"Lookit, the only thing men actually care about as far as dating is concerned is "The Chase". If you want that guy to look your way, listen to me carefully, ignore the living hell out of him."This is where a guy is shown to be actively put off by a girl's aggressive pursuit of him. Conversely, if she were more shy and modest about her feelings, he would like her more. The use of this normally implies that men want to be the ones to chase and pursue a relationship, and hate it when it looks like, for any moment, this is not the case. To put it simply: a man wants to catch a woman; not be caught. This trope may be the reason why the guy will not be afflicted with The Dulcinea Effect towards this girl. To contrast, he will instead be shown to be afflicted with it towards a girl who is more passive. It doesn't matter whether the girl is (or isn't) an Action Girl - even if she's strong in combat, as long as she's shy romance-wise, she'll still be more desirable compared with a Damsel in Distress who is too eager. Compare My Girl Is Not a Slut; the logic may be that a woman so eager to pursue one man will be just as eager to pursue another man. (As if it had nothing to do with her crush on one particular man.) On the other hand, it may be that the girl comes on too strong for the guy, who might otherwise return her affections. If the girl is a yandere, then running away as fast as possible is understandable. This is routinely Gender Flipped where the girl is the one who's put off by a guy who continually hits on her; note that in that case, it can be considered stalkerish on the guy's part, or lead into a Dogged Nice Guy plot where he eventually "wins her over." Compare with No Guy Wants an Amazon, where the man feels threatened because the girl is physically more intimidating (overlap between the two is common). Aggressiveness is often a trait of the Abhorrent Admirer, though it's definitely not the only trait that puts the guy off. If the girl stops chasing him, it could lead to an Unrequited Love Switcheroo. It's prevalent in anime, as the Japanese have different ideas of gender roles relative to the Anglosphere and Europe. Let's leave it at that.
— Dr. Cox, Scrubs
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- A Crest 3D White toothpaste commercial begins by listing off how great a guy might be, but first, a woman must get him to say hello (by having a pearly white smile). No way could she possibly walk up to Mr. Right and be the first to say hello!
Anime & Manga
- Future Diary: Yukiteru repeatedly says that Yuno's obsessive pursuit is what is scaring him off. He has crushes on two other girls who act shy or reserved with him, and he seems to like Yuno best when she acts flustered and embarrassed. However, it may be not so much her pursuit that puts him off as her cheerfully killing anyone who gets in the way.
- In The World God Only Knows Keima uses the example of Yandere Kanon to explain that girls pursuing the main character are death traps… in games, that is. He's also put off when Nagase Jun approaches him on her own since it'll get in the way of his own plans. Finally, he's rather irritated and flustered when Yui begins pursuing him aggressively after her capture arc, causing Haqua to realize that it has nothing to do with his games or plans. He just isn't good with bold women.
- Saber Marionette J: Otaru claims he loves all three girls (Lime, Cherry, and Bloodberry), he never mentions it being equal and the series implies that his favorite is Lime, who is the most innocent and non-romantically aggressive. Both Cherry and Bloodberry are shown to be extremely aggressive with their affection for Otaru and constantly fight over him.
- Downplayed in To Love-Ru, early on Rito much preferred the shy Haruna to the comparatively aggressive Lala, but ends up falling in love with both anyway.
- In Ludwig Revolution, Ludwig is constantly on the lookout for a cute girl to become his wife. Consistently, throughout the entire series thusfar, the extremely well endowed, scantily clad witch Dorothea has been throwing herself at him. He's annoyed with her, and she's the girl he's least interested in.
- Katekyo Hitman Reborn!: Tsuna has blushed and felt his heart flutter for every main girl character (Obviously Kyoko, Bianchi, Chrome, Lal Mirch, even Uni) except Haru. Out of all of them, towards Tsuna, she is the most aggressive and direct in her pursuit (granted, if Bianchi were even interested in Tsuna, she very likely would be the most aggressive). Tsuna makes it very clear that he has no romantic interest in Haru, and constantly has to try to slap down all of her advances.
