In an unquestionably hierarchical situation — often with legally enforceable prerogatives — a junior argues with a senior.
The junior has very good odds of being right, since he is confident despite what his senior thinks, or says he thinks. The more diffident the junior is about making the objection, the more likely it is that he is right (and objecting out of the purest sense of duty). Sometimes the junior merely keeps his complaints to himself, and his displeasure is merely manifested non-verbally. The senior may have to order him to express his views — repeatedly; he may decline "with respect" the first time.
Conversely, may sometimes be used to show that the senior is about to engage in a reckless or not-by-the-books action.
The Bad Boss will view this with disfavor, even if he ordered it; a Benevolent Boss will take it as a sign of good spirits and sense in the subordinate. If he slaps it down and his superior is present, the odds are good that his superior will approve, and insist on it. This can lead to some interesting tensions afterward.
A common Military Trope. Fire Forged Friendship may lead to this; the junior having won the superior's respect in combat, the superior will listen.
The Old Retainer is prone to it, because criticism must be delivered properly. Other servants may also engage in it.
The Stock Phrase has variants, include "With respect" and "With all due respect." When followed by some slang or curse words, the result can be Sophisticated as Hell. Or, combined with an otherwise clean derogatory comment, it may be used to double as a Stealth Insult and/or Parenthetical Swearing, implying that the superior is in fact due no respect whatsoever, as shown in the page image.
Compare You Are in Command Now, where a junior may accidentally give a senior an order, and Friend or Foe, where the junior does not know whether the senior is who he claims to be. See also My Master, Right or Wrong where the junior's sense of ethics (or sometimes just his sense) constantly clashes with the senior's lack thereof, though he still follows. Often said by a despairing Commander Contrarian. See also Rebellious Rebel, where this may occur in the lead up to the rebellion.
Contrast Right in Front of Me. See also That's an Order.
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The first couple of episodes of Gundam Wing show that Relena is pretty good at this, or at least has had lots of practice. A variation occurs in the first episode, where she's backhandedly polite to an Alliance officer.
Officer: We have been waiting for you, Mr. Darlian. A military car is waiting for you outside. Please proceed quickly.
Darlian: Right away? That won't do. I have some things to take care of first for my daughter's birthday.
Officer: I have arranged for a separate car to take your daughter.
Relena:(curtsying) Don't trouble yourself about me. I'm quite capable of finding my own way home.
In Magical Record Lyrical Nanoha Force, Nanoha uses a variant of this on Hayate, who is a long-time friend, but while on duty, she addresses as she would any other superior. Nanoha says that Hayate getting herself stabbed and staying behind for a few minutes to relay orders was somewhat reckless, then bows and apologizes after making her point.
In the English dub of the first Fullmetal Alchemist anime, Riza responds to Roy's statement that State Alchemists do terrible things that make most of them not much better than Shao Tucker by saying "With respect," and indicating that his argument based on adult reasoning would be lost on Ed.
In the "Little Army" prequel manga, Miho, accompanied by her friends, asks her mother Shiho whether her sister Maho needed to shoot an enemy flag tank when it went to save a tank on her team. Shiho calls the question "foolish", says yes and sends Miho's friends home. On the way out, Emi complains about Shiho's attitude and Maho not saying anything, but then Kikuyo, a family maid who heard the entire conversation between Miho and Shiho, responds.
Kikuyo: "Girls... (bows to them) I beg of you, please don’t blame Lady Maho. The Nishizumi school is passed from mother to child. As the eldest daughter, Lady Maho is burdened with many things."
Jeanette: Blake, please inform our leader in the most polite and respectful of terms that I am not following his order.
Catman: Bane, Jeanette says to go *** yourself!
In the Iron Man annual while Tony Stark was running SHIELD; after Tony outlines his plan to depose the corrupt leader of Madripor, Maria Hill's response: "With all due respe— no, screw the pleasantries. Are you insane?"
Next - speaking with all submission and reverence - I do not purpose to let myself fall below the race of my ancestors, who from all time have been famous and illustrious, nor do I wish to debase the crown you wear by taking for a husband one who is our inferior. You, my beloved father, have begotten four daughters, of whom you have married three in the most honourable fashion to three mighty kings, giving with them great store of gold and wide domains, but you wish to dispose of me, who have ever been obedient to you and observant of your precepts, in an ignoble alliance. Wherefore I tell you, to end my speech, that I will never take a husband unless I can be mated, like my three sisters, to a king of a rank that is my due.
