Lap Pillow

Hamlet: Lady, shall I lie in your lap?
Ophelia: No, my lord.
Hamlet: I mean, my head upon your lap?

A good way to show the physical intimacy and trust which a couple have is to rest one's head on the other's lap. Usually, the man does the resting while the woman provides the lap, not only because of anatomical reasons but because the lap-owner is typically of a nurturing nature more associated with femininity. Bonus points if she's feeding him grapes or stroking his hair.

In some cases this is done between people who are not necessarily lovers, to comfort someone who is weeping or injured.

In Japan, if they're really close, the sitter is cleaning out the layer's ears with a pick. This is something old married couples do.

Compare Holding Hands.


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    Anime & Manga 
  • Card Captor Sakura: In episode 60, Tomoyo comforts a heartbroken Meiling in this manner after she calls off her and Syaoran's Childhood Marriage Promise.
  • In Mahou Sensei Negima!, Negi does this a lot, falling asleep on his students' laps on numerous occasions. The romantic overtones are usually subverted. Such as when he falls asleep on Konoka's lap (pictured above), leading the cheerleaders (and Ayaka, who promptly freaks out) to believe that they're secretly dating, when in fact he's just exhausted. Naturally, Ayaka is overjoyed when Negi conks out on her lap later on, again due to fatigue.
  • In Fate/stay night, Saber makes Shirou rest on a park bench after she realizes that he's about to collapse due to fatigue from his injuries. Then she realizes that there is no pillow, and picking the idea up from another couple on another park bench, makes him rest his head on her lap. Then he falls asleep (he was really tired).
  • This happens very early on in 11eyes for a Yuka/Kakeru bonding scene.
  • In Skip Beat!, Ren uses Kyoko's lap as a pillow in one scene. They aren't a couple, but there's much romantic tension there.
    • Specifically, Ren was overcome by his feelings and nearly either confessed or propositioned her, but realizing halfway through that this was already freaking her out and if he finished she'd probably be scared out of his life for good, he managed to turn it into the claim that he thought he might feel better if he napped and he couldn't sleep without a pillow. Both of them feel very awkward, until Kyoko (thinking Ren is asleep) starts petting his hair.
    • It is very cute, but like most of Skip Beat! manages to avoid the standard way its cliche situations are arrived at. So that's something.
  • In Great Teacher Onizuka, when Anko and Noboru, Anko accidentally smacks Noboru in the face with her purse thinking he's a perv, so she lets him rest his head in her lap until his nose stops bleeding.
  • The implied intimacy of the situation is the reason why Dolores and Mr. Raptor (Both Humongous Mecha, mind you) end up going straight to Instant Seiza when a bump during transportation puts them in this position in Zone of the Enders: Dolores, i. That, and the cockpit sticking out from between Dolores' legs...
  • In the last episode of the first Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha series, Fate rests her head on her familiar Arf's lap while sleeping in her cell.
  • In Kodomo no Omocha, Akito puts his head on Sana's lap and she cleans out his ears, except...she was pretending to be his mother and had to blackmail him to get him to do it.
  • In the Pool Episode of Sasameki Koto, Ushio offers her lap to Sumika, who is exhausted from her competition with Tomoe. Sumika certainly enjoys the view from her position.
  • In Inuyasha, the first time we learn that Inuyasha is human once a month, his entire demeanor change from Jerk Ass to Jerk with a Heart of Gold is symbolised by his request to lie in Kagome's lap. Aaaawwww...
  • Used with a twist in the AKIRA manga. Not only the girl (Kaori) is the one who rests her head on the guy (Tetsuo)'s left hip as she sleeps, but the environment isn't exactly idyllic and peaceful—they're in the middle of the ruined Neo Tokyo, and the guy's right arm is almost wholly mutated.
    • Which had just been reversed earlier, with a freaked-out Tetsuo laying and resting his head in her lap with her stroking his hair and comforting him.
  • Done by Minami for Yutaka in one episode of Lucky Star. Yutaka seems oblivious to the romantic implications but Konata and Hiyori are not.
  • Happened in Kämpfer during a date, where Shizuku gives one to Natsuru who fell asleep after eating lunch. It is implied that she also kissed him at that moment.
  • This happens betweens between Momoko and Yousuke in Wedding Peach.
  • Mayoi Neko Overrun has it between Kaho and Takumi in episode four. Both of them are naked, after a series of circumstances involving hot springs, a forest trek and Kaho not having any shame.
  • Happens twice in Bleach. Once, after losing against the Hollow Grandfisher, Ichigo falls unconscious and Rukia rests his head in her lap.
    • The second instance occurs in the Soul Society arc, during a flashback, between Yoruichi and Soifon.
  • One of Naoko Takeuchi's art books has this cute drawing of Usagi and Mamoru. "I love sleeping with my head on someone's lap. I also love having someone's head on my lap. Since both really put me at ease, I can be happy." she says of it.
    • In the old Sailor Moon series, Kunzite's first apparition has him allowing his boyfriend Zoicite to lean his head on his lap, comforting a tearful and angry Zoi after Queen Beryl chooses Nephrite over him to perform a very important mission.
  • In the manga version of The Legend of Zelda, Link is lying on Princess Zelda's lap, although this turns out to be a dream.
  • Ch. 19 of Aki Sora has one page of this between Nami and Sora. The subtext gets a heavy and rather ironic lampshading.
  • A villainous version occurs in Soul Eater with Big Bad Asura resting his head in the lap of Arachne while she comforts him, telling him he'll be safe with her, and that she will never leave him.
  • A more violent version occurs in Fairy Tail due to Natsu's extreme motion sickness Erza punches him in the stomach causes him to fall in her lap.
  • One episode of the Gravitation anime has Yuki letting Shuichi lay his head in his lap and tell him about his work-related worries.
  • Kazuki gets to do this with Tokiko at the end of the Papillon arc of Busou Renkin.
  • Naruto: When Naruto meets his mother Kushina, she explains to him how she discovered that she was the Nine Tails' jinchuriki before him. In a flashback, her own predecessor, Mito Uzumaki, is shown comforting a young Kushina this way while reassuring her that she could still live a happy life even as if she was meant to be a jinchūriki.
  • During one chapter in The Electric Tale of Pikachu, Ash and Pikachu are seperated. At the end of the story, Misty is doing this to Ash after the poor guy has run himself ragged trying to find him. Unfortunately for her, when Pikachu returns Ash bolts up so fast that he ends up knocking her back.
  • There's also a rather cute example in the Pokémon anime—during a flashback Meowth has, we see a brief shot of Jessie and James asleep, with her head on his lap.
  • D.Gray-Man: Occurs in chapter 168 with Johnny resting his head on Lenalee's lap.
  • In Hetalia Bloodbath 2011 Italy is shown sleeping with his head on Germany's lap.