- Tenchi from Tenchi Muyo! (the original OVA's, at least) seems especially put off by Ryoko's (and occasionally, Washu's) aggressive sexual advances. On the other hand, he seems more romantically interested in polite and reserved Ayeka, girlish Sasami, and spacey Mihoshi.
- D.Gray-Man. Allen has specifically said in volume 4 that because of his work he has no time for a girlfriend, it only makes sense for him to ignore any obvious pursuers.
- Fruits Basket. Kyo is put off by Kagura's overly lovey-dovey, possessive nature and her hair-trigger tendency to beat him to a pulp. Their Childhood Marriage Promise was extracted at knifepoint. The manga reveals the reason for her pursuit; the abuse is Personality Powers at work.
- Sousuke from Full Metal Panic!: Tessa was a gentle, weak Dojikko Damsel in Distress... sounds good so far for the manly ego, right? Only... her pursuit and tactics for chasing him are way too aggressive. He was scared of her, and had to constantly protect himself from being taken advantage of by her. Numerous times, she slithered out of her bed at night and tried to take advantage of him in his sleep. Unfortunately for her, it's explained that ever since the past, Sousuke has gotten SICK of aggressive admirers trying to rape him. (Gauron made it worse.) The fact that she's his commanding officer seems to have a lot to do with Sousuke's nervousness with her affections. He understands and is comfortable with the power dynamic between a commander and a subordinate, but when she tries to push a more, err, personal element into it, that drives him out of his comfort zone and into a social dimension where he does not know how to respond. On the other hand, the first girl he ever develops feelings for is a bashful Tsundere who expresses her feelings for him in the most roundabout way. Nami is similar.
- In Ranma ˝, Ranma expresses little to no interest in every girl that aggressively chases him (100% of his suitors). This is played with in an arc where a reversal jewel made Shampoo give up on him and act aloof; he starts pursuing her. This was due to his ego rather than any desire to 'catch her'. He never chases anyone.
- Ataru from Urusei Yatsura will not give up any opportunity to go out with, ogle, or feel up a girl...except for his hot alien princess fiancee, Lum, who's the only female who'd be happy to get his attentions. Her tendency to shock him whenever she gets excited and glomps when happy drives him further away.
- In one chapter she vanishes without explanation. He is heartbroken and cries for her to come back, not to mention goes to great effort to find her. When she leaves for a space ceremony where she might get married to another man, he borrows Ten's very small ship and goes to interfere.
- During a harem dream, Lum is present by his side, along with many other girls. In other words, he wants her... but he wants other women, too. He's said this explicitly on several occasions (most notably during the Beautiful Dreamer movie). He knows that if he returns Lum's affections, he'd have to give up his dreams of a harem (the delusional nature of that dream notwithstanding).
- In another episode, Lum forgets how to speak Japanese through some mishap and spends most of the episode working on some project. At first, Ataru goes to party his butt off and enjoy his time away from Lum. As time passes, he feels increasingly saddened at the fact that Lum is ignoring him and even went so far as to cry in her lap and begs her to talk to him. The end of the episode reveals that Lum was working on a translator that looked like an alligator's gaping maw to strap onto Ataru's face so she could understand him and simultaneously scare any other girl away.
- Russia from Axis Powers Hetalia wants to become one with everybody, especially with the sweet and mild-mannered Lithuania who's more scared of him than anything else. Except for his sister Belarus, the one nation who actively tries to become one with him to the point of reducing him to Tears of Fear.
Belarus: Russia... I've disposed of the doorknob that was keeping us apart... now let's get married... married... married...
Russia: Will you please just go away?
- In Battle Royale, this is Lampshaded by Takako Chigusa during her Tear Jerker Anguished Declaration of Love towards Sugimura. When she asks him if she was ever more than a friend to him, or if they could ever have been more, he hesitates. She then proceeds to joke, "Too intimidating for you, huh?" As Takako is known for being an more aggressive woman, it's later shown that the girl Sugimura likes, Kayoko, was a more gentle, shy girl.
