway by muggers when Allie was only a child, the mention of her causes Neal to flip out. He's insanely overprotective of his daughter as a result.
- Pretty much any female character in anything by Edgar Allan Poe.
- The ballad "Lenore" (1773) by Gottfried August Bürger, which is one of the German ballads translated into English most often and was highly influential on various English-speaking writers besides starting a fashion for Gothic ballads in Germany, inverts the pattern: The eponymous heroine is obsessed with her sweetheart Wilhelm, who went off into the Seven Years' War and did not return. She begins to quarrel with God, causing her mother to chide her for her blasphemy. But then one night the dead fiancé returns and asks Lenore to mount up on his horse with him...
- Cathy Earnshaw in the second half of Wuthering Heights
- Lily Potter in the Harry Potter series, to Snape, her Stalker with a Crush and Unlucky Childhood Friend.
- Cedric was this to Cho Chang, she was rather fragile and alone after he died.
- Paul Tankersley is this to Honor Harrington. His murder sends her into an emotional tailspin; nearly two decades later and married for ten years to Hamish and Emily Alexander, she's still marked by his death.
- In Loyal Enemies, Tairinn is this to Veres. She was his fellow student at the magic university, they were madly in love with each other, and then he was arrested Taking the Heat for her and she was killed by a werewolf. He became a monster hunter because of that and even years later, she's the woman he's calling when in high fever. Too bad she never loved him, she feigned her death, the werewolf was her accomplice, and she's the villain of the story.
- Rebecca plays with this trope. Rebecca seems to be this to her widowed husband Maxim, but it turns out that she was an utterly despicable woman whom he later murdered, and his haunted behavior regarding her death was caused by the strain of having to maintain a facade of devoted mourning and the knowledge that he was unable to be good enough for his innocent young second wife because of this. On the other hand, Rebecca is this trope in Les Yay fashion to her onetime nanny and later housekeeper Mrs. Danvers.
- Maria Clara is this to Simoun in El Filibusterismo
- Lilias Craven in The Secret Garden.
- Leah Venn is this to her husband in Obsidian Mirror. Her death is what causes him to start experimenting on the mirror.
- Susan Delgado in Wizard and Glass. Roland continues to mourn for her throughout the remainder of The Dark Tower series, and her memory is also a significant part of the Marvel prequels.
- The Virgin Suicides by Jeffrey Eugenides. Times seven.
- Deliciously parodied by Lemony Snicket in A Series of Unfortunate Events where Beatrice serves as this for the narrator.
- Annabell Leigh for Humbert Humbert in Lolita, complete with several references to the original poem. The reason H.H has his "tastes" is his relationship with her when he was a child and she was a child, which ended in the trope. He falls for Lolita because she looks so much like Annabell.
- Poke from Ender's Shadow falls under this category, albeit as a platonic love interest due to the characters' young ages.
- In Powers That Be, the first book of Anne McCaffrey's Petaybee series, the death of Yana's first husband is suggested to be the reason she joined the InterGal's military in the first place (which led to the injuries that led her to be shipped to Petaybee, the company's version of a desk job in a podunk town). Her growing feelings for Sean Shongili bring back memories of Husband #1.
- In Hideyuki Kikuchi's Invader Summer, the main character's abiding love for his deceased not-my-girlfriend is the only thing which keeps him from falling under the spell of the titular invader, unlike every other male who sees her.
- A Song of Ice and Fire:
- Lyanna Stark, mourned by her ex-betrothed Robert Baratheon.
- Joanna for Tywin Lannister. Her Death by Childbirth is one of the main reasons Tywin hates his son Tyrion so much.
- The titular character's deceased husband in Stephen King's Lisey's Story.
- Emily in Jodi Picault's The Pact.
- Barbara Hambly's Benjamin January novels feature Ayasha, the hero's wife, who died shortly before the beginning of the series. Eleven books and five years later, her (happily remarried) husband still mourns for her.
- Anno Dracula: Lucy Westenra for Dr Jack Seward.
- Anne Neville, the late wife of Richard III in the 21st Century. He does eventually end up Happily Married to mom and brilliant inventor Sarah Levine, but he's never fully over Anne. Sarah fortunately understands Richard's grief and does what she can to help him.
- The Hunger Games: Katniss' father for her mother, killed in a mining accident. Her mother's resulting BSOD meant that Katniss was forced to step up and become chief provider for the family.
- Arlova, Rubashov's former secretary in Darkness at Noon. Rubashov recalls her in a sisterly light, but the scent of her body lingers with him, as does the curve of her neck, which may have been where she was shot after he made her take the heat for him.
"You can do what you like with me," Arlova had said, and so he had done.
- Ankaa for Virgil in Within Ruin.
- Derek Harris' first wife Mary is this in Aunt Dimity and the Duke. The novel takes place over five years after her death from pneumonia, and the Duke's reference to the horrors of death by drowning triggers a flashback for Derek. He throws himself into his work, with young Peter covering for his absences and for the drunken housekeeper Derek unwittingly hired. Most of his character development involves his recovery and the budding romance between him and Emma Porter.
- According to Philippa Gregory's interpretation of events in The Constant Princess, Arthur was this to Catalina/Catherine of Aragon.
