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->''"Why is it that whenever someone says 'with all due respect', they really mean 'kiss my ass'?"''
-->-- '''Ashley Williams''', ''VideoGame/MassEffect1''

In an unquestionably hierarchical situation -- often with legally enforceable prerogatives -- a junior argues with a senior.

The junior has very good odds of being right, since he is confident despite what his senior thinks, or says he thinks. The more diffident the junior is about making the objection, the more likely it is that he is right (and objecting out of the purest sense of duty). Sometimes the junior merely keeps his complaints to himself, and his displeasure is merely manifested non-verbally. If the junior does voice his opinion, it will usually be prefaced by "With due respect" or some variant, like "With respect" or "With all due respect."

The BadBoss will view this with disfavor, even if he ordered it; a BenevolentBoss will take it as a sign of good spirits and sense in the subordinate. If he slaps it down and ''his'' superior is present, the odds are good that his superior will approve, and insist on it. This can lead to some interesting tensions afterward.

It's something of a RunningGag that this phrase, as noted by the page quote, is almost invariably the preface to an opinion [[ILied that isn't particularly respectful]]. The page image also contains an example of this trope being used as an insult in another way: ExactWords. (The speaker thinks you aren't due any respect from them.)

A common Military Trope. {{Fire Forged Friends}}hip may lead to this; the junior having won the superior's respect in combat, the superior will listen.

The OldRetainer is prone to it, because criticism must be delivered ''properly''. Other [[ServantTropes servants]] may also engage in it.

A more civilian version of this phrase is "No offense but...", again followed up with a dose of BrutalHonesty.

Compare YouAreInCommandNow, where a junior may accidentally give a senior an order, and FriendOrFoe, where the junior does not know whether the senior is who he claims to be. When followed by some slang or curse words, the result can be SophisticatedAsHell. See also MyMasterRightOrWrong where the junior's sense of ethics (or sometimes just his sense) constantly clashes with the senior's lack thereof, though he still follows. Often said by a despairing CommanderContrarian. See also RebelliousRebel, where this may occur in the lead up to the rebellion.

Contrast RightInFrontOfMe. See also ThatsAnOrder.
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[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
* The first couple of episodes of ''Anime/MobileSuitGundamWing'' show that [[RebelliousPrincess Relena]] is pretty good at this, or at least has had lots of practice. A variation occurs in the first episode, where she's backhandedly polite to an [[TheFederation Alliance]] officer.
-->'''Officer:''' We have been waiting for you, Mr. Darlian. A military car is waiting for you outside. Please proceed quickly.
-->'''Darlian:''' Right away? That won't do. I have some things to take care of first for my daughter's birthday.
-->'''Officer:''' I have arranged for a separate car to take your daughter.
-->'''Relena:''' ''(curtsying)'' Don't trouble yourself about me. I'm quite capable of finding my own way home.
* In MagicalRecordLyricalNanohaForce, Nanoha uses a variant of this on Hayate, who is a long-time friend, but while on duty, she addresses as she would any other superior. Nanoha says that Hayate [[spoiler:getting herself stabbed and staying behind for a few minutes to relay orders]] was somewhat reckless, then bows and apologizes after making her point.
* In the English dub of the first ''Anime/FullmetalAlchemist'' anime, Riza responds to Roy's statement that State Alchemists do terrible things that make most of them not much better than Shao Tucker by saying "With respect," and indicating that his argument based on adult reasoning would be lost on Ed.
** In ''Manga/FullMetalAlchemist: Brotherhood'', a pair of soldiers tell off Ed for acting immaturely, then immediately apologize because, technically speaking, Ed is a superior officer (as a State Alchemist, Ed automatically holds the rank of Major in the army, regardless of his age or experience).
* In ''Anime/GirlsUndPanzer'', Yukari does this when [[JerkAss Erika]] insults Miho.
-->'''Yukari'''': If I may say something, I don't think Miho-san's decision was incorrect in the match we had.
-->'''Erika''': [[ShutUpKirk I think someone needs to mind their own business.]]
-->'''Yukari''': ''(chastened)'' I'm sorry.
** In the "Little Army" prequel manga, Miho, accompanied by her friends, asks her mother Shiho whether her sister Maho needed to [[spoiler:shoot an enemy flag tank when it went to save a tank on her team]]. Shiho calls the question "foolish", says yes and sends Miho's friends home. On the way out, Emi complains about Shiho's attitude and Maho not saying anything, but then Kikuyo, a family maid who heard the entire conversation between Miho and Shiho, responds.
-->'''Kikuyo''': "Girls... ''(bows to them)'' I beg of you, please don’t blame Lady Maho. The Nishizumi school is passed from mother to child. As the eldest daughter, Lady Maho is burdened with many things."
* ''Manga/BlackLagoon''. Rock gives this trope to powerful Triad boss Chang, only to follow it up by SuddenlyShouting TheReasonYouSuckSpeech. Chang finds this ActuallyPrettyFunny, as no-one has dared speak to him that way in a while.
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[[folder:Comicbooks]]
* ''[[ComicBook/TwoThousandAD 2000 AD]]''
** This occurred in the first appearance of the Banzai Battalion:
--> "Why is it, sergeant, that whenever I hear 'With respect, sir', I know there's insubordination coming?"
** Harry Absalom, CowboyCop and OccultDetective, snaps at his superior "With all due disrespect..."
* ''SecretSix'' #19:
-->'''Jeanette''': Blake, please inform our leader in the most polite and respectful of terms that I am not following his order.
-->'''Catman''': Bane, Jeanette says to go **** yourself!
* In the IronMan annual while Tony Stark was running SHIELD; after Tony outlines his plan to depose the corrupt leader of Madripor, Maria Hill's response: "With all due respe-- no, screw the pleasantries. Are you '''insane?'''"
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[[folder:Fairy Tales]]
* In ''[[http://www.surlalunefairytales.com/facetiousnights/night4_fable1.html Costanza / Costanzo]]'', Costanza expresses her ChildMarriageVeto with this
-->''Next - speaking with all submission and reverence - I do not purpose to let myself fall below [[RoyalBlood the race of my ancestors]], who from all time have been famous and illustrious, nor do I wish to debase the crown you wear by taking for [[BlueBlood a husband one who is our inferior]]. You, my beloved father, have begotten four daughters, of whom you have married three in the most honourable fashion to three mighty kings, giving with them great store of gold and wide domains, but you wish to dispose of me, who have ever been obedient to you and observant of your precepts, in an ignoble alliance. Wherefore I tell you, to end my speech, that I will never take a husband unless I can be mated, like my three sisters, to a king of a rank that is my due.''
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[[folder:Fan Works]]
* ''Fanfic/AdviceAndTrust'': After [[BattleCouple Shinji and Asuka]] went against his orders as taking [[{{EldritchAbomination}} Bardiel]] down, Commander Gendo fired them. His sub-commander asked him if it was a good idea firing their two best pilots after a successful mission only because they disobeyed his orders and he believes his untested device can replace them. Gendo dismissively blew his concerns off. It turned out that they were well-founded.
* In the ''StarTrek'' fanfic ''FanFic/{{Heroes}}'', Spock takes exception to one of Surak's (aka "The Father of All That Vulcan Became") remarks about Kirk.
-->'''Surak''': I deem it accurate to say I have seen more warriors in my time than you in yours; I recognize the thought patterns.