- Daisuke of Bitter Virgin is disgusted by Kazuki's relentless pursuit of him. This less because of her aggressiveness and more to do with her psychopathy. she's always carrying a pair of scissors around.
- Hayate the Combat Butler Hinagiku believes that Hayate would think less of her if she chased him (like the other girls of the series do). In the Golden Week chapters he has shown that he is interested in her, though she is also turning towards the path of chasing him.
- Haiyore! Nyarko-san presents this trope mostly for comedy, but with a bit of sad irony behind it. Nyarko's clingy, manic, and horny way of expressing her feelings for Mahiro puts him off and makes him respond with Slapstick, which only makes Nyarko redouble her efforts, meaning she's only sabotaging herself. Mahiro has remarked that her zaniness isn't just bothersome, but makes her declarations of love hard to believe (especially since she's fond of telling fibs for humorous effect). After he tells her as much in one episode, Nyarko responds that she has a hard time expressing herself without being goofy, but promises to keep saying it until he believes her — and then says "I love you" in a sweet, heartfelt, and honest manner.
- Choku!: Nao is disgusted at Serika's pursuit of him and she always has nosebleeds whenever she lays her eyes on him.
- Soul Eater
- For a possibly non-romantic example: Soul is unimpressed when people (all of them girls) request to be his "partner". He doesn't bother responding to them or making a comment of any sort, which annoys/bothers/worries Maka, his current partner. He is also more annoyed than anything else when Blair decides to follow them home after their failed attempt to eat her soul, although this may be because Maka blames and throws books at him for Blair's suffocating him with her boobs and his subsequent (and no-longer-existent) nosebleed.
- For a romantic but female example, Kim comments that she wanted Ox to tune down his affections for her.
- Mawaru-Penguindrum: Kanba Takakura explicitly tells his sister (and prospect love interest) Himari that he HATES it when girls follow him around and give him presents like handmade sweaters or lunches. His Clingy Jealous Girl suitor Masako knows it, but she's unfazed and deliberately invokes this on him. (So does her penguin Esmeralda, who chases after Kanba's penguin #1).
- Discussed and Genderflipped in the anime for Devil May Cry. A dogged manly man incessantly tries to woo a watress in the cafe Dante frequents. Jealousy ensues when she continually spurns his advances while hinting he should be more like Dante. It's eventually revealed that she in fact IS attracted by the guy, but is put off because she wants to be the one to do the chasing. Its notable that unlike most male examples of this trope, the guy in question is depicted as merely persistent, and not creepy. In the end, Dante sets him straight.
- Carrot in Sorcerer Hunters prefers to chase after girls whose interest is ambiguous rather than give in to the aggressive affections of Chocolat and Tira Misu, who would sleep with him in a heartbeat.
- Yuya, the protagonist of Yu-Gi-Oh! ARC-V, is chased by a girl named Mieru after he beat her in a duel and she declared him to be her "chosen one". To be fair to him, pretty much anyone would be creeped out when a twelve-year-old girl you never met before asks how many children you want to have with her. (For the record, Yuya himself is fourteen years old.)
- Ethel from Archie Comics. She was always after Jughead who was continually running away from her.
- Likewise many girls who go after Jughead - one new girl in town was duped by Betty and Veronica into thinking he was a great catch (to divert her away from Archie).
- Averted by Archie himself in one story where he and the other characters go on strike and talk directly to the actual editors of the comics. Instead of him constantly chasing girls, Archie demands that the script be changed so that the girls chase him. On the other hand, it's played straight in some of the early stories from the 1950s and 1960s, where Archie tends to be put off by Betty when she comes on too strong.
- Likewise many girls who go after Jughead - one new girl in town was duped by Betty and Veronica into thinking he was a great catch (to divert her away from Archie).
