"Any character, after being gender bent, will come to enjoy their new gender more than their old gender."A fictional character that gets his or her gender bent often becomes gradually accustomed to life as a new man or woman. Eventually they likely will experience an epiphany: that they are better off in their new gender than they ever were in their old one. This is the Second Law of Gender Bending, where a gender bent person would, if offered a chance to revert to their former gender, turn it down because they have come to enjoy the benefits of the change. The epiphany typically takes one of two forms:
- A reluctant admission, either because they've changed too much to return to the way things were or are loath to admit the enjoyment they get from their new lifestyle.
- A jovial acceptance, where they quickly discover how much fun life is after the gender flip, and they never want to go back.
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Anime and Manga
- Kashimashi: Girl Meets Girl: Hazumu never expresses any desire to return to her former gender. Of course, the aliens announced from the get-go that she couldn't become a boy again even if she wanted to, but you'd think she'd have missed something about life as a boy, even if it was only the ability to write her name in the snow. However, since the gender change allows her to get together with the girl(s) of her dreams and her parents seem to prefer it she really doesn't have all that much to complain about. (It doesn't hurt that pre-change Hazumu was more girly than every other girl in the series and may even have been transgender without realizing it.)
- Averted in Ranma ½: Ranma never, ever, ever stops looking for a cure for his curse (except for one filler episode after he hits his head) though he does stop complaining about it. That said, Ranma starts to bring his macho approach to acting girly and cute. As seen in his competition with Tsubasa, Ranma's competitive streak is so hardwired that he even refuses to lose in a contest of femininity. This doesn't stop him from exploiting the advantages of his female form for one minute, however. Anything Goes Martial Arts, after all.
- Happens at the end of Cheeky Angel when Megumi finally realizes/admits that she'd been a girl all along: lacking the power to grant her wish to become male the trickster spirit had given her a purely mental Gender Bender instead. Since the delusion had helped her foster the tough, fair, forthright, and assertive (i.e., stereotypically "male") aspects of her personality Megumi considers her wish granted nonetheless.
- The other transgender Megumi in The Day of Revolution goes the "reluctant admission" route when she's menaced by a boy and realizes that she finally knows how it truly feels to be a girl. Fortunately her new-found sense of femininity also empowers her to free herself with the ultimate female defence against male attackers: a Groin Attack so severe it practically paralyzes him.
- Subverted in Sekirei. Homura deals with being a girl, but she doesn't like it and is obviously still uncomfortable with her growing attraction to her Designated Love Interest.
- Mai Natsume of Blazblue Remix Heart was originally a boy, but got magically transformed into a girl right before the manga started. Mai was at first uncomfortable with her new gender and tried to find a way to change back, but later on she came to enjoy her life as a girl and even fell in love with a male classmate.
- Mao of Maomarimo inverts the usual plot arc associated with this trope by accepting her involuntary Gender Bender straight off as an act of faith in her village deity. The drama comes from the various ways her family, her best friend, and her village deal with her change. Her three older sisters exhibit the full range of reactions from simple acceptance to flat-out denial.
- Wholesome Crossdresser Tao Nozomu from Nozomu Nozomi accepts that her Gender Bender gives her ready access to the cuteness she craves but still hides her new gender for an entire year (gradually transforming into a Sweet Polly Oliver in the process) largely because she's not sure she won't change back and can't figure out how to break the news to her family and friends. Unlike most examples here Nozomu's Gender Bender occurs in early puberty and he was barely past the point of noticing girls before he became one.
- Kanojo Ni Naru Hi Another uses It's the Journey That Counts to offer an unusual and bittersweet take on this trope. Sagara is ultimately happy about her Gender Bender even though she does miss being a boy because the resulting struggle to forge a new identity broke her out of her self-imposed isolation, opened her eyes to the people who cared about her and taught her the true value of love and friendship. It's not the change itself she accepts so much as the personal growth it triggered. The fact that it made her sexually compatible with the love of her life is just icing on the cake.