-->'''Spock''': With respect, Surak...I [[MindMeld know]] [[PsychicLink my]] [[HeterosexualLifePartners Captain's]] 'thought patterns' better than you could ever hope to.
* ''Fanfic/OnceMoreWithFeeling'': In chapter 9 the cast has fown to a carrier to picking Asuka and [[HumongousMecha Unit 02]]. However the fleet's Admiral is complaining non-stopping about being turned into a cargo service and having to baby-sit a bunch of children. Finally [[BewareTheNiceOnes Shinji got fed up with it]]:
-->''“With the greatest of respect, Sir” he continued, “the twin of that toy you are transporting took out that Angel in sixty three seconds, with no civilian casualties, no military casualties and minimal collateral damage to the city it was fighting in. Us ‘kids’ have to pilot these things because there isn’t anyone else who can. While our classmates at school are worrying about who they’ll invite to the dance, we are wondering if tomorrow we’ll die as we’re ripped to pieces by something nuclear weapons barely slow down, knowing if we fail, out entire race is going to die. So, respectfully, I’d ask you to show some fucking respect”.''
* ''Fanfic/TheSecondTry'': After [[TheHero Shinji]] disobeyed orders when he fought [[{{Robeast}} Bardiel]], Gendo suspended him from duty for several weeks. [[ParentalSubstitute Misato]] tried to protest that such an action could prove fatal in case of another attack, but Gendo refused listening.
* ''Fanfic/ToyHammer'' [[http://www.fanfiction.net/s/5474237/12/40k_ToyHammer here]]
-->''"With all due respect, Chaplain Morteus, Michael would not want a rat's head nailed to the wall!"\\
"Why does 'With all due respect' sound like 'frak you', Vincent?"''
* Lieutenant Philip Holtack, a British Army officer who via serious misadventure and a magical accident ends up on Terry Pratchett's ''Discworld'', does this when confronted with the calibre of man who becomes a senior Army officer in Ankh-Morpork. Horrified that people like Lord Rust end up commanding regiments, but conditioned by the rank badges they wear, he speaks to them with ''a lot'' of "due respect". See ''[[http://www.fanfiction.net/s/6159511/3/Slipping-Between-Worlds Slipping Between Worlds]]''.
** it also happens to Holtack himself. His platoon sergeant "advises" [[note]] tells.[[/note]] him to get his personal weapon checked out by an armourer, on the grounds that he might then be able to just only miss the city walls by ten feet and thus ''improve'' his marksmanship. As both have just colluded in overlooking a (technical) act of actual bodily harm perpetrated on a Loyalist paramilitary by a private soldier, this is within the bounds of accepted conduct. The armoury sergeant also makes jovial comment about the young officer's inability to shoot straight. Holtack himself is also constructively obstructive to a very senior policeman investigating the assault on the Loyalist terrorist, sorry, ''[[TheTroubles upstanding representative of the Ulster Protestant community]]''.
* Used mildly in ''Fanfic/TheWrongReflection''. Kanril Eleya actually ''does'' respect Fleet Admiral [[Series/StarTrekTheNextGeneration William Riker]], she just views her reprimand for insubordination and disrespectful conduct to a superior officer as {{Unishment}}.
--> '''Eleya:''' Respectfully, sir, can you see me stuck behind a desk directing fleets or running a research office?\\
'''Riker:''' Mm, no, I can't.\\
'''Eleya:''' [[DeadpanSnarker Then I think I’ll survive. Sir.]]
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[[folder:Film]]
%%* Parodied in ''OfficeSpace''.
* Played straight and lampshaded in ''Film/TheLastSamurai'' with Sgt. Zebulon Gant when [[spoiler:Algren attempts to prevent his HeroicSacrifice]]: "No disrespect intended, sir, but shove it up your ass!"
* ''Film/TheFugitive'' plays it mostly straight: the local Sheriff isn't "senior" to a career US Marshal, but they do have legal jurisdiction.
-->'''Deputy Marshal Samuel Gerard''': ''Sheriff Rawlins, with all due respect, I'd like to suggest check points on a 15 mile radius out here on I-57, I-20 and on route 13 out of Chester...''
* In the 2009 ''Film/StarTrek'' movie Kirk comes tearing onto the Bridge shouting for Captain Pike to get out of warp ''now'' because a [[spoiler:giant Romulan spaceship from the future with a really pissed-off Captain]] is waiting to chew the fleet to pieces. He's right.
** Another example from this film is how Young Spock salutes the Vulcan Council.
** In ''Film/StarTrekIntoDarkness'', when Spock orders the bridge crew to AbandonShip as the badly-damaged Enterprise is about to fall out of orbit, Sulu answers, "All due respect, Commander, but we're not going anywhere." The TrueCompanions status of the reboot Enterprise crew is hence confirmed.
* This exchange from the original ''Film/TheFog'':
-->'''Kathy Williams''': Sandy, you're the only person I know who can make "Yes, Ma'am" sound like "screw you".
-->'''Sandy Fedel''': Yes, Ma'am.
* In ''Film/TalladegaNightsTheBalladOfRickyBobby':
-->'''Ricky''': With all due respect, I didn't know you underwent an experimental procedure to have your balls removed.
-->'''Dennit''': ...''excuse'' me?!
-->'''Ricky''': [[InvokedTrope I said "with all due respect".]]
-->'''Dennit''': [[LampshadeHanging That doesn't mean you get to say whatever you want to me.]]
-->'''Ricky''': Yes it does! It's in the Geneva Convention! Look it up!
* Used in ''Che Part One'' (a film about Che Guevera). When Che is visiting New York, he learns of a bomb threat against him. Che tells his personal security guard that he wants his guard to ride in a separate car (so his guard will be safe), but his guard says, "With all due respect, I should ride with you."
* In ''Film/{{Outbreak}}'' Colonel Daniels has this exchange with General [=McClintock=] while in a helicopter blocking a bomber from nuking a small town:
-->'''General [=McClintock=]:''' With all due respect, Colonel Daniels, if you do not follow us to Travis Air Force Base, I will blow you out of the sky. \\
'''Daniels:''' General, with all due respect, '''fuck you''', sir.
* Parodied in ''InTheLoop''.
-->'''Jamie''': Well if it isn't Humpty Numpty...
-->'''Simon''': What is this, surround bollocking?
-->'''Jamie''': With due respect, I hadn't finished. Well if it isn't Humpty Numpty, sitting on top of a collapsing wall like some clueless egg...cunt. Now I'm finished.
* Lampshaded in ''Film/TheBoondockSaintsIIAllSaintsDay''.
-->'''Eunice Bloom''': "With all due respect"... man, I hate it when people say that because it is inevitably followed by a disrespectful remark. Here, let me give you an example: With all due respect detective, this matter falls under whatever jurisdiction I [[PrecisionFStrike fuckin’]] say it does.
* From ''Film/{{Titanic 1997}}'':
-->'''Rose:''' You're crazy!
-->'''Jack:''' That's what everybody says but with all due respect, miss, I'm not the one hanging off the back of a ship here.
* Disregarded by Dodge in ''Film/DownPeriscope''.
-->'''Dodge:''' Since when did the rules ever apply to you?
-->'''Graham:''' Watch it! Don't you realise that you are addressing a superior officer?
-->'''Dodge:''' No, merely a higher ranking one.
** Invoked by the ''Orlando'''s CO, Commander Knox, when [[TyrantTakesTheHelm Admiral Graham assumes command of his sub.]]
--> '''Graham:''' The Admiral has the conn.