- In one W.I.T.C.H. comic book storyline, a bunch of kids from the girls' school are away on an exchange student program, including three of the girls from the team. One day they run into Martin Tubbs from school, who begs them to hide him from his Stalker with a Crush, a chubby local girl named Mathilda. Since Martin himself is a Stalker with a Crush who has been making moves on Irma since issue one, the irony is obvious.
- In Astro City, Irene Merriweather's fanatical obsession with proving her coworker Adam Peterson is Atomicus (due to being under the impression that this was a game that she was supposed to win and prove herself to him) drove Atomicus to leave Earth forever, because "if this is humanity, I don't want any part in it!" Of course, Atomicus was technically a child in a man's body, born just a year or so before; the glint in his eye that she interpreted as a dare was actually him trying to communicate fear of a world that he doesn't understand. As she would later put it, "I chased him, so he ran."
- Kaito from Waiting in the Summer outright says this much and that he wants to be the one doing the chasing.
- Played with in Justice League Europe: Captain Atom didn't mind being pursued by Catherine Cobert, but he did mind being chased by the Crimson Fox, mostly because the Fox just outright sexually harassed him.
- Discussed and played with in the Miraculous Ladybug fic Pick-Up and Chase. It's subverted in the opening conversation between Chat Noir and Ladybug:
Chat: You ladies may roll your eyes at our lame lines, but, at the end of the day, at least we're putting in the work.Ladybug: (chuckles) Excuse me?Chat: You laugh, but it's not always easy for a guy to get up the guts to use one of what you consider to be silly pick-up lines. Not everyone is as smooth as I am. It'd probably be a nice surprise, a guy getting a cheesy pick-up line from a girl. We like to be romanced too, you know.Ladybug: Stupid pick-up lines aren't exactly my definition of romance.Chat: Don't hate 'til you try it. Funny romance might be what does it for some guys. Don't judge.Ladybug: Guys like you?Chat: Maybe.Ladybug: I bet if some girl came up to you and said she wanted to spend all nine of her lives with you, you'd just… collapse into a puddle of goo on the floor.Chat: You're speaking my love language, My Lady.
- However, Marinette unwittingly puts this to the test the following day when, after tripping over into Adrien's arms, she impulsively says, "I think I might be falling for you." It leaves Adrien as flustered as Marinette usually is around him. After Marinette gets over her own embarrassment about it, she tries a couple more lines out on him the next day to enjoy his reaction, subsequently deciding to stop doing it out of guilt. But that night when she and Chat Noir are on patrol, he tells her about a girl in his class who's started using cheesy pick-up lines on him out of the blue (presenting himself as "a prime example of total composure"), leading her to figure that Chat is Adrien, and to decide to step up the flirting, as payback for all the times Chat has flirted with her during battles. In subsequent chapters, Adrien's reaction has been a mix of confused, embarrassed and flattered.
Films — Animated
- Inverted in An Extremely Goofy Movie. Sympathetic Attention Whore Bobby starts hitting on Tall, Dark and Snarky Beret Girl, and Beret Girl is disgusted. Immediately afterwards, she starts flirting with the much shyer PJ, who in turn suggests he assumed he was supposed to be chased and wasn't simply because he was considered unattractive. Then she asks him out, and he greatly appreciates her advances enough to go through major Character Development and even become a beatnik just like her.
Films — Live-Action
- Female: "I'm a man, and I prefer to do my own hunting."
- Bill in All About Eve doesn't let Eve down easy when she makes a pass at him. "[W]hat I go after, I want to go after. I don't want it to come after me."
- Lampshaded in the Mexican film Ladies Night when Ana confronts Roco for running away from Alicia.
- Grandmere claims this in the book version of The Princess Diaries and makes Mia read Jane Eyre as a guidebook to how to get a man.
- In Robert E. Howard's The Vale of Lost Women Conan the Barbarian scornfully tells a woman offering herself if only he will rescue her that she's nothing special, and he could have her without fighting for her anyway.
