Absent-Minded Professor: In "Who Am I?", Ray and Debra attend a lecture, where the professor appears oblivious to the fact that he's putting Ray to sleep as he drones on in a monotone voice.
Abusive Parents: In "It's Supposed To Be Funny", Ray says his joke about Jeffrey was nothing, that he used to get worse as a kid. One time, he was combing his hair in the hallway mirror and Frank walked by and told him, "Bad haircut, I can still see your face."
Debra: How did that make you feel? Ray: What? Nothing. I knew that he was joking. (Debra doesn't buy it) All right. I felt bad for a moment, but then I forgot about it. Debra: Until now?? Ray: Listen, what I did wasn't like that. All I really did was tell a little joke. Debra: Like your dad. You know, you've told me that haircut story before. (Ray realizes he's following in Frank's footsteps and feels bad)
Accentuate the Negative: One episode, "Recovering Pessimist", revolved around Ray's inability to look at the positives, even after winning a prestigious writing award. The episode reveals the obvious: that he learned this behavior from Frank and Marie.
Gerard is perhaps even more this trope than Ray; he can't even accept a compliment without finding a negative way to spin it.
Accidental Misnaming: Lee keeps calling Debra "Donna". Similarly, the Stipes call Robert "Rodney", particularly annoying since he briefly lived with them.
Actor Allusion: In one Halloween episode, Frank dresses up like Frankenstein's monster (with Marie as his bride). At first this just seems like a quick gag on Frank's name until you remember Peter Boyle played the monster in the hysterically funny parody Young Frankenstein.
Ray's crossover on The Nanny at his, Fran Fine's, and Val Toriello's high school reunion. Truth in Television, as actors Ray Romano and Fran Drescher really did attend Hillcrest High School in Queens, NYC in the same class.
Patricia Heaton's new show The Middle has her meet her son's new teacher who is played by Doris Roberts. Pretty much their roles are verbally reversed: "Marie" accusing "Debra" of being a Beloved Smother (which ironically is absolutely not true in either show).
The third season premire of The Middle features a flashback in which we see Heaton's character's honeymoon/camping trip interrupted by a hiker played by Romano. At one point his character tells her "In an alternate reality, you and I could have been happy together."
One episode had J.G. Hertzler play an old book author who, while rambling on at a bookstore, causes Ray to fall asleep. He happens to be missing an eye...
The Adventure Continues: The finale changes almost nothing and other than a last supper inspired shot and a little bit of drama it is a regular episode that if shown out of order would probably be unrecognizable as a series finale by casual viewers.
A sort-of example in "She's the One" when Ray, not wanting to hug Angela (who ate a fly), simply puts his hands on her shoulders and keeps his distance.
All Periods Are PMS: The show provides one of the most iconic examples — Debra became even crankier than usual, and goes through a full gamut of insane mood swings while Ray alternates between being sympathetic, confused or accusatory ("It's hard to hug someone who's trying to KILL you!!")
All Women Are Prudes: Debra, who, depending on the writer, flip flops around this trope. Sometimes she's absolutely adverse to having sex while other times not so much. Most definitely subverted in her youth as she was shown to have been sexually active in college and instigated Ray and her's first time together.
Subverted hilariously in two episodes with Marie of all people. First, the revelation that Marie wasn't a "good girl" when she was a teenager, then later the revelation that the elderly Frank and Marie actually have more sex than Ray and Debra.
Always Someone Better: "The Sitter": Debra is upset by the fact that the kids have more fun with the babysitter than her, and decides to fire her and use Marie as a replacement, in order to guarantee that the kids wouldn't have fun, and thus be relieved to see Debra when she came home. They end up running Marie ragged, and she sprains her ankle tripping over one of the toys. By the time Debra realizes her mistake, the babysitter's employed by another family.
And Starring: "With Doris Roberts as Marie and Peter Boyle as Frank."
Angrish: Occasionally, Robert will get angry at something and mutter gibberish as he walks away.
Debra: Can I ask you something, Ray? What will it take for you to get involved in something? I mean, the Neighborhood Watch didn't do it for you. The church carnival wasn't for you. You said, "The Lord doesn't need me to sit in a dunking booth." And now even your children's education isn't enough. So I was just wondering, when will something be important enough for you to take a stand?
Ascended Extra: Amy McDougall most definitely. Started out as an occasional guest star, gradually became involved in some of the Robert-centric plots, and finally married Robert in the later seasons and became a Barone.
Arguably Amy's entire family could count. They certainly didn't appear as often as she did, but in the later seasons, they became fan-favorite recurring guest stars.
Margaret: Can you fix a radio? Ray: What do you mean? Margaret: What do you think it means when someone says they need their radio fixed?
As the Good Book Says: In "The Nice Talk", Ray says, "As Jesus said: "Blessed are the nice."" Peter immediately remarks, "He never said that."
The episode where Ally asked about the meaning of life. Marie exclaims "Oh I know! It's all in the Bible!" and begins thumbing through the family's copy of the Bible and reads Proverbs 14:4
Marie:Ah, here we go. * reads* "Where there are no oxen, the crib remains empty; but large crops come through the strength of the bull." * Ray, Debra, Frank, and Robert all stare blankly at Marie* Ray:Ma, that's got nothing to do with this. Marie:* looking triumphant* Oh no? Ray:* pauses* No! Marie thinks for a second, then goes back to searching
Or, when Frank was offended by Pat killing a bird that flew into their house and couldn't fly anymore, Hank recites Genesis 1:26.
Hank:Now Frank, God did say, "Let man have dominion over the fish of the sea, and the fowl of the air, and every creeping thing that creepeth upon the Earth." Frank:*pauses* You creepeth me out.
In "A Job For Robert", Marie recites a line that is mentioned many times in Genesis:
Marie: But yes, maybe I was wrong to try to create conditions that would encourage you to be fruitful and multiply... as it says in the Bible.
