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- Maison Ikkoku uses the yearly visits to Soichiro's grave as a convenient way to say "another year has passed."
- Darker Than Black has this with April and July following November 11's death. Belying the fact that Contractors and Dolls are supposedly emotionless, they mark his site of death with beer bottles.
- In Rurouni Kenshin, Kenshin and Kaoru visit the grave of his first wife Tomoe and are surprised to find the grave already cleaned and her momento left there.
- In the anime, Kenshin goes there alone and then Seijuuro Hiko shows up to talk to him,
- While its not shown if this occurs regularly, Fullmetal Alchemist show Roy Mustang leaving flowers at Hughes' grave on at least one occasion after his death.
- Trisha Elric's grave also appears periodically, most notably in the chapter 'The Father Before the Grave,' when Edward goes to the cemetery to visit his mother's tombstone and meets Hohenheim again for the first time in over ten years. (Hohenheim then makes some observations that lead to Ed digging up the 'grave' where Pinako buried the monstrosity that the boys got trying to resurrect Trisha.)
- It turns up again at the very end, when Hohenheim apparently survived the battle-damage just long enough to get there and die smiling. An omake shows his and Trisha's souls near the grave, Together in Death.
- The animated 4-Koma Theater parodies this, with Pinako pointing out that Hohenheim is at the wrong grave.
- Neon Genesis Evangelion plays this stright and inverts this, with both Gendo and Shinji Ikari visiting Yui's grave. However the grave is just a marker as they Never Found the Body of Yui after her accident.
- Gunslinger Girl. Jerk Ass handler Jean is shown visiting the grave of his dead little sister Enrica who was killed by terrorists, sparking off his Roaring Rampage of Revenge. He gets into a confrontation with another relative who gives him a What the Hell, Hero? speech about not avenging her (not knowing of his work with the Agency). Jean in turn is upset to see he's become a member of a radical organization opposed to the terrorists who killed Enrica.
- In Monster, one of the epilogue scenes is of Lunge leaving a bottle of liquor at Grimmer's grave, in reference to the promise they'd made to share a drink after everything was over.
- In another scene, Reichwein visits the grave of recovering alcoholic Richard Braun and brings a bottle of scotch, saying that it was okay to have it now.
- In Gundam 00 Lyle Dylandy and Tieria Erde are seen visiting the the (symbolic) grave of Lyle's twin older brother/Tieria's best friend (and for some, The Lost Lenore) Neil "Lockon Stratos" Dylandy. This ends up being VERY plot important, as Lyle is recruited into Celestial Being during one of them.
- The Captain Tsubasa manga plays this straight and subverts it:
- It's played straight with Brian Cruyfford and the Ajax team visiting the grave of their dead coach.
- It's subverted with Stefan Levin visiting the spot where his girlfriend Karen was praying to a statue before she was ran over by a truck... and destroying said statue with a soccer shoot.
- Spider-Man often shows Peter Parker visiting Uncle Ben's grave.
- Bruce Wayne often visits the graves of his parents (although since they're buried on the grounds of Wayne Manor, this is not a huge effort for him).
- Some stories have him visiting the spot in Crime Alley where his parents were murdered, a somewhat more difficult and dangerous (admittedly not so much for him as for most people) trip:
- Pre-Crisis Superman visited Pa and Ma's graves every so often.
- War World: Before entering the command console, Mongul pays a visit to the grave of the last Warzoon.
- During the "Up, Up And Away" arc, Superman visits the graves of Superboy and Earth-2 Superman and Lois Lane.
- In the beginning of Superman (Rebirth), Post-Crisis Superman visits the grave of his New 52 counterpart.
- Several times in New Krypton story arc. At the beginning, Clark Kent and his mother visit Jonathan Kent's grave and Lois visits her father's (and has an argument with her sister Lucy). At the end of the story, Supergirl builds a grave for all Kryptonians who perished during the War and Lois visits her father's grave for the last time.
- The Supergirl from Krypton: After being rescued from Darkseid, Kara visits Harbinger’s grave.
