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This is a trope about fictional portrayals of gay men's weddings, in which one of them will invariably be wearing a white tuxedo, and the other a black tuxedo. The reason for this trope is that a white tuxedo functions as a man's take on the bride's white dress. Sometimes, a Gender Flip will be seen in which two women marry and one of them, usually a Butch Lesbian, wears a black tuxedo, pantsuit, or skirt suit while the other, often a Lipstick Lesbian, wears a traditional wedding dress.

There's some Truth in Television to this, but many gay couples in Real Life avoid this simply by dressing the same or at least not following the black/white dynamic. But since there's no clear-cut image in the mainstream consciousness of what a gay wedding is supposed to look like, such couples arguably have more freedom than straights in picking and choosing which traditions to keep or discard. Contrary to popular belief, it's rare for a Camp Gay man to don a wedding dress at his wedding. Even if he's a Drag Queen, he'll most likely wear a suit since it's the actual person getting married and not the stage persona.


See also Masculine–Feminine Gay Couple, another trope in which same-sex couples play opposite-sex roles.


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    Anime & Manga 

    Comic Books 
  • Midnighter wore a white version of his costume when he married Apollo in The Authority. They also tend to be drawn in outfits like this in fanart, but with the colors reversed, since their uniforms are white and black.
  • Gender Inverted example in Alan Ford: when co-protagonist Minuette Macon temporarly divorces Alan to marry the Baroness Isolde Von Strascen note , the former wears a very feminine dress with a diadem, the Baroness is impeccably dressed in a groom's tuxedo.

    Films — Live-Action 
  • Strange variant in the The Rocky Horror Picture Show, when a wedding march plays and Rocky and Frank N. Furter walk off to Rocky's room together. Frank N. Furter is wearing female lingerie, and Rocky is wearing male.
  • In Baby Mama, a small child asks what a lesbian is and is told it's "a woman who wears pants to her wedding."
  • Brüno (2009): When Brüno winds up with his assistant, Lutz, at the end of the film, a photo of the two of them in white tuxes holding their adopted black son OJ, is hanging in their house.
  • I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry (pictured): Despite being the page image, this is actually a major subversion as the titular "grooms" (Adam Sandler and Kevin James, respectively) are both really heterosexual friends only posing as a married gay couple so that Larry's kids can be insurance beneficiaries due to a bizarre coverage policy.

    Live-Action TV 
  • Noah's Arc: In the movie, the tuxes are light gray.
  • Happy Endings: Eric wore one to his wedding with Derrick. Oddly enough, Derrick is by far the more effeminate, yet was wearing a conventional black suit.
  • Averted on Glee: Kurt and Blaine were both wearing white suits to Brittany and Santana's wedding since they were part of the wedding party. But when they last minute decide to get married and make it a double wedding, they both change into black (albeit different) tuxes.
  • Averted on Roseanne, where Scott and Leon both wear black suits for their wedding.
  • Gender Flipped on The Last Man on Earth. When Gail and Erica get married, Gail wears a black dress.

    Video Games 
  • Final Fantasy XIV allows players to marry each other in an Eternal Bond. Since two players of the same gender can be wed, they can choose whatever colors they want for their tux or dress.
  • In King of Prism: Prism Rush! LIVE, Louis and Shin have a wedding in one event. While the white/black motif was already present for the pair, Louis actually does one better by sporting a dress to the wedding.
  • Zig-zagged In Story of Seasons: Friends of Mineral Town. Both the female player character and their chosen bachelorette will wear white dresses in a gay/"Best Friend" wedding, but the male player character wears a white tux regardless of gender.

    Web Comics 
  • Averted, or maybe doubled, in Questionable Content, with the marriage of Henry and Maurice. Both grooms are in white.
  • Played With in Shortpacked!: Robin is the "groom" of her and Leslie's wedding, and wears what looks like a white tuxedo top with a skirt, seen in the last panel.
  • While Lisa wears a wedding dress when she and Ally get married in Sunstone, Ally opts for a very smart-looking white skirt-suit with white nylons and heels.

    Western Animation 
  • Inverted in South Park: Big Gay Al and Mr. Slave both wear dresses when they get married.
  • In The Simpsons, Patty nearly gets married in a suit, while her bride really a cross-dressing man wears a dress.
  • When Ruby and Sapphire get married in Steven Universe, the usual conventions are reversed: the more butch of the two is the one wearing the wedding dress, while the more feminine one wears the tuxedo. When they fuse after the wedding, Garnet wears a snazzy tux/dress combo.
  • Subverted in Voltron: Legendary Defender: Shiro and his newlywed husband Curtis both wear white tuxes at their wedding in the final scene.

    Real Life 


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