- In contrast to Kanojo Ni Naru Hi Another the ecchi manga Nyotai-ka uses You Can't Go Home Again to offer a very "base view of human nature" take on this trope because Manaka finds sex is so much more pleasurable for women (soft sensitive skin! exquisitely delicate genitalia! multiple orgasms! boobies!} that he cannot accept the pale imitation of sexual pleasure that men experience.
- Inverted twice over in an Excalibur story where the heroes were subjected to a "Freaky Friday" Flip with their enemies the Crazy Gang. Not only was Meggan not very happy with the Knave's male body, the Knave was really unhappy with hers too. (Although given what he said, it may have had more to do with him not being able to control Meggan's shapeshifting ability than the gender issue.)
- In Harry Potter and the Mists of Avalon, Harry is turned into a girl by a potion gone wrong. Much later, an antidote to the potion is developed, but by then she has spent so much time as a girl that she chooses not to change back.
- Played with in Switch (1991) as the protagonist can't decide whether to be a male or female angel while in Heaven.
- Played with in Some Like It Hot. At first, Gerald doesn't like being Daphne. Dresses are too drafty, he can't hit on women, etc. Eventually, though, he enjoys being female immensely, to the point where the Ho Yay with Osgood is so great that Joe makes him say "I'm a boy," over and over. But hey — Nobody's perfect.
- The Hot Chick: Though initially horrified, Clive uses Jessica's body to become a successful crook, and when Jessica tracks him down, Jessica has to trick Clive into getting her body back.
- Played with in A Brother's Price, where a male character disguises as a (female) whore. Due to male's Gender Rarity Value, the whores in this world are women who disguise as men. He quite enjoys the ability to walk around without being noticed.
- The protagonist of David Thomas's novel Girl is a macho, laddish twenty something bloke who is mistaken for another patient while in hospital and mistakenly given gender reassignment surgery. Though initially horrified, when the news that reversing the procedure is unviable is broken to him he ends up deciding to commit fully to his new identity, and after cosmetic surgery, hormone replacement and therapy adapts to the life as an attractive, well-adjusted young woman. When towards the end of the book he/she is asked whether he was angry at the doctor responsible (she is suing the hospital) the protagonist admits that, given the chance, she would not want to give up her new life and female identity.
- So typical of most of Jack Chalker's Gender Bender works (given his tendency to subordinate Different for Girls to The Mind Is a Plaything of the Body) that only the exceptions are notable, like Joe de Oro from the River of Dancing Gods series, who never accepts being changed from a barbarian hero into a tree nymph.
- An interesting variation occurs in Jack Chalker's Well World series: All new arrivals on the titular Well World are transformed into one of the native species (and frequently Gender Bent as well.) This is usually followed by a Sense Freak and/or Showing Off the New Body when they wake up in their new forms and eventually leads to an epiphany that they now regard their new body as their natural form.
- Played straight in Chalker's The Identity Matrix: The protagonist embraces becoming a woman partially because it gets her the attention she's always craved and partially because the Government Conspiracy knowingly played upon that desire when they messed with her head.
- Subverted in Chalker's The Four Lords of the Diamond series. In each of the books, the main character has his brain pattern imprinted on four prisoners, each being sent to a different planet in the Warden Diamond Penal Colony. One of the bodies is that of a female. Fortunately for the protagonist, he is going to a planet that has the strange property of switching the minds of two people when they sleep with each other (in the literal sense). He jumps at the first opportunity to get himself back into a male body, and never looks back —even though this inevitably blows his cover.
- As one might suspect from the title, the entire plot of Justin Lieber's Beyond Rejection revolves around getting an involuntary Gender Bender to this point. Unlike other examples this is treated as a potentially deadly situation requiring intensive medical intervention to prevent dysphoria and death.
- Variation 2 shows up in Sean McMullan's Eyes of the Calculor: John Glasken's distress at being reincarnated in the beautiful body of young Valesti Disore initially manifests in a lot of psychopathic behavior (such as amputating the hand of a man who dared to pinch her butt) but in the end she claims she finds being a woman (albeit one with a "baleful and malevolent" reputation) "rather liberating."