Frank: Pulled their asses out of two World Wars, the French. What did they give us? A disgusting way to kiss. Robert: ...Who are you talking to, dad?
Awful Wedded Life: In "The Lone Barone", Ray is in a foul mood and, when Robert comes to him about relationship advice, whines about how bad he supposedly has it. Debra later finds out what Ray said and chews him out.
To the point where Frank is appalled and damn near has a conniption when Marie questions this.
The final episode appeared to address the issue of Debra's treatment of Ray. After Ray appears to almost die, Debra actually cries, and spends the middle part of the episode in a state of shock. The episode (and show) ends with Debra and Ray reconciling their differences with a simple, touching scene towards the end where they reiterate that they really do love each other.
In fact, this is a major component of the show's central concept — the family annoys the hell out of each other, and make fun of each other on a constant basis, but everyone does love each other, in their own way.
Bad Date: Even though it ultimately led to a relationship with Debra (culminating in marriage), Ray's first date with Debra had some issues: He didn't get the obvious hint that Debra wanted Ray to eat lemon chicken with her ("Wrap it up, I'll eat it in the truck.") and unknowingly smacked Debra in the face when he opened the freezer door. That's not even counting what would've been Ray and Debra's first date at the Chinese restaurant, if only Ray hadn't cancelled because he accidentally saw Debra naked and was too embarrassed to go through with it.
Robert's date with Erica in "The Young Girl" ends abruptly when she reveals she's nineteen and Debra reveals to Erica that Robert is forty-three.
Robert: I've never seen anybody add two numbers so fast.
In "Meant to Be", Robert and Amy's date turns sour when Robert tells Amy about how he called up his ex-wife but then decided to stay with Amy instead. Amy considered that the equivalent of "settling" for her.
Bad Liar: Ray, who is frequently called out for his bad poker face.
Robert: Are you saying that Amy talks too much? Ray: ...No, Robert, I love Amy. Robert: Wow, are you a liar.
The episode where the Barone family go to spend time with relatives in Italy: Raymond's growing frustration with Italian plumbing and the unpredictable trickle of water coming out of the showerhead is a running joke.
Beam Me Up, Scotty!: Invoked in "She's the One", when Marie wants Robert to just admit he's gay:
Marie: Say it! "Hello, I'm queer, and now I'm here!" Ray: Who says that?? Marie: That's the slogan!
Beauty Equals Goodness: Played straight with Debra (the male characters often lampshade her physical attractiveness) but subverted with Joanne (Robert's ex-wife).
Beta Couple: Robert and Amy. They were an off-and-on couple throughout most of the series, breaking up and then getting back together repeatedly. Finally, Robert proposed to her and Amy agreed to marry him. A great side benefit was that this led to the introduction of Amy's family, who are arguably the best guest stars of the show.
Big Applesauce: While not actually set in New York City, the show is firmly set in the New York metro area. Truth in Television, Lynbrook is located about a mile outside the NYC border (just outside Queens, to be specific). In fact, the show's creators originally wanted the show to be set in Queens. Also, Ray speaks with a very deep New York accent.
Big Fancy House: The Barones' (rather infrequently-seen) rival neighbors, the Parkers, live in a big fancy house. In one episode, Ray has to ring their doorbell and is stuck listening to a long rendition of the Westminster Chimes after he pushes the button, after which he growls "Parkers."
Big "NO!": In "Pet the Bunny", Ray lets out one of these when Michael says that he gave one of his drawings to Marie (which had part of Frank's eulogy on the back).
Michael: Daddy's weird.
Ray says "OH NOOOOOOO!" in "Ray's Journal" when he realizes what Marie might have read when she read his journal.
Ray: Debra Debra, lovely wife, why am I stuck with thee for life? Debra: It sounds like you've had that one for a while. Ray: Maybe. You want one off the top of my head? All right. (briefly thinks, but can't come up with anything witty) You're a stupid idiot stinker B.M.!
Bilingual Bonus: If you watch "Italy" Parts 1 and 2 without subtitles enabled, that is.
Marie acts sweet and loving, but is very condescending and hypocritical. Not to mention her obsessive control over the lives of Frank, Ray and Robert in the name of keeping up her vision of a perfect, happy family, even if they actually aren't.
Black Best Friend: Judy, Robbie's partner on the police force, was this for him. We didn't see her often on the show, but when we did, she was often trying to help Robert be more confident.
Blonde, Brunette, Redhead: The three loves of Robert: Redheaded Joanne (his bitchy ex-wife), Amy, (his blonde on again, off again girlfriend), and Stefania, (his Italian love interest with the curly brown hair). He eventually marries Amy.
In "The Mentor", Amy borrows a catchphrase that Frank used to tell Sammy at the office (and Ray and Robert, for that matter): "Get off your pity pot, Nancy!" Of course, this being Amy, it comes out awkwardly and more silly than anything.
Bottle Episode: Due to the show's minimalist approach most episodes have plots that don't leave the main sets of Ray and Debra's house and Marie and Frank's house.
Bread, Eggs, Breaded Eggs: The premise of "Raybert", when Ray pretends to be Robert and vice versa, which gets Robert a date:
Ray: You know, it's like neither one of us could've gotten her on our own, but but melded together, we were like a whole other entity. Like a superhero. Robert: We were better than just Ray. Ray: Better than just Robert. Robert: We were... "Raybert".
Break the Cutie: Averted. In the later seasons, it appeared that the Barones were going to give Amy the Break the Cutie treatment after she married Robert, but at the end of the series, she still managed to be, well, The Cutie.
Breakout Character: Amy started out as a one-shot who dated Robert and was Debra's friend. She quickly became popular - despite being the co-creator's wife - and was fully added to the regular cast by the later seasons, where she married Robert.
