When I was born, they looked at me and said, what a good boy, what a smart boy, what a strong boy.
And when you were born, they looked at you and said, what a good girl, what a smart girl, what a pretty girl.
Certain ideals are expected to be embodied by male and female characters for them to be seen as attractive to the opposite sex. Sexy female characters are physically desirable; Sexy male characters are strong and proactive. This is a consequence of
Men Act, Women Are as applied to sex appeal: A woman's attractiveness is mostly due to her passive physical attributes, while a man's attractiveness is mostly a result of his behavior.
For female characters, passivity does not detract from their attractiveness. In extreme cases, female characters who are
very active will be seen as
undesirable, or that they can only love a man
stronger than themselves. Furthermore, a physically unattractive woman will always be unattractive regardless of how proactive she is. Male characters are viewed as less attractive if they are passive. In fact a
dynamic evil man is more likely to be viewed as
attractive than a
decent but weak man. A physically unattractive man's dynamic qualities can also make him more attractive.
Some male characters who are physically attractive-particularly in a "
Pretty Boy" kind of way — will be seen as
weak, less than a man, or
suspected of being gay. This holds doubly true if they spend time
cultivating their attractiveness (in fact, many male characters with
a large female following tend to be disliked by some male audience members — possibly because
he's a threat to their sense of masculinity).
In summary, physical attractiveness only ever adds to a woman's sex appeal while being active
may or
may not detract. Whereas for men being proactive only ever adds to a man's sex appeal while being physically attractive may or may not add to his desirability.
These differing standards lead to the genders being held to equally damaging but different standards of attractiveness and have numerous
Unfortunate Implications.
For women the implication is that your actions are irrelevant to your attractiveness to the opposite sex. As long as you're beautiful, even if you're 105 lbs of
useless deadweight or a complete and utter bitch you're still desirable. And if you're not born beautiful enough, no matter what you do,
Failure Is the Only Option for you.
The
Unfortunate Implications for men is that men are shallow and
only after one thing, thus they don't care if a woman is a dynamic, active character. Also, male characters will end up pulling more than their own weight,
emotionally and
physically, in works where this trope is in effect.
And, just like the beauty ideal puts incredible pressure on women to be beautiful, the strength ideal puts incredible pressure on men to judge themselves against an impossible standard of
stoicism,
willpower and
physical strength. These pressures have not received as much press or attention on their effects on men and boys, partially due to the idea that men aren't as
emotionally fragile as women, that things that
affect women are worse than things that affect men. This in turn enforces another
Double Standard: That women must be
defended from the evil media, while men
should be able to just shrug it off.
In the last few decades there has been more of a push to create
dynamic female characters. Unfortunately this often seems to come at the expense of the male characters they are paired with who are portrayed as incompetent and emasculated. It is a hard balance to strike, and difficult to imagine a
work in which a
beautiful,
virgin male character is saved from peril by a
grizzled female Anti-Hero who is
changed for the better by his
pure heart, without the man seeming like a useless
wussy-pants whose wuss-ness disqualifies him from being a man and, more importantly, from
being saved. See
Action Girlfriend for the few couples who approach such a dynamic, like Zoe and Wash from
Firefly.
This is the supertrope for
Ugly Guy, Hot Wife,
Beast and Beauty,
Hollywood Homely,
Non-Action Guy. See also
Beauty Is Never Tarnished, and the unequal application of
Dirt Forcefield.
General Examples
- In romantic comedies, an undesirable woman can easily remedy her faults with a makeover, and, surprise, surprise, discover that She Cleans Up Nicely. An undesirable male's transformation is less of a physical one, and more about growing up and accepting responsibility for his actions.
- The tropes Cute Monster Girl and Green-Skinned Space Babe: Even non-human creatures must be conventionally attractive to human males.
- Beast and Beauty and Ugly Guy, Hot Wife: Men want women who are more attractive than they are. If they choose women based on qualities other than looks, then they are suspected of being gay and the women they're with is obviously an attempt to deflect from their gayness. In this dynamic, women are forbidden to want physical attractiveness in their mate. Often because they are above being selfish and petty.
