In the online comic released for the Australian Christmas 2011 update of Team Fortress 2, Scout pretty directly tells this to a newspaper reporter, who asks him how it feels to be a hero. "If I'm honest? Feels like a Saturday."
In Lunar Knights, Lucian goes into a rant on how he's been looking forward to taking Duke Dumas out for killing his beloved Ellen. Dumas' response? "Tell me, boy...do you recall the name of every cow, chicken, and pig you've ever eaten?" Lucian is much less than amused.
Bang Shishigami is the universal Butt-Monkey among the whole cast in BlazBlue. Nobody takes him seriously except for his friends, and even then it's not his combat prowess that gets recognized. Bang has a serious grudge against Jin Kisaragi for killing his mentor in the last war. Jin gives him this treatment because he was just carrying out orders, and because... well... it's Bang Shishigami...
A heroic subversion occurs in Baldur's Gate II when Jaheira is confronted by a former slaver who was exposed and imprisoned as a result of her actions. He gets more and more angry when she seems not to remember who he was, but it's actually just an act on her part as she wanted everybody around him to hear his "confession".
Wild ARMs 5. When Greg finally confronts Kartikeya about the murder of his wife and child, Kartikeya has to be reminded which of his victims Greg is talking about.
A hero example with Shepard. In Mass Effect, you have the option of letting a criminal named Fist live (or not if Wrex is with you). If you do, you will find him at the Afterlife Club in Mass Effect 2. He isn't very happy to see you, and one of the responses you can choose is "Whoever you are, you stopped being relevant about 5 minutes after I apparently told you to run." (You can also go the other direction entirely, and tell him you`ll follow him across the galaxy to make sure he stays on the straight-and-narrow, if you have to.)
Played with in the world background. When turian ships fired on human ships to stop them from opening a mass relay and subsequently occupied the world the exploration force had come from, humans called it the First Contact War, their first encounter with any alien species and proving the power of the Alliance Navy. For the turians, it's the Relay 314 Incident. Played with, in that the turians unofficially and grudgingly admit that the fight over the planet was the first real military opposition they'd faced in over a thousand years.
Shepard has this reaction when Jacob admits to working for Cerberus, having to think a for a moment before remembering they'd encountered them a few times during their hunt for Saren. This allows for the retcon that Cerberus is a N.G.O. Superpower instead of a rogue black-ops group, by handwaving it as sketchy intel and Shepard being too preoccupied with catching Saren to investigate further.
In Star Wars: The Old Republic, during the Sith Warrior's initial training on Korriban, the player has the option of killing or exiling Overseer Tremel, on the orders of Darth Baras. Regardless of the player's decision, they are later cornered by his daughter, consumed with rage over her father's disappearance, believing that he's been killed and the Sith Warrior responsible. The player has the option of responding thus, "Uh, refresh my memory. I kill many people's fathers."
Towards the end of Knights of the Old Republic, a Dark Jedi, Darth Bandon, is sent to assassinate the Player Character. One of your dialogue options upon meeting Bandon is to recognize him as one of the Dark Jedi who attacked the Endar Spire at the beginning of the game and tell him that "You killed Trask!" and that you will avenge his death. Bandon, naturally, has no idea which of the many red shirts he slaughtered was called 'Trask', and even worse, most players on their first playthrough have probably long forgotten about Trask, too.
Played with in regards to Juhani, who tells the protagonist about how she was rescued from slavers by Revan, whose kindness inspired her to become a Jedi. Little does she know that the person she's talking to actually is Revan, but cannot recall any of this due to suffering amnesia and having a new identity implanted by the Jedi Council. Of course, one could could wonder if Revan would have recalled this small act of kindness anyway?.
In the Scenario Campaign of Tekken 6, if Kazuya Mishima confronts Leo, she will tell him that he killed her mother.
Kazuya: So, you're seeking vengeance. There are so many of your kind, I've lost track.
Final Fantasy VII. When Cloud first encounters Sephiroth again on the cargo ship departing from Junon, he reminds him about having burned down his hometown. Sephiroth's response is a confused "Who are you?" A subversion is that, according to creation materials like the Reunion Files, Sephiroth never got over Cloud killing him years earlier and wants to Mind Rape him in revenge, so claiming to not know who he is was a part of that. Also, something many people forget, the Sephiroth roaming the land was not the Sephiroth Cloud actually knew, but merely JENOVA pretending to be Sephiroth (since the real Sephiroth was frozen at the Northern Cave at the time). JENOVA never got to meet Cloud before then.
