"Just pat me."Adults will pat the head of a child to show them they've done well, tousle the child's hair affectionately to take the sting out of a teasing comment, or do one of the former in a playfully patronizing way. Also can be done from one adult to another if one feels protective and affectionate toward the other, or just wants to annoy them. The gesture is done to and from people of both sexes, and can be gentle or rough, though the rough version is most common among boys and their dads/older brothers (or substitute father-figures). Expect the dad to be playfully rough, and the boy to shut one eye while letting his head move with the gesture and maybe complain. The gesture can also be performed genuinely or insincerely. Expect the gesture to be done awkwardly by a closet Child Hater. This is mainly true of North America. In Asian countries, this may be considered rude, due to spiritual connotations. Many people from non-Asian countries dislike the patronizing implications. See also Dope Slap, which is a head pat of "You've Messed Up" and tends to be less affectionate. Relational Troping:
— Annie Edison, Community
- Super Trope to: Headbutt of Love, in which both participants' heads are part of the gesture.
- Sister Trope to: Gotta Get Your Head Together, which is usually one clutching at one's own head and messing up the hair.
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Anime and Manga
- Alucard gives one to Seras Victoria in Hellsing after she awkwardly points out that he seems to have grown a mustache. It's the first affectionate thing he ever does towards her.
- In CLANNAD, Tomoya pats Nagisa.
- In Naruto Itachi's brotherly gesture was affectionate by definition. Possibly the most dramatic, emotionally-eliciting gesture you could give considering the circumstances.
- Sasuke continues the tradition by doing this to his own daughter at the end of Gaiden, despite being absent from her life for long periods of time.
- Kakashi also has a habit of patting his students on the head.
- Dragon Ball:
- This is how Goku shows affection towards his sons and later his granddaughter.
- Young Gohan is patted on the head quite frequently — even by Vegeta — in Dragon Ball Z. One particular moment that stands out was during a flashback when Piccolo does this to a sleeping Gohan and promises that he won't let anything happen to him, cementing his Heel–Face Turn and Papa Wolf status towards Gohan.
- In the Sengoku Basara anime when Shingen seems about to give a standard Megaton Punch to Yukimura but switches to patting and tousling his hair at the last second, telling him he's done well.
- General rule with Baccano!: left-handed head pats are affection. Right-handed head pats? Not so much.
- After thinking that he is going to die, Czeslaw gets a pat on the head from Maiza instead of having his life force sucked from him as he'd expected. This, along with the love that Isaac and Miria had shown him, leads to his breaking free from his past woes.
- Subverted at the end of the 2002 arc with Fermet's return. His ambush of Czes is bad enough just with the massive creeper overtones he practically oozes all over his "favorite toy". When he makes it clear how utterly helpless Czes is against him... puts his right hand on Czes' forehead... and pets him before walking off to let the mindbreak settle.
- In Tiger & Bunny, Kotetsu often pats younger characters on the head as a sort of fatherly gesture.
- In Saiyuki, this is one of Sanzo's few outwardly affectionate gestures towards Goku.
- Heaven's Lost Property:
- Ikaros pats others a lot, usually to soothe someone who is upset. One time, she even randomly did it to a Yakuza boss. The man's bodyguards are shocked by this violation of personal space and move to attack her, but the boss stops them and enjoys it.
- Astrea ends up patting Chaos' head.
- This is essentially the signature gesture of the Kasahara/Dojo relationship in Library War. The first one occurred when Kasahara was in high school and Dojo was her "prince". The next time he gave her one, it strongly reminded her of her "prince" and kickstarted their Slap-Slap-Kiss relationship. Pretty much every important the two of them have is accompanied by one.
- In Dog Days, this is a trademark of Princess Millhiore. Everyone she pets comments on how soft and gentle her hands are. Cinque also does it to her and a few other girls.
- By the second season, it seems the favorite peacetime activity for all three rulers is getting petted by their respective Heroes.