Amy's entire family actually counts, as the show successfully avoided getting tired in it's last couple seasons with the addition of Hank, Patricia & Peter to the recurring cast.
Breakup Breakout - Averted, as Romano, Heaton, Garrett and Roberts have all had continued success since the show ended - a very rare (and perhaps unique) event for a sitcom cast. The only exception is Peter Boyle, who died shortly after the show ended. But even then, he was already an established actor going into the show, so in his case the show is seen as the cumulation of his career.
Brick Joke: In "Ally's F", Mr. Putnam offers Debra a throat lozenge that he keeps in a bowl on his desk. After Mr. Putnam leaves, Ray, annoyed at Putnam, says "I'll give you math: This, (takes all of the lozenges) minus this, equals nothing." Towards the end of the episode, Debra gives Mr. Putnam another visit but he's far less pleasant this time, and Debra walks out after saying "You are mean, and I wouldn't marry you." (a reference to Ray saying Debra should marry Putnam if she "loves him so much"). Mr. Putnam reaches for his lozenges, but they're all gone. He remarks to nobody: "Who took my lozenges?"
At the beginning of "Ray Home Alone", Ally shows Ray and Debra a doll that, if you talk into it, will repeat whatever you say in a higher pitched voice. Debra sarcastically remarks: "Thanks a lot, Ray, that's gonna be fun all the way to Connecticut." Later that night, Ray gets out of bed to check if a noise was a burglar (it wasn't); when he climbs back into bed, he's startled by a loud noise in the bed. Turns out he unknowingly activated the doll from the start of the episode.
Ray: ...Friggin' doll!
In "Homework", Ray defends the fact that he never read Tom Sawyer in school by saying that Marie never read Legendary Running Backs of the NFL. At the end of the episode, Marie is helping Ally with her homework and tells Ray that he has some homework too: Tom Sawyer. Ray protests that he shouldn't have to, and Marie fires back:
Marie: Yes you do. I read "Legendary Running Backs of the NFL". Ray: Yeah right. Marie: Poor Gale Sayers. First, to lose a friend like Brian Piccolo, and then to have a career cut short because of all his knee injuries. (Beat) Go. Read. Ray: (under his breath as he walks away) ...Probably just read the one chapter... Marie: Jim Brown averaged 5.2 yards per carry for his entire career. Ray: ...DAMN you.
Robert once used a Southern accent to say: "Papa didn't go in for all that fancy book learnin'."
Debra used a Southern accent in "The Power of No" when she said "Oh, how will I ever resist my baser instincts?" (referring to refraining from sex with Ray) Ray replied with: "That's good. That'll be good when you come crawling back saying, (in Southern accent) "Prettah please with sugah on top!"
Butt Monkey: Robert for the most part. Ray himself in the later seasons, particularly to Debra. Debra herself is Marie's least favorite.
By-the-Book Cop: Robert is one, to the point where he reminds someone (usually Frank) that what they're considering doing is against the law.
In "Big Shots", Ray is pulled over by one for speeding. He's about to get a ticket, but Robert tells the cop that he's a cop too, and that he's going to keep a closer eye on Ray's speed. The cop doesn't budge, and while Robert protests ("Look, I don't know how you do things in the sticks, but in the city, cops look out for one another."), the cop looks at Ray's license plate:
"The Finale" referenced "Ally's Birth", specifically, Ray and Debra's song, "You Are the Sunshine of My Life": On the way home from the hospital (where Ray almost died), Robert had to pull over when the song began playing on the radio.
Anytime Peggy is part of the plot, one character will always, always ask Ray: "Isn't that the cookie lady who beat you up?"
At the end of "Golf", Debra suggests that she and Ray play golf together. Ray is less than thrilled and tries to weasel his way out of it by saying it's going to rain. Much later, in the season 8 premiere "Fun With Debra", Ray and Debra finally go golfing together.
Can't Hold His Liquor: Ray and Robert seem to have this problem, as seen in two episodes, "Snow Day" and "A Date For Peter", where both go from perfectly normal to drunk behavior within minutes of drinking. For example, in "Snow Day", during a speech where Ray tries to goad Debra into saying she's better than everybody, she asks, "Are you drunk?" After a pause, Ray says in a slurred voice, "Don't be perposterous." And "A Date For Peter", Robert completely forgets that Amy invited Stefania to Ray's house, because he whispers to Ray, "Listen, don't tell Amy, but Stefania's here."
Captain Obvious: In "The Canister", after Debra realizes she forgot to return the canister to Marie and got an apology from Marie after Debra felt insulted that Marie kept pestering her about it:
Robert: You know what's really bad? She [Marie] apologized to you, even though she knew she was right! Debra: Oh shut up! Why do you come over here? To state the obvious? Is that what you're here for?! Robert: ...I must say, Debra, this is not your most attractive side.
In "Pet the Bunny", while Ray is playing the "scratch off" lottery game:
Ray: You think you're going to win, but then you don't. That's how they get ya.
In "Older Women", Debra is upset that her father is bringing a date to Thanksgiving:
Ray: I'm starting to think that maybe you're not so okay with it. Debra: Oh, you picking up on that, Einstein? Ray: Yeah. I wish I was Einstein, because then I'd invent a time machine and go back to when you were nice!
Cassandra Truth: Ray sees Robert's date eating a fly and tells Robert and Debra, who adamantly disbelieve him.
Ray:Angela ate the fly! Robert:What? Debra:What?! Ray: ''The fly, that was flying around...Angela killed it, it landed on her napkin, she picked it up...and then SHE. AAAAAAATE IT!!!!!!!!''
Casanova Wannabe: Gianni, one of Ray's best buddies, was usually portrayed this way.
The Cast Showoff: Patricia Heaton and Brad Garrett have showed off their singing abilities from time to time, Robert even lampshaded this by saying that in chorus he originally was going to be a "basso profundo" (although most school choruses aren't that specific beyond soprano and alto for girls and tenor and bass for boys).