- Fiyero for Elphaba, after being killed by the Gale Force.
- Word of God is Glinda had feelings for Elphaba. After her death Glinda is portrayed quite distraught over Elphaba.
- Laura in American Gods. Twice as interesting because even though she appears as a intelligent quasi-zombie throughout the story, she still acts as a Lenore to Shadow.
- The Joe Leaphorn/Jim Chee series of Tony Hillerman has a mild example. Leaphorn's wife Emma dies of a surgical infection in one of the early books. They had been married for decades and Leaphorn never gets over it, thinking of her constantly.
- Capelo's wife in Probability Sun by Nancy Kress. His enormous rage over her death (killed as a civilian noncombatant by enemy aliens) drives Capelo's interest in the main plot, and directly drives an important plot twist.
- The Dresden Files:
- Harry becomes a gender-swapped version of this. After his death in Changes, Murphy utterly refuses to accept that he's gone. (Her Madness Mantra during this time is "They Never Found the Body...he's not dead, I can't believe he's dead.") She goes through life as normal, helping others and protecting Chicago's community from magical threats, but...something in her has just stopped. He comes back to life after six months or so, and Murphy is still depressed. It takes her a while to accept that Harry really is alive, because she doesn't want her hopes to get dashed again. He might also be this for Molly, but in her case, the reasons weren't exclusively romantic and they were never involved.
- In the first few books Harry is still affected by the betrayal and death of his first girlfriend, Elaine Malloroy as seen when Michael brings her up in the beginning of Grave Peril and Harry nearly bites his head off. Michael outright states that he was afraid that Harry wuold never open himself up to love ever again. Later revevaled that she did survive, but let him belive her dead and that her betrayal was due to mind control. Only by the time that happens Harry managed to get over it so that he could fall in love with Susan Rodriguez only for her to promptly become Lost Lenore number two by vampire infection. She survives but her partial transformation renders them unable to continue seeing each other, causing severe depression for years after As of Changes Harry is forced to personaly kill her in order to save their daugter, causing even more angst
- Ellen in Gone with the Wind, to everyone in her family, but mostly her husband Gerald. And Melanie at the end, to Ashley. Compounding his grief over her is the fact that Ashley never realized how much he loved Melanie and depended on her until it was too late.
- In Star Carrier: Earth Strike, Admiral Alexander Koenig's lover Admiral Karyn Mendelsson gets all of two scenes before being killed offscreen when the Turusch launch an extreme-range kinetic attack on several objects in the Sol System. For the next two books Koenig misses her so much that he keeps her image and personality as the avatar for his personal AI.
- In Jackie Collins ' Santangelo family series, Gino has a version of this. He falls for a woman named something similar to Lenore. She dumps him and he holds a torch for a while, then he falls for her daughter named Maria. They get married and have two children, then she ends up being murdered by his Mob rival, making her a Stuffed In The Fridge type of this trope.
- In Alonzo and Melissa, one of the all-time great forgotten cheesy novels, Melissa is this for about half the book.
- In Heart of Steel, the death of one Lauren MacKenzie hit a certain MIT grad and science nut so hard that he had a psychotic break, reinventing himself as a cyborg Mad Scientist named Alistair Mechanus, with no memories of his previous life. When said memories are unlocked late in the novel, the pain is still fresh, almost breaking him again.
- In How Sweet It Is by Melissa Brayden, Molly is still grieving for Cassie, her partner who died four years ago, when she begins to fall in love with Cassie's sister, Jordan. A huge plot point is when she makes the last of her regular visits to Cassie's grave and cries for her one last time so she can move on with Jordan.
- The Cornelius Chronicles: Jerry Cornelius' sister Catherine is a Dead Little Sister and Lost Lenore. She gets better. Sometimes.
Live Action TV
- Star Trek
- Star Trek: The Next Generation
- Tasha Yar for Data. He keeps a hologram of her in his quarters, which becomes a plot point, and becomes friends with her sister and is hurt when she betrays him. Also, he makes an enemy of her alternate timeline half-Romulan daughter, whose appearances serve to remind him of Tasha.
- Star Trek: Deep Space Nine
- Without Jennifer Sisko, the entire series wouldn't have unfolded the way it did. It led to Sisko accepting the post in the first place, him becoming the Emissary, him becoming so bound to Bajor, and his final fate at the end of the show.
- A partially successful example occurs with Tora Ziyal. It succeeded via her father's storyline. He had never been entirely sane and broke completely over the death. He ended up as the Big Bad, trying to bring about a Bajoran apocalypse. She was also supposed to be this trope for Garak as his driving inspiration for every future action he took against the Dominion. However, because the show refused to openly admit the impact of her death on Kira and Garak because it wanted to redeem her murderer, the fans only learned this fact through Word of God rather than the show itself.
- Star Trek: The Next Generation
- In Season Three of the BBC series Robin Hood Robin Hood may have got another love interest in the form of Kate but the final scene of the final episode affirmed Maid Marian's status as The One True Love.