- Elseworld's Finest: Supergirl & Batgirl: It happens twice. After exposing Lex Luthor's crimes, Supergirl visits her cousin's grave. Also, a flashback shows Barbara Gordon visiting her parents' grave before becoming Batgirl.
- In 2008 story arc "Way of the World", Supergirl visits the graves of the parents of a little child she was unable to save.
- Empowered visits the grave of her daddy, whom she lost early in her life.
- The Life and Times of Scrooge McDuck: Upon returning to the McDuck ancestral castle with his father and sisters, Scrooge takes a quiet moment to visit his mother's grave.
- Thanos Rising: Thanos visits his mother's grave on Titan in the opening. Not because he had any real affection for her (being the one responsible for her death), more for ritualistic reasons and to understand his own destiny.
- Ashes of the Past:
- Upon his arrival to Pacifidlog Town, Ash finally visits the memorial of the man who broke a tidal wave over the town at the cost of his life: the lost Mr. Ketchum.
- During his second arrival to the Rota Kingdom, Ash makes a pilgrimage to the Tree of Beginning to pay his respects to Sir Aaron's resting place.
- Doing It Right This Time: Shinji and Gendo run into one another at Yui's grave at the end of Chapter 3, where the two of them clear the air somewhat. This is a weekly ritual on Gendo's part, despite the fact that her body was not recoverable and he believes -rightly- that she's Not Quite Dead; after all, he can hardly monologue to the Evangelion her soul resides in.
- Evangelion 303: In chapter 13 Asuka visited Jessika's grave and spent a long while talking to her and geting all what was hurting her off her chest. In the last scene, while Shinji and Asuka were leaving the graveyard, she said goodbye to her friend.
- HERZ: The Ikari family (Shinji, Asuka, their daughter Akiko and even Shinji's father Gendo) visit Shinji's mother Yui's grave every year on her death's anniversary. They visited it in chapter 4.
- Last Child of Krypton: In both versions of the story Shinji and Gendo visit Yui's grave together and have an argument where Shinji tries -and fails- to convince his father to work together against the Angels and SEELE.
- Once More with Feeling: In chapter 4 Shinji wakes up after his battle against Sachiel and he goes to the graveyard to visit his mother's grave and talk to her, even though he knows her body is not buried there and her soul is somewhere else.
- It happened several times in The Second Try:
- In the After the End chapters, Shinji and Asuka visited the Red Sea –humanity’s collective grave- periodically.
- In "Repeat", Shinji and Gendo visited Yui’s grave. Shinji thought about dissuading his father from proceeding with his plans, but he realized right away that he’d be wasting his time, so he called his father out on abandoning him.
- In Ambience: A Fleet Symphony chapter 31, Damon visits his mother's grave and offers Libation for the Dead. It's said to be a regular occurrence, and indeed isn't the last time he does this onscreen.
- In the penultimate chapter of the Empath: The Luckiest Smurf novel, Empath visits the grave of his mother Lillithina to pay his respects and to forgive her of anything she has done to him.
- In the 1989 Tim Burton Batman film, Bruce Wayne regularly deposits a pair of roses at the site of his parents' murder.
- For Your Eyes Only opens with James Bond visiting the grave of his deceased wife.
- In Rocky Balboa, Rocky is shown regularly visiting and "talking" to his dead wife Adrian at her grave.
- In Grosse Pointe Blank, Martin at one point visits the grave of his father, pouring a bottle of whiskey on top of it with a stone-faced expression, before dumping the bottle by the gravestone and wandering off. It's less about respect, and more about the implication that his dad was an abusive drunk.
- Virginia in Happy Birthday to Me visits her mother's grave periodically.
- The Phantom of the Opera
- Lionel attempts to visit his mother's grave after she is buried in Braindead. Ass-kicking for the lord ensues.
- The Boondock Saints II: All Saints Day: Connor and Murphy McManus visit the grave of their friend and partner, Rocco, only to discover that the photo on his grave is his embarassing mugshot, complete with a whited-out police arm holding his hair out of his face. Hilarity Ensues.
- Major plot point in The Crossing Guard is Freddy finally visiting his daughter's grave and accepting that she is gone.
- Near the end of Forrest Gump, Forrest breaks down at the graveside of Jenny.
