- Hug her
- Kiss her forehead
- Press your forehead against hers
- (Murmuring soothing words or wiping away her tears is optional)
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Anime & Manga
- Done by Zero Two to Hiro in DARLING in the FRANXX when it looks like they're about to be separated. Zero Two has small horns and (deliberately) gives him a poke with them instead of holding the pose. The gesture is the final straw in Hiro realizing he doesn't give a crap how non-human Zero Two might be.
- They do it again much later, though this time Zero Two angles her head to hold the pose traditionally and rub her horns against Hiro's stubby new ones.
- Eureka and Renton of Eureka Seven headbutts with love quite often, since their First Kiss is saved for the final episode.
- Lovely Complex: Koizumi and Otani share a headbutt of love after Otani passes his entrance exam.
- Done literally in Mahou Sensei Negima! from Nagi to Arika, when the latter was caught up in Heroic Self-Deprecation and needed to be reminded that Nagi loved her.
- Naruto: Itachi lovingly headbutts Sasuke at the end of chapter 590.
- A male-to-male version appears in Ouran High School Host Club, between the twins. Sometimes this is acting to play up their twincest appeal; other times it's genuine.
- Shown in a more violent way in Soul Eater. Justin gives a headbutt to Giriko, while yelling, "Headbutt of love!"
- Toradora!: Taiga interrupts Ryuuji during the final scene of the series with a tactical application of the skull. He was confessing.
- Mekakucity Actors: Shintaro and Mary are shown sharing one during Episode 11, when we are shown the Queen version of Mary and Shintaro promising to never forget the tragedy they've witnessed, and Mary gifts Shintaro with the "Retaining Eyes" snake, so he truly can never forget.
- Medabots: In the anime. Despite her misgivings, Erika decides to show her support for Ikki challenging Space Medafighter X by leaning in close... and then smashing her forehead against his.
Erika: For luck.
- Puella Magi Madoka Magica the Movie: Rebellion: Sayaka to Madoka, before Madoka goes to pick up Homura. Madoka also does a similar bump to Homura in the OP.
- A headbutt occurs at the end of episode 21 of Re:Zero between Subaru and Rem, after defeating the White Whale.
- Seraph of the End: Yuu and Mika headbutt while holding each others faces in both hands in the opening.
- Yuri!!! on Ice: Yuuri headbutts his coach, Victor, before his short program at the China Cup, telling him "Don't ever take your eyes off me." Bonus points for also clutching his hand while doing so.
- Berserk: Guts does a few of these to Casca once he makes his feelings known to her. He kisses her forehead, wipes and kisses her tears away, and presses his forehead against hers. Post-Eclipse and before the Beast ruined their relationship, Guts still embraces Casca whenever she is frantic.
- Made In Abyss: Riko does this to Reg (female-to-male, but they're the same height) after reassuring him that her scarred and weakened arm from his attempted amputation after a monster poisoned her hand isn't his fault, because she asked him to do it. She explains that even though, ultimately, he didn't know how to save her and Nanachi had to step in, she appreciates everything he did and how worried he was about her—she says the scar shows how much he wants to protect her.
- Daken: Daken twice in the #8 issue of his comic, thought it's not romantic. The power of using his pheromones to control people's emotions works best when he's in close contact, and that's as close as he can get without kissing.
- The Miraculous Ladybug story Spots Off has one from Chat Noir to Marinette, when he tries to assure her that she doesn't have to deal with the consequences of her unmasking alone.
- In The Bridge, Xilians do this instead of kissing to show affection between loved ones. After a long series of being made to work together leading to multiple instances of Relationship Upgrade, Monster X gives Aria Blaze one.
Films — Animated
- Aladdin: "I choose you, Aladdin." It brings both Jasmine and Aladdin's desires together: she gets the freedom to choose, he's loved for being himself, and there's nothing preventing them from being together. And then they bop heads.
- Megara and Hercules share a headbutt of love.
- There is the full-contact variety of loving headbutt between Hercules and Pegasus: when they first meet and when they're reunited in adulthood.
