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Girls can never do anything. Men can ride about the countryside and do things. Girls have to sit and wait for things to happen.
Margaret Dashwood, Sense and Sensibility (2008 adaptation)

In media, male characters are defined more by what they do rather than who they are. Female characters, on the other hand, are defined more by their attributes, the most primary of which is their femininity.

This trope is about the female/male = passive/active dichotomy. Essentially, it's the idea men are required to be active and doing things in order for them to deserve a role in the story, but women can just sit there, looking pretty, emotionally reacting to events and that's perfectly acceptable.

Like many Double Standards, this trope can be considered offensive to both genders.

Part of this trope refers to how characters function to advance the plot. While male characters will be directly involved in the action, or manipulating the action behind the scenes in a comprehensive way, female characters, when they do take action, often take it in the form of inspiring, motivating or nagging a male character to do something. See Lady Macbeth, Henpecked Husband.

And, yes, it also applies to that meaning of "action" as well. Traditionally, women were considered virtuous by their chastity or, their lack of action. Whereas, of course, a "lack of action" for a man generally has negative connotations.

This trope is a possible consequence of Men Are Generic, Women Are Special. Since men are generic, any individual male character has to do something special to stand out. But because women are special, a female character just has to be, well, female.

See also Mars and Venus Gender Contrast and Men Are Strong, Women Are Pretty.

General examples:

  • A considerable portion of Simone de Beauvoir's Le Deuxieme Sexe deals with the cultural causes and psychological ramifications of denying women transcendence.
  • Dr. Roy F. Baumeister, a Psychology Professor, tries to argue that this trope is innate in our species instead of a cultural motif in his book Is There Anything Good About Men? He writes: "Perhaps nature designed women to seek to be lovable, whereas men were designed to strive, mostly unsuccessfully, for greatness."
  • This trope is why House Husbands have traditionally been seen as lazy layabouts who are merely unemployed, while housewives are seen as women making a values choice to make their "family" their career.
  • It's also why Abuse Is Okay When It's Female on Male. Men are supposed to "stand up and defend themselves", and thus a male who "lets" himself get abused by a woman is somehow seen as not really being a man at all, and since women are objects and not actors, female violence necessarily lacks potency.
  • The Double Standard: Rape, Female on Male also stems from this trope. The power to initiate (or stop) a sexual encounter always lies with the man, after all — and what red-blooded male would ever turn down sex?
  • The number of Hollywood romances that incorporate this plot line: boy only wins the girl once he stops being passive, stands up for himself and beats up or humiliates another boy who's been bullying him. And the girl must let him come to her instead of trying to meet him halfway. No Guy Wants to Be Chased.
  • The wives of male politicians and monarchs tend to attract far more media attention than the husbands of female politicians and monarchs.
    • Also, female celebrities will often be criticized/scrutinized for how they look or dress, whereas male celebs only make it into the gossip magazines when they actually do something interesting.
  • Women are seen as virtuous due to their chastity; men are seen as virtuous due to their morality. In this circumstance, men who haven't taken action aren't even seen as men at all. This leads to some Unfortunate Implications regarding characterization. Male virgins are often portrayed as creepy losers while female virgins are seen as morally perfect in ways unrelated to their sex life. This gives the impression that a chaste woman is automatically a good woman with a strong corresponding implication that a non-chaste woman is bad .
  • This is likely why there is an Action Girl trope, but no Action Guy trope. A woman as an active character who can take care of herself is still considered noteworthy enough to be a trope in and of itself, whereas a man is an "action character" by default, and only the aversion is tropeable. It may also be worth noting that female subversions are more common these days than male ones, which implies an increasing awareness with regard to how this trope affects women, but little attention to how it affects men; although, a large number of Non-Action Guy characters however remain active in less direct forms however usually as a trickster or manipulator of some sort but never as a 'feminine' passive object.
    • There is also no Spear Counterpart for Faux Action Girl. If a supposedly badass male character fails to live up to his reputation, he is usually called out on it in-universe, whereas female characters who fail to live up to expectations tend to go unnoticed often leading to the implication female badasses are automatically held to have inflated and therefore easily disbelieved reputations.
    • During a past discussion on whether to split off the male examples of Mad Scientist's Beautiful Daughter, it was noted that one difference between them was that male characters were much more likely to take an active role and become protagonists in their own right, while many female examples simply pulled a High Heel-Face Turn and did nothing much in particular outside of that. Or, to put it another way, a woman is now considered "good" simply because she decided to stop being "evil", whereas a male pulling a Heel-Face Turn would have to do more in order to prove his worth as a good guy.
    • Samus Is a Girl runs on the novelty of having a badass character reveal themselves to be a woman. After The Reveal, her status as an Action Girl is rarely questioned, even if she degrades into a Faux Action Girl who needs to be rescued.
    • The Final Girl has its roots in this, too. The Final Girl, after watching everyone else around her get killed, eventually steels her courage and fights back. Part of the reason a "final guy" doesn't really work is that a male protagonist shouldn't be afraid (even if the killer is a six-foot-six maniac Dual Wielding chainsaws) and should be fighting back the entire time.
      • The 2005 House of Wax illustrates this. There are both a final girl and a final guy (fraternal twins). The girl is realistically terrified, but the guy repeatedly kicks the crap out of the main antagonist, making it look more like an action movie than a horror movie when he's on the scene.
  • Also, while an Action Girl is common, "Women in Mission Control" are even more. Examples include Cortana, pictured atop this page, and most of the Codecs on the Metal Gear series (the Mission Control page even has Snake with Mei Ling).
  • The whole basis of the Smurfette Principle revolves around this trope. Male characters need to be distinguishable by character and concept, but a female character stands out just by virtue of being female. More recent media that has The Chick become the girly girl in a Tomboy and Girly Girl pair of females has to distinguish the two females by making one of them a girl, and the other one a girl who acts like a boy.

