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The last time I saw you, I said some very hurtful things. I regret my words[...] You were almost lost because of people who believed as I did. I thought I hated you. But even then, I never wished you harm. I simply did not know how to live with you. I allowed a lifetime of prejudice to cloud my judgement. That must change, I must change. I want you to know I accept you, Topa, exactly as you are. And I am proud to call you my daughter.
Klyden: The Orville: Midnight Blue

Bob finally has the courage to tell his parents something revelatory about himself that he's hidden from the family, and when he finally does, the response is mixed. While Bob's sister Alice and his father are fully supportive of him, his mother does not take the news well. Later on, while having a conversation with his father and sister, they tell him that his mother still loves him, but it's going to take some time to process.

An effect of Coming-Out Story, this trope doesn't necessarily restrict itself to that, as there are many instances of a character revealing something that their family doesn't react to well, Religion or a relationship are specific examples, like a former Christian coming out as an atheist, or a Jewish person dating a non-Jewish person.

Some instances of the trope will show the character being accepted, although those are rare instances.

Can happen after Disinherited Child or I Have No Son!. The inversion is Open-Minded Parent.


Examples:

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    Anime & Manga 

    Fan Works 
  • In the Laverne & Shirley Slash Fic, titled Forever Yours, Laverne comes out as bi to her dad and reveals that she's dating Shirley. Frank says that he will try to respect their relationship, but isn't too sure about his daughter being bi.
  • Bait and Switch (STO): "Trill: Disjoined" is a Coming-Out Story allegory told from the family's perspective. Eleana Valen's Trill mother is joined with a symbiont in an emergency, and Eleana has trouble coming to terms with her mother now having the memories and bits of the personalities of the symbiont's past hosts. It takes a bit for her to warm up to the fact that her mother is still mostly the same person and that they really can still love each other.

    Films — Animation 
  • Tarzan is a case where the child was never accepted from the get-go, as Tarzan was a human adopted into a family of apes. Kerchak, the head of the pack, was the least accepting, seeing him as a poor replacement for his own lost son, and living in fear that he could someday turn against the family. He comes to it in the end after Tarzan proves his mettle by saving the family from Evil Poachers, one of which shoots Kerchak fatally.
    Tarzan: Kerchak, forgive me...
    Kerchak: No. Forgive me, for not understanding that you have always been one of us.
  • In Turning Red, it takes some time for most of Mei's family to come to terms with her decision to keep her red panda spirit with her father accepting it almost immediately while her mother and female relatives take until the end of the third act to do so.

    Films — Live-Action 
  • The Big Sick: Kumail admits to his parents that not only is he an atheist, breaking from his family's Muslim upbringing, but he is also in a relationship with a white girl named Emily, going against his mother's wishes to arrange a marriage to a Pakistani girl. Both parents try to disown him, but he refuses to accept it. We see at the end Kumail's father giving him some home-cooked food and speaking to him before he leaves for New York, admitting it will take some time for them to process everything, while his mother refuses to acknowledge him from the car.
  • Cam: Alice is forced to reveal that she's a cam girl to her mother after they catch her brother's friends watching her videos. Her mom is furious, and it takes her a while to adjust to the idea (although it doesn't help that the neighbors graffitied her house). However, near the end of the movie, she comes to accept and even respect Alice's decision. She also does Alice's makeup and helps to disguise her identity when she returns to camming at the end.
  • In Little Women (2019), although she outwardly pretends to do so, Jo initially can't accept Amy and Laurie's relationship. She undergoes a slow defrosting to the idea once she admits to Marmee that she didn't actually want to marry Laurie, she was just lonely and afraid of becoming a spinster after Beth's death.
  • Lady Bird: Implied. Larry instantly agrees to help Lady Bird apply for expensive colleges on the East Coast, despite the financial burden which leads to him having to remortgage their house. Her mother Marion, on the other hand, is furious and barely speaks to Lady Bird for the rest of the movie, both for going behind her back and for being a Spoiled Brat. However, at the very end after dropping her off at the airport, Marion breaks down in tears and appears to accept Lady Bird's dream.
  • Towards the end of Happiest Season, after Harper reveals to her family that she's a lesbian and that Abby is really her girlfriend almost everyone rallies around her, however, her father Ted initially doesn't react well to her news until Tipper explains to Ted why Harper had kept quiet about her sexuality fearing his reaction. He eventually has a change of heart and accepts his daughter's relationship.
  • Prayers for Bobby features a particularly heartbreaking example. Mary is not accepting at all when her son Bobby comes out as gay, trying to 'cure' him. The movie is all about her learning to be more open-minded and she eventually accepts Bobby’s sexuality and becomes a supporter of gay rights, but it's only after Bobby commits suicide. Mary is horrified that she partly drove her son to this and it directly leads to her changing her views.