Catch Phrase: Frank: "Holy Crap!" and less frequently, "Jeez-a-loo!" and "Stupid stinkin' hump!"
Garvin: Hey, Ray's here! Ha ha ha!!! * does a little dance*
In the episode in which Debra helps out at the lodge, he does the same for Debra, simply replacing her name with Ray's.
Marie: "Are ya hungry, dear?" and "I don't like that, [insert name here]."
Peggy, to Ray: "Hello, Ally's dad."
Ray, when he walks in the house from work/golfing/etc, to Debra (who has to already be in the house): "Hey, [cute nickname]!" Nicknames used include Snickerdoodle, Snugglepants, Cat Ballou, Jimmyjack, Puka Shell, Puddlepants, Jambalaya, Puff N Stuff, Krispy Kreme, Jelly Cheeks, and Cranapple.
And the infamous "Smelly Tramp."
In a subversion, Ray also mentions, upon walking in and seeing Debra and their (temporary) baby-sitter Lisa, that "Oh... I don't have a nickname for you" (towards Lisa).
Robert has an infrequent catchprase: When someone pushes him too far to do something (usually Ray or Frank), he'll shout, "....All RIGHT!!!!" and go do whatever they want.
Debra frequently calls Ray "idiot".
Character Development: Characters gradually change over time. Particularly obvious in Robert (see below), as well as Debra and Ray, who get angrier and more argumentative as they age. Marie explicitly calls this out as a natural progression of marriage.
Characterization Marches On: In the first season, Robert was so neurotic and quirky that it seemed amazing that he was able to function at all. But as the series progressed, Robert's characterization developed so that he eventually grew much more confident. By the end of the series, he had finally remarried.
Chewbacca Defense: In "A Vote For Debra", when it's revealed that Ray didn't vote for Debra for school board:
Debra: I'm your wife. I don't care if my platform was "anti-puppy", you have to vote for me! Ray: Doesn't the Constitution- Debra: I don't care what it says; you vote for your wife! And since when do you know what it says in the Constitution?! Ray: I'm not gonna stand here and let you badmouth America.
Christmas Episode: "The Ball", "All I Want For Christmas", "The Toaster", "The Christmas Picture", "Christmas Present", "Season's Greetings", "The Thought That Counts", "Jazz Records".
Class Reunion: "High School", where Ray realizes Debra was a popular girl back in high school, as opposed to himself, who was a socially awkward geek.
Clip Show: The hour-long "Everybody Loves Raymond: The First Six Years", split into two parts for syndication.
Closet Key: Robert tells Ray about a fellow police officer who had no idea he was gay until he went on vacation in Hawaii, where he met his Closet Key on the beach. Ray then considers the possibility that everyone has a Closet Key, and that neither of them have met "Mr. Right". Reinforced by Ray's run-in with a handsome mailman in the episode's tag.
Cloudcuckooland: This is how Amy initially views the Barone household(s) when she first joins them.
And conversely, this is how the Barones view the McDougall household when they come to visit.
Debra's mother Lois seems to be this too, although she seems to fit more with the "rich airhead" stereotype. Although she certainly fit the bill in "Surprise Party" when he acted out how she wanted Robert and Frank to move around in the dragon costume, dipping and swaying in Debra's honor.
Frank: That lady is a fruit bat.
Cold Open: Occurs in the episodes with a title sequence.
Ray: Y'know, dad, when you talk like that, people could get offended. (...) When you say Nancy, what are you implying, exactly? Frank: That your name should be "Nancy". Ray: And "Nancy" is your word for "gay". Frank: ...Very well. Ray: And you mean that as an insult? Frank: ...Yes, I believe I do. Ray: Well that's not nice. Frank: That's why it's a good insult.
Continuity Nod: Every so often, the characters will mention (with horror) the "Fruit of the Month Club" incident from the Pilot episode.
An example was the episode where Frank and Marie move out of their home to go to a senior citizen community in New Jersey, though the status quo was restored in the very next episode. Before walking out of the house, Marie tells the "kids" that if they're hungry, she and Frank left some food in the fridge, and comments "There's always too much fruit in this house," a reference back to her whole "I can't think, there's too much fruit in the house!" rant from the Pilot.
Frank's interest in the American Civil War is the subject of one episode ("Civil War") and more subtly referenced in "The Gift," "Frank Paints the House" and a few others. Attentive viewers might also note a Mort Kunstler painting in his basement.
Cool Old Lady: Somewhat surprisingly, Amy's mother Pat turns out to be this trope.
Cool Uncle: In one episode, Raymond laments the fact that Robert is always willing and able to play with Raymond's kids when he comes over, never seeming to be too busy or too tired to do so. When Robert discovers this, he explains that he's only able to do it because he only ever sees the kids for an hour or so at most. Raymond, meanwhile, cares for his children effectively all the time, and shouldn't be ashamed that he lacks the energy to "Play Monster" with them all day.
Couch Gag: Each episode features a different dish placed over the "Where's Lunch?" logo.
Counting to Three: In "Father Knows Least", Ray does this to a stubborn Ally; before he gets to three, he says a couple fractions.
Ray: (after 2 3/4) Let me tell you something, Ally: I don't know any more fractions!
In a subversion of this trope, in "No Fat", Debra does this to Frank when he refuses to eat Marie's low calorie tofu turkey Thanksgiving meal.
Debra: Come on, Frank, we're ready. Frank: I pass. Debra: Okay, Frank, listen. Marie has cooked a very nice meal for everyone, and you are going to sit at that table and eat it. Frank: But I don't wanna. Debra: We are not discussing this. One... Frank: I'm not going. Debra: ...TWO...! Frank: All right, all right. (gets up)
Credits Gag: In "Home From School", Ray Romano is credited as "Pee Pee Raymond" and Phil Rosenthal is credited as "Poo Poo Rosenthal".
