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  • Interestingly enough, the well-known song by The Bee Gees/Yvonne Elliman that shares this trope's title has this trope subverted. If she couldn't have him, she wouldn't stop him from pursuing others instead- but she'd keep herself from pursuing relationships with others instead.
    For dreams that never will come true
    Am I strong enough to see it through
    Go crazy is what I will do
    If I can't have you
    I don't want nobody baby
    If I can't have you, uh-huh!
    • Tony DiBart's 'The Real Thing' uses this trope as song lyrics in much the same way.
  • Dream Theater's concept album Metropolis Part II: Scenes from a Memory has this as an important part of the main plot. It's how Victoria died.
  • The Megadeth song "Loved to Deth": "If I can't have you, then no one will/And since I won't, I'll have to kill..."
  • The titular song from the James Bond film The World Is Not Enough. "If we can't have it all, then nobody will..."
  • The Beatles song Run For Your Life written by John Lennon: "I'd rather see you dead little girl, than to be with another man". It's actually a pretty upbeat country-rock song.
    • Those lyrics actually come from Elvis's "Baby, Let's Play House," which is also an upbeat country-rock song.
  • The song "Turn It On" by Franz Ferdinand invokes this trope by name.
  • Sonata Arctica's song Don't Say A Word is about a man who kills his wife/girlfriend after she leaves him.
  • Always by Saliva is about a man who shoots and murders his girlfriend over leaving him (or cheating on him, not sure which).
  • "Kim" by Eminem, anyone?
    • Also implied in "Stan"
  • Tom Jones' "Delilah", in which a man catches his girlfriend cheating, fatally stabs her, and pleads for her to forgive him. It's quite catchy.
  • The mothy song The Tailor of Enbizaka sung by the Vocaloid Megurine Luka has her pulling one of these when her lover is seen with at least three other women. The twist is that her "lover" doesn't even know her, and the other women were his family.
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  • Another Luka song, "Love Disease" by madaco, heavily implies that she murders her love interest at the very end, after having murdered the hypotenuse only to have said interest try to get away from her.
  • "The Phantom Opera Ghost" by Iced Earth.
  • "Siberian Kiss" by Glassjaw
    I've watched you whore yourself for one more thing
    Why don't you sell yourself for one more?
    There's always one more thing
    Why don't you sell yourself
    If I can't have you, NO ONE WILL!!!
  • "Goodnight Socialite" by The Brobecks includes this trope in the chorus.
  • "Pick up the Phone" by Falling in Reverse, which is about an abusive relationship from the perspective of the jealous boyfriend, features the line "I'll be damned if I see you with some other man; If I cannot have you then nobody can"
  • "Die With Me" by Obsidian Shell has two refrains, one starting with "die with me or fight for me," the other "mine. only mine." — Mad Lib Metal Lyrics in this case sounds appropriate.
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  • In the "Please Don't Leave Me" music video when her boyfriend tries to leave her P!nk exhibits Sanity Slippage and chases after her boyfriend with an axe.
  • "Tigerlily" by La Roux:
    Lurking in the dark, there's someone who breathes you night and day
    There's a friend who wants so much more
    And if they can't have you, they'll never let you walk away...
  • The Barenaked Ladies song "Straw Hat and Old Dirty Hank" is an intensely upbeat song about the devotion a farmer has to a lady who is special to him. He's actually a stalker, the lady is a singer, and he shows up at her house bearing "flowers and a twenty-two with shells."
  • "The Last Mistake" by Assemblage 23. "If I can't have you, then nobody can".
  • "Henry Lee" by Nick Cave and PJ Harvey: "Lie there, lie there, little Henry Lee, 'til the flesh drops from your bones. For the girl you have in that merry green land can wait forever for you to come home."
  • "I'll Sink Manhattan" by They Might Be Giants, in which the narrator kills not only his ex-lover, but everyone in Manhattan as well.
  • "Jealous Girl" by Lana Del Rey
    Think you should be my man
    No one's better than I am
    C'mon give it to me, bam
    If I can't have you baby, no one else in this world can
  • "Over You", an early hit by Aaron Neville, just comes out and says, "If you ever break up with me I'll murder you." Lyrical Dissonance may obscure this a little.
  • Jonathan Coulton's Skullcrusher Mountain has overtones of this trope, in a Mad Scientist kind of way.
  • Delain's "I Want You" starts out seeming like a typical unrequited-love song; it gradually becomes clear the narrator is a Stalker with a Crush and ends here, even including the trope name verbatim.
  • “Toy Soldiers” by Marianas Trench, which is about creepy fans who obsess over celebrities to the point where they genuinely believe this trope.
    One day you will learn to love me
    One day you will thank me, you'll see
    If I can't have you, no one can
  • The Willow Maid is about a young man who lusts after a dryad. When she rejects him, he chops down her tree and forces her to leave the forest, which predictably ends in her death.
  • "Macaulay McCulkin" by The Fall of Troy is a pretty disturbing example.
    I'll be waiting on the side of your house
    With an empty body bag
    And a loaded .45
  • Word for word in Natalia Kills's "I'm Watching You".
    No, no, no, this was not the plan,
    If I can't have you, then no one can.


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