- In Fullmetal Alchemist Ed often pets Al's and Winry's heads to reassure them.
- GA Geijutsuka Art Design Class:
- Kisaragi gets patted from Noda and Tomokane after telling the story of how she came to buy a "god's pencil", then again from them plus Miyabi and Namiko after she explains that it "worked" (though it's pretty clear that practice was really what worked).
- In a chapter image, Namiko seems to be giving Tomokane and Kisaragi one of these as the younger four of the five seem to be engaged in a group hug.
- Hidamari Sketch:
- Yuno is patted by her mother because she was worried about her father being at home alone.
- Yuno gets one from Sae and Miyako at her explanation of Hiro's setting aside an onigiri.
- Yuno gets one from Nori after telling her and Nazuna why she brought them to the bathhouse.
- Nazuna gets one from her father after her mother thanks her friends for helping her, and tells her she has it good.
Azusa: No, not me!
- Azusa is frequently patted against her will, even though it's what Yui used to calm her down when she blew up. But she does take it better when it's employed while they're reminding her that they haven't forgotten the club. (The others had been too involved in the play to practice for the concert.)
- One time, when Nodoka jokingly asks the Hirasawa sisters if they didn't come out in the wrong order (Yui needs help with a math problem that Ui knows how to solve after glancing at it while setting tea she made down, Yui and Ui briefly interact as though they were the other way around; this gesture is part of it.
- Nodoka pats Ui in the very next strip after being randomly hugged by her.
- In K-On! High School, Azusa tries to reach kouhai Sumire's head, saying "Rub... head..." as she stretches for it. Sumire takes this as a request and confusedly rubs Azusa's head.
- In one episode of Axis Powers Hetalia, France affectionately ruffles America's hair during the latter's hundredth birthday.
- A darker example is Russia and Latvia; Russia is seemingly very fond of the much smaller Latvia, and likes to give him affectionate — and very crushing, due to their huge difference in strength — head pats. Latvia claims that the reason he's so small is because of them.
- Taishi of Servant × Service occasionally pats younger women on their head out of unconscious habit, due to his sister.
- Usui often affectionately pats Misaki's head in Kaichou Wa Maid-sama!.
- In Date A Live Shido tends to do these to the various spirits a lot, especially the more childlike ones. Kurumi offers Shido this choice in volume 7.
Kurumi: If you don’t want me to cry, you can either give me one of Shidou-san’s eyeballs, or let me suck your blood, or pet my head.
- In Elfen Lied when Kurama sends Nana to capture Lucy and bring her back to the lab this is all she asks for in return, because this was how he showed affection to her.
- Grave in Gungrave often pats Mika's head. It's all he needs to do to show that he cares for his little protege.
- Lyrical Nanoha:
- Signum does this to Fate in A's when they change from being Worthy Opponents to Friendly Rivals.
- In something of a role-reversal, six-year-old Vivio gives her mother Nanoha a pat on the head to cheer her up during a flashback in StrikerS. And it's adorable.
- Subaru does this to Ixpellia in StrikerS Sound Stage X right before Ixpellia falls into a sleep that could last for thousands of years.
- In K: Return of Kings, when Shiro is working hard on his research to find a solution to the issue of the second season, Neko tells him she believes in him, and he gives her a pat on the head (because she's a cat). Then, Kuroh, the "Black Dog" and Shiro's other teammate, tells Shiro the same thing and leans in for a split second as if he wants a head-pat, too.
- Tsurezure of Ojojojo gave his girlfriend's sister a pat on the head after finding out that she's a Bitch in Sheep's Clothing who's trying to break them up and take her sister's place as heiress (showing that he cares about her as Haru's sister despite all that).
- Kobayashi normally shows affection to Tohru and Kanna in Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid by petting them on the head (more so the latter than the former). It's pretty much the only way that she knows how to express affection since she has admitted to having trouble dealing with interpersonal relationships.