- No Guy Wants To Be Chased, No Guy Wants An Amazon, All Amazons Want Hercules, Best Her To Bed Her: Women want men who are stronger than they are. Some women are seen as attracted to weak men however the assumption is that they are attracted to these men in order to dominate and abuse them. Or, in lighter versions where the man is justifiably weak, she is attracted to him because of his need for healing. The man in these more acceptable scenarios is still a badass or a former badass.
- Compare male superheroes with their female counterparts.
- The fact that Faux Action Girls can exist. It's not really necessary to establish them as strong as long as they're hot. A male character who is supposed to be badass needs to live up to his reputation through acts of strength and manliness, while a female character does not.
- Our so-called modern attitudes regarding sexuality betray this trope. Men are seen to give women pleasure through their actions; while men get pleasure from women's bodies in a way that women don't from men's. Thus the emphasis is on men's technique, or their agency, and women's bodies, or their passive attributes, in sex.
- Pretty much every group of True Companions in shonen. In good shonen manga, every character in the group is useful in their own way. Meaning the majority (the men) can be gonks as long at they're also badasses. Women however, no matter how competent, must ALSO be (at the very least) cute. And of course, in poor shonen manga, the females tends to be regulated to being eye candy, her looks being her only interesting point.
- Abhorrent Admirer, Fat Girl, Hollywood Homely, Hollywood Pudgy: Women are basically not allowed to look "plain", let alone be ugly. In the off-chance an ugly woman makes an appearance on screen, chances are she's a Foil to a frumpy yet eventually attractive woman; or she's a villain. Additionally, women are forbidden to look for physical attractiveness in men as it makes them pass off as shallow bitches.
- Bury Your Disabled, Inspirationally Disabled: Disabled men are always seen as sexually undesirable and forcibly chaste. Being unable to take physical action to advance the plot, they can only hope to be supportive characters, or brainy ones, but romance is definitely off the table, unless the story wants to drop an anvil about accepting people for who they are.
Specific Examples:
Comic Books
- Played With in the original the Marvel Family: all three members had Strength, Wisdom and Speed, but while Billy and Freddie also had Stamina, Power and Bravery, Mary's additional powers were Beauty, Grace and Skill. Averted in the Post Crisis reimagining, where the three all had the same powers from the same (male) benefactors.
Live-Action TV
Tabletop Games
- In the second edition of Fantasy Hero for the Hero System, there was a description of what it meant to have a characteristic higher than 20: "Songs are written about the man with 25 Strength or the woman with 24 Comeliness."
Inversions:
Anime and Manga
- High School Debut: Haruna, the female lead, is defined mostly by her strength and athleticism (her looks are merely average). Yoh, the male lead, is known for his attractiveness, and it's the first thing people comment on when meeting him for the first time.
Comic Books
Film
- In Wall E, while pretty much every robot featured is adorable, EVE is the one who does a whole lot more for the sake of her boyfriend and her directive/career, while WALL•E himself is pretty much thrust into situations he shouldn't be in for the sake of a romantic partner.
Literature
- The world of A Brothers Price features a broad Stereotype Flip of most gender roles, set in an analogue of the nineteenth century. Therefore the noted attributes of women are strength, confidence, intelligence, competence etc, with ugliness being a detriment but fairly minor, but although men are expected to be able to run a household and raise children their beauty is extremely important.
Live-Action TV
Mythology
- The reason why the first man and woman in Philippine Mythology are named Malakas and Maganda respectively as they were born on split bamboo.
Radio
- A Prairie Home Companion: In Lake Wobegon, all the women are strong, all the men are good-looking, and all the children are above average.
Web Comics
- In The Order of the Stick, it is Elan (the man) that is constantly being referred to as physically attractive; his female love interest, Haley, is more skilled at battle and never mentioned as being especially good-looking. (Since this is a Stick Figure Comic, looks are strictly an Informed Attribute.)