In the Star Trek fanfic Heroes, Spock takes exception to one of Surak's (aka "The Father of All That Vulcan Became") remarks about Kirk.
Surak: I deem it accurate to say I have seen more warriors in my time than you in yours; I recognize the thought patterns.
Spock: With respect, Surak...I knowmyCaptain's 'thought patterns' better than you could ever hope to.
"With all due respect, Chaplain Morteus, Michael would not want a rat's head nailed to the wall!" "Why does 'With all due respect' sound like 'frak you', Vincent?"
Lieutenant Philip Holtack, a British Army officer who via serious misadventure and a magical accident ends up on Terry Pratchett's Discworld, does this when confronted with the calibre of man who becomes a senior Army officer in Ankh-Morpork. Horrified that people like Lord Rust end up commanding regiments, but conditioned by the rank badges they wear, he speaks to them with a lot of "due respect". See Slipping Between Worlds.
it also happens to Holtack himself. His platoon sergeant "advises" note tells. him to get his personal weapon checked out by an armourer, on the grounds that he might then be able to just only miss the city walls by ten feet and thus improve his marksmanship. As both have just colluded in overlooking a (technical) act of actual bodily harm perpetrated on a Loyalist paramilitary by a private soldier, this is within the bounds of accepted conduct. The armoury sergeant also makes jovial comment about the young officer's inability to shoot straight. Holtack himself is also constructively obstructive to a very senior policeman investigating the assault on the Loyalist terrorist, sorry, upstanding representative of the Ulster Protestant community.
Played straight and lampshaded in The Last Samurai with Sgt. Zebulon Gant when Algren attempts to prevent his Heroic Sacrifice: "No disrespect intended, sir, but shove it up your ass!"
The Fugitive plays it mostly straight: the local Sheriff isn't "senior" to a career US Marshal, but they do have legal jurisdiction.
Deputy Marshal Samuel Gerard: Sheriff Rawlins, with all due respect, I'd like to suggest check points on a 15 mile radius out here on I-57, I-20 and on route 13 out of Chester...
In the 2009 Star Trek movie Kirk comes tearing onto the Bridge shouting for Captain Pike to get out of warp now because a giant Romulan spaceship from the future with a really pissed-off Captain is waiting to chew the fleet to pieces. He's right.
Another example from this film is how Young Spock salutes the Vulcan Council.
In Star Trek Into Darkness, when Spock orders the bridge crew to Abandon Ship as the badly-damaged Enterprise is about to fall out of orbit, Sulu answers, "All due respect, Commander, but we're not going anywhere." The True Companions status of the reboot Enterprise crew is hence confirmed.
Ricky: Yes it does! It's in the Geneva Convention! Look it up!
Used in Che Part One (a film about Che Guevera). When Che is visiting New York, he learns of a bomb threat against him. Che tells his personal security guard that he wants his guard to ride in a separate car (so his guard will be safe), but his guard says, "With all due respect, I should ride with you."
In Outbreak Colonel Daniels has this exchange with General McClintock while in a helicopter blocking a bomber from nuking a small town:
General McClintock: With all due respect, Colonel Daniels, if you do not follow us to Travis Air Force Base, I will blow you out of the sky. Daniels: General, with all due respect, fuck you, sir.
Eunice Bloom: "With all due respect"... man, I hate it when people say that because it is inevitably followed by a disrespectful remark. Here, let me give you an example: With all due respect detective, this matter falls under whatever jurisdiction I fuckin’ say it does.
Knox: Admiral, with all due respect, this is my boat.
Graham: Not anymore, "with all due respect".
Apollo 13, after one of the NASA guys says this could be the biggest disaster NASA's ever experierenced.
Gene Kranz: With all due respect, sir, I believe this is going to be our finest hour.
Thirteen Days. The Admiral gets into a heated argument over the "shots" he ordered fired at the Soviet ships with his civilian superior, Defense Secretary McNamara. The Admiral prefaces his argument with this, while clearly being condescending to him.