    Live-Action TV 
  • Brooklyn Nine-Nine: After Rosa comes out as bisexual to her parents, they both react badly. Her dad comes around a matter of days later but tells a disappointed Rosa that her mother needs longer to process it and not to visit for a while.
  • The Orville: Two episodes in the third season, "A Tale of Two Topas" and "Midnight Blue" deal with the young Moclan Topa transitioning back from male to female and the subsequent fallout, both with the Moclan empire and her father Klyden. After the transition, Klyden rejects and disowns her, leaving both her and his mate Bortus. Furthermore, her transitioning angers the Moclan empire as they threaten to leave the Planetary Union. After Topa is kidnapped during a survey of a female Moclan colony and taken to a black site to be tortured, she is rescued by her other father Bortus and Cmdr. Grayson. When she is presented to the Union council, the Union terminates the Moclan membership in the Union, and Klyden rushes to see her, admitting he was wrong and didn't know how to process her transition while accepting her and promising to change his views.
  • In Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Joyce eventually learns her teenage daughter is a Slayer near the end of Season 2. It's later revealed that Buffy had tried to tell her this a few years earlier, but Joyce and Buffy's father Hank thought she was mentally ill and sent her away for psychiatric treatment. When Joyce is forced to accept that it's all true she initially doesn't handle it well, telling Buffy that if she leaves to stop the Big Bad then she won't be welcome back. After Buffy runs away, Joyce regrets it and welcomes Buffy back with open arms, though she still takes a bit longer to come to terms with it ("Have you tried not being a Slayer?"). By Season 5 she more or less fully accepts it, though.
  • Fringe: Most of Season 4 focuses on Peter suddenly surfacing in the Amber timeline after vanishing from existence at the end of the previous season. The Amber universe counterparts of Olivia and Walter refuse to accept him as their own. Walter particularly is wracked with guilt over losing young Peter when they crossed universes and he fell into Reiden Lake. As a result he refuses to acknowledge Peter, believing him to be a punishment from God. Towards the end of the season however, Peter is visited by September the Observer, who affirms that this is Peter's timeline and Walter comes to accept him as his son again.
  • In the Pose episode "Mother's Day", Blanca tries to reconcile with her estranged biological family at her mother's funeral but is rejected, as they still believe that she is a mentally ill gay man, rather than a trans woman. In the end, her sister gifts her their mother's old recipe book and confides to her that their mother died regretting that she pushed Blanca away.
  • Subverted in an episode of Timeless where the team goes back in time to stop their boss Denise Christopher from entering into an Arranged Marriage instead of going on to Quantico. Their actions result in Denise coming out to her conservative mother much earlier than she did in the previous timeline. Whereas in the previous timeline, she was never able to reconcile with her mother because she came out so late, in the new timeline, they've had more time to patch up their differences, and thus still have a relationship.

    Theatre 
  • Fiddler on the Roof: As Tevye's daughters confess to wanting to marry unorthodox choices (Tzeitel to a poor tailor and Hodel to a Communist revolutionary), his will is tested but ultimately he agrees. When his third daughter Chava elopes with a non-Jew, Tevye loses his temper and disowns her. At the very end of the play, though, as all the Jews in town are forced to leave and likely never see each other again, Tevye reluctantly gives her and her husband a blessing.

    Video Games 
  • Dorian Pavus in Dragon Age: Inquisition is a gay nobleman and an only child from a nation whose aristocracy has turned eugenics into an art form, so his father Halward Pavus is extremely unhappy about his sexuality — so unhappy, in fact, that Dorian had to flee from Tevinter and freelance in the south for years after Halward attempted to rewrite Dorian's mind to make him straight via Blood Magic. Dorian's personal sidequest has the Inquisitor mediate a tense reunion between father and son, and if the Inquisitor encourages Dorian to see the confrontation through to the end, Pavus Sr. will end up accepting Dorian back into the estate. Either way, when he is murdered a few years later, Dorian ends up inheriting everything, either way, but his attitude towards it changes considerably depending on his final relationship with his dad.

    Western Animation 
  • Big Mouth: Matthew finally comes out to his devout religious mother after she finds his text exchange with his boyfriend Aidan. She responds by cutting him out of activities they used to do together including the church bake-off. After several fruitless attempts to try and persuade her to come around, Matthew tearfully comes out to his ex-military dad, who admits he knew, and reassures Matthew that his mother still loves him, and while it will take some time, will come around in her own way.
  • Drawn Together: Parodied in the Very Special Drawn Together Afterschool Special, with Captain Hero and Toot Braunstein roleplaying as Xandir's parents to help him come out to his parents. What appears as an overly dramatic skit involving Xandir's father (Toot) angrily disowning him for coming out leading to Xandir becoming a gay prostitute, among other things ultimately proves to be wholly unnecessary as his real parents respond with an "Uh DUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHH" when he comes out. Funny enough, Toot and Hero correctly predicted this would happen the first time.
  • Human Resources: One of the season-long arcs of Season 2 involves Maury and Connie's child Montel deciding they would rather become a Shame Wizard than continuing their parents' legacy as a Hormone Monster. Although Connie is a bit more open to the idea, albeit with significant reservations and obviously trying to change their mind, Maury is completely against the idea and furious that Montel idolizes Lionel instead of him. Towards the end of the season, Maury (and Connie) accepts Montel's decision after being caught in a compromising position with Lionel and finding out that Fuck University does not approve of Montel's judginess while they have sex with a Fuck U student, as well as being held hostage by the Hate department at the Anal Day party.
  • Family Guy: Played for Laughs in a cutaway gag. Lois recounts that her last date night dinner with Peter was at Outback Steakhouse, but "out" in a gay way. Cut to Lois and Peter about to hear the specials from their waiter, Scott, but he proceeds to say he's gay. Peter responds by angrily throwing down his menu and proclaiming that no waiter of his will be gay. Lois tries to reason with him, saying that he's the only waiter they have, but Peter refuses, insisting that their waiter is dead to them and they have to focus all attention on their hostess now. Lois reassures Scott that Peter needs a little time. Cut to an aged and dying Peter in a hospital bed with Scott at his bedside. Peter then says weakly, "Scott, I'm finally ready to hear the specials", with Scott smiling warmly.

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