- During Superman: Brainiac, Supergirl has a breakdown after seeing a Brainiac android. Superman calms her down by hugging her and stroking her head.
- The title character of Deadpool does this to his daughter on occasion. At one point, after not seeing one another for over a week, they share a warm embrace, and he rests his hand on her head has she speaks. Another instance, he is in his daughter's room and they play together for a while. But he eventually has to leave for "work." He gives Ellie a kiss on her forehead before he has to go.◊
- During the "Obsidian Age" arc of Justice League of America, Martian Manhunter applies his fingers to Green Lantern's head to try and find out why he's having visions of the League being slaughtered. Lantern jokes that in some of the alien cultures he's visited, this would make them married.
- During Flashpoint, Traci Thirteen goes searching for allies to help her stop a plan to kill all the belligerents in the war between the Amazons and Atlantis, and ends up freeing Circe, who was locked up by the Amazons. Circe refuses to help Traci because she figures the Amazons deserve to die for locking her up, but gives the girl a kiss on the forehead for her troubles.
- In Runaways, Nico uses an affectionate head touch to administer a spell that forces Klara to sleep after her powers get out of control. Molly, whose parents used to do the same thing to her, is not pleased by this. Later, Molly is seen cradling Klara's head in her lap and running her fingers through her hair.
- The last issue of Geoff Johns' run on Justice Society of America features Ted Grant giving his son an affectionate noogie.
"I'd be your sidekick any day of the week, you pain in the ass."
- A few issues later, Hourman tousles Stargirl's hair while suggesting that the reason villains seem to be avoiding her lately is because she's so cute. His wife Liberty Bell finds this patronizing.
- Judge Dredd: In Dark Justice, a thousand of Mega-City One's wealthiest citizens decide to leave the Earth in a Starship Luxurious after the Day of Chaos turned much of the city into a ruin. When a reporter at the launch ceremony asks what the people who can't afford a seat are supposed to do, the spokesperson gives him a condescending pat on the head.
- Advice and Trust: In chapter 8 Shinji rubbed the top of Asuka's head while she was resting on his lap.
- The Child of Love: After kissing and confessing during a festival Shinji and Asuka cuddled together. Shinji brushed away stray locks from her face as they snuggled up.
She rests her head against Shinji's shoulder, and he gently brushes some hair away from his redheaded goddess' face.
- Children of an Elder God: In chapter 4 while they are talking, Kaji ruffles Asuka's hair in a paternal, placating way.
Kaji laughed and ruffled her hair.
- In the Back to the Future fanfic Ich Liebe Dich, Doc absentmindedly strokes Marty's hair while the teen is asleep.
- Ghosts of Evangelion: After having a talk with her teen daughter about the War, Asuka tugs a lock of her hair.
Asuka shrugged. "Sort of. But don't worry about it. You're a good kid, so you're worth the trouble." She tugged a lock of Ryuko's hair. "Even if you are a delinquent."
- HERZ: In chapter 2 Asuka wakes up after a terrible nightmare. As he reassures her, Shinji strokes her red bangs.
"Shuuussh," he said soothingly, smoothly the damn auburn locks on her forehead as he propped her up on the pillows.
- In Kyon: Big Damn Hero, Kyon tousles his little sister's hair pretty much whenever he sees her.
- Last Child of Krypton: After beating Sachiel Shinji got Rei out of Unit 01 and caressed her head as he asked what happened to her.
- There is a Touhou doujinshi where a very drunk Sanae asks to be patted on the head and called a "good girl". This has become something of a meme in the Touhou fandom.
- The Second Try: Aki has this a lot of her loving parents in this story and the sequel as seen here.
- In Field Of Innocence, Lu Ten ruffles his little cousin Zuko's hair before leaving for the Earth Kingdom.
- In Thousand Shinji, Shinji stroked Asuka's hair to reassure her after an argument while they were swimming in a pool.
- Neon Genesis Evangelion: Genocide gives several examples:
- In chapter 9, Asuka tries to reassure Keiko by rubbing her head.