    A blog illustration by Himaruya has a little Hong Kong napping with his head on Victorian England's hip.
  • In episode 17 of Kin'iro no Corda Shimizu uses Hino's lap as a pillow.
  • In the Zero no Tsukaima official art Cattleya lets Louise use her as a Lap Pillow.
  • In CLANNAD Yukine uses Tomoya's lap as a pillow during one of their visits to the library (she was just exhausted). The romantic implications are pointed out, in fact Tomoya directly asks his girlfriend Nagisa if she's okay with this. Nagisa says she is, but admits that she's a bit jealous.
  • During the storyline in which Tatewaki Kuno is possessed by a cherry tree in Ranma ½, he lays on Ranma's lap.
  • In Madlax episode 24, Margaret sleeps with her head in Elenore's lap during a flashback. Also contains Ear Cleaning.
  • Happens thrice in One Piece, twice with Robin. First, after the events of the battle with the New Fishman Pirates, Chopper rests on Robin's lap because he was paralysed due to the aftereffects of Monster Point. This prompts jealousy in Sanji. Another case of this is in the Punk Hazard Arc, where the Straw Hats and allies find out that they've been captured in a cage by Caesar. Here, everyone is awake besides Franky, who is sleeping soundly in Robin's lap. The third time a case such as this happens, is in the Dressrosa Arc, where Momonosuke rests his head in Nami's lap since they were playing "Samurai". This causes Brook to put his head onto Nami's lap since he thought they were having a "head-in-crotch" party. Nami's reacts to this by comically punching Brook.
  • In Saki Achiga-hen, Toki is frequently seen sleeping with her head in her best friend Ryuuka's lap.
  • Mashiro from Sakura-sou no Pet na Kanojo, being an Innocent Fanservice Girl who spent most of her childhood in the UK, thinks nothing of putting knocked-out Sorata in her lap.
  • In Stretch, Ran rests her head in Keiko's lap at one point when drunk. Keiko's reaction seems to indicate that it isn't unusual, and is one of several ways in which the trust and physical intimacy between them is expressed.
  • In Girls und Panzer, in "Motto Love Love Sakusen Desu" Nonna tries the Ear Cleaning variant with Katyusha, but finds that her breasts are in the way.
  • Oriko and Kirika, of Puella Magi Oriko Magica are prone to this. Compared to the rest of their shared moments, it's almost subtle.
  • Happens in Seven Days. Yuzuru borrows his date-of-the-week Seryou's lap for a nap at school. Seryou is flustered but he doesn't really mind.
  • In Hidamari Sketch, when Hiro, Miyako, and Yuno walk in on Sae's room and find her asleep on the floor with a note on the progress of the story she's writing, Hiro kneels down and puts Sae's head on her lap. (Yuno, charmed at Hiro and Sae's intimacy, runs over and offers Hiro an ear pick, to Hiro's confusion.)
  • Kanojo ga Flag o Oraretara:
    • In the sixth chapter of the manga, Souta finds himself laying on Kikuno's lap after he wakes up from a dream.
    • In chapter 16 of the manga, it's Mei's lap Souta finds himself lying on.
    • Kikuno gives him another one at the beginning of chapter 17. Mei offers in the same chapter, but doesn't go through with it.
  • Haru does this for Shizuku in the second episode of Tonari no Kaibutsu-kun.
  • In Digimon Frontier, when Takuya and Koji are preparing to fight Cherubimon, Izumi offers to go on a date with one of them if they win. During the fight, Takuya is knocked unconcious and has a dream sequence where he and Izumi are in a park on the promised date. Izumi is sitting back against a tree trunk, and Takuya is resting his head in her lap.
  • A Gundam Wing illustration has Relena sitting under a tree, with an apparently asleep Heero resting in her lap.