- In Agatha Christie's Death on the Nile, Simon Doyle claims this as the reason that he broke off his relationship with his fiancee Jacqueline and married Jackie's best friend Linnet. He said he was put off by the fact that Jackie loved him more than he loved her, and that "a man wants to own his woman. He doesn't want to feel that she owns him." Simon was being honest about his feelings about possessive women, but it was Linnet he thought was trying to own him, not Jackie.
- This is one of the main premises of the Venus and Mars self-help books.
- Mat's relationship with Tylin starts out this way in The Wheel of Time, playing up Hypocritical Humor as Mat wryly comments that he's supposed to chase women, not the other way around. It then moves into Double Standard: Rape, Female on Male territory, but is still treated as comedic.
- In I Know What You Did Last Summer, Barry's My Beloved Smother tells this to Helen when Helen calls to find out what time Barry is picking her up for their date.
- Vengeance by George Jonas. The protagonist, an Israeli Mossad agent, is turned off when a woman in a hotel bar invites him up to her room before he has a chance to ask her. This saves his life, as she turns out to be a Professional Killer sent to assassinate them (one of his colleagues takes up the offer and is found dead the next day).
Live Action TV
- In the earlier seasons of Smallville, Clark is awkward at best towards Chloe's advances.
- Friends. Rachel is attracted to a cute guy but he's not asking her out. Pheobe suggests that she simply ask him out instead, but Rachel can't do it because she has never asked anyone out in her entire life; all her relationships having been initiated by guys. So she decides it would make her sound "too desperate" and instead resorts to dropping hint after hint, trying to get the guy to chase her.
- Joshua : How do I look?Rachel : Well, speaking as a single woman, who is available, I have to say you look really good.
- When Phoebe proposes to Mike, they get booed by an entire baseball stadium and mocked by the announcer because she's the one proposing to him.
- M*A*S*H: Hawkeye meets a lovely young Swedish doctor. He does his Hawkeye thing and tries to seduce her. But he is instantly put off when, over a drink, she makes a move and kisses him.
- Margaret Houlihan later calls him on this, which results in a Crowning Moment of Awesome for her.
- Married... with Children: Al Bundy does not like it when his wife comes on to him.
- Bud doesn't like it either, mostly because the women (and one man) who hit on him are usually Abhorrent Admirers. A possible subversion exists when you consider that Bud probably would like to be chased by attractive girls...but being a Bundy he rarely is.
- Subverted in Gossip Girl, where Chuck outright tells Blair that it's her turn to chase him now. Which she does.
- Lampshaded on The Red Green Show when Red is talking to a teenage gas station attendant. The middle-aged, old-fashioned Red is more than a little surprised when the attendant says that the girl was the one who asked him out on a date.
- In the All in the Family episode "Mike and Gloria Mix It Up", Mike resents Gloria coming on to him, thinking that the man should make the first move; this sets up a big argument between the two.
- There's a similar moment in Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman when the titular character rather timidly makes advances to husband Sully. When he asks why she's being so meek, she shyly admits "I was always taught. . .a woman shouldn't ask. . ." Sully assures her that not only does he not mind, in the Cheyenne culture, while women aren't exactly encouraged to make the first move, they aren't discouraged either.
- Subverted in Boston Legal. Denise is trying to get Alan Shore to lose interest in her, and attempts to invoke this trope. Hilarity Ensues.
- Kermit on The Muppet Show was always very reluctant when it came to Miss Piggy's advances. However whenever she focused her attention on a male celebrity guest (most notably Peter Ustinov, and Christopher Reeve), Kermit would promptly become jealous.
- The Hardy Boys/Nancy Drew Mysteries The episode "Death Surf". The older waitress Bernie seriously hits on Joe, who is shown to be highly uncomfortable and not interested — then the trope gets averted at the end, with Joe and Bernie going out on a date.
Joe: (trying to get information on a missing girl) Can I talk to you for a second?Bernie: Suuuurrre!!! (sitting down eagerly) You've got beautiful eyes. Has anyone ever told you that?Joe: (uncomfortable) Not today.Bernie: They're kinda melty...so warm and green. You're so nice and handsome...Joe: (seriously at a loss for words, visibly backing away in his chair): Ah...