Prometheus, after the captain suggests to the pilots that they use the escape pods before their kamikaze run at the Engineers' ship.
"With all due respect, captain, you're a shit pilot and you're going to need all the help you can get."
In Dan Abnett's Gaunt's Ghosts novel His Last Command, Commissar Kanow tries to bludgeon into Junior Commissar Ludd that there is no need to investigate the story of certain "deserters and heretics", even though some of it could be corroborated; Ludd still demurs. Which is why Gaunt and his team take Kanow hostage and, when he cannot be reasoned with, get Ludd to contact their higher-ups.
In Blood Pact, when Maggs tries to persuade Gaunt to tell him more of what is going on, he offers "with enormous deference" that since he has Maggs and no one else it might be advisable.
In Graham McNeill's novel Storm of Iron, when Honsou speaks of their plan of attack, the Warsmith slaps him down, hard, for thinking himself worthy of making a suggestion and says he considers himself merciful for not punishing him.
On the Imperial side, when his aide suggests that Major Tedeski is exposing himself to danger, Tedeski points out they are not facing snipers and the artillery is too low.
In James Swallow's novel Faith & Fire, when Lethe asks a question, Dione draws in her breath; Miriya deduces that Dione does not let her squad speak without permission.
In William King's Grey Hunters, when Ragnar first meets the Wolf Lord Berek, he speaks his mind. This produces some approval and some disapproval from the other Space Marines there.
In Lee Lightner's Sons Of Fenris, Sebastian paces after they retreat. Jeremiah asks if he wishes to speak, and Sebastian says, "With respect, no," before admitting that he dislikes retreating.
In Wolf's Honor, Ragnar tells Grimnar that he should be sent to the battlefield and he'd rather die on it than live where they are. Grimnar calls his an arrogant pup, cuffs him, and says he couldn't have said it better himself.
In Dan Abnett's Horus Rising, Torgaddon is telling one of Eidolon's juniors Tarvitz how Eidolon's actions, blowing up certain trees, produced beneficial effects. One of Tarvitz's juniors, Bulle, requests permission to speak; Tarvitz tries to get him to keep quiet, but Torgaddon overrules him, and Bulle reveals that blowing up the trees had been Tarvitz's action, and Eidolon had rebuked him for it, until he realized what it had done. Torgaddon strictly informs his superiors that if Bulle is punished for this, he will punish them.
In Graham McNeill's False Gods, Petronella Vivar tells Horus that if he think he can bully her, he can go to hell — sir. (He had told her to call him "Horus".) He laughs, she is certain he will never appoint her as his remembrancer, and he appoints her on the spot.
The author was recycling an identical scene in his "Ambassador Chronicles".
In Dan Abnett's Legion, when Alpharius says they can not leave what they have sworn to do, Soneka objects that they do. When everyone looks at him, he is more diffident but points out that they act with relentless pragmatism about everything.
In James Swallow's Flight of the Eisenstein, while waiting on a crippled ship to see who the Imperial forces that found them were, the ship's captain checks what he is saying, and Garro urges him to speak: their experiences together should permit candor. Later, when Dornstrikes Garro for telling him of Horus's treachery, Qruze tells him he must hear him out. Dorn roars that Qruze ought to have been retired, and he dares give him an order. Qruze points out that he could have broken Garro's neck with the blow, and didn't; he knew Garro's words had value and wanted the complete truth. He listens to the rest. At the end he accuses Garro of insanity; Garro counter-accuses him of blindness.
Sir, without wishing to appear impertinent, are you sure that's the right choice?
Later, when Fulgrim comes to Ferrus Manus, one of Ferrus Manus's captains, Santar, complains of the arrogance of Fulgrim's legion, angering Ferrus Manus; he apologizes for speaking out of turn, and Ferrus Manus, no longer angry, tells him that he spoke from the heart, which is what he values him for.
In James Swallow's Blood Angels novel Red Fury, Brother-Sergeant Rafen interrupts two Chapter Masters who are obviously about to quarrel with the comment that "with respect" this was not the place.
In Dan Abnett's Brothers of the Snake, when Petrok is ordering Priad to prepare his squad, Priad starts to say "with respect" and Petrok explodes that Priad should show some respect. Then he apologizes, but he still insists on overriding Priad though he does explain why.