--> '''Knox:''' Admiral, with all due respect, this is my boat.
--> '''Graham:''' Not anymore, "with all due respect".
* ''Film/{{Apollo 13}}'', after one of the NASA guys says this could be the biggest disaster NASA's ever experierenced.
-->'''Gene Kranz:''' With all due respect, sir, I believe this is going to be our finest hour.
* ''Film/ThirteenDays''. The Admiral gets into a heated argument over the "shots" he ordered fired at the Soviet ships with his civilian superior, Defense Secretary [=McNamara=]. The Admiral prefaces his argument with this, while clearly being condescending to him.
* ''Film/{{Prometheus}}'', after the captain suggests to the pilots that they use the escape pods before their kamikaze run at the Engineers' ship.
-->"With all due respect, captain, you're a shit pilot and you're going to need all the help you can get."
* In ''Film/KingsmanTheSecretService'', Harry has apparently been trying to convince Arthur for years that the Kingsmen need to evolve with the times and not shut out good potential candidates just because they don’t hail from upper class families. When Arthur refuses to give him any ground, Harry gives Arthur a succinct, but polite piece of his mind.
* This exchange between Colonel Phillips and Steve Rogers in ''Film/CaptainAmericaTheFirstAvenger'', when Rogers showed the colonel the map he had copied from the Red Skull's Hydra headquarters:
-->'''Col. Phillips''': What do you say, Rogers? It's your map, you think you can wipe Hydra off of it?\\
'''Steve Rogers''': Yes, sir. I'll need a team.\\
'''Col. Phillips''': We're already putting together the best men.\\
'''Steve Rogers''': With all due respect, sir. So am I.
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[[folder:Literature]]
* TabletopGame/{{Warhammer 40000}} examples:
** In Creator/DanAbnett's Literature/GauntsGhosts novel ''His Last Command'', Commissar Kanow tries to bludgeon into Junior Commissar Ludd that there is no need to investigate the story of certain "deserters and heretics", even though some of it could be corroborated; Ludd still demurs. Which is why [[spoiler:Gaunt and his team take [[HostageSituation Kanow hostage]] and, when he [[IfIWantedYouDead cannot be reasoned with]], get Ludd to contact their higher-ups.]]
*** In ''Blood Pact'', when Maggs tries to persuade Gaunt to tell him more of what is going on, he offers "with enormous deference" that since he has Maggs and no one else it might be advisable.
** In Creator/GrahamMcNeill's novel ''Storm of Iron'', when Honsou speaks of their plan of attack, the Warsmith slaps him down, hard, for thinking himself worthy of making a suggestion and says he considers himself merciful for not punishing him.
*** On the Imperial side, when his aide suggests that Major Tedeski is exposing himself to danger, Tedeski points out they are not facing snipers and the artillery is too low.
** In Creator/JamesSwallow's novel ''Faith & Fire'', when Lethe asks a question, Dione draws in her breath; Miriya deduces that Dione does not let her squad speak without permission.
** SpaceWolf Examples:
*** In William King's ''Grey Hunters'', when Ragnar first meets the Wolf Lord Berek, he speaks his mind. This produces some approval and some disapproval from the other Space Marines there.
*** In Lee Lightner's ''Sons Of Fenris'', Sebastian paces after they retreat. Jeremiah asks if he wishes to speak, and Sebastian says, "With respect, no," before admitting that he dislikes retreating.
**** In ''Wolf's Honor'', Ragnar tells Grimnar that he should be sent to the battlefield and he'd rather die on it than live where they are. Grimnar calls his an arrogant pup, cuffs him, and says he couldn't have said it better himself.
** Literature/HorusHeresy examples:
*** In Creator/DanAbnett's ''Horus Rising'', Torgaddon is telling one of Eidolon's juniors Tarvitz how Eidolon's actions, blowing up certain trees, produced beneficial effects. One of Tarvitz's juniors, Bulle, requests permission to speak; Tarvitz [[ThinkNothingOfIt tries to get him to keep quiet]], but Torgaddon overrules him, and Bulle reveals that blowing up the trees had been Tarvitz's action, and Eidolon had rebuked him for it, until [[GloryHound he realized what it had done]]. Torgaddon strictly informs his superiors that if Bulle is punished for this, he will punish them.
*** In Creator/GrahamMcNeill's ''False Gods'', Petronella Vivar tells Horus that if he think he can bully her, he can go to hell -- sir. (He had [[FirstNameBasis told her to call him "Horus"]].) He laughs, she is certain he will never appoint her as his remembrancer, and he appoints her on the spot.
**** The author was recycling an identical scene in his "Ambassador Chronicles".
*** In Creator/DanAbnett's ''Legion'', when Alpharius says they can not leave what they have [[ThePromise sworn to do]], Soneka objects that they do. When everyone looks at him, he is more diffident but points out that they act with relentless pragmatism about everything.
*** In Creator/JamesSwallow's ''Flight of the Eisenstein'', while waiting on a crippled ship to see who the Imperial forces that found them were, the ship's captain checks what he is saying, and Garro urges him to speak: [[FireForgedFriends their experiences together]] should permit candor. Later, when [[spoiler:Dorn]] [[TalkToTheFist strikes]] Garro [[BearerOfBadNews for telling him of Horus's treachery]], Qruze tells him he must hear him out. [[spoiler:Dorn]] roars that Qruze ought to have been retired, and he ''dares'' give him an order. Qruze points out that he could have broken Garro's neck with the blow, and didn't; he knew Garro's words had value and wanted the complete truth. He listens to the rest. At the end he accuses Garro of insanity; Garro counter-accuses him of blindness.
*** In Creator/GrahamMcNeill's ''Fulgrim'', Caphen questions Solomon's orders.
---->''Sir, without wishing to appear impertinent, are you sure that's the right choice?''
**** Later, when Fulgrim comes to Ferrus Manus, one of Ferrus Manus's captains, Santar, complains of the arrogance of Fulgrim's legion, angering Ferrus Manus; he apologizes for speaking out of turn, and Ferrus Manus, no longer angry, tells him that he spoke from the heart, which is what he values him for.
** In Creator/JamesSwallow's Literature/BloodAngels novel ''Red Fury'', Brother-Sergeant Rafen interrupts two Chapter Masters who are obviously about to quarrel with the comment that "with respect" this was not the place.
** In Creator/DanAbnett's ''Literature/BrothersOfTheSnake'', when Petrok is ordering Priad to prepare his squad, Priad starts to say "with respect" and Petrok explodes that Priad should show some respect. Then he apologizes, but he still insists on overriding Priad though he does explain why.
** In Nick Kyme's TabletopGame/{{Warhammer 40000}} novel ''[[Literature/{{Salamanders}} Salamander]]'', when N'keln proposes returning for {{Revenge}}, Dak'ir says "with respect, sir" that the enemy would have left by now.
*** Later, Dak'ir orders Emek to tell him what he is thinking, despite his expressed desire to not appear insubordinate. When Emek reveals that soldiers are wondering whether Dak'ir was responsible for their captain's death, Dak'ir briefly considers punishing him -- but he had asked him.
** Inverted in C. S. Goto's BloodRavens trilogy, when a Chaplain questions Gabriel's plan and Gabriel rages at him, the Chaplain asks for forgiveness, and Gabriel says there is no need to talk of forgiveness; he values the Chaplain's questions but must ask the Chaplain to trust him this time.