In Final Fantasy IX, even though he doesn't reveal it to Zidane directly, Amarant and Zidane met once before the events of the game: Amarant was working as a security guard in Treno when he interrupted Zidane carrying out a heist, and Zidane managed to frame Amarant for the crime as he made his escape, leaving Amarant a wanted criminal. Zidane never acknowledges their shared past, and seems completely oblivious to the impact his actions had on Amarant's life.
In Final Fantasy XII, Evil Twin Gabranth impersonated his brother Basch while murdering the king. He also happened to kill Vaan's brother Reks during the incident. Two years later, when Gabranth confronts the party, everyone is outraged to see the king's murderer while Vaan calls Gabranth out on killing Reks. Gabranth doesn't even appear to hear him.
This happens in Gilgamesh's point of view in Dissidia 012. Throughout the series he had been travelling the Final Fantasy multiverse for a rematch against Bartz (his self-proclaimed arch-nemesis), and Bartz doesn't even remember him. He then runs into Squall, Zidane, and Vann (three other characters that met him in their respective games) who also don't remember him. While he assumes this trope is to blame, the truth is actually that they all had most of their memories wiped prior to the endless war. Gilgamesh retained all his memories because he was never officially summoned there, thus avoiding the mind wipe.
Omega Red's ending in Marvel Super Heroes vs. Street Fighter: he's killed Ryu offscreen, and Ken is kneeling next to his corpse and asks Omega Red "How many lives have you ended?". His reply is "Do you count the number of breaths you've taken?"
Hawke: For a slaughtering ground, it's actually rather pretty. Tallis: The Montfort family inherited this mountain from a clan of Nevarran dragon-hunters. Well, maybe inherited is the wrong word. What do you call it when you kill someone in order to get all their stuff? Hawke: Tuesday.
Snarky!Hawke has this exchange with a guard after wiping out some bandits.
Lieutenant Jalen: You're the one who took out Fell Orden and his men? Hawke: That does ring a bell. Hard to say. I've killed so many things.
Towards the end of Custom Robo Arena, Eddy confronts Dr. Mars/Scythe in a You Killed My Father moment. Scythe doesn't remember, saying he can't possibly remember all of Greybaum's operations.
Heroic example in Final Fantasy Tactics A2: Ghi Yelghi has idolized Frimelda as a Worthy Opponent ever since she saved his town from destruction. For her, that was just one more adventuring exploit.
A probable meta-example in the Metal Gear series: In the eyes of the players, the best and most defining moments for Solid Snake are the events of Metal Gear Solid, the Shadow Moses incident, and all of the consequences of it. In-universe, while very important and, thanks to Nastasha, the reason Solid Snake is a household name in the series (none of his operations with FOXHOUND in the MSX games were officially declassified), Shadow Moses is treated as a massive Unwitting Pawn stepping stone for every Chessmaster's and Magnificent Bastard's checklist, a mere component to the greater plan. For Solid Snake, Outer Heaven and Zanzibar Land are the most defining moments of his life.
A straighter example: For the Philosophers, The Boss is just a necessary sacrifice who can be replaced with Gene. For Naked Snake, her death, and the truth behind it, changed everything, and is more or less the direct reason behind everything else that happens in the series from that point on.
In Sakura Wars: So Long, My Love, when Gemini finally catches the villain that killed her mentor and demands her revenge, said villain says "You'll have to forgive me. I've killed far too many to keep count."
In Crash Twinsanity, when confronted by Aku Aku and Uka Uka about why the Evil Twins are destroying the island and seem to have a personal vendetta against him, Cortex replies "I've ruined the lives of so many, I can't be expected to remember them all."
Towards the beginning of Arc the Lad, the title character has the following exchange with the villain:
Arc: You're the one that killed my father! Ark Ghoul: I have killed many, and your father may have been among them. But if I did slay him, his death was so unremarkable that I have no memory of it.
Sengoku Basara: In the third game's backstory, Date Masamune lost nearly his entire army, almost lost Kojuro and barely escaped from an encounter with Ishida Mitsunari. Masamune proceeds to go absolutely batshit insane in order to chase him down, and when he does, he starts on a massive rant about how he's going to destroy Mitsunari. Then, Mitsunari turns around and asks: "Who are you?" Masamune's reaction is priceless. Masamune then goes on to remind Mitsunari about Odawara, in which case Mitsunari starts reminiscing about the battle, only to say that he defeated someone there, but they weren't worth remembering. Masamune loses it and attacks him.