Cross Over: Doug Heffernan from the King of Queens made a couple of guest appearances. The entire Barone family (before Amy was added) guest-starred on The King of Queens. And Ray himself appeared on The Nanny at Fran Fine and Val Toriello's high school reunion (Truth in Television, as actors Ray Romano and Fran Drescher really did attend Hillcrest High School in Queens, NYC in the same class).
Curse Cut Short: In "The Ball", Ray (dressed as Santa) walks out of Ally's room and stubs his toe on something. He says, "Oh fu-" and catches himself, saying "Fah lah lah lah lah..."
They only had occasional guest appearances, but Ray Romano's father Albert and Phil Rosenthal's father Max appeared sporadically as friends of Frank named "Max and Albert".
Comedian Andy Kindler played one of Ray's best friends, Andy.
Kevin James originally played a guest character named Kevin, until he got the spinoff King of Queens, after which his character on "Raymond" was retconned into being Doug Heffernan, just like on "Queens."
Dark Secret: Think parents always mean it when they give their kid a compliment? According to Marie and Frank, you should think again:
Marie:That's what parents do! We all lie to our kids for their own good! Ray:But other parents aren't lying. They believe in their kids! Marie:No they don't.
Another dark secret: the revelation that Marie held Ray back a year and made him repeat preschool. And not really for any academic reasons, but really just because she enjoyed walking Ray to the preschool past a bunch of yellow flowers. Ray's reaction upon discovering this as an adult was...not pleasant.
What about Robert finding out that Frank and Marie had lied about his birthday, and that he was actually a couple months older than he had previously thought?
Pat McDougall smokes. Also, Hank likes to blow up fireworks.
Debra burps when she gets tense. Amy pees a little when she laughs a lot. Marie has occasionally substituted her home-made spaghetti sauce for a bottle of store-bought Ragu.
In "Favors", Debra unknowingly threw out a letter from Muhammad Ali addressed to Ray. When she can't bring herself to tell Ray, Marie covers for her and thus, Debra owes Marie a favor for keeping her secret.
It turns out Robert was the one to accidentally destroy Frank's jazz records, not Ray as he and Frank thought for thirty years. Amusingly, even though Frank has given Ray a hard time about it for thirty years, his only reaction when Robert finally comes clean is: "Aw, that's okay."
A Date with Rosie Palms: There's a subtle one in "Misery Loves Company", after Debra refuses to go along with Ray's idea to act lovey-dubby towards him so he can look good to Marie in front of Robert and Amy. After she leaves the room, Ray talks to his hand:
Ray: It feels perfectly fine. (whispers) We don't need her.
Deadpan Snarker: Frank is the king of this trope. Ray is also definitely a Deadpan Snarker. Arguably, everyone in the family gets moments of this trope, but Frank and Ray are the most prominent examples.
Death Glare: Debra gives one to Marie in "Mother's Day" when Marie, trying to apologize, instead just makes things worse with passive-aggressive slams ("I should've known that by the afternoon, you've lost complete control of the kids"; "you obviously hadn't tidied up").
Deer in the Headlights: Ray's reaction to Angela eating the fly in "She's the One". He holds one disturbed reaction for a good two minutes of screen time.
Demoted to Extra: Ray's friends were much more important in early seasons, eventually showing up less and less.
Some of his friends were written out of the show entirely, such as Dave (played by Dave Attell).
Robert: The path is straight, and the children of the path shall walk upon it, straightly on its straighty straightness.
In "Sweet Charity":
Ray: Saint Stupid Stupid Hospital For the Incurably Stupid!
In "Getting Even":
Ray: Who's gonna bid twenty dollars for this fine piece of craftsmanship, finely crafted by a fine craftsman... who I happen to sleep with?
In "The Apartment":
Debra: (...)You would have to stop living vicariously through Robert. Ray: That's right, vicariously. Vicariously, just looking. Not thinking, not moving, just thanking God for the blessing that is my beautiful wife while I hang pictures, vicariously.
Despair Speech: In "Season's Greetings", Robert gives one when he realizes how petty it was to keep a Christmas letter (which made him look bad but Ray look good) for ten years. In particular, he is ashamed at himself on how he always compares himself to Ray, and that if he has a bad day, he actually says a prayer that Ray doesn't do so hot either.
Robert: "Come on, God... get 'im!"
Did You Just Flip Off Cthulhu?: In "Not So Fast", Robert tells God He isn't funny after Marie and Frank take back the house and let him and Amy move in with them.
Debra: (to Ray) He does screw with him a lot.
Diet Episode: In one episode, Marie decides that everyone needs to eat healthier. Unfortunately, it's the Thanksgiving special...
Also occasionally occurs with Robert, such as this example from "Lateness":
Robert: I am more than happy to wait for my wife. And I think Amy will attest to the fact that I have waited for her many a time with nary a peep.
Amy: ...When I do ever make you wait? Robert: Oh, nothing. We always get to where we're going on time, but when it's time to leave, you always like to talk to every person first, because you're just so sweet and sociable. And when anyone asks what I'm doing, I tell them, "I'm waiting for my wife. She's on her "Goodbye Tour"." Amy: "Goodbye Tour"? You have a name for it? Robert: A funny name! (emits a nervous, high-pitched laugh)
Another Robert example occurs in "Pat's Secret" when, after saying that Hank and Pat will be sleeping in he and Amy's room, to enjoy their bed. When he thinks that sounds like sex, he backpedals: "Not that you'll be "enjoying" it." But then he realizes that's also insulting in its own way, so he adds: "Not that you couldn't enjoy it, because you can."
Ray: It's like your mouth is falling down the stairs.