Later, Dak'ir orders Emek to tell him what he is thinking, despite his expressed desire to not appear insubordinate. When Emek reveals that soldiers are wondering whether Dak'ir was responsible for their captain's death, Dak'ir briefly considers punishing him — but he had asked him.
Inverted in C. S. Goto's Blood Ravens trilogy, when a Chaplain questions Gabriel's plan and Gabriel rages at him, the Chaplain asks for forgiveness, and Gabriel says there is no need to talk of forgiveness; he values the Chaplain's questions but must ask the Chaplain to trust him this time.
In Dorothy L. Sayers' Whose Body, a junior doctor takes it upon himself to say at the inquest that he thought the dead man might have lingered several days, although Sir Julian Freke says he died at once. The junior doctor is very diffident about it, but Lord Peter Wimsey points out that this is evidence: The young doctor had to be very certain to go against such an eminent authority.
This is doubly important because Dr. Freke was the murderer.
Also used in Going Postal, when Corrupt Corporate Executive Reacher Gilt uses the phrase three times over the course of telling the Patrician "We can do what we like and you can't stop us". The Patrician sardonically notes that such a great amount of respect is gratifying.
In The Last Continent, the University Bledlows (the porters and proctors, who in any time-honoured University heirarchy officially rank way below the dons) take delight in performing a loud, noisy, drill manoevre, with lots of BRIAN BLESSED-style shouting, right underneath the Bursar's bedroom window in the wee small hours. They get pointedly louder to drown out his fractious protests. Tradition is, after all, not to be complained at or interfered with.
Subverted in The Fifth Elephant; Commander Vimes, making a point about how orders are supposed to work, orders Detritus to shoot a man in cold blood. Detritus first hesitates, then refuses, then essentially tells Vimes the troll equivalent of "stick it up your ass"; he amends "With respect" to this last one. The subversion being that, because Vimes is a very good boss, Detritus actually does respect him, and he really only got away with saying something so offensive because he was proving Vimes' point.
In the Hand of Thrawn duology, Supreme Commander Pellaeon's Commander Contrarian tries to make him change his counterintuitive plans and uses this sort of phrasing, to Pellaeon's amusement.
"Trust me, Captain," Pellaeon said, trying hard not to smile as his mind suddenly flashed back ten years. Then, he'd been the earnest captain standing on this same deck, trying in the most diplomatic way possible to make his superior see sense in the middle of a tense combat situation. [...] And yet Thrawn had never reprimanded him for his impertinence and lack of understanding. He had merely continued calmly with his plans, allowing the results to speak for themselves.
It's a senior talking to a junior here, but something about how a general expresses his displeasure at Commander Wedge Antilles's plan echoes this trope.
Crespin: "After due consideration and review, I think it's a terrible idea."
In this case, however, Crespin really didn't have a say in the matter, as Admiral Ackbar, supreme commander of the New Republic military, had already approved Wedge's plan. Wedge did his best to get Crespin on board anyway, because antagonizing your base commander isn't helpful even if you are a special ops unit that works outside the regular chain of command.
In Edgar Rice Burroughs's Chessman of Mars, the jeddak O-Tar demands that his major-domo, E-Thas, tell him the rumors about him. E-Thas, with obvious reluctance, does so, with many claims that this is Malicious Slander and that he is only repeating what others are saying.
"I don't want to seem always to be criticizing your methods of voice production, Jeeves," I said, "but I must inform you that that 'Well, sir' of yours is in many respects fully as unpleasant as your 'Indeed, sir?' Like the latter, it seems to be tinged with a definite scepticism. It suggests a lack of faith in my vision. The impression I retain after hearing you shoot it at me a couple of times is that you consider me to be talking through the back of my neck, and that only a feudal sense of what is fitting restrains you from substituting for it the words 'Says you!'"
In the Warhammer 40,000 novel Cadian Blood, Seth, the sanctioned psyker of his Imperial Guard regiment, speaks up in a meeting with the Raven Guard to ask if he can consult with the Space Marine librarian about the Emperor's Tarot. Nearly gets shot by his commissar, but the Space Marines treat the request with utmost respect.