Bringing Mitsunari to any of Masamune's stages in Free Battle mode results in Masamune gloating about how he's finally got Mitsunari right where he wants him, while Mitsunari, bewildered, asks Yoshitsugu who the heck this person is.
Mitsunari: You... Hate me? Who are you, exactly?
Similarly, Masamune making a scathing comment about the deceased Toyotomi Hideyoshi is enough to make Mitsunari drop everything and focus exclusively on killing him horribly.
Implied to be the case with Maxi's vendetta against Astaroth in SoulCalibur. Maxi has confronted Astaroth multiple times on the massacre of his crew, but...
Maxi: Remember me, you freak?! Astaroth: Pretentious little bug. You all look the same to me.
In Persona 5, the main protagonist is forced to move out of his home to live in a new city due to him being falsely accused of assault by main antagonist Masayoshi Shido. When it is time for you and your party to face his Shadow to steal his heart, he only vaguely recognizes you. Considering he's caused the mental shutdowns and psychotic breakdowns mentioned and seen throughout the game so that he could become prime minister, making one teenager get a criminal record is only another small stepping stone to his rise to power.
Shadow Shido: Small sacrifices are inescapable for those wishing to be powerful, competent leaders. How would you ever reach your destination if you stopped to count every ant you crushed on the road?
Marisa: Whoa, so, do you really drink it? You know, that. Remilia: Of course. But I have a small appetite and leave some behind. Marisa: How many people's blood have you sucked by now? Remilia: Can you remember the number of times you've eaten bread? Marisa: Thirteen. I prefer Japanese food.
Sakuya: Whatever. Stop lying and give up your schemes, now. Yukari: (Which lies and schemes is she talking about? It's hard to keep track of them all...)
In another sense we have the rivalry between Princess Kaguya Houraisen and Fujiwara no Mokou. In the past countless suitors vied for the immortal Moon Princess's hand, and she set out a series of impossible tasks for them to accomplish to win her favor. Mokou's father was one of her rejected suitors and she wants revenge for his humiliation; Kaguya claims not to remember him, which only pisses her off more. On the other hand, Mokou's father tried to cheat at the tasks and committed suicide out of shame when he got busted, so Kaguya might be lying about not remembering him because it's kinder than telling his daughter that he was a fraud.
Used against the protagonist in Red Dead Redemption. When John Marston, a former bandit, meets a mysterious stranger and asks if they know each other, the stranger claims John has forgotten more important men than him. John disagrees saying that he is good at remembering faces. In response he then asks John if he knows the name Heidi McCort; turns out one of John's bandit friends shot her while they were pulling a robbery together. When John can't recall the incident the stranger plainly states: "Then why would you remember me?" It's strongly implied that the stranger is The Grim Reaper, which is a pretty good reason for John to not recognize him.
Manfred von Karma of Ace Attorney fame apparently has so little regard for his opponents that he doesn't even recognize Phoenix when he sees him outside of court.
von Karma: I beg your pardon, you see, I rarely remember defense attorneys. They are like bugs to me. Needless things, to be crushed.
The same game contains an actual positive example of this as well: Phoenix was set on his path to becoming a lawyer when Edgeworth rose to his defense in a class trial. To Phoenix, who was feeling abandoned and bullied by his classmates and even the teacher, it made a huge impression and changed the course of his life - but the end of the game reveals that years down the road, Edgeworth barely remembers that it happened.
Played for Laughs in Ace Attorney Investigations: Miles Edgeworth. The series' long-suffering prosecutor Butt-Monkey, Winston Payne, evidently considers himself something of a mentor to Edgeworth and waxes philosophical about all the knowledge he's shared; Edgeworth has no idea who he is. When he speaks to Payne in a hallway of the prosecutor's office, Edgeworth doesn't recognize him and, later, when Gumshoe brings up Payne by name, Edgeworth mistakenly assumes he's a janitor.
This can easily happen to the player in The Elder Scrolls III: Morrowind. The game is filled with caves, mines, ruins and the like, many of which contain a few hostile, generic-looking NPC enemies that can be killed for loot. The game also has many factions with associated quests, some of which involve hunting down and assassinating specific characters. Since the game world is huge and mostly free of plot locked doors it is entirely possible that the assassination target was already killed by the player days or even weeks ago. Luckily the player character has an excellent memory and is able to tell the quest giver that Bandit Leader #246 is already dead, but many players' memories of the event are likely lost amidst their vast and growing body count.