- Spartacus: Blood and Sand:
- Sura in season one is almost the most classic example of this trope in a TV series since Shelly Webster in The Crow: Stairway to Heaven. Even before the titular hero knows for sure she's actually dead she appears in flashbacks and dream sequences, and after she dies in his arms. Spartacus does get another love interest, Mira but (1) she bears more than a passing resemblance to Sura and (2) it takes him a long time to reciprocate her interest. They spend a lot of Season 2 dancing around Spartacus' ongoing love and grief for his murdered wife, and after they finally do get properly together, Mira is killed too! Word of God has it that Spartacus probably will never be able to love again.
- Melitta is this both for her husband Oenemaeus and his friend Gannicus, who had been forced to have sex with her for a Roman noble's amusement (and ended up falling for her). The fact that she died while about to have sex with Gannicus complicated matters even further.
- Quintus becomes this for his wife Lucretia by Vengeance. Their ludus was massacred at the end of the first season and he died, while Lucretia survived. That and the death of her unborn child turns her into The Ophelia.
- The fact that he couldn't save his wife from a car wreck is what spurs David Banner to gamma experiments in The Incredible Hulk (the TV series).
- Kate for Neal in season 2 of White Collar.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer:
- Jenny Calendar for Giles. After her death, she's frequently mentioned and seen in flashbacks and dream sequences. Though Giles has other relationships, he never really seems to get over Jenny's death. Also, at different points in the series, both Drusilla and the First Evil use Jenny's form to manipulate and torture Giles and other Buffy characters.
- Spinoff Angel arguably has a slightly twisted version in its final season. The death of Fred soon after they got together sends Wes into an alcoholic, desperate spiral. And since Illyria takes Fred's form, he's forced to still be around her every day and be driven by that constant reminder of his grief, which culminates when Wesley asks her to turn into Fred as he's dying.
- Trudy in Monk.
- Supernatural has several:
- Mary for all the Winchesters. She's the motivation for much of the first two series and Zachariah tortures her soul ( or an artificial copy of her) because he knows it will upset Sam and Dean.
- Jessica is Sam's Lost Lenore. She appears as a hallucination and in his dreams. Lucifer wears her form the first time he talks to Sam, so that he'll be more convincing ( and possibly for the sake of fanservice ).
- Lucifer also tries a similar trick with his first vessel Nick, who had lost his wife in a violent crime.
- And Bobby has his wife, whose death he has never quite gotten over. It's the motivation for everything he's done and if Bobby is getting an episode in the spotlight, chances are fifty-fifty that his wife will appear at some point. Supernatural loves this trope.
- Inverted in a That Mitchell and Webb Look sketch involving a parody of the film Rebecca. The eponymous Rebecca arrives at her new husband's house only to find out he is obsessed with preserving everything in the house for his second wife.
- Male example—and doubly unique and interesting as he is the Lost Lenore to another male character—Brandon from Season One of The Wire, whose death continued to have ramifications through subsequent seasons.
- Patrick's wife counts in The Mentalist. Her murder by Red John is what fuels all his actions in the series after.
- Moray's wife in The Paradise. "It's forbidden to talk about her death".
- Doctor Who:
- It's implied that the Doctor might have at least one of these in his past (i.e., his unseen first wife).
- When the Twelfth Doctor's companion Clara Oswald is Killed Off for Real in "Face the Raven", his subsequent grief and rage—called out by one character and by the Doctor himself as reflecting more than simple friendship—severely affect his behavior in the final two episodes of Series 9 that follow, threatening to turn him into a Woobie, Destroyer of Time.
- Rose Tyler becomes a non-dead version of this to the Tenth Doctor when she falls into an alternate dimension, to the extent that he completely alienates his next companion as he spends the next season effectively moping over Rose.
- Anna Grant is this to Kerr Avon in Blake's 7.
- David for Ellen in Damages after season one.
- Another male example—in Warehouse13 Myka's former partner/lover Sam died on an assignment with her, and her belief that she could/should have saved him drives many of her actions in the series.
- Daniel's death is what prompts Sidney Bristow to become a double agent and kicks the plot in motion in Alias.
- Nikita's deceased fiancé, a civilian man named Daniel who was killed by Division after their romance was discovered. Daniel's murder was what led Nikita to go rogue and attempt to take down Division.
- Owen has his own example in Emily.
- Michael's wife and daughter are also killed with a similar effect. Realizing that it happened on the order of Division leads to his Heel–Face Turn.
- John might qualify for Olivia in Fringe.
- Two from Merlin: Freya, Merlin's Girl of the Week who dies in his arms and becomes the Lady of the Lake, and Queen Igraine, King Uther's wife and Arthur's mother. She's a Posthumous Character whose death is the result of a spell that allowed to her concieve, and who kick-started Uther's Roaring Rampage of Revenge against magical users, setting up the main conflict of the entire show (that Merlin has to keep his magical abilities a secret).
- Person of Interest:
- Jessica is this for Reese.
- Finch seems to be this with respect to his fiancee Grace—he's still alive, but because he faked his death (Or rather, made certain that nobody realized that he survived an assassination attempt aimed at the friend he was standing next to at the time), she doesn't know this.
- Once Upon a Time.
- Daniel, Regina's true love, becomes this after he is murdered by her own mother. This leads Regina down her path to darkness, seeking to take revenge for Daniel's death.
- Belle is also this for Rumplestilskin, who carries this on to his Mr. Gold persona. Subverted in that it turns out Belle isn't really dead and is eventually reunited with him.