- On an episode of The Simple Life, Paris advises that a girl should never ask a guy out first or be the one to make the first move as that implies that she's easy.
- Subverted on the dating reality show Seducing Cindy: In the second episode, Cindy Margolis says just before she takes a willing Leighton Stultz into a closet to make out at third base, "I just have to have you know. You're coming with me. I get to be the aggressor. I'm making this happen get over her.". Leighton later describes the make out session in a little more detail:
Leighton: It was amazing! I mean the kiss was amazingly perfect. I mean it was our lips were so compatible. It was breathtaking. We're making out and it leads to her grabbin' my hand and we go into a closet. I shut the door. Our bodies are flowin' together. My shirt came off. I don't know how that happened. I pick her up and I'm makin' out with her against the wall. It was amazing!
- Star Trek: Voyager. Harry Kim realises he's fallen for their latest crewmember, ex-Borg drone Seven of Nine, and suggests a Not a Date on the holodeck. Seven sees through his intentions and bluntly asks Do You Want to Copulate? causing Harry to retreat in flustered confusion.
- Oz. The Casanova McManus is surprised when female prison guard Claire Howell asks him out. She raises this trope, but McManus actually likes her aggressive advances. Unfortunately Claire turns out to be aggressive in ways he doesn't like once the relationship turns sour.
- The alternate version of Delain's "Frozen" switches between the perspectives of a woman and the object of her affections, who is deeply disturbed by it and responds as follows:
I foster illusions of which I am afraid
Unknown emotions repel your embrace
I foster illusions of which I am afraid
Afraid of your embrace
- Daisy Mae's relentless pursuit of Li'l Abner.
- Peanuts has two examples. Lucy was attracted to piano player Schroeder. He was more annoyed by her constant desire for attention and how it disrupted his piano playing.
- Another example would be Sally and Linus, though Linus just seems to get annoyed whenever Sally calls him her 'sweet babboo.'
- In A Midsummer Night's Dream, Demetrius tells off Helena in no uncertain terms when she comes after him.
Demetrius: I'll run from thee and hide me in the brakes,
And leave thee to the mercy of wild beasts.
Helena: The wildest hath not such a heart as you.
Run when you will, the story shall be changed:
Apollo flies, and Daphne holds the chase;
The dove pursues the griffin; the mild hind
Makes speed to catch the tiger; bootless speed,
When cowardice pursues and valour flies.
- However, Helena is not happy with this situation either, and says woman "were not meant to woo."
- In Why Marry?, discussed by Helen, after marriage is referred to as a woman's "career".
Helen: But a woman cannot pursue her career, she must be pursued by it; otherwise she is unwomanly.
- In The Snow Maiden, Mizgir says this is the reason he dumped his passionate fiancée and went for her shy, reserved friend.
- Lel, too, is extremely irritated when the Snow Maiden just won't leave him in peace, begging him in no uncertain terms to take her as his bride. He only escapes by lying to her he's having supper with the boys.
- The bonnet-wearing triplets sing about this and their frustrations with it in the Disney animatronic stage show Country Bear Jamboree.
- Mai Shiranui from Fatal Fury seems to provoke this in Andy Bogard. His feelings for her emerge only in situations when she's not pressing him to feel attracted to her.
- Sonic the Hedgehog is turned off by Amy's constant advances.(Admittedly, she is a bit young for him, being 12 to his 16.) In one game he complains about so many girls being attracted to him. Since it's Sonic, who's always been known for his ego, it's unclear as to why he's complaining. Either he doesn't understand romance, avoids it on purpose, or is annoyed by all the flirting.
- In Sonic Chronicles, you can unlock a romance subplot with her depending on how nice the player acts towards her. Most of the time, she's so obsessed with the idea of him not just going out with him, but with marrying him, that it's off-putting, verging on creepy in some games.