Mazoga the Orc in Oblivion swore to become a knight and do heroic deeds after seeing her friend Ra'Vindra murdered by Mogens Wind-Shifter. When you help her track down Mogens and take revenge for her friend, he doesn't have a clue who she is.
Forms part of the motivation for the antagonist in the Fallout: New Vegas DLC, Lonesome Road. For the courier, it was an ordinary package like any they'd normally deliver. For Ulysses, it was the package that detonated the nukes stored beneath the Divide, destroying the place he saw as his home, teaching him the power of a single person to reshape the world and sparking off a dangerous obsession. And, if you want, the dialog options allow you to play out this trope entirely when speaking with Ulysses.
If you take the job to guard the Silver Rush, one of the potential customers turn out to be a suicide bomber who turns hostile if you don't let him in. Judging from the note you find on his remains, the Van Graffs did something truly terrible against his family, although it doesn't say what. Your fellow guard however will just say "Wonder what that was about?" with no interest at all.
An anti-heroic example from No More Heroes 2: Desperate Struggle: the first boss, Skelter Helter, is attempting to take revenge on Travis for killing his brother at the start of the first game. Travis, however, doesn't remember who he is (and the player likely won't either, considering said brother only actually appeared in the game for about two seconds - the actual fight with him was only in a trailer). Also pulled off on the player, as the Big Bad's motivation is also trying to avenge relatives killed by Travis - the nameless, generic Pizza Butt executives Travis killed to make money for the ranked fights in the first game were his father and brothers.
However, one of Travis' lines just before the Skelter Helter fight ("When you see your brother in Hell, tell him that he's still a douche!") suggests that Travis knew all about it and was just taunting him.
Perhaps unintentionally, Assassin's Creed I implies that this is Altaïr's attitude toward killing Templars. The synch bar increases as Desmond grows closer to Altaïr by doing things that Altaïr remembers doing. However, it does not increase if he kills a Templar, nor even if he kills all sixty of them. In other words, Altaïr may have killed every single Templar in the Holy Land, and he doesn't even remember it. Just another day at the office.
In a more traditional example, during Assassin's Creed III, Charles Lee sees Connor several times before realising he's the young Mohawk boy whose village he attacked a decade before.
He also only uses powers that in Nocturne were mid-tier at best, further supporting that you're just another random encounter for him. In fact, you have to invoke this trope as part of beating him — if you do anything that makes you look like a real threat, such as having any elemental immunities, he'll pull out a nuke spell that one-shots your whole team.
In Fire Emblem: Path of Radiance, it's possible to have the Action Girl Jill confront the Big BadAshnard about the death of General Shiraham, her father: who always struggled in the Daein army and died a rather dishonourable death, no thanks to Ashnard's Dark Chick Petrine. Ashnard's response? "I don't think we ever had a general by that name." Cue the only time in the whole game that Jill completely loses her shit.
Mr. Grimm in Twisted Metal: Black is driven insane by being forced to turn to cannibalism during The Vietnam War by a random stranger. Later on, Mr. Grimm says that the man has completely forgotten of the incident.
Given a twist in Mafia II: Toward the end of the game, one of the missions is to kill Tommy Angelo, who informed on his family. If you've played the first game, you know his entire story and what led him up to this moment, and you're bound to feel sympathetic; in fact, this is a replica of the last shot of the first game. However, for Vito, Joe and new players, he's just a guy you kill and then run from the police as usual.
Inverted in the opening of the "Betrayal of Jimmy" DLC, when Jimmy describes the titular betrayal.
Jimmy: For everyone else, it was Thursday, but for me, it was the day I got fucked.
The Batman: Arkham City tie-in comic "Endgame" reveals that this version of The Joker is an inversion, as Batman finds a diary in Joker's cell with the names of every person he's ever killed, written down from memory. The last name in it is Batman's, because the diary is booby-trapped.
An inversion: the main villain of the first season of The Walking Dead is the owner of a huge cache of supplies that you stole half a game earlier, whose wife and daughter died because you found his car and said "finders keepers". When you finally confront him, you can either admit that by now you've figured out who he is, or admit you've no idea why he wants to kill you. This scene gets really convoluted if you chose not to participate in the looting.