Yet another Robert example, from "Sister-in-Law": Amy began telling a sweater story, and Robert (still miffed about Raymond saying Amy talks too much, but beginning to suspect it himself) gives her the "wrap it up" hands signal during her story. After she's understandably taken aback by his actions, he says he had a bad day, because of what Ray said. Amy is at first mad at just Ray, but when Robert suggests that she should just give Ray the silent treatment the following night, Amy begins to suspect that Robert feels the same way Ray does. To which Robert stammers a denial:
Robert: No no! That's because of what Ray said! And I didn't want him to think he was right! 'Cause like you said: "Jerky"! And I love the sweater! Great sweater! Great story about the sweater! I'm stealing that story! (Amy takes her pillow and leaves the bedroom)
In "A Date For Peter", Robert is stunned to see Stefania at the cocktail party:
Robert: But she's my Stefania! (Amy disapproves) I mean, she's my ex-Stefania. (Amy still looks annoyed) No no, I mean... you're my Stefania now!
Ray himself actually invoked this trope by name in one episode (and once in Ice Age!)
Dissimile: In "Call Me Mom", when Debra doesn't want to call Marie "mom", despite that Ray now calls Debra's mom "mom":
Ray: It's easier to use the glue when you don't have to kill the horse yourself! Debra: ...What? Ray: (Beat) No, I'm sticking with that. It makes sense.
In "Six Feet Under":
Ray: (to Debra) Don't get on your high horse if you can't stand the smell.
Distracted by the Sexy: In "Traffic School", it's revealed that Ray got a ticket for hitting a cone because he was distracted by a woman walking on the sidewalk who he thought was topless (turns out she was just wearing a flesh-colored top).
Robert: Confucious say: "He who have stupid husband get stupid party." (Ray sarcastically laughs) Frank: 'Cause you're stupid! Robert: "He who marry Raymond need look elsewhere for good time." (Ray sarcastically laughs) Frank: 'Cause you're stupid!
In "Who's Side Are You On?", when Ray discovers that Debra and the kids have made a lot of bets about him:
Ally: Well, sometimes when you call and say what time you'll be home from work, she bets us what time you'll really be home. Michael (or Jeffrey?): It's funny, 'cause you're always so late.
In one episode, Marie said that Ray was good at telling jokes. She asks Ray to tell the joke about the guy who orders peanuts in the bar, and then proceeds to tell the whole joke. (the peanuts said nice things about the guy; the guy asks what the story was, and the bartender said they're "complimentary") When Marie tells Ray to tell the joke, Ray is confused why he should bother, because she just told the punchline.
This exchange from "Ping Pong" -
Frank: Come on, Ray, you gonna talk some more trash?
Ray: I don't know, I'm distracted by the shine off your scalp.
Marie: *laughing* 'Cause you're bald!
Donut Mess with a Cop: In "Who Am I?", the guys at the lodge remark that Robert is in good shape, so he must not eat too many donuts.
Double Standard: Ray and Debra fall victim to this. Much of the behavior Debra exhibits wouldn't fly if Ray did the same thing. Ray's buffoonishness gets played up on the show in order to provide Debra with an "excuse" for her aggressive behavior. Ray being an imbecile is anti-male, but Debra's bitchiness is fairly anti-female and stereotyping that gender.
An example is that whenever Debra is in conflict with another person, she demands Ray back her up, but whenever Ray is in the same position, which is more often, Debra never takes his side, unless it's against Frank or Marie. Maddeningly, whenever Debra finds out that Ray was right, she never apologizes to Ray for getting on his case. An example of this is in "The Annoying Kid", where Ray dislikes the kid of friends of his and Debra's. When he tells Debra this, she immediately tells him that he's "bad with kids" and "doesn't want to make new friends". Later, when Debra finds out how smarmy the kids' parents are and how bratty the kid himself is, she simply calls them freaks, without any acknowledgment that Ray had a genuine reason for not liking the kid.
Double Standard: Abuse, Female on Male: Debra in the later seasons repeatedly employed this trope, smacking him on the arm or pushing him when Ray does something stupid or annoying. It's played for laughs, and the studio audience reciprocates. She'd also use manipulation, and insult Ray frequently, all for laughs.
Downer Ending: In-universe, Frank claims this is why he doesn't like to tell the story of how he and Marie got married, because "it doesn't have a happy ending".
Drama Queen: In a few episodes, Amy's shtick was that she would cry at the drop of a hat.
Early-Installment Weirdness: In the very early episodes, the show seemed to have a different pace. Robert was much more quirky (to the point where many fans speculate that the writers were originally writing him as being borderline autistic, but that they seem to have changed their minds), Debra was much nicer, Frank was a little more open about his emotions, and the writing in general appeared to be more about wry humor than over-the-top humor. Ray Romano also worked in some material from his stand-up act, which was more or less abandoned starting in season 2. The first season also had some guest stars from the world of sports, which was also abandoned starting in the second season (with the exception of season 3's "Big Shots").
The pilot episode featured a different layout for Frank and Marie's house (people entered on the right, rather than on the left), and Ray and Debra's bedroom was completely different. Both houses had many cosmetic differences as well. Also, the twins were played by two entirely different actors and were named Matthew and Gregory instead of Michael and Jeffrey. On top of all that, it featured a unique opening credits sequence where Ray tries to put together a backyard playset while addressing the audience.
The Eeyore: Robert comes across as this sometimes, even down to the vocal intonation.
Enforced Plug: It is interesting that on Frasier, a caller sounding very like Debra rings the radio shrink to complain bitterly about pushy, intrusive, parents in law who live across the street and are continually coming over to criticise her cooking and housekeeping and hijack the kids. The caller breaks off to exclaim "Oh God! They're coming over right now!" and drops to all fours to avoid being seen and to pretend nobody's home....
Engaging Conversation: In "Sister-in-Law", Amy tried to have a conversation with Ray during a football game. After finding out Ray didn't really want to talk to her, she was annoyed at first but decided to be the bigger person and apologized to Ray, saying that she should've realized he's just a guy, and guys are only interested in being left alone to watch sports and not discuss their feelings. To which Frank interjected:
Frank: Amy, will you marry me?