- Once Upon a Time loves to use this trope for its villains. Captain Hook also has one in the form of Rumplestiltskin's wife, Milah.
- Subverted with Merlin and Nimue. We're told that the original Dark One murdered Merlin's lover Nimue. It turns out Nimue is the original Dark One.
- Claire Taylor, the late wife of Mac Taylor,who died on 9/11, in CSI: New York.
- Also Jessica Angell, Flack's girlfriend, after she was Killed Off for Real.
- Babylon 5:
- John Sheridan believes his wife Anna to be dead, and clearly feels pain and guilt over her loss.
- Also Adira to Londo Mollari, when her murder (which he attributes mistakenly to Lord Refa) pushes him completely into the designs of Morden and the Shadows, and to a stunning revenge plot against Refa. All of this was arguably pivotal to Londo's eventual fate in the story arc.
- Marcus for Susan, although she never admitted her feelings while he was alive.
- Carolyn ("Ship of Tears") to Bester—not quite dead, but no one as yet knew how to bring her out of her unusual less-than-alive state either. And supposedly this was the only person Bester was capable of actually loving, by his own words. His discovery that the Shadows reduced her to that state to prep her for fitting into a battlecrab's organic systems led him to some Enemy Mine cooperation with Sheridan against the Shadows.
- And per the book ''The Shadow Within'', Morden agreed to serve the Shadows when they revealed to him that his wife and daughter, lost in a transport explosion a few years earlier, were actually trapped alive in a bubble of hyperspace and suffering in perpetual isolation. They offered to release them to a merciful death in exchange for his services. We also see here and in The Passing of the Techno-Mages trilogy that the necklace Morden wears in the show was a special gift from his wife, who he still had feelings for.
- Isabelle to Galen. The Passing of the Techno-Mages trilogy reveals how Isabelle died and why Galen blames himself (he inadvertantly told Elizar how to defeat Isabelle's shield).
- Josette du Pres is this for Barnabas Collins on Dark Shadows. He even attempts to turn his other love interests into her.
- From Farscape, D'Argo's wife, Lo'laan. She's killed, he's framed for her murder and imprisoned. He spends much of the series trying to clear his name so he can return home and trying to find their son.
- The death of William Boone's wife in the Earth: Final Conflict pilot serves to drive Boone into the role of a double agent, protecting Da'an while working for La Résistance. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that she was killed when he refused Da'an's initial offer by claiming that he wants to spend more time with his wife. While Da'an's role in Boone's wife's murder is unclear at first, Zo'or blatantly states in the Season 2 opener that Da'an was the one who ordered her death.
- Dylan Hunt's fiancée in Andromeda, after he ends up trapped at the event horizon of a black hole for 300 years. He later tries to use Time Travel to take her with him but is told that only one person can be transported. He later finds out that she has lived a long and happy life and meets her descendants on Tarazed.
- Lost: Charlotte could be this for Faraday. He is smitten with her, and then she dies. Her death makes Faraday question his entire belief system about the ability to change the past, resulting in him deciding to detonate a hydrogen bomb over a pocket of electromagnetic energy, hoping it will change things. This ultimately leads to his own death, and also forms the major narrative of the finale as Jack attempts to continue his plans.
- Downton Abbey:
- Lavinia Swire was supposed to marry Matthew Crawley (the heir to an Earldom) but died of the Spanish Flu right before their wedding. He got over her death quite quickly because Lady Mary was his one true love.
- Lady Sybil Branson née Crawley is deeply mourned by her husband.
- In Series 4, Matthew dies and is mourned by Lady Mary; a major arc that series is getting her out of the shell she's imposed on herself since his death. It's implied that even by the end of the series, she hasn't quite gotten over his loss, but is out of her shell.
- In Charmed the sisters' grandfather Alan was this to grandmother Penny. He was killed by a warlock and the death caused Penny to fly into a blind rage and become a cold demon hunter. She also became incredibly bitter towards men, getting engaged five more times and marrying three of them.
- In Key West, the major elements of Gumbo's backstory are based around the loss of his wife, Cee Cee, to a sudden and unexpected illness. In "The Great Beyond," Gumbo finally realizes that he has to move on with his life despite still being desperately in love with his dead wife. But that's okay, because Cee Cee still loves him, and understands.
- Agent Gibbs in NCIS never has truly gotten over the murder of his first wife and the daughter the two had.
- In How I Met Your Mother:
- Turns out while Ted was searching for his true love, the Mother was having trouble letting go of her boyfriend Max who died in 2005 at the beginning of the series.
- In the end The Mother became this for Ted after dying from unspecified illness. The entire point of the show, talking to his kids about the events leading up to the meet, was his dealing with the grief and covertly asking their permission to date once more.
- Lori in The Walking Dead via Death by Childbirth.
- In Hercules: The Legendary Journeys Hercule's whole reason for fighting for justice is because Hera killed his wife Deianara, and their three kids.
- Invoked in Community, where Annie has Abed shoot a video of herself so that in the event of anything happening to her she can more effectively fulfill this trope for someone.
Annie: You know in movies where the hero's wife or girlfriend is dead or missing and so he sits in the dark and he watches her in a home movie.
Abed: Or a hologram.