Inverted in C. S. Lewis's Prince Caspian, after a long debate in which Trumpkin maintains that sending someone to look for Peter, Susan, Edmund, and Lucy is foolish, but Caspian decides otherwise, Trumpkin volunteers to go, much to Caspian's surprise. He explains to Caspian that having given his advice, now he must take orders; he knows the difference.
In John C. Wright's The Golden Transcedence, Atkins gives his knife an order; it asks for a written, notarized copy. Atkins knows that the only reason it would do so would be to preserve that information for a court martial; no soldier would ask for such for a lawful order. He tells the knife of how his uncle taught him that good and evil, if real, are irrelevant; Might Makes Right. The knife asks for permission to speak frankly before pointing out that his uncle, by his own account, also lost and therefore was, by that logic, wrong.
In L. Jagi Lamplighter's Prospero's Daughter, Mab frequently starts off with "Begging your pardon." At the end, he says it to Prospero, and then withdraws it, not letting habit trump his new freedom.
A non-insulting version occurs in Harry Turtledove's The Guns of the South, where a Confederate private stops Robert E. Lee (who is the Confederate President) from entering a room by saying "With due respect sir, I should go first in case there are any traps." The narration even notes that he uses "the self-conscious tone all junior officers use when dressing down their superiors".
In Jack Campbell's The Lost Stars novel Tarnished Knight, in a discussion with Iceni, at one point Marphissa observes that she had just contradict a CEO to her face.
The enlisted men and sergeants in the McAuslan series are this to their officers. One private haggles with Lt. MacNeill over wages for off-duty employment; a batman lectures him about the state of his clothes (finishing with "Sir"); another private does a popular "court-jester" routine for his teeth-clenching commanding officer; and the pipe-band plays "Johnnie Cope" outside the subalterns' quarters at six-thirty in the morning. Also, the Colonel uses "controlled sarcasm" on The Brigadier.
In Evelyn Waugh's Scoop, the senior editor to newspaper proprietor Lord Copper is such a hopeless yes man that he can't quite bring himself to ever contradict his boss: instead of "No", he just says "Up to a point, Lord Copper."
A Local Habitation: Having sent Connor to fetch Quentin from a place where people are dying of mysterious causes, Sylvester changes his mind and tells Toby that she and Quentin, and Connor, are to stay put because the trip is not safe. With all due respect, Toby reminds him that people are dying here; it does not change his mind back.
Ashes Of Honor, Toby prefaces her comments "Not to be rude or anything." Riordan observes that always means rudeness will follow.
In John Hemry's Burden of Proof, when Paul asks Sharpe something after the fire, Sharpe, with due respect, tells him it might be relevant to the investigation, and so does not tell him.
In Artemis Fowl: The Atlantis Complex, Holly tells Foaly that the guidelines which suggest that in her situation she should retreat to a safe distance and construct a bivouac are "with respect... a pile of troll weevils." Foaly, who helped to write those guidelines, asks if she actually knows what respect means.
Seinfeld: When George Costanza criticized George Steinbrenner's decisions to his face, Costanza wound up working for the Yankees for a season.
George Steinbrenner: Nice to meet you.
George Costanza: Well, I wish I could say the same, but I must say, with all due respect, I find it very hard to see the logic behind some of the moves you have made with this fine organization. In the past twenty years, you have caused myself, and the city of New York, a good deal of distress as we have watched you take our beloved Yankees and reduced them to a laughingstock, all for the glorification of your massive ego.
George Steinbrenner: Hire this man!
In the new Battlestar Galactica, this is always prefaced by Starbuck asking for permission to speak plainly, since a subordinate is supposed to be quiet unless the superior says so. The one time Adama tells her no, the matter is not under discussion, she's amazed.
Mayor Laskov: With all due respect, sir, I don't think Colonel Smith's unorthodox strategies will be very effective in the face of a court martial. The A-Team will discover that the element of surprise is ours this time.
Ally: I mean, with all due respect, you sort of walk around with uppity breasts...and the hair flips aren't the most subtle...and your perfume! You could be flammable! Now what if somebody shut you down as a safety hazard. How would you feel then?
Karen: I know you're my superior, so I say this with all due respect. How stupid are you?