- Hiccup and Toothless bump their foreheads towards the end of How to Train Your Dragon 2. It shows that Hiccup really has forgiven Toothless for killing his father while mind-controlled and that their relationship is stronger than ever.
- The Lion King:
- Sarabi and Mufasa (lion king and queen) bump their heads at the beginning of the film when their cub Simba is being presented.
- Simba and Nala headbutt lovingly during their reunion.
- Simba and his mother Sarabi greet each other with this gesture when they meet after being separated.
- In Spirited Away, Chihiro and the boy formerly known as Haku perform a Headbutt of Love during freefall. Up to Eleven.
- The two brothers in Taegukgi: The Brotherhood of War do this right before parting for the last time right in the middle of a brutal Korean War battle.
- In Tangled, the Queen presses her forehead on Rapunzel's.
- WALL•E: EVE and Wall-E, two robots in love, share one of these. It's almost too cute◊.
- Moana features prominently Hongi, the traditional Māori greeting of pressing one's nose and forehead to another person.
Films — Live-Action
- Two army rangers headbutt after they have safely gotten back to base at the end of Black Hawk Down, presumably because they're too manly and too freaking tired to hug. If done while wearing helmets, this is known as "Turtle Fucking".
- Clueless: Cher gently bumps her head into Josh's forehead at the wedding party at the end of the movie.
- Daugthers Of The Dust: Yellow Mary and Nana share one when they have their meeting and Mary talks about why she had to leave.
- In G.I. Joe: The Rise of Cobra Ripcord bumps his suit helmet on Scarlett's motorcycle helmet after his Diving Save.
- Near the end of Gladiator, once Maximus and Juba have become close friends, they bump foreheads before Maximus enters the ring.
- Done in Godzilla (2014) between the male and female MUTOs when they meet up. It's surprisingly adorable.
- The Hobbit:
- In The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey, this was how Dwalin and Balin greet each other, although with dwarves, it's more of a full contact headbutting. A weary version occurs between them in Balin's flashback when they both discovered they survived the Battle of Azanulbizar, surrounded by a field of dead dwarves.
- In The Hobbit: The Battle of the Five Armies, Thorin, after snapping out of his Gold Fever, shares a loving headbutt with Kili before going to battle. He also shares one with Dáin when they meet on the battlefield.
- In the film version of The Hunger Games, a platonic version occurs when Cinna headbutts Katniss as a way to comfort her seconds before she entered the stadium.
- In 2011 version of Jane Eyre, Jane and Mr Rochester headbutt in a loving gesture in front of blooming trees.
- Adam and Gordon do this in the ending of Saw, after Gordon has just sawed off his own foot and Adam has beaten Zepp to death with the toilet tank lid. Gordon uses it to calm down the justifiably hysterical Adam before leaving to get help.
- Jamukha and Temudgin headbutt in a friendly way in Mongol, partly because they're drunk.
- Happens at the end of Pacific Rim between Raleigh and Mako when you'd normally expect a Big Damn Kiss. Despite some Ship Tease earlier in the film, this throws some ambiguity into whether their relationship is romantic or platonic after they link their minds.
- Will and Elizabeth, a couple falling in love, share one in the end of Pirates of the Caribbean: At World's End.
- Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth in the 2005 version of Pride and Prejudice clutch their foreheads together when they reach an understanding between them near the end of the movie. It serves as an alternative to a kiss.
- In Rain Man, autistic Raymond Hates Being Touched, and he screams when his brother tries to give him a hug. In the end, though, Raymond's trust in Charlie grows so much he leans his head on Charlie's.
- Santa Claus Conquers the Martians: This is apparently how Martians greet each other. Poked fun at in the Mystery Science Theater 3000 presentation:
Crow: [as Kimar, to Momar] Hey, what, no headbutt this morning? Honeymoon over?
- Shaun and Ed from Shaun of the Dead when Ed stays behind to let his friends escape.
- In Star Trek, after sharing a kiss in front of Kirk (and Scotty) on that transport pad, Spock tenderly leans his forehead to Uhura's and it's adorable because it speaks volumes about his affection and the closeness and intimacy between them.