Chocobo's Dungeon 2 also inverted this trope. A Guz is a common enemy in the first dungeon and one of the weakest types of enemy in the game. At the very end of the first dungeon, the character Mog shoos a Guz away from a crystal that Mog wanted as treasure without a second thought. It is revealed late in the game that the main antagonist is actually this Guz. It was so upset always being bullied by all the stronger monsters, and then by Mog, that it wished to the crystal to be strong enough that it'll no longer be bullied by anyone again.
In Pokémon Black 2 and White 2, the rival has a vendetta against Team Plasma for a Purrloin that was stolen five years prior. All the Plasma agents he demands its recovery from point out that Purrloin are insanely common in Unova, they steal Pokemon all the time, and they'd have a hard time tracking a specific stolen Purrloin for five years. Subverted with the Shadow Triad, the ones responsible; they remember it all too well.
In Army of Two: The Devil's Cartel, Bautista has an interesting way of saying this.
Bautista: Let me guess. I killed your father, yes? Well I feel just terrible. Fiona: You know what you did! Bautista: Your mother, then. Would it help if I assured you, she died with a smile on her face? Fiona: You know what you did! You took me! Bautista: Ah yes, now that sounds like something I would do... I have killed many fathers and mothers. Taken many children. Faced down many little girls and little boys with guns pointing at me, screaming for revenge. And I tell each and every one of them the same thing: I. Don't. Remember. You.
In Pandora First Contact, the leader of the Imperium forces says this word for word, when discussing a battle that was regarded as particularly hellish.
Heid: Yeah sure, I’m aware that for some of our guys fighting in this hellhole was a living nightmare and traumatizing experience. But for me... it was Tuesday.
In Castlevania: Lords of Shadow – Mirror of Fate, Trevor Belmont vows to slay Dracula to avenge his mother's murder. Dracula taunts Trevor, declaring that he's killed many people, and that he doesn't know Trevor's mother. What Dracula doesn't know is that Trevor is actually his and Marie's son. Dracula only learns the truth from the Mirror of Fate after he has already fatally impaled Trevor with his own Combat Cross.
Dreamfall Chapters features a rare heroic example: Anna remembers Kian for saving her life, but Kian actually thought it was normal for him.
Prosecutor Severin Cocorico of Aviary Attorney used to be laser-focused on punishing criminals before undergoing Character Development and softening, becoming more concerned with justice than with punishment or "winning". But he had been harsh for years. Confronted by the daughter of a homeless man who'd stolen food to feed her and then died in prison, he cannot remember her father or that case at all.
The Witcher: Commoners and nobles alike treat most monsters as mythical beasts that have stepped right out of legend to rampage across the countryside completely unopposed. Witchers treat them as jobs, and not particularly interesting ones at that. In the third game, the first area involves tracking a griffon that has been harrying Nilfgaardian patrols. They attempted to kill the creature themselves, but only pissed it off and got slaughtered. Vesemir responds by rolling his eyes and saying they should have called in the professionals earlier. When the commander compliments Geralt on killing the beast, he just shrugs.
Geralt: It's not the first time I've killed a griffin, nor is it likely to be the last.
Zig-Zagged in Vampire: The Masquerade – Redemption - when you meet Count Orsi in the modern nights he instantly recognises ... someone who worked for Ecaterina. He even asks what your name is, to which you reply with your name and a death threat. He finds something in the threat familiar, since you threatened him 800 years previously and he chuckles that now he remembers you.
Xehanort: I once tried to create my own pure light and darkness to forge the χ-blade, but the attempt ended in failure. In my eagerness, I had lost sight of the correct way to achieve my goal. I acted rashly. I can admit that now. Mickey: What you did back then- your mistakes- changed the destinies of three of my friends! Xehanort: Ah, but destiny is never left to chance. I merely guided them to their proper places. The broken boy who failed to be the blade... the misguided master who sacrificed herself for a friend... and the feckless youth who became my new vessel.
A heroic example happens in The Legend of Heroes: Trails of Cold Steel III when Juna Crawford reveals that during the war between Erebonia and Calvard over the ownership of Crossbell during the Divertissment chapter of Cold Steel II, Rean saved her and her siblings lives when a Calvard airship flew and started shooting at the army with civilian casualties involved. Rean, inside Valimar, one-shots the ship and then asks if Juna and the rest are alright. Rean, when told this story by Juna's siblings (who have no idea they're talking to their idol and savior), honestly doesn't remember any of this happening.