* In Creator/DorothyLSayers' ''Whose Body'', a junior doctor takes it upon himself to say at the inquest that he thought the dead man might have lingered several days, although Sir Julian Freke says he died at once. The junior doctor is very diffident about it, but LordPeterWimsey points out that this is evidence: The young doctor had to be very certain to go against such an eminent authority.
** This is doubly important because [[spoiler:Dr. Freke was [[DetectiveMole the murderer]].]]
* Creator/TerryPratchett's Literature/{{Discworld}} story ''Discworld/TheLastHero'' ([[Quotes/WithDueRespect quote]]).
** Also used in ''Discworld/GoingPostal'', when CorruptCorporateExecutive Reacher Gilt uses the phrase ''three times'' over the course of telling the Patrician "We can do what we like and you can't stop us". The Patrician [[DeadpanSnarker sardonically]] notes that such a great amount of respect is gratifying.
** In ''Discworld/TheLastContinent'', the University Bledlows (the porters and proctors, who in any time-honoured University heirarchy officially rank ''way'' below the dons) take delight in performing a loud, noisy, drill manoevre, with lots of BRIAN BLESSED-style shouting, right underneath the Bursar's bedroom window in the wee small hours. They get pointedly louder to drown out his fractious protests. Tradition is, after all, not to be complained at or interfered with.
** Subverted in ''Discworld/TheFifthElephant''; Commander Vimes, making a point about how orders are supposed to work, orders Detritus to shoot a man in cold blood. Detritus first hesitates, then refuses, then essentially tells Vimes the troll equivalent of "stick it up your ass"; he amends "With respect" to this last one. The subversion being that, because Vimes is a very good boss, Detritus actually does respect him, and he really only got away with saying something so offensive because he was proving Vimes' point.
* ''AmericaTheBook'' uses the trope for a C-Span drinking game.
* {{Lampshaded}} in EndersGame, when a superior tells Graff to "please stop assuring me of how respectful you are whenever you're about to tell me that I'm an idiot."
* Characters in StarTrekNewFrontier are fond of mentioning how the least respectful things they hear are usually preceded by "With all due respect".
-->'''Jellico:''' Just once I'd like it if someone coupled the phrase 'with all due respect' with some sort of sentiment that was genuinely respectful.
* Made the subject of a joke in StarTrekVanguard by Captain Nassir and Commander Terrell:
-->"I assume that was said with all due respect?"
-->"Oh, absolutely, sir".
* In the HandOfThrawn duology, Supreme Commander Pellaeon's CommanderContrarian tries to make him change his counterintuitive plans and uses this sort of phrasing, to Pellaeon's amusement.
--> "Trust me, Captain," Pellaeon said, trying hard not to smile as his mind suddenly flashed back [[TheThrawnTrilogy ten years]]. Then, he'd been the earnest captain standing on this same deck, trying in the most diplomatic way possible to make his superior see sense in the middle of a tense combat situation. [...] And yet Thrawn [[ReasonableAuthorityFigure had never reprimanded him]] for his impertinence and lack of understanding. He had merely continued calmly with his plans, allowing the results to speak for themselves.
** It's a senior talking to a junior here, but something about how a general expresses his displeasure at [[XWingSeries Commander Wedge Antilles's]] plan echoes this trope.
--->'''Crespin''': "After due consideration and review, I think it's a terrible idea."
*** In this case, however, Crespin really didn't have a say in the matter, as Admiral Ackbar, supreme commander of the New Republic military, had already approved Wedge's plan. Wedge did his best to get Crespin on board anyway, because antagonizing your base commander isn't helpful even if you ''are'' a special ops unit that works outside the regular chain of command.
* In Creator/EdgarRiceBurroughs's ''[[Literature/JohnCarterOfMars Chessman of Mars]]'', the jeddak O-Tar demands that his major-domo, E-Thas, tell him the rumors about him. E-Thas, with obvious reluctance, does so, with many claims that this is MaliciousSlander and that he is only repeating what others are saying.
* From one of Creator/PGWodehouse's ''Literature/JeevesAndWooster'' books:
-->"I don't want to seem always to be criticizing your methods of voice production, Jeeves," I said, "but I must inform you that that 'Well, sir' of yours is in many respects fully as unpleasant as your 'Indeed, sir?' Like the latter, it seems to be tinged with a definite scepticism. It suggests a lack of faith in my vision. The impression I retain after hearing you shoot it at me a couple of times is that you consider me to be talking through the back of my neck, and that only a feudal sense of what is fitting restrains you from substituting for it the words 'Says you!'"
* In the ''TabletopGame/{{Warhammer 40000}}'' novel ''Cadian Blood'', Seth, the sanctioned psyker of his [[Characters/Warhammer40000ImperialGuard Imperial Guard]] regiment, speaks up in a meeting with the Raven Guard to ask if he can consult with the Space Marine librarian about [[TarotMotifs the Emperor's Tarot]]. Nearly gets shot by his commissar, but the Space Marines treat the request with utmost respect.
* Inverted in Creator/CSLewis's ''Literature/PrinceCaspian'', after a long debate in which Trumpkin maintains that sending someone to look for Peter, Susan, Edmund, and Lucy is foolish, but Caspian decides otherwise, [[SourSupporter Trumpkin volunteers to go]], much to Caspian's surprise. He explains to Caspian that having given his advice, now he must take orders; he knows the difference.
* In JohnCWright's ''[[Literature/TheGoldenOecumene The Golden Transcedence]]'', Atkins gives [[EmpathicWeapon his knife]] an order; it asks for a written, notarized copy. Atkins knows that the only reason it would do so would be to preserve that information for a court martial; no soldier would ask for such for a lawful order. He tells the knife of how his uncle taught him that good and evil, if real, are irrelevant; MightMakesRight. The knife asks for permission to speak frankly before pointing out that his uncle, by his own account, also ''lost'' and therefore was, by that logic, wrong.
* In Creator/TerryPratchett's ''Literature/OnlyYouCanSaveMankind'', the Naviagation Officer ends her objection with "With respect."
* The equivalent phrase, in multiple Creator/LarryNiven[=/=]Jerry Pournelle novels is "That turns out not to be the case", originating in the novel ''Literature/TheMoteInGodsEye'':
-->'''Renner''': Wrong!
-->'''Blaine''': The tactful way, the polite way to disagree with the Senator would be to say, 'That turns out not to be the case.'
-->'''Renner''': Hey, I like that. Anyway, the Senator's wrong.\\
\\
Later in the book, Renner disagrees with a higher authority, starting out by saying "That turns out not to be the case."
* In Creator/JackCampbell's ''[[Literature/TheLostFleet Courageous]]'', Captain Desjani uses this when Geary says he doesn't want to talk.
* In L. Jagi Lamplighter's ''ProsperosDaughter'', Mab frequently starts off with "Begging your pardon." [[spoiler:At the end, he says it to Prospero, and then withdraws it, not letting habit trump his new freedom.]]
* A non-insulting version occurs in Creator/HarryTurtledove's ''Literature/TheGunsOfTheSouth'', where a Confederate private stops Robert E. Lee (who is the Confederate President) from entering a room by saying "With due respect sir, I should go first in case there are any traps." The narration [[LampshadeHanging even notes]] that he uses "the self-conscious tone all junior officers use when dressing down their superiors".
* In Creator/JohnHemry's ''Literature/TheLostStars'' novel ''Tarnished Knight'', in a discussion with Iceni, at one point Marphissa observes that she had just contradict a CEO to her face.