- In Lois McMaster Bujold's A Civil Campaign, Lady Donna Vorrutyer goes offworld for gender reassignment surgery so she can contest her vile cousin's ascension to her late brother's Countship. Lord Dono soon admits that while she primarily did it out of a sense of duty, he'd discovered there were some advantages to being a man (especially in Barrayar's highly sexist society) so even if he lost he would remain a man in order to explore them.
- In Orlando: A Biography, the title character sums it up: "Praise God, I'm a woman!"
- Slightly subverted in The Warlock Of Strathearn. The main character turns himself into a woman because he falls in love with a lesbian. This works out very well for awhile, and he enjoys many aspects of being a woman. Eventually, though, after his lover dies, he begins to experience the not-so-good parts of being a woman, and begins to want to be a man again. However, his powers aren't working anymore, and he has to make a deal with someone to change him back into a man. He turns out to like different qualities of being either gender.
- In The Wheel of Time after Balthamel is resurrected in the body of a Borderland woman he comes to accept his new life as a woman. His/her appetite for sex and women is not lessened in the slightest, the gender change does however broaden his interests and provide him a wealth of new assets.
- From Discworld: In Jingo, although he's only crossdressing and not actually a woman, Corporal Nobbs is reluctant to get back into his male uniform/role after he's spent half of the book wandering around Klatch as Beti.
- Gladys the golem from Going Postal and Making Money. Golems are technically genderless but are normally addressed with male pronouns as a courtesy. The golem responsible for cleaning the women's restroom was renamed Gladys and given female clothing to ensure propriety. Over the course of the books she starts adopting more and more female traits.
- Andrew Jackson Libby, a character from several of Robert A. Heinlein's works, had his gender changed to female when he was resurrected, when it's discovered that he had both male and female sex chromosomes. He changes his name to Elizabeth Andrew Jackson Libby Long, and tells anyone and everyone that he's much happier as a woman.
- The Land of Oz books have Tip. The Marvelous Land of Oz stars a boy named Tip who works for an evil witch named Mombi. Near the end, it's revealed that Tip is actually the lost Princess Ozma. She was Raised as the Opposite Gender in order to prevent people from finding her. Tip is very against the idea of being turned into a girl and wants to stay a boy, but once he's transformed back into Ozma he shows no discomfort at being a girl. Ozma is completely content with being female and develops a Romantic Two-Girl Friendship with Dorothy.
- In Princess Holy Aura, after Steve becomes acclimated to being a girl, Holly finds changing back into Steve gives her severe body dysphoria, so only does so at times of the most urgent need (such as explaining the whole thing to the other Maidens' parents, or when she picks up a creepy male stalker on a walk home). She also takes great pains to explain to people that, though she started out as Steve, she now considers herself to be Holly in every way that matters. (This is at least in part to try to defang some of the creepiness inherent in a story concept that involves a 35-year-old man hanging out with a bunch of teenaged girls.)
- It nearly gives Holly a Heroic B.S.O.D. when an adversary offers to let her go back to her old male self if she'll join his side, and she explicitly admits for the first time, even to herself, that she doesn't want to go back to being Steve.
Live Action TV
- In Doctor Who, it's a bit strange. Time Lords can routinely change genders via regeneration, but they also change personalities, which means their feelings towards their old and current selves can change quite dramatically from one incarnation to the next. When a Time Lord known only as "The General" regenerated from man to woman, he didn't seem uncomfortable in his male form, but instantly remarked that s/he much preferred being female once the shift was done. The Doctor too, instantly felt quite pleased when s/he discovered that s/he had regenerated from Peter Capaldi to Jodie Whittaker. The Master, whose attitude towards women has always been somewhat disdainful, embraces her new persona Missy with gusto.
- Star Trek: Voyager. In "Warlord", would-be planetary dictator Tiernan does a Grand Theft Me on Innocent Flower Girl Kes as he's dying. His followers aren't happy that their fearsome leader is now a cute alien female, but Tiernan finds the change quite useful, and not only because of Kes' psychic powers. He even announces a political marriage to his Puppet King, then strongly implies to his squicked-out wife that he'd be quite interested in a threesome.