- The same trope is zigzagged with Knuckles and Rouge, shown most clearly in Sonic X. They're clearly attracted, but he acts like he hates her, and she's just flirting to antagonize him. In any case, Knuckles always puts his duty to guard the Master Emerald before anything else, so he's most likely intentionally avoiding anything romantic with anyone, which plays this trope straight.
- Lampshaded in Final Fantasy IX, when Eiko's hitting on Zidane makes him realize what he's been putting Dagger through. In this case, it's "Nobody Wants To Be Chased."
- Inverted in the Union society in Culpa Innata, which is built entirely on "scientific principles". It's the women who are expected to chase men, but only for the same purpose as Hollywood assumes men chase women in Real Life: sex and brief relationships. Long-term attachment is frowned upon in the Union and marriage... sorry, "nuptual agreements" are against the law. This is problematic for immigrants from so-called "rogue states" (e.g. Russia, China, India), which have more traditional values. A couple of Russian "primary sexual partners" is present in the game who were married back in Russia. Many women interviewed by the protagonist claim to have been hit on by the Russian man, only to feel disgusted. The Russian woman, in contrast to the Union women, is shown to be fairly passive and appears to be unlikely to engage in "the Chase".
- Mass Effect 3: While the base game paints Wrex as something of a Krogan Casanova, and he discusses how much he's looking forward to making babies again after the Genophage is cured... the Citadel DLC reveals that, being the krogan leader (And thus, clearly the strongest of the krogan), an awful lot of krogan women want him to be the father of their firstborn, and Wrex is less than happy about this. Of course, Wrex probably might not have minded so much if he was actually able to get a break from the whole thing and give his poor quad a rest. The fact that Eve/ Urdnot Bakara is encouraging it doesn't help the matter.
- Megatokyo Largo and Erika's relationship is complicated. Their first encounter involved him hitting on her and her breaking his arms. This is because she thought that all he was interested in was sex. Then she becomes his gaming/computer-building student. As he proves earlier, while teaching his class, Largo takes people who pursue such knowledge very seriously, and doesn't want to dishonor or disrespect Erika by letting lust or romance "distract" him.
- Misfile: Male-to-female Gender Bender Ash likes Missi, and feels truly happy while dating her — but becomes extremely uncomfortable upon realising that Missi is playing the traditionally masculine "pursuer" role in the relationship, always trying to convince Ash to get physically intimate, while Ash is the one who keeps resisting in a stereotypically feminine way. Somewhat justified because Ash is trying to hold on to his male identity despite the Gender Bender, and so whenever he finds himself playing a traditionally feminine role in any context, he sees it as a sign of the impending destruction of his "male psyche". Ash feels much safer being attracted to the more traditionally feminine Emily.
- In Girls Only, the only way to get JC to stop flirting with Myke is for Myke to flirt back, and harder. This causes JC to get flustered blushy and retreat.
- Fifi LaFume on Tiny Toons, during the rare cartoons where she's the main character instead of an extra, will obsessively pursue any reasonably attractive appropriately-aged male (all it takes is to accidentally acquire a white stripe running down the back). She is, after all, an Expy of Pepe LePew, her predecessor from Looney Tunes.
- It's interesting to note that he frequently chases any animal he perceives to be a female skunk - even if they're not - but most often he pursues a shy female cat named Penelope Pussycat. Generally, everyone runs off at the mere smell of a skunk nearby, but his overly affectionate, touchy-feely style is often another turn-off - and then sometimes the odor is the only thing keeping Penelope away. Occasionally she's turned the tables on him by not only demonstrating that she likes him at least as much as he likes her, but also chasing him down to smother him in suffocating amounts of affection - and all it took was removing her sense of smell (usually by her nose getting stuffy). Pepe, meanwhile, seems to prefer being the one who gives chase, and when he finds himself as the one being pursued, he'll run just as she ran from him. Only once did he run because of an odor; at one point, Penelope - under the name Fabrette - exposed herself to limburger cheese fumes so that no smell would be too much for her so she could be with Pepe, but by then he'd realized his own noxious smell and got it removed via perfume, and when she came back she refused to accept he couldn't stand her smell.