* The enlisted men and sergeants in the McAuslan series are this to their officers. One private haggles with Lt. [=MacNeill=] over wages for off-duty employment; a batman lectures him about the state of his clothes (finishing with "Sir"); another private does a popular "court-jester" routine for his teeth-clenching commanding officer; and the pipe-band plays [[EverythingsLouderWithBagpipes "Johnnie Cope"]] outside the subalterns' quarters at six-thirty in the morning. Also, the [[ColonelBadass Colonel]] uses "controlled sarcasm" on TheBrigadier.
* In Creator/EvelynWaugh's ''Scoop'', the senior editor to [[CorruptCorporateExecutive newspaper proprietor Lord Copper]] is ''such'' a hopeless yes man that he can't quite bring himself to ever contradict his boss: instead of "No", he just says "Up to a point, Lord Copper."
* In JohnCWright's ''[[Literature/CountToTheEschaton The HermeticMillennia]]'', Menelaus, posing as a subordinate Chimara, argues with all due respect that his more stealthy plan is better.
* In Creator/SeananMcGuire's ''Literature/OctoberDaye'' novels
** ''A Local Habitation'': Having sent Connor to fetch Quentin from a place where people are dying of mysterious causes, Sylvester changes his mind and tells Toby that she and Quentin, and Connor, are to stay put because the trip is not safe. With all due respect, Toby reminds him that people are dying here; it does not change his mind back.
** ''Ashes Of Honor'', Toby prefaces her comments "Not to be rude or anything." Riordan observes that always means rudeness will follow.
* In Creator/JohnHemry's ''[[Literature/PaulSinclair Burden of Proof]]'', when Paul asks Sharpe something after the fire, Sharpe, with due respect, tells him it might be relevant to the investigation, and so does not tell him.
* In ''Literature/ArtemisFowl: The Atlantis Complex'', Holly tells Foaly that the guidelines which suggest that in her situation she should retreat to a safe distance and construct a bivouac are "with respect... a pile of troll weevils." Foaly, who helped to write those guidelines, asks if she actually knows what respect means.
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[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* ''Series/{{Seinfeld}}'': When George Costanza criticized George Steinbrenner's decisions to his face, Costanza wound up working for the Yankees for a season.
--> '''George Steinbrenner:''' Nice to meet you.
--> '''George Costanza:''' Well, I wish I could say the same, but I must say, with all due respect, I find it very hard to see the logic behind some of the moves you have made with this fine organization. In the past twenty years, you have caused myself, and the city of New York, a good deal of distress as we have watched you take our beloved Yankees and reduced them to a laughingstock, all for the glorification of your massive ego.
--> '''George Steinbrenner:''' Hire this man!
* In ''Series/BattlestarGalactica2003'', this is always prefaced by Starbuck asking for permission to speak plainly, since a subordinate is supposed to be quiet unless the superior says so. The one time Adama tells her no, the matter is not under discussion, she's amazed.
* ''[[Series/TwentyFour 24]]''
-->'''Jack Bauer''': ''With all due respect, Mr. President, sixteen hours ago your people were willing to hand me over for dead, and I did not hesitate.''
* ''Series/TheATeam''
-->'''Mayor Laskov''': ''With all due respect, sir, I don't think Colonel Smith's unorthodox strategies will be very effective in the face of a court martial. The A-Team will discover that the element of surprise is ours this time.''
* ''Series/{{Alias}}''
-->'''Michael Vaughn''': ''Jack, he just lost his wife. I mean, with all due respect, why are you fighting with me on this?''
* ''{{Series/CSI}}''
-->'''Greg Sanders''': ''Well, with all due respect, sir, it's not a baked potato.''
* ''Series/RedDwarf''
-->'''Lister''': ''With all due respect sir, what's in it for the cat?''
** Also:
-->'''Rimmer''': ''With respect, sir, you've got your head right up your big fat arse.''
* ''Series/StarTrekTheNextGeneration''
-->'''Commander William T. Riker''': ''With all due respect, sir - you need me. Particularly now.''
**
-->'''Lieutenant Worf''': ''With all due respect... '''BEGONE!''' Sir.''
* ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine''
** "Crossfire"
-->'''Odo''': With all due respect, Commander, you don't know me well enough to gauge my state of mind
-->''(a moment later)''
-->'''Worf''': With all ''due'' respect, I do not see how sitting in a chair, staring at a wall is going to help apprehend Shakaar's would-be assassin.
** "Bar Association"
-->'''Chief O'Brien''': With all due respect sir, we -- we weren't brawling.
** "Let He Who is Without Sin...," after Worf helps the New Essentials disable Risa's weather control system:
-->'''Dr. Bashir''': With all due respect, are out of your mind?!
* ''Series/StarTrekVoyager''
-->'''Captain Kathryn Janeway''': ''With all due respect, Dr. Frazier, you were one harmonious family bent on the violent assimilation of innocent cultures.''
** In "Year of Hell" Voyager is confronted by a [[BullyingADragon lightly-armed Krenim warship and its overly-officious captain]].
-->'''Krenim captain:''' Reverse course, or be destroyed!
-->'''Janeway:''' With all due respect, unless you’ve got [[CompensatingForSomething something a little bigger in your torpedo tubes]] I’m not turning around.
* It's used quite regularly in ''Series/StargateSG1''
** Including:
--->'''Daniel''': ''Sir, with all due respect, the good senator is an ass.''
** Tobin tries it unsuccessfully on a ''[[DidYouJustFlipOffCthulhu Prior]]'' in the tenth season.
** Jack manages to invert it in "Shades of Grey":
---> Well, with ''no'' due respect, General, that's just plain stupid.
** Carter uses it all the time when explaining why Jack and/or Daniel's plan ''du jour'' won't work.
--->'''Carter''': With all due respect, sir, [insert technobabble here].
* A variant on ''Series/StargateAtlantis'' when a heavily injured Sheppard wants to participate in a dangerous rescue mission:
-->'''Sheppard''': Colonel, I have more respect for you than any commanding officer I've ever had, but I'm getting on that Jumper, end of story. I'll surrender for court martial when I'm done.
* In ''YesMinister'', Humphrey is technically Hacker's junior but actually regards him as inferior and rather dull. As a result:
-->'''Humphrey''': ''And, with respect, Minister-''
-->'''Hacker''': ''Don't-don't use that filthy language to me, Humphrey.''
-->'''Humphrey''': ''Filthy language, Minister?''
-->'''Hacker''': ''I know what "with respect" means in your jargon. It means you're just about to imply that anything I'm about to suggest is beneath contempt.''
* ''ATouchOfFrost'':
-->'''Inspector Frost:''' ''With all due respect, sir...''
-->'''Superintendent Mullett:''' (butting in) ''There's no respect at all in your voice when you say that, did you know?''
* Posca the slave in ''Series/{{Rome}}'' when Mark Antony threatens to force Calpurnia to leave Rome:
-->'''Posca:''' With all respect, sir, but until the will is ratified I am bound to serve the Julii and I must request that you not forcibly remove my mistress. With all respect.
* ''AllyMcBeal'':
--> '''Ally''': I mean, with all due respect, you sort of walk around with uppity breasts...and the hair flips aren't the most subtle...and your perfume! You could be flammable! Now what if somebody shut you down as a safety hazard. How would you feel then?
--> '''Elaine''': ''That'' was with all due respect??
* ''Series/CornerGas'':
--> '''Karen''': I know you're my superior, so I say this with all due respect. ''How stupid are you?''