- Martin Riggs is shown visiting his deceased wife's grave periodically throughout the Lethal Weapon series.
- In Hyakujuu Sentai Gaoranger VS Super Sentai, Yuusuke/Red Falcon is seen visiting the graves of his former friends (don't worry, they were on the enemy side; his teammates are still alive).
- Francis Hummel visits his wife's grave at the start of The Rock and addresses her as explains why he must do what he's about to do.
- In Shenandoah, Charlie Anderson (James Stewart) visits his wife's grave and delivers an emotional speech to her headstone - "I don't even know what to say to you any more, Martha. There's not much I can tell you about this war. It's like all wars, I guess. The undertakers are winning..." The speech was actually released as a single due to popular demand.
- Sinners And Saints (2010). The Cowboy Cop is unable to visit the grave of his son who died at six of leukemia; at one point he's shown sleeping in his car outside the cemetery. He's even taunted over this by the villains, who got hold of his psych report. But at the end of the movie, he's shown walking into the cemetery.
- Used as a framing device for Saving Private Ryan. The movie opens with an old soldier visiting the Normandy American Cemetery and Memorial to pay respect to the men he fought with in World War II. Of course, it's only at the end of the movie that the audience discovers who the old soldier actually is ( the titular character, Private James Francis Ryan), and to whom he's paying respect ( Captain John H. Miller).
- Subverted in Alien: Covenant. David 8 is shown laying flowers on a tombstone he's made for Elizabeth Shaw, and weeping Manly Tears over her death, showing that for all his contempt for humanity, the android has at least come to love one of them. This makes the later revelation that David killed Shaw as part of his experiments to develop the ultimate lifeform even more shocking. He never even buried her body, which is later shown vivisected in his Mad Scientist Laboratory.
- Captain Nathan Brittles in She Wore a Yellow Ribbon regularly visits his family's graves with flowers, sits on a stool and talks to his wife. This somewhat sad as he's due to retire and they are buried on the post, so if it hadn't turned into a 10-Minute Retirement at the last minute, he likely would never have been able to do so again. Upon returning, his friends hand him the flowers and stool, so he may continue his ritual.
- East/West: While on 24 hours' leave, Sasha goes back to his grandmother's grave and tells her how much she meant to him. They live in Commie Land 1940s Russia, and his grandma died after she was arrested by the Secret Police.
- Man of Iron: Tomczyk's father Mateusz was an anti-communist activist in Poland, shot down on a bridge in 1970 as he led a protest march. Tomczyk, denied a grave for his father after the authorities disposed of the body to parts unknown, puts up a cross at the spot where his father was killed. The film ends with him visiting the spot again and promising that the workers will win.
- Big Tits Zombie: Rena and Ginko share a moment over Nene's grave, where Rena places plastic flowers on the grave as that was all she could find. Rena and Ginko then head back to the theatre to open a can of whoop-ass on the zombies.
- Discworld has an example featuring an actual dog, where Lord Vetinari places bones on the grave of his beloved dog, Wuffles.
- In the last book of The Emigrants series Karl Oskar regularly visits Kristina's grave.
- It's established in the X-Wing Series that people who were not on Alderaan have a tradition called the "Return", where they visit the ruins of their homeworld and say ritualistic things and leave grave goods for their friends and kin who died there.
- Old Man's War begins with John Perry visiting his wife's grave.
- In the Japanese novel Kokoro, Sensei visits the grave of his friend K every month. It's eventually revealed that he feels guilty over K's death, because the pair were both in love with the woman Sensei is now married to, and K was Driven to Suicide after Sensei tricked him into not pursuing her.
- The end of the Telepath Trilogy, a series of books in the Babylon 5 Expanded Universe, depicts Michael Garibaldi visiting the grave of Alfred Bester, and hammering a wooden stake into it.
- In Captain Vorpatril's Alliance we learn that Ivan's birthday starts off with burning an offering for his father in the middle of a Vorbarr Sultana street, where his mother watched her husband shot in front of her as she went into labor.
- The title character of A Man Called Ove frequently visits his wife's grave. After a while he starts getting company by a cat and various neighbours.