Annie: Or hologram, and she's always beautiful and full of love almost to the point of being stupid? We're making footage of that for me in case I get kidnapped or murdered!
- Gender Inverted Example in Rejseholdet, where Ingrid's long-therm boyfriend, Søren, dies from a brain hemorrhage in the sixth episode. His death continues to have lingering effects on Ingrid's private life throughout the series.
- Captain America becomes this for his girlfriend Peggy in Agent Carter. Thought to have perished in the ocean, a major plot point of the first season has Peggy becoming a double agent to help his friend Howard Stark. Peggy even confesses that she did this just to get a second chance at keeping him safe.
- The death of Rebecca Merlyn is the ultimate cause of the events of the series. Malcolm Merlyn was never able to move on from her death, and in the process he joined the League of Assassins, alienated his son, and devised the Undertaking to destroy the Glades in a misguided attempt to avenge her death. Robert Queen, who opposed the plan, had his boat sabotaged, causing his son Oliver Queen to wash up on the island of Lian Yu and remain stranded there for five years, allowing him to learn and hone the skills that would make him the titular "Arrow" and oppose Malcolm.
- Shado's death and Oliver's role in it along with the Mirakuru driving him insane is what caused Slade Wilson to become an insane psychopath hell bent on destroying Oliver Queen's life.
- Country Music loves to tell stories about people pining for their lost loves; for extra drama, the lost love is often dead to insure that the narrator will never, ever have the resolution they want. In fact, it's a bit of a stock Twist Ending for songs in the genre to reveal that the object of the last three verses' obsession is gone forever. Consider Leann Rimes' "Probably Wouldn't Be this Way" or the Brad Paisley/Alison Kraus duet "Whiskey Lullaby". Of note is that both of the above examples have a woman pining over a man, presumably because it's more poignant to hear a feminine voice sing a dirge, as per the One-Woman Wail.
- In Ludo's rock opera Broken Bride, the main character is obsessed with turning back time to save his wife, who died in a car accident fifteen years before. He cuddles her old clothes, and was generally unhinged by it.
- My Dying Bride loves this trope, as you can probably tell by their name. This album has quite a few examples.
- Turned Up to Eleven and ultimately Played for Laughs by the folk ballad My Darling Clementine.
- "Terrible Things" by Mayday Parade is about a man telling his son how he fell in Love at First Sight with his wife, spent several years with her, and how she died of a illness when their son was young. It ends with the man begging his son not to ever fall in love or he could suffer similar pains.
- "Copacabana" by Barry Manilow is about a woman named Lola in the 1940s who worked at the titular bar with her lover Tony. One night Tony was shot by a mobster who was trying to seduce Lola. Thirty years later she still spends her nights at the bar, drinking and dressed in the same clothes she wore when Tony was alive.
Her name is Lola
She was a showgirl
But that was thirty years ago, when they used to have a show
Now it's a disco
But not for Lola
Still in the dress she used to wear
Faded feathers in her hair
She sits there so refined and drinks herself half blind
She lost her youth and she lost her Tony
Now she's lost her mind
- "The One You Really Love" from The Magnetic Fields' 69 Love Songs seems at first like it's just a case of the protagonist's love interest being into somebody else (enough that Skins could play the verse out of context for a similar situation). The second verse reveals it's actually that they're unable to move on from a dead lover. The last line of the song swaps out the title lyric for "the corpse you really love."
- Lucy Barker in Sweeney Todd: The Demon Barber of Fleet Street, Sweeney Tod's beloved wife. Except she isn't really dead. Mrs Lovett lied. And for much worse, Sweeney kills her without knowing it's her.
- Lily Craven in the musical adaptation of The Secret Garden, both to her husband Archibald, as in the novel, and to his brother Neville. They sing a duet called "Lily's Eyes" - now slightly Hilarious in Hindsight for obvious reasons.
- Manfred takes this trope Up to Eleven.
- In Strange Interlude, Nina can't get past Gordon, who is already dead when the play starts. She sleeps with wounded soldiers because she feels like she has to, after never getting to sleep with Gordon. Charles, for his part, is jealous of a dead man. Ned gets pretty much sick of hearing Nina talk endlessly about Gordon. When she has a baby out of wedlock with Ned years later, she names the baby Gordon.
- Roger's ex-girlfriend April in RENT is undoubtedly a Lost Lenore, as his entire angst over her suicide and reveal that they've got AIDS is what keeps him locked in the apartment for the better part of a year and prevents him from pursuing a proper relationship with Mimi. The film version even goes as far as including a happier home movie of Roger and April.
- Another Code: Sayoko Robbins' death and previous life is the driving force of both games.
- Bioshock Infinite—Lady Comstock, mourned both by her husband and the entire city. It's later revealed that she was killed by Comstock himself to preserve the secret that Elizabeth is not their child, framing nearby scullery maid Daisy Fitzroy in the process.
- This is the whole point of Dear Esther.
- In Ghost Trick, The suicide of Yomiel's fiancee Sissel is part of what drove him mad with isolation. He even named his cat after her.
- James's wife in Silent Hill 2.
- In Final Fantasy VII Aerith has a Lost Lenore in the form of Zack. The reason she joined Cloud's party to begin with is because Cloud (for one reason and another) is similar to Zack.