* In an episode of ''Series/BostonLegal'', when Alan goes to Texas to appeal a man's execution. The lawyer who asked for his help warns him that if he feels the need to retaliate he should instead say "With all due respect, may it please the court." Naturally Alan ends up saying it after nearly every statement, and practically yelling it by the end of his talk, following a no-holds-barred verbal smackdown.
* In ''Series/TrueBlood'', Erik actually does deliver the next line with a certain amount of respect, though the fact of the matter is he's saying, "That's not what you should do," in politer terms. To his queen. Leading to...
-->[while [[NeckLift choking]] him] '' 'With all due respect'? Oh, I am due a ''lot'' more respect than that.''
** Later on, he shows her that the only reason he tolerated her antics was because he respected her position, even though he is at least twice her age. In the third season, he reserves the same kind of "respect" for King William Compton of Louisiana.
* In ''Series/DoctorWho'' episode ''[[Recap/DoctorWhoS15E6TheInvasionOfTime The Invasion Of Time]]'', Borusa postfixes his comments with "I meant no disrespect."
** In ''[[Recap/DoctorWhoS6E1TheDominators The Dominators]]'', the subordinate's fractious and violent nature leads to frequent insubordination, once prefixed with this.
* Whenever this phrase comes out of [[TheInspectorLynleyMysteries Barbara Havers]]' mouth, it is a fairly reasonable bet that she doesn't mean a word of it. Should she ''actually'' mean it, it is then a fairly reasonable bet that shit just got serious.
* On ''Series/TheSopranos'', Silvio pulls this with Tony when Tony seems willing to go to war with the New York mafia over his wayward cousin Tony Blundetto. Tony gives it right back to him:
-->'''Tony''': All due respect, you got no fuckin' idea what it's like to be Number One. Every decision you make affects every facet of every other fuckin' thing. It's too much to deal with almost. And in the end you're completely alone with it all.
** But in the end, he [[spoiler: takes Silvio's advice.]]
* In ''Series/{{Community}}'', Jeff Winger is unsurprisingly blunt in his usage of this trope when confronting Pierce's father: "With all due respect, I have ''zero'' respect for you."
** He uses it on his own father in pretty much the exact same way: "With all due respect, which is none, go to hell."
* ''Series/{{House}}''
-->'''Taub''': With all due respect--\\
'''House''': None taken.
* Doc Bryan of GenerationKill does it after being prompted multiple times. Given how the relationship between grunts and command is generally portrayed in the series this becomes CrowningMomentOfAwesome.
-->'''Doc Bryan''': Are you asking me to speak frankly, sir?
-->'''Encino Man''': Yes, well...
-->'''Doc Bryan''': Well, sir, it's just that you're incompetent, sir.
-->'''Encino Man''': I'm doing the best I can.
-->'''Doc Bryan''': Sir, it's not good enough.
* Referred to in ''Series/TheBigBangTheory'' episode "The Luminous Fish Effect":
--> '''Sheldon:''' I can't believe [the new department head] fired me.
--> '''Leonard:''' Well, you did call him a glorified high school teacher whose last successful experiment was lighting his own farts.
--> '''Sheldon:''' In my defense, I did preface it by saying "with all due respect".
* Happens several times in ''Series/HoratioHornblower''. Sometimes it's really meant (when addressing good captain Pellew or similar), but at other times the implications are clear, especially in "Mutiny" and "Retribution" when the lieutenants had to deal with their [[InsaneAdmiral crazy captain]] and weak First Lieutenant.
** Mr. Bush tried it quite politely when Captain Sawyer was unjustly berating Hornblower when he should have been praised. However, when Sawyer barked at him, Bush tried to take it back as well as he could.
** Hornblower wanted to settle an issue with his seaman Styles who was beaten nearly to death by Randall. By that time, Captain Sawyer was paranoid and unable to judge clearly. He told Hornblower that he was too squeamish and that he would lay no charges. When Hornblower pulls ''respect'' on him, Sawyer gets super-angry and even more suspicious.
--->'''Hornblower:''' With respect, Sir, I find...
--->'''Sawyer:''' Respect? What do you know of respect?
** When they defeated some Spaniards, Buckland was all too eager to accept their demands: safe passage to Kingston and letting them keep their ships.
--->'''Hornblower:''' With ''respect'', Sir, I think we're selling ourselves short.
--->'''Buckland:''' What do you have in mind? Make off with their women?
--->'''Hornblower:''' I suggest we demand unconditional surrender.
** When Acting Captain Buckland insists they blow up the fort, sending one of his subordinates to a suicide mission, Archie Kennedy asks him absolutely bluntly: "With respect, Sir, what's to be gained?"
** Captain Hammond uses this respect Stock Phrase to challenge Commodore Pellew when he accuses Buckland, quite correctly, of sending one of his officers to death. Captain Hammond is a bit of a HangingJudge, but Buckland has made a fool of himself already and he wants a different scapegoat.
* The phrase occurs many times on ''Series/{{JAG}}'', which is not surprising given its military theme.
** In "Gypsy Eyes", when Admiral Chegwidden learns that Harm and Mac are missing in Russia on Harm’s private quest to find his long lost father, the Secretary of the Navy forbids Chegwidden from going over there, to which the old Navy SEAL courteously replies.
--->'''Admiral Chegwidden''': ''With all due respect'', Mr. Secretary, you don’t want to try to stop me.
* ''Series/{{Supernatural}}''. The Winchesters bind [[TheGrimReaper Death]] with a spell so he can kill [[spoiler:Castiel]] for them.
-->'''Death:''' Why should I?
-->'''Dean:''' Because...we said so and we're the boss of you. ([[DoNotTauntCthulhu Sam and Bobby look aghast at Dean]]). I mean, respectfully...
* On ''Series/MurdochMysteries'', when Inspector Brackenreid has a very unusual MulderMoment and insists on seeing a StockNessMonster. Detective Murdoch suspects that Inspector's love of whisky might be responsible and hints at it "with all due respect". But Inspector knows bloody well what he saw.
* Used throughout an episode of ''Series/TheWire'' entitled, naturally, "All Due Respect".
-->'''Barksdale crew member:''' Hey, yo, Omar. Yo, all due respect, but this right here, this a Barksdale joint, man.
-->'''Omar:''' [[SarcasmMode Do tell.]]
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[[folder:Newspaper Comics]]
* An arc of ''ComicStrip/{{Dilbert}}'' had the employees realize that if they insulted the boss after saying WithDueRespect, he'd accept it as constructive criticism no matter what.
--> '''PointyHairedBoss''': Alice - I've noticed a disturbing trend - the solution to the problem is always the ''last'' thing you try.
--> '''Alice''': With all due respect, are you using your skull to store old rocks or what?!
--> '''PointyHairedBoss''': It's a good thing you said "with all due respect".
** In the very next strip, Alice relates this information to the others, and Wally takes advantage of it by asking "With all due respect, is that your face or is a monkey climbing down your neck backwards?"
** And in another strip:
--> '''Dilbert:''' "I'd like permission to keep a plastic plant in my cubicle."
--> '''Cubicle Police:''': "Permission denied! Plants attract bugs! If I can't tell it's fake how will the bugs be able to tell?"
--> '''Dilbert:''' "With all due respect, bugs are way smarter than you."
--> '''Cubicle Police:''' "Oh yeah? I'd like to see them do this job!"