Everybody Knew Already: Ray's journal. Not only does it turn out that Robert knew about it, but apparently, in Marie's own words, she and Frank used to "sit up to read it after Johnny Carson."
Evil Laugh: Frank has an awesome one at the end of "Traffic School."
Fee Fi Faux Pas: The Trope Namer. An episode from the last few seasons is entirely devoted to an outsider being stuck in the Barone home for an afternoon and surrounded by their customary insanity, as every member of the family spits out one faux pas after another.
Felony Misdemeanor: In "Somebody Hates Raymond", Andy tries to make Ray realize that he's wasting his time and energy by worrying that Jerry Musso hates him, saying that he heard Jerry's a real slimeball. His example:
Andy: I heard one time, a co-worker asked him to buy some chocolate for his kid's school fundraiser, and Jerry said, "No thanks, I'm allergic to chocolate." (Beat) And I have a feeling that he isn't.
Feud Episode: "The Contractor" involves Gianni taking a long time to get a new stove, then being unable to fit the new stove in the space because he screwed up the measurements. When Debra tells Gianni to just put the old stove back in and he still charges Ray full price for his work, the two have a feud, Ray rips up his bill, and Gianni declares they're not friends anymore. However, the two make up in the epilogue.
A whole story arc is devoted to a running argument between Debra and Marie.
Ray's friends: Gianni (laid-back but choleric), Cousin Gerard (melancholic), Kevin, a.k.a. Doug (sanguine), and Andy (phlegmatic/leukine).
Mcdougal family: Amy (choleric/melancholic), Hank (melancholic/phlegmatic), Pat (phlegmatic/leukine) and Peter (sanguine/choleric).
Flanderization: Ray was initially only unhelpful around the house and a sometimes-incompetent father, while Debra was only perturbed at him sometimes. Compare that to later seasons, when she becomes a shrill omni-harpy and Ray is a doddering imbecile.
Flashback Cut: Ray briefly flashed back to his teenage years in "The Car" and "Pants on Fire".
Foreshadowing: While many people thought Debra's behavior in later seasons was unexpected, it was heavily hinted that this is common progression among Barone wives who marry into the family. In Season 1, Marie mentions that Frank's mother (who she compares to herself in the same manner Debra does to Marie) moved in with them at some point when Ray and Robert were kids. Frank's relationship with his mother is almost identical to Ray and Robert's with Marie. Early in Season 2, Marie and Frank tell Ray about a time when they nearly divorced over the same kind of petty arguments that Ray and Debra have and even openly admit that they were a lot like Ray and Debra at that age (Frank and Marie were about the same age as Ray and Debra were in later seasons when this became a problem). Frank, several seasons later mentions that his father was a lot like him, but violent, saying that each generation of Barones are getting better at these negative traits but that it'll be a while before they're gone. Debra starts walking the path to becoming a new Marie once they moved across the street, like how Frank's mother moved in with them at one point. In the first season, they had only lived across from the elder Barones for 2 years (they moved in when the twins were born and there was only mild friction between Marie and Debra before that, mostly from Marie), so Debra was still very much her pre-Barone self. By later seasons, she had progressed down the same path as Marie with one major difference. She rarely showed any signs of controlling Ally or the twins (beyond basic parental needs, like chores) as opposed to Marie's complete dominance over Ray and Robert, focusing that part of her personality primarily towards Ray (and Amy in one episode). So while Debra became a Bitch in Sheep's Clothing and Not So Different from Marie, she did however, stop the cycle towards the kids. Although, Ally did become quite the Deadpan Snarker in later seasons.
Foreign Remake: Voroniny (The Voronins), a Russian remake. The characters seem to be kind of bland, most of the humor is derived from the father's charisma, jokes and making fun of the mother. The brother is, despite being a cop, quite a manchild. The wife is much less of a bitch, portrayed as closer-to-Earth with shades of Woobie thrown in because the mother just openly dislikes her. Oh, and they live in two separate apartments but they are next to each other, allowing the parents to come over through the balcony whenever the hell they want,many jokes are made of that fact also. Otherwise, according to whoever saw the original, It's the Same, so It Sucks.
A Form You Are Comfortable With: When little Ally unmasks "Santa Claus" in an early episode, revealing that it's really Robert in disguise, the following exchange occurs:
Ally:It's not Santa, it's Uncle Robert! Robert:No, no! I...I've just assumed the shape of a lifeform you would accept! Ray:OK, you're supposed to be Santa Claus, not a Klingon!
Former Teen Rebel: "Pants on Fire" is devoted to Marie's dismay when she discovers that Ray was one of these in his younger days. In "The Disciplinarian", the grownups debate the futility of attempting to be an overly-strict parent when they end up talking about how young Ray and Robert both managed to do things that fit this trope.
Freudian Excuse: An episode from the later seasons is devoted to exploring why Robert's "Crazy Chin" habit started.
Freudian Slip: In "Older Women", Ray comments that Warren (newly divorced from Lois) wasn't going for somebody younger, but somebody different when he decided to date a woman older than him. While Ray said it just slipped out and didn't mean anything by it, Debra begged to differ, claiming that he'll lust after anybody that's not her. Which is what she claimed he meant by "someone different".
In "Counseling", Ray mentions that he likes to be taken care of, which leads to this exchange:
Debra: But... you've gotta understand, Ray, that's not a wife, that's a mother. Ray: Well maybe that's what I want! (Beat; he realizes what he said came out wrong) Frank: Holy crap! Robert: On the contrary, dad, I think we've made a real breakthrough. Oh, no, no, it's very simple, really. You see, apparently the deep reasons behind the fights is that you wished you married your mother. Ray: That's not what I said. Robert: (whispering) Yes ya did.