The redhead didn't feel like she was moving until she had placed her hand on the other girl's head, leaning over her, and stroked her hair in a gesture of unthinkable compassion just a few minutes ago.
- In chapter 15, Misato pats Shinji’s head before a synch test.
Misato stepped over to her wards, patted Shinji on the head and smiled at Asuka.
- In chapter 9, Asuka tries to reassure Keiko by rubbing her head.
- In All This Sh*t is Twice as Weird, Mahanon occasionally tugs on the end of Victoria's braid in a big brother type of gesture.
- Ash's Duskull in Challenger shows affection by tapping people's foreheads and likes to have his mask tapped in return.
Film — Animated
- Casper the Friendly Ghost: In Casper: A Spirited Beginning, Fatso strokes Casper on the head while lying about them being uncle and nephew. It happens again in Casper Meets Wendy, where Fatso strokes Casper on the head after his uncles and the witches save him and Wendy, and once more in Casper's Haunted Christmas when they, Stretch, Stinkie, Spooky, and Pearl are being banished to "The Dark".
- In Disney's Tangled. Mother Gothel gives these to Rapunzel a lot - she pats Rapunzel "sweetly" on the head as a gesture of "affection" but also to remind her that she's dumb, helpless, naive, ditzy, etc. It is a sign that Rapunzel has grown up that she blocks the gesture and grabs Gothel's wrist once Rapunzel realizes who she is.
- In Disney's Tarzan, the infant who will end up as Tarzan gets a genuine ruffle of his hair by his human father during the opening of the movie, for pointing out a great tree to build in.
- In The Simpsons Movie, a kid in a commercial asks Tom Hanks to tousle his hair. Magic sparkles appear as he does.
- At the end of Atlantis: The Lost Empire, Milo is saying goodbye to all his friends. When he comes to Mole, who offers a big hug, he hesitates before patting his head instead.
- In Toy Story 3, Bonnie's mother gently strokes her daughter's hair before she steps up to Andy to accept his toys.
- Beauty and the Beast:
- The Beast strokes Belle's hair and cheek when they're having romantic moments.
- After the curse is broken, Belle sort of brushes Beast's hair so she can better see his face, before they kiss.
Film — Live Action
- In Gran Torino, Clint Eastwood pats the head of a child in a Hmong household as a gesture of kindness; the family of the child is shocked by this due to their cultural differences.
- Plot-relevant in Definitely, Maybe, as recognizing the gesture is how Maya works out which of the women in the story is her mother.
- WarGames. During the movie, Dr. McKittrick had been suspicious of and antagonistic toward David Lightman. At the end, after Lightman had prevented World War III, Dr. McKittrick tousled his hair in a friendly way.
- Boromir pats Frodo in Lord of the Rings during their attempted trek over Caradhras. After picking up the Ring, he gives it back to Frodo only after an order from Aragorn. He ruffles Frodo's hair to lighten the mood, but the Fellowship stay wary.
- X-Men: Apocalypse: Charles Xavier tenderly caresses Jean Grey's forehead to calm her down after she becomes agitated by an apocalyptic vision. It's also a visual cue that they have a surrogate father-daughter relationship.
- La Reine Margot pets her brothers' hair when they are upset about her wedding night. And again Margot pets Charles when he is crying after the St. Bartholomew's Day Massacre.
- Adele Hasn't Had Her Dinner Yet: Police commissioner Ledvina comforts detective Nick Carter when he was recovering from the attack by The Gardener's chamberlain. Tap on the Head and chloroform? He deserved the affectionate pat, plus Ledvina promised him fresh air and beer drinking, if he would feel up to it.
- In The Last Picture Show, Sonny often shows his affection towards Billy by taking his cap off and putting it back on.
- The Quick and the Dead. Lady is curt in response to Katie's adoration, until just before her first gunfight when Katie assures her she will win; the Lady then strokes Katie's hair in thanks. Subverted when she does win.