*** See the strips in question [[http://search.dilbert.com/comic/With%20All%20Due%20Respect here]].
* Played with occasionally in Bill Mauldin's ''Willie and Joe''. In one strip an officer is dating a sergeant's daughter; the sergeant announces, "And if she's not back by midnight, there'll be a baseball bat waiting ... Sir."

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[[folder:Radio]]
* In ''Radio/OldHarrysGame'', Scumspawn starts a sentence with "with respect" when protesting about being disintegrated, and Satan calls it "a meaningless form of words that people use just before they tell you you're talking bollocks". The Professor then says Satan is only disintegrating Scumspawn because he feels threatened by a demon growing as an individual, to which Satan replies "Well, with respect..."
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[[folder:Theater]]
* There's a song of this in ''TheRoarOfTheGreasepaintTheSmellOfTheCrowd'' called "With All Due Respect."
* In the Mrs. Hawking play series, the maidservant Mary Stone is the moral voice for most of the story, and it is seen as a big deal when she challenges her social betters on their fallacies and failings. Part of her character journey is overcoming her socialization to stay silent and invisible to speak out when she feels it's important.
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[[folder:Videogames]]
* Played straight ''and'' lampshaded in ''VideoGame/MassEffect1''. Despite her own opinion of the line, Ashley uses it when asking Shepard about giving aliens free run of the Normandy (although she *is* interested in Shep's response).
** The hilarious thing is that the page quote is when Ashley was arguing with a ''superior'' -- Lt. Kaidan only prefaced his remarks with the 'all due respect' line because he's excessively polite.
*** Ashley will even tell Shepard 'with all due respect' at the beginning of the game (when talking to her on the Normandy prior to arriving on the Citadel) as a preface of telling them that they're selling themselves too short if Shepard has the War Hero background and tries to downplay their actions.
** Even more humorously, the next time Commander Shepard confronts the Citadel Council, Shepard also uses the phrase "with all due respect" in what may very well be an intentional callback to Ashley's previous remark (or a bit of a TearJerker if [[spoiler: Ashley was the one left behind on Virmire]]).
** In ''VideoGame/MassEffect2'', you can use this line on the quarian Admiralty Board.
** In the ''VideoGame/MassEffect3'' Extended Cut ending, Ashley drops a "with all due respect" on Shepard if she's part of the squad that get airlifted out by the Normandy.
* In ''Franchise/RatchetAndClank'', Dr. Nefarious' henchman Lawrence does this all the time, sometimes to the point of making subtle insults about how stupid Nefarious can act sometimes. (And Nefarious never gets the hint.)
* When [[TheGoodCaptain Captain]] [[PettingZooPeople Saladin]] says this to [[EvilChancellor Abdul Alhazred]] in ''VideoGame/KingsQuestVI'', he very much means "If the [[DamselInDistress princess]] orders me, I will tear your throat out. Literally and gladly."
* Played for comedic effect in ''CompanyOfHeroes''. When ordering a Riflesquad to attack an enemy [[ImmuneToBullets Tank]], one of the responses is "With all due respect sir, are you high?".
* Lampshaded, in the Franchise/{{Halo}} level "Shut up and get behind me... Sir"
* In ''WorldOfWarcraft'', Taoshi gives a statement like this during the "To the Skies" quest, after telling Jaina or Lor'thermar that the weapons of the Thunder King are "abominable" and should be destroyed. The respective faction leaders respond that the weapons will be destroyed once their faction has studied how the Mogu make their weapons.
** Gao-Ran says this to Taran Zhu, leader of the Shado-Pan, when Taran suggests Gao-ran has "grown lax" in his defenses. Gao-ran says his men are overextended in the face of the Mantid attack and suggests withdrawing to the Serpent's Spine. Taran refuses, but has the player help Gao-ran out and promises reinforcements.
* In the first level of ''{{Starcraft}}'', one of your marines will say this before telling you that he doesn't think you know what you're doing, and promptly gives you a rundown on basic game mechanics.
* ''VideoGame/{{Fallout 2}}'': If you become Captain in Vault City, Sergeant Stark will ask for "permission to speak freely" and tell you that you don't deserve the job. Notably he'll say this even if you don't give him permission.
* Sequence 6 of ''VideoGame/MagicalGirlLyricalNanohaAsPortable'' has [[HypercompetentSidekick Stern the Destructor]] ordering [[DumbMuscle Levi the Slasher]] to propose an alliance with the heroes on their behalf since it's their best chance to defeat the [[WoobieDestroyerOfWorlds Unbreakable Dark]]. When her [[CardCarryingVillain Lord Dearche]], who hates the heroes with a deep passion, starts to voice her displeasure at Stern in the angriest way that she can for even suggesting that, Stern responds by telling her lord and king to "Please shut up, Dearche" in a completely calm and polite tone and manner.
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[[folder:Webcomics]]
* ''Webcomic/SchlockMercenary'' provides the page image, from [[http://www.schlockmercenary.com/d/20020815.html this strip.]]
* In TalesOfTheQuestor, when [[http://www.rhjunior.com/totq/00573.html trying to argue]] that a pollutant must be dealt with because it is not one isolated case.
* Webcomic/TheOrderOfTheStick: [[http://www.giantitp.com/comics/oots0467.html persuading Hinjo]] that he should leave, his city having already passed InItsHourOfNeed, even though "it isn't really my place to say."
** [[http://www.giantitp.com/comics/oots0487.html With all due respect, we have a system for deciding such things -- one presided over by ACTUAL beings of pure Law and Good]]
* ''{{Webcomic/Erfworld}}'': Duncan urges a new path on Queen Jillian
* ''Webcomic/{{Underling}}'': [[http://underlingcomic.com/page-sixty-six/ Lazarus admits to Ganesh, with all due respect, that if he were back home he would probably still argue that Ganesh does not exist.]]
* SkinHorse is pretty informal to begin with, but Tip [[http://skin-horse.com/2012/he-had-the/ resorts to this anyway]]:
-->'''Tip''': With respect, you can cram the regulations where the sun don't shine.
-->'''Sweetheart''': That's not actually respectful!
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[[folder:Web Original]]
* Played for Comedy (like everything) in WebVideo/{{Manwhores}} with the ever uncouth Randy: "I mean this with the greatest amount of respect for your girlfriend, but she was a bitch with a capital *unt."
* In ''WebVideo/IfTheEmperorHadATextToSpeechDevice'', Cato very blatantly wants to become Chapter Master as soon as possible. As the ''current'' Chapter Master Marneus Calgar promptly lampshades, he's effectively wishing Marneus to die at the earliest opportunity.
* The "Philosophers East vs. West" episode of ''WebVideo/EpicRapBattlesOfHistory'' has Sun Tzu, Confucius, and Laozi on one team - Sun Tzu employs a clever BatmanGambit to get the West team to bicker amongst themselves and gloats about the opportunity, then Laozi suddenly declares, [[IceCreamKoan "We must remember, a bowl is most useful when it is empty.]] Sun Tzu groans in frustration before retorting, "Laozi, I don't mean no disrespect[[note]]especially poignant here as one major component of the East Team's spiel is about how they respect their elders[[/note]], but you need to fill your bowl with some shit that makes some ''sense''!" Cue [[NotSoDifferent the East Team falling apart in squabbling of their own]].
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[[folder:Western Animation]]
* ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}''
-->'''Joey Mousepad''': With all due respect, Donbot, [[MakeItLookLikeAnAccident I don't think we should rely on an accident to happen]]. [[ComicallyMissingThePoint Let's kill him ourselves.]]