- In Hard Rain, Hitman with a Heart John Rain is shown walking to the cemetery where his father is buried, but refusing to enter as he doesn't believe in an afterlife and the memory of his father's death is still painful. After an emotionally-tense confrontation with a former Love Interest, Rain does enter and ends up angsting about his life over his father's grave.
- In Animorphs, Marco and his dad visit his mother's grave at the end of Book #5. This is awkward, since it's right after Marco discovered that she's still alive, but infested, and can't tell his dad.
- In the final book, we hear that Jake visits Rachel's grave regularly. Unfortunately, said character is also blaming themselves for said death.
Live Action TV
- Parodied in The Goon Show episode "Dishonoured" (remade as "Dishonoured Again"):
How that battle raged - I saw the whole thing on television, you know. Seagoon fought like a madman - how else? But alas... On that spot is now a little white stone. Once a year Min lays flowers on it. The stone bears a simple inscription in Hindustani. I haven't the heart to tell her that roughly translated it says "Bombay 49 Miles". Goodnight.
- A Jack Bauer Fact states, "Every year, Jack Bauer lays flowers on Teri's grave, and then empties a full clip of bullets into Nina's."
- Sun and Hurley visit Jin's grave on Lost as a way of letting the audience know he's dead. Except of course that He's Just Hiding!!
- Parodied in Mongrels. A guide dog explains to Destiny that since his owner can't see, he is free to lead him anywhere he likes. Cue the owner placing a bouqet of flowers next to a trashcan and saying "Hello Mother".
- Bones does this often, and sometimes runs into her father, or at least finds that her father visited recently.
- The loved ones of Michael Scofield gather around his grave at the end of the season finale of Prison Break.
- Adrian Monk frequently visited both his wife's grave and the parking garage where she was killed.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer.
- The Season 7 episode "Help" has Willow visit Tara's grave and placing a couple of stones on top of the tombstone.
- Subverted in "Lie to Me" when Buffy places flowers on the grave of a New Old Flame, then cold-bloodedly stakes him when he bursts out of the grave as a vampire.
- Angel not having a grave, Buffy returns to the place where she stabbed her One True Love and sent him to a hell dimension, places the claddagh ring he gave her on the floor, says goodbye and leaves. It's a sign that Buffy is finally moving on from his tragic death, but next moment Angel appears in the place where the ring was, so Buffy never does move on.
- An episode of Suits shows that Harvey takes a day off work once a year to visit his father's grave and share a whiskey with him.
- In Children Shouldn't Play With Dead Things (S02, Ep04), Sam and Dean travel to Greenville, Illinois, to bury their father's dog tags at their mother's grave.
- In "What Is And What Should Never Be" (S02, Ep20), Dean visits the grave of his father, as in the Wishverse his father was not a hunter who had a hunter's funeral.
- In the series finale of The Killing, Holder visits Bullet's grave, and leaves her necklace on the tombstone.
- On The Mentalist, Patrick Jane and his brother-in-law visit the graves of Jane's wife and daughter at the end of one episode. Jane admits he hasn't been there since the funeral, years ago. And when pressed, he says its because he believes "...they aren't there. They're gone"
- In the last season of Downton Abbey, Mary visits Matthew's grave about four years after his death. She tells him she's going to remarry, and promises that she'll always love him no matter how much she loves her second husband. Then Matthew's mother shows up and tells her, "I don't know if you have his forgiveness, but you don't have to ask for mine."
- In Arrow Season 4, the flash forwards show Oliver standing over someone's (eventually revealed as Laurel's) grave openly weeping and vowing to kill the one responsible. However, these turn out to be immediately after the funeral, and thus not truly this trope.
- Played straight in the Season Finale, where he visits it again and acknowledges she wouldn't have approved of the things he done "But you were always better than me. It's what I loved most about you."
- Averted in Cracker where the soon-to-be-killer-of-the-week tries to visit his brother's grave (killed as a soldier in Northern Island), only to find the cemetery closed at that particular time due to government budget cuts.
- The widows' visits to their dead husbands' graves are a regular element of The Cemetary Club. (And the chance meeting with a widower visiting his dead wife's grave sets off the plot.)