Katie: Lady, I think you're great!Lady: (pushing past her) Grow up.
- At the end of Attenberg, Marina gives Bella an odd affectionate gesture to the head just before Bella goes to have sex with Marina's dying father.
- The Name of the Rose.
- Brother William strokes the hair of his novice Adso as he tosses in his bed from a nightmare. Adso grabs hold of his hand in his sleep, leaving William standing there holding a lamp in one hand that he can't put down, yet reluctant to pull his hand free. He leans awkwardly against the wall instead.
- Earlier a friar strokes the back of Adso's head in a creepy manner while making some rather homoerotic comments.
- The Terminator. Kyle Reece strokes the hair of a sleeping Sarah Connor, only to quickly snatch his hand away when the gesture wakes her up. This is after the flashback scene showing he kept a photograph of her as a treasured possession in the future.
- In A Song of Ice and Fire, Jon shows his affection to Arya by mussing up her hair. Arya later misses having him do this to her.
- Percy Jackson and the Olympians: Sally pets and ruffles Percy's hair often, especially if they haven't seen each other in a while. It's particularly noticeable in the first book, when she's pretty much the only person who he allows physical affection from.
- In Dragon Bones Ward tries to snap Oreg out of one of his PTSD-induced flashbacks by touching his head, as every other part of his body is horribly injured (Oreg is so powerful a mage that he re-lives the past in a physical sense without being able to control it). He also says Oreg's name ... which makes him look stupid when his uncle sees it, as Oreg is invisible to most people.
- In the October Daye novel One Salt Sea, the scary, unaffectionate Luidaeg gives Quentin's hair an affectionate ruffle.
- In Cheaper by the Dozen by Frank Gilbreth Jr. and Ernestine Gilbreth Carey, there is a part when the children's Aunt Anne comes to visit and Billy pushes her over the edge to the point where she yanks his hair. They get on better terms with each other, though, to the point where Aunt Anne gives Billy one of these.
- The X-Wing Series has Han Solo once vigorously muss up Wedge Antilles' hair as demonstration of the fact that he can get away with a lot as a General. For the record, they're friends.
- Used contemptuously in Galaxy of Fear. Young Tash takes offense to Second Face Smoke, but this amuses the smoker, who puts a hand on her head and looms over her, then spins her towards the Bad-Guy Bar door and shoves her. He's a serial killer, so she's fortunate he was amused. Later his brain ends up in her skull.
- In the Lucky Starr series, Lucky often tousles his smaller sidekick Bigman's hair to show affection. In Lucky Starr and the Rings of Saturn, the affection is mixed with frustration, and Lucky goes as far as to "[seize] Bigman's hair affectionately and [tug] his head back and forth".
Live Action TV
- Game of Thrones:
- Subverted when Daenerys isn't happy about her Arranged Marriage to some savage horselord, so Prince Viserys strokes his sister's face in reassurance...while telling her he'd let Khal Drogo's entire army (and their horses) fuck her if that's what it took to get his throne back.
- Davos gives Shireen a kiss on the forehead for prompting his Eureka Moment in "Breaker of Chains".
- Volantenes believe it's good luck to rub a dwarf's head and aren't shy about doing it without permission. Tyrion is not amused.
- In Stargate SG-1, Jack sometimes gently ruffles or smooths Daniel's hair to show affection or to comfort himself if he's worried about Daniel. He also does it to annoy Daniel sometimes.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer:
- Buffy stroking Dawn's hair.
- Anya patting Dawn, but as it's meant to be a patronizing gesture, it only annoys her.
- Another surrogate-parent relationship: Mayor Wilkins strokes Faith's hair when she's hospitalized in "Graduation Day".
- In Smallville:
- Clark pats Lana quite a bit.
- Whitney to Lana.
- Chloe tenderly pats Clark, who is unconscious, in "Fever".