- The Fairly Oddparents
Timmy: "Great, the crazy one likes me."
- Timmy is considerably creeped out by Tootie's constant advances (though her being Vicky's sister may have something to do with it). He also finds Veronica creepy, despite her being almost on par with Trixie in terms of beauty. However, this is due to Veronica's obsession with wanting to be Trixie, revealed in the same episode her attraction to Timmy is revealed.
- Wayside School: Todd isn't amused at Maurecia's affections, though in one episode he admits he simply doesn't want a girlfriend.
- In Ed, Edd 'n' Eddy, the Kanker Sisters seem to inspire abject terror in the Eds due to their constant romantic pursuits, though they seem to inspire non-romantic terror in pretty much everyone else.
- Inverted in one episode where Edd believes that if they act the same toward them, they will react similarly. It works, but Eddy's overall doubt over the plan tipped the Kankers on and turned the tables on them in the end. Nearly worked though.
- Hey Arnold!. In one episode Helga advises Rhonda to act attracted to her Stalker with a Crush, Curly, assuming this sudden reversal will drive him away. Hilarity Ensues.
- A few Looney Tunes Pepe Le Pew cartoons, starting with "For Scent-imental Reasons", end with a reversal where the object of Pepe's affections no longer sees him as an Abhorrent Admirer and begins to chase him. No matter how hard Pepe pursued the poor girl before hand, Pepe is universally horrified by aggressive women and the cartoon ends with him running away from her.
- In some Harveytoons cartoons, and in at least two Popeye cartoons, the male protagonist would run screaming in horror from the country-bumpkin woman who shrieked "A MAAAA-YUN!" and started to chase him.
- In Dragons: Riders of Berk episode "Free Scauldy", after becoming fed up with Snotlout's constant flirting, Astrid decides to use Reverse Psychology on him and starts flirting back, which immediately horrifies him.
- Decidedly NOT Truth in Television. Many men prefer to be asked out, as it saves them the trouble and it's a great ego boost. However, this trope is a very common perception, even among modern "love doctors" and advice columnists.
- Rory Raye encourages women to act with passively receptive "girl energy" (and to occasionally become the Hysterical Woman due to being so in touch with her emotions) rather than proactive "boy energy" because men will be put off by a woman who acts like a man in pursuit of a relationship. This not only includes "big" things like walking up to him and saying hello first, asking him out, or asking that the relationship become exclusive, but even small, day-to-day things like reaching over to hold his hand during a movie on your fourth date. Apparently, women are not supposed to do anything but exist and respond to the man's overtures, never making one of her own at any point for any reason.
- The modern version of this advice is usually justified by saying All Men Are Perverts (thus ignoring the fact that it is not the case) and they prefer to be asked out too much and won't say no often enough. So supposedly a man saying yes doesn't really tell a woman if he really likes her or just didn't have anything better to do at the time.
- Once on the old Arsenio Hall Show a leather clad blonde actress was all over Arsenio, sitting on his lap, grabbing his knee and wrapping her leg around his head. Arsenio had to fight her off and in doing so ripped her jacket. Then she removed her jacket and approached him slowly. Arsenio Hall ran off the stage and she chased him, thus ending their interview early and giving Daisy Fuentes an unscheduled appearance to fill the time slot. Arsenio complimented the blonde woman (whom he joked was on crack) on her breasts and legs, so who knows, he might have gone for it, but according to him he had a girlfriend at the time (possibly Paula Abdul who he dated around then) and this was televised after all.
- The self-help book He's Just Not That Into You drives this point home, wrongly again. While it makes the valid point that no woman should waste her time with a guy who isn't interested, it also makes it seem that a guy isn't interested if a woman has to pursue him at all. Ergo, she shouldn't ask him out, she shouldn't call him, etc.
- It also claimed that, "100% of men surveyed said that they hate it when a woman asks them out—"It ruins all the fun.""