    Comic Books 
  • In Sin City: Family Values, Miho rests her head on Dwight's lap in a rare moment of affection.
  • During the Milligan/Allred run on X-Force, Edie Sawyer 'ports her new leader, Guy Smith, into mid-air in an attempt to scare him so that he'll let her take over the team. When he doesn't freak out, she 'ports both of them back to his place, then conks out (because her powers take a serious bite out of her stamina) and ends up resting with her head in Guy's lap.
  • During the Runaways "Home Schooling" arc, Klara Prast suffers a head injury, and thus spends much of the arc resting with her head in either Nico or Molly's lap. Later on, Both Klara and Molly are seen using Karolina's knees as pillows.

    Fan Fiction 

  • Connor does this with Brenda at the end of the original Highlander movie.
  • Done by Rupert Everett and Reese Witherspoon in The Importance of Being Earnest.
  • Notting Hill, in a gender reversal: Pregnant Julia Roberts with her head in Hugh Grant's lap, sitting on a park bench.
  • Jim (James Dean) and Judy (Natalie Wood) in Rebel Without a Cause.
  • Mary Jane holds Harry's head on her lap in Spider-Man 3 after he's been brutally injured.
  • Star Trek: Insurrection. Will Riker goes round to Troi's office for some counselling, or so he claims. Troi realises otherwise when instead of lying down on the couch he lies down with his head in her lap, which is much more comfortable. We next see them taking a bath together.

  • In Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince Draco lays his head on Pansy Parkinson's lap while she strokes his hair. Harry finds this rather disgusting.
  • In The Wheel of Time, er... some guy does this with his Aes Sedai girlfriend after the battle to cleanse saidin.
  • In The Witch of Blackbird Pond, Kit's cousin Mercy is in love with John Holbrook. Kit eventually discovers that despite previous confusion, John returns Mercy's feelings, and debates whether to tell Mercy the truth after they believe him dead. Before she gets the chance, however, the door opens to reveal John — who wordlessly stumbles across the room to drop to his knees and put his head in Mercy's lap.
  • In the Night Huntress books, when Cat is extremely drunk, her love interest Bones tells her to rest her head on his thigh. She thinks he's asking for something else, but he laughs and tells her to get her mind out of the gutter.
  • From The Lord of the Rings, The Two Towers:
    "In his lap lay Frodo’s head, drowned deep in sleep; upon his white forehead lay one of Sam’s brown hands, and the other lay softly upon his master’s breast. Peace was in both their faces."
  • A not-even-remotely romantic variant in Fuzzy Bones, William Tuning's continuation of H. Beam Piper's Fuzzy series: a small group of Marines get the word that they've about forty minutes to chill before raiding a criminal stronghold, so they lie down in a rough circle, each man using another's stomach as a pillow.
  • Happens in The Dresden Files book Summer Knight, between Harry and the Summer Lady, Aurora.
    • And then it happens again nine books later in Ghost Story, but this time he wakes up (after being resurrected) on Mab's lap. Oh, Crap.
  • In The Hunger Games trilogy Katniss does this with Gale on occasion. She does it even more often with Peeta, who sometimes uses her lap as a pillow as well.
  • In The Raven Boys, after a severe emotionally and physically traumatic experience, Adam comes to sit with Blue in her garden, then lays his head in her lap. She likens the experience to being approached by a hurt animal; she doesn't want to make him bolt but at the same time wants to help him. It's all very emotional and touching.