- Clark pats Chloe in "Onyx" when evil (well, eviler) Lex knocked her out cold.
- Clark gently touches Chloe in "Abyss" along with a forehead kiss before wiping her memories of his secret.
- Clark and Lois start patting each other's head after they drop the Vitriolic Best Buds facade and start acknowledging their mutual attraction.
- Played with on the kids game show Double Dare. In one of the physical challenges A contestant would have a slime filed balloon put on her hat, and then sit down receiving a pat on the head from a giant hand. This would break the balloon leaving her Covered in Gunge.
- In series one, episode one of Jeeves and Wooster, Bingo Little pats Oliver Glossup (the boy he's tutoring) during dinner, dismissing something the boy just said.
- Community, as is expected of such a troperiffic show, discussed this. Jeff and Annie's relationship is characterized by him being an older brother to her, except that the increasing sexual tension is making that awkward and they can't keep it up, meaning their relationship has to evolve. The discussion ends with "We can't keep doing this kiddo," with a gentle chuck of the chin. "Can't we?" [long pause], "No, it's gross."
- JJ from Skins is forever having his hair ruffled; he's well aware that it's mostly patronizing.
"Then I'd tell Freddie and Cook to stop fighting over Effy before they hate each other forever, and not make me take sides. And they'd listen to me for once and not fucking ruffle my hair!"
And then about two minutes later, Karen [Freddie's sister] does exactly that.
- The X-Files: Mulder and Scully would frequently touch each other's forehead, stroke each other's hair, hold each other's head or cup each other's face. UST at its best.
- NCIS: The jury is still out as to whether Gibbs’ dope slaps to DiNozzo are kind gestures or an attempt to stop him being so... erm... so DiNozzo. DiNozzo claims he's sure they're affectionate. In one of Ziva's first episodes, she takes it as both a sign of affection and a badge of honour to receive one from Gibbs, so the reality is that it's a combination of both.
- "The Duchess and the Devil" from Horatio Hornblower has this trope all over the place.
- The Duchess of Wharfedale is a lady who is cheeky, spirited, older yet still sexy as hell. She gently touches Horatio's face when she teases him about not having any razors to shave himself because he's in Spanish jail. That lady knows how to flirt.
- The Duchess affectionately strokes Archie Kennedy's forehead when he lies in bed, slowly recovering from his suicide attempt by starvation. Lucky Duchess and lucky Archie.
- Horatio caresses Archie's head and loose hair when he tries to take care of him and nurse him into health. He also hands him a cup of water and tries to make him drink. These are extremely intense hurt/comfort moments between Heterosexual Life-Partners.
- Doctor Who:
- The first technical Doctor/companion kiss on the whole show is when the Second Doctor kisses Zoe on the forehead in "The War Games".
- The Third Doctor toys with Liz's hair when she's helping him round after an attempted assassination via Deadly Gas in "The Ambassadors of Death".
- In "Pyramids of Mars", there is a fairly extended scene where Sarah Jane very thoroughly massages and cuddles the Doctor's head while he's coming round to consciousness. Judging by his expression, he enjoys it quite a lot.
- In "Shada", Chris allows the Doctor to wire his brain up to a man left braindead by a particularly brutal Mind Rape. The Doctor hooks him up to the machine, realises that Chris is finding it excruciatingly painful, and kisses him on the forehead out of pity. Then he kisses the Mind Rape victim on his forehead, 'for luck'.
- The Eleventh Doctor is very fond of kissing companions and loved ones on the forehead as a reassuring gesture.
- The Third Doctor gives Jo Grant a kiss◊ (something he rarely gives a companion, let alone anyone else) on the forehead after finding her safe and sound in "Colony in Space". Both Jon Pertwee and Katy Manning seem to fumble awkwardly in the lead-up to it.
- Towards the end of her time on the series, stroking the Twelfth Doctor's cheek becomes Clara Oswald's default mode of expressing affection for him when a hug won't do. (In their final episode together, the Doctor was originally scripted to finally return the favour, but the scene was shot differently.) This replaced slapping the Doctor which Clara did (or threatened to do) a surprising number of times in their first season together.