Audience Reactions

  • A female character's competencies are more likely to be seen as innate rather than earned through action, thus undeserved. Thus female characters who are unusually competent are far more likely to be accused of being a Mary Sue than for "unusually competent" male characters to be accused of being a Marty Stu. This of course creates a vicious cycle, as authors may try to avoid Sue criticisms by making their female characters less capable which in turn causes them to be criticized for being too imperfect.
  • Often used to justify personal interest in Slash Fic amongst, say, straight men or lesbians, with its authors saying that the male characters tend to be more interesting and better written as a result of this effect.
  • The is a common criticism of The Chick archetype of the Five-Man Band, especially if The Chick is the only female in the band: The Leader leads, The Lancer helps, The Big Guy fights, The Smart Guy thinks, while The Chick is either: A) The Heart, B) The Face or C) Team Mom, but these are seen as mundane non-achievements unless the writer calls attention to them.
  • Sexualized imagery involving men is often called homoerotic. Mysteriously this holds true even if there is no actual touching between two men being depicted. One reason? Women are supposed to be passive objects of desire, not agents of desire, so when men are presented as objects of desire they are obviously also objects of desire for other men. Conversely sexualized imagery involving women is rarely called homoerotic, even if does involve touching between two women!
  • Might explain the high number of women who are Stuffed In The Fridge in comic books, as well as fiction in general- a superheroine who is brutally murdered is a tragic victim who warrants our outrage, while a male superhero who gets killed except in the most extreme circumstances runs the risk of being perceived as a failed superhero.
  • May explain the extreme antipathy many female fans have for some types of female characters. Because men are seen as 'generic', they have to distinguish themselves through action, whereas women who are 'special' can coast on their femaleness. This coasting is annoying for audience members who share the same attribute (femaleness) because while men see femaleness as interesting and remarkable in and of itself, women often do not.
  • An Answer to Readers (About a Woman President), The Objectivist, Dec. 1968, 1:
    "For a woman qua woman, the essence of femininity is hero-worship—the desire to look up to man... Hero-worship is a demanding virtue: a woman has to be worthy of it and of the hero she worships...the higher her view of masculinity, the more severely demanding her standards. It means that she never loses the awareness of her own sexual identity and theirs. It means that a properly feminine woman does not treat men as if she were their pal, sister, mother—or leader."
  • The basic concept of a wizard as opposed to a witch. Wizards are usually portrayed as having gained their power through scholarly effort and studying magic much as if it was a science, but witches usually are presented as having gained their power through sex with the Devil, or through having their power inborn. Men work to gain magical power; women either just are magic or gain it through the power of a male demon. Let's not go into the fact that wizards are usually good guys, and witches evil. Just for example, vikings considered magic an inherently feminine trait, to the point that a man who pursued magic was considered to be inherently feminine himself. Even Odin, the Ur example of the Wizard and head of his pantheon, had to overcome some ridicule when he took up the practice of magic.
  • When Bob has a negative trait, the audience will see it as a negative trait of Bob. When Alice has a negative trait, the audience will accuse the author of thinking that all women have that trait. Thus, if a female character is hyper-emotional, then the author is seen as a sexist for portraying all women as hyper-emotional, rather then it just being a trait of that character.