- Dracula's wives (Elisabetha back at the 11th century and Lisa in early 15th century). The guy is not really lucky in love.
- In Castlevania: Lords of Shadow, Gabriel's wife Marie plays a role almost identical to Mono's, albeit a bit more involved.
- Mono from Shadow of the Colossus. Bringing her back to life is the entire premise of the plot.
- Depending on the player's actions in Mass Effect, this ends up happening. Liara, in particular, is affected by Shepard's death—though her character development is partially a facade due to emotional trauma and survivor guilt.
- Mass Effect 3 can potentially add two more. If Kasumi was encouraged to keep her graybox and either the extended Destroy or Control endings are activated, she's shown to not be over Keiji at all, and in fact spends nearly all her free time reliving his memories. In the Citadel DLC, if Thane was romanced, Shepard can experience this herself through the use of paragon options during Kolyat's memorial service.
- David's wife Laura in the adventure game Gray Matter.
- In Fallout: New Vegas, one of your companions, Boone, recently lost his wife after she was captured by Slavers. He's haunted by his failure to protect her and by the fact that he killed her himself.
- Nicole in Dead Space and its sequel. It's a major plot point in both games.
- Tiffin Wrynn in World of Warcraft, who was killed by a brickbat. A rather ornate memorial is resurrected to her, and Varian spends significant amounts of screen time in lore angsting over her death or talking 'to' her about various things. In Wolfheart, he is shown still blaming himself for the death well over a decade later, and in the leader short story The Blood of Our Fathers, he is shown to carry around her locket as a form of Security Blanket.
- Serah from Final Fantasy XIII, though she has been crystallized instead of killed. It affects every main character, especially Snow and Lightning.
- A male example—Lord Rassler to Ashe from Final Fantasy XII. She keeps hallucinating that she sees his spirit following her around and it turns out the Occurria were exploiting this trope to manipulate her.
- Xenosaga has both male and female examples of this trope. Shion's Lost Lenore is Kevin, her boyfriend and the scientist originally in charge of the KOS-MOS project, while Jr.'s is Sakura, the Ill Girl whom MOMO was created to look like.
- Mary, as well, for chaos. Who is 'resurrected' not once, but twice, with KOS-MOS holding her soul, and T-Elos being made from her body.
- Xenoblade, Fiora is this to Shulk. Though she later comes back as a Hollywood Cyborg.
- In The Darkness 2, Jackie Estacado is haunted by eerily lifelike visions of his girlfriend Jenny, who died in the first Darkness game.
- Maria could be considered this to Shadow in Sonic Adventure 2.
- Subverted in DragonFable. The fact that Warlic and Xan's teenage rivalry led to the woman both of them were crushing on, Jaania, being imprisoned in a crystal is a major factor in both of their motivations (Xan in particularly wants revenge on Warlic for it). Then Jaania gets out, and she's so royally pissed at both of them that she freezes both them and the player character solid and goes on to become a Knight Templar.
- In Blue Tea Games' Cursery: The Crooked Man, The Crooked Man's fiancee had died before they could get married and he went insane with grief. While she has been reborn as the player character's sister, her spectre still haunts the areas where she lived and died until the Crooked Man triggered the sister's memories.
- Ke'ri is this to Lon'qu in Fire Emblem Awakening. It's made worse than the standard since she died in an Heroic Sacrifice to save him.
- Fire Emblem: The Sacred Stones has Monica for Orson, her husband. It's so much so he's willing to do a Face–Heel Turn to bring her back to life. Luckily, the player never sees the result.
- Halo: You would never expect to find this trope in a first-person shooter, but Halo 4 ends with the realization that there has been a romance brewing in this series since the first game, and Cortana becomes this for the Master Chief in the end. Then Halo 5: Guardians reveals that Cortana survived and has developed the desire to rule over the galaxy as a benevolent tyrant. Chief is as angry and heartbroken about this as a stoic killing machine can be.
- In the second Dark Parables game, the Frog Prince is immortal and eternally grieving for his lost brides, most particularly his first wife Ivy.
- Stella to Senel in Tales of Legendia. Senel is so hurt and hung-up on her death that this causes him to be completely oblivious to her sister Shirley's feelings and emotional turmoil and the enemy uses this to break her, among other things.
- Tales of Symphonia: Lloyd Irving's mother, Anna, for Kratos Aurion.
- Yuan Ka-fai's is also Martel.
- Subverted by Dragon Age with Varric and Bianca: in Dragon Age 2, It's told that Varric's crossbow Bianca, which he consistently talks about as if they're in a relationship, is named for the person who helped create it...and that Varric, a gregarious storyteller known for exaggerating or fabricating whatever he feels like, refuses to say any more about the story behind Bianca's creation. In Inquisition, the real Bianca is shown to be alive and well, and that she and Varric are still in communication somewhat regularly: she's just in an Arranged Marriage to someone else, so they can't be seen together. Or her family will send assassins.
- In CLANNAD, Nagisa is this for Tomoya.
- Godot from Phoenix Wright: Ace Attorney - Trials & Tribulations wakes up from a years-long coma to the belief that Mia Fey is this and that Phoenix Wright is the reason she is The Lost Lenore for him. He spends much of the game berating and insulting Phoenix as his way of dealing with it but by the end he sees her spirit in him and realizes that all the hatred he had been building up for Phoenix was misplaced.