- Towards the end of the first season of Homeland, Tom Walker ties up an old woman and uses her home as a sniping post. After he's finished, he musses her hair before leaving.
- In the Supernatural episode "What Is And What Should Never Be" (S02, Ep20), the Mary Winchester in the wishverse stroke's Dean's face and kisses him on the forehead.
- FridayNightLights once had Tim Riggins kiss Becky on the forehead as both an apology and a promise to come back for her.
- The titular serial killer in Hannibal is creepily fond of stroking and caressing his victims' faces as he kills them.
- Lampshaded in one strip of Dilbert, the Pointy-Haired Boss is criticizing Dilbert's work (while not being overly specific as to what's wrong). As Dilbert becomes more frustrated, the boss asks Dilbert to "come here so I may pat your head in a condescending manner".
Dogbert: So you took the pat on the head?
Dilbert: I didn't want to leave empty handed.
- Dana Brooke is fond of patting someone's hair, except it's more patronizing than affectionate - usually to interviewers after a promo. In some cases, she asks the main male interviewer for NXT (who is considerably taller) to squat down so she can reach.
- Quite commonplace in professional team sports, and considered a bit less Ho Yay than a pat on the backside.
- In Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha A's Portable : The Gears of Destiny, Dark Piece Rynith gives one to Levi the Slasher after the two properly introduced themselves. Turns out, The Berserker Blood Knight likes it.
Levi: Nehehe~, feel free to pat me more~!
- Oda Nobunaga pats Genki Girl Xiao Qiao's head in the Sengoku ending of Warriors Orochi.
- In The Incredible Hulk: Ultimate Destruction whenever you pick up a civilian, you can choose to put them down with a gentle pat on the head instead of throwing them into the horizon like the Hulk usually does when he picks someone up.
- Rusl gives a hair ruffle to his son Colin at the beginning of The Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess.
- Toriel gently pets the player on the head when they first enter her house and she shows them their new room. No surprise why fans quickly took to calling her Goatmom.
- Parodied during the "date" with Alphys. Undyne hugs a depressed Alphys and pats her on the head... then tosses her into a trash can like a basketball before shouting an encouraging speech at her.
- In an Easter Egg in the True Lab, lying down in one of the beds causes a ghostly creature to appear beside it, and slowly reach out to Frisk...To reach down to tuck them in, and pat them on the head. It would be cute, if it weren't creepy as well.
- Tomodachi Life: One of the things a player can do with the Mii is use the stylus to pat their head. While doing so, it first gets a relaxed expression, then a happy one; letting go of the stylus will make it jump up and gain a small chunk of XP.
"It looks like he/she really liked that!"
- In Love Live! School Idol Festival, one of the things Nozomi will say on the home screen as your center is, "Once you clear your goals, I'll give you a pat on the head" ("Uchi wa yoshi-yoshi shiteageru yan").
- In the The Legend of Heroes: Trails of Cold Steel games, Sara likes doing this to Fie, who puts up with it but tells Sara how annoying she finds it. Laura's father also does this to her when they see each other again for the first time in months. Laura is more embarrassed that the gesture is seen by her classmates than by the gesture itself. Rean also has a tendency to do it to any girl he's close to (Alisa, Towa, and Elise are all on the receiving end, much to their collective frustration).
- In Fire Emblem: Binding Blade, Thite upsets Shanna by criticizing her recklessness. She tries to imitate their big sister Juno by patting her on the head—only Thite is an Aloof Big Sister, so Shanna goes from being upset to weirded out. (She does say she appreciates the effort in their next support conversation.)
- Rin's flashback in the prologue of Fate/stay night features a scene where her father pats her on the head. She remarks that because it's the first time he's ever done so, he's using far too much strength and dragging her head around as he does it.