- A villain version occurs in Thor: The Dark World between Malekith and Algrim, when the latter shows his Undying Loyalty by becoming Kursed.
- Trope image is from Mad Max: Fury Road. This happens between Furiosa and Valkyrie as they reunite after 20-something years.
- A platonic version between Brandon and Olive in Easy A, after their fake sex scene. (For context, Brandon's gay, and Olive has agreed to pretend to — loudly — sleep with him at a party so he can pass for straight and not get bullied.) It's a surprisingly tender and sweet moment, considering it comes at the tail-end of one of the funniest, most over-the-top scenes in the movie.
- In The Mummy Trilogy Jonathan occasionally uses a platonic version to comfort his sister and nephew.
- In Star Wars: The Last Jedi, Poe gives one to BB-8 when they are reunited on Crait.
- The M/M crime/romance series Cut & Run by Abigail Roux and Madeleine Urban has Special Agents Ty Grady and Zane Garrett headbutt with love a lot, once they achieve their Relationship Upgrade.
- Piper bumps Annabeth's forehead in The Blood of Olympus to comfort her when Annabeth thinks they're going to die.
- Doctor Who New Adventures: The Doctor and Benny instigate a headbutt of love mutually in "SLEEPY" during a point where they're both busy worrying about each other, and it's almost too adorable for words.
Live Action TV
- Ally McBeal: Ally and her big love Larry clutch their heads together while they dance at the end of the episode where Larry's ex-girlfriend and mother of his son tried to get get back together with him. He chose Ally.
- Being Human
- Annie and Mitchell headbutt when Annie is about to leave through her door in S1 and they're saying a tearful goodbye. Used as a bit of Ship Tease.
- Mitchell did a desperate, passionate variation with Lauren.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer:
- When Willow tearfully asks, "Don't you love me?" Oz vows "My whole life, I've never loved anything else," and gives her a textbook Headbutt of Love, complete with hug and kiss.
- Willow and Tara made use of this comforting technique often, mostly because of the WB's policy of no kissing between the same sex.
- Spike and Drusilla when they're first introduced, establishing Spike's protectiveness and Dru's fragility.
- Seen in Code Black when Neal Hudson, an attending ER doctor, finds extremely depressed resident Christa Lorenson hidden in a supply closet after losing a patient who she'd wanted to keep at the hospital, but who the ER director had ordered her to discharge. Christa blames herself for not standing up to the director, and Neal — who quite plainly has mutual feelings for her — takes hold of her waist and touches his forehead to hers in order to help calm her down. This leads to their first kiss and subsequent relationship upgrade.
- In Commander in Chief, this is a hallmark of the marriage between President Mackenzie Allen and her husband Rod Calloway. Being President of the United States puts a lot of strain on a marriage, and reconciliations between the pair usually ended with (or happened during) one of these. More generally, any time the two turned to each other for comfort or support, this gesture usually occurred.
- At the end of the pilot episode of Defiance, Christie and Alec bump their foreheads when Alec proposes.
- Degrassi, the Torres brothers headbutt after Adam is shot.
- Dexter affectionately headbutts Rudy AKA his biological brother Brian before he kills him in Season One finale. It's a very poignant scene and emotions simply gush. It's very telling because Dexter claims he doesn't feel anything and has to pretend in every human interaction, but he definitely feels this moment deeply.
- Dexter's girlfriend Rita is an almost broken, extremely vulnerable woman because she was in an abusive relationship (her ex repetedy raped her and beat her nearly to death). Once she gets more comfortable with touching and being touched again, she sometimes clutches her forehead on Dexter's to show her emotional support.
- Doctor Who:
- The Tenth Doctor has one with his archnemesis, the Master, in "The End Of Time". Then the Master goes back to trying to kill him. It's very deliberately done to show that they could love each other if the Master wasn't stark raving mad.
- In "Flesh and Stone", the Eleventh Doctor and Amy have a sweet moment in the woods, as he asks her to trust him one more time and tells her to remember what he told her when she was seven. Which becomes an important plot point when the universe is rebooted in "The Big Bang".