In an episode of Boston Legal, when Alan goes to Texas to appeal a man's execution. The lawyer who asked for his help warns him that if he feels the need to retaliate he should instead say "With all due respect, may it please the court." Naturally Alan ends up saying it after nearly every statement, and practically yelling it by the end of his talk, following a no-holds-barred verbal smackdown.
In True Blood, Erik actually does deliver the next line with a certain amount of respect, though the fact of the matter is he's saying, "That's not what you should do," in politer terms. To his queen. Leading to...
[while choking him] 'With all due respect'? Oh, I am due a lot more respect than that.
Later on, he shows her that the only reason he tolerated her antics was because he respected her position, even though he is at least twice her age. In the third season, he reserves the same kind of "respect" for King William Compton of Louisiana.
In The Dominators, the subordinate's fractious and violent nature leads to frequent insubordination, once prefixed with this.
Whenever this phrase comes out of Barbara Havers' mouth, it is a fairly reasonable bet that she doesn't mean a word of it. Should she actually mean it, it is then a fairly reasonable bet that shit just got serious.
On The Sopranos, Silvio pulls this with Tony when Tony seems willing to go to war with the New York mafia over his wayward cousin Tony Blundetto. Tony gives it right back to him:
Tony: All due respect, you got no fuckin' idea what it's like to be Number One. Every decision you make affects every facet of every other fuckin' thing. It's too much to deal with almost. And in the end you're completely alone with it all.
But in the end, he takes Silvio's advice.
In Community, Jeff Winger is unsurprisingly blunt in his usage of this trope when confronting Pierce's father: "With all due respect, I have zero respect for you."
He uses it on his own father in pretty much the exact same way: "With all due respect, which is none, go to hell."
Doc Bryan of Generation Kill does it after being prompted multiple times. Given how the relationship between grunts and command is generally portrayed in the series this becomes Crowning Moment Of Awesome.
Doc Bryan: Are you asking me to speak frankly, sir?
Encino Man: Yes, well...
Doc Bryan: Well, sir, it's just that you're incompetent, sir.
Sheldon: I can't believe [the new department head] fired me.
Leonard: Well, you did call him a glorified high school teacher whose last successful experiment was lighting his own farts.
Sheldon: In my defense, I did preface it by saying "with all due respect".
Happens several times in Horatio Hornblower. Sometimes it's really meant (when addressing good captain Pellew or similar), but at other times the implications are clear, especially in "Mutiny" and "Retribution" when the lieutenants had to deal with their crazy captain and weak First Lieutenant.
Mr Bush tried it quite politely when Captain Sawyer was berating Hornblower, quite unjustly when he should have been praised actually. However, when Sawyer barked at him, Bush tried to take it back as well as he could.
Hornblower wanted to settle an issue with his seaman Styles who was beaten nearly to death by Randall. By that time, Captain Sawyer was paranoid and unable to judge clearly. He told Hornblower that he was to squeamish and that he would lay no charges. When Hornblower pulls respect on him, Sawyer gets super-angry and even more suspicious.
Hornblower: With respect, Sir, I find...
Sawyer: Respect? What do you know of respect?
When they defeated Spaniards and tried to establish conditions, Buckland was all to eager to accept their demands on safe passage to Kingston and letting them have their ships.
Hornblower: With respect, Sir, I think we're selling ourselves short.
Buckland: What do you have in mind? Make off with their women?
Hornblower: I suggest we demand unconditional surrender.
When Acting Captain Buckland insists they blow up the fort, sending one of his subordinates to a suicide mission, Archie Kennedy asks him absolutely bluntly: "With respect, Sir, what's to be gained?"
Captain Hammond uses this respect Stock Phrase to challenge Commodore Pellew's when he accuse Buckland, quite correctly, of sending one of his officers to death. Captain Hammond is a bit of a Hanging Judge, but Buckland has made fool of himself already and he wants a different scapegoat.
The phrase occurs many times on JAG, which is not surprising given its military theme.
In "Gypsy Eyes", when Admiral Chegwidden learns that Harm and Mac are missing in Russia on Harm’s private quest to find his long lost father, the Secretary of the Navy forbids Chegwidden from going over there, to which the old Navy SEAL courteously replies.
Admiral Chegwidden: With all due respect, Mr. Secretary, you don’t want to try to stop me.
Supernatural. The Winchesters bind Death with a spell so he can kill Castiel for them.