- My Girlfriend Is the President: Jun often pats Yukino, and it always causes her worries to vanish instantly. Jun even complains that she's too simple-minded. He also does it to Ell in her route, and it works so well that, whenever Jun looks concerned, she starts doing it to him as well. It also works that way, though obviously more because of the cuteness than anything else.
- Harada Sanosuke in Hakuouki distributes these regularly to Chizuru and Ryuunosuke.
- Higurashi: When They Cry:
- Satoshi Hojo had a habit of doing this, especially to his sister Satoko, before he disappeared. So much that when Keiichi does it to her in Tatarigoroshi-hen, it actually triggers her.
- Rika pats people when they're feeling down. While most people assume that she's comforting them, she's actually mocking them.
- This used to be done to Miyo as a child by her dad. A noticeably sad example happens after he gets into a severe automobile accident. He's bandaged near completely and his arm has been amputated but he tries to comfort Miyo but can't. He dies moments later.
- Casper's Scare School: Mantha and Stretch stroke Casper on the head in "Vote for Casper" and "What Possessed You?" respectively.
- The Simpsons: In an educational film, Troy McClure pats little Tommy at the end.
- Tom and Jerry: "Professor Tom" has Tom teaching mousing to a kitten. When the kitten does a good job, he gets a pat on the head.
- How the Grinch Stole Christmas! has the titular Grinch patting Cindy Lou Who on the head before he gives her a drink and sends her back to bed.
- In a certain comic based on The Powerpuff Girls, Buttercup gets annoyed with the Mayor's constant patting her on the head, to the point where she punches his lights out after repeatedly telling him to stop.
- A standard gesture of affection among Gargoyles, the equivalent of kissing.
- Green Lantern: The Animated Series: Hal does a "tousle the hair" to Amaya — an alien without hair — when showing her a kindness over a family loss.
- My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic:
Rainbow Dash: You would think so. And that is why you would never qualify to be my pet.
- In "Griffon the Brush Off", Pinkie Pie gives one to Fluttershy right before Gilda's party, and actually manages the very rare feat of annoying her.
Pinkie Pie: Don't worry your pretty little head about mean old Gilda. Your auntie Pinkie Pie's got it all taken care of!Fluttershy: I'm a year older than you.
- In "May the Best Pet Win", Rainbow Dash gives a condescending pat on the head to Twilight Sparkle, when she asks if "coolness", "awesomeness" and "radicalness" aren't all the same thing.
- In "Sisterhooves Social", Rarity's father gives Sweetie Belle a tousle as he praises her cooking. She clearly appreciates it.
- In "Family Appreciation Day", Apple Bloom is patted by her Uncle Apple Strudel and Granny Smith.
- In "The Mysterious Mare Do Well", Rainbow Dash gives Scootaloo a tousle/noogie when she thinks that Scootaloo's there to apologize.
- Twilight gets a few of these in "A Canterlot Wedding".
- Fluttershy gets one of these from Pinkie Pie again in Maud Pie when Pinkie tells her that the rocks used to make the rock candy are a secret.
- Fluttershy again gets these from her younger brother, Zephyr Breeze, in "Flutter Brutter".
- In "Griffon the Brush Off", Pinkie Pie gives one to Fluttershy right before Gilda's party, and actually manages the very rare feat of annoying her.
- Teen Titans: "Call All Titans": Jericho reaches down and pats an exhausted Beast Boy on the head after he climbs all the way to the top of the mountain to give Jericho a communicator.
- Transformers Rescue Bots: Cody is frequently the recipient of head pats and hair tousles by every human adult on the show.
- Steven Universe: Garnet pats Steven Universe fairly often, enough so that it is seen in the opening. While all the gems are very affectionate towards Steven, it's especially noticable due to Garnet's normally stoic demeanor.
- Gravity Falls: Grunkle Stan will occasionally give some "affectionate noogie-ing" to his great nephew and niece Dipper and Mabel.