    Live Action TV 
  • On Dexter, when Lila and Dexter share a hotel room, he ends up falling asleep with his head in her lap after a breakdown following a confrontation with his mother's murderer.
  • Lampshaded in "Recession Proof" from season seven of House, when the titular character flops, drunk and soaking wet, on to a couch with Cuddy, head in her lap.
    House: Heh heh, my head is on your vagina.
    Cuddy: Go to sleep, House.
  • In a flashback scene at the end of an episode of Monk, it is revealed that Trudy Monk would put her feet up on the coffee table note  so Adrian could put his head in her lap.
  • In The X-Files episode "Detour", Mulder sleeps with his head on Scully's lap when they're forced to camp out in the woods overnight. She even sings him a song.
  • Friends: Early on Chandler and Monica are seen close to this position several times. (Draping across each other, curling up on the couch etc). It doesn't mean anything except that they're best friends with No Sense of Personal Space. It does provide nice foreshadowing for their Relationship Upgrade though...
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Buffy does the platonic version, though ironically in both cases with lesbians. After Angel breaks up with Buffy in "The Prom", she weeps in the lap of her best friend Willow. In "Dead Things" Tara reveals to Buffy that she didn't Come Back Wrong. Instead of being glad, Buffy breaks down in tears and confesses to her sexually-abusive Secret Relationship with Spike. She ends up with her head in Tara's lap, begging her friend not to forgive her.
  • A Deleted Scene in Dollhouse has Echo programmed to secretly counsel a woman whose mother is dying of cancer, appearing as sympathetic stranger who befriends her at a nightclub. By the end of the engagement she's lying with her head in Echo's lap, as Echo strokes her hair. "You're my best friend and I love you."
  • Gender Inverted in some episodes of Numbers with a few scenes showing Charlie and Amita on the couch together with Amita resting with her head on Charlie's lap while he strokes her hair and talks with her.


    Video Games 
  • During the ending of Persona 3, the Protagonist rests his head in Aigis's lap and falls asleep. Except that he never wakes up.
  • The Persona 4 Protagonist can force one of his party members to lay their head on his lap during the King's Game.
  • Metal Gear Solid 4: Guns of the Patriots: After Raiden has his breakdown in the Act 4 mission briefing and collapses, Sunny immediately goes to him and puts his head in her lap. Despite the circumstances, it actually is pretty cute.
  • In Final Fantasy X, Tidus has a moment like this with Yuna early on. While it does show Yuna's sympathy for him, it's less romantic as Tidus is having an inner freakout at that point.
  • This is part of Minori's good end in Brass Restoration. Ryo breaks down crying and then falls asleep with his head in her lap. Because he cried himself to sleep, he doesn't realize what happened until Tsubomi tells him, leading Kouri to ask what a lap pillow is. He says it's a new type of pillow.
  • In BlazBlue: Continuum Shift, Noel and Ragna have a moment like this at the end of the game after Ragna sacrifices his left arm to save her life.
  • The cover of Touhou Project: Lotus Land Story involves Marisa sleeping in Reimu's lap this way.
  • The player can get some lap action in Steambot Chronicles while dating either the female lead, her best friend, or the ship captain.
  • In Duel Savior Destiny after everyone gets totally definitely not drunk on something that is not alcohol at all, a woozy Rico does this Taiga.
  • In the cover and the menu for Crescendo, Kaho lets Kyouko nap with her head on her lap. Miyu can do this to main chara Ryo... while naked, right after their sex scene in the music room.
  • This happens between the PC and Chiemi in True Love Junai Monogatari, if she saves him from drowning during their swimming race.

  • The Order of the Stick had Roy's mom offer to let him do this while she reads him his favorite bedtime story from when he was a kid after he meets her in Celestia. Due to his mother's appearance having reverted to her teenage years, he doesn't take up the offer.
  • Questionable Content has had this happen a few times. If you count passing out, that is. The puking is usually optional.
  • In Sequential Art, Kat finds that she's been sleeping with her head in Art's lap... with her mouth in a particular spot. She's initially angry at him, thinking he was aware, until Pip lets it slip that he wasn't. But before that, she's off to go brush.
  • On this page of Think Before You Think, Julia starts out lying with her head in Brian's lap.
    • Later on, Isaac comes over to interrogate Sarah, and she ends up crying on his lap.

    Western Animation 
  • Batman: The Animated Series: Joker and Harley during the Joker Jury episode, to the disgust of the attorney defending Batman.
    Janet van Dorn: I object to this witness! She's obviously trying to influence the judge.
    Joker: (sounding genuinely confused) What makes you say that?
  • In the Justice League episode "Only A Dream", Hawkgirl and Flash are sleeping, Flash's head resting on Hawkgirl's lap.
  • As the Team Mom from the Dungeons & Dragons TV series, Sheila sometimes let younger children take naps on her like this. She did it for Terry in "The Girl who Dreamed Tomorrow", and then for Presto in "The Last Illusion".

    Real Life 

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