- Super Dangan Ronpa 2 has Peko Pekoyama, the Ultimate Swordsman, who becomes this to Fuyuhiko Kuzuryuu, the Ultimate Yakuza though this is far more clear only if you make his free time events.
- When They Cry:
- Higurashi: When They Cry: Satoshi Houjou's disappearance (he disappeared a year prior to the story's events, and hence is believed by most to be dead) is the main drive for Shion Sonozaki—how this affects her changes arc by arc (it depends if she's subject to the local Hate Plague); she may throw herself into a Roaring Rampage of Revenge against those she sees as responsible (i.e. almost everyone she knows), or she'll devote herself to looking after Satoko, Satoshi's little sister. It should be noted, however, that Shion only seems to truly believe that he is dead during the arcs where she goes on her RROR (she believes her family killed him because of the prejudice against his family). In other arcs, she seems to hold at least a little hope that he will return (even if it is to reassure Satoko, who believes this as well). The final arc in Kai reveals that he is indeed alive, but in a coma. She decides I Will Wait for You.
- In the first half of Umineko: When They Cry, it appears Kinzō's desire to revive his dead mistress (Beatrice) pushed him to start a gruesome ceremony that involves sacrificing his own family (and more often than not, himself). And in the second half of the story it turns out Kinzō was dead more than a year before the start of the game. Actually the original Beatrice, Beatrice Castiglioni, died by giving birth to her and Kinzō's child. This drove him to despair, and he ended up raping their daughter as she grew up to look more and more like her mother. Said daughter gave birth to a child, and she too died shortly after. Kinzō then gave that Child by Rape to his daughter-in-law Natsuhi to raise because herself couldn't conceive an heir; since she already was very unstable, her response was to throw the baby off a cliff. Said baby survived miraculously but grew up broken physically and psychologically, to the point of developing multiple Split Personalities and planning a murder motivated by love and all the crap they went through. For Want of a Nail indeed.
- Inverted in Tower of God. Rachel didn't die, she tried to kill Baam seemingly nowhere and believes along with the rest of the cast to have succeeded.
- Jovia in Starslip
- In Gunnerkrigg Court, both Surma Stibnite and Jeanne are this, to a degree.
- Jeanne actually has her own Lenore; an unnamed elf whom she was divided from by the Court-Forest war. Even when he was alive, she was constantly longing for him and sending messages to the Forest. And when they both died as the result of a plot by the Court leaders (and Jeanne's jealous Stalker with a Crush), her grief and anger was so strong that she lived on as a ghost, dwelling for hundreds of years, at least, in the spot where she died, violently attacking anyone—good or evil—who came down there. Jeanne Used to Be a Sweet Kid, but her actions make it clear that she's just an Empty Shell now. There is nothing in her but sorrow and the desire for revenge. Unusually for the trope, she's an example whose sadness drove her to evil instead of stasis.
- In Decrypting Rita, Barrett-2's girlfriend Kim-2 committed suicide in Universe 2's backstory and Barrett has pined for her ever since. So much that when Kim-3 is thrown into Universe 2 by accident, Barrett-2 is overjoyed at her "return" and begins socializing with her at the expense of Rita-2.
- Reginald's wife in Doom House died before the story begins, which made Reginald very depressed.
- Allison from Red vs. Blue, whose death many years before the series begins arguably is indirectly responsible for everything that happens in it, as it royally screws up her boyfriend/husband, who goes on to become the Director of Project Freelancer, which proceeds to get deep into Crazyland. Mostly in the Director's efforts to get his beloved Allison back.
- From Noob, Tenshirock's wife / Judge Dead's mother. After her death, Tenshirock tried to bond with his son by being good at several activities they did together. However, the lens of Judge Dead's Inferiority Superiority Complex made it look like his father was just reminding him how much better he was, contrary to his mother that had always been supportive. One of the activities was playing the MMORPG in which the story is set, where Tenshirock at some point realized that his guild master had a mental condition heavily implied to have caused his wife's death. He eventually got his guild master to quit, which didn't go unnoticed since the guild master in question was Spectre, the game's Living Legend.
- Subverted in Alice Isn't Dead. Though the story begins In Medias Res, the Narrator spends portions of the second episode recounting how she had utterly convinced herself her suddenly vanished wife was dead, and was adjusting well with the help of grief support groups. It's the sight of Alice alive on TV that kick-starts the Narrator's new, life-defining quest, traveling the country as a long-haul trucker in the hopes of hunting Alice down and getting an explanation for The Conspiracy that prompted her disappearance.
- ''The Simpsons':
- Exaggerated in the episode "I'm Goin' to Praiseland". When Ned Flanders invites his date Rachel Jordan to stay at his house (to sleep in separate rooms, of course), she's skeeved out by all the photos of his late wife Maude, the Maude-shaped bedsheet indentation he preserves with sprayed starch, the robe he hands her, monogrammed with her name, and his calling her "Maude". None of which prepares her for her discovery, upon awakening the next morning, that Ned has cut her hair to resemble Maude's.