On Murdoch Mysteries, when Inspector Brackenreid has a very unusual Mulder Moment and insists on seeing a Stock Ness Monster. Detective Murdoch suspects that Inspector's love of whisky might be responsible and hints at it "with all due respect". But Inspector knows bloody well what he saw.
An arc of Dilbert had the employees realize that if they insulted the boss after saying With Due Respect, he'd accept it as constructive criticism no matter what.
Pointy-Haired Boss: Alice - I've noticed a disturbing trend - the solution to the problem is always the last thing you try.
Alice: With all due respect, are you using your skull to store old rocks or what?!
In the very next strip, Alice relates this information to the others, and Wally takes advantage of it by asking "With all due respect, is that your face or is a monkey climbing down your neck backwards?"
And in another strip:
Dilbert: "I'd like permission to keep a plastic plant in my cubicle."
Cubicle Police:: "Permission denied! Plants attract bugs! If I can't tell it's fake how will the bugs be able to tell?"
Dilbert: "With all due respect, bugs are way smarter than you."
Cubicle Police: "Oh yeah? I'd like to see them do this job!"
Played with occasionally in Bill Mauldin's Willie and Joe. In one strip an officer is dating a sergeant's daughter; the sergeant announces, "And if she's not back by midnight, there'll be a baseball bat waiting ... Sir."
In Old Harry's Game, Scumspawn starts a sentence with "with respect" when protesting about being disintegrated, and Satan calls it "a meaningless form of words that people use just before they tell you you're talking bollocks". The Professor then says Satan is only disintegrating Scumspawn because he feels threatened by a demon growing as an individual, to which Satan replies "Well, with respect..."
Played straight and lampshaded in Mass Effect 1. Despite her own opinion of the line, Ashley uses it when asking Shepard about giving aliens free run of the Normandy (although she *is* interested in Shep's response).
The hilarious thing is that the page quote is when Ashley was arguing with a superior — Lt. Kaidan only prefaced his remarks with the 'all due respect' line because he's excessively polite.
Ashley will even tell Shepard 'with all due respect' at the beginning of the game (when talking to her on the Normandy prior to arriving on the Citadel) as a preface of telling them that they're selling themselves too short if Shepard has the War Hero background and tries to downplay their actions.
Even more humorously, the next time Commander Shepard confronts the Citadel Council, Shepard also uses the phrase "with all due respect" in what may very well be an intentional callback to Ashley's previous remark (or a bit of a Tear Jerker if Ashley was the one left behind on Virmire).
In Mass Effect 2, you can use this line on the quarian Admiralty Board.
In the Mass Effect 3 Extended Cut ending, Ashley drops a "with all due respect" on Shepard if she's part of the squad that get airlifted out by the Normandy.
In Ratchet & Clank, Dr. Nefarious' henchman Lawrence does this all the time, sometimes to the point of making subtle insults about how stupid Nefarious can act sometimes. (And Nefarious never gets the hint.)
Played for comedic effect in Company of Heroes. When ordering a Riflesquad to attack an enemy Tank, one of the responses is "With all due respect sir, are you high?".
Lampshaded, in the Halo level "Shut up and get behind me... Sir"
In World of Warcraft, Taoshi gives a statement like this during the "To the Skies" quest, after telling Jaina or Lor'thermar that the weapons of the Thunder King are "abominable" and should be destroyed. The respective faction leaders respond that the weapons will be destroyed once their faction has studied how the Mogu make their weapons.
Gao-Ran says this to Taran Zhu, leader of the Shado-Pan, when Taran suggests Gao-ran has "grown lax" in his defenses. Gao-ran says his men are overextended in the face of the Mantid attack and suggests withdrawing to the Serpent's Spine. Taran refuses, but has the player help Gao-ran out and promises reinforcements.
In the first level of Starcraft, one of your marines will say this before telling you that he doesn't think you know what you're doing, and promptly gives you a rundown on basic game mechanics.
Fallout 2: If you become Captain in Vault City, Sergeant Stark will ask for "permission to speak freely" and tell you that you don't deserve the job. Notably he'll say this even if you don't give him permission.
In one of Family Guy's many cutaway gags, Cap'n Crunch wants a mob boss to order a hit on a rival cereal mascot for spreading damn lies! My cereal does not cut kids' mouths! ...with respect.