In "Sister-in-Law", after Amy defends Ray (saying that the family is using an incident where Ray called Amy "Lady Chatterly" as an excuse to attack him), Ray agrees with her and says the family will use any excuse to make him miserable, then blurts out: "For all I know, you've been sending her in every day on purpose just to annoy me!" Immediately, he realizes what he said came out wrong and Amy walks into the kitchen, offended.
Frank: Even I know you gotta go in there.
In "Super Bowl", during a big speech, Ray lets it slip that he didn't really want Debra there when he said "You weren't even supposed to be here!"
Similarly, in "Net Worth", during an argument about finances, Ray lets it slip that it's his money to screw up with.
Debra: What did you say? Ray: "With which to screw up"?
In "The Apartment", Ray is amazed by all the hot single women in Robert's apartment building, and later that night while discussing Robert with Debra:
Ray: He's a great guy, Robert. You know, I, I just want what's breast for him.
Friday Night Death Slot: The show originally aired on Friday nights, but after the first season, it was moved to Monday nights, where it stayed for the remainder of its run.
Friend to All Children: Amy is definitely this trope. After Amy marries into the family, one episode reveals that Ally goes to Amy to talk because she knows that Amy wouldn't be judgmental.
The Fun in Funeral: More specifically, a wake. In "Who's Next?", Marie is upset because Rose Caputo (who the wake is for) is the person she chose for Frank if she died. Frank is annoyed that she didn't let him choose Harriet Lichmann, and during an argument, Frank shouts out, "I don't care how many plans you make, I wouldn't be caught dead with Rose Caputo!" Understandably, everyone is shocked, and Frank and Marie sheepishly leave the wake (followed by the rest of the Barones).
Fun with Acronyms: In "Lateness", Ray revealed one from his and Robert's childhood: "A.I.S.": "Ass in Seat".
Robert: You said I was a talented ventriloquist. Debra: You... are, Robert! Robert: (gasps appallingly) Debra!
In "The Ingrate", Debra lets out an appalled gasp when Ray suggests that maybe why he didn't thank Debra in his doctorate speech is because it was a subconscious reaction to Debra teasing him the night before.
Getting Crap Past the Radar: The whole extended sequence between Debra and Marie concerning a big fork and spoon as the underlying casus belli of a marital argument. The phrase is repeated, completely deadpan, at least twelve times.
Marie: Don't let a suitcase full of cheese become your big fork and spoon, dear!
Get Out: In "The Sigh", Ray wants his bathroom back but Debra refuses, telling him to get out. When he doesn't budge, she takes the shower head and squirts him.
An odd one in "A Job For Robert":
Marie: And by the way, what would be so terrible if you and Amy had a baby? Robert: Ma, try to understand. It's not the right time right now. Marie: I understand. (turning to Amy) What do you think, Amy? Amy: Well, I think we both need to be ready. Marie: But I am ready! Amy: No, Marie; me and Robert. Robert: Yeah, ma. You could see that, can't you? Marie: Of course I can. I only want the best for you. Get your ass out of my house.
In "Sleepover at Peggy's", Peggy shouts this repeatedly to Ray when Ray called her a bad, scary lady.
In "The Bigger Person", after Marie discovers that Robert talked to both her and Debra about being the bigger person and apologizing:
Marie: Let me ask you something, Robert: Who did you talk to first about this? Debra, or me? Robert: Uh... I don't remember. Marie: You went to her first, because you couldn't wait to take her side over mine! Robert: I'm on no one's side! Marie: You obviously don't love me the way I love you! Get out!
In "I Wish I Were Gus", Marie throws Ray out when he doesn't take her side in her grudge against Aunt Alda.
Girls with Moustaches: Ray's wife had a mustache that she waxed regularly. He didn't know this until years into their marriage.
The Glorious War of Sisterly Rivalry: Debra's interactions with Jennifer, in which it is hinted that Debra and Jennifer had a dynamic nuch like Robert and Raymond, only Jennifer was the favoured one while they were growing up.
God Save Us from the Queen!: While Marie technically isn't royalty, she certainly rules the family as if she is. In the famous "Lucky Suit" episode, Robert actually invoked this trope:
Robert: Queen Marie, that's you!. And look! There's little Prince Raymond, heir to the throne! Raymond: What throne? Robert: SHUT UP! Raymond: You say shut up to the prince? Robert: [points to Frank] And then you have your court jester, with his bold head and weighty behind! And then there's me...the peasant, the serf. And God forbid I move up a bit because it might upset your perfect order!
Ray: I've got good news and bad news. The bad news is, if you like being mad at me, you're outta luck, milady! The good news is, I couldn't get the tape back, which I know sounds like bad news, but actually is good news, because if the tape existed, we wouldn't be able to get married again!!! Debra: (Beat) ...What are you doing?
Gossipy Hens: Ray accuses Debra of being this with her friends in "Blabbermouths". However, only a scene or two later, Ray ends up sinking to her level by gossiping with Frank and Robert about Debra (and to whom they share secrets about Marie and Amy, respectively).
Grammar Nazi: Marie was one in "Homework" when Ray unknowingly ended a sentence with a preposition ("That's how I got to be where I'm at."):
Marie: You're a writer and that's how you use the English language?? Ray: What? Marie: You do not end a sentence with "at". Ray: Big deal; so I ended a sentence with a proposition. Marie: Preposition! It's a prepo- OH MY GOD! Ray: What's the big deal? Marie: Because this, is the end of civilization! People like you don't want to learn anything, because they're too busy with their remote control televisions and their hula hoops! And before you know it, "that's where we're at!" Frank: Where the cookies at?
Groin Attack: Debra gives Ray a knee to the groin in "Jealous Robert" when Ray is about to spill the beans about Debra and Marie planning to make Robert jealous of Amy dating Gianni.