- Possibly Tiresias from Greek Mythology, who spent seven years as a woman (and had children) after killing a mating female snake, then transformed back into a man after killing a male; at very least, one can assume he enjoyed sex better as a woman. Zeus and Hera called upon him to settle an argument over which gender enjoyed it more (as he alone had experienced it from both perspectives), and Tiresias claimed, "Of ten parts a man enjoys one only." (In other words, he was saying a woman enjoys it ten times as much.) By the by, that crack was what got him turned into a Blind Seer. (Specifically, Zeus did not take the answer well and Hera tried to make up for her husband's behavior by giving Tiresias magic powers.)
- Downplayed in Dragon magazine's "The Ecology of the Sheet Ghoul". The story's Villain Protagonist is a greedy miser who becomes a sheet phantom upon dying, and like any, seeks a human host to transform into a Sheet Ghoul. Eventually, he succeeds by slaying a female thief who tries to rob his house. He's a little irked at first upon finding himself in a woman's body, but then he figures, "Eh, better than nothing" and goes about his business.
- Almost every playable character in Gender Bender DNA Twister Extreme ends up feeling this way (the one exception is Stephenie/Stephan, who was also the first female to male transformation in the game- canonically, she goes back to being a woman after the end of her arc and is seen in both her male and female forms in subsequent arcs), and it's even pointed out by the characters responsible in certain paths. Good thing too, since the gender-flipping turns out to be irreversible. A cure is discovered eventually, but by that time none of the characters who were affected by the initial accident are interested in going back to being male.
- Xion from Kingdom Hearts is an iffy example. She is physically male or genderless but was treated as female throughout the game. Regardless, she considers herself female even after the reveal.
Xion: Now its time for the puppet to play her part.
- Her anatomy is clearly female at the start of the game and clearly male when she fights Roxas. Given that she is literally created from Sora's memories though, which in the Kingdom Hearts universe affects how you are seen by others, Xion's actual gender is difficult to pin down.
- Shouko Aihara from Gakuen Saimin Reido. He is originally a male bully and playboy known as Akira Aihara. As a revenge by the protagonist whom he used to bully, he is hypnotized into crossdressing and receiving breast implants. Though he tries to resist, Akira is then hypnotized again to act more feminine and gets his sexual orientation twisted. Afterwards, he falls in love with the protagonist, changes his name to Shouko, voluntarily takes female hormones offered by the protagonist, and eventually chooses to undergo sex change surgery.
- Subverted in Misfile. Despite her life being much improved in several aspects, Ash is still vehemently trying to go back to being a boy, even if it means that all the good things she achieved in the meantime disappear. Keeping a firm grasp of "his" male identity remains top priority over all else. Indeed, suddenly waking up as a girl and dealing with the loss of masculinity that living as a girl comes with is played more for horror than comedy.
- Averted in The Order of the Stick. Roy doesn't seem to terribly mind being female for a dozen strips or so (it helps him get perspective on the kind of person Miko Miyazaki is), but he'd much rather have his "Trouser Titan". The fact that he's just as bald female as he is male probably also helps.
- The Wotch positively loves this trope, with four jocks-turned-cheerleaders (who later got a spinoff comic), a male teacher turned Asian girl student and an Innocent Bystander-turned-Perky Female Minion, amongst others. There's even a variation where a woman turned centaur decides she prefers that form as well.
- Special mention goes to a couple who keeps swapping bodies and gender as a Running Gag. The one person who has expressed an interest in trying the other gender again recreationally is the girl, not the guy.
- Played straight in Cheer! (the aforementioned spinoff comic of The Wotch) when Jo, the only one of the the transformed cheerleaders who knows she used to be a boy, freely admits that she and her friends were all troubled as boys and are all much happier as girls, though she still cries when she discovers that no one remembers her former male self's Crowning Moment of Awesome. The other three jocks-turned-cheerleaders have so far averted this trope, since they don't appear to remember the past.
- Used sparingly in El Goonish Shive despite all of the constant Gender Bending:
- Justin specifically rejects the idea even though it would make him sexually compatible with the object of his unrequited affection.
- It's touching in Vlad/Vladia's case. There's nothing kinky about her accepting the change — for the first time in her whole life normal people aren't terrified by the sight of her, so she's willing to accept any form provided it's human, which her old, male form decidedly was not. And given that her one attempt to use her supposed shapeshifting powers was a painful, near-death experience she's not about to experiment even given the chance.