Specific Examples

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    Anime and Manga 
  • Sakura from Naruto is a perfect example of this trope. She's strong, highly intelligent, and incredibly talented. She possesses all of the traits which you would expect from a badass ninja warrior... but she just isn't one. Whenever things go down she's always (with one or two exceptions at most) immediately reduced to standing on the sidelines, crying about how she hopes everyone comes through okay, while the male characters go out and take care of business. She is a ninja warrior, but only the males in the series act like ninja warriors.
    • Worth noting that there are quite a few proactive female characters, just that Sakura's example is egregious because she's supposed to be the female lead.
  • Anzu/Téa from Yu-Gi-Oh! is a good example. She has been shown on several occasions to be a skilled duelist, but she is never treated as though she might be interested in taking part in duels except when she is forced to by the circumstance: e.g, Yugi is too depressed to duel because Kaiba has just defeated him, or a member of the Big Five picks on her as an easy target. She is capable of being a good duelist, but as far as the story goes, good duelist is who she is, not what she does.


  • A common criticism of the movie Scott Pilgrim vs. The World is Ramona's blandness, especially compared to other female characters in the story. Incredibly, she can rollerblade through dreams, but plot-wise this is only significant as the way Scott first sees her. For the rest of the movie, her most impressive powers are her fighting skills (which aren't unique by any means) and her frequent hair-dyeing. The audience is simply supposed to accept that she is worthy of all the trouble Scott goes through to date her. Although, this is a case of Adaptation Distillation and All There in the Manual. The comic makes it clear that while Scott is pursuing Ramona and having all his adventures, Ramona is also dealing with some pretty serious issues of her own (particularly recovering from Gideon's emotional manipulation) which is glossed over in the movie.
  • The Phantom Menace is an inversion of this, but by the time Star Wars gets to Revenge of the Sith it's all about how Anakin turns into Darth Vader while Padme is merely his pregnant wife who dies of a broken heart.
  • At the end of the movie, Hancock is off saving the world while his ex-wife and the only other super-human of their kind, Mary, is content living with a mortal husband and bringing up a mortal kid.. Also, Hancock was always saving her whenever they were de-powered in the past.
  • Sleeping Beauty has Prince Phillip who faces a fire breathing dragon to save Princess Aurora while she lies asleep looking beautiful. A number of other Disney movies have the genders reversed but this is the one with most Fairytale Motifs, knight, princess, castle, dragon, and king.
    • Also interestingly inverted in that Prince Phillip is technically the hero, but the fairies do most of the work.
  • In "I See the Light", a song from Tangled, The two protagonists have similar yet slightly different lines. Rapunzel's line is "I'm where I'm meant to be", whereas Flynn's is "I'm where I'm meant to go".
  • In the Back to the Future films, female characters are only there to serve as Satellite Love Interests and victims to male characters. Not one of them has a active role in advancing the plot. In fact, they had to basically write around one (Marty's girlfriend Jennifer) because she was brought to the future in the end of the first film, but when they actually started making the second film they realized they did not know what to do with her. Rather then Retcon her away, they solved this problem by making her stay sedated for much of the film. See Back to the Future's entry under The Load.
  • For a film that's ostensibly about female empowerment, the female characters in In a World... are remarkably passive in the two main romantic subplots:
    • Carol sleeps with Gustav when he hits on her despite not liking him much and seeming actively put off by the fact that he sees nothing more in her than that she's "pretty," apparently for no better reason than that it's less trouble than actively rejecting him.
    • Then she waits patiently while Demetri Martin's character goes through the awkward, halting motions of courtship rather than take any initiative herself despite the fact that there's an informed mutual attraction.
    • When Moe's attractive neighbor asks to use his shower, he actively attempts to sound out the sexual possibilities, clumsy as his attempts may have been. By contrast, his wife Dani merely smiles and blushes when an attractive Irishman flirts with her and eventually seduces her into cheating on Moe. When this causes a Second Act Breakup, it is Moe, not Dani, that performs the grand romantic gesture that reconciles them.