In "Keep Calm and Flutter On" on My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic, Twilight Sparkle uses this on Princess Celestia when she brings Discord's statue to Ponyville and asks the mane six to reform him. And considering how highly Twilight thinks of Celestia, it really says something that Twi was willing to question her.
Twilight Sparkle: With all due respect, Princess Celestia, [shouts]HOW COULD YOU BRING DISCORD HERE?!?![clears throat] Your majesty.
Richard Feynman recounts how he got on the Manhattan Project. Having forgotten that he was talking to Niels Bohr, Feynman contradicted him. Bohr had him assigned because Feynman spoke his mind.
Truth in Television - the military tries to teach that good officers listen to what their subordinates are saying, especially since the American system is that officers are generalists while enlisted men are specialists. The way it's supposed to work is that once the subordinate or subordinates have finished giving information (and in the case of experienced subordinates speaking to inexperienced superiors, also advice), the officer in command then decides... but unless the situation is such that there's no time to talk about it, the senior is supposed to first listen, then act. Likewise, the junior is supposed to first offer whatever relevant information they have that their superior does not already possess, then shut up and do what they're ordered to.
Also applies at very senior levels — generals have staffs, which they are well advised to listen to before jumping to a conclusion, precisely because no one person can know everything. For that matter, you can generalize this to non-military senior management positions as well, although quite often it's entirely ignored by bad managers.
The US military teaches that when opinions are solicited the most junior officers go first, so that whatever opinions they give are not affected by knowing what their senior's position on the issue already is.
Done by Joschka Fischer, member of the German Green Party, in 1984. Fischer, then member of the German Bundestag, addressed Richard Stücklen, then vice president of the Bundestag, who had suspended a party member of Fischer's: "With respect, Mr. President, you are an asshole." Fischer later became one of Germany's most popular—if not beloved—politicians, and was Vice-Chancellor and Minister of Foreign Affairs under Gerhard Schröder (1998-2005).
In the US military today, this could be considered an apology before disagreeing with a superior officer or NCO, but does not eliminate anything that the person may say that would otherwise, be disrespectful, such as "With all due respect, you're a moron."
Additionally, respect is a two-way street. If the senior person breaches the boundaries of respect first, the subordinate may get away with the same breach of respect.
A good use of "with all due respect" is when a senior person gives an order that is not lawful by saying something like, "With all due respect, I can't do that," although a simple "No" would also work.
"With all due respect, in the most unparliamentary language, fuck you Deputy Stagg. Fuck you." - Green Deputy Paul Gogarty to Labour Emmet Stagg on the floor of the Irish parliament, 12/11/09
In July 2010 the FBI sent a letter to Wikipedia demanding the removal of the FBI logo from the page about the FBI. The Wikipedia response denying the demand was signed,"With all ''appropriate'' respect".
Excerpt of an old exchange from the 1980s between two small-town Brazilian politicians, registered in a judicial complaint: "...and if it happens to be convenient to you, Mr. Mayor, you could even go fuck yourself."
The famous British legal case of Arkell vs. Pressdram .Ltd:
Arkell's Legal Team: Our clients attitude to damages will be governed by the nature of your reply.
Pressdram's Legal Team: We acknowledge your letter of 29th April referring to Mr J. Arkell. We note that Mr Arkell's attitude to damages will be governed by the nature of our reply and would therefore be grateful if you would inform us what his attitude to damages would be, were he to learn that the nature of our reply is as follows: fuck off.
And ever since then "He gave the reply from Arkell v. Pressdram" (or some variant thereof) has been part of Private Eye's extensive thesaurus of euphemisms/ injokes.
And from the same debate, and in line with the C-Span Drinking Game under Literature, Biden's continuing referral to Ryan as "My friend here".
In the English courts, the more respect an advocate claims to show, the ruder they are being; "with respect to my learned friend" means "my opponent is mistaken", whereas "with the greatest respect to my learned friend" means "my opponent is an idiot".
Parodied by Bill Hicks, when he was talking about Ronald Reagan in one of his stand-ups: "Why don't you answer a question like a man, you fucking lying, B-actor, dickweed, Mr. President-sir, with all due respect."