- Elliot initially had no interest in remaining female for long and considered his gender-bending Power Incontinence distasteful. However, upon finding aspects of his magic he liked (flying around as a superheroine and ogling his Goth form in a mirror) he's grown to accept the female forms to the point of being worried that he might lose them if magic changes. Tedd at one point theorizes that Elliot would partly have to fulfil this trope to stop getting spells that involve or interact with turning into a woman (not enjoying being a female more than being a male, but finding things to enjoy about being a female).
- Tedd is a straight example. He likes this form of shapeshifting because his androgynous face becomes an advantage while close enough to Tedd's own form and he likes to feel attractive. Once this problem became moot it was revealed that Body Swap is #37 on his fetish list. Later strips established he's actually genderfluid, he just didn't know the term.
- Ellen states she doesn't suffer gender dysphoria and wouldn't want to be male (though there are hints that the Loss of Identity associated with Opposite Sex Cloning Blues was a sore point until she got a new set of memories).
- Variation 1 shows up in Sailor Sun, though it seems less like grudging acceptance than flat-out surrender to hear Bay describe it. (Naturally, it's immediately followed by a Snap Back due to amnesia, proving the first law takes precedence.)
- This may also be a case of the author wanting to take the comic back to its original premise (at least for a while), and a possible jab at those who think Bay should remain a girl. 'Brad' is quickly seen to be a perverted Jerkass though, so this could in fact be a Take That! at both sides to not think too much and take everything so seriously, as evidenced by its WMG page.
- Mocked in one strip of Murry Purry Fresh And Furry; the parody TF comic boils down to "Boys are hideous and live bleak, miserable lives; girls (and boys turned girls) are pretty and have perfect lives with no problems".
- The older T-Girls of Jet Dream all come to the first form of acceptance at varying rates. However, teen T-Girl Cookie Jarr was an awkward young lad transformed into a knockout of a girl. She is quickly excited by the possibilities of being an extremely attractive and enthusiastically bisexual girl, even voicing a desire to remain female instead of taking a hypothetical antidote to Virus-X. ("It's the Love-In Generation, Harmony! And I was being Left-Out! But a chick can play with Jacks AND Jills! Double the Hills, Dig!")
- Played with in The Good Witch: Angel is fond of using magic spells to force these sorts of second law declarations out of her brother as a form of torment. Played straight with Angel herself, though.
- Played with a great deal in The Dragon Doctors, since there are a great deal of gender benders in it. It's all over the map, ranging from genuine gender dysphoria to total acceptance and everything in between.
- Apparently played straight, then averted with Julius of Key To Her Heart, mainly because being female allows him to have a relationship with Nadia, who is a lesbian. However, after a talk on the subject matter, and how they love each other regardless, he asks if they might have straight sex from time to time, which in addition to other moments, suggest that he's doesn't prefer either gender over the other, and only really stays female because Nadia prefers it.
- Also played straight with his mom (who took to her mode-locking to female with gusto) but subverted with his dad, who is very much a manly badass-type who does not take well to his gender-changing. He has come to enjoy it for sex, but he's always male apart from that.
- The emperor from Beyond The Veil embraces this trope mere minutes after changing genders. It's implied issues with a new body were never a big concern and she takes her second-in-command as her new lover (having never found a worthy one as a man) before going back to trying to conquer the universe.
- Very, very averted with the main character of Exiern, and played emphatically straight with one of the priests. The latter example started as a Crowning Moment of Funny before becoming a solid counterpoint to the main character's plight.
- In MSF High, Keiri sees that people enjoy it after she changes them so that they'll be less likely to change back when the nightly reset button hits.
- Out-of-Placers has an ironic subversion: While Kass says she accepts her change (which came with an accompanying change of species) fairly quickly Matriarch Vislet believes Kass actually hasn't even begun to deal with it and her premature "acceptance" is just another way of avoiding dealing with it.