* ''Disney/{{Aladdin}}''
-->'''Iago''': With all due respect, [[BadIsGoodAndGoodIsBad Your Rottenness]], couldn't we just wait for a ''real'' storm?
* Spydor of ''WesternAnimation/CaptainSimianAndTheSpaceMonkeys'' takes this trope and runs with it. He often adds a "And I mean that with all due respect" after scathing or sarcastic comments.
** Which is a reference to the stand-up act of Spydor's voice actor, Dom Irrera.
* Used in an episode of TransformersAnimated with Optimus Prime to Ultra Magnus. In a variation, Sentinel Prime was not in the room, though Optimus was talking about him.
** Ditto with "But Sentinel-" "Is a glitch-head. All due respect."
* Played with on ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'' with "Permission to say that's crazy, sir." [[WhatHappenedToTheMouse He never does get permission...]]
* In one of ''WesternAnimation/FamilyGuy'''s many cutaway gags, Cap'n Crunch wants a mob boss to order a hit on a rival cereal mascot for spreading damn lies! My cereal does not cut kids' mouths! ...with respect.
* In "[[Recap/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagicS3E11KeepCalmAndFlutterOn Keep Calm and Flutter On]]" on ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic'', Twilight Sparkle uses this on Princess Celestia when she brings Discord's statue to Ponyville and asks the mane six to reform him. And considering how highly Twilight thinks of Celestia, it really says something that Twi was willing to question her.
-->'''Twilight Sparkle:''' With all due respect, Princess Celestia, ''[shouts]'' '''HOW COULD YOU BRING DISCORD HERE?!?!''' ''[clears throat]'' Your majesty.
* ''TheHairBearBunch'' hits it big as rock band Three Bear Night (episode "Closed Circuit TV") and Peevly wants to be their manager. But Peevly's spur-of-the-moment contract gives him 75% of the bears' take, which he then ups to 90%.
-->'''Hair:''' With all due respect, sir...we'd rather not sign that.\\
'''Peevly:''' Oh, yeah? You'd better sign or you'll give your next performance in the north woods!\\
'''Hair:''' Okay, okay! We'll sign!
* Col. Kit Coyote's sergeant on ''The Go-Go Gophers'' always says "Beggin' the colonel's pardon" when he questions the effectiveness of the Colonel's plans to get rid of the gophers.
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[[folder:Real Life]]
* RichardFeynman recounts how he got on the Manhattan Project. Having forgotten that he was talking to Niels Bohr, Feynman [[BrutalHonesty contradicted him]]. Bohr had him assigned because Feynman spoke his mind.
* TruthInTelevision - the military tries to teach that good officers listen to what their subordinates are saying, especially since the American system is that officers are generalists while enlisted men are specialists. The way it's supposed to work is that once the subordinate or subordinates have finished giving ''information'' (and in the case of experienced subordinates speaking to inexperienced superiors, also advice), the officer in command then ''decides''... but unless the situation is such that there's no time to talk about it, the senior is supposed to first listen, then act. Likewise, the junior is supposed to first offer whatever relevant information they have that their superior does not already possess, then shut up and do what they're ordered to.
** Also applies at very senior levels -- generals have staffs, which they are well advised to listen to before jumping to a conclusion, precisely because no one person can know everything. For that matter, you can generalize this to non-military senior management positions as well, although quite often it's entirely ignored by bad managers.
** The US military teaches that when opinions are solicited the most junior officers go first, so that whatever opinions they give are not affected by knowing what their senior's position on the issue already is.
*** That is the theory. In practice it means that if a junior officer comes up with the best idea, the CO etc can agree with him as though they had that idea, rather than be shown up by a later idea
* From the British military, the experienced sergeant not giving an order to a newly minted subaltern- "With all due respect sir, get yer fuckin' head down."
* Done by Joschka Fischer, member of the German Green Party, in 1984. Fischer, then member of the German Bundestag, addressed Richard Stücklen, then vice president of the Bundestag, who had suspended a party member of Fischer's: "With respect, Mr. President, you are an asshole." Fischer later became one of Germany's most popular--if not beloved--politicians, and was Vice-Chancellor and Minister of Foreign Affairs under [[TheChancellorsOfGermany Gerhard Schröder]] (1998-2005).
* In the US military today, this could be considered an apology before disagreeing with a superior officer or NCO, but does not eliminate anything that the person may say that would otherwise, be disrespectful, such as "With all due respect, you're a moron."
** Additionally, respect is a two-way street. If the senior person breaches the boundaries of respect first, the subordinate may get away with the same breach of respect.
** A good use of "with all due respect" is when a senior person gives an order that is not lawful by saying something like, "With all due respect, I can't do that," although a simple "No" would also work.
* "With all due respect, in the most unparliamentary language, fuck you Deputy Stagg. Fuck you." - Green Deputy Paul Gogarty to Labour Emmet Stagg on the floor of the Irish parliament, 12/11/09
* In July 2010 the FBI sent a letter to Wikipedia demanding the removal of the FBI logo from the page about the FBI. The Wikipedia response denying the demand was signed,[[http://graphics8.nytimes.com/packages/pdf/us/20100803-wiki-LetterToLarson.pdf "With all ''appropriate'' respect".]]
* Excerpt of an old exchange from the 1980s between two small-town Brazilian politicians, registered in a judicial complaint: "...and if it happens to be convenient to you, Mr. Mayor, you could even [[PrecisionFStrike go fuck yourself]]."
* The famous British legal case of Arkell vs. Pressdram .Ltd:
--->'''Arkell's Legal Team:''' Our clients attitude to damages will be governed by the nature of your reply.
--->'''Pressdram's Legal Team:''' We acknowledge your letter of 29th April referring to Mr J. Arkell. We note that Mr Arkell's attitude to damages will be governed by the nature of our reply and would therefore be grateful if you would inform us what his attitude to damages would be, were he to learn that the nature of our reply is as follows: fuck off.
** And ever since then "He gave the reply from Arkell v. Pressdram" (or some variant thereof) has been part of Private Eye's extensive thesaurus of euphemisms/ injokes.
* [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bx3YPWGA-Mw With all due respect, that's a bunch of malarkey.]]
** And from the same debate, and in line with the C-Span Drinking Game under Literature, Biden's continuing referral to Ryan as "My friend here".
* In the English courts, the more respect an advocate claims to show, the ruder they are being; "with respect to my learned friend" means "my opponent is mistaken", whereas "with the greatest respect to my learned friend" means "my opponent is an idiot".
** This happens somewhat frequently in Canadian courts, too.
* Parodied by Creator/BillHicks, when he was talking about RonaldReagan in one of his stand-ups: "Why don't you answer a question like a man, you fucking lying, B-actor, dickweed, Mr. President-sir, with all due respect."
* [[http://www.salon.com/2014/02/21/stephen_colbert_to_bill_oreilly_with_all_due_respect_youre_an_idiot/ Bill O’Reilly is angry with Stephen Colbert for mocking his efforts to auction off handwritten notes from his pre-Super Bowl interview with President Obama. This is because, after O’Reilly announced the auction of the “historic” item, Colbert responded by auctioning off a microwave once used by the magnanimous O’Reilly himself. The feud has resulted in “a huge misunderstanding between me and my Broadcast life partner,” Colbert explained:]]
--> ''Bill did not see this as an homage, I wasn’t mocking you, I was celebrating you! Bill, with all due respect, you’re an idiot.''
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