- Rather endearingly, the Seventh Doctor headbutts Mel as they say farewell in "Dragonfire."
- Emmerdale's Robert Sugden and Aaron Dingle have a Headbutt of Love on the morning after their wedding before Aaron goes off to his sentencing for his GBH charge. They also take the opportunity to tell each other mutual "I love you's" while pressing their heads for extra emotional impact.
- John and Aeryn engage in this, not just when either of them was in distress but when they showed affection in general. It was described by one reviewer as "more intimate than when they kiss".
- Subverted when Scorpius-possessed John does this gesture — then slams Aeryn's head into the wall, fracturing her skull.
- John and Chiana also get a few of these. Two notable examples are the season one finale when when propositions him (and he lets her down easy) and later in the following season when Chiana finds out her brother is alive but she isn't allowed to see him.
- Happens a couple of times between Wash and Zoe (husband and wife) in Firefly and Serenity.
- In the second season finale of Game of Thrones, the warlocks of Qarth attempt to lure Daenerys with a vision of her dead husband and stillborn son in the House of the Undying. Daenerys walks out of the vision, but not before exchanging a HBOL with her dream husband, presumably because kissing him would tempt her into entering the fantasy permanently.
- Holby City features one of these between Serena Campbell and Bernie Wolfe when the two finally break from their second kiss. They press their foreheads together while they tremble and gasp as Serena smiles giddily. It's an almost unbearably intimate sight.
- Impractical Jokers During the Nitro Spectacular, Sal is voted into a punishment by the fans, that of being hoisted up 150 feet and swung around when he's afraid of heights. They let him down, but when he's informed he must ascend again, Q comforts him by touching foreheads and telling him to breathe.
- After their Relationship Upgrade, Emma and Hook from Once Upon a Time become quite fond of this, usually pressing their foreheads together after an emotional moment. Of particular note is at the end of "Fall", when they perform a HOL as they part ways so that the Spell of Shattered Sight doesn't force him to attack her.
- In Penny Dreadful, Vanessa and Ethan share one of these after their Last Kiss, knowing that she must die in order to stop the apocalypse.
- On Stargate Atlantis, this was the standard gesture of affection or business dealings, somewhere between a handshake and a kiss, for natives of the Pegasus galaxy, particularly the Athosians. Sheppard picked it up, usually doing it with Teyla.
- Star Trek: Deep Space Nine:
- Platonic example happens in episode "The Visitor" between Kira Nerys and Jake Sisko, with the former comforting the latter in an Alternate Timeline created by Benjamin Sisko getting stuck in subspace and being presumed dead.
- Odo tends to bump heads with his love interests, possibly because as a changeling he doesn't have an instinct towards kissing but does have an instinct towards physical closeness.
- In Star Trek: The Next Generation, one episode was about a human teenager who was adopted as a baby orphan by alien race who was at war with the Federation. The boy's culture was using headbutt as a form of greeting and sign of affection. He greeted his adoptive father with long pressing of foreheads.
- Teen Wolf: Derek bumps Braeden's forehead after kissing her, when she expresses fear over the possibility of him dying.
Braeden: Do you really think you won't be coming back?Derek: Not alive.Braeden: You know I'm not okay with that.
- The Vampire Diaries: Stefan and Elena are experts at this. Often followed by a sweet forehead kiss. It. Is. Adorable.
- The Vikings in Vikings often do this as an alternative to hugging. Ragnar and his family seem to be especially fond of it. A telling moment showing that Ivar, his psychopathic youngest son, has grown close to his father is the amount of times they touch heads while in England, including a final one as an alternative to a last hug when Ragnar tells Ivar he's going to be killed.
- The X-Files was a repeat offender, usually between Mulder and Scully. When one of them got out of the hospital (which was often), when one of them had to deal with Skinner/Krycek/CSM/any government representative, when they affirmed their trust in only each other, when one of them almost died (which was practically every episode)... they clutched their heads together. And it was awesome. UST at its best.
- WWE's Triple H and Shawn Michaels are Heterosexual Life-Partners and Vitriolic Best Buds:
- American Alpha do this before every fight, a given considering how close they are as friends and teammates.
