A character with this state of mind believes that Sex Is Evil, but can't escape their own sexuality. Operating under ethical guidelines completely opposite to those of an Ethical Slut, the character who employs this trope is likely to care little, if at all, for their sexual partners, as they consider them "dirty" and might resent them or worse for "leading him into temptation."
The character isn't necessarily a rapist; it's enough for them to be a Jerkass about their sexuality under the presumption that Sex Is Evil, "unmarried non-virgins are whores," or similar. They are likely to eventually take it out on their partner(s), themselves, or both.
If they do commit sexual harassment or worse, they might be Obliviously Evil about it. They are likely to show their consideration by choosing victims who are already Defiled Forever, so that some extra abuse won't make any difference... to them, that is.
In a setting where Sex Is Evil, this character will exemplify the evils of sexuality. If they make a Heel-Face Turn and become good, they are likely to forgive their victims for "tempting" them. In a setting where sex is not evil, the character is likely to be contrasted with a Chivalrous Pervert, Good Bad Girl, or fully operational Ethical Slut.
A character with this mindset is likely to think that at least some men are incapable of controlling their sexual urges, so women should expect them to commit sexual harassment or worse and be Crazy-Prepared in various ways. Such as second-guess what these men might find attractive and then try her best to not look attractive, lest these men might get their urges. Of course, since each individual man has his individual preferences (and also since the whole "oh no, I got aroused" thing is just an excuse anyway), even wearing Crocs would not be safe in this regard. Yet some particularly unsympathetic or tragic character may take this attitude one step further, demanding the Double Think that we should all consider men to be some kind of monsters while still considering them to be the superior gender - morally and otherwise. This is done by blaming women for (by their appearance or mere existence) "tempting" men and thus making any sex-crimes against them their own fault. Naturally, many works portray this attitude as barbaric misogyny. With or without any such aspects of ideology or social structure, a character of either gender may use another character's attractiveness or way of dressing as a Lame Excuse to misbehave and then claim Never My Fault.
While this trope seems like it would fall into the "Always Male" category, and traditionally it was, these days it is branching out to other genders. Having said that, the way it's played out does tend to be sexist: a woman bearing this trope tends to be self-destructive, while men use it to be destructive and abusive to others.
See also Troubled Sympathetic Bigot, Then Let Me Be Evil, and Internalized Categorism. Contrast the two tropes that oppose this one, Celibate Hero ("Sex Is Evil, So I Won't Have It", which can also be Paralyzing Fear of Sexuality) and Ethical Slut ("Sex Is Not Evil, And I Am Horny"). Contrast Romanticized Abuse for when abusive sexual gratification is played for Fetish Fuel rather then angst, contrast the polar opposite I'm a Man, I Can't Help It when the male character doesn't even try to keep his sexual urges in check.
No Real Life Examples, Please!, but examples of how real cases have been portrayed in media is okay.
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In Neon Genesis Evangelion, Asuka tells Misato that she has never seen "such an inappropriate relationship" by someone who is supposed to be her guardian regarding Misato's relationship with Kaji. However, she makes several passes at the man herself, including trying to seduce him the night before they arrive in Japan, but he flatly turns her down. She also makes several less than subtle attempts to get Shinji, who is so socially awkward he doesn't get it.
Many, many female Hentai charcters. Especially after victims falls for the rapists or become sex loving rapists themselves twists kick in.
Ai no Kusabi has Iason Mink who is The Beautiful Elite that must abide to the No Sex Allowed law. He chastises his eventual Sex Slave early on for being disgusting and having no value other than to perform sex acts as low class scum. Then he starts engaging in sex himself realizing he quite enjoys it.
In New Mutants Wolfsbane's guardian Reverend Craig was a preacher of the hellfire and brimstone variety, and he basically beat it into her that she was going to hell because her mother was a prostitute. It was later revealed that he used to have sex with prostitutes, one of them being Rahne's mother. She realized this later on and went to confront him revealing she knew his secret and that he was actually her biological father.
The general gist of this fanfic on a Pokémon kink meme involves Cyrus feeling this way about Cynthia. Considering that Cyrus's canonical motivation is "Emotions Are Evil And I Am Passionate", it's not surprising that fanfic involving sexuality sometimes takes him in this direction.
A lot of fic involving N and Hilda is like this, with N raping her because he's too overwhelmed by confusion over his sudden sexual urges and attraction to her.
Some Kim Possible fanfics feature Ron feeling guilty over thinking of Kim in this manner.
Dark Shadows: Barnabas, in his attitude to his attraction to Angelique. He is quite unapologetic about the way he used her for sex and broke her heart. This being a setting where a witch is created as a woman makes a deal with the devil, it is heavily implied that it was his cruelty that turned her into a witch... Just like it was her cruelty that later turned him into a vampire.
The bad guy in Preaching to the Perverted spends the movie fighting against harmless sadomasochists. At the end, it turns out that he is a sadist as well, but has avoided taking part in the "perverted" lifestyle by living out his sadistic lusts in a "more acceptable" way... taking it out on children.