  • A common criticism of The Railway Series was that most of the female characters were coaches, while all of the male characters were engines (meaning that the females were incapable of doing anything unless they were being towed along by a male.)
  • Zig-zagged in the Tolkien 'verse. Pretty much anyone with any kind of supernatural powers, male or female, were either created with those powers inborn (the Maiar and the Elves) or had powers granted to them through various Rings. Galadriel fits the trope fairly well in The Lord of the Rings, as she doesn't do much of anything beyond giving gifts and advice to heroes. However, Action Girls such as Éowyn and Arwen avert the trope, with Éowyn even dispatching the Witch-King of Angmar, leader of the Nazgűl. Even then, her status as female is part of the Loophole Abuse to get around the prophecy that says "It is not by the hand of MAN that the Witch-King will be slain", a thing she points out.
  • In the Twilight series, Bella stands around while two supermen fawn over her and their families promise to lay down their lives to protect her. Everybody either loves her or wants to kill her to spite the Cullens, but about the only thing about her that stands out is that she's immune to mind reading. This, of course, is a trait she can't control and didn't even know about until Edward told her. On the rare occasion when she is called to action, it's usually just to find a man so he can take care of the problem.

    Live Action TV 
  • The reality TV show Survivor generally has this during the course of a season, with women often just lying around in bikinis looking pretty while the men of the tribe are often shown chopping wood or helping out around camp. There are of course exceptions to this too.
    • Played straight and subverted with Russell's "Dumb Girl Alliance"—Russell used the women purely to pad out his numbers, assuming they would see him as a protecter and let him do all the strategizing. Of course, Parvati eventually took advantage of that and outwitted him.
    • It's worth noting that he used this exact same strategy to get to the final Tribal Council. Twice. And that most of the women in his alliance (and his tribe in general) were Too Dumb to Live.
  • River Tam from Firefly is the prime example of a Macguffin Girl, while her older, slightly less genius brother is charged with protecting, care taking, and enduring most of Mal's flack. River is said to be a super genius with infinite potential, but because of some rather unsavory experiments performed against her will, she's more sought after as a weapon than an outlaw.
  • In Law & Order: Special Victims Unit, Det. Elliot Stabler is a devoted father of four and his partner Det. Olivia Benson is the product of rape. On the job he has rage for the perp and she has empathy for the victims. However, working around as much ugliness as they do, maintaining the ability to care about people is one of the hardest things. Stabler's lost it. In more ways than one.
  • This trope seems to have been deliberately subverted in the third series of Downton Abbey, which is filled with proactive women and helpless men. Regardless of the troubles beset them all, it’s invariably the female characters who set out to get things fixed whilst the men dither about helplessly. Robert is rendered virtually useless by his bad investment decisions, leaving it to Violet and Mary to hatch a plan to acquire money from Martha. Matthew frets over inheriting money from Lavinia’s father and it’s up to Mary to discover the true circumstances of the bequest. Edith doesn’t care that Strallen is too old to be her husband, but he gets a guilt complex over the whole thing and jilts her at the altar –- she then has to put up with snide comments from her father over her desire to enter journalism. And every time Anna comes up with a new idea to get Bates out of prison, he hems and haws over whether it’s worth pursuing. Time will tell whether the trend continues.

  • In Bonnie Tyler's song "Holding Out for a Hero", the singer keeps making demands for a man with Action Hero qualities without doing anything herself. In the video, even though the whole thing revolves clearly around Tyler and everyone else is just an accessory, and women are actually in the majority among the performers, Tyler does nothing (besides singing, of course) but hang around Holding Out for a Hero and being a Damsel in Distress, and the other female performers only dance and sing in the background, while the faceless male performers play the part of the villains and the hero who fight it out over Tyler.

    Tabletop Games 
  • Played with in Exalted, perhaps unintentionally. You see, there is this big Sun God guy, and all his chosens have superpowers tied to their Skill, i.e. what they can do. On the other hand, there is this Moon Deity, who is a woman, a man, and everything in-between. S/he has chosens too, and their superpowers are tied to their Attributes, i.e. who they are. For each chosen of the Sun, there is a chosen of the Moon destined to be his/her mate, and this mate has a hard time defying his/her will, which doesn't help the implication.