- The platonic and routine headbutting between victorious hockey teams and their goaltenders.
- Possible in Gamecube game Beach Spikers: If the relationship with your partner is high, they might share this gesture after scoring a point.
- Mass Effect:
- Mass Effect 2, because Turian biology is so different from human's and could be potentially harmful to humans who come into too much contact, this is how a Female Shepard and Garrus show their affection for one another.
Mordin Solus: So don't... *ahem* ingest.
- Averted in Mass Effect 3, where they have at least two big damn kisses, as well as three shorter kisses if you so desire.
- If you didn't romance Garrus, then you can eventually walk in on him and Tali doing this as well (as necessitated by Tali's helmet).
- Mass Effect 2, because Turian biology is so different from human's and could be potentially harmful to humans who come into too much contact, this is how a Female Shepard and Garrus show their affection for one another.
- In Xenoblade, when Shulk and Fiora reunite, they share a loving headbutt.
- Given their complex relationship, it's unclear if it's "love", but during their final fight in Metal Gear Solid 4: Guns of the Patriots, Solid Snake and Liquid Ocelot end up so exhausted they wind up leaning on each others' foreheads, slowly sinking till they're both kneeling on the ground.
- Rule of Rose: The opening FMV shows Wendy and another girl doing this in amongst the roses. The girl is Jennifer, who made a knightly vow to Wendy to love her eternally. Unfortunately for Jennifer, who later promised the same thing to her Canine Companion Brown, Wendy's interpretation of the vow was mutually exclusive...
- In Dragon Age: Inquisition, this is how female Inquisitor and Cullen confess their love for each other after their first night together.
- Non-romantic example in Little Busters!: at the end of Haruka's route, she does this with Kanata when they make up and pledge to be friends again, where it serves the added bonus of showing clearly how similar they look.
- In Gunnerkrigg Court, Annie and Kat bump their heads together complete with "clonk" sound effect as they hug and make up. In a later scene, as they're dealing with a highly stressful situation, they touch foreheads for a moment.
- Variation in Questionable Content: After Marten and Dora hook up, Faye decides to go home for a bit. Instead of hugging him goodbye, she gives him a "Wesley Willis style headbutt".
- Norway and Denmark do this in Scandinavia and the World as a substitute for hugging, because hugs look awkward with their giant heads and tiny bodies.
- Parodied in Undying Happiness. In chapter 2, Keisuke gives his son Yusuke an affectionate headbutt while sending him off to swimming lessons. Since they both have a powerful Healing Factor and immunity to pain, they end up butting heads hard enough to draw blood, much to the annoyance of Keisuke's wife Naomi.
- Avatar: The Last Airbender: Zuko and Mai◊ press their foreheads together when they reunite during the Grand Finale.
- Kim and Ron share one in Kim Possible Movie: So the Drama before their Big Damn Kiss.
- Steven Universe: "Three Gems and a Baby" shows that Ruby and Sapphire have their connection so perfected that this is all they need to do to return to Garnet form after briefly unfusing.
- Milo Murphy's Law has one between Milo and his mom, Brigette, at the end of "Worked Day."
- In the second episode of The Pirates of Dark Water, the Lugg Brothers excitedly headbutt each other.
- Cats might rub their heads together with each other or their owners, partially because they have scent glands in various places on their heads. Thus, the cat is marking their territory (because they like you, bear in mind, which is why they do this many times in a row, usually while purring).note
- Emperor penguins. They are cute birds.
- The real Wesley Willis was fond of this, with both male and female fans, to the point where towards the end of his life he had a noticeable scar on his forehead from doing it so many times. Rock over London; rock on, Chicago.
- Try dating somebody with glandular fever, or another disease spread by saliva. This becomes a hell of a tool.
- When you want to show affection to a relative (or someone you're not romantically interested in), this is very useful.
- Also useful when dating someone with a greater oral sensitivity than the average person who finds kissing to be Sensory Overload. Even those whose senses are not overloaded may appreciate their date "dialing it down" while still making their affection known.