The protagonist of the movie The Good Girl is so repressed that it leads her into a destructive adulterous relationship.
One of the main themes, if not the main theme of The Wicker Man is the conflict between the stuck-up, virginal, devoutly religious Sgt. Howie and the sexually liberal, promiscuous pagan islanders. The filmmakers have stated that Howie's decision of whether or not to have sex dictates what happens to him in the end.
In the movie Crimes Of Passion, "Reverend" Peter Shayne mixes moralism and horniness into a combination that grows more and more destructive. Stalking a prostitute he has the hots for as a misguided crusade to "save her soul." His sexual harassment of her eventually forces her to kill him in a final confrontation. Afterwards she and the protagonist (who tried to save her from the psycho, but she saved herself instead) become a couple and presumably live happily ever after.
Greg Pilkington in Priest. The conflict is pretty natural since he's a gay Catholic priest, but the way he treats his sex partner is still pretty appalling, and father Matthew calls him out on it.
Amaro, the eponymous priest of the Mexican film El Crimen Del Padre Amaro, being under the Catholic Priesthood's vow of celibacy he becomes infatuated with a beautiful teenager, he at first rejects her advances and performs acts of penance for his lust, but then he later gives in and goes full swing from this trope to I'm a Man, I Can't Help It.
John the Savage, from Aldous Huxley's Brave New World, is a classic example of this trope. Unfortunately, his traditional views on sex and love are completely out of step with the society into which he is introduced, and when he gives into the desires he is trying to repress, he is Driven to Suicide out of guilt and shame.
Angelo in Measure for Measure. He considers himself wholly above carnal desire but is horrified when he finds himself sexually attracted to a virginal nun. In fact, this messes his head up so bad that he almost instantly descends into Then Let Me Be Evil and becomes one of the most duplicitous bastards in the whole of Shakespearean canon.
Carrie's abusive Bible-thumbing mother from Carrie was convinced that sex was evil, even within the confines of marriage. However, her husband managed to pressure her into having sex (or outright raped her, it's a bit ambiguous), the result of which was her telekinetic offspring. She never got over the fact that she enjoyed the act.
Keira in the Dark Heresy books is a religious fanatic who believes that sex is evil and killing people is good. She is also a teenage girl. Needless to say, she is very confused.
Alec D'Urberville in Tess of the d'Urbervilles morphs into this trope. After he seduces Tess (read: rapes her while she sleeps) and she leaves, he has a spiritual "reawakening" that causes him to become a man of God. When he meets Tess again, he blames her for his fall and makes her swear on a roadside cross to never tempt him again. Which is of course his way of trying to cover up the fact that he still wants her, bad. In the end he drops the religion.
Played with in Belgariad with Relg, a religious fanatic and zealot. He believes that sex is evil, and hates himself and by extension the women he desires, because of it. The rest of the characters think he's off his rocker, including the woman he eventually marries, who confronts him about it, arguing that the 'sin' is in his mind, not hers. It's the first step towards him getting over it, which he does.
Important in his case (to avoid other Unfortunate Implications that would be the inverse of this trope, such as A Man Is Not a Virgin) is that the woman in question is from a race thought extinct so she is motivated to reproduce, and Relg's god UL has told him the next religious leader of his people will come 'through him.' Relg assumes this means he'll discover the new leader, when in fact what UL meant was that the next leader would be Relg's son. So if he did NOT reproduce, he'd actually be defying his god. Though in fairness UL was a little vague.
The villain of Whispers, and one villain in Watchers, both by Dean Koontz.
Actually, the vast majority of Koontz' villains (more so in his early work, but still present today) have major issues with sexuality.
In a Nightside short story, this trope is used as a spiritual weapon that backfires. A fanatical trio of Christian fundamentalists — one man, one woman, and one ghost — uses the cumulative power of the abstinent living members' sexual frustration to power magical attacks against pagans and their deities on the Street of the Gods. As it happens, the Street is a place where any revered figure can take on spiritual power, and when the holy trio make the mistake of coming too near the Church of Marilyn Monroe, the first two are overwhelmed by the Horny side of this trope, and start tearing each other's clothes off, oblivious to danger or their ghostly associate's protests.
The protagonists have to rescue Leitha from being burned as a witch. It turns out that the local priest is constantly getting aroused by seeing pretty girls, but since he's a holy man and assumed to be above that sort of thing, he assumes they're using witchcraft to "corrupt" him, so he has them charged and executed instead of dealing with his own weak moral fiber. While Leitha (who did actually have supernatural powers — that let her figure out the whole tragic mess, to boot) survives, it's revealed that he's murdered a very large number of girls beforehand.
Heroic character Bheid has a bit of this going on, he's eventually forced to get over it, and ends up married to the above mentioned Leitha.
In The Poisonwood Bible, Orleanna indicates that her husband Nathan is a prime example of this trope. She mentions that he would rarely sleep with her, and when he did, he would end up begging God for forgiveness and blaming her for having led him into temptation. Somehow, they managed to have four children, a fact that Orleanna wryly lampshades.