  • An interesting example is the latest release of Halo: Combat Evolved action figures. The Master Chief figure has twenty-six points of articulation. The Cortana action figure released in the same wave? Zero. She's got that cocked-hip thing going on, though (see the page pic).
    • Helped and yet played straight with a new figure for Halo 4. She's given articulation, but it's limited (9 points) in comparison. And results in an unaligned mess of parts in anything but her neutral standing pose anyway. A well engineered figure with feminine proportions isn't impossible, MacFarlane.
    • And both averted and played straight with these Metroid: Other M action figures. Action Girl Samus Aran in her Powered Armor? Lots of articulation. Samus Aran in her Spy Catsuit? Cocked hips stance, no articulation.
    • This is fairly common with action figures, because the articulation messes up the lines of the body. Frequently, the non-sexy characters (read - male characters) in a figure line have plenty of articulation, but the sexy characters (read - female characters) will have significantly fewer points of articulation, often only having a few arm joints and nothing else, or outright being a statue.

    Video Games 
  • Rune Factory 2 has a particularly egregious example in the opening for part 2: despite technically being the same character, the male character is shown fighting monsters (or running away from them) or planting crops while the female character is only shown twirling through flower petals or being surrounded by friendly monsters.
  • In Pokémon Black and White we get Bianca, the first rival in any of the Pokémon games to actually give up on being a pokémon trainer. She starts the game just as excited as the main character and the male rival, Cheren. She even says it's her life's dream to be a great pokémon trainer, and has a small story arc devoted to convincing her father she can handle it. Her strong will holds out until about halfway into the game where she decides she'll never be able to compete with her friends and gives up. She never battles again until post-game, and even then only if the player specifically challenges her.
    • She does seem to have gotten a bit more spirited by the time Pokémon Black 2 and White 2 comes around, judging by the fact that she's okay with fighting in the Pokémon World Tournament.
  • The Valkyrur of Valkyria Chronicles fall into this, at least for the first game. The militia is full of male and female soldiers who are uniquely distinguished on their own merits, but the Valkyria are a race of (apparently) all-female superhumans who are just born more powerful than everyone else, and that's why their powers are evil.
  • In Fire Emblem Awakening, all of the characters get an individual ending, which changes if two characters marry in game. Most of the time, all of the men's endings are the same, while the women are said to support them in some fashion instead of going off to pursue their own interests. There are a few exceptions, however - a paired Avatar's ending is always the same, no matter the gender, stating that the one thing historians know is that they loved their spouse above all else, Maribelle will always become a magistrate in all of her endings (her pursuing this is mentioned in several of her supports), and Sully and Stahl, the game's resident red-and-green cavalier duo, get a unique ending in which both pursue defending their realm together.
    • Another amusing exception comes if one pairs a woman with Kellam, who spends most of the game being ignored - it's the woman's solo ending, with "her husband's name has been lost to history" tagged at the end.

  • In Sinfest, the Dudebro Factory brainwashes men with men powerful, women weak.
  • Parodied with Lampshade Hanging in Sluggy Freelance, in the chapter "Summer Vacation": The women in the group talk about how the men have been doing stuff all the time during their vacation, and maybe they should try to accomplish something too, but all they in fact get to do is perform in "gratuitous bikini-shot Sunday" as they talk.

    Western Animation 
  • In-universe example in Rocko's Modern Life. Rocko, Filbert, and Heiffer put together an animated cartoon called Wacky Delly, and each one makes a character. Rocko's contribution is Betty Baloney, whose character concept is "She's a girl!".
  • Was the topic of an episode of American Dad!, where Francine revealed that she only sticks with Stan because he's a good provider, while Stan reveals he's only with Francine because she's hot. Although, in other episodes, it's revealed they do genuinely enjoy each other's company.

    Real Life 
  • In the 2008 US presidential election, Hilary Clinton's clothing and appearance got a lot more attention than that of the male candidates.
    • Conversely a male politician's military service record receives a great deal more attention than a female politician's.
      • This is inverted for the 2012 congressional elections with disabled veteran Tammy Duckworth running against famously handsome incumbent Joe Walsh in the Illinois 8th.
    • Sarah Palin also had some controversy surrounding her wardrobe, but people were actually worried she looked too good and some said she was spending too much money on her clothes.
    • The same concern has been raised by (some) conservative critics of Michelle Obama, alleging that she's paying for them (or vacations with their children) with taxpayer dollars.

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