- In an adaptation of The Raven from the first "Treehouse of Horror", Marge filled this role.
- Yue to Sokka in Avatar: The Last Airbender. While he does get a new love interest (who he met before Yue), he also spends a lot of time thinking about Yue, even after he gets together with Suki. As shown by his reaction to Suki's teasing during the Ember Island Players's depiction of her Heroic Sacrifice. Doesn't help that the moon is brought up from time to time.
- In The Legend of Korra we have Hiroshi Sato's wife, who was murdered by firebending gangsters. Her death resulted in him secretly supporting the Equalists, supplying them with weapons to fight off benders.
- Nora Fries from Batman: The Animated Series, whose demise drove her husband Victor Fries to become the villainous Mr Freeze. This backstory proved so effective that was adopted as the official origin of Mr Freeze, making Nora a Canon Immigrant to The DCU.
- Razer's wife, Ilana from Green Lantern: The Animated Series. Her death was the reason he joined the Red Lanterns. Invoked by Atrocitus, who not only started the war on Razer's planet in hopes of creating some Red Lantern material, but murdered his wife to achieve precisely this effect, pushing him over the edge.
- Bill's ex-wife on King of the Hill is named Lenore, clearly trying to invoke this, but she's actually The One That Got Away. (Or rather, the most notable of many who got away.)
- In Regular Show, Skips had a lover named Mona who he used to skip with every day. When she died during a fight with a school bully, he vowed to always skip in her memory as well as changing his name from Walks to Skips.
- Steven Universe: Rose Quartz, the title character's mother, is this to both Greg Universe and Pearl. Her legacy is a constant presence in Steven's life (especially due to how she died) but Greg actually handles his grief quite well. Pearl, not as much.
- Ivanhoe: The King's Knight: "The Legend of the White Stag" fears Blanche Fleur to Harold Godwin, the latter of whom is not to be confused with main cast member Harold. Basically the story is that Harold and Blanche were in love, Blanche died from an illness and then his father Edward died from a falling tree that was struck by lightning putting Harold into such a state of grief that Harold could not remember who he was. The Lenore of this tale is Blanche, his father Edward is an entirely different trope however.
- Virginia Eliza Clemm Poe, the wife of Edgar Allan Poe and the inspiration for the various Lenore characters in his writings. She was his thirteen-year-old cousin whom he married when he was 27, although their marriage was (according to some biographers) never consummated. Poe was more interested in hearing himself talk than having sex. Nevertheless, when she died of tuberculosis at the age of twenty nine, Poe never quite got over it.
- An enigmatic individual by the name of "Sook" was allegedly this to Truman Capote. His last words were "It's me, Buddy." Apparently, "Buddy" was Sook's nickname for him.
- Theodore Roosevelt's first wife, Alice. On the date of her death, Roosevelt simply drew an X through the corresponding page of his diary, writing, "The light has gone out of my life." He seldom spoke of her for the rest of his life. Her death was why he disliked the nickname "Teddy," it being her pet name for him.
- Joe DiMaggio married Marilyn Monroe in 1954, but they divorced in the same year. They became close again in 1961, and it was rumored that they might remarry. When she died in 1962, he arranged her funeral and would send half a dozen roses to her grave 3 times a week for the next 20 years until his death. He never remarried or talked publicly about Marilyn or exploited their relationship, unlike others. When he died in 1999, his last words were "I'll finally get to see Marilyn."
- MMA fighter Denis Kang was on a 23-fight unbeaten streak when his girlfriend, fellow MMA fighter Shelby Walker, died of an apparent overdose. Since then, he has only won 7 of 16 bouts.
- In December 1972, shortly after he was first elected Senator of Delaware, Joe Biden's first wife Nielle and their daughter Naomi were killed in an auto accident, with their sons Beau and Hunter hospitalized too. Joe always takes the day off on the anniversary of the accident.
- King Henry VII of England felt this way toward his queen, Elizabeth of York. She died in 1503, and Henry went into seclusion following her death (on her 36th birthday, giving birth to a child who also died); for several days he would allow no one to come near him except his own mother. It's also worth noting that while their marriage was political, it was unusually happy, with no recorded instances of Henry even being suspected of adultery (unlike many kings of the era). After a time he did allow his courtiers to look for a new wife for him, but his description of what he wanted was almost identical to Elizabeth and, of course, no one could be found who came close. He died six years later, in 1509, having never remarried nor taken a mistress.
- Their son, Henry VIII, also experienced this. Although he did remarry three more times after her passing, he spent the rest of his life mourning his third wife Jane Seymour. She was the only wife of his to have died naturally while they were still married. She was also the only wife of his to give him the son he had always desired, Edward, and died giving birth to him.
- Clark Gable married five times throughout his life but he never stopped mourning for his third spouse and film costar, Carole Lombard, to whom he was very Happily Married before she died in a plane crash in 1942 alongside her mother and Gable's agent Otto Winkler.
- Queen Victoria put herself into deep mourning upon her consort Albert's death in 1861. It was customary for the bereaved to seclude themselves for a few months and for widows to wear black for two years. But Victoria wasn't even seen in public again for nearly two years afterward. She also wore black for the rest of her life. Even the contemporary British population, which had an unhealthy fascination with death, felt weirded out by her behavior.