In one of the Aubrey-Maturin books, a sailor comes to Stephen asking if there's such a thing as the opposite of an aphrodisiac, and if so, can he have some — because his wife is a very religious woman and is disgusted by the idea of sex being pleasurable, so even when she's willing to sleep with him, he freaks her out with his enthusiasm, and then he feels even worse. He's concluded that his only chance of ever having the thing he wants so badly is not to want it.
In In the Time of the Butterflies, Patria describes her hands "wandering" at night and her desire to lick the fingers of every man that walks into her father's store, despite the fact that she wants to be a nun.
Song at Dawn: Raymond De Toulouse is described as having a 'priest's mentality about sex and a fifteen year old's restless penis'. He reconciles this by deluding himself into thinking he's a Knight Templar and therefore he can rape the daughter of a vassal because that somehow fits into God's plan. Everyone else thinks he's evil.
In Rain, it is strongly implied that the reason Rev. Davidson killed himself is that he tried to consummate the lustful attraction to Sadie Thompson which he developed while trying to convert her.
Two of the young adult characters in Needful Things are saving their virginities for each other until after they marry, leaving them both incredibly sexually frustrated. It leads them to being seduced by the cursed items from the store.
Live Action TV
In one episode of Sex and the City, one of the main characters dates a guy who gives her a hard time for "making him dirty" by allowing him to have sex with her.
In the miniseries version of Les Misérables (NOT the novel by Victor Hugo and not the musical either - only the miniseries version), the protagonist Jean Valjean has been given a dose of this. In all versions of the story, he loves his adopted daughter, but in the miniseries this has been given creepy undertones of him having pedophilic urges that he needs to fight with himself to keep in check.
This is the reason behind Karofsky's bullying of Kurt in Glee, although in his case it's more of a case of Homosexuality is Evil and I Am Gay.
Brandon Hantz from Survivor states in a confessional that Mikayla "flaunts herself" and that as a born-again Christian he has trouble being around her. To their credit, the editors show no sympathy toward this attitude, putting together a montage of Mikayla obliviously working around camp whilst Brandon stares at her in the creepiest way imaginable.
hide's Genkai Haretsu, and its PV. The lyrics and PV depict a Villain Protagonist who believes this - and who drugs his female companion and is implied to either kill or put her into a coma and enshrine her on a bed of flowers that looks like a funeral bier out of this.
The Nine Inch Nails song "Kind I Want To". Or at least up until the end. "Maybe just for tonight, we can pretend it's alright...
The Dream Theater song "Voices" is straight up this. Songwriter John Petrucci was raised Catholic.
The Genesis song Jesus He Knows Me, about a televangelist.
A lot of newspapers accused themselves, each other and a certain politician of internalizing this trope in their portrayal of a horrific event where eighteen men gang-raped a eleven-year-old girl. The politician was portrayed as thinking it was the kid's own fault she got raped — and thus really her parents' fault, since they are responsible for her — while the papers, in reporting on how the girl seemed to dress way above her age, cast unfortunate overtones of, "Did you see how she was dressed? She was asking for it!"
One book for Mage: The Awakening features a town where a mage with strong ideas on wholesomeness and youth morality created a working that would keep teenagers away from sex, especially "aberrant" forms of sex such as homosexuality or kink. The good news is, it's worked, as most of the youth have sublimated their sexual desires into other hobbies. The bad news is, besides being as homophobic as all get out,if they ever give in to their sexual desires outside of the context of heterosexual marriage, it's a sin against the Karma Meter — with premarital sex being as bad as manslaughter, and homosexual or kinky sex being as bad as torture. Which means the Mage has effectively created a ticking time bomb for mass-producing sociopathic sexual sadists and serial killers.
For Black Comedy: The mage, not being a great titan in social studies, centered the enchantment around a statue of the high school's namesake. Its name? BenjaminFranklinHigh.
The Werewolf: The Apocalypse book Posessed features an old man who spent many years standing with bible in hand at the collage gates, berating female students for their skimpy clothing. Turns out that his true motivation was that he enjoyed staring at beautiful young women and comment their bodies and clothing. The whole moral superiority thing was merely an excuse that he used to trick everyone (surely including himself) that his behavior was acceptable.
To make it worse, indulging his hatred of beautiful young women and his self-inflicted sexual frustration opened him up to what can be called demonic possession. Having turned into a Formori minion of the Wyrm, he ends up attacking a young beautiful female coed werewolf, making himself the first kill in her new career as a slayer of wyrm-tainted monsters.
Joyce from David Willis' worksIt's Walky! and Dumbing of Age, both incarnations of her. In both she was raised a strict fundamentalist Christian. She eventually overcomes this in It's Walky! (and in fact, sex SAVES her boyfriend, Walky, or rather is responsible for his resurrection, turning the Sex Is Evil trope on its head. In Dumbing of Age, she is still battling her urges against her faith.
The satire newspaper The Onion commented on the scandal of the Catholic Church covering up for pedophile priests (by moving them around instead of firing & reporting them, thus covering their tracks and giving them access to new victims) with a fake announcement from the Pope, who announced that God will forgive the children for their crime of leading his priests into temptation.