- At the end of Harry Potter and the Cursed Child, Harry reveals to his son Al that he regularly visits Cedric Diggory's grave.
- Parodied in Postal 2, where one of the protagonist's errands is to visit his father's grave...and pee on it.
- In inFAMOUS Cole visits the grave of his deceased girlfriend. When he has nowhere else to go, he sleeps beside it.
- In Chrono Trigger you can visit Toma's grave in 1000 AD, and then go talk to him in 600 AD. He gives you his favorite booze to pour on his headstone.
- In Red Dead Redemption, Jack does this at the grave of his father John Marston who had been killed by Ross 3 years earlier and his mother who had died recently of disease in depressingly sad rain to set the mood.
- At the end of No One Lives Forever, the player character Cate Archer visits her mentor Bruno's grave. So does Bruno.
- In Batman: Arkham City, Batman can visit the spot in Crime Alley where his parents were gunned down, and pay his respects (it's even a Steam achievement). Hugo Strange has even left a taunting message there for him.
- In The Dog Island Dr.Potan visits The Grave of his friend whom he failed to treat quickly enough.
- A rather literal example, but at the end of a fight against Aganos in Killer Instinct, the Golem will bury its opponent in a tomb of rocks, then top it off with a flower.
- Street Fighter
- II has Chun-Li's original ending, in which she visits her father's tombstone.
- In an extended ending scene for II and in Street Fighter IV (and its Super version), Guile is seen visiting his best friend Charlie's (symbolic) grave. Ironically, Charlie Came Back Wrong in Street Fighter V. Only to die AGAIN.
- In Fire Emblem Fates, if Niles and Beruka reach an A support, she tells him that she's found the grave of both of their long-lost mothers. If one more support talk is obtained, they decide to do this and have a Relationship Upgrade.
- Bad Moon Rising shows Chloe visiting a crudely made grave stone.
- In Batman: The Animated Series, Bruce Wayne visits the place where his parents were killed once a year, on the anniversary of their death, even as a very old man in Batman Beyond.
- Parodied in Spongebob Squarepants where Mr. Krabs witnesses Squidward sadly leaving flowers at a grave. After he leaves, Mr. Krabs walks up to tombstone and reads off it. It says "Here Lies Squidward's Hopes and Dreams."
- ..."What a baby."
- At the end of "SpongeBob Versus the Patty Gadget", SpongeBob collapses after the fight and we're shown a close-up of the spatula dropping from his hand. It immediately cuts to Squidward placing flowers on the grave, which SpongeBob then dances on, celebrating the titular Gadget's demise.
- In Avatar: The Last Airbender, Iroh spends the day running some errands around town, along the way sharing some wisdom with lost souls and even cheering up a child with a song he used to sing for his son. Then he visits a small hill with a lone tree, uses the items he was picking up to put together a shrine for his dead son, and starts crying as he softly repeats the song again to himself. One of the saddest scenes in the series (and dedicated to the former Voice Actor for Iroh, who had recently died).
- On Gargoyles, Matt Bluestone identifies a gangster he believes is connected to The Illuminati, but who disappeared years ago, abandoning his wife and stepson. His first clue is a photograph of the wife's funeral where a man who looks like the gangster can be seen sitting in the back; he later finds out he's left a rose at her grave every week since.
- In the Steven Universe episode "Steven's Dream,'' Blue Diamond pays a visit to the Palanquin, where Pink Diamond was killed. She still believes that the Earth is going to be destroyed any day now, and wanted to take one last chance to say goodbye.
- While Rugrats was determined to Never Say "Die", it did confirm the fate of Chuckie's mom by having Chas take him to visit her grave.
- Someone, probably two someones, spent a good sixty years or so making annual surreptitious visits to Edgar Allan Poe's grave on Poe's birthday, January 19. The Poe Toaster always left three roses and a note, before making a toast with cognac and leaving the bottle behind. He made his first visit no later than 1949; the 1999 note indicated that the original toaster had died and the tradition had been taken up by a son. The second toaster made his final visit in 2009, on Poe's 200th birthday. The identities of the toasters have never been revealed.