- The main characters in Whateley Academy play this trope across the entire spectrum. It doesn't hurt that for most of them being turned female was a side effect to gaining the superpowers which make them some of the most attractive and powerful people on the planet. (It's also completely and utterly impossible for them to change back, period.) Still, the degree of acceptance tends to be directly contingent upon the degree to which each character was (knowingly or unknowingly) transgender in the first place.
- Pretty much the second staple of amateur Gender Bender fiction after Different for Girls.
- There is a video Geraldine where a young man is turned into a woman against his will in some unexplained way. After a decade of assimilating to the point of dating, becoming a famous model, and becoming the leader of France, the man turns back on his wedding day. He then ends up with his best (girl) friend instead.
- Artist Ian Samson does a lot of gender-bending work, much of which plays with this trope. Link of The Legend of Zelda succumbs to the Second Law a few times in his work, whether becoming a fairy or forced to stay in the form of a Gerudo.
- In the Paradise setting, humans are randomly, permanently changed into Funny Animals (with some experiencing a gender-change at the same time). A number of stories follow the journey of gender-changed characters as they come to accept and then enjoy their new (usually female) gender. Some stories take this a notch further into Third Law of Gender Bending territory.
- This, but for species rather than gender, is essentially the 54th law of 'Morphic Transformation. (Yeah, there are a lot of them.
- Laws 76 and 77 from the list that inspired the above will cause the Second Law to go into effect.
- In the SCP Foundation, Agent Diogenes has had his/her gender changed so many times by magical artifacts that, in addition to a now very androgynous appearance, said Agent also is comfortable with the new gender identity they took, that identity being none. Diogenes refuses to pick either, state what the biological sex even is at this point and also refuses to alter things like hair or uniform to make a more masculine or feminine impression.
- Take A Lemon: Pretty much inevitable once Marsh realizes she'd received the memories of her alternate universe Spear Counterpart instead of an actual Gender Bender.
- In the Futurama episode "Neutopia", a sexless alien first takes away everyone's gender, then when asked to restore them gets everyone backwards. The now-male Leela, Amy, and LaBarbara struggle to save the sinking Planet Express while the feminized men have fun being girls and goofing off. When the "guys" force the "girls" to make a swimsuit calendar, they go along with it a lot more happily than the real women did earlier. Despite all this, the men go back to their original sex with zero protests when the opportunity came up (except for Scruffy, who came in late).
- Bender pretends to be "Coilette", a fembot from Robonianote in order to compete in fembots' events in the Robolympics. After winning five gold medals, he finds that sex testing is mandatory, so he has the Professor switch his testosteroil with femmzoil, intending to switch back after the test. Then this trope kicks in.
- In Mary Shelley's Frankenhole, Victor gives himself female genitalia but is extremely hesitant when Elizabeth tries to treat him to stereotypically feminine things. It's subverted slightly when he acts traditionally feminine to date Dracula, but that was only so he could screw him over.
- The David Reimer case is a famous aversion. When doctors botched a circumcision and cut off the baby's penis, some psychologist thought he would use this opportunity to prove that gender is wholly based on nurture rather than nature, and had the parents raise this child as a girl, expecting that he would just accept his new gender. This did not work, as the child always felt confused and grew to intensely hate the psychologist who was using "her" as his personal guinea pig. Eventually David Reimer underwent treatment to reverse this, making himself as close physically to a man as he could. Sadly his life started to fall apart a decade later and he was Driven to Suicide.
- Another aversion is in the case of Sporus, a slave boy whom Emperor Nero castrated and took as a "wife" (because Sporus physically resembled Nero's dead wife). Sporus was then forced to marry Nero's next two successors, until Nero's third successor planned to have Sporus raped by gladiators as entertainment by which point Sporus killed himself.
- Two rare conditions (5ARD or 17BHDD) can cause chromosomal males to develop around puberty rather than before birth. Some people with these conditions come to identify with their "new" gender.
- Common restriction in regards to those who seek sex reassignment surgery is to obtain a psychiatrist's approval (or several psychiatrists' approvals) following a lengthy evaluation period, before the surgery can be performed. This intended as a means of enforcing this trope, making sure that the person is likely to be happy after the procedure, rather than come to regret it.